They always had other supplies while u were dealing with them. There is no such thing as a faithful narc. If u are in a relationship with them its an open one whether u know it or not. smh
😂😂😂yuppp cause he was on social media anyway had maaad female friends they postin pix and all this one chick was a stripper and he tellin me about her life like I gave a dammm!! She obviously was posting half naked pixx and he wasn’t deleting her but I wasn’t supposed to keep no supply on the side?? No I didn’t have sex with anyone while we were together but I had the feeling that We were going to break up sooo yea I had men waiting for me on the dating sites why not??? These men look at other women all day long and it’s cool I don’t think so
Except not a completely open one. It was only "open" on his side. On my side of the relationship, it was closed (as in: I was ever faithful). 😐 It was one of many double-standards he had, unfortunately. 😔
@@karmahleone1196the same thing happened to me. He was all over these women's pages who were in their underwear. He has over 1,000 Facebook friends and 99% of them are the females that are like this. He would be telling me about them as if I cared as well. I thought I was alone, I thought what he was doing was strange but I guess I'm not.
dude, or dudette :) seriously? they are always looking.................................they are never loyal and they do not love so there you have it. it's only what they can get.
I made a mistake years ago and took him back…24 miserable years later I’m planning my escape. Please don’t take them back. I wish I knew what I know now😢
HG Tudor wrote a book named Escape about things to consider if planning to escape a narc. Some are trying to sabotage your job so that you cannot escape. Helped me a lot about the pitfalls.
@@ifyousayso9392 Yes, All is well. I’m At Peace, but still waiting on the signed and notarized Divorce paper, otherwise my emotional wholeness and healing is being restored daily Thru prayer 🤲🏾 and meditating in His☝🏽word, getting out in the atmosphere…. Enjoying what I use to do Before I got married & doing New Things!!!!!!!☺️
Mine did something similar, and after the initial, I felt relieved that he'd moved on and I could finally find heslibg and peace. He even married her, but unfortunately, within 3 years of love bombing and marrying her, he had discarded her like a dirty rug! I believe he deceived her and did all that to try and spite me. Poor lady. With time on his hands while sesrching for a new supply, he sure enough came back into my radar to annoy me, but I was having none of it!
I've experienced when you lose interest with them. They are so arrogant to think that if you're not interested in them that there's someone else, not their behavior
Spot on! I used it against him by telling him that since I am the bad one and everything is my fault, I should stop bothering him 😉 But.. in those moments, he either blamed me more by saying: "yeah, you're finding ways to leave, right?" Or they deny that you're bad (when trying to love bomb you and suck you back in) smh
😂 stop lmao! Is that why towards the end when I was actively planning my escape plan he would surprise me by showing up without telling me he was off work and he would say “just seeing if your boyfriend was over!” Or when he would call me he would say “tell your boyfriend he has to go home now” 😂😂😂 I was the only faithful one in the relationship and I’m damn proud of it.
From my experience, if they have invested a lot and find difficult to find another similar opportunity, they try hoovering in a thousand ways. From victimhood, asking for forgiveness and promises of change, behaving wonderfully, the mask securely fastened again, etc. Then they will make you pay for generating more work for them. Zero contact
My distant uncle is angry when you don't let him stay our houses and not bring him out. He has pension from Police serving 30+ years. Like we owe him our life
@a.k.p7030 yes alot of cptsd victims start becoming and having narcissistic fleas is what it's termed. We have no choice but to.play their games to get out sometimes
Exactly I dealt with one and I snapped on him like never before and he turned around and start showing a different side every once in a while I would remind him just who tf I am but that does not always happen with others 😊🌻🌻
If you leave them, that’s good! If they leave you, it’s also good. Either way, they will miss and want you bacc knowing that their other supplies doesn’t measure up to you. Plus when you ignore them or don’t give them no type of reaction’s upon seeing them, it make’s them cringe knowing that they no longer have power over you. The role’s are now reversed.
Spot on again Danish. I divorced my ex-husband 6 years ago, he went back to one of his old supplies and married her. He is so shameless, to this day he is full of rage. We went to court and he starts telling the judge that my house has equity and he when he left the home 6 years ago he took nothing. The judge had to shut him down that we were in court for something else and that judgment was made on my home during the divorce. These narcissists are unbelievable and demonic.
U gave him too long time of ur precious life...don't be weak...u should not feel for shameless ppll..u find the proper person in ur life...that's ur winning...they r already cursed by God....
Narcs are like Tarzan...they never let go of one vine until they have a firm grip on the next one then they swing right on out of you, and into the next poor SOB.
They ALWAYS have/had others lined up just for this very situation. They always have “back ups” and you were once a back up that “got” to be center stage for a short time due to the novelty. Eventually, they will piss off the new supply, the new supply will figure out what they are dealing with and the narcissist will have to find more “back ups” to cycle through. It’s a dysfunctional, never ending cycle. It’s never EVER just you and the narcissist in a relationship. They always must have constant sources of validation and are chronic novelty seekers.
They typically already have. They will repeat this their entire life - even once married. Which is why it was never love. It was their game and you were a piece, an object to be played. They don’t know what love actually is, but claim to. Let them figure it out. They will continue playing their game themselves amongst others they will do the same with. Pray for them bc the are actually tortured souls and do not even know/realize it fully bc they do not know the difference between love and using others for their selfish ends. Everything is conquest and competition and, tbh, that’s a lonely life to exist in.
The only love and endearment they have is for themselves. Their huge ego, grandosity, and sense of entitlement insurers this. Thinking of them in endearing terms leaves you wide open for a future encounter with a narcissist that has targeted you for a future replacement. Narcissists are not stupid as they do know exactly what they are doing or what they did.
Amen so true.Its too bad they don't understand what feelings are and caring for a partner.They don't understand what love is.There is more to life than material iteams and playing games.Theres more to life than supply.They don't know what it's like to be happy, satisfied, content and thankful.
I've literally seen them go right into their phone the same day. They'll do that and immediately act like you don't exist there you're standing right in front of them.
They do cry. My narc has been crying foe weeks. It's fake, completely fake but still. I don't want people thinking their abuser must not be a narc because they're crying. It's FAKE!
Everybody has narcissist traits. A couple is not bad but the difference is being able to be emotionally intelligent, have awareness, recognition to grow, learn and change. They do not care and hardly looked inward. That's why they always go outward for more supply to compete. I personally ended up becoming so abused and unseen in absorbed him in my codependency and now am truly recognizing these traits in everyone. The main trait of a narcissist is YOU are Bad, IM good. If we blame all this on them how are we better? It's a dance with the devil the entire process. It's all the world and people and we need to recognize we are all the same as each other. One. We are only as good as them and it takes this abuse to wake our selves up to our own worth. I surrendered all to my marriage to a covert dark triad nice guy who ended up breaching psychopath when I unmasked and started calling out his patterns and then it became sadist and to the extreme. I didn't know how to say No and was a fawn conditioned by am OVERT dark triad. I thought I had held and finally had a good man due to his stable job and he was constantly there in body at least which was more than I had my whole life growing up in foster care. I then devoted all my life, willingly gave my career and active city life to became a suburban house wife and play this role of a bibical wife, loyal and too forgiving and just incredibly happy to be a part of the PTO and stay home to raise my child and care. Give him everything I never had. Which he's kind of a brat now. I thought his father's influence wouldn't be too bad bc he was mainly working or out at a bar and left me alone to raise him for the past 4 yrs. But then came the devaluation, devastation of this man I thought was good actually was always behind my back talking anything, truth or not to make me his captor and say I don't do anything and many more terrible things upon porn and online hook up when I was in church with my child. I had a stroke from the cognitive dissonance and truth I found out. Then was told it was me and put down to where I did beyond to try to prove my worth to him and love, understand etc... he always stonewalling or said I'm sorry. Or defended himself passive aggressive was all he ever knew. Then after 2 years of round circle I finally started explod9gn the same way... but i felt sad, remorse and wanted to change. He wanted to destroy. They dont even have then empathy to understand. My point is we are victims yes, but we also were never much more than a shell than they are.... the same. The difference is we try to be better and they seek to destroy. However the real truth is them destroying our ego and false self we painted next to their false self was going above and beyond to stay and also are manipulative to survive it and grow. It's been the biggest blessing of my life waking up to this truly spiritual warfare and the pain. Understanding this was my mess as much as him. We are one. I focused all my.attention to fix and get him happy the past year I ended up depressed and isolating in room and very sick so he ended up having to care for my son... who now beyond being slightly spoiled started acting like his father as his father was pulling the moves his mother did. Which was controlling by food, serving 3 meals, cleaning all the dishes and literally never making him clean his plate. And my son is exhibiting some beginning traits that I am truly angry I lost so much TIME stressing over thin middle age man who is like a 4 yr old. Meanwhile my 7 yr old recognized the patterns and is on board with us separating from his father. We pray and love him together. However this home and stable.place I made... was never truly stable. I also a single mom and have nobody to help realize it's going to be really hard to lose our house he grew up in with a pool and memories, our inverted community and more to move into an apartment. However, there will be peace and growth. And hopefully the narcissist will grow from our absence. Most likely pity and self destruction more. But I am taking accountability for my lack of protection that was stolen time from my son and I submitted. I was equally foolish and will not return to this.
Am I the only one who thinks that narcissism should be classified with psychopathy? I mean only a terrible person could do something like that. Dehumanize someone to the point that when they're out of your sight, they don't exist.
Shoot, he was trying to replace me long before I left. He was always on dating sites trying to "see what else is out there." Well, now I'm free and he can have what else is out there. I feel bad for that poor soul, though. I hope they get out sooner than I did!
That's exactly what he did to me!!!! Only he hovered and cheated on me with some pos he knocked up. He triangulated us and she hates me. I can't wait till he passes a disease to her because he's cheating on her too. Trauma bonding is a horrible thing
Ironically he'd always say that I was the one with the ego problem when clearly he's the one with a huge ego. And everything he did do,he would blame it on me,even though did those things himself. He would even mirror my words and trauma. But now his words mean nothing to me. I see him as a weak person who needs to break others down to build himself up.
Oh my god that sounds exactly like the one I dealt with, he was always projecting saying I was this or I did that when those things applied to him and not me.
He was probably engaged while you were together and dating her the entire time. Claiming how you weren't serious, despite any children or sharing a home and starting a picture perfect life. Doing all the work yourself as he used it to make himself more valuable or appear stable.
@@MarjyGTVI just dumped mine 2 days ago. I already placed bets that he’s probably with his next victim right now and is gonna get married to her in less than a year lol 😂 I’d say it hurts, but it hurts more that I loved someone who didn’t love me back. I really just want to move on now. Together 7 years. Edit: I pressed charges and he’s in jail! I’m so thankful for the police officer who recognized I was being abused and made me feel comfortable enough to come in and give victim statements. He assured me he was good at his job and personally called to tell me he got a confession!!!
Just like you don’t have any feelings or attachment to an appliance that breaks down and needs replacing…..but you can feel the immediate inconvenience of not having that appliance in the moment that you need to use it…..you might even cuss at it for breaking down when you needed it. But you just go out and buy another. This is how we are regarded by a narcissist. We’re nothing more than an appliance.
My narc had me replaced while I layer in bed after a 9 1/2 hour cancer surgery on pain meds. In fact he had me replaced months if not years before he left. That's just haw they operate. Hard lesson to learn but I did.
Just left my covert narc husband. I brought my daughter and grandson so he would not get physical. Hardest thing I’ve ever done. We moved every speck of my existence from this man’s life. I don’t care what he does or who he does it with anymore. Now begins my recovery. Thank you, Danish! ❤
That is how I feel. I pray forgiveness if I am wrong but after being discarded in such an unbelievably evil manner I cannot trust him to eve accept a cup of water from him.
Mine went through my social media "friends" not my family, my old classmates ....to find someone to triangulate me when he decided to ghost me. I blocked him immediately 7 years ago. Still stalking and hacking me.
I don't think my family is full with rage, no one contacted me for a year It's like I was nothing. I tought there was some love for me but it's probably was a fantasy all along
They are full of it alright. Full of devaluing you to where they don't even acknowledge you. Their love wasn't even a myth it was just a wallflower prop for drama or feeling superior or????
Wow that’s crazy.. I found this too! It’s sickening. Mine told me well I like watching porn.. I’m like these girls look young he’s like they’re 18&over.. I’m like dude Ure sick! Never left my daughters alone w him. These people are addicts and evil.. they shouldn’t be living
He got himself a sugar momma. Not going to lie, it hurt and plays on my insecurities but God is helping me. I wasnt suppose to be trying to provide for no man anyway smh...
He would use his awareness of healthy relationship tools such as communicating to fix ruptures as a manipulative strategy to blame shift on me and use against me when I finally tried to go no contact. He would accuse me of not effectively communicating.. but I had tried to communicate in so many ways before being exhausted and leaving. Everytime I would communicate.. any triggers I exposed in moments of transparency would be used against me, he would use word salad to confuse me, he would try to deny my reality and make me feel like the problem, he would rage at me.. or he would say okay and make absolutely no changes whatsoever so that I would keep begging and he would keep dangling the carrot and I would be in overdrive working to uphold our connection whilst he would just lean back, observe and keep moving the goal post further. I'm pretty sure that he smears me saying I don't communicate and I'm emotionally abusive and I ghosted him but I was emotionally drained, depleted and had lost myself whilst getting next to nothing in return 😢.
I feel your pain😢 But it gets good & better when you learn prioritizing yourself in everything and shift from living in that "lito world of compromise all the time" Dear God Save & Heal Us All Aameen🙏
This is EXACTLY what happened to me. After 18 years together I filed for divorce. I couldn't continue in the marriage, it was killing me inside. I felt my soul dying. He signed up on multiple dating sites, bragged to me about his sexual conquests and how "talented" the women were in bed. It was like getting hit with a massive wrecking ball and feeling the pain it caused in slow motion. The aching inside of me was almost intolerable. Working out/exercise is the only way to get through it without it destroying you. He met many women and within 3-4 months he had found my permanent replacement. It's been 8 years and they're still together. I gave this man his only child, my youth, my love and loyalty. He appreciated none of it. Replaced me as though I never existed. It's been 8 years and at this point I don't think the shock that I never meant anything to him will ever go away but the pain of sadness has subsided to a degree that I can live with.
Trust and believe he is giving that other woman 8 years of pure hell. Men like him do not change they only change the women they can abuse. Remember longevity doesn’t mean bliss and happiness.
The way he spoke to me was uncalled for the day I walked away again. But let's remain friends he said while his supply/new gf was talking to me for proof of his actions with me and other women. I never responded to him thereafter, I remember he was sitting at the hospital parking lot cause his dad had fallen so he was already tense and it just seems he used that as an excuse to slaughter me and say what he did. I couldn't take it anymore. And I doubt he even gave a care I blocked him; well maybe, who knows. I just know he had his back ups lined up and ready to "comfort" him.
@@smithashekhar9539 Imagine if I did stick around; it'd be hell on earth! Plus he continued the smear campaign, the "being friends" would have ended either way. They have brass ones to try keeping anyone they've hurt at their side.
@@smithashekhar9539 Basically they are pretty bold and confident thinking the people they've hurt will still stay with them through thick and thin. People can only take so much. Best remedy is block and stay no contact and staying strong to not look through their social media's. It's all fake to rile you up. Keep going strong 💪 ❤️
I always think to myself, "Don't push me away & wonder where I went!" You wanted it to be over so bad, it's over! Go away, stay away! I'm so glad I've gone no contact & basically became a ghost from several Narcs this year. I'll gladly be the villain in their fake stories.
Well said! At the beginning when I heard of this kind of beings I wondered if this can be possible. Then after my eyes opened, I realized that they do exist to make us suffer.
He replaced me on my birthday with someone who was smaller but looked like me and who was like me according to him. He must have been very angry at me for daring to clean up my house for a week in order to host my son's birthday. I could only use one hand properly. He didn't offer to help me. Instead I recieved the weirdest phone calls from him. I didn't catch that he was angry. He seemed more lost than angry. But he did "threaten" to invite someone else over to his house. I recall thinking that if I would have to deal with this degree of mental cruelty it could turn my hair gray and make me age in an inappropriately short amount of time. It felt like some sort of attack. He must have been furious.
Don’t go back to him or fall for his tricks! Go NO contact. Block him and his friends on social media (or get off it entirely). Change your number. Use a post office box address to collect your mail. Become a ghost!
That's what they r doing...but they can't find me in another one....n they get frusted ....n want me back but knowing I won't go back to them ever ...they got mad..n feed their anger with addiction's mostly betraying n having fulfilling their lust just to satisfy their ego..n just to hurt u purposely .....
Yup. Family, friend and ex all narcissists. All replaced me like I was absolutely nothing. Fine with me. Still mourning and showing myself compassion but good fucking riddance
True. My husband told to someone outside that he will get marry again as soon as i told him i don't want to be with him. He is full of anger and rage as you said and i know he can do anything to me and my kids.
Yes, ex did exactly that. Went straight to a woman he'd put through the wringer off and on for a decade. I was told she'd listed him in her phone contacts as "The Narcissist" years ago. Poor woman. Danish, your insight is beyond all others on this subject.
My ex Narc would always get mean when the summertime came... he was itching to run the streets. I released him last week and told him no coming back... BLOCKED. He was calling/texting old supply. I know a discard was coming.
Married 26 years, when I served him w divorce papers the next week he told our children about his mistress , they lasted 4 years fought all the time , police called multiple times She now has a no contact order against my x
Exactly this is happening with me now.... The new supply is burning his petrol and she is with him just to make me angry. This new supply is actually a recycled supply. She is stalking me heavily thinking that i will give her attention. She thinks I don't have her number anymore. Which is making her crazy. Here I am catching her every day and laughing my ass off.😂
This came up on my phone at the right time. I left my narc bf 3 months ago and he’s been so cold. I knew he’d move on quickly due to his behavior towards me. This just confirms that.
You’re absolutely right, thats so true. & thats exactly what happened to me. They kept chasing after me; made one account after another; harassed me all through social media over and over again and made more than FOURTY accounts ; just to chase after me on Snapchat *alone* .
Go no contact if possible, meaning if you don't have kids together. The flying monkeys are toxic people too and oftentimes narcs themselves, getting attention and supply through you by doing this. You don't need people like that in your life and don't let their opinions matter. Don't give them this importance. Hope you have not a freelancing business he can hurt. Stay safe. I have smear campaigns going against me even years after the death of my narc aunts, but I don't care about their opinions.
I moved 200 miles away. He travelled down to see me, at weekends. I learnt to use my time in the week to find new hobbies go new places. I then told him to stop coming down on Fridays so i could have a fun night out. I then started to skip whole weekends. I did what i could not to trigger his abuse, knowing he would be with his other supply anyway. I slipped myself into the position of not being his main supply, then slowly it faded out. Make yourself useless yet friendly
It's all about control to a narcissist. If you leave them, they lose control over you. Yes they'll replace you with someone else they can manipulate and control, but they become obsessed with getting back control over you and every aspect of your life.
So true and what is so bad, is that the one that lives in my apartment complex. He's 60 years old! I told him off last night! Won't tolerate his physical, verbal and sexual abuse!
right I have to remind myself my ex never see's anyone as ppl because she was to shallow to take a chance on understanding true identity so she accepted a objective world where she was a object sorting thru objects I can't believe I ever called myself loving someone so hollow then blamed me for not filling a void I didn't create like I needed therapy whenever it's been a issue i attacked the issue not the ppl around me
And then the guy claims he's not a cheater... LOL 😂 He literally had a love triangle going on without me knowing and when I found out, I discarded him back for good.
That so true. I've experienced that. I dumped the narcissist ex 'girlfriend' because of her and her family's toxicity. She was shocked & angry to a point of sleeping with the first piece of trash. When I dumped her, she was still a virgin. She went with the trash to get back at me. I was free of toxicity and went absolute NO CONTACT forever. 🙏
My brother took his own life, as the only means to escape the pain of having 2 narc parents... I 'only' had the one. His mother's emotional response, following the news of his death, looked aggrieved, -hurt' and offended. She ehaved like a jilted lover a woman scorned!as if she was not grieving, so much as, enraged... at the sudden, total, ultimate loss of control. She'd even hijacked, and upstaged him, in his death! She felt so entitled to him, that his death couldn't curb her narc 'enthusiasm' for shameless attention seeking supply missions. She likely felt 'betrayed' and abandoned, she percieves everything, as if it's about her! Like it's an affront to them, invoking their shame about (and against) her. It was not grief and loss I felt emanating from her, the understandable and inevitable anger that we accept is one of the 5 stages of grief. It was a clear show, albeit not intentional entitlement lost through death that was the ultimate, in terms of ego injury. As far as I can tell, I am now the only person alive in my world, to attest to this insidious, brutal and fatal abuse, that remains utterly 'hidden', and enabled, and where I have lost everything just so as to survive at all. Narcissism, the greatest threat, and insidious , hideous, scourge of humanity. Thanks for sharing excellent, succinct, easily accessible content 💯👌🌍
It’s a hammer blow when you leave them. Who cares if they find someone else. They will never get over the loss of one who leaves no matter how many cheap replacements they find.
I thought my mother would grieve more after her only sibling died. They talked on the phone every night, sometimes for hours. Within 2 weeks of my aunt’s death, she found a friend to replace her sister. My mom was back to her two hour phone calls every night, just like before. It seemed very strange to me.
That is super strange. Strangely it kind of confirms a suspicion I have of my sister. We lost our mom years ago and her baby daddy was a deadbeat and I felt she tried to make me replace my mom’s absence and her bd lack by putting her life responsibilities on me. FF she leaves bd and dates for many years. Was very picky about all the men she was dating as a 40 yr old woman. Like she would cut dudes off for all sorts of superficial reasons. One dude she said she couldn’t get past on one of his ears was shaped. Well I cut her off a while back and whaddya kno within months she’s so called engaged. I wasn’t trying to make it about me but couldn’t help but think that she used him to fill my absence. She barely knew the guy.
I wish I k 🎉knew this 3cor even 4 relationships ago ! Thank you so much. I'm glad ibshTtered his false sense of self & that he' doing something shameless & hovering the solution whi befriended me to get to him behind my back , while she lives w her husband still & grown & teenage children. May they both live in narcissistic bliss
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They always had other supplies while u were dealing with them. There is no such thing as a faithful narc. If u are in a relationship with them its an open one whether u know it or not. smh
😂😂😂yuppp cause he was on social media anyway had maaad female friends they postin pix and all this one chick was a stripper and he tellin me about her life like I gave a dammm!! She obviously was posting half naked pixx and he wasn’t deleting her but I wasn’t supposed to keep no supply on the side?? No I didn’t have sex with anyone while we were together but I had the feeling that We were going to break up sooo yea I had men waiting for me on the dating sites why not??? These men look at other women all day long and it’s cool I don’t think so
Except not a completely open one. It was only "open" on his side. On my side of the relationship, it was closed (as in: I was ever faithful). 😐 It was one of many double-standards he had, unfortunately. 😔
A walking std and they hate condoms.
So true
@@karmahleone1196the same thing happened to me. He was all over these women's pages who were in their underwear. He has over 1,000 Facebook friends and 99% of them are the females that are like this. He would be telling me about them as if I cared as well. I thought I was alone, I thought what he was doing was strange but I guess I'm not.
Yup they usually have another one lined up just before they discard you
Narcs. always have more than one lined up.
dude, or dudette :) seriously? they are always looking.................................they are never loyal and they do not love so there you have it. it's only what they can get.
For sure! They would never leave or let you leave without new supply (s).
Tye ex-husband did this to his last gf. He remarried in less than a year. He said that he loves her enough. WOW
Sooon as they get you they are bored and next oneos beong put intp place and trained to replace you..and same will happen to them ..
they don't have emphaty,
no feelings at all !
They have feelings. But only for themselves.. That is why they are empty vessel ....needing others to just survive
They actually do
But they don’t know how to regulate
Their own emotions
And they take it out on u
Not only is he not royal to you, but also not royal to his own buddies.
@@alexisgreene8952this is true!! My ex talked shit about his friends a lot!
They are like brick walls
When you leave a narc they become obsessed with the one that got away be careful some become dangerous
I made a mistake years ago and took him back…24 miserable years later I’m planning my escape. Please don’t take them back. I wish I knew what I know now😢
We all wish that we knew what we know now but at least we learn and grow! Wish you lots of love & freedom ❤
how did you do 24 years with a narc? i couldnt do 6 months lol
@@happycare6999trauma bond
Good luck, I hope you find peace and happiness away from your narcissist.
HG Tudor wrote a book named Escape about things to consider if planning to escape a narc. Some are trying to sabotage your job so that you cannot escape. Helped me a lot about the pitfalls.
Narc replaced me while I was cleaning the apartment after filing divorce. Narc had a new supply before divorce papers were signed. Stay Safe.
What a Creep, well at least he's someone else's problem, although I wouldn't wish that on anyone 🤔🚩🏃♀️
Well that’s what I am going thru, he with new supply , waiting on notarized divorce papers so we can be finalized
@@DeeDe730How’s everything? Are you ok?
@@ifyousayso9392 Yes, All is well. I’m At Peace, but still waiting on the signed and notarized Divorce paper, otherwise my emotional wholeness and healing is being restored daily Thru prayer 🤲🏾 and meditating in His☝🏽word, getting out in the atmosphere…. Enjoying what I use to do Before I got married & doing New Things!!!!!!!☺️
Mine did something similar, and after the initial, I felt relieved that he'd moved on and I could finally find heslibg and peace. He even married her, but unfortunately, within 3 years of love bombing and marrying her, he had discarded her like a dirty rug! I believe he deceived her and did all that to try and spite me. Poor lady. With time on his hands while sesrching for a new supply, he sure enough came back into my radar to annoy me, but I was having none of it!
I've experienced when you lose interest with them. They are so arrogant to think that if you're not interested in them that there's someone else, not their behavior
Spot on! I used it against him by telling him that since I am the bad one and everything is my fault, I should stop bothering him 😉 But.. in those moments, he either blamed me more by saying: "yeah, you're finding ways to leave, right?" Or they deny that you're bad (when trying to love bomb you and suck you back in) smh
Yes, and they think that because that is what they use to do.
😂 stop lmao! Is that why towards the end when I was actively planning my escape plan he would surprise me by showing up without telling me he was off work and he would say “just seeing if your boyfriend was over!”
Or when he would call me he would say “tell your boyfriend he has to go home now” 😂😂😂
I was the only faithful one in the relationship and I’m damn proud of it.
Perfectly said!
@@superwoman7397 sounds just like my ex girlfriend.
From my experience, if they have invested a lot and find difficult to find another similar opportunity, they try hoovering in a thousand ways. From victimhood, asking for forgiveness and promises of change, behaving wonderfully, the mask securely fastened again, etc.
Then they will make you pay for generating more work for them.
Zero contact
My distant uncle is angry when you don't let him stay our houses and not bring him out. He has pension from Police serving 30+ years. Like we owe him our life
Nonsense 🤣 the one who invest the most in relationship can't be narc
@a.k.p7030 yes alot of cptsd victims start becoming and having narcissistic fleas is what it's termed. We have no choice but to.play their games to get out sometimes
Exactly I dealt with one and I snapped on him like never before and he turned around and start showing a different side every once in a while I would remind him just who tf I am but that does not always happen with others 😊🌻🌻
@@a.k.p7030 my narcissist pays all my bills, even if he has nothing to eat himself but he lies and cheats over and over
If you leave them, that’s good! If they leave you, it’s also good. Either way, they will miss and want you bacc knowing that their other supplies doesn’t measure up to you. Plus when you ignore them or don’t give them no type of reaction’s upon seeing them, it make’s them cringe knowing that they no longer have power over you. The role’s are now reversed.
Spot on. When you leave a narcisist their ego gets hurt - how dare you?! So they will do something to get an ego boost immediately.
Spot on again Danish. I divorced my ex-husband 6 years ago, he went back to one of his old supplies and married her. He is so shameless, to this day he is full of rage. We went to court and he starts telling the judge that my house has equity and he when he left the home 6 years ago he took nothing. The judge had to shut him down that we were in court for something else and that judgment was made on my home during the divorce. These narcissists are unbelievable and demonic.
Wow! Very true.
Hey entitled foid how are you
@betterthanuall , I am doing great, Narcissist. Are you trying to , kill, and destroy?
U gave him too long time of ur precious life...don't be weak...u should not feel for shameless ppll..u find the proper person in ur life...that's ur winning...they r already cursed by God....
Alhamdullilah, this came at the perfect time. I left my husband 2 days ago.
Wow.
NC!!!!!!
Hope u are faring well.
Stay safe and never go back!
PLEASE DONT GO BACK!!!!!!!!!!!! STAY SAFE🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Narcs are like Tarzan...they never let go of one vine until they have a firm grip on the next one then they swing right on out of you, and into the next poor SOB.
They ALWAYS have/had others lined up just for this very situation. They always have “back ups” and you were once a back up that “got” to be center stage for a short time due to the novelty. Eventually, they will piss off the new supply, the new supply will figure out what they are dealing with and the narcissist will have to find more “back ups” to cycle through. It’s a dysfunctional, never ending cycle. It’s never EVER just you and the narcissist in a relationship. They always must have constant sources of validation and are chronic novelty seekers.
They typically already have. They will repeat this their entire life - even once married. Which is why it was never love. It was their game and you were a piece, an object to be played. They don’t know what love actually is, but claim to. Let them figure it out. They will continue playing their game themselves amongst others they will do the same with.
Pray for them bc the are actually tortured souls and do not even know/realize it fully bc they do not know the difference between love and using others for their selfish ends. Everything is conquest and competition and, tbh, that’s a lonely life to exist in.
The only love and endearment they have is for themselves. Their huge ego, grandosity, and sense of entitlement insurers this. Thinking of them in endearing terms leaves you wide open for a future encounter with a narcissist that has targeted you for a future replacement. Narcissists are not stupid as they do know exactly what they are doing or what they did.
They are demonically controlled,by choice
Amen!! So true!!
I like to secretly turn the tables on him. I treat him with love & respect. I think of it as doing a public service.
Amen so true.Its too bad they don't understand what feelings are and caring for a partner.They don't understand what love is.There is more to life than material iteams and playing games.Theres more to life than supply.They don't know what it's like to be happy, satisfied, content and thankful.
I've literally seen them go right into their phone the same day. They'll do that and immediately act like you don't exist there you're standing right in front of them.
They do cry. My narc has been crying foe weeks. It's fake, completely fake but still. I don't want people thinking their abuser must not be a narc because they're crying. It's FAKE!
Everybody has narcissist traits. A couple is not bad but the difference is being able to be emotionally intelligent, have awareness, recognition to grow, learn and change. They do not care and hardly looked inward. That's why they always go outward for more supply to compete. I personally ended up becoming so abused and unseen in absorbed him in my codependency and now am truly recognizing these traits in everyone. The main trait of a narcissist is YOU are Bad, IM good. If we blame all this on them how are we better? It's a dance with the devil the entire process. It's all the world and people and we need to recognize we are all the same as each other. One. We are only as good as them and it takes this abuse to wake our selves up to our own worth. I surrendered all to my marriage to a covert dark triad nice guy who ended up breaching psychopath when I unmasked and started calling out his patterns and then it became sadist and to the extreme. I didn't know how to say No and was a fawn conditioned by am OVERT dark triad. I thought I had held and finally had a good man due to his stable job and he was constantly there in body at least which was more than I had my whole life growing up in foster care. I then devoted all my life, willingly gave my career and active city life to became a suburban house wife and play this role of a bibical wife, loyal and too forgiving and just incredibly happy to be a part of the PTO and stay home to raise my child and care. Give him everything I never had. Which he's kind of a brat now. I thought his father's influence wouldn't be too bad bc he was mainly working or out at a bar and left me alone to raise him for the past 4 yrs. But then came the devaluation, devastation of this man I thought was good actually was always behind my back talking anything, truth or not to make me his captor and say I don't do anything and many more terrible things upon porn and online hook up when I was in church with my child. I had a stroke from the cognitive dissonance and truth I found out. Then was told it was me and put down to where I did beyond to try to prove my worth to him and love, understand etc... he always stonewalling or said I'm sorry. Or defended himself passive aggressive was all he ever knew. Then after 2 years of round circle I finally started explod9gn the same way... but i felt sad, remorse and wanted to change. He wanted to destroy. They dont even have then empathy to understand. My point is we are victims yes, but we also were never much more than a shell than they are.... the same. The difference is we try to be better and they seek to destroy. However the real truth is them destroying our ego and false self we painted next to their false self was going above and beyond to stay and also are manipulative to survive it and grow. It's been the biggest blessing of my life waking up to this truly spiritual warfare and the pain. Understanding this was my mess as much as him. We are one. I focused all my.attention to fix and get him happy the past year I ended up depressed and isolating in room and very sick so he ended up having to care for my son... who now beyond being slightly spoiled started acting like his father as his father was pulling the moves his mother did. Which was controlling by food, serving 3 meals, cleaning all the dishes and literally never making him clean his plate. And my son is exhibiting some beginning traits that I am truly angry I lost so much TIME stressing over thin middle age man who is like a 4 yr old. Meanwhile my 7 yr old recognized the patterns and is on board with us separating from his father. We pray and love him together. However this home and stable.place I made... was never truly stable. I also a single mom and have nobody to help realize it's going to be really hard to lose our house he grew up in with a pool and memories, our inverted community and more to move into an apartment. However, there will be peace and growth. And hopefully the narcissist will grow from our absence. Most likely pity and self destruction more. But I am taking accountability for my lack of protection that was stolen time from my son and I submitted. I was equally foolish and will not return to this.
Am I the only one who thinks that narcissism should be classified with psychopathy? I mean only a terrible person could do something like that. Dehumanize someone to the point that when they're out of your sight, they don't exist.
With no shame. Remorseless.
Shoot, he was trying to replace me long before I left. He was always on dating sites trying to "see what else is out there." Well, now I'm free and he can have what else is out there. I feel bad for that poor soul, though. I hope they get out sooner than I did!
That's exactly what he did to me!!!! Only he hovered and cheated on me with some pos he knocked up. He triangulated us and she hates me. I can't wait till he passes a disease to her because he's cheating on her too. Trauma bonding is a horrible thing
Haha same😂😂😂.now he's trying his best for a new supply
Omg same, he was on many dating sites. SMH must be a class on manipulation that they take cause he was an expert!
Same smh!
i feel like we dated the same person, he would be on dating apps the next day if not way before.
Ironically he'd always say that I was the one with the ego problem when clearly he's the one with a huge ego. And everything he did do,he would blame it on me,even though did those things himself. He would even mirror my words and trauma. But now his words mean nothing to me. I see him as a weak person who needs to break others down to build himself up.
That’s exactly what they are sis Weak 👌
Oh my god that sounds exactly like the one I dealt with, he was always projecting saying I was this or I did that when those things applied to him and not me.
I dumped my narcissist and he was married 2 months later
He was probably engaged while you were together and dating her the entire time. Claiming how you weren't serious, despite any children or sharing a home and starting a picture perfect life. Doing all the work yourself as he used it to make himself more valuable or appear stable.
@tracyjohnston5899 proud of you and the strength that took
I dumped mine, he was engaged 6 months later 🤣 and we were together for 5 years. Freaking weirdo!! We really dodged a bullet!
@@MarjyGTVI just dumped mine 2 days ago. I already placed bets that he’s probably with his next victim right now and is gonna get married to her in less than a year lol 😂 I’d say it hurts, but it hurts more that I loved someone who didn’t love me back. I really just want to move on now. Together 7 years.
Edit: I pressed charges and he’s in jail! I’m so thankful for the police officer who recognized I was being abused and made me feel comfortable enough to come in and give victim statements. He assured me he was good at his job and personally called to tell me he got a confession!!!
Just like you don’t have any feelings or attachment to an appliance that breaks down and needs replacing…..but you can feel the immediate inconvenience of not having that appliance in the moment that you need to use it…..you might even cuss at it for breaking down when you needed it. But you just go out and buy another. This is how we are regarded by a narcissist. We’re nothing more than an appliance.
Exactly, he can kick rocks😂
Hope whoever replaces me calls the police on him and puts him in prison where he belongs
YES!
My narc had me replaced while I layer in bed after a 9 1/2 hour cancer surgery on pain meds. In fact he had me replaced months if not years before he left. That's just haw they operate. Hard lesson to learn but I did.
❤😢
That’s crazy I hope he got his karma those people are evil.. mine abandoned me and my kids
Perfect, you were able to heal in peace. Narcs can't handle being there for someone else in their times of need for too long.
Horrible people they are. 😢 Hope you had support from other people. At least it freed you from a toxic person.
Tough, they better get use to being dumped, as the situation isn't going to change.🤔🚩🏃♀️
😂 whew!
Just left my covert narc husband. I brought my daughter and grandson so he would not get physical. Hardest thing I’ve ever done. We moved every speck of my existence from this man’s life. I don’t care what he does or who he does it with anymore. Now begins my recovery. Thank you, Danish! ❤
I wish you a soon recovery and beautiful times to come! ❤
That is how I feel. I pray forgiveness if I am wrong but after being discarded in such an unbelievably evil manner I cannot trust him to eve accept a cup of water from him.
Congratulations!
So relieved to be FREE of this. Never again!
Mine went through my social media "friends" not my family, my old classmates ....to find someone to triangulate me when he decided to ghost me. I blocked him immediately 7 years ago. Still stalking and hacking me.
Ugh..lol...who cares what he is doing😊 I made a wonderful macaroni dish lastnight I followed an Italian Chef and my entire family absolutely loved it
Unfortunately he didn’t have the balls to “end” it with me I cut it off I got tired of lashing out on the dude. I got bored👀
The anger he had for me was pure evil! He was seething during the mediation meeting.
I don't think my family is full with rage, no one contacted me for a year
It's like I was nothing.
I tought there was some love for me but it's probably was a fantasy all along
They are full of it alright. Full of devaluing you to where they don't even acknowledge you. Their love wasn't even a myth it was just a wallflower prop for drama or feeling superior or????
That's a fact 🎯💯
Sleezy
Not to mention all the web cam porn and porn sites and dating sites they were using daily when you were together
Mine did this religiously like a porn addict
@@mary-bethminton894
Hope the x narc chokes on his own (fill in the blank)
Wow that’s crazy.. I found this too! It’s sickening. Mine told me well I like watching porn.. I’m like these girls look young he’s like they’re 18&over.. I’m like dude Ure sick! Never left my daughters alone w him. These people are addicts and evil.. they shouldn’t be living
my narc husband always says, just remember there are many pebbles on the beach
There’s also a lot of dog sh*t on the beach too! Enjoy
@@fluffytail6355 A fool looking for fools gold. Pitiful
And u are still with him?
That's when you tell him " and there is not one like you " psalm 139. You are fearfully and wonderfully made.
They don’t wait until you leave. They are always on the prowl.
He or she is just going to look for their next victim .
Leat em go , hopefully they find a narc back.
My ex narc had contact with his ex all along I hope they are happy I genuinely mean that 🥰🥰🥰
Yup the ex narc already had 7 people lined up before I left but it's all good cuz I am better now. However I did waste 14 years of my life. Smh
He got himself a sugar momma. Not going to lie, it hurt and plays on my insecurities but God is helping me. I wasnt suppose to be trying to provide for no man anyway smh...
He would use his awareness of healthy relationship tools such as communicating to fix ruptures as a manipulative strategy to blame shift on me and use against me when I finally tried to go no contact. He would accuse me of not effectively communicating.. but I had tried to communicate in so many ways before being exhausted and leaving. Everytime I would communicate.. any triggers I exposed in moments of transparency would be used against me, he would use word salad to confuse me, he would try to deny my reality and make me feel like the problem, he would rage at me.. or he would say okay and make absolutely no changes whatsoever so that I would keep begging and he would keep dangling the carrot and I would be in overdrive working to uphold our connection whilst he would just lean back, observe and keep moving the goal post further. I'm pretty sure that he smears me saying I don't communicate and I'm emotionally abusive and I ghosted him but I was emotionally drained, depleted and had lost myself whilst getting next to nothing in return 😢.
I feel your pain😢 But it gets good & better when you learn prioritizing yourself in everything and shift from living in that "lito world of compromise all the time" Dear God Save & Heal Us All Aameen🙏
You make me so fucking happy. Even when what you’re saying is so true that I cry, I’m still so happy I found your channel. Thank you! 😊
Omg, you are absolutely right. My ex-narc always on social media to find new supply 3 in the morning
This is EXACTLY what happened to me. After 18 years together I filed for divorce. I couldn't continue in the marriage, it was killing me inside. I felt my soul dying. He signed up on multiple dating sites, bragged to me about his sexual conquests and how "talented" the women were in bed. It was like getting hit with a massive wrecking ball and feeling the pain it caused in slow motion. The aching inside of me was almost intolerable. Working out/exercise is the only way to get through it without it destroying you.
He met many women and within 3-4 months he had found my permanent replacement. It's been 8 years and they're still together.
I gave this man his only child, my youth, my love and loyalty. He appreciated none of it. Replaced me as though I never existed. It's been 8 years and at this point I don't think the shock that I never meant anything to him will ever go away but the pain of sadness has subsided to a degree that I can live with.
Trust and believe he is giving that other woman 8 years of pure hell. Men like him do not change they only change the women they can abuse.
Remember longevity doesn’t mean bliss and happiness.
You know what's in store for that replacement.
The way he spoke to me was uncalled for the day I walked away again. But let's remain friends he said while his supply/new gf was talking to me for proof of his actions with me and other women. I never responded to him thereafter, I remember he was sitting at the hospital parking lot cause his dad had fallen so he was already tense and it just seems he used that as an excuse to slaughter me and say what he did. I couldn't take it anymore. And I doubt he even gave a care I blocked him; well maybe, who knows. I just know he had his back ups lined up and ready to "comfort" him.
Right? These f k ers want to remain friends after all they put us through.
@@smithashekhar9539 Imagine if I did stick around; it'd be hell on earth! Plus he continued the smear campaign, the "being friends" would have ended either way. They have brass ones to try keeping anyone they've hurt at their side.
@@blix_xo I didn’t get your last sentence.
And I’m glad I blocked my ex too. Who wants to be friends with such🤪people? No Thanks!
@@smithashekhar9539 Basically they are pretty bold and confident thinking the people they've hurt will still stay with them through thick and thin. People can only take so much. Best remedy is block and stay no contact and staying strong to not look through their social media's. It's all fake to rile you up. Keep going strong 💪 ❤️
@@blix_xo well I would say they are pretty stupid to think people SHOULD/will stay and treat them like Gods no matter how they treat them.
I always think to myself, "Don't push me away & wonder where I went!" You wanted it to be over so bad, it's over! Go away, stay away! I'm so glad I've gone no contact & basically became a ghost from several Narcs this year. I'll gladly be the villain in their fake stories.
Well said! At the beginning when I heard of this kind of beings I wondered if this can be possible. Then after my eyes opened, I realized that they do exist to make us suffer.
He replaced me on my birthday with someone who was smaller but looked like me and who was like me according to him. He must have been very angry at me for daring to clean up my house for a week in order to host my son's birthday. I could only use one hand properly. He didn't offer to help me. Instead I recieved the weirdest phone calls from him. I didn't catch that he was angry. He seemed more lost than angry. But he did "threaten" to invite someone else over to his house. I recall thinking that if I would have to deal with this degree of mental cruelty it could turn my hair gray and make me age in an inappropriately short amount of time. It felt like some sort of attack. He must have been furious.
A shorter version of me helped him to feel taller as I'm taller than him as it were.
He has already replaced me.
Consider yourself lucky. U are worth much more than this
be happy! because you are free from the bondage
Don’t go back to him or fall for his tricks! Go NO contact. Block him and his friends on social media (or get off it entirely). Change your number. Use a post office box address to collect your mail. Become a ghost!
They are still married, and on dating sites, looking for the nxt source of supply. SMH
Exactly what the ex-husband was doing Asking other women in his phone are they still in ga,or whatever and4 or 5 he was talking to at the discard.
That's what they r doing...but they can't find me in another one....n they get frusted ....n want me back but knowing I won't go back to them ever ...they got mad..n feed their anger with addiction's mostly betraying n having fulfilling their lust just to satisfy their ego..n just to hurt u purposely .....
Yup. Family, friend and ex all narcissists. All replaced me like I was absolutely nothing. Fine with me. Still mourning and showing myself compassion but good fucking riddance
True.
My husband told to someone outside that he will get marry again as soon as i told him i don't want to be with him.
He is full of anger and rage as you said and i know he can do anything to me and my kids.
Thank you
I get it, there always trying to love their self. Let's pray they get relief some day
Love Mom
Mine literally told me verbally many times, if you leave me i will be with someone in next day.
Same. He said this yesterday. Then today called me crying crocodile tears. Idiot. 🙄
Yes, ex did exactly that. Went straight to a woman he'd put through the wringer off and on for a decade. I was told she'd listed him in her phone contacts as "The Narcissist" years ago. Poor woman. Danish, your insight is beyond all others on this subject.
And he came back again right…....... God how to deal with it
My ex Narc would always get mean when the summertime came... he was itching to run the streets. I released him last week and told him no coming back... BLOCKED. He was calling/texting old supply. I know a discard was coming.
That's great news in that they'll look elsewhere and leave you alone. Every man or woman for themselves.
My mom knows that she's a narcissist, she just doesn't care
Me: "... narcissist..."
Mom: "So?"
That is so weird
So so true.. everytime we broke he already had a girl..
Shame shame shame not from their prospective…. They got new grounds to tread upon.
This guy knows.❤
1111. JF
100% true...thank you for message...I lived this. life...but no more. have better life now..no more lies.. amen
Married 26 years, when I served him w divorce papers the next week he told our children about his mistress , they lasted 4 years fought all the time , police called multiple times
She now has a no contact order against my x
Exactly this is happening with me now.... The new supply is burning his petrol and she is with him just to make me angry. This new supply is actually a recycled supply. She is stalking me heavily thinking that i will give her attention. She thinks I don't have her number anymore. Which is making her crazy. Here I am catching her every day and laughing my ass off.😂
This came up on my phone at the right time. I left my narc bf 3 months ago and he’s been so cold. I knew he’d move on quickly due to his behavior towards me. This just confirms that.
Thank you, this is so right
She is hiding
Or in my case she already had someone prepared to walk right in after ten years together.
You’re absolutely right, thats so true. & thats exactly what happened to me. They kept chasing after me; made one account after another; harassed me all through social media over and over again and made more than FOURTY accounts ; just to chase after me on Snapchat *alone* .
This is Absolutely TRUE🔥🔥 they do replace you quickly because they always have Supply!!
Indeed pretty accurate: After 4 yrs he still contnues to hurt me using his flying monkeys & smear campaigns to hurt me.
Go no contact if possible, meaning if you don't have kids together. The flying monkeys are toxic people too and oftentimes narcs themselves, getting attention and supply through you by doing this. You don't need people like that in your life and don't let their opinions matter. Don't give them this importance. Hope you have not a freelancing business he can hurt. Stay safe.
I have smear campaigns going against me even years after the death of my narc aunts, but I don't care about their opinions.
They don't have feeling
Unpredictable action
They put other in miserable and they watch and start laughing at u and ur situation .
I moved 200 miles away. He travelled down to see me, at weekends. I learnt to use my time in the week to find new hobbies go new places. I then told him to stop coming down on Fridays so i could have a fun night out. I then started to skip whole weekends. I did what i could not to trigger his abuse, knowing he would be with his other supply anyway. I slipped myself into the position of not being his main supply, then slowly it faded out. Make yourself useless yet friendly
Unfortunately my mother cannot replace me. She will never hate anyone so much as me. I hope God protects me.....
Because she hates her self
Good Good Good. If that's what they do, count it as a blessing!! You dodged a bullet.
It's all about control to a narcissist. If you leave them, they lose control over you. Yes they'll replace you with someone else they can manipulate and control, but they become obsessed with getting back control over you and every aspect of your life.
So true and what is so bad, is that the one that lives in my apartment complex. He's 60 years old! I told him off last night! Won't tolerate his physical, verbal and sexual abuse!
right I have to remind myself my ex never see's anyone as ppl because she was to shallow to take a chance on understanding true identity so she accepted a objective world where she was a object sorting thru objects I can't believe I ever called myself loving someone so hollow then blamed me for not filling a void I didn't create like I needed therapy whenever it's been a issue i attacked the issue not the ppl around me
I have experienced this situation
And then the guy claims he's not a cheater... LOL 😂 He literally had a love triangle going on without me knowing and when I found out, I discarded him back for good.
They don't replace you instantly. The replacement has already been there as backup plan
You know the mind and behavior patterns of them so well!
If they don't have someone already lined up.
I know my ex did this. I feel so, so stupid for falling for it. He came to me with a sob story and I was just low hanging fruit. I fell for it.
I think narcissistic guy stalking me from multiple accounts when i stop talking him😢
That so true. I've experienced that. I dumped the narcissist ex 'girlfriend' because of her and her family's toxicity. She was shocked & angry to a point of sleeping with the first piece of trash. When I dumped her, she was still a virgin. She went with the trash to get back at me. I was free of toxicity and went absolute NO CONTACT forever. 🙏
My brother took his own life, as the only means to escape the pain of having 2 narc parents... I 'only' had the one.
His mother's emotional response, following the news of his death, looked aggrieved, -hurt' and offended. She ehaved like a jilted lover a woman scorned!as if she was not grieving, so much as, enraged... at the sudden, total, ultimate loss of control.
She'd even hijacked, and upstaged him, in his death! She felt so entitled to him, that his death couldn't curb her narc 'enthusiasm' for shameless attention seeking supply missions.
She likely felt 'betrayed' and abandoned, she percieves everything, as if it's about her! Like it's an affront to them, invoking their shame about (and against) her.
It was not grief and loss I felt emanating from her, the understandable and inevitable anger that we accept is one of the 5 stages of grief. It was a clear show, albeit not intentional entitlement lost through death that was the ultimate, in terms of ego injury.
As far as I can tell, I am now the only person alive in my world, to attest to this insidious, brutal and fatal abuse, that remains utterly 'hidden', and enabled, and where I have lost everything just so as to survive at all.
Narcissism, the greatest threat, and insidious , hideous, scourge of humanity.
Thanks for sharing excellent, succinct, easily accessible content 💯👌🌍
Christine Albright
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Yep. As soon as i walked out that door he was on the hook up apps.
That is very well said yes that's exactly what they do.
I was replaced quickly. When that doesn't work out, he'll be hoovering me again
It’s a hammer blow when you leave them. Who cares if they find someone else. They will never get over the loss of one who leaves no matter how many cheap replacements they find.
I thought my mother would grieve more after her only sibling died. They talked on the phone every night, sometimes for hours. Within 2 weeks of my aunt’s death, she found a friend to replace her sister. My mom was back to her two hour phone calls every night, just like before. It seemed very strange to me.
That is super strange. Strangely it kind of confirms a suspicion I have of my sister. We lost our mom years ago and her baby daddy was a deadbeat and I felt she tried to make me replace my mom’s absence and her bd lack by putting her life responsibilities on me. FF she leaves bd and dates for many years. Was very picky about all the men she was dating as a 40 yr old woman. Like she would cut dudes off for all sorts of superficial reasons. One dude she said she couldn’t get past on one of his ears was shaped. Well I cut her off a while back and whaddya kno within months she’s so called engaged. I wasn’t trying to make it about me but couldn’t help but think that she used him to fill my absence. She barely knew the guy.
My stepson told me after I left that “daddy told me he would find me a new mommy”
I wish I k 🎉knew this 3cor even 4 relationships ago ! Thank you so much. I'm glad ibshTtered his false sense of self & that he' doing something shameless & hovering the solution whi befriended me to get to him behind my back , while she lives w her husband still & grown & teenage children. May they both live in narcissistic bliss
Unbelievable! Bro... If you would have started this 10 years ago my life would have been saved.
True ..I am going through this phase ...
Mine just turned to our adult boys. That's his supply. Turned them against me. 😢