This is the fact that completely escaped me. When I hear it I know this is true, makes sense, and explains everything. But looking back I see myself thinking and acting as if women and men have the same hierarchy of priorities in that regard. Damn, this is a good one, Alexander!
There's obvious evolutionary reasons why women depend on group approval/protection. Being ostracized is absolute kryptonite to women. Completely ignoring them is a powerful tool men should get used to deploying in certain situations.
Alexander is wrong thinking it is feminine behavior. Guys are also afraid of being judged. It is quite obvious in their conversations. All intelligent people understand the consequences of expressing unpopular opinions in a group which is not tolerant to other voices. The truth will be avoided or disguised until the treat of ostracism is diminished. Gays, atheists - they all do this regardless of their sex. It is a smart thing to do.
I think it's more that they are avoiding/denying a judgment that they know is true. They are only judged when they are 35+ and come out as being "fluent in sarcasm, mother of 2 angels who come first, tired of fuckboys and looking for a real man" and realize that only low quality men pursue her. At first she gets smug and says "where haz the good men gone? >:0" and then she realizes that she is either going to have to continue to lie to herself and say things like "I AM THE TABLE!!!" or "WHERE HAVE THE GOOD MEN GONE!!!" like it's men's problem... or she will look inside herself and accept her reality, in which case she can start to work towards happiness. She might even come to realize that by the time she is past 30, she might not want a relationship anymore anyway since the cute, magical phase of building a life and a nest is completely over.
This video would be the logical follow up to the- 'the real reason women travel' video. These sorts of discussions are not a recipe for happiness. You sense that the wholesome vision of the small warmth and happiness a family could provide, was simply just that, - a vision in your head. And nothing else.
Girls don't want to be judged while judging every single little detail of everyone elses life while ignoring their mistakes and prolonging the incoming judgement, I grew up learning never judge anyone if you dont want to be judged and treat everyone the same, every new person is a blank slate, but I have never met a women that didn't judge me before even talking to me, that's why I stopped dating entirely.
To be fair, MANY dudes are shitty people and can be dangerous to be around so they have to judge to some extent to protect themselves. You can thank the agro beta males with super fragile egos for that.
Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgment. When a hypocrite cleans up their own life then he/she will be fit to judge another. Of course, it is always wrong to make judgments about a person's motives or thoughts because we don't know their mind.
@@ccoodd26 Why though; why can't we know for surely what they have in mind? Did they come from another planet or are they messengers of the god? Anyone and everyone can be understood and predicted with enough observation. As long as people not actively trying to trick or hide their motives you can predict them to near 60%-70% accuracy. Above 85 IQ and sharp eye is enough. Stop romanticising people we are not that unique nor hard to analyze.
@@ilyasabi8920 Your predictions would mean jumping to conclusions. This means you're believing instead of seeking. This is where conflict is inevitable. You may think you can accurately predict, but it comes with error. This is how evil is done, which most people aren't aware of when they do it. Beliefs have caused the most conflict. Seeking with evidence, experiments, and experience is the way.
I had 3 years of my life stolen and a criminal record gifted to me at the expense of this aspect of women. Not to mention anxiety and depression. Character assassination is not below them....
The problem with this is that if a girl sees you as high value, she'll know you'll have high standards. So, trying to make her feel comfortable (so she is honest you) will still only work against her in the end. She knows this. In other words, you'll still not get honesty from her no matter what you try.
You’d be sadly surprised how naive young women are these days. Most I encounter think it’s absolutely normal to sleep with 2-3 different individuals in the same week.
It's a double bind, because if she's dishonest and you accept her because of that, but later you spot the lies, the consequences can be more severe for her than if she were honest in the first place, and if you're a high value man, you have to be hard to deceive. There is no way out for her.
@@inconnu4961 yea, Men have to 'pass selection' by girls like soldiers trying out for the special forces. girls just have to be young and stay under 15% body fat that's all.
@@rajunaidu7751 not only more time, but better with age. I get far more attention from women now, with grey in my beard and slightly overweight, than I ever did as a young man in fine physical condition. Very easy to explain though. Hypergamy at it's most base level.
Makes sense. Like how one chick who hates rock music, she meets a guy she likes who loves rock music. Next thing you know, she suddenly also likes rock music.
@@bicitaja eh, to be biased as well I mean be honest with yourself at least. You probably would be nice to a guy who is more attractive over someone whose not
i think there is a difference between how men and women define judgement for women, they fear the collective judgement, but it happens people confuse collective vs individual ones i think most men care less about being ostracized by society, and they can exhibit anti-social tendencies while for women, it's the other way around, they care less about individual judgement, and for them judging individual men is normal, while men, dont like their friends, pales and family judging them hence the conflict between how men and women deal wit judgement
Women particularly fear being judged by people whom they value... their peers, higher status men and anyone whom they feel some accountability to (family/friends).
This video made me remember how wildlife photographers take the pictures of animals in their natural habitat. The photographer needs to keep his cool, being undetectable so that the animal feels safe and can behave how it normally behaves in the wild. If the photographer keeps his cool and makes the animal feels safe, the animal will respond by acting honest and true.
They are also terrified of losing the alpha males attention. Because back in the tribal days, the whole tribe was following the alpha males. So if the alpha males didn’t like her, she was in trouble.
True, but they come about it honestly . . . its in their nature! Never treat your cat like a dog, nor your dog like a person! A cat is always a cat and a dog is always a dog(and a woman is a woman, not a man)
This is truly one of my biggest fears, and it multiplies with the number of people present. I even feel a rush of adrenalin, as if I am in survival mode (just shows how deeply ingrained this is). In my childhood my mother used this against me and blamed things on me when my friends were present. This won't help you, it just creates resentment or even fear/hate. As Alexander said, it is the safe environment that makes it possible for a woman to open up (but of course don't neglect your standards!). A woman, who just lies to avoid this kind of feeling is not worth it.
Thank you for sharing an willing to be vulnerable. it is difficult to do, because people like to trample on pearls, instead of cherish them. This is great insight for the man willing to listen.
Like he said you do it and dont realize it. I fear an idiot that doesnt believe they're idiots than one who has accepted that he is an idiot, which is why I trust myself with my own life over many others
I know many men that judge women but mostly because they can't have them and they don't feel good about their own status. I don't openly judge a woman but I do ghost and single out women that attempt to make me into one of their simps. I have no patience for a woman that wants attention, assistance and or financial gain from me without offering something in return
How can we let someone be in a position of power when this person's fear of being judged is stronger than the value of truth, honesty, integrity, etc.?
This reminds of the time Hillary Clinton changed her twitter bio because she was questioned by a popular feminist during an interview. The question was why she firstly described herself as a wife instead of a presidential aspirant?
If you were to judge women, then they are useless !!! Women expect a man to be perfect but women can be right at the bottom of the scale !!!!! I am so glad that the young men of today are opening their eyes and doing the sensible thing, that is staying single !!! This video is absolutely vital for men to watch !!!! What it means is your woman will go crawling back to her friends, running you down all the time, and if her friends tell her to leave you, then that's exactly what she will do !!!! If you want a happy life, just go out with women and don't spend money on them, and never live with or marry them !!!!! However, some men love being married and all that comes with it !!! Well just let them get on with it, like they say, one man's meat is another man's poison !!!!!! Because I never got married I have been able to always work in pleasant jobs, although with less money, be free from stress, have as many female friends as I wanted, and be mentally free all the time !!! And all my married male friends in their sexless marriages say that they might as well be dead !!!!!!
I'm only three minutes in watching your video, and as a very experienced, bachelor of 55 years old, you have brought up one of the most important things a man needs to know about ALL women. Not just young or in their 20s or 30s but ALL women of all ages, ethnic backgrounds, religions, etc... they are ALL afraid of being judged and not accepted mostly by other women, but by men also. And yes, they will throw their husband, best friend, family members, and anyone else under the bus to save face from people that don't even matter in her life. I've seen it and have had it happen to me and it was ugly. She tried to ruin my life and business and my reputation all because after two years of being together 3 or 4 days a week, I got tired of her lies because they were starting to include me and effect our friendship. I called her on her absolutely insane lies and she got so embarrassed and ashamed that it made her go into angry defensive mode and spun things around to make me look like the bad guy. Because she was so afraid that I was going to expose her to all our friends for the lying, hoe she is. She did everything she could to run damage control two steps ahead of me to make sure her story was heard first and then people wouldn't listen to me or believe me if I did try to say what really happened. Women will do unbelievable things that you can't imagine to keep their image as clean as possible to everyone they meet and know. It is absolute insanity mixed with heavy doses of narcissism.
gives the answer in the first second of te video. Wasn't expecting this to be clickbait anyways. But you once again show us your senserity, always getting straight to the point and no beating around the bush.
I’m agree. They’re afraid when the people discovered they’ve many secret men in their life. Because of the judgment about the other people. The men particularly
You know I knew that ostensibly but now that you mentioned it explains a lot about the current state of affairs, we've becoming a increasingly feminine society and that's not a psychological healthy thing, how social media and IRL society become excessively obsessed with being judged and judging others, the damage to mental health and just living along with people has been huge. It's like Mean Girls but everywhere, that's no way of living.
I don't understand why women think that "Number of men a women has been with in the past shouldn't make any difference (" it's in the past, don't judge her by her past")", I don't understand how they think they can do whatever they want and escape without any consequences.
Very good insight! Yes, they don't want to be judged for being "loose", but that is exactly what they are....Loose & Immoral! Looseness in women & (men) will hinder their ability to settle down later and be true to one partner in a cohabitation environment.
it's an excuse. Run far away from a woman who won't take responsibility for her actions. Which seem to be most of them (well, tbf men and ppl in general can have a default of not taking responsibility and shifting blame. Women tend to have that more as default since...female nature and the feminine is less about being direct and responsible as opposed to men, which is to take charge and risk invoking conflict. The real question is whether ppl show potential to grow out of it...those since it's more of a nature thing for women...meh it may be much rarer to see/find/expect)
I fear social judgement even though I am a man. I've been trying to change this in myself for years but I failed. Now I don't say or do anything that is not true to myself but I hold back in situations where conflict might arise. I am very sensitive to how others perceive me and I constantly worry about what others think. Listening to this video made me realize that this is not only perceived as weakness but it is actually a feminine trait and it could be the very reason I fail to attract women even though I have allot of right going on.
I'm also highly tuned to the perceptions/emotional responses of others, in my youth it was pretty bad, panic attacks etc. Work on accepting/loving yourself my man, it's cliche as hell but I swear that it's the answer as far as helping with social anxiety. I can almost guarantee that fear of judgement comes off as unattractive as you recognize, solve it and you'll be golden.
I already knew how during a date you want to leave her to do 80% of the talking. I thought it was so just to keep her happy because everyone likes to talk about themself. But just as important is for the guy to keep his mouth shut so that she is invited to be more truthful.
Excellent, Excellent points. I known this for a while in my professional life. I'm a lawyer. Men and women think differently and unconsciously. For years, I'd wanted to have a life with a woman, but it became clear that the way we thought was just too divergent. It's as if nature essentially said, "yeah, couple for procreation and childcare. But beyond that, say goodbye."
I am a straight male and I prefer a woman who accepts judgement rather than avoiding it. Who will explore new ideas, even though you said males are not attracted to those types of women. I prefer honestly and transparency over any other trait. With that said, your videos are truly game changing. I love this channel! Keep it going!
I always ask this to myself if you don't judge then how will you identify the difference between good and bad but you do what society tells you to that is not to judge.
Not judging, but _being_ judged. Most often people are judged by societal norms and traditions or laws. They're not often judged on the basis of logic. So don't drag that in. :P (Edit: also forgot to add: think about _being_ judged and being responsible or accountable. Just think.)
@@conorm2524 I respectfully disagree, although it sure seems this way. People who love to judge are very vocal about it. There is some wisdom in FLEETING FOOTNOTES comment worth exploring. First job is: define judge. If you define judge as a synonym to condemn, then I strongly discourage you from judging. I believe judging , when used, should be used ala the scales of justice, that you attempt to balance(greek mythos). It becomes more a pro vs con scenario. I try to pretend like I am on safari or in a zoo. I let the animals be as they are in their natural state, when the being tries to come into MY real, then apply judgment: is this good or bad, good intentions or bad. But in all others I try to refrain( im not 100%, its a work in progress). The best thing about this is: you dont cloud your analytic side by HAVING to pronounce judgement on all things, thereby allowing you to see things clearly, as they really are. Then you can decide better how YOU will respond. its a lot of work initially and goes against the grain in a feminized world, but I think you will like the results!
This makes soooo much sense. It's like a whole new part of my own brain has been unlocked, simply realizing this. Everything seems to fall into place now. This is likely your best video yet. And it's so simple, yet so powerful to realize this. I think I always knew, but couldn't put my thumb on it. But the way you explained it made me really understand it. And to me, this is important, because, I have two daughters, and this will ultimately help me understand them better when they reach those crazy teenage years.
This is SUCH an eye-opener! One of my highest (top 3) values is honesty, and I let people know what I’m thinking. A lot! Looking back now, I’ve lost count how many women have likely felt judged by me on dates! And I went on a date a few months ago, and said to a girl, “Hey, I wouldn’t judge you. I’ve already decided you’re cool.” Date went amazing and we both had fun!
I sometimes come across girl groups who take the piss out of each other while staying tightly bonded. It’s so refreshing to see, it’s highly attractive (partly because these playful rapport-breaks will make them more independent thinking and less prone to groupthink), and demonstrates their feeling of security around each other
@@EmperorsNewWardrobe ...but, your applying the analogy of male bonding to a group of women ? Or, are you saying that, women have become so masculine, that they now hang out in groups and take the piss out of each other ?
This sounds legit, think about how women rarely if ever approach guys and ask them out instead of waiting to be approached/asked, because they can't deal with being rejected, or in other words judged.
Your content is so good that you can deliver the answer to the title in the first second, and people will still watch the whole video bc we love hearing what you have to say
That explains why women can be perceived as being so "two faced" - one fake face for the outside world and the real one for the guy at home who she despises . Thanks Alex , great video.
Something I didn’t know when I began “dating” girls was the fact that privacy is very important for them. I have an instinct that makes me feel that I don’t care if the whole world knows what I’m doing. Women absolutely do not feel that way. It’s a huge difference. One time, in a conversation with a girl I had been dating, she mentioned something about having a sense of privacy in one’s home, and I said, “I don’t care if people know what I’m doing.” She didn’t say anything. Much later, I realized that she must have been thinking, “Well, I care very much if people know what I’m doing.” A woman wants sex to be a very private, discreet matter. Only in private will she open up to a man whom she feels she can safely share this part of herself with.
Yeap I had that talk with my partner and we shared out pasts, although we were pretty tame. Got in a few fights over it and she was worried I would tell people, that is when you know the truth was told.
I was not talking about a woman you're dating. I _was_ talking about insecure women, perhaps _very_ insecure. I've only ever done it by accident; I did not even dislike her, she just thought I did because I did not talk to her.
"...If you want to know what she REALLY thinks, then keep your thoughts to yourself!" I encourage my daughters and sons to be honest! I told my eldest daughter, when you want to know who a man truly is, mention a topic and let him speak! Nod and say "hmm" in order to show him that you "are" interested in knowing what he thinks and feel. This is the same for women or men! Let people tell/show you who they are! Because: You'll never know a person if "you're" always "telling them" and "thinking" men are this way and women are that way!
that's the rational/logical way to go about it. Just do the golden rule. Treat others how you want to be treated. You want the other person to be honest and speak truly. If both sides can just do that, then you can make an honest evaluation on whether or not compatibility exists, rather than being scared and delaying it for weeks/months down the line, THEN finding out you don't match in core beliefs. Saves time and then you aren't playing games.
When you say “judged”, you mean “judged negatively”. Women feel a need to avoid all negative judgement, but they do enjoy positive judgement (as everyone does).
This is pretty true, but I would say they hate being alone more. Though you related the ideas in the video. Also their fear of judgement often leads them to judge so they continue to fit the group dynamic. The irony there is oh so sweet.
@@slapittywapitty8173 Arranged marriages have statistically been shown to have a greater chance of success. Now, this may be due to them being FORCED to work due to culture, but I wouldn't be so certain. Your family is always going to have your best interest at heart; there is no gain for them in selecting you a partner aside from keeping/furthering the family reputation. Guys are often blinded by lust and select horrible partners, and we have all seen how poorly most females select mates. Arranged marriages make logical sense; they are founded in values outside of "feeling in love" which is something that always fades and is a horrible ground principle to build a relationship on.
@@Prodigial Anti arranged ( read love) marriages are also all, most of the time, about, looks( hers) and resources (his). And that's usually confirmed in arrange marriages too. Plus it's not binding on either side to accept the arranged proposal too.
I love how Alexander is telling us the awnser within the first few seconts and then explaining it in greater depth. Rather then to waffel on and on and on about some crap to a point where you are just like: "F it! I'm gonna read a book instead."
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Good video. Any good leader is also a really good listener. They don't interrupt. They nod and smile, thus encouraging the speaker to fully explain themselves either to their advantage or detriment. Put another way, good listening is good intelligence gathering.
The best high quality women are the ones who strategically go against the grain. They're not going to open their mouths at the wrong time with the wrong people. They're also not going to put an opinion out about something that really doesn't matter to them because that's just asking for unnecessary trouble. but when it comes to something they consider importance, they're willing to go against the grain.
By the Gods, i had this dating experience with a woman that confirms what you said. Whether it is a man or a woman i always let them talk and avoid being judgemental and even encourage it with small inquiries, this works both with men and women mind you, you'd be surprise the stories you hear when people feel comfortable, keeping secrets is very hard for your average human. Back to the story, She just talked on end about her drug filled life, going to fetish parties (aka orgies), unable to hold a job for more then 3 months, saying all the men of my ethnicity were mysoginists saying that monogamy is not good and then proceed to complain that she couldn't find any men only gay friends (what a shock right?). At the end of the date, it was good bye and cya laters! (well more like never). And that is how I uninstalled Tinder for good.
What an eye opener! Totally explains how and why women get caught up in abusive relationships, and seem unable to break loose. That's something I've never before been able to understand.
This is why women are not more mature, happy, or able to love. Fear is the opposite of love, you can not hide & be known. You can not be a liar and know love.
@@Danielkaas94 happy Monday, I am confused as to what your trying to communicate. You wrote a statement, but end with question mark. Courage would be the chosen response of love to an unknown rather than to kneel to fear.
I actually like intellectual women who will debate. Seems like a breath of fresh air, a change from the feelings-based worldview, from the passivity of feminine women. I cannot *stand* passivity! It makes me bristle. If I'm going to be spending a lot of time with someone, I need her to be able to stimulate my brain... as well as other body parts. :P
I disagree. I prefer a woman who compliments my life and is not disagreeable & argumentative. If I want an opinionated debate partner, I'll hang out with my buds. Edit: passivity is *very* feminine. I love it.
Depends on the argument.... unless the emotions connect / are counter intuitive....i prefer to relate more with logic and relativeproof. Yes, though I'm quite emotional myself I prefer bring neutral + learn from my surroundings... whether I agree with it or not. However... if there's no depth / i notice a repetition... then I just put a solid conclusion to the discussion. I remember arguing with a female cousin of mine regarding more woke-ness and inequality of pay btn men + women. Earlier before my own prof in my college...WHO WAS A YOUNG WOMAN...gave conclusions + paperwork that this inequality...with all differences aside from special occasions...statistically proved that this was ALL JUST A BIG MYTH... and she identified as a progressive!!! ...Anyways my cousin said "where's the proof?" I said " I do have proof, in fact a few wks ago my FEMALE prof showcased some in my assignment in statistical analysis conducted by 3 research firms. I'll show u." 😒 Then her eyes got wide as i tried scrolling thru my docs and bombarded me with why's instead of the What and when's... Before cutting off with conclusion I stated that statistics merely tell u the data itself and proof of any correlation between data points within intervals... NOT A CAUSE + EFFECT Explanation. Speaking of which... many conclusions dirived from this + similar works altogether by Social Scientists who ACTUALLY STUDY THE TRENDS...formulated the idea that this WAS ALL A MYTH...and of course she just got pissed and stated I couldn't form a proper argument...of which I replied... was it worth arguing? I dpent like 20 min on a mind numbing rambling with a repeating record. I got the satisfaction of seeing her stomp away...😌
This is why I'm glad I'm single: I have no patience for this horseshit. I'm results-oriented, and this characteristic compromises morality and ingenuity.
I have never seen a couple wich survives the girl going in a travel. It always end with the girl cheating on the guy. Sometimes , the truth come far after the fault , when kids are here , ans it's a disaster.
I like how he gets to the point in the first second of the video. So many channels will lead viewers on for more than ten minutes with a clickbait title to get more watch time but this doesn't do that.
@@sanghoonlee5171 I see you've made the realization. My girl was cheating on my for 9 months before I found out. And she was good at lying. Real good. I was too stupid to know that actual cheating was taking place. I was busy with work. Dumb. I shouldn't have been in a relationship with her. You learn. And eventually, you'll come to the conclusion that being single (at least not married) is the best overall strategy for men. It's sad, but it's true.
Recently posted an ad "Looking for Nice Wife" on a matrimonial website. Received over 100 marriage proposals within a week. I replied back to all, thanking them but this time with a new condition they have to pay me alimony and child support in case we divorce. Plus I will have child custody. No one replied back 🤔
The sheet above him is covered in cats. He is being held by a lonely, post wall, 40 something cat lady. I think he is blinking a help message in Morse code.
FACTS, this is why my first recommendation for friends getting into online dating is to remove anything that could be perceived as negative from their profile, any hint of judgment can turn some things around in ways you couldn't have anticipated and that will most likely work against you. Remain positive, gather the information, make good decisions, and go from there. The consequences are too high not put the time in to truly understand the women you are around, and to understand them you have to be open to anything they might say.
This is the fact that completely escaped me. When I hear it I know this is true, makes sense, and explains everything. But looking back I see myself thinking and acting as if women and men have the same hierarchy of priorities in that regard.
Damn, this is a good one, Alexander!
I feel like i already knew all that but i did the mistake of voicing my opinion many times.
There's obvious evolutionary reasons why women depend on group approval/protection. Being ostracized is absolute kryptonite to women. Completely ignoring them is a powerful tool men should get used to deploying in certain situations.
I think the best way to sum it up is thus: privilege has a price. (As in you have to keep people happy)
Alexander is wrong thinking it is feminine behavior. Guys are also afraid of being judged. It is quite obvious in their conversations. All intelligent people understand the consequences of expressing unpopular opinions in a group which is not tolerant to other voices. The truth will be avoided or disguised until the treat of ostracism is diminished. Gays, atheists - they all do this regardless of their sex. It is a smart thing to do.
@@PszemoI you seem to be missing the point. It's about the magnitude of this fear, it is significantly higher in women.
This is why single women over 35 are so depressed. Society is judging them for their life choices and they can’t lie their way out of it.
Stiffled Instincts.
Over 30*
@@youngmarriage5717 Over 18
@@bicitaja Over 0
I think it's more that they are avoiding/denying a judgment that they know is true. They are only judged when they are 35+ and come out as being "fluent in sarcasm, mother of 2 angels who come first, tired of fuckboys and looking for a real man" and realize that only low quality men pursue her.
At first she gets smug and says "where haz the good men gone? >:0" and then she realizes that she is either going to have to continue to lie to herself and say things like "I AM THE TABLE!!!" or "WHERE HAVE THE GOOD MEN GONE!!!" like it's men's problem... or she will look inside herself and accept her reality, in which case she can start to work towards happiness. She might even come to realize that by the time she is past 30, she might not want a relationship anymore anyway since the cute, magical phase of building a life and a nest is completely over.
Well that explains feminism wanting to normalize shitty and shady behaviours and label them as "free" "independent" or "strong women".
This comment makes me feel like a social contract that has been engrained in me is unraveling. Thank you
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"When everyone became shitty, nobody are"
This video would be the logical follow up to the- 'the real reason women travel' video.
These sorts of discussions are not a recipe for happiness. You sense that the wholesome vision of the small warmth and happiness a family could provide, was simply just that, - a vision in your head.
And nothing else.
Thanks for putting into words what we are all thinking. Im gonna take a screenshot if you don't mind
Man I really like when you answer the question immediately, I know the answer but now I want to know the reason behind it
Right? He’s the only TH-camr I know of who does that
Yeah I like it aswel when he explains his claims instead of giving a blank statement like many do
It's a really good setup, grabs the attention immidiately and keep you hooked.
This is what makes a content producer good. Clickbait gets the clicks but not the fans.
@@americancapitalist9094 indeed
How can you disagree with a guy who sits in a fortune teller tent
Later in the film you discover the same actor pretends to be the Wizard.
LOL
And tells the truth. Now thats strait up X-Files
Hahahahaha
Brilliant, I laughed, thanks.
A man once said: _"Enough about womens rights what about womens wrongs"_
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Yep
Not very smart that man if he said "womens" as women is already plural. Must be a coward and an ignorant just like you.
Women NEVER do anything wrong...just ask them.
You know when cardi b is considered a role model & gets awarded "woman of the year",women have lost their moral compass....
Songs about being independent while being married.
They never had it, society forced them to pretend they did. Now they are unhinged
Dont forget about AOC getting elected a 2nd time. THAT was the clincher for me
Woman of the Year? Who handed out that award? Did they see W.A.P. from the grammies?
Females in this times are purple robots, funny because they have never been more controlled than ever before. For each their own I guess.
Girls don't want to be judged while judging every single little detail of everyone elses life while ignoring their mistakes and prolonging the incoming judgement, I grew up learning never judge anyone if you dont want to be judged and treat everyone the same, every new person is a blank slate, but I have never met a women that didn't judge me before even talking to me, that's why I stopped dating entirely.
To be fair, MANY dudes are shitty people and can be dangerous to be around so they have to judge to some extent to protect themselves. You can thank the agro beta males with super fragile egos for that.
No. He stopped dating cos he knows he deserves better and chooses to walk away from a steaming pile of shits. It’s called having self worth.
Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgment. When a hypocrite cleans up their own life then he/she will be fit to judge another. Of course, it is always wrong to make judgments about a person's motives or thoughts because we don't know their mind.
@@ccoodd26 Why though; why can't we know for surely what they have in mind? Did they come from another planet or are they messengers of the god? Anyone and everyone can be understood and predicted with enough observation. As long as people not actively trying to trick or hide their motives you can predict them to near 60%-70% accuracy. Above 85 IQ and sharp eye is enough. Stop romanticising people we are not that unique nor hard to analyze.
@@ilyasabi8920 Your predictions would mean jumping to conclusions. This means you're believing instead of seeking. This is where conflict is inevitable. You may think you can accurately predict, but it comes with error. This is how evil is done, which most people aren't aware of when they do it. Beliefs have caused the most conflict. Seeking with evidence, experiments, and experience is the way.
I had 3 years of my life stolen and a criminal record gifted to me at the expense of this aspect of women. Not to mention anxiety and depression. Character assassination is not below them....
*F*
Truth!
Damn... That's horrible man.
just watch the news, that is the main tactic in the struggle for power.
Stay strong brotha
The problem with this is that if a girl sees you as high value, she'll know you'll have high standards. So, trying to make her feel comfortable (so she is honest you) will still only work against her in the end. She knows this. In other words, you'll still not get honesty from her no matter what you try.
A real man doesn't care. Go get what you deserve mate, never settle for less.
if you don't show you preference they wouldn't know how exactly to cope with. you're much likely to get the true answer
Great point!
You’d be sadly surprised how naive young women are these days. Most I encounter think it’s absolutely normal to sleep with 2-3 different individuals in the same week.
It's a double bind, because if she's dishonest and you accept her because of that, but later you spot the lies, the consequences can be more severe for her than if she were honest in the first place, and if you're a high value man, you have to be hard to deceive. There is no way out for her.
Dating for woman is like shopping vs. Dating for men is like a job interview
great analogy! and a job interview for a job we dont really want! We are just here for the bene's(benefits)
@@inconnu4961 yea, Men have to 'pass selection' by girls like soldiers trying out for the special forces. girls just have to be young and stay under 15% body fat that's all.
@@rajunaidu7751 dam not fair! you are right! interesting way to look at it.
@@inconnu4961 men have unlimited time though so it's not all that bad
@@rajunaidu7751 not only more time, but better with age.
I get far more attention from women now, with grey in my beard and slightly overweight, than I ever did as a young man in fine physical condition.
Very easy to explain though.
Hypergamy at it's most base level.
Makes sense. Like how one chick who hates rock music, she meets a guy she likes who loves rock music. Next thing you know, she suddenly also likes rock music.
IF the guy has a higher status, if not, she could care less
That's a gemini
Always
@@GameplayzOfficial
He said she likes him, so specifying that he's higher status is redundant
I got an ex-girlfriend to start playing chess and actually convincing herself that she really enjoyed it. Ofc she quit after we split 😆😂
It also explains why women are very picky regarding men. They fear to be judged by others, if he is not tall, handsome, successfull...
well, that actually explains the height obsession on the dating apps
@@jotab3399 It's only one of many reasons.
I always found myself saying "shes not dating him but the status that comes along with it"
feared 5obe judged, brave to act to a point where someone will judge. ouroborous...
"I hate people who judge"
- every women dating profile ever
Yet judges you 😂
Translation 'i judge people who judge' 🤔
I judge because I have a brain. That is what it is there for. To call them out on their BS.
@@bicitaja eh, to be biased as well I mean be honest with yourself at least. You probably would be nice to a guy who is more attractive over someone whose not
i think there is a difference between how men and women define judgement
for women, they fear the collective judgement, but it happens people confuse collective vs individual ones
i think most men care less about being ostracized by society, and they can exhibit anti-social tendencies
while for women, it's the other way around, they care less about individual judgement, and for them judging individual men is normal, while men, dont like their friends, pales and family judging them
hence the conflict between how men and women deal wit judgement
Women particularly fear being judged by people whom they value... their peers, higher status men and anyone whom they feel some accountability to (family/friends).
Did I missed something?! We're honestly mentioning the terms _Women_ and _accountability_ within a single sentence now? Wow … That's bold!
This video made me remember how wildlife photographers take the pictures of animals in their natural habitat. The photographer needs to keep his cool, being undetectable so that the animal feels safe and can behave how it normally behaves in the wild. If the photographer keeps his cool and makes the animal feels safe, the animal will respond by acting honest and true.
I love that analogy.
That’s a pretty good analogy that can link in with other aspects of life
_I hate judgement but I love judging._
*Feminism*
Your comment needs 9 more likes, there I added one!
@@danballe Thank you!
They are also terrified of losing the alpha males attention. Because back in the tribal days, the whole tribe was following the alpha males. So if the alpha males didn’t like her, she was in trouble.
the lizard brain is too strong, (cerebral cortex)
We're all betas in their eyes. Don't fool yourself.
i m the only alpha left on this planet u beta guys
@thrudt Foy nah. u just dont know how alpha is sounding. poor beta. dont u see my silverneck?
@@nmestre2 lol no. My wife's boyfriend is.
I always find women like this to be hypocritical on all fronts.
True, but they come about it honestly . . . its in their nature! Never treat your cat like a dog, nor your dog like a person! A cat is always a cat and a dog is always a dog(and a woman is a woman, not a man)
they're all like this lol
There are however some great exceptions...albeit far and few between.
@@tobygathergood4990 Sadly you are right! Thats why I celebrate the great ones!
@@inconnu4961 Being a woman is not an excuse for unacceptable behavior.
Clicked faster than a beta male replying to a woman flaking on him for weeks.
🤣🤣🤣🤣
'lol you sure did', for me the video was posted 46min ago, 'your comment' 50min ago seems like x)
Broooo 😂😂😂
Beast comment
wow, now that's fast! I would have mentioned something slower, like a speeding bullet.
This is truly one of my biggest fears, and it multiplies with the number of people present. I even feel a rush of adrenalin, as if I am in survival mode (just shows how deeply ingrained this is). In my childhood my mother used this against me and blamed things on me when my friends were present. This won't help you, it just creates resentment or even fear/hate. As Alexander said, it is the safe environment that makes it possible for a woman to open up (but of course don't neglect your standards!). A woman, who just lies to avoid this kind of feeling is not worth it.
I recognize that. But there are plenty of men who have social phobia too, it might my mostly women who suffer from it but not only
Thank you for sharing an willing to be vulnerable. it is difficult to do, because people like to trample on pearls, instead of cherish them. This is great insight for the man willing to listen.
Like he said you do it and dont realize it. I fear an idiot that doesnt believe they're idiots than one who has accepted that he is an idiot, which is why I trust myself with my own life over many others
I know many men that judge women but mostly because they can't have them and they don't feel good about their own status. I don't openly judge a woman but I do ghost and single out women that attempt to make me into one of their simps. I have no patience for a woman that wants attention, assistance and or financial gain from me without offering something in return
@@rogerm3708 EXACTLY we as men need to respect ourselves more
How can we let someone be in a position of power when this person's fear of being judged is stronger than the value of truth, honesty, integrity, etc.?
Our ancestors knew that. We have forsaken them.
This reminds of the time Hillary Clinton changed her twitter bio because she was questioned by a popular feminist during an interview. The question was why she firstly described herself as a wife instead of a presidential aspirant?
Big oof. This is an absolute knockout punch against feminism.
Always maintain a non judgement zone when dealing with women. Get her comfortable, and you'll be shocked at what she'll reveal
I've learnt something over the years...
Its much cheaper and peaceful to just rent it
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@Liam Connington Iv heard theyr changing all that in Amsterdam 😅
Try Thailand or Indonesia 😉
Vladimer Putin: very true. Guess the laydeez call you 'Vlad The Impaler'? 😆
Bruhhhhh😂😂😂
Ugh women don't like being judged but when they gossip, their words and snares rip through your flesh like a chainsaw
Exactly, you'd assume people who dont like being judged won't judge others. Thats different in women's case.
If you were to judge women, then they are useless !!! Women expect a man to be perfect but women can be right at the bottom of the scale !!!!! I am so glad that the young men of today are opening their eyes and doing the sensible thing, that is staying single !!! This video is absolutely vital for men to watch !!!! What it means is your woman will go crawling back to her friends, running you down all the time, and if her friends tell her to leave you, then that's exactly what she will do !!!! If you want a happy life, just go out with women and don't spend money on them, and never live with or marry them !!!!! However, some men love being married and all that comes with it !!! Well just let them get on with it, like they say, one man's meat is another man's poison !!!!!! Because I never got married I have been able to always work in pleasant jobs, although with less money, be free from stress, have as many female friends as I wanted, and be mentally free all the time !!! And all my married male friends in their sexless marriages say that they might as well be dead !!!!!!
How do you respect anyone who doesn't value honesty?
And how can you possibly love someone if you don't respect them? Beyond my ability.
men are about respect, not women. don't project your masculine values onto them.
You don't!
Smile and wave boys, smile and wave
It's judgement day, baby!
Haha 😂 . “Hasta La Vista, Baby” “I won’t be back”
“Yum!!!”, says The Wall...
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I'm only three minutes in watching your video, and as a very experienced, bachelor of 55 years old, you have brought up one of the most important things a man needs to know about ALL women. Not just young or in their 20s or 30s but ALL women of all ages, ethnic backgrounds, religions, etc... they are ALL afraid of being judged and not accepted mostly by other women, but by men also.
And yes, they will throw their husband, best friend, family members, and anyone else under the bus to save face from people that don't even matter in her life.
I've seen it and have had it happen to me and it was ugly. She tried to ruin my life and business and my reputation all because after two years of being together 3 or 4 days a week, I got tired of her lies because they were starting to include me and effect our friendship. I called her on her absolutely insane lies and she got so embarrassed and ashamed that it made her go into angry defensive mode and spun things around to make me look like the bad guy. Because she was so afraid that I was going to expose her to all our friends for the lying, hoe she is. She did everything she could to run damage control two steps ahead of me to make sure her story was heard first and then people wouldn't listen to me or believe me if I did try to say what really happened.
Women will do unbelievable things that you can't imagine to keep their image as clean as possible to everyone they meet and know. It is absolute insanity mixed with heavy doses of narcissism.
gives the answer in the first second of te video. Wasn't expecting this to be clickbait anyways. But you once again show us your senserity, always getting straight to the point and no beating around the bush.
I like that you filmed this in your blanket fort.
I hope thats not sarcasm. I build a fort out of the couch cushions and blankets all the time. Forts are wicked.
I’m agree. They’re afraid when the people discovered they’ve many secret men in their life. Because of the judgment about the other people. The men particularly
And thats for good reason
@@hadiakmal9281 of course. That’s why they’re more calculators than men
You know I knew that ostensibly but now that you mentioned it explains a lot about the current state of affairs, we've becoming a increasingly feminine society and that's not a psychological healthy thing, how social media and IRL society become excessively obsessed with being judged and judging others, the damage to mental health and just living along with people has been huge. It's like Mean Girls but everywhere, that's no way of living.
The thing is, m3n like me value truth and honesty. So no surprise that most of them will end up alone.
I don't understand why women think that "Number of men a women has been with in the past shouldn't make any difference (" it's in the past, don't judge her by her past")", I don't understand how they think they can do whatever they want and escape without any consequences.
Very good insight! Yes, they don't want to be judged for being "loose", but that is exactly what they are....Loose & Immoral! Looseness in women & (men) will hinder their ability to settle down later and be true to one partner in a cohabitation environment.
Women excel at denying reality.
it's an excuse. Run far away from a woman who won't take responsibility for her actions. Which seem to be most of them (well, tbf men and ppl in general can have a default of not taking responsibility and shifting blame. Women tend to have that more as default since...female nature and the feminine is less about being direct and responsible as opposed to men, which is to take charge and risk invoking conflict. The real question is whether ppl show potential to grow out of it...those since it's more of a nature thing for women...meh it may be much rarer to see/find/expect)
This makes sense.
It's been my experience, at least.
Back when I could be bothered to consider women at all.
I fear social judgement even though I am a man. I've been trying to change this in myself for years but I failed.
Now I don't say or do anything that is not true to myself but I hold back in situations where conflict might arise. I am very sensitive to how others perceive me and I constantly worry about what others think.
Listening to this video made me realize that this is not only perceived as weakness but it is actually a feminine trait and it could be the very reason I fail to attract women even though I have allot of right going on.
I'm also highly tuned to the perceptions/emotional responses of others, in my youth it was pretty bad, panic attacks etc. Work on accepting/loving yourself my man, it's cliche as hell but I swear that it's the answer as far as helping with social anxiety. I can almost guarantee that fear of judgement comes off as unattractive as you recognize, solve it and you'll be golden.
You need to not care. To be indifferent. Like when spock almost died and Ahura got mad at him for it.
Hold them accountable and expose their cheating/deception. Time for equality women, you asked for it.
Ps. victim card has been revoked.
0:00 Judgement.
I already knew how during a date you want to leave her to do 80% of the talking. I thought it was so just to keep her happy because everyone likes to talk about themself. But just as important is for the guy to keep his mouth shut so that she is invited to be more truthful.
Excellent, Excellent points. I known this for a while in my professional life. I'm a lawyer. Men and women think differently and unconsciously.
For years, I'd wanted to have a life with a woman, but it became clear that the way we thought was just too divergent. It's as if nature essentially said, "yeah, couple for procreation and childcare. But beyond that, say goodbye."
Watching this right after another argument with mum... that essentially always revolves around me judging her.
Wow
Just
Wow
Fate is on your side!
I am a straight male and I prefer a woman who accepts judgement rather than avoiding it. Who will explore new ideas, even though you said males are not attracted to those types of women. I prefer honestly and transparency over any other trait. With that said, your videos are truly game changing. I love this channel! Keep it going!
I always ask this to myself if you don't judge then how will you identify the difference between good and bad but you do what society tells you to that is not to judge.
You can judge quietly.
Not judging, but _being_ judged. Most often people are judged by societal norms and traditions or laws. They're not often judged on the basis of logic. So don't drag that in. :P
(Edit: also forgot to add: think about _being_ judged and being responsible or accountable. Just think.)
@@fleetingfootnotes9133 I don't understand how that relates to what Sidharth asked at all, he says nothing about being judged.
Absolutely everyone judges and gets judged. No exceptions.
@@conorm2524 I respectfully disagree, although it sure seems this way. People who love to judge are very vocal about it. There is some wisdom in FLEETING FOOTNOTES comment worth exploring. First job is: define judge. If you define judge as a synonym to condemn, then I strongly discourage you from judging. I believe judging , when used, should be used ala the scales of justice, that you attempt to balance(greek mythos). It becomes more a pro vs con scenario. I try to pretend like I am on safari or in a zoo. I let the animals be as they are in their natural state, when the being tries to come into MY real, then apply judgment: is this good or bad, good intentions or bad. But in all others I try to refrain( im not 100%, its a work in progress). The best thing about this is: you dont cloud your analytic side by HAVING to pronounce judgement on all things, thereby allowing you to see things clearly, as they really are. Then you can decide better how YOU will respond. its a lot of work initially and goes against the grain in a feminized world, but I think you will like the results!
This makes soooo much sense. It's like a whole new part of my own brain has been unlocked, simply realizing this. Everything seems to fall into place now. This is likely your best video yet. And it's so simple, yet so powerful to realize this. I think I always knew, but couldn't put my thumb on it. But the way you explained it made me really understand it. And to me, this is important, because, I have two daughters, and this will ultimately help me understand them better when they reach those crazy teenage years.
Hey, we should start judging them for not prioritising honesty and integrity! XD
LMAO You are so cruel! and I like it!
Then they will tell you they are honest and integrate, which of course, is another lie😆
@@NightKnight252 then just counter with no one says that. honesty and integrity are shown not stated
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It's called "psychological violence" or another bullshit, she will false acuse you of physical violence, not worth it to even engage
This is SUCH an eye-opener! One of my highest (top 3) values is honesty, and I let people know what I’m thinking. A lot! Looking back now, I’ve lost count how many women have likely felt judged by me on dates! And I went on a date a few months ago, and said to a girl, “Hey, I wouldn’t judge you. I’ve already decided you’re cool.” Date went amazing and we both had fun!
You have a real talent for understanding the female psyche.Keep up the good work
I sometimes come across girl groups who take the piss out of each other while staying tightly bonded. It’s so refreshing to see, it’s highly attractive (partly because these playful rapport-breaks will make them more independent thinking and less prone to groupthink), and demonstrates their feeling of security around each other
Sounds like you're talking about...men.
@@josephzsoka874 I mean sure, it’s a typically a male value system
@@EmperorsNewWardrobe ...but, your applying the analogy of male bonding to a group of women ?
Or, are you saying that, women have become so masculine, that they now hang out in groups and take the piss out of each other ?
This sounds legit, think about how women rarely if ever approach guys and ask them out instead of waiting to be approached/asked, because they can't deal with being rejected, or in other words judged.
This is the first nugget of the female nature every man should know, it's biological, and it's a base for later knowledge.
Your content is so good that you can deliver the answer to the title in the first second, and people will still watch the whole video bc we love hearing what you have to say
That explains why women can be perceived as being so "two faced" - one fake face for the outside world and the real one for the guy at home who she despises . Thanks Alex , great video.
Something I didn’t know when I began “dating” girls was the fact that privacy is very important for them. I have an instinct that makes me feel that I don’t care if the whole world knows what I’m doing. Women absolutely do not feel that way. It’s a huge difference. One time, in a conversation with a girl I had been dating, she mentioned something about having a sense of privacy in one’s home, and I said, “I don’t care if people know what I’m doing.” She didn’t say anything. Much later, I realized that she must have been thinking, “Well, I care very much if people know what I’m doing.” A woman wants sex to be a very private, discreet matter. Only in private will she open up to a man whom she feels she can safely share this part of herself with.
Yeap I had that talk with my partner and we shared out pasts, although we were pretty tame. Got in a few fights over it and she was worried I would tell people, that is when you know the truth was told.
you can make insecure women obsess on you by making her think you dislike her
Or you’ll make them give up and start dating someone else.
I did that. She leave me. Cause she think i'm too hard to reach
I was not talking about a woman you're dating. I _was_ talking about insecure women, perhaps _very_ insecure. I've only ever done it by accident; I did not even dislike her, she just thought I did because I did not talk to her.
@@agussolikhin1383 if she leaves you justifying this, you just let it go, as if you don't care. With this, you win,.
@@derekg5674 exactly, if you're not attractive why would she care ?
What a time to be alive!
"...If you want to know what she REALLY thinks, then keep your thoughts to yourself!"
I encourage my daughters and sons to be honest!
I told my eldest daughter, when you want to know who a man truly is, mention a topic and let him speak! Nod and say "hmm" in order to show him that you "are" interested in knowing what he thinks and feel.
This is the same for women or men!
Let people tell/show you who they are!
Because:
You'll never know a person if "you're" always "telling them" and "thinking" men are this way and women are that way!
that's the rational/logical way to go about it.
Just do the golden rule. Treat others how you want to be treated. You want the other person to be honest and speak truly. If both sides can just do that, then you can make an honest evaluation on whether or not compatibility exists, rather than being scared and delaying it for weeks/months down the line, THEN finding out you don't match in core beliefs. Saves time and then you aren't playing games.
That set them up to be finesed by manipulators.
They avoïd petty threats by exposing themselves to real dangers.
When you say “judged”, you mean “judged negatively”. Women feel a need to avoid all negative judgement, but they do enjoy positive judgement (as everyone does).
Well if it becomes positive its no longer judgement
@@yourlandladysson6395 No, that's definitely still a judgement.
This is pretty true, but I would say they hate being alone more. Though you related the ideas in the video.
Also their fear of judgement often leads them to judge so they continue to fit the group dynamic. The irony there is oh so sweet.
People hated me when i agreed with fixed marriages. Now how many women would want a man and don't have him?
that's a double edged sword there since that goes wrong even for the guy
@@smartgoku9048: Yup. Dudes don't wannabe 'Assigned' a human hand-grenade either.
@@smartgoku9048 how much time and money does your average guy spend on Tinder bumble etc??
@@slapittywapitty8173 Arranged marriages have statistically been shown to have a greater chance of success. Now, this may be due to them being FORCED to work due to culture, but I wouldn't be so certain. Your family is always going to have your best interest at heart; there is no gain for them in selecting you a partner aside from keeping/furthering the family reputation. Guys are often blinded by lust and select horrible partners, and we have all seen how poorly most females select mates. Arranged marriages make logical sense; they are founded in values outside of "feeling in love" which is something that always fades and is a horrible ground principle to build a relationship on.
@@Prodigial Anti arranged ( read love) marriages are also all, most of the time, about, looks( hers) and resources (his). And that's usually confirmed in arrange marriages too. Plus it's not binding on either side to accept the arranged proposal too.
Thaaaaanks for the direct answer. The WHY is even more interesting to know, that's why we watch the whole video ..
I love how Alexander is telling us the awnser within the first few seconts and then explaining it in greater depth. Rather then to waffel on and on and on about some crap to a point where you are just like: "F it! I'm gonna read a book instead."
this has helped a lot. Makes more sense now, looking back over the years of conversations.
Holy crap, I've been doing this without realizing it. Makes no sense to me as a man, but it works.
How many times have I heard/read from women "Don't judge me." from women? This helps me understand the 'why' of it.
I told a woman you're 33 not 23 so please act properly, oh man she was mad.
Savage
Legend!
Love it lol 😂
she erupted like Krakatau mountain
Thank you, Alexander. You always open our eyes to the unknown about women.
👏👏👏.
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Good video. Any good leader is also a really good listener. They don't interrupt. They nod and smile, thus encouraging the speaker to fully explain themselves either to their advantage or detriment. Put another way, good listening is good intelligence gathering.
The best high quality women are the ones who strategically go against the grain. They're not going to open their mouths at the wrong time with the wrong people. They're also not going to put an opinion out about something that really doesn't matter to them because that's just asking for unnecessary trouble. but when it comes to something they consider importance, they're willing to go against the grain.
I like how this video starts. Straight to the F-ing point!
This is why they comment like automated robots on social media "sooo us!", "accurate", "im literally dead😂" etc.
that's why they always agree in groups and afterwards sh*t talk behind their backs
One of the best videos I've seen from Mr. Grace so far.
By the Gods, i had this dating experience with a woman that confirms what you said. Whether it is a man or a woman i always let them talk and avoid being judgemental and even encourage it with small inquiries, this works both with men and women mind you, you'd be surprise the stories you hear when people feel comfortable, keeping secrets is very hard for your average human.
Back to the story, She just talked on end about her drug filled life, going to fetish parties (aka orgies), unable to hold a job for more then 3 months, saying all the men of my ethnicity were mysoginists saying that monogamy is not good and then proceed to complain that she couldn't find any men only gay friends (what a shock right?). At the end of the date, it was good bye and cya laters! (well more like never).
And that is how I uninstalled Tinder for good.
What an eye opener! Totally explains how and why women get caught up in abusive relationships, and seem unable to break loose.
That's something I've never before been able to understand.
This is why women are not more mature, happy, or able to love. Fear is the opposite of love, you can not hide & be known. You can not be a liar and know love.
Fear is not the opposite of courage? 🤯
@@Danielkaas94 happy Monday, I am confused as to what your trying to communicate. You wrote a statement, but end with question mark. Courage would be the chosen response of love to an unknown rather than to kneel to fear.
At 58, I'm just learning this.
I actually like intellectual women who will debate. Seems like a breath of fresh air, a change from the feelings-based worldview, from the passivity of feminine women. I cannot *stand* passivity! It makes me bristle. If I'm going to be spending a lot of time with someone, I need her to be able to stimulate my brain... as well as other body parts. :P
Thing is, most women "debate" from feelings and not from logic. It's very tiring trying to be logical in those "debates".
@@conorm2524 excellent point! But some women can, and will use their intellect like a man. At least for a while.
@@conorm2524 wow, you must know so much about women, please, tell us more!
I disagree. I prefer a woman who compliments my life and is not disagreeable & argumentative.
If I want an opinionated debate partner, I'll hang out with my buds.
Edit: passivity is *very* feminine. I love it.
Depends on the argument.... unless the emotions connect / are counter intuitive....i prefer to relate more with logic and relativeproof. Yes, though I'm quite emotional myself I prefer bring neutral + learn from my surroundings... whether I agree with it or not. However... if there's no depth / i notice a repetition... then I just put a solid conclusion to the discussion.
I remember arguing with a female cousin of mine regarding more woke-ness and inequality of pay btn men + women. Earlier before my own prof in my college...WHO WAS A YOUNG WOMAN...gave conclusions + paperwork that this inequality...with all differences aside from special occasions...statistically proved that this was ALL JUST A BIG MYTH... and she identified as a progressive!!!
...Anyways my cousin said "where's the proof?" I said " I do have proof, in fact a few wks ago my FEMALE prof showcased some in my assignment in statistical analysis conducted by 3 research firms. I'll show u." 😒
Then her eyes got wide as i tried scrolling thru my docs and bombarded me with why's instead of the What and when's... Before cutting off with conclusion I stated that statistics merely tell u the data itself and proof of any correlation between data points within intervals... NOT A CAUSE + EFFECT Explanation. Speaking of which... many conclusions dirived from this + similar works altogether by Social Scientists who ACTUALLY STUDY THE TRENDS...formulated the idea that this WAS ALL A MYTH...and of course she just got pissed and stated I couldn't form a proper argument...of which I replied... was it worth arguing? I dpent like 20 min on a mind numbing rambling with a repeating record. I got the satisfaction of seeing her stomp away...😌
A woman would not be judged if she were able to live as a faceless woman. Judgment can not be put on a woman with no name or face.
Valar morghulis
"If you want to know what she really thinks, then, keep your thoughts to yourself." Ex-ce-len-te, gracias!!
“Keep your opinions to yourself...if you want to get some honesty” You nailed it Alexander.
This is why I'm glad I'm single: I have no patience for this horseshit. I'm results-oriented, and this characteristic compromises morality and ingenuity.
I love videos like this. I wish there was more of these types of videos by subject than seeking a specific title.
For every video you make, less and less stars on day sky are shining on the unicorns nobody can find...
This is probably your most useful video I've watched thus far.
That's why they are often promiscuous when they travel....there's no one familiar to judge them.
I have never seen a couple wich survives the girl going in a travel.
It always end with the girl cheating on the guy. Sometimes , the truth come far after the fault , when kids are here , ans it's a disaster.
4:17 Tyler!!!! Never thought I would hear you mention him. Love how the two most impactful people in my life know(?) eachother
Conclusion : men have to judgemental like judge Dredd but need to keep our mouth shut and poker face
Or add a notch and be judgemental like women can be
I like how he gets to the point in the first second of the video. So many channels will lead viewers on for more than ten minutes with a clickbait title to get more watch time but this doesn't do that.
I was sort of listening casually until he started talking about lying to escape judgment. Then I got depressed.
Why you get depressed man?
@@bumba8154 Because it means finding a trustworthy woman is quite hard.
@@sanghoonlee5171 I see you've made the realization. My girl was cheating on my for 9 months before I found out. And she was good at lying. Real good. I was too stupid to know that actual cheating was taking place. I was busy with work.
Dumb. I shouldn't have been in a relationship with her. You learn. And eventually, you'll come to the conclusion that being single (at least not married) is the best overall strategy for men.
It's sad, but it's true.
Your content saves lives.
Recently posted an ad "Looking for Nice Wife" on a matrimonial website. Received over 100 marriage proposals within a week. I replied back to all, thanking them but this time with a new condition they have to pay me alimony and child support in case we divorce. Plus I will have child custody. No one replied back 🤔
Hope to not find a similar story posted in another comment section by the same username
women can be very honest, with their behavior
I love how he gets to the point from the start of the video
Alexander, tell me honestly. You are being kept hostage in a north african sahara tent? Ill come rescue you bro.
💀😂
He’s secretly that guy with mattress on the floor.....😎
This comment seems very judge-y. If the man wants to live like a Bedouin, who are you to dish the Hate-r-ade on him? 🤣
The sheet above him is covered in cats. He is being held by a lonely, post wall, 40 something cat lady. I think he is blinking a help message in Morse code.
@@marcmays48 you must be fun at parties.... Smh
Good info, thanks. Don't judge the deal breakers so you can get a honest answer out of her when you question her.
Why are you in a fortune-teller's tent?
He's an oracle or a mage. We seek wisdom thus the presentation is of that aspect of a mage or oracle.
FACTS, this is why my first recommendation for friends getting into online dating is to remove anything that could be perceived as negative from their profile, any hint of judgment can turn some things around in ways you couldn't have anticipated and that will most likely work against you. Remain positive, gather the information, make good decisions, and go from there. The consequences are too high not put the time in to truly understand the women you are around, and to understand them you have to be open to anything they might say.
Sure, judgement is scary but I’m way more scared of walking in a dark alley in the hood at night lol.