Islam, Women and Me (Religion Documentary) | Real Stories
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- Documentary following 28-year-old British Muslim Mehreen Baig as she explores the experiences of women in different Muslim communities.
As a 28-year-old British Muslim woman, Mehreen Baig finds that everyone seems to have an opinion about how she should live her life - the clothes she should wear, where she should go out and who she should date. Half the time she is told she's being held back by her religion, and the other half that she isn't religious enough. Sometimes it feels like she just can't win. As she faces the prospect of marriage and finally moving out from her parents' house, she wants to know whether it's possible to be a strong, independent woman and a good Muslim in modern Britain.
Mehreen encounters the women on the front line of this debate. She meets the young women who claim Islam is a feminist religion that empowers them and a woman who has rejected the religion because she believes it's inherently sexist. She uses a specialist Muslim dating app to date a selection of young Muslim men, finding out what they really want from a wife, and attends a Sharia council to witness women petitioning to divorce their husbands.
Along the way, Mehreen discovers what the Islamic texts really say about women's rights and discovers how widely women's experiences vary across different Muslim communities.
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It's not letting "someone else down", it's letting yourself down. If you live your life for your father, you will let yourself down. Not because he's done anything against you, but because he wants to protect you. He wants to minimize pain in your life and as an elder, his experience outweighs yours.
But to grow in life, you must have some pain. That's just the way it is.
What you mean
Instead of imposing guardianship rules on women to "protect" them from the vices of men (if i am understanding the context correctly), teach men to be principled to begin with.
unlikely in their customs
@@davidsteward9932 yes. Many fundamental types are like that. The USA still allows marriage for minors in another kind of religion if the parents sign off.
Exactly
It applies both ways from the father until they are independent.
exactly
I have been an off and on again Muslim man living in America for around 50 years give or take, I am now 61 years old, just to be clear, I was born here in The United States, so since I was 11 my family and I have been introduced to Islam, thanks to my older brothers Alhamdulilah. I have just finished watching your story and I found it to me both entertaining and inspirational at the same time. You are a very beautiful and intelligent woman, and I have no doubt that you will make choices that will give you and hopefully your dad as well ;-) a lifetime of joy and happiness, INSHALLAH.
Shukrun for sharing your story as well as the manner in which you chose to tell it.
AS SALAAM ALAIKUM my warm, and beautiful Sister. ;-)
Fantastic documentary!!! SO well done! Could definitely see a career in journalism or something similar for you. Really enjoyed your perspective, questions and flow. Well done.
8:02 is a brilliant example of how all of these defenses of Islam simply make no sense. What the Muslim woman said was completely illogical, even down to the syntax of her sentence. Let's go back and look:
The Former Muslim woman says that the Quran says that men can hit their wives lightly. She clearly explains how allowing men to hit women at all is problematic. You don't really need to do this when speaking to a rational person. Any system that says that men can discipline their wives by lightly hitting them is clearly problematic.
What does the Muslim woman say? "You can pick out that statement and use it to your advantage but that's not Islam's fault. That's humans being assholes"
Let's put it in another context and see how that statement is and how nonsensical her defense of Islam is:
Donald Trump writes a book of guidance and advice and in that book, he says that men can lightly hit their wives if they are disobedient. If someone said that the book was bad/ sexist and should not be followed, would we say that they were cherry-picking? Would we say that they are picking statements from his book and using it to their advantage to unfairly judge Trump as a sexist? And if men who read this book were actually hitting their wives for disobedience, would we say, "It's not Trump's fault, it's humans being assholes"?
No, we wouldn't. It would sound pretty absurd and illogical.
Your silly argument is refuted by the prophet himself, th-cam.com/video/2Mxol2qgj2I/w-d-xo.html
@@antiquesmore7083 a ped who took advantage of a 9 yo
Am a revert woman and i don't blame religions for how men treat women
@@earthynomad7160 hi, let's recap what just happened.
I made an assertion: Much of the sexism that Muslim women face is a result of Islam's teachings.
You made the opposite assertion:
The sexism that Muslim women face does NOT come from Islam's teachings.
I not only made my assertion but I explained it how I believe my assertion is true.
You didn't. You simply made an assertion. You didn't explain how and why you, me, or anyone else should believe your assertion over mine.
And something tells me that if you were asked to explain your assertion about Islam's teachings, you wouldn't be able to and you'd probably give some abstract reasoning like "classical arabic is so complex and everything is open to interpretation" etc. I know because these are the same tactics I would succumb to when I believed in Islam. And they're the same ones I've heard time and time again after coming to my senses and realizing that Islam simply isn't true.
You being a convert means that you're statistically likely to leave Islam eventually. It's very common. My advice to you is that if you want to keep that from happening, don't engage in debates or discussions about Islam, especially when you aren't actually capable of debating and only capable of making assertions.
@@AwestaKhalid
i suggest you to read Quran ch4 its all about woman rights even prophet Mahamd pbuh said the best of people of you(muslims) are those people who love there wives
I am praying Mehreen has a happy life with a wonderful husband. I congratulate her for being who she is!
agreed
@@tjsimp693 ģ
I like her dad, he truly cares for her.. My husband is somewhat the same, he is so protective of me and our daughters.. Our men (fathers, brothers, uncles, husband etc) will be asked about how they protected and cared for us.. May Allah continue to bless you dear sister ameen.
Yes he's a very kind man
Ameen
Huge support to you!❤
I am a Muslim in America..my parents are not Muslim... I was able to do what I wanted my whole life and I always wanted a parent to care as much as her dad....
Love the way that you think young lady,never give up your right to do what you like or think what you want,Muslim or otherwise!!
Stay in your lane..
Shut up
She's not doing what she wants or thinking how she wants though... that's the problem.
Women in Christianity and Islam
Here are some verses of the Qur'an that explain the position of women in Islam:
• A woman inherits only half of what a man inherits (Sura al-Baqara 4:176).
• The evidence of two women is as important as the testimony of one man (Sura al-Baqara 2:282). By law, a woman is "only worth half" of a man.
• Certain verses in the Qur'an seem to describe women as unclean (Suras 4:43, 5:6).
Watch the full video HERE:
th-cam.com/video/a9H0EHFsZIQ/w-d-xo.html
Also one more thing if you live in a country where child abuse is taken seriously, PLEASE PLEASE get authorities involved.
in order to be a tolerant, non homophobic, non sexist, non violent Muslim, you have to actively ignore Islam's teachings and convince yourself that the teachings are no longer to be followed AND that they were totally justified "back then" (pretty sure execution by stoning for any crime less than murder is never OK regardless of time and place)
You also have to ignore the part of Islam that clearly states that it's teachings are applicable until the end of time and that editing, updating, and also ignore the teaching that states that renovating/updating/modernizing Islam is not only one of the easiest ways to anger god but that it also goes against the entire premise of Islam's existence.
Islam's god clearly states that he presented his guidance to humanity twice before (the torah and the bible) but that people corrupted his message based on their own whims so he sent Islam as his final word, never to be changed or edited by humans again.
(reminder: responding to what I just wrote by saying "but all religions are sexist/violent/homophobic" is completely irrelevant and doesn't refute or address the point I've just made)
Islam isn’t sexist nor is it violent
@@Isaalicious until you can explain your premise (that islam isn't sexist or violent), your comment means nothing. Every premise I've mad about islam in this comment section is backed up with an explanation.
So you're not refuting me or adding anything meaningful to the conversation. You're just taking up space and.. i don't know.. SHIFTING FOCUS. Isn't that what you folks call it?
@@Isaalicious
Nabeel Qureshi // Why I stopped believing Islam is a religion of peace
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Nabeel Qureshi: Understanding the Violence in Islam - Apologetics to Islam
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Islam Vs. Women
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@@AwestaKhalid Wheres the sexist and violent part bro? 🤨
I'm trying to imagine if every girl and woman had the love and protection like this from their fathers. I don't think a lot of females understand how fortunate they are to have that. Her father seems quite balanced and fair towards her.
Im all for believing in whatever, but the irony when the daughter and father said "seeing is believing" gave me a good chuckle.
Am addicted to your videos thanks for sharing
Unfortunately, the teachings of Muhammad require Muslims to “counsel” other Muslims when they aren’t following Islam properly. So the fact that men harass the woman in the beginning for showing herself uncovered are an inevitable part of Islam. It’s not some “twisted perversion of Islam’s true teachings “.
Yes, It is obligatory on the advisor to render sincere advice to others, but it is not his right to compel others to follow his advice. Ibn Hazm once said, “One should not give advice on the condition that it must be accepted.
aboutislam.net/shariah/refine-your-heart/the-art-of-giving-advice-15-tips/
The thing is men use it against women only when it’s to counsel everyone in Islam that’s the twisted perversion of it
Unfortuly u dont read Quran and judge blindly
@hanadi luthi what they fabricated after 300 years?
And you're an expert on what precisely ?
Islam Has Empowered her to
"Talk To Men Equally "
Wtf Girl !!!!
Many women know that Islam has oppressed them, they really have no logical defense
Amazing documentary
Nice documentary.
I enjoyed this !
Muslim feminist. It's the most absurd association of words that I've ever heard.
you obviously haven't studied Islam if you made that comment
in fact you're right, because Feminism is just a movement to give to women what islam gives to them outta the box, feminists fight for rights that were given to women 1400years ago.
You did do something to change the views of EVERY GIRL who watched this video. Keep spreading the word.
Men have controlled the world for too long, it's time for LOVE, not EGO, to lead humanity!!!
Haha...!! Man will continue to rule if China wins cold war 2.0!!
We need to Follow our creatore instraction how to life if ur chaeistain
u must be aware of Mary jeaus mother
Allah commanded all muslim woman to be pure like her
They are actually white washing Islam in a secular country. They could never live like they actually do in a Islamic country.
Lynn Rolaf I 💯 agree with you on this. Unfortunately I don’t see a women lead world any time soon, as men still control most things in the world, and most of the world still has gender roles very much still in place. Hopefully one day women will be free and have all the power in the world!
Women in Christianity and Islam
Here are some verses of the Qur'an that explain the position of women in Islam:
• A woman inherits only half of what a man inherits (Sura al-Baqara 4:176).
• The evidence of two women is as important as the testimony of one man (Sura al-Baqara 2:282). By law, a woman is "only worth half" of a man.
• Certain verses in the Qur'an seem to describe women as unclean (Suras 4:43, 5:6).
Watch the full video HERE:
th-cam.com/video/a9H0EHFsZIQ/w-d-xo.html
"leaving the faith" is a radical move? Really? What a load of bullocks........ I didn't have to do anything to run away from the Catholic faith as quick as I could. Nobody said that was 'radical'. As long as someone thinks that is a radical move, the religion will not evolve.
Not the same as leaving Islam
In Islam, the punishment for apostasy(leaving the religion) is death. At the very least, you will almost certainly be disowned by your family.
23:00 let's observe how the older woman tried to "refute" the claim that the Quran allows husbands to lightly hit their wives.
Instead of saying/showing that the Quran doesn't say that, she pointed out that Muhammad didn't do it. That's a strawman fallacy. "But did the prophet beat his wives? Never" Even if that's true, that doesn't refute the claim that the Quran allows it. If I say that people are allowed to punch kittens on Tuesdays, and I personally don't punch kittens at all, that doesn't refute the fact that I allowed it for other people. This is unfortunately how many defenses of Islam's scriptures are. Rather refuting the existence of permissibility laws in Islam, they point to the (supposed) fact that Muhammad didn't engage in that which he made permissible.
Every religion supports this. It is in the Bible as well and fundies practice this. The thing is you dont have to throw out the religion because of a text.
@@hillary3677 "every religion does this"
You just committed a logical fallacy.
my claim: Islam supports xyx
how you rebranded my claim: Islam is the only religion that supports xyz.
It's easier to dismiss criticism of Islam when you lie and claim that the person is also claiming that Islam is the only religion worthy of criticism.
You're probably wanna say, "So why aren't you criticising Christianity/the bible and the torah etc?"
My response is that you don't know what I say or do or talk about or write about outside of my comments here. I'm only criticizing Islam and not other religions in this comment section because the video is about Islam. I hope that clears up any confusion.
@@AwestaKhalid why not say all religious texts give men the authority to beat their wives?
@@hillary3677 why not say that here in this comment section?
Think about this for a second:
There's a video that kind of puts america's racism in to question. (just as this video put's islam's possible sexism into question). Imagine that I show how there IS significal levels or racism in america and someone replied with "but other countries are racist too.. you should've said 'all countries are racist' instead of singling out america".
I dont know about you but that would be pretty absurd.
As a muslim woman, i can’t agree more with what u said! None of these women would allow someone to hit them, yet they accept it being written there, cognitive dissonance
As with every other religion, there are restrictive interpretations and lenient interpretation.
I hope she finds her way to become happy.
No islam is not like any other religion. The koran is considered perfect in every way, so everything that is written in it must be true. That is highly problematic and leads to extremism and terror.
@@trollrat2828 Are you for real Troll Rat? I mean your story sounds reasonable.
@@trollrat2828i think you should wear the headscarf just to go to school and there talk with the professors about that problem, they can assist you with that they can always do, unless you go to a Muslim school or in a Muslim country, then I don't know
Women in Christianity and Islam
Here are some verses of the Qur'an that explain the position of women in Islam:
• A woman inherits only half of what a man inherits (Sura al-Baqara 4:176).
• The evidence of two women is as important as the testimony of one man (Sura al-Baqara 2:282). By law, a woman is "only worth half" of a man.
• Certain verses in the Qur'an seem to describe women as unclean (Suras 4:43, 5:6).
Watch the full video HERE:
th-cam.com/video/a9H0EHFsZIQ/w-d-xo.html
You are so cute in the way you expressed yourself with your father loved the film very interesting ...keep being you! that's most important in having a happy life!
At 25:00, I don't think this is about Islam. My mom was the same way with me when I was still living at home with my parents as an adult, and I'm a fourth-generation white Canadian woman. All of my ancestors are white, as far as I know. My parents are nonreligious, but their ancestors were Christian. She would always get angry at me if I didn't phone her at least once during the evening because she was always paranoid that I would get kidnapped. She'd be angry when I'd come home at 9pm without phoning her. In the winter she wouldn't allow me to go out past 4pm because it was dark outside when I was a teenager. I didn't have any friends, so by outside, I mean going to the local library.
Just because a particular sexist teaching or belief exists elsewhere doesn't refute the assertion that it's a teaching of Islam.
Let's say I owned a company and it was my company policy that people named Eric would get a pie thrown at them every Tuesday.
Let's say there's another company that has the exact same policy.
The fact that company B also has that policy against guys named Eric doesn't disprove that when guys at my company named Eric get hit with a pie, it's part of my company's policy. Just because another company mistreats guys named Eric, that doesn't disprove the fact that MY company mistreats guys named Eric.
I Hope that makes sense.
@@AwestaKhalid i am seeing this Canadian women comment as she is telling "Her mother were very well known person about the society's atmosphere that time & giving her advises & experiences of her by recalling again and again and day by day when she being outside and forgetful!
As a revert Swedish girl. Islam gave me all the protection and respect i needed.more than all religions and school if thoughts combined.
My body , my brain , my choice.
Respect that we exist and move on .
Not every woman wants to Walk around naked or be a slave to her boss.
He said “give us a hug” and she kind of head butted his stomach haha
Read the works of Ayaan Hirst Ali. You will be left with ZERO questions. I absolutely GUARANTEE it. Her works books etc as a Muslim feminist took my male taught understanding of Islam, dismantled it and brought it all back together again. Every single question I had, meticulously answered. What I also liked was being easily able to get her insight after reading her books. Total TOTAL eye opener.
@@trollrat2828 shame. Time to escape those chains. Get away from them
you should let the women in kabul know about this amazing revelation. They wont be concerned about being murdered anymore!
Vennessa
Ayyan Hirsi Ali is an opporunist who lied in her asylum application and got kicked out of Netherland for the lies but saved by the Christian zionists in US.
I would of Loved to have a Father that protected me like your father i never had one growing up your blessed more then you know.
WHat a beautiful, honest, open and good hearted young woman. I hope she finds real happiness. I find it hard to accept any licence for a man to beat his wife, however lightly, or under any circumstances whatsoever. Perhaps a Muslim might argue that the Koran spoke to people in a way that was understandable given the times, culture , context etc. I believe, at least , that it did give rights to women that were generally not available to women in that place and time, so in that sense, it was progressive. Mehreen can interpret the Koran herself and decide what it means to her in this day and age. Sje has to separate the words of the Koran from the culture that allows her well-meaning and loving Dad to keep her at home til shes 28 and under his thumbe. SHes an intelligent woman and I am sure she can do this and be a 'good Muslim' and an independent woman at the same time, if that is what she wishes. Good luck my dear. Salaam
A beating is a beating no matter how lightly. It's an act of violence.
I am happy with you my brothers and sisters I love you very much Your brother is from Saudi Arabia
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No one will love you like your father ❤️
Islam is respect
So many girls wish they had your father !
She said she had to sometimes pick between her culture and being a young British woman, but the latter is her culture the former she’s been told is her culture it seems
I really like this woman. Your dad is also really amazing honestly ☺️
I really appreciate how some countries, nobody needs to sit and ask why you want a divorce. Just that one person wants it is enough. You don't have to explain why because who cares?
In six weeks everyone will be served 🤣
Even Muslim women/man here enjoy the same.
Recently I understood what has been happening in Islam is that the clause in nikah form the right of woman to ask for divorce is taken away from women and all families accept it quietly and even the Mullas don’t except to tell women there rights which is being taken away and they think it’s an Islamic law and it’s right. But women need to stand for there basic rights in Islam first which is man made .
Birds born in a cage don’t know they can fly
women should wear whatever they choose
Stay in your lane.. You don’t understand any of this..
Nope, they have a responsibility to dress up modestly so as to not attract specific sexual attention. Men should control themselves, absolutely, but women have a responsibility as well.
That’s exactly what’s wrong with your women now..
@@thecrownprince6870 100% correct.
We need to Follow our creatore instraction how to life if ur chaeistain
u must be aware of Mary jeaus mother
Allah commanded all muslim woman to be pure like her
Girl, your father is controling, in Phychological terms and is using religion to do so... Get your own place, go to therapy and live your life without regrets.
@Zoxites
Her parants Doesnt use Islam fair
this vide was more cultural side not religious
@Zoxites whats ur religion ?
athist or christain
@Zoxites as a revert . Islam gave me more protection and Rights than other religion or modern law. Am happy with my choice and everybody should respect that and move on.
We will not disappear
@Zoxites
Maybe u have read Bible and think its Quran
Bible teaching gensis 19
So they made their father drink wine that night. And the firstborn went in and lay with her father. He did not know when she lay down or when she arose.
I looked Mehreen up online. She is now 32 years old and not married. She is successful, has a book out and is a TV presenter. There is no way some Pakistani guy will be happy with all that. Find a British guy or American, Mehreen. You'll be happy.
Maybe American not English , English are boring . I am the dating expert now ! Not !
I love this. Her journey will be beautiful. 💖
This was really nice. Mehreen seems like she has a good head on her shoulders.
The truth is everyone is different in their own unique way and no one should tell you how to live your life. No one not even “GOD” you do you boo 💯🤟
All religions are man made and nothing more, you are a spiritual being having a human experience. It is clear how much you love your father, and how much he loves you, and there should always be a way to respect each other because God is within, and only ask for us to be the best human we can possibly be. Books such as the Koran, the Torah, the Bible will always be up to interpretation as you have clearly seen with the ladies and men here in this documentary. You are a beautiful soul, live your life with other souls that understand the Golden Rule; Do Unto Others as You would have them do unto you. Wishing you the very best!
This is a very controversial topic in the youth.
Your faith gives you a position ( a high position) it is part of your identity. You can be beautiful, young and independent and be a Muslim woman. In the youth we expect all things to be easy and your own innocence of the world doesn’t allow you to see all the dangers of the world. The people that have no one wished they had one call from a parent that cares for them. Without the guidelines of our family the youth would be lost.
I find it striking first that she is not aware of what her Book says about women. If you are Christian, wouldn't you have read the Bible at least once? Islam is a religion which produces probably one of the most extremists in its interpretations and probably too many misconceptions from non-believers, too. So, even more in that case, IMO, if you subscribe to something as "controversial" as Islam, you would need to know it inside out to be its advocate, wouldn't you?
As someone who was raised Catholic, and met hundreds, if not thousands of Catholics and other types of Christian...personally, I've found that most of them had not/have not read the bible. Reading the bible cover to cover is what made me become an atheist.
Islam is crystal clear, you might need to get the right places to know about Islam.
@@laneatkinson6441 why not muslim ?
I've never met a Christian who has read the Bible. Being born into a religion means everyone just blindly follows what they're told without question or research. It's the same with Islam, Christianity, Hinduism, and so on. It's sad and the cycles need to stop.
I'm a christian who read the Bible, since so many of you guys have never seen one I thought you might want to take a peek:P
i'm a petecostal CHRITIAN & I know exactly what a Muslim woman is, I respect that. Who gave you the rite to pick & choose?
right*
الكثير من التعليقات أصحابها لَم يقرأوا أبدا القرآن الكريم و تفسيره أبدا و لا الأحاديث الشريفة و سُنّة الحبيب محمّد صلّى اللّه عليه و سلّم ..
اهدأوا .. للأسف أرَاكُم جَهلكم أنّكم في نَعيم ..
Mehreen being conscious ignorant about the situation of women in the islam, is insulted to so many women that are suffering by the scipture of this ideology, I'd walk out on her if she played the ignorant card on me. Such a dishonest person.
can you tell me about women in Islam? my mother and sister are Muslim women but it seems you know more...
I’m married with two kids now still
My dad will keep on calling me to check did I reached home safely ? fed my kids and husband? performed my daily prayers or not . And if by any chance I missed his call he will call my husband and ask about me. This is everyday story and Alhumdulillah he calls me atleast 3 to 5 times a day though I live in another country and 10000 miles away from him 😭
SAHM I’m sorry you have to deal with that. Super controlling, and he’s only concerned that you take care of your husband and kids and not yourself.
This should be illegal
@@gamere105ek2 I’m surprised at your poor judgment. My dad loves me the most . There is nothing sooo precious to him than my good health and my happiness. He was the one who took care of me from the day I born . He used to drop me off to my office at his retirement age used to drive to drop me off and pick me up when I asked him. Till now he is the one will keep on sending me gifts from overseas on Birthdays and special days . In my culture this is how fathers / elder brothers look after their daughters/ sisters and try to keep them safe from all the hardships in the world . It depends on the person how s/he finds it some might find it too much interference or loss of freedom but for me this makes me feel more proud to be cared and adored by a loving and caring father. My dad is a very responsible person and he is taking care of my GMA too who lives in the same house with my parents for all her life and she is at her 90s now.
@@sahm5464 Well sorry for the misunderstanding, it’s just where I’m from if parents interfere with their children’s lives to that degree it’s considered controlling, and intercepting the children’s freedom. Some people here don’t see this type of parenting as a bad thing when the children are still kids, it’s when they’re grown adults and have their own independence that it becomes an issue. Depending on where you’re from I would be concerned that if he doesn’t hear from you he then calls your husband to see how you are, and that he actually asks if you feed your husband and children, as if you needed a reminder to do that, but I’m guessing from what you’ve told me that’s normal for father’s in your culture to do that. You also used the 😭 emoji, which I perceived as you being upset and wishing your father didn’t do this, apparently I misunderstood that. Here it very’s family to family really, not so much a cultural thing, but a personal preference really. Some father’s aren’t involved at all, and some put in the effort. I’ve mostly seen all the effort into childcare being on the mother’s, and the mother’s calling their grown adult children to see if they’re safe and healthy.
@@sahm5464 No offense to your father or anything, but I’m surprised he takes care of your grandmother, in my case when it comes to elder care that’s a woman’s job, so I get surprised when I learn of men actually stepping in and helping with elder or child care for that matter. Like I said it’s very family to family here, I’m just speaking from my own experience.
Trying to please everyone is like trying to balance a scale full of frogs on both sides, constantly jumping off. Personal freedom is the best religion, provided that you have to be judicious. You are a beautiful girl with equally beautiful brains. Don't give a f**k to what people say, do what you like. FAITH IS WHAT YOU TRULY BELIEVE IN NOT WHAT PEOPLE WANT YOU TO BELIEVE IN.
I don't mind your comment. It's your language that's awful self-revealing.
Good luck Mehreen, you are an astute and bright woman!
May Allah bless you with a husband that doesn’t beat you lightly too often 🙏 😊
I am not sure some of the natural instincts are religion related. I have no religion, but I feel like it's my duty to care about the well being of my wife and my mother. It doesn't mean I belittle them, but as a man I have the protector's instinct of putting myself first in line in case of danger. Is that so bad?
Not everyone needs a religion to RELY on to develop and/or sustain and moral compass or ideology of right, wrong, or manhood/womanhood.
I subscribe to no religion, but there is wisdom to be found in various religious texts. I’ve learned from them and most importantly, learned from life and socializing.
I don't think that's bad, it's only natural to want to protect your loved ones. When this is taken too far, it becomes abusive, controlling behavior. I escaped an abusive relationship almost a year ago, and my ex did not allow me to visit friends or family because he was insanely jealous. If I didn't immediately respond to one of his texts or I missed one of his calls, he would blow up my phone because he was "worried". As long as you know a healthy level of protectiveness, you should be fine.
@@laneatkinson6441 ok that is really out of order. Sorry to hear you had to experience that...
@@donniecatalano Thank you, I've been free for almost a year now & doing much better 👍
in Islam, men are seen as the guardians of women. That doesn't mean that women are seen as any less than men. For surly, what is being guided is more precious than the one who is guarding it
As a Italian Dads are just Protective. I wish more father’s where protective of there daughters
I thought that this lady's father was both extremely protective (knowing the ways of the world) AND extremely lenient for a man of his culture and faith. She should consider herself extremely fortunate. However, I noticed that the ladies of African decent seemed to have a more 'modern' outlook on Islam being very well educated and independent as well .. CHOOSING their religious virtues instead of having them be imposed upon them as is often the case in less 'developed' cultures. Believe me, marriage in ANY faith or non faith is not a walk in the park so this lady's last words here made me believe she will make it in this world after all. Good luck.
I like that she is practicing and still has some struggles but Her way of trying to find if Islam is suitable for her needs in western society is too shallow.
"If my mom doesnt like u its done","if people think im less of a muslim bc of u then its done", and then, "i swear i feel a tingling sensation wallah" tired of these guys yall 🤠
😕😪😓🤷🏽♂️🙇🏽♂️People might not see this comment, but everybody stay safe and have a blessed day my God be with you all🙏🏾🙌🏾💗💐🔥🌞🌟
Which god
I’ve been married for 29 years
I never forced or hit my wife
Never forced my wife to wear hijab she dose it on her own free well
She prays
Respects my parents and her parents
She has given me two handsome boys
Which I’m in debt to her
Good for you, Zubair Ahmad. You are treating your wife as she SHOULD be treated, not as Islam tells you you should treat her. Islam is hateful toward women and girls.
Same here!
@@elsemorris906
Islam doesn’t teach you to treat your wife’s or woman like trash
It’s human nature
They wanna do what they desire
They have added cultural nonsense into religion
If you look at Christianity or Judaism
Read their bibles see what it tells you how to treat woman in a most despicable way
@@elsemorris906
Islam is what teaches me how treat my wife
Like a queen not like a trash or a object
She’s my soul mate
She’s the mother of my kids
I will protect and guard my queen with my life
Read your Bible how you look at woman as an object
@@ZubairAhmad-zo5sh The quran tells muslim me to beat their wives. Do you call that respectful treatment of women?
You are a beautiful and strong woman.
Hijab is an act of worship for Muslim women. It’s a blessing and it is liberating.
You should watch Sergio and Rhoda, He is Jewish by birth, and she is muslim by birth, but they are Christian's, and live in Israel. The parent's all became Christian. A great story, and they have great youtube videos of Biblical Israel in Israel.
Enjoyed the content,convert to another religion or stay without one, choice is yours?
I understand that Pakistanis will marry among Pakistanis; many have married their first cousins because of this bond among Pakistanis; something I will never do although I am a Muslim. Mehreen is beautiful and will get married and her life will become just like most of us ordinary married couples.
This is the problem with all religions. They have absolutely no place in the modern world. I really feel for Mehreen. As a modern woman, if she marries a Muslim man like her father, she is going to be miserable. And she won't be a woman to take abuse or disrespect. So I see a marriage and a divorce in her future -unless she marries a modern guy.
I love this! Brave, bright girl. Her Dad is proud if her too!!!!
Shes so beautiful looking. Very pretty.
This is exactly why I left Islam …
You converted and left again? Good for you!
How many Alhamdulillah in salah fajr?
@@MixolydianMode I was born Muslim , but two years ago I converted to Christianity ✝️
My life has changed completely.. for the better .. I respect all religions.. however Islam is a cures …
@@Jennifer-zm1ol I salute you and feel the same way! I am no christian myself but get along very well with christians and I respect Jesus for his kindness and wisdom.
@@MixolydianMode God bless you
She's beautiful. She's doesn't need all that makeup
tl;dw: It turns out really old books have very different interpretations.
the culture thing is deep
This is no different than most dad, as long as you live at home under their roof you will have to listen to this🤣
As a non Muslim....these ideals drive me BATSHIT CRAZY. NO...I am not religious at all, I'm agnostic but these ideals encourage the 2nd class treatment of females.
Please spread the word . I'm an exmuz and everything you said is correct yet the west is trying to paint it as our culture I've been refuted by western women saying I'm spending hate when i tell my story . I'm north african and this is not my culture mo and his teaching ruined my country for centeries and ruined the lives of women here and all over the world wherever this hateful ideology took place
if its in a non Islamic country then religion should be updated to fit current times, in fact ALL Religions should be updated with current times
We need to Follow our creatore instraction how to life if ur chaeistain
u must be aware of Mary jeaus mother
Allah commanded all muslim woman to be pure like her
Or better yet, ditch religion but keep it alive as a collection of myths from ancient history.
We don’t need it, islam is perfect.
7:20 “the true interpretation says it’s not mandatory to cover your hair”.
The particular interpretation that absolves women of covering their hair states that women are only required to cover just their bosom.
Even if this interpretation was true, it’s still policing women’s dress. And it still states that women who do choose to show their bosoms can incite negative feelings in the men that see them which supposedly can lead to temp them towards bad behavior… which absolves men from whatever might happen as a result of their temptation.
Not true men and women in Islam have dress code, and both men and women are required to lower their gaze etc..
anyone who sees this reply, report this guy's comment, they are misleading. if u don't believe, u can check it out yourself
same goes for men as well.
if men wear underwear or boxer or shorts and that incite negative feelings in the women that see them which supposedly can lead to tempt them towards bad behaviour .
Islam has rules for every aspect of life. for both women and men
@@angelinataherin3102 definitely not misleading but definitely forgot to mention that hijab was first made to recognize free women (maslyym ones from slave women not maslyym ones) and this is far way disgusting
She’s beautiful
That's what I came here to say... gorgeous!
Stay strong girl. Keep your independence. Keep your self-respect. Have a good life. But leave home...you are an adult at 28.
Stay in your lane
@@thecrownprince6870 keep your brutal edicts to youself.
good advice leave parants those who love and cared and feed her she must leave for her disires 😂
@@qayoomsediq2013 That's how nature works. Once the offspring is old enough to fend for itself, it leave the parents.
I think she can live at her parents house and have more independence. I watch many UK based shows and many single folks live with their parents. It's not the living situation exactly but the rules situation if that makes sense.
But we don’t follow the religion based upon to please men. Or anything to do with men ur ideology of Islam we follow the sunnah for Allah. (God) And not our own. Because we don’t know what is best for us. Not always. “Maybe you love something and it’s bad for you, & Maybe u hate something and it’s good for you” Cleary this verse is in Quran. Allah exaplains clearly and perfectly. Ppl do what they want out of their own satisfaction. (Doing what they want) It’s not because Islam is a bad religion.
11:31 when people saying Muslim women are opperesed their basically referencing to the women the middle east Iran,Arab, afghan, Pakistan and many some of the Muslim women who even live in the west their families n community still forces them to cover up have male guard ship and to do this and that that really don't want or their literally restricted from going out driving having a relationship and wearing whatever they and also in these countries here expeally Iran and afghan women are literally forces to where the hijab and burka the reason why we are saying this is that many Muslim women n I mean many! Of them who got the opacity these people who live n grew up the west n Europe will blantany and ignorantly
"Muslim women are so happy everywhere Islam so perfect that it is a feminist religion"
Women living in the middle east expeally Iran:.....
Like you can't say the same for every Muslim women but sadly in order make islam this so called perfect religion they deny the opperesion of women these Islamic countries and in the west follow the religion ur literally putting down their trauma and struggles and absuse and objectication they have to face like pls people stop it! Because I promise u I f you where in their positions u would be crying to come back to the west because u know that wouldn't be able to live in these societies
YES YES YES... like who is gonna help the other half "some" muslim women then?? just cuz some muslim women choose to cover up doesn't mean all (Muslim) women who are born in muslim families and countries want to cover up/wearhijaba and burka...
@@a_teez8913 exactly! Right
1st thing Mehreen is a goddess, any guy will be lucky to have her as a wife. Not just her looks but her attitude, smile, and goofiness. I've always felt bad for Muslim women. The hijaab was obviously a rule created by men to keep their women covered to prevent temptation from other men. It was thrown in religion to make it make sense for the women. I think you shouldn't stickly be searching for a Muslim man. Its unfortunate people still practice this type of BS. Find love, not just a Muslim man you can tolerate to impress your family. It's your life, do with it what YOU want, not what others want.
you're a simp
Unfortunately the religion doesn't allow Muslim women to marry outside of the religion, only men are allowed that but even that is not advised
@@trollrat2828 I know, I'm a Christian who's married with a Muslim man, which can work well but sometimes outsiders are not so accepting, depending on country and culture
You can be Muslim by name or be a true Muslim . But end of the day we humans are no one to judge .
I have seen a lot of people pass judgment on someone followed by this line " but at the end of the day we are noone to judge" then why say it at first place. Out of 5 documentries I watched today, 4 had someone commenting this thing🤦🏻♀️. Why not refrain from judging altogether when its not for you to judge.
when govts put restrictions nobody objects. people resists religious principles without even understanding them.
Happy 4th of July
She's so beautiful
Your family is lovely. Try to understand, although it's difficult I'm sure....HA. I would give anything to have my parents here, life as it was. Enjoy my gorgeous friend.
This is a cultural issue, more than a religious issue. But yeah, Islam encourages staying with parents. Not a must...
Right now the only thing women can do is to try to educate them self much as possible to be able to not depend on anyone, no matter they are married or not.
In the islam women will be equal in the moment when man will understand that making lunch and taking care of the house and the kid is for the both equally.
If qenders are equal in the Islam then call a boy to be a nanny for your kids, or put a lady to be a driver for the family.
I love Islam don't get me wrong i am just student who study qender studies!
EQUAL OPPORTUNITIES FOR EVERYONE!
Your blessed bcoz being a man he knows what kind of monsters are outside
What Yasmine is talking about is totally cultural. She is not Pakistani, so norms are very different from one country to another.
Islam does not forces anyone to marry, marraige is not Fard(mandatory/must) but it is Sunnah ( you may ), if anyone wants to be fully independent then probably should not marry, marraige and independence does not go together, just an example (a husband comes home every 2 am or 3 am and wife is waiting at home, he can say i am independent even i we are married and vice versa) so there is limits to independence, independence means independence and no one can hold back. Marraige is compromise for both otherwise it will not work, one can be independent and can be good muslim too. But again every religion has some boundries.
Muslims & Real life in a Modest ways .
Your father is a wonderful man
The husband is allowed to hit the wife? But is the wife prohibited from hitting the husband if by any chance the husband committed zina?
That is a disgraced for male ego to kick the balls of a muslim man
Because originally it z better example what I saw on TV about .Mormon fa.y with one husband and he was financial y was wealthy enough to have I think three or five wife and childreniving together and they wife had five sepratly but maybe under one roof like we read in old testament
Why don't people just read the literature of their own faith to know the truth?
So there are many truths ?
Mehreen is really confused … though she was brought up in a Muslim family she didn’t learn the Islamic values …. Islamic values are there to protect us from harm … the Islamic dress code for women is a blessing for us … showing your body or your hair is not freedom …. also her father trying to protect her is not a bad thing … she is fortunate that her father cares for her!
she seems like a nice person, its the parents that didn't do their job right
She should be grateful her father is still around. She won't be saying that if her father wasn't around God forbid
3:30 “my dad lays down the rules of my life”
Again, this is a direct result of the teachings of the Quran and Muhammad and not a result of Pakistani / brown culture.
Quran verse 4 chapter 34:
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because God has given the one more [strength] than the other, and because they support them from their means.”[
We can tell ourselves that the above is a mistranslation done by men and through their sexist filter but a moments reflection and research tells us that to believe this verse means anything NOT SEXIST requires quite a bit of mental gymnastics.