How To Speak: 3 Secrets To Increase Your Personal Impact | Richard Newman | TEDxUniversityofBristol
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How can you increase your personal impact, influence and connection? Discover the science and secrets of storytelling, body language and heart led communication, which Richard Newman has been exploring for over 40 years. Learn about Richard’s journey from being an introverted, autistic child, to living in a Tibetan monastery, studying acting and creating unique research. Richard Newman is a communication coach, an award-winning speechwriter, and author of the books ‘You Were Born To Speak’ and ‘Lift Your Impact’. He is the Founder of UK Body Talk, coaching clients worldwide to enhance their business storytelling and personal impact. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
As a fellow TEDx speaker, massive congratulations Richard. I remember reading the monk story in your first book, You Were Born to Speak which I absolutely love. This is a valuable talk and superb storytelling
Thanks so much Niraj! I appreciate your support!
His call to use our voices to bring people together and "tilt the world in a positive direction" was kind of wonderful. It makes me want to be more deliberate about connecting with others through how I communicate.
I loved how genuine he was and how he didn't try to sound all fancy or formal. Being real like that is super important for making true connections, just like he talked about.
The breakdown of how storytelling, body language, and emotional presence can be merged to improve personal impact was very insightful. It's amazing how simple adjustments in nonverbal cues can drastically change perception.
Yes, and it makes it all the more easier when we're aware of it
Richard Newman is the absolute man! Such an inspiration . A wealth of knowledge, and great mind .
Next level Richard , killing it!
Thanks so much Zac! I gave it my all!
Loved how he explained the Triune brain theory and how it relates to storytelling and communication. Making complex scientific concepts accessible is a true skill!
Thanks Taylor! Yes my goal is to make everything simple and straightforward for everyone.
His approach to communication as an autistic person really strikes a chord, it's good for people to have this kind of insight
Thank you Colin 🙏
From struggling to connect as a child to teaching monks and studying acting is very cool.
The personal story of overcoming communication barriers as someone who is introverted and autistic gives so much hope and inspiration to others facing similar challenges. Glad he was given the opportunity and platform to share his story and advice.
Thanks so much, glad you liked it!
Definitely, I have an autistic grandchild so seeing things like this is very reassuring
Loved how he talks about being open and brave and how it helps us make genuine connections. It's tempting to stay guarded and keep things shallow, but he's right - taking a chance on being rejected is worth it to feel fully alive and connected.
So glad this resonated with you!
Same, I thought this was so wonderful and brave on his behalf
Wow the bit about going to live with the monks and teach them english is actually so clever. So much of communication is non-verbal, makes sense that it was such a valuable experience
It's an amazing thing for anyone to do, let alone an introverted autistic person
That moment when he described his first day at school was heartbreaking but so powerful in understanding his journey.
Thank you Katya 🙏🏻
@@liftretreat9821 , you are so welcome...
The part where he talked about the emotional masks we wear and the importance of vulnerability in genuine connections really struck a chord with me. It's crazy how much closer to someone you can feel once you've shared a moment that's rooted in being vulnerable
So true! Thank you.
His explanation of the head, hands, heart model is a game-changer for public speakers. Well done to him on going to such lengths to understand and improve himself.
Thanks Holly! Glad it resonated with you!
Yes! To everyone I think, not just public speakers.
I really like how you talked about being a great speaker not just as a skill, but like it's a way to bring people together. It gives it a real sense of purpose beyond just personal success.
Really appreciate how he demystifies the art of communication with clear, actionable steps.
Thank you , glad you enjoyed it!
One of my grandkids is Autistic and I'm glad for people like Richard who are paving the way for younger people to have less difficult experiences with it. He's in his teens now and the way he jokes about it and allows other people to have fun with it is such a relief compared to how we thought things would be for him
Thanks! I’m glad you found this useful. It’s so important that we talk openly about these things, to help others.
Yes, same! And at first I'll admit I felt so heartbroken, thinking about how much harder life is going to be for them this talk and your comment gives me hope though, he's still a child but to think it isn't actually as big of a deal these days in terms of acceptance is really wonderful
3:45 I get this, connection is everything🥰🥰🥰
Thanks for emailing this JP, wonderful - means a lot going through what I am.
Thanks so much, yes connection is so important! We need this to thrive!
You could tell this topic wasn't just something he thought about academically, but a lifelong journey that came from personal pain. There's just so much emotion in it, it makes the importance of his message come through so strongly
Thank you 🙏
Yes, he really speaks from his experiences and it is a testament to the power of perseverance and self growth.
It’s incredible how small changes in body language can influence how others perceive and react to you!
So true!
Wow, I'm speechless in a good way. This has truly gone right to the heart of things. You may have heard these secrets before in different ways, though never like this. Definitely he walks the talk, exactly in what he's talking about. The best of all is his recommendation on what to drop. So worth watching, and more than once!
Thanks so much! I appreciate your message and feel grateful this connected with you.
Pretty awesome that he got to teach english in a tibetan monastery like that has to have been an epic experience
Yes! How amazing that would have been for him
Yes - it was life defining for me!
Such a brilliant talk 🗣️ that needs to be seen by everyone. I loved the tip on standing and especially the palms up and palms down concept. So simple yet crazily effective!!
The idea of conversations being like a 12-lane highway totally made sense to me haha. As an introvert, I could really relate to that. I'm happy he figured out how to join in and make himself heard, especially by using things like acting techniques, I thought that part was really clever
I appreciate the practical advice on storytelling and engaging an audience effectively.
A simple practice for a complicated life, I needed this today; thank you, Richard!
Thanks! Yes my aim was to keep this simple and easy for everyone to benefit from.
Great talk from a dedicated speaker and teacher! So thankful for the work you’ve done to help us all be better communicators!
Thanks so much!!
Acting as a tool to learn communication? That's a fresh perspective I hadn't considered.
It was a game changer for me!
The scientific backing really strengthens his points on body language and communication effectiveness! Well done on putting it all together in a way that makes sense
I appreciate that!
Thanks for such an inspirational speech, Newman.
The 12 lane highway thing absolutely resonated with me. I have talking over people or being talked over so if I'm in a group setting that's more than like 2 other people I just won't make any conversation.
Oh wow I can't believe he got teased so early on. I was also brutaIIy teased all throughout grade school and well into my teens but I remember the first couple of years of school were actually nice. Like everyone got along, there wasn't that mean kid buIIy vibe yet.
The idea that storytelling is what makes humans the dominant species is so interesting... I've never heard or thought that.
Love this! Thank you for sharing your insights Richard. Inspiring!
Thanks so much Jemma! I appreciate your support!
That shove experiment was funny! It showed how even small changes in posture can make you seem more confident and powerful. I'm definitely keeping my feet shoulder-width apart from now on
Oh boy when he talks about conversation being like a 12 line super highway I just had this memory of a guy I worked with who would very awkwardly jump into conversations exactly like that. It was only as he was leaving that I found out he had Asperger's and now here I am years later realizing what things are like for people on the spectrum.
What an amazing talk….. I learned so much..! Thank you for your vulnerability and expertise.. you’ve communicated your knowledge beautifully! ❤
Thanks so much! So pleased that you liked it!
I was fully expecting everyone to fall over with the shoulder push!! 😂
Yeah I can relate to the group conversation thing and I'm not even Autistic 😅
I'm wondering how much of what he taught would work in different cultures. Obviously, body language norms can be different, but the main ideas about storytelling and connecting from the heart seem like they'd apply pretty much everywhere.
Yes body language varies from one culture to the next, but many fundamentals of communication stay the same!
I'm curious if the body language techniques work equally well on video calls/virtual settings nowadays? or if there are specific tips for better online presence. Would've been cool if he addressed that too.
Had to laugh around the 6:35 mark, yes it's definitely all the same story
Had to laugh at the way he talks about getting into acting, I can imagine it would have been a massive breakthrough in terms of the "how to" side of interacting.
What how old is this dude? Talkin about 40 years of this and decades of that but he doesn't even look 40...
Damn 17 stages of a journey? I thought it was just, introduction, conflict, development, resolution 😂😂
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I wonder if he had to endure a lifetime of people saying, "Hello, _Newman_"
I did like it but I've got to be honest that there was very little new information for me. All the points he made I have both read about, seen (on TED talks - Amy Cuddy) and used over the last 25 years. I don't want to belittle Richard - I am sure he is a great communicator - but I did get the impression that he wasn't being totally truthful with what he was saying (on your knees, sobbing...really?). Also, and I know that this is a delicate point, but he seems a very functional autistic person.
Your response is disappointing. I shared openly and honestly. There were people in the audience who were with me on the day that I was on my knees sobbing and trying speak through the tears. I was reluctant to share this, but they encouraged me to be vulnerable about what happened. I wonder why you are so quick to be cynical? Perhaps my autistic delivery, simply saying it like it is, meant that you felt it didn't ring true to the way neurotypical people would explain this story? Regarding autism, every person appears different - it's important to avoid being so quick to judge. And yes, I have gathered together lots of information from various sources to bring them together in one place to help people who need this information, as well as sharing our own unique published research that will have provided new information for everyone. I encourage you to find a way to be more open, less cynical and more supportive of people in your life.
@@richardnewmanspeaks I am sorry Richard that I have appeared to be quick to judge and I am sorry that you feel I have questioned your honesty - and I suppose therefore your credibility. I honestly didn't mean to offend. I totally understand that there is a wide spectrum of autism (I work with some autistic people in the field of communication), I just felt your mentioning of it was a little throw-away. I am really sorry if this offended you. I get your newsletter in my inbox and I was really looking forward to your presentation so maybe my expectations were too high. Again, I am sorry. I have to be honest though that I don't appreciate your last last sentence...telling me that I have to be more open and less cynical and more supportive of people in my life!! I have 30 years of professional experience being supportive and a whole life experience of altruism with people I care for.
@@richardnewmanspeaks I do agree though that after reading my first comment I did sound a little catty! Ignore me and keep speading your great message - everyone can give powerful, persuasive and passionate public presentations!!
@@jonathanrogerson2006 Thanks Jonathan, I really appreciate your response and your reflections on this! Thanks also for sharing about your commitment to altruism. That's great to hear. Wishing you all the best.
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Love what he said about the power of story, spot on!!