Imagine being a woman Today. Getting infinite flowers, free food, compliments and chocolates for just existing. It must be like playing in tutorial mode.
Imagine being a dude and having your pick of the litter and staying in your prime 20 years longer than a woman. No dude get a woman infinite flowers lol. And if you're not getting compliments that's a personal problem lol. I get them all the time.
Imagine being an actual woman & wondering where in tf *that* magical dreamworld is? I can't remember the last time I got a compliment, much less free anything 🤔
@@nutech1810 There’s a lot of misconceptions in this area. While it’s true that men can produce sperm until they die, it degenerates rapidly after 34 years of age. And while it’s common for people to say 35+ pregnancies are high risk, its not really dependent on age, but moreso lifestyle, health, as well as the age of the man providing the sperm (aged sperm leads to high risk pregnancy and so on). Women have thinner skin, so they require more upkeep than men do. Women also have to contend with the sudden drop of estrogen from peri-menopause. If they don’t hop onto hormone therapy right away, their organs, bones, and brain is severely impacted. Men tend to exercise more as well, and women need to realise exercising is critical to good health and longevity.
btw, the man chooses the woman just as much she chooses her. So while it seems like its unfair that the man has to do the legwork of impressing a woman, it’s actually an opportunity for him to display and live out his excellence. A woman’s survival is hindered when she is pregnant, so it is necessary that a man is competent enough to ensure her and their children’s survival. The courtship process is for both parties to see if the other is a suitable long term partner.
So true. I have never had a guy who needed to "process" his feelings. If he pulls away he's simply not interested. There's no "but my case is unique" cases
Exactly, because while he’s away processing his feelings- it’s possible someone can take his spot !! If he really wants you - he’s gonna consider that idea , before he considers falling back …
@@nutech1810 resting and doing stuff you have to do is one thing, but sleeping around with someone else because you are not sure if you want to keep seeing someone is different! Don't ever think you are the only one a guy is dating!
I had to choose between a guy who "pulls away" compared to someone who is very clear, consistent and vocal about how he feels about me. If I were younger, I'll move towards the guy who plays the mind games because I'll listen to my "feelings". So, I choose the man over the boy. So proud of myself.
@@rmokofsky I agree. I see a lot of men chosen by women instead of them doing the choosing. The women I’ve seen do this are always dominant and aggressive whilst the males who submit to their pursuits are weaker and end up being pussy-whipped in the relationship 🥲
So needed this today. After 8 months he decides to end things. I could tell he was pulling away. When questioned he just said we need to part ways. I felt he was the one too. Ugh. Dont even understand why men pursue me if dont want me.
Mine was pulling away and i just told him how I felt. And we talked about things and he came closer and I’m like well if you need space I can give you that. He said he still wants to spend time with me.
Its normal to find that a person might not be the right fit. In a sense he did the best for you. Dont victimize yourself for you probably have dismissed good suitors at the door. Its simply didnt went as you wanted. Say NEXT.
I'm sorry but we all deal with emotions differently..this is just game playing if your doing this and his doing that and no one is communicating its going to get confusing, we all want to jump into a relationship but seriously just let it happen naturally be friends, go out, give each other space work on your life etc men do pull away to process things trust me even if they are emotionally available my brother and friend is like that but they still like a girl or even love her..men and woman are different we have to start learning about each other..I like elliot but just remember these dating coaches feed of womans emotions..I will always be a subscriber but I now listen to stephan speaks and he talks about healthy things not this..happy dating woman and please become more independent thinkers
Yes I think so too. After divorce or after separation of a long relationship everyone has baggage. Emotions can run high and to have your head resetted it's good to have a radio silence of a week or two weeks. Man and woman alike. I am a woman and I pull away not because I don't like my guy or don't want a relationship. I need to get control of my emotions, to think what makes me happy, what was wrong in my former relationship and how I can do better. Understand what baggage my guy took with him, how to cope with that and what kind of relationship I do want now because putting 2 families with kids together in one house is mostly not working out. I guess also a guy needs to figure out how to cope with his new gf and combine this relationship specifically when his kids living with him.
@@חנהבושרי awsome 👌 some of us woman just have logic sense..I loved reading your comment because as woman we act of our emotions and its a turn off for men...I also have to step back analyze the situation and then I'm back being my happy self..woman have this princess mentality of I'm perfect I deserve a good man but most of the woman in the comment section act out their emotions..they don't sit and think wait am I the problem maybe I need space anyway thanks for your comment it was beautifull to read and I wish you nothing but healing.
Amen thank you. My man just told me the other day that he loves me for the first time out of nowhere after dating for a year . To me it felt like no where but to him it literally took so much courage to say it . He’s always the type to draw back and pull away to process everything. I learned to give him space . Especially after he told me he loves me . I let him lead and come back when he’s ready . Everyone is completely different
It depends how long he pulls away. A successful man is not always on his phone. It also depends if he thinks he himself is in the right time in his life to benefit from it or what his family will think. Sometimes you have to check what family he comes from because some are influenced by their parents' approval. I think as a woman you'll know in your gut if he's pulling away or he's just busy.
Best explanation on the internet. Your words have intelligence and wisdom. You go a little deeper on the subject… even if it’s just saying up front truth. Thanks 🙂
It's funny because most guys will condemn other men who pull away not realizing that even themselves do pull away in relationships unaware. Most guys are not aware that they are pulling away because this is not logicic rather instinctive & only its usually women that sense this happening intuitively. The video is talking from a personal experience perspective, it would be nice to have this explained in psychology just like John Gray does. Also, there are millions of reasons to pulling away some of those reasons may be beneficial to a relationshp for example, relationships where partners take space from each other from time to time will have a healthy polarized relationship fueled with passion for life, besides, a man who doesn't take space, who is forever connected inlove is a huge turn off in a long run because than implies they do not cultivate their own individual lives.
Some men do this on purpose. They are also watching yt videos to try these wannabe alpha tactics but little do they know, they only work on pickmes. If you don’t go after them they WILL come back but it’s not worth it to continue the relationship with such a weak soul.
I'm glad Im not in the dating world today ugh. My husband and I met and married in 6 months. We've been married for 24 years and still going strong. I feel bad for my kids in this dating world.
Very true, i also think that when some guys start to pull away it’s because they may get caught up in a lie. For example, i was dating this guy that lived 2 hours away from me, everything was cool when we met up in his home town but when it was time for him to come to mine he vanished. I’m assuming he didn’t have a car and just didn’t tell me. He would often make jokes about money as well.
girl theres no telling these dudes are just so shitty sometimes ive noticed tho that when a man is insecure about stuff, he will act VERY strangely towards you also, how did you meet him in his home town and not see him get in a vehicle and drive away?
This is exactly what I'm going through now, it's a complicated situation but he's still stuck on his ex that it can never workout with-- but I've been talking to this guy almost everyday for a year. I told him that I loved him and he couldn't say it back, because he's still stuck on his ex apparently and supposedly isn't ready for that--but after a year there's no reason to not be ready. It hurts that he would tell his ex he loved her and treated her so well, but supposedly because he's still stuck on her, he does none of that for me. I feel like the answer he won't tell me is that he just doesn't see me that way, because If he did see me that way (residual feelings for an ex or not) he wouldn't be pulling back. This video is almost bringing me some closure from the situation in a sense, it gives me the glance inside of his mind I was wishing to have.
yeah okay when you see something like that? you walk away theres no room for that kind of crap he's emotionally unavailable and using you for company when he's not gonna fully commit to you. dont do it
@@bluehue6653 Now my clinginess and hope for a future have scared him away, for the time being. He stopped initiating contact with me, so he's basically ending things. But yea you're right, in situations like the one I had been in it pays to walk away. It's so hard to do though, he did the work for me by stopping initiating.
it’s okay to want a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person. not everyone is perfect and healthy and it’s okay to strive to be that while not knowing quite how to yet. work on yourself first and most of all and it’s okay that you’re not perfectly healthy either
Age can be a factor. When they're 18,19,20.....not ready. Even if they think they are. My daughter looks so much younger than she is so she gets these younger guys talking to her for "fun". I'm trying to mention she's past the PROM stage now. The guy needs a CAR to take you out on a date, LOL.... Yes, a provider, satisfier, and protector. She gets these, immature ones.who don't have their act together. Yes, I think they like her but they have NO game.
Idealiy I want to feel in love with the girl I want and she too. What happens its that the want who want to catch me is not the one I would not fall hard for. If that feeling is not there then all I can things is pleasure and liabilities.
What if he's got PTSD from being in battle Elliot? known this guy two years and after a bust up he came back after a year of not seeing him but always wants to have me sexually but as soon as things get feelings and consistency vibes he pulls away...
Oh yes tired of hot and cold. Older men want sex only or marriage. Not me. Younger or emotionally unhappy or like being single but want sex. How do you win. It should be a balance somewhere .
There is a balance when you wait until marriage to sleep with them. Good luck with that! Older men do not want marriage, because they want to sleep with all women!
@@jeanlemcke6458 jean thats a ridiculous thing to say to someone. not only is it selfish, but rather immature to assume that your life has been harder than mine by default. if thats the way you come across to others then i honestly doubt that you have such a wonderful time dating. maybe youre right, dates do come easy to you. but i cant help but wonder if you have trouble keeping long-term relationships. good luck
Since cave man days...men have been natural born hunters. They chase what they want. They are meant to hunt. ANIMALS AND WOMEN AND WHATEVER ELSE THEYRE WANTING. If he wants you he will chase and catch you. Sometimes men have healing to do as well or are afraid to jump in head first again. But always watch actions. Consistency, effort. Honesty. Period.
This guy me and him we both has been calling ether everyday and every night and we both has text earlier other everyday and I asked him do you want to go out with me and he said yes I do want to be with you and and I asked him he can move in with me and so he doesn't have to be in the hotel send all of his money on the hotel and he said that when his house getting fixed up he said that he wants me to move in with him and we both been texting and I know that he does been working
@@kathleensueoka3599 its not even down to experienced alpha males sometimes guys in general just dont wanna have to deal with too much. guys tend to like it when women are a benefit to their lives and make things easier that is unless of course theyre dramatic or underdeveloped in some way, then theyre gonna run towards drama
Imagine being a woman Today. Getting infinite flowers, free food, compliments and chocolates for just existing. It must be like playing in tutorial mode.
Imagine being a dude and having your pick of the litter and staying in your prime 20 years longer than a woman. No dude get a woman infinite flowers lol. And if you're not getting compliments that's a personal problem lol. I get them all the time.
Imagine being an actual woman & wondering where in tf *that* magical dreamworld is? I can't remember the last time I got a compliment, much less free anything 🤔
Flowers and chocolates for just existing? Lol where
@@nutech1810 There’s a lot of misconceptions in this area. While it’s true that men can produce sperm until they die, it degenerates rapidly after 34 years of age. And while it’s common for people to say 35+ pregnancies are high risk, its not really dependent on age, but moreso lifestyle, health, as well as the age of the man providing the sperm (aged sperm leads to high risk pregnancy and so on).
Women have thinner skin, so they require more upkeep than men do. Women also have to contend with the sudden drop of estrogen from peri-menopause. If they don’t hop onto hormone therapy right away, their organs, bones, and brain is severely impacted.
Men tend to exercise more as well, and women need to realise exercising is critical to good health and longevity.
btw, the man chooses the woman just as much she chooses her. So while it seems like its unfair that the man has to do the legwork of impressing a woman, it’s actually an opportunity for him to display and live out his excellence. A woman’s survival is hindered when she is pregnant, so it is necessary that a man is competent enough to ensure her and their children’s survival. The courtship process is for both parties to see if the other is a suitable long term partner.
So true. I have never had a guy who needed to "process" his feelings. If he pulls away he's simply not interested. There's no "but my case is unique" cases
I completely agree! Either he wants you or he doesn't!
Exactly, because while he’s away processing his feelings- it’s possible someone can take his spot !! If he really wants you - he’s gonna consider that idea , before he considers falling back …
@@nutech1810 resting and doing stuff you have to do is one thing, but sleeping around with someone else because you are not sure if you want to keep seeing someone is different! Don't ever think you are the only one a guy is dating!
@@jeanlemcke6458 I like this
@@nutech1810 hmm
I had to choose between a guy who "pulls away" compared to someone who is very clear, consistent and vocal about how he feels about me.
If I were younger, I'll move towards the guy who plays the mind games because I'll listen to my "feelings".
So, I choose the man over the boy. So proud of myself.
i think you just described me lol
Some men are window shoppers because they know they can’t pay your price tag! Even if he likes you, don’t lower it cause he can’t afford you 🙏🏾
Emotionally intelligent and emotionally available...yes...yet hard to find that after 40 and up...!
It is hard to find at any age, especially when these days you got dating apps and plenty of women willing to entertain guys on them lol
A lot have been damaged by settling for the wrong person.
@@opallight8069 it all goes back to bad parenting models from birth...attachment style etc.
@@rmokofsky I agree. I see a lot of men chosen by women instead of them doing the choosing. The women I’ve seen do this are always dominant and aggressive whilst the males who submit to their pursuits are weaker and end up being pussy-whipped in the relationship 🥲
@@klddere3734 Ure right! 😅
This is true. When guys have wanted me I did nothing. When I wanted them I do everything and it doesn't work.
You are 100% correct.
He may be processing his feelings… and him not being with you is the clear sign he doesn’t want you.
So needed this today. After 8 months he decides to end things. I could tell he was pulling away. When questioned he just said we need to part ways. I felt he was the one too. Ugh. Dont even understand why men pursue me if dont want me.
Same girl same.
I always pull the trigger first if I feel weird.
Mine was pulling away and i just told him how I felt. And we talked about things and he came closer and I’m like well if you need space I can give you that. He said he still wants to spend time with me.
Its normal to find that a person might not be the right fit. In a sense he did the best for you. Dont victimize yourself for you probably have dismissed good suitors at the door. Its simply didnt went as you wanted. Say NEXT.
I'm sorry but we all deal with emotions differently..this is just game playing if your doing this and his doing that and no one is communicating its going to get confusing, we all want to jump into a relationship but seriously just let it happen naturally be friends, go out, give each other space work on your life etc men do pull away to process things trust me even if they are emotionally available my brother and friend is like that but they still like a girl or even love her..men and woman are different we have to start learning about each other..I like elliot but just remember these dating coaches feed of womans emotions..I will always be a subscriber but I now listen to stephan speaks and he talks about healthy things not this..happy dating woman and please become more independent thinkers
Exactly!
Yes I think so too. After divorce or after separation of a long relationship everyone has baggage. Emotions can run high and to have your head resetted it's good to have a radio silence of a week or two weeks. Man and woman alike. I am a woman and I pull away not because I don't like my guy or don't want a relationship. I need to get control of my emotions, to think what makes me happy, what was wrong in my former relationship and how I can do better. Understand what baggage my guy took with him, how to cope with that and what kind of relationship I do want now because putting 2 families with kids together in one house is mostly not working out. I guess also a guy needs to figure out how to cope with his new gf and combine this relationship specifically when his kids living with him.
@@חנהבושרי awsome 👌 some of us woman just have logic sense..I loved reading your comment because as woman we act of our emotions and its a turn off for men...I also have to step back analyze the situation and then I'm back being my happy self..woman have this princess mentality of I'm perfect I deserve a good man but most of the woman in the comment section act out their emotions..they don't sit and think wait am I the problem maybe I need space anyway thanks for your comment it was beautifull to read and I wish you nothing but healing.
Amen thank you. My man just told me the other day that he loves me for the first time out of nowhere after dating for a year . To me it felt like no where but to him it literally took so much courage to say it . He’s always the type to draw back and pull away to process everything. I learned to give him space . Especially after he told me he loves me . I let him lead and come back when he’s ready . Everyone is completely different
It depends how long he pulls away. A successful man is not always on his phone. It also depends if he thinks he himself is in the right time in his life to benefit from it or what his family will think. Sometimes you have to check what family he comes from because some are influenced by their parents' approval. I think as a woman you'll know in your gut if he's pulling away or he's just busy.
thats true
Best explanation on the internet. Your words have intelligence and wisdom. You go a little deeper on the subject… even if it’s just saying up front truth. Thanks 🙂
It's funny because most guys will condemn other men who pull away not realizing that even themselves do pull away in relationships unaware. Most guys are not aware that they are pulling away because this is not logicic rather instinctive & only its usually women that sense this happening intuitively. The video is talking from a personal experience perspective, it would be nice to have this explained in psychology just like John Gray does. Also, there are millions of reasons to pulling away some of those reasons may be beneficial to a relationshp for example, relationships where partners take space from each other from time to time will have a healthy polarized relationship fueled with passion for life, besides, a man who doesn't take space, who is forever connected inlove is a huge turn off in a long run because than implies they do not cultivate their own individual lives.
I just LOVE,LOVE,LOVE your
straight forward,simple, clear message 👍
Talk about emotional available men and how to spot green flags please
what you are describing is intimacy. sadly that word alone is almost obsolete these days.
Some men do this on purpose. They are also watching yt videos to try these wannabe alpha tactics but little do they know, they only work on pickmes. If you don’t go after them they WILL come back but it’s not worth it to continue the relationship with such a weak soul.
I'm glad Im not in the dating world today ugh. My husband and I met and married in 6 months. We've been married for 24 years and still going strong. I feel bad for my kids in this dating world.
Very true, i also think that when some guys start to pull away it’s because they may get caught up in a lie. For example, i was dating this guy that lived 2 hours away from me, everything was cool when we met up in his home town but when it was time for him to come to mine he vanished. I’m assuming he didn’t have a car and just didn’t tell me. He would often make jokes about money as well.
girl theres no telling
these dudes are just so shitty sometimes
ive noticed tho that when a man is insecure about stuff, he will act VERY strangely towards you
also, how did you meet him in his home town and not see him get in a vehicle and drive away?
This is exactly what I'm going through now, it's a complicated situation but he's still stuck on his ex that it can never workout with-- but I've been talking to this guy almost everyday for a year. I told him that I loved him and he couldn't say it back, because he's still stuck on his ex apparently and supposedly isn't ready for that--but after a year there's no reason to not be ready. It hurts that he would tell his ex he loved her and treated her so well, but supposedly because he's still stuck on her, he does none of that for me.
I feel like the answer he won't tell me is that he just doesn't see me that way, because
If he did see me that way (residual feelings for an ex or not) he wouldn't be pulling back. This video is almost bringing me some closure from the situation in a sense, it gives me the glance inside of his mind I was wishing to have.
yeah okay when you see something like that? you walk away
theres no room for that kind of crap
he's emotionally unavailable and using you for company when he's not gonna fully commit to you. dont do it
@@bluehue6653 Now my clinginess and hope for a future have scared him away, for the time being. He stopped initiating contact with me, so he's basically ending things. But yea you're right, in situations like the one I had been in it pays to walk away. It's so hard to do though, he did the work for me by stopping initiating.
Wow! Where was THIS advice when I was like 20? 🤔 thanks for explaining!! 👌🏼
No wonder I'm single at 35, I just learned all this! 🤣🤣🤣
it’s okay to want a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person. not everyone is perfect and healthy and it’s okay to strive to be that while not knowing quite how to yet. work on yourself first and most of all and it’s okay that you’re not perfectly healthy either
Elliot, can you make a video how to recognize your own and a guy's market value ? This would help to choose men you have a chance with. Many thanks !
self concept choose men not that u ave a chance with flip it do they have a chance with you. thats how u should be thinking
Thank you Elliot. You are the best dating coach.
Yeah. Well. He likes his Single Life to do as he pleases.
Even if he says the distance is a too much for him. He told me that was the reason for it
First and perfect timing! Thanks Elliot!
Yes ur right, Thank you for all the advice, u help a lot of women 😇
It depends on what type of man you date.
Lmao it’s always your hair 🤣 haven’t you realized the mess is part of the charm, baby!
Spot on. This happened to me
I can process that shit while I'm sitting on the toilet 😂😂😂
Age can be a factor. When they're 18,19,20.....not ready. Even if they think they are. My daughter looks so much younger than she is so she gets these younger guys talking to her for "fun". I'm trying to mention she's past the PROM stage now. The guy needs a CAR to take you out on a date, LOL.... Yes, a provider, satisfier, and protector. She gets these, immature ones.who don't have their act together. Yes, I think they like her but they have NO game.
Great video. Talk to you soon.
Idealiy I want to feel in love with the girl I want and she too. What happens its that the want who want to catch me is not the one I would not fall hard for. If that feeling is not there then all I can things is pleasure and liabilities.
Being unsure means often "no"?
THANK YOU
if he asks me to playing video games, flirting, and calling me beautiful is he interested?
What if he's got PTSD from being in battle Elliot? known this guy two years and after a bust up he came back after a year of not seeing him but always wants to have me sexually but as soon as things get feelings and consistency vibes he pulls away...
What does it mean when a man is unemotional available ? Please explain this man thing ?
Cute cat 😊
It happened to me and Ive seen it happened. Not everything is black n white always
Oh yes tired of hot and cold. Older men want sex only or marriage. Not me. Younger or emotionally unhappy or like being single but want sex. How do you win. It should be a balance somewhere .
There is a balance when you wait until marriage to sleep with them. Good luck with that! Older men do not want marriage, because they want to sleep with all women!
Dating is hard
This is only a post about dating nothing else
@@jeanlemcke6458 ....
dating IS hard
what world are you living in where dating is easy? also you comparing dating to a job is just a little weird
@@jeanlemcke6458 jean thats a ridiculous thing to say to someone. not only is it selfish, but rather immature to assume that your life has been harder than mine by default. if thats the way you come across to others then i honestly doubt that you have such a wonderful time dating. maybe youre right, dates do come easy to you. but i cant help but wonder if you have trouble keeping long-term relationships. good luck
Since cave man days...men have been natural born hunters. They chase what they want. They are meant to hunt. ANIMALS AND WOMEN AND WHATEVER ELSE THEYRE WANTING.
If he wants you he will chase and catch you.
Sometimes men have healing to do as well or are afraid to jump in head first again.
But always watch actions. Consistency, effort. Honesty.
Period.
What if he pulls away to slow things down?
Then let him..do your own thing move slow it's really not the end of the world so when he comes back just be yourself.
Help
This guy me and him we both has been calling ether everyday and every night and we both has text earlier other everyday and I asked him do you want to go out with me and he said yes I do want to be with you and and I asked him he can move in with me and so he doesn't have to be in the hotel send all of his money on the hotel and he said that when his house getting fixed up he said that he wants me to move in with him and we both been texting and I know that he does been working
Men avoid risks? I thought it's the opposite
Not always. Experienced alpha male who don’t wish to do the work so settle for less than happy home life cause easier and becomes bad habit.
@@kathleensueoka3599 its not even down to experienced alpha males
sometimes guys in general just dont wanna have to deal with too much. guys tend to like it when women are a benefit to their lives and make things easier
that is unless of course theyre dramatic or underdeveloped in some way, then theyre gonna run towards drama
So then he’s not a high value man. Honestly, he’s a mess due to past trauma so he is an avoidant
What makes u say that guys can have any choice of the litter in todays society?
Well there are way more women in th world than men though
Just breakup with him and move on with your life.
Chocolates and compliments are over rated.