I just wanted to say as a woman i agree with alot of this. Just going out more often to places regularly can help aswell (coffee shops, librarys, cafes) you can take a laptop and get some work done, read or draw (idk lol.) If you have a few things in your routine that gets you out of the house and around people (even if you go by yourself) your chances of seeing someone you want to approach will probably increase. Good video dude 😊👍
It’s so hard because our generation just barely talks to people anymore, and it seems like many have diminished social skills and even less motivation to talk to people. You used to have to talk to people to do anything, and talking to strangers was much more common, maybe even essential. There were no distractions either, you couldn’t bury your head in your phone. Kind of sucks how things are now. I wish our generation would just talk to each other just to talk.
@@LeeEverett1it's funny because I've actually never had anyone approach me lol. Just kind of goes to show that people don't talk to eachother anymore 😅... I'd say if someone was respectful when they approached me (asking if it's okay to sit next to me, asking if I'm busy before they try talking, ect) then I would be absolutely fine with it but you have to remember that it's just my opinion. Hope this helps!
@@Ryan-cb1eiyeah 😞. I'm kind of just hoping that the people who aren't like that will bump into people who aren't like that (If that makes any sense...)
*In a world where everyone is glued to dating apps, it’s refreshing to see advice on how to meet girls in real life. Social skills are so underrated these days, and this video really nails how to approach and connect authentically!*
I'm sick of relying on dating apps. There are plenty of nice parks and museums in my area with tons of women seen by themselves, I need to get the balls to go talk to them.
hi Lee couldn't agree more dating apps are a trap and there's still plenty of ways to meet women in the real world. I basically walk people through that. Check this out... www.honestimprovement.co.uk/
Agree, but it’s so difficult since we’re all not used to talking to random people here and there anymore. And it’s so easy to just bury your head in your phone.
Force yourself to do it with all types of people, not just girls. Start conversations in general. It is scary at first, but with repetition it becomes easier.
HONESTLY, One of the BEST videos I've seen on the subject, explains in EXTREME detail each path to meeting women (Approach, Friends, clubs) and gives excellent advice and examples on each one. As for the fear of "What if they're gonna call the police or call me weird" I had that as well, and after approaching 14 girls since this Monday (4 days) I've had 0 interactions like that, worst I've got is aloof response and I moved on, learning from each interaction. This fear comes from being constantly online and listening to redpill videos, but once you ACTUALLY go out, you see there are way more nice, gentle and kind women around you than you ever expected.
If you need a way to start a conversatiom, go to a girl (it works best when she is wearing a dress or something) and say: "Hey, funny coincidence but I wanted to wear the exact same outfit today!" Works every time😂
Great video, bruh. I’ve been going out a lot this year for once. I was clubbing, approaching girls, then slowing progressed to approaching girls outside the club space. And now I’m doing it without having a drink beforehand. What a revelation of an experience this year has been. Mostly duds & no’s. But have I got some good times times snuck in there. Still haven’t find my love yet, but I’ll be out tomorrow, on my off-day approaching. Wish me luck, brother
I like your style bud! Gonna go ahead and sub because anyone preaching this content needs to be heard. Great advice on approaching. I've done it too, it's one of the best confidence-building tools I've ever found - and yes, I've gotten dates with beautiful strangers this way. I call it "real-life swiping"
The point on dating friends and friends of friends makes me laugh cause I deal with exactly what you talk about, I’ve got my main friends and then a handful of female friends who I wouldn’t date but friendly with, but my main friends don’t have other friends outside of that immediate circles, and my female friend’s friends are either not my people, taken, lesbian or not interested. It’s like a social bubble I haven’t been able to pop hahah
I hate approaching on the street. No one has the time to have a conversation. I know how to approach in a social setting though. The thing is that most of socialising is just college parties at bars where no one really knows no one and im by myself so it ends up in hookups. What i miss is that my friend group would know another group and there would be girls there. There is none of that friendgroup mingling anymore
I'm complemented by women all the time but I've learned it kills a conversation to complement her looks or say you're attracted to her. Why? Hypergamy? Who knows, I don't have a female mind interpretor. So complement something personal like clothes or jewelry and that gets the point across but always keep her guessing or it's game over
i agree intrigue can add curiosity to conversation and keep people more engaged, however there is still something very attractive about a man who is able to "unashamedly" communicate his interest in a "i want you, but i dont NEED you" tone. i'm curious to hear more about your compliment interactions. where do you meet most of these women?
WOW 6:45 is a TOTAL mind shift, I've never thought about it like that but it does make a lot of sense - After approaching a STRANGER, it's gonna be WAY easier to have SOMETHING, anything to hold onto that's a conversation starter, like being in the same job, class or party...
Step 1) Don't live in the USA. If you do, move to a country with better, pedestrian friendly town infrastructure, made for people and not for cars. Makes the access to normal social life easier. 2) Don't stay home. Go out with friends. You'll eventually meet someone. They may or may not break your heart at the end, but even that's better than staying home/using apps.
@@IMAGE_NT_HEADERS But it's true. I don't get why and how Americans are ok with living that way in their weird spead apart long distance and car-dependent infrastructure. And their social and dating culture is yucky, compared to most European countries.
@@kurtslavain what you see online is not always reality; even most small towns have walkable downtown areas that are pretty easily accessible. Every big city has public transport. People online blow issues so out of proportion because it's cool nowadays to degrade your country for internet points. As for the culture thing, I cannot deny that it is pretty brutal on the coasts, but in middle America, people are still pretty normal for the most part.
Just gotta be busy out doing stuff regulary, routinely and consistently- gym, sports clubs, art clubs, cafes, local bars, classes, etc. Social stuff in your daily routine
@@pevebe I was married for 8 years and respect his wishes to wait and unfortunately ended up in divorce. Then Covid happened, so I wasn't fooling around. Don't come for me if you don't know the full story babe.
@@pevebe unfortunately sometimes we make bad choices thinking that the other person is going to keep his/her... but lessons we learned and even thou my biological clock is ticking I'm a huge believer and I have faith that I will find the right person this time.
U make it look like Charlie,on 2 1/2 men. Picking up women, maybe 1 for every night. Just like on of my ex. He went to the store every day,I think it's to look for women,when he was supposed to be with me . I found out when I recorded,when I was at work
Less than 30 seconds in and I feel like an old fart "Back in the old days we used to meet people" Not a cynic, just awesome, sad and melancholic(however you write this word) feeling about not having those things as natural anymore and having to ACTUALLY pursue them ACTIVELY today, knowing full well that there's LESS people hanging outdoors anyways and on their phone if they ever do go out... but we still gotta try
Just approach people in the course of your daily activities and start convos, including with pretty girls. It can be scary at first, but with repetition it becomes easier. I do not recommend dating apps. I have never used any. I of course have my phone on me but I am not dependent on it. In fact I rarely use it except to text or call someone to set up a meeting in person.
Hello dear, thanks for sharing your experience but most likely this will not work for most of the guys for the following reasons: 1. You are white, ladies treat non-white either as a fetish if black or as a scary creature (that's just a fact engraved in western society until now) 2. You mentioned about Bulgaria, yes that's a different world sorta, try to randomly approach someone let's say in the UK or even worse in the US, some people actually were under cuffs just because he said "Oh you look so great today" - Harassment! do you really want to go behind jail just because you said hi to someone and most likely rules will be on her favour? 3. The issue with modern dating is not the apps, but the quality of people in general, dating apps accelerated the trend of attention seeking, meaningless interactions true, but so is social media too.
few quick notes 1: can't speak to this 2: i met my current girl doing this in the UK 3: social media isn't real life it portrays the most extreme whilst in reality people are still largely normal
And short, bald, brown dudes like myself are seen as disgusting rats by girls. No matter what you do. I've been through it man. Now 32 years old, not even one girl showed interest. In my culture getting married and having a family is really important. So right now I am a failure in the eyes of people around me, including my family. 😭 I noticed people don't respect me as much. I am now at the point of contemplating of ending it all. And no it has nothing to do with "confidence" and "being brave". If you get rejected 11 out of 10 times, for 32 years, at some point you must face the facts.
@@PSR91 Try to focus on yourself, and explain this to your family, yes family are important thing, and in my opinion still is, but now forming a family with someone so superficial does more harm than good. So you are really better off alone than being with someone who will get "bored" after two months and change brands :)
I just wanted to say as a woman i agree with alot of this. Just going out more often to places regularly can help aswell (coffee shops, librarys, cafes) you can take a laptop and get some work done, read or draw (idk lol.) If you have a few things in your routine that gets you out of the house and around people (even if you go by yourself) your chances of seeing someone you want to approach will probably increase. Good video dude 😊👍
Hello beautiful how are you
How do you feel about men approaching you respectfully? Does it ever annoy you or are you always nice/flattered?
It’s so hard because our generation just barely talks to people anymore, and it seems like many have diminished social skills and even less motivation to talk to people. You used to have to talk to people to do anything, and talking to strangers was much more common, maybe even essential. There were no distractions either, you couldn’t bury your head in your phone. Kind of sucks how things are now. I wish our generation would just talk to each other just to talk.
@@LeeEverett1it's funny because I've actually never had anyone approach me lol. Just kind of goes to show that people don't talk to eachother anymore 😅... I'd say if someone was respectful when they approached me (asking if it's okay to sit next to me, asking if I'm busy before they try talking, ect) then I would be absolutely fine with it but you have to remember that it's just my opinion. Hope this helps!
@@Ryan-cb1eiyeah 😞. I'm kind of just hoping that the people who aren't like that will bump into people who aren't like that (If that makes any sense...)
*In a world where everyone is glued to dating apps, it’s refreshing to see advice on how to meet girls in real life. Social skills are so underrated these days, and this video really nails how to approach and connect authentically!*
I'm sick of relying on dating apps. There are plenty of nice parks and museums in my area with tons of women seen by themselves, I need to get the balls to go talk to them.
hi Lee couldn't agree more dating apps are a trap and there's still plenty of ways to meet women in the real world. I basically walk people through that. Check this out...
www.honestimprovement.co.uk/
Agree, but it’s so difficult since we’re all not used to talking to random people here and there anymore. And it’s so easy to just bury your head in your phone.
@@Ryan-cb1ei That is a bad habit.
Force yourself to do it with all types of people, not just girls. Start conversations in general. It is scary at first, but with repetition it becomes easier.
@@HonestImprovementYT Cold approach is dead. Stop lying.
9:45 - "It shouldn't be ignored just because it feels scary.".
Well said!
HONESTLY, One of the BEST videos I've seen on the subject, explains in EXTREME detail each path to meeting women (Approach, Friends, clubs) and gives excellent advice and examples on each one.
As for the fear of "What if they're gonna call the police or call me weird" I had that as well, and after approaching 14 girls since this Monday (4 days) I've had 0 interactions like that, worst I've got is aloof response and I moved on, learning from each interaction. This fear comes from being constantly online and listening to redpill videos, but once you ACTUALLY go out, you see there are way more nice, gentle and kind women around you than you ever expected.
If you need a way to start a conversatiom, go to a girl (it works best when she is wearing a dress or something) and say:
"Hey, funny coincidence but I wanted to wear the exact same outfit today!"
Works every time😂
Great video, bruh. I’ve been going out a lot this year for once. I was clubbing, approaching girls, then slowing progressed to approaching girls outside the club space. And now I’m doing it without having a drink beforehand. What a revelation of an experience this year has been. Mostly duds & no’s. But have I got some good times times snuck in there. Still haven’t find my love yet, but I’ll be out tomorrow, on my off-day approaching. Wish me luck, brother
I like your style bud! Gonna go ahead and sub because anyone preaching this content needs to be heard. Great advice on approaching. I've done it too, it's one of the best confidence-building tools I've ever found - and yes, I've gotten dates with beautiful strangers this way. I call it "real-life swiping"
love that Nicholas, real-life swiping has got a nice ring to it!
I feel your honesty and sincerity, these words are music to my ears. Wow, surely this is the best conseil video I've seen lately.
0:42 - 1:36 - Story of EVERY guy after a break up summarized in less than a minute
Absolutely
I liked your video thanks man. Felt like a casual conversation with some honest straightforward advice
thanks Sergio, I appreciate the support!
The point on dating friends and friends of friends makes me laugh cause I deal with exactly what you talk about, I’ve got my main friends and then a handful of female friends who I wouldn’t date but friendly with, but my main friends don’t have other friends outside of that immediate circles, and my female friend’s friends are either not my people, taken, lesbian or not interested. It’s like a social bubble I haven’t been able to pop hahah
I hate approaching on the street. No one has the time to have a conversation. I know how to approach in a social setting though. The thing is that most of socialising is just college parties at bars where no one really knows no one and im by myself so it ends up in hookups.
What i miss is that my friend group would know another group and there would be girls there. There is none of that friendgroup mingling anymore
Incredible wisdom and perspective that I needed brother. Thank you
I'm complemented by women all the time but I've learned it kills a conversation to complement her looks or say you're attracted to her. Why? Hypergamy? Who knows, I don't have a female mind interpretor. So complement something personal like clothes or jewelry and that gets the point across but always keep her guessing or it's game over
i agree intrigue can add curiosity to conversation and keep people more engaged, however there is still something very attractive about a man who is able to "unashamedly" communicate his interest in a "i want you, but i dont NEED you" tone.
i'm curious to hear more about your compliment interactions. where do you meet most of these women?
WOW 6:45 is a TOTAL mind shift, I've never thought about it like that but it does make a lot of sense - After approaching a STRANGER, it's gonna be WAY easier to have SOMETHING, anything to hold onto that's a conversation starter, like being in the same job, class or party...
Love ur work bro absolute masterpiece ❤
I lost my best chance and now the suey is calling for me
2nd is my favourite option.
Ok, so start talking to ladies out in the streets. But i feel like I'd just be interrupting people as they go by their day.
Step 1) Don't live in the USA. If you do, move to a country with better, pedestrian friendly town infrastructure, made for people and not for cars. Makes the access to normal social life easier.
2) Don't stay home. Go out with friends. You'll eventually meet someone. They may or may not break your heart at the end, but even that's better than staying home/using apps.
Rent free.
@@IMAGE_NT_HEADERS But it's true. I don't get why and how Americans are ok with living that way in their weird spead apart long distance and car-dependent infrastructure. And their social and dating culture is yucky, compared to most European countries.
@@kurtslavain what you see online is not always reality; even most small towns have walkable downtown areas that are pretty easily accessible. Every big city has public transport. People online blow issues so out of proportion because it's cool nowadays to degrade your country for internet points. As for the culture thing, I cannot deny that it is pretty brutal on the coasts, but in middle America, people are still pretty normal for the most part.
Video starts at 11:15
Just gotta be busy out doing stuff regulary, routinely and consistently- gym, sports clubs, art clubs, cafes, local bars, classes, etc. Social stuff in your daily routine
Never approach at the gym, duh
@@MrShaiya96 im not on about approaching in the gym. Im on about just being out of your house around other people as much as possible
@@MrShaiya96 why baby
@@aryan-s5t u don’t know? Been under a rock?
The gym sucks now. Just guys with their hot GFs showing off their asses
Apps are a waste of time
I have aproached beautyfull girls ,but then is no in my city
Any advice for women... in my case apps are a huge disappointment... and I'm turning 39 and feeling I'm running out of time
You've had over 20 years to make it happen, running out of time? You were out of time half a decade ago love
@@pevebe I was married for 8 years and respect his wishes to wait and unfortunately ended up in divorce. Then Covid happened, so I wasn't fooling around. Don't come for me if you don't know the full story babe.
@@pazgaiabeauty Unfortunate, but ultimately you chose your ex husband nobody else
@@pevebe unfortunately sometimes we make bad choices thinking that the other person is going to keep his/her... but lessons we learned and even thou my biological clock is ticking I'm a huge believer and I have faith that I will find the right person this time.
U make it look like Charlie,on 2 1/2 men. Picking up women, maybe 1 for every night. Just like on of my ex. He went to the store every day,I think it's to look for women,when he was supposed to be with me
. I found out when I recorded,when I was at work
Less than 30 seconds in and I feel like an old fart "Back in the old days we used to meet people"
Not a cynic, just awesome, sad and melancholic(however you write this word) feeling about not having those things as natural anymore and having to ACTUALLY pursue them ACTIVELY today, knowing full well that there's LESS people hanging outdoors anyways and on their phone if they ever do go out... but we still gotta try
Just approach people in the course of your daily activities and start convos, including with pretty girls.
It can be scary at first, but with repetition it becomes easier.
I do not recommend dating apps. I have never used any.
I of course have my phone on me but I am not dependent on it. In fact I rarely use it except to text or call someone to set up a meeting in person.
sadly my daily activity is simething which ive never seen a girl my age do
@@climbrrr Where do you live?
@@VladislavBabbitt in hull
The reason why Dating Apps are horrible is because of the fact that a lot of men act like total darn simps. We need to go back to the old methods!
Start your own dating app where you can connect us coz many apps are all fraud am from kenya
drag out the the thing as much as possible, this could have been a 2min vid
Chop suey anyone?
43 Year old virgin here
hey Michael, what do you think has been the biggest barrier to finding somebody to spend you life with?
@@HonestImprovementYT All the women that like me have been taken!
Jordan Peterson poster spotted 👌
you know it man! I saw him live in Manchester. Got to meet him too such a good experience
Hello dear, thanks for sharing your experience but most likely this will not work for most of the guys for the following reasons:
1. You are white, ladies treat non-white either as a fetish if black or as a scary creature (that's just a fact engraved in western society until now)
2. You mentioned about Bulgaria, yes that's a different world sorta, try to randomly approach someone let's say in the UK or even worse in the US, some people actually were under cuffs just because he said "Oh you look so great today" - Harassment! do you really want to go behind jail just because you said hi to someone and most likely rules will be on her favour?
3. The issue with modern dating is not the apps, but the quality of people in general, dating apps accelerated the trend of attention seeking, meaningless interactions true, but so is social media too.
few quick notes
1: can't speak to this
2: i met my current girl doing this in the UK
3: social media isn't real life it portrays the most extreme whilst in reality people are still largely normal
I’m white female in the US and I cannot relate to what you’re saying here @ianjamesxxxx
And short, bald, brown dudes like myself are seen as disgusting rats by girls. No matter what you do.
I've been through it man. Now 32 years old, not even one girl showed interest.
In my culture getting married and having a family is really important. So right now I am a failure in the eyes of people around me, including my family. 😭 I noticed people don't respect me as much.
I am now at the point of contemplating of ending it all.
And no it has nothing to do with "confidence" and "being brave". If you get rejected 11 out of 10 times, for 32 years, at some point you must face the facts.
Of course you cannot relate, how would you relate to a guy's experience?
@@PSR91 Try to focus on yourself, and explain this to your family, yes family are important thing, and in my opinion still is, but now forming a family with someone so superficial does more harm than good. So you are really better off alone than being with someone who will get "bored" after two months and change brands :)
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