SCIENCE (pls pin) : stress hormones are exploded when you are in survival mode = fight or flight. Stress is supposedly normal when you are in physical danger, like fighting a bear or running from a lion.. Though it can also come through complex things like trying to fit in socially. Stress is in your nervous system ofc, and your nervous system shuts down your digestive system and affects your skin. The safer you are, the healthier, therefore prettier you'll be. If your body feels unsafe with someone, stress will be a response.. But you're supposed to be in survival mode for only a short amount of time throughout your daily life. So there your pimples are, stomach problems, ect.
this makes sense so much because when me and my bf first met, he is experiencing severe breakouts because of his toxic family and he is somewhat isolated from the world because of his family. after we got together his skin became so much better without him doing too much to it. he basically just washed his face just like he used to but his acne disappeared
I used to date a guy that did not really like me. At the time I thought had to do more because of this. He wanted all the perks of being with me but not make it official. I was trying my best to woo him. I made food for him when he was sick. I became sick from dating him I went to the emergency room and was 88 pounds!Lost hair from the stress had an entire face of acne. He of course cheated on me when I was in this state. He honestly never cared or apologized for what he did. But when he explained in detail what he did he stated now I want to be with you forever. I couldn’t stop laughing at that moment. After a while I got better and prettier and met a hotter guy that wasn’t broke. He was hot, 6’2, had money, masculine. I learned a valuable lesson never try too hard as a woman if you wanna be feminine, let things go. The universe will protect you from bad guys.
@BoosalisBimbo if you didn’t call him out in all his socials and let the world know what kind of man he was, he’s still making you ugly sis. Stand up take up your power and prevent that trash from doing the same to other women.
During my internship, i was under a nice lady, her desktop background was her family two kids the oldest looked 12, i thought that she was in her Early 30s, so one day she invites me to her sons graduation party turns out the desktop pic was 11yrs ago and she was 45, i swear to God she looked the same. when i asked what her secret was she said she married a rich man that takes care of her...she taught me so much with that sentence
omg i thought i was crazy for thinking this way bc i swear every time i’m around negative people i look drained and tired and i break out it’s crazy like i even start saying negative things myself
FINALLY SOMEONE REALIZED THE SKIN THING. When it was the right person, my skin would be flawless, but if it's not the right person, my skin would be going crazy. I've never met anyone who has made that distinction too!! WILD
Girl, a dude is giving so many triggers right now and we're not even dating. I noticed I lost a lot of hair since I met him. He gave me so much stress! It's true! But ironically the toxic ex situationship I had, I was actually at one of my hottest phases lol. If you heal your parental trauma and attachment issues (which, surprise surprise, stem from parental upbringing) then you'll also heal your dating life.
Wow the triggers is really a thing. I had this guy tried to woo me for almost a year and i would observe him from afar and look out for red flags and signs (because I'm super protective of myself due to previous bad experiences). At times he was sweet and considerate but I find myself getting triggered by his lack of emotional intelligence, in the small things that I would expect a person who claimed they liked me would do. And he didn't put in any effort to impress me (he would cuss a lot even when we text). I was ranting to friends so much about this that i realized I've turned into a negative complaining person, which I was so not before i found out he liked me. I rejected him quickly and it has been so peaceful ever since. I'm back to feeling happy and light. Always listen to your intuition ladies, question how does this guy make you feel. If he makes you feel worse or bring out the negative in you, then its a clear sign its the wrong guy.
I dated a bigger guy in high school and got on birth control and also ate more because he did. Gained like 45 lbs on a 5'1 frame. Wasn't a good look! Dumped him when I went to college and dropped all that weight in the first semester!
i used to date some questionable people in my life in these years so i noticed how i was while i was with them, and one of the guys that hurt me the worst was the one that made my problem with food turn into a literal eating disorder! when we ended our relationship i obviously suffered a lot but as the time passed i started to feel actually better, and to realize how hotter i became after him! mostly because i loved and i still love myself more than i used to! so this video is saying the truth, i love your channel❤
@@seabreeze4559 Women do it to men too! Courtney Love did it to Kurt cobain! Women like to pretend these things ONLY happen to them. Its the human condition, and we all suffer it!
i also want to mention something that correlates with this but in different angles. before i am with my current bf, I was thinner. After we got together I started to gained healthy weight because he only care about my health, so i don't starves myself anymore. but people are commenting that i look uglier just because i gained a little bit of weight and they just claimed that i am not happy or if he is toxic. i should tell you that this is the healthiest relationship i have. so take notes not only how your romantic partner treat you but also how the community around you treat you.
no i think the boyfriend effect trend is about women wearing makeup lesser or being comfortable in their relationship to the point where they start to dress down tbh which is good
yes! when the men ur with is an a-hole you get stressed and get obsessed with your looks. which is the only thing the a-hole cares about, other than you acting like his slave apparently. but the opposite is also true, when the a-hole wants to gaslight and manipulate you he don’t want you to look good so he doesn’t let you wear the things you used to wear. since if you look ugly you will be desperate and won’t be able to leave him.
That's not the same when skin becomes worse, hair is lost, sleep is lost, and there's unhealthy fat gain/loss. Makeup doesn't fix any of these things, if anything makeup use makes skin worse.
@@plzsavemeiamdying some one has some unresolved issues! OUCH! Remember ladies: many of us were NOT A-holes BEFORE we met some of you. Being an A-hole was an adaptation to you being a crazy b*tch. (this is NOT directed at the OP, just an aside for people who assume they only date Aholes)
It's not good. It's sending the message that girls do not dress up for themselves but to impress guys, then after finding a bf they let themselves go. You should always look your best and be the most beautiful version of yourself, for yourself.
I believe so, because you'll be happier and more relaxed overall, which will translate into looking more glowy and radiant. And even your vibes will be positive and that is attractive to people, they want to be around you.
I am happy in my relationship but sometimes i think of my previous relationships and I literally feel the negative effects as if my body thinks im still in those situations.but i have gotten better now with my husband
THANK YOU! Why take accountability for your OWN mental & emotional state, when you can just blame everyone else instead! LMAO The problem with half-assed advice from half-ass advice givers is they dont mention the personal accountability portion! You could be dating the RIGHT guy, have the right friends, have great parents but have BAD SKIN & stress because your mind is screwed up from a different trauma event. But instead of mentioning caveats, lets blame OTHER people!
Hiii!! Ily n ur videos, I really need advice frm you!! Soo there's this guy, Harry who was very good to me, come up n tall to me always, always noticed even the smallest things abt me was my good friend until now.. I heard him telling his friends that he liked me.. But now there's a sudden shift.. In between he had joined some camp so we couldn't talk much... so since im an extrovert i started talking to othr guys as well n more specific ally with i guy named James tho we were just frnds in fact i treatee James like my brother.. But now ig Harry is jealous n so he doesn't talk much.. Instead now he talks to othr girls n back hugs them(gets close with them) ig he's doing all this just to make me jealous.. So, i didn't talk to him as well cause he was being too tochy with them tho he knew it would make me get angry..however recently we talked about our exam scores n stuff.. But we didn't talk anything personal like we used to do b4.. Since ig ik that he isn't talking to me cause he's jealous should i go n tell him tht James n I are not dating.. So tht we can talk like we used to do. I feel bad as he didn't confirm all this with me n simply started not to talk.. Lemme also give you some background.. I'm not boasting but everyone says tht I'm the prettiest.. So ig im the prettiest girl, well harry is quite handome too n i had a crush on him as well. Many people told me tht we looked good together n we should date n stuff.. So basically they shipped us. So I wanna ask you if i should clear this misunderstanding.. Or leave it on him n continue not to talk.. Pls replyy 🙏🙏 Btw I'm a new subcriber.. Ur videos r very motivating n encouraging. I love ur positivity.. I hope u gain a lot more subscribers..❤❤
It’s honestly so interesting how when I FINALLY dropped him and stop gaf about the third party, I realized my worth and value. Treated myself better, thought more highly of myself and how I show up (and got a better man ofc) tell me why I never saw this man or the third party ever again? I mean thank god but damn yk. Also this month is the one year anniversary from cutting him off (yay me) now onto better things 🫶🏾💋
LMAO Thats when you realized your worth & value? Oh please! Sounds like a BIG cope! Tell us what your worth & value is, and how do you know this? You CAN control how you let people speak to you & treat you, but you can NOT control your value in the social market! You can do things to try to enhance your value, but if better women come along, your value in the social market will remain LOW! Remember: you are competing against OTHER WOMEN for your preferred man, and they are competing AGAINST YOU, TOO! Value is determined by those you are trying to impress, ie MEN! Until you grasp this basic truth, you will fail to have success and will be miserable.
this is so so real && u shld also look for a man who ADORES u as u do urselves cuz there's a saying that our s/o treats us as a reflection of how we treat OURSELVES 🩷
SCIENCE (pls pin) : stress hormones are exploded when you are in survival mode = fight or flight. Stress is supposedly normal when you are in physical danger, like fighting a bear or running from a lion.. Though it can also come through complex things like trying to fit in socially. Stress is in your nervous system ofc, and your nervous system shuts down your digestive system and affects your skin. The safer you are, the healthier, therefore prettier you'll be. If your body feels unsafe with someone, stress will be a response.. But you're supposed to be in survival mode for only a short amount of time throughout your daily life. So there your pimples are, stomach problems, ect.
this is so insightful
it's chronic cortisol that destroys collagen
source: studied neuroscience
this makes sense so much because when me and my bf first met, he is experiencing severe breakouts because of his toxic family and he is somewhat isolated from the world because of his family.
after we got together his skin became so much better without him doing too much to it. he basically just washed his face just like he used to but his acne disappeared
I used to date a guy that did not really like me. At the time I thought had to do more because of this. He wanted all the perks of being with me but not make it official. I was trying my best to woo him. I made food for him when he was sick. I became sick from dating him I went to the emergency room and was 88 pounds!Lost hair from the stress had an entire face of acne. He of course cheated on me when I was in this state. He honestly never cared or apologized for what he did. But when he explained in detail what he did he stated now I want to be with you forever. I couldn’t stop laughing at that moment. After a while I got better and prettier and met a hotter guy that wasn’t broke. He was hot, 6’2, had money, masculine.
I learned a valuable lesson never try too hard as a woman if you wanna be feminine, let things go. The universe will protect you from bad guys.
I'm so glad you realized your worth and moved on to someone deserving of you. Your story is gonna inspire so many ladies
@BoosalisBimbo if you didn’t call him out in all his socials and let the world know what kind of man he was, he’s still making you ugly sis. Stand up take up your power and prevent that trash from doing the same to other women.
Men are the giving energy, women are receiving.
During my internship, i was under a nice lady, her desktop background was her family two kids the oldest looked 12, i thought that she was in her Early 30s, so one day she invites me to her sons graduation party turns out the desktop pic was 11yrs ago and she was 45, i swear to God she looked the same. when i asked what her secret was she said she married a rich man that takes care of her...she taught me so much with that sentence
omg i thought i was crazy for thinking this way bc i swear every time i’m around negative people i look drained and tired and i break out it’s crazy like i even start saying negative things myself
Sameee you are not crazy, when i am around negative people i feel so tired, drained and insecure too
i wish in few weeks or days, I'll have healthy relationship with myself and others.
Yess, I’m rooting for you! 💛
Why not now?
FINALLY SOMEONE REALIZED THE SKIN THING. When it was the right person, my skin would be flawless, but if it's not the right person, my skin would be going crazy. I've never met anyone who has made that distinction too!! WILD
Girl, a dude is giving so many triggers right now and we're not even dating. I noticed I lost a lot of hair since I met him. He gave me so much stress! It's true! But ironically the toxic ex situationship I had, I was actually at one of my hottest phases lol. If you heal your parental trauma and attachment issues (which, surprise surprise, stem from parental upbringing) then you'll also heal your dating life.
but don't make excuses for the men that "oh it's just his trauma" he could also just be a jerk, read the book Why does he do that? free online.
@@seabreeze4559 uhm where were excuses made tho?
Wow the triggers is really a thing. I had this guy tried to woo me for almost a year and i would observe him from afar and look out for red flags and signs (because I'm super protective of myself due to previous bad experiences). At times he was sweet and considerate but I find myself getting triggered by his lack of emotional intelligence, in the small things that I would expect a person who claimed they liked me would do. And he didn't put in any effort to impress me (he would cuss a lot even when we text). I was ranting to friends so much about this that i realized I've turned into a negative complaining person, which I was so not before i found out he liked me. I rejected him quickly and it has been so peaceful ever since. I'm back to feeling happy and light. Always listen to your intuition ladies, question how does this guy make you feel. If he makes you feel worse or bring out the negative in you, then its a clear sign its the wrong guy.
I dated a bigger guy in high school and got on birth control and also ate more because he did. Gained like 45 lbs on a 5'1 frame. Wasn't a good look! Dumped him when I went to college and dropped all that weight in the first semester!
Love the video! Every relationship where my boyfriend started to neglect me or not make me a priority, I glowed down hard. Every single time.
i used to date some questionable people in my life in these years so i noticed how i was while i was with them, and one of the guys that hurt me the worst was the one that made my problem with food turn into a literal eating disorder!
when we ended our relationship i obviously suffered a lot but as the time passed i started to feel actually better, and to realize how hotter i became after him! mostly because i loved and i still love myself more than i used to! so this video is saying the truth, i love your channel❤
sorry you had to go through that but I'm so happy to hear about your self love journey and how much hotter you've gotten as a result.
what do you think happened to amy winehouse? some men talk these women into ending themselves via their habits
@@seabreeze4559 Women do it to men too! Courtney Love did it to Kurt cobain! Women like to pretend these things ONLY happen to them. Its the human condition, and we all suffer it!
Start calling out these clowns on their socials! Make them learn from their lesson, hold them accountable!
ONLY if you want o be called out & doxed on yours too! Karma can be a witch!
@@inconnu4961 Yes please.. Call us out for being kind, sweet, loving and generous with our time and patience. Mention it all, mention it all. 😚
i also want to mention something that correlates with this but in different angles.
before i am with my current bf, I was thinner. After we got together I started to gained healthy weight because he only care about my health, so i don't starves myself anymore. but people are commenting that i look uglier just because i gained a little bit of weight and they just claimed that i am not happy or if he is toxic.
i should tell you that this is the healthiest relationship i have.
so take notes not only how your romantic partner treat you but also how the community around you treat you.
no i think the boyfriend effect trend is about women wearing makeup lesser or being comfortable in their relationship to the point where they start to dress down tbh which is good
yes! when the men ur with is an a-hole you get stressed and get obsessed with your looks. which is the only thing the a-hole cares about, other than you acting like his slave apparently.
but the opposite is also true, when the a-hole wants to gaslight and manipulate you he don’t want you to look good so he doesn’t let you wear the things you used to wear. since if you look ugly you will be desperate and won’t be able to leave him.
it does not look good. neglecting yourself and health is never good.
That's not the same when skin becomes worse, hair is lost, sleep is lost, and there's unhealthy fat gain/loss. Makeup doesn't fix any of these things, if anything makeup use makes skin worse.
@@plzsavemeiamdying some one has some unresolved issues! OUCH! Remember ladies: many of us were NOT A-holes BEFORE we met some of you. Being an A-hole was an adaptation to you being a crazy b*tch. (this is NOT directed at the OP, just an aside for people who assume they only date Aholes)
It's not good. It's sending the message that girls do not dress up for themselves but to impress guys, then after finding a bf they let themselves go. You should always look your best and be the most beautiful version of yourself, for yourself.
I love your content gurl 😭🎀💓
Lol this is so true, Swear by the end of my relationship l was blad
this is soo truee, even i have been observing this as well
Energy hygene. So true !
i would LOVE to know your MBTI. You seem so interesting and cool.
ur videos are truly inspiring thank youu
If dating the wrong guy makes you ugly, does that mean dating the right guy makes you beautiful?
I believe so, because you'll be happier and more relaxed overall, which will translate into looking more glowy and radiant. And even your vibes will be positive and that is attractive to people, they want to be around you.
Love your channel💖💖💖💕
love your videos but please stop using ai slop. I just couldn't go through this one
hi
where d youget your clips from
I am happy in my relationship but sometimes i think of my previous relationships and I literally feel the negative effects as if my body thinks im still in those situations.but i have gotten better now with my husband
THANK YOU! Why take accountability for your OWN mental & emotional state, when you can just blame everyone else instead! LMAO The problem with half-assed advice from half-ass advice givers is they dont mention the personal accountability portion! You could be dating the RIGHT guy, have the right friends, have great parents but have BAD SKIN & stress because your mind is screwed up from a different trauma event. But instead of mentioning caveats, lets blame OTHER people!
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Hiii!! Ily n ur videos, I really need advice frm you!!
Soo there's this guy, Harry who was very good to me, come up n tall to me always, always noticed even the smallest things abt me was my good friend until now.. I heard him telling his friends that he liked me.. But now there's a sudden shift.. In between he had joined some camp so we couldn't talk much... so since im an extrovert i started talking to othr guys as well n more specific ally with i guy named James tho we were just frnds in fact i treatee James like my brother.. But now ig Harry is jealous n so he doesn't talk much.. Instead now he talks to othr girls n back hugs them(gets close with them) ig he's doing all this just to make me jealous.. So, i didn't talk to him as well cause he was being too tochy with them tho he knew it would make me get angry..however recently we talked about our exam scores n stuff.. But we didn't talk anything personal like we used to do b4.. Since ig ik that he isn't talking to me cause he's jealous should i go n tell him tht James n I are not dating.. So tht we can talk like we used to do. I feel bad as he didn't confirm all this with me n simply started not to talk.. Lemme also give you some background.. I'm not boasting but everyone says tht I'm the prettiest.. So ig im the prettiest girl, well harry is quite handome too n i had a crush on him as well. Many people told me tht we looked good together n we should date n stuff.. So basically they shipped us.
So I wanna ask you if i should clear this misunderstanding.. Or leave it on him n continue not to talk..
Pls replyy 🙏🙏
Btw I'm a new subcriber.. Ur videos r very motivating n encouraging. I love ur positivity.. I hope u gain a lot more subscribers..❤❤
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LOVE YOUUU GURLLLL!!!!!
To all my beautiful smart sexy sisters we are out of that phase❤❤ live laugh love celebrate our femininity 🌼🌷🦢😘
are you the girl with acne in the vieeo?? you are so prettyyy❤️❤️
Not being rude but do you not know what Kim Kardashian looks like 🤔
I believe that’s Kim K you’re referring to but you’re such a girls girl, I love it ✨
@@itgirlplaybook thank you
@@Zoe_thegoat I mean here 8:22
@@harmonie-osifo ohh I see, 🤷🏽♀️ maybe they’re google images
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Itni jalan achhi nahi h sir
It’s honestly so interesting how when I FINALLY dropped him and stop gaf about the third party, I realized my worth and value. Treated myself better, thought more highly of myself and how I show up (and got a better man ofc) tell me why I never saw this man or the third party ever again? I mean thank god but damn yk. Also this month is the one year anniversary from cutting him off (yay me) now onto better things 🫶🏾💋
LMAO Thats when you realized your worth & value? Oh please! Sounds like a BIG cope! Tell us what your worth & value is, and how do you know this? You CAN control how you let people speak to you & treat you, but you can NOT control your value in the social market! You can do things to try to enhance your value, but if better women come along, your value in the social market will remain LOW! Remember: you are competing against OTHER WOMEN for your preferred man, and they are competing AGAINST YOU, TOO! Value is determined by those you are trying to impress, ie MEN! Until you grasp this basic truth, you will fail to have success and will be miserable.
@@inconnu4961 Correction, but actually the only competition I’ll ever be in is against myself. Never with another woman, and especially for a man? 💋
this is so so real && u shld also look for a man who ADORES u as u do urselves cuz there's a saying that our s/o treats us as a reflection of how we treat OURSELVES 🩷
this is soo true 💯