Storytime: Dating a narcissist was literally killing me
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Isn’t it crazy how after you’ve healed and look back at what you tolerated, you can’t believe what you put up with?
OMG YEESSS
Yep, and then I thank Jesus for removing me from that hell ‼️💯.
Absolutely
I literally told my friend that when I look back at what I tolerated it makes me sick 🤢 to my stomach
@@RoyalKissez59 me too. its embarrassing what i accepted lol
‼️‼️‼️‼️Never take what a narcissist does personally‼️‼️NEVER‼️‼️‼️
THEY MISTREAT EVERYONE‼️‼️‼️
“HE NEVER LIKED ME..”‼️ THEY DONT LIKE ANYONE… NOT-EVEN THEMSELVES‼️‼️
Amen
Absolutely
Exactly. Trying to put down someone telling them he never liked you. Honey he doesn’t even like himself‼️
And no one likes them. They tend not to have many long term friends or family that want to be around them because they are POISON.
This comment right here 💯
They never buy gifts….. yet will accept gifts 🎁…. Or you’ll see them buy gifts 🎁 & go all the way out for somebody else in your face but can’t be bothered to do anything for you!
Mines was the opposite. He was very generous especially after his episodes
So true
😂omg...that is so true. My NEX didn't like Christmas,but didn't turn down the Christmas gifts.😅 Funny
Ha mine said no holidays but celebrated everyone while saying they are "the white man" holidays@@mostHigh23
Yesss
They dont break your heart. They break your soul
THAT PART!!!!
Facts........... Revelation
So true
Dam
What i learned from my situation is that narcissist are demons..they are the devil himself
Definitely😅
It.s simply evil. It.s either full.possesion or demonic infestation
Or working closely with his brothers to take you down. Dont let them touch you
💯💯
Yes indeed!
They use your trauma against you for sure. They are sick sick people
Yes.. I learned my lesson . Never tell them what you been through because they will definitely use it against you
Never tell a man about the stripping. They will always be jealous of your money and want to steal it from you while making you feel less than for doing it.
Facts
This!
@@Tmonroe32_😮😢😮😢
The sex never is THAT good. It’s psychological. You start to believe it’s amazing because it’s the only “genuine” connection you have with this person. The gaslighting and emotional manipulation always leaves you a wreck. Anyway, love to you girl. In my healing journey.
THIS! 🙌🏾🙌🏾✔️👌🏾
Amen 🙌🏾🙏🏾 Facts and Truth
💯
Sex with mine was trash! His dick was limp. And sex always felt so disconnected and awkward. I only liked sex with him cuz I appreciated the intimacy that I rarely got from him.
Yes! I realized it wasn't actually good at all bc that narc didn't even love me. I was just being used as a sexual vending machine
I almost lost my life to a narcissist, up I was depressed and suicidal. I barely made it out alive, no lie it was the hardest 3 years of my life.
This man broke me down, had a baby that he lied about for a year and still denied being that child’s father, like he was just stand up guy that was going to be there for a child even it wasn’t him, I gave that man my last but I could never come to him when I needed help, never paid me back, 1 of his baby mama’s jumped me, I had to press charges and this nigga wouldn’t even give me her address so I could have her served , he didn’t love me at all now that I think about him. I prayed my way out of that relationship. A total scrub
I'm glad you are still here!
🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🫂
Thank God you made it out. 🙏🏿🙏🏿
🙌🏽🙏🏾❤️
A narcissist is nothing but a demonic evil person that has been possessed by an evil spirit! and that’s exactly what you were dealing with..
Oh my gosh 😲
Very demonic!😮
Absolutely
Jezebel spirit
NEVER GIVE A MAN MONEY RULE #1
NEVER EVER EVER EVER AGAIN!!! I learned my lesson !!! 😮💨
@@Ki.CherelleLifeyou a beautiful and smart and can help other avoid this pitfall 😊 from your experience
@@Ki.CherelleLifeThank you for this video!!!! So many parts of your story sound like mine. When you try to explain this to someone that has never dealt with a narc, they think that you can just leave the person alone and go on. It's not that easy. Until you have actually dealt with one, you really don't know the pain and the struggle. I'm like you, I don't wish this on my enemy, seriously!!! Do you have an email? I just need someone that can relate to vent to.
Omg!!!!!
Always give it 2 the pimpin ,
not a mere man(monkey) ,
there is a big difference , .
Good story though , . . . ???
“They know how to make you feel good, but feel bad at the same time”. Wow, that one brought back a flood of memories.
Yes it did whew I know that feeling !
mhmmm chi 😂 the pleasure and hurt he gave me
Breakups with narcissists are the most devastating thing to go through. You question your entire reality. I damn near thought I was going to go crazy. Never experienced that with anyone before. It hits so harshly different. Thank you for sharing your story. I totally relate.
I was going through all this until yesterday I had to call it a quit forever.G...I was in love..four damn years.
@Healthmatters254 I'm so sorry. It was 7 years for me. Finally, I decided to turn away for good when he started making disparaging comments about my body. I had nothing left in me for him to destroy. It was time to go matter how painful and regain my self-worth.
Yeah I was discarded by one in 2007 and whilst I recovered, I am hyper independent.
He deleted and blocked me, wouldn't speak to me. Brought home another woman a week later and was banging her upstairs....
Yes, we lived in the same house share.
It nearly broke me, but I recovered and later on remembered that he'd asked me for money and I'd said no 😂😂😂
After a month, he moved in with this poor woman
This is why you do not help men. Narcissistic or not. Stop saving these men. Let them do it on their own. If you can hustle and make things happen for yourself, he should be able to do that as well. They will treat you like a stranger on the street when they decide they don't want you anymore.
Exactly 💯. I wish a man would try to live off of me or ask me for money. He'll be in for a very rude awakening.
Truth!!!! NEVER help men! It only backfires BAD!
Exactly I've never helped a man in my life because I seen what other women go through. And never tell them your trauma. They'll use it against you....
How crazy they can switch from loving into complete stranger, this clown 🤡 needs to be in the Islands of clown. Never have access to real human.
Women are NARCISSIST TOO... 😂😂😂
Yes, I learned. Never tell anyone your trauma unless they deserve to hear it. They will use it to be superior over you.
This statement.
They are into witchcraft with familiar spirits.they already know
If a man falls on hard times he needs to ask another man for money and figure it out. Any man that feels comfortable living off a woman is not masculine in my eyes. Doesn’t matter how big, strong or tall he is. Its an instant turn off.
Tell em again! 😂
Factsssss
🏆👏🙏🏾
Facts
Especially taking from a single mom.
Narcissists Hate the word No or taking any accountability. They see you using your voice as an attack. They will flip everything on you once you try to hold them accountable. I am proud of you for taking a stand & getting out. I've been free from the narc since 2019 and began my healing journey. The PTSD is real . I found my voice again an turned my pain into power I wrote an entire album about the journey. I see you and I'm proud of you . You are Deserving of Healing. I am Proud of you for Taking your Power Back.
Yes. For me, I'll purposely say no to get a reaction...that tells me what I need to know right away. I test everyone!
Where can I hear the album?
I can truly relate. It really took me a while to heal, the whole experience took so much energy from me.
@@KushQueen9 Same I didn't realize how physically sick I looked until I took my power back and restored all my energy back to me . I am proud of myself that I am healed enough to even talk about the experience. I literally was afraid to speak up for like a year.
@@StushgyalTV My Album is Available everywhere on every streaming platform Globally. I pray that it assists you on your healing journey. You are deserving of Healing, Healthy LOVE , you are deserving of taking your power back .
Narcissist are attracted to empath people with big, beautiful heart such as yourself I’m so grateful that you’ve learned your worth and love yourself through this narcissistic relationship.🙏🏽❤🙏🏽
Yea because a lot of ppl don’t make it out period it’s a crime in some parts of Europe for narcissistic abuse up to 20 yrs. Yet can’t be here.
@@sexygabby30Wow. Now that’s strange why not here (assuming you mean the US)?
No they not they attracted to anyone who they can use. They will use anyone empath or not.
@@empress4965they do tend to target Empaths as we often seek to help and understand people which the Narcissistic person will abuse and exploit. That’s why Boundaries are a must!!
My husband had me competing with his side chick and after a few years I finally siad good by. And it was one of the best decisions I have made in 20 years
Good for you. My ex narc husband escalated from one side chick to sleeping with prostitutes! Thank God he divorced me.
@@danilaroche1156😨🙏🏾💕Chileee glad you made it out.
Good for you!
Yes! Good for you !
@@danilaroche1156my story... 16yo- 37yo and its finally hitting ME.. to God be the glory 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Yesssss.. They HATE FOR YOU TO DO BETTER THAN THEM! Sleeping with the ENEMY!
Facts !!! I recently started a business to help empower women break free of narcissistic abuse and the guy I was dating before I broke up with him I asked him is he gonna support my business and his response was “no! Cause you never support me , so I asked what is it that you do ? And he quickly shut up . 🥴😂
When you ready to leave, always leave in silence. No warnings.
All narcissists wants to build and have trauma bonds not love bonds they don't believe in love.
All this. They don't know love, where never taught. They collect people (through toxic attachments) so they can toy with them.
My narc always asked what's wrong all the time even when nothing wrong. It made me feel insecure but also he was guaging me because he was doing dirt and wanted to see what I know or what I was thinking
He was insecure and projecting onto you
Same here 😅
Mine would do that too, or tell me to relax. It started to feel like he was trying to cast a spell on me to MAKE me feel uneasy. And whole time i was thinking. ...i could relax actually if i wasn't with you!!
borderline people do that..though borderline comes with other disorders it can come with narcissism
Exactly my experience. He broke up with me and now he's texting that am his forever
It’s scary that as women we’ve all experienced if not once many times… it’s disgusting.
I hope the girl he left for you sees this because she was probably so hurt and destroyed when he left, thinking she lost something. He probably left her without even giving her closure, and she probably thought he changed for you, the new supply. The way they discard can be a real mind-phuck. But you took away her problem, and i hope she knows that because Narcs don't change, and they don't really love. They just move to whomever can fulfill their needs or have something they want. It's all about what they can get.
Sadly that girls getting it worse .. bc he left a good woman .. beware of the hoover .. like a drug it only takes one time .
Or he went back to her if she didn’t fully heal, they love a back & forth
@Missfitt007 That too. Hope she healed enough to mot entertain him.
And it’s so sad that people can be mean spirited, hateful and destructive to people that wouldn’t hurt a hair on their head. That has to be a mental issue…
It's, for sure, a spiritual issue
yep can't play fair in an unfair world stop being nice makes you susceptible to bad treatment
This resonated! Dealing with my ex narcissist has taught me so much about life. I accept the lesson but never again, I’m so happy being single and gaining back my confidence.
The gaining back your confidence part!!! Yesss !! And the lesson we learned is beyond valuable because Never Again !!
Just me, God, and my children ❤🙌🏽
Me too 💯💯
They also like to blame your mistakes so they don't have to feel accountable for their own shit. Like they might say something like " I know I was wrong, but u did it before" or they might say " you're right, BUT don't act like ur perfect. " and I be like " idiot, that wasn't the point"😒
Yup
Yep. Always turning it back around
Always
Narcissists feed themselves with the vulnerable souls they collect because they don’t have one. The target’s pain & sorrow literally fuels them.
Sleeping with a person on the first date or not even after a date. Is a lot to give to a person you don't know.
Although it was painful, you needed to hear him say those things so you could wake up and see him for who he was. 💜🙏🏾
Omg 😳 they have the same playbook my mouth is wide open
Yerrrp!
Yes it’s textbook behavior because they’re all possessed by the same spirit (jezebel).
Literally it’s sick
Play by play smh it's truly sickening!
10 years later. I am still recovering. Run from these people. They know they are horrible people. Sick in the mind. Only God can help them.
Shush you probably weren’t even with a narcissist 🤡🤡🤡
I feel her pain. I am a nurse and got involved in someone who l discovered was a narcissist. Most people don't understand what it's like to be involved with a narcissist until you experience narcissist abuse. Its mental manipulation. The sex with a narc is amazing they are master manipulators. People who haven't experienced a narcissist are lucky. I am currently healing from narcissist toxic abuse. Thank you for sharing your story.
💪🏾💪🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾 God bless you Queen 🙏🏾👑
I was clueless & naive to what a narsaccistic was or even existed. Little did I know he is a Malignant narsaccist. Oh, the abuse was beyond anything I could have ever imagined. I will forever be known as the one who got away. Thank you God for breaking me free from that wolf in sheep's clothing. My scars are now my testimony. It was & has been a learning experience.
*narcissism
We have the same story. I was married to one for 14 years… extremely malignant. I feel like I was under mind control. Thank you Lord Jesus for saving our lives and waking us up!! I follow the one true God only now and His grace is so powerful 🕊️🙏🏻🤍
I went thru this for 22 yrs divorcing now and filed charges finally.
30 here… I wish I knew back then but as being a young teen having his baby escaping narc ass parents didn’t know… my mom died from this abuse. Rather you leave or not once you know they can’t dare mess with you much longer. They get docile and all their karma starts hitting them… literally.
Better late than never. Bless you!
Amen. I did 10 yrs. So done!
Me as well. It's been 20 years, and looking to separate/divorce. I never plan to be in another relationship. I don't have the desire for someone to drain my energy again.
How sad 😢. I’ve experienced this too not once but 2x. The first one lived at my house but the 2nd one was not even allowed to know where I lived but kept asking me to financially support him. I won’t put up with anything these days. I’m completely disgusted by bums and abusers.
I understand u sis😢❤
Wow sounds like myself. I'm now divorcing my narcissist disgusting husband . Worst thing i ever did was say yes to this man. He was very evil, plus a momma's boy . God saved me 🙏
It really is almost impossible to get out of a relationship from one of those freaking people.
With God it's possible. I escaped 4 of them. I knew nothing about narcs until recently & the Bible speaks on it.
Almost but possible…I got out and never went back it was hard I lost myself and I was helpless but I got out for good and I’m so glad I did
If a dude ask you for money tell him to sign a contract. Better yet NEVER give a man that ain't your husband money.
Don't give your husband money either. Learning the hard way...
My dad taught me this will never do it ever again
As someone who went through the same thing I understand and sympathize with you 1000%. I grew up in a toxic household with a narcissistic mother. I never knew what love was. So when I ended up in my first relationship which he also happened to be a narcissist, the red flags were all there, but I chose to ignore them because I wanted someone to love me so badly. I thought this is what love was supposed to be. Eventually I caught him cheating and that’s when I ended things with him. To this day over 2 years later he still tries to reach out to reconnect and I want absolutely nothing to do with him. I got so tired of him creating fake social media accounts just to be able to talk to me I came off social media altogether. That relationship traumatized me so badly - I would never wish that kinda mess on my worst enemy. But one thing I am grateful for it, is that it taught me how to love myself. God will put these people to teach you how to love yourself. But most people never learn, and they stay in these relationships for many years.
You 😮😮😮😮😮😮😮
Thanks for sharing your story.🙏🏾 I recently ended a relationship after almost a year with a narcissist. He lied constantly, was manipulative, gaslit, arrogant, self-absorbed, etc. Never again!!
Omg the abuse is terrible !
I stayed 9 years and i knew he was the devil. I was so happy before him and slowly i started to become unhappy, sad,depressied,always stressed and crying. Thank God i left
Omg when that person drains your peace smh you aren’t even the same person.
I keep telling women at the very minimal to familiarized themselves with narcissism because the things they explain about their relationships experiences is clear sign they are going thru narcissistic abuse. But for some reason, they rather be in denial. Being with a narcissist long term is no joke. I’ve seen it in real life and it can literally end a person
Wendy Williams is a great example sadly…
Most people in these comments aren’t with narcissists they just confused it’s very rare for someone to be a narcissist
@@nathandanquah1102 1 in 6 persons is a narc. Narcissism is more common than you think
@@MegaLadylove2012 it says 0.5% to 5% on google and 5% have mild cases so it’s incredibly rare
It’s never really obvious at first they are very calculated bc they’ve made a deal with the devil. One min y’all are COOL and in the blink of any eye they will REVEAL that demonic spirit. Until you experience it you’re gullible out here. If you get out alive THATS A SPIRITUAL GIFT TO YOU FROM GOD. Now you know!
Narcissist will tell that your friends are trash and horrible. They will tell you not to trust your family...🙏🙏🙄🙄🙄
They isolate you. Make you feel alone. Talking bad about your friends to you while smearing and talking about you to everybody.
They hate your families
I finally got away because I fell asleep and didn’t pick up my phone for one hour. He flipped the situation on me and said I was cheating and hasn’t spoke to me since, even after everything he did to me, but before I couldn’t get rid of him for anything. I thank GOD for letting me sleep through those calls that night!!! I feel this whole heartedly, the weight loss/gain, the cheating and competing, the lies, I will forever have trust issues. Still healing and I don’t think I’ll ever be the same.
It’s a a blessing to get away , but the trauma we are left with 😮💨
I know you said your occupation as a dancer wasn't relevant but it absolutely was. They prey on people in vulnerable positions and living out of your car, or with a sugar daddy is very vulnerable.
Yep. My story of meeting a narc was also similar. Met him at a vulnerable time! They know who to pick
Indeed! Please be careful out there. Beware at ALL times. Men are the most ruthless predators on this planet.
Babe, don’t feel bad. I was a horrible relationship with a narcissist on and offer 4yrs. He never bought me anything even though he had the means he was so emotionally abusive to me I felt like I had to leave or I would kill myself and I am a very mentally strong person. It’s just like a ride that you can’t get off of. I don’t want you to feel bad because I had had a normal upbringing and it has nothing to do with parents once they suck you and it doesn’t matter how good your family is. They got you.
It’s been a year and half since I last dealt with the narcissist I had 6 year on and off situationship with. I’m still dealing with the effects of being with him. I must say I’m a lot better now .No more headaches and no more depression. No more constant worrying. Those 6 years was the worst years of my life. He was back and forth between me and another woman. He stayed with me and then would leave like I did something wrong and then a few month go by he would come back. I hope I never come across another narcissist.
They love to triangulate.
What do you mean by this? I want to know. Not being funny, I really don't know what that means.
@@sonjamcintosh7813 They will have you and the other woman going at each other. At the same time, they sit back and enjoy the show. It will never be only you. They will talk crap about the other person with you and vice versa.
Always speaking on your weaknesses but you never hear them talking about their own problems
Yess Trueee fr
They will drain the joy and hope out of you!!! So glad you’re out of that mess!! 🙏🏽
I love the way you told your story! Dealing with a narcissist was one of the most traumatizing, soul-sucking and hardest things I've ever endured. Thank God we made it through!! ❤❤
When I say I understand...I understand. Thank God you got out alive darling. They not only k*ll your soul, they will sometimes literally k*ll you. You were broken but you are here to tell other women. It is a huge lesson.
Some victims of narc abuse kill themselves
Narcissists are demons. Surviving is not easy but the ones who do and learn are untouchable.
That’s what the devil wants you to do. During the devalue and discard phase, the mental/emotional pain is so intense that ending it seems to be the only way out. Don’t listen to that voice.
It’s not only at the end or discard. It’s when you are in for a while. The treatment of the narcissist is brutal and they don’t care. You fell like a prisoner in your own space. They always need to know what you are doing or thinking, then you are accused of cheating or doing other things. Like I couldn’t even hug my own male relatives but he could hug whomever he wanted too. They take from you little by little until you have nothing else to give. He even told me the he was going to take the live I have for my deceased son from me. And the live I have for my God. They are evil individuals.. they are like the devil, come to steal kill and destroy little by little. If you notice the devil doesn’t do his pouncing all at once. If he did we would see it coming sooner. Narcissist will turn on you like a snake.
Love not live in the above statement.
@@kd5984 they all live by the same book. Your right he did all these things to me...22 yrs
NPD (narcissistic personality disorder ) is a real actual mental disorder . Everyone always calls someone a narcissist so freely when most aren’t they just have the tendencies and traits. A toxic person and a ACTUAL narcissist is two diff things so thanks for specifying that. Although it’s sad because they do have a mental disorder and they truly need help but their actions are severely harmful and they severely hurt others around them
Yes darling … I’ve been neglecting myself for almost 3 yrs. It’s been him and his needs before mine .
It’s a blessing if the narcissist doesn’t like you. Makes it so much easier to leave.
Yes girl...they always work harder than you even when theyre doing nothing at all....claiming no reciprocity knowing theyre not even meeting you a quarter of the way....and find a reason why its ok to cheat on you when you are the one being neglected by yourself and them. Its a terrible cycle but its a beautiful revelation when you become awakened. Good for you for getting out!🎉❤
I’m going through this now and I know the pain. It’s excruciating… I gave everything and he couldn’t GAF. Just crushed my soul.
It’s a shitty process finding self again.
💔💔🙏🏾🙏🏾 stay strong with God Sis, I feel your pain, going through it now too 😭💔😞
@@BellaVidaMercyI’m so sorry and I mean that from the bottom of my broken heart. I have no clue when healing will come but may it come soon for you.
I am going to ask you to ran like get away from him or you will lose your self or possibly your life
@@latanyapowell2397 he’s not physically abusive. The betrayal just crushes me and stops my heart
You should be so proud of your self. I am dealing with this now. 8 yr relationship. I am 3 months out from it. 45 days no contact. It is pure peace! Keep on healing and may you find someone that treats you like the queen you are!
Thank you for sharing your story. I think, even if we know what a narcissist is, being love-bombed, especially by someone we like/love, can get us into being easily manipulated. Some of us are even easier to manipulate when we didn't grow up in emotionally healthy households that fostered proper self-love. And I agree 100% with you, "Don't ever get into a relationship with somebody to where you are neglecting yourself." I hope more and more people embrace this principle. Lots of hugs 🤗 PS: the dog behind you is so very cute!!
Thankyou so much for watching !
It’s so true, if we are neglecting ourself that means we are neglecting our own health, all that stress can take it’s toll overtime, it’s as if they are taking days away from our life, it’s never worth it. Those narcs can drain you to depletion if you let them. Also yes her dog is too cute, he looked so concerned when she began to cry.
They act sweet and tell u stuff to comfort u. They even act respectful. Like they will do anything to make u feel respected, in order for u to love them. Another thing they never admit when they are wrong. Like if u try to address a problem with him, he will listen and he mit even say " I agree, BUT". That's the problem they always have a "but" because they afraid of admitting being wrong
They are defensive and hard headed
There is a huge difference from people who have narcissistic traits and someone with narcissistic personality disorders, as in sociopaths . It sounds like this guy you dealt with had traits, which is common in the black communities. Many black men carry narcissistic traits. Emotional detachment, lack of empathy , (you know the you knew what it was guys.) Its so typical, its made the norm in songs, videos, movies. They fully believe its their inherent right to use and abuse women. Then they taunt black women with (the your picking the wrong men). We all know a decent , healthy, responsible , respectful God fearing black man is a needle in the haystack. People with NPD are dangerous to your soul, health, children, job, finances. They want to strip you of your life completely, its their only mission. Im glad you've become aware, we all need more awareness.
Yes Narcissism is a continuum and some people may possess more traits than others HOWEVER, majority display the same traits ( grandiose , lack of empathy , no accountability ect) they are master manipulators and abusers. Dr Ramani ( highly recommend watching!!) stated 1 in 6 people are Narcissists undiagnosed ❤
Yes, I do watch Dr Ramani! However, exposure to a full-blown sociopathic narcissist is nothing you'll ever forget, if you survive it. Big difference thsn what's talked about here.
Amen you hit the nail on the head
You let not only him but another man move in and you were taking care of BOTH of them!!? Love is really blind. This is beyond comprehendible.
22 yrs and getting out has been hell he also turned on his two daughters be glad you didn't have kids with him
The JEALOUSY! That sh be strong…it be heavy. 😣
I have zero sympathy for homeless men. Only women and children
Okay well done for hating men 👏🏾
Idiotic woman
Silly foolish
🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
They steal your soul. They are soulless and they need your soul to feel alive. Some people have deleted themselves over dating Narcs. You are now a Super Empath because you make it out. Continue to heal. I had two experiences with Narcs. I dated 1 for almost 2 years and recently for a short 4 months because I noticed the behavior. You are brave. Thank you for sharing your story. I will share mine some day.
I’m glad you learned the red flags. Love on you 💗💗🙏🏾
Can you name some of the behaviors?
@@rebeloutcast1893jealous, controlling, back hand compliments, short tempered, over reacting to situations and finally rage like a temper tantrum
Dumbest thing I ever heard this ain’t no horror movie
@@nathandanquah1102 the scariest movie ever is real life 🍿🎥🎬 hold on, it’s just beginning
So many red flags 🚩
Jumping in from one relationship to the next, asking her for money and having too soon.. love bombing
Love bombing, having sex too soon and asking her for money. Etc...
From the beginning
Exactly
Yes but narcs will love bomb and manipulate so much that it blind you from the red flags. They are really good at pretending. They’ll figure out what your weaknesses are and then prey on them. They wait til you’re completely attached to start devaluing you. So it’s a toxic cycle of lovebomb, idealization, breadcrumbs, devaluing, discard and repeat. They’ll continue to gaslight and future fake. The trauma bond will have you blind. Especially if you’ve never been through anything like this before.
Instead of drinking the pain away, I took things out on our four beautiful daughters. I know I have screwed their lives up. I just hope God will forgive me for the pain I have caused them.
I’ve been there. The best we can do is try to repair and reconnect. Maybe slowly over time things will improve. Try to give yourself grace, so shame doesn’t take you even lower. We all make mistakes, it’s how you move on from the mistake that shows your character.
That’s one thing I clocked before I ever opened the rabbit hole that is narcissism. Once your money and life start falling apart being around certain people you don’t need to be around people that’s the biggest 🚩
This!!! 💯💯💯
Whew! Speak queen because we have been there! I can’t wait to reach a point where I feel comfortable to tell my story. ❤
I am with one right now planning my escape and therapy is me watching these videos and educating myself..I didn't even know there were people like this..
Tell your story soon. Over and over. Write it over and over. That is how u heal. Just dont tell any man you are interested in. Getting it out of you is a real way to heal psychologically. It helps you face it, and kill the energy of it
@@shaylalasalle4817 Yaasss journaling and meditation is def helping soo much! Appreciate you 💖
@@user-or7zi2bt1v Wishing you the best that you get away safely and get back to living your truth! 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾
They will drain the entire life out of you!
You are not alone.... That healing journey is deep. I truly understand ... The time of healing is so deep you really do not see the light at the end of the tunnel. When GOD is in control , you start to see that light. I feel so peaceful all I can say is THANK YOU FATHER GOD .
(that whole relationship felt so different , I thought I was going crazy.) that devil is real and PLEASE Y'ALL STAY PRAYED UP...
3 years of red flags, ladies need to take some accountability. Don’t get mad level up!
Thank you someone with good sense!!!
Most people in these comment sections were not with narcissists they were with toxic people and they just confused
Narcissist people are rare
@nathandanquah
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No
Not today!
It's no longer rare!!!
Many are out here!!!
Is why it's so discussed now!!
Yes there are also many toxic people as well
Some are both!!
Whew must be a sign to keep moving forward . this video definitely describes exactly how my past relationship has been 😢 they’re sick people and they definitely will drain you financially & can be very abusive . SMH
Chiilleee soon as you said Atlanta, I knew all I needed to know… But yeah 7 years I dealt with a covert narcissist. A mama’s boy. Mommy’s angel mommy’s king. Smh. Always told me I wasn’t girlfriend material yet you latched on to me year after year because you couldn’t find a woman. Because you’re still a boy. Finally a week ago I change my number. And the fear of him just popping up at my house full of violence and rage is suffocating. I can feel the heat from his anger miles away. But I’m having withdrawals from him. Stockholm syndrome is what they call it I think.
25 years for me and yes Stockholm syndrome is real. Mine is texting me right now at 2:33 am telling me about how I'm loosing a good thing for letting him go
😬keep educating yourself on these people, it helps. I’m sorry this is happening and I hope things work out for you and you stay safe
Pray about it, as God keeps showing you signs at some point you will get tired and you will leave and be able to heal. Took me 7 years I don’t know how long it will be until I’m fully healed but every day gets better without him.
Bunch of silly clown women
Same here .. the withdrawals is CRAZY ! It’s like a drug but I gotta keep reminding myself what he has done to me . And that makes me stop .
Thank you for sharing this I'm not alone
You are so welcome
The gift thing solidifies my decision to dead my relationship! lol it was almost 1 year and I am glad we are done! they also try to get you pregnant... they def look at you as competition! I had one even make a status on facebook saying "you may be sleeping next to your competitor" meanwhile I was helping his bum ass how can we be competing?
This is how I describe leaving the narcissist:
I had to chewed my own leg out of the trap.
I crawled away. Thankful that I was still alive.
If I could grow my own leg back like a frog, then Great.
And if I couldn't, then it's still OK, I'll be alive, and I'll learn to live with what I have left.
Its been 14 year's
and I'm still recovering.
Great movie scene
When I had my encounter with my narcissist I didn't even know what a narcissist was. I just know this person was doing things that abnormal, things that a normal man would not do. I couldn't wrap my head around it it was mind blowing. We were together for over a year, he would tell.me I'm his wife and his everything. Poor not knowing that the entire time he was telling other people the same thing. Then he decided he wanted to migrate to another country, we're from the Caribbean. So he just discarded me and married this girl who could file for him to go abroad. Like within 6 months of discarding me he was married. I nearly died. I when I kept asking then where was this person the entire time you and I were talking, all he would do was gaslight, deflect, stonewall. No accountability from him just rage if i tried to show him how cruel he was, like how dare me try to make him see the wrong he had done because he must be seen to be perfect. I tell you it was such a mind blowing experience. Then when she filed and took him abroad, he dumped her 4 months after getting his papers. I still struggle so much to make sense of what happened like I got no closure and I feel lost. I lost my happiness and I cannot find it back.
@MsRenaissance Hey Mrs. Lady! Chin up!❤ You had an encounter with a narcissist. They are demonically oppressed! It was a lie from day one & you just didn't know it. Just like with his new supply. He used her from day one & discarded her when he was done with her. These creatures aren't loyal to ANYBODY! Married or Not! Not even to their children. You actually dodged a bullet! Get closer to GOD & ask for the holy Spirit to help you discern these demons. Prayer daily too. GOD Bless you Love❤🙏🏾
It's still there . Look harder 🎉
@@jessicatobias9371 I'm trying.
You don't need closure. Just thank the lord that he left you and move on with your life. Don't ever take him back, count yourself lucky that he is gone, you dodged a bullet. Learn to love yourself now and you will find your happiness. Then you will heal and find love again if you want and it will be healthy love.
@@susanfernandez5817 Thank you.
I am proud of you my sister for soldiering through this devastating situation. I have been there myself and I am a witness that God is the only one who can pull you through the chaos and the damages that narcissist brings to the life of an empath. Thank you Jesus for loving us even when we had no strength left to love ourselves.🙌🏽💕🙏🏽
“I love you. Probably more than anyone ever could.” Was the phrase that hooked me, I believed it. 5 months of marriage nearly broke me, I didn’t know if I’d ever get myself back. I’m so happy you made it out alive and are doing well, and sharing your story with others. A real man takes care of his woman and his children.
Great advice..trauma bonding is real and used against you 😢😢😢😢 do not over share, know who you are sharing and with who. They magnetize to healthy beautiful souls🙏
I’m glad you shared your story. In the beginning listening to your story, I was just thinking gosh this girl and me would not get along, at all but just listening to you, I felt for you. By the end, I just wanted to hug that girl ballin in the closet and tell her that she is worth so much more. It shocks me to see how similar these narc men are - they move exactly the same. And our backgrounds are not that different too, like sharks smelling blood, these narcs smell the trauma - genuine predators.
How u get them is how u lose them girl….glad u learned ya lesson!
How he got the nerve to move ina security guard when he cant even pay him OR PROVIDE FOR YOUR SECURITY??? Siss, make it make sense 🥴🤦🏾♀️
Girl! My Ex Narc/Wasband did the same! He claimed he had no money for the mortgage, but made sure his grandson had hundreds for his bday. Umm Sir he is 4 years old! He made sure his family was straight too. Told me I needed to pay all the bills. Like you, I tried to make it work, thinking it was me, thinking I was the issue. I finally filed for divorce, and we had to submit our bank statements from the date I filed, and he had more money than me the whole time. Yup! Mine spazzed on me too outta nowhere when I said NO. I was so hurt and confused. Looking back, I shoulda stopped the bleeding month 3. I will be single by choice for a very long time. I gotta heal. PTSD is real. They don’t care about nobody but themselves.
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm glad you are no longer dealing with that monster. I can relate.
One I was dealing with told me that I didn’t come from nothing. He did. Because I was upset that he wrecked my car… it was material shit. Coming from somebody who had absolutely nothing… a used to be.. currently calling from jail…. Calls going straight to the voicemail… gone on Mr. Fabulous 😑
I had to come back to this video it was too accurate ok look y'all 😅😅😅 no matter what you do... They'll lie on you too you 😅😢 but the worst thing you can do is try to argue with them just agree 💯👍🏽😂 if you argue with them you doomed 🤷🏽 don't try to clear up the lie they made up on you let them lie 😅
Spill that tea gurrrrl
Narcs are like a bad bad credit card. Your voice abd story matters!!!!!!
Felt like you was telling my story !!!! Keep staying strong and keep praying
It sounds like we were with the same person.
The same actions, scenarios, outcomes-Wow! I simply did not have the awareness of what was happening until it was over.
I bounced back and now I’m better than ever.
Thank you for sharing. Hugs.
TRUTH...I've experienced this type of relationship as well. He was much older than me too...about 13 years age gap. I learned from this experience, GOD covered me and showed me the right way. Thank God, you are safe and making better choices for yourself. Thanks for sharing your story.
Yea the old dudes are the worst yet women be thinking “ oh he was married just didn’t work out” type of mess… the old men are very calculating and perfect their abusive craft. Women need to learn the nature of man… all this hurt pain and crying would be put to an end… for every full relationship or long length relationship’s marriage with kids ect it gets worse. They know how to groom you they literally don’t think women are smart enough to figure it out. Sometimes I think that too knowing historically what has been happening every 2/6 and what the eyes see… I’m starting to wonder.
This was a good video! Don’t worry about the tune it was so relatable and good. I learned after dealing with a narcissist and becoming a therapist, we can have a good heart but create healthy boundaries. Don’t destroy yourself to uplift others. You matter ❤ Pray that certain prayer! You know that prayer 🙏🏽 lol ask God for stronger discernment ❤
So true...when you dont get that motherly ir fatherly you settle for anything because you dont know better.
8:16 💯💯💯💯💯 yes they will future fake the fuq out of you!!! We are healing and now are aware!!! Blessings Sis!!! 🙌🏿 we are FREE!!!!!!
Yessss!!!!
11 months Narc Weirdo free and im loving it here ❤ thx for sharing your story im soooooo ready share mines❤❤
They don’t like that word as so many ppl have possibly called them that. Mine all of a sudden literally hating that word… been with em 30 yrs and now weirdo or creep kills him to a core. All of a sudden the older they get the worse it gets and if they mess with young Girls/ladies they not playing and call you on it. Those exact words. Cause they act like it.
Thanks for sharing tips on what to avoid. You are being selfless in sharing this. I didn't hear much about ANYTHING you guys had in common in terms of VALUES or INTERESTS.....red flag in every direction. Apart from money, proximity, looks, and what it's like on paper... there needs to be a rock solid friendship. Never get into a relationship before you figure out whether you have a genuine friend in the other person. And in the mean time, be a good friend to YOURSELF. It sounds like you are a million times wiser now.....you will be okay. You're still young.
Thank you so much for sharing your story, and I’m so happy to see you were able to heal and move on!!