My late husband would take his hands off the steering wheel and fold them, and say "here you drive". He could back anything with his eyes closed. No idea why I ever tried to help him back up because he could park it on a dime. He was a prankster and most of our fights were because he was playing a prank on me. Of course, I would be furious which he thought was even better than the prank. He's been gone almost three years and our family still refers to things he's done as Bobisms. A good marriage takes a lot of give and take, and a lot of work. Thanks for the laughs.
Pushing on 40 years of marriage we argue in the house or motorhome, it’s done as fast as it started, we let it slide cause in reality it’s not worth long term being pissed.
I get you! One of our biggest fights was over driving. He insisted I drive and then criticized every move I made. I stopped the rig at the side of the road and told him to GET OUT! That shocked the heck out of him, I can tell you! 😂😂😂
My husband and mine first fight was when he wanted my help to back up and then he gets mad at me for doing it wrong. Like stopping I see people do the closed fist and he said that is not how it is done. I stated I watched for 3 years all the TH-cam videos of people backing up and he has never dealt with hand signals.
Thanks for being real. We've been on the road for 5 years and can relate. A moment of light hearted humor and levitation will go a long ways to mend those hiccups.
Two words that usually make things better - "I'm sorry". Two more words - "You're forgiven". Fortunately I have a cap on my pickup I can sleep in. Keep the good stuff coming guys. P.S., the bloopers were great.
Ideas that I’ve never seen addressed before. Kuddos. 👏 We’ve found our niche by finding our strong points and letting the other know we’ll let them know if we Ned help. Like you, we just laugh about it and move on. I’m blessed because my husband is very considerate and patient or he’ll go for a walk/sit outside. His motto is, “I try not to say anything to you that I can’t take back”. I’m a blessed wife and I know it.
Been married over 40 years and can say” feeling like your heard, picking your fights( life of death) ; small petty things are just not worth the energy or pain, truly forgiving and saying “ i love you dearly “ and complimenting each other, snuggling, and letting the other know your struggling today so you give me grace and support is so important. Reassurance of how special you are to me goes along ways. Gut laugher together draws you closer too. Communication, compromising and “unconditional love” is the key. People today really don’t understand what unconditional love truly means. It doesn’t mean physical or verbal abuse but one aspect is your journey is as one with no other options. My husband gave me a card one day and all it said was “ I chose you and I love you every moment of everyday” through hard times, sickness and good times I chose you. “ Great job touching little bit on a touchy topic but a really serious one when you’re living in a small space. Hope you do more on this topic. I only know of one other RVing influencer that has been sharing about this, and it really helps the rest of us. Tysm it’s a blessing
Park next to us once in a while.....LOL. After 32 years together, we do get cranky every now and then. But we both know it is not a personal attack. Besides, making up is really nice! I am really good at it! ;)
I absolutely love this kind of RV video! You both are so darn cute! Compared to my spouse and I, your disagreements are so much more “Normal” than ours. Please release more content on sharing life in an RV! Thank you both, this was reality and cuteness overload 😂🚍🙏🏻♥️
Such a great video. I’ve got to let my husband watch this one. I’m a retired counsellor and my husband (retired pastor). He used to preach to husbands, there are three words useful in your marriage… “You’re so right.”
And the Oscar goes to Phil for his freeze frame moments while Stacy explains the situation! Our 5th wheel has a midbunk that we converted to my wife's sewing/craft room. She goes in there and I'm in the living room on my computer or watching tv. Happy-Happy. But when all else fails ALWAYS REMEMBER. Happy wife, happy life.
This is my dream!! Hubs and I are constantly looking for a 5th wheel to remodel that has a BH. Need my sewing room and he gets the living room for his gaming and live streaming
My husband and I spent 3 years team driving a semi in the 80's. I learned to drive a stick shift in that semi with hubs doing the teaching. Threatened to get out and walk home several times(some of them hundreds of miles from home). We lived in an 8' x 6' cabover for 3 years spending up to 6 weeks at a time on the road. When we were home between runs we tended to go our seperate ways for a few hours every day to get that reset. We are getting ready to retire and head out in our rig for long road trips. I see many long walks in my future or maybe trips to a local library. I can relate to the constant chit chatter even before I've had my coffee.. 🙄 Thanks for sharing.
What did you guys drive for a rig back then? After that 3 years, did either one of you still drive over the road? Please respond, I like the stories from the 80's!
@@je862 we had a 1984 GMC cabover with a Cummins engine (it's been too long for me to remember what engine). Not a West Coast truck for sure but we took it there anyway. Did all 48 states multiple times in those 3 years. My husband drove over the road again for Frito-Lay after a stint of self-employment as an excavation contractor. Then he hauled some super loads as part of his job as a contrator at an army base.
@@rollinwiththedavises1938 Nice story! I wish you guys well on your retirement! I'm close to 60 so I don't have too much time left. I won't full time rv but what makes me happy is if I could spend a couple months every summer in south dakota, the badlands and the black hills. Also, over the years I've interviewed dozens of people who have started trucking in the late 1950's and have driven through into the 90's etc and the vast majority have said things really started to change around the late 80's as far as truckers being friendly with one another, stopping to help change another truckers' flat tire, and other problems, etc. I don't know what happened in society around that time but that's what I've been told. thank you for responding!
Great idea about therapy. Thank you for highlighting the need for mental health. As a therapist, and one who does only telehealth, it is important to get word out for people to be able to get started with therapy. Thanks for all you do. BTW….this was CLASSIC couples stuff. Excellent.
Before anything else---the sponsor of this video: AWESOME CHOICE! Mental health is too easily taken for granted. For your video, a house with open floor plan has prepared for some of your challenges: I watch the TV on closed caption because my wife is banging around in the kitchen 10ft away (or right next to me in the RV), I'm like a ninja when I get before her/she's a Metallica drummer making coffee (but I sleep like a rock/she's Princess and the Pea), and we never stay anywhere in the RV where I can't either run the generator and/or the A/C's on fan all night... White noise=saved marriage... you also nailed it: "let the little things go" Great video!!
This one reason why I had to have a front living 5th wheel. I have 3 separated rooms that I can go to. I can sit in the kitchen doing computer with my headphones and music and he can be up in the livingroom watching something. But definitely sometimes I just need for 1 of us to go to the store so I can get my alone time. 😊 Love your videos.
Boundary setting and respecting the other's boundary are key. Stacy refusing to drive after being yelled at was great boundary setting! Phil's self-deprecating humor is another key to diffusing. Great points and funny reenactments, especially listening to the "neighbors'" argument!
One of the biggest savers for us has been a sound machine for sleep. The white noise helps to cover any noise in the rig when the other is up and about. My hubs goes to bed early and is up early. I’m a late bird for both.
We’ve been married 38 years and only rving two years. we have already tested our marriage in two years of travel in that small RV. It is a challenge and you must compromise and find a way to get away. Everyone needs time alone. even if it means sightseeing different things separately.
we have been married 44 years an the wife has bee retired for 7 years , we travel a lot , we are not full timers but spend a lot of time in the Coach , 4 months in USA , and 3 more in Canada where our sticks and bricks are in Alberta , I used to be the one up at 4 am getting ready for work , but as i am semi retired , i like to sleep until 8 , but procrastinate to get dressed at 9 , the wife gets up at 7:30 or 8 , she is super quiet , i am up later now and watch tv downstairs on the opposite side of a 2000 sq ft house , but she always complains of tv too loud , so to help , i am getting earphones for tv , i already do that on tv but she is always showing me videos or jokes and interrupting my videos , on those non RV trips we have timeshare points we use to get to resorts
Worst problem is the one not talked about immediately, while small. Setting up rules of engagement....er, my bad, disagreeing...... up front really helps. Not much is worth fighting over with the one you love. Lose that person, and get back to me. You'll regret every second spent in conflict. Can't ever get them or that lost time back.
Those potholes in Tiffin’s service yard are wicked! I’m talking about the ones surrounding the drainage grates. My husband ran over one, and all of our clothes hangers fell off the rail! It’s so easy to miss those huge dips in the pavement there. You just don’t expect them right there outside the service bays. In our time at RedBay I saw lots of people drive-kaCHUNK!-right over them, so don’t feel bad!
So many truths here! We’ve been full time almost 2 years. Having a toy hauler first and now a mid-bunk for my husband’s office has been perfect. Also, we always run our bedroom overhead fan (it’s LOUD) for white noise.
I remember our first argument as a married couple. Pre-RV we were packing to go camping. I had done this 2 week camping trip on my own many many times. This was the first time he went with me. I kept bringing stuff out to the truck and saying this goes in the back, this goes in the back. I got mad because he wasn't doing what I asked and packed the entire truck wrong. I finally got really mad and we had a HUGE argument in the driveway of the house. That's when I realized, I was saying it went in the back of the truck from the POV of where I was standing at the tailgate. He was looking at the truck from the POV of front of the truck is where the driver sits, the back is the tailgate. He didn't understand why I was bringing out things that should go in last, first. Fast forward 15+ years later when we get into what really should be "stupid" arguments all someone has to say is "Is it the front of the truck or the back of the truck". We almost immediately start laughing, and then start talking. We're not full time yet, but have spent a lot of time in the RV I hope this trick carries over to the small space of RV living.
Awesome video!! Having been married for over 40, we have been through many of the scenarios you pointed out and, although not perfect, we have learned each others "idiosyncrasies" and how to work through the issue(s). As Phil pointed out, it's usually stems from something very small and petty. Will definitely help out when we finally get in to our own rig. LOVE the bloopers at the end - showed that you both had fun making the video!! 🙂
You have a bedroom door right? Maybe set up your office in the bedroom. We travel in a camper van and found setting up our screen room with table chairs and coffee pot really helps.
Hi I just found you channel. I subscribed right away! This video hit home immediately! We have been full time since October 28, 2022. We have camped in all different rigs from the Tent mansion, bumper Humpers, fithers, an now the 40’ Class A! I love the class A feel an the ability to just go to the bathroom, make a sandwich… but the expense is greater if something goes wrong! Fresh out of the gate heading to Florida for winter an boom! Our water pump goes!!! 4 days at Walmart parking lot because they couldn’t seem to understand we needed a rotater tow vehicle! We finallyhad to find our own an hook them up with our insurance carrier an get towed to a truck stop down the road just a few miles! We had that fixed an, we were back on the road! Now it was do I go home you do we continue, still in the RV Full time! That was just enough to want to go home! I almost did! But no matter what stress is a part of life! So let’s go have fun an deal with life as it comes! That’s what we did! I do have a few questions? Water filtration system how was it? An what vehicle insurance have you found to be good? Is harvest host really a good thing? We will be getting that in a few months. National park pass, I’m disabled an it’s only $10 for I figured it can’t hurt to have? Thank you the videos, they do help people! I still haven’t drove it on the street yet! I told myself I need to do it this year for sure an I will force myself too! I drove school bus for a few years an this should be that different.
Love this- naked honesty!!! 1 year + full-timing w/my husband, I haven’t continuously been this close to a human since I was in the womb. It’s a struggle at times but also, I’ve never felt so close to him. 💕
If we’re parked in a space for a while we remove the magnets off the most used cabinets. This has helped in the situation for the late riser. We also like the idea of going outside for having alone time. Thanks for the real talk.
LOVE this video!! We have been full time for over two years, and the PUT EVERYTHING AWAY is my biggest peeve! It also never fails that you both are going the same place in the RV as the other ALL THE TIME, like WHY to you have to go to the bathroom the second I go, and WHY do you need to get something out of the fridge the minute I go in to start dinner! 🤪
Married 41 years and we’ve been full time in our own 300 sq ft RV for five years. I feel y’all’s pain! My sister swore we’d kill each other in 6 months but, it’s been five years and we’re both still breathing. My biggest pet peeve is him doing his major bathroom business after I go to bed because, like you said, the toilet is pretty much in the bedroom. The cat steps from the bed to the toilet lid when he goes to the living room. It’s literally that close. 😂
Not just living in a small space, but relationship in general: Never go to bed fighting with each other, the issue will only fester overnight, and the problem will blow up exponentially.
My wife and I have been full time RVing in our motorhome for 6 months and we absolutely love it. We decided when we were going to do this that there was no such thing as men's work or women's work. We both do everything together. scrubbing toilets to dusting and washing the RV we are in this together. The only thing that I do that she doesn't is the driving. I drove tour busses at the Grand Canyon years ago while I was going to college in Flagstaff and I fell in love with it. So driving a bus is my thing. You guys are awesome and we hope to meet you on the road some day.
Lol I think we’ve had nearly every one of these arguments, but the worst is when parking the rig. We both can get very colorful with our words while trying to get parked. But I think we’ve both learned “it is what it is”-just letting off some steam, and we get over it quickly. That was a big hurdle for us, but we got it 😊
Your first point was spot on! We are in an Imagine 17MKE. The only door we have is to the bathroom. Sleep - we just let each other do it and for as long as anyone wants with no pressure or comments. The other one tries to be quiet. Unless we need to get on the road early, then we have a set time to get up. Love the invisible wall - we had an invisible space on our boat when we had friends on board doing long crossings. Hmmmm on her side on the driving fight...
After 10 years living in an RV full time you have touched on many of the trials. Ah backing up the rig, cleaning, shoes off or on, etc. Loved the out-takes!
So funny! Being full timers since four years and leaving in a class A 35 feet, I can say this is real life. Lot of compromises , but so nice life together !
Ooo I know the driving argument! Hubby drives everywhere, my concern is I need to drive in case something happens to him… but it’s an ongoing discussion 🙃
Great video! I watched it when hubs was out getting our truck serviced as I tend to overreact to things. As far as tips just because you have been married over 40 years when you retire and go full time in an RV this doesn’t prepare you for the closeness. We started out with a small 5th wheel and are now in a 40 ft because we needed 2 bathrooms. That took care of a major issue! If we are bickering I go “upstairs “ to the bedroom and read or listen to soothing music and close the door.
We only seem to argue about stupid things, which I suppose that’s better than having important things to argue about… because you’re arguing about important things then maybe you gotta rethink your relationship if it’s stupid crap, we just have to all be adults and that’s hard to do sometimes…..
LOL great job on the video, our 4.5 mo maiden voyage had its share but different ones. Navigation during stressful situations of needed a spot to stop, changing reservations mid-day, traffic, etc. was probably our main one.
God Bless both of you!! .....thank you for making me aware, there is NO WAY this is the life for me! no thank you!! I can't and won't live like this. I'd rather live in my stick and stones house ANYDAY.. Don't like the fact your are confined like this...its like a luxury jail! ... This was a great video and informative.. it left such an impression on me. ✨🏡 I LOVE MY SPACE!!
Great vid again. When we decided to up size. We wanted more room just like you said, SEPERATION is great as I am the night owl and she is up in the morning calling the kids, I wake up when the coffee smell makes it's way back to the bedroom. So we picked a 5th wheel with a Bedroom in the back, then the bathroom, then living room, then up to the kick to the Kitchen. Columbus 388fk. We also needed the huge amount of basement storage. Hope to see you on the road some day. "I'm sorry I'm a man" per red green
I would have done the same thing! You can't promise not to yell and then yell 😮 Phil should have picked a spot with no potholes to hit. Good for you for trying, Stacy!
That was awesome! Not just because it was good information, but also because you went above and beyond on presentation. The freeze motion was an absolute hoot! Thanks for another great video!
Going to have to comment on this as we go. We do not RV, just our house but relate to your issues. My bride ( off 36 yrs. ) have different sleep schedules to. She is in bed by 9 PM. I am a night owl. Just to not disturb her I sleep downstairs a lot of the time. In the morning at 7 or 8 AM she is banging cabinets or slamming the microwave door cooking her breakfast. So I relate to that one. I am the neater one, bride little on the messier side. If I am on the computer or watching TV my bride is always coming up and saying , you have to see this. Most of the time it is something like a funny dog you tube video or the like. I am the cook in the family and I also clean as I cook. My bride does the cleaning of the kitchen after dinner, I do it to keep down the mess while I cook but to also help her out on the after dinner cleanup. We give each other alone time when we want because we know we have the rest of the day to be together. Point being, these things are just small potatoes. Not worth getting mad about. We know how each other is and we just go with the flow. At the end of the day, my LOVE for her will win out every time.
Hand Salute! Hearing couples married for so long is an anomaly these days! We know we are stuck with each other forever, so It is worth the work maintain a happy relationship!
Great video, been there and done this! After 43 years of marriage you both learn to deal with each other, it’s true I’m sorry and you’re forgiven are necessary.
Great video, touchy subject. It's a tough problem because each of us thinks that we are perfect and our spouse is the one that needs help. We're going on 49 years in June, and the alone time is paramount to maintaining peace and civility. I admit, I'm the one that needs the alone time to maintain sanity. She's nuts, so alone only makes her crazier. I get upset, I blow up, say something, and boom, usually I'm done. She has to puff up like a frog on a hot road, for a couple of days. Seriously, ya'll did a great job on this video, even before the bloopers. I imagine that the folks that will have big problems, are the ones that get married thinking, I can change that flaw in them and they'll be perfect. Wrong, ain't gonna happen. Key is as ya'll stated, accepting differences, compromise, and stay in that common ground area. Ya'll are great, even better together ! God bless ya'll and stay safe on your travels. 👍👍❤
Very interesting video. But I believe it is good to every couple, even if they live in a house. I always admire you two especially after a life in the Navy when you had a lot of time away of each other, and from one moment to another, you went to living all time together in a small space. Congratulations to work it out. Again thank you for sharing.
😂This is the greatest video! 46 years married and you will probably hear us. Not full time but close. In the end we are counting on the next anniversary!🎉
Great video! I'm sure it applies to just about every couple whether full time or part time in their RV. She stills works remotely in the rv and my job is to be quiet. Two type A personalities in 300sf...what could go wrong. Somehow it all works.
Y'all are too cute!!! Having lost my first hubby to a tragic accident 25yrs ago, I have learned to forgive and not to hold grudges. My now Mr. Wonderful and I will bicker, but we move on and say "love you" bc honestly, life is just too short. btw... you guys are one of our FAVORITE couples on TH-cam.
So glad to hear this! You are spot on.....don't hold grudges, and say, "I Love You" as often as you can, especially when we head out somewhere without the other.
Oh my gosh, this was an amazingly creative way to communicate a very important point. Instead of lingering on the negative feelings you explained (oh so well), you found a creative way to express it. Bravo!
The part where you are making as much noise as possible in the kitchen. And Phil (was) asleep. Oh yeah I can relate that's my wife. Slams and open and close every door possible pots and pans banging and clanging. Could you possibly make any more noise?
Great advice 😊 Always love tuning into your vids 😊 You two are amazing and an inspiration for me and the hubbs to give RVing a shot once we return stateside ❤ You help my argument in convincing my partner to join me in retirement sooner rather than later so we can get “On The Road” 🎉 Cheers 🍻
Good video and something people need to truly understand before doing this. We are blessed to like each other even after 30 years married. Fun to watch your content! We started watching you before we launched and it’s even more fun to watch now that we are 16 months into full time. And it’s super fun to me that you guys are buddies with my other fav yt channel! Chad and Tara!
Oh Stacy when I saw the sad look on you face I had to watch this episode immediately. Because the Stacy that I know is happy, smiling and always positive. Right!! I love you guys you're great! I am solo in my fiver and get mad at myself for not putting things away. In construction we say that a clean job is a happy job and a happy job is a clean job. I think this works for RVs as well. Mike B.
OMG my husband cooks and uses soooo many pots, lids, utensils, pot holders, paper towels, et cetera. So I totally empathize with the clean up crew (Phil).
Such a dramatic video but you guys nailed it. My favorite thing is "You guys must really LOVE each other to live in that close of an area". You don't???? Weird.
I put off watching this video because I thought, "Oh no, they are resorting to clickbait and drama." I am sorry I waited so long. I laughed and enjoyed the video so much. You both are very entertaining. In our larger RV, we had doors, but we just downsized to a class B van so your tips will come in handy!
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My late husband would take his hands off the steering wheel and fold them, and say "here you drive". He could back anything with his eyes closed. No idea why I ever tried to help him back up because he could park it on a dime. He was a prankster and most of our fights were because he was playing a prank on me. Of course, I would be furious which he thought was even better than the prank. He's been gone almost three years and our family still refers to things he's done as Bobisms. A good marriage takes a lot of give and take, and a lot of work. Thanks for the laughs.
You two sound like a typical married couple. We've been married for 54 years and do the same things.
Don & Honey
Pushing on 40 years of marriage we argue in the house or motorhome, it’s done as fast as it started, we let it slide cause in reality it’s not worth long term being pissed.
I get you! One of our biggest fights was over driving. He insisted I drive and then criticized every move I made. I stopped the rig at the side of the road and told him to GET OUT! That shocked the heck out of him, I can tell you! 😂😂😂
My husband and mine first fight was when he wanted my help to back up and then he gets mad at me for doing it wrong. Like stopping I see people do the closed fist and he said that is not how it is done. I stated I watched for 3 years all the TH-cam videos of people backing up and he has never dealt with hand signals.
Thanks for being real. We've been on the road for 5 years and can relate. A moment of light hearted humor and levitation will go a long ways to mend those hiccups.
Well said!
Two words that usually make things better - "I'm sorry". Two more words - "You're forgiven". Fortunately I have a cap on my pickup I can sleep in. Keep the good stuff coming guys. P.S., the bloopers were great.
Love that!
Ideas that I’ve never seen addressed before. Kuddos. 👏
We’ve found our niche by finding our strong points and letting the other know we’ll let them know if we Ned help.
Like you, we just laugh about it and move on. I’m blessed because my husband is very considerate and patient or he’ll go for a walk/sit outside. His motto is, “I try not to say anything to you that I can’t take back”. I’m a blessed wife and I know it.
Been married over 40 years and can say” feeling like your heard, picking your fights( life of death) ; small petty things are just not worth the energy or pain, truly forgiving and saying “ i love you dearly “ and complimenting each other, snuggling, and letting the other know your struggling today so you give me grace and support is so important. Reassurance of how special you are to me goes along ways. Gut laugher together draws you closer too. Communication, compromising and “unconditional love” is the key. People today really don’t understand what unconditional love truly means. It doesn’t mean physical or verbal abuse but one aspect is your journey is as one with no other options. My husband gave me a card one day and all it said was “ I chose you and I love you every moment of everyday” through hard times, sickness and good times I chose you. “
Great job touching little bit on a touchy topic but a really serious one when you’re living in a small space.
Hope you do more on this topic. I only know of one other RVing influencer that has been sharing about this, and it really helps the rest of us. Tysm it’s a blessing
Thank you! These are great tips to share! We know we aren't perfect, but together, we love each other and know WE are both better together!
Thanks you two for sharing the truth, some times we feel like we are not the norm seeing no one arguing and everything is just peachy
Park next to us once in a while.....LOL. After 32 years together, we do get cranky every now and then. But we both know it is not a personal attack. Besides, making up is really nice! I am really good at it! ;)
I absolutely love this kind of RV video! You both are so darn cute!
Compared to my spouse and I, your disagreements are so much more “Normal” than ours.
Please release more content on sharing life in an RV!
Thank you both, this was reality and cuteness overload 😂🚍🙏🏻♥️
Our pleasure!
Love the theatrical "freezes"! My high school drama director LOVED freezes!! 😀
Such a great video. I’ve got to let my husband watch this one. I’m a retired counsellor and my husband (retired pastor). He used to preach to husbands, there are three words useful in your marriage… “You’re so right.”
And the Oscar goes to Phil for his freeze frame moments while Stacy explains the situation! Our 5th wheel has a midbunk that we converted to my wife's sewing/craft room. She goes in there and I'm in the living room on my computer or watching tv. Happy-Happy. But when all else fails ALWAYS REMEMBER. Happy wife, happy life.
This is my dream!! Hubs and I are constantly looking for a 5th wheel to remodel that has a BH. Need my sewing room and he gets the living room for his gaming and live streaming
My husband and I spent 3 years team driving a semi in the 80's. I learned to drive a stick shift in that semi with hubs doing the teaching. Threatened to get out and walk home several times(some of them hundreds of miles from home). We lived in an 8' x 6' cabover for 3 years spending up to 6 weeks at a time on the road. When we were home between runs we tended to go our seperate ways for a few hours every day to get that reset. We are getting ready to retire and head out in our rig for long road trips. I see many long walks in my future or maybe trips to a local library. I can relate to the constant chit chatter even before I've had my coffee.. 🙄 Thanks for sharing.
What did you guys drive for a rig back then? After that 3 years, did either one of you still drive over the road? Please respond, I like the stories from the 80's!
@@je862 we had a 1984 GMC cabover with a Cummins engine (it's been too long for me to remember what engine). Not a West Coast truck for sure but we took it there anyway. Did all 48 states multiple times in those 3 years. My husband drove over the road again for Frito-Lay after a stint of self-employment as an excavation contractor. Then he hauled some super loads as part of his job as a contrator at an army base.
@@rollinwiththedavises1938 Nice story! I wish you guys well on your retirement! I'm close to 60 so I don't have too much time left. I won't full time rv but what makes me happy is if I could spend a couple months every summer in south dakota, the badlands and the black hills.
Also, over the years I've interviewed dozens of people who have started trucking in the late 1950's and have driven through into the 90's etc and the vast majority have said things really started to change around the late 80's as far as truckers being friendly with one another, stopping to help change another truckers' flat tire, and other problems, etc. I don't know what happened in society around that time but that's what I've been told.
thank you for responding!
Great idea about therapy. Thank you for highlighting the need for mental health. As a therapist, and one who does only telehealth, it is important to get word out for people to be able to get started with therapy. Thanks for all you do. BTW….this was CLASSIC couples stuff. Excellent.
Before anything else---the sponsor of this video: AWESOME CHOICE! Mental health is too easily taken for granted. For your video, a house with open floor plan has prepared for some of your challenges: I watch the TV on closed caption because my wife is banging around in the kitchen 10ft away (or right next to me in the RV), I'm like a ninja when I get before her/she's a Metallica drummer making coffee (but I sleep like a rock/she's Princess and the Pea), and we never stay anywhere in the RV where I can't either run the generator and/or the A/C's on fan all night... White noise=saved marriage... you also nailed it: "let the little things go" Great video!!
Good video, very creative 😅, we, too, are full-timing and now understand the importance of giving space and grace. Thanks, and keep it up.
You are so welcome!
This one reason why I had to have a front living 5th wheel. I have 3 separated rooms that I can go to. I can sit in the kitchen doing computer with my headphones and music and he can be up in the livingroom watching something. But definitely sometimes I just need for 1 of us to go to the store so I can get my alone time. 😊 Love your videos.
That’s what I love about ours too. He stays up front and I go to the bedroom in the back and read or listen to podcasts!
Boundary setting and respecting the other's boundary are key. Stacy refusing to drive after being yelled at was great boundary setting! Phil's self-deprecating humor is another key to diffusing. Great points and funny reenactments, especially listening to the "neighbors'" argument!
Love better help! I have two therapists and they’re great.
I’m also thinking I won’t survive RV life unless we have our own, separate, rigs. 😳
One of the biggest savers for us has been a sound machine for sleep. The white noise helps to cover any noise in the rig when the other is up and about. My hubs goes to bed early and is up early. I’m a late bird for both.
We’ve been married 38 years and only rving two years. we have already tested our marriage in two years of travel in that small RV. It is a challenge and you must compromise and find a way to get away. Everyone needs time alone. even if it means sightseeing different things separately.
we have been married 44 years an the wife has bee retired for 7 years , we travel a lot , we are not full timers but spend a lot of time in the Coach , 4 months in USA , and 3 more in Canada where our sticks and bricks are in Alberta , I used to be the one up at 4 am getting ready for work , but as i am semi retired , i like to sleep until 8 , but procrastinate to get dressed at 9 , the wife gets up at 7:30 or 8 , she is super quiet , i am up later now and watch tv downstairs on the opposite side of a 2000 sq ft house , but she always complains of tv too loud , so to help , i am getting earphones for tv , i already do that on tv but she is always showing me videos or jokes and interrupting my videos , on those non RV trips we have timeshare points we use to get to resorts
Worst problem is the one not talked about immediately, while small. Setting up rules of engagement....er, my bad, disagreeing...... up front really helps. Not much is worth fighting over with the one you love. Lose that person, and get back to me. You'll regret every second spent in conflict. Can't ever get them or that lost time back.
Nice job guys. Very creative. Loved the “hold still” transitions.
Those potholes in Tiffin’s service yard are wicked! I’m talking about the ones surrounding the drainage grates. My husband ran over one, and all of our clothes hangers fell off the rail! It’s so easy to miss those huge dips in the pavement there. You just don’t expect them right there outside the service bays. In our time at RedBay I saw lots of people drive-kaCHUNK!-right over them, so don’t feel bad!
So many truths here! We’ve been full time almost 2 years. Having a toy hauler first and now a mid-bunk for my husband’s office has been perfect. Also, we always run our bedroom overhead fan (it’s LOUD) for white noise.
I remember our first argument as a married couple. Pre-RV we were packing to go camping. I had done this 2 week camping trip on my own many many times. This was the first time he went with me. I kept bringing stuff out to the truck and saying this goes in the back, this goes in the back. I got mad because he wasn't doing what I asked and packed the entire truck wrong. I finally got really mad and we had a HUGE argument in the driveway of the house. That's when I realized, I was saying it went in the back of the truck from the POV of where I was standing at the tailgate. He was looking at the truck from the POV of front of the truck is where the driver sits, the back is the tailgate. He didn't understand why I was bringing out things that should go in last, first. Fast forward 15+ years later when we get into what really should be "stupid" arguments all someone has to say is "Is it the front of the truck or the back of the truck". We almost immediately start laughing, and then start talking. We're not full time yet, but have spent a lot of time in the RV I hope this trick carries over to the small space of RV living.
That's a great story! It's nice to have a reminder phrase to help bring you out of "stupid" arguments.
This is a timely video, as we are in our first year of full time RV life. Thanks for sharing these tips. We really enjoy you guys. -Jim
Awesome video!! Having been married for over 40, we have been through many of the scenarios you pointed out and, although not perfect, we have learned each others "idiosyncrasies" and how to work through the issue(s). As Phil pointed out, it's usually stems from something very small and petty. Will definitely help out when we finally get in to our own rig. LOVE the bloopers at the end - showed that you both had fun making the video!! 🙂
You have a bedroom door right? Maybe set up your office in the bedroom. We travel in a camper van and found setting up our screen room with table chairs and coffee pot really helps.
Hi I just found you channel. I subscribed right away! This video hit home immediately! We have been full time since October 28, 2022. We have camped in all different rigs from the Tent mansion, bumper Humpers, fithers, an now the 40’ Class A!
I love the class A feel an the ability to just go to the bathroom, make a sandwich… but the expense is greater if something goes wrong!
Fresh out of the gate heading to Florida for winter an boom! Our water pump goes!!! 4 days at Walmart parking lot because they couldn’t seem to understand we needed a rotater tow vehicle! We finallyhad to find our own an hook them up with our insurance carrier an get towed to a truck stop down the road just a few miles!
We had that fixed an, we were back on the road! Now it was do I go home you do we continue, still in the RV Full time!
That was just enough to want to go home! I almost did!
But no matter what stress is a part of life! So let’s go have fun an deal with life as it comes! That’s what we did!
I do have a few questions? Water filtration system how was it? An what vehicle insurance have you found to be good?
Is harvest host really a good thing? We will be getting that in a few months.
National park pass, I’m disabled an it’s only $10 for I figured it can’t hurt to have?
Thank you the videos, they do help people!
I still haven’t drove it on the street yet! I told myself I need to do it this year for sure an I will force myself too! I drove school bus for a few years an this should be that different.
Love this- naked honesty!!!
1 year + full-timing w/my husband, I haven’t
continuously been this close to a human since I was in the womb. It’s a struggle at times but also, I’ve never felt so close to him. 💕
If we’re parked in a space for a while we remove the magnets off the most used cabinets. This has helped in the situation for the late riser. We also like the idea of going outside for having alone time. Thanks for the real talk.
Great tip!
LOVE this video!! We have been full time for over two years, and the PUT EVERYTHING AWAY is my biggest peeve! It also never fails that you both are going the same place in the RV as the other ALL THE TIME, like WHY to you have to go to the bathroom the second I go, and WHY do you need to get something out of the fridge the minute I go in to start dinner! 🤪
Married 41 years and we’ve been full time in our own 300 sq ft RV for five years. I feel y’all’s pain! My sister swore we’d kill each other in 6 months but, it’s been five years and we’re both still breathing. My biggest pet peeve is him doing his major bathroom business after I go to bed because, like you said, the toilet is pretty much in the bedroom. The cat steps from the bed to the toilet lid when he goes to the living room. It’s literally that close. 😂
It's similar to when someone retires and the spouse feels like their space is being invaded.
Not just living in a small space, but relationship in general:
Never go to bed fighting with each other, the issue will only fester overnight, and the problem will blow up exponentially.
My wife and I have been full time RVing in our motorhome for 6 months and we absolutely love it. We decided when we were going to do this that there was no such thing as men's work or women's work. We both do everything together. scrubbing toilets to dusting and washing the RV we are in this together. The only thing that I do that she doesn't is the driving. I drove tour busses at the Grand Canyon years ago while I was going to college in Flagstaff and I fell in love with it. So driving a bus is my thing. You guys are awesome and we hope to meet you on the road some day.
A great place to honor veterans on the east coast is Andersonville Prisoner of War National Park. It's in GA not far from RT 75. It's an education.
Lol I think we’ve had nearly every one of these arguments, but the worst is when parking the rig. We both can get very colorful with our words while trying to get parked. But I think we’ve both learned “it is what it is”-just letting off some steam, and we get over it quickly. That was a big hurdle for us, but we got it 😊
Your first point was spot on! We are in an Imagine 17MKE. The only door we have is to the bathroom. Sleep - we just let each other do it and for as long as anyone wants with no pressure or comments. The other one tries to be quiet. Unless we need to get on the road early, then we have a set time to get up. Love the invisible wall - we had an invisible space on our boat when we had friends on board doing long crossings. Hmmmm on her side on the driving fight...
After 10 years living in an RV full time you have touched on many of the trials. Ah backing up the rig, cleaning, shoes off or on, etc. Loved the out-takes!
Thanks for sharing!
So funny! Being full timers since four years and leaving in a class A 35 feet, I can say this is real life. Lot of compromises , but so nice life together !
Ooo I know the driving argument! Hubby drives everywhere, my concern is I need to drive in case something happens to him… but it’s an ongoing discussion 🙃
Great video! I watched it when hubs was out getting our truck serviced as I tend to overreact to things. As far as tips just because you have been married over 40 years when you retire and go full time in an RV this doesn’t prepare you for the closeness. We started out with a small 5th wheel and are now in a 40 ft because we needed 2 bathrooms. That took care of a major issue! If we are bickering I go “upstairs “ to the bedroom and read or listen to soothing music and close the door.
As a marriage therapist I really loved this video and you brought up so many valid points.
We only seem to argue about stupid things, which I suppose that’s better than having important things to argue about… because you’re arguing about important things then maybe you gotta rethink your relationship if it’s stupid crap, we just have to all be adults and that’s hard to do sometimes…..
Another great place to honor veterans is to visit Andersonville. The prisoner of war museum is very humbling. It's in GA and not far from RT 75.
LOL great job on the video, our 4.5 mo maiden voyage had its share but different ones. Navigation during stressful situations of needed a spot to stop, changing reservations mid-day, traffic, etc. was probably our main one.
My wife is a gamer so I have fast internet and she has a gamming computer. Now that is nice.
God Bless both of you!! .....thank you for making me aware, there is NO WAY this is the life for me! no thank you!! I can't and won't live like this. I'd rather live in my stick and stones house ANYDAY.. Don't like the fact your are confined like this...its like a luxury jail! ... This was a great video and informative.. it left such an impression on me. ✨🏡 I LOVE MY SPACE!!
Good information, in a hilarious delivery. I miss the bloopers you used to post. These were great! Jayman...
Glad you like them!
Great vid again. When we decided to up size. We wanted more room just like you said, SEPERATION is great as I am the night owl and she is up in the morning calling the kids, I wake up when the coffee smell makes it's way back to the bedroom. So we picked a 5th wheel with a Bedroom in the back, then the bathroom, then living room, then up to the kick to the Kitchen. Columbus 388fk. We also needed the huge amount of basement storage. Hope to see you on the road some day.
"I'm sorry I'm a man" per red green
Great advice anywhere. But especially in tight quarters. Thank you
I would have done the same thing! You can't promise not to yell and then yell 😮 Phil should have picked a spot with no potholes to hit. Good for you for trying, Stacy!
Thank you for sharing your adventures. Banff is totally beautiful summer or winter.
Safe travels to you both.
Our pleasure!
That was awesome! Not just because it was good information, but also because you went above and beyond on presentation. The freeze motion was an absolute hoot!
Thanks for another great video!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Had a screened patio room, (add-on), with a propane heater, ice-chest, all set. 😆
My tips: ear plugs/buds, headphones, a pillow to cover ears while sleeping. Stating that you want space now or are done listening to that gane recap!
Going to have to comment on this as we go. We do not RV, just our house but relate to your issues. My bride ( off 36 yrs. ) have different sleep schedules to. She is in bed by 9 PM. I am a night owl. Just to not disturb her I sleep downstairs a lot of the time. In the morning at 7 or 8 AM she is banging cabinets or slamming the microwave door cooking her breakfast. So I relate to that one. I am the neater one, bride little on the messier side. If I am on the computer or watching TV my bride is always coming up and saying , you have to see this. Most of the time it is something like a funny dog you tube video or the like. I am the cook in the family and I also clean as I cook. My bride does the cleaning of the kitchen after dinner, I do it to keep down the mess while I cook but to also help her out on the after dinner cleanup. We give each other alone time when we want because we know we have the rest of the day to be together.
Point being, these things are just small potatoes. Not worth getting mad about. We know how each other is and we just go with the flow. At the end of the day, my LOVE for her will win out every time.
Hand Salute! Hearing couples married for so long is an anomaly these days! We know we are stuck with each other forever, so It is worth the work maintain a happy relationship!
Excellent and funny! I expected “hokey” but I was wrong. This is great!
Great video, been there and done this! After 43 years of marriage you both learn to deal with each other, it’s true I’m sorry and you’re forgiven are necessary.
Great video, touchy subject. It's a tough problem because each of us thinks that we are perfect and our spouse is the one that needs help.
We're going on 49 years in June, and the alone time is paramount to maintaining peace and civility. I admit, I'm the one that needs the alone time to maintain sanity. She's nuts, so alone only makes her crazier. I get upset, I blow up, say something, and boom, usually I'm done. She has to puff up like a frog on a hot road, for a couple of days.
Seriously, ya'll did a great job on this video, even before the bloopers.
I imagine that the folks that will have big problems, are the ones that get married thinking, I can change that flaw in them and they'll be perfect. Wrong, ain't gonna happen. Key is as ya'll stated, accepting differences, compromise, and stay in that common ground area.
Ya'll are great, even better together !
God bless ya'll and stay safe on your travels. 👍👍❤
Thank you for sharing. If you get married thinking you are going to change someone or fix their flaws....you are already behind the eight ball.
Very interesting video. But I believe it is good to every couple, even if they live in a house. I always admire you two especially after a life in the Navy when you had a lot of time away of each other, and from one moment to another, you went to living all time together in a small space. Congratulations to work it out. Again thank you for sharing.
😂This is the greatest video! 46 years married and you will probably hear us. Not full time but close. In the end we are counting on the next anniversary!🎉
Very entertaining and enlightening! But more so VERY WELL DONE!!! Thank you!
Great video! I'm sure it applies to just about every couple whether full time or part time in their RV. She stills works remotely in the rv and my job is to be quiet. Two type A personalities in 300sf...what could go wrong. Somehow it all works.
Y'all are too cute!!! Having lost my first hubby to a tragic accident 25yrs ago, I have learned to forgive and not to hold grudges. My now Mr. Wonderful and I will bicker, but we move on and say "love you" bc honestly, life is just too short.
btw... you guys are one of our FAVORITE couples on TH-cam.
So glad to hear this! You are spot on.....don't hold grudges, and say, "I Love You" as often as you can, especially when we head out somewhere without the other.
Oh my gosh, this was an amazingly creative way to communicate a very important point. Instead of lingering on the negative feelings you explained (oh so well), you found a creative way to express it. Bravo!
Glad you enjoyed it!
The part where you are making as much noise as possible in the kitchen. And Phil (was) asleep. Oh yeah I can relate that's my wife. Slams and open and close every door possible pots and pans banging and clanging. Could you possibly make any more noise?
Great advice 😊 Always love tuning into your vids 😊 You two are amazing and an inspiration for me and the hubbs to give RVing a shot once we return stateside ❤ You help my argument in convincing my partner to join me in retirement sooner rather than later so we can get “On The Road” 🎉 Cheers 🍻
Thank you! For the hubbs......just retire and get out here with the rest of us. It is amazing! Hope this helps! ;) - Phil
@@todayissomeday Right! I'll tell him you said that 🤭 Be safe!
Awesome outtakes!!!
Love that you have fun making a video about arguing.
Good video and something people need to truly understand before doing this. We are blessed to like each other even after 30 years married. Fun to watch your content! We started watching you before we launched and it’s even more fun to watch now that we are 16 months into full time. And it’s super fun to me that you guys are buddies with my other fav yt channel! Chad and Tara!
Awesome this is so true. Made my day, made me laugh out loud!! 🤣🤣🤗 love yall
Oh yeah…this is why I made sure our couch would fit one person sleeping on it without having to open or convert it! 😂
Great advise. Sometimes it's just better to go outside and breathe. Keep em coming
Thanks for the heads up ✌️😉
Excellent Video. Love the freeze-frame moments. After 51 years of marriage, we are still learning, but what an adventure!
So true!
We had to get a bunkhouse for my office. My ADD requires a real wall.
A mess maker and a neat freak.OMG You guys are comical, entertaining and educational.
Oh Stacy when I saw the sad look on you face I had to watch this episode immediately. Because the Stacy that I know is happy, smiling and always positive. Right!! I love you guys you're great! I am solo in my fiver and get mad at myself for not putting things away. In construction we say that a clean job is a happy job and a happy job is a clean job. I think this works for RVs as well. Mike B.
Thank you! You are spot one!
That was your best video yet! Knowing what buttons to push is a good learning process, but I bet y’all haven’t learned that yet!
So true!
Yes dear, that’s all you need to know. lol 😂😂. Great bloopers 🤣🤣
OMG my husband cooks and uses soooo many pots, lids, utensils, pot holders, paper towels, et cetera. So I totally empathize with the clean up crew (Phil).
LOL
Awesome video My husband and I argue about some of the same things Thanks for sharing these videos
DUDE you held the remote nicely!!! good job
I tried. LOL
I'm happy you two have worked things out.
Such a dramatic video but you guys nailed it. My favorite thing is "You guys must really LOVE each other to live in that close of an area". You don't???? Weird.
I put off watching this video because I thought, "Oh no, they are resorting to clickbait and drama." I am sorry I waited so long. I laughed and enjoyed the video so much. You both are very entertaining. In our larger RV, we had doors, but we just downsized to a class B van so your tips will come in handy!
We did a video very similar to this a couple of weeks ago. It was a fun video to make. All good tips. Lynn and Danny
Cool!
Seriously !?!?! Wife and I love watching your videos. Keep them coming. Seriously!
Thank you! Will do!
You two are so funny!😅 I’m laughing so hard I’m crying! It’s all so true RV life & small space! Thank You so much👍
I agree Phil clean as you go, it must be the Navy's fault. We get that from our time spent in the sea service I'm sure.
LOL. This is great realistic info! You've just saved some relationships with your tips.
Glad it was helpful!
I’m sure the Academy Award is on it’s way! Great acting!
What a wonderful, creative and well demonstrated video! You guys are great!
Thank you so much!
Great topic! A dose of reality on RV life.
This was awesome. We have been full time for 3 years now.