This is my message to my fellow men. Go to the gym. Lift weights 💪🏾. Be dangerous and silent. Become logical. Destroy the old u and unlock the new u. If a woman or someone that close to you hurts you. You have to go to war with yourself. You your pain and rage to conquer the world. That's what a man supposed to do. And for the women that gives us men the knowledge. Thank you. Use your pain and rage to better yourself, not hurt people. Only control what you can control. And that's u
Lot of men are going through what you just break down. Men always stress just to give women better life, working long hours, cherish them like a queen and still get treated like dustbin. Thank you for saving our heart ❤️
Briffault's Law - No matter what you have done for her, the benefits she derived from those acts are always temporary and her question will be, "What you have you done for me lately." If the answer is in the negative, you're on the bubble.
@confirmdad, this is what i am facing right now, in the same situation, but not yet break up. I worked long hours, and she's not even working with 4 kids. Giving me a kinda of trauma and I tryna concentrate at work but with God has been helping me out. Once, I closed from work, going home is another thing for me. A lot of thinking 🤔 damn. Thanks for this piece madam Jessica
My partner of 7 years just ended things with me a week ago. It was so sudden and felt like the whole world was ending. I've been trying so hard to keep in touch with her, trying to mend things to no avail, acting like a desperate fool. No more. That ends now. Thank you for your message. I needed it.
This works!! I got quiet and turned to God even more. I was transformed, strengthened, smarter, wiser, God did his thing on me. It’s crazy how much clarity you get when you get quiet.
@@temitopeoyeyemi899 you can do it bro. As long you chose to focus on yourself. Not in a selfish way but in a “growth” way. During this time try and see how you can improve yourself. Pick up a book or an hobby. Most of all, yield to God bro. He will transform you.
Amen brother it is amazing when the heart is broken and in the reshaping process when you turn & give it to the Lord you grow exponentially Psalm 51:17. Im living proof. Started to pray, read my bible & get back in Bible based church. In less than 2 years. Gym, wrote a book, started LLC, started mentoring again. Rediscovered my true purpose. Side note my ex once me back...but unfortunately I've out grown her. I kindly & lovely rejected her request.
@@mattd8868 praise God!! I’m so happy for you broda. I’m so much better now. So much transformation and revelations received. To God be the glory. When we turn to God during heart break or any unfortunate life situations, we will never lose because we have a solid foundation. Much love broda.
Amen me to brother. 7 year relationship and God ripped me from her put me in isolation and reshaped my heart. I went from wanting bad for her to praying she find her way to God also. But we’re done I’m not going back
@@godjudah6422 Now that choice is up to you. If you have to pick up her call, keep it platonic, be happy, do not display anger or grief and above all, KEEP IT REALLY SHORT. Text wise, do not respond immediately. Give it a couple of hours or a day. That shows you are NOT desperate.keep the text short and do not let the conversation drag. Show high value ✌🏿
If you really want the gal back, your only chance is to use the silent treatment. It sucks - it's like going cold turkey from nicotine or caffeine. But if you act on your instinctive reactions when she bolts, you'll permanently wreck the relationship and prove her accusations correct about you "pressuring" her. Women cannot stand being ignored and are totally confused by it. It's your only remaining effective - and legal - weapon, men; use it wisely. And under no circumstances should you publicly lose your temper - go scream into an empty canyon if you have to, but never at her....
Guys seriously? Girl never break up just not reason … never !!!! Maybe you do something wrong ? No ? Seat chat another girls , made tinder or only fans ? And she figur out it’s ? Nobody think why she do it! It’s have a reason always then maybe it’s you first hurt she ?
I dont care what anyone says. People may have forgotten what you have done for them, but they never will forget how you made them feel. If you were good to them one day or one year, they would come back at some point. Try to do you and live life. Just take it one day at a time.
If someone was good to you in a relationship and still leave then that's not being loyal at all don't tell someone you want to date them and then just turn it around and break up with them that's why women can't keep a man now
I tried his when my wife left because I had quit my job to concentrate on art. I disappeared completely out of site and she started living it up with a new boyfriend who had quite a good job as a clerk. It took me a year before the sacrifice I had made began to pay off when I started painting portraits. I earned in a week, if not far more , what her new guy made in a month. One day they went to a posh nightclub and some of my portraits of jazz musicians were hanging on the wall. Her new boyfriend loved jazz and remarked to someone who by chance knew me. When my ex heard that they were my paintings she desperately tried to get back to me, but I had moved on. She tried committing sucide to get my attention but to no avail. The boyfriend had met another girl whom he got engaged to and later married .
The funny thing is, my ex pulled this on me right when I broke up with her. I tried to contact them, reconcile in a couple weeks, but no reply. I was going crazy until one day, I completely ceased trying to contact them and focused on myself instead. Keep in mind we were still friends on Facebook. I than started going to the gym, spending time with friends and family, meeting new people, picking up new hobbies and focusing deeply on my career. I ended buying a 2021 Mustang and losing 25lbs within two months. She looked at my social media of me enjoying my life and BOY WAS SHE PISSED (lol). She was so upset she left a angry note on my door a month later trying to blame me for the breakup and I just ignored it and threw it in the trash. I guess the silent treatment worked for the both of us :).
why would u want to risk it by breaking up with someone then decided later on u want to contact to reconcile....? Sound like an indecisive grown boy game.
That rush of emotion... convert that energy into "doing something", don't fight it, don't push it back down, feel it and then MOVE. Go to the gym, lift some weights, do some sit ups or push-ups, but convert that feeling into something good!
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times I cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i don't know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her.
Jessica is right on the no contact rule. If your partner breaks up do not contact that person. Absence according to Robert Greene creates attraction. If you chase when you are most vulnerable, that person will reaffirm why they left you. Most people find it difficult to end certain relationships and when they do the last thing you don’t won’t to do is to give them the opportunity to affirm their thoughts leading to the break up. During no contact, engage your self with other stuff that will improve you. Learn a skill. I recommend learning how to play the Saxophone 🎷. You meet more women and more people. Hopefully, you’ll find someone worth your while. I’m done. Great vid. Jess.
That is an impossibility please. Friends keep in contact so obviously you will be contacting your ex and that will delay or even make the healing process impossible.
This woman knows what she’s talking about me and my ex broke up, a few months went by so I called to “check in on her” (I know big mistake) we had lunch, went to the movies a few times but it never got better and I could tell she was treating me like whatever she wanted to because in her mind I was never going anywhere and I allowed her to think that. So after a 2 months of this I realized things were never going to change and ended it, THIS TIME I implemented the silent treatment, no calls, no texts, I stopped following her on social media, complete ignore mode. Not going to lie, the first 2 months was hard because you’re going to have urges to make contact every now and then but don’t do it, hang in there it will get better, I’m a year removed now and completely moved on with my life, don’t even think about her. I knew for sure I move on when I saw her in a grocery store one time and she hadn’t seen me yet and I just kept walking out the door like she wasn’t there and got to the car and realized I didn’t feel anything even after seeing her, I was so proud of myself! Ms. O knows of what she speaks! 👏🏾❤️
Time heals most wounds, silent treatment works wonders and keeps the other party interested in a way which they can't understand... Jessica speaks volumes, no contact rule makes all the very difference in a heartbreak situation. When it's time to move in it's a sign that things need to move smoothly from there. (Keep it simple stupid) the kiss rule! What is important is knowing your self worth and sticking to your guns with your confidence intact.
After giving her the cold shoulder and moving on with my life, my ex recently sent me a text telling me she didn’t know if it was me or a friend of mine sending her threatening text messages telling her “be careful. I know where you live”. She was basically telling me to stop bothering her. In my head I was like “wtf? Lol”. And I told her the truth. I said to her “good luck with that but you don’t have to worry about me. I’m done waisting my time” I was left wondering if that was her way of breaking the “no contact rule”. I would always tell her that im there for her and would protect her from everything and everyone. She was probably expecting the same response, but nah. Good luck to her.
I once said this and I will say it again. I love the way in which your brain works Jessica. You've just nailed it again....as usual. I will definitely watch this over and over again.
Being silent is very difficult to under go because the temptation to him/her is too high , though one is afraid of time but silence will help, there's a lot of maturity in it. Madam I salute your channel ❤️❤️🇨🇲
Definitely my case I know she likes me but is stubborn and wants me to go nuts I’m actually very positive if I stay silent she’ll come back but if not meh I’m actually doing good even tho it’s been 2 days but I started working out months ago and have a cool job and begin to study in a month I’m actually looking forward to the future but I really miss the sex but I’ve just decided to not jerk off or contact another girl from my past I feel like this control over my urge is giving me control in other areas of my life too so it’s really nice and finally giving up on the endless arguments is relieving too
Really struggled with my breakup but i did engage the silent treatment it's hard but am getting better each day. Thank you Jessica your advice has proven to me am on the right path
She broke up with me without saying anything. She just blocked me in the midnight. In all social medias. I felt like part of me died for like 10 seconds, and now nothing. I feel nothing. No happyness, no sadness. Like I am an empty shell of something, called "human"
@@denzeilconway905 Yeah, bro, I found wonderful girl, and now we want to get married in 2 months, I am so happy. I can't even believe that it turned so good. Thank you very much for your support!
Jessica, you are authentic and candid. I appreciate your comments. I ended a bad relationship, and I am not going to pursue her. She neither appreciates nor cares, and therefore, there's no point to invest on someone who doesn't feel the same the way you do. Have a blessed day!
I can tell you PLAIN AND SIMPLE why she's acting funny. There is another dude. Not possibly, or MAYBE, SHE IS DEFINITELY talking to someone else and he has her attention right now. Hate to break the harsh news to u
Yeah my ex gf of 7 years, single mom did the same thing 3 years ago. She moved out. I went into no contact the whole time. A week ago she announced of FB she is engaged now rings and all. Oh well. I should have broken no contact.
Like you stated earlier, I really thought I have found the one, it was such a beautiful beginning, at a point she started behaving strange, stopped ignoring my calls, stopped replying my messages. I taught it was all a dream, I taught I won't survive without her, until I decided to work on myself to become a better version of me and today I am gradually getting used to it, recently I unfriend her on Facebook, delete her contact as if I knew this video is coming. Thanks a lot for this enlightenment
Stay strong king you're doing great. Keep pushing. Women are very very fickle and they will lead u on and bullshit you until the very end. ALWAYS remember this, because I'm actually going through something as we speak.... SHE BROKE up with YOU. Her loss, your gain. She'll feel it after some time has gone by. She will most likely contact you if you follow these methods, and when she does, just deal with her for what she is, which is just for a good time 💯💯💯
To my fellow gents, keep chasing excellence in your ambitions & passions above all else. Be ok & content with what you have whether you've got a special lady in your life or not. Eat well, sleep well, workout regularly & pursue your passions are what I live by.
All valid & proven points that have found to be very effective. My soon to be ex wife had gotten to the point where she's contacting me to point is was annoying. We've been separated for 7 years now and waiting for our divorce to finalize. Now all of a sudden she was constantly messaging me and even trying to call me where I had no choice but to block her & in messenger. I agree with Jessica with some time away from your ex you'll be able to see more clearly to see if the relationship is right for you. I'm doing great ❤
I think this is super helpful advice. And 100% right. I had a tough conversation with myself. I still love her, but i can’t control her feelings. I deserve someone who loves me and wants to build a life together.
I feel better listening to this very video, I’m just 21 old lady, thank you so much, I believe I can focus on my hand work with all my strength to work towards my education after being perfect and then start making enough money from my work, I regret all the sacrifices I did for him, all were just waisted effort 💔😢 but I still believe God will send someone better for me some day Amen 🙏
We have kids, and for me, keeping it minimal helps. I have let it go and moved on with my life. I harbor no malice feelings towards her. I forgave her and myself for our actions. I have learned from both our mistakes. I wish her the best.
Jessica your video was a game changer for me thank you! I was about to contact my ex wife but I decided to follow your advice and stay silent. So my ex wife knows that I’m hurt but she can’t feed on my weakness because I just don’t try to get her back or talk about it. I can tell she is already very confused. We are co-parenting our son and I act like the break up means nothing.
This is the kind of situation I'm going through now but me watching this has made me have a change of mind now and I'm okay.....thanks so much for the advice 🙌🙌
In addition to your prescriptions is the use of the 'Block and Delete' method. Blocking and deleting all her/his contacts and messages will make the adage 'Out of sight, out of mind' come true.
I wish I watched this video before... I already did all those stupid things and put my self in the lowest situation... but I got it now .. thanks Lady .
She just contradicted herself by saying the silent no contact method doesn’t always work. Speaking from personal experience, it always doesn’t work far more than said. The minute you break up, move on. Simple. Either embrace your freedom or find someone else. I found someone else - my husband and I’m grateful for the decade after I broke up with the ex to heal and analyze what I want in a marriage. I realized I didn’t have to settle to marry that ex suitor and I want someone better for me. So I did, and I never contacted nor will go back, and I’m actually grateful - it lead to meet my husband and make the right decision going forward to marry my husband Frank. May the Lord lead you to love and want truth - God bless. :)
@@marguskiis7711If you are married, you never break up because you’re bored. In fact, I never was bored with the ex-suitor and yet I broke up with him nonetheless because I realized my value with God and that I didn’t need to settle for less. God bless!
Yes! I felt so bitterly betrayed and hurt! I never thought i would survive this terrible experience, but I had to move on to suffer silently. Evidently I moved out and moved on with my life, but it was so difficult and sad. I was so silent for years, but i kept myself busy by helping and serving others. Time did not heal my heart until I learned how to forgive, because i had to take control of my emotions and decisions to take back power to live my life in a peaceful manner. Yet today, i find it so hard to trust again. I admit to being insecure in this area. The last time I saw her was at the hospital while she received Chemo Therapy for the cancer, it was the last time I saw her...
I’ve only had three breakups, and with each one, I’ve always extended a heartfelt departing message of sincere well wishing. That’s the best you can do if keeping your character intact is important.
Guys trust me this works like a charm…we ended things 5 months ago and so i went dead silent after i told her it was nice getting to know her…she texted me a week ago telling me she missed me💀
@@mrreddington777 Nothing. I said cool and that's all. if she didn’t want me then, she sure as hell doesn’t deserve me now. Trick is to know your worth.
I implemented the silence treatment for 11 months and 2 weeks. Did not call nor block her, but was getting information of her every move. We work at the same place and crossed path almost every week but no communications. One day I just walked straight into her at work. The first thing she said was, "oh you have decided to talk to me now". Well, after telling her that I have moved to a new location she promised to come over. Now we are back together and it is even better than the first time around. I gave her a long time for reflection and she realized that after all I am the ONE AND ONLY ONE. Time really does wonderful things in a relationship. Maximum respect to each other in or out of a relationship. Some folks go into attack and disparaging mode once the flames burn out. GIVE LOVE A SECOND CHANCE
YES! Silence!! It's the best tool. I have done this in my past relationships that didn't go well and they always start calling after some days and weeks but because i needed that time to rethink it out, it worked for me. Thanx Jess. whoever doesnt use this tool will definitely fall into that bad relationship again and again.
The hardest thing about letting a person go that I care about for me is knowing I was willing to work it out and as a man the toughest things you can do is set a boundary and stand on it when you have a soft spot for the person. You know their behavior is going to cross that boundary and if you do there will be nothing you can do to get her to stop but leave to show her that it is unacceptable. The silence is painful because you want that person to know that you are there for them and willing to work it out but if you break frame and fold she will NEVER an I mean NEVER respect you or your boundaries and to know that about a person you care about is one of the worst feelings in the world.
I hurt my ex a lot but she’s all I want. After I lost her I realized how perfect she really was for me and how much I truly love her. All I need is one last chance. I hope silence will help.
This is good advice but one must also be really careful. If your girl ended the relationship because of something YOU did or caused, giving her the silent treatment will NOT get her back if that is what you want.
Awesome! It’s been a while since I experienced any breakup as such but some of these tips can help in my marriage! Thanks Jessica. Oh, quick update, I finally posted my first TH-cam video! 🤠. One day I’ll be like you in the business niche! 🙏🏾
@@JessicaOS 🥳 Thanks much for your motivational words so far. I’m sure there’s many others learning from you too just like myself. I’m definitely getting it!😌
@@JessicaOS But Jessica. What if you want to continue having sex with her when she is with her new guy? Wouldn't it be better to keep friends with her so that you can be friends with benefits? So she will be cheating on her new lover with you? Wouldn't the silent treatment and no contact remove every possibility of you still fucking her?
@Jessica Os you say about the silent treatment I understand that helps but what about if you previously been living together and you have to speak to arrange picking up belongings etc?
I learned this eight years after a breakup,she attempted to return twice but the damage she caused could not be amended.I told her I don't love people twice.
Hi there, hope you are well... Your words it's like a great medicine for my pain, however the moment that I am going through now is giving me fuel to go training twice in a day... May Allah bless you
I always appreciate Jessica for her wonderful advices .U know when people go through such situations and they don’t know what to do cause most of people really don’t aye don’t worry just listen to jessica cause it helped me a lot to realise the facts .Thank u jessica ❤️
This woman is gold. Thank you so much, Jessica. I am getting through this hard situation. I've been dumped 1 month ago, and I have mixed feelings and my self-esteem has been severely damaged... And for the moment, despite the fact that I had the temptation to break this 0 contact, I am still abiding to it, no matter it hurts. Silence will be without any doubt my best friend in my new journey and will help me to heal all wounds
Watched this sometime back and didn't know it will help me at some point in my life;Thank you Jessica for reminding me my life matters even in troubling times
Thank you thank you thank you 🙏🏾 this validâtes what I’ve been doing already. My ex is always been running after but then proceeds to be disrespectful because I won’t take her back so I blocked her. I KNOW it’s driving her crazy
This is highly subjective. There are many factors to take into account such as; - kids( Very important) - number of years in the relationship - Are you married If you have too much invested in a marriage, you can't just go silent when your significant other decides to throw in the towel. You definitely need to evaluate the problem and fight for it in case it can be fixed. Pride is important, but if used in the wrong time, you'll only destroy yourself. Now if you're just dating, that's something else since it's only a '' getting to know stage'. You have the right to quit whenever you want.
Going through this now and I swear! This is a pain that hurts your soul! I’m currently in the “No contact” phase. I promise I can’t lie. This is a fight of my life. You are a God send! Thank you Ms. Jessica!
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Hi jessica, is this method working with an ex who lose their feelings towards you and is on an LDR relationship?
@@ltgaw1665 You are amazing, you are doing good job with the information you shared always. Keep the good work.
Thanks
Everyday I learn something new❤❤❤❤
@@ltgaw1665 🔥🔥🔥
This is my message to my fellow men. Go to the gym. Lift weights 💪🏾. Be dangerous and silent. Become logical. Destroy the old u and unlock the new u. If a woman or someone that close to you hurts you. You have to go to war with yourself. You your pain and rage to conquer the world. That's what a man supposed to do. And for the women that gives us men the knowledge. Thank you. Use your pain and rage to better yourself, not hurt people. Only control what you can control. And that's u
Thanks dude your comment is 🔥
Thanks nice words of encouragement.
Thanks I needed that
Thank you very much.
Bro you go fire 🔥 🔥🔥👍
"Silence is the best response to someone who doesn't value your words". That's Gold.
Definitely a Dimond
@@hanzbrixx easier said than done
You know what to say
Lot of men are going through what you just break down. Men always stress just to give women better life, working long hours, cherish them like a queen and still get treated like dustbin. Thank you for saving our heart ❤️
My current situation. Working my ass out only to get to a fierce house 😅
Briffault's Law - No matter what you have done for her, the benefits she derived from those acts are always temporary and her question will be, "What you have you done for me lately." If the answer is in the negative, you're on the bubble.
@confirmdad, this is what i am facing right now, in the same situation, but not yet break up. I worked long hours, and she's not even working with 4 kids. Giving me a kinda of trauma and I tryna concentrate at work but with God has been helping me out. Once, I closed from work, going home is another thing for me. A lot of thinking 🤔 damn. Thanks for this piece madam Jessica
Indeed
I worked my ass off for her, and she is ungrateful 😢 I can't believe this is happening to me. I miss my kids so much
My partner of 7 years just ended things with me a week ago. It was so sudden and felt like the whole world was ending. I've been trying so hard to keep in touch with her, trying to mend things to no avail, acting like a desperate fool.
No more. That ends now.
Thank you for your message. I needed it.
I am with you right now, I did the same.
Bro go to the gym, read more books about growing and be silent.
This is exactly me!!! But as you say… no more!!! There’s a new me!
Sorry to hear
I know how it feels, stay strong...
This works!! I got quiet and turned to God even more. I was transformed, strengthened, smarter, wiser, God did his thing on me. It’s crazy how much clarity you get when you get quiet.
@@temitopeoyeyemi899 you can do it bro. As long you chose to focus on yourself. Not in a selfish way but in a “growth” way. During this time try and see how you can improve yourself. Pick up a book or an hobby. Most of all, yield to God bro. He will transform you.
Amen brother it is amazing when the heart is broken and in the reshaping process when you turn & give it to the Lord you grow exponentially Psalm 51:17. Im living proof. Started to pray, read my bible & get back in Bible based church. In less than 2 years. Gym, wrote a book, started LLC, started mentoring again. Rediscovered my true purpose. Side note my ex once me back...but unfortunately I've out grown her. I kindly & lovely rejected her request.
@@mattd8868 praise God!! I’m so happy for you broda. I’m so much better now. So much transformation and revelations received. To God be the glory. When we turn to God during heart break or any unfortunate life situations, we will never lose because we have a solid foundation. Much love broda.
Amen me to brother. 7 year relationship and God ripped me from her put me in isolation and reshaped my heart. I went from wanting bad for her to praying she find her way to God also. But we’re done I’m not going back
@@MentionDav3 amen brother. Stay up in the light bro. God is your strength bro.
Giving them the silent treatment is hard, but it MUST be done. Do not initiate contact even if you want to talk to them. Silence really is golden.
Does it means you shouldn't pick their calls and answer their text as well ???
@@godjudah6422 Now that choice is up to you. If you have to pick up her call, keep it platonic, be happy, do not display anger or grief and above all, KEEP IT REALLY SHORT.
Text wise, do not respond immediately. Give it a couple of hours or a day. That shows you are NOT desperate.keep the text short and do not let the conversation drag.
Show high value ✌🏿
An old saying is, "Silence is golden." There is a time to speak, and there is a time to be silent.
@@godjudah6422 Yup....
If you really want the gal back, your only chance is to use the silent treatment. It sucks - it's like going cold turkey from nicotine or caffeine. But if you act on your instinctive reactions when she bolts, you'll permanently wreck the relationship and prove her accusations correct about you "pressuring" her. Women cannot stand being ignored and are totally confused by it. It's your only remaining effective - and legal - weapon, men; use it wisely. And under no circumstances should you publicly lose your temper - go scream into an empty canyon if you have to, but never at her....
Silence, no contact exactly what I practiced on my previous break up.
I must say it gave me peace of mind.
@Stevo are you perfect?so you don't hurt anyone?
Did they reach out to you
Guys seriously? Girl never break up just not reason … never !!!! Maybe you do something wrong ? No ? Seat chat another girls , made tinder or only fans ? And she figur out it’s ? Nobody think why she do it! It’s have a reason always then maybe it’s you first hurt she ?
I thought traders don't got no emotions no more😅😅😅
@@limbo4667 we do😅
This woman has a special place in my heart
I dont care what anyone says. People may have forgotten what you have done for them, but they never will forget how you made them feel. If you were good to them one day or one year, they would come back at some point. Try to do you and live life. Just take it one day at a time.
If someone was good to you in a relationship and still leave then that's not being loyal at all don't tell someone you want to date them and then just turn it around and break up with them that's why women can't keep a man now
There are someone people they don't appreciate anything so try them
That's assuming they are the grateful type in the first place....Most women are not.
no manipulation strategies will bring anyone back...only love
@@andreeap6051
You have got to be joking! Love doesn’t put food on the table or pay the rent.
I tried his when my wife left because I had quit my job to concentrate on art. I disappeared completely out of site and she started living it up with a new boyfriend who had quite a good job as a clerk. It took me a year before the sacrifice I had made began to pay off when I started painting portraits. I earned in a week, if not far more , what her new guy made in a month. One day they went to a posh nightclub and some of my portraits of jazz musicians were hanging on the wall. Her new boyfriend loved jazz and remarked to someone who by chance knew me. When my ex heard that they were my paintings she desperately tried to get back to me, but I had moved on. She tried committing sucide to get my attention but to no avail. The boyfriend had met another girl whom he got engaged to and later married .
She's in it for the thrill and high life
What a story 😃👌🏾
Ahahaaha karma!
In swahili there’s a saying we have “mtaka yote, hukosa yote”
He who wants it all, loses it all
this is the happy ending i wanna hear
The funny thing is, my ex pulled this on me right when I broke up with her. I tried to contact them, reconcile in a couple weeks, but no reply. I was going crazy until one day, I completely ceased trying to contact them and focused on myself instead. Keep in mind we were still friends on Facebook. I than started going to the gym, spending time with friends and family, meeting new people, picking up new hobbies and focusing deeply on my career. I ended buying a 2021 Mustang and losing 25lbs within two months. She looked at my social media of me enjoying my life and BOY WAS SHE PISSED (lol). She was so upset she left a angry note on my door a month later trying to blame me for the breakup and I just ignored it and threw it in the trash. I guess the silent treatment worked for the both of us :).
WHY DO YOU THINK THAT MOST exs WANT TO KEEP THEIR FORMER PARTNERS HOSTAGE WHILE THEM THEY'RE ALREADY IN OTHER RELATIONSHIPS..???
ATTTA BOY!!! Kill ‘em with kindness!! Work on yourself, and you SURE DID!!! Happy Holidays!! 🎄😎
Why did you want to break up with your ex , what was the reason ?
@@mikeomondi6941 thank u
why would u want to risk it by breaking up with someone then decided later on u want to contact to reconcile....? Sound like an indecisive grown boy game.
Man, people don’t know how to commit anymore… technology has truly made relationships harder
Technology makes people feel they have options.. which are not real options though...
I agree 👍 wholeheartedly
@@MultiPrincelove facts
That rush of emotion... convert that energy into "doing something", don't fight it, don't push it back down, feel it and then MOVE. Go to the gym, lift some weights, do some sit ups or push-ups, but convert that feeling into something good!
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Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times I cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i don't know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her.
@Harrison S. Moore wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?
@Harrison S. Moore Thank you for this valuable information,i just looked her up now online. impressive
There's lots of women out there that will make you forget her
@@livenlearn9969 perfect, more than a billion of em
Fraudster 😂😂😂😂
Give this woman a million subs🤝🏾👏🏾
Shifted all my anger into my work, am workaholic.
Jessica is right on the no contact rule. If your partner breaks up do not contact that person. Absence according to Robert Greene creates attraction. If you chase when you are most vulnerable, that person will reaffirm why they left you. Most people find it difficult to end certain relationships and when they do the last thing you don’t won’t to do is to give them the opportunity to affirm their thoughts leading to the break up.
During no contact, engage your self with other stuff that will improve you. Learn a skill. I recommend learning how to play the Saxophone 🎷. You meet more women and more people. Hopefully, you’ll find someone worth your while. I’m done. Great vid. Jess.
Great contribution! Thanks
But in my case.. her mom kept on txting me about her daughter..
@@cheyo2151 block the mom. Not because you hate her or anything but because she reminds you of someone you’re trying to let go.
Great addition to it.
But what if we don’t want to leave that person & if that person is more important then our life
"Silence is the best response to someone who doesn't value your words." This quote 🔥 What about if you stayed friends yet you're in no contact?
No contact means no chatting,. No calling and no texting
That is an impossibility please. Friends keep in contact so obviously you will be contacting your ex and that will delay or even make the healing process impossible.
This woman knows what she’s talking about me and my ex broke up, a few months went by so I called to “check in on her” (I know big mistake) we had lunch, went to the movies a few times but it never got better and I could tell she was treating me like whatever she wanted to because in her mind I was never going anywhere and I allowed her to think that. So after a 2 months of this I realized things were never going to change and ended it, THIS TIME I implemented the silent treatment, no calls, no texts, I stopped following her on social media, complete ignore mode. Not going to lie, the first 2 months was hard because you’re going to have urges to make contact every now and then but don’t do it, hang in there it will get better, I’m a year removed now and completely moved on with my life, don’t even think about her. I knew for sure I move on when I saw her in a grocery store one time and she hadn’t seen me yet and I just kept walking out the door like she wasn’t there and got to the car and realized I didn’t feel anything even after seeing her, I was so proud of myself! Ms. O knows of what she speaks! 👏🏾❤️
Time heals most wounds, silent treatment works wonders and keeps the other party interested in a way which they can't understand... Jessica speaks volumes, no contact rule makes all the very difference in a heartbreak situation. When it's time to move in it's a sign that things need to move smoothly from there. (Keep it simple stupid) the kiss rule! What is important is knowing your self worth and sticking to your guns with your confidence intact.
After giving her the cold shoulder and moving on with my life, my ex recently sent me a text telling me she didn’t know if it was me or a friend of mine sending her threatening text messages telling her “be careful. I know where you live”. She was basically telling me to stop bothering her. In my head I was like “wtf? Lol”. And I told her the truth. I said to her “good luck with that but you don’t have to worry about me. I’m done waisting my time”
I was left wondering if that was her way of breaking the “no contact rule”. I would always tell her that im there for her and would protect her from everything and everyone. She was probably expecting the same response, but nah. Good luck to her.
I once said this and I will say it again. I love the way in which your brain works Jessica. You've just nailed it again....as usual. I will definitely watch this over and over again.
I'm very lucky to be watching you for years now, miss Jessica, love from Tanzania and DRC 🇨🇩
Depends on the person,silence also means lets both leave it alone.And youre most likely to never get it right.
Let them be ,,, so you will have rest of mind
Went silent after a break up and she still call me today , that’s how I actually healed .😁
How things now if u don’t mind me asking
@@molaimabilu5183 how are thing now
Auntie Jessica she used me but I moved on, the moment I started watching ur videos it mend me, know am new and focused, thankyou
Being silent is very difficult to under go because the temptation to him/her is too high , though one is afraid of time but silence will help, there's a lot of maturity in it. Madam I salute your channel ❤️❤️🇨🇲
💯. Not too many women are this transparent. You are spot on with this!
Wow that's true! Silent is the key of all we face in our life. Thank you very much.
What happens if none of you really want to break up but you both follow the no contact rule?
You nailed it. 👏
Silence and no contact are best ways to deal with the stubborn partner 👌
Definitely my case I know she likes me but is stubborn and wants me to go nuts I’m actually very positive if I stay silent she’ll come back but if not meh I’m actually doing good even tho it’s been 2 days but I started working out months ago and have a cool job and begin to study in a month I’m actually looking forward to the future but I really miss the sex but I’ve just decided to not jerk off or contact another girl from my past I feel like this control over my urge is giving me control in other areas of my life too so it’s really nice and finally giving up on the endless arguments is relieving too
Really struggled with my breakup but i did engage the silent treatment it's hard but am getting better each day. Thank you Jessica your advice has proven to me am on the right path
Same. It’s really hard but trying
Should I block her bcus she use to call me,sumtimes I pick sometimes I ignore so shuld I distance her by blocking her
Same to me it's hard but am trying
I think i fambled i tried so hard to get her back "i hate my self for this
Update us
one thing I love about you Jessica is that you're very genuine
She broke up with me without saying anything. She just blocked me in the midnight. In all social medias. I felt like part of me died for like 10 seconds, and now nothing. I feel nothing. No happyness, no sadness. Like I am an empty shell of something, called "human"
hope u doing better now bro since its been 9 months now. It's even worse when they just ghost u like that, makes you feel like ur the crazy one
@@denzeilconway905 Yeah, bro, I found wonderful girl, and now we want to get married in 2 months, I am so happy. I can't even believe that it turned so good. Thank you very much for your support!
Keep strong I’m going through the same
Always hungon.. ts always hard at the start, but eventually you absorb it.
Bro the same thing happened to me, we had a lil misunderstanding and I realized she had blocked me the next day and on all social media platforms smh.
Jessica, you are authentic and candid. I appreciate your comments. I ended a bad relationship, and I am not going to pursue her. She neither appreciates nor cares, and therefore, there's no point to invest on someone who doesn't feel the same the way you do. Have a blessed day!
Thank you Jess. This video is solely mine 💔😭😭😭
One of the greatest lessons I have learnt since 2021, in my young adult life.
This video is coming at the right time for me cos at moment my girl is acting funny for reason I can't even say. The healing process is on for me. 💯🥂🙏
I can tell you PLAIN AND SIMPLE why she's acting funny. There is another dude. Not possibly, or MAYBE, SHE IS DEFINITELY talking to someone else and he has her attention right now. Hate to break the harsh news to u
@@Lboogs7 say no more. Am done...
@@Lboogs7 cos I feel it strong.
Yeah my ex gf of 7 years, single mom did the same thing 3 years ago. She moved out. I went into no contact the whole time. A week ago she announced of FB she is engaged now rings and all. Oh well. I should have broken no contact.
Same story here, silence rule activated.
This is the most clever and wise woman I’ve ever seen wow
You nailed it. Great advice. I found I'm doing EXACTLY what you said.
As the Arabian proverb says: "Speech is silver, silence is golden".
i've been silent for a full year now. and i've got peace of mind. Her friend told me, she said she misses me
My silence is for eternity once you ignored me! Silence is gold worth 🏅
Like you stated earlier, I really thought I have found the one, it was such a beautiful beginning, at a point she started behaving strange, stopped ignoring my calls, stopped replying my messages. I taught it was all a dream, I taught I won't survive without her, until I decided to work on myself to become a better version of me and today I am gradually getting used to it, recently I unfriend her on Facebook, delete her contact as if I knew this video is coming. Thanks a lot for this enlightenment
Stay strong king you're doing great. Keep pushing. Women are very very fickle and they will lead u on and bullshit you until the very end. ALWAYS remember this, because I'm actually going through something as we speak.... SHE BROKE up with YOU. Her loss, your gain. She'll feel it after some time has gone by. She will most likely contact you if you follow these methods, and when she does, just deal with her for what she is, which is just for a good time 💯💯💯
Did she reach out
Update?
Jessica OS you're a gem. You are so uncut in your delivery that your value screams in a such a way that it hits home
To my fellow gents, keep chasing excellence in your ambitions & passions above all else. Be ok & content with what you have whether you've got a special lady in your life or not. Eat well, sleep well, workout regularly & pursue your passions are what I live by.
Awesome advice
What a stoic sort of philosophy in controlling emotions ... A wow video
All valid & proven points that have found to be very effective. My soon to be ex wife had gotten to the point where she's contacting me to point is was annoying. We've been separated for 7 years now and waiting for our divorce to finalize. Now all of a sudden she was constantly messaging me and even trying to call me where I had no choice but to block her & in messenger. I agree with Jessica with some time away from your ex you'll be able to see more clearly to see if the relationship is right for you. I'm doing great ❤
It's great to know you're doing just fine Rodney. 👍. Cheers🍷🍷🍷😊
You never know what you had until you loose it.
@@kevinmurray8537 very true
& taking her back would be a red flag so don,t do it
@@christianbenn316 yes sir I definitely agree with you
Jessica you have helped me through a hard break up. It wasn’t the longest relationship but we clicked so fast so thank you for the tips and help
I think this is super helpful advice. And 100% right. I had a tough conversation with myself. I still love her, but i can’t control her feelings. I deserve someone who loves me and wants to build a life together.
I feel better listening to this very video, I’m just 21 old lady, thank you so much, I believe I can focus on my hand work with all my strength to work towards my education after being perfect and then start making enough money from my work, I regret all the sacrifices I did for him, all were just waisted effort 💔😢 but I still believe God will send someone better for me some day Amen 🙏
I don't want other women, I just want Jessica 😍🥰👑
Hahahahaa...at that point, think twice
We have kids, and for me, keeping it minimal helps. I have let it go and moved on with my life. I harbor no malice feelings towards her. I forgave her and myself for our actions. I have learned from both our mistakes. I wish her the best.
Oh my God u so mature Bro, may God bless u, me am divorce a month ago with two kids but Its not easy at all. Please pray for me
Jessica your video was a game changer for me thank you! I was about to contact my ex wife but I decided to follow your advice and stay silent. So my ex wife knows that I’m hurt but she can’t feed on my weakness because I just don’t try to get her back or talk about it. I can tell she is already very confused. We are co-parenting our son and I act like the break up means nothing.
Thank you very much this helps a lot silence stop begging she left you.
This is the kind of situation I'm going through now but me watching this has made me have a change of mind now and I'm okay.....thanks so much for the advice 🙌🙌
how is it now ?
This video couldn't have come at a better time. I'm at the "trying to communicate with the ex temptation stage". Silent treatment is so far working
Ulipigwa character development 💀😂
@@jomama468 🤣 Mbaya sana!!
Hehee,, usijali bro,, hope you have healed,, usikubali kurudi kwa scene..., nimekuwa kwa hiyo situation,,, imma get through
These are Facts 💯 I've been using this tricks and heartbreaks are never issues with me
That’s crazy I was doing these things and didn’t even realize it was a good technique
In addition to your prescriptions is the use of the 'Block and Delete' method. Blocking and deleting all her/his contacts and messages will make the adage 'Out of sight, out of mind' come true.
I wish I watched this video before... I already did all those stupid things and put my self in the lowest situation... but I got it now .. thanks Lady .
"Breaking up is never easy" says an ABBA song. But yes, Jess, silence has that power you are talking about.
When am done with a lady am done,I don't make friendship with someone I have loved.
Jessica, you are a Diamond! I experimented it in the past and it works so well! Silence is everything!
i did this in Feb. Painful at 1st, but worth it. U rock Jess
My gf just broke up with me and you just healed me
she came back?
Bruv! How are you doing? She tried reaching out?
@@madaraking614 no
No
@@madaraking614 LMAO
I wish I had come across this before I had a breakup,. I wish I never begged him but thank God am strong now
Silence is the best ever
Thanks mumy❤️👍🏾
She just contradicted herself by saying the silent no contact method doesn’t always work. Speaking from personal experience, it always doesn’t work far more than said. The minute you break up, move on. Simple. Either embrace your freedom or find someone else. I found someone else - my husband and I’m grateful for the decade after I broke up with the ex to heal and analyze what I want in a marriage. I realized I didn’t have to settle to marry that ex suitor and I want someone better for me. So I did, and I never contacted nor will go back, and I’m actually grateful - it lead to meet my husband and make the right decision going forward to marry my husband Frank. May the Lord lead you to love and want truth - God bless. :)
But if you break up with Frank bc you are bored? What then? You move on?
@@marguskiis7711If you are married, you never break up because you’re bored. In fact, I never was bored with the ex-suitor and yet I broke up with him nonetheless because I realized my value with God and that I didn’t need to settle for less. God bless!
Yes! I felt so bitterly betrayed and hurt! I never thought i would survive this terrible experience, but I had to move on to suffer silently. Evidently I moved out and moved on with my life, but it was so difficult and sad. I was so silent for years, but i kept myself busy by helping and serving others. Time did not heal my heart until I learned how to forgive, because i had to take control of my emotions and decisions to take back power to live my life in a peaceful manner. Yet today, i find it so hard to trust again. I admit to being insecure in this area. The last time I saw her was at the hospital while she received Chemo Therapy for the cancer, it was the last time I saw her...
Thank you so much, and I am in the process of healing while listening to your great lessons..
I’ve only had three breakups, and with each one, I’ve always extended a heartfelt departing message of sincere well wishing. That’s the best you can do if keeping your character intact is important.
I just broke up and this video pops up, Thanks Jess
Guys trust me this works like a charm…we ended things 5 months ago and so i went dead silent after i told her it was nice getting to know her…she texted me a week ago telling me she missed me💀
And? What happened after?
@@mrreddington777 Nothing. I said cool and that's all. if she didn’t want me then, she sure as hell doesn’t deserve me now. Trick is to know your worth.
I implemented the silence treatment for 11 months and 2 weeks. Did not call nor block her, but was getting information of her every move. We work at the same place and crossed path almost every week but no communications. One day I just walked straight into her at work. The first thing she said was, "oh you have decided to talk to me now". Well, after telling her that I have moved to a new location she promised to come over. Now we are back together and it is even better than the first time around. I gave her a long time for reflection and she realized that after all I am the ONE AND ONLY ONE. Time really does wonderful things in a relationship. Maximum respect to each other in or out of a relationship. Some folks go into attack and disparaging mode once the flames burn out. GIVE LOVE A SECOND CHANCE
There'll be a 3rd and 4th chance before you realize there's better fish to fry
So you are saying "Looking forward to 3rd and 4th chance“
@@philnaomane8420 stopped reading at so you're saying.
@@lostafronaut4647 haha tell the dude
Were u seeing or sleeping with someone else during a year of no silence?
YES! Silence!! It's the best tool. I have done this in my past relationships that didn't go well and they always start calling after some days and weeks but because i needed that time to rethink it out, it worked for me.
Thanx Jess. whoever doesnt use this tool will definitely fall into that bad relationship again and again.
I never regret it when a girl broke up with me, I just took it normal and moved on with my life
The hardest thing about letting a person go that I care about for me is knowing I was willing to work it out and as a man the toughest things you can do is set a boundary and stand on it when you have a soft spot for the person. You know their behavior is going to cross that boundary and if you do there will be nothing you can do to get her to stop but leave to show her that it is unacceptable. The silence is painful because you want that person to know that you are there for them and willing to work it out but if you break frame and fold she will NEVER an I mean NEVER respect you or your boundaries and to know that about a person you care about is one of the worst feelings in the world.
Much love from Kenya ❤️❤️❤️so creative and to the point
I hurt my ex a lot but she’s all I want. After I lost her I realized how perfect she really was for me and how much I truly love her. All I need is one last chance. I hope silence will help.
Update?
Same here brother.... going thru hell right now...i miss her every single day, wish she could give me one last chance to prove my worth
Same situation bro! She wanted the break up. Hurts me so much! Im trying the No Contact. Hopefully she’ll reach out one day.
@@KingMoooseI've been facing this since 1 week...hope she'll comeback
Same here guys, it sucks to not be given a second chance
This is good advice but one must also be really careful. If your girl ended the relationship because of something YOU did or caused, giving her the silent treatment will NOT get her back if that is what you want.
What do you do in that situation
@@EhisNYC yeah tell us
I love to alottttt silent is the best answer to someone who doesn't value ur word's
Who else can give such a practical idea in love life. I will be your regular watcher Jessica 🙏🤗👍🌸💐🦋
Thank you
Awesome! It’s been a while since I experienced any breakup as such but some of these tips can help in my marriage! Thanks Jessica. Oh, quick update, I finally posted my first TH-cam video! 🤠. One day I’ll be like you in the business niche! 🙏🏾
Whoop whoop!!! Let's get it
@@JessicaOS 🥳 Thanks much for your motivational words so far. I’m sure there’s many others learning from you too just like myself. I’m definitely getting it!😌
@@JessicaOS But Jessica. What if you want to continue having sex with her when she is with her new guy? Wouldn't it be better to keep friends with her so that you can be friends with benefits? So she will be cheating on her new lover with you? Wouldn't the silent treatment and no contact remove every possibility of you still fucking her?
@Jessica Os you say about the silent treatment I understand that helps but what about if you previously been living together and you have to speak to arrange picking up belongings etc?
I learned this eight years after a breakup,she attempted to return twice but the damage she caused could not be amended.I told her I don't love people twice.
An ex girl did that to me twice as well. But it never was the same I had my cake and eat it to with her
You've really made my day I was going through the same situation but u pointed out to me what I was doing wrong. Thank you
how is it now bro ?
The title says it all.. focus on yourself, the man is the priority
The no contact rule is my golden way to move on....I have done it and it served me great.
imagine both partners listening to this video...its gonna be a long quiet year..lol
Me and my ex 😂
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@@basketballgh 🤣🤣🤣
long God damm quiet year 😅😅😅😅😅
😂😂😂😂😂😂
This one came at the right time for me. Thanks a bunch Jessica
This exactly what am doing now and it helps a lot , trust me
I did this before watching this video. It works. Beside no one deserve a mental breakdown for.
Hi there, hope you are well... Your words it's like a great medicine for my pain, however the moment that I am going through now is giving me fuel to go training twice in a day...
May Allah bless you
I always appreciate Jessica for her wonderful advices .U know when people go through such situations and they don’t know what to do cause most of people really don’t aye don’t worry just listen to jessica cause it helped me a lot to realise the facts .Thank u jessica ❤️
Jessica thank you so much. That's what I'm going through right now although she blocked me from all social media. Thanks for this message ❤
This woman is gold. Thank you so much, Jessica. I am getting through this hard situation. I've been dumped 1 month ago, and I have mixed feelings and my self-esteem has been severely damaged... And for the moment, despite the fact that I had the temptation to break this 0 contact, I am still abiding to it, no matter it hurts. Silence will be without any doubt my best friend in my new journey and will help me to heal all wounds
Watched this sometime back and didn't know it will help me at some point in my life;Thank you Jessica for reminding me my life matters even in troubling times
You're welcome
Im passing through this condition right now may god heal me 😢
Thank you thank you thank you 🙏🏾 this validâtes what I’ve been doing already. My ex is always been running after but then proceeds to be disrespectful because I won’t take her back so I blocked her. I KNOW it’s driving her crazy
This is my first encounter to your channel & I must say, it is awesome & eye opening. I really needed this & I'm grateful. Thank you Jessica.
This is highly subjective. There are many factors to take into account such as;
- kids( Very important)
- number of years in the relationship
- Are you married
If you have too much invested in a marriage, you can't just go silent when your significant other decides to throw in the towel. You definitely need to evaluate the problem and fight for it in case it can be fixed. Pride is important, but if used in the wrong time, you'll only destroy yourself.
Now if you're just dating, that's something else since it's only a '' getting to know stage'. You have the right to quit whenever you want.
She isn't talking about married people bro
Going through this now and I swear! This is a pain that hurts your soul! I’m currently in the “No contact” phase. I promise I can’t lie. This is a fight of my life. You are a God send! Thank you Ms. Jessica!