My Ex-Husband Who Cheated on Me With My Sister Emailed Me After 6 Years | Ep. 113
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 2 ส.ค. 2024
- Episode 113 - With Madi, Brandon and Sam
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0:00 Back to Filming in Real Time
3:02 Blachelor Update
7:10 We Missed Eachother
18:05 Parent's Test
29:11 Nebraska Accents
31:22 AITA For Walking Out of an Event When My Fiance Introduced Me as a Bookkeeper
34:12 Response
55:25 Updates
55:58 Here's What Brandon is Teaching Madi
58:33 Madi's Rizz Tip For Reality TV
59:25 My Ex-Husband Who Cheated on Me With My Sister Emailed Me After 6 Years
1:03:51 Response
1:08:42 Update
1:10:56 Response
1:12:31 Update
1:15:15 Response
1:17:45 AITA For Suggesting an Open Marriage Since My Husband Won't Have Sex and Begs Me No to Divorce Him
1:19:24 Response
1:32:06 WIBTA If I Break Up With My GF When Her Dad Died Bc of Me
1:33:50 Response
1:38:54 AITA For Not Telling My GF That I Was Gonna Break Up W/ Her If She Went on Vacation with Male Friends
1:39:58 Response
1:43:50 Edit
1:44:26 Response
1:46:02 Update
1:47:10 Response
1:51:48 Community Living Gab Sesh
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If your partner doesnt cheerlead you on, then why even be with them??? They dont even like you! Nah, 1st OP deserves better.
Totally agree! That's why I love my SO. He has openly said if I were to start making six figures, he would quit his job and become a stay at home dad, LOL.
I feel like we hear these stories on Reddit all the time-men who cheat on their SOs to be with someone too young for them, when their current SO was also too young when they got together. To be fair that man got what was coming to him!
I had an ex send me an email out of the blue years after we broke up, which was also incredibly awkward. Our situation wasn’t nearly as extreme but bro is married and should not be reaching out to his exes!
Honestly what's sick about these men who groom young women, it's like they can never leave their life completely. I was groomed from 12 to 16 by the same guy who was 5 years older than me. I'm now 22 and he still tries to watch my social media...it's like they NEED to see the products of their abuse.
@@JordynMassollI pray you get freedom from them. That’s so horrible *hugs*
my ex also tried awkwardly reaching out to me through a third party messenger ON HIS WEDDING DAY TO SOMEONE ELSE whats funnier is the 3rd party said “he wanted me to forward a letter to you, but i think its very inappropriate so im not going to send it to you but you should know hes getting married today” its always the ones that abuse u and treat u like ur replaceable and worthless that try coming back and acting like theyve only ever loved and cherished u. we didnt have much of an age gap when we were together (only 2 1/2 years) but once we broke things off and i blocked him on everything he started bragging about dating someone 2 years younger than me and attempting to reach out to brag about it thru mutuals lol. he also tried to proposition me into an affair 2 months into the relationship with the girl he ended up marrying. so the same kinda manipulative men always shoot younger. he still stalks my social media and i will get notifications of him trying to access my Microsoft and google accounts, his wifes social media pages all started getting recommended to me because he was using them to try and snoop. i pray for that girl, i hope she finds the strength to escape him one day
I'm an asexual, and I'd feel more comfortable with an open relationship, or polyamorous, for the fact that I know most people do need a sexual aspect to a relationship. If they can't have that with me, I'm fine if the relationship allows for them to have it with someone else, as long as it's safe and careful. Being ace, I can't comprehend why sex is so necessary to so many people, but I still can respect a partner who does feel they need it.
The button didn’t glow for me I feel personally attacked
it's a real thing i swear! But I don't think we said that right phrase and we have to be specific lol - Madi
It glows if you like it!!!
It glowed for me!😊
Nah if the response to "I would like more intimate time" is "give me a beej and no I won't reeciprocate" then yeah divorce is the next obvious step because of how cruel such a /worldview/ is. Husband knows he has a live in caretaker and knows he will sink not swim if he has to hit the dating pool again.
This one’s tough. Maybe they should have worked together to try get the spark going. As you get older sometimes you don’t want sex as much as. Or maybe he’s just going through a phase. But he also sounds like he not willing to work on it. So I’m really torn on that one. I don’t think anyone’s the asshole or right or wrong in situation. They need therapy lol.
31:22 NTA. That is definitely an insult, and since OP explained the difference to her fiance, he is choosing willful ignorance. I hope she broke off the engagement, cuz that is hella disrespectful
He’s doing it on purpose. If he said what she really did, people might wonder if she made more money than him, which it sounds like he couldn’t handle. He’s sabotaging her possible future work. OP needs to dump him. There are so many men out there who’d be happy to brag about her to everyone.
@@jroneida If you're that insecure, you don't need to be dating, let alone marrying anybody. That ain't gon' provide nothing but misery for both parties
@@esmooth919 agreed! I’m glad OP found out before she married him. She worked too hard to end up with someone who doesn’t respect her effort. Pick someone who loves to see you shine.
You're a legend for including the time stamp for the actual content
Grandparents rights are only in case of neglect. It takes a LOT to win that case, especially if the child’s parents are estranged from said grandparents.
Sam never disappoints with how far he is willing to cross the line and make us all laugh but sometimes he has a line of thought that is so profound. He surprises me with a very deep point of view every once in a while. Blessings to you all.
Sam's absolutely right about the "Ope". I spent all four years of college living with this girl from Illinois and her "Ope!"'s were so contagious they're still a permanent part of my vocabulary now
For the story with the guy that waited til his GF returned from vacation to break up, he already said, the friend/hookup person said she started talking a ton of trash about him (OP) out of nowhere when they were supposed to have broken up months ago so the hookup got suspicious and reached out to confirm if they were actually broken up and then the truth came out.
EXACTLY!! Thank you!!
We love Love in this house ❤! So happy to hear the Blachelor bore beautiful fruits, regardless of how your relationship evolves 🥰
madi's hair is hairing, gorg
Right? I was about to comment the samee
Brandon’s isn’t though
Right!? Low key but actually high key Madi is so gorgeous, cool, and stylish
She is vibes and style goals for SURE.
Why am I sobbing the parents test was soooooo cute
If your partner shares that they're uncomfortable with something you're doing or planning to do, a conversation should take place regarding those feelings and about expected boundaries. She didn't bother to ask further about his feelings.
And now we know why, because she was still effing the dude... Which is also why she never introduced her so-called boyfriend to her male friends.
I love that you guys can get a break and prerecord, but I love when you record closer to the release because then you are more pop culture relevant. Either way, a new pod episode is always a good time
The no sex one, if you are a sexual person in a relationship 6 months is a looooooooong time to try and talk to a partner about sex or lack of. I mean seriously sit there and think about how you'd feel about it taking 6 months for your partner to TALK to you about literally anything thats an issue. SIX MONTHS trying to have a CONVERSATION. I don't give a flying eff what the subject of the conversation is, SIX MONTHS?! That's divorce worthy 100%. Thats ridiculous. If in six months they won't even TALK about the issue therapy isn't going to help anything.
Brandon’s whole outfit is fire!! The slippers really tie it all together 🦖🦕
Feeling Reptar 🦖
I needed this fr. Been overthinking and in my own head, need you funny folks to cheer me up
I’m from Wisconsin, I’m a truck driver as well, since becoming a driver I can hear northern accents so much more since I’m gone a lot. So many Wisconsinites think they don’t have an accent. First of all, everyone does, secondly northern accents are quite strong compared to like Arizona or Nebraska.
As a married person I can almost guarantee that she’s tried to talk to him multiple times and more often than not he pushed her aside because he’s getting his jollies and doesn’t give a shit about her. So after trying to bring it up and being pushed aside what more do you want her to do?
Wow ! There was tangent galore, and I'm here for it ! 🤭
I've always preferred when podcasts don't do seasons, bc their haitus puts a hole in the podcasts I look forward to. So i love that you guys take breaks while still providing content! Really appreciate that
i listen to A LOT of podcasts,,, but this is only 1 of 2 that i actually know and wait for the day its posted each week. i loveee listening to you guys, cant wait for next week😽
when story 2's OP met Dan, she was 18 and he was at least 25 (if my math is right)
while i don't wanna like. stir the pot or anything without knowing their actual story, i can say that i made a similar choice (dating a 25 y/o at 18) and it's NOT something you really wanna sign yourself up for like that
mine didn't end with a marriage>divorce, but it certainly gave me a lot of trauma that i'm still recovering from to this day
it sucks and i feel terrible for OP in that way
also! eta!!:
grandparents rights is something that exists at different levels across different states (im just talking about usa atm), and it's complex as hell
but at minimum it only allows grandparents to apply for visitation rights
it's not an automatic thing and i believe you still have to go in front of the court in some degree
if the grandparents have more of a basis for more visitations or custody, then it becomes a more complicated matter
1:04:34 What gets me is that she met him ON HER EIGHTEENTH BIRTHDAY. Girl was BARELY a legal adult. That man was really scraping past the legal boundaries
Alright but like- I can't get over how sick that intro is!!
Been a comforter AND ottoman for several months now, (yes, you can be both) and I have been absolutely blown away and so impressed with the people y'all are becoming.
You folks, you've been such a safe space for me the last year in some very hard times.
(Even that time I had to "Hard disagree" with Sam! ;) ) Your takes are already so compassionate in general and human and boundaried. But on top of that if we audience have harsh corrections or concerns, y'all address it with SUCH grace.
I know I don't know y'all personally, but what I've seen of who you are through this pod has really been inspiring to me, I'm so proud of you three, this pod is on my top four (including SJ) favorite TH-cam channels list, and I am so blessed to be part of this community where almost all the other subscribers are also amazing people.
Madi, Sam, SJ, Brandon, keep being you.
PS I got myself a Comfort Level hoodie with my clothing budget this month, *NO RAGRETS*
Cant wait for it to get here!!
When Maddie’s dad said, “hey Brandon, how you doing?” he sounds like Chris Farley.
Per the convo about people thinking Americans ask drive tricks: When my middle school youth pastor went to England in college, everyone kept asking if she rode horses to school bc she was from Texas 😂
I thought for the longest time that a marriage and a partnership were a team effort, I got married, young and my husband never applied himself other than too drinking, after being a stay at home mom for five years I got a job and was making 307% more than my husband. He was miserable at his job I told him to quit. I would pay all of the bills and he could go back to school or spend time recording because music had always been his passion and instead he opted for divorce.
Now this divorce has been in a stalemate since 2012 because he believes he is entitled to alimony even though I have been raising our daughter since 2012 and he has not seen her since 2019
We are SO back. Loved the CO episodes but love these too
Glad you guys are “back”! I even loved the long tangent
my new comfort podcast. Thank you guys for existing.
I love this podcast. The parent test and the “it’s cold af out here boaaaa” made me laugh so much 😂💗
The way Maddie called me out about Sam from the jump is wild lol I love all of you guys!!😂😊😊😊
Love you guys! I hope one day to visit you guys in Nebraska!! 😔❤️
Legit liked, subscribe and commenting because you mentioned Caleb Hammer! LOVE HIM! Life changing.
Welcome back 🤠 the banter in the beginning was 👌🏽
47:03
Hammer is the man & he sorta woke me up even tho I'm still digging myself a grave & sleeping on the Walmart floor🤣
1:38:54 NTA. the fact that she used to *_hook up_* with one of the guys she's going on vacation with is a red flag in and of itself. I'm not against being friends with your ex, but you got to set some fxxxing boundaries. And quite frankly, OP's ex-girlfriend, you should have paid more attention to him when he said he was uncomfortable with this whole situation. But you chose to do what you want, and now you lost your partner.
And if what OP said in the edit is true, you are dirty as hell for keeping that information from him! And why didn't you want to introduce them to your friends? This personally triggers me, because I had an ex that did that to me! I felt like she was ashamed of me! And I should have left her ass then!
1:32:06 okay, that's just straight up manipulation, especially after you cheated on OP! You got a lot of nerve!
OP, NTA! Leave her narcissistic ass!
I actually grew up with a kid who's parents did the get neighboring houses together to coparent after their divorce since they were still friends. That way their kid together only ever had to go next door and still had both parents most of the time, and then his half siblings from each of his parents second marriages would also be babysat by the ex pretty frequently.
We love a longer episode ❤❤❤❤
I love this longer episode!
I loved the chatting at the beginning. 2nd story, dude's a predator.
THAT EMAIL !!!! 1:10:41
GET EM GLOW 😂❤
I will say I am HAPPY the gag order has been lifted! I love hearing yall ramble
OMG! Thirty years later, I've just figured something out. Guy I dated wouldn't let me come to his apartment. I'm so stupid. He was living with someone. I'm so dumb.
Last story, I think on the update, the “like a brother” guy reached out to OP because the ex was talking crap about OP to him. That left him confused because, why would she be talking crap if they had been broken up for months? So his little antena went up and he did some investigating. He said, “when did you guys break up?” And OP clarified the timeline. That’s when he, the “like-a-brother” guy, deduced that the girl had been lying the whole time, as he thought he was hooking up with a single woman the whole time. No, brother, you got played. You both did.
Yayyyyy yall are backk❤😄😄
I listened to this episode in the shower and after 26 minutes I still didn’t even get to the first story 😂😂 looks like I’m finishing while I do my chores for the day tomorrow morning
OP is NTA for leaving the event and did not overact. I would end the relationship.
Grandparents rights are only for when their child (the mother or father) has passed - so they can see their dead childs children.
Is this not exclusive to certain states?
I think they also kick in if the grandparents raised the child basically exclusively (like the parents bounced or had to be away for most of the child's life) and the parents come back to try and run off with the children.
No, it is when the grandparents already have a relationship with the child and they don’t want the parent or other guardians to break the relationship. All states don’t have them.
Me : ‘superrrr excited that it’s a long episode’
Finds out it’s because y’all called your parents 😭😭😂
Financial Planner here - YES, so much bad financial information out there. Finding reputable advice isn't exactly easy, finding a trustworthy advisor, isn't easy. My two cents...
6 months on your income saved in a high yield savings account
Max out 401k
Max out roth
Pay off CC every month
Evaluate spending and make sure it is ALIGNED with you (example: I love to go out to eat with friends and family but if I'm spending on fast food delivery...not aligned with my values)
"I know you've watched like 6 of our episodes now" stop it, how did you know 😅
Didn't realise I hadn't subscribed til I watched a video yesterday, then subbed
47:05 I want to get on his podcast just to get screamed at. 😅
That’s exactly what I’m saving up for right now. My mom and grandma live together so we all plan to get a two family home and they live on one side, I’ll live on the other. When gram gets older she’ll need more care and I’ll be close to help mom. It’s gonna be great!
I love y’all so much
I grew up in Kansas City through middle school and then moved around a bunch so I’ve picked up slang from all over and it’s made me more aware of my Midwest slang, but man I never thought about my usage of “Ope!” 😂 shout out to my NE Midwest comrades for pointing that out. We do love a good “Ope”.
I’m actually watching at 12 am 😂😂
Ottomen/comforters/cousins we’re getting spoiled today 😁😁
I’m officially a comforter now! :)
31:25 Is where the stories start
Yass Sam I also love Caleb Hammer. So glad to see/hear about it
Omg I got home just in time. Thank God. Lmao
Wait...are y'all in Nebraska? Or one of you from NE? Regardless, hello from Lincoln, lol. You guys get me through the work day!
It’s crazy that I haven’t seen your video in a minute and I just came from Caleb Hammer video.
do you have a video about the case you talk about on 1:05:57 ?
This is maybe my 2nd time seeing you guys videos. Don’t know names yet sorry but my guy at the end! Come find me 😩. Your logic of thinking and building is exactly how I feel and strive to find really in a companion
God, I wish this had shown up before work today 😮
I like the new hair color Maddie!
maddie looks so pretty in this episode, she always looks pretty haha but this video in particular
My button glowed I even unsubscribe and subscribed back clicked all notifications just to see that glow too LMAO
As someone who has lived here my whole life, you all passed as Texans to me. Georgia would be pushing it imo
And I'm over here telling people, I'm an associate at CPA firm. Mean while, I'm actually an accountant of 16 years. 😆
Have you guys seen any updates from stories y’all have read a while ago?
Me. From Texas…. Saying out loud what the hell did we do to deserve the “no one wants to go to Texas” comment on the parents test 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Black Girl Magic Champagne is so good and it’s affordable!!
Bro! I am so juiced that you are talking about Caleb! My other favorite TH-camr!
You guys should move to Michigan, its more diverse than NE and cheaper than CO. As someone from Crete I appreciate the trees and water.
I love that Sam is an ope'r 😂 I somehow became one, and I don't know when it started or how. I'm from Texas (yes, Sam, some people want to come here LOL), and I've never lived anywhere near the Midwest, but I say Ope all the time!
Love Caleb Hammer!!! Potential crossover, Sam? 👀
My family has always had a truck as a main vehicle. If we only have one, dad's the main driver but thats due to his job. It's mostly because we lived on a farm and used it to haul stuff. Mom has had SUVs, cars and currently a truck but I've mainly had cars or SUVs since the gas is ridiculous.
Custody and grand parents rights in most states is based the significant established relationship with grandparent/stepparent ect.
Imma sit back and enjoy the gab sesh at the beginning, much appreciated updates y’all
I never met ur dad and I nailed it!😂😂😂😂
Brandon’s sweater and slippers are SICK
Wooo another Caleb Hammer watcher!
It is mainly Sam, sorry y’all. lol When Sam was derping around in the background and not part of the podcast my eyes were glued to him the entire time waiting for something to happen and then he falls down the stairs. Haha
No cause we get it lol
Not the Chelsea from Love is blind reference. I'm obsessed with how crazy she is right now
For the last story, OP mentioned that the girl was talking bad about him a lot (so I’m guessing it just came suddenly) so I’m assuming that’s why the other guy asked OP if he was still in a relationship to see if something had happened
Brandon…i NEED those slippers!!!
I had been wondering who won The Blachelor! Lol - was there only one episode?
yeah just one :)
1:39:58 They should have communicated about boundaries when it comes to opposite-sex friends. He should have explained how uncomfortable he felt knowing that 1) he has never really met the male friends, 2) she is friends with her ex, and 3) she is spending time with just them. Yes, having an ultimatum is a douche move, but if he had said something way before about his boundaries, 'icks', and crossing boundaries, then maybe she wouldn't have been so surprised that he wanted to break up.
Of course, she is also in the wrong for not introducing her friends to him, keeping the ex a secret, and not respecting his boundaries and comments about her friendships. If she was more understanding and had opened up her friend group to OP, then maybe he would have trusted her.
Sitting listenig... from Texas. 😅
has the intro always been pre-recorded?? lmaoo
yes :)
I love Financial Audit! A crossover episode maybe…
i think the last story the reason the guy is reaching out is because the girl probably slipped up and said something about OP again and he’s thinking, what is she so mad about this guy she supposedly broke up with months ago.
Put this on for my shower, 30 mins in and still haven’t started the story. Thanks. 😒
We know you don't all drive trucks, but typically all those that do drive trucks have a very specific stereotype that they almost always live up to.