Yeah, felt that. Opening up about your personal info you keep quiet because you care about this person you're getting close to, listing your every self perceived flaw, and then having the other person blatantly put other things aside and make clear they're staying and really listening.
I’ve watched this clip on repeat for the last several minutes. My found family does this for me repeatedly and every time it nearly brings me to tears. Your people are out there. And if you need people, hi! I’m Shayna. Let’s be friends.
The way she snapped from vulnerable to strong (when the other woman said she had a meeting) to incredibly vulnerable again and showing that not just saying it…spot on.
@@RK-su4hsIt's not. She just shared something personal and wasn't sure how it would be received. I have bi polar but our moods, ie my mood swings are not that fast. Generally it's periods of six months with depression coming during winter but my meds keep me stable, in fact people are often surprised when I share I have bi polar as I keep my emotions private.
I’m the same way. I can endure cruelty or rejection stoically, but someone’s kindness can make me break down right in front of them. I don’t know why kindness makes me cry when cruelty doesn’t.
The coping mechanism of preparing yourself for rejection due to previous experiences vs Being unaware of how to react to such open acceptance and caring gesture you look up for so long
Hugh Jackman talked about this scene in Variety Actor on Actor with Anne. He praised the acting of this scene, showing raw emotions and highlighting how important it is to be in support of mental health. He said that this scene made him cry. ❤
I’m not bi-polar, but the way she describes depression… that’s me. And just to be able to say what she did and own it and be accepted… is… wow mind blowing 🤯 ❤
It really is! It took years to create the support system I have, but it took so much hard work on myself to get where I am. You can't just let the bipolar own you. You have to work on getting the right med combination and try to find the right ways to help yourself when you're in an episode. It's not easy. But having a real support system absolutely helps.
@@michaela1641 It does really suck, but there is so much help available nowadays on top of medications that can really help. I hope you are doing okay and have a good support system to help you. I didn't at your age and it was so freaking hard. ♥️🫂
As a schizoeffective sufferer with no friends due to this mental illness this made me feel so seen. It’s so hard KNOWING you are a bad friend and are inconsistent while still desperately craving the laughter, love, and company of a friend or partner. I had this conversation with my current partner and he is the main reason I am healthy enough to work again and function in society. I still struggle making and maintaining friendships but in so grateful to have a partner that sees more to me than my afflictions
Hey there. So I don’t have neither conditions (have struggled hard with depression) and I too struggle with maintaining any sort of friendships. Just wanted to say I hear your pain & even more so respect for you.
I get it. I don't have schizoaffective disorder, but I've had a few friends who have, and I have BPD, bipolar disorder and PTSD. I think it's easier to be friends with someone who relates to having mental illness... until it's not. It sucks to lose friendships when two people's mental illnesses butt heads. It's very isolating.
*hugs* I suggest looking for friends who are neurodivergent, because a lot of what she is talking about (terrible friend, etc) AND the way she has to snap that mask back on... They get that too
@@kellypatterson4412 it’s an episode of “Modern Love”, I think season 1, but I’m not 100% sure. It’s on Amazon Prime and I LOVED IT! I made so many of my friends and family watch it with me after I watched it the first time. Just so you know, it intentionally takes a slightly fantastical directing approach at times when presenting the condition but the realistic moments- like this one- are soooo well done.
She gave her something that money can't buy. If you find a single damned soul on earth to truly love you, you are fortunate. This made me cry. I miss feeling that acceptance.
i have that friend. we were having our daughters wedding at our home. i really needed to be at the house directing. but i also had to pu my father in law at daddy day care (there so i could focus not on him for a day) he had alzheimer’s. no family member would pick him up on the way to our home. they didn’t want to be around him. i was sweating this when my friend said. bring his suit to me. i will pick him up have him showered and in his suit. what time would you like him there? the most amazing gift i could ever ask for.
I'm bipolar and she got it down pat. Feeling like I have to warn people what to expect by being a friend. And it makes me so sad even thinking about it because this feeling will never go away
Is there any medicine that helps? I fell into a bad state of depression in my mid-40s. I was laid off and had to move to a new state to start a new job. I literally just sat on the couch all day and stared into space and couldn’t eat anything at all. Luckily my doctor put me on Paxil and within days I was feeling so much better.
@@barbaravyse660 That's great news! Many but not all do not have the drive to get up and follow through with their meds, docs or therapist. With today's availability to meet online with doctors, therapist and so on, it opens it up much wider to getting the help needed. Sure there will be one or more appts in person for the assessment and meeting to discuss meds and maybe testing but once situated, Zoom, Telehealth and phone calls can keep clients going. Multiple weekly appointments to once every three, four or more months. There are organizations online too! Betterhelp, is one i have referred several people to for assistance. Learning to advocate for oneself is truly the most important to getting to know one's needs, wants and setting goals both short term and long term!
Hugs to you ♥️. My of my best friend is bipolar. We’ve been friends since 6th grade. I love her no matter what, and she loves me the same. I hope you always have support and love around you for those bad days when you really need it.
What really sticks out to me is how her tone lilts up at the end of every sentence. Thats a trick I've used to sound cheerful and matter of fact when im sharing about my health and i dont want to cry
I'm used to telling my stories with a smile and a kind of "it is what it is" attitude, which doesn't do me any favors really, but I'm too fucking used to people's same looks and answers. When someone truly listens and makes the time to be there for me, it's still hard not to dismiss myself and my struggles. Years and years of feeling like you're just on your own.
When someone is kind, so much kinder than you’ve experienced or expected, and their kindness hits your vulnerability so you begin to unravel on the spot…
I broke down in the psychiatrist's office towards the end of the first appointment, he asked "why are you crying?" I said "because you were nice". I was finally believed.
It's a lack of understanding and education in most cases. Fortunately that's usually solvable if that person is open to learning. Misinformation is also a big issue.
Kudos to those like her. Life is soo hard already without a mental illness... For Some who choose to avoid its a survival tactic. Anymore uncertainty and threats to stability could send them "over the edge" themselves.
@@mamacatselliot Do you care about them? Not throwing shade at all. It’s just such a sad place to be and there are usually things we do we don’t even realise to push and keep ppl at arms length, when you have mental illnesses and or other struggles. I’ve suffered from anxiety and SEVERE depression since I was about 4 or 5. By the time I was in my teens it was already really hard wired into me to not trust and to keep ppl anywhere from arms length to entire suburbs away from me. But I worked through a lot of things. Learning to Love myself as I am and even a little bit because of who I am helped a lot. Now I’m a couple weeks shy of my 54 birthday with a terminal illness and just coming out of a nearly 6 yr bout of THE worst depression I’ve ever had, but I am loved and dearly loved in return. Surrounded by the best of my family and friends, a handful of each ☺️ with many students from my teaching jobs who still keep in touch lovingly and I’m in one of the best places I’ve ever been in. (Ironically 😂) but I had to take a hard look at myself, own some shit, take the time to honour myself and my strength for battling soo hard and not giving in when I’ve spent a life wanting to. This spot is truly reachable - preferably without the terminal illness 🤭 and it is soo comforting and peaceful. Whatever your journey, I wish you luck and love. 🥰
Not bipolar but yes on Autism spectrum, ADHD, depression, EDS and anxiety and that sounds like my bad days. The ways we experience stuff and the reasons for it might be different but the outward result is the same: we all need kindness. Not necessarily niceness, but definitely kindness.
Depression can hit hard for anybody, you definitely don't have to be bipolar to have a hard depression. ADHD and Autism can also cause executive dysfunction which is not being able to move or do anything as though you were depressed but it's like an invisible wall rather than a mood issue (at least that's how I explain it to people).
@@sadlittleratboy ADHD and Autism sometimes work against each other. Structure against sensation seeking, sensory overload against not feeling the warning signs your brain and body give you. And all of that in a world that is made for neurotypical people.
Anyone with mental health issues specially bipolar diaorder read or at listen listen to Chapter 2 of Quran, called Surah Baqarah. It does wonders Im sha Allah.
I am NOT bipolar, i have bipolar disorder which is complete hell. I do find its much easier lately to be able to tell people, even potential employers, because most people are educated and accepting these days although some arent. Even so, its much better than it was even 10 years ago when i was openly discriminated against in the workplace (if youre bipolar your dangerous/crazy/incompetent etc). As it is, inspite of a few wobbles, ive been in remission for the best part of 6 years. I can hold down a job, i can cope with lifes nasty little suprises, and i am functioning. Its taken a long time, a LOT of medication and a supportive family/friends, but it is possible.
Congratulations. I have severe depression and have had since I was 4or5 but I finally worked out what was wrong or rather was happening with me, am medicated concealed counselled and had a good 15 + years in remission before some truly nasty struggles hit at the same time. It’s been a 6 yr struggle but the meds are finally working again and I have been completely regressed again for 2-3 months and just keep getting better. Mental illness particularly when severe can be very hard to survive but you are absolutely correct it IS survivable and when you do it’s the best feeling and ironically I’m in a better place mentally, in my head heart and soul then most ppl I’ve known in my 54 yrs. Sending you love, Thanks for putting your msg of life and hope out there. I appreciated reading it ☺️
I also have bipolar disorder. It started at 13 for me, which is abnormal. I was always an overachiever. Anyway, I felt everything she said. I can be extremely reliable, until I have to hibernate. Which doesn't make me reliable. Thankfully, I've been in remission for the last 6 or so years. I found a therapist that actually pushed me just before COVID, and we did weekly sessions until last year. I feel like I've managed to finally get my mind together, work through a lot of what caused the PTSD and CPTSD, and I feel like I'm finally becoming the person I always wanted to be instead of the one I felt trapped in. It's been empowering and scary. It's hard to let yourself feel what you need to without fear of regression. And it's made all the difference that I'm able to take time for myself when I'm upset, making that boundary and letting myself go through what I need to before being around others again.
Anne is amazing! You FEEL the emotions she conveys in this scene. So much so that everyone affected can see themselves in her portrayal. That's Oscar-worthy!
I just watched Mother’s Instinct with her in it and man I feel BAD for one of the women. Also that one kid was dumb as heck and stubborn. He probably didn’t care that his…
@nobody7765 unfortunately, l agree. I'm the person who does drop everything for someone and then when I need that person in my corner, they are nowhere to be found. 🥺
No fairy tale. They exist. Every one can be loved truly. 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉. Loved my youngest son is married almost ten years Loving each other They get through. Their ups downs Believe Hope endures. Fir true unconditional never fails it’s a choice decision daily. Easy at times no. But no relationship is either. Unless you want it more then life 🎉
It hit me like a ton of bricks when I watched this for the first time six years ago. Thanks to Anne Hathaway and the creators, I've now got a diagnosis and all the right meds. Seeing the clip now, I realise I'm not like this anymore. No crumpled up faces or quivering voices, just calm and realistic lows. The glitter has gone too, but it never was gold anyway.
Bipolar with depression, anxiety and PTSD here - this scene gets me every time and I still haven’t seen this fricken movie. It already hits too damn close to home in just this scene so I wonder if I’d be crying the whole time or just wishing for different friends/the characters life in the end. Cause fuck it’s so hard. I’m 32 this year… diagnosed almost 10 years ago now officially (depression diagnosed since 13, everything else came later due to a college professor noticing something different - my adhd and said I should just get tested for everything and BAM whole world changed and also made more sense. And I felt less crazy) forever grateful to him
It amazes me that every single role that Anne Hathaway has played has been epic and amazing.Not a single Hiccup such raw and pure talent. Absolutely amazing ❤ 💯 😊
I’m not bipolar but I felt it so much as a low functioning autistic person with constant depression/burnout. I sincerely don’t remember when I was feeling ok last time and I’m really bad friend, family member and wife. I want good but I just can’t communicate or do better
I was diagnosed with ADHD at 70. I often wonder what would have happened had I known earlier. So many people think it’s an ‘excuse’ condition, I doubt if it would have made any difference. People I tell now look baffled.
I was just diagnosed with ADHD at 61. I too wonder what life would have been like instead of 33 years of anti- depression meds, anti-anxiety meds, something for anger management. Years of therapy. Maybe nothing would have been different but I would have liked a choice. It's over; make the best of. It.
I was diagnosed AuDHD just a couple years ago. While it doesn't make any difference to anyone else in my family (except my kids), it makes a difference to me. It just answers so many questions I've always had about why I am the way I am. I'm not taking meds for this (although, maybe I should considering how difficult it is for me to focus sometimes - like now, I'm meant to be packing - but I've had more than 50yrs doing things the way I do them. At one point, I did wonder what might have been if I'd been diagnosed earlier in life. I gave in to the what ifs for a full weekend. And then I sat down to have a talk with...myself. As rough as it was at times, I survived and I chose which challenges meant enough to me to chase or conquer. I'm fairly happy with much that came deciding to pursue the things I chose to pursue. When I allowed myself to grieve heavily for a few days, I could see how it all just made me work harder and work smarter. If I'd been diagnosed sooner, I may not have had the courage to go to nursing school. If I'd been put on meds, I don't know if I could have used my ability to go hyperfocused and really do as well as I did. Thinking in those terms, I realized the diagnosis doesn't make my current life any better or worse, it just explains a great deal. One thing my mom had always tried to instill in me was my intelligence, my kindness, my seemingly overly sensitive nature, my "passions", all of it, made me more interesting and a plenty surprising for those who cared to get to know me. She was right. The weirdest thing is, I used to tell my kids "normal" is boring and my kids were not meant to be boring. They were never boring. Still aren't. The relief in knowing I feel now might not have been as comforting back then. Since I can't possibly go back to find out, I keep looking forward and I'm glad I'm part of this fantastically elite group of people, particularly women (we wouldn't have been diagnosed properly even if it was a valid diagnosis for the time because females are just not given the same level of concern or care when it comes to ASD, ADD, ADHD, etc.). What I guess I'm trying to say is that all of us survivors are proof that our strength is quiet, it's sneaky, it's surprising, and it's 100% ours to own. I'm proud to be part of this club. My community, I'm honored to be here in such fine company.
What led to your getting diagnosed? What medical professional diagnosed? What was your journey to your diagnosis!? Answers might help others of us gain understanding and begin to make different choices out if better understanding? Thanks for not giving up although there was no real help or diagnostic help available in our youth yet gaining understanding now can help us now to make different choices.
@@solitaryman777 There are those who can only see to the end of their nose. The blinders they wear are frighteningly huge and cover many things in life. I understand the wants, needs OR thoughts and Feelings of need to be sheltered and protect oneself from the outside world of wickedness and unknown. It's a tough life and only getting tougher as one gets older.
@@morganseppy5180 get the help you desperately need. That is a way for you to be part of modern love (self love and love for the society you're a part of by getting healthy and no longer cause pain to yourself and others)
I felt this way when I explained to my boss that I have adhd and autism. I got in trouble for being late to work too often. I explained that transitioning from one thing to another can be really difficult, and sometimes I even get hyperfocused on my own thoughts, not even on a physical action. I can begin thinking about something other than going to work, and suddenly 30 minutes have passed. It sucks. I explained it isn’t because I want to be late, or because I’m lazy, or because I don’t care about my job or other people’s time, or anything like that. I care very much about all of those things. I just get distracted easily, and when I get distracted it can be really hard to get un-distracted. I also sometimes have what’s called ADHD paralysis, or autistic burnout, where it’s like no matter how much I know I should do something, no matter how much I want to get up and do it, I just can’t. I feel completely drained of all of my energy and I just sit there thinking “I really should do this thing” but I can’t get my body to move. I was fully expecting my boss to tell me none of that mattered, and if I was ever late again I’d be fired. I’ve had that happen in the past at school. Luckily not too many of my teachers were like this, but a few of my teachers were very strict about deadlines, and they’d give me low grades on assignments if they weren’t turned in EXACTLY on time. But instead he was kind, and understanding, and he even told me I that while I do need to try and come into work on time as often as I can, I should also try to get accommodations. As soon as I left his office I cried. A little bit of patience and understanding goes a really long way.
Wow. I have bpd and when I say I felt everything she was saying to a T!!! I recently got diagnosed but I had been dealing with it for years and it’s like being 2 completely different people in the same body and taking turns on the drivers seat.
i’ve had this conversation multiple times with multiple people and it never ends this… beautifully. i would’ve absolutely broken down into a puddle of chaos pain if a single person cancelled plans on the spot because of what i just shared. instead i’m the one to always cancel plans, and the moment i need someone, i’m called inconsiderate and selfish. supportive people like this are so damn rare now.
I know this is a difficult burden, but educating the people around you is a huge step towards other people's acceptance. Researching your disorder can also be very useful for you as well (if you haven't already, you'd be surprised how many people are in the dark about their own diagnosis). I would (not even joking) have printouts at the ready explaining how bipolar disorder works, and explains what it is.
@@sadlittleratboy i completely agree. i’m aways educating myself about my conditions, and the ones people i care about have, so i can share that info and use it to work on myself. i just personally frequently find myself in relationships where the other person clearly isn’t receiving what im trying to share (obvi something else i need to work through lol). i can only help so much, you know? at some point, the other party needs to educate themselves too.
People have their own issues too. Some of the things that come with having a bipolar friend, who is admitly a bad friend for example, can trigger very negative feelings in some of us. This pain, and these concerns are just as valid, and these people don't need to be educated, if all they want is to avoid a heartbreak.
I suffer from severe depression, it's not as bad as it was, I use to not be able to function.. I'm now working and basically doing all the regular things, but it's still hard to focus and do things most days, Getting together with family is exhausting,.. constantly thinking about what I need to "fix" about myself is exhausting. Most days I just want to stop trying, but I know I can't. I force myself to do things and get out when I don't want to because I know that is the path to getting better... I don't say RECOVER because I don't know if I ever will but I do know I can and am getting better.
You’re still getting out there and trying; that counts for something, and expressing that you know you can and will get better is excellent positive self-talk. You’re doing and will continue to do great. You got this 👍👍
Growing up I had a really strict childhood, and part of that experience led to me having a hard time setting boundaries. It also involved being terribly scared of making mistakes and changing plans as that was simply not allowed. At this point I am trying hard to learn how to set boundaries without feeling guilty. But I’m also having a hard time doing things like this. Being kind to others who might need it. Changing the plans I might have m, because i don’t know when and how I can make those decisions. It gets especially hard when I have to set boundaries for a family member who need help, help I can’t give. I try, and I want to do a nice act for others, but too often I get cold feet and it feels so terrible not being there for others when they need it. I feel like a terrible person, who only push people away, and fear that one day people won’t give me that kinda kindness, because I don’t give it to them. I feel like a leach who only want good form others, because any day it might stop (I ask of anyone who might read this to please don’t spam. Tho I would like to hear if anyone have had a similar experience, and how they might dealt with it, but I ask for no pity or encouragement, or hate. I am getting help for my troubles. So hopefully over time it will get better)
I think you may benefit from listening to The Holistic Psychologist. Just watched today a video of hers about setting boundaries when you can't give the support people need. Sometimes just letting people vent for a set time you feel comfortable with is a big support (for ex 5-10 minutes) Setting boundaries helps to give to people what you feel comfortable with while supporting them. It takes practice as she says.
Beautiful! Someone to actually take the time to listen, making you feel that you are important - which we all are. Being recognized and not belittled or ashamed - WOW! That's powerful and healing.
Oh i had to cry so much in this episode. She tried so hard to have a date with a beautiful guy and lost her job. I‘m glad she found a beautiful and supportive friend in her ❤
Prime video is estimated to be worth $1 Trillion U.S. Their marketing can't put the name of their show in content that would make me want to watch it. Requiring audiences to research on their own is an amateur miss. It's so bizarre.
So glad to see others saying this. It's so basic. Put the friggin name of the show/song/actor/ whatever that is in the content, in the friggin short for crying out loud.
This is my depression. People think it’s just being sad for long periods of time and crying a lot, but it’s much, much more than that. It feels like a slow death. But the highs, man those are pretty great lol glad to see more open and honest conversations on the topic. It’s important 💗
Sometimes the lows are so low because you're alone and have no one to talk to. And when you realize you're alone and can't speak to anyone about how you're feeling that just makes you feel so much worse. It's why people pay for therapy.
I want to tell myself I am not bipolar but I check all the boxes and my mood is crazy. I try to be the best I can but I know in the end I will always end up disappointing the ones I love. I want to get help but it requires money and yes as we have been told that doesn’t grow on trees … friends hope for me to get better. I really want to.
I have seen this episode and I can't recommend this enough. The whole series is beautiful but this episode is just mind blowing. Hathaway's acting is beyond superior. I warched it many years back but i still remember every little detail because of how phenomenal the writing and acting is.
Been through these phases of depression.. had no one i could rely on or expect to understand.. so had to pull myself out and do the work just to stay alive.. I would never wish those days on anyone.. and if anyone's going through them.. just know that you're not alone and it'll pass.. just hang in there.
this episode is AMAZING. i've probably watched it 20 times. it's like a master class in acting, and they are BOTH incredible... the empathy her friend shows, and the ups and downs anne demonstrates, the guy she tries dating... it's all chilling and validating, and wonderful
This has brought me possibly a new understanding or maybe appreciation of my sister in law with bipolar 1. I feel sorry for her now more than truly disliking her from never allowing me from seeing my only two nieces. Something to think about.
It may be a good idea to phone that sister-in-law and send her this clip asking her ‘if’ she suffers like the character in the script? If she replies, “yes,sometimes” then it’s a perfect moment to show empathy & sympathy. Perhaps the door to your nieces will slowly begin to open? 🙏
Someone going out of their way to make the zone more comfortable, rather than telling you to get out of your comfort zone, is always such a whiplash. Protect people with big hearts like her AT ALL COST
My ex-sister-in-law is bipolar. As a child, she had a hellish life, being abandoned by her natural mother, she stayed with her father who remarried with a woman who did not love the girl at all, using her as a slave. But her life did not get better with the passage of time. She had to take medication to keep a balance, but in the last resort, she had to turn her back on everything her life meant here, and leave. There was too much pain here, and she couldn't take it anymore. Now she is find! There is no cure, only improvement. I'm so sorry for her.I could not turn my back on her. 💜
I had a friend who was bipolar, with frequent and extreme moods. I had to end the friendship. She was extremely toxic and emotionally abusive. I can empathize, but I won’t be a victim of her illness.
It’s beyond challenging. It’s the illness that causes that and it’s incredibly sad. Medication can help but they don’t think they need it. If you can, definitely I agree protect yourself. Unfortunately as a mother I can’t walk away.
@@penelopepalm IS it? have had bi polar since i was born I have never treated anyone that way ever i struggle by myself not allowing others to have to endure what i do in my head and w proper medication you can live a normal life same friends since i was 10 yrs old stop putting people into a box not all of us are the same
@@michellerenee92580 I said commonly, which means it is often seen but not always. Anyway I’m sorry my choice of language bothered you. I don’t like being boxed and labeled either and I appreciate being corrected.
My 18 year old daughter has issues. I make a point to do this for her. The down side is she often ask me what will she do when I’m gone because no one else truly understands or has the patience for her. I hope she finds someone to fill my absence.
She will 💜 I’m so sorry you two are struggling but I am sure that she will find people who love & support her and regardless when you are gone she can always talk to your spirit as her own personal form of prayer
I am NOT bipolar. I HAVE bipolar disorder. I have been since age 12 or earlier but back then children werent mentally ill or allowed to be depressed. I was selfish and a brat and should just shut up about it. Diagnosed at about 32. Mostly depressed with huge mania cycles. I am NOT bipolar. I have bipolar disorder.
Similar to depression symptoms. This episode gave me the courage to fight harder....for myself and love. Thank you Anne Hathaway for the amazing potrayal. To anyone wondering, this clip is from Modern Love, season 1, episode 3, on Prime.
I have zero freinds. But I have pets, coworkers and a husband of 29 years. I can't maintain friendships. It's impossible to sustain. I am so proud of my marriage though. Most bipolar people end up divorced. It's a lot to deal with. My husband is a Saint. I'd love to go get lunch or coffee with a friend.
I would love to be able to open up and share with people what I am going through, afflicted with and struggling to accomplish every single day. Everytime I do, people just abandon me. Does not inspire me to share my truth and my struggles with anyone. No one in this world has the capacity for true caring for another person unless you are paying money for it.
I hope everyone watches this movie! This is life-changing for all. From people who suffer from this awful illness to family & friends that what to learn how to deal with them on a positive basis. The worst thing you can do is give up on them. They are great people that just need a little extra love and patience. ❤❤
I am bi-polar. I was not diagnosed until I was 54, 11 years ago. I met an incredible man that helped me figure it out, went with me to every psych appt, and we discovered of all the medications tired, Lamictal was the sweet solution. I have been mostly stable ever since.
It’s HIPAA and it applies to healthcare workers and how they can’t reveal patient health information to unauthorized parties without the patient’s permission. It’s not illegal to share your own health information.
I watched this episode after starting meds again for the 5th time and starting a new job again after jumping ship from other jobs during low points. It was kind of a wake up call… I don’t think I’ll ever tell my current place of work about my disease but this was enough for me to feel like I could stick it out if I at least stick with my regimen
As someone how struggles with BPD I felt that so deeply… I never felt like important/valid enough or even worth it of someone’s attention to the point that they would chose to prioritize me instead of something else because I didn’t deserve that, I have this terrible view of myself so whenever something like that happened I had the same reaction. It doesn’t make sense and you don’t understand how and why someone would do that but you’re just so deeply greatful and touched by it you can only react emotionally.
Being abandoned by friends when you mental health issues is so heartbreaking. Ive lost so many friends because of being "too much." It's tough because you want to be with people, but it hurts.
That 'Mmhmm' realizing that she's not going to be abandoned almost made me cry
Made me cry indeed. 😢😢😢
I didn’t register that till I read it. 😢😢
Yeah, felt that. Opening up about your personal info you keep quiet because you care about this person you're getting close to, listing your every self perceived flaw, and then having the other person blatantly put other things aside and make clear they're staying and really listening.
Anne is so damn good!!
Same , people will abandon you is soo many ways especially when you are vulnerable ( even if you don’t ask for anything)
I can’t even imagine how good that feels to see someone you love literally make space for you.
It's the best.
Something my mother or my father never did for me. Always something else was more important and the sentence: I dont have time for this.
I've never had it happen, it would make my whole lifetime
For real
Never have I experienced such a thing, but I'd like to. ❤
I’ve watched this clip on repeat for the last several minutes. My found family does this for me repeatedly and every time it nearly brings me to tears.
Your people are out there. And if you need people, hi! I’m Shayna. Let’s be friends.
Anne Hathaway is just such a great actor. The "okay" and "mhmm" were each packed with so many emotions
So true !! This is a rare quality in today's so-called "actors".
That’s what I thought!! Like how did she say so much w so little???😭😭😭
It's the moment in between that gets me. The look in her eyes when her friend cancels the meeting. So many emotions in just one expression.
@@paulhydebugden1904 who are these so called actors? Cos I've seen a lot of good ones these days
I've lived through both of those faces many times. It spoke volumes to me.
The way she snapped from vulnerable to strong (when the other woman said she had a meeting) to incredibly vulnerable again and showing that not just saying it…spot on.
unstable 😅
@@RK-su4hsIt's not. She just shared something personal and wasn't sure how it would be received. I have bi polar but our moods, ie my mood swings are not that fast. Generally it's periods of six months with depression coming during winter but my meds keep me stable, in fact people are often surprised when I share I have bi polar as I keep my emotions private.
I’m the same way. I can endure cruelty or rejection stoically, but someone’s kindness can make me break down right in front of them. I don’t know why kindness makes me cry when cruelty doesn’t.
The coping mechanism of preparing yourself for rejection due to previous experiences vs Being unaware of how to react to such open acceptance and caring gesture you look up for so long
Totally!
Hugh Jackman talked about this scene in Variety Actor on Actor with Anne. He praised the acting of this scene, showing raw emotions and highlighting how important it is to be in support of mental health. He said that this scene made him cry. ❤
It had the same effect on me. I’m not bipolar but I’ve had depression since I was 12.
They have to talk about the other person's latest project in those actor on actor interviews, they're just promo
@@maddyc2412 I am quite well aware of that. This was only a small section of what they covered.
Me too
@@maddyc2412 yr a douche 🤦♀️
FYI: this show is called “Modern Love”.
Thank you
It took me a bit of scrolling to get the answer.
Appreciate you! 🤘😘🔥
Thank you for the information 🙏
Thank you!♥️
I’m not bi-polar, but the way she describes depression… that’s me. And just to be able to say what she did and own it and be accepted… is… wow mind blowing 🤯 ❤
It really is! It took years to create the support system I have, but it took so much hard work on myself to get where I am. You can't just let the bipolar own you. You have to work on getting the right med combination and try to find the right ways to help yourself when you're in an episode. It's not easy. But having a real support system absolutely helps.
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I have Bipolar disorder in its sucks really it does sucks
BTW I am seventeen years old And i've had bipolar disorders since I was nine
@@michaela1641 It does really suck, but there is so much help available nowadays on top of medications that can really help. I hope you are doing okay and have a good support system to help you. I didn't at your age and it was so freaking hard. ♥️🫂
As a schizoeffective sufferer with no friends due to this mental illness this made me feel so seen. It’s so hard KNOWING you are a bad friend and are inconsistent while still desperately craving the laughter, love, and company of a friend or partner. I had this conversation with my current partner and he is the main reason I am healthy enough to work again and function in society. I still struggle making and maintaining friendships but in so grateful to have a partner that sees more to me than my afflictions
Hey there. So I don’t have neither conditions (have struggled hard with depression) and I too struggle with maintaining any sort of friendships.
Just wanted to say I hear your pain & even more so respect for you.
im schizophrenic, i feels ya. God Bless!
I am schizoeffective too I did not realize it was Def like this
I get it. I don't have schizoaffective disorder, but I've had a few friends who have, and I have BPD, bipolar disorder and PTSD. I think it's easier to be friends with someone who relates to having mental illness... until it's not. It sucks to lose friendships when two people's mental illnesses butt heads. It's very isolating.
*hugs* I suggest looking for friends who are neurodivergent, because a lot of what she is talking about (terrible friend, etc) AND the way she has to snap that mask back on... They get that too
Honestly this was Anne’s most compelling performance. They portrayed mental illness SO accurately 👏🏼
What's the movie?
@@kellypatterson4412 it’s an episode of “Modern Love”, I think season 1, but I’m not 100% sure. It’s on Amazon Prime and I LOVED IT! I made so many of my friends and family watch it with me after I watched it the first time. Just so you know, it intentionally takes a slightly fantastical directing approach at times when presenting the condition but the realistic moments- like this one- are soooo well done.
Is Anne non-binary?
@@cuffed2479No! She's so not! She's very beautiful in real life w a husband of 12 yrs and they have 2 sons!
@@theposhmaniac5169you can be beautiful and be non-binary too.
She gave her something that money can't buy. If you find a single damned soul on earth to truly love you, you are fortunate. This made me cry. I miss feeling that acceptance.
i have that friend. we were having our daughters wedding at our home. i really needed to be at the house directing. but i also had to pu my father in law at daddy day care (there so i could focus not on him for a day) he had alzheimer’s. no family member would pick him up on the way to our home. they didn’t want to be around him. i was sweating this when my friend said. bring his suit to me. i will pick him up have him showered and in his suit. what time would you like him there? the most amazing gift i could ever ask for.
Hope you get to experience that closeness real soon! All is well, things can change overnight sometimes!
Much love sweetheart..
I'm bipolar and she got it down pat. Feeling like I have to warn people what to expect by being a friend. And it makes me so sad even thinking about it because this feeling will never go away
... but you are bot alone
Yes, it NEVER goes away. I live with it every day but have learned to be single. Since I was 13 and now I'm 62
Is there any medicine that helps? I fell into a bad state of depression in my mid-40s. I was laid off and had to move to a new state to start a new job. I literally just sat on the couch all day and stared into space and couldn’t eat anything at all. Luckily my doctor put me on Paxil and within days I was feeling so much better.
@@barbaravyse660 That's great news! Many but not all do not have the drive to get up and follow through with their meds, docs or therapist. With today's availability to meet online with doctors, therapist and so on, it opens it up much wider to getting the help needed. Sure there will be one or more appts in person for the assessment and meeting to discuss meds and maybe testing but once situated, Zoom, Telehealth and phone calls can keep clients going. Multiple weekly appointments to once every three, four or more months. There are organizations online too! Betterhelp, is one i have referred several people to for assistance. Learning to advocate for oneself is truly the most important to getting to know one's needs, wants and setting goals both short term and long term!
Hugs to you ♥️. My of my best friend is bipolar. We’ve been friends since 6th grade. I love her no matter what, and she loves me the same. I hope you always have support and love around you for those bad days when you really need it.
What really sticks out to me is how her tone lilts up at the end of every sentence. Thats a trick I've used to sound cheerful and matter of fact when im sharing about my health and i dont want to cry
I'm used to telling my stories with a smile and a kind of "it is what it is" attitude, which doesn't do me any favors really, but I'm too fucking used to people's same looks and answers. When someone truly listens and makes the time to be there for me, it's still hard not to dismiss myself and my struggles. Years and years of feeling like you're just on your own.
I know that so well.
When someone is kind, so much kinder than you’ve experienced or expected, and their kindness hits your vulnerability so you begin to unravel on the spot…
That’s exactly the way to describe it. I couldn’t find the words thank you!!!
I broke down in the psychiatrist's office towards the end of the first appointment, he asked "why are you crying?" I said "because you were nice". I was finally believed.
There's not enough people in real life like that woman. Most people avoid anyone with mental illness/es.
It's a lack of understanding and education in most cases. Fortunately that's usually solvable if that person is open to learning. Misinformation is also a big issue.
Kudos to those like her. Life is soo hard already without a mental illness... For Some who choose to avoid its a survival tactic. Anymore uncertainty and threats to stability could send them "over the edge" themselves.
I’m avoided all the time for all my life. I’m 73 now and I have no one who cares
No we don't. I was romantically involved with a bipolar woman. It sometimes got quite challenging, but I cared for her anyway
@@mamacatselliot Do you care about them? Not throwing shade at all. It’s just such a sad place to be and there are usually things we do we don’t even realise to push and keep ppl at arms length, when you have mental illnesses and or other struggles. I’ve suffered from anxiety and SEVERE depression since I was about 4 or 5. By the time I was in my teens it was already really hard wired into me to not trust and to keep ppl anywhere from arms length to entire suburbs away from me. But I worked through a lot of things. Learning to Love myself as I am and even a little bit because of who I am helped a lot. Now I’m a couple weeks shy of my 54 birthday with a terminal illness and just coming out of a nearly 6 yr bout of THE worst depression I’ve ever had, but I am loved and dearly loved in return. Surrounded by the best of my family and friends, a handful of each ☺️ with many students from my teaching jobs who still keep in touch lovingly and I’m in one of the best places I’ve ever been in. (Ironically 😂) but I had to take a hard look at myself, own some shit, take the time to honour myself and my strength for battling soo hard and not giving in when I’ve spent a life wanting to. This spot is truly reachable - preferably without the terminal illness 🤭 and it is soo comforting and peaceful. Whatever your journey, I wish you luck and love. 🥰
That "Okay" and the "Ummm hmmm" were heartwrenching.......💔
So lovely!
I love the way her working partner is making space for her. This is so empathetic.
Yes; in our vulnerable moments, this is the response we all long for! ❤
Not bipolar but yes on Autism spectrum, ADHD, depression, EDS and anxiety and that sounds like my bad days. The ways we experience stuff and the reasons for it might be different but the outward result is the same: we all need kindness. Not necessarily niceness, but definitely kindness.
same here. All of the above also not bipolar but eds, etc.
Depression can hit hard for anybody, you definitely don't have to be bipolar to have a hard depression. ADHD and Autism can also cause executive dysfunction which is not being able to move or do anything as though you were depressed but it's like an invisible wall rather than a mood issue (at least that's how I explain it to people).
@@sadlittleratboy ADHD and Autism sometimes work against each other. Structure against sensation seeking, sensory overload against not feeling the warning signs your brain and body give you. And all of that in a world that is made for neurotypical people.
Anyone with mental health issues specially bipolar diaorder read or at listen listen to Chapter 2 of Quran, called Surah Baqarah.
It does wonders Im sha Allah.
Hey fam 🥹
So liberating to see that you're not alone
I am NOT bipolar, i have bipolar disorder which is complete hell. I do find its much easier lately to be able to tell people, even potential employers, because most people are educated and accepting these days although some arent. Even so, its much better than it was even 10 years ago when i was openly discriminated against in the workplace (if youre bipolar your dangerous/crazy/incompetent etc). As it is, inspite of a few wobbles, ive been in remission for the best part of 6 years. I can hold down a job, i can cope with lifes nasty little suprises, and i am functioning. Its taken a long time, a LOT of medication and a supportive family/friends, but it is possible.
Thanks for your story, you give me hope for my daughter. ❤
Congratulations. I have severe depression and have had since I was 4or5 but I finally worked out what was wrong or rather was happening with me, am medicated concealed counselled and had a good 15 + years in remission before some truly nasty struggles hit at the same time. It’s been a 6 yr struggle but the meds are finally working again and I have been completely regressed again for 2-3 months and just keep getting better. Mental illness particularly when severe can be very hard to survive but you are absolutely correct it IS survivable and when you do it’s the best feeling and ironically I’m in a better place mentally, in my head heart and soul then most ppl I’ve known in my 54 yrs. Sending you love, Thanks for putting your msg of life and hope out there. I appreciated reading it ☺️
I also have bipolar disorder. It started at 13 for me, which is abnormal. I was always an overachiever. Anyway, I felt everything she said. I can be extremely reliable, until I have to hibernate. Which doesn't make me reliable. Thankfully, I've been in remission for the last 6 or so years.
I found a therapist that actually pushed me just before COVID, and we did weekly sessions until last year. I feel like I've managed to finally get my mind together, work through a lot of what caused the PTSD and CPTSD, and I feel like I'm finally becoming the person I always wanted to be instead of the one I felt trapped in. It's been empowering and scary.
It's hard to let yourself feel what you need to without fear of regression. And it's made all the difference that I'm able to take time for myself when I'm upset, making that boundary and letting myself go through what I need to before being around others again.
Love that statement I am not bipolar. I have bipolar.
🥰 YES!
Anne is amazing! You FEEL the emotions she conveys in this scene. So much so that everyone affected can see themselves in her portrayal. That's Oscar-worthy!
I just watched Mother’s Instinct with her in it and man I feel BAD for one of the women. Also that one kid was dumb as heck and stubborn. He probably didn’t care that his…
Oh to have that someone that will drop everything for you because they love you THAT much. Fairytale.
@nobody7765 unfortunately, l agree. I'm the person who does drop everything for someone and then when I need that person in my corner, they are nowhere to be found. 🥺
No fairy tale. They exist.
Every one can be loved truly. 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉. Loved my youngest son is married almost ten years
Loving each other
They get through. Their ups downs Believe Hope endures. Fir true unconditional never fails it’s a choice decision daily. Easy at times no. But no relationship is either. Unless you want it more then life 🎉
@@user-pz9vw3vz9p but they have to be a 2 way street. If the other person doesn't care, then it can't happen.
It hit me like a ton of bricks when I watched this for the first time six years ago. Thanks to Anne Hathaway and the creators, I've now got a diagnosis and all the right meds. Seeing the clip now, I realise I'm not like this anymore. No crumpled up faces or quivering voices, just calm and realistic lows. The glitter has gone too, but it never was gold anyway.
Wow that's amazing. Good for you!! Best outcome
I'm glad you're feeling better 🤗
Beautifully said. You were strong then and even stronger now.
@@b666rchd5 thanks 😘
"The glitter has gone too, but it never was gold anyway" is such a lovely turn of phrase. Very poetic.
Bipolar with depression, anxiety and PTSD here - this scene gets me every time and I still haven’t seen this fricken movie. It already hits too damn close to home in just this scene so I wonder if I’d be crying the whole time or just wishing for different friends/the characters life in the end. Cause fuck it’s so hard. I’m 32 this year… diagnosed almost 10 years ago now officially (depression diagnosed since 13, everything else came later due to a college professor noticing something different - my adhd and said I should just get tested for everything and BAM whole world changed and also made more sense. And I felt less crazy) forever grateful to him
You are loved. And you are precious. Laugh whenever you can, and cry whenever you can.
And keep your head up, walk tall. 🤍🤗
It amazes me that every single role that Anne Hathaway has played has been epic and amazing.Not a single Hiccup such raw and pure talent. Absolutely amazing ❤ 💯 😊
To me there was one hiccup. Selena Kyle in the Dark Knight
I’m not bipolar but I felt it so much as a low functioning autistic person with constant depression/burnout. I sincerely don’t remember when I was feeling ok last time and I’m really bad friend, family member and wife. I want good but I just can’t communicate or do better
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I’m the same. Hang in there your not alone, even tho it feels like it.
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I hear ya 🤜🤛❤
her silent cry I felt that, it's when a very tiny gesture that people do for you but makes you emotional cause it means major you.
I was diagnosed with ADHD at 70. I often wonder what would have happened had I known earlier. So many people think it’s an ‘excuse’ condition, I doubt if it would have made any difference. People I tell now look baffled.
Idk why Asha a lot of people have nothing to be ashamed of..
People with ADHD are generally very intelligent, and extremely creative! 😊
I was just diagnosed with ADHD at 61. I too wonder what life would have been like instead of 33 years of anti- depression meds, anti-anxiety meds, something for anger management. Years of therapy. Maybe nothing would have been different but I would have liked a choice. It's over; make the best of. It.
I was diagnosed AuDHD just a couple years ago. While it doesn't make any difference to anyone else in my family (except my kids), it makes a difference to me. It just answers so many questions I've always had about why I am the way I am. I'm not taking meds for this (although, maybe I should considering how difficult it is for me to focus sometimes - like now, I'm meant to be packing - but I've had more than 50yrs doing things the way I do them.
At one point, I did wonder what might have been if I'd been diagnosed earlier in life. I gave in to the what ifs for a full weekend. And then I sat down to have a talk with...myself. As rough as it was at times, I survived and I chose which challenges meant enough to me to chase or conquer. I'm fairly happy with much that came deciding to pursue the things I chose to pursue.
When I allowed myself to grieve heavily for a few days, I could see how it all just made me work harder and work smarter. If I'd been diagnosed sooner, I may not have had the courage to go to nursing school. If I'd been put on meds, I don't know if I could have used my ability to go hyperfocused and really do as well as I did. Thinking in those terms, I realized the diagnosis doesn't make my current life any better or worse, it just explains a great deal.
One thing my mom had always tried to instill in me was my intelligence, my kindness, my seemingly overly sensitive nature, my "passions", all of it, made me more interesting and a plenty surprising for those who cared to get to know me. She was right.
The weirdest thing is, I used to tell my kids "normal" is boring and my kids were not meant to be boring. They were never boring. Still aren't.
The relief in knowing I feel now might not have been as comforting back then. Since I can't possibly go back to find out, I keep looking forward and I'm glad I'm part of this fantastically elite group of people, particularly women (we wouldn't have been diagnosed properly even if it was a valid diagnosis for the time because females are just not given the same level of concern or care when it comes to ASD, ADD, ADHD, etc.). What I guess I'm trying to say is that all of us survivors are proof that our strength is quiet, it's sneaky, it's surprising, and it's 100% ours to own. I'm proud to be part of this club.
My community, I'm honored to be here in such fine company.
What led to your getting diagnosed? What medical professional diagnosed? What was your journey to your diagnosis!? Answers might help others of us gain understanding and begin to make different choices out if better understanding? Thanks for not giving up although there was no real help or diagnostic help available in our youth yet gaining understanding now can help us now to make different choices.
She’s got a real friend right there. ❤
Nothing like someone to actually make time for you when you don't expect it. 😢
I never gave anyone a chance as trust due to childhood and young adult abuse... PTSD.
If you have the bravery to be completely honest, how can a person of character abandon you in a time of need?
@@solitaryman777 There are those who can only see to the end of their nose. The blinders they wear are frighteningly huge and cover many things in life. I understand the wants, needs OR thoughts and Feelings of need to be sheltered and protect oneself from the outside world of wickedness and unknown. It's a tough life and only getting tougher as one gets older.
Anne Hathaway, what an incredible job u did with this character - so accurate, the right expressions & I felt it deeply.
Show: Modern Love
Why is all modern love gay?
@@morganseppy5180 get the help you desperately need. That is a way for you to be part of modern love (self love and love for the society you're a part of by getting healthy and no longer cause pain to yourself and others)
Very powerful movie.
@@patclark5788it’s not a movie
Another reason I love her. She portrayed this so accurately, amazing woman.
I felt this way when I explained to my boss that I have adhd and autism. I got in trouble for being late to work too often. I explained that transitioning from one thing to another can be really difficult, and sometimes I even get hyperfocused on my own thoughts, not even on a physical action. I can begin thinking about something other than going to work, and suddenly 30 minutes have passed. It sucks. I explained it isn’t because I want to be late, or because I’m lazy, or because I don’t care about my job or other people’s time, or anything like that. I care very much about all of those things. I just get distracted easily, and when I get distracted it can be really hard to get un-distracted. I also sometimes have what’s called ADHD paralysis, or autistic burnout, where it’s like no matter how much I know I should do something, no matter how much I want to get up and do it, I just can’t. I feel completely drained of all of my energy and I just sit there thinking “I really should do this thing” but I can’t get my body to move. I was fully expecting my boss to tell me none of that mattered, and if I was ever late again I’d be fired. I’ve had that happen in the past at school. Luckily not too many of my teachers were like this, but a few of my teachers were very strict about deadlines, and they’d give me low grades on assignments if they weren’t turned in EXACTLY on time.
But instead he was kind, and understanding, and he even told me I that while I do need to try and come into work on time as often as I can, I should also try to get accommodations. As soon as I left his office I cried. A little bit of patience and understanding goes a really long way.
Wow. I have bpd and when I say I felt everything she was saying to a T!!! I recently got diagnosed but I had been dealing with it for years and it’s like being 2 completely different people in the same body and taking turns on the drivers seat.
This was one of my favorite episodes from this series.
Me too!!❤
The very best one!
What is the show called?
"Modern Love" (I found it in another comment, and checked it on IMDB)
Are they lesbians or friends? "Seeing each other outside the office" thru me off
i’ve had this conversation multiple times with multiple people and it never ends this… beautifully. i would’ve absolutely broken down into a puddle of chaos pain if a single person cancelled plans on the spot because of what i just shared. instead i’m the one to always cancel plans, and the moment i need someone, i’m called inconsiderate and selfish. supportive people like this are so damn rare now.
I know this is a difficult burden, but educating the people around you is a huge step towards other people's acceptance. Researching your disorder can also be very useful for you as well (if you haven't already, you'd be surprised how many people are in the dark about their own diagnosis). I would (not even joking) have printouts at the ready explaining how bipolar disorder works, and explains what it is.
@@sadlittleratboy i completely agree. i’m aways educating myself about my conditions, and the ones people i care about have, so i can share that info and use it to work on myself. i just personally frequently find myself in relationships where the other person clearly isn’t receiving what im trying to share (obvi something else i need to work through lol). i can only help so much, you know? at some point, the other party needs to educate themselves too.
People have their own issues too. Some of the things that come with having a bipolar friend, who is admitly a bad friend for example, can trigger very negative feelings in some of us.
This pain, and these concerns are just as valid, and these people don't need to be educated, if all they want is to avoid a heartbreak.
I suffer from severe depression, it's not as bad as it was, I use to not be able to function.. I'm now working and basically doing all the regular things, but it's still hard to focus and do things most days, Getting together with family is exhausting,.. constantly thinking about what I need to "fix" about myself is exhausting. Most days I just want to stop trying, but I know I can't. I force myself to do things and get out when I don't want to because I know that is the path to getting better... I don't say RECOVER because I don't know if I ever will but I do know I can and am getting better.
Same.
I‘m trying to get myself help but it‘s so hard to get where I’m from. And I don‘t have the energy
Same here I am a PhD student for 1.5 years and my depression is the same age as my PhD 😂😂
You’re still getting out there and trying; that counts for something, and expressing that you know you can and will get better is excellent positive self-talk. You’re doing and will continue to do great. You got this 👍👍
Ann Hathaway never disappoints!!! Great actress!!! ❤💯
Growing up I had a really strict childhood, and part of that experience led to me having a hard time setting boundaries. It also involved being terribly scared of making mistakes and changing plans as that was simply not allowed.
At this point I am trying hard to learn how to set boundaries without feeling guilty. But I’m also having a hard time doing things like this. Being kind to others who might need it. Changing the plans I might have m, because i don’t know when and how I can make those decisions. It gets especially hard when I have to set boundaries for a family member who need help, help I can’t give. I try, and I want to do a nice act for others, but too often I get cold feet and it feels so terrible not being there for others when they need it. I feel like a terrible person, who only push people away, and fear that one day people won’t give me that kinda kindness, because I don’t give it to them. I feel like a leach who only want good form others, because any day it might stop
(I ask of anyone who might read this to please don’t spam. Tho I would like to hear if anyone have had a similar experience, and how they might dealt with it, but I ask for no pity or encouragement, or hate.
I am getting help for my troubles. So hopefully over time it will get better)
I think you may benefit from listening to The Holistic Psychologist. Just watched today a video of hers about setting boundaries when you can't give the support people need.
Sometimes just letting people vent for a set time you feel comfortable with is a big support (for ex 5-10 minutes)
Setting boundaries helps to give to people what you feel comfortable with while supporting them. It takes practice as she says.
Beautiful! Someone to actually take the time to listen, making you feel that you are important - which we all are. Being recognized and not belittled or ashamed - WOW! That's powerful and healing.
I know that feeling, when you can take cruelty and rejection stoically, but kindness makes you fall apart and break down crying.
That’s a straight up good friend ❤
I pray and wish to find someone that accepting
somebody being vulnerable to me is more important than anything else going on ❤😢
The fact that I can’t sustain a relationship because I am actually bipolar and I see this in my feed!! Crying at 5 AM it is!!
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Lots of hugs for you
Sending love to you & everyone here. I hope you can feel it.
Oh i had to cry so much in this episode. She tried so hard to have a date with a beautiful guy and lost her job. I‘m glad she found a beautiful and supportive friend in her ❤
Could you please tell which episode it is?
That Mmh-Mmmh went straight to heart
Mine too; it made me want to ask her if she needed a hug
Annnneeee - truly an iconic episode. I love it. So bare and real and beautiful and hard.
When she realized she wasn’t going to be abandoned; I felt that mmhmm deep in my soul.
Prime video is estimated to be worth $1 Trillion U.S. Their marketing can't put the name of their show in content that would make me want to watch it. Requiring audiences to research on their own is an amateur miss. It's so bizarre.
I’m with you. Prime is the worst stream.
I think its called modern love
@@junetara9680 That’s correct, Thank you.
So glad to see others saying this. It's so basic. Put the friggin name of the show/song/actor/ whatever that is in the content, in the friggin short for crying out loud.
The new ads are the most offensive.
This is the best Act I ve ever seen . Hathaway is incredible!!!✨⭐️💫
can you imagine finding somebody who would be your friend regardless of your illnesses?
This is my depression. People think it’s just being sad for long periods of time and crying a lot, but it’s much, much more than that. It feels like a slow death. But the highs, man those are pretty great lol glad to see more open and honest conversations on the topic. It’s important 💗
Shes such a good actress.
Sometimes the lows are so low because you're alone and have no one to talk to. And when you realize you're alone and can't speak to anyone about how you're feeling that just makes you feel so much worse. It's why people pay for therapy.
I have had 2 bpd best friends in my life. They think they're terrible friends but they're the funnest, most loving people ive met
This is one of my favorite representations of mental health played on screen. ❤
I want to tell myself I am not bipolar but I check all the boxes and my mood is crazy. I try to be the best I can but I know in the end I will always end up disappointing the ones I love. I want to get help but it requires money and yes as we have been told that doesn’t grow on trees … friends hope for me to get better. I really want to.
I have seen this episode and I can't recommend this enough. The whole series is beautiful but this episode is just mind blowing. Hathaway's acting is beyond superior. I warched it many years back but i still remember every little detail because of how phenomenal the writing and acting is.
Been through these phases of depression.. had no one i could rely on or expect to understand.. so had to pull myself out and do the work just to stay alive.. I would never wish those days on anyone.. and if anyone's going through them.. just know that you're not alone and it'll pass.. just hang in there.
this episode is AMAZING. i've probably watched it 20 times. it's like a master class in acting, and they are BOTH incredible... the empathy her friend shows, and the ups and downs anne demonstrates, the guy she tries dating... it's all chilling and validating, and wonderful
This has brought me possibly a new understanding or maybe appreciation of my sister in law with bipolar 1. I feel sorry for her now more than truly disliking her from never allowing me from seeing my only two nieces. Something to think about.
It may be a good idea to phone that sister-in-law and send her this clip asking her ‘if’ she suffers like the character in the script? If she replies,
“yes,sometimes” then it’s a perfect moment to show empathy & sympathy. Perhaps the door to your nieces will slowly begin to open? 🙏
I have fibro and have lost all friends due to being low nearly always this is just amazing
I am so sorry to hear that.
I have it too. It's rough. Sending you love.
Thank you huni@@galinavarchena3968
I'm so sorry huni, I hope you have more good days than bad xx
I got diagnosed when i was 12. It's been over 15 years and each year gets harder. Wishing you all the best
Someone going out of their way to make the zone more comfortable, rather than telling you to get out of your comfort zone, is always such a whiplash. Protect people with big hearts like her AT ALL COST
My ex-sister-in-law is bipolar. As a child, she had a hellish life, being abandoned by her natural mother, she stayed with her father who remarried with a woman who did not love the girl at all, using her as a slave. But her life did not get better with the passage of time. She had to take medication to keep a balance, but in the last resort, she had to turn her back on everything her life meant here, and leave. There was too much pain here, and she couldn't take it anymore. Now she is find! There is no cure, only improvement. I'm so sorry for her.I could not turn my back on her. 💜
She was so good in this.
I had a friend who was bipolar, with frequent and extreme moods. I had to end the friendship. She was extremely toxic and emotionally abusive. I can empathize, but I won’t be a victim of her illness.
It’s beyond challenging. It’s the illness that causes that and it’s incredibly sad. Medication can help but they don’t think they need it. If you can, definitely I agree protect yourself. Unfortunately as a mother I can’t walk away.
@@penelopepalmwho’s “they”?
@@maddieb.4282 it’s common among people that are bipolar.
@@penelopepalm IS it? have had bi polar since i was born I have never treated anyone that way ever i struggle by myself not allowing others to have to endure what i do in my head and w proper medication you can live a normal life same friends since i was 10 yrs old stop putting people into a box not all of us are the same
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I said commonly, which means it is often seen but not always. Anyway I’m sorry my choice of language bothered you. I don’t like being boxed and labeled either and I appreciate being corrected.
Oh! To not only get that kind of acceptance, but to be put first would be an absolute dream come true! 😢
Her acting was solid❤.. it moved me
My 18 year old daughter has issues. I make a point to do this for her. The down side is she often ask me what will she do when I’m gone because no one else truly understands or has the patience for her. I hope she finds someone to fill my absence.
tell her there are people who not even their mother loves them
@@mariaisabel0186yea that’ll help??? wtf???
She will 💜 I’m so sorry you two are struggling but I am sure that she will find people who love & support her and regardless when you are gone she can always talk to your spirit as her own personal form of prayer
Group therapy ,AA NA meetings are a great lifeline!
I am NOT bipolar. I HAVE bipolar disorder. I have been since age 12 or earlier but back then children werent mentally ill or allowed to be depressed. I was selfish and a brat and should just shut up about it. Diagnosed at about 32. Mostly depressed with huge mania cycles. I am NOT bipolar. I have bipolar disorder.
She's wonderful.
Similar to depression symptoms. This episode gave me the courage to fight harder....for myself and love. Thank you Anne Hathaway for the amazing potrayal. To anyone wondering, this clip is from Modern Love, season 1, episode 3, on Prime.
I have zero freinds. But I have pets, coworkers and a husband of 29 years. I can't maintain friendships. It's impossible to sustain. I am so proud of my marriage though. Most bipolar people end up divorced. It's a lot to deal with. My husband is a Saint.
I'd love to go get lunch or coffee with a friend.
I would love to be able to open up and share with people what I am going through, afflicted with and struggling to accomplish every single day.
Everytime I do, people just abandon me.
Does not inspire me to share my truth and my struggles with anyone.
No one in this world has the capacity for true caring for another person unless you are paying money for it.
What a great actress. Anne. The lows are the worst. It's so hard for people to understand which is not their fault. Excellent actresses
I hope everyone watches this movie! This is life-changing for all. From people who suffer from this awful illness to family & friends that what to learn how to deal with them on a positive basis. The worst thing you can do is give up on them. They are great people that just need a little extra love and patience. ❤❤
What movie is this?
Whats the name of the series?
Modern Love - Amazon Prime
I told my guy this when I met him 7 years ago … I’m in a much healthier place now and we are thriving. ❤
Anne did brilliantly in this show
What show is this?
Im bi...just enough to not be able to tell....but enough to be able to function
I am bi-polar. I was not diagnosed until I was 54, 11 years ago. I met an incredible man that helped me figure it out, went with me to every psych appt, and we discovered of all the medications tired, Lamictal was the sweet solution. I have been mostly stable ever since.
She was phenomenal in this role.
Movie name
Modern love series, every episode is a different lovestory
Name?
Modern Love - Amazon Prime
AH's work in this piece was absolutely world class.
Anne's range as an actress is outstanding. From The Princess Diaries to Les Miserables to Rachel Getting Married to The Dark Knight Rises.
Movie name?
Modern Love Amazon prime
@@sonali1920thank you ❤
Theres a thing called hippa you don't tell your employers nothing personal
You can tell anyone you want your personal information, even your employers. I don't think you know what HIPPA is.
It’s HIPAA and it applies to healthcare workers and how they can’t reveal patient health information to unauthorized parties without the patient’s permission. It’s not illegal to share your own health information.
I watched this episode after starting meds again for the 5th time and starting a new job again after jumping ship from other jobs during low points. It was kind of a wake up call… I don’t think I’ll ever tell my current place of work about my disease but this was enough for me to feel like I could stick it out if I at least stick with my regimen
She's so amazing. The both of them.
Good for her for being so honest! People need to understand life isn't always what some people experience! Kudos to her! ❤
Anne Hathaway is the best. My favorite actress. I first saw har in “One Day” and have loved her since.
This is a scent of two wonderful actors portraying two wonderful people. Absolutely beautiful to watch.
As someone how struggles with BPD I felt that so deeply… I never felt like important/valid enough or even worth it of someone’s attention to the point that they would chose to prioritize me instead of something else because I didn’t deserve that, I have this terrible view of myself so whenever something like that happened I had the same reaction. It doesn’t make sense and you don’t understand how and why someone would do that but you’re just so deeply greatful and touched by it you can only react emotionally.
Being abandoned by friends when you mental health issues is so heartbreaking. Ive lost so many friends because of being "too much." It's tough because you want to be with people, but it hurts.
Thats a friend with a heart ❤️
Damn. That’s a good friend! I hope this won’t jeopardize her career though
She captured these feelings well. It's hard to struggle with mental illness and even harder to try to form bonds and relationships that last.
Beautiful scene of total understanding no matter what. Love others,understand circumstances people are going through, offer true friendship. Amen