00:24 Make sure she knows who you are 02:03 Keep it short 03:33 Don't scalate off of shit tests or negative texts 05:00 Avoid Double texting 07:08 text when she can respond 09:02 Keep the tone informal and friendly 10:12 Don't voluntarily go backward 11:53 Don't responde instantly every time 14:40 Use a closing sequence 17:22 Make your text respondable
It’s really pretty simple. If my phone is in my pocket and I get a text, I read it and respond like a normal human being. If some girl thinks I’m “low value” because I’m being a normal person, she can pound sand.
I agree I don't give a fuck what they think. I have never had a problem with sending texts right back people u wanna know why?? I fuck with chics that actually want me not rocket science
In theory yes. But women's “interest” isn't very cut and dry. And that comes from an excess of options. Once you have her in the bag she'll do the heavy lifting, sure, but until then you're the one who needs to trigger those emotions.
I just got out of a 10-month relationship with one. She was pretty much near perfect then fizzled out at the last minute when it started getting serious on her actions. Beyond suck! I strongly recommend anybody study attachment theory. It just helps you understand people in general a lot better.
Texting women feels like navigating a giant maze where one wrong turn and you fail, without exception. Their expectations for a text conversation is generally stupid.
It’s the opposite. Just by you writing this says something about you. At the highest level, you do whatever you want with zero attachment or validation seeking. Maximum intention, complete detachment. Just by having your life in order, talking to an abundance of women, and having a life purpose which consumes 90% of your attention. You can drop the game completely because you’re going to do everything right organically. Not only that, but your confidence will slowly snowball as you stack small wins, but with women and with life in general. The more that happens, the less thought you’ll need to put into this stuff because you’ll no longer be faking it.
@@epicbehaviorExactly. His flawed thinking makes sense when coming from a place of scarcity, but when you’re at a higher level, you realize that things with women can actually be pretty easy, emotionally speaking.
If you have to treat texting like you are defusing a nuclear bomb then she just isn't that into you to begin with. Don't waste your time pursuing people that aren't interested in you.
To be fair this is what it's like texting all women. I avoid texting altogether if at all possible, texting women is virtually impossible to pull off successfully in any situation.
I made all few mistakes with texting AFTER the first date. Had a girl over at my place for a drink, was a great convo but way too platonic. didn’t make a move, didn’t build tension or spike emotions enough. She pulled back and got quiet for 2 days after. Then texted twice after and she rejected. I felt so embarrassed but we all make these mistakes and this is the point of game is to laugh it off, learn from your mistakes, to improve and get laid, and to enjoy the process.
You made the fatal mistake of not trying to kiss her the first time. The girl wants you to at least make the move and show intention. She might decline, to look good, but she appreciates the effort. But if you got her to your place for a drink, the likelihood was that she was ready to have sex.
It's called gameification -- the process by which everything becomes a game with meta-game rules, and this basically makes everything shit for everyone in every way.
Todd, you are right! Texting is NOT the best form of communication. However, nowadays we live in a world where texting has become the norm. Women, however, want to get a phone call from a man because it shows he is not scared to call her and doesn't want to 'hide' behind texts. Most all women, regardless of their age, still are little girls at heart. If you had a young daughter, would she feel better if you texted her, or if you actually called her and she heard your voice, asking how you are doing, and so on? I would say the latter is better.
Some people might think these are all too complicated and with a girl it's either on or off, but you have to remember that Todd is all about playing to win, not playing to play. You don't know if a girl will sleep with you or not depending on how long she's taking to text, she may very well be playing her own game. You lose nothing but a little bit of time by doing the best you can. If all else fails then use your own judgement and cut things.
Amazing video as always. From my experience texting is: - to set up a face-to-face date - to remind her why she liked you, that you are cool. Texting is for info and setting up dates, not for conversations(at the initial stages, and also sometimes at later ones) She can be in any scenario and state while receiving, reading or responding to your text. She can even be receiving it in a bad mood, leave it, then read it in a chill mood and find it cool, maybe respond, and then, on a second rounds of texting,if you use it properly, she might be fully engaged horny and ready... But you CANNOT know this, there fore you use Texting for those things - to remind her you are cool, that's why she gave you the number, to set the date and to do it in the shortest amount of text possible, not as a goal, but as a practical tool. Not sidetracking into chit-chat. You will talk on the date. Plus, tone, intonation, vocal inflections, facial expressions, body language... that's like 85% of your communication and power, so if you try using texting as a tool beyond it's purpose, in the context of someone knew... then you can fuck up in 85%+ of the times, even if you doing everything great - her real context when reading/responding, remember! Yeah, you can have long and deep conversations and end up with a date, but why do that if you can do it in person and make sure that these 85% will be in your favor, minimum in your control and sight - being able to gauge her reactions and adapt. Use text as a tool and creating a bridge between you and her to set up a date. That's just a principle and as such you can use it however you like, but understanding it will allow you to use it optimally and efficiently. Go live Life and prosper! :)
Texting has become so damn childish. Just follow this rule and it's the only one you need. If she acts like a high school kid with these stupid text games like taking forever etc just stop messaging her. Simple as that. Get a girl who doesn't have the mind of a teenager
I agree with you; but in addition, a lot of men abuse the heck out of texting, so you need both. In other words, even if you have a mature woman who doesn’t play texting games, a man can still text himself out of attracting her with relative ease if he doesn’t know how to control himself.
Yeah, too many strategic chess moves (playing games). What are you going to do if you all date for real, or get married? Keep playing a game where you don’t feel like yourself? So dumb.
@@thomass07. I keep my phone on airplane mode while I work. Many times even while I'm just walking around with my dog. Not only that, I have good male friends that take hours to message me back. Can't use telepathy to know where/what the person is doing. 5-10 minutes is way too strict
It depends on the situation. Are you meeting someone new on a dating app? Have you been dating this person for few month? I totally get your point, but it needs some context...
12:34 i sort of disagree with this rule but i absolutely understand the concept. What i’ve found works is when she replies shes on her phone answering messages its better to try and strike while she’s there and strike up a conversation, rather than become pen palls. But it is about how you respond.
I actually agree with this. You have to strike a balance where you do respond quickly then, but you can’t have been responding quickly every time with the girl or then you’ll appear needy.
Thank you for this information Todd! I find that texting is toxic for the most part....especially in today's society. I find that too many people use texting as their primary form of communication and have no clue about human interaction in real life. And when it comes to online dating, texting can be down right dangerous...eg. Manti Te’o. Yes, it has a place, but I notice people use this as an avoidance mechanism when answering a question as well. I used to date a woman who used texting as controlling media in our relationship. She just couldn't talk face to face about important issues that needed to be resolved. I found myself going down to that level and falling into her game....my bad. But we learn, and I need to look you in the eye when having a real life conversation....that's just me.
The biggest problem is social media. It's removed the human element from interaction. Now it's less about being real and more about playing games. Relationships have become less about connection and more about gratification
A lot of these rules are specific to the US culture. In East Asia for example, things are very different when it comes to texting. Different culture, different set of rules.
There's something that anyone can learn from someone at any given time if you're willing to accept what's perhaps like the right laws of texting. Certainly I'm gonna used every one of them instructions that and I plan to make them all mine. I have been texting for years and I have in every text that I have wrote and sent regardless of whom have I sent them to without using any of texting rules. Thanks for taking the time to educate people without the knowledge of the important simple laws of texting like myself.
This video is what makes dating completely exhausting. The amount of seriousness and games in texting is incredible. Memorize the rules, make it easier on yourself, but it's always going to be annoying AF.
My take take on this and life in general; Be authentich and treat others as you want to be treated. Don't be manipulativ and strategic but honest and direct on what you want and feel. Let all expectations go and just flow with it and just experience the ride. Be aware and learn deeper who you are along the way. Change and grow to a better version and to get closer to your true self. This way there is nothing to lose and you will always win.
Curious, so I've been dating girl for 3 months, she's almost perfect best girl i met in past 5 years, now i fell in love with her personality and caring nature, but she recently got out of relationship 3 months ago and told me she still has some feeling for him but is trying to move forward with me, it's a LDR so we only see each other weekends, and telling me she's committed to sleeping over on weekends, now do i tell her I'm in love with her and ill be patient and wait to see if she will come around, or shut up and just be patient and hold my feelings in? I'm thinking if i tell her i love her it's just going to scare her away
If it's the truth and you love her . Be honest with her, lay it on her. If you scare her away then it was never meant to be. Don't be fake or strategic to try and extend your time with her in the hopes that she'll eventually develop feelings too. A girl will move mountains to spend time with you if she's really in to you.
Nice one Thanks. I did the double texting and had lost the girl a few days later I reached out she said I texted too much I'm needy she wants a confident man, especially my second text was to correct the one before
Then she isn't worth your time Bro. Be yourself. She likely has some other potebyual suiters on the back burner that she's probably talking to. Play it cool, tell a chick who talks to you like that that she's neurotic or insufferable
Great content! Topic request: any tips on daily routines? I only do game in the evenings and over the past few months I have somewhat exhausted myself because the cost of success has been late nights and less sleep. My sleep schedule has moved well past midnight and deteriorated so it's starting to affect my overall life satisfaction. You could also throw in some observations about the consumption of alcohol 🙌
Wow. I can appreciate that there is etiquette and technique but there is no way Im going to put all this thought into texting. This also kind of comes from the approach that women are perfect texters. If thats even a thing. The hell with all this detail! 😂 Great content by the way. Very useful for those who are at square one. 👊🏽
You are over thinking this. I do what I do, or text what I text because I don't really care how she feels about it. If you care. You already lost. Think about when you were young and there was a cool kid, maybe the coolest kid in the group. Maybe that kid was you. Maybe you were the not so popular kid trying to work your way up. Did the popular kid care about what the other kid said? Did the unpopular kid care about what the popular kid said or did? Exactly. If you are the one that overly cares if it works out at all. Then she is above you. You already lost. It's not that you are checked out. You are just not affected.
Ahh yeah the cool kid is going to care what the uncool kid said. Why because if he uncool he said some uncool stuff and maybe something bad about you trying to call you out. You better set that uncool kid straight and not let them run off at the mouth about you or your friends or take over on something dumb. So you do care. You really want the uncool kid to think your the cool kid and when they do talk tell everyone how cool you are!!!
@@polarbear3710 not at all. The popular people are usually popular because they started out having a priority that didn't include giving a F what the other people thought. If you cared what they though. Then you were never the cool kid.
@@Litthopedion not caring about the outcome is how you play if you already won regardless of the outcome for the other. If thats not your reality going into it and coming out of it, then you are the one being played.
Chances are you weren't, nor anyone watching this, was naturally the coolest kid in town. The whole point of this channel is to help guys get better at this stuff. Saying do whatever you want and don't care what she thinks is completely unhelpful unless you are highly experienced and skilled. (In that case I doubt you'd even be watching this)
Todd, whats your advice on corey wayne's take on this? ( he advices never texting and getting to meet up straight away, as he says phone should only be used for setting dates and thats it )
I think it's better advice then trying to over complicate texting. If she actually likes you she will want to meet up. If not no amount of texting judo is going to change her mind.
This guy is a genius. If John Mulvihill wasn't so focused on trying to make his approach look superior and wasn't being such an asshole, we'd see there is a lot in common among the teachings. John is so busy trying to differentiate his methods that we miss the similarities with everyone else's teachings. Todd V is top of the game. Students find the teachers that resonate with them. One is not better than any other, just as we wouldn't say one finger on our hand is better than the others.
Men. The advice is solid, given that a man had chosen poorly who to spend his time and resources on. A woman with high attraction will make it easy for you. A woman doing the things in this video is likely demonstrating low attraction through her actions (this can be readily determined) and even if a temporarily texts guys way into her attention, her will experience pain. Better to build attraction by becoming a better choice.
Need to also discuss Automatic Read Receipts. Either turn it off or use it to your advantage. Definitely don’t want it going out 10 seconds after she sends a message.
Texting is the prime example of trial and error. My friends ask me how I got so good at it, and I always show them the endless pile of dead conversations in my phone. The advice is great, but when you're sitting there thinking about your next response you'll unavoidably mess up, and you need to be ok with that. Like the new cut btw, you look way younger
You are the first person I’ve heard other than myself say to just pass a shit test and don’t try to escalate. Glad someone else is saying it. It’s a terrible mistake
So, i did that - had a date, had a 2nd date, made plans for number 3 ... her plans i may add - but there is a SMALL problem: She will be gone for 6 months - in a warzone, literlly. Ohh, what fun. Good thing: She is a very tradionale woman - tested and conformed by many ... because she shoot down those dates. Her family likes me. Yes, i got to know them. Also, she is ... strongly opposed (and that very convincingly) to hook-ups. How do i know? A friend that normaly gets every girl tryed and failed HARD. Also, we fought over the bill each time - so bonuspoints for that. 2nd Bonus: She called it a date ... Any tipps how i can keep the flame burning? I am really bad at texting and got the date by just asking.
What about saying "lol" or "haha." I tend to do that a lot, but it kind of feels like I'm cueing the girl to laugh, which of course is low value. But you also mentioned that emojis can disambiguate polarizing texts
Do you personally coach phone sessions? My biggest issue is that I'm naturally very awkward socially until I get to know someone VERY well. I've watch enough of the texting stuff that with the advice plus the fact that I don't have to come up with something immediately I can send fun flirty messages and get them out.. but the dates don't go so well because I obviously don't have the same time , I have to come up with responses instantly
Todd V Dating, i havent dated in years. Recently i asked a girl for her number. At first i would text her. But then i quit texting her, because i reviewed what she initially texted in the beginning, saying: i am not ready for a relationship now. So from now on, i dont text her in the morning. Now she is texting me everyday. What does it mean? Could it mean that she is changing her mind about, wanting to date perhaps?
My opinion, women are constantly sending mixed signals because they’re confused about what they want. It’s your job to get clarity. If she says she’s not ready for a relationship it just means to go slow and don’t push to hard to fast. Try to get her to meet face to face for a “non date” then stay mildly flirty and try to touch her once or twice, crossing the street and saving her works, might take 2-3 times until she warms up. If she doesn’t respond to flirt or touch walk away and don’t be friends unless she has good looking friends.
If she doesn’t respond for a week you should not respond back at all. Unless she was detained she should respond within 24 hours, and that’s pushing it.
How about if i like a girl on facebook , and cant meet here anywhere , because i dont know anything about her , she.s in a city near mine ... and I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO, I usually mess up when i like them
to the dont respond instantly. you said if she takes two days to text that i should not wait for two days. i gotta disagree. i am not in a hurry to move things forward with a girl who takes two days to text me.
One of my fav things to do is send a text saying "i hate when people send me a text message but call me right after" and then i call them right after sending it 💀 and then theough out my entire interactions with them i create an inside joke with that by saying ' i hate when people do this or that" and i do exactly that right after until she catches on to every single one and does that " AHHH YOURE DOING THAT THING AGAIN". Another favorite thing is ill say soemthing borderline disrespectful really lightly liek " i never did like you " and then theyll day " what?!" And ill say " i said your hair looks great today" and sometimes they'll just take the compliment confused but believing thats what i said until any other time she says " what?" I say again " oh i said your hair looks great today " and then one day or some point she'll go " YOU MFER! YOU DID NOT SAY THAT, HAVE YOU BEEN FUCKING WITH ME THIS WHOLE TIME?😂 WHAT HAVE YOU BEEN SAYING" .
and i think it is okay to make plans and then move them back and bring it up again. looks less needy. generally when i go straight line to the date after getting the number, i get more rejections. mentioning date activities that i do with other people or date activities that people recommended to me then soft close that idea then say i am too busy to do it soon go back to building value/show unavailability/pattern break my response times/gifs, pics, video, voice note escalation then schedule the date, sometimes i will flake on purpose just bc i think she doesn't seem interested enough, i'll give her a legit excuse, usually that a female friend needed something urgently last minute and "she never asks me for anything so i couldn't say no". then do a skype call instead of the date if possible and on the call reschedule the date and hard close and THEN take the date....damn.. but this really increases the chance of a first date lay bc of the drama
This whole process is absurd. If she likes you, this is needlessly complex. If she doesn't like you, this is needlessly complex... I had a girl contact Me on Sunday with a message saying "Where and when? For drinks?" And that was literally all the work I've had to do with this one. I suggested the time and place and she had zero issue with any of it - I told her its a good spot because my pad is nearby and we can go there if we want to hang out after drinks and she had nothing negative to say about any of it. She's def signed up for my game plan. I suppose this all serves a purpose but if you're only dealing with the girls who are into you I feel like a lot of difficult evaporates.
i really struggle to understand why a man wants to do sexting before getting to know me or before even setting up a date? I get this might have several different meanings... what is your take on this?
Because he doesn’t want to get to know you and maybe even skip the date… meaning he wants to score, not you. It’s very straightforward, for sure not worth a struggle!
Just wondering will you ever be posting on twitter? I rarely see your videos in my feed, and twitter has a INCREDIBLY useful new X pro feature which lets you categories all your subs, so like 'Relationships' you would be under and also I would easily see when you even just say 'Hey new video on you tube' don't need to upload on twitter (although you can) That one feature is a huge game changer for getting access to a sea of content in a way that is digestable (pro x' and decks and columns are very useful for sorting everything)
If a woman takes 24 to 48 hours to respond or a week to respond, yeah I’ve already moved on deleted her number. I have a 48 hour rule I’ve learned from women if a woman is interested in you she’s going to take the 10 seconds or a minute to respond to you. Everybody’s got their phone up their ass today and there’s no excuse. She’s not interested if it takes her 24 to 48 hours to respond to a text message.
The no.1 law of texting is after you text a woman, forget about that text and move on.
Definitely good advice in general
This works extremely well
@tzrvines What
Unmm no.
You send value right after.
00:24 Make sure she knows who you are
02:03 Keep it short
03:33 Don't scalate off of shit tests or negative texts
05:00 Avoid Double texting
07:08 text when she can respond
09:02 Keep the tone informal and friendly
10:12 Don't voluntarily go backward
11:53 Don't responde instantly every time
14:40 Use a closing sequence
17:22 Make your text respondable
To add to this don't use emojis or use very few. Comes off as childish to women!
^ completely incorrect. Use emojis!
Thank you good sire
18:00 Learn to spell.
Don’t overthink it.
texting… only for setting up dates guys, not for mindless chat
Yes, a good guiding principle as a man is that you only initiate texting for a purpose.
i.e. No 'Good Morning' texts. 😬🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️
Correct... ABE = Always Be Escalating
The phone is for dates. Calling. Texting is only occasional 1 text for every 2 or more of hers.
If it’s positive -close
Shit test - Just pass
Logical- Bring back to flirty
Silence- Send value (meme between you and her)
Silence - Send value , okay. What about low effort? Also send value? What are some other ways to send value over text that aren't just memes?
It’s really pretty simple. If my phone is in my pocket and I get a text, I read it and respond like a normal human being. If some girl thinks I’m “low value” because I’m being a normal person, she can pound sand.
I agree I don't give a fuck what they think. I have never had a problem with sending texts right back
people u wanna know why??
I fuck with chics that actually want me
not rocket science
Every time I hear that saying I just think of dune
if a woman is interested in you she will move mountains to be with you, it's never a struggle!
In theory yes. But women's “interest” isn't very cut and dry. And that comes from an excess of options.
Once you have her in the bag she'll do the heavy lifting, sure, but until then you're the one who needs to trigger those emotions.
Yea but why would she be over the top interested in you after 1 meeting. You first need to make her that interested.
Not if she is a Dismissive Avoidant personality type
I just got out of a 10-month relationship with one. She was pretty much near perfect then fizzled out at the last minute when it started getting serious on her actions. Beyond suck! I strongly recommend anybody study attachment theory. It just helps you understand people in general a lot better.
Once you’ve experienced this it’s hard to go back to anything else
Texting women feels like navigating a giant maze where one wrong turn and you fail, without exception. Their expectations for a text conversation is generally stupid.
Women have way too many options. One slip and they think "Next!".
Same with all game
maze runner
It’s the opposite. Just by you writing this says something about you. At the highest level, you do whatever you want with zero attachment or validation seeking. Maximum intention, complete detachment.
Just by having your life in order, talking to an abundance of women, and having a life purpose which consumes 90% of your attention. You can drop the game completely because you’re going to do everything right organically.
Not only that, but your confidence will slowly snowball as you stack small wins, but with women and with life in general. The more that happens, the less thought you’ll need to put into this stuff because you’ll no longer be faking it.
@@epicbehaviorExactly. His flawed thinking makes sense when coming from a place of scarcity, but when you’re at a higher level, you realize that things with women can actually be pretty easy, emotionally speaking.
If you have to treat texting like you are defusing a nuclear bomb then she just isn't that into you to begin with. Don't waste your time pursuing people that aren't interested in you.
Bomb has been planted.
I like this comment. LOL
exactly
To be fair this is what it's like texting all women. I avoid texting altogether if at all possible, texting women is virtually impossible to pull off successfully in any situation.
@@westonstevens3239 Alan Roger Currie
argues that texting should only be used for setting up the details of a date. I tend to agree with him.
I made all few mistakes with texting AFTER the first date. Had a girl over at my place for a drink, was a great convo but way too platonic. didn’t make a move, didn’t build tension or spike emotions enough. She pulled back and got quiet for 2 days after. Then texted twice after and she rejected. I felt so embarrassed but we all make these mistakes and this is the point of game is to laugh it off, learn from your mistakes, to improve and get laid, and to enjoy the process.
You made the fatal mistake of not trying to kiss her the first time. The girl wants you to at least make the move and show intention. She might decline, to look good, but she appreciates the effort. But if you got her to your place for a drink, the likelihood was that she was ready to have sex.
used to be you could just text a girl. now youve got 473 rules to follow.
No country for old men vibes
It's called gameification -- the process by which everything becomes a game with meta-game rules, and this basically makes everything shit for everyone in every way.
And the rules are in sequences.
Times and technology changes, people need to be flexible to adapt and change as well
If she doesn't respond in 2 days im not talking to her anymore. Shes intentionally not talking at that point. She can blow off other people.
My man Todd looking like he has been taking better care of himself compared just 6 months ago.
make up
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he looks incredible here !
@@psianime gainz 💪
Todd, you are right! Texting is NOT the best form of communication. However, nowadays we live in a world where texting has become the norm. Women, however, want to get a phone call from a man because it shows he is not scared to call her and doesn't want to 'hide' behind texts. Most all women, regardless of their age, still are little girls at heart. If you had a young daughter, would she feel better if you texted her, or if you actually called her and she heard your voice, asking how you are doing, and so on? I would say the latter is better.
I love how intelligent and articulate Todd is. Makes his advice that much more useable and compelling. Thanks for all of it!
Get off the phone. The phone is used for setting dates. Hang out, have fun, HOOK UP. -CW
Some people might think these are all too complicated and with a girl it's either on or off, but you have to remember that Todd is all about playing to win, not playing to play. You don't know if a girl will sleep with you or not depending on how long she's taking to text, she may very well be playing her own game. You lose nothing but a little bit of time by doing the best you can. If all else fails then use your own judgement and cut things.
I've discovered many of these on my own but hearing this man say all these just tell me how much he knows his shii
Amazing video as always.
From my experience texting is:
- to set up a face-to-face date
- to remind her why she liked you, that you are cool.
Texting is for info and setting up dates, not for conversations(at the initial stages, and also sometimes at later ones)
She can be in any scenario and state while receiving, reading or responding to your text.
She can even be receiving it in a bad mood, leave it, then read it in a chill mood and find it cool, maybe respond, and then, on a second rounds of texting,if you use it properly, she might be fully engaged horny and ready...
But you CANNOT know this, there fore you use Texting for those things - to remind her you are cool, that's why she gave you the number, to set the date and to do it in the shortest amount of text possible, not as a goal, but as a practical tool. Not sidetracking into chit-chat. You will talk on the date. Plus, tone, intonation, vocal inflections, facial expressions, body language... that's like 85% of your communication and power, so if you try using texting as a tool beyond it's purpose, in the context of someone knew... then you can fuck up in 85%+ of the times, even if you doing everything great - her real context when reading/responding, remember!
Yeah, you can have long and deep conversations and end up with a date, but why do that if you can do it in person and make sure that these 85% will be in your favor, minimum in your control and sight - being able to gauge her reactions and adapt.
Use text as a tool and creating a bridge between you and her to set up a date.
That's just a principle and as such you can use it however you like, but understanding it will allow you to use it optimally and efficiently.
Go live Life and prosper! :)
I feel like a lot of Todd’s tutorials are just normal human interactions 101
Texting has become so damn childish. Just follow this rule and it's the only one you need. If she acts like a high school kid with these stupid text games like taking forever etc just stop messaging her. Simple as that. Get a girl who doesn't have the mind of a teenager
I agree with you; but in addition, a lot of men abuse the heck out of texting, so you need both. In other words, even if you have a mature woman who doesn’t play texting games, a man can still text himself out of attracting her with relative ease if he doesn’t know how to control himself.
Remember 5 years ago when texting was just spontaneous instead of these mathematical bs.
Apple, giving you the ability to share your contact and Photo with people text is fantastic
If she is interested she will text you back in less than a hour every time.. 24 hours is insane and you shouldn’t even waste your time
Yeah, too many strategic chess moves (playing games). What are you going to do if you all date for real, or get married? Keep playing a game where you don’t feel like yourself? So dumb.
What if she is traveling or working?
I mean idk there’s girls im interested in and i sometimes leave them on delivered for 18 hours etc. I just have a lot of other stuff on my mind.
@@benz9790 You clearly don’t like them like that then lol
If she doesn't text back in 24 hours, you don't matter to her.
Bro not 24 hours, if she wants you she texts back in 5-10 minutes
@@thomass07. sometimes they can really have something going on. But usually yes, i agree😆
@@thomass07. I keep my phone on airplane mode while I work. Many times even while I'm just walking around with my dog. Not only that, I have good male friends that take hours to message me back. Can't use telepathy to know where/what the person is doing. 5-10 minutes is way too strict
@@differentone_p Most women are glued to their phones. But then again, such women are not worth to text in the first place...
It depends on the situation. Are you meeting someone new on a dating app? Have you been dating this person for few month? I totally get your point, but it needs some context...
Absolute gold and genius honestly this is describing my current text convo going well… vs my last huge loss going.. exactly how you thought it would 😔
Nice hair cut bro! You look way younger tbh ❤thanks for all the vids
Appreciate the insight. This has always been a weak point with me. Once we talk on the phone, I'm in.
Sounds like you wouldn't be really enjoying the interaction if you have to think so hard about it 😂
12:34 i sort of disagree with this rule but i absolutely understand the concept. What i’ve found works is when she replies shes on her phone answering messages its better to try and strike while she’s there and strike up a conversation, rather than become pen palls.
But it is about how you respond.
I actually agree with this. You have to strike a balance where you do respond quickly then, but you can’t have been responding quickly every time with the girl or then you’ll appear needy.
Thank you for this information Todd! I find that texting is toxic for the most part....especially in today's society. I find that too many people use texting as their primary form of communication and have no clue about human interaction in real life. And when it comes to online dating, texting can be down right dangerous...eg. Manti Te’o. Yes, it has a place, but I notice people use this as an avoidance mechanism when answering a question as well. I used to date a woman who used texting as controlling media in our relationship. She just couldn't talk face to face about important issues that needed to be resolved. I found myself going down to that level and falling into her game....my bad. But we learn, and I need to look you in the eye when having a real life conversation....that's just me.
The biggest problem is social media. It's removed the human element from interaction. Now it's less about being real and more about playing games.
Relationships have become less about connection and more about gratification
Right bro😢 And in this world I am trying to find a soulmate.
thanks bro very informational, I suck at texting women definitely will live by these laws now.
A lot of these rules are specific to the US culture.
In East Asia for example, things are very different when it comes to texting.
Different culture, different set of rules.
There's something that anyone can learn from someone at any given time if you're willing to accept what's perhaps like the right laws of texting. Certainly I'm gonna used every one of them instructions that and I plan to make them all mine. I have been texting for years and I have in every text that I have wrote and sent regardless of whom have I sent them to without using any of texting rules. Thanks for taking the time to educate people without the knowledge of the important simple laws of texting like myself.
If she won’t hawk tuah I don’t talk tuah
I finally got tired of seeing people comment about this hawk tuah thing and Googled it. Now I feel dumber for knowing.
Awesome
This video is what makes dating completely exhausting. The amount of seriousness and games in texting is incredible. Memorize the rules, make it easier on yourself, but it's always going to be annoying AF.
15:44 it's like a teacher in primary school... "kids, are you ready?!"
we entertain them
Texting and starting conversations are the 2 areas that I need to improve on asap
My take take on this and life in general;
Be authentich and treat others as you want to be treated.
Don't be manipulativ and strategic but honest and direct on what you want and feel.
Let all expectations go and just flow with it and just experience the ride.
Be aware and learn deeper who you are along the way. Change and grow to a better version and to get closer to your true self.
This way there is nothing to lose and you will always win.
Curious, so I've been dating girl for 3 months, she's almost perfect best girl i met in past 5 years, now i fell in love with her personality and caring nature, but she recently got out of relationship 3 months ago and told me she still has some feeling for him but is trying to move forward with me, it's a LDR so we only see each other weekends, and telling me she's committed to sleeping over on weekends, now do i tell her I'm in love with her and ill be patient and wait to see if she will come around, or shut up and just be patient and hold my feelings in? I'm thinking if i tell her i love her it's just going to scare her away
If it's the truth and you love her . Be honest with her, lay it on her. If you scare her away then it was never meant to be. Don't be fake or strategic to try and extend your time with her in the hopes that she'll eventually develop feelings too. A girl will move mountains to spend time with you if she's really in to you.
The things we have to think about and strategize just to try and have a chance at getting laid....
Nice one Thanks. I did the double texting and had lost the girl a few days later I reached out she said I texted too much I'm needy she wants a confident man, especially my second text was to correct the one before
Then she isn't worth your time Bro. Be yourself. She likely has some other potebyual suiters on the back burner that she's probably talking to. Play it cool, tell a chick who talks to you like that that she's neurotic or insufferable
If you accidentally send a text before it is finished and complete it in another one, that can be mistaken for double texting.
Nice of her to tell you why, as opposed to ghosting
Great video, Todd!! I learned so much thank you. I love the rights you listed!
What kind of freaking psychopath worries about all this shit???😂😂😂
Todd, absolute gigolo!
Great advise.
I have a gf now and she doesn't care for texting but does for me. We just text a few times during the day and call in the evening.
Great content! Topic request: any tips on daily routines? I only do game in the evenings and over the past few months I have somewhat exhausted myself because the cost of success has been late nights and less sleep. My sleep schedule has moved well past midnight and deteriorated so it's starting to affect my overall life satisfaction. You could also throw in some observations about the consumption of alcohol 🙌
Wow. I can appreciate that there is etiquette and technique but there is no way Im going to put all this thought into texting. This also kind of comes from the approach that women are perfect texters. If thats even a thing. The hell with all this detail! 😂
Great content by the way. Very useful for those who are at square one. 👊🏽
I like how this is like Ten Game and Ten Commandments!
You are over thinking this. I do what I do, or text what I text because I don't really care how she feels about it. If you care. You already lost.
Think about when you were young and there was a cool kid, maybe the coolest kid in the group. Maybe that kid was you. Maybe you were the not so popular kid trying to work your way up. Did the popular kid care about what the other kid said? Did the unpopular kid care about what the popular kid said or did? Exactly. If you are the one that overly cares if it works out at all. Then she is above you. You already lost.
It's not that you are checked out. You are just not affected.
Ahh yeah the cool kid is going to care what the uncool kid said. Why because if he uncool he said some uncool stuff and maybe something bad about you trying to call you out. You better set that uncool kid straight and not let them run off at the mouth about you or your friends or take over on something dumb. So you do care. You really want the uncool kid to think your the cool kid and when they do talk tell everyone how cool you are!!!
Todd is about playing to win, not playing to play.
@@polarbear3710 not at all.
The popular people are usually popular because they started out having a priority that didn't include giving a F what the other people thought. If you cared what they though. Then you were never the cool kid.
@@Litthopedion not caring about the outcome is how you play if you already won regardless of the outcome for the other.
If thats not your reality going into it and coming out of it, then you are the one being played.
Chances are you weren't, nor anyone watching this, was naturally the coolest kid in town. The whole point of this channel is to help guys get better at this stuff.
Saying do whatever you want and don't care what she thinks is completely unhelpful unless you are highly experienced and skilled. (In that case I doubt you'd even be watching this)
JP has had personality trainning from Todd for over 10 years. And it only took me 3 years to get reach mastery.
Todd, whats your advice on corey wayne's take on this? ( he advices never texting and getting to meet up straight away, as he says phone should only be used for setting dates and thats it )
I think it's better advice then trying to over complicate texting. If she actually likes you she will want to meet up. If not no amount of texting judo is going to change her mind.
This guy is a genius. If John Mulvihill wasn't so focused on trying to make his approach look superior and wasn't being such an asshole, we'd see there is a lot in common among the teachings. John is so busy trying to differentiate his methods that we miss the similarities with everyone else's teachings. Todd V is top of the game. Students find the teachers that resonate with them. One is not better than any other, just as we wouldn't say one finger on our hand is better than the others.
Men. The advice is solid, given that a man had chosen poorly who to spend his time and resources on. A woman with high attraction will make it easy for you. A woman doing the things in this video is likely demonstrating low attraction through her actions (this can be readily determined) and even if a temporarily texts guys way into her attention, her will experience pain.
Better to build attraction by becoming a better choice.
Need to also discuss Automatic Read Receipts. Either turn it off or use it to your advantage. Definitely don’t want it going out 10 seconds after she sends a message.
Texting is the prime example of trial and error. My friends ask me how I got so good at it, and I always show them the endless pile of dead conversations in my phone.
The advice is great, but when you're sitting there thinking about your next response you'll unavoidably mess up, and you need to be ok with that.
Like the new cut btw, you look way younger
Great advice! Thanks man
You are the first person I’ve heard other than myself say to just pass a shit test and don’t try to escalate. Glad someone else is saying it. It’s a terrible mistake
You're the goat
Anything you say can and WILL be remembered for possible use against you.
finally todd got a haircut hahahah
So, i did that - had a date, had a 2nd date, made plans for number 3 ... her plans i may add - but there is a SMALL problem:
She will be gone for 6 months - in a warzone, literlly. Ohh, what fun.
Good thing: She is a very tradionale woman - tested and conformed by many ... because she shoot down those dates. Her family likes me. Yes, i got to know them. Also, she is ... strongly opposed (and that very convincingly) to hook-ups. How do i know? A friend that normaly gets every girl tryed and failed HARD. Also, we fought over the bill each time - so bonuspoints for that. 2nd Bonus: She called it a date ...
Any tipps how i can keep the flame burning? I am really bad at texting and got the date by just asking.
What about saying "lol" or "haha." I tend to do that a lot, but it kind of feels like I'm cueing the girl to laugh, which of course is low value. But you also mentioned that emojis can disambiguate polarizing texts
Finally the hair cut wayyyy better man
Do you personally coach phone sessions?
My biggest issue is that I'm naturally very awkward socially until I get to know someone VERY well.
I've watch enough of the texting stuff that with the advice plus the fact that I don't have to come up with something immediately I can send fun flirty messages and get them out.. but the dates don't go so well because I obviously don't have the same time , I have to come up with responses instantly
That quote, "What makes you so special?" Id i respond with "I have Aspergers"
I am so old, I used to get dates on the 1970's social network active in most cities.
Citizen's Band Radio
Text game is cope. You send her your name and ask her out. That's it. Everything else is garbage.
This is excellent
Do you have videos on dating women with kids? Or are all of your videos about dating younger women?
Todd V Dating, i havent dated in years. Recently i asked a girl for her number. At first i would text her. But then i quit texting her, because i reviewed what she initially texted in the beginning, saying: i am not ready for a relationship now. So from now on, i dont text her in the morning. Now she is texting me everyday. What does it mean? Could it mean that she is changing her mind about, wanting to date perhaps?
My opinion, women are constantly sending mixed signals because they’re confused about what they want. It’s your job to get clarity. If she says she’s not ready for a relationship it just means to go slow and don’t push to hard to fast. Try to get her to meet face to face for a “non date” then stay mildly flirty and try to touch her once or twice, crossing the street and saving her works, might take 2-3 times until she warms up. If she doesn’t respond to flirt or touch walk away and don’t be friends unless she has good looking friends.
Watch what they do. Ignore what they say
General rule of thumb - never stay talking to only one woman.
You have a right not to trxt back, but i would not text further if im being ignored.
Thanks for great advice!
If she doesn’t respond for a week you should not respond back at all. Unless she was detained she should respond within 24 hours, and that’s pushing it.
nah, I mean you're right, but you'll lose alot of women that way.
How about if i like a girl on facebook , and cant meet here anywhere , because i dont know anything about her , she.s in a city near mine ... and I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO, I usually mess up when i like them
The girl is taking 2 days to respond and isn't asking anything back. I had been the one to initiate on again. How do I change this trend
you can change this trend by breaking into her home and writing your text on all of her mirrors
It is long distance
@@gauthamsai7506It was clearly a joke dude...
Give up 👍
@@gauthamsai7506 Yea its long distance, but you gotta show her how much she matters to you!
to the dont respond instantly. you said if she takes two days to text that i should not wait for two days. i gotta disagree. i am not in a hurry to move things forward with a girl who takes two days to text me.
why is todd in fast forward lol
This video should honestly be behind a pay wall
Thanks Todd
My rule #1: Do not use “troublemaker” thing in the first couple texts.
Another girl was really offended by this recently 💀
I can vouch for that 😅 indeed It backfired
Depends
what's the troublemaker thing?
One of my fav things to do is send a text saying "i hate when people send me a text message but call me right after" and then i call them right after sending it 💀 and then theough out my entire interactions with them i create an inside joke with that by saying ' i hate when people do this or that" and i do exactly that right after until she catches on to every single one and does that " AHHH YOURE DOING THAT THING AGAIN". Another favorite thing is ill say soemthing borderline disrespectful really lightly liek " i never did like you " and then theyll day " what?!" And ill say " i said your hair looks great today" and sometimes they'll just take the compliment confused but believing thats what i said until any other time she says " what?" I say again " oh i said your hair looks great today " and then one day or some point she'll go " YOU MFER! YOU DID NOT SAY THAT, HAVE YOU BEEN FUCKING WITH ME THIS WHOLE TIME?😂 WHAT HAVE YOU BEEN SAYING" .
and i think it is okay to make plans and then move them back and bring it up again. looks less needy. generally when i go straight line to the date after getting the number, i get more rejections. mentioning date activities that i do with other people or date activities that people recommended to me then soft close that idea then say i am too busy to do it soon go back to building value/show unavailability/pattern break my response times/gifs, pics, video, voice note escalation then schedule the date, sometimes i will flake on purpose just bc i think she doesn't seem interested enough, i'll give her a legit excuse, usually that a female friend needed something urgently last minute and "she never asks me for anything so i couldn't say no". then do a skype call instead of the date if possible and on the call reschedule the date and hard close and THEN take the date....damn.. but this really increases the chance of a first date lay bc of the drama
Are you drunk?
@@davidnguyen6541 no why
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This whole process is absurd.
If she likes you, this is needlessly complex. If she doesn't like you, this is needlessly complex...
I had a girl contact Me on Sunday with a message saying "Where and when? For drinks?" And that was literally all the work I've had to do with this one. I suggested the time and place and she had zero issue with any of it - I told her its a good spot because my pad is nearby and we can go there if we want to hang out after drinks and she had nothing negative to say about any of it. She's def signed up for my game plan.
I suppose this all serves a purpose but if you're only dealing with the girls who are into you I feel like a lot of difficult evaporates.
my girl is on autism spectrum and she always misinterprets emojis, so I don't use them.
Women are not offended by flattery.
Occasional instant response is natural....waiting 2 or 4 hrs *every time* say, seems calculated.
Bro I just realized im bad at texting and text games lol
After multiple videos I’m still trying to figure out what the shit test is
Mine is texting when I'm been drinking, I've missed out on multiple girls because of it, lol
the only reason to follow these tips is that you are needy no?
i really struggle to understand why a man wants to do sexting before getting to know me or before even setting up a date? I get this might have several different meanings... what is your take on this?
Because he doesn’t want to get to know you and maybe even skip the date… meaning he wants to score, not you. It’s very straightforward, for sure not worth a struggle!
Just wondering will you ever be posting on twitter? I rarely see your videos in my feed, and twitter has a INCREDIBLY useful new X pro feature which lets you categories all your subs, so like 'Relationships' you would be under and also I would easily see when you even just say 'Hey new video on you tube' don't need to upload on twitter (although you can) That one feature is a huge game changer for getting access to a sea of content in a way that is digestable (pro x' and decks and columns are very useful for sorting everything)
As a wise man once said - "The BEST texting game is solid initial interaction."
So, asking for 5 babies tomorrow might not the best text ?
okay this videos abit better
If a woman takes 24 to 48 hours to respond or a week to respond, yeah I’ve already moved on deleted her number. I have a 48 hour rule I’ve learned from women if a woman is interested in you she’s going to take the 10 seconds or a minute to respond to you. Everybody’s got their phone up their ass today and there’s no excuse. She’s not interested if it takes her 24 to 48 hours to respond to a text message.
10 laws of texting men, "none"
A: My Mom said that I have special needs.
Todd help me