One year after quitting alcohol, I didn’t expect this!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 เม.ย. 2024
- It’s been a bit more than one year after I quit alcohol. Temporarily, but the months are passing and I still don’t feel like getting back to it. I was surprised by how much my life has changed into a positive side.
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Im sober 3 years now and i have good and bad days. I assumed my whole life would fall into place when i stopped drinking, but guess what it didn't lol. However, i will never drink again, i can't even imagine the thoughts of it. I am lonely as i have lost a lot of so called friends but i have made some new friends and fell in love. I still have a long way to go dealing with issues from my past but to anyone thinking of quitting it saved my life. I was a few weeks away from death and i didn't care, i dont want to die now. Best of luck everyone, God bless xx
I'm 6 months sober and I feel in a similar boat, I really thought I'd magically become my pre-alcohol self again which is most definitely not the case (losing the weight I gained, anxiety and depression gone, etc). So that combined with losing some "friends", and having to figure out what I like doing outside of the house that isn't alcohol related, all has made it a bit tough, but I remind myself every day how much worse I would feel with alcohol in my life again. Best of luck to you on your journey as well!
Thank you for this video! I'm a hardcore binge drinker of 23 years. I not just talking normal drinking. Im talking pounding beer after beer sometimes 20-25. Slamming them in seconds. I've lost a few friends over the years from heart attacks and one from a horrible battle with brain cancer. All of them younger than me. Freaked the hell out of me. I'm 20 days sober for the first time EVER in two decades. Went to the doctor. Got some good blood work but I have fatty liver which isn't too late to fix. Like you, I feel so much better, more confident and well rested. To be honest, I'd still be drinking if it wasn't bad for me. Some of the most fun I ever had in my life! I've become more irritated at work but everyone says im still the same. Keep on rockin Karolina!!
Thank you! And thank you for sharing your story. Of course, that would be a big lie to say that drinking is not fun! But it can go quickly out of control. And unfortunately it’s harmful to our bodies. But you’ll see, the irritation slowly goes away. I didn’t see so much positive change in the first couple of months. Only about after a half year, I was wow, my body and mind feel like new. I’m really glad your liver can be fixed, you’ve made a great decision and you’ll see how your body will reward you!
Keep going man. It’s hard but totally possible. I promise a better life is ahead.
The good things add up! Well being is realized by small steps, but its NO small thing
How's it going?
Same, drank for 21 yrs, literally every single day 20-30 beers. Got pancreatitis once, stopped for 1.5 yrs, then relapsed and got pancreatitis again. Been sober now again for 1.5 yrs and for good now. Both times had audio/visual hallucinations, torn my IV's out at the hospital and started walking home.
I quit drinking alcohol 3 years now never felt better,never need it....keep it going
Day 29 of not drinking and already there is a big difference. The journey continues.
I never enjoyed drinking the way most people do , so I stopped alltogether 39 years ago.
I am glad this young woman has finally broken the habit!
In the AA book, it says a true alcoholic has lost the ability to drink normally. That means no going back to the days of having 1-2 drinks with dinner. Of course everyone has to decide that for themselves.
I haven’t had a drink in 8 months. I know if I try to have just one, it’ll spiral out of control again. I have a lot to lose. Thanks for sharing your experience. Same as you I drank because I was shy 🙈
Great job, 8 months ! 👏👏👏 thank you for a great reminder. I really have to accept that 1-2 drinks with a meal might never work. I believe that, that’s why I don’t dare to do it I think
William Porter in his book Alcohol Explained really made me realize that heavy drinkers cannot moderate, and it is best to give up that idea. In his book, he describes it like this: think of being a race car driver. When you quit drinking, you are abandoning that 'car' on the race track. Months or years later, you may begin to think "hmm... I've been doing so well not drinking. Maybe I can drink again, and it will be different this time." He said that you are thinking that when you try to reintroduce it, you will be at the starting line of the race track again, a brand new drinker. BUT... in fact, Porter says, you will be starting right where you left off, with that car on the track. In no time at all, you will be back at your old level of drinking. I once read, "I can control my drinking or I can enjoy it, but not at the same time." The beauty of abstinence is your head isn't in the game anymore. No more negotiating with yourself if you are going to drink, or when, or how much.... It is exhausting. @@KarolinaBaltulyte
@@snu3877 Such a great comment!
Lots of young people amongst others are doing the same thing, very sensibly . Your attire went nicely with the surroundings.
its a much better life, in sobriety, and the world opens up, one day at a time
My world closed off when I cut my drinking back to normal levels I realized people made me want to drink excessively. being away from people I feel much better.
Big mistake trying to have a glass wine with dinner. Don't,don't,don't.
Amen.
What is even the point of having 1 glass of wine with dinner. Let's face it, most of us here probably like to drink to get drunk. Even if you could control it and have just one glass of wine, it's not going to be enjoyable really.
What helped me was taking the cash I was wasting, putting it in a binder clip and keeping it in my pocket. It didn't take long to accumulate $3,000. a month which I used for more fun/productive ventures. Road trips, rafting, skiiing, clothes, lasik eye surgery, veneers, spa treatments, new labradoodle and of course scuba/golf.
Oh yea, that’s a brilliant idea. I didn’t set this goal but I noticed anyways how much money I’m saving or I have for spending on other things . Good point
I stopped drinking 1 month ago. I feel better already. Thank you for sharing. Very inspirational!
I’m proud of you for quitting drinking. You are a great person I can tell. I quit 12 years ago and I feel so much better about myself. It never gets easier because alcohol is always there no matter where you go. You have to know who you are in life and believe in yourself. Keep up the good work. You will feel so much better about yourself and life in general.
Your story brings me joy🥰🥰
Great thoughts; stay with it…it’s a better life!
This needs to go viral. Great understanding!!!
Thank you for posting this and having the courage to do so. You will help and save so many people ❤️
Your story is an inspiration. Thank you for sharing ❤
Hi Karolina, thanks for sharing this. I believe many people have similar experiences whether they are aware of it or not. It's better to be aware, that's more than half the battle
Absolutely well done Karolina 👌
I’m 8 months in and feeling good
Well done Karolina, wishing you continued growth and happiness in your life journey. You have come so far and accomplished so much. Keep reaching for the stars.
Thank you for your kind words!
Thanks for sharing Karolina! Super happy for your change and keep it going ❤❤❤❤❤
Thank youuuu, Peter ♥️♥️♥️
My story matches yours, I feel great now, your a brave person, well done 👏🏻, I send you my love ❤xx
Nice work! thanks for this motivation.
Thank you!
I’ve had 7 hangovers this year and last year 24 and year before that 104 ,I can’t eat if I binge drink and every time I try moderate but fail and end up extremely hungover,anxiety through the roof vomiting etc etc,I’m 50 now ,I didn’t really go out much to parties etc ,mainly drank at home ,but I feel better sober but not great yet ,but only done 54 days so far ,but at the moment I’m only on day 4,it’s good you feeling this way as you not old yet
It took me some years to stop drinking actually. A year or two before I stoped were for me more or less trying to stop, not daily drinking but still very frequent. And every time something got wrong in life, I would head to a shop, buy lot of drinks and go home. And whenever I drank, whether at home or outside, I would almost always get wasted till the bottom, getting sick and so. Mentally it was really difficult to reduce drinking which made it almost worst whenever I actually did. But I think that just gave a bit motivation to totally stop.
Well done! Keep at it
great video and such a positive message
thank you, great video
Thank for this video. I am 10 weeks sober. I have gone much longer sober in the past, but this time I am feeling positive about it. I look at it more like I have quit negative thinking this time. Every morning on my way to work, I list all the things I am grateful for in life. Before I go to bed at night, I list the things I have achieved that day. No more dwelling on past mistakes. Just focusing on being the best I can be now.
Thank you for sharing! You are right. Putting focus on the best, practicing gratefulness and positive self talk is an amazing power. And holding onto the past or mistakes or feeling like an alcoholic failure is what makes it so hard getting away from alcohol . Beating ourselves up won’t free us
I’m very proud of you! I’m trying to get sober and I have had periods of sobriety but I’m not out of the woods yet I keep relapsing 🥺. Also I have to get sober as I’m a very heavy drinking. 40 a day! I also have anxiety and depression and am under the autistic spectrum so it’s so hard to stay away from it. I’m trying though so hard.
I'm 3 weeks off alcohol, drinking heavily every single day for years. It sounds like you need help from a doctor as just stopping suddenly can cause bad withdrawals. Please try to reduce down before jumping of and be safe!
I had to stop aw I have bad heart and kidneys and was getting seriously I'll to the point alcohol was going to kill me.
It's amazing how much better you feel just one week on. The first week I just felt meh but my anxiety is lower I'm a shy person and don't do well in social so I was using as a social lubricate
I’m sending you strength ! It’s hard, and it’s okay to be relapsing. It’s a process. And it’s important to not beat yourself up for relapsing, it’s better to focus on the part that you are trying hard! It’s difficult, but trying to find positive self talk, can help significantly with reducing alcohol. And yes, doctors can sometimes help in finding healthier ways for quitting or reducing alcohol
@@stedunn563 Yeah man I feel you! I got out of detox two weeks ago and only drank one night in those two weeks. Yes I know stopping cold turkey is dangerous I had a seizer once. When you have Aspergers, live alone, and have band anxiety and depression its hard to stay completely way from it
@@KarolinaBaltulyte Thank you
Good job!
Ahhh, good ol' Berlin. I can still smell the Doner and Cigarettes :-)
Three years was enough for me.
Happy for you that you got your control back, maybe you will start a new trend there. :-)
Best wishes on your healthy journey.
Döner, Bier and Cigarettes;)
Stay strong. You can make it l did. Love and what power i can send your way!😊
Thank you.
this was very relatable
I’m very glad !
Congrats for this great change :) Keep it up!
Thank you! :)
Good job ❤
It's very dangerous to go bk tho , everytime i try to go bk to moderate drinking it ends in destruction. Thankfully I soon realise and with an almighty effort go cold turkey then stop again . Its far easier just staying sober , but u have to experience that yourself , but the horror is ' what if one time I dont manage the cold turkey , and that's it . Stuck for life as an alcoholic ' a life of pure suffering .
I quit drinking 10 years ago..best thing I’ve ever done
Congratulations! Good job and keep it up . I just quit !
Exciting! Focus on your goal, you will be so glad you did it 💪
Karolina❤❤❤
Read Allen Carr's Easy Way to Quit Drinking. It helps you see alcohol from a different perspective, outside social pressures and normalcy, for what it really is. Once you get radically honest with yourself, you no longer desire it, and when you lose the desire, it truly is easy and effortless to quit. You don't even think of it. I used Allen Carr's Easy Way books to quit smoking 4-1/2 years ago and to quit alcohol this year. I am not a paid spokesperson and I gain nothing from saying this. It truly is a way to fix the way you think about these harmful substances, and thereby fix yourself and it will feel easy.
Thank you for sharing this! It’s going to be the next in my reading list. Also, congratulations on quitting. It’s such a liberation and self esteem boost
I've just downloaded his book on Audible and also The Naked Mind, thanks to the recommendations in the comments. Thanks
His book should be required reading
Wow! Who would think a self centered life would do this to someone! I guess being relaxed and crazy served you well!
My Uncle died at 45 from drinking, his liver simply shut down. He looked a lot older than he was becasue of the drinking and smoking. Like death.
When I hear the song "Whiskey Lullaby," I think of him. After my aunt died of cancer, he had no one stopping him anymore and he put that bottle to his head and pulled the trigger.
This year, I turn 45 myself and pretty much still look the same way I did 20 years ago when he passed.
I live in Wisconsin, so this sort of thing is relatively prevalent, like in Germany. You can tell when someone's a heavy drinker or heavy smoker. It changes your countenance. It changes your voice. It costs you money and it wastes your life. Try gardening instead.
You feel amazing so hold on to that thought. Have you heard of Annie Grace 'This Naked Mind' book and TH-cam channel with lots of videos of people sharing their stories od how they became alcohol free . She has such a positive approach and rather than labelling yourself as an 'Alcoholic" her approach is to make alcohol as insignificant as possible. The person isn't the problem....the alcohol is a very addictive substance. ❤
PS Robyn Wingerter TH-cam channel is very positive, such an inspiring lady with a great attitude. Keep going! X
Thank you so much for sharing all these resources. Gonna check them out right away! ♥️
@@KarolinaBaltulyte You're welcome x
Thanks
You’re welcome
If I gave up drinking, it would be the biggest accomplishment of my life. I don’t drink to excess. I don’t drink at home but socially and society has basically dictated that it’s normal. It’s not though. Being sober around people drinking is the toughest. Different wavelengths and I definitely think you are looked at as not normal.
Yes, you are right with the wavelengths! But I realised that with some people it's fine, some people are not that annoying or different when drunk. Some are very happy and respectful about me not drinking and never force it on me, or even themselves drink less or not at all when with me. But there are people that I don't hang out anymore cause that difference is too big, or they drink to get wasted, that's not a very fun company for me anymore, it's quite boring.
I wish I could quit. Something triggers me and it’s either drink or wish I were dead
I can understand this. Although often a wish to die is actually a wish to end pain. And alcohol or drugs are great ways to kill the pain for a while. And from this perspective, I think that drinking can be good, but unfortunately it’s not sustainable. There are many different ways to deal with pain. And sometimes one harmful habit is replaced by another, but keep trying looking for those other coping mechanisms, and be forgiving to yourself for not being able to just quit. It’s the hardest what one can go through. There is no easy way around, and it often requires changing life completely. Like leaving places and people, for a while or for good (cause places and people do influence that tremendously). I’ve taken medication for a while, even tho I’ve always been against that. Was a great help too. I’m sending you power dealing with this, and a wish to quit is already a great step towards it! You can make it
I feel you brother! I’m in the same boat. I have anxiety and depression and am also autistic. I feel at times alcohol is my only friend even though it’s not
@@Trollgod1mental health is what makes us more addicted to such substances... On the other hand, stopping can very much improve mental health! And alcohol can feel like the best friend, but stopping it at the times of depression, helped me to realize that I can be the best friend to myself. And that alone feels so comforting and powerful
@@Trollgod1 There are no answers in the bottle trust me I spent most of my life looking. I'm 54 now and stopped drinking last year, just start by cutting down and seeing it for what it really is.
Poison.
Good on you
Where are the moderate drinkers? Beer in moderation, wine in moderation, sober, for calories, nutrition, and liquid. Water alone doesn't suffice, though it's ok.
Thanks for sharing
I thought you said you exercise more now
Yoga or something else. Great. Explore that. Find activities or hobbies. Have fun with it .
You sound like Curie from Fallout 4
Danke schün :)!
your lucky you didn’t get alcohol dementia. well done .
Alcohol..the great motivator.
I love beer
How's with own children?
Your pretty
I just eat a little bit of mushroom or sassafras if I want to party. It’s great I hate alcohol
Sassafras? I’ve never heard of this. But mushroom… for sure ;)
Mix with drunks and you'll become a drunk.
2 wks
Karolina, I commend you on your efforts. But you don't have to do this alone. There's a program called alcoholics anonymous that is all over the world. And it's free. It's helped millions and millions of people recover from alcoholism. If you can do it on your own. (and this is important) And you're happy, joyous and free. All the power to you. I have been in the AA program for 29 years now. I was forced to go, through an impaired charge when I was 36. It was the best thing that ever happened to me in my life. (But at the time I didn't think so) I know I wouldn't be alive today if it wasn't for that happening. Alcoholism is a progressive disease. It only gets worse. Never better.(Jails, institutions or death) You don't have to suffer alone. All it takes is the courage to reach out. Pain is normally the motivator. Alcohol is referred to as the great remover. It will remove your home, your job, your health, your relationships, And your self-respect... Oh, did I mention it's free?
Drink * only * MALT LIQUOR.
Nice work. Alcohol overconsumption is too acceptable in our culture
You are right, it’s normal to be an alcoholic, till one loses everything
TFW no europoor alkie waitress gf
😂 she does kinda look like the waitress.
Eh?
@@ThePaulaon1 Always sunny in philly reference
thanks for the inspiration