Why men love b*tches
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 3 ต.ค. 2024
- Welcome back to the It Girl Playbook! I’ve got a question for you- are you often called the "nice girl," you're always feeling drained, and is walked all over? Well, in today’s episode we will gonna talk about into some game-changing advice from a book that turned my life around and hopefully yours also: Why Men Love B*tches by Sherry Argov
Being a ‘b*tch’ isn’t about being mean, it’s about knowing your worth and keeping firm on your boundaries. Let me make it clear: you shouldn’t do everything just because you can.
Let’s reshape how you see yourself from your self-worth, your independence, and to your relationships. When you view yourself as the prize, everything changes. People will start treating you differently. You become a magnet for the right kind of attention and love without chasing after it.
Remember, you are not just an option, you are a priority. It’s time to stop trying to please everyone and start living your best life.
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I've come to realize that with men you can only be a princess or a pick me, no in-between 💀
If you can't be yourself around them, they're not the person for you. I know it's hard but you have to keep your boundaries strong and hold your standards high
being a pick me doesn't benefit you in any way or form be everything BUT a pickme
we shouldnt be proving ourselves to anybody but ourselves because we ARE the prize.
@s099-o2f These aren't normal women. These are narcissists, and cantankerous extroverts with high ambition and low empathy. This is just my emotionless observation.
Imagine guys thinking like that
@@amc-world3956men pursue, women get pursued, it’s literally nature
@@amc-world3956OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Nobody's the prize without good characteristics
"Nice girls" and "people pleasers" aren't necessarily the same thing. You can be nice and still have morals. I try to be open and friendly to people, but when somebody is ignoring my boundaries, I ask them not to. If they persist, I leave.
Bitches would assume that they're such a treat, and have no humility. Nice girls know about their worth, but are still humble. People pleasers look down on themselves, and let people walk over them because they don't realise they have any worth at all.
I hope that makes sense. It's not one or the other.
Nicely put
I think her definition of bitch is your definition of nice girl that said I agree
Nice girl is a trope. We don’t mean literal kind people.
There is a difference between being kind and being nice, and men don’t want nice girls.
@@spacebar9733 Tropes muddy the waters so much that NO ONE knows what anyone is talking about! Stop trying to redefine well-established terms! This is what communists do, to make everything so confusing! this is like a woman saying: yes means no, yes means maybe and yes means yes, depending on the context! so you want a magician who can read your mind, NOT a normal human being? LOL Just say what you mean.
“Narcissistic love doormats” 💀
That explains the pattern in my fam and friends I’m close to.
Omg fr
You're not alone!
I honestly like it when a girl has boundaries and communicates if she’s not okay with something I do. It shows me that she’s her own person which just makes me adore her even more. Yea it could lead to arguments, but as long as we can come to an understanding, wouldn’t it just make us closer than before?
They have boundaries, they just dont tell you about them directly! They are the passive-aggressive types, and you learn their boundaries through the mellow dramas that play out!
@@inconnu4961 yea……those who do that are just not for me and it’s okay….😂😂😂😂I don’t have time to put the pieces of the puzzle together👀just a preference tho
The other day I said "Im not a doormat, Im not a bitch. Im a person I have boundaries. Why is it so ine way or the oher ?"
it's not, but because you have self-confidence, self-worth, self-respect (shown through boundaries) a below bare minimum low effort man (lots of them are) will call you a bitch. i think that's the point she's making is that to these men you're either one or the other but to a good man you're a princess or queen (AKA a good woman with standards and a robust life regardless of him).
Do they see women as human beings? Let's start there!
Maybe by 'bitch' they actually mean a girl who has boundaries. Since people love easy going girls, having boundaries can be 'bitchy' and 'cruel'.
@@NaanaaLeaf You were doing great until you touched upon men, then your misandry took over! NO MAN IS BELOW BARE MINIMUM EFFORT! This is hysterical! Unless you are chasing the PRIVILEGED men who came from wealth, didnt have to work, and life came easy, MOST sane men are prepared to work for VALUABLE things. If he aint working for you, he must NOT consider you valuable. if you run into a LOT of men like this, you MUST NOT BE AS VALUABLE AS YOUR GIRLFRIENDS ARE TELLING YOU THAT YOU ARE! if you want a man, give them what they want or quit the game. men are being given the SAME advice. But because women want SO much, many men are quitting because they cant physically provide it to anyone person! There is such thing as a happy medium. only dumb people spend their lives living at the extremes. FIND the balance in life. NO WOMAN is a princess or a queen! Sorry to burst your bubble. You arent one, and you dont deserve to be treated like one. either you are a partner, who contributes her FULL half or you go find a Daddy replacement, but you play by HIS rules now! Remember the Golden Rule: the one with the GOLD makes the rules.
Remember Chandler's
"You’re not easy-going, but you’re passionate, and that’s good. And when you get upset about the little things, I think that I’m pretty good about making you feel better about that. And that’s good too. So, they can say that you’re high maintenance, but it’s okay, because I like…maintaining you." 🤧🥺
Let me repeat the Important parts-
"So, they can say that you’re high maintenance, but it’s okay, because I like…maintaining you."
This comment is phrased so well. Thank you!
Wish I knew that before putting my crush on a pedestal. We actually went on two dates and he told me that he thought I was snob before getting to know me. Apparently it turned him on (ew) but eventually he understood I wasn’t that and lost total interest in me.
I do feel bitter because there’s a part of me that wanted to prove myself for acknowledgement but I’m relieved that I did not spend more time on someone like that.
Now you know that you are the prize.
Men who want to be with The Who they think would resist them- just to feel like they’ve beat a challenge or conquered those women- are never worth being around.
he was... turned on by that? 😨
@@itgirlplaybook But she isnt! stop lying to the poor girl! You will make her crazy, just like you are! You will make yourself so expensive no one could afford you! And the ones who could, dont BUY toys, they rent them then return them! BECAUSE they CAN!! LMAO
@@asecretchannel4135 They are immature. A couple of bad relationships from some crazy women SHOULD cure them of this. fingers crossed. LOL
No one loves a doormat. You don't attract others by pleasing others - you attract others by focusing on yourself. I was such a doormat throughout my life, and I never understood how to be an it girl. I've been learning this for 9 months, and I still am not there yet. But at least I could tell certain things. Like there was this guy that I just broke up with, who sees himself as a prize, and wants me to treat him as the prize - it's so icky and cringy. I am not doing that. Not happening.
men are becoming princesses these days lol
@@nanomia They are!!! They’re so princess-y
YOU do NOT deserve that guy! He dodged a bullet by you breaking up with him. To whom MUCH is expected, much should be given. Women expect MORE from men than men expect from women. Would YOU like to do 2x or 3xs as much work as your co-worker, but get paid the same as her while she receives ALL the praise & you receive the blame when things go badly? This is what relationships are like for men in 2024! Men ACTUALLY want women to be equal, like they SAY they are! LMAO
Same. I'm better than where I was before but I'm not where I wish to be. Wishing you all the best in your journey!!
@@theauthorgirl-podcast Same to you my dear friend
"I do embarrassing things so you don't have to."
*girl.* 😂😂
30M here. Ladies, a high value man will not tolerate a woman who disrespects him and herself. Work on what you bring to the relationship, without even considering sex. Work on yourself as a human being. Beauty is highly important, but what is the point of an empty book, even if the cover of the book looks good 💛.
Aww love this!! Thank you ❤😍😘
Who said anything about disrespect? The video makes good points anyways.
Oh man I love it that you end it with 'Stay hot'.
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The question is how do we see ourselves as a prize??😭
Start with respecting yourself....and treat your self better...stop being the doormat and being a bitch means not tolerating disrespect or any kind of misbehavior...and that's how you make yourself a prize😊treat yourself better besties
dont take anyones 💩. learn to not NEED a partner before pursuing someone. love yourself.
Dont objectify yourself, girl. Everything in this video is bullshit, you shouldn’t live by looking at yourself through the male gaze. Learn about yourself more rather than learning “what you can become to attract men”
Start by NOT taking ANY of the above advice! ha ha ha Its HORRIBLE! I mean it sounds good, but its impossible to do AND you are a hypocrite if you dont expect everyone else to do the same, but EVERYONE will be unbearable to live with if they ARE the same! LOL NEVER ever be a b*tch! They are trying to redefine it, but ONLY you you have read the book see it as a good thing. NORMAL, SANE people see it as STILL a horrible thing to be avoided. CHOOSE better descriptors! Say you are being Mature & Healthy.
@@Glowgirl-wt5sn This is horrible advice! You aint gotta a clue, lil girl, do you? Describe 'respecting oneself' This could have different meanings for different people! So, define terms. Treat herself better than what? How do you know she wasnt treating herself well before? Thats a BOLD assumption that YOU cant back up with any evidence. Most of you girlies treat yourself TOO much as it is, and you are STILL unhappy! Its NOT the treats that will make you happy; youve been trying it and it hasnt worked yet! And it still wont work when you are 40, 50, 60 or older. Thats not the secret!
You have no idea how ur vids changed my perspective in seconds . Lots of love 🫶🏻🫶🏻
Me, personally I give up on men. - signed a defeated 26 year old😅😂
Dont give up, just take a break! Dating is a complete circus for men & women and NO ONE is enjoying it at the moment, it seems. You arent alone.
@@inconnu4961 unfortunately, I have high risk hpv. Even if I wanted to try, that door is closed for me forever. I didn’t make good choices. If I could go back in time, I’d just remain celibate and enjoy my life and value myself. I gave so much of myself to men who didn’t care about me, and it destroyed me…
Thank you so much for your consistency 💛 these videos are amazing at helping us learn to gain more self-confidence and boosting our self-esteem 🌻
I'm really looking forward to seeing you do a deep-dive on our beloved and iconic character, Blair Waldorf.
Simply put : Women wanted to be her, and men wanted to be with her. And funnily enough, she was a self-proclaimed bi*ch. Please discuss why she was, and remains so enigmatic as a total bi*ch. Everyone couldn't help but either love, worship, or despise Blair.
One thing no character was toward her, is "lukewarm".
Looking forward to it!
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Our real value comes from the inside, the way we choose to act, and trying to help those in need.
Seeing that both good and bad exist in the around us, and with the resources we have, always trying to do the good that we can.
All of this, comes from recieving and accepting love into your heart. Love is not only a feeling, it's also an action. And real love, that has the power to transform your mind, your body, your relationships, and even your whole life... comes from Jesus!!
He has died for both your and my sin, so that we could inherit eternal life, and in present one, peace, joy and truth.
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I know you may not feel it or even understand it yet, i hadn't either .. but just as he is infinite, so is his love for you. He is closer than you think and he wants to bless your life, but just like any gift, you have to accept it first. I love you guys ❤ and i wish you all the best, take care!
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I always have been this good girl and men say that they want a kind of girl like me submissive etc etc. But in all my life I've never had a boyfriend and it's weird because all the girls around me who have a strong personality have a lot of guys behind them😢
I don't know what to do, I'm in a crisis personality
Help me
You can be a GOOD girl AND have a strong, POSITIVE personality. People LOVE to hear good things about themselves, compliments or a positive word when things are going poorly. Dont be afraid to be the 'PICK ME" The guys that you really WANT to have a life with, the stable, doting faithful-types, ADORE those kinds of women. Dont mind the VERY LOW QUALITY women who will criticize you for being a Pick me! They are NOT your friends, but your competition. They arent trying to HELP you, but hold you back
Babes, do not mind what the other person is saying. You should read the book "Why Men Love Bitches". The author explained that "Bitches" does not mean the literal rude devlish woman. What the book says and what I'll advise is that you focus on YOU, work on yourself, and do not tolerate disrespect from men or women, have strict bulletproof boundaries, assert and communicate yourself. Do not allow yourself to be used.
What woman do you wish to be? Write what she eats, wears and how she carries herself down. Start acting like you're her. Adjust what you can.
Men say that they want submissive women, but that's not really true. They like women who can hold her own and they definitely treat you exactly the way you demand to be treated.
Do not be a pickme. Don't try too desperate for their attention. They'll despise you. Make yourself happy, pamper yourself. You'll radiate a different aura. Get to know yourself first. Be kind, not nice. Be soft spoken AND assertive.
God be with you.
@@inconnu4961 Horrendous advice. Men also don't like pick me's. Just look at Pearl. Being a pick me is someone who puts down other women for male validation. Men see that, and it just makes the woman look desperate that they have to undermine others. A women who's faithful, stable, and sure of herself is nowhere near what a pick me is. Work on yourself sis. Based on your other comments, you're a misogynist.
5:44 word!!!!!!!!
Facts👌🏽
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I've watched this video all the way through and wonder one thing: Is Princess Treatment something taken for granted? I have nothing against people valuing themselves as prizes and needing to see higher of themselves. I completely agree. You should love yourself for who you are and what you are. But the mention of Princess Treatment is something I question.
For example, if I always buy you stuff will you do something in return to prove that you haven't taken this for *granted* ? It might be a stupid question to ask, but I wanna make sure that from the other perspective, they actually value what I'm doing for them.
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Loved this video girly. Your voice is rlly good. 😻😻
real women does not have attitude , they have standards
Thank you so much 💝
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Can we split the bill on dates? I genuinely think it's fair to split the bill half half if the discrepancy isn't much.
At the end of the day, it comes down the relationship you want. Some women feel good going 50/50, some women like fully providing, and some women want to be with a provider even if she has a career (keep her money, use his). Personally, I never split on dates.
@@itgirlplaybook You are a leech? If you make him pay everything, you are NOT his equal! He owns you, because he bought you! Thats the way he feels. So, you either poay your way, exchange services in return (not necessarily sex, but something he needs/wants like chores, home cooked meals) if you offer him NOTHING in return, you are BOUGHT & PAID FOR. he wont see you as equal nor will he treat you that way. NO MAN WILL! LMAO This is what men do for our children, not for grown adults that plead equality all the time!
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Don’t probe yourself to a man, allow him too probe himself
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Not me!
Start a podcast!
Girl...when you tell me your stories it's HIT ME because i felt the same situation, i fell for a guy like a fool. I was wondering how my highschool best friend is so lucky happy life. She got the princess treatment even from me(idk if i did that bc she's lacking simple human skill or i am became a doormat for her) but then she is like a bitch(really like in this description) shes focusing on her self she have a good financial family and she's smart have a bf who spoil her. Once we three watch movie and eat dinner together(HE PAY ALL OF THAT INCLUDING MINE) (i know i am so pity being third wheeler)
In the first meeting, i felt bad bc i switched his menu that I don't know and think that its more expensive than mine. Idk what in the rught state of mind i want to switch but he did eventually(and i didn't even finish the food i am so ashamed).
After that the next we gather again w the same activity i payback the things that i feel like i am not someone he need to buyung me things like he did to his gf just bc im his gf bff.
Thanks
Keep going
Genuienly speaking though, as a person who is trying to quit being a people pleaser I have this question: Does letting a man hold the door for you count as narcissistic behavior since you expect them to do it? Isn’t that somehow taking advantage of their feelings since they have to behave a certain way for you to consider them?
Also, why is hyper independency problematic in relationships? I mean, I think it could lead to weaponized incompetence from narcissistic partner but can’t it be also the same reason why we can prove to the partner that they’re replaceable if they crossed the line?
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we're just getting started. :)
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Funny how you talk about how your image of yourself makes you over compensate. And then you then you overcompensate becoming a receiver because being a desperate giver didn’t net you anything. I’m not saying men shouldn’t pay. But you make it sound like men should be grateful to do so.
She is a nutter! She thinks she has arrived! Nope, like the rest of us, she is still trying to figure it out!
Every girl who is watching this video and BELIEVING in whatever shit is being said here, trust me, it might work in short term but in the long run, its all going downhill with this Entitlement Mindset.
awww is it a bare minimum low effort male typing again? It’s not entitlement mindset, it’s the society that you males created after all, but why are you criticizing it then, I’m sure you wouldn’t want a masculine woman that acts like the man in the relationship
@@augustgirl2905 You males? Generalization 1. Wouldn't want a masculine woman? Generalization 2.
All I hear are idiotic claims.
@@augustgirl2905 How did men create a society where women are rewarded for being women, while men are NOT rewarded for good effort, if their is a woman that needs to fill a quota? There are TOO many female bosses who can barely lead a group of women, let alone a group of men who are hierarchical! BUT because government quota NEED to be met, lesser qualified women are promoted. My problem isnt with FEMALE bosses, it is with UNQUALIFIED bosses! Many women are unqualified bosses because there is a quota to be met. Women KNOW this, and thats where the entitlement comes from! 'Give it to me, because I'm a woman' not because you earned it, like men have to or even OTHER women have had to!
@@JannWanna-ev3bh Its all she has!
not the male thinking anyone wants to hear his opinion lmao
Can you makes video on how to have lucky girl syndrome
Nice video , where do you get those great videos from ? Would appreciate a answer 😊
To me like make them know what they lost make sure to not let them always get there way get your respect pookies
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Soo there's this guy, Harry who was very good to me, come up n tall to me always, always noticed even the smallest things abt me was my good friend until now.. I heard him telling his friends that he liked me.. But now there's a sudden shift.. In between he had joined some camp so we couldn't talk much... so since im an extrovert i started talking to othr guys as well n more specific ally with i guy named James tho we were just frnds in fact i treatee James like my brother.. But now ig Harry is jealous n so he doesn't talk much.. Instead now he talks to othr girls n back hugs them(gets close with them) ig he's doing all this just to make me jealous.. So, i didn't talk to him as well cause he was being too tochy with them tho he knew it would make me get angry..however recently we talked about our exam scores n stuff.. But we didn't talk anything personal like we used to do b4.. Since ig ik that he isn't talking to me cause he's jealous should i go n tell him tht James n I are not dating.. So tht we can talk like we used to do. I feel bad as he didn't confirm all this with me n simply started not to talk.. Lemme also give you some background.. I'm not boasting but everyone says tht I'm the prettiest.. So ig im the prettiest girl, well harry is quite handome too n i had a crush on him as well. Many people told me tht we looked good together n we should date n stuff.. So basically they shipped us.
So I wanna ask you if i should clear this misunderstanding.. Or leave it on him n continue not to talk..
Pls replyy 🙏🙏
Btw I'm a new subcriber.. Ur videos r very motivating n encouraging. I love ur positivity.. I hope u gain a lot more subscribers..❤❤
Why does it matter to you what Harry thinks of you now that you have James? Honestly, had you done it sooner, it might have been worth it. But after such a long time, best to leave things as they are. Harry might feel like he is being put into the friendzone while James is around, which is basically what you would be doing! Set harry free, and find his beloved! Thats the kindest thing you could do for him.
Wew 😮
Studies in different countries found women dont mind cooking for men where they're right wing, but do mind in left wing countries, so it's your expectation of yourself that controls if you feel proud or exploited. The same stufies on men found men everywhere feel good about cooking for women, because yhey see kindness as it's own reward and feel happy to alleviate work from the woman they love. Aren't men so... romantic? Maybe you could learn something from their mindset. The studies are in the article in The Guardian, called 'Gains in women’s rights haven't made women happier. Why is that?' written by Anna Petherick, a liberal woman
This is a very interesting topic, could be a video idea
I’m a right wing woman and I don’t like to cook at all, neither does my aunt etc. My mom was always the one working (they’re not divorced) 🤷♀️ she’s right wing
@@augustgirl2905 You dont sound right-wing at all! Which country are you right-wing in, Germany?
@@augustgirl2905 That's called a exception, darling. Men are taller than women, but some women are 6ft, and thus taller than most men, but that doesn't debunk the fact most men are taller than most women. Most people are right handed, but a left handed person could comment "but I'm left handed, and so is my mother!" and it wouldn't make a point.
@@inconnu4961 I mansplained it to her politely and cogently, so she should understand now. Don't shout at her!
What’s the name of the movie of the girl in the pic
Ok but when was the last time u ate salad. If not once a week fix that 🖤
6:23 so I'm not doing it right?
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which chad broke ur heart dear
oh… that’s not… 😀
LMAO
am a dude. everything in this video is bs
Yeah ur a dude, that’s why
@@augustgirl2905 Are you trying to date men or women? LMAO This stuff will work on women! See how you ALL eat it up like extra-fattening ice cream! BUT . . . your chosen prey is given you GOOD feedback, and now you want to dismiss it? NO wonder women are so angry! None of them seem to have a clue! Only women talk in code that NEEDS to be deciphered! men say what they mean, and mean what they say (generally). Younger men are more like girls, where older men are very straight shooters. But why have success, when you can do it YOUR way and get to be a victim instead?
Can you elaborate? No hate, just genuinely curious :)
Why so sexist 😓
It’s not sexist, men created the society where as men are supposed to be chivalrous and women are supposed to be the prize. She’s just learning women to not give themselves away so easily
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@@j1nnienchrist it's in the description box
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