“How do I verify the truth?” He is already causing you to question your view of reality. You know the truth, but you refuse to accept it because you want it to work out so badly. You deserve so much better. 💔
He and the ex have no children together, there is no reason for them to be in contact. Unfortunately, he still loves/attracted to his ex. When people are in love with YOU, they have tunnel vision.
I definitely dodged a bullet. I was getting breadcrumbed by a dude that I was talking to for three months. He talked about his ex a lot and the more I look back the more I realize he was not over her. He tried getting sex out of me with no commitment. I RAN!
Yep, sounds like my ex but we were together for 7 months, 7 months of lies, abandonment, silent treatment, emotional cheating and finally discard. I hope he believes in God or karma so he won't be surprised with a visit.
You have to face the reality that he doesn't love you. Men who truely love you would do anything to keep you from being hurt. And at 6 months they are still trying to do evetything they can to win your love and keep it. The truth is he doesn't love himself either. But more importantly, you don't love yourself either or you would never ever ever let someone treat you like this. Run as fast as you can from him and dont look back. When you find the man who is head over heels in love with you you will be so thankful that you ran from this nightmare. You are worth so much more than this. And you know it!
He’s not available for a relationship. I hope she finds some healing and realizes she deserves more in a relationship. My younger self relates to her situation. She’s afraid her past abuse is clouding her judgement. I would agree. She’s doing what fairy calls “ crap fit.” I wish for her a happy, wholesome, healthy relationship with herself and others. This is not it.
My ex continued to text me and see me despite living with his much younger gf. He would tell me he wasn't happy and he was going to leave her. So I stupidly continued to see him. We had 8 years together and the break up was a complete shock. Almost as shocking as the day I found out from one of our mutual friends that he had actually married her. A woman he had never been faithful to. This letter is reminiscent of my situation. Sounds like this guy needs validation from multiple women to feel OK with himself. You deserve better. I know it hurts, believe me. I never told his wife about the fact that he never stopped seeing me. I just finally decided I deserve better.
Sounds like my ex, validation from multiple women coz he didn't receive it from his own mother. I know he has mummy's issues, not my problem anymore. I leave him for the streets. No accountability, no apology and no communication. He knows that I know he is guilty. Lesson learned.
A similar thing happened to me, together for several years, an unexpected break-up, trying to end contact but continued to see him from time to time and texting. I found out he got married, he did not even tell me he had met someone. At this point I realized he never/no longer had the strong morals I admired and it was the last disappointment I had to experience to finally let go.
@@andziagreen4922this is my ex, too!!! He’s estranged from his alcoholic mother. I questioned this early on bc I thought hello mommy issues! But he convinced me he was “normal”. Sike! I was green to the game, though, just about to wrap up my divorce from an alcoholic that went on almost 17 years 😵💫. Now I know about avoidant attachment. I’m sadder and still processing but I’m choosing me and back in therapy and moving on wiser for it
It’s one thing to not know that someone is still in love with their ex, but when it’s a known fact that such is the case, it’s wise to realize that this situation is nothing short of disastrous. There’s way too much drama early in the relationship. Honestly,get out while you still can this ex is like a damned shroud here. I wish you the very best my love 😍
That phrase alone screams: Letter writer is NOT ready for marriage. There is no shame in that. In fact, investing in therapy or deep diving into self-help thru a 12 step program will help you grow and get you closer to healthy. Way better than will marrying the wrong person.
But couldn't he potentially say "she's trying to make me... give up talking to my ex." Isn't the context important? ( Just going through this rn so want to be able to cm have a come back to when he says a version of this to him. He says I'm trying to control him. I really need to understand the difference, what's right and wrong of me too.@dianeatpeace337
He could just be playing a game of making his ex jealous who knows. Him not wanting to go public but still wanting to live with you is definitely mixed messages as is him texting his ex, esp at night. I agree its not closure. Good advice Anna ! You deserve better Meg and you're making sacrifices that you're already resentful about. He doesn't sound like he's over her, nor her over him. It's like a very messy triangle ! Forget about marriage. I would tell him that you're not at all comfortable with his involvement with his ex. Sounds like you should get out and meet someone else. Bless you ♥️🌟🙏🏼🎶😇🕊💫 P.s. thanks for the list of red flags ! 💝
Run! Run for the hills and don't look back! I spent years in these kinds of relationships. And I've spent years in Al-Anon. He is probably on a dry drunk And he has no intention of you being front and center in his life in any way, shape or form! When you learn to love yourself, it will be easier to spot these guys and you won't waste your time. Focus on self-love, Self-Care And being aligned with your own heart And a higher power if you believe in one And please don't convert to any religion for anybody unless it's truly what you want and you have a full commitment from them! Love, love, love yourself! Finally, I would say If your best friend was coming to you with that letter that you wrote And all that information. Ask yourself what would you tell her? What is your intention in being in this relationship and what is your motivation? You need to ask yourself different questions. Sending so much love to you. You can do this And you will be happier on the other side of Self-Defeating behavior.
When I was younger I was extremely religious. I read my bible often, prayed and fasted for those less fortunate than myself and constantly gave to the homeless and volunteered at orphanages. I also did more church activities and hanging with fellow church members than I did with my friends outside the church., Because of all this I thought I was a really really good and moral person. Looking back on myself I see that I was not automatically a good person because I "was religious," I wasn't bad, I just wasn't good either. It is very easy to become arrogant and self-righteous when you wear the cloak of religion so you ignore the mean and hurtful things you do to others outside of "doing God's work." I don't think I was unique or special (though at the time I thought I was). Looking at it now I think most people assume that when dating someone who "believes in or fears God" they can let their guard down when personally I truly believe it is the opposite. You should have you guard up MORE and be even MORE critical with someone who "openly" puts their religion in your face because those are the people who will have a harder time seeing their own flaws. They will struggle seeing that they did anything emotionally wrong towards you in the relationship and they will be OVER critical of your actions if it goes against how "they see Gods word" for example God shamming you about posting certain pictures or even raising your kids a certain way. This man sounds to me like he falls in this category; mistaking his religious piety for being an actual good person. This confusing allows him to ignore all his questionable actions towards the letter writer and others because again he is "following God."
And if he senses a change in your commitment (they're good at that) and tries to rein you in with a diamond, REFUSE IT!!! Don't even accept it and put it in a drawer. Decline, decline, decline until he starts telling the truth publicly, and even then tread carefully. Insist on church counseling, maybe. All the best to you, sister!
I have been there done that!! he’s not going to change. Even if he stops seeing M or talking to her.(you will NEVER know). Please dump him!!! if he cared for you this would not be an issue with M or anybody else!!! Run, run run. You deserve better, you’re not seeing some ex while you’re with him. Think of yourself first. Dump him.!!! Don’t look back!!
Two words: "Ditch him." Letter writer, I hope you put yourself 1st: healing and discovering/mastering self-love. Once you're farther along, you won't even have the appetite for such a hot mess as this guy. You deserve way better, and he needs to work on himself separately. Wishing you the best. Thanks, Anna, for walking us through this situation! Will you please teach us more about how to grow a healthier partnership towards readiness to commit, determining "love" vs honeymoon phase, and when you're ready and mature enough to discuss marriage?
I'm sorry for the writer but she's just a place holder, nothing more. We attract what we think we deserve and this isn't what she really wants. So many red flags screaming at here and she still tries to justify him. He tells her on so many levels that he's not the one for her. If a man really wants you then there are no doubts. No hot and cold switches. This guy clearly isn't boyfriend material and definitely not husband material. Run and don't look back...
Walk away and don't look back is my advice here. Good riddance. Been in a similar situation but we were older....and him 18 yrs my senior. Listened to yakking about exes, one in particular. He'd text and call right in front of me! Told him my feelings about it and it just didn't register. I have my share of exes too, and an ex-husband yet I do not stay in contact with them, nor do I talk about them to my current partner. It's a hurtful, disrespectful, insensitive, and unnecessary thing to do. Gave me the 'she's the mother of my child' bit, which didn't fly since the 'kid' was nearly 50 and the product of an accident on some commune. I finally got fed up and took off....zero contact, as is my policy w/all exes and former husband. Once it's over, they fall off the planet for me. Good luck to the letter writer.
I live in South Africa where a great number of people are religious. It happens often that a guy is religious and expects the girl to become religious like him. It is a form of control and it makes him feel good in the eyes of the pastor/minister - he was the reason that someone joined a church. Once he successfully controlled your religion, the next form of control will come - you have to change your dress code, leave your friends/family behind, stop working - the list is very long....
I was in a messy relationship myself. Different kind of mess. I was only done with him once I NEVER replied to any of his messages,anywhere. There was no announcement. Done. Nothing could sway me.
Let go of him, the idea of him. When you chase a cat, you will never catch it. Stop running after him. Do not change yourself for anyone but YOU. Relationships are two individuals coming together to form a partnership. The keyword is individuals and that must be respected. This is the universal law of attraction. Btw love your content
Why is she adjusting her religion and creator account for someone she's newly dating? Isn't a creator account an income stream? A lot of abusers also use religion to control their victims
RUNNNNN!!! and then get yourself to a therapist pronto! You’re converting to another religion with a guy you’ve only known for 6 months? Do you have a martyr complex? Why are you talking to his ex? Your immaturity is shooting you to become enmeshed. You need help to get to know yourself better and how to create boundaries based on that. Relationships does not mean you compromise your life away! Wake up!!
okay if james isnt willing to do that then thats not chill. your partner should always be willing to flaunt you on social media, especially if you ask for it!!
Keep in mind that there are many people who are still entangled with an ex but they don’t make it known, well, at least, not vocally. I’m certain that there are people who can pick up on this because of the way the other person behaved, though. I honestly think that we can only go into a relationship, never believing that we are the main person there. It’s almost a guarantee that the vast majority of people are in relationships with people but they have someone else that they truly want to be with. Weird, huh? Unfinished business can truly wreck havoc on people.
I think there is truth in what you said. And the situation is exacerbated by the modern narrative that it is 'mature' or 'healthy' to hang onto past partners as 'friends.' In the past, when it was the norm to let a relationship end and move on, it probably didn't happen so much. It's much more difficult to truly get over a person when they are still part of your life and you are reminded every time you see them of the love, history, etc. that you shared together...
@@suzy1750 especially with social media! In the past, it was much easier to avoid/end contact after a break up. Now ppl still follow their ex and get hurt when they see the ex with someone else or appearing to do well in life
@@suzy1750I agree with this! It’s so weird to keep exes as friends imo! But modern technology has also made it a lot easier. It’s not hard to heart a picture or be friends on social media or send a testing the waters text for affirmation or validation when in a fight with a current partner. Back in the day you would have to pick up the phone and make plans to really keep an ex “in” your orbit
I really appreciate this video. At the end you said what I needed to hear. My daughter set a goal about re-assessing a relationship. Unfortunately he knows about the timetable.
It sounds like the guy was needing someone to live with... did she throw him out ...he sounds like a narcissist to me... everything is about him ..not about you... thats NO RELATIONSHIP AT ALL... HIS BEHAVIORS TO YOU HAVE NO RESPECT AND NARCISSISTS NEVER SHOW RESPECT. You need to tell him to leave ...and not be available for any lenghy explanations that he can manipulate..hes absolutely NOT READY NOR EVER WILL BE MAYBE FOR A SERIOUS COMMITED RELATIONSHIP AND DEFINATELY NOT MARRIAGE!! Walk away ....many people can get into dangerous situations with supposedly just people who have had a tough time...feeling drawn in and sorry for people.. Make a list of all the most precious things you want in a long term relationship....and i bet none of hos qualities will be on that precious beautiful..special list..
I think I’m growing!! I can see that she blames him for dropping her accounts SHE did it - she could and should have said NO! With the ex - No! That’s a boundary deal breaker!
Unless the Catholic Church has changed recently or is different in America, only one person in the couple needs to be Catholic to be married in the Church. I’m not sure if they require the non-Catholic to at least be a different Christian denomination, but I’ve known plenty of couples to marry in the Church, where only one person was Catholic.
I’m Catholic … yes, only one partner needs to be Catholic. You do technically get permission from the diocese, but it’s very common these days. I missed it, but was “James” married before to his ex? If so, he would need an annulment before he got remarried in the church
i think M is trying to cause issues but im also glad shes telling you though. id like to know if my bf was still talking to his ex. im sure M just wants yall to separate but honestly... isnt that for the best
Anna, not sure if you read comments. I have tried several times to access your worksheets on pdf. When I try to click on the link in your email to me, nothing happens. This has been the case for some time. Disappointing.
This is not something we can help you with on TH-cam, where you are anonymous. Please reach out to the support team, or reply to the e-mails you get, at hello@crappychildhoodfairy.com and they'll help you.
I guess she needs to spell it out for you? It is pretty obvious to other people in the comments what some of the signs are... Did you listen to the video??
They were mentioned in the video, but you can also check out the description section below the video to find a link to a free PDF with a list of the red flags. Nika@TeamFairy
“How do I verify the truth?” He is already causing you to question your view of reality. You know the truth, but you refuse to accept it because you want it to work out so badly. You deserve so much better. 💔
If it’s not a “Heck, Yes!”, it’s a “No.” Next!
You got that right!
Run fast! He has shown you who he is…….BELIEVE him!!!!
Run for your life. He is not worthy of you
He and the ex have no children together, there is no reason for them to be in contact. Unfortunately, he still loves/attracted to his ex. When people are in love with YOU, they have tunnel vision.
Yup, and if someone is in love with you, he/she is proud to show you off to the world. They aren't trying to keep you a secret from anyone...
Correct. If you are loved, you will feel loved 💖
I definitely dodged a bullet. I was getting breadcrumbed by a dude that I was talking to for three months. He talked about his ex a lot and the more I look back the more I realize he was not over her. He tried getting sex out of me with no commitment. I RAN!
Good for you !!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
🎶and I ran so far awaaaaay!!! ❤
@TWBarb Beautiful ! I'm proud of you too ! I'll remember to do the same if this happens to me ! Way to go ! 👌🏼
Yep, sounds like my ex but we were together for 7 months, 7 months of lies, abandonment, silent treatment, emotional cheating and finally discard. I hope he believes in God or karma so he won't be surprised with a visit.
Better no relationship than a hot mess like this!!
Run as fast as you can. It was too painful to even hear this to the end. Please move on for your own sanity and self-love. You can do it.
You have to face the reality that he doesn't love you. Men who truely love you would do anything to keep you from being hurt. And at 6 months they are still trying to do evetything they can to win your love and keep it. The truth is he doesn't love himself either. But more importantly, you don't love yourself either or you would never ever ever let someone treat you like this. Run as fast as you can from him and dont look back. When you find the man who is head over heels in love with you you will be so thankful that you ran from this nightmare. You are worth so much more than this. And you know it!
He’s not available for a relationship. I hope she finds some healing and realizes she deserves more in a relationship. My younger self relates to her situation. She’s afraid her past abuse is clouding her judgement. I would agree. She’s doing what fairy calls “ crap fit.” I wish for her a happy, wholesome, healthy relationship with herself and others. This is not it.
My ex continued to text me and see me despite living with his much younger gf. He would tell me he wasn't happy and he was going to leave her. So I stupidly continued to see him. We had 8 years together and the break up was a complete shock. Almost as shocking as the day I found out from one of our mutual friends that he had actually married her. A woman he had never been faithful to. This letter is reminiscent of my situation. Sounds like this guy needs validation from multiple women to feel OK with himself. You deserve better. I know it hurts, believe me. I never told his wife about the fact that he never stopped seeing me. I just finally decided I deserve better.
Sounds like my ex, validation from multiple women coz he didn't receive it from his own mother. I know he has mummy's issues, not my problem anymore. I leave him for the streets. No accountability, no apology and no communication. He knows that I know he is guilty. Lesson learned.
A similar thing happened to me, together for several years, an unexpected break-up, trying to end contact but continued to see him from time to time and texting. I found out he got married, he did not even tell me he had met someone. At this point I realized he never/no longer had the strong morals I admired and it was the last disappointment I had to experience to finally let go.
@@andziagreen4922this is my ex, too!!! He’s estranged from his alcoholic mother. I questioned this early on bc I thought hello mommy issues! But he convinced me he was “normal”. Sike! I was green to the game, though, just about to wrap up my divorce from an alcoholic that went on almost 17 years 😵💫. Now I know about avoidant attachment. I’m sadder and still processing but I’m choosing me and back in therapy and moving on wiser for it
Texting at 1:00 am is a booty call 📱
It’s one thing to not know that someone is still in love with their ex, but when it’s a known fact that such is the case, it’s wise to realize that this situation is nothing short of disastrous. There’s way too much drama early in the relationship. Honestly,get out while you still can this ex is like a damned shroud here. I wish you the very best my love 😍
"He made me give up my..." - that phrase in itself is very concerning. I think your tough love was appropriate here, Fairy.
That phrase alone screams: Letter writer is NOT ready for marriage. There is no shame in that. In fact, investing in therapy or deep diving into self-help thru a 12 step program will help you grow and get you closer to healthy. Way better than will marrying the wrong person.
But couldn't he potentially say "she's trying to make me... give up talking to my ex." Isn't the context important? ( Just going through this rn so want to be able to cm have a come back to when he says a version of this to him. He says I'm trying to control him. I really need to understand the difference, what's right and wrong of me too.@dianeatpeace337
He could just be playing a game of making his ex jealous who knows. Him not wanting to go public but still wanting to live with you is definitely mixed messages as is him texting his ex, esp at night. I agree its not closure. Good advice Anna ! You deserve better Meg and you're making sacrifices that you're already resentful about. He doesn't sound like he's over her, nor her over him. It's like a very messy triangle ! Forget about marriage. I would tell him that you're not at all comfortable with his involvement with his ex. Sounds like you should get out and meet someone else. Bless you ♥️🌟🙏🏼🎶😇🕊💫
P.s. thanks for the list of red flags ! 💝
‘Just’ playing games ….
@Echidna7095 yes indeed ! Done with emotional/ mind games! No more emotional rollercoaster rides for me ! 🌞
Run! Run for the hills and don't look back! I spent years in these kinds of relationships. And I've spent years in Al-Anon. He is probably on a dry drunk And he has no intention of you being front and center in his life in any way, shape or form! When you learn to love yourself, it will be easier to spot these guys and you won't waste your time. Focus on self-love, Self-Care And being aligned with your own heart And a higher power if you believe in one And please don't convert to any religion for anybody unless it's truly what you want and you have a full commitment from them! Love, love, love yourself! Finally, I would say If your best friend was coming to you with that letter that you wrote And all that information. Ask yourself what would you tell her? What is your intention in being in this relationship and what is your motivation? You need to ask yourself different questions. Sending so much love to you. You can do this And you will be happier on the other side of Self-Defeating behavior.
A total "Yikes!"
When I was younger I was extremely religious. I read my bible often, prayed and fasted for those less fortunate than myself and constantly gave to the homeless and volunteered at orphanages. I also did more church activities and hanging with fellow church members than I did with my friends outside the church., Because of all this I thought I was a really really good and moral person. Looking back on myself I see that I was not automatically a good person because I "was religious," I wasn't bad, I just wasn't good either. It is very easy to become arrogant and self-righteous when you wear the cloak of religion so you ignore the mean and hurtful things you do to others outside of "doing God's work."
I don't think I was unique or special (though at the time I thought I was). Looking at it now I think most people assume that when dating someone who "believes in or fears God" they can let their guard down when personally I truly believe it is the opposite. You should have you guard up MORE and be even MORE critical with someone who "openly" puts their religion in your face because those are the people who will have a harder time seeing their own flaws. They will struggle seeing that they did anything emotionally wrong towards you in the relationship and they will be OVER critical of your actions if it goes against how "they see Gods word" for example God shamming you about posting certain pictures or even raising your kids a certain way. This man sounds to me like he falls in this category; mistaking his religious piety for being an actual good person. This confusing allows him to ignore all his questionable actions towards the letter writer and others because again he is "following God."
good insight here ✔️
And if he senses a change in your commitment (they're good at that) and tries to rein you in with a diamond, REFUSE IT!!! Don't even accept it and put it in a drawer. Decline, decline, decline until he starts telling the truth publicly, and even then tread carefully. Insist on church counseling, maybe. All the best to you, sister!
Meg, he is not a suitable partner for a relationship right now and that's all you need to know.
I have been there done that!! he’s not going to change. Even if he stops seeing M or talking to her.(you will NEVER know). Please dump him!!! if he cared for you this would not be an issue with M or anybody else!!! Run, run run. You deserve better, you’re not seeing some ex while you’re with him. Think of yourself first. Dump him.!!! Don’t look back!!
Two words: "Ditch him." Letter writer, I hope you put yourself 1st: healing and discovering/mastering self-love. Once you're farther along, you won't even have the appetite for such a hot mess as this guy. You deserve way better, and he needs to work on himself separately. Wishing you the best. Thanks, Anna, for walking us through this situation! Will you please teach us more about how to grow a healthier partnership towards readiness to commit, determining "love" vs honeymoon phase, and when you're ready and mature enough to discuss marriage?
I've baked a lot of path-to-commitment material into my Dating course. I'll plan to cover this more on TH-cam in the new year.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy That's fabulous news, and I'll stay tuned for your new videos - thank you, Anna, and happy holidays✨️😊
Just so she knows... he will NEVER be untangled with his ex!!
Would be nice to hear a part 2 of these type of videos in a years time.
I love the concept of being emotionally sober! 👌
Dear Meg, he’s not into you-he IS into himself, though….
I'm sorry for the writer but she's just a place holder, nothing more. We attract what we think we deserve and this isn't what she really wants. So many red flags screaming at here and she still tries to justify him. He tells her on so many levels that he's not the one for her. If a man really wants you then there are no doubts. No hot and cold switches. This guy clearly isn't boyfriend material and definitely not husband material. Run and don't look back...
Walk away and don't look back is my advice here. Good riddance. Been in a similar situation but we were older....and him 18 yrs my senior. Listened to yakking about exes, one in particular. He'd text and call right in front of me! Told him my feelings about it and it just didn't register. I have my share of exes too, and an ex-husband yet I do not stay in contact with them, nor do I talk about them to my current partner. It's a hurtful, disrespectful, insensitive, and unnecessary thing to do. Gave me the 'she's the mother of my child' bit, which didn't fly since the 'kid' was nearly 50 and the product of an accident on some commune. I finally got fed up and took off....zero contact, as is my policy w/all exes and former husband. Once it's over, they fall off the planet for me. Good luck to the letter writer.
Good for you. I'm sure your current partner appreciates it too...
I live in South Africa where a great number of people are religious. It happens often that a guy is religious and expects the girl to become religious like him. It is a form of control and it makes him feel good in the eyes of the pastor/minister - he was the reason that someone joined a church. Once he successfully controlled your religion, the next form of control will come - you have to change your dress code, leave your friends/family behind, stop working - the list is very long....
Thank you Anne, you bring clarity into this world.
I was in a messy relationship myself. Different kind of mess. I was only done with him once I NEVER replied to any of his messages,anywhere. There was no announcement. Done. Nothing could sway me.
And after she untangles herself from this... She needs to do some soul searching via Therapy,12 steps and hobbies.....
“Trying to get him to behave for you is basically showing him a map of how to manipulate you into thinking that you should stay.” ⭐️
I believe she is being used.... run!!
RUN!!!!!
Wow. That’s a really beautiful color on you!
Dont waste any more time being a "place holder" for this guy as Anna called it.
Let go of him, the idea of him. When you chase a cat, you will never catch it. Stop running after him.
Do not change yourself for anyone but YOU.
Relationships are two individuals coming together to form a partnership. The keyword is individuals and that must be respected.
This is the universal law of attraction.
Btw love your content
I believe this young precious lady needs to move on. How did the boyfriend's ex get the new girlfriend's number. Live him alone.
Three minutes in and I stopped listening. The guy is shady. Time to go and find an honest man. If you are uncomfortable about being yourself, GO NOW.
By 2:34, how else spotted SEVERAL red flags?? 🚩 🚩
Why is she adjusting her religion and creator account for someone she's newly dating? Isn't a creator account an income stream? A lot of abusers also use religion to control their victims
RUNNNNN!!! and then get yourself to a therapist pronto! You’re converting to another religion with a guy you’ve only known for 6 months? Do you have a martyr complex? Why are you talking to his ex? Your immaturity is shooting you to become enmeshed. You need help to get to know yourself better and how to create boundaries based on that. Relationships does not mean you compromise your life away! Wake up!!
*your immaturity is allowing you to become enmeshed
Such very good advice, Anna!
okay if james isnt willing to do that then thats not chill. your partner should always be willing to flaunt you on social media, especially if you ask for it!!
Wow. The answer seems so obvious when you are on the outside looking in.
So good today, Fairy! 💜
I LOVE this channel ❤
Keep in mind that there are many people who are still entangled with an ex but they don’t make it known, well, at least, not vocally. I’m certain that there are people who can pick up on this because of the way the other person behaved, though. I honestly think that we can only go into a relationship, never believing that we are the main person there. It’s almost a guarantee that the vast majority of people are in relationships with people but they have someone else that they truly want to be with. Weird, huh? Unfinished business can truly wreck havoc on people.
I think there is truth in what you said. And the situation is exacerbated by the modern narrative that it is 'mature' or 'healthy' to hang onto past partners as 'friends.' In the past, when it was the norm to let a relationship end and move on, it probably didn't happen so much. It's much more difficult to truly get over a person when they are still part of your life and you are reminded every time you see them of the love, history, etc. that you shared together...
@@suzy1750 especially with social media! In the past, it was much easier to avoid/end contact after a break up. Now ppl still follow their ex and get hurt when they see the ex with someone else or appearing to do well in life
@@suzy1750I agree with this! It’s so weird to keep exes as friends imo! But modern technology has also made it a lot easier. It’s not hard to heart a picture or be friends on social media or send a testing the waters text for affirmation or validation when in a fight with a current partner. Back in the day you would have to pick up the phone and make plans to really keep an ex “in” your orbit
I really appreciate this video. At the end you said what I needed to hear. My daughter set a goal about re-assessing a relationship. Unfortunately he knows about the timetable.
Gurl run. He's NOT husband material!
Thanks for posting this video..
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
wtf how would anyone think this is a good partner? 😔
Once Again, words of 🦉🦉🦉🙏❤️
Who who who? 😂just kidding..i know you mean wisdom and I agree. I'm light hearted now because of Anna...her videos literally saved my life.❤be blessed
@ 😎💔🐺
Don’t waste your time.
Easy, this is not healthy.
Run.
In other words "RUN!!!!" Your an option not the main choice!!
It sounds like the guy was needing someone to live with... did she throw him out ...he sounds like a narcissist to me... everything is about him ..not about you... thats NO RELATIONSHIP AT ALL... HIS BEHAVIORS TO YOU HAVE NO RESPECT AND NARCISSISTS NEVER SHOW RESPECT.
You need to tell him to leave ...and not be available for any lenghy explanations that he can manipulate..hes absolutely NOT READY NOR EVER WILL BE MAYBE FOR A SERIOUS COMMITED RELATIONSHIP AND DEFINATELY NOT MARRIAGE!!
Walk away ....many people can get into dangerous situations with supposedly just people who have had a tough time...feeling drawn in and sorry for people..
Make a list of all the most precious things you want in a long term relationship....and i bet none of hos qualities will be on that precious beautiful..special list..
I think I’m growing!! I can see that she blames him for dropping her accounts SHE did it - she could and should have said NO! With the ex - No! That’s a boundary deal breaker!
Easy for me to be the couch quarterback; the backseat driver. I hope I not just see the red flags 🚩 but act on them!!!!
Unless the Catholic Church has changed recently or is different in America, only one person in the couple needs to be Catholic to be married in the Church. I’m not sure if they require the non-Catholic to at least be a different Christian denomination, but I’ve known plenty of couples to marry in the Church, where only one person was Catholic.
But converting to a religion in a partnership is about more than just the act of marriage. It's about living in alignment...
I’m Catholic … yes, only one partner needs to be Catholic. You do technically get permission from the diocese, but it’s very common these days. I missed it, but was “James” married before to his ex? If so, he would need an annulment before he got remarried in the church
i think M is trying to cause issues but im also glad shes telling you though. id like to know if my bf was still talking to his ex. im sure M just wants yall to separate but honestly... isnt that for the best
Good . Thank you
Thanks for sharing
Nooooo….this guy sounds like a liar and manipulator.
Run Meg Run........!
5 minutes in, james is a narcissist. 100% positive
Anna, not sure if you read comments. I have tried several times to access your worksheets on pdf. When I try to click on the link in your email to me, nothing happens. This has been the case for some time. Disappointing.
This is not something we can help you with on TH-cam, where you are anonymous. Please reach out to the support team, or reply to the e-mails you get, at hello@crappychildhoodfairy.com and they'll help you.
@ Thank you. Just thought it might be a problem on your end.
@@createone100 I didn t have any problem downloading it
@@createone100I did not have any problem downloading
James sounds like a mess.
Next!
❤
I wonder if they met in a 12-Step group? It's got that addictive feel to it -he sounds like he's replaced one addiction with another (to love).
Engagement for me after 2 years, most relationships end on the first 3 years
Christine Albright
BRILLIANT VIDIO 💖!...
THANK YOU💖!...
"+"!..."💖"!...
Get rid of James
To marry in the Catholic Church you’ve to do premarital course, it’s similar to counseling. Not sure if that’s case in America.
I need one for “am I partner material”.
That's not love babe.
This appears to be a CLASSIC CRAPFIT situation 🤨
He’s triangulating
Welp 4 min in and I'm completely done with James and M
Stop putting crowns on absolute clowns & expecting kings 👑 Fine tune your BS antennas ladies ✨
Everything about this is bad.
Let it go, Meg.
What’s the signs? Lol I thought this was directly going to list the signs smh you’re giving advice to someone specifically 🤷🏽♀️
I guess she needs to spell it out for you? It is pretty obvious to other people in the comments what some of the signs are... Did you listen to the video??
They were mentioned in the video, but you can also check out the description section below the video to find a link to a free PDF with a list of the red flags.
Nika@TeamFairy
And most of these problems comes from the fact that so few follow God's recipe for relationships.