It took me decades to realize this: not liking what a person does = I don't like the person. Therefore, stay away from the person, and if that's not possible, expect nothing from the person and keep my mouth shut. I wish I learned that as a child. But then that would have meant I didn't like my parents, and that would have been too terrifying for a child.
I know that woman (Elizabeth Ann Hanson) If you were born and raised in new York you'd know too, she's my family's Broker for 3yrs till now and a very good one if you asked me. No doubt she is the one that helped you get where you are!!!!
😭 I needed this video today! Thank you so much! I have a terrible time self regulating & I truly prefer to retreat! I’m determined to stop the cycle, but it’s super exhausting mentally & emotionally! I salute everyone on this path ❤
I'm concerned when that boundary is jumped over by that crazy dog. I finally built a fence. The dog finally got the message and couldn't climb it. I heard barking, i looked over, and an apology came. I wasn't sure. Yep, the old behavior showed up. I decided I didn't want to play anymore, I'm no contact, never to return. If YOU want to change, you have to be a WILLING participant.
12:00: Oh my good night. This is so challenging! It makes so much sense at the time to want to connect and explain and be heard, blah, blah, blah and it NEVER works. Thank you for this detailed description and steps about how to manage in the midst of that dysregulation. It is so helpful.
When I think there can not possibly be more to say about childhood ptsd and healing from it, you put even more useful information out there. Thank you Anna!
Sheeeeeeeshhh!!!!!! 🙌🙌🙌 I love this language. Some don’t know but it’s ok. I keep it moving until someone aligns with me. Thank you for this confirmation
I grateful I am at a point where I practice what you speak of. I’m responsible for me!! I recently had a situation at work come up that would have triggered me in the past. I walked away. May seem irresponsible to some. Yet my peace is priceless. I know now that we can’t negotiate with bullies/ control freaks/ aka. Disregulated people. I know this because I was one! Now I wish them well and walk away.
When you're triggered and you know it, sit and write! 👏🏼👏🏼 When you're triggered and you know it, sit and write! 👏🏼👏🏼 When you feel disregulated, and you really, really hate it, when you're triggered and you know it, sit and write! 👏🏼👏🏼
Being on the receiving end of this also sucks. You communicate what’s possible for you and what isn’t, what you can and can’t do and it’s as if you’ve never said anything to them. You’ll get the silent treatment and be left to decode their actions. Only later on did I realize I was being emotionally manipulated and controlled. It’s tricky.
@harensurroch213 google it..some people are governed by an external locus of control, meaning their happiness is controlled by external factors like friends, family and co-workers. Others have an internal locus of control meaning they are responsible and accountable for their own happiness. In the video, (in my opinion) she's urging viewers to shift to an Internal locus of control...but google it
I had a freind who was unable to cease talking about he dysfunctional relationships . I set boundary after boundary with no follow up . For my own MH I had to walj away .
Please do a video on how those of us with childhood trauma can relate to our selfish teenage kids. She was alienated against me by her dad a step mom. She was out of my life for 2 years. I continued to reach out and she gradually came back. But lately, no matter what I say she gets upset with me and tells me I’m making her feel guilty. She didn’t have time to see me over Thanksgiving and I told her that made me feel sad. But I have to walk on eggshells or I could lose the relationship totally could really use some advice.
I thought making it work was putting up with a lot of pain and trying to control someone. I thought my controlling was fighting for the relationship. I wonder if this is common in relationships. Towards the end of the relationship, i apologized for being so controlling. I didn’t realize until the end what was going on and how unsustainable it was. Thank you for your videos.
so helpful & wise!!!....LOL!!! "Your words don't have to fly out of your mouth like knives!!" 🤣That was a good one Anna! Oh my God...that used to be me until very recently!
Anna doesn't use the currently modern word narcissism that much, which is good, because this is, in nature, just a label - something to ostracize and criticize others. Many of us have unhealthy egoes and narcissism. When we see it in outselves and admit we are selfish, only then we can heal, move on and improve. Newsflash - if your parents behaved like narcissists towards you, you are very likely a narcissist yourself. Get humble and learn from a pro like Anna. Because that's who she is, a pro. She is the perfect example of how official credentials don't matter whatsoever (at least when it comes to mental health). We all know she speaks the truth and it MAKES SENSE.
I'm 51, an only child. I was a single mom and always ran a clean home. Now married for 27+ years. Currently, my VERY capable Mother-in-Law and my husband's best friend lives with us. How do I get them to put things back how it was found? I'm in therapy and I WILL NOT walk away from my marriage! How do I set boundaries in MY home without causing more chaos???
I withdraw from people . Until I'm healthy .. I do this to people in sure . My expectations are to high ..yes I've been controlling perhaps as well. I don't have the patience any longer for relationships .. for me or them I'm to much for some ( in my current situation ) It's only fair I leave them alone ..I get it 😢 Me me me isn't a great song
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It took me decades to realize this: not liking what a person does = I don't like the person. Therefore, stay away from the person, and if that's not possible, expect nothing from the person and keep my mouth shut.
I wish I learned that as a child. But then that would have meant I didn't like my parents, and that would have been too terrifying for a child.
Please how ?
Am a born Christian and sometimes I feel so down 😭 of myself because of low finance but I still believe God😞
Lovely! I enjoyed it like I enjoy a $100k monthly around the turn!!!
I know that woman (Elizabeth Ann Hanson)
If you were born and raised in new York you'd know too, she's my family's Broker for 3yrs till now and a very good one if you asked me. No doubt she is the one that helped you get where you are!!!!
A CNBC news host spoke highly big about this woman and her loss preventing strategies. Been trying to reach her since. Thanks y'all for the info.
😭 I needed this video today! Thank you so much! I have a terrible time self regulating & I truly prefer to retreat! I’m determined to stop the cycle, but it’s super exhausting mentally & emotionally! I salute everyone on this path ❤
You got this :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Sometimes we must abandon our dream of others for the reality of them, so as not to abandon ourselves. Thankyou 😊
Let go of the grievance or relationship. Painful advice, but what I needs to hear.
I needed this right now. Thank you.
We're all rooting for you! -Calista@TeamFairy
I'm concerned when that boundary is jumped over by that crazy dog. I finally built a fence. The dog finally got the message and couldn't climb it. I heard barking, i looked over, and an apology came. I wasn't sure. Yep, the old behavior showed up. I decided I didn't want to play anymore, I'm no contact, never to return.
If YOU want to change, you have to be a WILLING participant.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR CREATING YOUR VIDEOS!!
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
My life goal is too keep my mouth shut and regulate my feelings. The hardest behavior change.
It’s so hard. 😞
12:00: Oh my good night. This is so challenging! It makes so much sense at the time to want to connect and explain and be heard, blah, blah, blah and it NEVER works. Thank you for this detailed description and steps about how to manage in the midst of that dysregulation. It is so helpful.
I'm so glad the video was helpful! -Calista@TeamFairy
When I think there can not possibly be more to say about childhood ptsd and healing from it, you put even more useful information out there. Thank you Anna!
I'm so glad the video was helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Sheeeeeeeshhh!!!!!! 🙌🙌🙌
I love this language. Some don’t know but it’s ok. I keep it moving until someone aligns with me. Thank you for this confirmation
I grateful I am at a point where I practice what you speak of. I’m responsible for me!!
I recently had a situation at work come up that would have triggered me in the past.
I walked away. May seem irresponsible to some. Yet my peace is priceless. I know now that we can’t negotiate with bullies/ control freaks/ aka. Disregulated people. I know this because I was one!
Now I wish them well and walk away.
When you're triggered and you know it, sit and write! 👏🏼👏🏼
When you're triggered and you know it, sit and write! 👏🏼👏🏼
When you feel disregulated, and you really, really hate it, when you're triggered and you know it, sit and write! 👏🏼👏🏼
Being on the receiving end of this also sucks. You communicate what’s possible for you and what isn’t, what you can and can’t do and it’s as if you’ve never said anything to them. You’ll get the silent treatment and be left to decode their actions. Only later on did I realize I was being emotionally manipulated and controlled. It’s tricky.
That was brilliant - thankyou! Good timing for the holiday season ☺️
Glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Thanks for sharing.
Internal locus of control
What is that
@harensurroch213 google it..some people are governed by an external locus of control, meaning their happiness is controlled by external factors like friends, family and co-workers. Others have an internal locus of control meaning they are responsible and accountable for their own happiness. In the video, (in my opinion) she's urging viewers to shift to an Internal locus of control...but google it
needed this right the heck now omg ❤
Sending you encouragement! -Calista@TeamFairy
I had a freind who was unable to cease talking about he dysfunctional relationships . I set boundary after boundary with no follow up . For my own MH I had to walj away .
This is good advice for everyone 👍🏻
Please do a video on how those of us with childhood trauma can relate to our selfish teenage kids. She was alienated against me by her dad a step mom. She was out of my life for 2 years. I continued to reach out and she gradually came back. But lately, no matter what I say she gets upset with me and tells me I’m making her feel guilty. She didn’t have time to see me over Thanksgiving and I told her that made me feel sad. But I have to walk on eggshells or I could lose the relationship totally could really use some advice.
I thought making it work was putting up with a lot of pain and trying to control someone. I thought my controlling was fighting for the relationship. I wonder if this is common in relationships.
Towards the end of the relationship, i apologized for being so controlling. I didn’t realize until the end what was going on and how unsustainable it was.
Thank you for your videos.
You are a life~saver. Thank you ❤
Thank you for being a part of our community :)
So true in so many levels. ❤
My Maga Mom won’t stop. I’m staying home for Christmas this year. It’s sad, but I need to take care of me.
Thankyou so so much dear beautiful soul Anna.. Very powerful content.. Love all your content.. They are very helpful and beautiful.. ✨❤❤❤🙏🙏😇
Great Video. It is helping very much.
This video gave me again very useful insights about myself. Some parts are a "hard to swallow" but true.
This video is soooo full circle today lol. Thank you always Anna 💓💓💓
so helpful & wise!!!....LOL!!! "Your words don't have to fly out of your mouth like knives!!" 🤣That was a good one Anna! Oh my God...that used to be me until very recently!
Anna doesn't use the currently modern word narcissism that much, which is good, because this is, in nature, just a label - something to ostracize and criticize others. Many of us have unhealthy egoes and narcissism. When we see it in outselves and admit we are selfish, only then we can heal, move on and improve. Newsflash - if your parents behaved like narcissists towards you, you are very likely a narcissist yourself. Get humble and learn from a pro like Anna. Because that's who she is, a pro. She is the perfect example of how official credentials don't matter whatsoever (at least when it comes to mental health). We all know she speaks the truth and it MAKES SENSE.
🫡 I stand with this statement
This is about me
Glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy
T y 😊
P A U S E , O B S E R V E , self reflect first , B R E A T H E
Thanks Anna ❣️🌟🎶
I'm 51, an only child. I was a single mom and always ran a clean home. Now married for 27+ years. Currently, my VERY capable Mother-in-Law and my husband's best friend lives with us. How do I get them to put things back how it was found? I'm in therapy and I WILL NOT walk away from my marriage!
How do I set boundaries in MY home without causing more chaos???
Indeed
I withdraw from people . Until I'm healthy ..
I do this to people in sure . My expectations are to high ..yes I've been controlling perhaps as well.
I don't have the patience any longer for relationships .. for me or them
I'm to much for some ( in my current situation )
It's only fair I leave them alone ..I get it 😢
Me me me isn't a great song
What if they are breaking the law? Over and over again?
🙏🙏🙏🤙🏽🤙🏽🌴🌺🎄🎄🎄.
As usual, much 🦉👍🏼👍🏼
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Thank you 🌷
I'm learning a lot 🌟
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