When i was getting over my ex and looking at different advice about men and dating, I remember this comment still. The woman wrote that she had been dating a man for 4 years and finally insisted that they get engaged. He said “but i’m not even sure i’m ready for a relationship.” So in that one sentence she found out that he didn’t even consider her to be anything serious. Basically, she was someone to have sex with and not be lonely. That smacked me awake. Some men don’t give a damn about wasting your time. They just will. Don’t let it happen to you.
It's strange they say that but when you start seeing other men and position them back at the bottom of the dating shelf a of a sudden they want a serious relationship. That's why you never date just one guy UNTIL he wants to be serious. A man knows in the first 5 mins of meeting a woman if she's wife potentia. Everything ese is either to train you or waste your time.
They are so evil, this type of man. If you KNOW she's looking to be married and especially in a certain time frame, to keep her on the hook with no intention of giving her that is hell worthy
So true. Dating a guy 5 months. From day one I he never had me guessing. Communication daily from him! Since day one! We are off dating sites and in a committed relationship. Not one fight yet. And in the beginning he was going too fast, I did slow him down. And boy he is investing his resources in me big time. Droves 90% of time to my part of town. Helps me with little things here and there. He sends me poems. Says he thinks about me all the time. Always wants to see me. He said I’m a unicorn!
Your value is based on yourself. Regardless of how you feel or carry yourself men will see you how they want, so don’t let their perception so call maximize your value. It should already be with or without his validation.
This. They project what they want on u. Im a.classy curvy woman but some men see my elegance and others just see sex. Its not how I carry myself at all. Its what they want from you and that's all some see.
In real estate the value in property is known for it’s transferability usage demand and scarcity…being a high value women is very similar in characteristics. I love the way this channel has changed my perspective on romantic relationships and boundaries.🍀
In your opinion/experience..if he sees you as a FWB first and clearly states “I’m not looking for a serious relationship”, but then 4-5 months down the line he said “hey I have feelings for you, I want to take this more seriously.” Is it still not likely to succeed? This guy is a hippie dude and he’s 11 years younger than the woman. I know I’m getting oddly specific lol
Eh, i would say that nothing works when he’s not in love with you. My boyfriend said “i’m not looking for a relationship.” We were truly friends. Nothing physical. And i did nothing to chase him. We still talked and hung out. But we both fell in love. There was a day where he said “i love you. I want to make you happy.” It’s the most wonderful relationship i’ve ever had. I think the key is not chasing and being honest with your standards. He knew i would not get involved with a man that didn’t want a serious relationship. It was months before he got up the courage to say he loved me. It’s been fantastic ever since.
Elliott I heard some people say don’t tell the guy that you want a relationship because can manipulate you since they know that’s what you want, they said to say we will see
Just listen to me lol. Don't listen to other people. Or get coaching with me so you never worry about what to do next. You'll always be making the right moves
Also, I a guy tells that his exes left him, and those exes are actually a nice ladies, then this guy is probably a narcissist who's looking for his next empathetic victim
And that he could never be in a relationship with his last ex because she 'evolved'. I thought to myself, yeah you mean she doesn't take your BS anymore..
Omg. I just love hearing you talk! Everything you say is spot on and exactly how the guy I have been in contact with for like 1,5years has been acting. He will now just be able to dream about ever meeting me again,now when structure came along. ENOUGH with empty words,low effort,maybes,breadcrumbs he has been putting me through for some quick sex every 4-8 months. It took me too long but I have realized. And you are just confirming that I did the right thing to cut him off.
Had a FWB for the summer. Agreed to only hooking up. After the summer, I mentioned that we want different things and decided to break it off and he said himself too he doesn't want to feel like he is using me. He hits me up once in a blue moon and when I straight up said no I have a relationship now, it turned into, why would you assume that I'd want to hook up etc etc. Nice try, I'm not in the mood to take breadcrumbs. Plus, we never went on a date so much for an "investment"
I agree kind of lol I think it’s cool if you have different interest because then they can become a new adventure for both parties, and showing them your passion… Wouldn’t you agree?
@@isabellecoeur1402 nice!!! Its a pleasure to meet you *shakes hand* I'm an INFJ with adhd!! We're both very similar according to mbti. Do you also have a penchant for going down rabbitholes for random stuff nobody really cares about?? lol!! I always feel like I'd ace trivia night.
I think it’s MUCH easier for women to adhere to the “rules” than for men. Men will approach 1 women 10-50x more than 1 man will approach 10-50 women and actually have a chance, hope that makes sense. Women are the gatekeepers. The right guy will be consistent and show up for you. The bad ones will walk away without you being heartbroken.
What if things didn't worked out between the two of you, (he wasn't over his ex and that broke my heart because I really liked him), and now he's going after another girl in our dance scene (our tribe)... What is the best thing I could do here? I would die to see them together.... and him giving her all the things I wanted with him (a home full of love & animals). I would fantasize what I would say to him, something like 'Oh, well I don't see her as competition. And if you hurt her, I'm going to be there for her. ' Would that work?
Absolutely.l!! (A very lengthy story that l'll do my best to keep short. Bear in mind that l am leaving a lot of it out.) l lived with a 60 year old manchild a few years ago. l had to do and pay for everything. He lived under my roof, ate my food & rarely helped out. l barely made/make ends meet on my own. l tolerated that for far too long, in the end what did it was him complaining to my (female) best friend about my cooking etc and lied that l was saying bad shit about her. lt very nearly the end of the friendship. He had half assed left me and convinced her for him to move in with her. Yes, he was trying to get with her. She didnt want that and contacted me to take him back. Wasn't until then we started talking and resolved the friendship which he attempted to end, to isolate me. He knew he'd fkd up big time. l did take him back (26/12/22) but only for her and her 3 kids well being not for his. l dont have children. He was back for 3 days before l kicked him out, permanently (29/12/22). He went to stay at his sisters because he had nowhere else to go. Dunno where he is now and l don't really care either. l'm dating a great man now, taking it slow (l learned from that mistake) and we "fit" so much better that it just highlights how crap my ex was. Sorry about the tl:dr reply, l saw your comment and it got me thinking. Thanks for reading, if you got this far. Wish ya all the best.
What do I do if we’ve been talking for just over two months now and already established that we’re both looking for a relationship but I feel he isn’t consistent enough He calls me regularly every other day /two-3days and I personally feel like I need more consistency. I’ve voiced this about 3weeks ago and he’s said he’d try to change it but it’s still the same (I’ve mentioned it an again within the 3weeks)… what do I do . Leave or stay and see if it evolves FYI we’ve been in two different countries for about a month now but I’m working towards getting back to where he is and he knows it .
Just can’t figure out why he doesn’t just block me if I’m not sleeping with him and he still talking to me even though I have to initiate it but he answers my texts immediately I just can’t figure out what’s going on
Same works for the guys. They want sex , get it then treat you like its your fault. Screww all that what she did. Its not always on the woman. Guys can pass anytime without giving theirs away too early.
Heres a question for you Elliot.. Lets say that a biologically stronger woman enters a man's space and is more than capable of defending off a lion.. Wouldnt SHE be the obvious choice..? (In today's world, strong physically fit, financially secure, ambitious) Why would today's man be quick to call her unfeminine..?? (biologically speaking, thats not advantagous) Why?
Here's an example. Two girls, college age. Public pool. One girl sits in the corner, but wears her college sweatshirt to show she's college age. She puts her face in her phone as she walks out. The other one, goes up and talks to the lifeguard she picks out as "worth" talking to. These guys are expecting you, the girl, to show interest first. Now, the lifeguards have to do their lifeguard thing and can't move much. But the girl seems to find a way. The cheerleader??? The football player is usually looking for her. BUt, HE"S RIGHT. It's more than just being cute. The young man needs to be ready for "to make a move". Otherwise, it's just talking and waste of time.
At this point I’ll accept being single forever. Shera7 lady may have a point in what she’s teaching because I highly doubt any us is going to get want from “Love”
It's absolutely the right way, people in Israel should know every one of them matters, it's not weakness. A great contrast with terrorists, they know they don't matter and have to be brainwashed to believe they'll be rewarded in after life. People don't matter to terrorists, Israel wins just by loving life
When you at least call each other boyfriend girlfriend & everybody else knows it too. If you guys are having sex & nobody knows it, or everyone knows but you two are not in a committed monogamous partnership with each other, thats not relationship. Thats friends with benefits.
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When i was getting over my ex and looking at different advice about men and dating, I remember this comment still. The woman wrote that she had been dating a man for 4 years and finally insisted that they get engaged. He said “but i’m not even sure i’m ready for a relationship.” So in that one sentence she found out that he didn’t even consider her to be anything serious. Basically, she was someone to have sex with and not be lonely. That smacked me awake. Some men don’t give a damn about wasting your time. They just will. Don’t let it happen to you.
Wow…thanks so much for the guide, Elliot!
4 years??? He’s terrible
That happened to me. He got me pregnant and left.
It's strange they say that but when you start seeing other men and position them back at the bottom of the dating shelf a of a sudden they want a serious relationship. That's why you never date just one guy UNTIL he wants to be serious. A man knows in the first 5 mins of meeting a woman if she's wife potentia. Everything ese is either to train you or waste your time.
They are so evil, this type of man. If you KNOW she's looking to be married and especially in a certain time frame, to keep her on the hook with no intention of giving her that is hell worthy
So true. Dating a guy 5 months. From day one I he never had me guessing. Communication daily from him! Since day one! We are off dating sites and in a committed relationship. Not one fight yet. And in the beginning he was going too fast, I did slow him down. And boy he is investing his resources in me big time. Droves 90% of time to my part of town. Helps me with little things here and there. He sends me poems. Says he thinks about me all the time. Always wants to see me. He said I’m a unicorn!
that’s sooo cute
So why are you watching this?
@@falidisu2139probably she's lying to herself😂
🎉😂😂😂EXACTLY!
That is so beautiful.
Men only want you when you don’t give a shit . Love me some Elliot. He tells it like it is. The bitter truth .
This is also true 😅.
Smh at them all now 🙄
Yas!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉then they're running!
So then they actually do not LOVE you at all. Ok.
It’s ok…God loves us and He really cares.
Your value is based on yourself. Regardless of how you feel or carry yourself men will see you how they want, so don’t let their perception so call maximize your value. It should already be with or without his validation.
*THIS* !!!!!!!
So true ❤
Yep!
This. They project what they want on u. Im a.classy curvy woman but some men see my elegance and others just see sex. Its not how I carry myself at all. Its what they want from you and that's all some see.
In real estate the value in property is known for it’s transferability usage demand and scarcity…being a high value women is very similar in characteristics. I love the way this channel has changed my perspective on romantic relationships and boundaries.🍀
If he doesn’t want a relationship nothing will change it
In your opinion/experience..if he sees you as a FWB first and clearly states “I’m not looking for a serious relationship”, but then 4-5 months down the line he said “hey I have feelings for you, I want to take this more seriously.” Is it still not likely to succeed? This guy is a hippie dude and he’s 11 years younger than the woman. I know I’m getting oddly specific lol
It can be short term success if the woman is taking a lead@@chrisherber1635
can you make a video on accepting defeat and moving forward
LADIES, NOTHING WORKS when a guy is not looking for a serious relationship.
Eh, i would say that nothing works when he’s not in love with you. My boyfriend said “i’m not looking for a relationship.” We were truly friends. Nothing physical. And i did nothing to chase him. We still talked and hung out. But we both fell in love. There was a day where he said “i love you. I want to make you happy.” It’s the most wonderful relationship i’ve ever had. I think the key is not chasing and being honest with your standards. He knew i would not get involved with a man that didn’t want a serious relationship. It was months before he got up the courage to say he loved me. It’s been fantastic ever since.
@@Mayfloweralwaysglad you had boundaries and standards and stood by it. That is key.
@@Mayfloweralwaysthe courage to say he loves you?
@@Mayfloweralwaysand also you stayed and waited technically
Especially when he already has a girlfriend at home
🗣 GET THAT SH¡T OUTTA HERE - Elliot Scott 😂😂😂
“Now MF we got a problem. “I felt that lmaoooo
😂
Elliott I heard some people say don’t tell the guy that you want a relationship because can manipulate you since they know that’s what you want, they said to say we will see
Just listen to me lol. Don't listen to other people. Or get coaching with me so you never worry about what to do next. You'll always be making the right moves
wish I had you beside me when he came back!
Elliott your analogies are hysterical! 😅
I like that you said get that s*** out of here that's cool I like that
Your such a gem. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
Also, I a guy tells that his exes left him, and those exes are actually a nice ladies, then this guy is probably a narcissist who's looking for his next empathetic victim
Omg, same... he told me he's got abendonement issues because all his exes fell in love with someone else or cheated.
And that he could never be in a relationship with his last ex because she 'evolved'. I thought to myself, yeah you mean she doesn't take your BS anymore..
I love your advice! So true! Amazing
You are so funny...say it as it is..love it😂
Omg. I just love hearing you talk! Everything you say is spot on and exactly how the guy I have been in contact with for like 1,5years has been acting. He will now just be able to dream about ever meeting me again,now when structure came along. ENOUGH with empty words,low effort,maybes,breadcrumbs he has been putting me through for some quick sex every 4-8 months. It took me too long but I have realized. And you are just confirming that I did the right thing to cut him off.
Tao of Steve: “We chase that which retreats.”
Had a FWB for the summer. Agreed to only hooking up. After the summer, I mentioned that we want different things and decided to break it off and he said himself too he doesn't want to feel like he is using me.
He hits me up once in a blue moon and when I straight up said no I have a relationship now, it turned into, why would you assume that I'd want to hook up etc etc. Nice try, I'm not in the mood to take breadcrumbs. Plus, we never went on a date so much for an "investment"
um... this is the best video i've seen in my entire life and it explains SO much! This should be in everyone's queue to watch next 😁
My husband decided he didn't like me anymore when I told him he needed to get a job. He could work and he spent most of his time in bed.
I agree kind of lol I think it’s cool if you have different interest because then they can become a new adventure for both parties, and showing them your passion… Wouldn’t you agree?
This is the best and most relatable video I’ve ever watched. Great job!
your hairline is impeccable
😂
😂😂😂
The beard is horrible. It’s not even maintained.
Excellent video! Thank you!
YES, there are such things as mixed signals. HOT & COLD
That isn't what a mixed signal is lol. That's a guy who isn't interested.
@@ElliotScottDating Hmmm. What is your definition of mixed signals?
Elliot i love yr vids.... u r the best
Sadly i learned to hate men after my marriage broke. Its better living on my own
Think I’m going to go ahead and use this approach. What they have to offer is nothing compared to the misery they bring. I’m good 😊
I appreciate this
very good example with the video game lingo/common interests
This shit is so exhausting 😂
Yeah also, she didn’t open her mouth from beginning and sure didn’t walk away when she should’ve long a time ago
well said
Elliot, guys HAVE told me they had to work. Then! They call me FOUR months later. I have lost interest and ignore their calls and messages.
Cheers.
I think you can have a 10 that’s a gamer too. Don’t limit yourself!
excellent
Tribe is so important 🎋
My fellow favorite introvert 🤗 I so enjoy your content!!😘 Sidenote:Are you by chance an intp/istp? An Intj with a touch of adhd?
Fun. I’ve been thinking about MBT. I am INTJ with a slight high functioning autistic brain and mild ADD.
@@isabellecoeur1402 nice!!! Its a pleasure to meet you *shakes hand* I'm an INFJ with adhd!! We're both very similar according to mbti. Do you also have a penchant for going down rabbitholes for random stuff nobody really cares about?? lol!! I always feel like I'd ace trivia night.
I think it’s MUCH easier for women to adhere to the “rules” than for men. Men will approach 1 women 10-50x more than 1 man will approach 10-50 women and actually have a chance, hope that makes sense. Women are the gatekeepers. The right guy will be consistent and show up for you. The bad ones will walk away without you being heartbroken.
Just put my email in for the free book!! Thank you ❤
What if things didn't worked out between the two of you, (he wasn't over his ex and that broke my heart because I really liked him), and now he's going after another girl in our dance scene (our tribe)... What is the best thing I could do here? I would die to see them together.... and him giving her all the things I wanted with him (a home full of love & animals).
I would fantasize what I would say to him, something like 'Oh, well I don't see her as competition. And if you hurt her, I'm going to be there for her. ' Would that work?
Walk away from grown boys 😊 quickly :)
Well said ..
Absolutely.l!!
(A very lengthy story that l'll do my best to keep short. Bear in mind that l am leaving a lot of it out.)
l lived with a 60 year old manchild a few years ago. l had to do and pay for everything. He lived under my roof, ate my food & rarely helped out.
l barely made/make ends meet on my own.
l tolerated that for far too long, in the end what did it was him complaining to my (female) best friend about my cooking etc and lied that l was saying bad shit about her.
lt very nearly the end of the friendship.
He had half assed left me and convinced her for him to move in with her. Yes, he was trying to get with her.
She didnt want that and contacted me to take him back.
Wasn't until then we started talking and resolved the friendship which he attempted to end, to isolate me.
He knew he'd fkd up big time. l did take him back (26/12/22) but only for her and her 3 kids well being not for his. l dont have children.
He was back for 3 days before l kicked him out, permanently (29/12/22).
He went to stay at his sisters because he had nowhere else to go.
Dunno where he is now and l don't really care either.
l'm dating a great man now, taking it slow (l learned from that mistake) and we "fit" so much better that it just highlights how crap my ex was.
Sorry about the tl:dr reply, l saw your comment and it got me thinking.
Thanks for reading, if you got this far.
Wish ya all the best.
Are you still interested in hearing how your [non-client] content has helped women get into a relationship?
Yes please 🙏
What do I do if we’ve been talking for just over two months now and already established that we’re both looking for a relationship but I feel he isn’t consistent enough
He calls me regularly every other day /two-3days and I personally feel like I need more consistency. I’ve voiced this about 3weeks ago and he’s said he’d try to change it but it’s still the same (I’ve mentioned it an again within the 3weeks)… what do I do . Leave or stay and see if it evolves
FYI we’ve been in two different countries for about a month now but I’m working towards getting back to where he is and he knows it .
If he doesnt meets your needs you decide if thats what you want for life.
My opinion he hasnt meet his best option yet your just a placeholder now.
Wow Elliott ……I know the perfect young Woman for you 😊
10:09 GTSOH!🤣
I love ❤️ u Elliot! Yt delivery is classic…Ok now MF we have a problem now … That’s how I say it 2 these fellas…
You're fkKIN HILARIOUS HAHAHAHAAHAH. That's just not longterm material hahaha in your accent hahaha
😂😂😂 MFer we have a problem!!!!
,😂😂😂
Just can’t figure out why he doesn’t just block me if I’m not sleeping with him and he still talking to me even though I have to initiate it but he answers my texts immediately I just can’t figure out what’s going on
You initiating stops today
@@Nono38-jj1tkAmen! If you want to get your power back and see his true feelings go no contact
Lol your giving him attention and he’s taking it. Stop
he's bored
Keeping you there as an option. But reverse it make him an option
I can agree to disagree
How old is to late 🤷🏽♀️ijs
Yeeeeees!!!!
This is why its IMPERATIVE to listen.
Dont babble on and on about YOUR intetests because somr of thrse sly mofos will mirror you.
Same works for the guys. They want sex , get it then treat you like its your fault. Screww all that what she did. Its not always on the woman. Guys can pass anytime without giving theirs away too early.
I could get into anime😉
Red pill shit....cant agree on more😂😂😂
Nothing works when they not interested in you either 😮😅so by goodness sakes walk away and move on for sure! Don’t be a weak as woman 💪
Ahahah i like how u so funny
😂😂😂
Heres a question for you Elliot..
Lets say that a biologically stronger woman enters a man's space and is more than capable of defending off a lion.. Wouldnt SHE be the obvious choice..? (In today's world, strong physically fit, financially secure, ambitious)
Why would today's man be quick to call her unfeminine..??
(biologically speaking, thats not advantagous)
Why?
Here's an example. Two girls, college age. Public pool. One girl sits in the corner, but wears her college sweatshirt to show she's college age. She puts her face in her phone as she walks out. The other one, goes up and talks to the lifeguard she picks out as "worth" talking to. These guys are expecting you, the girl, to show interest first. Now, the lifeguards have to do their lifeguard thing and can't move much. But the girl seems to find a way. The cheerleader??? The football player is usually looking for her. BUt, HE"S RIGHT. It's more than just being cute. The young man needs to be ready for "to make a move". Otherwise, it's just talking and waste of time.
At this point I’ll accept being single forever. Shera7 lady may have a point in what she’s teaching because I highly doubt any us is going to get want from “Love”
Sprinkle sprinkle 🎉
It's absolutely the right way, people in Israel should know every one of them matters, it's not weakness. A great contrast with terrorists, they know they don't matter and have to be brainwashed to believe they'll be rewarded in after life. People don't matter to terrorists, Israel wins just by loving life
Team Vegeta
Xoxo
Elliot. What do you consider a relationship? Are best friends who are lovers who only have sex with each other after 8 years a relationship?
When you at least call each other boyfriend girlfriend & everybody else knows it too. If you guys are having sex & nobody knows it, or everyone knows but you two are not in a committed monogamous partnership with each other, thats not relationship. Thats friends with benefits.
No that's just the guy using you for something casual
@@sansadrake4133This 👏👏👊
35 here , also gamer. masters in overwatch 2, beat it :D