You Don't Have To Be Special To Be Lovable
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 13 ก.ค. 2024
- So many of us believe we have to be special to lovable and worthy. But what if you deserved just as much love regardless of how good you are at anything?
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I found your vidoes when I was 17. I was going threw a really bad time in my life. I was planning on committing suicide. But just out of the blue I ended up stumbling upon your youtube channel. You don't know this but your videos saved my life Noah. I'm now 21 almost 22 and I still watch your vidoes religiously. I can't begin to thank you enough because I'm the happiest I've ever been. I can finally look myself in the mirror and be able to say I actually love myself. I'm crying writing this comment but I just wanted too let you know you saved my life Noah. Thank you for all the vidoes over all these years ❤️
You're so welcome Aaron. I'm happy you stuck around and are feeling better now! Thanks for sharing!
This is exactly how we, as a collective, have become narcissistically wounded. It's a collective trauma that we're all carrying, but that no one dares to admit due to being seen as "lacking".
The trick to heal from this is realizing that every validation we seek from outside is a validation we didn't get from our parents, and as we now are our own (inner children's) parents, we're the only ones that can give ourselves the validation that we so desperately crave.
I had an insight, accepting to be normal takes the pressure off from trying to be special. It's a relief
Yes!!! ♥️
It reminds me of "Alfred Adler's philosophy" to have the courage to be normal.
I don't have to try because I actually am special
My mom told me
I think the fact that our prehistoric ancestors originated in tribes of 150 people or less we each had unique talents and abilities that were honed in order for the tribe to survive. Now we are part of a worldwide society that has 7 billion and we feel greater competition to stand out from the crowd and therefore have a greater urge to equate specialness with loveability and self worth. I believe our parents know how competitive the real working world is today and can instill a sense of loveability in us when we do as they desire since they're trying to prepare us for our future bosses, partners and colleagues that demand so much since we live in such a disposable and replaceable society that values novelty and efficiency over quality relationships.
During a time as rough as now, we really needed your kind words and presence. Thank you, Noah, we are so happy to see you again.
Genuinely grateful for your videos, Noah. This video hits home, and is something I’ve had to let go of. We are all enough and worthy. Thank you for this! ♥️
I was raised to believe I am an especially bad person. This made service my love language.- People pleasing to be loved.
This video came at a perfect time lol. This has been on the mind recently
I love that, "babies deserve love" and they don't do anything! In fact, they burden us lol
I think this is what I came to earth to learn
Thank you for your daily messages
Hi Noah : ) Correct, none of us are 'normal' but 'unique'. Thanks Noah.... ( you nailed it ❤) 🍃🌿 Take care : )
This is a very wise message. Thanks 👍
I needed this. Thank you!!
Thank you Noah. I'm going to watch this video again. This was so helpful.
Thanks for posting this video, I needed this, thank you Noah... 😔
Another great video Noah. Wishing you all the best in these hard times.
I’ve enjoyed your wisdom for years, Noah. Glad that you are uploading regularly, again.
The song Eternal Flame resonates with me because it makes me think of someone I still love.
Love Story By Taylor Swift also resonates with me because it also makes me think of a young woman, who I still love very much.
Pretty interesting analogy with the music, I like it.
I'm special and unique and I love myself...
This was a great video, Noah. Thank you.
I just found your videos a couple of weeks ago, and so many of them have resonated with me. Sometimes they seem scarily specific to my life, but maybe I'm just not that special haha
You deserve love all the time.
Always turn to your videos for comfort ❤️
Hey Noah,
Thank you for making these beautiful videos about topics which always helps me with different aspects of my life and calm my nerves down in difficult period of time
it's so comfortable listening to you
We love you Noah! 👍
Amazing observations!💯👌,, thanks again my friend ✨
When I was in bootcamp, the one thing we would be told during training is, "You are not special!"
thanks Noah
Omg about the bus crashing. I sometimes still think that if the bus tips over I'll be the smart one to get out of it. Wow. I'm really not special in my way of thinking and somehow that's a massive relief.
:)
What a beautiful video. I wish it was broadcasted in our nation once a day atleast for it to reach everyone.
This was great, Noah 💚
Being special, being productive all the time... Who taught us to justify our existence?
You slipped the word "ego" haha
Thanks for the video!
Superb.. ❤️
I’m special because I’m kind, but I can also blame other people for mistakes I make.
Not same for me i always blame myself almost for everything, so i hate myself because i always feel the blame and i dont know what to do with this feeling
Amazing video 😍
My parents always only gave me anything when I achieved good grades. They still use that even now 🙈
Thank you to take this anxiety off me
❤️
Indeed
Please laugh 😂 I feel depressed when you don't . Cheers mate, good topic 👍🏻
@ 9:46 he's laughing ☀️🍃☺
@@anneraynaud2679 not enough 🤣🤣 like the previous one ( 39 degrees, we're going to die this w/end)
Thank you so much for the video and for being you
Shit!! Did this expose me today!!! Ouchhhhh! And thanks
Damn! To be special (better then odhers) is very addictive. Belive me.
Just discovered your channel. Great content, keep it up!
Just littlr bit of feedback on your audio quality, it'ss constantly peaking and it's distorted when you raise your voice on all the videos that I watched. Could you lower down the microphone gain/sensitivity please?
Thanks, will do!
Noah I think we all think we are special. We are all special. I have never been able to make a video but I like yours and trying to just #payitforward because you seem to make videos for the right reasons and its a shame that even channels like my favorite wrestling commentary and Little Iron Sheik. I absolutely love watching these videos. They brighten my day and give me light because of the bizarre rants of the Iron Sheik but to me its purely comedy. But my sister and brother think Im completely unnormal. They think Im special so how do I just convince them to love the Iron Sheik as much as I do? Help me Noah! I love the realest shooter wrestler of all time? But the Iron Sheik goes on say Howard Stern and drinks and curses and plays a character so one other question how would someone recover from embarrassing themselves on social media? Dont think this is a reference unconsciously to you its actually about how I behave on TH-cam? I really do love the Howard Stern show and I love WWE wrestling as well as the Iron Sheik. Peace out and hope you can simply write a real message. I like that you read comments but I think engagement is alot better but if you are busy thats cool too.
Why does anyone deserve love?
I think I’m special to my parents.
I’m better at History than Math.
I'm confused. I thought it was a good thing to progress and improve ourselves. If we tell ourselves that it is ok to put the most minimal effort into a task, what will motivate us to accomplish?
Won't you become depressed if you are not pushing yourself to grow and develop each day?
Ryan Dooner I agree ☝️
It seems your frame of reference for motivation is only inadequacy and desire to become good enough. It is possible to motivated through passion and desire as opposed to just trying to escape pain.
Huh, i hate myself and i dont know how to stop this feeling.
@hulksmash05 i know where my feelings coming from, but i cant control my feelings i feel like i hate myself and i feel like its a right thing
What if you believe every baby doesn't deserve love? This might get a lot of hate but I don't know if I would want to continue raising a baby if he/she is dysfunctional far from the norm. It might be better for everyone if the baby didn't live. (Just my personal opinion)
What is your profession?
You could say supporter of humans :)
@@NoahElkrief ...and how do you bear them 😢🍃...😂 xx
How about TOUGH LOVE where your being harsh to push someone out of something that bad for them. My wife has done this to stop me from doing smoking
It's much more effective and kind to explore the cause of harmful habit. Check out my procrastination video to understand this.
Hi Noah, I've been following you for years, but I have to say, I don't buy this argument. Isn't the world materialistic? Isn't it a competition, regardless of whether we believe it or not? To use your analogy, we are all songs desperate to be heard, to be listened. We need to be heard, to be loved, it's imprinted in our DNA, in our instincts. We all have the same behavior patterns that, when we aren't loved, compel us to feel bad, so that we do something about it, because this is a competition to survive. If you don't, then your genes are eliminated, good bye! Yes, there are good upbeat songs, and there are good sad songs, but they are all ... good. Because not all songs are good, some are trash, some are just meh. Think of a song you like. Now think of one you don't. The distinction is clear, right? It's a special (meaning better) song for you. Now, if I am a song, from my perspective, I need to be something someone loves, because otherwise I won't be heard. I need to be better than others, and I don't even care if I'm an upbeat or sad song...
What if you looked inside for everything you're looking for instead of outside? What if what happens outside is a reflection of what's happening inside?
Noah Elkrief this isn’t law of attraction bs which I know you’ve made a videos saying it doesn’t work or is this more eckhart tolle saying. If you get the inside right, the outside will fall into place. Primary reality is within; secondary reality without.