Respect. I'm on day 5 quitting alcohol. I drank for 36 years. I'm so sick of wasting thousands of dollars on booze that I decided to stop before New Year's. Started my New Year's resolution early. I'm done. I pray for everyone struggling. You can do it. Stay strong. Peace.
@user-nc4cl9ul6j lol. Thats the whole point of youtube. There is a comments section for a reason, so people can voice their opinion and interact with each other. There is nothing wrong with offering moral support to a stranger, it may or may not help them on their journey.
Im on day 5 after 15 yrs drinking everyday , ive always been a moderate drinker, just decided as a 41yr old to just say fuck it, im gonna have a beer here and there but for the most part its been a cake walk
I'm on day 47 after 35 years of drinking a similar amount (started lower but rose with my income!). My sleep has been TERRIBLE which affects my mood and cravings. It's been tough.
@@Lacking_something hopefully you should be turning the corner soon, though sleep can be a hard thing to work out! You can try melatonin if you haven't, too much can leave you very groggy though, start low
It’ll be 2yrs in February for me. The first year was the hardest. Going through all the seasons, birthdays, holidays, weddings, celebrations, you name it. All the firsts are tough to get through. This second year has been absolutely AMAZING. I cannot tell you enough how awesome I fell. My aches and pains in my joints are gone, I sleep like a baby, weight is easy to get off and I’m a monster in the gym. My relationships have improved and my brain is sharp and clear. I’m 53yrs old and I wish I’d done this much sooner. I never say I will never drink again, but I hope I never, ever do. There’s two reasons why we drink. To feel something or to feel nothing. Good luck ❤
Hey, FreedomFighter, That is Awesome!! You bring up such good points to dwell on. You're so right that the Firsts are so stressful. Thanksgiving celebration...no drink? Crazy. How about New Year's Eve...how the hell do you celebrate that w/o a drop of alcohol... mind-frying. I've read somewhere about getting past one year and your post makes that make perfect sense. All the "alcohol" traditions that we have created for ourselves. Amazing. Nice job. Keep fighting for Freedom, from alcohol and from tyranny. God bless you and yours!!!
The wasted days being hungover is what did it for me- My self-loathing for what I was becoming was stronger than my need to drink. Everyone is different but I could not take it anymore.
When I'd be on a heavy drinking track, I'd look in the mirror and think, "really? You are doing this to yourself, Idiot!" I would take a picture of my withdrawn face and keep it in my phone for awhile .... as a constant reminder/incentive to knock it off! Good for you, Greg!
Just hit one month clean. The mental clarity is awesome. I also noticed I have greater control over my mood. Less mood swings, less anxiety and I don't get pissed off at trivial things anymore.
21 days sober today! So much of what you said is exactly how I feel. 20 plus years of heavy drinking and Im done. So tired of the routine and happy to live witout alcohol!
Keep on pushing, keep your body and mind busy. Its worth it and your worth it♥️ we truly have to want it and fight for sobriety. I hit 6 years this year
I carry around that secret shame and the feeling of impending doom that Nick talks about. I’m tired of sitting on the fence, it’s time to quit. Thanks for sharing, Nick
I woke up 30 days ago with a gnarly hangover, and an assignment that was now overdue because I was too drunk to do it the night before. I’m in my final year of nursing school, and the guilt, shame, and anger I felt towards myself was immeasurable. I’m already a really severe self tyrant (not a good thing), but that really pushed me over the edge. Like you, I pride myself on being sharp. Accountable. Someone people can come to with questions. Alcohol limited me from being my best self. Alcoholism also runs deep in my family, so it’s just better for me to not do it. Something I try and explain to people is that I’m not ‘sober’. I simply don’t identify as someone who consumes alcohol anymore. With this mindset I never feel temptation. 30 days today :)
Hey, you are doing so great! Try not to self-loathe. You are doing pretty freaking amazing at 45 days now! I am like you. I need to be a person that someone can count on. Someone who has an answer to a question and is willing to step in and help. If I'm hungover, I may not even see a need in front of me, or I'll be reluctant to address it because of selfishness, basically,... what will they think, do they know I'm hungover, etc. I appreciate everyone on this site. Quitting gets harder as time goes by because the HABIT factor has been SO INGRAINED, so quit while it's easier! Even a low grade booze habit that has been going on for 30 or 40 years will be sooo freaking hard to quit because of the TIME in the HABIT!!!
Thanks for the video, it all makes sense now it's a stimulant for me I just keep on drinking and drinking until I pass out, day 11 of being sober today
Why count the days, are you planning to start drinking again when you reach a certain date? Stop counting. In my opinion counting days is counter productive. If you manage to get to 10, 20 or 30 days, and for whatever reason you fall off the wagon and start drinking again. You may well think, I’ll never manage to get past 10, 20 or 30 days again, and give up, giving up. Accept that you may stumble and start again. If you do, stop again. It worked for me with giving up smoking, hopefully it will work with alcohol. If I start again, I’ll just stop again.
Don’t quit man! Keep going. Honestly it’s so hard for a bit but you will hit a point eventually where if you drink again you’ll feel like you’ll be letting yourself down and it becomes easy to to avoid it. I’ve cleaned up for 18 months now. Keep grinding brother.
Best decision you could make! I’m 18 months booze free now. It saved my marriage, work, and basically kept me outta the grave. Love seeing content like this.
3 ½ months here. At first I didn't really want to watch any sober videos, but now I've been on a binge on them. It really helps to realize so many is on the same journey with you. And to hear how similiar everyone's thoughts are regarding sobriety and alcohol. I'm pretty certain I never go back. This time my view on alcohol has really started to shift. I also quit weed and cigarettes, BUT, I do plan to keep on taking psychedelics every now and then. It feels so awesome to feel awesome every day.
"Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, maybe you should set up a life you don't need to escape from. ~ Seth Godin" I would recommend a workout regiment, anyone that you enjoy (I chose Calisthenics), a gallon of filtered/Fluoride free water per day, reading 20 pages from a book per day and a sleeping schedule. There are videos on TH-cam about nighttime sleeping routines that have helped me out tremendously! I would also add prayer/meditation into the mix, this is not for everyone, but I sure wish more people would try. I stopped drinking 12/0602021. The best decision I have made as an adult, UNEQUIVOCALLY!
Love this man. I realized I had a problem when I would be up till like 2-3 in the morning still drinking despite just being by myself. It stimulated me and, like you said, it affects my brain differently than others. I've finally made peace with the fact that I shouldn't drink anymore and I feel better for it. This is definitely an inspirational video.
I quit on September 16th. I've never been so freaking tired in my life. Vodka was taking over. While I was still able to function after 2 decades of AUD it had become clear that I was at the ass end of being a lucky or good drinker. I've watched lots of these anti drinking videos. Yours is really hitting the spot. I like how you are able to name all of the times you were in denial of the problem as well as how it began. My favorite is when you became a mixologist. Thanks for this video. I'm listening you with open ears on a lovely walk I forced myself to take. It's a beautiful day. Looking forward to feeling better! Also, I'm on Naltrexone. It's helping. Take care.
Congrats, and stay strong! It will get easier and your health will definitely only be getting better. For me, it was a rough couple weeks, it can be longer, but your body recovering takes time and energy, so just stay positive and ride it out!
Hey! Hope you're hanging in there! I'm doing Sober October, so almost 30 days- I feel great and don't think I ever want to drink again- thanks for your post.
@@gregbeutel8434 The mental clarity in the beginning of sobriety is like a million slaps in the face for which the only remedy is self love. I'm still hanging in there. Happy November! Let's make it through December too.
Boredom and curiosity always got me in trouble with drinking. Its funny bc Im not really a fan of being drunk. I get headaches easily and Im prone to getting sick from too many drinks. I just always thought "oh maybe that was the wrong alcohol or maybe we shouldve mixed it with something else" but tbh, Im 30 years old and the fairy tale of "drinking is classy, sophisticated, and is the nucleus of a fun time." is over. The romanticism of drinking on advertisements and in TV shows and movies just doesnt have that appeal anymore. It got me as a teenager watching Jersey Shore but nothing is cool about drinking when you realize the hardcore truth of alcohol on the human body.
Glad your figuring this out in your 30's. I'm in my 50's and the damned HABIT is so hard to overcome! You're awesome and smart and doing the best thing.
6 days in myself. I quit for about 5 months last year and started back, thinking I had a better relationship with alcohol. I was wrong. Now that I'm sober again for almost a week, I wonder why I ever started back. Keep going, your video and others like it help reinforce my decision.
This hits home so hard. I am not an every day drinker, but I developed the hobby of having one night on the weekend with no work the next day to drinking and gaming. It was just so much fun it really was. it became a "hobby" didn't affect work or my relationships and if I were busy that weekend i could always skip, but man i'd miss it. I'd also binge drink on those days anywhere from 8-12 usually at night after running around and doing what I needed to do. I'd just feel like shit the next day. I've gotten to the point i'm sick of having my weekend wasted bc of the hangover. So, I stopped. I'm at the phase where I'm really bored on these days. Its funny the brain despite not getting alchocol everyday was still wired and expects to get a huge dopamine influx on the weekend and it's a little upset its not getting it right now, but that shall pass. Worth it.
What a great video. Hit the nail on the head constantly throughout. Passed 100 days last week at age 40 after 25 years of a mediocre alcohol fuelled existence. Feels like I've been given a brand new life. Wish I could go back and never take that first sip in school!
You are totally inspiring. I've been struggling for around 15 years, but I don't want to continue to poison myself. I've lost too time much already. Thank you for this heart-felt video. It's reassuring to know that other people have changed their habits and their lives in the way you describe.
Thanks for your video. This could help a lot of people. I had 20+ years of sobriety. Last month my 18-year-old soul mate dog died and that tipped me over the edge - The pain was so intense the only thing that helped was to drink. Now I'm struggling to get sober again because I miss it so much! Life is better sober.
Day 34 sober for me, longest stretch in 40 years. I drank like you did for years, but it progressed to something worse later in life. Thanks for sharing and helping others. Binging on videos like this helps me stay committed. Naltrexone and sinclair method helped my quite a bit in this process.
Hey man, I'm about 6 days sober. Just discovered your channel looking for sober reinforcement. Great story. We have very similar lifestyles. Both metal guitar guys into production (got my BA for jazz guitar), both used to be really passionate about craft beer. I loved bourbon too. But I also love other things in life, like coffee, food, music, video games. I drank 2 nights a week usually. I'd drink on Friday, usually 8-10 beers, sometimes 12, be hungover Saturday, then do it again Sunday. I'd base drinking on my work schedule more or less. Getting sober the first few days wasn't too horrible, more or less a binge drinker. I'm done now, I want my weekends to learn software and get my guitar TH-cam channel going. I teach guitar lessons, and I feel like I'll be way less anxious during them, and be a better teacher. The past week I've actually been productive, even did some filming! I also wanna be there for my family, and I wanna make more money. I'm also enjoying video games more! Who woulda thought? Great video btw man. Really helped me!
Great to hear! Sounds like you're on a good path, if you get bored and want to drink, just stay busy and productive. You won't miss it in time. Life is so much better, I have 0 desire or temptation to ever drink. Even in social events where everyone is drinking, I have more fun now being sober, and more confidence too. Keep it up!
My goodness, I see such parallels in your journey with alcohol. I love beer, the taste of craft beer. But during covid and since, it has become a daily thing. Thank you for this, it is an inspiration to follow your path.
Congrats on your sobriety, man. It's been seven years for me and life is much better viewing it through the lense of sober eyes. In fact, it was in a sober state that I started pursuing playing again. While I played guitar for the better part of forty years, I've picked up the bass and have had a blast learning it. God bless you, sir.
Thank you for sharing your story! I quit drinking Oct 2023 so it’s been 4 mths and it has felt so good! The holidays were much easier to get thru than I expected. My anxiety has lessened and sleep is so much better. I am so glad I made this decision. Good luck to you!
Hi Nick!! I just found your channel!👍 Are you going to continue creating videos? You’re very knowledgeable about it. I’m on Day 8 alcohol free. I don’t like labels either but I know for a fact that my drinking was very unhealthy plus I couldn’t even drive so I’d end up isolating. Not cool!💞
I did a follow up 1 year video, and I'll probably do an occasional future update. This channel is mostly music related, but I'm thinking about starting a 2nd channel for health and nutrition content :)
@@NickLeonard That’s cool! I love music 🎶 but I’m trying to learn everything I can about nutrition right now. Our bodies run a Lot Better when we use the Best Fuel ⛽️! Lol. I’ve got a lot to learn. Let me know if you start a second channel.👍🌸
Thank you for your inspirational video. I have been in conflict with myself for decades to give up alcohol. To me it is a bad habit. I dont really like the taste, its stupid. I keep on telling myself that I cant cope without having a drink. I am going to stop. I want to feel normal again...
YES!!! Andrew resonated with me when he said "Some people experience alcohol as a STIMULANT!" and EVERYone else just kept repeating... you know it's a depressant right? ugh.
I think the idea is that while a lot of people feel alcohol gives the a buzz and makes them feel happy when they're drinking it, it's still a depressant. It may feel good in the moment but it's unlikely someone is going around full of the joys of Spring the next day
Dude. Thanks for posting this. Can totally relate. I think it’s all too common for drinking to become habitual in music, and after our last tour I decided enough is enough.
I'm an older woman who has never been much of a drinker. In my younger years I drank when I went out and In recent years I might have a few beers a week, so a very casual drinker. I completely stopped drinking alcohol two weeks ago when I saw Huberman's video. I'm experiencing better sleep, more clarity, and energy that lasts all day.
@@NickLeonard Here's the thing: Why don't we know more about the seriously negative effects of alcohol on even the lightest imbibers? It's eerily similar to the way cigarette companies kept information hidden years ago.
@@carolgiangreco6548 some of the research is fairly recent, so it hasn't been so widely publicized. I'm sure no one in the alcohol industry wants to advertise that either haha I bet most drinkers don't want to know all the gory details because they don't want to stop drinking.
Wow, I can relate to this video and you almost like a reflection. started drinking at the same phase of life in the same way, habits formed and progressed in the same way (craft beer, brewing, working in the brewing industry), covid lockdowns increasing drinking, getting into the liquor realm after the beer thing was pretty much fully explored (expensive/rare bourbon for me, rather than cocktails). The amount of drinking/number of drinks is exactly the same as you stated. Started to question the health implications of the drinking habit, watched a ton of stop drinking videos, decided to give it a break, which has now turned into quitting altogether. I'm on day 50 right now. I'm also a guitarist and metal head. I also just don't want to worry about it being a major part (and problem) in my life anymore. Thanks so much for sharing your story man. It was nice to hear someone who pretty much fit my same story!
Good video. I'm 10 days in being sober, which is nothing really, as I often go a couple of weeks without drinking without any trouble. I was never a huge drinker and never considered myself having a problem, but when I do drink, I often binge to excess; and I've been finding, especially recently, that every time I drink I seem to make a complete idiot of myself, and wake up the next morning, or even later that night, chewing off my own fist in embarrassment. After a particularly embarrassing episode recently at a friends wedding, I just thought to myself "that's it, I'm done", I had a mindset shift. I don't think I'll ever drink again, I don't fear a life without alcohol like I once did (what about birthday's, weddings, stags, Christmas etc). I will attend these events a new sober, sharper man, and I look forward to not making an idiot of myself!! 🙏
Might be good to have some tactics on hand when you attend the birthdays , weddings , stags , Christimas " etc to help you not drink. I know some people do get a mindset shift and that's it. They just stop smoking or drinking or overeating without a problem. On the other hand, there are a lot of people who while they get along fine if there is no immediate temptation, just fall back into old ways when they go into an enviroment where it was normal for them to drink or smoke or overeat.
@@Smithpolly Thanks, I'll definitely take your comments on board. As it happens, though, my decision feels very final. I went to a couple of social occasions this past weekend and had no desire to drink whatsoever, and greatly enjoyed myself. I feel very excited!! 🙂
@@SuperGrinch123 It’s so great to wake up in the morning with zero regrets! I tried to quit a few times, but this one stuck, and it’s very different than my other attempts. I’m so happy and so grateful to get to experience a whole new way of life. It was worth all the pain and despair, to be able to appreciate my existence the way I do now. You’re never supposed to say never, but some lucky people just know that they’re DONE. 💕
Day 5. It was revolutionary to learn how booze energized me vs sedated me. This is what I used to admire in people who could handle their liquor. Now I see those people,like me,have high risk for booze use disorder.
The most important thing is not to pick up the 1st drink. If you are able to do this for the remainder of your life, that is the only thing that matters. However, if this sounds difficult, i highly recommend finding a group to help you on your journey. I tried to go at it alone and had a fruitful 1 year.. until i picked up my 1st drink. Then it became 5 and than 10. I obliterated my life there after. Either way, if you're not drinking good for you, keep it up, im sure you'll inspire others to do the same.
I am on day 8 ! I started drinking at age 16 too ! Alcohol is just not working for me ! Now I see why it is really a poison and so many avenues throwing it in your face !
Hi Nick. Awesome video. I really appreciate your kindness. I generally don't have a problem quitting. It's the "not starting back up" that gets me. I can quit for a week, a month, a year, no problem and I love that! I haven't mastered the "leave it alone forever" thing yet, but that IS STILL MY GOAL. I'm 55. Seems like I've definitely done my time and should definitely quit for good. I try to listen to one video a day that will encourage me to kick it for good. Thanks so much. Your journey is like mine quite a bit. God bless you and thanks for helping people. That's so great!!!
You can do it! We're not even doing anything, just not doing something. If you fall off the wagon, just get back on, and remember that every day making a good choice benefits you.
I have quit for days, weeks, months and years. I turn 59 today and I am here because I too, want to master the "leave it alone forever" mindset. Any advice you want to offer... I am completely open to hearing anything even if it hurts to hear.
Greetings, Nick. "You can't stay at the party forever. " I heard that decades ago. I left the party 32 years ago. I was drinking daily from age 17 up to age 30. I was able to just let it go. Waking up in the morning and not feeling beat up was pretty cool. I got used to that. For me, it was easier to see why I was drinking, once I got away from it. I addressed a few things to make myself a bit happier. Saved a buttload of money by not buying alcohol. Best wishes for you, mate. The 1973 telecaster bass that I own was a way better purchase than buying beer. Alcohol has lots of sugar. Thats why you craved the sweets. Thats another journey.
Good on you, man. It's been great for sure. I really don't miss it at this point, it's just not a part of my life, even though it was such a big part for so long.
I love drinking. I have such fond memories of nights with my favorite people and all of us being just a little more outgoing. We never went out to bars, we'd just hang out at my place or theirs blasting our favorite music. However, I'm getting older and the hangovers are too much, I feel like crud for the first half of the week, just... off. I'm trying to live healthier and spend my time more wisely. Drinking nights still happen here and there, but far less often than in the past. It's not worth the loss of time feeling down in the dumps and hurting my health.
Very articulate man. All youtube channels on sobriety are great beneficial in some way or another but I feel that ive come across a brilliant channel here mainly as you are not condescending in any way and you're not being overly confident and a 'know it all'.
4.50 onwards is exactly the reason why I stopped drinking. I can't just have one or two it makes me impulsive, and all sensibility and control goes out the window. Fantastic video brother 👏
I definitely was the liquor bottle guy. A pint if not a bit over a pint multiple nights a week. But I’d only drink at the same time. I found the perfect amount where I’d be tired but not hungover the next day. I’ve had two sober streaks. Both for 6 months. Both times failed due to past trauma I was unaware of until the second time. It crazy something buried down which is otherwise unknown, can have such a profound effect on the brain. I got to a point where drinking just didn’t make sense anymore. I’m happy I’m figuring this out at 30, it’s been a bout 5 years of on and off heavy drinking. The biggest thing I noticed was my health; my life in general was fine. I graduated Law school, I got a good paying job, drinking had no impact on these things. But my personal life was struggling, my habit, my dreams of doing things I really wanted. But instead I was spending my money on booze and waste all that time… My body couldn’t keep up. My eyes started getting puffy due to dehydration and I was overweight, very bloated and I felt “swollen” all the time. It just makes no sense to actively engage in something that is slowly ending my life with my knowledge in a way which isn’t natural or as God intended.
You sound similar to the way I used to be. All it takes for a bad thing to happen in life and it can push you into the next level. I see it all the time I'm in my 40s now
It will be four years for me in October. I can't say that I've missed it all. It's really about just being decisive about making a change in your life and not waiting for someone's permission or a certain day to do it (don't get me started on New Year's resolutions...). I feel like maybe I got a little bit of a boost by listening to the second wave of Earth Crisis records (To The Death, Neutrualize The Threat and Salvation Of Innocents) and thinking "these guys aren't kids anymore and they're still sticking with this"; it was very inspiring.
Great account and very well told. I'm on the journey now after 40 years of daily drinking. This time feels different. It's about a mental shift from feeling you are denying yourself something you still want to simply not wanting it any more.
Got you, I've drank for the past 18 years. Currently 2 months sober. When I want a drink, I remember that it is a habit and a pattern of behavior I've created throughout the years. I just remember what the day after felt like, over and over again, and how I delayed doing the work on myself because I was busy getting drunk. All in all, I feel, sleep and think better now, and now the real work starts, creating my life without alcohol. We can do it, stay strong peeps!
So well said! I am AF for a week, but honestly not nearly as hard as I thought. Much like your story, I now realize many have a much harder time, but for people like us, be thankful for the path not being insurmountable.
Thank you, I so enjoyed this video. My son sounds so much like you. He was OK not drinking but once he started to drink and there is always a reason to start drinking for the day or evening, he could not stop until he was about to pass out or was so tired. it made me so sad watching that and watching people watch him. It was so difficult but he has recently gone on the January dry program as a lot of his friends have. He says he feels good and doesn’t miss it but we will see. Someone having a drinking problem is so sad for everyone around them, especially their loved ones. Again, thank you for sharing your story.
Fyi most of what your saying is moderate alcoholism. First goes the hobbies, then the friends, then the relationships, then the work is the last to be impacted for most adults in the west. Source: board certified mh provider who has done this for 10 years. I agree, though, that the label is not necessary. You did a good job of realizing that you are the type of person who has an abnormal reaction to alcohol - the brain tells you more will be better. We do not have that reaction to drinking gatorade or milk, and the contrast in our brain's desire for more alcohol vs more milk is the most important aspect of addiction to fully own as the person getting sober. I'm happy for you! Congrats and keep up the new way of getting through life without the nice crutch that alcohol can be. Best wishes!
Thank you for this. It takes a lot of guts to put something like this out on the web. And also you helped me think about my own issues. i really gotta chill and slow down on the heavy mixers and beer. I should focus more on music and the amazing people around me. Stay safe and keep it metal!
Thanks, I appreciate it! I'm grateful, and perhaps lucky, that everyone I know has been totally supportive and understanding of it. Even though I've hear a lot of stories of people who drank way more than I ever did, it's very important to take a step back and re-assess what these habits are actually doing to us. And as I said, it's been a big boost in productivity and just feeling way better, so I'm not missing anything!
The education is out there now. It really effects you like you really know. You are able to go out and a couple , then you binge another day, then you take weeks off. It does affect you whether you like it or not, even decision making weeks after a drink. It’s a big load to carry on your mind and body, drop it.
56 days sober.. the longest I've gone without alcohol since I was 16 (I'm 30 now) .. the last few days I really started to notice a huge boost to the speed at which i turn thoughts into precise and impactful speech. It feels like I'm evolving into a better version of myself. Great video, thanks 👍🏻 *Edit Just to add, I'm really impressed with your reasoning and conclusions. Very well constructed and explained. 🙏🏻
Thanks for sharing. I don't drink often, but when I do, it is to excess. I always feel shame the next day. I think I will stay away from alcohol until I have a glass or 3 of wine on Christmas eve.
I quit on my own and went a month and a half and relapsed and didn't go too crazy with it.... Now back on day 5. Telling myself this is a poison this is poisoning you.... Stop. Congrats on 100.... I will meet you there.
Our story is similar in lots of ways man, grew up drinking before metal and punk shows, wound up becoming a brewer myself as well, still am but happily 52 days sober today. One way im looking at still being able to work at the brewery while maintaining my sobriety is this; a garbage man does not bring his work home, so why would I?
I can imagine it would be extra difficult being around beer all day, it definitely encouraged me! I'm fine going to parties and even was bartender for a weekend, but it's extra difficult as your daily existence. Maybe it's a good chance to encourage them to make an NA beer. There's a yeast strain people are using now that doesn't ferment alcohol, so no need for boiling the alcohol off like the old days.
This was an excellent video, and perfectly explained. I'm at a similar stage where I don't really have to stop, but for the first time, I'm recognising that I no longer enjoy the dull feeling I get from alcohol. That disappointment of looking forward to it, drinking it, then thinking, is that it? Then carrying on for days and weeks because of 'hangovers'. I'm at just over three weeks and I've reclaimed my mind. Doing everyday things is so much easier, and though I'm ready for it to try and trip me up, especially when the light nights come, I feel equipped to deal with it. Mainly by being honest and saying that it's the most boring and overrated substance in the world. People need to get to the right stage of themselves in order to see the truth of it, and a lot of them will - as long as they want to. Fair play to you mate.
Today is day 5 sober. The first 4 days was hell !! Waking up early in the morning with cold sweats, having diarrhea, throwing up stomach bile cramping all over my body, my legs, my toes, my back my sides. Not having any appetite, not having any energy. Now is day five and I feel 90% better. my problem has always been also there’s no moderation once the bottle is cracked open drink it all. Everytime. For years. I’m 32 and im tired of it. It cost me relationships and cost me to lose the max potential in myself. This the first time in years I’ve been 5 days without alcohol. Every liquor store in the city I live in knows me. Smh.
if you can stop drinking without relying on others, you will be all the stronger for it. and not be stuck in a club you can never leave which forces a stigma of "alcoholic" onto you for life.
Just force yourself to stop for a few weeks, even if you have to check into a rehab, it's better than dying! Check out the book I put in the description and read that. It does get easier over time!
I am about 4 or 5 weeks free. I hated what I became so it was not that hard. Don't miss it. Like you pointed out, those that get energy from booze are much more at risk. Slippery slope...I cannot drink safely, so I had to quit
Great video and insight , I’m 3 weeks in , same thing not an alcoholic just tired of drinking, 2 to three drinks per day in evening.more on weekends. But feel great again .
Great man! I honestly only drink 2 or 3 times a week. Usually 2 beers or so. 3 or more in a night every 2 or 3 weeks and all of it honestly is doing very little for me yet I look forward to it for some reason. Snacking is what's gonna get me though. Food addiction for sure! It's mostly out of boredom. Not every moment in a day can be filled with work or fun so.. snack or whatever. I noticed recently that in a day where I eat decently, don't eat too much sugar, my mind is more chill. I can do it but the urge for the snack is a mutha fucka and sometimes I'll slam a big choc bar and feel shit, stomach ache you know. Life man... Not sure where I'm going with this but well done. Not feeling like crap is absolutely the way to go.
I haven't done keto for real in a while, but I did for a while and really noticed that the less carbs/sugar I eat, the less hungry I am, and that urge to snack goes away. When I'm keto, I can easily do 1-2 meals a day with no snacks, but otherwise, I'll get hungry every few hours and have a little something. I don't eat much sweets, but I do like bread, pasta, rice, etc. I've even done 6 days with no food! After day 2 I just stopped being hungry. Hunger, like most feelings, is controlled by hormones - leptin in this case. Dr. Jason Fung is the man when it comes to this!
Good on ya Nick! 🤞🏻for your continued success. I quit a several years ago - I didn’t like how I felt when I drank and I hated the way I felt the next day so I decided to drop it. Most of my social groups still drink - some A LOT - & it can be kind of tedious to hang out with them when drinking is on the agenda. I’m glad to have it in my past.
Start listening to Dr. Huberman and you will either shut him down and never get a quick handle on your long term health or you will get so wake up calls about alcohol, exercise, sleep and sugar just to name a few. Thank you for giving a shout out to Allen Carr and as for Dr. Huberman, thank you for giving him some credit regarding your inspiration about quitting alcohol. You are inspiring.
It was useful and interesting Nick. Thank you. I'm 35 and I lost my husband to suicide last year which I 100% don't think would have happened if he wasn't drinking so much every day. I'm sadly still drinking but I've had a few periods of abstinence and every time I go back I realise that this isn't what i want to do. These videos are so helpful. Thanks again.
Respect. I'm on day 5 quitting alcohol. I drank for 36 years. I'm so sick of wasting thousands of dollars on booze that I decided to stop before New Year's. Started my New Year's resolution early. I'm done. I pray for everyone struggling. You can do it. Stay strong. Peace.
Nice bro, I'm on day 3. I too, wanted to get a bit a of a head start for the new year. 25 years drinking. We got this man!
@user-nc4cl9ul6j lol. Thats the whole point of youtube. There is a comments section for a reason, so people can voice their opinion and interact with each other. There is nothing wrong with offering moral support to a stranger, it may or may not help them on their journey.
Im on day 5 after 15 yrs drinking everyday , ive always been a moderate drinker, just decided as a 41yr old to just say fuck it, im gonna have a beer here and there but for the most part its been a cake walk
I am on day 45 … take it one day at a time … then repeat !!!! 😎
You drank yet?
Day 5 after 35 years, averaging 15-20 drinks a day. Feels so liberating
That's awesome, keep it up!
Wow how much money were you spending, do you even know?
It just gets better and better. It’s everything that everyone says and way more❗️
I'm on day 47 after 35 years of drinking a similar amount (started lower but rose with my income!). My sleep has been TERRIBLE which affects my mood and cravings. It's been tough.
@@Lacking_something hopefully you should be turning the corner soon, though sleep can be a hard thing to work out! You can try melatonin if you haven't, too much can leave you very groggy though, start low
It’ll be 2yrs in February for me. The first year was the hardest. Going through all the seasons, birthdays, holidays, weddings, celebrations, you name it. All the firsts are tough to get through. This second year has been absolutely AMAZING. I cannot tell you enough how awesome I fell. My aches and pains in my joints are gone, I sleep like a baby, weight is easy to get off and I’m a monster in the gym. My relationships have improved and my brain is sharp and clear. I’m 53yrs old and I wish I’d done this much sooner. I never say I will never drink again, but I hope I never, ever do. There’s two reasons why we drink. To feel something or to feel nothing. Good luck ❤
That's awesome, keep it up! 💪
Hey, FreedomFighter,
That is Awesome!! You bring up such good points to dwell on. You're so right that the Firsts are so stressful. Thanksgiving celebration...no drink? Crazy. How about New Year's Eve...how the hell do you celebrate that w/o a drop of alcohol... mind-frying. I've read somewhere about getting past one year and your post makes that make perfect sense. All the "alcohol" traditions that we have created for ourselves. Amazing.
Nice job. Keep fighting for Freedom, from alcohol and from tyranny. God bless you and yours!!!
Bravo!!!
Great job I’m 57yrs old. I also wished I started earlier. But never to late to start. Keep it up!! Good luck!!
Very well said, thank you!
The wasted days being hungover is what did it for me- My self-loathing for what I was becoming was stronger than my need to drink. Everyone is different but I could not take it anymore.
When I'd be on a heavy drinking track, I'd look in the mirror and think, "really? You are doing this to yourself, Idiot!" I would take a picture of my withdrawn face and keep it in my phone for awhile .... as a constant reminder/incentive to knock it off!
Good for you, Greg!
This is where I'm at now.
I totally understand that....
@@saileencruileen2163i dont even look in the mirror anymore
74 days sober. Thank you Lord. Life is still lifing and dealing with it on life's terms. Still haven't picked up a bottle
Just hit one month clean. The mental clarity is awesome. I also noticed I have greater control over my mood. Less mood swings, less anxiety and I don't get pissed off at trivial things anymore.
congrats, that's awesome!
This is me , every word . Congrats
I've been sober 11,525 days now. Keep on keeping on!
Why are you counting?
Me 14,776 days lol
21 days sober today! So much of what you said is exactly how I feel. 20 plus years of heavy drinking and Im done. So tired of the routine and happy to live witout alcohol!
Great to hear!
Keep on pushing, keep your body and mind busy. Its worth it and your worth it♥️ we truly have to want it and fight for sobriety. I hit 6 years this year
I carry around that secret shame and the feeling of impending doom that Nick talks about. I’m tired of sitting on the fence, it’s time to quit. Thanks for sharing, Nick
You got this!
I woke up 30 days ago with a gnarly hangover, and an assignment that was now overdue because I was too drunk to do it the night before. I’m in my final year of nursing school, and the guilt, shame, and anger I felt towards myself was immeasurable. I’m already a really severe self tyrant (not a good thing), but that really pushed me over the edge. Like you, I pride myself on being sharp. Accountable. Someone people can come to with questions. Alcohol limited me from being my best self. Alcoholism also runs deep in my family, so it’s just better for me to not do it.
Something I try and explain to people is that I’m not ‘sober’. I simply don’t identify as someone who consumes alcohol anymore. With this mindset I never feel temptation. 30 days today :)
Like you I also eat more now .. and a lot of sweets. My next challenge to overcome 😂
Hey, you are doing so great! Try not to self-loathe. You are doing pretty freaking amazing at 45 days now! I am like you. I need to be a person that someone can count on. Someone who has an answer to a question and is willing to step in and help. If I'm hungover, I may not even see a need in front of me, or I'll be reluctant to address it because of selfishness, basically,... what will they think, do they know I'm hungover, etc.
I appreciate everyone on this site. Quitting gets harder as time goes by because the HABIT factor has been SO INGRAINED, so quit while it's easier! Even a low grade booze habit that has been going on for 30 or 40 years will be sooo freaking hard to quit because of the TIME in the HABIT!!!
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Curious how you're doing now?? Can you give an update?
Thanks for the video, it all makes sense now it's a stimulant for me I just keep on drinking and drinking until I pass out, day 11 of being sober today
Congrats and keep it up! Just ride out the next few weeks and you'll be fine 💪
Why count the days, are you planning to start drinking again when you reach a certain date? Stop counting. In my opinion counting days is counter productive. If you manage to get to 10, 20 or 30 days, and for whatever reason you fall off the wagon and start drinking again. You may well think, I’ll never manage to get past 10, 20 or 30 days again, and give up, giving up. Accept that you may stumble and start again. If you do, stop again. It worked for me with giving up smoking, hopefully it will work with alcohol. If I start again, I’ll just stop again.
Don’t quit man! Keep going. Honestly it’s so hard for a bit but you will hit a point eventually where if you drink again you’ll feel like you’ll be letting yourself down and it becomes easy to to avoid it. I’ve cleaned up for 18 months now. Keep grinding brother.
@@SBuk1 100 days sober today =]
That’s because alcohol is a carbohydrate it’s considered a food believe or not. Alcoholics actually are hijacked thinking they need it to survive.
19 days sober today ❤
Congrats, keep it up!
@@NickLeonard Thank you ❤️
ive been drinking 10 blue moons everyday for the past decade. Ready to give it up for good. Thanks for sharing your story Nick.
Go get it! 💪
Tasty but $$$$
Best decision you could make! I’m 18 months booze free now. It saved my marriage, work, and basically kept me outta the grave. Love seeing content like this.
That is so great to hear. God bless you and yours! We're lucky our "people" love us, Amen!
@@saileencruileen2163 it’s what gets us through the hard times. Be well.
3 ½ months here. At first I didn't really want to watch any sober videos, but now I've been on a binge on them. It really helps to realize so many is on the same journey with you. And to hear how similiar everyone's thoughts are regarding sobriety and alcohol. I'm pretty certain I never go back. This time my view on alcohol has really started to shift. I also quit weed and cigarettes, BUT, I do plan to keep on taking psychedelics every now and then. It feels so awesome to feel awesome every day.
I ride a motorcycle. Club soda at the bar. Bit of magic mushroom 🍄 who needs booze? Heavy drinker for 40 years. Feeling great 👍 congrats!
"Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, maybe you should set up a life you don't need to escape from. ~ Seth Godin" I would recommend a workout regiment, anyone that you enjoy (I chose Calisthenics), a gallon of filtered/Fluoride free water per day, reading 20 pages from a book per day and a sleeping schedule. There are videos on TH-cam about nighttime sleeping routines that have helped me out tremendously! I would also add prayer/meditation into the mix, this is not for everyone, but I sure wish more people would try. I stopped drinking 12/0602021. The best decision I have made as an adult, UNEQUIVOCALLY!
Hi dude, been going 4 months so far... Still miss it on weekend nights, u still miss it?
Love this man. I realized I had a problem when I would be up till like 2-3 in the morning still drinking despite just being by myself. It stimulated me and, like you said, it affects my brain differently than others. I've finally made peace with the fact that I shouldn't drink anymore and I feel better for it. This is definitely an inspirational video.
Good on you, you got this!
This!!!!!! I swear!! Everyone is passed out already but….” I gotta finish this shit” smh.
I quit on September 16th. I've never been so freaking tired in my life. Vodka was taking over. While I was still able to function after 2 decades of AUD it had become clear that I was at the ass end of being a lucky or good drinker. I've watched lots of these anti drinking videos. Yours is really hitting the spot. I like how you are able to name all of the times you were in denial of the problem as well as how it began. My favorite is when you became a mixologist. Thanks for this video. I'm listening you with open ears on a lovely walk I forced myself to take. It's a beautiful day. Looking forward to feeling better! Also, I'm on Naltrexone. It's helping. Take care.
Congrats, and stay strong! It will get easier and your health will definitely only be getting better. For me, it was a rough couple weeks, it can be longer, but your body recovering takes time and energy, so just stay positive and ride it out!
Hey! Hope you're hanging in there! I'm doing Sober October, so almost 30 days- I feel great and don't think I ever want to drink again- thanks for your post.
@@gregbeutel8434
The mental clarity in the beginning of sobriety is like a million slaps in the face for which the only remedy is self love. I'm still hanging in there. Happy November! Let's make it through December too.
Boredom and curiosity always got me in trouble with drinking. Its funny bc Im not really a fan of being drunk. I get headaches easily and Im prone to getting sick from too many drinks. I just always thought "oh maybe that was the wrong alcohol or maybe we shouldve mixed it with something else" but tbh, Im 30 years old and the fairy tale of "drinking is classy, sophisticated, and is the nucleus of a fun time." is over. The romanticism of drinking on advertisements and in TV shows and movies just doesnt have that appeal anymore. It got me as a teenager watching Jersey Shore but nothing is cool about drinking when you realize the hardcore truth of alcohol on the human body.
Glad your figuring this out in your 30's. I'm in my 50's and the damned HABIT is so hard to overcome! You're awesome and smart and doing the best thing.
6 days in myself. I quit for about 5 months last year and started back, thinking I had a better relationship with alcohol. I was wrong. Now that I'm sober again for almost a week, I wonder why I ever started back. Keep going, your video and others like it help reinforce my decision.
This hits home so hard. I am not an every day drinker, but I developed the hobby of having one night on the weekend with no work the next day to drinking and gaming. It was just so much fun it really was. it became a "hobby" didn't affect work or my relationships and if I were busy that weekend i could always skip, but man i'd miss it. I'd also binge drink on those days anywhere from 8-12 usually at night after running around and doing what I needed to do. I'd just feel like shit the next day. I've gotten to the point i'm sick of having my weekend wasted bc of the hangover. So, I stopped. I'm at the phase where I'm really bored on these days. Its funny the brain despite not getting alchocol everyday was still wired and expects to get a huge dopamine influx on the weekend and it's a little upset its not getting it right now, but that shall pass. Worth it.
The "addictive personality " segment is one of the most relatable ive heard
What a great video. Hit the nail on the head constantly throughout. Passed 100 days last week at age 40 after 25 years of a mediocre alcohol fuelled existence. Feels like I've been given a brand new life. Wish I could go back and never take that first sip in school!
The school system has a lot to answer for!
@@wideawakenow007 😂
God Bless you, Stevo, Mightily. 100 days is awesome. by now you're on 130+days. Never stop. You are an inspiration!!! Thank you!
Great video! I'm on day 2. Had 17 days before and a year and 2 months before. I keep quitting until I quit. Much love from Minnesota ❤
I am 42 days sober. My favourite saying is "One is too many; a thousand is not enough".
For me this saying relates to women, but definitely relevant to substances
You are totally inspiring. I've been struggling for around 15 years, but I don't want to continue to poison myself. I've lost too time much already. Thank you for this heart-felt video. It's reassuring to know that other people have changed their habits and their lives in the way you describe.
Thanks, and go for it, you can do it!
Thanks for your video. This could help a lot of people. I had 20+ years of sobriety. Last month my 18-year-old soul mate dog died and that tipped me over the edge - The pain was so intense the only thing that helped was to drink. Now I'm struggling to get sober again because I miss it so much! Life is better sober.
I'm sorry about your dog, and that's a totally understandable reaction! The fact that you want to get sober again is good, focus on all the benefits!
Sorry for your loss friend❤
Day 34 sober for me, longest stretch in 40 years. I drank like you did for years, but it progressed to something worse later in life. Thanks for sharing and helping others. Binging on videos like this helps me stay committed. Naltrexone and sinclair method helped my quite a bit in this process.
Hey man, I'm about 6 days sober. Just discovered your channel looking for sober reinforcement. Great story. We have very similar lifestyles. Both metal guitar guys into production (got my BA for jazz guitar), both used to be really passionate about craft beer. I loved bourbon too. But I also love other things in life, like coffee, food, music, video games. I drank 2 nights a week usually. I'd drink on Friday, usually 8-10 beers, sometimes 12, be hungover Saturday, then do it again Sunday. I'd base drinking on my work schedule more or less. Getting sober the first few days wasn't too horrible, more or less a binge drinker. I'm done now, I want my weekends to learn software and get my guitar TH-cam channel going. I teach guitar lessons, and I feel like I'll be way less anxious during them, and be a better teacher. The past week I've actually been productive, even did some filming! I also wanna be there for my family, and I wanna make more money. I'm also enjoying video games more! Who woulda thought? Great video btw man. Really helped me!
Great to hear! Sounds like you're on a good path, if you get bored and want to drink, just stay busy and productive. You won't miss it in time. Life is so much better, I have 0 desire or temptation to ever drink. Even in social events where everyone is drinking, I have more fun now being sober, and more confidence too. Keep it up!
Goin on 65 days here! Power to all goin through the struggle
My goodness, I see such parallels in your journey with alcohol. I love beer, the taste of craft beer. But during covid and since, it has become a daily thing. Thank you for this, it is an inspiration to follow your path.
Best of luck, you can do it!
Congrats on your sobriety, man. It's been seven years for me and life is much better viewing it through the lense of sober eyes. In fact, it was in a sober state that I started pursuing playing again. While I played guitar for the better part of forty years, I've picked up the bass and have had a blast learning it. God bless you, sir.
Thanks and congrats to you too! Glad you started playing again, music is a great outlet and maybe you can pick up some tips here!
Thank you for sharing your story! I quit drinking Oct 2023 so it’s been 4 mths and it has felt so good! The holidays were much easier to get thru than I expected. My anxiety has lessened and sleep is so much better. I am so glad I made this decision. Good luck to you!
Great to hear!
7 months alcohol free for me, after 40 plus years of drinking, feeling great😊
Well done, man. Videos like this will pop up and help more people than you'll ever know.
Hi Nick!! I just found your channel!👍 Are you going to continue creating videos? You’re very knowledgeable about it. I’m on Day 8 alcohol free. I don’t like labels either but I know for a fact that my drinking was very unhealthy plus I couldn’t even drive so I’d end up isolating. Not cool!💞
I did a follow up 1 year video, and I'll probably do an occasional future update. This channel is mostly music related, but I'm thinking about starting a 2nd channel for health and nutrition content :)
@@NickLeonard That’s cool! I love music 🎶 but I’m trying to learn everything I can about nutrition right now. Our bodies run a Lot Better when we use the Best Fuel ⛽️! Lol. I’ve got a lot to learn. Let me know if you start a second channel.👍🌸
@@CMoore8539 🥩🥓🥚
Thank you for your inspirational video. I have been in conflict with myself for decades to give up alcohol. To me it is a bad habit. I dont really like the taste, its stupid. I keep on telling myself that I cant cope without having a drink. I am going to stop. I want to feel normal again...
You can do it!
YES!!! Andrew resonated with me when he said "Some people experience alcohol as a STIMULANT!" and EVERYone else just kept repeating... you know it's a depressant right? ugh.
I think the idea is that while a lot of people feel alcohol gives the a buzz and makes them feel happy when they're drinking it, it's still a depressant. It may feel good in the moment but it's unlikely someone is going around full of the joys of Spring the next day
Dude. Thanks for posting this. Can totally relate.
I think it’s all too common for drinking to become habitual in music, and after our last tour I decided enough is enough.
Good on you, best wishes!
I'm an older woman who has never been much of a drinker. In my younger years I drank when I went out and In recent years I might have a few beers a week, so a very casual drinker. I completely stopped drinking alcohol two weeks ago when I saw Huberman's video. I'm experiencing better sleep, more clarity, and energy that lasts all day.
Good job! That podcast was very eye opening. Even something seemingly insignificant, like one drink a month, does more damage than anyone thinks!
@@NickLeonard Here's the thing: Why don't we know more about the seriously negative effects of alcohol on even the lightest imbibers? It's eerily similar to the way cigarette companies kept information hidden years ago.
@@carolgiangreco6548 some of the research is fairly recent, so it hasn't been so widely publicized. I'm sure no one in the alcohol industry wants to advertise that either haha
I bet most drinkers don't want to know all the gory details because they don't want to stop drinking.
Wow, I can relate to this video and you almost like a reflection. started drinking at the same phase of life in the same way, habits formed and progressed in the same way (craft beer, brewing, working in the brewing industry), covid lockdowns increasing drinking, getting into the liquor realm after the beer thing was pretty much fully explored (expensive/rare bourbon for me, rather than cocktails). The amount of drinking/number of drinks is exactly the same as you stated. Started to question the health implications of the drinking habit, watched a ton of stop drinking videos, decided to give it a break, which has now turned into quitting altogether. I'm on day 50 right now. I'm also a guitarist and metal head. I also just don't want to worry about it being a major part (and problem) in my life anymore. Thanks so much for sharing your story man. It was nice to hear someone who pretty much fit my same story!
Keep it up, life is much better after booze!
Good video. I'm 10 days in being sober, which is nothing really, as I often go a couple of weeks without drinking without any trouble. I was never a huge drinker and never considered myself having a problem, but when I do drink, I often binge to excess; and I've been finding, especially recently, that every time I drink I seem to make a complete idiot of myself, and wake up the next morning, or even later that night, chewing off my own fist in embarrassment. After a particularly embarrassing episode recently at a friends wedding, I just thought to myself "that's it, I'm done", I had a mindset shift. I don't think I'll ever drink again, I don't fear a life without alcohol like I once did (what about birthday's, weddings, stags, Christmas etc). I will attend these events a new sober, sharper man, and I look forward to not making an idiot of myself!! 🙏
Might be good to have some tactics on hand when you attend the birthdays , weddings , stags , Christimas " etc to help you not drink. I know some people do get a mindset shift and that's it. They just stop smoking or drinking or overeating without a problem. On the other hand, there are a lot of people who while they get along fine if there is no immediate temptation, just fall back into old ways when they go into an enviroment where it was normal for them to drink or smoke or overeat.
@@Smithpolly Thanks, I'll definitely take your comments on board. As it happens, though, my decision feels very final. I went to a couple of social occasions this past weekend and had no desire to drink whatsoever, and greatly enjoyed myself. I feel very excited!! 🙂
@@SuperGrinch123 It’s so great to wake up in the morning with zero regrets! I tried to quit a few times, but this one stuck, and it’s very different than my other attempts. I’m so happy and so grateful to get to experience a whole new way of life. It was worth all the pain and despair, to be able to appreciate my existence the way I do now. You’re never supposed to say never, but some lucky people just know that they’re DONE. 💕
Day 6. Last night was hard. Seems like if I have sparkling water in the fridge to crush it helps alot
Day 5. It was revolutionary to learn how booze energized me vs sedated me. This is what I used to admire in people who could handle their liquor. Now I see those people,like me,have high risk for booze use disorder.
I've just decided to give up this year since I'm really not enjoying drinking anymore, like at all. Good stuff that you are 100+ days sober now :]
I relate so much to this. 7 days in so far 🤞
Allen Carr’s book is heaven sent ❤
Agree!
Jason Vales book 'Kick The Drink Easily' came first. Alan Carl's book.modelled itself on that...Both good though .
The most important thing is not to pick up the 1st drink. If you are able to do this for the remainder of your life, that is the only thing that matters. However, if this sounds difficult, i highly recommend finding a group to help you on your journey. I tried to go at it alone and had a fruitful 1 year.. until i picked up my 1st drink. Then it became 5 and than 10. I obliterated my life there after.
Either way, if you're not drinking good for you, keep it up, im sure you'll inspire others to do the same.
I am on day 8 ! I started drinking at age 16 too !
Alcohol is just not working for me ! Now I see why it is really a poison and so many avenues throwing it in your face !
Hi Nick. Awesome video. I really appreciate your kindness. I generally don't have a problem quitting. It's the "not starting back up" that gets me. I can quit for a week, a month, a year, no problem and I love that! I haven't mastered the "leave it alone forever" thing yet, but that IS STILL MY GOAL. I'm 55. Seems like I've definitely done my time and should definitely quit for good. I try to listen to one video a day that will encourage me to kick it for good.
Thanks so much. Your journey is like mine quite a bit. God bless you and thanks for helping people. That's so great!!!
You can do it! We're not even doing anything, just not doing something. If you fall off the wagon, just get back on, and remember that every day making a good choice benefits you.
I have quit for days, weeks, months and years. I turn 59 today and I am here because I too, want to master the "leave it alone forever" mindset. Any advice you want to offer... I am completely open to hearing anything even if it hurts to hear.
Greetings, Nick. "You can't stay at the party forever. " I heard that decades ago. I left the party 32 years ago. I was drinking daily from age 17 up to age 30. I was able to just let it go. Waking up in the morning and not feeling beat up was pretty cool. I got used to that. For me, it was easier to see why I was drinking, once I got away from it. I addressed a few things to make myself a bit happier. Saved a buttload of money by not buying alcohol. Best wishes for you, mate. The 1973 telecaster bass that I own was a way better purchase than buying beer. Alcohol has lots of sugar. Thats why you craved the sweets. Thats another journey.
Good on you, man. It's been great for sure. I really don't miss it at this point, it's just not a part of my life, even though it was such a big part for so long.
This was very well put together and not all over the place. Glad you didn't sugar coat marijuana usage also. Thanks for putting this out.
one of the best videos about quitting alcohol on TH-cam. thank you.
thank you!
I love drinking. I have such fond memories of nights with my favorite people and all of us being just a little more outgoing. We never went out to bars, we'd just hang out at my place or theirs blasting our favorite music. However, I'm getting older and the hangovers are too much, I feel like crud for the first half of the week, just... off. I'm trying to live healthier and spend my time more wisely. Drinking nights still happen here and there, but far less often than in the past. It's not worth the loss of time feeling down in the dumps and hurting my health.
I went to my doctor and got a prescription for naltrexone. It stops the buzz and eliminates the craving for additional drinks.
Very articulate man. All youtube channels on sobriety are great beneficial in some way or another but I feel that ive come across a brilliant channel here mainly as you are not condescending in any way and you're not being overly confident and a 'know it all'.
Thanks for the kind words!
4.50 onwards is exactly the reason why I stopped drinking. I can't just have one or two it makes me impulsive, and all sensibility and control goes out the window.
Fantastic video brother 👏
I definitely was the liquor bottle guy. A pint if not a bit over a pint multiple nights a week. But I’d only drink at the same time. I found the perfect amount where I’d be tired but not hungover the next day. I’ve had two sober streaks. Both for 6 months. Both times failed due to past trauma I was unaware of until the second time. It crazy something buried down which is otherwise unknown, can have such a profound effect on the brain. I got to a point where drinking just didn’t make sense anymore. I’m happy I’m figuring this out at 30, it’s been a bout 5 years of on and off heavy drinking. The biggest thing I noticed was my health; my life in general was fine. I graduated Law school, I got a good paying job, drinking had no impact on these things. But my personal life was struggling, my habit, my dreams of doing things I really wanted. But instead I was spending my money on booze and waste all that time… My body couldn’t keep up. My eyes started getting puffy due to dehydration and I was overweight, very bloated and I felt “swollen” all the time.
It just makes no sense to actively engage in something that is slowly ending my life with my knowledge in a way which isn’t natural or as God intended.
Very similar situation here. The bloated feeling and puffiness ruined my looks tbh. First week and I already feel better.
You sound similar to the way I used to be.
All it takes for a bad thing to happen in life and it can push you into the next level.
I see it all the time I'm in my 40s now
Dude. Just an amazing video. Love your heart.
This has been BY FAR the best video to stop drinking. I've ever seen. Thank you 😊
Thanks, I appreciate it!
It will be four years for me in October. I can't say that I've missed it all. It's really about just being decisive about making a change in your life and not waiting for someone's permission or a certain day to do it (don't get me started on New Year's resolutions...). I feel like maybe I got a little bit of a boost by listening to the second wave of Earth Crisis records (To The Death, Neutrualize The Threat and Salvation Of Innocents) and thinking "these guys aren't kids anymore and they're still sticking with this"; it was very inspiring.
Spot on!
Great video!
Great video. The shyness bit can definitely relate. Im one month sober now. Thanks for video
Great account and very well told. I'm on the journey now after 40 years of daily drinking. This time feels different. It's about a mental shift from feeling you are denying yourself something you still want to simply not wanting it any more.
Yep! Whatever alcohol has to offer, you've gotten it by now 😂
There's much more to be done without it in your life.
@@NickLeonard Exactly. There is nothing more it can offer me and so many other ways I want to spend my time.
Got you, I've drank for the past 18 years. Currently 2 months sober. When I want a drink, I remember that it is a habit and a pattern of behavior I've created throughout the years. I just remember what the day after felt like, over and over again, and how I delayed doing the work on myself because I was busy getting drunk. All in all, I feel, sleep and think better now, and now the real work starts, creating my life without alcohol. We can do it, stay strong peeps!
Such a great, simple, down to earth, yet meaningful talk!
this is one of the best videos I have ever watched online
So well said! I am AF for a week, but honestly not nearly as hard as I thought. Much like your story, I now realize many have a much harder time, but for people like us, be thankful for the path not being insurmountable.
@@xlntmike that's great, keep at it!
Thank you, I so enjoyed this video. My son sounds so much like you. He was OK not drinking but once he started to drink and there is always a reason to start drinking for the day or evening, he could not stop until he was about to pass out or was so tired. it made me so sad watching that and watching people watch him. It was so difficult but he has recently gone on the January dry program as a lot of his friends have. He says he feels good and doesn’t miss it but we will see. Someone having a drinking problem is so sad for everyone around them, especially their loved ones. Again, thank you for sharing your story.
Wishing him the best of luck! Hopefully he will be inspired to stay sober after January, its easier to cut it off once than many times!
Fyi most of what your saying is moderate alcoholism. First goes the hobbies, then the friends, then the relationships, then the work is the last to be impacted for most adults in the west. Source: board certified mh provider who has done this for 10 years. I agree, though, that the label is not necessary. You did a good job of realizing that you are the type of person who has an abnormal reaction to alcohol - the brain tells you more will be better. We do not have that reaction to drinking gatorade or milk, and the contrast in our brain's desire for more alcohol vs more milk is the most important aspect of addiction to fully own as the person getting sober. I'm happy for you! Congrats and keep up the new way of getting through life without the nice crutch that alcohol can be. Best wishes!
Thank you for this. It takes a lot of guts to put something like this out on the web. And also you helped me think about my own issues. i really gotta chill and slow down on the heavy mixers and beer. I should focus more on music and the amazing people around me.
Stay safe and keep it metal!
Thanks, I appreciate it! I'm grateful, and perhaps lucky, that everyone I know has been totally supportive and understanding of it. Even though I've hear a lot of stories of people who drank way more than I ever did, it's very important to take a step back and re-assess what these habits are actually doing to us. And as I said, it's been a big boost in productivity and just feeling way better, so I'm not missing anything!
The education is out there now. It really effects you like you really know. You are able to go out and a couple , then you binge another day, then you take weeks off. It does affect you whether you like it or not, even decision making weeks after a drink. It’s a big load to carry on your mind and body, drop it.
Well done!!! Congratulations- 100 days is amazing👏
This was incredibly helpful. Watched the whole thing. Thank you for sharing your story.
56 days sober.. the longest I've gone without alcohol since I was 16 (I'm 30 now) .. the last few days I really started to notice a huge boost to the speed at which i turn thoughts into precise and impactful speech. It feels like I'm evolving into a better version of myself. Great video, thanks 👍🏻
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Just to add, I'm really impressed with your reasoning and conclusions. Very well constructed and explained. 🙏🏻
Day 42 after 30 years
we are doing super well,
Thanks for sharing. I don't drink often, but when I do, it is to excess. I always feel shame the next day. I think I will stay away from alcohol until I have a glass or 3 of wine on Christmas eve.
Very relatable in many ways. Thanks for this
I quit on my own and went a month and a half and relapsed and didn't go too crazy with it.... Now back on day 5. Telling myself this is a poison this is poisoning you.... Stop. Congrats on 100.... I will meet you there.
Keep at it! I recommend reading Allen Carr's book
Our story is similar in lots of ways man, grew up drinking before metal and punk shows, wound up becoming a brewer myself as well, still am but happily 52 days sober today. One way im looking at still being able to work at the brewery while maintaining my sobriety is this; a garbage man does not bring his work home, so why would I?
I can imagine it would be extra difficult being around beer all day, it definitely encouraged me!
I'm fine going to parties and even was bartender for a weekend, but it's extra difficult as your daily existence.
Maybe it's a good chance to encourage them to make an NA beer. There's a yeast strain people are using now that doesn't ferment alcohol, so no need for boiling the alcohol off like the old days.
This was very inspiring. Thank you for sharing.
Scaring myself out of it is the only method that worked and continues to work
What was your thought process to scare yourself out of it?
I went to my doctor and got a prescription for naltrexone. It stops the buzz and eliminates the craving for additional drinks.
This was an excellent video, and perfectly explained.
I'm at a similar stage where I don't really have to stop, but for the first time, I'm recognising that I no longer enjoy the dull feeling I get from alcohol.
That disappointment of looking forward to it, drinking it, then thinking, is that it?
Then carrying on for days and weeks because of 'hangovers'.
I'm at just over three weeks and I've reclaimed my mind.
Doing everyday things is so much easier, and though I'm ready for it to try and trip me up, especially when the light nights come, I feel equipped to deal with it.
Mainly by being honest and saying that it's the most boring and overrated substance in the world.
People need to get to the right stage of themselves in order to see the truth of it, and a lot of them will - as long as they want to.
Fair play to you mate.
I've been off it 13 months now, amd the resolve is stronger than ever! You're totally that life is much better without it.
Thanks for sharing. Good to see similar people re processing alcohol.
Today is day 5 sober. The first 4 days was hell !! Waking up early in the morning with cold sweats, having diarrhea, throwing up stomach bile cramping all over my body, my legs, my toes, my back my sides. Not having any appetite, not having any energy. Now is day five and I feel 90% better. my problem has always been also there’s no moderation once the bottle is cracked open drink it all. Everytime. For years. I’m 32 and im tired of it. It cost me relationships and cost me to lose the max potential in myself. This the first time in years I’ve been 5 days without alcohol. Every liquor store in the city I live in knows me. Smh.
You had it rough, but you've made it this far, just keep it up! Remember how much you've suffered when you face any temptation.
After many videos this has been the most relatable to my situation!!!💪
Great talk. I'm 241 days in and there is no turning back. I have no desire to ever touch the crap.
That's awesome! I'm at a little over a year now and feel the same way
if you can stop drinking without relying on others, you will be all the stronger for it. and not be stuck in a club you can never leave which forces a stigma of "alcoholic" onto you for life.
I can relate to allot of what you're saying. I'm on the beat, right behind you man.
Day 99. I am struggling. But i haven't picked up.
Edit: Day 140 tomorrow. still struggling, but I haven't picked up. 🫡
I also completed 100 days sober, now i can see life with total clarity
Congrats!
I am nearly at deads end been drinking almost daily for straight 10 years right now i am 27 please help me i dont wanna die young 😔
Just force yourself to stop for a few weeks, even if you have to check into a rehab, it's better than dying! Check out the book I put in the description and read that. It does get easier over time!
I am about 4 or 5 weeks free. I hated what I became so it was not that hard. Don't miss it. Like you pointed out, those that get energy from booze are much more at risk. Slippery slope...I cannot drink safely, so I had to quit
Great video and insight , I’m 3 weeks in , same thing not an alcoholic just tired of drinking, 2 to three drinks per day in evening.more on weekends. But feel great again .
Good on you, and keep it up! After another few weeks, you'll hardly think about it again, and wonder why you ever drank!
Thanks for sharing your experience. i am still trying to be sober for at least 30 days (
Respect. I can 100% relate to your story. We have a very similar story and outcome 😊
Sober for 10 mounth now, I know what you talks about, you explain its good i think, keep on man
A week sober today. Been going around in circles for years now. 4 bottles of wine per night constantly hungover, lost jobs. So fed up
You got it, keep it up!
Great man! I honestly only drink 2 or 3 times a week. Usually 2 beers or so. 3 or more in a night every 2 or 3 weeks and all of it honestly is doing very little for me yet I look forward to it for some reason. Snacking is what's gonna get me though. Food addiction for sure! It's mostly out of boredom. Not every moment in a day can be filled with work or fun so.. snack or whatever. I noticed recently that in a day where I eat decently, don't eat too much sugar, my mind is more chill. I can do it but the urge for the snack is a mutha fucka and sometimes I'll slam a big choc bar and feel shit, stomach ache you know. Life man... Not sure where I'm going with this but well done. Not feeling like crap is absolutely the way to go.
I haven't done keto for real in a while, but I did for a while and really noticed that the less carbs/sugar I eat, the less hungry I am, and that urge to snack goes away. When I'm keto, I can easily do 1-2 meals a day with no snacks, but otherwise, I'll get hungry every few hours and have a little something. I don't eat much sweets, but I do like bread, pasta, rice, etc.
I've even done 6 days with no food! After day 2 I just stopped being hungry. Hunger, like most feelings, is controlled by hormones - leptin in this case. Dr. Jason Fung is the man when it comes to this!
Good on ya Nick! 🤞🏻for your continued success. I quit a several years ago - I didn’t like how I felt when I drank and I hated the way I felt the next day so I decided to drop it. Most of my social groups still drink - some A LOT - & it can be kind of tedious to hang out with them when drinking is on the agenda. I’m glad to have it in my past.
Thanks, Bill! It can be a good litmus test, if you don't like hanging out with some people sober....
Start listening to Dr. Huberman and you will either shut him down and never get a quick handle on your long term health or you will get so wake up calls about alcohol, exercise, sleep and sugar just to name a few. Thank you for giving a shout out to Allen Carr and as for Dr. Huberman, thank you for giving him some credit regarding your inspiration about quitting alcohol. You are inspiring.
It was useful and interesting Nick. Thank you. I'm 35 and I lost my husband to suicide last year which I 100% don't think would have happened if he wasn't drinking so much every day. I'm sadly still drinking but I've had a few periods of abstinence and every time I go back I realise that this isn't what i want to do. These videos are so helpful. Thanks again.
@@MegaMia1000 I'm sorry for your loss, that's terrible. Don't give into the same despair, stay strong and sober!