Think before you speak, hacking the secret of communication | Catherine Molloy | TEDxEnniskillen

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  • you might think that you have communicated, however have you really? this talk explores the impact communication can have both negative and positive and how we can hack conscious communication. Author, Executive Leadership Coach, Communication, Body & Energy Language Expert
    Talks about leadership, body language, communication, keynote speaker, and emotional intelligence This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @smyrnasstory
    @smyrnasstory ปีที่แล้ว +100

    “Thoughtless speech is like the stabs of a sword, but the tongue of the wise is a healing”

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I love this ❤ thank you for sharing

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      😊

    • @Abundance01
      @Abundance01 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Proverbs 12:18

    • @travisarmour8709
      @travisarmour8709 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

      um, no it's not. Not even close. Silly, meaningless sentiment

  • @shelaghbrennand348
    @shelaghbrennand348 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    This is brilliant. It seems such a simple thing to do - conscientiously communicate - but clearly it’s not! Catherine delivered such an important message so perfectly.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Appreciate 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️agree
      If it was simple communicating wouldn't still be the number 1 most needed skill !

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes such a little thing that makes a big difference ❤

  • @lanhuongnguyen9988
    @lanhuongnguyen9988 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you so much❤❤❤❤

  • @user-fm2yw1gd1v
    @user-fm2yw1gd1v ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you, Catherine, for highlighting the importance of conscious communication and sharing your story and knowledge. I value your insights and appreciate you bringing awareness to such an important subject that impacts us all.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you Vikki . Yes being aware of our self talk mixed with our non verbal can make all the difference ❤.

  • @demipaterson
    @demipaterson ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Such fantastic information, I love the power of three!

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks Demi ! 😊 the power of 3 The tools we've all been given!

  • @bredamccaguemotivationalsp6732
    @bredamccaguemotivationalsp6732 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Brilliant TedX Catherine 🌟🌟🙌🙌

  • @HassanYounes-official
    @HassanYounes-official ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great TEDx talk...Very relevant to our times.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes, when we make up stories for others, it often ends in confusion... always best to check in! 😊

  • @beverleyhenderson5956
    @beverleyhenderson5956 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Amazing, thank you!!

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 ปีที่แล้ว

      Glad you enjoyed! Looking for more win wins in life x

  • @JanaSzIsBasicGlitch
    @JanaSzIsBasicGlitch 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Yep... Gonna need that one.

  • @vaibhav02
    @vaibhav02 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I like the new perception towards misdirection and with a great example

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you. We had a lot of issues with slides not starting, etc, but we kept going and hoping the message would come through!

  • @Roberto_wisdomworld
    @Roberto_wisdomworld 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Amazing speech Cath ❤🙌 thank you for sharing your wisdom🙏🙏🌺💝

  • @hulamei3117
    @hulamei3117 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Needed this !

  • @rosminazuchri9090
    @rosminazuchri9090 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I am Rossy. This vidio very interesting n.helpful to learn communication in English. Thanks

  • @MondayMorningActivation
    @MondayMorningActivation ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great content. Always learning from your content.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you.... like is a wonderful lesson! Xxx

  • @kirankumar-hg5fd
    @kirankumar-hg5fd ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Just loved it😍

  • @transelite
    @transelite ปีที่แล้ว +2

    love it!

  • @prakashkumaroneworld
    @prakashkumaroneworld ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Catherine , this is amazing stuff. knowingly or unknowingly we are a victim of mis-communication or missing the context of conscious communication. Thank for bringing such an important aspect of daily life. I truly agree conscious communication brings domino effect and high productivity. Once again thank you.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Appreciate 🙏🏻 thank you for taking the time to share!

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

  • @brightsideperspectives991
    @brightsideperspectives991 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    “The response is everything.“

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Absolutely 😊 nailed it... reflect respond

  • @garybriandoherty7299
    @garybriandoherty7299 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love it

  • @moseshmoses5074
    @moseshmoses5074 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    thank you, I thought I was just going crazy. I've always thought of communication in the same manner. I am glad I've found this video.❤

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You're so right ✅️ miscommunication does drive you crazy 🤪 😮😊... so glad it resonated x thank you for sharing.

  • @clementosea.8294
    @clementosea.8294 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    An interesting topic this is, and was well presented.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Appreciate how easily we miscommunicate. The number one problem in all businesses and life. Just bringing some consciousness to our own language. Thank you

  • @kimanhxmt5668
    @kimanhxmt5668 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Good share

  • @adnangan7639
    @adnangan7639 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    terimakasih bu atas ilmunya

  • @orvilleraposo7760
    @orvilleraposo7760 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    We must be aware of the unconscious, that which is outside our consciousness because unconscious thoughts emotions behaviors attitudes biases inclinations cause us to trip. We can be mindful only when we are conscious of the unconscious, that which is outside of our consciousness, all that is automatic and conditioned like our reflex actions anger and our very nature... Once we become conscious of the unconscious we can become mindful and conscious and aware.. And live deliberately.. Consciously.. Mindfully.. With awareness and translate that into conscious communication

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Wow, you nailed that ❤😊 an aussie expression 👏... you got that right !

  • @user-ng4xp2ri5s
    @user-ng4xp2ri5s 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    hmnnn!!! Bravo 👏🏼 @Catherine for your presentation dear., yet in my opinion, WE are Not D Same individually. 1st Some pple will spite at U or even frown when u Smile at them, some will totally decide to go opposite just Nevis they are wired that Way. U making an excuse for yr husbands inability to have communicated his concern in a more gentle ñ verbal way rather than a smack ñ also communicating certain morales to a certain demographic may turn out to be a new schooling on yr Psyche altogether Nevis of Cultural beliefs but A BIG tHANKS to U for I did Learn somethings from yr Talk maam

  • @antandshell
    @antandshell หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    "Would you like to change lanes " is still a trigger. Let him drive, he doesn't want your help.

  • @kimberlykane7065
    @kimberlykane7065 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Like being in a bad therapy session this Ted talk

    • @maggiemaynard6199
      @maggiemaynard6199 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      She's got the right ideas but could present it better. The intro story went on for too long...

  • @LarryP248
    @LarryP248 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    The content here is extraordinary. Reading a book on the same subject was a transformative experience for me. "Mindful Mastery: Living Intentionally in a Chaotic World" by Kyle Ash

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That's awesome thank you for sharing.
      My book was traditionally published with international rights being sold to UK and they made it business book of the year in 2018. The Million Dollar Handshake. If you get a chance to read it I hope you enjoy it ! 😊

  • @ekene626
    @ekene626 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Love the story, but why would tensing up, make someone upset.

  • @SumitGupta-so3jv
    @SumitGupta-so3jv ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Good

  • @kazukisaita8111
    @kazukisaita8111 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Sorry I didn’t exactly get what she wanted to tell me because of my English, Could anyone tell me the main point of this Ted talk briefly if it’s possible 🙏
    As far as I know, before taking action, people might as well think second thoughts so that we can take away the miscommunication

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Hello 👋
      we react before we speak ... if we think about the action we just did ...eg the talk and me leaning back ... then used our words to match eg. Do you need to change lanes? ...Then you would decrease the amt of miscommunication you have in life. You see what we think isn't always right ! We need to be more conscious in the present . 🎁

    • @kazukisaita8111
      @kazukisaita8111 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@catherinemolloy1
      Thank you for your help!! It’s pretty much straightforward and good examples! I truly appreciate it

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@kazukisaita8111 miscommunication is the number one biggest problem in all businesses and housholds today . Yet the solution is simple. We need to be present /conscious of our actions and think about our responses in the moment. Thank you for your response:)

    • @LLMTECHSTORIES
      @LLMTECHSTORIES ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ​@@catherinemolloy1 thank you for this video, conscious communication. How do I practice this? Should I prepare myself before hand? Or just before doing any action, think. How to put this into practice daily? 13:53

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes, it's about being present and conscious of our thoughts, which domino into actions and words. Sometimes, we need to explain our actions so as to not confuse the other person !

  • @YasminYoruba
    @YasminYoruba 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I think so intellectually but I can’t say what it is I am thinking 😢

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Interesting isn't it ... One part of our commuication is just being aware of our micro expressions, and what we are thinking to help avoid miscommunication , however, you may find writing it out first will help you when delivering what it is you want to say. x

  • @user-dj4bx2tk4k
    @user-dj4bx2tk4k 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    bro this is literally me

  • @CB19087
    @CB19087 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    My communication is a mess. I've used humour all my life to avoid showing up authentically. Sometimes I say things that sound abusive and I think why? Why did you say that??

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Wow that’s great that you know this ❤ first step to being more conscious and present is understanding you. I know it's not easy, but practice will get you there. Cheering you on 🎉

  • @ibeshkhadka
    @ibeshkhadka 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Don't just assume what they want to say from their behaviour communicate properly...!

  • @vlogons
    @vlogons ปีที่แล้ว +1

    how can i improve my English any body can talme. because I'm learning English language...

    • @smirkfanta5535
      @smirkfanta5535 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      1. Watch movies
      2. Read books
      3. PRACTICE speaking with someone
      And the third point is the most important

  • @1minute.everyday923
    @1minute.everyday923 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    JESUS LOVES YOU ALL ❤️

  • @JeffGoldberg-bx2tv
    @JeffGoldberg-bx2tv 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    She just kept repeating herself for 14 minutes

    • @MobileZoneel
      @MobileZoneel 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      She share her own experience with us and i think it's best ever in ted talk

    • @risimahlongwani1103
      @risimahlongwani1103 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Fr she was just yapping for the first 10mins

  • @travisarmour8709
    @travisarmour8709 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    pretty basic stuff, not sure why all the praise here - are people generally this naive about this stuff?

  • @CourtneyW-jr6fx
    @CourtneyW-jr6fx 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    In the words of the Bush famuly wouldnt be pertinent Mac

  • @ottomaan1186
    @ottomaan1186 ปีที่แล้ว

    you dont need ted for whining about the personal stuff. primitive

  • @gami195
    @gami195 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Wasted 14 minutes of my life, not a good talk.

    • @creep_919
      @creep_919 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Agreed.

  • @shaileshyerekar9746
    @shaileshyerekar9746 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Ye kaisi eng h sab mere sir ke upar se gaya😂

  • @SJT929496
    @SJT929496 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    She seems like she’s in an abusive relationship if she knows her husband is mad by how hot he is. He went off on her for nothing and she blames herself which is classic victim mentality.

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Interesting point. Everyone has energy language, and not a lot of people tune into it. As an expert in the field, I read this well. Communication is the number one biggest problem on the planet. So I took this small example to show you how quickly you miscommunicate through making up incorrect stories for each other. If you can take that away maybe you can make a difference with your family friends and teams. 45% of marriages end in divorce 90% of these are registered due to miscommunication.

    • @GretchenV95
      @GretchenV95 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Especially after that many years of marriage? Surely he’d understand her habits and body language by this point. 😅

    • @catherinemolloy1
      @catherinemolloy1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Now you know why there is so much miscommunication people react in a nano second before they consciously think. That is the point of this. To stop and bring more consciousness to your life. Communication is the key to business and life successes and failures!

  • @user-ko2tu3ss3o
    @user-ko2tu3ss3o ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Boring. And the cause of much 2nd hand embarrassment.