I agree that last cry is like his soul tie ripping out from your heart! You can feel the energy legit leaving like a demon being banished 😅 then your free and ready yo love yourself right❤😊
@@nedrashereadywilliams9496 i got dumped. We both knew we weren't compatible but I tried to work it out but eventually she pulled the plug because she knew I would not do it. We have a show on May that we both are going to, but idk how I should act around her. I'm giving her space that she requested but I really thought she was never going to dumb me. I'm 28 and she's 26.
Women will say over and over we need to talk…because we want to deal with issues. If men keep ignoring us and hurting us eventually we shut down. It’s sad but true.
@@elizabethfindlay5752😅😅😅 I can't believe there are other people out here having this same conversation. That was us this week, the week before that, oh and YEARS before that. To the point that I don't even want to talk and hash it out anymore. I know what's coming 🤦♀️ They always try to avoid it until they face plant on hard reality.
When you've done all you've can. STAND,... for me it allows me to work me, UNTIL the Exit Door opens up for me to walk away with a clean clear conscious. Self Love
Chile when you start setting them up with your friends and even puttin in good words for the person they came to u about talkin abt how they wanna get to know this person, and thinkin u might be jealous and instead u tell them how cool tht person is and they should go ahead and get to know the person, and all you hear is radio silence 😅😂. Negro it’d been over 🤣. U jst found out
When he starts being too busy, or won't communicate. I pull back, and if he doesn't come back, just keep walking. All further communications are ignored
We’re at this point right now. I know he’s busy at work and has to share custody of his kids but I’m realizing I’m not a priority. Men should thoroughly lay out what the dating life will look like before you decide to be exclusive.
A woman can see it and feel it when it’s over. She will tell you what she sees and feels to give you a chance to fix it…if you don’t care to, she will eventually move on…as she should
Hey ma’am I’ll like to get you match with my uncle he’s trying it so hard to be in a good relationship. He’s kind of calm and cool person it would be nice for you to know him..
Let's be real, most women DON'T tell the guy it's coming to an end and secretly wants him to screw up so she can leave. She has already entertained the idea of being with someone else.
This is just stupid. Implying that its always the man that needs to do something or fix something . An actual adult woman would work with their partner to get the relationship on track AND ALSO be willing to equally change themselves if needed/if they are the problem. Instead of this childish "you must change or im leaving" bully attitude expressed in the first post here
Been there and done that …when you don’t care… it means just that…OVER…..keep it simple… keep it fun when ever you can… maintain a sense of humor…. and if you mess around…you don’t deserve to be in a relationship… just be honest
When he teaches you how to be without him. When he invalidates your feelings. When every conversation he receives as an attack. When it is his way or else. When there is a lack of accountability and blame shifting. When there is disrespect …and when this has spanned for years but he expects you to still hold space for loving him because he pays more of the bills and all that is keeping you in it is because your children adore him.
totally agree that indifference hit totally different, because you're sick in tried of being sick and tried. you just dont give a damn anymore. looking side ways now you see me, im done!
Part of that indifference is a devaluation of that person - they are no longer worth my time, effort, or emotions. When I see them, I feel nothing. They are ghosts that no longer exist in my world.
My love for those who have hurt me in the past never die. That doesn’t mean I’ll give them another chance at hurting me again. When I go silent it just means I’ve tried everything and nothing worked. I either don’t trust you anymore or I’ve lost hope in our relationship ever improving. I can never be ‘indifferent’ towards people I’ve once cared about, no matter how badly they’ve treated me. I can distance myself and pray for them from afar, though. God bless. 🙏
I am a female .. and I am done and checked out! Divorce ..nothing else I can possibly do with this narcissistic man. He has done too way too much verbally, mentally and physically. It will never change ..this is for God to fix/repair his trauma/brokeness. I pray he figures it out, but just not with me.
U speak about God but forget God doesn’t do divorce. Sometimes u have to play the cards u have been dealt. Patience and faith are so big in the Bible because they are important to proving to God how much u trust and believe in him. Don’t divorce. Divorce is not an option. Learn to love. God will fix the marriage on his time when he feels u guys are ready and have learned whatever it is about “unconditional love” that he is trying to teach u. God so loved the world(through all our sin) that he gave his only son for us. We are not perfect but Gid still loves us. That’s how marriage should be. Eventually he will bless you and things will get better. Keep the faith 🙏🏼
I prayed from before we were married.. this type of person will never change for a woman. Only the Almighty God can & WILL bring these types to they're KNEES.. but u gotta get outta there
@@bobbysupreme1 I disagree with you completely. Reasons for Christian divorce in my opinion: Abuse-spouse/children Cheating that goes on and doesn’t change Violence Profound and ongoing mental illness Ongoing unrepentant addiction. Each person lives their own walk with God and their spouse. Each situation is different. God allows some to leave and others stay. It’s a mystery and highly individual. God alone knows what your spouse is doing/not doing and who you are. Bless you. I wish all marriages could be healed and flourish but that is not my experience in this life. I would love to have the best for each but we are sinful and weak humans 🙏❤️
GOSPEL TRUTH. I saw a meme once that showed a man's clothes, and belongings thrown all over the front yard. The caption said; "This guy still has a chance" In the second picture the guy's clothes were folded neatly, and packed in boxes. That one said; "It's over, this guy is done". Once a woman gets to that point where you are no longer important enough for her to even get mad over, you're basically dead to her, as all the feelings that she once had for you are dead to. Best to just stop wasting your time, and move on.
Indeed!! After 21 years of marriage- I didn’t just nearly fold and pack everything. I washed it all first. He asked if he could have my goose comforter off of my bed, I gladly gave him that as well; AND I helped him load everything in my jeep, drove him to his cousins house and carried much of his stuff up 4 or 5 flights of stairs. I WAS DONE!! Ten years later, I am STILL SO DONE!!
@@yahayrawho Good for you, most of the time people misinterpret your silence, and calmness as not being upset by them, and that all you need is time to cool off, and they can sneak back in. And while that IS true, that you are no longer upset, but ONLY because you're so over them, and their BS...that the feelings that you once had for them are dead and gone, and that you have no interest whatsoever in resurrecting them. One thing I've learned, and I'd like to HUMBLY advise everyone that has been through this, (male, or female) is to not dwell in the energy of what the past ex's put you through....you're wiser now, you've learned your lesson, and the LAST thing that you want to do is to unintentionally attract another person to you because you keep giving that same energy your attention. Let's instead concentrate on our ideal partner, and trust The Most High to bring Him/Her to us....and Also, don't forget to forgive yourself for allowing yourself to be mistreated and accepting less than you deserve...TRUST ME, I know, you thought that you could Love the BS out of them...like I said...lesson learned.
@@ionlycompetewiththewomaniw5429 well stated, and vital reminders for us all. Thank you. 💛🙏🏽⚔️ I’d be lying if I said that I don’t struggle with fully forgiving myself. I am still a work in progress, but I refuse to attract the same demon with a different name in a different body. I did date on and off six months after I got him out, for the first couple of years; under the terrible advice of the other narcissist that WAS in my life, my “dad.” I realized that I had to heal fully and the only way to do that was to finish raising my son and focus on ABBA/GOD, my obeisance to HIM and myself. I have not dated in about 8 years now. I KNOW that if it had not been for GOD’S mercy, grace, guidance, love, gifts of discernment and wisdom- I would not have made it out!! ALL praises and glory be to ABBA/FATHER.
@@yahayrawho Yeah, I know how that go...in my case it was my mother, and I started my healing journey about 6 years ago when I decided to not do Thanksgiving with my family. I've seen the woman who birthed me once in 6 years, and that's only because I ran into her at the gas station, and I handled it like a Boss, in my brand new car that was a gift from The Most High. I can HONESTLY say that the ONLY thing that I regret about cutting her out of my life is that I didn't do it sooner. Narcasist carry a poisioness energy that if you engage with them for too long will infect every part of your life. If you can't cut them completely off, limit your dealing with them as much as possible. And don't for one minute feel like you have to put up with them just because DNA gives them a title in your life. Maybe they are part of a Generational Curse that God is freeing you from, and they are MEANT to exit your life. But only The Most High can answer that For you, and she will if you ask for clarification. I'm still trying to forgive myself, I think for me that therapy is in order. I REFFUSE to be a bitter old lady like her. Best Wishes....😘😘😘😘😘😘😘
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.
I'm facing significant relationship problems and can't stand the idea of losing him. My love and longing for my partner are profound, and I'm ready to do anything to restore our connection. I would greatly appreciate any advice or help you could give.
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.
I just searched for Father Akunna online indeed he is a very generous man and the most powerful spell caster that I have ever seen he brought my husband back to me with so much love ❤
Many stay together because one of the partners is not able to sustain themselves & probably need his/ her medical insurance. Also some partners have Ben so devalued they have no self worth and believe there’s nothing they can do or even rebuild what they once had 😢
@@EnoughSaid564oh no, wow I’m 44 and never been married, want to be married really bad now but I know it’s a beautiful thing but hearing some of these answers are really bad.
The power of indifference 🙌🏽! I did not understand the concept UNTIL I became indifferent towards my ex husband and when I say I left and did not look back 💯😂! I never thought it was possible! Gods grace, I never had soo much PEACE in my life ❤
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked Father Akunna online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤️
Can’t no one tell you better than yourself. Consider, and/or tell, yourself to get & STICK with a game plan. Especially if you feel, or are, stuck in some kind of way. Stand up for yourself!! Anything dark, dims light 💡 🤔 ***NO ONE should be able to control our emotions or have us feeling so down, sad, hurt, depressed, weighed,etc., OUTSIDE of ourselves.
Truth…when u fed up u literally do not care. You talk more reckless, you act more reckless, because your issues with them went too long without being discussed or addressed, til you want nothing to do with them because they could have took the opportunity to try to fix it but they didn’t so the caring person you were for them you cannot give them because they neglected the things you cared about longer then they should have, so it’s done & over at that point.
If an issue went to long without discussed then you need to communicate the issue so people are aware of the topic that went to long without discussion. That's on you to bring up anything that bothers you cause quiet mouths don't get fed.
@@ISTAStala Trust I tried on my end but got shut down every time. It was like he ran from it not willing to talk it out & at times got furious over it . I gave up trying with him…
Mine still thinks it's a game...'she's quiet, but she'll talkto me eventually'....he has NO idea I really don't even have it in me to care anymore. A part of me feels like he already knows how our next conversation will end..because contrary to popular belief: Men are NOT stupid.
I poured my heart out to him and he just stood there and looked at me. I told him how I felt he had nothing to say. Didn’t even offer that cliche to change…
IF A MAN CHEATS ON ME AND I FIND OUT, THERE IS NOTHING ELSE I CAN DO WITH THAT MAN. IT IS OVER! PLAIN AND SIMPLE! ASK MY EX'ES IF THEY GOT ME BACK AFTER F-ING UP ROYALLY!
Literally taking them back is another opportunity for them to prove to you why that was a stupid decision. Plus it’s not like you’ll ever trust the person the same. It’s fine to have a certain level of mistrust for strangers/ people not close to you. But for you partner that you’re intimate with…that’s emotional turmoil and a little saddistic- wakign up to a to constant reminder of betrayal- saddisitic.
I’ve given him almost 5 years of my life he went from my hero to zero, having no emotional commitment to me, ghosting, not even taking any interest in both myself or our daughter. I love him with all my heart, but now i gotta protect my little girl and i from the inconistency
I became comfortable in my own space after dating for 6 years i was going to marry her and she was ready as well but things changed when I gave her less time and attention because I was secured that she won't leave me and i always complaint when she asked for attention I thought it was childish and she left me i actually fucked up even more. She tells me to move on now 😢 I have tried everything in my power to get her back. She isn't dating anyone but she wants me to move on 😞 what's the best advice for me to win her back since I don't see myself with anyone.
I BELIEVE IN COMMUNICATION WHICH SOME MEN SAYING YOU ALWAYS WANNA TALK ABOUT THINGS AND I SAY WHEN I STOP TALKING YOU NEED TO BE WORRIED AS LONG AS I'M TALKING I'M TRYING TO WORK THINGS OUT WHEN I STOP TALKING FOR ME IT'S OVER LOL
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
The biggest problem is when a man is blind to the facts that she no longer cares were there physically but mentally we checked out a long time ago , no fussing no cussing ,it's a wrap & they still think you won't leave we left a long time ago we just waiting for you to catch the drift!!
Hey ma’am I’ll like to get you match with my uncle he’s trying it so hard to be in a good relationship. He’s kind of calm and cool person it would be nice for you to know him..
Hey ma’am I’ll like to get you match with my uncle he’s trying it so hard to be in a good relationship. He’s kind of calm and cool person it would be nice for you to know him..
This happened to me...he said "I'm going to the gym," something inside of me said, "No he is not". I literally hunched my shoulders and said to myself, I dont care I'm glad he's gone. I moved out the next week.
this is true.. i actually struggled moving past my ex but i’ve realized she’s done and past it all. I recently reached out to her but she’s real distant now and seems that she gets on perfectly fine with no contact. It actually helped ease my mind a bit knowing she doesn’t think about me or what we use to have..
I remember at the beginning of my now ex and I relationship he was "just talking" to other girls he would ask me why am I getting so mad and I told him "the moment I stop getting jealous and upset that your talking or looking or looking other girls is the moment this relationship is dead". One day I caught him messaging his ex romantically and I didn't care, and I instantly knew we were over.
We are at that stage and just clinging on because we know what used to be was so great and can’t accept every thing we have lost and what has changed. It’s heartbreaking idk how to let go. You can see in all of our photos beginning to end the love and happiness fade it’s crazy. What once was a glow are now frowns, bags under our eyes, and weight loss from stress. But yea it’s at the I don’t even care what she does point.
Hey ma’am I’ll like to get you match with my uncle he’s trying it so hard to be in a good relationship. He’s kind of calm and cool person it would be nice for you to know him..
Hey ma’am I’ll like to get you match with my uncle he’s trying it so hard to be in a good relationship. He’s kind of calm and cool person it would be nice for you to know him..
What indifference this it, My man stayed out all night, I greeted him at the door this morning and said good morning because I don't give a damn, it's over!😂😂😂😂😂 He find out in a couple of weeks because I'm gone!
He's 100% right. I'm not afraid of losing my husband, I'm not afraid of making him mad anymore. I'm tired of constantly fighting for air... of constantly being blamed for everything and anything... im tired of a complete lack of reciprocity and his round the clock anger, contempt and withdrawing of love & support and him watching me struggle and never ever even exercising empathy and expecting me to do things that he is unwilling or unable to do perfectly right out of the gate with no support. Why are we even together? He acts like he hates me 99% of the time.
The thing is that when we are indifferent, it's not an act to manipulate you to act a certain way. That indifference is legit real and there's no turning back from that point. No matter what you do.
This is so true I told my ex- husband this very calmly! Then I came home packed my suitcase and my baby diaper bag took him and left and never came back! That was 8 years ago! #divorcedhisass he still shocked 😳
On point . I ended a 30-year marriage after he committed ongoing adultery, and I was indifferent and clear on my decision. Waiting for a divorce trail.
I'll leave WITHOUT warning! I know my worth & my sanity means everything to me! Ain't no getting me back once I'm done! I don't want your time, money & keep those ugly ass flowers for the next one✌️
When a woman is fed up, she has been more then generous with her patience.. men dont understand that they need to be accountable for the mess-ups and actually become proactive into making changes. Otherwise it will eventually drive the woman away.
You speak the truth. Man cheated on his wife As soon as the youngest left home 14 years later the wife filed for divorce. He said he thought she forgave him and she blindsided him. He didnt see her indifference as the end. 14 years ago she stopped caring where he went, changed her sheets daily and jey had sex 3 times a YEAR maybe! But he didnt know the marriage was dead. He didnt understand indifference. He thought he had her where he wanted while she just put the children first.
Yes indifferent for sure. I truly wanted it to work but when you're tired you just tired. We want to be with a provider one who knows priorities, we want to feel safe. Come on it does Not take that long to get yourself together. My last visit was my last my feelings changed instantly. I can just love him from a distance but a relationship no no no its over.
When holding on becomes more painful than letting go.
Exactly this and then eventually you stop caring.
Yyyyup! 🫤
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💯
Have you read about #Afflictions scriptures. I encourage if you like to read. #Truth
@@lenapin6521 I haven't but I will. Thanks.
When she's fighting with you you have a chance. When she stops fighting she doesn't see anything worth fighting for
True true 💯...
Absolutely
❤
Unless a child is involved. We will argue for a child. Trust
Thanks 🙏🏽 That’s me!
Once we cry that last cry, it's just over.
Aww the tears of closure
That’s it
Yup, or when there are no more tears, you're done.
That's it, I got up in the middle of the night whilst crying myself to sleep and said to myself, these are the last tears. It was over from that day.
I agree that last cry is like his soul tie ripping out from your heart! You can feel the energy legit leaving like a demon being banished 😅 then your free and ready yo love yourself right❤😊
When a woman walks out, she was thinking about that moment perhaps for months, probably years.
Welp..I say let em walk😂😂
True. I checked out 2 years before finally filing that divorce paper
@@RebelLyfeBoxing80And.....they do!
They mostly will regret it thinking the grass is greener. They didn't appreciate what you brought to the table.
@@derrickmoon3296 Not the women I know who left.
When I no longer care, it's over. I don't talk, I don't text, I don't even see you no more.
Fr...
Current situation
Can you change that with time?
@@Nani-Afinarte13 IDK how long others breaking point is but, I don't like being miserable too long
@@nedrashereadywilliams9496 i got dumped. We both knew we weren't compatible but I tried to work it out but eventually she pulled the plug because she knew I would not do it. We have a show on May that we both are going to, but idk how I should act around her. I'm giving her space that she requested but I really thought she was never going to dumb me. I'm 28 and she's 26.
Women will say over and over we need to talk…because we want to deal with issues. If men keep ignoring us and hurting us eventually we shut down. It’s sad but true.
I swear!!!!
Yes! This is so true!
Yes.
Him: "We'll talk about it later"
Later never comes.
Him: "You never brought it up later"
@@elizabethfindlay5752😅😅😅 I can't believe there are other people out here having this same conversation. That was us this week, the week before that, oh and YEARS before that. To the point that I don't even want to talk and hash it out anymore. I know what's coming 🤦♀️
They always try to avoid it until they face plant on hard reality.
EXACTLY!! 💯
Sometimes, you have to recognize that there is no relationship.
When you've done all you've can. STAND,... for me it allows me to work me, UNTIL the Exit Door opens up for me to walk away with a clean clear conscious. Self Love
Gawd yeah
I love that quote.
Hello
True
Baby that indifference hit men hard. They think that you aren't going anywhere.
Yeah, that's what THEY think! 😂
Yes hunni I just left a man of 15 years because of this he thought I wasn't going anywhere,I am free of some one who didn't appreciate me.
But R.KELLY SAID IT BEST WHEN A WOMAN FED UP.
@@carisdelapena3271 That's the same thing.
True 😂
When a woman fed up..There’s nothing you can do about it.😮
True, she is done forever.
La La La, La...Laaaaahhhh!
Kelly told y’all, y’all better listen
Chile when you start setting them up with your friends and even puttin in good words for the person they came to u about talkin abt how they wanna get to know this person, and thinkin u might be jealous and instead u tell them how cool tht person is and they should go ahead and get to know the person, and all you hear is radio silence 😅😂. Negro it’d been over 🤣. U jst found out
@@WorkoutorWorkin 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I always say INDIFFERENCE is MORE deadly THAN HATE 😊😊😊
The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.
When he starts being too busy, or won't communicate. I pull back, and if he doesn't come back, just keep walking. All further communications are ignored
We’re at this point right now. I know he’s busy at work and has to share custody of his kids but I’m realizing I’m not a priority. Men should thoroughly lay out what the dating life will look like before you decide to be exclusive.
When a woman stops arguing or fighting or caring. Its totally over.
I’m about there
Same here, may God help me
I'm not fighting and arguing period stress kills
That’s reall
Is it possible to get her back if I grow from mistakes I’ve made became a better person and the person she said she wanted
A woman can see it and feel it when it’s over. She will tell you what she sees and feels to give you a chance to fix it…if you don’t care to, she will eventually move on…as she should
Hey ma’am I’ll like to get you match with my uncle he’s trying it so hard to be in a good relationship. He’s kind of calm and cool person it would be nice for you to know him..
Let's be real, most women DON'T tell the guy it's coming to an end and secretly wants him to screw up so she can leave. She has already entertained the idea of being with someone else.
This is just stupid. Implying that its always the man that needs to do something or fix something . An actual adult woman would work with their partner to get the relationship on track AND ALSO be willing to equally change themselves if needed/if they are the problem.
Instead of this childish "you must change or im leaving" bully attitude expressed in the first post here
Been there and done that …when you don’t care… it means just that…OVER…..keep it simple… keep it fun when ever you can… maintain a sense of humor…. and if you mess around…you don’t deserve to be in a relationship… just be honest
Feeling this right now
When he teaches you how to be without him. When he invalidates your feelings. When every conversation he receives as an attack. When it is his way or else. When there is a lack of accountability and blame shifting. When there is disrespect
…and when this has spanned for years but he expects you to still hold space for loving him because he pays more of the bills and all that is keeping you in it is because your children adore him.
When a woman does not fuss about you. That's a wrap😮
totally agree that indifference hit totally different, because you're sick in tried of being sick and tried. you just dont give a damn anymore. looking side ways now you see me, im done!
You can say that again
Some people are so blind to what’s right in front of them. Their loss.
Absolutely
The same with men when he no longer argue or snaps and he’s calm he’s gone
When I don't give a damn...it's over.
Amen 🙏
Women 🐸☕
Part of that indifference is a devaluation of that person - they are no longer worth my time, effort, or emotions. When I see them, I feel nothing. They are ghosts that no longer exist in my world.
@@tyasiamillender2817 Say what now?🤔 Not trying to meet nobody online. Good luck to your uncle tho.
It’s true, I go silent and I stop fighting. Do what you want.
exactly! if there's no pain theres no love. Pain of letting them go will let you know you truly love them
My love for those who have hurt me in the past never die. That doesn’t mean I’ll give them another chance at hurting me again. When I go silent it just means I’ve tried everything and nothing worked. I either don’t trust you anymore or I’ve lost hope in our relationship ever improving. I can never be ‘indifferent’ towards people I’ve once cared about, no matter how badly they’ve treated me. I can distance myself and pray for them from afar, though. God bless. 🙏
I am a female .. and I am done and checked out! Divorce ..nothing else I can possibly do with this narcissistic man. He has done too way too much verbally, mentally and physically. It will never change ..this is for God to fix/repair his trauma/brokeness. I pray he figures it out, but just not with me.
U speak about God but forget God doesn’t do divorce. Sometimes u have to play the cards u have been dealt. Patience and faith are so big in the Bible because they are important to proving to God how much u trust and believe in him. Don’t divorce. Divorce is not an option. Learn to love. God will fix the marriage on his time when he feels u guys are ready and have learned whatever it is about “unconditional love” that he is trying to teach u. God so loved the world(through all our sin) that he gave his only son for us. We are not perfect but Gid still loves us. That’s how marriage should be. Eventually he will bless you and things will get better. Keep the faith 🙏🏼
That's riiiiiiiiiggghhhhttttt! 👏🏽🙌🏽
@@bobbysupreme1he doesn’t want women to suffer with abuse of any form and especially physically , she is doing the right thing by Leaving
I prayed from before we were married.. this type of person will never change for a woman. Only the Almighty God can & WILL bring these types to they're KNEES.. but u gotta get outta there
@@bobbysupreme1 I disagree with you completely. Reasons for Christian divorce in my opinion:
Abuse-spouse/children
Cheating that goes on and doesn’t change
Violence
Profound and ongoing mental illness
Ongoing unrepentant addiction.
Each person lives their own walk with God and their spouse. Each situation is different. God allows some to leave and others stay. It’s a mystery and highly individual. God alone knows what your spouse is doing/not doing and who you are. Bless you. I wish all marriages could be healed and flourish but that is not my experience in this life. I would love to have the best for each but we are sinful and weak humans 🙏❤️
GOSPEL TRUTH. I saw a meme once that showed a man's clothes, and belongings thrown all over the front yard. The caption said; "This guy still has a chance" In the second picture the guy's clothes were folded neatly, and packed in boxes. That one said; "It's over, this guy is done". Once a woman gets to that point where you are no longer important enough for her to even get mad over, you're basically dead to her, as all the feelings that she once had for you are dead to. Best to just stop wasting your time, and move on.
Facts!
Indeed!! After 21 years of marriage- I didn’t just nearly fold and pack everything. I washed it all first. He asked if he could have my goose comforter off of my bed, I gladly gave him that as well; AND I helped him load everything in my jeep, drove him to his cousins house and carried much of his stuff up 4 or 5 flights of stairs. I WAS DONE!! Ten years later, I am STILL SO DONE!!
@@yahayrawho Good for you, most of the time people misinterpret your silence, and calmness as not being upset by them, and that all you need is time to cool off, and they can sneak back in. And while that IS true, that you are no longer upset, but ONLY because you're so over them, and their BS...that the feelings that you once had for them are dead and gone, and that you have no interest whatsoever in resurrecting them. One thing I've learned, and I'd like to HUMBLY advise everyone that has been through this, (male, or female) is to not dwell in the energy of what the past ex's put you through....you're wiser now, you've learned your lesson, and the LAST thing that you want to do is to unintentionally attract another person to you because you keep giving that same energy your attention. Let's instead concentrate on our ideal partner, and trust The Most High to bring Him/Her to us....and Also, don't forget to forgive yourself for allowing yourself to be mistreated and accepting less than you deserve...TRUST ME, I know, you thought that you could Love the BS out of them...like I said...lesson learned.
@@ionlycompetewiththewomaniw5429 well stated, and vital reminders for us all. Thank you. 💛🙏🏽⚔️
I’d be lying if I said that I don’t struggle with fully forgiving myself. I am still a work in progress, but I refuse to attract the same demon with a different name in a different body. I did date on and off six months after I got him out, for the first couple of years; under the terrible advice of the other narcissist that WAS in my life, my “dad.” I realized that I had to heal fully and the only way to do that was to finish raising my son and focus on ABBA/GOD, my obeisance to HIM and myself. I have not dated in about 8 years now. I KNOW that if it had not been for GOD’S mercy, grace, guidance, love, gifts of discernment and wisdom- I would not have made it out!! ALL praises and glory be to ABBA/FATHER.
@@yahayrawho Yeah, I know how that go...in my case it was my mother, and I started my healing journey about 6 years ago when I decided to not do Thanksgiving with my family. I've seen the woman who birthed me once in 6 years, and that's only because I ran into her at the gas station, and I handled it like a Boss, in my brand new car that was a gift from The Most High. I can HONESTLY say that the ONLY thing that I regret about cutting her out of my life is that I didn't do it sooner. Narcasist carry a poisioness energy that if you engage with them for too long will infect every part of your life. If you can't cut them completely off, limit your dealing with them as much as possible. And don't for one minute feel like you have to put up with them just because DNA gives them a title in your life. Maybe they are part of a Generational Curse that God is freeing you from, and they are MEANT to exit your life. But only The Most High can answer that For you, and she will if you ask for clarification. I'm still trying to forgive myself, I think for me that therapy is in order. I REFFUSE to be a bitter old lady like her.
Best Wishes....😘😘😘😘😘😘😘
Hate and love are not that far apart . Two sides of the same coin. Indifferent is 🗝
Yep! Walked away and left it ALL! I'm not arguing over a house, furniture or washing machines! I can buy more.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him?
His name is Fatherabulu , and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
He is Fatherabulu he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked he up now online. impressive
He's right. I stop caring and that's the point I want out. Once you get to that point nothing can be done.
If you're asking yourself if it's over, its probably over
Yea, smh and I’m the one that messed up.
😅
It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.
I'm facing significant relationship problems and can't stand the idea of losing him. My love and longing for my partner are profound, and I'm ready to do anything to restore our connection. I would greatly appreciate any advice or help you could give.
Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.
I'II quickly search for him online. Thank you.
I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; his absence is keenly felt.
I promise you will not regret it.
I just searched for Father Akunna online indeed he is a very generous man and the most powerful spell caster that I have ever seen he brought my husband back to me with so much love ❤
Most marriages are over but most couples just stay together for the kids and finical reasons!!!
Some marriages also stay together because one or both parties are too embarrassed to admit they're having problems and they want/need to separate.
Or familiarity… you’d be surprised how many people stay together “strictly” out of fear of being with someone new…
Many stay together because one of the partners is not able to sustain themselves & probably need his/ her medical insurance. Also some partners have Ben so devalued they have no self worth and believe there’s nothing they can do or even rebuild what they once had 😢
Sadly yes
@@EnoughSaid564oh no, wow I’m 44 and never been married, want to be married really bad now but I know it’s a beautiful thing but hearing some of these answers are really bad.
The power of indifference 🙌🏽! I did not understand the concept UNTIL I became indifferent towards my ex husband and when I say I left and did not look back 💯😂! I never thought it was possible! Gods grace, I never had soo much PEACE in my life ❤
Is there something he could do to get you back?
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Akunna, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father akunna, he has great powers, he can help you.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked Father Akunna online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤️
Yep i can feel myself getting to that point i cry less and less i smile more when I'm away from him than with him. Yep I'm bout done
Can’t no one tell you better than yourself. Consider, and/or tell, yourself to get & STICK with a game plan. Especially if you feel, or are, stuck in some kind of way. Stand up for yourself!! Anything dark, dims light 💡 🤔
***NO ONE should be able to control our emotions or have us feeling so down, sad, hurt, depressed, weighed,etc., OUTSIDE of ourselves.
Truth…when u fed up u literally do not care. You talk more reckless, you act more reckless, because your issues with them went too long without being discussed or addressed, til you want nothing to do with them because they could have took the opportunity to try to fix it but they didn’t so the caring person you were for them you cannot give them because they neglected the things you cared about longer then they should have, so it’s done & over at that point.
True, tue and true. You are living in my head.
Facts!!👍
I wish I could give you two thumbs up for the accuracy of your post.
If an issue went to long without discussed then you need to communicate the issue so people are aware of the topic that went to long without discussion. That's on you to bring up anything that bothers you cause quiet mouths don't get fed.
@@ISTAStala Trust I tried on my end but got shut down every time. It was like he ran from it not willing to talk it out & at times got furious over it . I gave up trying with him…
Women know a marriage or relationship is over loooooooong before the man does.
Yeah the problem is they always tell it late.
@@LEYTHLEGACY yeah that's because they're waiting for the dumbass man to go.
@@LEYTHLEGACY We want too see the change that's why we wait.
@@nikkig3799 it's a lose-lose, how are you supposed to change if you don't know the other person wants you to y'know.
Yes indeed. Mentally checks out before physically checking out of the relationship.
Mine still thinks it's a game...'she's quiet, but she'll talkto me eventually'....he has NO idea I really don't even have it in me to care anymore. A part of me feels like he already knows how our next conversation will end..because contrary to popular belief: Men are NOT stupid.
True words. The opposite of love is not hate. The opposite of love is indifference. When they don’t care, it’s over!
I poured my heart out to him and he just stood there and looked at me. I told him how I felt he had nothing to say. Didn’t even offer that cliche to change…
That's horrible, i can imagine the pain. I hope that was the last time you talked to him.
True! When I stop asking questions… IT IS OVER!!!
Indifferent, he's right about that. When that happens, she has weighed the relationship and formed a decision to leave.
IF A MAN CHEATS ON ME AND I FIND OUT, THERE IS NOTHING ELSE I CAN DO WITH THAT MAN. IT IS OVER! PLAIN AND SIMPLE! ASK MY EX'ES IF THEY GOT ME BACK AFTER F-ING UP ROYALLY!
Literally taking them back is another opportunity for them to prove to you why that was a stupid decision. Plus it’s not like you’ll ever trust the person the same. It’s fine to have a certain level of mistrust for strangers/ people not close to you. But for you partner that you’re intimate with…that’s emotional turmoil and a little saddistic- wakign up to a to constant reminder of betrayal- saddisitic.
Same! Nowhere to go from there but away from him!
💯 He can get married today...an I wouldn't care 😂
My sentiments exactly! The tramp he cheated on me with he can literally be with her and I could care less. He’s someone else’s stress now
Oprah Winfrey once said, 'The opposite of love is not hate. The opposite of love is indifference.' Agree 100%
Lol, funny 😅 to agree with someone else……. on someone else’s page 😅😶
I’ve given him almost 5 years of my life he went from my hero to zero, having no emotional commitment to me, ghosting, not even taking any interest in both myself or our daughter. I love him with all my heart, but now i gotta protect my little girl and i from the inconistency
I became comfortable in my own space after dating for 6 years i was going to marry her and she was ready as well but things changed when I gave her less time and attention because I was secured that she won't leave me and i always complaint when she asked for attention I thought it was childish and she left me i actually fucked up even more. She tells me to move on now 😢 I have tried everything in my power to get her back. She isn't dating anyone but she wants me to move on 😞 what's the best advice for me to win her back since I don't see myself with anyone.
u should give her attention,love and care buddy @@SentilongJamir777
I’m just here to say THIS IS THE TRUTH. When I stopped talking, it was truly over with
All facts. I’m tired. I don’t have any fight left and couldn’t care less what you do.💅
Can't hold on to someone who doesn't want to be held... Takes a lot to figure out 😢
I BELIEVE IN COMMUNICATION WHICH SOME MEN SAYING YOU ALWAYS WANNA TALK ABOUT THINGS AND I SAY WHEN I STOP TALKING YOU NEED TO BE WORRIED AS LONG AS I'M TALKING I'M TRYING TO WORK THINGS OUT WHEN I STOP TALKING FOR ME IT'S OVER LOL
indifference ...
%1000 FACTS
❤❤
When he doesn't give the attention and she won't get upset with anything, she ready to go.
So true. The opposite of LOVE isn't Hate....it's indifference......you called that right
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Akunna, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is Father Akunna, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive ❤️
Holding on is hard to do when love is gone.
And that’s no lie.
The biggest problem is when a man is blind to the facts that she no longer cares were there physically but mentally we checked out a long time ago , no fussing no cussing ,it's a wrap & they still think you won't leave we left a long time ago we just waiting for you to catch the drift!!
Hey ma’am I’ll like to get you match with my uncle he’s trying it so hard to be in a good relationship. He’s kind of calm and cool person it would be nice for you to know him..
@@tyasiamillender2817 awee I'm flattered but I'm in a relationship 🥰 I hope he find the right lady for him
@@gloriacarr2525 thanks ma’am 🫢
I never hang around for a man. If they chose the other woman, let them go. I don't even care.
Hey ma’am I’ll like to get you match with my uncle he’s trying it so hard to be in a good relationship. He’s kind of calm and cool person it would be nice for you to know him..
Hello beautiful ❤
When you are going through a breakup… work on yourself!! New hair, go to the gym loose weight! Make yourself shine!! I’m working on myself right now.
This happened to me...he said "I'm going to the gym," something inside of me said, "No he is not". I literally hunched my shoulders and said to myself, I dont care I'm glad he's gone. I moved out the next week.
Yes being lied to has a certain ring to it...
a certain vibe to it...
A womans intuition surpasses his lies and deceit...
You thought he was doing a different workout 😮
So true. Indifference is the end
Truth is...u know b4 it starts if you see red flags but chose to ignore them..that is truly life changing.
The most "dangerous" place to be. Once you stop caring they have no longer power over you and there is nothing they can do to convince you to stay.
A woman is done when she doesn’t want to work on the relationship anymore , and she gets on with her life with no contact .
this is true.. i actually struggled moving past my ex but i’ve realized she’s done and past it all. I recently reached out to her but she’s real distant now and seems that she gets on perfectly fine with no contact. It actually helped ease my mind a bit knowing she doesn’t think about me or what we use to have..
I totally agree if amworking at it I care but if I don’t care anymore it’s over.
When she's no longer arguing with you. Or words become limited... It's a wrap
Not true bc on social media she shit talks you
@@HelpMe-kj2khhe’s talking about in general- don’t be dense 😵
So true about it all but the gain vs the pressure not to lose is so spot on
Absolutely. The moment he lost the ability to disturb my peace (his presence/absence were the same), I knew he had to go.
it got to the point where I don't even care anymore. that's how bad the silent treatment got
I agree. I'm in this situation right now.
❤The Disrespect is the Closure ... 🚶♀️... bye 👋🏾....🚪
I got like that with my ex narcissist and he could not take it...when i cashed that check he checked out... God is good
May you continue to tell the story of how you overcome.🎉❤#exwife #narcissistabuseisreal #freeyourself
#Godisgood
@@trishag.971 Amen..
I remember at the beginning of my now ex and I relationship he was "just talking" to other girls he would ask me why am I getting so mad and I told him "the moment I stop getting jealous and upset that your talking or looking or looking other girls is the moment this relationship is dead". One day I caught him messaging his ex romantically and I didn't care, and I instantly knew we were over.
We are at that stage and just clinging on because we know what used to be was so great and can’t accept every thing we have lost and what has changed. It’s heartbreaking idk how to let go. You can see in all of our photos beginning to end the love and happiness fade it’s crazy. What once was a glow are now frowns, bags under our eyes, and weight loss from stress. But yea it’s at the I don’t even care what she does point.
Going through it now, messing up one time you can get over but repeatedly NOPE
Facts, like if he jump off the cliff and you could care less it’s over
When I don't want to be intimate anymore, It's a wrap
I just had this convo today. Men go through the same thing when you don't care no more it's time to go.
This is me, I'm so fed up I have just stop caring. It's getting me know where.
My soon to be ex husband is doing everything he can to make me feel that way again... NOPE Idgaf anymore
Hate and love are not that far apart 💔!! That's wisdom
He said I shut down. No, I just didn't give a shit anymore & wasn't giving him my energy again.
When a women become silence and block and cut u off they are done and gone 💯💯 when you sabotage that relationship why should the person stay 🤷♀️
When you don't care as long as you can live in peace for a change
Hey ma’am I’ll like to get you match with my uncle he’s trying it so hard to be in a good relationship. He’s kind of calm and cool person it would be nice for you to know him..
@@tyasiamillender2817 That is so sweet of you to say. I wish your uncle the best, maybe when he stops trying it will happen for him💝
@@jessa555 thanks ma’am, you married?
The moment I feel I can’t trust someone it’s over .. and I’m not looking back .
Hey ma’am I’ll like to get you match with my uncle he’s trying it so hard to be in a good relationship. He’s kind of calm and cool person it would be nice for you to know him..
Trust can be rebuilt…
What indifference this it, My man stayed out all night, I greeted him at the door this morning and said good morning because I don't give a damn, it's over!😂😂😂😂😂 He find out in a couple of weeks because I'm gone!
He is lucky 🍀
@dingdong6005 Nah.. he's unlucky..because when it gets to that point, he's no longer my man..And don't even realize it
@@dingdong6005 no I'm lucky I made shit double! It's just good to the soul to stay off of drugs!😂
He's 100% right. I'm not afraid of losing my husband, I'm not afraid of making him mad anymore. I'm tired of constantly fighting for air... of constantly being blamed for everything and anything... im tired of a complete lack of reciprocity and his round the clock anger, contempt and withdrawing of love & support and him watching me struggle and never ever even exercising empathy and expecting me to do things that he is unwilling or unable to do perfectly right out of the gate with no support. Why are we even together? He acts like he hates me 99% of the time.
I totally agree with you it doesn't matter what they do has no effect on you indifference is when your done
Yep! After being ignored for so long I walked away. Wasn’t crying over it anymore. I was totally 100% indifferent to whether I heard from them or not
Like when U find out they're narcissists..Run for your life, ain't got time for that!!!🙄
Girl, you can say that again!!! 👏 💯
Run before it's too late
The thing is that when we are indifferent, it's not an act to manipulate you to act a certain way. That indifference is legit real and there's no turning back from that point. No matter what you do.
A PERSON WILL LET YOU WHEN A
RELATIONSHIP IS OVER. IT'S UP TO YOU TO PAY ATTENTION!!!
Their actions towards you is going to be indifferent, this is when you know you might have to move on or out.
This is so true I told my ex- husband this very calmly! Then I came home packed my suitcase and my baby diaper bag took him and left and never came back! That was 8 years ago! #divorcedhisass he still shocked 😳
🙏🏽 amen glad u didn't have more with him whew u dodged that 👏🏽
True Facts! When it goes to to far, and the disrepect is to much!
Thats when you're done! Its no turning back from that!✌️🤨
I’m 1000 feet deep in indifference😂 I don’t give 1 fook anymore.
Me either 😂
On point . I ended a 30-year marriage after he committed ongoing adultery, and I was indifferent and clear on my decision. Waiting for a divorce trail.
Why does it cut offffffffff I wanted to hear the eeennndd 🤣
The rest……, Mr. Coach…, we need the ending. ❤🙏🏾
👣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
It how they make you go look for it lol
Nothing like a scorned woman, IT'S OVER!! no contact ❤
I'll leave WITHOUT warning! I know my worth & my sanity means everything to me! Ain't no getting me back once I'm done! I don't want your time, money & keep those ugly ass flowers for the next one✌️
😂😂😂😂😂
Bahahahaha not the ugly ass flowers...im dead 😂🤣
@@lala5061 😂😂😂😂 I'm dead ass💯💯
This made me laugh no lie 😂😂
I just got flowers for my now ex girlfriend tryna save the relationship but to no avail
When a woman is fed up, she has been more then generous with her patience.. men dont understand that they need to be accountable for the mess-ups and actually become proactive into making changes. Otherwise it will eventually drive the woman away.
Yep that is true Men become irrelevant when you are done with them
Shit. When i become indifferent. I’m done. And that’s usually when im at capacity.
As long as theres any kind of emotions there still a chance. But no emotions of any kind.. it’s dead 💀 , bye ✌🏼
NOPE..FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT...AND BE ON YOUR WAY OUT..WHEN IT'S DONE..IT'S DONE
You speak the truth. Man cheated on his wife
As soon as the youngest left home 14 years later the wife filed for divorce. He said he thought she forgave him and she blindsided him. He didnt see her indifference as the end. 14 years ago she stopped caring where he went, changed her sheets daily and jey had sex 3 times a YEAR maybe! But he didnt know the marriage was dead. He didnt understand indifference. He thought he had her where he wanted while she just put the children first.
Good for her 👏🏾
Yes. I was completely indifferent to my ex husband, he pushed me too far and then some. Best thing I ever did was divorce him. My life is amazing now❤
Yes indifferent for sure. I truly wanted it to work but when you're tired you just tired. We want to be with a provider one who knows priorities, we want to feel safe. Come on it does Not take that long
to get yourself together. My last visit was my last my feelings changed instantly. I can just love him from a distance but a relationship no no no its over.