Hopefully this clears up a lot of confusion for you. I have found that when you get the overall understanding of a situation right, the specific "what to do" details become a lot easier.
So... It's all about attitude and character, cool to know, and obviously with attitude and character you also achieve Money and Looks after right, thank you Todd
Excellent video, goes into detail with examples, explains it all from top to bottom, eye opening and really tied it all together for me about what the framework is behind everything. Thanks Todd 🙏
So we should build a network. A strong network and community where we give back and where we're appreciated. Build the status and the rest of the blocks fall in place as long as you know how to use them appropriately. nice vid.
I lost 4 years of my life trying to look good, become high value and still wondered why I did't get girls. Now I know it was because I had no game and approached zero girls. Thanks Todd for clearing the confusion. This is a great service to mankind which will help future generations of young men
You didnt lose those years. Being better loking or having wealth is useful you just need game too. Also, you cant be high value if you did everything just for girls.
@@THaNaS1s Factual. To be in a position of power, options are key. Not choosing a option, having options. I do not have a hopeless mindset but I do believe putting too much effort is similar to spinning you're tires so be persistent but not needy as in it needs to happen today.
Wealth is still extremely important because it gives you the freedom to be able to go out on your own time and practice. Also wealth can help keep your health better and buy you nice things make your life more comfortable etc
I would argue it actually require more time and effort to improve your looks, especially if you're obese or super skinny to begin with and you're going to be much better off when you combine both looks and game. Note - Game still requires a lot of practice and time to get good but I'm saying that it doesn't require as much.
Personal experience in my 20s and 30s was pay, net worth, height, all in top one or two percent, plus looks were OK - none of that mattered much if you were nervous. Job interviews, dates, you name it, if people see you are nervous/desperate they foolishly discount you and go for a less qualified person who doesn’t give a F and is therefore confident. All other things equal, I prefer nervous people because they actually care. Cant say the number of bad hires I’ve seen managers make by thinking like teenage girls.
Yeah, funny how I'm long gone by the time women know how to spot quality. (When you understand the Dunning-Kruger effect, you understand like 93% of human behavior.)
@@battragon the Netherlands ladies don't fuck older men who ARE NOT RICH. They will NOT do an older white man average or poor/disabled... (or both average or poor and disabled)... I knew of one of your kind, she came to the states... went out of her WAY to signal I was a piece of shit... FML
I have discovered that women respond to the overall energy and vibe of the guy. Energy, confidence, intelligence, humor, fun loving, fashion sense, etc. And the sustainability of that energy.
@@gtvibes8 many times honestly not much, this is one reason why often the best looking women are the most boring/annoying to talk to they have never had to be interesting or funny to get attention.
Status is soo true. I'm not tall and good looking or have a ton of money. I dress well, never kiss anyone ass and I know my shit but that's not always been the case. Before I couldn't get almost any girl at all but now (with your help) I can attract most of the girls (even married ones! - it is not my thing though) without even trying to. So it was basically a twist in my thinking and all of a sudden I am a different man with a lot of options.
Looking good and being fit COMBINED with learning some things about social interactions helped me a lot more than focusing on game alone. I don't think it's so much the "looks" as in being handsome, but rather as looking masculine / dominant. As a very skinny guy, it was okay to talk to girls but no one wanted to be in bed with me.
About this there is the concept of the right balance between value and comfort that Todd explains in an excellent way in all of his videos and no dating coach explains this. Sometimes you can be extremely handsome, but at the same time you convey too much comfort and the girl puts you in the friendzone that's why they don't go in bed with you, other times you can be extremely high value and dominant but you don't convey comfort and the girl gets scared feeling inadequate compared to you and even if she is completely attracted by you she never dates you because she is scared, this is a concept Todd explains in a master way, anyway as the user above me says with Todd you learn "game" which is definitely another thing. I spent a lot of time understanding this, at the end I understood that "game" is on another level, it helps you not just with women, but in life in general, if you properly learn "game" you become a better person, you become persuasive and you can strive for the life of your dreams
@@arnauadell4824 inner game vs outer game: this is another concept very well explained by Todd. Essentially when you are skinny and dressed let's say bad, you freak out yourself feeling inadequate and you convey a low status just because inside your mind you installed a thought that you are not good enough based on external appearance, instead when you put on some muscle and you dress well you start to think that you are good enough and you feel confident and you base your identity on what people think about you and not on what you think about yourself, believe me I'm really skinny, I'm not even able to lift a fly and my wardrobe is not that one of a millionaire, but my game thanks to Todd works like a nuclear bomb, I suggest you to work on game, it really improves your life in general
Finally. Great to hear someone actually break down what status is. I've wondered that with other content creators. "Looks, money, status." Like, if status is something separate from the other two, what actually IS it?
I think most people view status as fame, important job titles, popularity, high followers or "verified" blue checkmark on social media, etc. But yes, Todd's view in this video was more complete and really nailed it on a more precise level.
I am in the worst financial spot in the past decade and I get the most attention from the most beautiful women ever, a girl that I went out with broke up with her millionaire boyfriend and went out with me, paid for her own uber, came to the other side of town, just because I have a good sense of humor and I tease her constantly, even had girls that paid for my stuff, game is everything.
Then your charismatic game is certainly elite. Maybe your looks too. Not sure as I don't know you but well done nonetheless. It would still be augmented strongly with the financial status updates.
There is good stuff here but as someone who is long in the tooth I've aways placed women in the third/forth class category: below health, friends/family and business/career. You can apply this stuff when interacting with them but you MUST have your days filled with more important things. You can't fake this : you actually have to be busy pursuing these more important things, making time for women but not wasting an entire day with her until she had earned it. Never ever give them too much of your time! This includes mental time, not just physical presence. They will love you for it, assuming you are perceived as a high value male..Which you will be now you have your priorities straight. No man lacking free cash to spend, no job or business should be pursuing women...Always get your priorities straight and then take stuff from videos like this, but never before which is why so many men are unsuccessful long term in my opinion. You can't pretend being a winner: you actually have to become one and all winners never prioritize pussy over friends/family, money / business / career and health
I've watched so many videos on this topic and never have I seen the framework so beautifully explained. This is a truly unique value add to this space Todd. Well done and thank you
This explains a lot. Probably one of your most important videos, I'd say! The narrative in the industry was that you need to be an entrepreneur, look like a player, etc. to get girls for years. And they made a lot of money out of it. It made me extremely unhappy pursuing those things, because I realized I can never excell in all of those things and therefore it was impossible for me to feel good enough. Seeing it from only the perspective of two people, makes it much easier.
Todd, you absolutely nailed it with this video brother. From the thumbnail to the title to, most importantly, the actual message conveyed. I'm not crazy familiar with your content but this video was superb and I hope guys continue to listen to the things you preach and use your teachings to become the greatest version of themselves. Thanks again bro, top-tier content!
I rely on chemistry to hit it off with women. I am not outcome depedant in my interactions. She either likes me or she doesnt. I have good looking photos taken by my barber. A nice dating profile. But I really narrow it down to how me and the woman interact. Whether she takes my jokes well. Or takes what I say the best way. From then on its just a matter of time. Also I am up front about my interest in a woman. Sometimes I mess up and show my intent too aggressively. Being direct has been a game changer for me.
A great way to create game and status is to befriend several women without the intention of hooking up with them, or dating them. They will introduce you to other women, women you can get to know and invite to a date. That will be so much better than trying to approach women by yourself, relying solely on your own skills.
Preselection works very well. The key is to truly have no interest in thr women you befriend. You've got to friendzone them first and truly. If it's false they'll feel it.
@@AV-kr6gc Yes friendzone yourself. You're seeing women as only f potential and that's wrong and women can spot that from a mile away. Women value the opinions of other women when choosing a mate. It's a survival instinct. Having a female friend qualify you as a fun, decent guy who isn't a creep like many guys helps you past the cold approach stage. I've met many women through other friends. You're playing the game on hard mode if you don't have female friends that you don't f.
status is the most important. when i was a CLUB DJ i had soo many women, and the hottest women of my life.. all thanks to my status. no money and no looks...
It is said that "life's a game"... and if so you play to win and have fun in the process, enjoy the pain and learn how to properly game. The learning process
A friend of mine had told me that she found a certain guy very attractive depite the fact that he wasnt good looking & didnt have a chiseled body. What attracted her initially & caused her to look past all of that is the fact that he was well dressed, well groomed, smelled great and danced very well.
I was hooked from the start. (even though I had a pretty good idea what you were going to say) Great intro! Still killing it my brother - been following you since the RSD days
This is why it comes down to the difficulty setting you're living on. You can get attractive, learn game, build confidence and charisma, have money etc., but if you're living life on "Nightmare" mode, none of that will matter.
We need old school Pickup guys like Todd to set the record straight on these red pill ideas. Yes, looks money starts help, but with no game it’s all for nothing.
Lol "game" dude game doesn't exist women already know what you're doing when you approach them it's not a secret and if they like you they will say yes and if not then no, it's more of a numbers game then anything
Red pill was originally about and by PUA on PUA forums . PUA got banned, forums went down LMS came in . Rollo Tomassi always said Red pill was the theory and pick up the practice . You need both. Game counts and the whole LMS is very American. Not to mention the new red pill guys never did pick up besides online..
@@ramozj6997 my problem is rollo never picked up himself. Only pickup guys I respect are the ones that have done hundreds of cold approaches OR have the skills to explain why you don’t need cold approach. Why the fuck would I take advice from a guy (rollo) that couldn’t hang with me at the bar or on the street???? 🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️ Game recognize game.
i dont know about anybody else but for me its LOOKS that matter 100% of the time ! looks matter when you pick friends to pal around with ,looks matter when your getting a job - looks matter when your looking for a date , looks matter when your in a court of law - if you do NOT look handsome or pretty -then you will NOT procreate. people who LOOK beautiful and handsome have a extra leg up in this world.
U should redefine what is look look like...for example I am 5.8 feet tall handsome with childish face..because of my childish face women don't care me at all.same time a guy with athletic body with ugly face dark skin can attract many woman sexually...there is confusion.. Sorry for my terrible English...
Yes bro, fuck money, status and game. It's only looks that matters! Looks portrey the quality of the dna and it's at least 80% of total importance to get female attention. It's not only you a lot of people know this, this is called "the black pill".
A high status can be conveyed through expensive clothes and accessories, which in turn require money. When you see someone drive to a meeting in an S-class wearing a nice suit, you automatically assume it's a high status important person worth your time investment. Just an amazing perosnality without money is hard these days.
When I see someone driving an S Class I think that their miles per gallon figures will suck and I'm glad that I drive more economical cars (a Volvo XC90 and a BMW 330D)
I find so many guys saying "women won't date you unless you're 6 foot and earn 6 figures". I always find it's because they're looking for excuses and it's easier to make excuses than to take action, and above all, accountability.
Maybe some use it an excuse not to take action but a lot of guys also reference modern women's delusional standards to expose the double standard that women can say they want a traditional guy who's richer, stronger, taller, smarter that protects and provides and it's accepted for the most part, but if a man says he wants a traditional wife who cooks and looks after kids then it's met with "It's not the 1950s anymore bro, thats m1s0gynistic"
Wow, this video has finally given me an in depth definition of game. I was having trouble figuring out what game is and what it actually does behind the scenes not just the desired results but now with an unsuspecting video everything is answered. Thanks alot Todd for your awesome lessons.
One fun fact I wanna add is - Looks and money gets you laid for short term relationships. Follow up process helps in building long term attraction but for short term looks and money are suffering without much efforts
The Red Pill is creating a lot of jaded young men, who are making everything Man vs. Women. I feel terrible for every young man today who struggles with dating. The RSD days were such a happy marriage of dating and social skills packaged into one, and I met my wife through using those techniques. It's too bad those same ideas are now banned content. Hopefully this red pill phase ends soon
Todd you said that you have seen unattractive guys get success in your programs. However, no dating coach/PUA has ever proven this. On the other hand, there are countless videos of men being rejected instantly just because of their looks. I’m a positive guy and I have been following you for almost 10 years now, but the more lack of proof I see, the less I believe that even ugly men can get success. Why don’t you show us if you’re confident about this? I mean this in a non hostile way; I just want to see some evidence my man.
I love youtube you have people who teach you so much like you , so much gleaning I have done this year I font even have time to read a book because I feel like a book focuses in one topic but you tube you ebb & flow gaining something new everyday
Guys don't ovethink. This is what you do: Focus on yourself, that alone will cause you to be more open to people and therefore people will be more open to you. It will catch attention from others, more people will come into your life giving you a different perspective on life in general. This will allow you to have more confidence in yourself by being competent in the things you do and accomplish (true confidence). This is literally how I was able to get the hottest girls my school. I worked on myself from the outside-in. Went to the gym lost weight, focused on my studies, changed my clothes to tighter fitting clothes since I lost weight which showed off the muscle I unknowingly built by going to the gym, etc. You understand? Everything comes from you just working on bettering your life. Especially making yourself happy which makes you glow and walk/talk differently. Much love my dudes!
Game is about pretending to be someone of high social value, why not focus your energy on actually becoming someone of status and not just pretending? What's the use of demonstrating and behaving like someone of status if you live in a bad place, have a shitty job, have no conditions and are in terrible shape
There's more than one way to skin a cat. Your goal is getting girls so, either you can become someone of value that actually deserves girls or you can amoulate the behavior of high value person to trigger Attraction in girls to get them. Choice is yours
@@sumandas-wu8so yes but for this guys who already worked on be really high value is just necessary a shift in their mentality and show how to express their own value, and not pretend and be a looser in the end
@@heartofsteel8808 pretending you are, you can pick a good girl for one night, but you can't keep a high value hot girl just by emulating, high caliber girls know how to recognize when you're pretending
Looks do more than give you a window of attention. As a strong 7 I can walk into a room of 5's and 6's (men) and without saying anything, be seen as the alpha of the group. All I have to do is be that person (congruence). In other words, there is downstream effects of good looks. But Todd is right, without good game, the average guy with good game will get the girl, BUT, if both have the same level of game, then the good looking guy almost always wins.
As a good looking guy, my view is looks helps and is an asset to have. But, it doesn’t mean much if you don’t have good social skills. Women aren’t going to throw themselves at you because you have good looks. It’s kind of like playing a video game and getting a 20% boost in health, going to 120%. You get an extra bonus. But, even that is only with some girls. They all have different preferences. A lot of women won’t even notice you if you have looks. Social skills matters a lot more.
And meanwhile, using that metaphor, if you are a master at the video game, you can defeat the final boss without taking a single hit, so the health boost doesn't matter.
Maybe cause you guys are not that good looking. A real good looking does get women throwing themselves at them. Sometimes literally bit most times they just make everything happen so you notice them.Happens to me .
Ive found on average attractive guys have better game. I think its because they are given more permission to be confident and women shit test them less for it. Its an unfair winner effect. Average or below average looking guys will get shit tested way more when they act confident. However if you can weather it, women will literally start seeing you as more physically attractive. Its kinda crazy how flexible women’s attraction is.
It is literally all about how you talk to a woman, the kind of vibe, attitude and confidence displayed when you’re interacting with her. You could be average looking, have no money and live in your car, and just by the way you’re interacting with a woman, she could want to sleep with you right then and there. Being playful, teasing, strong eye contact, making her laugh, acting masculine…she’ll be all about it. Trust me, it works. On the flip side, you could have a ton of money and value but still not be able to attract a chick if she’s bored talking to you, or if you’re not bringing that sexual excitement out of her. You want her pussy to get excited when she’s interacting with you, that’s your goal. She doesn’t give a shit about your money or your muscles or your car… It’s 100% about the interaction.
I think there is too much lies, looks is more than just initial 20s attention. If you have a ugly face, jacked, dressing well, quite social, girls will focus on the ugly face
As a married man I agree with everything he said, except that pursuing long term relationship is very different than pursuing situationship or sex only. At the beginning the game is the same, but the ultimate goal is to get her heart, not just sex. BTW, the game shouldn't stop after marriage, if the game stops, the sex stops as well.
Than you Tod you're a godsend.I was fortunate enough to learn game from guys like you, the guys at RSD. Max,Owen,Jullian,Jeff,Madison. guys like Corey Wayne and AMS and know that what you're saying is true. I believe having career and money and gym goals but i genuinely do those things for myself because they make me happy.and not to get girls.when it comes down to it it's really does comedown to game.
ABsoulutely, but the thing is, it's much easier for someone who already upped their looks and money to learn game, then for someone who got game to become rich and improve their looks, it just takes more time. So, somebody born better looking has an advantage of someone who wasn't born good looking + had to learn game.
For me, the goal is to improve my looks and money first. Then use both of those traits to improve my status and then afford high-end 1 on 1 coaching such as Todd's programs to actually improve game. Plus once I have my business making money while I sleep by it being a system that isn't totally dependent on me, I now free up more of my time to do game. I'm taking a long-term approach. People call it cope. But I'm enjoying the process.
The problem with the mantra of looks, money and status is that it’s guys trying to explain female attraction from a male perspective. Men are very quantitative in their thinking and focus on attributes. But it oversimplifies things. Women are more qualitative, so a better way to put it is you want to convey a happy and fulfilled life that is full of purpose. What exactly that means in detail isn’t as important as guys think it is.
@@perrycoffey5410 you can try for practice but you're fighting a losing battle. Girls want guys who can give them the life they want. let that pain drive you to succeed. let that pain push you to work harder than the next guy. let that pain be your vehicle to success. bro as man, your life is competition. embrace it
@@fabersoul i have trouble getting a job because of this online bullshit should I just keep trying sometimes I just wanna give up, I'm in my 30s and still a virgin
@@perrycoffey5410 watch jordan peterson videos is a good start. Sounds like to me you need to get your life in order. Jordan Peterson is who helped me. If there are things you are good at, identify them and triple down on your strengths. Bro there are people making money online doing the silliest things, money is money. Just make it. You could be sitting a goldmine and not realise. Imagine if lebron never picked up a basketball? He would be nobody. Find your basketball ( as in whatever it is you are good at)
@coffee bro, don't let let these narratives stop you from taking action. He literally said you don't need anything to acquire good game. Only these other thing will benefit you. At least that's my take from the vid. I Game in day to day life, just where I can basically. You don't need anything per say just some balls and a plan. It's like learning a new language. Go out with the intent of practicing talking in this new language you will eventually get the grips start building more comfort in yourself and this will show its attractive this is where you can experiment with all the tactics and techniques todd gives whixh are genius btw. It is about you taking the lead and taking action so get out and stop thinking you need all these things before you start. Build the well rounded package of the man you want to be and as you progress, it will just get better. You got this bro.
@@_mr_cat Kevin hart is small but definitely has fame (status) is rich and is ok looking. I bet any chick would kill for their chance to sleep with him.
Unrelated to the video, Todd, but I'd love to hear your thoughts on the matter of how far you can go against what is natural to you in game. In other words, forcing behaviors that you think/are attractive, but that feel unnatural to you.
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Hopefully this clears up a lot of confusion for you. I have found that when you get the overall understanding of a situation right, the specific "what to do" details become a lot easier.
So... It's all about attitude and character, cool to know, and obviously with attitude and character you also achieve Money and Looks after right, thank you Todd
Thanks for all the work you do Todd
Excellent video, goes into detail with examples, explains it all from top to bottom, eye opening and really tied it all together for me about what the framework is behind everything. Thanks Todd 🙏
So we should build a network. A strong network and community where we give back and where we're appreciated. Build the status and the rest of the blocks fall in place as long as you know how to use them appropriately. nice vid.
Howdy. Is Owen Cook really gay?
I lost 4 years of my life trying to look good, become high value and still wondered why I did't get girls. Now I know it was because I had no game and approached zero girls. Thanks Todd for clearing the confusion. This is a great service to mankind which will help future generations of young men
You didnt lose those years. Being better loking or having wealth is useful you just need game too. Also, you cant be high value if you did everything just for girls.
@@THaNaS1s Factual. To be in a position of power, options are key. Not choosing a option, having options. I do not have a hopeless mindset but I do believe putting too much effort is similar to spinning you're tires so be persistent but not needy as in it needs to happen today.
Wealth is still extremely important because it gives you the freedom to be able to go out on your own time and practice. Also wealth can help keep your health better and buy you nice things make your life more comfortable etc
I would argue it actually require more time and effort to improve your looks, especially if you're obese or super skinny to begin with and you're going to be much better off when you combine both looks and game. Note - Game still requires a lot of practice and time to get good but I'm saying that it doesn't require as much.
Height is important to very very very important unfortunately I believe there's also one other Force involved but I cannot explain it
I love the fact that you’re older and didn’t betray the game or treat all these valuable teachings like they were a lie. Go get it, Todd!
Personal experience in my 20s and 30s was pay, net worth, height, all in top one or two percent, plus looks were OK - none of that mattered much if you were nervous. Job interviews, dates, you name it, if people see you are nervous/desperate they foolishly discount you and go for a less qualified person who doesn’t give a F and is therefore confident. All other things equal, I prefer nervous people because they actually care. Cant say the number of bad hires I’ve seen managers make by thinking like teenage girls.
Yeah, funny how I'm long gone by the time women know how to spot quality.
(When you understand the Dunning-Kruger effect, you understand like 93% of human behavior.)
@Nick Austin That's why here in the Netherlands we say "het leven begint na je 40ste". (Life starts after your 40th.)
@@battragon the Netherlands ladies don't fuck older men who ARE NOT RICH.
They will NOT do an older white man average or poor/disabled... (or both average or poor and disabled)...
I knew of one of your kind, she came to the states... went out of her WAY to signal I was a piece of shit... FML
@@battragon
Many wealthy men say the same thing in the US. Not so much for women.
@@jfkst1 Yeah, that's the thing with equality: it always manifests, be it sooner or later.
I have discovered that women respond to the overall energy and vibe of the guy. Energy, confidence, intelligence, humor, fun loving, fashion sense, etc. And the sustainability of that energy.
And what are they bringing to the table to match all those awesome.qualities?
@@gtvibes8 many times honestly not much, this is one reason why often the best looking women are the most boring/annoying to talk to they have never had to be interesting or funny to get attention.
Love you Todd.
The uncle/dad we never had never fails to deliver!
That's why he is the Todd Father. ❤️
I have always looked up to him as the cool older brother. How young is the average viewer of this channel I wonder.
Status is soo true. I'm not tall and good looking or have a ton of money. I dress well, never kiss anyone ass and I know my shit but that's not always been the case. Before I couldn't get almost any girl at all but now (with your help) I can attract most of the girls (even married ones! - it is not my thing though) without even trying to. So it was basically a twist in my thinking and all of a sudden I am a different man with a lot of options.
What did you do to change your status?
Yeah, what did you do?
u got superpowers from todd
_(even married ones! - it is not my thing though)_ The married ones are often easier, because they are already disillusionized
Looking good and being fit COMBINED with learning some things about social interactions helped me a lot more than focusing on game alone. I don't think it's so much the "looks" as in being handsome, but rather as looking masculine / dominant. As a very skinny guy, it was okay to talk to girls but no one wanted to be in bed with me.
"Learning some Things about sozial interactions"
This is learning game
About this there is the concept of the right balance between value and comfort that Todd explains in an excellent way in all of his videos and no dating coach explains this. Sometimes you can be extremely handsome, but at the same time you convey too much comfort and the girl puts you in the friendzone that's why they don't go in bed with you, other times you can be extremely high value and dominant but you don't convey comfort and the girl gets scared feeling inadequate compared to you and even if she is completely attracted by you she never dates you because she is scared, this is a concept Todd explains in a master way, anyway as the user above me says with Todd you learn "game" which is definitely another thing. I spent a lot of time understanding this, at the end I understood that "game" is on another level, it helps you not just with women, but in life in general, if you properly learn "game" you become a better person, you become persuasive and you can strive for the life of your dreams
It's not just that...its about dressing well too...doesn't have to be too fancy...just wear clean well fitted clothes..and clean shoes...
@@js83 Yeah, the right clothes help project that masculine look.
@@arnauadell4824 inner game vs outer game: this is another concept very well explained by Todd. Essentially when you are skinny and dressed let's say bad, you freak out yourself feeling inadequate and you convey a low status just because inside your mind you installed a thought that you are not good enough based on external appearance, instead when you put on some muscle and you dress well you start to think that you are good enough and you feel confident and you base your identity on what people think about you and not on what you think about yourself, believe me I'm really skinny, I'm not even able to lift a fly and my wardrobe is not that one of a millionaire, but my game thanks to Todd works like a nuclear bomb, I suggest you to work on game, it really improves your life in general
Finally. Great to hear someone actually break down what status is. I've wondered that with other content creators. "Looks, money, status." Like, if status is something separate from the other two, what actually IS it?
I think most people view status as fame, important job titles, popularity, high followers or "verified" blue checkmark on social media, etc. But yes, Todd's view in this video was more complete and really nailed it on a more precise level.
I am in the worst financial spot in the past decade and I get the most attention from the most beautiful women ever, a girl that I went out with broke up with her millionaire boyfriend and went out with me, paid for her own uber, came to the other side of town, just because I have a good sense of humor and I tease her constantly, even had girls that paid for my stuff, game is everything.
What do you mean by tease?
Then your charismatic game is certainly elite. Maybe your looks too. Not sure as I don't know you but well done nonetheless. It would still be augmented strongly with the financial status updates.
There is good stuff here but as someone who is long in the tooth I've aways placed women in the third/forth class category: below health, friends/family and business/career. You can apply this stuff when interacting with them but you MUST have your days filled with more important things. You can't fake this : you actually have to be busy pursuing these more important things, making time for women but not wasting an entire day with her until she had earned it. Never ever give them too much of your time! This includes mental time, not just physical presence. They will love you for it, assuming you are perceived as a high value male..Which you will be now you have your priorities straight. No man lacking free cash to spend, no job or business should be pursuing women...Always get your priorities straight and then take stuff from videos like this, but never before which is why so many men are unsuccessful long term in my opinion. You can't pretend being a winner: you actually have to become one and all winners never prioritize pussy over friends/family, money / business / career and health
I've watched so many videos on this topic and never have I seen the framework so beautifully explained. This is a truly unique value add to this space Todd.
Well done and thank you
YES!!! I've never seen these concepts sooo beautifully tied together! Wow.
This man knows human psychology. Confidence, confidence, confidence. That's what it is all about.
I want to see infield of a 5’2 balding Indian janitor
This explains a lot. Probably one of your most important videos, I'd say! The narrative in the industry was that you need to be an entrepreneur, look like a player, etc. to get girls for years. And they made a lot of money out of it. It made me extremely unhappy pursuing those things, because I realized I can never excell in all of those things and therefore it was impossible for me to feel good enough. Seeing it from only the perspective of two people, makes it much easier.
if you are older and have none of those 3 things, you're phucked.
Todd, you absolutely nailed it with this video brother. From the thumbnail to the title to, most importantly, the actual message conveyed. I'm not crazy familiar with your content but this video was superb and I hope guys continue to listen to the things you preach and use your teachings to become the greatest version of themselves. Thanks again bro, top-tier content!
Conveying and creating status, game and frame. Lots of praise and applause to Todd for the outstanding content! 👏
holy shit this is a truth so distilled, we should’ve realized this 20 years ago
Todd is the professor you wish you had in your first year of college.
I rely on chemistry to hit it off with women. I am not outcome depedant in my interactions. She either likes me or she doesnt. I have good looking photos taken by my barber. A nice dating profile. But I really narrow it down to how me and the woman interact. Whether she takes my jokes well. Or takes what I say the best way. From then on its just a matter of time. Also I am up front about my interest in a woman. Sometimes I mess up and show my intent too aggressively. Being direct has been a game changer for me.
Game is conveying the elements of status in an efficient way
I’ve watched 10.000 “the truth” videos on TH-cam, but this might be the truthestest so far..
A great way to create game and status is to befriend several women without the intention of hooking up with them, or dating them. They will introduce you to other women, women you can get to know and invite to a date. That will be so much better than trying to approach women by yourself, relying solely on your own skills.
Preselection works very well. The key is to truly have no interest in thr women you befriend.
You've got to friendzone them first and truly. If it's false they'll feel it.
So friendzone yourself? Let’s be real, why would you need her to introduce you to other women anyways? Unless the initial woman couldn’t be pulled
@@memeticmindset5474 I agree, pre selection works even better if those said women are interested/attracted to you, even if showed subtly
@@AV-kr6gc Yes friendzone yourself. You're seeing women as only f potential and that's wrong and women can spot that from a mile away. Women value the opinions of other women when choosing a mate. It's a survival instinct. Having a female friend qualify you as a fun, decent guy who isn't a creep like many guys helps you past the cold approach stage. I've met many women through other friends. You're playing the game on hard mode if you don't have female friends that you don't f.
This is such an important and underrated video. It clears up a lot of things that should be self explanatory but aren't. Thank you Todd
status is the most important. when i was a CLUB DJ i had soo many women, and the hottest women of my life.. all thanks to my status. no money and no looks...
It is said that "life's a game"... and if so you play to win and have fun in the process, enjoy the pain and learn how to properly game. The learning process
A friend of mine had told me that she found a certain guy very attractive depite the fact that he wasnt good looking & didnt have a chiseled body. What attracted her initially & caused her to look past all of that is the fact that he was well dressed, well groomed, smelled great and danced very well.
I was hooked from the start. (even though I had a pretty good idea what you were going to say) Great intro! Still killing it my brother - been following you since the RSD days
Be less needy + go for what you want. That's status game in a nutshell
Usually younger girls go for looks older girls want stability. Just stay in shape and follow your path and don’t over think about getting girls
This might be one of the most dangerous/ powerful video you’ve ever made good stuff man
Listening to Todd is so wholesome. It’s like the real red pill amongst “read pills”.
Do you have an online program that I can learn daygame from?
Well said, well put together 👏🏾 thank you for breaking that down.
AWESOME TODD
This is why it comes down to the difficulty setting you're living on. You can get attractive, learn game, build confidence and charisma, have money etc., but if you're living life on "Nightmare" mode, none of that will matter.
🚨 This is exactly why I became a meditation coach. At the end of the day inner game is the real wizard sh*t.
no its not lol. height and looks are the only thing
Brilliant definitions. Thank you Todd! Much clear now
Its so true , i was confused before about all these terms but what u said was mind blowing, thanks todd
I go to Owens videos when I need someone to make me laugh and I go to Todd’s videos when I need to learn
We need old school Pickup guys like Todd to set the record straight on these red pill ideas. Yes, looks money starts help, but with no game it’s all for nothing.
Looks get your foot in the door, game keeps you there 🙂.
Lol "game" dude game doesn't exist women already know what you're doing when you approach them it's not a secret and if they like you they will say yes and if not then no, it's more of a numbers game then anything
@@thesquad2253 huh??? 😆😆😆 Bro, you sound like you get zero play. Quit the losing mindset, my guy.
Red pill was originally about and by PUA on PUA forums . PUA got banned, forums went down LMS came in .
Rollo Tomassi always said Red pill was the theory and pick up the practice . You need both.
Game counts and the whole LMS is very American. Not to mention the new red pill guys never did pick up besides online..
@@ramozj6997 my problem is rollo never picked up himself. Only pickup guys I respect are the ones that have done hundreds of cold approaches OR have the skills to explain why you don’t need cold approach. Why the fuck would I take advice from a guy (rollo) that couldn’t hang with me at the bar or on the street???? 🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️ Game recognize game.
i dont know about anybody else but for me its LOOKS that matter 100% of the time !
looks matter when you pick friends to pal around with ,looks matter when your getting a job -
looks matter when your looking for a date , looks matter when your in a court of law -
if you do NOT look handsome or pretty -then you will NOT procreate.
people who LOOK beautiful and handsome have a extra leg up in this world.
Or you can get a ugly fat girl they're not too picky
U should redefine what is look look like...for example I am 5.8 feet tall handsome with childish face..because of my childish face women don't care me at all.same time a guy with athletic body with ugly face dark skin can attract many woman sexually...there is confusion..
Sorry for my terrible English...
Yes bro, fuck money, status and game. It's only looks that matters! Looks portrey the quality of the dna and it's at least 80% of total importance to get female attention. It's not only you a lot of people know this, this is called "the black pill".
@@jexi195 there are list of looks levels from 1 to 10, you can categorize yourself there, its an objective fact it's not subjective taste.
It's about the ability to act like a adult. Congruently
A high status can be conveyed through expensive clothes and accessories, which in turn require money. When you see someone drive to a meeting in an S-class wearing a nice suit, you automatically assume it's a high status important person worth your time investment. Just an amazing perosnality without money is hard these days.
When I see someone driving an S Class I think that their miles per gallon figures will suck and I'm glad that I drive more economical cars (a Volvo XC90 and a BMW 330D)
Bmw sucks ass
Yea but what’s the point if they have no personality or game
This is probably one of the best videos you’ve done. Much to think about. Thanks for sharing dude.
Nobody does it like slickback Todd. True OG of the game.
Oh yeahh
What a woman wants is emotional security. It's the only thing she can't provide for herself.
Great video, new thoughts, amazing.
I find so many guys saying "women won't date you unless you're 6 foot and earn 6 figures".
I always find it's because they're looking for excuses and it's easier to make excuses than to take action, and above all, accountability.
Maybe some use it an excuse not to take action but a lot of guys also reference modern women's delusional standards to expose the double standard that women can say they want a traditional guy who's richer, stronger, taller, smarter that protects and provides and it's accepted for the most part, but if a man says he wants a traditional wife who cooks and looks after kids then it's met with "It's not the 1950s anymore bro, thats m1s0gynistic"
And if you have a ugly face, approached many girls and still no results, it's an excuse?
Wow what an amazing concept! Thank you so much for breaking it down so simply
Social skills and game is all you need.
cope.
Wow, this video has finally given me an in depth definition of game. I was having trouble figuring out what game is and what it actually does behind the scenes not just the desired results but now with an unsuspecting video everything is answered. Thanks alot Todd for your awesome lessons.
Its confidence and someone who is fun.
Fabulous explanation.
Todd has a phd in Philosophy of Game
One fun fact I wanna add is - Looks and money gets you laid for short term relationships. Follow up process helps in building long term attraction but for short term looks and money are suffering without much efforts
This dude is the best in the game. Smart, articulate, experienced. Alwayd love your stuff.
The Red Pill is creating a lot of jaded young men, who are making everything Man vs. Women. I feel terrible for every young man today who struggles with dating. The RSD days were such a happy marriage of dating and social skills packaged into one, and I met my wife through using those techniques. It's too bad those same ideas are now banned content.
Hopefully this red pill phase ends soon
I totally agree!!
supply & demand bro, It may not be how things should be, but its how things are. play the game cus you can't change the rules.
That's not a phase lol.
Its the black one that is most negative but truthful
There was this really nice stage of pua mixed with self improvement too, but red pill black pill hijacked it, sucks
Todd you said that you have seen unattractive guys get success in your programs. However, no dating coach/PUA has ever proven this. On the other hand, there are countless videos of men being rejected instantly just because of their looks.
I’m a positive guy and I have been following you for almost 10 years now, but the more lack of proof I see, the less I believe that even ugly men can get success. Why don’t you show us if you’re confident about this? I mean this in a non hostile way; I just want to see some evidence my man.
thank you so much man
In the dictionary the word "Value" should be substituted with the name "Todd", absolutely master video, perfect, brilliant! Thank you Todd!
I love youtube you have people who teach you so much like you , so much gleaning I have done this year I font even have time to read a book because I feel like a book focuses in one topic but you tube you ebb & flow gaining something new everyday
Guys don't ovethink. This is what you do:
Focus on yourself, that alone will cause you to be more open to people and therefore people will be more open to you. It will catch attention from others, more people will come into your life giving you a different perspective on life in general. This will allow you to have more confidence in yourself by being competent in the things you do and accomplish (true confidence).
This is literally how I was able to get the hottest girls my school. I worked on myself from the outside-in. Went to the gym lost weight, focused on my studies, changed my clothes to tighter fitting clothes since I lost weight which showed off the muscle I unknowingly built by going to the gym, etc.
You understand? Everything comes from you just working on bettering your life. Especially making yourself happy which makes you glow and walk/talk differently.
Much love my dudes!
Game is about pretending to be someone of high social value, why not focus your energy on actually becoming someone of status and not just pretending?
What's the use of demonstrating and behaving like someone of status if you live in a bad place, have a shitty job, have no conditions and are in terrible shape
There's more than one way to skin a cat.
Your goal is getting girls so, either you can become someone of value that actually deserves girls or you can amoulate the behavior of high value person to trigger Attraction in girls to get them.
Choice is yours
Emulation is much cheaper and same results
Guys with money, looks, status and high value still can't get girls unless they have game.
@@sumandas-wu8so yes but for this guys who already worked on be really high value is just necessary a shift in their mentality and show how to express their own value, and not pretend and be a looser in the end
@@heartofsteel8808 pretending you are, you can pick a good girl for one night, but you can't keep a high value hot girl just by emulating, high caliber girls know how to recognize when you're pretending
Looks do more than give you a window of attention.
As a strong 7 I can walk into a room of 5's and 6's (men) and without saying anything, be seen as the alpha of the group. All I have to do is be that person (congruence).
In other words, there is downstream effects of good looks. But Todd is right, without good game, the average guy with good game will get the girl, BUT, if both have the same level of game, then the good looking guy almost always wins.
The good-looking guy with a mediocre game would beat the average guy with good game because he's average, and the other is hot.
@@nnnmmmable Being said by somebody who doesnt have game
@@tommuller849 You have game? Lol.
@@nnnmmmable
For my aforementioned reason - he has automatic higher social value. His higher value has downstream social effects.
As a good looking guy, my view is looks helps and is an asset to have. But, it doesn’t mean much if you don’t have good social skills.
Women aren’t going to throw themselves at you because you have good looks. It’s kind of like playing a video game and getting a 20% boost in health, going to 120%. You get an extra bonus. But, even that is only with some girls. They all have different preferences. A lot of women won’t even notice you if you have looks. Social skills matters a lot more.
And meanwhile, using that metaphor, if you are a master at the video game, you can defeat the final boss without taking a single hit, so the health boost doesn't matter.
Depends on the medium too. Online, the looks and status are WAY more important than being charismatic.
Maybe cause you guys are not that good looking. A real good looking does get women throwing themselves at them. Sometimes literally bit most times they just make everything happen so you notice them.Happens to me .
Ive found on average attractive guys have better game.
I think its because they are given more permission to be confident and women shit test them less for it.
Its an unfair winner effect. Average or below average looking guys will get shit tested way more when they act confident.
However if you can weather it, women will literally start seeing you as more physically attractive. Its kinda crazy how flexible women’s attraction is.
@@dominicvaldes5890 💯
Had a total mental flip understanding STATUS is the one and only thing to attraction. Thank you.
Plus the distinction of "objective status" vs. "relative status"
Smart analysis.
It is literally all about how you talk to a woman, the kind of vibe, attitude and confidence displayed when you’re interacting with her. You could be average looking, have no money and live in your car, and just by the way you’re interacting with a woman, she could want to sleep with you right then and there. Being playful, teasing, strong eye contact, making her laugh, acting masculine…she’ll be all about it. Trust me, it works. On the flip side, you could have a ton of money and value but still not be able to attract a chick if she’s bored talking to you, or if you’re not bringing that sexual excitement out of her. You want her pussy to get excited when she’s interacting with you, that’s your goal. She doesn’t give a shit about your money or your muscles or your car… It’s 100% about the interaction.
I think there is too much lies, looks is more than just initial 20s attention.
If you have a ugly face, jacked, dressing well, quite social, girls will focus on the ugly face
absolute cope. looks and halo effect are the 1st thing for women
todd my bro looking more wasted than ever damn! party hard my boy
As a married man I agree with everything he said, except that pursuing long term relationship is very different than pursuing situationship or sex only. At the beginning the game is the same, but the ultimate goal is to get her heart, not just sex. BTW, the game shouldn't stop after marriage, if the game stops, the sex stops as well.
This makes everything much more clear to me. Thanks!
Looks, money, game and frame are most likely the correct terminology.
Then why do women only swipe on 2 percent of men ? 🤔
That’s not cold approach. Just approaching puts you in the top 5%.
Than you Tod you're a godsend.I was fortunate enough to learn game from guys like you, the guys at RSD. Max,Owen,Jullian,Jeff,Madison. guys like Corey Wayne and AMS and know that what you're saying is true. I believe having career and money and gym goals but i genuinely do those things for myself because they make me happy.and not to get girls.when it comes down to it it's really does comedown to game.
ABsoulutely, but the thing is, it's much easier for someone who already upped their looks and money to learn game, then for someone who got game to become rich and improve their looks, it just takes more time. So, somebody born better looking has an advantage of someone who wasn't born good looking + had to learn game.
It's what you do with money
Money=fun
You’ve Grown So Amazingly 😎
Gratitude 🙏🏾 For Your Message 🙌🏾
For me, the goal is to improve my looks and money first. Then use both of those traits to improve my status and then afford high-end 1 on 1 coaching such as Todd's programs to actually improve game. Plus once I have my business making money while I sleep by it being a system that isn't totally dependent on me, I now free up more of my time to do game. I'm taking a long-term approach. People call it cope. But I'm enjoying the process.
Cope?
@@joshranowsky8083 coping hard. once he realizes that he cant get a girl because hes ugly is when he realizes its OVER xD
I share the same dream with you bro. Let's keep it up
I don't think I've ever seen this much copium.
So clear, thanks for the clarification. It is so obvious when you explain it
Todd once again you're a legend
This makes sense! Thank you for putting in into words!
Money is important because it can get u coaching by Todd V.
its so over for you lol
@@SPACEDOUT19 sure bud
“Does money help you with women?”
“Yes, you can participate in the Todd’s bootcamp.”
i paid for pickup alpha, tom torreo, justin wayne and at end got no lays and i got a very good tech job. i work in the bay area in sf
Why did you pay for another PUA after your first fail?
Absolute gold! Thanks Todd
The problem with the mantra of looks, money and status is that it’s guys trying to explain female attraction from a male perspective. Men are very quantitative in their thinking and focus on attributes. But it oversimplifies things.
Women are more qualitative, so a better way to put it is you want to convey a happy and fulfilled life that is full of purpose. What exactly that means in detail isn’t as important as guys think it is.
I say get the money, then go hard on game. Pointless doing game if you can't afford things.
So if I can't afford things should I not even try to talk to women? This shit is literally killing me
@@perrycoffey5410 you can try for practice but you're fighting a losing battle. Girls want guys who can give them the life they want. let that pain drive you to succeed. let that pain push you to work harder than the next guy. let that pain be your vehicle to success. bro as man, your life is competition. embrace it
@@fabersoul i have trouble getting a job because of this online bullshit should I just keep trying sometimes I just wanna give up, I'm in my 30s and still a virgin
@@perrycoffey5410 watch jordan peterson videos is a good start. Sounds like to me you need to get your life in order. Jordan Peterson is who helped me. If there are things you are good at, identify them and triple down on your strengths. Bro there are people making money online doing the silliest things, money is money. Just make it. You could be sitting a goldmine and not realise. Imagine if lebron never picked up a basketball? He would be nobody. Find your basketball ( as in whatever it is you are good at)
@coffee bro, don't let let these narratives stop you from taking action. He literally said you don't need anything to acquire good game. Only these other thing will benefit you. At least that's my take from the vid. I Game in day to day life, just where I can basically. You don't need anything per say just some balls and a plan. It's like learning a new language. Go out with the intent of practicing talking in this new language you will eventually get the grips start building more comfort in yourself and this will show its attractive this is where you can experiment with all the tactics and techniques todd gives whixh are genius btw. It is about you taking the lead and taking action so get out and stop thinking you need all these things before you start. Build the well rounded package of the man you want to be and as you progress, it will just get better. You got this bro.
Amazing content, ridiculously powerful
1. Status 2. Looks 3. Money
I thought size was most important?
@@_mr_cat Kevin hart is small but definitely has fame (status) is rich and is ok looking. I bet any chick would kill for their chance to sleep with him.
@@aqadaptiveintelligence his personality is what makes him. I was making a joke about size lol i was talking about the other size.. lol
@@_mr_cat oh lol
Looks > status & money.
Perspective. Blown. Thanks Todd.
most valuable class of all time.
Bro your speech is crystal clear and more amazing than ever wowwww
Very well explained. Thank you.
I have lots of success in game and its purely confidence, seeming careless and being fun and playful. tbf i do look quite above average
Looks give status, but it only gets your foot in the door. How you make them feel when you open your mouth is the rest.
Reminds me of Tate's rant on Just Pearly things about status
Great lesson in what status is.... at that fundamental level
Unrelated to the video, Todd, but I'd love to hear your thoughts on the matter of how far you can go against what is natural to you in game. In other words, forcing behaviors that you think/are attractive, but that feel unnatural to you.
Crystal clear, best!