For a year I consistently practiced Dr. David Hawkins' letting go technique, surrendering resistance to any and all emotions that arose. Here's what I learned.
I got to this via the Dr Hawkins study group. I like how you noted that the practice of Letting Go is described more accurately as “Letting Be”, because instead of trying to push away and let go of the emotion you just let it come up and run its course. Which is painful and something we tend to avoid.
The way I look at it so far, it's both about letting be and letting go. The letting be is very related to shadow work - Becoming aware of feelings, "catching" them, "listening" to them, and letting them depart as they have shared their energy. The letting go is a lot about letting go of defense mechanisms that no longer (or ever) serve you, like ideas about one's limitations in life (which is the ego trying to defend us from failure and hurtful feelings, etc). I have come to realize that possibly the biggest challenge I face in my quest for what I consider to be freedom is my incredibly sofisticated and all-encompassing defense mechanisms that hardly even allow me to experience half of what it means to live life, and to me this is the biggest gain from letting go - To trust myself and the universe and accept that all I need is faith, as I have no idea what I'm even supposed to aim for anyhow (or protect myself from). Much love to all of you out there also seeking freedom, love and serenity, it's a quest that won't fail
@@xorigt observe them before they rise up and notice it’s an opportunity for you to change the habit. If you think about doing the habit for a long time you will. But if you catch before you want to do it, observe it then you have an opportunity not to do it. Key is to catch yourself right before you want to do it.
Ah that's an amazing and insightful distinction cpt.tjuck, I love it. The journey is so deep, I continue to learn and unfold more and more. Wishing everyone love, compassion and grace on their quest as well. And may we also enjoy the journey rather than trying to rush to any perceived static mountaintop or goal! I need to remind myself of this. And holding and loving all shadow parts and defense mechanisms with compassion and grace.
@Zorigt Bazarragchaa Replace the habit with a positive new healthy habit or an affirmation phrase. Also visualize the person you want to be as yourself and act that out daily not the part of yourself you are disappointed in. Let’s say you want to stop using curse words. Then imagine yourself as some peaceful monk who has great control and soft gentle clean speech and act like that. Use the imagery in your mind to change the behavior and keep thwt image in your mind all day. If it is smoking or some vice then have to get rid of all the triggers. I quit smoking and for a whole year or so couldn’t go into a public space that had people smoking in it or be around smokers. If Im did get exposed to smokers I had to concentrate real hard several hours later to not relapse. Took two years for that to go away. Now I’m very allergic to smoke and can’t stand it.
Very interesting. I had the same experience with the psychological death/Egodeath. But for me it was like that: i was starting the Letting Go Technique and was feeling out a deep fear. I was doing that for 2 weeks and then it happend. I was laying on a bench in a park and feeling this deep fear in my solar plexus. Then it felt like i got to the source of it. And my mind paniced like crazy: „IF YOU DO THAT YOU GONNA DIE“ this was what i heard in a very loud and concerned way. My first thought was. When my mind says that i especially have to do it 😂. The next moment i went in that fear and then i can’t remember what happened. I woke up 5 / 10 / 15 minutes after and i couldn’t say how much time went by but u guess it was about 15 minutes. I stood up and everything has changed. I was feeling like i was freshly born. The feeling was amazing. I was in a pretty bad spot before leading to my start of letting go. The feeling was so incredibly freeing and i was so euphoric. 2 days of pure bliss went by feeling nonstop like my soul was completely free. I talked to people like i never had anxiety. And then 2 days later the negative thoughts came back and i felt the negative emotions fillling up my body again. And one moment to the next i was getting to the same point i was before. Except i have no feeling of angst anymore. I mean i still fear stuff and experience fear but that underlaying emption of fear of death went away. This was a crazy experience and it showed me, that letting go is 100% the way for me. It showed me a state u could reach full of bliss and joyment without any drugs. I felt what i could feel without all the gabbage im packed. Now im 1 year into letting go several hours a day. I dedicated my whole life it it. Never felt any betttet then now. Still letting go alot of stuff. Now more od heavy insecurity feelings. Went through a fucking ton of grief cried every day for 3 months. Hardest time of my life. And in my deepest core was apathy. In this hole i decided for myself, that i want to live and from there it went only up again
i listened to the audio book, it has so must Insight and i apply it with my Christian Path.... in Psalm 46:10 it says to Be Still and Know I AM God... when i become Still i feel Gods Presence and a Peace Which Surpasses all Understanding.. ive learned that Surrender is Acceptance!! When we Surrender to God and Life, when we say "Yes" to what is, The Peace floods our hearts and there is a deep "Knowing" in The Heart, not the mind!!
@Andrew Ortiz Surrender is confusing to me because it means to me that God could still remove the problem for me which is the opposite of acceptance, I wish the Bible had the nuts and bolts of these teachings in it to help us. A person can glean similar ideas from the Bible as Hawkins teaches but it is hard to pick through scripture and put it all together in the same understanding,
@@tankster5826 it's like A Divine Paradox! You are already Surrendered. Everything that is appearing in your Life right Now is appearing because it has already been Allowed and Accepted. We are already Surrendered, we just have to Recognize It. We Recognize that God is controlling events and in Surrender, we can have no likes or dislikes to what happens but just an inner "Yes"! Saying "Yes" to it all even the ups and downs and the sorrows and Joys. Its all Accepted. And when We are Aware of That Inner Acceptable in us, There Is A Deep Deep Peace which Surpasses all understanding. Surrender brings Instant Peace. Whatever happens, it's all good!! True Surrender Is Unconditional. For example: "God even if you want this problem to remain in my Life, that's what I want. True Surrender doesn't have alterior motives. We must Surrender Unconditional without hidden motives or agendas. " I will Surrender so God can take away this suffering" that's not true Surrender. True Surrender is Saying "Yes" to the suffering even if God doesn't remove it. If we are struggling to Surrender and are in resistance, we even say "Yes" to that too. If we are unable, we Say Yes to that too and The Peace Of God comes Instantly!
@Andrew Ortiz. Thanks Andrew. Going through darkest time of my life. Worst thing imaginable. Doesn’t look like God will remove it. He used to rescue me from things but he is quiet now. Will be like a long term physical purgatory on earth. Nothing I can do to change it either. I should have risen above it so these consequences not come but I failed. Now I have to deal with the fall out. Satan gave up tempting me with vices. This one came through a long term attack on health. When super bad things happen it is hard to believe God lets us fall into these things.
Just by watching video, I can see in your body language and mannerisms that you are living what this book is preaching - you look so calm & at ease - this was a great video thank you for posting this- as I sit here apathetic AF, feeling extremely sluggish I understand this book now with the “LET IT BE” tecnique, you explained this perfect thank you!- I’ll continue watching now haha
Thanks for your balanced review.... you respectfully explained the pros and cons of the book and took the sincere time and effort to put the ideas into action... this is one of the deepest explanations I have found for any book or suggested technique..
Thanks for sharing your experience!! I too, am applying the technique from last 9 months and wanted to hear from somebody who has applied this diligently for some time.Apart from the numerous benefits already told by you, one thing that you mentioned is while applying this technique clinging (attachment) to the letting go comes in the way.Thanks for bringing that out! When applying this technique becomes a habit we unconsciously get attached to the process and sort of become obsessed with it!Probably that comes because as we see the technique working initially we start developing expectation to get rid of all possible negative emotions. In my case the attachment was coming from a place where there was desire to overcome emotions which had caused much suffering in my life earlier.While applying this technique especially to the emotion of fear wrt a particular context in my life, I found fear being diminished to an extent and became manageable , but it did not go away completely, so there must be individual karmic propensities at work.Apart from that the technique really helps a lot in many ways.
Thank you ever so much for taking the time to do this video. It was so real and authentic and I resonated so much with what you said, especially around how the average person wont necessarily experience this incredible transformation,. I loved your perspective of "loving the ordinary" is enlightenment, and actually that is what being human is. Just learning to be and accepting the ups / downs and imperfections to life.
Just learned of the book recently and bought the audiobook, on my second listen. Thank you for your review and tips toward the practice. I hope you are doing well in these challenging times. 🙏🏻
Loved this talk. So thoughtful and it helped me to integrate the material in a practical way by hearing what another person has experienced. Thank you.
This was quite fantastic. I'm just diving into the book and I loved when you said.. you reframed it from Letting Go to Letting Be.. Makes alot of sense cause its not a verb!
I think when we do the Letting Go technique for example with fear we become the observer and realize that fear is not who we are. Hawkins is showing us that we can go much higher and as we keep our awareness On the fear it eventually dissolves or dies.
Thank you! you have no idea how much this helped me. Exactly the answers i needed at exactly the right time. (As always, "ask and it is given" ;) ) This has stopped me from getting in a viscious cycle of confusion and clarity and never ending searching. After watching this i had an inner peace and felt like i was whole as i was searching for something that i dont even need. I felt like i did the technique already as it is similar to eckart tolle but I just started reading the book anyway but feel like i dont need to now. Your words felt so clear to me. I was also feeling a bit unsure where awakening or enlightenment can lead you and starting to feel anxious and dissillusioned but hearing your thoughts has made me let go :D I still feel that the technique is helpful and do think it can help heal physical ailments too but now i dont feel like i have to master it or try really hard at it as i haven't got this huge goal and pressure behind it anymore :)
All this is straight out of eastern philosophy. Part of the reason I don't trust guys like Hawkins. Instead saying it's eastern philosophy, they slightly repackage it and sell it as their own idea.
@@themacocko6311 Yes,and there has been so many self help books over the years, prob tens of thousands it's very easy copy or borrow ideas and restate them in your own way., if they only worked!
What a precise experiential review. I tend to cherry pick and and edit anything that tries to sell the book or that is trying to lay something on me other than reveal. But a genuine gift and surely a true labor of love to share your immersion into David Hawkins thoughts. I do love him for his amazing, basic, straight forward, and immediate help with a life crisis.
Thank you ❤ So inspiring.... Self development is not linear.... it goes in a spiral, not sequential advancement (regarding mental understanding and any other aspect), so it makes sense that you'll have to "let go of practicing letting go" at some stage. And i agree with the critique- there's a strong "selling" element to the book.
HI thanks for the very thoughtful & honest review, i am 3/4 of the way through the audio book & am finding a very interesting book, something i would have not been ready for a few years ago, but your input has made me feel a little less inclined to get carried away investing energy looking for transformation. maybe better accepting myself & the situations of life as they are rather than entertaining the grandiose notion becoming somebody different. thanks for the sobering reality check x
I am grateful to have found your video review. I'm going this spiritual journey alone, so hearing your perspective after a year of practice offers insights I feel I need. I began this book several years ago but only got 3/4 read. Recently I found myself st a place of feeling dissatisfied with my life, not typical depression, just apathy. My internal argument against suicide was that it would hurt my grandson and my cat. I figure everyone else would get by and hardly miss me. After the "dark night of my soul" I realized that I no longer feel like myself, no longer do anything other than cook, clean, sleep (or attemp to) then repeat. So this brought me back to this book and a return to spiritual study. After Letting Go, I grabbed Michael A Singer's Living Untethered and some YT videos of Eckhart Tolle. Singer's book went straight to my heart and filled in the voids in my understanding after Letting Go. One of Tolle's talks pointed out (LOL pointed to!) the fact that if we notice that we are unaware...that insight is awareness! So... I'm grateful for your feedback after a year and now look forward to reflecting on my experiences in 11 months. No doubt I will be thinking of you (and the inspiration you have provided) along the way. Thank you.
Thank you so much for the video. I am also with you in that surrender is about letting sthg be, rather than go.... It goes if it wants to go, your concern should not be with it "going" but "being" there without your annoyance. I love Teal Swan's The Completion Process. But my most favourite is Lester Levenson's Releasing Technique. I recommend it: simple, easy and most importantly EFFECTIVE. Have a lovely day!
Excellent talk on.your personal experience with Letting Go. Thank you so much. Nuances, nuances, nuances, that is so true. I always forget that huge point to every practice. We are unique and need to honor that as we practice is what I am hearing?...??
Great job. Really puts the book into perspective. I share your experience with it. - Still very good, but what you say about fear and ailments are very accurate to me. I really liked what you had to say about letting go of letting go.
Ive been practicing this technique for almost a year. Its been getting a bit ugly lately and some dark emotions have been rising up from time to time. My guess is that this means its working and I just need to keep moving forward and accept what comes next. The truth is that for most of my life I have been very numbed out and did everything I could to avoid my feelings. This is the price I must pay for years of neglecting my feelings and self awareness. Thank you for making this video.
Yeah that was so true sir. I was bought this book about 5 months ago and applied the technique since that. On the first month I use the technique, it's very hard for me to feel and understand because I was numbed my feeling for long time, it just very hard for me to be aware of my feeling, I think im on apathy state that time, then after keep doing the mechanism of letting go for 3 months, I started to notice the inner demon, the darkness or what ever it is, and then suddenly I overwhelmed again by the feeling because im suprised, and then often times I doing escapism again by emotionally eating or playing video games to not to feel, but now im still on progress
Thank you for this very thoughtful, heartfelt, and deeply lived talk! I like where you arrived: the humility of being human. Wondering what are the other books in your top five. Peace, brother!
That’s exactly what I wondered too. What are your other top five books? This was such an excellent review of the spiritual journey. Your take away that it’s learning to love and embody being human that is the purpose of our spiritual journey spoke especially to me. I’ve been doing spiritual work for quite awhile and realized recently that my (egos) purpose has been to get rid of this pesky human Part of me that I so deeply disapprove of. I’m now learning to love and embrace me with all my ‘imperfections’. Thank you for this video.
I view the letting-go process like the feeling the issue the emotion, whatever it is you're trying to suppress or repress or be attached to. It is like a beach ball you're trying to submerge underwater and we know how much effort that takes. But if we let go of it, it's surfaces to the top and then floats down the river of our consciousness, never to be thought of again. That is the simple form for me, However, There are other representations that bring up more nuances to the narrative. Like the example of the wounded inner child or the false self.
Could you make another video and describe in details the process how you managed to let go a specific suppressed emotion? This would be very helpful. I mean what occurred step by step.
You know what he never talks about (Hawkins). Why the feelings are there in the first place? What's the purpose of emotion? What if it's to provide a correction to thoughts/beliefs that caused whatever circumstance we're upset about. None of these teachers every talk about why undesirable things happen, especially early in life when we don't actually have many beliefs that would create them.
That's a great question Ashley. An insight that came to me once was not only to endeavor to learn how to not take other people's thoughts personally, but neither take my own personally so to speak. Hawkins did say that "nothing causes anything" if I remember correctly. So from a non-dual pov things just are. When we process on the dualistic level and are endeavoring to unravel our emotional patterning this question is natural. I find perspective in considering the non-dual level in which there is no longer a cause - just an effect. Other answers to your question may include ideas about past lives.. However, I also resonate a lot with Matt Kahn's answer that the answer to any question could only be to give more love to the one (or part in us) asking the question.
@Ashley G. I thought same thing as you. But if I really think about it most of mine come from very early formation toddler years when my Dad’s parenting style put too much fear in me. One day in second grade I reacted. My over reaction was from when I was two years old or less. But I didn’t understand this until I was an old lady and reflected back to where it was coming from because when we are toddlers we can’t process all this. I had to go back and back and back in memory to the first time I had the feeling. It still causes me to be dysfunctional to this very day and I’m working on it because it has caused devastating consequences and cause very bad decisions from fear,.
Tankster - I appreciate your message to AshelyG about your experience as a toddler with a dad whose parenting skills caused you grief and troubles. I am married to a man who had a similar situation with his father. I can see how much it arrested his development and did damage to his experience of living. Do you have any suggestions or advice for me with how I might gently assist him in moving forward, beyond the ingrained patterns. He is not focused on any spiritual unfolding. Anyway , thank you for any insight you may offer Thank you for sharing your own personal experience
@@tankster5826 I recently started learning about morphic fields and listening to morphic resonance audios on TH-cam. I'm not saying they are a fix-all, but they have been extremely helpful for my healing process. There is nothing intellectual about it. Basically, every belief/program has its own energetic state. And a few audio creators. make formulas to target and shift them. Sapien Medicine and Quadible Integrity have several on releasing trauma and unconscious beliefs. Wanted to leave this here for anyone who might come across it. I've also been studying Neville Goddard and the concept of revision. It's where you go back and change the story of the event in your mind. Once it sticks, it ripples forward to the now.
@Lou Mary. Well it depends on how traumatized he is. If he feels strong enough to reflect on his earliest years when he first felt afraid and helpless and who caused it he can reframe it in his mind. My Dad was very immature because he was the baby of the family and had bullying older siblings and abusive alcoholic father. Then we went into military with baggage and came out with more from military. My mother was terminally ill with type 1 diabetes when little was know about control in late 50’s and in 60’s so he had the pressure of providing with low income for medical bills and knowing a child was in tow when she would die. the closer to death she got the worse his behavior got. But he was still a jerk. No excuse for in drinking rage beating a not so well wife. But before all that there were some good times. My biggest relief was when he died. We had reconciled and I had forgiven him and we had an ok relationship but it wasn’t super great. But my fondest memories were the few time I remembered him showing me fun times and delighting in showing me fun and delight. So I try to remember his good points. In going back to the trauma I first looked at it from a toddler viewpoint and how I felt. Then I looked at it from his and Mama’s point of view. One instance when he petted my on the head and brushed my hair like a dog and referred to me as a puppy it was because he was fighting with Mama and the smartellic behavior was aimed a term her not me. He had withdrawn knowing she would die and she challenged him to pay me some attention. SO he did but it was to spite her how he did it. He resented her for not telling him she was terminal before marriage. She didn’t reveal she was a type 1 diabetic. On top of that he remarried and stepmother mom was mentally ill and I got no nurture at all and severe abuse from her plus neglect and some abuse from Dad. That just really sealed my downward spiral. I managed to survive it but getting through school and having a career was successful but challenging. I hung onto my career by the skin of my teeth. I was so traumatized by stepmom and Dad that I couldn’t even revisit it without shaking all over and had flashbacks of it. Now it has faded and I’ve forgotten most of it. I visited her years later after they divorced and just seeing her made me almost have breakdown. Then my half brother from her went to prison 3 times for drugs and killed himself, an adopted brother by her is incarcerated for drugs as well. After my brother killed himself and we spoke I was free of her and able to out her in her place without any issues because I could just see she was crazy as a loon. I had never met anyone as manipulative and degrading to me in my whole life. I was able to call her out on her behavior to her face. So your husband can’t revisit his past unless he can actually handle it. Sometimes it takes a professional and the professional needs to be a good one. Even so if he is not ready he should not do it at all. He will know if he is ready because it will bring relief instead of trauma. I couldn’t even think about my real and sweet mother for years because the pain of losing such a nurturing loving person was too painful since no one replaced her especially. But about 5 years ago I was able to revisit the memories and I made a pilgrimage to where we used to live when life with her was at its best and now I can think about her anytime I want.Another thing I do is rehearse situations before going into them if I am frightened of them such as job interviews, socials or anything that makes me timid and have something lined up to say ahead of time to give me confidence. I work on confidence building skills from youtube videos. I also meditate by reciting repetitive calming statements or do any activity to occupy the mind if anxious. Crochet is great, saying phrases with prayer beads and it doesn’t have to be prayer just anything, and reminding myself I don’t have to deal with things until I’m ready. I have to practice staying in the present moment and not in the past (false guilt and regret) and not in the future (worry of all the what if’s) I’m up in years and wasted many good years I could have enjoyed life. I enjoyed some things but I know without the trauma .I would have gotten way further in life. Even if the future looks awful if I could remind myself to be happy and carefree for right this moment then that is what I need to focus on. It’s hard because the thought patterns get stuck. It’s a practice of work. Sometimes I still embarrass myself and just have to forgive myself and pick myself back up,
I enjoyed this vlog about your experience with letting go. Mine was quite similar but the main difference I think is that I pushed the technique to some extremes also combining it with other methods. Like for example Joe Dispenza "breath" or classic meditation.
Hi Willy, I am just logging back into my YT account today and seeing all these comments. I am humbled by people's responses. I am hoping to make more content in the future though I am not sure when yet. One result I can share about what has happened since is probably the general trend that I feel less pull or reason to "do" or interact in the web of society's constructs etc. - perhaps a result of being able to access inner peace more easily. Not as much need to cling or get entangled in order to play out historical dramas (esp. online). I'd have to brew on it and reflect on my experience more before creating an update video. I am honored and humbled to receive this request though.
Thank you for this open and insightful review! I am 3/4 through the book and already letting go has helped me a lot dealing with some stubborn patterns and given me valuable insights. Near the end you mention this book is in your current top 5. What are the other books high on your list?
Hi reinier - my top 5 would probably include these. I tend to like to give book recommendations based on where people are at and what they are needing, but barring that I find the wisdom and principles in these books to have been essential for me. 1) How To Be an Adult by David Richo. 2) Letting Go by Hawkins. 3) The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. 4) Conscious Loving by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks. 5) The Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt.
Is anyone here familiar with the story of Buddha and Mara? Did you know that Mara means bitterness in Hebrew and Buddha is acknowledging Mara ( who represents the tempter or the one who is contrary to the buddha.he is the evil one, hiding in the bushes, Mara wants to exchange roles with buddha, in essence he wants buddha to be the wicked one and he become the enlightened one. As you may know, Mara represents those things antonymous or antagonistic in nature to enlightenment primarily death ( to) desire and ( by) rebirth. However, these attributes are actually descriptive of the process to enlightenment. biblically it is death burial and resurrection Exampled by the life, death and resurrection of Jesus. Moreover, Mara also represents our wounded inner child, wounds are the issues we care not for and usually if not instructed we run away from. As in the story Buddha Acknowledges Mara, by saying , " I See You", as Mara was hiding in the bushes, just like our unacknowledged and unaccepted issues represented as our wounded inner child, who we care not to acknowledge and accept bc of what they represent, but not acknowledging and accepting we fall into resistance and the war continues. But Buddha seeing Mara and then offers him hospitality and invites him to come into his abode , treats him with love and kindness as an honored guest by firstly hugging him giving him encouraging words and offering him tea and a pillow to sit on. It is the same attitude we should all have, When our wounded inner child appears into our current consciousness. The wounds exists as a result of the acquisition of issues, not yet forgiven, acknowledged or accepted or let go of so that they transform from the negative aspect of issue into the positive aspect of withdrawal from our consciousness. all of our issues not let go of become our wounded inner child, for we are taught by this example that we should acknowledge and accept in hospitality and in loving kindness when we see our wounded inner child hiding in the bushes awaiting to be acknowledged and accepted waiting to be treated with value and honor and to be given hospitality, thus allowing our guest to stay as long as he likes and to be in whatever state he is in, instead of seeking war in resistance of him. for ex. When any issue like rejection is acknowledged , accepted in loving kindness and you give it a place to be, it transforms into its antonymous nature like a caterpillar into a butterfly.Within the tomb of its chrysalis. Thereby in these examples the place where life and death are converted is at the cross ( where life is converted into death) and in the tomb ( where death is converted into new life) death , burial and resurrection. Loneliness transforms into companionship or into solitude but when you are with your inner child you are really never alone. loneliness exists as a result of not acknowledging and accepting your inner child, if you did you would not even feel alone, you would always have company and companionship bc of what value you place upon yourself, in essence when you love your wounded inner child you are loving yourself.So you are never really alone just as long as you are in communication with your inner child. More issues may include; Rejection transforms into acceptance Abandonment into i will never leave you or forsake you. Abuse / neglect into Caring for Betrayal into loyalty faithfulness Degrade / devalue into Value Violated into comply or respect Robbed into compensate Unloved into loved etc. And as this happens in our hearts it augments change in our character and frees us to love those outside of ourselves as we participate in loving our wounded inner child inside of ourselves. This is the key to "healing and becoming" As the issues Contrary to love become that which is place upon it ( acceptance and love ) as exampled by Buddha in this story and by Jesus when he says to love your enemies..... For in doing so your enemy becomes your friend. Another similar view is the natural progression of compost to flower or flower to compost. Either way a death and a burial must occur in order for transformation to happen.
I would love to know what (if anything) is the difference to the technique of "relax & release" shown by Michael A. Singer. Who also promises that it can do everything for you. Could anyone shed a light?
Good question. I'd say probably about 10 months to a year, but I had already done an extensive and intense amount of inner work beforehand, so I'd imagine this would be different for each person. In another way, I'd say that I'm still reaping the benefits of having committed to this technique for a prolonged period of time, in that, having cleared out very deep layers of emotional suppression and repression, I don't experience anxiety as easily as I used to and things like that. Also the added self-knowledge I gained has been very catalytic.
1) Knowing what you know now, what is your advice for beginners starting out on this process? 2) When did you notice results? 3) If your default mode is to suppress, repress, or vent, will doing the process by itself shed these layers?
I would advise start with awareness of your thoughts and emotions. When you notice yourself thinking about the past. I would start by telling myself that’s the past and I’m in the present moment. I release the past and I’m enjoying the power of now. It doesn’t actually mean your ego mind won’t try to protect you by thinking about the past. It just you have a healthy process now that allows you to release the past each time it comes back up. I hope this helps.
You started off on a good point. But then, you tended to get caught up in what I deemed as extreme overthinking the issue. When you spoke of letting go of letting go, why didn't you simply go back to your critiqued interpretation of letting be? And, when you spoke of dying, how did you specifically die? Are you aware that Hawkins had experienced a NDE in his youth? Have you as well? I became more and more confused the more you spoke. It's as though you went down a rabbit hole that tended to contradict everything that Dr. David Hawkins' book addressed in avoiding. As Hawkins suggested, it is important not to label thoughts that arise when embracing feelings. The practice is to simply allow them to run a course until they evaporate. However, it appears that you went into deeper thought and chose to follow your thinking into incredibly cavernous and unanswerable topics. For me, it's as though you ranted on and had begun to dig a hole that got completely away from the heart of the subject that Hawkins is explaining in his book. Your outlook seems to be quite pessimistic which is a reflection purely of your own opinion that wavers from Hawkins' intent to guide and heal people from an aspect of suffering. I wanted to enjoy this video as it was referred by a subsequent other YT video on the book. However, I find your assessment of the material to be a downer, quite frankly. And, what you have expressed is purely your take, and not necessarily something people may want to consider as worthwhile. I certainly found your ranting on as unnecessary and not worthwhile. And, finally, yes... I did read the book.
Hi George, I can see how someone might view my communication style as overthinking, I tend to be a fairly thoughtful person, it is in my nature, it's true. I was not referring to NDEs in my video, though I have had several in my life. The point I was making was about the survival-focused nature of the ego, and as a byproduct, death, will be something that can arise in the process of practicing letting go - that is, one may have to confront and be with their fear of death. Though I wouldn't claim to be a perfect student or teacher of Hawkins' teachings, many of his teachings have paradoxical aspects to them as he teaches on non-duality. For instance, he explained that the main use of the body is communication. Often communication is done through some form of thought. I don't believe thought is to be demonized but rather re-contextualized as we grow and learn, just like many things. May all thoughts, questions, rants, fears of death, pessimistic parts and confusions be embraced and held with compassion and grace.
@@Stoofbird11 Several NDE's?... Interesting! Maybe you're part cat???... IMHO, even your response to my comment is ambiguous. I'd be quite interested in learning about your "several" near death experiences. Perhaps you may want to contact Anthony Chene. He's directed and produced a host of interviews with NDE "survivors." You might want to check them out, they're readily available on YT. From my exploration of NDEs, most experiencers of this phenomenon went through some pretty serious "bone crushing" type accidents, or terminal diseases, most of which only amounted to one episode on an overwhelming average. I've seen that Richard Branson claims to have had some 76 or so NDEs.... Hmmmm??? Pretty curious stuff. What I find annoying in life -- especially on recent popular media (such as YT) -- are claims that tend to evoke a knee-jerk response among humans who want to know "more." Such claims tend to raise justifiable suspicions on my end, especially when floods of views may lead to compensation from advertisers who are limpets to such activity. Authenticity is often a virtue void of advertising. Wishing you the best... and, try to avoid an actual DE with so many NDEs under your belt!
@@georgekiapos1 I do like cats. Never owned one before though. Maybe one day :). Personally, I'm not all that interested in discussing my own NDE's, at least at this point. I am a fairly introverted person altogether and prefer small groups of people I know and trust to discuss my most "out there" sort of experiences. There are already plenty of great documentaries and research on NDE's out there which I feel can satiate anybody's curiosity. I agree with you on the extractive incentives on social media platforms. It is actually one reason I have not made many videos and feel more shy to share more about myself on here. I was very surprised when any of my videos managed to get this many views, esp. since I don't make them consistently or very often. I do not monetize any of my content on here. I haven't made a penny from any of the videos I've created, it's just been to share some of my experience, knowledge and hopefully help others if they resonate. Regarding the subject of authenticity being "sold" - I really appreciated the Black Mirror episode which conveyed this brilliantly. The episode is called "Fifteen Million Merits." All the best to you as well George!
You're telling me. Sometimes truth is stranger than fiction when you get outside the box of your philosophical presuppositions. Not trying to convince you or anyone, but just consider how in physics energy cannot be created or destroyed. It keeps going and everything is interconnected.
@@Stoofbird11 i can understand your perspective and it seems reasonable, However, the bible says, it is appointed to a man once to die and then the judgement . Heb.9:27 if in fact you believe your objective impersonal spirit body is in need of augmentation the bible states it that we are complete yet we are to add to. So as you participate and become one with your suffering within your personal experience, as of course the objective witness to the subjective victim. That it (the subjective victim) might be swallowed up in victory (the objective). So when the corruptible has put on incorruption this Mortal shall put on immortality it shall be brought to pass the saying that has been written death is swallowed up in Victory. Oh death where is thy sting oh grave where is thy victory? 1Cor.15:54-55 bc God has given us great and precious promises that we can participate in the divine nature he calls us to add to our faith, goodness , knowledge, self control. Perseverance , godliness , mutual affection and love, which means that although being perfect as a new creation (our human spirit ( ovum) joined with Gods holy spirit ( sperm = seed and sheman = oil). becomes the new creation. Ref. 2 cor. 5:17, 2Pet.1:1-6 We are to add to that objective witness of our subjective experience.but since we become one with it. The subjective becomes acclimated into the objective. Which means there is a sense of which our personal subjective experience here on earth augments our impersonal objective spirit, in the way i see it , it is that we bring our objective self into the subjective and experience the suffering and that experience is then acclimated into our objective self in the spirit. That seems a good reason for this objective experience of our subjective self on the physical plane. So that we could know suffering intimately while at the same time able to detach, accept or let go of it after we have learned from it and its fire has refined our experience in love. Count it all joy when you fall into divers Temptations Knowing this that the trying of your faith worketh patience. But let patience have her perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete in every part wanting nothing. James 1:2-4 And not only so but we glory in suffering for suffering produces patience and patience experience and experience hope. And hope does not disappoint because Gods love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us. Rom.5:3-5 And you are complete in him, who is the head of all principality and Power. Col.2:10 speaking of Christ. That's just how i see it, i like to learn from others just as much as i like to share. Btw Thanks for your channel! I liked your explanation , it was very informative. Peace to you!
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I got to this via the Dr Hawkins study group. I like how you noted that the practice of Letting Go is described more accurately as “Letting Be”, because instead of trying to push away and let go of the emotion you just let it come up and run its course. Which is painful and something we tend to avoid.
Wow, that's actually a more correct name 💯💯
Can you post a link of the "Dr. Hawking study group?"
Yes what is the study group? Thanks
right cause letting go sounds like its something you do, something the ego dose, it becomes again another form of resistance
“It really doesn’t take that much to feel like it’s survival is threatened” Wow. No wiser words have been spoken about the human ego.
So true. Threat of annihilation runs deep.
The way I look at it so far, it's both about letting be and letting go. The letting be is very related to shadow work - Becoming aware of feelings, "catching" them, "listening" to them, and letting them depart as they have shared their energy. The letting go is a lot about letting go of defense mechanisms that no longer (or ever) serve you, like ideas about one's limitations in life (which is the ego trying to defend us from failure and hurtful feelings, etc). I have come to realize that possibly the biggest challenge I face in my quest for what I consider to be freedom is my incredibly sofisticated and all-encompassing defense mechanisms that hardly even allow me to experience half of what it means to live life, and to me this is the biggest gain from letting go - To trust myself and the universe and accept that all I need is faith, as I have no idea what I'm even supposed to aim for anyhow (or protect myself from).
Much love to all of you out there also seeking freedom, love and serenity, it's a quest that won't fail
Well said. How do you let go of old habits?
@@xorigt observe them before they rise up and notice it’s an opportunity for you to change the habit. If you think about doing the habit for a long time you will. But if you catch before you want to do it, observe it then you have an opportunity not to do it. Key is to catch yourself right before you want to do it.
Ah that's an amazing and insightful distinction cpt.tjuck, I love it. The journey is so deep, I continue to learn and unfold more and more. Wishing everyone love, compassion and grace on their quest as well. And may we also enjoy the journey rather than trying to rush to any perceived static mountaintop or goal! I need to remind myself of this. And holding and loving all shadow parts and defense mechanisms with compassion and grace.
@@Stoofbird11 Preach, gotta relax more, easy to get lost in the chase for freedom, blooming, or whatever
@Zorigt Bazarragchaa
Replace the habit with a positive new healthy habit or an affirmation phrase. Also visualize the person you want to be as yourself and act that out daily not the part of yourself you are disappointed in. Let’s say you want to stop using curse words. Then imagine yourself as some peaceful monk who has great control and soft gentle clean speech and act like that. Use the imagery in your mind to change the behavior and keep thwt image in your mind all day. If it is smoking or some vice then have to get rid of all the triggers. I quit smoking and for a whole year or so couldn’t go into a public space that had people smoking in it or be around smokers. If Im did get exposed to smokers I had to concentrate real hard several hours later to not relapse. Took two years for that to go away. Now I’m very allergic to smoke and can’t stand it.
Very interesting. I had the same experience with the psychological death/Egodeath. But for me it was like that: i was starting the Letting Go Technique and was feeling out a deep fear. I was doing that for 2 weeks and then it happend. I was laying on a bench in a park and feeling this deep fear in my solar plexus. Then it felt like i got to the source of it. And my mind paniced like crazy: „IF YOU DO THAT YOU GONNA DIE“ this was what i heard in a very loud and concerned way. My first thought was. When my mind says that i especially have to do it 😂. The next moment i went in that fear and then i can’t remember what happened. I woke up 5 / 10 / 15 minutes after and i couldn’t say how much time went by but u guess it was about 15 minutes. I stood up and everything has changed. I was feeling like i was freshly born. The feeling was amazing. I was in a pretty bad spot before leading to my start of letting go. The feeling was so incredibly freeing and i was so euphoric. 2 days of pure bliss went by feeling nonstop like my soul was completely free. I talked to people like i never had anxiety. And then 2 days later the negative thoughts came back and i felt the negative emotions fillling up my body again. And one moment to the next i was getting to the same point i was before. Except i have no feeling of angst anymore. I mean i still fear stuff and experience fear but that underlaying emption of fear of death went away. This was a crazy experience and it showed me, that letting go is 100% the way for me. It showed me a state u could reach full of bliss and joyment without any drugs. I felt what i could feel without all the gabbage im packed. Now im 1 year into letting go several hours a day. I dedicated my whole life it it. Never felt any betttet then now. Still letting go alot of stuff. Now more od heavy insecurity feelings. Went through a fucking ton of grief cried every day for 3 months. Hardest time of my life. And in my deepest core was apathy. In this hole i decided for myself, that i want to live and from there it went only up again
This was such a calm, thoughtful, and in-depth review. Thank you! 🙏🏽✨
I am avoiding letting go by watching another video about letting go
ahaha judging by the likes on your comment you are not alone Dom! And at least you are aware of what you are doing ;)
i listened to the audio book, it has so must Insight and i apply it with my Christian Path.... in Psalm 46:10 it says to Be Still and Know I AM God... when i become Still i feel Gods Presence and a Peace Which Surpasses all Understanding.. ive learned that Surrender is Acceptance!! When we Surrender to God and Life, when we say "Yes" to what is, The Peace floods our hearts and there is a deep "Knowing" in The Heart, not the mind!!
So true
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@Andrew Ortiz
Surrender is confusing to me because it means to me that God could still remove the problem for me which is the opposite of acceptance, I wish the Bible had the nuts and bolts of these teachings in it to help us. A person can glean similar ideas from the Bible as Hawkins teaches but it is hard to pick through scripture and put it all together in the same understanding,
@@tankster5826 it's like A Divine Paradox! You are already Surrendered. Everything that is appearing in your Life right Now is appearing because it has already been Allowed and Accepted. We are already Surrendered, we just have to Recognize It. We Recognize that God is controlling events and in Surrender, we can have no likes or dislikes to what happens but just an inner "Yes"! Saying "Yes" to it all even the ups and downs and the sorrows and Joys. Its all Accepted. And when We are Aware of That Inner Acceptable in us, There Is A Deep Deep Peace which Surpasses all understanding. Surrender brings Instant Peace. Whatever happens, it's all good!! True Surrender Is Unconditional. For example: "God even if you want this problem to remain in my Life, that's what I want. True Surrender doesn't have alterior motives. We must Surrender Unconditional without hidden motives or agendas. " I will Surrender so God can take away this suffering" that's not true Surrender. True Surrender is Saying "Yes" to the suffering even if God doesn't remove it. If we are struggling to Surrender and are in resistance, we even say "Yes" to that too. If we are unable, we Say Yes to that too and The Peace Of God comes Instantly!
@Andrew Ortiz. Thanks Andrew. Going through darkest time of my life. Worst thing imaginable. Doesn’t look like God will remove it. He used to rescue me from things but he is quiet now. Will be like a long term physical purgatory on earth. Nothing I can do to change it either. I should have risen above it so these consequences not come but I failed. Now I have to deal with the fall out. Satan gave up tempting me with vices. This one came through a long term attack on health. When super bad things happen it is hard to believe God lets us fall into these things.
Just by watching video, I can see in your body language and mannerisms that you are living what this book is preaching - you look so calm & at ease - this was a great video thank you for posting this- as I sit here apathetic AF, feeling extremely sluggish I understand this book now with the “LET IT BE” tecnique, you explained this perfect thank you!- I’ll continue watching now haha
What a refreshing explanation of the letting go technique. Thank you for sharing your experience. It was truly an honour to receive your message 👏🙏💙
Thanks for your balanced review.... you respectfully explained the pros and cons of the book and took the sincere time and effort to put the ideas into action... this is one of the deepest explanations I have found for any book or suggested technique..
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@@ZenPepperClub I don't think so... maybe I should join ancestry.com :)
Thanks for sharing your experience!! I too, am applying the technique from last 9 months and wanted to hear from somebody who has applied this diligently for some time.Apart from the numerous benefits already told by you, one thing that you mentioned is while applying this technique clinging (attachment) to the letting go comes in the way.Thanks for bringing that out! When applying this technique becomes a habit we unconsciously get attached to the process and sort of become obsessed with it!Probably that comes because as we see the technique working initially we start developing expectation to get rid of all possible negative emotions. In my case the attachment was coming from a place where there was desire to overcome emotions which had caused much suffering in my life earlier.While applying this technique especially to the emotion of fear wrt a particular context in my life, I found fear being diminished to an extent and became manageable , but it did not go away completely, so there must be individual karmic propensities at work.Apart from that the technique really helps a lot in many ways.
Thank you ever so much for taking the time to do this video. It was so real and authentic and I resonated so much with what you said, especially around how the average person wont necessarily experience this incredible transformation,. I loved your perspective of "loving the ordinary" is enlightenment, and actually that is what being human is. Just learning to be and accepting the ups / downs and imperfections to life.
thank you . appreciate your courage and honesty.. a lot of wisdom there...thanks
Just learned of the book recently and bought the audiobook, on my second listen. Thank you for your review and tips toward the practice. I hope you are doing well in these challenging times. 🙏🏻
Loved this talk. So thoughtful and it helped me to integrate the material in a practical way by hearing what another person has experienced. Thank you.
You are a blessing to this world thank you so much for sharing
Great talk. It's taken me forever to be able to appreciate
What a gentle soul you are and your sharing is extremely clear. Good job!😊
Very well articulated Sir 🙏 VERY APPRECIATED!!!🌈
Excellent video. You did the work and pulled out the essential points. Very helpful. Thank you.
I haven't seen the whole video yet, but I appreciate the emphasis on being gentle and patient with yourself. I appreciate the quality content.
This was quite fantastic. I'm just diving into the book and I loved when you said.. you reframed it from Letting Go to Letting Be.. Makes alot of sense cause its not a verb!
I think when we do the Letting Go technique for example with fear we become the observer and realize that fear is not who we are. Hawkins is showing us that we can go much higher and as we keep our awareness On the fear it eventually dissolves or dies.
Thank you! you have no idea how much this helped me. Exactly the answers i needed at exactly the right time. (As always, "ask and it is given" ;) )
This has stopped me from getting in a viscious cycle of confusion and clarity and never ending searching. After watching this i had an inner peace and felt like i was whole as i was searching for something that i dont even need.
I felt like i did the technique already as it is similar to eckart tolle but I just started reading the book anyway but feel like i dont need to now.
Your words felt so clear to me. I was also feeling a bit unsure where awakening or enlightenment can lead you and starting to feel anxious and dissillusioned but hearing your thoughts has made me let go :D
I still feel that the technique is helpful and do think it can help heal physical ailments too but now i dont feel like i have to master it or try really hard at it as i haven't got this huge goal and pressure behind it anymore :)
Incredible review and the insight really resonated. Thanks for sharing your experiences ❤️
This is classic mindfulness. I'm working on this as well, just feel the feeling and welcome it with compassion.
All this is straight out of eastern philosophy. Part of the reason I don't trust guys like Hawkins. Instead saying it's eastern philosophy, they slightly repackage it and sell it as their own idea.
@@themacocko6311 Yes,and there has been so many self help books over the years, prob tens of thousands
it's very easy copy or borrow ideas and restate them in your own way.,
if they only worked!
What a precise experiential review. I tend to cherry pick and and edit anything that tries to sell the book or that is trying to lay something on me other than reveal. But a genuine gift and surely a true labor of love to share your immersion into David Hawkins thoughts. I do love him for his amazing, basic, straight forward, and immediate help with a life crisis.
Thank you ❤ So inspiring....
Self development is not linear.... it goes in a spiral, not sequential advancement (regarding mental understanding and any other aspect), so it makes sense that you'll have to "let go of practicing letting go" at some stage.
And i agree with the critique- there's a strong "selling" element to the book.
When you let go of practicing letting go, you're already practicing letting go again 😆
@@aichi337 It's turtles (letting go, surrender) all the way down ;) Paradoxes, yes.
Thank you for this profound explanation. I really like the way you describe all this aspects 😊
"Being human is the goal"
Wooooo. Holy moly
You have come far, Young Grasshopper. Peace to you on your life's journey.
HI thanks for the very thoughtful & honest review, i am 3/4 of the way through the audio book & am finding a very interesting book, something i would have not been ready for a few years ago, but your input has made me feel a little less inclined to get carried away investing energy looking for transformation. maybe better accepting myself & the situations of life as they are rather than entertaining the grandiose notion becoming somebody different. thanks for the sobering reality check x
Very interesting description of your experience and review of the book.
I am grateful to have found your video review. I'm going this spiritual journey alone, so hearing your perspective after a year of practice offers insights I feel I need.
I began this book several years ago but only got 3/4 read. Recently I found myself st a place of feeling dissatisfied with my life, not typical depression, just apathy. My internal argument against suicide was that it would hurt my grandson and my cat. I figure everyone else would get by and hardly miss me. After the "dark night of my soul" I realized that I no longer feel like myself, no longer do anything other than cook, clean, sleep (or attemp to) then repeat. So this brought me back to this book and a return to spiritual study.
After Letting Go, I grabbed Michael A Singer's Living Untethered and some YT videos of Eckhart Tolle. Singer's book went straight to my heart and filled in the voids in my understanding after Letting Go. One of Tolle's talks pointed out (LOL pointed to!) the fact that if we notice that we are unaware...that insight is awareness!
So... I'm grateful for your feedback after a year and now look forward to reflecting on my experiences in 11 months. No doubt I will be thinking of you (and the inspiration you have provided) along the way. Thank you.
Great video. Love your content hope you make more videos soon. Also subscribed!
Thank you so much for the video. I am also with you in that surrender is about letting sthg be, rather than go.... It goes if it wants to go, your concern should not be with it "going" but "being" there without your annoyance. I love Teal Swan's The Completion Process. But my most favourite is Lester Levenson's Releasing Technique. I recommend it: simple, easy and most importantly EFFECTIVE. Have a lovely day!
Thank you for this nice review!
Excellent talk on.your personal experience with Letting Go. Thank you so much. Nuances, nuances, nuances, that is so true. I always forget that huge point to every practice. We are unique and need to honor that as we practice is what I am hearing?...??
I hope your doing well. You should make more videos. Keep going strong 💪 :-)
Great job. Really puts the book into perspective. I share your experience with it. - Still very good, but what you say about fear and ailments are very accurate to me. I really liked what you had to say about letting go of letting go.
Really well done I enjoyed it thoroughly
Ive been practicing this technique for almost a year. Its been getting a bit ugly lately and some dark emotions have been rising up from time to time. My guess is that this means its working and I just need to keep moving forward and accept what comes next. The truth is that for most of my life I have been very numbed out and did everything I could to avoid my feelings. This is the price I must pay for years of neglecting my feelings and self awareness. Thank you for making this video.
Yeah that was so true sir. I was bought this book about 5 months ago and applied the technique since that. On the first month I use the technique, it's very hard for me to feel and understand because I was numbed my feeling for long time, it just very hard for me to be aware of my feeling, I think im on apathy state that time, then after keep doing the mechanism of letting go for 3 months, I started to notice the inner demon, the darkness or what ever it is, and then suddenly I overwhelmed again by the feeling because im suprised, and then often times I doing escapism again by emotionally eating or playing video games to not to feel, but now im still on progress
Sorry, I cant speak english clearly
@@zamiremia Don't be. I understood you just fine. Thanks for sharing your experience and keep walking the path.
@@johnkeyes8633 yes sir thank you, farewell
@@zamiremia i hope you could battle your demons better and have more inner peace in you !! 🌸
Thank you for this very thoughtful, heartfelt, and deeply lived talk! I like where you arrived: the humility of being human. Wondering what are the other books in your top five. Peace, brother!
That’s exactly what I wondered too. What are your other top five books? This was such an excellent review of the spiritual journey. Your take away that it’s learning to love and embody being human that is the purpose of our spiritual journey spoke especially to me. I’ve been doing spiritual work for quite awhile and realized recently that my (egos) purpose has been to get rid of this pesky human Part of me that I so deeply disapprove of. I’m now learning to love and embrace me with all my ‘imperfections’. Thank you for this video.
I view the letting-go process like the feeling the issue the emotion, whatever it is you're trying to suppress or repress or be attached to.
It is like a beach ball you're trying to submerge underwater and we know how much effort that takes.
But if we let go of it, it's surfaces to the top and then floats down the river of our consciousness, never to be thought of again. That is the simple form for me,
However, There are other representations that bring up more nuances to the narrative.
Like the example of the wounded inner child or the false self.
very authentic review! thanks
You are authentic....that is enough.
would welcome a follow up as to your further insights .. an essential topic
Could you make another video and describe in details the process how you managed to let go a specific suppressed emotion? This would be very helpful. I mean what occurred step by step.
Wonderful video thank you 🙏🙌
beautiful sharing - thank you
Just finished it. Nothing to report yet but thanks so much for sharing your experience. It means alot.
The transformation comes agter practicing it and diving deep in your pain. How its going? Do you started practicing?
Life changing book 🙏❤👌
You know what he never talks about (Hawkins). Why the feelings are there in the first place? What's the purpose of emotion? What if it's to provide a correction to thoughts/beliefs that caused whatever circumstance we're upset about. None of these teachers every talk about why undesirable things happen, especially early in life when we don't actually have many beliefs that would create them.
That's a great question Ashley. An insight that came to me once was not only to endeavor to learn how to not take other people's thoughts personally, but neither take my own personally so to speak. Hawkins did say that "nothing causes anything" if I remember correctly. So from a non-dual pov things just are. When we process on the dualistic level and are endeavoring to unravel our emotional patterning this question is natural. I find perspective in considering the non-dual level in which there is no longer a cause - just an effect. Other answers to your question may include ideas about past lives.. However, I also resonate a lot with Matt Kahn's answer that the answer to any question could only be to give more love to the one (or part in us) asking the question.
@Ashley G. I thought same thing as you. But if I really think about it most of mine come from very early formation toddler years when my Dad’s parenting style put too much fear in me. One day in second grade I reacted. My over reaction was from when I was two years old or less. But I didn’t understand this until I was an old lady and reflected back to where it was coming from because when we are toddlers we can’t process all this. I had to go back and back and back in memory to the first time I had the feeling. It still causes me to be dysfunctional to this very day and I’m working on it because it has caused devastating consequences and cause very bad decisions from fear,.
Tankster - I appreciate your message to AshelyG about your experience as a toddler with a dad whose parenting skills caused you grief and troubles. I am married to a man who had a similar situation with his father.
I can see how much it arrested his development and did damage to his experience of living. Do you have any suggestions or advice for me with how I might gently assist him in moving forward, beyond the ingrained patterns. He is not focused on any spiritual unfolding.
Anyway , thank you for any insight you may offer
Thank you for sharing your own personal experience
@@tankster5826 I recently started learning about morphic fields and listening to morphic resonance audios on TH-cam. I'm not saying they are a fix-all, but they have been extremely helpful for my healing process.
There is nothing intellectual about it. Basically, every belief/program has its own energetic state. And a few audio creators. make formulas to target and shift them. Sapien Medicine and Quadible Integrity have several on releasing trauma and unconscious beliefs. Wanted to leave this here for anyone who might come across it.
I've also been studying Neville Goddard and the concept of revision. It's where you go back and change the story of the event in your mind. Once it sticks, it ripples forward to the now.
@Lou Mary. Well it depends on how traumatized he is. If he feels strong enough to reflect on his earliest years when he first felt afraid and helpless and who caused it he can reframe it in his mind. My Dad was very immature because he was the baby of the family and had bullying older siblings and abusive alcoholic father. Then we went into military with baggage and came out with more from military. My mother was terminally ill with type 1 diabetes when little was know about control in late 50’s and in 60’s so he had the pressure of providing with low income for medical bills and knowing a child was in tow when she would die. the closer to death she got the worse his behavior got. But he was still a jerk. No excuse for in drinking rage beating a not so well wife. But before all that there were some good times. My biggest relief was when he died. We had reconciled and I had forgiven him and we had an ok relationship but it wasn’t super great. But my fondest memories were the few time I remembered him showing me fun times and delighting in showing me fun and delight. So I try to remember his good points. In going back to the trauma I first looked at it from a toddler viewpoint and how I felt. Then I looked at it from his and Mama’s point of view. One instance when he petted my on the head and brushed my hair like a dog and referred to me as a puppy it was because he was fighting with Mama and the smartellic behavior was aimed a term her not me. He had withdrawn knowing she would die and she challenged him to pay me some attention. SO he did but it was to spite her how he did it. He resented her for not telling him she was terminal before marriage. She didn’t reveal she was a type 1 diabetic. On top of that he remarried and stepmother mom was mentally ill and I got no nurture at all and severe abuse from her plus neglect and some abuse from Dad. That just really sealed my downward spiral. I managed to survive it but getting through school and having a career was successful but challenging. I hung onto my career by the skin of my teeth. I was so traumatized by stepmom and Dad that I couldn’t even revisit it without shaking all over and had flashbacks of it. Now it has faded and I’ve forgotten most of it. I visited her years later after they divorced and just seeing her made me almost have breakdown. Then my half brother from her went to prison 3 times for drugs and killed himself, an adopted brother by her is incarcerated for drugs as well. After my brother killed himself and we spoke I was free of her and able to out her in her place without any issues because I could just see she was crazy as a loon. I had never met anyone as manipulative and degrading to me in my whole life. I was able to call her out on her behavior to her face. So your husband can’t revisit his past unless he can actually handle it. Sometimes it takes a professional and the professional needs to be a good one. Even so if he is not ready he should not do it at all. He will know if he is ready because it will bring relief instead of trauma. I couldn’t even think about my real and sweet mother for years because the pain of losing such a nurturing loving person was too painful since no one replaced her especially. But about 5 years ago I was able to revisit the memories and I made a pilgrimage to where we used to live when life with her was at its best and now I can think about her anytime I want.Another thing I do is rehearse situations before going into them if I am frightened of them such as job interviews, socials or anything that makes me timid and have something lined up to say ahead of time to give me confidence. I work on confidence building skills from youtube videos. I also meditate by reciting repetitive calming statements or do any activity to occupy the mind if anxious. Crochet is great, saying phrases with prayer beads and it doesn’t have to be prayer just anything, and reminding myself I don’t have to deal with things until I’m ready. I have to practice staying in the present moment and not in the past (false guilt and regret) and not in the future (worry of all the what if’s) I’m up in years and wasted many good years I could have enjoyed life. I enjoyed some things but I know without the trauma .I would have gotten way further in life. Even if the future looks awful if I could remind myself to be happy and carefree for right this moment then that is what I need to focus on. It’s hard because the thought patterns get stuck. It’s a practice of work. Sometimes I still embarrass myself and just have to forgive myself and pick myself back up,
I enjoyed this vlog about your experience with letting go. Mine was quite similar but the main difference I think is that I pushed the technique to some extremes also combining it with other methods. Like for example Joe Dispenza "breath" or classic meditation.
Learn about Islam it will help u alot with Joe dispenza technique
@@chossenone9508 Not really. Buddhism is better. Islam has too many rules. This is about letting go.
Amazing!
Hows it going? Would enjoy another update but if not that is fine :)
Can you do an update on how you are ,where you are after three years of practicing letting go/'doing nothing'?
Hi Willy, I am just logging back into my YT account today and seeing all these comments. I am humbled by people's responses. I am hoping to make more content in the future though I am not sure when yet. One result I can share about what has happened since is probably the general trend that I feel less pull or reason to "do" or interact in the web of society's constructs etc. - perhaps a result of being able to access inner peace more easily. Not as much need to cling or get entangled in order to play out historical dramas (esp. online). I'd have to brew on it and reflect on my experience more before creating an update video. I am honored and humbled to receive this request though.
@@Stoofbird11 looking very forward to watch your introspection if u chose to film one ☺️🌸
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Thank you for this open and insightful review! I am 3/4 through the book and already letting go has helped me a lot dealing with some stubborn patterns and given me valuable insights.
Near the end you mention this book is in your current top 5. What are the other books high on your list?
Hi reinier - my top 5 would probably include these. I tend to like to give book recommendations based on where people are at and what they are needing, but barring that I find the wisdom and principles in these books to have been essential for me. 1) How To Be an Adult by David Richo. 2) Letting Go by Hawkins. 3) The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. 4) Conscious Loving by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks. 5) The Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt.
Interesting. I have been going back and forth in reading excerpts of both 1 & 2 for the last couple of years.
Is anyone here familiar with the story of Buddha and Mara? Did you know that Mara means bitterness in Hebrew and Buddha is acknowledging Mara ( who represents the tempter or the one who is contrary to the buddha.he is the evil one, hiding in the bushes, Mara wants to exchange roles with buddha, in essence he wants buddha to be the wicked one and he become the enlightened one.
As you may know, Mara represents those things antonymous or antagonistic in nature to enlightenment primarily death ( to) desire and ( by) rebirth.
However, these attributes are actually descriptive of the process to enlightenment.
biblically it is death burial and resurrection Exampled by the life, death and resurrection of Jesus.
Moreover, Mara also represents our wounded inner child, wounds are the issues we care not for and usually if not instructed we run away from.
As in the story Buddha Acknowledges Mara, by saying , " I See You", as Mara was hiding in the bushes, just like our unacknowledged and unaccepted issues represented as our wounded inner child, who we care not to acknowledge and accept bc of what they represent, but not acknowledging and accepting we fall into resistance and the war continues.
But Buddha seeing Mara and then offers him hospitality and invites him to come into his abode , treats him with love and kindness as an honored guest by firstly hugging him giving him encouraging words and offering him tea and a pillow to sit on.
It is the same attitude we should all have, When our wounded inner child appears into our current consciousness.
The wounds exists as a result of the acquisition of issues, not yet forgiven, acknowledged or accepted or let go of so that they transform from the negative aspect of issue into the positive aspect of withdrawal from our consciousness.
all of our issues not let go of become our wounded inner child, for we are taught by this example that we should acknowledge and accept in hospitality and in loving kindness when we see our wounded inner child hiding in the bushes awaiting to be acknowledged and accepted waiting to be treated with value and honor and to be given hospitality, thus allowing our guest to stay as long as he likes and to be in whatever state he is in, instead of seeking war in resistance of him.
for ex. When any issue like rejection is acknowledged , accepted in loving kindness and you give it a place to be, it transforms into its antonymous nature like a caterpillar into a butterfly.Within the tomb of its chrysalis.
Thereby in these examples the place where life and death are converted is at the cross ( where life is converted into death) and in the tomb ( where death is converted into new life) death , burial and resurrection.
Loneliness transforms into companionship or into solitude
but when you are with your inner child you are really never alone. loneliness exists as a result of not acknowledging and accepting your inner child, if you did you would not even feel alone, you would always have company and companionship bc of what value you place upon yourself, in essence when you love your wounded inner child you are loving yourself.So you are never really alone just as long as you are in communication with your inner child.
More issues may include;
Rejection transforms into acceptance
Abandonment into
i will never leave you or forsake you.
Abuse / neglect into Caring for
Betrayal into loyalty faithfulness
Degrade / devalue into Value
Violated into comply or respect
Robbed into compensate
Unloved into loved etc.
And as this happens in our hearts it augments change in our character and frees us to love those outside of ourselves as we participate in loving our wounded inner child inside of ourselves. This is the key to "healing and becoming" As the issues Contrary to love become that which is place upon it ( acceptance and love ) as exampled by Buddha in this story and by Jesus when he says to love your enemies.....
For in doing so your enemy becomes your friend.
Another similar view is the natural progression of compost to flower or flower to compost. Either way a death and a burial must occur in order for transformation to happen.
Can you give us an update? We miss you.
Enjoy this video, would love to get a copy. Does anyone want to share the audio,. Thanks 🙏🏽
WAHHHH AMAZING! :D Thanks for this!
How's it going? Are you still Letting Go? I just found this book/technique a couple wks ago and am eager to try!!✨
I would love to know what (if anything) is the difference to the technique of "relax & release" shown by Michael A. Singer. Who also promises that it can do everything for you. Could anyone shed a light?
5 years later now.. do you still think about the book?
What a handsome sweater.
what are the other 4 books? :)
What are the top books you can recommend?
Are there any follow ups to this video?
letting go + semen retention + Wim hof method + meditation = GOD MODE!!
About how long of doing this technique until you got diminishing returns?
Good question. I'd say probably about 10 months to a year, but I had already done an extensive and intense amount of inner work beforehand, so I'd imagine this would be different for each person. In another way, I'd say that I'm still reaping the benefits of having committed to this technique for a prolonged period of time, in that, having cleared out very deep layers of emotional suppression and repression, I don't experience anxiety as easily as I used to and things like that. Also the added self-knowledge I gained has been very catalytic.
@@Stoofbird11 how do you know you've done inner work?
This is also the Sedona Method.
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You've mentioned your being PG, what is your IQ? Thanks
how are you doing?
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Escape as in addiction.
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Stoofbird11" Your other "top five books"?
1) Knowing what you know now, what is your advice for beginners starting out on this process?
2) When did you notice results?
3) If your default mode is to suppress, repress, or vent, will doing the process by itself shed these layers?
It's paradoxical, if you are looking results, then you haven't let it go.
I would advise start with awareness of your thoughts and emotions. When you notice yourself thinking about the past. I would start by telling myself that’s the past and I’m in the present moment. I release the past and I’m enjoying the power of now. It doesn’t actually mean your ego mind won’t try to protect you by thinking about the past. It just you have a healthy process now that allows you to release the past each time it comes back up. I hope this helps.
I did that 1.25 speed
And yeah you r welcome !!
Copied for a gain to themselves . Krishnamurti never did big difference
You started off on a good point. But then, you tended to get caught up in what I deemed as extreme overthinking the issue. When you spoke of letting go of letting go, why didn't you simply go back to your critiqued interpretation of letting be? And, when you spoke of dying, how did you specifically die? Are you aware that Hawkins had experienced a NDE in his youth? Have you as well? I became more and more confused the more you spoke. It's as though you went down a rabbit hole that tended to contradict everything that Dr. David Hawkins' book addressed in avoiding. As Hawkins suggested, it is important not to label thoughts that arise when embracing feelings. The practice is to simply allow them to run a course until they evaporate. However, it appears that you went into deeper thought and chose to follow your thinking into incredibly cavernous and unanswerable topics. For me, it's as though you ranted on and had begun to dig a hole that got completely away from the heart of the subject that Hawkins is explaining in his book. Your outlook seems to be quite pessimistic which is a reflection purely of your own opinion that wavers from Hawkins' intent to guide and heal people from an aspect of suffering. I wanted to enjoy this video as it was referred by a subsequent other YT video on the book. However, I find your assessment of the material to be a downer, quite frankly. And, what you have expressed is purely your take, and not necessarily something people may want to consider as worthwhile. I certainly found your ranting on as unnecessary and not worthwhile. And, finally, yes... I did read the book.
Hi George, I can see how someone might view my communication style as overthinking, I tend to be a fairly thoughtful person, it is in my nature, it's true. I was not referring to NDEs in my video, though I have had several in my life. The point I was making was about the survival-focused nature of the ego, and as a byproduct, death, will be something that can arise in the process of practicing letting go - that is, one may have to confront and be with their fear of death. Though I wouldn't claim to be a perfect student or teacher of Hawkins' teachings, many of his teachings have paradoxical aspects to them as he teaches on non-duality. For instance, he explained that the main use of the body is communication. Often communication is done through some form of thought. I don't believe thought is to be demonized but rather re-contextualized as we grow and learn, just like many things. May all thoughts, questions, rants, fears of death, pessimistic parts and confusions be embraced and held with compassion and grace.
@@Stoofbird11 Several NDE's?... Interesting! Maybe you're part cat???... IMHO, even your response to my comment is ambiguous. I'd be quite interested in learning about your "several" near death experiences. Perhaps you may want to contact Anthony Chene. He's directed and produced a host of interviews with NDE "survivors." You might want to check them out, they're readily available on YT. From my exploration of NDEs, most experiencers of this phenomenon went through some pretty serious "bone crushing" type accidents, or terminal diseases, most of which only amounted to one episode on an overwhelming average. I've seen that Richard Branson claims to have had some 76 or so NDEs.... Hmmmm??? Pretty curious stuff. What I find annoying in life -- especially on recent popular media (such as YT) -- are claims that tend to evoke a knee-jerk response among humans who want to know "more." Such claims tend to raise justifiable suspicions on my end, especially when floods of views may lead to compensation from advertisers who are limpets to such activity. Authenticity is often a virtue void of advertising. Wishing you the best... and, try to avoid an actual DE with so many NDEs under your belt!
@@georgekiapos1 I do like cats. Never owned one before though. Maybe one day :). Personally, I'm not all that interested in discussing my own NDE's, at least at this point. I am a fairly introverted person altogether and prefer small groups of people I know and trust to discuss my most "out there" sort of experiences. There are already plenty of great documentaries and research on NDE's out there which I feel can satiate anybody's curiosity. I agree with you on the extractive incentives on social media platforms. It is actually one reason I have not made many videos and feel more shy to share more about myself on here. I was very surprised when any of my videos managed to get this many views, esp. since I don't make them consistently or very often. I do not monetize any of my content on here. I haven't made a penny from any of the videos I've created, it's just been to share some of my experience, knowledge and hopefully help others if they resonate. Regarding the subject of authenticity being "sold" - I really appreciated the Black Mirror episode which conveyed this brilliantly. The episode is called "Fifteen Million Merits." All the best to you as well George!
They all got it from Jiddu Krishnamurti. They have just copied it
But...it is explained in current terms, wordage, which delivers it to today's readers.The goal is to get the info out to all.
Nothing is owned
@@user-ni8gq1cq6e everything belongs to god
The technique probably isn’t for just anyone.
Even if reincarnation existed you don't use this life to try and work out issues from your past life that's ridiculous!
You're telling me. Sometimes truth is stranger than fiction when you get outside the box of your philosophical presuppositions. Not trying to convince you or anyone, but just consider how in physics energy cannot be created or destroyed. It keeps going and everything is interconnected.
@@Stoofbird11 i can understand your perspective and it seems reasonable,
However, the bible says, it is appointed to a man once to die and then the judgement . Heb.9:27
if in fact you believe your objective impersonal spirit body is in need of augmentation the bible states it that we are complete yet we are to add to.
So as you participate and become one with your suffering within your personal experience, as of course the objective witness to the subjective victim. That it (the subjective victim) might be swallowed up in victory (the objective).
So when the corruptible has put on incorruption this Mortal shall put on immortality it shall be brought to pass the saying that has been written death is swallowed up in Victory. Oh death where is thy sting oh grave where is thy victory?
1Cor.15:54-55
bc God has given us great and precious promises that we can participate in the divine nature he calls us to add to our faith, goodness , knowledge, self control. Perseverance , godliness , mutual affection and love, which means that although being perfect as a new creation (our human spirit ( ovum) joined with Gods holy spirit ( sperm = seed and sheman = oil). becomes the new creation. Ref. 2 cor. 5:17, 2Pet.1:1-6
We are to add to that objective witness of our subjective experience.but since we become one with it. The subjective becomes acclimated into the objective.
Which means there is a sense of which our personal subjective experience here on earth augments our impersonal objective spirit, in the way i see it , it is that we bring our objective self into the subjective and experience the suffering and that experience is then acclimated into our objective self in the spirit.
That seems a good reason for this objective experience of our subjective self on the physical plane. So that we could know suffering intimately while at the same time able to detach, accept or let go of it after we have learned from it and its fire has refined our experience in love.
Count it all joy when you fall into divers Temptations Knowing this that the trying of your faith worketh patience. But let patience have her perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete in every part wanting nothing. James 1:2-4
And not only so but we glory in suffering for suffering produces patience and patience experience and experience hope. And hope does not disappoint because Gods love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us. Rom.5:3-5
And you are complete in him, who is the head of all principality and Power. Col.2:10 speaking of Christ.
That's just how i see it, i like to learn from others just as much as i like to share. Btw Thanks for your channel!
I liked your explanation , it was very informative.
Peace to you!