Our FIRST wedding night! What really happens?? | virginity, expectations, being scared, etc!
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 มิ.ย. 2024
- Hey Everyone!
We answered a super common question that we have been getting recently, and it is about THE WEDDING NIGHT! Juicy topic, but we think it is a discussion that can be useful to many of you. Please let us know what you thought of this discussion and if you have any helpful tips in the comments down below.
Do you have a question for us?
Email us at jasmineanddawoud@gmail.com for a chance to be featured in our next advice video! All questions will be featured anonymously.
As always, thank you for all the love and support and we'll see you guys in the next one!
"If your parents can do it so can you" the most disturbingly comforting statement 😂😂😂
😂😂
So disturbing 😂😂
hahahahaha 😂😂
Fr 🤣🤣🤣
Zayed Haroon 😂😂😭
Aaaaand what am I doing here ? I'm not even engaged nor have a lover 😂😂😂
Same😂 I'm educating myself..
Meriem Bekhoucha you are gaining knowledge !
Just educate yourself for the future like me 😂😂😂
Same🤣😂😂
Same here😂😂🤣 so curious to know 😛😂
It's quite comforting when he says "DONT FORCE THINGS ON GIRLS, ITS REALLY HARD FOR THEM" Wow! This man really understands women
For a lot of guys like myself who are told by society and even women how they want to be dominated by men, it can get confusing. Women get it from novels and probably from experiences shared with them by their friends. That needs to be clarified as well.
just wanted to clarify, this topic can be taboo, but in Islam, there is NO TABOO, women used to ask the prophet ( peace be upon him) any types of questions and used to tell him some very personal and intimate stuff about them, to get advised or to know the Islamic view on certain matters. like my dad says, there is no taboo in Islam, you just have to have some hayah ( modesty) and try to approach the discussion in a good manner, but don't keep stuff to yourself, coz you might be doing something wrong without meaning it. there is no problem with wanting to be knowledgeable about something especially when it comes to marriage.
Exactly 💕
I was just about to reply with something like this but in an unorganised way... But alhamdhulillah you replied.
@@mohamedfaheem4725 thank you I appreciate it.
Ikr like preachhh
Islam goes a way
And we go another way
We're so weird 🤣
Age wise I could be the mother of you two, am an atheist, and have no idea how I ended up here, but you are so sweet and respectful towards each other and the viewers. All the happiness to you in your new marriage and journey in life❤️
❤️❤️
What a sweet comment!! Bless you♥️♥️
You’re so sweet! May Allah guide me & you & all of us. Peace and blessings ♥️
❤️❤️❤️❤️
This comment is so sweet!🌸
when you're still a teen but still watching:👁👄👁
lmao same
Same lol
Samee
Same I am educating myself 😂💔
Same!
My husband and I are Christians and were virgins on our wedding night. I wouldn’t necessarily say nature takes its course. I took us 3 days to figure things out. Haha but when we did it was the most beautiful thing. We both cried and thanked God for making something so beautiful. That was almost 8 years ago and I still think about how special that moment was.
You sound so happy 🥺🥺
God bless you and your husband 💞
Kinda gay
@@brentblack2878 ?
@@brentblack2878
Well that tells *ALL* of us, the type of -guy- BOY, you are...
I’m genuinely surprised and impressed by the maturity shown in this video. Good job, this is very needed in our community. 👍🏽
Their eyes....their babies are gonna have beautiful eyes for sure
Always Say inshallah 😘
MA Sha Allah***
@@S.a.279 inshallah too because we aren't sûre
Her eyes are originally black
Inshallah...that is sweet of u to say that
Really appreciate that Dawood kept telling the guys to not force themselves on the women...to respect the women, their body and their emotions. Thank you for making this video 💕
Ikrr
There should be more videos out there by brothers for brothers in all languages because many Muslims still seem ignorant of the concept of consent and what intimacy is. The amount of ignorance and adherence to weird cultural traditions is scary. I can't imagine how any guy can even enjoy this when the wife is not into it, crying and forced.
Simple Islamic courtesy.Many if whom are unaware of these manners and etiquettes I'm afraid.
@@Aisha-sj7uz maybe in your culture but islamically there is no 3 days deadline for women...or men.
@@rayyana.8538 is there a sunnah or hadith about that?..it is definantly not cultural on my end
In my household, to discuss such things is taboo to an extent that even though I am watching this video alone in my room far away from my parents, I am still getting uncomfortable just through listening. JazakAllah for the video and for openly educating on this topic.
Just don't force the girl bro. Form a strong bond before anything.
But do tell your children when the right time comes by.
If the girl did it before marriage, I guess it's still OK, or it was her choice. (Idk for you, what's your opinion on that, but for me I respect that). In either case, take your time, get to know each other and when the time comes, communicate.
@@diyashikha93 if they have done it before marriage, make sure they aren't Adulterous. Have a good convo on dis. At the end of the day, it's a personal choice if they want to marry a virgin or not.
@@habibiyakhi5168 if ones a virgin I think they can prefer to marry a virgin too.
It's better as a young couple to have an already married couple as friends to speak to if parents are too arrogant to do their job at being there
@@startupsitynewswhynotshow7836 I agree, that's a very good suggestion.
My husband and I were both virgins and we waited a week just getting to know eachother and our bodies. Our relationship was strictly halal during your "dating" period. We held hands for the first time on our wedding day, we were never alone together. That's why it was so much sweeter after. So not rushing on our wedding night was important. Pray together make dua and relax.
How many years you have been married
@@user-qx3mq7ff5c Almost 18 years
My husband and I ate ramen noodles and watched a movie because we were both tired from our wedding. 😂Also he wanted me to be ready and comfortable.
You are lucky mine was hell and now I get divorced
A MA 😢😭you’re queen I hope you meet the right person 👑
Lool so cute masha'Allah
Ramen 😋 I love that. I'm glad your husband was so considerate!
Omgg I hope I do this instead on the first night
I'm a Muslim man living in Canada getting married to a Muslim girl this October... I've grown to be more Canadian and never gave a thought or considered the girl's situation, I'm glad I'm watching this video b/c now I'm like "wait a second... The reason she acts so strange is because she is terrified..." So thank you and yes more videos like this, please
Awww so cute.
Lol
Inshallah 👍
Congratulations on your future marriage.
@@comfort1569 thank you!
Most people underestimate how tired you are after a wedding! I'm thrilled you'll talk to your kids about these subjects! It shouldn't be embarrassing. In the west we don't always know all this. We just pretend too!🙄 Your a sweet, cute couple! I'm glad your helping other couples.
I was a virgin when I got married. So was my husband. I actually didn’t have the pain folks often talk about. I’m not saying this to brag but rather to bring a perspective different from what me seem or be normal. I was nervous. But hubby calmed me down. He had read a lot of books and in premarital counseling our pastors talked about it.
💜
Most times pain is caused because of rushing things (the area is dry and yoy are nervous), not because of your virginity
@@i.8885 exactly
Me and my wife we talking about all the dumb things that happened at our wedding day till 4 am 😂and it took us 2 months to get intimate with each other. U have to respect each other’s emotions and ur spouse should be able to confide in you.
What took you so long? 2months it's much tho
@@lilianeumuhoza4993 it is because when your female partner feel pain or not comfort then male partner will skip doing intimacy, and try next day vice-versa.
That is the reason it will take some time.
And one more will be the reason why is both partner will be new for intimacy
Hope you understood
^this. Thank goodness someone else is going through the same thing. Comforting to know I’m not alone
@@nailak7948 oh you’re definitely not alone. The thing is that people need to understand that intimacy in marriage is a process. Its the little things that you do for one another that count and eventually lead upto the moment. Being able to share your thoughts with your significant other is key.
@@lilianeumuhoza4993 when you’re new to someone, it takes time for you to let your guard down and be comfortable to the point where you can get intimate with each other.
there shouldn’t be any taboo or disapproval towards muslims speaking about the first night of marriage AKA having s3x 🤭 halal sexual activity is one of the best gifts and pleasures from Allah swt and we should honestly have more influencers promoting halal relationships and marriage 🥰
I agree. In a tastefully respectful way of course.
periodt 😌💅🏽
No it's not good to talk about it even if it's halal why would u tell others what happened.
@@withlove6435 well for one we're not saying to go into details of your wedding. But it's perfectly fine to talk about it in a respectful way to give tips on being gentle with your partner and to give ease to nervous couples. don't you think Muslims should be talking about this respectfully as opposed to looking on Instagram at twerk videos and brothers are getting aroused in the wrong way and having wrong ideas? Let's grow up. Promoting halal marriage and no sex before marriage is a great thing. Especially in the world we live in today and sexual images everywhere you look.
Agree but sex on first night is crazy in my opinion and seems rushed.
The importance of intimacy communication with your partner is just as true 10 plus years into marriage. Especially how your body feels before after having children. Also, remember that your partner is also just as nervous as you are. Exploring together is part of the journey.
As the oldest sibling and living in a very traditional household, I'm expected to tell my siblings these things and I don't know what to tell them!
This really helped, thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️
For all “Jasmine and Dawoud” Fans..like here ❤️
First
Hazal Hamidou are you a now united fan btw?? ://
@@smelias07 yaaass
Excuse me! Do you know where are they from?
B.N B yes, Lebanon 🇱🇧
wishing me future husband is watching this, and if not i will send him this video jajaajja
Hhhhhh don't forget to send him
Hablas Español? Jaja
@@rabihonov what does jaja mean?
@@oumaima418 people that speak Spanish laugh as Jaja instead of haha since in Spanish "j" is pronounced as "h"
@@rabihonov aaah see now i get it! Thank you so much for answering my question!
Newly subscribed, I've been married for 6 years now and this information is spot on. Communication is definitely key and you and your husband have so much time to figure each other out. This was such a mature talk ❤️
Saving your virginity for your life partner and then enjoying the marital bliss is a grand and beautiful experience. Its like sharing your heart and soul with only and only your life partner. It is beautiful.
I feel sad when I see people becoming more and more ignorant of that because of accepting the so called modern sexual freedom.
I am a virgin. Not gonna lie, the idea of marriage is a bit scary. Lol. I am 24 and currently in college. I hope I marry the right one. Praying I do.
@@shimmer4771 muslm?
@@user-jx1vt6sr7d Yes, why?
To Men out there: A lot of nice compliments and soft touch and kss. Make owt for at least 30mins before you even touch her vg
Kss her nps lik and sk on it
Massage it since it’s really sensitive like clts
Lik her clts
Then make sure she is wtt if not use lub.
Make sure she is enjoying and don’t rush. Put your middle and ring fngr inside of vg lightly massage hr inner top
Make sure she is happy 💦 😂 ❤️ then enter hr and don’t bus make sure to make her happy make her bus then you shall
She will love you coz of the imprint ❤️
@@shimmer4771 it's your own journey revolving your sexual identity and faith .It really is the intent that counts. Wishing you all the best :)
“If our parents did it” I don’t wanna hear that 😩😩
Just keep it in a box and throw the of the middle of the ocean
Nachos and jalapeño 🤣🤣
Ur mind went too far didn't it 😷😂😅
I wish I could unhear that 😑
When I was in primary school, I though that my parents just sleep and hug each other and then delivered me out of the womb
So glad theirs a Muslim couple talking about this topic! Much needed!! I respect this and glad it’s coming from a halal prospective as well!
I love the way you guys spoke so maturely and sensibly about this topic !!
When you get pregnant your parents will know that you did and that's going to be so embarrassing
how, if your married then so what hahaha
@@estherstar9141 what?
@@blazewarriors4360 why would you embarrassed, it's the way of life and if you are married you should not be embarrassed.
@@estherstar9141 like after getting pregnant and when I will say my parents will know right that would be embarrassing for me
@@blazewarriors4360 hahaha I guess so if you think about it but what makes me more embarrassed is like on the wedding night when it's night time I'm like wondering what my family are thinking like cracking jokes or something😂😂😂
This was suuuuuuch a taboo topic in my household. My parents never spoke a word about it. And my sisters took me to LA Senza to get some lingerie before my wedding. But still, NO TALK! LOL ! Thank you for speaking up about it!
Well u guys did "how I met too", and scholars said that's dayooth and tabarruj characteristics..
🤘🤘
There is a reason for it being taboo, some things are to be kept private.
Would you go on TV talking about your private stuff? Exactly!
@@aamirkhan6692They’re not talking about exactly what happened with them though they’re talking about things you need to know about marriage and it’s really important to educate the youth (teens) on this.
You guys were on the point. First night it was painful, so people out there please don't have any expectations. Be respectful of each other that's what matters. Marriage is about respect, happiness, caring for each other, understanding, likes and dislikes and so on.... I have 2 kids now alhumduillah, everything changed for us. We were 2 but now we are 4. Your attention divert. You have to take care of 3 now. But please girls and guys don't think your wife/husband doesn't love you anymore, they still love you the same but they got more people to love too.
Thanks for your input 🙏
Jasmine and Dawoud,
firstly, congratulations on your marriage and beautiful union as husband and wife.
I'm old enough to be your parents age and I must say, you two tastefully & respectfully talked about this subject with so much class and dignity, all while keeping it real, open and honest.
This video you two made is so well done and articulated. Not only for middle eastern, Muslim, Islamic, etc.. but should be a textbook "talk" on the subject.. across the board for all people and cultures.
Well done Jasmine and Dawoud.
Many blessings of love, health and all good things your way.
Inshallah 🙏🏽🌹♥️✨
The way he looks at her is really so cute omg😭😭
Non-muslim here learning more about Islam. Just wanted to say two things: 1.) I thought you two did a fantastic job of reassuring and being open without being too TMI. Loved it. and 2.) for the people who feel naive/immature compared to Western ideas and culture...take it from someone who learned and experienced sex in that way...I wish I had waited until I met the person that Allah meant for me to be with. You are missing out on nothing and gaining a beautiful experience many wish they had had.
Thank u
Loved this
@thefloorislava I was going to respond similarly to those feeling naive/ embarrassed... never feel inferior to experienced others! Because you're not!
SubhanAllah thank you for your honesty and raw feelings
this is so sweet i wanna hug you
i love how respectfully you guys approached this topic while at the same time being real, honest and hilarious. You guys are great role models! lots of love!!!! xx
Thank you so much.
Kinda curious how your families felt about you discussing this topic.. me even adding a comment on this topic would give my ppl a heart attack.. lol
ruba 😂😂 so true
To Men out there: A lot of nice compliments and soft touch and kss. Make owt for at least 30mins before you even touch her vg
Kss her nps lik and sk on it
Massage it since it’s really sensitive like clts
Lik her clts
Then make sure she is wtt if not use lub.
Make sure she is enjoying and don’t rush. Put your middle and ring fngr inside of vg lightly massage hr inner top
Make sure she is happy 💦 😂 ❤️ then enter hr and don’t bus make sure to make her happy make her bus then you shall
She will love you coz of the imprint ❤️
On my wedding night, am gonna give ma husband warm milk so dat he can sleep early n there will not be any inter course
😂😂😂😂😂😂don’t you ?
@@magathome8731 idgu
👊👊👊
😂😂😂
You gave me a plan😂
I actually needed to see this because I'm "of age" for getting married and my parents have recently introduced me to a good Muslim guy on my will, so im honestly so thankful to see these types of videos
I'm 20 so..
Really appreciate the fact that you both addressed this commonly-thought-yet-never-asked question honestly and respectfully.
"Just be kind, caring and understanding". Honestly I love how you guys weren't embarrassed, awkward or clinical cause that energy transfers into the viewers. You mentioned points I hadn't considered or found the answers to. The comment sectioned is so wholesome and helpful just like you two. May Allah bless you with abundance of health and happiness. Ameen
To Men out there: A lot of nice compliments and soft touch and kss. Make owt for at least 30mins before you even touch her vg
Kss her nps lik and sk on it
Massage it since it’s really sensitive like clts
Lik her clts
Then make sure she is wtt if not use lub.
Make sure she is enjoying and don’t rush. Put your middle and ring fngr inside of vg lightly massage hr inner top
Make sure she is happy 💦 😂 ❤️ then enter hr and don’t bus make sure to make her happy make her bus then you shall
She will love you coz of the imprint ❤️
i’m a 15 year old muslim girl (turning 16 soon inshallah) and this helped me a lot!! thank you guys may Allah bless you 🥰✨
Polygamy marriages are corruption...
"""And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From Quran surah Nisa"""... Muslim ummah keep telling others don't follow your desires, women are desires!. But desires can be very powerful. They can hold sway over the mind and lead a person away from reality. When a person follows desires and submits to them, without giving consideration to the guidance received from God, he goes astray. Following of desires is directly linked to misguidance.
To understand the effect of desire it is important to analyze what desire does to human intelligence. It puts a curtain over the eyes of the mind. It makes a person so attached to its target that reality is overlooked. The conditions to understand reality include an objectivity to it. It means acceptance of reality whether palatable or bitter, whether it is for personal gain or against it. These conditions are not in line with the dictates of desire.
In another verse Almighty Allah puts forth this truth in even stronger terms. He calls desire the god of some human beings. He says: Have you seen him who has taken his desire to be his god? (Q 25:43). Such a god has been condemned in the strongest terms in Hadith. The Prophet (s) has said: There is no god under the sky that has been worshipped other than Allah that is worse than the desire. (Taken from Tafsīr Namūne). No other deity is as despicable as the human being’s own desire.
Imam al-Sādiq (a) says: Be apprehensive of your desires in the same way as you are apprehensive of your enemies. For there is no greater enemy for human beings than their own desires and what their tongues reap (Al-Kulaynī, al-Kāfī, 2: 336.)
Following of desires is often not recognized for the lowly quality it is. It can be masqueraded as freedom, having fun, being with the masses, etc. It clads a veil over the person as well as others who are exposed to him. Only those who have insight and reflect on reality are able to see through it.
This verse reminds us of the danger!
Polygamy marriages come under desires!
I think it's actually a good thing for a couple if "it" doesn't happen the first night because it can be such a magical process, getting to know each other over a period of weeks or months. I like how they described it as a journey. I can see how it would build closeness, much much better than a "bada bing, bada boom" experience.
Bada bing Bada boom lmao😭 sorry but I laughed so hard😭👍
@@tanniee2810 The old Italian version of Giggity giggity goo
I wish my husband will be as sweet and understanding as him 🤲🏻
Amen
Ameen
No worries. I'm sweet and kind and also very understanding 😎
@@mosasa1307 mashalla brother😂
In Sha Allah you will have a sweet & understanding husband who cherishes you
I still can't get over dawood saying S E X and not sex it reminds me when I was a child and saying like P I G and not pig or something
You just made me remember that lol
Lmao samee
😂😂 thought i was the only one
🤣🤣
I, deaddd😭😭😭😭
My advice is that please get Nikkahed a certain time before you're married, that way you have time to bond and talk about things and form a emotional bond before the big day and night. Me and my husband were in different countries and had our Nikah 4 months before our wedding and we had made a amazing bond and we became very comfortable with each other that we were nothing but eager to spend the rest of our lives together. Hope this comment helped someone going through the stress of marriage. May Allah bless you all and answer all your prayers in these holy nights Ameen.
How did you have your nikah different countries away? Was it over zoom? Or was it in person and just contract signing. Then the actual moving in came months later?
Nikkah is the marriage
Thumbs 👍up for Dawoud he’s indeed a caring husband and I believe he will never disappoint Jasmine
“It’s not like you were Prince Charming” 😂😂😂😂😂😂 I dieddddd
And dawouds face😂🥺ohhhh myyy🤣🤣🤣
That face tho !!!😂😂😂
Tajia N His face expression 😂 😂 😂 😂
@@user-ci7vu7eo9w 18
Rooooaasst 🔥😂
I've been married for 5 years now and we are still learning what works and what doesn't. People change!
This is actually pretty interesting and good that you are answering the questions that other (older) people usually don't. And from personal experiences too, not from a book
aight, im an 18 year old dude.... why was this on my recommended page and why did i still watch the whole 26 minutes. lol... But on a real note, like as a guy i never really watched porn or been in any realtionship (keepin' it halal), so it was kinda cool hearing u talk about the whole thing and how we should talk to our wives about it... this is some good shit, keep up the good content :)
MashaAllah. Keep it that way little bro. You will be rewarded by Allah for the sacrifice you are making. Am so proud of you. MashaAllah MashaAllah 🥰
I'm also 18 and I'm here 😅
It's so nice
Ahhhh.....n I m even younger turning 17 next month hahahaa😂
@@hassamustafa2391 😄
Why am I watching this I am already married and have kids 😂
😀🤣😀🤣😀🤣🤣😀😀🤣😀🤣
So you can educate your kids. They shouldn't learn it by watching inappropriate stuff. Discussing this thing with children in decent way shouldn't be considered Taboo.
Omg ur comment makes me laugh so hard
But are you happily married?
Just kidding!! Haha
The more you know. 😎
Jasmine is so honest and classy about this topic, I love it
I was having a faith crisis about staying a virgin when everyone doesn't,especially muslim guys who then hypocritically want a virgin but I did researches and watched videos like yours and I'm feeling better about my decision that wasn't even mostly faith based at first.
I want to do it with someone that swore commitment to me,after we're married and because I want to do it.
You're very helpful for isolated muslims,thanks and best wishes ☺️
Not just Muslim guys everyone wants a virgin.
@@mohammednoor6439 No it's more prevalent in religious people
@@mohammednoor6439 in western society it's normal that girls had sex before marriage
@@faissalel7363 avoid them. Don't marry a fornicatior.
Our whole lives we wait for our spouse from Allah, and that’s who we give our heart away to. So don’t give your heart to a man who has already given his heart away in past relationships because those are likely to cheat. Marry the one who gives you their heart. Bless I’m still waiting myself
I thought it was very well presented and raised educational awareness. Thank you for being so honest and relatable to other Muslims and giving us a heads up. You spoke about a natural part of life in a very decent way that most people shy away from. Many thanks.
It’s not even the fact that it’s scary I just feel nervous because I feel like it’s extremely awkward like “hey we’re naked now and stuff is happening” like how do you even face your partner after that I heard most people like to turn the lights off but a lot of people like some sort of light because they want to see their partner but like it’s so awkward and I feel like all your insecurities will come to surface because I mean come on you partner is looking at you naked uggg Idk for me I feel like it’s awkward
Nah it shouldn’t be awkward. Just make out with him and things will go with the float in a natural way! You gotta love each other! You don’t need to just stand there naked looking at one another.
This is a question I’ve had for a while but should ur partner have opinions of ur body? Like stretch marks, weight, etc..?
Exactly especially since I’m so used to dressing modestly. So a boy looking at my naked body will make me so embarrassed
@@killuaswaifux1041 - Your partner should be the President of your Fan Club. If they truely love you, then superficial things like that won't matter. And if anything nasty is said, they are not the one for you.
If you are getting married to them, and (hopefully) they are a nice and caring partner, they’ll love you exactly for what you are. Everyone had imperfections, it’s normal. I’m naked around my partner all the time and even though I have insecurities, I feel comfortable around them. Just start slowly
Gurl Muslim parents won’t talk about these topic never ever
I will in my future in sha Allah !!
Not only muslim parents, ukrainian parents will never ever talk about it too 🧐
you're totaly right even for our period the mothers dont talk about it to their girls, like i was freaked out when i have it for the first time i didt know what's it, that why i told myself in futur if i had a girl i will talk about these topic and prepare her well so she want be lost like me lol hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
That's kinda true and false at the same time, cause Muslim moms (being Muslim and living in a Muslim country) sometimes talk about it but unfortunately only like a week before the wedding for her bride-to-be daughter never before or to the other daughters, I feel it's tougher for the guys since Muslim dads would never talk about it and intimidate their son when it comes to the "talk" so the guy would get into it with just his imagination and fantasy about it, cause literally a son can't walk up to his dad to ask him what to do about the wedding night
I’m Muslim Egyptian me and my mum have these convos
When it comes to pain, every women is different. Some experience are great and pleasurable the first time, some do experience severe pain, some don’t feel anything at all, and some only feel minor pain. All our body is different and our body react to foreign “things” differently. So yes please communicate, be patient, be respectful, and be kind. Eventually we will learn each other’s body, and everything will fall into place.
The way dawood said "EVERYTHING" was sooo funny 😂😂
You two are such a loving couple:) and a good example of being respectful to each other. I’m a Christian, older woman, and grandma. My mother didn’t tell me anything! Not even about my monthly cycle. I thought I was dying! Keep up your good work here! I’m sure you’re a blessing to many people. God Bless!❤️
U so sweet 🥰
Sweet..
May Allah guide u to islam
Bless my mom who taught me from a very young age to research the heck out of everything, and not just dumb-believe every story told in circles or unethical/ amateur websites, but research scientifically. Sure, videos like this one help, and yes we do need to develop a free/safe space where we can talk about these things without judgment, and I am really grateful to you guys for taking the initiative to tackle this topic. But, in my opinion, I think it all starts with education. Read as much as you can, research the crap out of everything, that's what's going to pave the way for mature conversations.
Can you tell me where did you find those researchs?
Another person old enough to be your momma here! Just wanted to say, you both are adorable. I wish you a long, healthy, happy marriage. Your babies will be gorgeous! P.S. I agree, education done in a respectful way would be a good thing. :)
My wife was nervous too but we had IT soon enough, it was a lovely experience for us.
y'all are like my older siblings!! Love you guys, thank you for always being so respectful and considering an Islamic lens/perspective too. It's good advice.
Thank you for this guys! My husband and I have been married for 26 years and our intimacy today is above and beyond amazing compared to the first time. Communication is key. Be vocal with what you like and don’t like.
Polygamy marriages are corruption...
"""And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From Quran surah Nisa"""... Muslim ummah keep telling others don't follow your desires, women are desires!. But desires can be very powerful. They can hold sway over the mind and lead a person away from reality. When a person follows desires and submits to them, without giving consideration to the guidance received from God, he goes astray. Following of desires is directly linked to misguidance.
To understand the effect of desire it is important to analyze what desire does to human intelligence. It puts a curtain over the eyes of the mind. It makes a person so attached to its target that reality is overlooked. The conditions to understand reality include an objectivity to it. It means acceptance of reality whether palatable or bitter, whether it is for personal gain or against it. These conditions are not in line with the dictates of desire.
In another verse Almighty Allah puts forth this truth in even stronger terms. He calls desire the god of some human beings. He says: Have you seen him who has taken his desire to be his god? (Q 25:43). Such a god has been condemned in the strongest terms in Hadith. The Prophet (s) has said: There is no god under the sky that has been worshipped other than Allah that is worse than the desire. (Taken from Tafsīr Namūne). No other deity is as despicable as the human being’s own desire.
Imam al-Sādiq (a) says: Be apprehensive of your desires in the same way as you are apprehensive of your enemies. For there is no greater enemy for human beings than their own desires and what their tongues reap (Al-Kulaynī, al-Kāfī, 2: 336.)
Following of desires is often not recognized for the lowly quality it is. It can be masqueraded as freedom, having fun, being with the masses, etc. It clads a veil over the person as well as others who are exposed to him. Only those who have insight and reflect on reality are able to see through it.
This verse reminds us of the danger!
Polygamy marriages come under desires!
Thank you for this video, it is great advice for anyone entering this serious and unspoken topic. I am from Ontario and while I didn’t grow up with a particular faith, but intimacy and sex were never discussed and quite discouraged.
Communication and mutual respect are important most definitely.
You guys made me much relaxed because these thoughts were really bothering me and i was really scared thank you for doing these videos ❤️
Did someone noticed that dawood and jasmine have both blue eyes ??
so cuteeee
i think they look more like grey eyes but still super pretty
He's so sweeetttt. She's soooo luckyyyy and so is heee.
She’s so sweet as well
inshallah when I’m older I have a healthy and amazing relationship like you guys!
Maashallah 🌻 ☺️, what an open genuine perspective! Loved this, I'm sure it brings ease to so many females
I seriously love how you guys are very open minded to talk about things like that. It’s such a taboo topic in the Muslim community and I feel like it shouldn’t be bc it’s part of life. Keep it up guys❤️👏🏼
Its not taboo in the muslim community its Taboo in the arab culture
Amona Amina yeah that’s actually true you are right
I was born in Iraq and now I live in Australia being Arabic and not knowing anything was hard but I learned in school. I think it’s just a hard topic to be open about with family specially if your not as close with them as others like your friends.But I agree
@@amonaamina1907 not just arab cultures 😄
I really appreciate the fact u guys made this video - a lot of us Muslim girls don’t get a chance to have this Kind of conversations, so Thank you.
To Men out there: A lot of nice compliments and soft touch and kss. Make owt for at least 30mins before you even touch her vg
Kss her nps lik and sk on it
Massage it since it’s really sensitive like clts
Lik her clts
Then make sure she is wtt if not use lub.
Make sure she is enjoying and don’t rush. Put your middle and ring fngr inside of vg lightly massage hr inner top
Make sure she is happy 💦 😂 ❤️ then enter hr and don’t bus make sure to make her happy make her bus then you shall
She will love you coz of the imprint ❤️
When your spouses are THIS good looking, you shouldn't worry too much. 😂
😹💀
i swear
Well when husband is this much good looking you have to worry cause you're not embarrassing yourself
Polygamy marriages are corruption...
"""And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From Quran surah Nisa"""... Muslim ummah keep telling others don't follow your desires, women are desires!. But desires can be very powerful. They can hold sway over the mind and lead a person away from reality. When a person follows desires and submits to them, without giving consideration to the guidance received from God, he goes astray. Following of desires is directly linked to misguidance.
To understand the effect of desire it is important to analyze what desire does to human intelligence. It puts a curtain over the eyes of the mind. It makes a person so attached to its target that reality is overlooked. The conditions to understand reality include an objectivity to it. It means acceptance of reality whether palatable or bitter, whether it is for personal gain or against it. These conditions are not in line with the dictates of desire.
In another verse Almighty Allah puts forth this truth in even stronger terms. He calls desire the god of some human beings. He says: Have you seen him who has taken his desire to be his god? (Q 25:43). Such a god has been condemned in the strongest terms in Hadith. The Prophet (s) has said: There is no god under the sky that has been worshipped other than Allah that is worse than the desire. (Taken from Tafsīr Namūne). No other deity is as despicable as the human being’s own desire.
Imam al-Sādiq (a) says: Be apprehensive of your desires in the same way as you are apprehensive of your enemies. For there is no greater enemy for human beings than their own desires and what their tongues reap (Al-Kulaynī, al-Kāfī, 2: 336.)
Following of desires is often not recognized for the lowly quality it is. It can be masqueraded as freedom, having fun, being with the masses, etc. It clads a veil over the person as well as others who are exposed to him. Only those who have insight and reflect on reality are able to see through it.
This verse reminds us of the danger!
Polygamy marriages come under desires!
@@bewithnoor1524true but also when your wife is as beautiful as Jasmine it could be very nerve wracking to embarrass yourself.
I bet Dawoud smiles in his sleep. Great content guys! THANK YOU.
love that our generation is normalizing theses talks prevents tons of bad occurrences that could happen
Really like you guys kept it modest and respectful Islamically and were not explicit about it. Great job!
Just found your channel, it's great hearing the perspective from different communities. It makes me happy that you went to your mum Jasmine, I was blessed to have the best mum ever! Midwife, sexual health nurse and family planning expert. I never got scared about the actual physical act. For clarity, atheist brought up in CoS and currently looking for my own spiritual path.
Thank you for talking about the first night, you both are very honest and respectful! Thank you 😊!
You both compliment each other so well Masha’Allah, you bring so much positivity together and I love it
Polygamy marriages are corruption...
"""And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From Quran surah Nisa"""... Muslim ummah keep telling others don't follow your desires, women are desires!. But desires can be very powerful. They can hold sway over the mind and lead a person away from reality. When a person follows desires and submits to them, without giving consideration to the guidance received from God, he goes astray. Following of desires is directly linked to misguidance.
To understand the effect of desire it is important to analyze what desire does to human intelligence. It puts a curtain over the eyes of the mind. It makes a person so attached to its target that reality is overlooked. The conditions to understand reality include an objectivity to it. It means acceptance of reality whether palatable or bitter, whether it is for personal gain or against it. These conditions are not in line with the dictates of desire.
In another verse Almighty Allah puts forth this truth in even stronger terms. He calls desire the god of some human beings. He says: Have you seen him who has taken his desire to be his god? (Q 25:43). Such a god has been condemned in the strongest terms in Hadith. The Prophet (s) has said: There is no god under the sky that has been worshipped other than Allah that is worse than the desire. (Taken from Tafsīr Namūne). No other deity is as despicable as the human being’s own desire.
Imam al-Sādiq (a) says: Be apprehensive of your desires in the same way as you are apprehensive of your enemies. For there is no greater enemy for human beings than their own desires and what their tongues reap (Al-Kulaynī, al-Kāfī, 2: 336.)
Following of desires is often not recognized for the lowly quality it is. It can be masqueraded as freedom, having fun, being with the masses, etc. It clads a veil over the person as well as others who are exposed to him. Only those who have insight and reflect on reality are able to see through it.
This verse reminds us of the danger!
Polygamy marriages come under desires!
To Men out there: A lot of nice compliments and soft touch and kss. Make owt for at least 30mins before you even touch her vg
Kss her nps lik and sk on it
Massage it since it’s really sensitive like clts
Lik her clts
Then make sure she is wtt if not use lub.
Make sure she is enjoying and don’t rush. Put your middle and ring fngr inside of vg lightly massage hr inner top
Make sure she is happy 💦 😂 ❤️ then enter hr and don’t bus make sure to make her happy make her bus then you shall
She will love you coz of the imprint ❤️
13:08 mashalllah Dawood, your big smile made my day. I love how you two have that connection with each other.
Love the fact that you guys took this so openly! Love from Pakistan!
The parents I never knew I needed :)
I 100% agree with everything you guys said. I was almost in tears and had a panic attack the night of and was so nervous taking the next step. But after it was all said and done I was like “what, that’s what I was afraid of” . . . the key is to have a really understanding partner who’s patient and considerate of your needs. Don’t expect your first time to be like the movies where you’re bouncing off the walls and fireworks are going off. It’s kind of like cooking the first meal you make, no one is going to say it’s bad, it gets you fed but it’s just ok. The 10th or 15th time you make that meal you can be like “BAM, this is so good!” to be honest it wasn’t until around the 10th time or so that you build up that experience to figure out what you like, what your partner likes. All will be well and it will all be ok, good luck to those in this predicament 😘
As a muslim, I felt so uncomfortable watching this. Because of the stigma around "the first night" and how in almost all Middle Eastern cultures its 'forbidden' or 'shameful' to speak about. On the other hand, as a girl that is also about to get married I understand and support the ideology and support you both giving advice to those girls who are actually freaking out (me being one of them). No hate on my behalf. But glad your both speaking about the 'forbidden' topics to assist those most in need.
@Tara Kanaan dr is nothing to b uncomfortable n speaking about ds subject v made more difficult bcoz v people thinks v cn learn ds all when d time comes bt it's actually wrong parents shud talk to children's as dy grow up n v shud ask our besties such as chacha mama khala phupi bt it's actually not happening
honestly I don't undrestand thrm when they or you say it's forbidden because our contemporaries don't behave like a couple of decades ago. these days almost 80 perecent of young people have by-choice marriage. So I really dont believe that they aren't comfortable to talk about those kind of things with each other. to tell the truth I didnt expect that this couple hadnt had any sex before marriage,because Islamically it's ok...even before their wedding party.
Honestly I mostly blame Muslim brothers for not teaching the value women’s needs and the level of respect they deserve concerning intimacy it’s almost as if they’re afraid of the act that created them.
So stupid lol
Its not forbidden it's rewardful even in religion of islam when it is done in right setting(halal), you might as well know the hadith of a sahaba who used to pray all night and then his wife compined about it to the prophet and he said it's better for you to spend the night with your wife than praying.
It's a cultural thing I am an Indian even in our society irrespective of faith parents never talk about it, NEVER.
PLEASE YALL R TOO CUTE THIS IS SO COMFORTING
They look so shy and happy to talk about this topic “😂 love it 💕😻🌸
Why i am watching this i'm only 17 years old 🐸
I’m 15😐
I'm 14 🙂
Same. :( We're too young.
Samee I’m 17 too and scared for my life🤣🤣
@@Krl03 - Never too young to learn. Everyone over the age of 14 should know this stuff. Knowledge helps protect you against unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, and people taking advantage of you. Personally I am flabbergasted to read of 15, 16, 17 year olds knowing nothing on this subject. Do schools no longer teach sex education?
Such a mature way to talk about that! Thank you so much! As a young muslima myself I always needed answers to such questions but never got one thank you guys!❤🌸
If I watched this as a kid, I'd have SO many questions LMAO
"wait.. what hurts... IS HE GONNA HIT ME??"
😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
He’s going to hit you, but not with his fist lol
@@kpeezyforsheezy hol up 😂
@@kpeezyforsheezy Omg LMAOI
Ok, you guys are ALREADY great parents.
And, yes, it gets better with time. 😉
Lol Dawoud was just like I’ma sit here and look pretty 😂
Dudes, it is really hard for me to hold back when I'm only 17. But I came up with the idea:
Look at the Marriage as a reward for what you've done so far. Be worth the marriage, deserve it, try your best until that, you have to build up your education, career, and The most importantly, it's not the time to think about this.
This is the main motivation for me, hope you'll find it useful. Man, I can't wait till the "Time" comes
Don't listen from anyone who will tell you that intercourse is uncomfortable.
I know many people who stress their girls by saying negative things... so then they maybe will have bad experience because the stress cause strong contractions of muscle down there & maybe cause an uncomfortable feeling. So these negative conversations of people maybe can cause a bad experience not the intercourse itself.
So don't let them stress you because stress maybe can affect your body. Without stress everything is beautiful and good experience.
May Allah give you happy marriage for you all.
And thank you really Jasmine for your good advices for girls ❤
Communication and growth! Those never stop in healthy relationships! Love your videos
“The thingy thingy thing”😂😂😂>>> I love ❤️ y’all
😂😂😬
I think this was so helpful. I’m getting married in 5/6 months but the idea still scares me and it was nice to hear a real life experience. I learned so much thank you guys.
MashaAllah, very good discussion, one of the best I have seen from a Muslim couple. This will help many new couples greatly. JazakaAllahu khair.
Your approach is excellent for all, communities.
Intamcy is a gift from God, in the boundaries of marriage. 💐
I am Sikh and I’m also really nervous. It’s definitely not spoken in other cultures as well. Thanks for sharing! I feel better knowing I will be fine.
وردة سيرا yeah I think it’s forbidden in Sikhism to do it before marriage but it also depends on how religious the individual is.
Please watch these videos on youtube( the throne of Allah by merciful servant), (4 stories that tell us who prophet Muhammad really was by One Islam production), (crying for the prophet emotional by the daily reminder), (tears of our prophet in dua by ILovUAllah), (daimonds of muslim by ILovUAllah)
@@mxdzieisok7171 Yes, you are right!
@@Khan-lo3yi Thank you for your suggestion, but I am a follower of sikhism
Khan 1 you should read more about the real Jesus 🙂
You guys are going to be good parents
Wallahi 🌻❤️
In sha Allah
IA
There I'm thinking yall have been married for a few years because you sound so confident, and then.....then yall say you've been married for a few MONTHS! I'm shook you guys, positively. This is awesome 😊
P.S. Your video is applicable to anyone, regardless of the religion, so, thank you for sharing 🙏
What a great couple. Good advice for guys, since we tend to be in a hurry. Also, good on you ma'am, helping out virgin women and helping promote sexual purity. As men, we value that women value their purity enough to save themselves for the man that will actually commit, for the rest of his life, his labor, resources, protection and love. Be blessed!
thats normal thing that the weman will save her self for the hasband