@@MegaDavyk "You can love men or know men but you can't do both" "Trust me if you love him you don't know him" See how sexist that sounds? You're quite literally the gender opposite of a radical feminist.
Although I surely am just one of many, let me get this out... Watching your channel has gradually helped me understand my wife better and helped me to make her feel safe, understood, loved and to become more confident. She told me herself many times that she is grateful to have me and that I made her life so much better, not bragging here, I just listened and learned with the goal to become a better partner. And as a reward our relationship has become a wonderful and fulfilling one for both of us. You are doing important work, more important than you can probably imagine. Especially in times, as you said yourself, where channels that simply aim to bash women and/ or society and that are the opposite of helpful for both genders are a dime a dozen. Thank you for everything!
@@kimbo5409 he’s not teaching men how not to get screwed over his teaching men how to be abusive back when a woman is doing abusive behaviour You don’t behave in an abusive manner back Example, if a woman cheats on you you leave that’s it You don’t abuse Tell me a problem and I’ll tell you how to deal with that without being abusive If you behave in an abusive manner, you can get taken to court and the laws are changing all the time around abuse This guy is making money from vulnerable men Learn from proper and coaches , Therapist, books and role models of healthy guys and healthy relationships Trust me if you attract a woman who’s cheating cursing there’s something inside you where are you are trapped in this kind of woman That is also a thing so you need to look within and grow spiritually so that you don’t attract that kind of person in the first place and you get better at spotting the red flags so you don’t end up with that kind of woman now even still it could potentially happen some slipped through the net right? But that’s when you apply these healthy self loving behaviours If a woman has mental health issues and she is being disrespectful or whatever and then the guy starts becoming abusive giving silent treatment power game whatever that woman is not just going to become submissive and start doing what the guy wants, short-term the guy might think he has one long-term your A dead man walking You cannot fight fire with fire both people will get Annihilated if you don’t believe me try it and see how far you get come back here after a few years let me know how healthy your relationship was
@@cx_n1 Abuse from a woman stems from the man's lack of knowledge of women, so how exactly is educating men about women flipping the script like you say? By that logic teaching someone the art of self defence means they're going to run around smashing people.
Gentle, kind and compassionate are qualities of an Amiable personality. Look at the Social Style Model for more details. A lot of guys tend to be Analytical in nature, and being that opposites attract, they go for Expressive type women. Expressives are passionate and flamboyant, but also tend to be vain, self-centered drama queens who get bored easily. Amiables tend not to be those Hot Babes, who are more likely to be train wreck Expressives or predatory Driven types.
So, at least 80% of women aren't wife material. Checks out. But looking at the graph, I think we can extrapolate some very eye opening realities. Notice how what they call "love" becomes more important with age. That doesn't look like love anymore, that looks like loneliness and desperation. That graph is a graph of loneliness and desperation. When young, only 20% are lonely. When old, 80%. Makes sense because when you have a line of guys to distract you in your youth, you can believe you're not really alone when you really are. An XX who can have seks without being in love is no longer capable of love. Point blank. As an XX, you can't get to that point emotionally unless your capacity to love has already been burned away by those you truly loved who just used you. By 18, most XXs have had many broken hearts and are deadened to feeling true love anymore.
Somebody raised a good point but his comment got deleted for some reason, he said: how is the invention of the birth pill not considered a biological change? someone argued it is a cultural one, I think It's as close of a biological change as you're gonna get; they went from dreading that every intimate interaction could lead into 9 months of vulnerability and all sorts of things to their body plus an infant that might not be very wanted, to having the capacity to stand toe to toe with men AND enjoy the privileges of being a woman.
Most women I’ve been with have not been on the pill. The pill may have started the sexual revolution, but quality condoms give just as much freedom and even more protection. So it’s more of a psychological and cultural change with biological implications.
Dude the pill hasn't had as big of an effect on dating and sexual choosiness as social media and dating apps. There was a drastic change from the early 2000s to now that isn't addressed by the birth control.pill. personally I think guys like Rollo overestimate the effects the birth control pill had. I mean there is still an epidemic of single mothers despite the pill. Meaning women are still engaging and procreating with certain men and not using birth control. The social media age was far more drastic. It allowed a global dating market never seen before in any Era of human history. Now, women had access to high value men in all contents. it created a massive disparity in regards to sexual access between men and women. Your average women today is sleeping around with small time local c celebrities and ignoring average men.
OK. So much to unpack your comment. Firstly: The majority of wimmen did not "dread" every sxeual encounter..... It's how they get pregnant. It's how they fulfill and satisfy their biological imperative. Secondly: The BC pill was NOT intended for single wimmen to use to advance an agenda of unrestrained promiscuity. It supposed to used by married wimmen to have some control over pregnancy within the context of marriage. Thirdly: Enabling wimmen to stand Toe to toe with men? How so? I'm assuming you mean that they be as promiscuous as men. Bruh. Does it look like men and wimmen are toe to toe in the sxeual marketplace? Ever been on a dating app? The average vvoman can literally have sxe with dozens of different men per week while the average man is no where near that number. Is that toe to toe? I think not. And lastly: "To enjoy their femail priveledge?" Seriously? Like what? Making accusations of criminal sxeual actions against men with no proof or investigation? Have body counts of over 100 by age 26. To have parties when they're body count hits 50? I've never heard of anything like that from men. To exploit men for goods/services via dating apps. ie, foodie calls? To be single mothers and not know who the father is because of her irresponsible promiscuity? The horrific number of abortions per year. Why? They have the pill but won't use it. Laws that force men to be financially responsible for a kid that's not his? Since the Pill: Teen sxe 👆 Teen pregnancy 👆 Unwed pregnancy 👆 Divorce👆 STDs/STIs (Especially for wimmen)👆 Marriage👇 Wimmens mental health👇 Wimmen cheating👆 Relationship satisfaction 👇 So, with all that being said. I ask you again: What "priveledges" are they enjoying...... That are NOT leading our very culture to dissolution?
Honestly, I reckon I share a more common experience with a male Orangutan than a female human. I just dig their vibe, even though they can't talk, I reckon we see things pretty similarly.
Read My Ishmael by Daniel Quinn- it's about a gorilla that achieves human consciousness and rants about interesting philosophical rabbit trails about human nature.
Orangutans are very loving and social creatures and a gift to the world but running out of habitat and they are at risk of going extinct. The same does not necessarily apply to women.
I started watching this video (as a woman) thinking I'm gonna be pissed off, but I'm happily surprised 👏🏻👏🏻 You are doing great job helping other people understanding themselves and others.
Alexander, you also bring some hard truths to the masses....It's hard to get 10m subs when you are shattering illusions that hard! Over time though, more people will see the value of what you do. So it's more of a grind, but it's also encouraging real behavior change in people that want to change.
Yes, Um I have dated enough to know women raised in single mother homes tend to have very very similar personalities that often are toxic. The one I did date who came from a two parent household was kind, though very flawed as she was a drug addict. But the one thing I noticed most about the most toxic was that they had a strange obsession with themselves, either they were overwhelmingly confident or overwhelmingly underconfident. Like absolutely disconnected from who they truly are. And it is for that reason I removed myself from dating. I must preserve my sanity.
"You can't overcome the biology of gender". Wow, can't believe they haven't canceled you for that. The world has truly gone insane when that statement becomes controversial.
I think the colloquial meaning attributed to the word 'gender' has changed in the last 50+ years. This statement: "You can't overcome the biology of gender." is one of the very few critiques i would offer @Alexander Grace to consider: that the biology of the human species being dimorphic has 2 'sexes', while 'gender' [expression] is a culture's value-assessment-spectrum [of actions] with not all cultures throughout history using a binary system to classify actions[including personality choices] as male or female. Of particular note: The Bugis Tribe Of Indonesia, Many Native American tribes, and Classical Judaism(there are others). In the context used in this video the sentence: "You can't overcome the biology of 'sex' " makes sense and is how i understood the message to be meaning.
This stuff doesn’t just help me relationship wise, my workplace is mostly women and this advice really helps me navigate that space in a masculine way without feeling like I’m intruding or in some way antithetical to their feminine work style.
Alex talks a lot about bonding. I wonder what he thinks about the studies showing the more premarital partners a woman has the lower the chance of success. And if these studies are correct and given the current culture, what is the point of looking for connection? Not to mention the state of the legal system. In oz you don't need to be married to get divorce graped.
Your channel is logical, well researched, objective, helpful to men.... no wonder some women hate it so! True, watching your channel fills my recommendations with many anti-women, male defeatist, and politically extreme channels.
Where are the women that hate it??? Lmao I have yet to see a single one. But I have seen a few, including me, that like it. What some people may hate is the blatantly sexist commentors or the recommendations that you get as a result, as you say.
I understand this channel is for men,but as a woman I find it fairly good. Because you are not being dissmissive to woman behaviour just for the sake of it,you do a good job of explaining how to understand them, and all plausible factors to why we act certain way. And I would just like to add that both men and woman whom are mature,self aware,willing to understand each other won't have to much problem finding a partner if they are honest with themselves and with other potential partners, because the problems start with thinking other person thinks something ,and not asking them directly and listening with compasion. So the best advice is focus on a woman as an individual ,not as woman in general and logically asses, is she someone you would like to date,be in a relationship/marry or nothing to do with, and ask her the same to see is there a match. I am happilly married because I married my friend, whom I knew very well and liked as a person ,even while we were only friends ,and we have much respect for each other so we bulit this marriage on a healthy foundation and that is what matters the most.
Sorry but I am no longer interested in understanding women. When they start making an effort, we can talk but until then, to hell with understanding women
14:24 "Occasionally I see comments in the comments section from men saying like 'women live life on easy mode' or 'women never struggle the same way that men do'. I find that really sad because those people can't see past the group identity ; they can't see past the gender, to actually empathize with an individual. The truth is that there are existential pains and sufferring that are experienced by every human being (...)". Those people who live in famine-stricken regions, they can't see past geography to actually empathize with obese Americans. I'm not going to deny that women suffer. They do. I generally think that they're spoilt and are generating their own existential pain by asking themselves tons of questions while lacking the self-awareness to realize how lucky they are compared to men, but that's just my cynical opinion. However, I do think that you, Alexander Grace, probably think something that is not totally removed from my opinion, judging by your video entitled "Single Women Are A MYTH": th-cam.com/video/uxT-rk906Ho/w-d-xo.html You do recognize that women haven't the faintest idea of what being single means for men. Which is one reason why they're incapable of empathizing with men. So OK, women do suffer. They get their 500 Tinder matches per day and suffer. And it is sad that with my 2 matches per MONTH, I can't see past gender to empathize? I mean... I truly, sincerely, deeply want to empathize with women. But while I feel like I'm almost fighting for my survival, you're asking me to empathize with women who are the Jeff Bezos of dating, hookup, sex, and light-hearted fun life where their kind of struggle is asking themselves tons of questions they lack the logic and self-awareness to answer themselves. I'm sorry to blurt this out so abruptly but c'mon! One of my female friends who had borderline personality disorder, autism, depression, scars from self-mutilation and "suicide attempts", couldn't work, spent 4 hours per day on skin care, and had been living at her parents house for 3 years at age 38 in a small town in the middle of nowhere... she never stayed single for more than 2-3 weeks despite not even divulging her face on dating sites. My friend's life is not entirely easy mode as can be understood from what I said about her. But when it comes to gender relations, we're not living on the same planet.
You're missing the point. 'Empathize' with individual women to understand them as people and form healthy relationships. Being upset/anxious that women in general have an easier time dating etc. only creates another obstacle to a good relationship.
@@rwatertree Its not just dating though, if it was no man would be complaining. Its divorce court, its lying in court with no repercussions, If they make bad decisions the majority of women will be fine and coast right through life. Marriage is rigged heavily against men. There are men in debtors prison because of alimony and child support while the mom was actually the bad parent. Women initiate divorce way more than man and for silly things. As soon as paradise has a snake it, she abandons paradise all together. Its the terrible notion of wanting to be a single mom, woman have stated this. It completely handicaps the kids for life. Men can't have empathy for women, when women will not pick up any responsibility for their own actions.
I learned a lot from watching my girlfriend when she interacted with her: daughter-aggressive, friends-dishonest, sister-passive, ex-sugar daddy husband-passive......how did she treat me, passive aggressive dishonestly....imagine that.
Thank you for all that you do AG. I have to disagree on the culture part. The new culture of sexual promiscuity has destroyed countless families and has destroyed the ability to have a healthy family.
I think it's worth noticing that "personality" is not the same as "psychology" in terms of these topics. Personality is your base characteristics and preferences and is almost completely genetic, while psychology is your personal beliefs (and triggers) and is learned from your life experiences. I fear that too often these two ideas get conflated together - possibly because beliefs (psychology) can come to override personality (which causes a person to act inauthentically, but that's another topic). They're actually not the same. And in the end you need to understand both the personality -AND- psychology of a person if you expect to relate to them well.
"Culture" is not "software"; it is rather "firmware". Culture, although variable, varies within the fundamental constraints of the culture bearers. Inasmuch as ethnoses are different, the differences are to an extent based on biology. Different ethnoses produce (or create) different cultures (which vary with time, environment, demography etc, but within the ethnic constraints). There can be significant overlaps with other ethnoses, of course; but statistically, the curves are not identical. The same goes for "psychology": it is not ethno- or culture-indifferent. In other words, all three 'elements' are parts of the whole and cannot vary completely independently of one another.
Well said…have you read Blueprint by Nicholas Christakis? It discusses much of what you were pointing out there with less emphasis on the individual psychology aspect.
@@thegiftedteacher No, I have not. Ty for the reference; I've just borrowed the book and will read it, to avoid trying re-inventing the bicycle while ppl who can do it much better than me have already done that :)
@@georgemilliner3812 Disclaimer: biology does not exist, it is a social construct. Moreover, the notion of social constructs itself is a social construct. Races do not exist, as well as racism: they are social constructs. The reality itself does not exist: it is a social construct invented by the oppressors.
I find this really funny how the end of the video and the entire video itself ( from my perspective ) comes at a time where i feel that i am self-aware enough to understand it on the level it is meant to be presented on. I am probably not the only one when i say this or think about it for that matter, but watching your content and looking back on it gave me the knowledge i needed to understand the psychology of the human mind. Thank you Alexander Grace, i think what your channel is about helps a lot of people grow for the better.
This is not a recruitment video. But large-scale cultural movements affect individuals and their opportunities. For example late marriages coupled with financial inequality has been a cursed precursor of all the major world wars and disease outbreaks. This has been true over the last centuries and even millennia. Society manipulates individuals much more effectively than it's given credit for. You bonding with any individual particularly of the opposite sex is an act of Defiance. Keep up the good work!
That may be true but can't it be argued that the societal regulations or structures are as a result of our biological imperative. Take for instance feminism? At first glance it may be seen as a sociocultural movement but when analyzed critically it merely exists to maximize female sexual strategy and so there's actually biological explanations that address why these sociocultural movements exist. Imo many behaviors and sociocultural phenomenon can only be truly understood when analyzed through a biological framework.
Really loved your message at the end Alex. Couldn't agree with you more. I've been on the path of discovering what makes me tick for the past 2 years after an emotional traumatic experience. Your channel has been one of my primary go-to''s. Glad I found you when I did.
You are right to be apolitical. Some women (and men) take on a cause passionately, such as global warming, without understanding the underlying science. It gives them a sense of self value.
04:57 But male fertility does not increase with age. Male fertility reaches its full potential in early 20s, and starting around age 25 it starts decreasing, taking a big ass plunge around 40-45 years old. Look at any male fertility chart. The quality of sperm also decreases. What you are saying is simply factually inaccurate. From Wikipedia: "Men also experience a decline in fertility as they age. Male fertility drops gradually and steadily; the average time to pregnancy if both partners are under 25 is just over 4.5 months but nearly two years if a man is over 40 (and the woman is under 25).[3] The risk of genetic defects is greatly increased due to the paternal age effect. Children with fathers aged 40 or older are more than five times as likely to have an autism spectrum disorder than children fathered by men aged under 30.[4] Researchers estimate that compared to a male fathering a child in his early 20s, there is double the chance of the child getting schizophrenia when the father is age 40, and triple the risk of schizophrenia when the father is age 50 (though, for most people this means the risk goes from approximately 1 in 121 when a man is 29, to 1 in 47 when a man is age 50 to 54).[5] The volume and fecundity of a man's semen quality and sperm motility (the ability of sperm to move towards an egg) decrease continually between the ages of 20 and 80.[4] The incidence of dwarfism[6] and miscarriage also increases as men age.[4][7]"
Yes sir! Understanding yourself is Like A Super Power when you really start to pay attention. I can often Gleen insights from people by remembering how I felt at a certain age, In a certain Situation. It also helps you to feel more connected to others experiences. It Just adds Depth and Richness to Life to Go 110% On self improvement.
Good video ... but when will you explain the apparent sudden rise in Female "Bi" and "Lesbian" populations ... were they always there but hidden "Culturally" or has it always existed?
I am one of those men who's willing to be introspective. It helps me a lot to be stable throughout the challenges of life. I have also been going overboard with this and was involved in the the new age world. That's something I wouldn't recommend being grounded and introspective is.
Great video. In my experience, women are easily influenced by their environment, because they like to be in groups and as such, they confirm easily to popular trends and ideas of the majority even if not a good idea.
@Ostia Hermes sexual liberation for such was a destructive thing, but western embrace it, but all it does is lower the value of western women and an increase single motherhood, increase the spread of STD, increase promiscuity, and increase divorce rate
@Ostia Hermes the women in the 1950s didn’t have to work and the women were not being abused as the feminist make it seem, in fact I think women are be abused more now than in the 1950, because women nowadays are more aggressive than in the past. If the feminist thing the men had it easy in the 1950s those wealthy women should marry their men and pay all the bills while the guys stay at home let’s see how that works out.
In my experience youtube commentors called BlackUps__ easily give their sexist biased opinions on women that paint them in a bad light. BlackUps___ can easily be also found demonizing women for having a sexuality although the only reason they may ever get laid is that now women are more open with their sexuality. Also he does not understand STIs.
I appreciate that Alex Grace approaches this with discretion. I think you explain things in a way that really gets into the nuance. This is particularly one of the best topics you have covered on the channel.
It's a person's psychology that I fall in love with. I may crave a woman's body and be interested in her culture, but they're not HER specifically. Those two are just her possessions. For marriage, I want my other half, and I'm not just a body or a manifestation of my culture, and I hope women aren't either.
We all have the same emotions and desires/temptations. When you see a certain reaction/action by someone else, deeply look within yourself and reflect how you’ve done the same or wanted to do the same thing in your life. The world is a projection from within you.
I'm also glad to meet someone like you on youtube doing these kind of videos.. They are so useful.. I am a truth lover almost more than any other thing in the world, and after I started watching your videos yesterday, now I can't help myself watching one after one.. These are like gold and I see you as a very intelligent person..❤
I've been watching a lot of your videos and I think this is your best one so far. Great facts and points to back up your views. Unbiased delivery of information.
Bro, thank God I'm not alone in this journey. What you said in the last part was so important, as understanding myself was key to my uprising in different areas of my life - work, creative and philanthropic projects and dating. More power and thank you for welcoming me in your channel.
In order to be sucessful hunter, you need to know your prey, and it evolves and change over time. I will consider to add a time frame scale on all domains.
I had to figure this out when I was 13. I wanted a girlfriend but young girls were so stupid. So I waited till I was 17, started to date only intellectually stimulating women but still had to act like some "bad boy" to give them a project to work on. It worked! I married at 22 to a total babe 2 inches taller than me and never looked back. You have to understand female psychology in order to be successful. And even then, you gotta be decently good looking and driven to succeed. It's hard work. There will be losers. Real people don't want tinder dates for their dream spouse. Those things are for good looking tall people. Thanks to Alexander Grace for seeing that some men really need some help here. 13:00:00
I believe personality is 50% nature (genetics) and 50% nurture (upbringing) With biology & culture being equal. The cliche "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree" is there for very good reason
I’d like to argue that one point made about culture change versus biology staying the same. I would say there has been a minor though substantial change to women’s biology with the introduction of effective birth control. That being the greatest factor in women’s cultural change toward being more sexually active without consideration of long term companionship.
An average girl would not be able to leverage easy access for greater prospects, or any for that matter. When such a massive consequence is removed it does negate previous biological imperatives. Completely changes the game.
If you want to understand women - take time, money, attention, proximity, marriage, children and resources off the table - her true character will out itself soon enough. She is only there for what you provide. giver her nothing and you will see her true motives. *enjoy.
I live in Norway and are a single man. Probably always will be. I looked at the numbers and figured out that there are not enough women around. I am not going to be a home wrecker to not be single. I like being alone therefor I will be alone.
I would love to here your personal story about breakup becz what I can sense is that something has compelled you to study a lot on this subject and I must say u r master on it.
This is amazing, thank you for the content! I'm in a much needed self improvement journey but along side that I'm searching ways to be in a better relantionship with my gf, we are doing really well but we are both always looking for ways to improve and to be better for ourselves and for each other
You’re not out of the culture war if you’re trying to teach men about women and how to understand them/communicate with them. You’re at the heart of it and you should embrace it
One big pattern I've noticed on the personal psychology part of the equation is that if a woman's life is in self-perceived order, she will be interested in the so-called alpha males. If her life is in self-perceived chaos, she will be interested in the so-called beta males.
Hey Alex I have one question, how to answer women when they say they are oppressed (these are privileged women) or the society is patriarchal? Everytime I try to answer I am labelled as mysogynist and they attack in herd.
Ask them what rights women don't have that men do. The abortion argument doesn't count because obviously men can't get pregnant and they have no say in whether a woman chooses to have one or not.
The more I am listening to this, the happier I am that I am sexually attracted to trees. There is a voluptuous birch not far from where I life. She doesn't talk much. I like it that way.
My girlfriend left me (it was a distant relationship) and i was angry about it. But after awhile i started to wonder why people and myself behaving like this. I mean in a relationship i was a different person from who i really am. So i started reading psychology , philosophy even mythology again Jung, Hegel ext... And now im glad that she left me. Now i know so much more what i really want in a relationship and i know women, myself and society that i live in so much better.
I find these points very interesting, and can see all the points being important. Biology equates to the foundation of personality, culture is the brickwork and psychology are the doors windows etc that give personality to the house.
Is crying gender based, do women cry more than men? When i told it is gender based, to one girl she got so offended her face turned red and she started shaming me. What are your opinions?
I definitely do believe that women generally cry more than men. The reason for it could be biological with the assumption that men are built to operate under stressful conditions and therefore wouldn't need to cry that often to relieve stress. On the other hand it could also have something to do with the culture where women are not shamed for crying as often as men are. I personally believe it to be a mixture of both.
I mean flat out estrogen makes people cry more most evident with people transitioning (had a convo with a trans friend recently talking about how when they started taking hormones they cried plenty more than they did before, sometimes just randomly).
We all think women cry more because they do and if they want to act like men and hallucinate that they can be men just ignore them because we men determine what’s right not them
Great breakdown across the elements of human nature: species/group/individual, analyzed to better understand their impact on human behavior and the dating scene. Way more insightful than I ever got studying biology/sociology/psychology in countless University courses.
In the last moment of the video when you talk about the journey to know yourself, I actually found you a year ago when I started it. It was a pleasure to do so with you, and it was exciting and scary. Thank you for your great content :>
Completely agree that Psychology and Psychologically healthy styles of communication are the single most important things to know about and be well versed on when it comes to relationships.
Mexican women used to be very conservative but in the past decade attitudes towards being a single mother, dating multiple men and golddigging have changed. Laws also favor them in terms of child support and society glorifies single mothers so future looks bleak here.
True and these Mexicans girls are becoming liberals. They are becoming more and more open to multiple dating. The only thing that can reverse that is seeing they’re parents have a nice comfortable life. Where you visit family and have family parties. And the social comfortable construct the Mexican conservative families have. Where we also see these liberal people as just “crazy people” lol We have to reverse how they think liberally because they think this is what’s right. The more they hear they can sleep around and date around the more they will think it’s right. Which isn’t right bc the more they sleep around the more unhappy they will be and it has been proven
I'm trying to get dating advice but the problem is SO many creator videos are becoming infomercials for the sponsors products!!! So much so its beginning to feel like their videos are truly becoming infomercials.
"Why are you attracted to humans as opposed to..." be careful my little man, you are treading dangerous waters "as opposed to rocks and trees" oh, ya saved it.
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The trouble is, the more you know/understand them, the less you want to hear about them.
You can love women or know women but you can't do both.
@@MegaDavyk sure you can, it’s just no longer blind.
@@BradYoga108 Trust me, if you love her you don't know her.
@@MegaDavyk "You can love men or know men but you can't do both" "Trust me if you love him you don't know him" See how sexist that sounds? You're quite literally the gender opposite of a radical feminist.
@@sunnysunshine8897 Love = sexual attraction.
Although I surely am just one of many, let me get this out...
Watching your channel has gradually helped me understand my wife better and helped me to make her feel safe, understood, loved and to become more confident. She told me herself many times that she is grateful to have me and that I made her life so much better, not bragging here, I just listened and learned with the goal to become a better partner. And as a reward our relationship has become a wonderful and fulfilling one for both of us.
You are doing important work, more important than you can probably imagine. Especially in times, as you said yourself, where channels that simply aim to bash women and/ or society and that are the opposite of helpful for both genders are a dime a dozen.
Thank you for everything!
I don't care and you don't care that this isn't popular, yet.. what matters is sharing quality and lifesaving information, and much love for that. 🙏🏻
@Future the future might change 😂
@Future nope he’s mixing truth with lie and teaching us how to abuse women
@@cx_n1 teaching men not to get screwed over in a society where men are being screwed over = abusing women?
@@kimbo5409 he’s not teaching men how not to get screwed over his teaching men how to be abusive back when a woman is doing abusive behaviour
You don’t behave in an abusive manner back
Example, if a woman cheats on you you leave that’s it
You don’t abuse
Tell me a problem and I’ll tell you how to deal with that without being abusive
If you behave in an abusive manner, you can get taken to court and the laws are changing all the time around abuse
This guy is making money from vulnerable men
Learn from proper and coaches , Therapist, books and role models of healthy guys and healthy relationships
Trust me if you attract a woman who’s cheating cursing there’s something inside you where are you are trapped in this kind of woman
That is also a thing so you need to look within and grow spiritually so that you don’t attract that kind of person in the first place and you get better at spotting the red flags so you don’t end up with that kind of woman now even still it could potentially happen some slipped through the net right?
But that’s when you apply these healthy self loving behaviours
If a woman has mental health issues and she is being disrespectful or whatever and then the guy starts becoming abusive giving silent treatment power game whatever that woman is not just going to become submissive and start doing what the guy wants, short-term the guy might think he has one long-term your A dead man walking
You cannot fight fire with fire both people will get Annihilated if you don’t believe me try it and see how far you get come back here after a few years let me know how healthy your relationship was
@@cx_n1 Abuse from a woman stems from the man's lack of knowledge of women, so how exactly is educating men about women flipping the script like you say? By that logic teaching someone the art of self defence means they're going to run around smashing people.
Women with "kindness an nurturing" are exceedingly rare. I don't think I have met one since the 1980s.
I've met one recently and I'm trying my hardest to play my cards right.
Gentle, kind and compassionate are qualities of an Amiable personality. Look at the Social Style Model for more details. A lot of guys tend to be Analytical in nature, and being that opposites attract, they go for Expressive type women. Expressives are passionate and flamboyant, but also tend to be vain, self-centered drama queens who get bored easily. Amiables tend not to be those Hot Babes, who are more likely to be train wreck Expressives or predatory Driven types.
I'd vet her father, family, and friends, too.
@Brad Mc culture plays a huge role, one of the biggest factors.
@@northernguy8860 pop psych. No evidence that opposites attract outside of masculine and feminine.
So, at least 80% of women aren't wife material. Checks out.
But looking at the graph, I think we can extrapolate some very eye opening realities. Notice how what they call "love" becomes more important with age. That doesn't look like love anymore, that looks like loneliness and desperation. That graph is a graph of loneliness and desperation. When young, only 20% are lonely. When old, 80%. Makes sense because when you have a line of guys to distract you in your youth, you can believe you're not really alone when you really are.
An XX who can have seks without being in love is no longer capable of love. Point blank. As an XX, you can't get to that point emotionally unless your capacity to love has already been burned away by those you truly loved who just used you.
By 18, most XXs have had many broken hearts and are deadened to feeling true love anymore.
Somebody raised a good point but his comment got deleted for some reason, he said: how is the invention of the birth pill not considered a biological change? someone argued it is a cultural one,
I think It's as close of a biological change as you're gonna get; they went from dreading that every intimate interaction could lead into 9 months of vulnerability and all sorts of things to their body plus an infant that might not be very wanted,
to having the capacity to stand toe to toe with men AND enjoy the privileges of being a woman.
Most women I’ve been with have not been on the pill. The pill may have started the sexual revolution, but quality condoms give just as much freedom and even more protection. So it’s more of a psychological and cultural change with biological implications.
Dude the pill hasn't had as big of an effect on dating and sexual choosiness as social media and dating apps.
There was a drastic change from the early 2000s to now that isn't addressed by the birth control.pill. personally I think guys like Rollo overestimate the effects the birth control pill had. I mean there is still an epidemic of single mothers despite the pill. Meaning women are still engaging and procreating with certain men and not using birth control.
The social media age was far more drastic. It allowed a global dating market never seen before in any Era of human history. Now, women had access to high value men in all contents. it created a massive disparity in regards to sexual access between men and women. Your average women today is sleeping around with small time local c celebrities and ignoring average men.
@@loverofhumanity CC ride sharing basically
@@TheyCallHimTheTops hahahaha that's a good way of putting it 🤣
OK. So much to unpack your comment.
Firstly:
The majority of wimmen did not "dread" every sxeual encounter.....
It's how they get pregnant. It's how they fulfill and satisfy their biological imperative.
Secondly:
The BC pill was NOT intended for single wimmen to use to advance an agenda of unrestrained promiscuity. It supposed to used by married wimmen to have some control over pregnancy within the context of marriage.
Thirdly:
Enabling wimmen to stand Toe to toe with men? How so? I'm assuming you mean that they be as promiscuous as men.
Bruh. Does it look like men and wimmen are toe to toe in the sxeual marketplace?
Ever been on a dating app? The average vvoman can literally have sxe with dozens of different men per week while the average man is no where near that number. Is that toe to toe? I think not.
And lastly:
"To enjoy their femail priveledge?"
Seriously?
Like what?
Making accusations of criminal sxeual actions against men with no proof or investigation?
Have body counts of over 100 by age 26.
To have parties when they're body count hits 50? I've never heard of anything like that from men.
To exploit men for goods/services via dating apps. ie, foodie calls?
To be single mothers and not know who the father is because of her irresponsible promiscuity?
The horrific number of abortions per year.
Why? They have the pill but won't use it.
Laws that force men to be financially responsible for a kid that's not his?
Since the Pill:
Teen sxe 👆
Teen pregnancy 👆
Unwed pregnancy 👆
Divorce👆
STDs/STIs (Especially for wimmen)👆
Marriage👇
Wimmens mental health👇
Wimmen cheating👆
Relationship satisfaction 👇
So, with all that being said.
I ask you again:
What "priveledges" are they enjoying......
That are NOT leading our very culture to dissolution?
This channel is fantastic Alexander! It has just the right balance of truth, insight, reflection, and optimism.
There is very little optimism in the truth
@@samherrick5920 yeah I suppose so
I agree. Just found it today. 100% truth 0% comedy.
When looking into topics such as evolutionary psychology, taking into consideration nuance is imperative.
Honestly, I reckon I share a more common experience with a male Orangutan than a female human. I just dig their vibe, even though they can't talk, I reckon we see things pretty similarly.
Interesting 😂
Read My Ishmael by Daniel Quinn- it's about a gorilla that achieves human consciousness and rants about interesting philosophical rabbit trails about human nature.
Orangutans are very loving and social creatures and a gift to the world but running out of habitat and they are at risk of going extinct. The same does not necessarily apply to women.
Return to monke!
@@NeoZeta reject humanity!
I started watching this video (as a woman) thinking I'm gonna be pissed off, but I'm happily surprised 👏🏻👏🏻 You are doing great job helping other people understanding themselves and others.
Alexander, you also bring some hard truths to the masses....It's hard to get 10m subs when you are shattering illusions that hard! Over time though, more people will see the value of what you do. So it's more of a grind, but it's also encouraging real behavior change in people that want to change.
Three sides to a woman:
1) front side
2) back side
3) top of her head
Yes, Um I have dated enough to know women raised in single mother homes tend to have very very similar personalities that often are toxic. The one I did date who came from a two parent household was kind, though very flawed as she was a drug addict. But the one thing I noticed most about the most toxic was that they had a strange obsession with themselves, either they were overwhelmingly confident or overwhelmingly underconfident. Like absolutely disconnected from who they truly are. And it is for that reason I removed myself from dating. I must preserve my sanity.
"You can't overcome the biology of gender". Wow, can't believe they haven't canceled you for that. The world has truly gone insane when that statement becomes controversial.
I think no one is denying that biology exists? Like I'm a trans girl if biology didn't exist most of my problems wouldn't exist lol
@@theweirdlyfriendlymushroom7920 get out of your cave and see the world a bit.
@@onirico7913 excuse me? Ahahaha
Yet it is happening as we speak…
I think the colloquial meaning attributed to the word 'gender' has changed in the last 50+ years. This statement: "You can't overcome the biology of gender." is one of the very few critiques i would offer @Alexander Grace to consider: that the biology of the human species being dimorphic has 2 'sexes', while 'gender' [expression] is a culture's value-assessment-spectrum [of actions] with not all cultures throughout history using a binary system to classify actions[including personality choices] as male or female. Of particular note: The Bugis Tribe Of Indonesia, Many Native American tribes, and Classical Judaism(there are others). In the context used in this video the sentence: "You can't overcome the biology of 'sex' " makes sense and is how i understood the message to be meaning.
This stuff doesn’t just help me relationship wise, my workplace is mostly women and this advice really helps me navigate that space in a masculine way without feeling like I’m intruding or in some way antithetical to their feminine work style.
Alex talks a lot about bonding. I wonder what he thinks about the studies showing the more premarital partners a woman has the lower the chance of success. And if these studies are correct and given the current culture, what is the point of looking for connection? Not to mention the state of the legal system. In oz you don't need to be married to get divorce graped.
In Mexico it is the same women only have to claim you are the father of their baby
He has talked about it in a few videos, go check out his earlier content.
If you are interested in reading the actual study it is called: THE HARMFUL EFFECTS IF EARLY SEXUAL ACTIVITY and multiple sexual partners among women.
Your channel is logical, well researched, objective, helpful to men.... no wonder some women hate it so! True, watching your channel fills my recommendations with many anti-women, male defeatist, and politically extreme channels.
Where are the women that hate it??? Lmao I have yet to see a single one. But I have seen a few, including me, that like it. What some people may hate is the blatantly sexist commentors or the recommendations that you get as a result, as you say.
I understand this channel is for men,but as a woman I find it fairly good. Because you are not being dissmissive to woman behaviour just for the sake of it,you do a good job of explaining how to understand them, and all plausible factors to why we act certain way. And I would just like to add that both men and woman whom are mature,self aware,willing to understand each other won't have to much problem finding a partner if they are honest with themselves and with other potential partners, because the problems start with thinking other person thinks something ,and not asking them directly and listening with compasion. So the best advice is focus on a woman as an individual ,not as woman in general and logically asses, is she someone you would like to date,be in a relationship/marry or nothing to do with, and ask her the same to see is there a match. I am happilly married because I married my friend, whom I knew very well and liked as a person ,even while we were only friends ,and we have much respect for each other so we bulit this marriage on a healthy foundation and that is what matters the most.
@@GriftCraft In these day and age it apperas to be an accomplishment... therefore thank you.
This is a valuable episode Alexander. Well done 👏🏻👏🏻
Sorry but I am no longer interested in understanding women. When they start making an effort, we can talk but until then, to hell with understanding women
Clicked the video, pressed the like button before going thru the whole video. That's the level of trust on Alex!
Culture and genetics are related as you select a parter based on the parent culture.
Me too
I do that often with certain creators on here haha
14:24 "Occasionally I see comments in the comments section from men saying like 'women live life on easy mode' or 'women never struggle the same way that men do'. I find that really sad because those people can't see past the group identity ; they can't see past the gender, to actually empathize with an individual. The truth is that there are existential pains and sufferring that are experienced by every human being (...)".
Those people who live in famine-stricken regions, they can't see past geography to actually empathize with obese Americans.
I'm not going to deny that women suffer. They do. I generally think that they're spoilt and are generating their own existential pain by asking themselves tons of questions while lacking the self-awareness to realize how lucky they are compared to men, but that's just my cynical opinion. However, I do think that you, Alexander Grace, probably think something that is not totally removed from my opinion, judging by your video entitled "Single Women Are A MYTH": th-cam.com/video/uxT-rk906Ho/w-d-xo.html You do recognize that women haven't the faintest idea of what being single means for men. Which is one reason why they're incapable of empathizing with men.
So OK, women do suffer. They get their 500 Tinder matches per day and suffer.
And it is sad that with my 2 matches per MONTH, I can't see past gender to empathize?
I mean... I truly, sincerely, deeply want to empathize with women. But while I feel like I'm almost fighting for my survival, you're asking me to empathize with women who are the Jeff Bezos of dating, hookup, sex, and light-hearted fun life where their kind of struggle is asking themselves tons of questions they lack the logic and self-awareness to answer themselves.
I'm sorry to blurt this out so abruptly but c'mon! One of my female friends who had borderline personality disorder, autism, depression, scars from self-mutilation and "suicide attempts", couldn't work, spent 4 hours per day on skin care, and had been living at her parents house for 3 years at age 38 in a small town in the middle of nowhere... she never stayed single for more than 2-3 weeks despite not even divulging her face on dating sites. My friend's life is not entirely easy mode as can be understood from what I said about her. But when it comes to gender relations, we're not living on the same planet.
Exactly, in a western country women have recruit difficulty. Even if she makes all the wrong choices she's still gonna be fine.
Well said. Any truth that isn't binary, black or white, people find very difficult to acknowledge if doing so is not to their social advantage.
And if a MAN had all those problems at 38?
Bullshit.
You're missing the point. 'Empathize' with individual women to understand them as people and form healthy relationships. Being upset/anxious that women in general have an easier time dating etc. only creates another obstacle to a good relationship.
@@rwatertree Its not just dating though, if it was no man would be complaining. Its divorce court, its lying in court with no repercussions, If they make bad decisions the majority of women will be fine and coast right through life. Marriage is rigged heavily against men. There are men in debtors prison because of alimony and child support while the mom was actually the bad parent. Women initiate divorce way more than man and for silly things. As soon as paradise has a snake it, she abandons paradise all together. Its the terrible notion of wanting to be a single mom, woman have stated this. It completely handicaps the kids for life.
Men can't have empathy for women, when women will not pick up any responsibility for their own actions.
I learned a lot from watching my girlfriend when she interacted with her: daughter-aggressive, friends-dishonest, sister-passive, ex-sugar daddy husband-passive......how did she treat me, passive aggressive dishonestly....imagine that.
I got a stroke from reading this
@@VCRider A stroke of what, or did you actually have a stroke?
Its badly written and hard to read
@@matthiwi6901 Maybe you should stick to comic books, chairman Wi.
@@slavicjarl8769 Yes, they all seem so normal at first, then.....
I actually am quite attracted to trees 🌲
You are attracted but not aroused
@@anishtheodore5010 to weed he meant
Have you tried branching out a bit?
"...and why are you attracted to humans as opposed to rocks or trees?"
*Rule34 enters the chat*
That's a sexy looking boulder 🪨 right next to that thick rooted tree.
Ask a hippie.
Thank you for all that you do AG. I have to disagree on the culture part. The new culture of sexual promiscuity has destroyed countless families and has destroyed the ability to have a healthy family.
All by design of our enemies
Modern culture tells women that they deserve the perfect man without actually doing anything to contribute to the relationship.
I think it's worth noticing that "personality" is not the same as "psychology" in terms of these topics. Personality is your base characteristics and preferences and is almost completely genetic, while psychology is your personal beliefs (and triggers) and is learned from your life experiences. I fear that too often these two ideas get conflated together - possibly because beliefs (psychology) can come to override personality (which causes a person to act inauthentically, but that's another topic). They're actually not the same. And in the end you need to understand both the personality -AND- psychology of a person if you expect to relate to them well.
Thank you
good insight
never thought or heard it put that way.
"Culture" is not "software"; it is rather "firmware". Culture, although variable, varies within the fundamental constraints of the culture bearers. Inasmuch as ethnoses are different, the differences are to an extent based on biology. Different ethnoses produce (or create) different cultures (which vary with time, environment, demography etc, but within the ethnic constraints). There can be significant overlaps with other ethnoses, of course; but statistically, the curves are not identical. The same goes for "psychology": it is not ethno- or culture-indifferent. In other words, all three 'elements' are parts of the whole and cannot vary completely independently of one another.
Be Linux in a world full of Windows.
Well said…have you read Blueprint by Nicholas Christakis? It discusses much of what you were pointing out there with less emphasis on the individual psychology aspect.
@@thegiftedteacher No, I have not. Ty for the reference; I've just borrowed the book and will read it, to avoid trying re-inventing the bicycle while ppl who can do it much better than me have already done that :)
Careful, trying to construe culture with biology might get you labelled a racist. Of course, it's also completely logical and consistent. But still...
@@georgemilliner3812 Disclaimer: biology does not exist, it is a social construct. Moreover, the notion of social constructs itself is a social construct. Races do not exist, as well as racism: they are social constructs. The reality itself does not exist: it is a social construct invented by the oppressors.
I find this really funny how the end of the video and the entire video itself ( from my perspective ) comes at a time where i feel that i am self-aware enough to understand it on the level it is meant to be presented on. I am probably not the only one when i say this or think about it for that matter, but watching your content and looking back on it gave me the knowledge i needed to understand the psychology of the human mind. Thank you Alexander Grace, i think what your channel is about helps a lot of people grow for the better.
The hardware vs software comparison for biology vs culture is amazing. Really put things in a new perspective for me thank you.
This is not a recruitment video. But large-scale cultural movements affect individuals and their opportunities. For example late marriages coupled with financial inequality has been a cursed precursor of all the major world wars and disease outbreaks. This has been true over the last centuries and even millennia. Society manipulates individuals much more effectively than it's given credit for. You bonding with any individual particularly of the opposite sex is an act of Defiance. Keep up the good work!
That may be true but can't it be argued that the societal regulations or structures are as a result of our biological imperative.
Take for instance feminism? At first glance it may be seen as a sociocultural movement but when analyzed critically it merely exists to maximize female sexual strategy and so there's actually biological explanations that address why these sociocultural movements exist.
Imo many behaviors and sociocultural phenomenon can only be truly understood when analyzed through a biological framework.
Even though I have sworn off women and especially marriage, I still enjoy watching your breakdowns.
Your authenticity is all you need to sell.
I'd disagree. A man could be 100% authentic but also weak, cowardly, submissive, broke, etc and women would not be attracted.
@@RandomPerson-nd2ey I made a reference to Alex’s authenticity. The important word is here is ‘your’.
@@RandomPerson-nd2ey I was referring to his TH-cam growth, not women.
@@RandomPerson-nd2ey but yeah, I should have been more specific.
@@peripheralparadox4218 Ohhh, okay. Yeah, that makes sense. I read it as "all guys need to get women is to be authentic".
Really loved your message at the end Alex. Couldn't agree with you more. I've been on the path of discovering what makes me tick for the past 2 years after an emotional traumatic experience. Your channel has been one of my primary go-to''s. Glad I found you when I did.
You are right to be apolitical. Some women (and men) take on a cause passionately, such as global warming, without understanding the underlying science. It gives them a sense of self value.
04:57 But male fertility does not increase with age. Male fertility reaches its full potential in early 20s, and starting around age 25 it starts decreasing, taking a big ass plunge around 40-45 years old. Look at any male fertility chart. The quality of sperm also decreases. What you are saying is simply factually inaccurate. From Wikipedia: "Men also experience a decline in fertility as they age. Male fertility drops gradually and steadily; the average time to pregnancy if both partners are under 25 is just over 4.5 months but nearly two years if a man is over 40 (and the woman is under 25).[3] The risk of genetic defects is greatly increased due to the paternal age effect. Children with fathers aged 40 or older are more than five times as likely to have an autism spectrum disorder than children fathered by men aged under 30.[4] Researchers estimate that compared to a male fathering a child in his early 20s, there is double the chance of the child getting schizophrenia when the father is age 40, and triple the risk of schizophrenia when the father is age 50 (though, for most people this means the risk goes from approximately 1 in 121 when a man is 29, to 1 in 47 when a man is age 50 to 54).[5] The volume and fecundity of a man's semen quality and sperm motility (the ability of sperm to move towards an egg) decrease continually between the ages of 20 and 80.[4] The incidence of dwarfism[6] and miscarriage also increases as men age.[4][7]"
Decreases at 25 , are you high
For sake of completeness, I should mention that there are definitely humans attracted to trees, and I'd bet also to rocks. Humans are weird.
i like rocks ,but not "that way" 👍🤣
I confirm The Rock. Not me but there are actually guys that have hum.....relations with rocks....dunno
Have you seen japan?
Like, love and lust are all different things.
I think it is safe to assume he is not talking about extreme outliers but in more general terms about the majority of women.
Yes sir! Understanding yourself is Like A Super Power when you really start to pay attention. I can often Gleen insights from people by remembering how I felt at a certain age, In a certain Situation. It also helps you to feel more connected to others experiences. It Just adds Depth and Richness to Life to Go 110% On self improvement.
Gigachad energy lol this is truly underrated and yeah ty some things I knew but some others clear up a lot for me
Good video ... but when will you explain the apparent sudden rise in Female "Bi" and "Lesbian" populations ... were they always there but hidden "Culturally" or has it always existed?
One of the best channels. YT was invented for content like this channel
I am one of those men who's willing to be introspective. It helps me a lot to be stable throughout the challenges of life. I have also been going overboard with this and was involved in the the new age world. That's something I wouldn't recommend being grounded and introspective is.
Great video. In my experience, women are easily influenced by their environment, because they like to be in groups and as such, they confirm easily to popular trends and ideas of the majority even if not a good idea.
@Ostia Hermes sexual liberation for such was a destructive thing, but western embrace it, but all it does is lower the value of western women and an increase single motherhood, increase the spread of STD, increase promiscuity, and increase divorce rate
@Ostia Hermes the women in the 1950s didn’t have to work and the women were not being abused as the feminist make it seem, in fact I think women are be abused more now than in the 1950, because women nowadays are more aggressive than in the past. If the feminist thing the men had it easy in the 1950s those wealthy women should marry their men and pay all the bills while the guys stay at home let’s see how that works out.
In my experience youtube commentors called BlackUps__ easily give their sexist biased opinions on women that paint them in a bad light. BlackUps___ can easily be also found demonizing women for having a sexuality although the only reason they may ever get laid is that now women are more open with their sexuality. Also he does not understand STIs.
@@cheyemily6066 All the shaming language just shows lack of better argument.
Weak. They are weak no matter how you put it
I appreciate that Alex Grace approaches this with discretion. I think you explain things in a way that really gets into the nuance. This is particularly one of the best topics you have covered on the channel.
It's a person's psychology that I fall in love with. I may crave a woman's body and be interested in her culture, but they're not HER specifically. Those two are just her possessions. For marriage, I want my other half, and I'm not just a body or a manifestation of my culture, and I hope women aren't either.
Self awareness is key!
Thank you once again for your great content.
Mr. Grace, you are a very perceptive man. I get something new out of every video. Good on you. --Old Guy
The best and fairest channel for men on the net.You live up to your name...alexander = man' s helper...Grace, nuff said. Subscribed.
Thank you for your channel, and thank you for welcoming us all!
We all have the same emotions and desires/temptations. When you see a certain reaction/action by someone else, deeply look within yourself and reflect how you’ve done the same or wanted to do the same thing in your life. The world is a projection from within you.
I'm also glad to meet someone like you on youtube doing these kind of videos.. They are so useful.. I am a truth lover almost more than any other thing in the world, and after I started watching your videos yesterday, now I can't help myself watching one after one..
These are like gold and I see you as a very intelligent person..❤
I've been watching a lot of your videos and I think this is your best one so far. Great facts and points to back up your views. Unbiased delivery of information.
I just saw the title.
3 sides?
Front, back and side?
French fries, tater tots, and mashed potatoes
Front-side, back-side, in-side 😃
After being with the same woman for 10 years I am pretty sure I have more in common with a male penguin than her.
Is your woman a female penguin? 🐧
You may even have more in common with a FEMALE penguin either 🤣🤣🤣
Bro, thank God I'm not alone in this journey. What you said in the last part was so important, as understanding myself was key to my uprising in different areas of my life - work, creative and philanthropic projects and dating. More power and thank you for welcoming me in your channel.
Thanks to you for the upload!
In order to be sucessful hunter, you need to know your prey, and it evolves and change over time. I will consider to add a time frame scale on all domains.
I live in Sweden, even before I heard about that research. I've been surprised by so many females working/studying towards healthcare
I had to figure this out when I was 13. I wanted a girlfriend but young girls were so stupid. So I waited till I was 17, started to date only intellectually stimulating women but still had to act like some "bad boy" to give them a project to work on. It worked!
I married at 22 to a total babe 2 inches taller than me and never looked back. You have to understand female psychology in order to be successful. And even then, you gotta be decently good looking and driven to succeed. It's hard work. There will be losers.
Real people don't want tinder dates for their dream spouse. Those things are for good looking tall people.
Thanks to Alexander Grace for seeing that some men really need some help here. 13:00:00
Can you tell me how you stimulated the women and how did you act like a bad boy?
I believe personality is 50% nature (genetics) and 50% nurture (upbringing)
With biology & culture being equal.
The cliche "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree" is there for very good reason
women under 35 want to date up, and get hurt
women over 35 want to date down, so they can get commitment
I’d like to argue that one point made about culture change versus biology staying the same. I would say there has been a minor though substantial change to women’s biology with the introduction of effective birth control. That being the greatest factor in women’s cultural change toward being more sexually active without consideration of long term companionship.
An average girl would not be able to leverage easy access for greater prospects, or any for that matter. When such a massive consequence is removed it does negate previous biological imperatives. Completely changes the game.
Totally agree with your anti political views. Discernment and personal growth has always been unpopular.
If you want to understand women - take time, money, attention, proximity, marriage, children and resources off the table - her true character will out itself soon enough.
She is only there for what you provide. giver her nothing and you will see her true motives.
*enjoy.
I live in Norway and are a single man. Probably always will be. I looked at the numbers and figured out that there are not enough women around. I am not going to be a home wrecker to not be single. I like being alone therefor I will be alone.
Thanks, Alexander, your videos have helped me realize that I don't want to have anything to do with women.
I would love to here your personal story about breakup becz what I can sense is that something has compelled you to study a lot on this subject and I must say u r master on it.
perfect video brother, women do what it takes to fit in publicly even when they're completely different alone
Well said... I wish I received this kind of information in my younger days.
This is amazing, thank you for the content!
I'm in a much needed self improvement journey but along side that I'm searching ways to be in a better relantionship with my gf, we are doing really well but we are both always looking for ways to improve and to be better for ourselves and for each other
You’re not out of the culture war if you’re trying to teach men about women and how to understand them/communicate with them. You’re at the heart of it and you should embrace it
I like that even though it’s a long video you highlighted the points straight away, an impatient person like me loves
One of your best videos to date
I like your channel, no gender war just life advice
Well balanced discussion.
One big pattern I've noticed on the personal psychology part of the equation is that if a woman's life is in self-perceived order, she will be interested in the so-called alpha males. If her life is in self-perceived chaos, she will be interested in the so-called beta males.
@@olemundoaguilar1224 yup
Hey Alex I have one question, how to answer women when they say they are oppressed (these are privileged women) or the society is patriarchal?
Everytime I try to answer I am labelled as mysogynist and they attack in herd.
@Brad Mc well, I was just wondering a way around that because I get an itch to reply but it never ends well. ,😅
Ask them what rights women don't have that men do. The abortion argument doesn't count because obviously men can't get pregnant and they have no say in whether a woman chooses to have one or not.
thank you very much from germany for upload 🙂
The more I am listening to this, the happier I am that I am sexually attracted to trees. There is a voluptuous birch not far from where I life. She doesn't talk much. I like it that way.
lol
My girlfriend left me (it was a distant relationship) and i was angry about it. But after awhile i started to wonder why people and myself behaving like this. I mean in a relationship i was a different person from who i really am. So i started reading psychology , philosophy even mythology again Jung, Hegel ext... And now im glad that she left me. Now i know so much more what i really want in a relationship and i know women, myself and society that i live in so much better.
Trouble, trouble, trouble, it's better to just avoid them.
I find these points very interesting, and can see all the points being important. Biology equates to the foundation of personality, culture is the brickwork and psychology are the doors windows etc that give personality to the house.
Is crying gender based, do women cry more than men? When i told it is gender based, to one girl she got so offended her face turned red and she started shaming me. What are your opinions?
I definitely do believe that women generally cry more than men. The reason for it could be biological with the assumption that men are built to operate under stressful conditions and therefore wouldn't need to cry that often to relieve stress. On the other hand it could also have something to do with the culture where women are not shamed for crying as often as men are. I personally believe it to be a mixture of both.
I mean flat out estrogen makes people cry more most evident with people transitioning (had a convo with a trans friend recently talking about how when they started taking hormones they cried plenty more than they did before, sometimes just randomly).
Women cry more than men and men's tear ducts are smaller than women's. It's biological.
Sometimes pulling the waterworks is rewarded and if it is the likelihood it was a woman is very high
We all think women cry more because they do and if they want to act like men and hallucinate that they can be men just ignore them because we men determine what’s right not them
Great breakdown across the elements of human nature: species/group/individual, analyzed to better understand their impact on human behavior and the dating scene. Way more insightful than I ever got studying biology/sociology/psychology in countless University courses.
I know right, this video can be an actual lecture
Seing how much Alexander understands human psychology, really gives one hope for the future of humanity as a whole.
200k child support 😭😭😭
PJ. We should remember his name
@@olemundoaguilar1224 yes that's sad 😭😭
Nice conclusions. I agree understanding one self is totally key to be able to better explore others feelings and emotions. Not an easy task though.
This channel is getting better after the debate with wheat waffles
Brilliant analysis ! Thank you .
Thanks for the message in the end. It's very important in order to understand others and have better relationships, to know ourselves first.
Thank up for sharing your thoughts and teaching. that end bit was good
Lets not forget neuro plasticity. Human sexuality is more adaptive then most people aknowledge.
Always entertaining to listen to someone talk about something that they're not going to talk about, for 3 minutes.
In the last moment of the video when you talk about the journey to know yourself, I actually found you a year ago when I started it. It was a pleasure to do so with you, and it was exciting and scary. Thank you for your great content :>
"Know Thyself"
10/10 for this video, A masterpiece...
Completely agree that Psychology and Psychologically healthy styles of communication are the single most important things to know about and be well versed on when it comes to relationships.
Mexican women used to be very conservative but in the past decade attitudes towards being a single mother, dating multiple men and golddigging have changed. Laws also favor them in terms of child support and society glorifies single mothers so future looks bleak here.
True and these Mexicans girls are becoming liberals.
They are becoming more and more open to multiple dating. The only thing that can reverse that is seeing they’re parents have a nice comfortable life. Where you visit family and have family parties. And the social comfortable construct the Mexican conservative families have. Where we also see these liberal people as just “crazy people” lol
We have to reverse how they think liberally because they think this is what’s right.
The more they hear they can sleep around and date around the more they will think it’s right. Which isn’t right bc the more they sleep around the more unhappy they will be and it has been proven
I'm trying to get dating advice but the problem is SO many creator videos are becoming infomercials for the sponsors products!!! So much so its beginning to feel like their videos are truly becoming infomercials.
Wow man...super sage topic. Thank you.
"Why are you attracted to humans as opposed to..."
be careful my little man, you are treading dangerous waters
"as opposed to rocks and trees"
oh, ya saved it.