The reason why most of us men need a long answer is that "outside" is not a good enough answer. Public transportation counts as "outside". Malls count as "outside". Parks count as "outside", yet you can't risk talking to strangers in any of these places without causing discomfort.
I work as a bartender. And the ammount of women exploiting men for free drinks and then winking at me as to signal me being part of the game is more than I can count on one hand each night.
i have a friend who works as a bartender and he told me whenever this happens he gives them a disgusted look. i have no idea how hes still a bartender w that stunning lack of play
I have a female friend who told me how she drank on a 3-day trip without spending a single penny. 💀 I thought to myself that it was a bit cunning and shrewd but didn't tell her anything.
As a 24 year old woman, I will say this. I don’t go out much, I don’t have many friends to hang out with regularly (and those I do have moved away) right now the only social place I have outside of online is church, that’s the only place I go to where I can meet people. And the thing is, meeting new people and making friends as an adult is hard…it’s very difficult, especially for me since I have to be selective with where I go to meet people due to safety reasons. I’ve never dated anyone before, never hooked up, never been in a relationship, etc. I’d love to find a life long partner and best friend, but I don’t know how, where, or if I ever will.
Exactly the same for me, I'm 21 and I only go to church, other than that I'm at home, or at work, I would really like to meet a nice girl, where I could just settle down and start a family with, that's really all I'm missing in my life, I got a good family, good jobs. I had one girlfriend 3 months ago but that relationship was bad, she missed her ex so I am not gonna count that as a relationship, other than that I haven't had any other girls
Join a club of some kind like bowling or board games maybe even go to the library. Good luck to you. P. S. Consider watching the 1943 movie Casablanca when you get a chance it's a beautiful love story.
Maybe it's just because I'm getting older but this really is one of those relaxing video's to watch. When you're not in puberty anymore (at least from my experience) that want to talk to people and date and stuff just kind of moves to the side. This is the kind of video I would've watched as a guide perhaps 7 years ago, but now that I'm 23 and still somehow have never dated anyone? Nah. Just listening and thinking back to circumstances I never used to my advantage is just as fun.
bro, you are extremely young, and this is being told to you by an 19 years old boy. I mean, you are going to live at least 40 years more if you lead a relatively healthy life.
@@lucas_a3I’m 22 and the way I see it is that my life is almost over because I value my health very much. If I keep myself healthy I think after 35 is when the natural slow decline will start. Also it’s going to be a challenge balancing being healthy with going out to meet my future wife and subsequently raising my children. I’m in college right now but after college it’ll be tough to find someone if I haven’t by then. Basically it feels like I only have 8 years max and then life may feel near pointless from that point on.
I know that maybe im tooooo young to advice you, but I came to feel the same way at 17!! and that is too young to stress about those things. And if I'm honest, I don't really know what the hell I did to suddenly start to be liked by more people (it didn't happen to me before), I feel like they look at me differently. I made a few changes in my life, and I think the one that helped me the most out of all those changes was showing myself as I am without caring about anything (knowing that I'm a good guy and that I don't hurt anyone). I have no filters right now, and that gives me peace.
@@tvhead7074 At least in terms of health I would not worry. Of course you might not be in your prime from around 35, but just to give an example, my dad is like 52 (tbh I don't know, I'm terribly with remembering someones age) and still works out like 5 times a week and can probably still do a backflip into a swimming pool.
@@lucas_a3 Yes, 23 is very young, but not young enough anymore to just be silly and experiment with relationships. Things just get more serious when you're older and being in your twenties and still inexperienced is a red flag if you want a healthy relationship.
17 yrs old, and I once did the cold approach in September. Trust me, it TOOK a lot of time for me to gain the courage to approach that girl, I only made my decision to approach her when they already exited the park but in the end I got rejected, no hard feelings but it was a new experience for me, would do it again.
@nikoyaps she was so beautiful, my jaw literally dropped when I saw her eyes, I stuttered when I was asking for her facebook because of how mesmerised I was
Good man. Make sure you’re not just going up to them to ask for something (number or instagram or whatever) - you’re there to meet them. If it goes well, then ask.
From what Ive learned is that going for walks is the best way to meet women, I have met all kinds of women from just going outside for a walk on my off days. saying anything to garner a reaction can trigger many different conversations and general conversation can lead to relationships pretty quickly if she thinks your cute for one reason or another
Church is a great place to meet girls, but there’s also the case of every house of worship being their own little community. If you’re looking to find someone, it’s likely that people will know who you’re trying to get with/court. This could work for or against you, depending on the situation, and if you don’t pick right it kinda ruins your reputation for any other chances in that place. With bars, cold street convos, or even places like the library or gym, there isn’t a dedicated sense of community, which takes some pressure off and makes people feel more comfortable as themselves.
One thing also I think it's valid to mention is places to meet people with the same hobby as your, for example, if you're a freaking nerd who plays dungeons and dragons, the probability of you finding someone who will get along with you in a party is way lower than if you try to meet people that also like dungeons and dragons, this would apply to almost anything. If you like hiking, try to find a group of people that do the same. If you like biking, skating, climbing, playing a specific sport, etc. This way you'll have common ground with everyone, and even if you don't meet a girl, you can still make friends and these friends will know girls. Basically the more people you meet the better it will be, and doing it naturally while doing a hobby you like makes everything 1000x easier. Now don't go to these kind of places just to meet girls, go if first and foremost you actually think you'll like doing it regardless of anything.
facts. this is number 1 hands down. Im big into cars so i meet all types of people from meet ups, races and large showcase events. Its not all about drinking and partying lol. Have an actual interest and people will be naturally more attracted to you. The last thing a girl wants is a boring mf whos personality resolves around partying lol.
I want to meet a girl who doesn't play guitar, but LOVES it as much as I do (and likes GAMING of course) cause ngl it was hard to impress an ex who also played guitar lmfao
@@bambampewpew32Have you thought about learning to play the guitar from a girl who plays it? It could be a cool programme for dates. One of my family members found his gf (now wife) this way.
Another one to have put on this list are hobbies/clubs. It is kind of similar to classrooms, but they are less formal and are volunteer based. It is a good way to meet people of similar interests, because you can start the conversation off knowing you have some things in common.
I met my wife in Minecraft LMAO I had zero luck with women my whole life, but then when I was 25, I met this woman in Minecraft and we really hit it off. Married literally the first woman I ever dated and haven't regretted it since 😏👍 Also, I'm from the United States and she's from Poland 😆
Eastern Europe women just seek to find a man from a better country to get out of their shithole place. Be warned of that, she got interested because you're american. She will do the same if a better option will present to herself.
Coming off as creepy is temporary because the other one has no idea who it is. Though you can communicate pretty easily that you're friendly and respectful, and in that case most women and people in general will have no issue with that. One of my first approaches may have been exactly what you said out what men shouldn't do, and my first sentence was also not doing me any favors, "you're pretty". Because my goal there was just talk to people and learn how to strike up conversations and how they react, and also what not to do, I quickly decided in order to not make it more uncomfortable as it already is wishing her a good evening and accidentally used a formal version of addressing her, something that the german language has and I grown accustomed to, and corrected it to the informal afterwards and she also said that there's no need to be formal here which was a respectful, humanizing and a little funny mistake to end this conversation. So we parted in good terms. This was pretty much the worst-case scenario for the one who's approaching and I think the same holds true here as niko in the video said, you decide how awkward (in this case creepy) it will be. You just have to know how to utilize the communication tools at your disposal
Yeah i think thats the hardest part is scared of coming off a creep. Especially if I’m already nervous i dont want that nervousness to come off as me being creepy or weird
Here's a tip: Before trying to get a woman, know yourself first, because when you learn how you work and what you actually like, you'll surround yourself with people of your type and the connection will be easier. Which means ''focus on yourself''. Not to be a must millionaire or anything like that. Go with a friend or alone, try some things, see if u really enjoy them and make them hobbies, and get fit/strong. Don't look desperate and don't trait women like something divine. U won't need catchy frases to impress a woman, just be you around the right people(which are a reflection of yourself/hobbies/what you like).
Ngl I clicked on this video more because I was curious what you’d say than really wanting an answer. Just got out of a long relationship and focusing on myself rn.
I want to tell a story relating to 15:55 & 37:17. I met my current girlfriend in university. I want to show you can combo these together. In summary, I got bored in line during an event freshman year (before classes started) and cold approached the person behind me. I just heard them say something and tagged into the conversation. They were all roommates and it did not take long for one of them to single me out. We kept talking and eventually when we got to the front we split our own ways. Did not talk to her since because honestly there was no romantic intent and I did not exchange contact info (forgot :/). It ended up being fine though because the first class of the semester, we had together on pure chance, and then another one. We were forced to talk again because we locked eyes between classes one day as you can't ignore somebody that has the same class with you when you have not met anyone else. (We're both in STEM, these are our math basics). Eventually, after taking 5 math classes together we started dating. Hit her with the wombo combo. I learned two things. 1) Talking to a group works much better imo, the right one will single you out. 2) Calculus tutoring = Rizz.
Try this as a mid/unattractive person and you get weird stares and awkward silence. Joining a random group conversation can end up very embarassing. At my job, i tried this couple times, i was always ignored after 1-2 minutes. Now i just dont bother. Happy for you tho
After fucking up a possible relationship a while back, this video is oddly comforting. I struggle with talking to girls alot and watched this out of boredom but even though this video wasn't about getting over a girl, it helped me in that. I suppose you bringing up how there are other girls many times throughout the video in the context of being in social places helped me ackonwledge that there are others. Thank you man.
Nearing 24, no relationship experience As I studied in a male-dominated field, I have not had a classmate crush since the age of 17, and the only one I did have was in a relationship 🙃 I am also autistic, meaning the prospect of approaching a girl in public is terrifying. They are likely to think they're in danger when approached by a 6ft tall guy who gives off "weird vibes". Closest I have come to success is from cosplaying at gaming conventions and talking to girls who are doing the same. Made several female friends, but all were already in relationships. Maybe the next one won't be. And I must confess: I believe that talking to girls at these kinds of events will give me the highest chance of finding the legendary "girlfriend who would let me be a femboy" 😳. I also do volunteer work, and I know people who have found relationships like that, though I haven't.
Hey, I’m 20 and autistic as well. I’m not as tall but yeah, I can easily scare people just by my looks and if they talk to me (I’m a very very dark person and I don’t really hide that stuff behind a mask because it’s too hard) so, I think it’s already over for me honestly. Unless some girl who likes that sort of ‘dark’ stuff talks to me which is, probably, very uncommon. By dark I just mean gothic stuff, dressing in all black and a negative (but hopeful) view of society.
Eh, I found whether your cold approach works or not has very little to do with how "good" you are at it, but how good a match your personality is with the girl's. Luck has a bigger role to play in it than many people wanna admit.
Exactly - I'm tired of people acting like there's some grand system to meeting people and dating them. There are physical, emotional, and social obstacles/advantages. Then, there is luck. But mostly, it's luck. That is LITERALLY IT.
I met my GF at a Restaurant/Bar venue that has Bachata, which is a style of social dance, as one of its main attractions. In my experience, it’s definitely a good way to meet women, make friends, and to network and establish connections and goddammit be social. Hell, the main group that I spar and train with now mainly consists of leads from the local bachata scene where I’m from. But before that I got into it because when I was still in college, the college I went to had a club that taught both Salsa and Bachata. Hell, I’ve been dancing for so long now that I teach on the side from time to time. I’ve gotten to the point where I have been to many different socials/venues, some of them out of state, and I feel comfortable just casually asking women to dance even when I’m not part of the local scene, such as when I visited the Bachata scene in Arizona while visiting family just as an example. Some guys, namely friends and coworkers look at me crazy when talk to them about bachata. They usually say something along the lines of “Bro, so you just ask them to dance?” or “Bruh that’s crazy, you don’t drink before dancing?” or even “So do you go by yourself or with people”. I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t need to go with somebody to a social, I’m very comfortable just going by myself, but then again I’ve met so many people and made a lot of friends and acquaintances to where I know their gonna show up to one venue or another. Dancing was and still is definitely a game changer, at least for me.
The 2 times the algorithm showed me your videos was 1. I had gotten into an argument with my gf of 5 years, that was his "relationships are hard" video, now this video gets suggested to me after she just broke up with me. Scary stuff
Dating is broken and men are at a severe disadvantage where all of the cultural and legal leverage is on the side of women can we all just admit it at this point? It's so beyond clear that dating is infinitely harder for men all else being equal.
The funny part is women still shoot themselves in the foot. A third of western women over 35 are single with no dating prospects and half of them are on anti-depressants. Some of these women are genuinely so entitled and want a "worthy" man they straight up reject everyone until its too late and they've hit menopause and die alone.
If you stop being online so much you'll see the world isn't so bad and we're not all doomed. Just getting some (irl) hobbies and improving yourself (conversing with people, showing interest in other's interests, maybe some fashion and exercise) will make you both infinitely happier and maybe land you a relationship even. Just stay away from all the "alpha" hustlers and "gigachads" and touch grass. And have fun :D being positive attracts everyone and makes you feel better too
@@cataholic8040you do know rejection isn't the worst thing that could happen. There was a kid who got put on blast for approaching a girl and was nervous and stuttering. Online news articles were written about him. When you say alpha hustlers and gigachads are you talking about Andrew tate and fresh n fit or are you talking about turd flinging monkey, undead chronic, terrence popp. My sister is big into politics where I'm from. Idk if its such a good idea to do anything that would bring shame upon her and jeopardise her career. Its one thing if I had nothing to lose its another if it affects the people I care about. @GigaNietzsche is right. And so is Schopenhauer.
@@nikoyaps Why even try? The cost of failure is astronomically high and the reward is pitiful. Just leave women completely alone. They wanted independence, lets give it to them. Complete and total independence.
@@StarboyXL9 you sound incredibly bitter, idk what happened but this world view is too transactional. the point of a relationship for most people is love, you shouldn't think of some kind of cost when trying to find your person
9:22 I am a guy struggling with social anxiety and I can confirm that I'm really someone else at concerts lol, I NEVER just walk up and talk to people but at a concert this summer I did just that somehow. So yeah it's not just girls that it changes lol
You don't need to go to the specific places to meet someone, don't belive that. Me and my ex met in the work, she was working in starbucks and I did in the opposite smoke shop. We had a beautifull relationship for almost 2 years. Just take a shot wherever you are with the mindset that this girl could be a good friend, not necessarily your wife, be open, and smile.
@@TheMaskedRanter I'm like you but I'm not giving up, my dude. I've done a lot of mental progress, enough to know I'm really close to act even when I'm in darkness. If I'm able to do it, you are too!
i met my wife on roblox when we were like 14 years old, 10 years ago. I think a lot of the time women aren't actively looking for relationships, and you can meet them through their hobbies. Ive met more women that i felt compatible with online than irl because I mostly just like to chill with friends and play pool, work on my cars or play video games. My wife doesn't do much beyond sitting around at home reading and gaming, she doesn't go out much, but she's absolutely perfect as a wife, partner and future mother. A lot of good people aren't going out and meeting potential partners by the dozen, they keep their head down and focus on the things most important to them like their family, hobbies or career, so they're hard to find.
Found you a couple of weeks ago and started tuning in, watching your vids, good content. Met my girl at like a cafe & restaurant, been friends for like many years and are dating now for 3 years so far, anniversary in March :D Also shoutout to Greece, as a Serb, I find myself for a summer holiday in Greece 9 times out of 10. People are extremely nice and welcoming, speak English and Serbian (some or a little), the ambiance is amazing and greek food is amazing especially gyros. 🤤
So from what I’m hearing, here’s how dating is like these days: calculating and interceptive John: I look at her dancing over there in her shorts and tank top. She looks so attractive but I don’t know what to say. I must appease her but I don’t want to come across as creepy or rude. I need to be perfect in execution. I have to get closer to her by dancing first and gradually inching closer and closer, before I finally initiate contact with her and smell her beautiful hair. If I am going to get this date I need to do everything perfectly… if I don’t and she says no I lose everything.. do I open with a compliment or ask her how her day was.. if I compliment her on her clothes or hair or the smallest details she might think I’ve been staring at her for so long and reject me. So maybe not compliment her on too much detail.. how about her general clothing style YES THATS PERFECT AAHAHAHA *gradually inches closer to her* “hi you have nice clothes” Girl: “GET AWAY FROM ME!” *screams and jumps into a river*
As a 20 year old girl I agree with almost everything said in this video except the part about the gym girls. Of course there are some attention seeking girls at the gym but they’re much more common on social media than irl. Most of us just wanna get our workout in, and get out. And we wouldn’t mind being hit on but that’s not the goal I also want to emphasize concerts again!! Having a common interest is half the battle
NIKOO, You should start a podcast, I love your videos and the topics are so interesting, I have been following you since you had 30k subs, greetings from mexico :)
unfortunately all my friends left the country, I don't like clubbing, don't go to school anymore. Don't drink alcohol.Don't want to bother anyone in the gym, and am kinda introvert. so I'll just stick to the datingapps which work for me the best personally. But still I would recommend the tips used in this video to anyone.a
There is also the hobby option that he did not put in the videos, find something you like doing, like rock climbing, swimming or even reading in a library and talk to people you meet there. And it doesn't need to be a woman, you can play the long game and make some male friends and use the friend group technique.
@@pedro_gm1 bro climbing is goated. Just unfortunate that it's somewhat male dominated, and many women who climb regularly are already in relationships
I’m literally the same but I just never went to college (I’m thinking about it though, I’m only 20) and I’m not even on dating apps. I’m just stuck in bed usually. Just hopeless dreams I suppose.
26 and fell down the dating app rabbit hole. Niko talking about it genuinely made me feel less crazy. I'm not the best looking guy but i've been told i'm good looking. Still get rejected doing the cold approach more times than i care to remember. Niko has some pretty solid advice. I'd like to hear about maybe dating at work. I know that's a slippery slope but on the other hand you spend most of your time at work and if it's just a place holder job who cares if your embarrassed for a day?
In my experience the top three by far are parties (at a friend's house), school/any educational activity, and extracurriculars (special interest clubs, sports teams, theater/music classes etc). You have common interests, meet up often enough to get to know each other naturally, and also usually share some common experiences. These are the ones that have worked for me soooo yeah
I got a date at my church, but it was after about a 40 min converssation and I was the only guy with 3 women, I knew one of them she and I had met at the church, so the other 2 women were about my age, after the whole conversation we were in a group, and after that group left we both started talking 1v1, and I just outright asked her and I think she was taken by surprise, but we'll be going on date this week and i'll give an update after if I feel like we are good. I also agree, dating apps are rough, I've prob swiped up on about 1000 women, and only gotten 5 dates, so it's rough on that end. but I also don't go outside because I think i'll get jumped walking home, and don't like to be outside later than 7:30pm.
30:40 I was raised christian and went to church my whole childhood/teenage years basically. But after the church service is over you get a chance to talk and meet with people kinda like a normal gathering. If you see a woman you like you just go up to her and talk to her and stuff. But just be aware that (not all) but some woman (mostly daughters from pastors and such) at church are strict and would only have a relationship with you if you become a christian yourself, hence why i do not want a woman from church. I never had eyes for a girl at church apart from this one girl that barely came to church that i was attracted to. it never came to anything tho cause i was kinda scared to talk to her. Just my experience tho. hope it helps. great video!
I don’t understand people who go to churches just to meet women. A church is a place of worship. Yes, you can meet someone there but, it’s just kinda weird to me if you’re not religious.
Very good points in the video, I felt like I learned a lot of this the hard way. I would like to add another place to meet people: hiking. You all will have a common interest, you'll strive to achieve a certain goal and you'll see how they deal with hardship. They will likely either already be fit and healthy, or getting there. Maybe not a great place for hookups but I only looked for someone for the long term. It sounds like I'm retired, but I swear I'm in my 20s lol
18:46 you mention the girl who’s filming and trying to catch guys looking at her or whatever. Just an FYI this is extremely rare. You see it on social media a lot because the very few times it does happen it goes viral. But in reality this is not something you will ever have to worry about. I’ve been going to the gym for several years at this point and I’ve never seen anything like that happen
Hobbies. Find a hobby, and go to events. This is advice that I've been given by all of my older friends, that I have not found the time to follow. Go to Ren/DND/whatever clubs at school, or in college. You will find people that way. I wish I could use this advice, but I don't have a lot of free time cuz I'm always working, and I also didn't pursue a further education, I just went straight to the workforce after high school.
ill be so real, these points are actually very solid. also, if a girl rejects you and says she’s not interested, it could also be that she genuinely does not want to be in a relationship yet (idky this is so hard for people to understand). yes, a lot of us do openly fantasize about being in one and doing all the romantic stuff, but we know that reality is different, so when presented with the opportunity we gain our sense and shut it down quickly. and the point about meeting someone in the place that you’re okay with them being in if you were together is 🎯🎯, if you have a hobby or things that you enjoy doing, go out and do it, or find clubs where you can practice that hobby as a community, and meet people there!! even at simple places like parks or restaurants, if you want to go there together, then meet her there!! it really is that simple. also, cold/random approaches truly are effective, if you know how to read the room or navigate a conversation. what he’s saying at 14:07 is accurate, because to the receiver, it will not be viewed as ‘cold’, but ‘seizing the opportunity’. and it’s why compliments from women to women are received better, they sound more genuine and you can tell they are more perceptive than just “she looks good idk” bc thats when it raised flags and i start to think “but i can see at least 5 other good looking women on the street, so why me??”. as an anxious person, the uncertainty kills me and i think thats why men/people doing this often seem creepy. as for the method itself, if you see a girl (or anyone, really) walking fast or in a hurry, do not engage, they will usually say anything that results in the conversation ending quickly (got places to be).
In all simplicity - Take care of yourself (financially and physically) - Go to places where like minded people are (especially if women go there too) - Have social hobbies (sports, dancing, acting etc) - Be incredibly lucky
hi niko, my names niko! ur one of the only ppl i've encountered with the same spelling of my name, so good to know i've got another niko that seems to be doing well with my childhood dream of being a youtuber, thats sick. also good to know theres a niko ahead of me, gives me even more reason to push myself 😼
Based on recent experiences, I'd recommend going to a place or event that caters to your interests that is accepting of everyone. It could be the local Ren Fair, a concert, beer garden, just anything that says "this is a warm and welcoming environment". People tend to be more loose and less tense in these social situations. Also don't be afraid to wear something goofy. It's a conversation starter.
Generally, go to events or go out and do hobbies where you're guaranteed to bump into people with similar interests. It's how I met most of the girls I've dated and made most of the long term friends I have. I look rather young for my age so I often get...funny interactions. One was a single mom and her adult daughter who were ± the same age difference from me, so I really had no choice but to friendzone them both.
Dating apps/social media. It's how most people meet now, you're exposed to more people than you'll ever be in your life time, they're time efficient and they're straight to the point
Maybe for women yes, it's another way to get even more options. For the average joe they are a waste of time, the system of socials/dating apps is literally rigged against you as a man, you're wasting your time being online for that reason. The best you would find is a low tier unattractive girl that everybody discarded irl and just desperate for a male in her life. After wasting months and months of time of course.
Line dancing is a total cheat code. It’s rehearsed so you can practice all your moves at home to a couple songs and show them off at the bar without worrying about freestyling (though you can still put pizazz on some songs). If you’re good enough people will ask for your help, or if you’re not good there’s almost always a girl who will see that you need help and give you some direction. Even if the bar is evenly split between guys and girls, most guys are too scared to dance so just having the confidence and carefree attitude to give it a shot is super attractive. Most of the people there to dance will rarely be drunk because the main attraction is the dancing, not the drinking, and they wanna be able to do the dances correctly. Typically they’ll play some partner dancing songs throughout the night and many girls will be happy to show you how to if you ask them, and you can strike up a conversation from there. Even the guys that dance a lot are typically just wearing jeans and t-shirts cuz they’re not there to meet anyone, so you can dress up a bit with a nice pearl snap shirt and you’ll stand out in a good way but you definitely don’t have to. And the most important factor, even if you don’t meet anyone you’ll still have a good time dancing. Never let finding a woman be your only goal, if you’re having a good time on your own then they’ll come to you eventually.
hello, first off, love the vids, keep inspiring millions. Now my rant; I somewhat hate my brother, he insults me or makes a remark insulting me literally EVERY chance he gets. Without fail. And I always feel like I’m just a shadow to him since everything I’ve accomplished, whether it’s in academics, sports, or video games he’s done 2 years before me. (Which is our age gap if ur wondering) and I wouldn’t care about any of this if he didn’t talk about it that much, but again, every opportunity he gets he takes it. And it especially pisses me off when everyone on our soccer team compliments him for his good plays, but when I make a good play, which will always be worse than him because he’s older than me and has played longer, silence. The only people who do say nice things about me in soccer are the coaches, but we all know how coaches are forced to say the pity “good jobs” and “good work, (name)” ‘s because of the standards to be nice to the players. I am just the worse version of him in everything, and when I do get better than him at something, he’ll just change the subject so I’m the but of the joke. If you respond, Tysm, and love your content, keep up the good work! ❤
I've been approached by women a couple of times. One of those times was at the gym. I had seen her a couple of times but we were introduced by a mutual gym friend (super nice older guy. Friends with most of the regulars). The other time was on a run (I run very regularly). I had passed by her a couple of times before, usually with her friend but this time she was alone. I also volunteer a lot in the neighborhood doing wildlife protection (among other things) it's all retirees so I'm not going to meet anyone through it but it does give me great conversation material.
The supply pack is also nice when splitting up. You (and another diver) essentially have your own resupply strategem. So the other divers can call in the main resupply.
8:52 I'd say raves fall into this category as well. The overwhelming majority of people there are really friendly and nice. It's an all around nice vibe and there will always be many different people around you. One drawback here is that I feel like most of the girls going there are already in relationships, often going with their partner I did meet a girl at a rave recently, and we actually dated for a while. I was completely in love with her, but unfortunately she decided to end it. We're still on friendly terms tho Also a very big one that's missing is just hobbies/activities. I climb a lot and met quite a few women that way
I've never been super religious, but in my experience with christianity, I'd place churches somewhere between school and gym in terms of awkwardness if you get rejected. yes, your family could be there, but there's often chances for you to break away long enough to rizz a girl, plus, where the church really shines that actually makes it viable in the first place are church events, especially youth groups or those goofy ah lock in things where you spend the night at the church. the only downside I can think of, is that people tend to be on the younger side because their parents drag them along to stuff like that. hard to find people in their 20s willingly going to stuff like that, but I guess for the kids still in highschool it's still pretty viable.
Well seeing this really depressed me, I'm 23, I already graduated in physiotherapy and I'm entering the job market, in my years at university I couldn't make friends, at most contacts, I was always working to pay for the semester or helping my parents, then the pandemic came and everything was worse. All my friends left the country or continued with their lives separately, I don't have anyone that I consider a friend, my parents support me but they always worry about that in me, they think that something is wrong with me (maybe they are right) I think it would be better for me to accept loneliness, all these places require friends and I have no one.
Definitely agree with the volunteering. I did a week long volunteering trip in college that involved animals on a farm, and there were 3 guys and 9 girls on the trip. Obviously there was no hooking up on that trip lol but it's a solid way to meet women (or even just people in general).
Ngl, this sounds like too much work for very little reward. Pea-cocking and wingmen and all these other arbitrary rules, tactics, and criteria. If I wanted to play silly games, I'd have just stayed home with my Xbox and I'll have more fun doing it. Why do you even want a girlfriend when professionals will do a better job and cost less.
Kinda off topic, but coming from somebody with the date to marry point of view, to those who only try and hook up with women, what is your end goal? If you actually succeed and never talk to her again, what did you gain?
I’m not one of those people, but I feel like the reasons are fairly simple. They don’t care to be in a relationship at that given time because relationships can be a lot of work. But they still want to hook up because it’s a natural human instinct and it’s pleasurable
I'm someone that didn't like the idea of hookups and one night stands, but I experienced it while trying to go for the long term relationship. I still don't like the idea, but I understand the thrill and confidence boost you can get from it.
As a Christian, its great if you can meet a girl your age at you church, who is single, and interested. But, rare. new members are often rare. Pro's: Great girls, very sweet. They are more likely to trust you as you should be a member of the community there, and young christians are often very relaxed and open minded. Cons: Rare, almost everyone is taken, Good luck finding a woman under 40.
I disagree with a few things here: 1. Concerts are bad because of pre selection. Women are at the concert for the performer. If it’s a male artist their hypergamy is at an all time high during the concert. 2. Never approach in the gym. Most people are there to workout, not socialize. Especially if you are unattractive, most women will be creeped out if you talk to them in the gym. I know this is black-pilled but this has been my experience.
You really hit the nail on the head with #1. I met my girlfriend of 3 years through a friend group/consistent house party setting and the friend that hosted it made it easier for us to meet.
-Meeting women is easy
-45 minute video
Well I’m telling stories to back my claims lol
@@nikoyapswomen aren't worth it 💀
@@UCPDeltaDesertNightCamo2026woman who don’t respect themselves aren’t
Its like the book that explain everything about women : 1000 pages , part 1
There´s 10 parts each with 1000 pages , so 10 books
@@Thewatcher1999majority of the population bud
instructions unclear now im dating my bro
🤣🤣
Instructions unclear, got arrested for saying hi to a woman. It’s over.
@@gorillagroddgaming 😂
Relatable
same
Outside ,
you're welcome for the summary
Bro is spitting facts
Well I'm out
thanks
Hehe. Knew it. 😊
The reason why most of us men need a long answer is that "outside" is not a good enough answer. Public transportation counts as "outside". Malls count as "outside". Parks count as "outside", yet you can't risk talking to strangers in any of these places without causing discomfort.
I work as a bartender. And the ammount of women exploiting men for free drinks and then winking at me as to signal me being part of the game is more than I can count on one hand each night.
Man that's sad
i have a friend who works as a bartender and he told me whenever this happens he gives them a disgusted look. i have no idea how hes still a bartender w that stunning lack of play
I have a female friend who told me how she drank on a 3-day trip without spending a single penny. 💀 I thought to myself that it was a bit cunning and shrewd but didn't tell her anything.
Yeah, it's almost like anyone who'd want to do that...would go to a bar.
Surely a minecraft youtuber with no profile pic is gonna help me get some h03s
it's actually a pretty good podcast if you can call it that
More like a Video essay
More like a yap sesh
he aint said the huss he said the wumen
😂😂😂
chat we might be cooked
We are
You have a chance if you aren’t me (introverted AND social anxiety).
@@TheMaskedRanter Same brother. You are not alone xd
@@TheMaskedRanter god really had to nerf us huh
Cool story bro but I'm cooked.
Meeting women is one thing. Being attractive to women is another.
2:49 is nobody gonna mention how he almost died, and that it's a hardcore world
You should have seen the stream, it gets way worse
@@nikoyapsback in my time it was worse sunny
Never expected to be lectured by a dude on dating stuff whilst he plays minecraft for 45 minutes.
You have hearthstone pfp, you dont need that lil bro
You stopped giving valid opinions after being nerfed to 1 mana
Bro i stopped paying attention to what you were yapping about because of that half a heart save from burning alive holy shi
Me too
😭😭😭😭
No man, I don't want to meet women at this point in life. I'm watching to hear your opinions on a topic ❤
Honestly same
Same
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and also to see him play some minecraft
Honestly I'm just here to listen to his story and experience
As a 24 year old woman, I will say this. I don’t go out much, I don’t have many friends to hang out with regularly (and those I do have moved away) right now the only social place I have outside of online is church, that’s the only place I go to where I can meet people. And the thing is, meeting new people and making friends as an adult is hard…it’s very difficult, especially for me since I have to be selective with where I go to meet people due to safety reasons. I’ve never dated anyone before, never hooked up, never been in a relationship, etc. I’d love to find a life long partner and best friend, but I don’t know how, where, or if I ever will.
same brother, but I'm 18 in final year of school. but anyway
You will
Exactly the same for me, I'm 21 and I only go to church, other than that I'm at home, or at work, I would really like to meet a nice girl, where I could just settle down and start a family with, that's really all I'm missing in my life, I got a good family, good jobs. I had one girlfriend 3 months ago but that relationship was bad, she missed her ex so I am not gonna count that as a relationship, other than that I haven't had any other girls
Join a club of some kind like bowling or board games maybe even go to the library.
Good luck to you.
P. S. Consider watching the 1943 movie Casablanca when you get a chance it's a beautiful love story.
Just talk to a men in a mall or something
But does the attractive girl at the bar know the most common area to find diamonds is at -56?
If she doesn't you could be the one to teach her ;)
nah we lowkey stay home and maybe go to lakes/nature 😭
Maybe it's just because I'm getting older but this really is one of those relaxing video's to watch. When you're not in puberty anymore (at least from my experience) that want to talk to people and date and stuff just kind of moves to the side. This is the kind of video I would've watched as a guide perhaps 7 years ago, but now that I'm 23 and still somehow have never dated anyone? Nah. Just listening and thinking back to circumstances I never used to my advantage is just as fun.
bro, you are extremely young, and this is being told to you by an 19 years old boy. I mean, you are going to live at least 40 years more if you lead a relatively healthy life.
@@lucas_a3I’m 22 and the way I see it is that my life is almost over because I value my health very much. If I keep myself healthy I think after 35 is when the natural slow decline will start. Also it’s going to be a challenge balancing being healthy with going out to meet my future wife and subsequently raising my children. I’m in college right now but after college it’ll be tough to find someone if I haven’t by then. Basically it feels like I only have 8 years max and then life may feel near pointless from that point on.
I know that maybe im tooooo young to advice you, but I came to feel the same way at 17!! and that is too young to stress about those things.
And if I'm honest, I don't really know what the hell I did to suddenly start to be liked by more people (it didn't happen to me before), I feel like they look at me differently. I made a few changes in my life, and I think the one that helped me the most out of all those changes was showing myself as I am without caring about anything (knowing that I'm a good guy and that I don't hurt anyone).
I have no filters right now, and that gives me peace.
@@tvhead7074 At least in terms of health I would not worry. Of course you might not be in your prime from around 35, but just to give an example, my dad is like 52 (tbh I don't know, I'm terribly with remembering someones age) and still works out like 5 times a week and can probably still do a backflip into a swimming pool.
@@lucas_a3 Yes, 23 is very young, but not young enough anymore to just be silly and experiment with relationships. Things just get more serious when you're older and being in your twenties and still inexperienced is a red flag if you want a healthy relationship.
17 yrs old, and I once did the cold approach in September. Trust me, it TOOK a lot of time for me to gain the courage to approach that girl, I only made my decision to approach her when they already exited the park but in the end I got rejected, no hard feelings but it was a new experience for me, would do it again.
Good for you on following through!
@nikoyaps she was so beautiful, my jaw literally dropped when I saw her eyes, I stuttered when I was asking for her facebook because of how mesmerised I was
Good man. Make sure you’re not just going up to them to ask for something (number or instagram or whatever) - you’re there to meet them. If it goes well, then ask.
From what Ive learned is that going for walks is the best way to meet women, I have met all kinds of women from just going outside for a walk on my off days. saying anything to garner a reaction can trigger many different conversations and general conversation can lead to relationships pretty quickly if she thinks your cute for one reason or another
Just go for a walk theory. Only works for attractive people.
I tried this but they all said I was black and didn't want to associate with me 😔 I'm just gonna kiss dudes
@@Minelaughter😂😂😂
… So cold approach
@@Minelaughter LMFAO
Your minecraft gameplay is nerve-wracking
Gotta keep you on your toes
How else is he gonna keep the watch time throughout the video, half the guys watching this probably gave up in the first 2 minutes
0:00 You came to this video to know how to meet women.
I came to this video because I like Niko's yaps.
We are not the same.
Frrrr
real
we're the same itadori
ur just procrastinating
I came for both 😂
Church is a great place to meet girls, but there’s also the case of every house of worship being their own little community. If you’re looking to find someone, it’s likely that people will know who you’re trying to get with/court. This could work for or against you, depending on the situation, and if you don’t pick right it kinda ruins your reputation for any other chances in that place. With bars, cold street convos, or even places like the library or gym, there isn’t a dedicated sense of community, which takes some pressure off and makes people feel more comfortable as themselves.
what if someone here’s an aithest (I’m not)
@@Da_Bludster Then they can meet people literally anywhere else
One thing also I think it's valid to mention is places to meet people with the same hobby as your, for example, if you're a freaking nerd who plays dungeons and dragons, the probability of you finding someone who will get along with you in a party is way lower than if you try to meet people that also like dungeons and dragons, this would apply to almost anything. If you like hiking, try to find a group of people that do the same. If you like biking, skating, climbing, playing a specific sport, etc. This way you'll have common ground with everyone, and even if you don't meet a girl, you can still make friends and these friends will know girls. Basically the more people you meet the better it will be, and doing it naturally while doing a hobby you like makes everything 1000x easier. Now don't go to these kind of places just to meet girls, go if first and foremost you actually think you'll like doing it regardless of anything.
facts. this is number 1 hands down. Im big into cars so i meet all types of people from meet ups, races and large showcase events. Its not all about drinking and partying lol. Have an actual interest and people will be naturally more attracted to you.
The last thing a girl wants is a boring mf whos personality resolves around partying lol.
I want to meet a girl who doesn't play guitar, but LOVES it as much as I do (and likes GAMING of course)
cause ngl it was hard to impress an ex who also played guitar lmfao
@@bambampewpew32 concert
@@bambampewpew32Have you thought about learning to play the guitar from a girl who plays it?
It could be a cool programme for dates.
One of my family members found his gf (now wife) this way.
It's pretty easy to meet women. Now, forming a relationship.... well, that's another story.
Another one to have put on this list are hobbies/clubs. It is kind of similar to classrooms, but they are less formal and are volunteer based. It is a good way to meet people of similar interests, because you can start the conversation off knowing you have some things in common.
yesss if ur in college join clubs! or take fun classes like guitar or gaming
@@nulliehart I don't know what college you go to where gaming is a class, but hell yeah!
I met my wife in Minecraft LMAO
I had zero luck with women my whole life, but then when I was 25, I met this woman in Minecraft and we really hit it off. Married literally the first woman I ever dated and haven't regretted it since 😏👍
Also, I'm from the United States and she's from Poland 😆
That’s awesome
KURWA MAĆĆĆĆ
Eastern Europe women just seek to find a man from a better country to get out of their shithole place. Be warned of that, she got interested because you're american. She will do the same if a better option will present to herself.
That will be a one crazy on how I met your mother lore.
What’s your race
As a woman, the best way to talk to someone is to not come off as creepy or rude
So never talk to a woman at night, trust me on that
Great username btw
>Dont come off as creepy or rude
Translation: Don't be ugly
Coming off as creepy is temporary because the other one has no idea who it is. Though you can communicate pretty easily that you're friendly and respectful, and in that case most women and people in general will have no issue with that. One of my first approaches may have been exactly what you said out what men shouldn't do, and my first sentence was also not doing me any favors, "you're pretty". Because my goal there was just talk to people and learn how to strike up conversations and how they react, and also what not to do, I quickly decided in order to not make it more uncomfortable as it already is wishing her a good evening and accidentally used a formal version of addressing her, something that the german language has and I grown accustomed to, and corrected it to the informal afterwards and she also said that there's no need to be formal here which was a respectful, humanizing and a little funny mistake to end this conversation. So we parted in good terms. This was pretty much the worst-case scenario for the one who's approaching and I think the same holds true here as niko in the video said, you decide how awkward (in this case creepy) it will be. You just have to know how to utilize the communication tools at your disposal
Yeah i think thats the hardest part is scared of coming off a creep. Especially if I’m already nervous i dont want that nervousness to come off as me being creepy or weird
What you really mean is: don’t be ugly
Here's a tip:
Before trying to get a woman, know yourself first, because when you learn how you work and what you actually like, you'll surround yourself with people of your type and the connection will be easier. Which means ''focus on yourself''. Not to be a must millionaire or anything like that. Go with a friend or alone, try some things, see if u really enjoy them and make them hobbies, and get fit/strong. Don't look desperate and don't trait women like something divine. U won't need catchy frases to impress a woman, just be you around the right people(which are a reflection of yourself/hobbies/what you like).
Ngl I clicked on this video more because I was curious what you’d say than really wanting an answer. Just got out of a long relationship and focusing on myself rn.
How to meet women:
1. Look good.
👆
not even, nerds with personality> (guys with muscles and chiseled faces scare me😭)
I want to tell a story relating to 15:55 & 37:17. I met my current girlfriend in university. I want to show you can combo these together.
In summary, I got bored in line during an event freshman year (before classes started) and cold approached the person behind me. I just heard them say something and tagged into the conversation. They were all roommates and it did not take long for one of them to single me out. We kept talking and eventually when we got to the front we split our own ways. Did not talk to her since because honestly there was no romantic intent and I did not exchange contact info (forgot :/). It ended up being fine though because the first class of the semester, we had together on pure chance, and then another one. We were forced to talk again because we locked eyes between classes one day as you can't ignore somebody that has the same class with you when you have not met anyone else. (We're both in STEM, these are our math basics). Eventually, after taking 5 math classes together we started dating. Hit her with the wombo combo.
I learned two things. 1) Talking to a group works much better imo, the right one will single you out. 2) Calculus tutoring = Rizz.
Try this as a mid/unattractive person and you get weird stares and awkward silence. Joining a random group conversation can end up very embarassing. At my job, i tried this couple times, i was always ignored after 1-2 minutes. Now i just dont bother. Happy for you tho
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After fucking up a possible relationship a while back, this video is oddly comforting. I struggle with talking to girls alot and watched this out of boredom but even though this video wasn't about getting over a girl, it helped me in that. I suppose you bringing up how there are other girls many times throughout the video in the context of being in social places helped me ackonwledge that there are others. Thank you man.
My youtube recomendations will be absolute cooked after this 45 minute long minecraft letsplay.
Nearing 24, no relationship experience
As I studied in a male-dominated field, I have not had a classmate crush since the age of 17, and the only one I did have was in a relationship 🙃
I am also autistic, meaning the prospect of approaching a girl in public is terrifying. They are likely to think they're in danger when approached by a 6ft tall guy who gives off "weird vibes".
Closest I have come to success is from cosplaying at gaming conventions and talking to girls who are doing the same. Made several female friends, but all were already in relationships. Maybe the next one won't be. And I must confess: I believe that talking to girls at these kinds of events will give me the highest chance of finding the legendary "girlfriend who would let me be a femboy" 😳.
I also do volunteer work, and I know people who have found relationships like that, though I haven't.
Keep trying, you will succeed
bros 6 foot trying to be a femboy 😂😂
It's over for you
@@britbongtankie brootal
Hey, I’m 20 and autistic as well. I’m not as tall but yeah, I can easily scare people just by my looks and if they talk to me (I’m a very very dark person and I don’t really hide that stuff behind a mask because it’s too hard) so, I think it’s already over for me honestly.
Unless some girl who likes that sort of ‘dark’ stuff talks to me which is, probably, very uncommon.
By dark I just mean gothic stuff, dressing in all black and a negative (but hopeful) view of society.
Eh, I found whether your cold approach works or not has very little to do with how "good" you are at it, but how good a match your personality is with the girl's.
Luck has a bigger role to play in it than many people wanna admit.
Exactly - I'm tired of people acting like there's some grand system to meeting people and dating them. There are physical, emotional, and social obstacles/advantages. Then, there is luck. But mostly, it's luck.
That is LITERALLY IT.
I met my GF at a Restaurant/Bar venue that has Bachata, which is a style of social dance, as one of its main attractions. In my experience, it’s definitely a good way to meet women, make friends, and to network and establish connections and goddammit be social. Hell, the main group that I spar and train with now mainly consists of leads from the local bachata scene where I’m from. But before that I got into it because when I was still in college, the college I went to had a club that taught both Salsa and Bachata. Hell, I’ve been dancing for so long now that I teach on the side from time to time.
I’ve gotten to the point where I have been to many different socials/venues, some of them out of state, and I feel comfortable just casually asking women to dance even when I’m not part of the local scene, such as when I visited the Bachata scene in Arizona while visiting family just as an example. Some guys, namely friends and coworkers look at me crazy when talk to them about bachata. They usually say something along the lines of “Bro, so you just ask them to dance?” or “Bruh that’s crazy, you don’t drink before dancing?” or even “So do you go by yourself or with people”. I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t need to go with somebody to a social, I’m very comfortable just going by myself, but then again I’ve met so many people and made a lot of friends and acquaintances to where I know their gonna show up to one venue or another.
Dancing was and still is definitely a game changer, at least for me.
The 2 times the algorithm showed me your videos was 1. I had gotten into an argument with my gf of 5 years, that was his "relationships are hard" video, now this video gets suggested to me after she just broke up with me. Scary stuff
Jeez, no need to cook me within the first two seconds.
Dating is broken and men are at a severe disadvantage where all of the cultural and legal leverage is on the side of women can we all just admit it at this point? It's so beyond clear that dating is infinitely harder for men all else being equal.
The funny part is women still shoot themselves in the foot. A third of western women over 35 are single with no dating prospects and half of them are on anti-depressants. Some of these women are genuinely so entitled and want a "worthy" man they straight up reject everyone until its too late and they've hit menopause and die alone.
If you stop being online so much you'll see the world isn't so bad and we're not all doomed.
Just getting some (irl) hobbies and improving yourself (conversing with people, showing interest in other's interests, maybe some fashion and exercise) will make you both infinitely happier and maybe land you a relationship even. Just stay away from all the "alpha" hustlers and "gigachads" and touch grass.
And have fun :D being positive attracts everyone and makes you feel better too
@@cataholic8040what are you talking about lol?
@@cataholic8040you do know rejection isn't the worst thing that could happen. There was a kid who got put on blast for approaching a girl and was nervous and stuttering. Online news articles were written about him.
When you say alpha hustlers and gigachads are you talking about Andrew tate and fresh n fit or are you talking about turd flinging monkey, undead chronic, terrence popp.
My sister is big into politics where I'm from. Idk if its such a good idea to do anything that would bring shame upon her and jeopardise her career. Its one thing if I had nothing to lose its another if it affects the people I care about. @GigaNietzsche is right. And so is Schopenhauer.
@@cataholic8040 you hate people who are unfortunate.
You can meet women sure. But will any of them be single and willing to date you? No
You’ll never know unless you try
Yup. You're exactly right
@@nikoyaps Why even try? The cost of failure is astronomically high and the reward is pitiful. Just leave women completely alone. They wanted independence, lets give it to them. Complete and total independence.
@@StarboyXL9 you sound incredibly bitter, idk what happened but this world view is too transactional. the point of a relationship for most people is love, you shouldn't think of some kind of cost when trying to find your person
@@StarboyXL9 If you don't talk to women what-so-ever your game will be weak when you find someone you like
9:22 I am a guy struggling with social anxiety and I can confirm that I'm really someone else at concerts lol, I NEVER just walk up and talk to people but at a concert this summer I did just that somehow. So yeah it's not just girls that it changes lol
You don't need to go to the specific places to meet someone, don't belive that. Me and my ex met in the work, she was working in starbucks and I did in the opposite smoke shop.
We had a beautifull relationship for almost 2 years.
Just take a shot wherever you are with the mindset that this girl could be a good friend,
not necessarily your wife, be open, and smile.
What if you have social anxiety and are introverted?
Would there be any chance for someone like me?
@@TheMaskedRanter I'm like you but I'm not giving up, my dude. I've done a lot of mental progress, enough to know I'm really close to act even when I'm in darkness. If I'm able to do it, you are too!
i met my wife on roblox when we were like 14 years old, 10 years ago. I think a lot of the time women aren't actively looking for relationships, and you can meet them through their hobbies. Ive met more women that i felt compatible with online than irl because I mostly just like to chill with friends and play pool, work on my cars or play video games. My wife doesn't do much beyond sitting around at home reading and gaming, she doesn't go out much, but she's absolutely perfect as a wife, partner and future mother. A lot of good people aren't going out and meeting potential partners by the dozen, they keep their head down and focus on the things most important to them like their family, hobbies or career, so they're hard to find.
I used to play Roblox 10 years ago and got scammed in murder mystery 😅 good for you that's very sweet
Found you a couple of weeks ago and started tuning in, watching your vids, good content. Met my girl at like a cafe & restaurant, been friends for like many years and are dating now for 3 years so far, anniversary in March :D Also shoutout to Greece, as a Serb, I find myself for a summer holiday in Greece 9 times out of 10. People are extremely nice and welcoming, speak English and Serbian (some or a little), the ambiance is amazing and greek food is amazing especially gyros. 🤤
I'm here to see the relation between meeting women and a minecraft thumbnail, I'm quite underwhelmed but such is life, good video!
So from what I’m hearing, here’s how dating is like these days: calculating and interceptive
John: I look at her dancing over there in her shorts and tank top. She looks so attractive but I don’t know what to say. I must appease her but I don’t want to come across as creepy or rude. I need to be perfect in execution. I have to get closer to her by dancing first and gradually inching closer and closer, before I finally initiate contact with her and smell her beautiful hair. If I am going to get this date I need to do everything perfectly… if I don’t and she says no I lose everything.. do I open with a compliment or ask her how her day was.. if I compliment her on her clothes or hair or the smallest details she might think I’ve been staring at her for so long and reject me. So maybe not compliment her on too much detail.. how about her general clothing style YES THATS PERFECT AAHAHAHA *gradually inches closer to her* “hi you have nice clothes”
Girl: “GET AWAY FROM ME!” *screams and jumps into a river*
LMFAO
Was walking behind her at night and she was getting faster and faster. I just wanted to say hi.
Should've started running and screaming lmao
Using the lava bucket on the cow at 15:03 was so subtle but to me was such a big brain move.
As a 20 year old girl I agree with almost everything said in this video except the part about the gym girls. Of course there are some attention seeking girls at the gym but they’re much more common on social media than irl. Most of us just wanna get our workout in, and get out. And we wouldn’t mind being hit on but that’s not the goal
I also want to emphasize concerts again!! Having a common interest is half the battle
But where would an introvert meet people..? Other than online of course.
Don't like concerts.
NIKOO, You should start a podcast, I love your videos and the topics are so interesting, I have been following you since you had 30k subs, greetings from mexico :)
He puts these on Spotify.
@@Minetheground How can I find him there?
@@Oulow_ in description
unfortunately all my friends left the country, I don't like clubbing, don't go to school anymore. Don't drink alcohol.Don't want to bother anyone in the gym, and am kinda introvert. so I'll just stick to the datingapps which work for me the best personally. But still I would recommend the tips used in this video to anyone.a
Yeah I was wondering if I should try dating apps next year(when I'm 18)
There is also the hobby option that he did not put in the videos, find something you like doing, like rock climbing, swimming or even reading in a library and talk to people you meet there.
And it doesn't need to be a woman, you can play the long game and make some male friends and use the friend group technique.
@@ducky1681 My friend used one and ruined his confidence in like 3 days. I think he is pretty attractive so just be careful with your mental health
@@pedro_gm1 bro climbing is goated. Just unfortunate that it's somewhat male dominated, and many women who climb regularly are already in relationships
I’m literally the same but I just never went to college (I’m thinking about it though, I’m only 20) and I’m not even on dating apps. I’m just stuck in bed usually. Just hopeless dreams I suppose.
26 and fell down the dating app rabbit hole. Niko talking about it genuinely made me feel less crazy. I'm not the best looking guy but i've been told i'm good looking. Still get rejected doing the cold approach more times than i care to remember. Niko has some pretty solid advice. I'd like to hear about maybe dating at work. I know that's a slippery slope but on the other hand you spend most of your time at work and if it's just a place holder job who cares if your embarrassed for a day?
Instructions unclear, I have 3 restraining orders and court on monday.
In my experience the top three by far are parties (at a friend's house), school/any educational activity, and extracurriculars (special interest clubs, sports teams, theater/music classes etc). You have common interests, meet up often enough to get to know each other naturally, and also usually share some common experiences. These are the ones that have worked for me soooo yeah
I got a date at my church, but it was after about a 40 min converssation and I was the only guy with 3 women, I knew one of them she and I had met at the church, so the other 2 women were about my age, after the whole conversation we were in a group, and after that group left we both started talking 1v1, and I just outright asked her and I think she was taken by surprise, but we'll be going on date this week and i'll give an update after if I feel like we are good.
I also agree, dating apps are rough, I've prob swiped up on about 1000 women, and only gotten 5 dates, so it's rough on that end. but I also don't go outside because I think i'll get jumped walking home, and don't like to be outside later than 7:30pm.
Did you guys hit it off?
"The emotional damage I received from this woman" wood house in the nether burning down 😂
That's actually so funny I didn't even notice hahaha
30:40 I was raised christian and went to church my whole childhood/teenage years basically. But after the church service is over you get a chance to talk and meet with people kinda like a normal gathering. If you see a woman you like you just go up to her and talk to her and stuff. But just be aware that (not all) but some woman (mostly daughters from pastors and such) at church are strict and would only have a relationship with you if you become a christian yourself, hence why i do not want a woman from church. I never had eyes for a girl at church apart from this one girl that barely came to church that i was attracted to. it never came to anything tho cause i was kinda scared to talk to her. Just my experience tho. hope it helps. great video!
I don’t understand people who go to churches just to meet women. A church is a place of worship. Yes, you can meet someone there but, it’s just kinda weird to me if you’re not religious.
Cold approach is nice and all, but you have to be willing to do it 20 or more times to actually get a date.
At that point it's just not worth the hassle of dealing with females, nor the potential label of creep or worse.
Very good points in the video, I felt like I learned a lot of this the hard way. I would like to add another place to meet people: hiking. You all will have a common interest, you'll strive to achieve a certain goal and you'll see how they deal with hardship. They will likely either already be fit and healthy, or getting there. Maybe not a great place for hookups but I only looked for someone for the long term. It sounds like I'm retired, but I swear I'm in my 20s lol
this sounds more like a flex
It is, it's also rage bait.
@@wolfsmith7285 I'm curious to why you think it's rage bait.
watching this even though im in a relationship.
What I take away from this is that my chances are even lower than I thought
18:46 you mention the girl who’s filming and trying to catch guys looking at her or whatever. Just an FYI this is extremely rare. You see it on social media a lot because the very few times it does happen it goes viral. But in reality this is not something you will ever have to worry about. I’ve been going to the gym for several years at this point and I’ve never seen anything like that happen
Hobbies. Find a hobby, and go to events. This is advice that I've been given by all of my older friends, that I have not found the time to follow. Go to Ren/DND/whatever clubs at school, or in college. You will find people that way.
I wish I could use this advice, but I don't have a lot of free time cuz I'm always working, and I also didn't pursue a further education, I just went straight to the workforce after high school.
ill be so real, these points are actually very solid. also, if a girl rejects you and says she’s not interested, it could also be that she genuinely does not want to be in a relationship yet (idky this is so hard for people to understand). yes, a lot of us do openly fantasize about being in one and doing all the romantic stuff, but we know that reality is different, so when presented with the opportunity we gain our sense and shut it down quickly. and the point about meeting someone in the place that you’re okay with them being in if you were together is 🎯🎯, if you have a hobby or things that you enjoy doing, go out and do it, or find clubs where you can practice that hobby as a community, and meet people there!! even at simple places like parks or restaurants, if you want to go there together, then meet her there!! it really is that simple.
also, cold/random approaches truly are effective, if you know how to read the room or navigate a conversation. what he’s saying at 14:07 is accurate, because to the receiver, it will not be viewed as ‘cold’, but ‘seizing the opportunity’. and it’s why compliments from women to women are received better, they sound more genuine and you can tell they are more perceptive than just “she looks good idk” bc thats when it raised flags and i start to think “but i can see at least 5 other good looking women on the street, so why me??”. as an anxious person, the uncertainty kills me and i think thats why men/people doing this often seem creepy.
as for the method itself, if you see a girl (or anyone, really) walking fast or in a hurry, do not engage, they will usually say anything that results in the conversation ending quickly (got places to be).
In all simplicity
- Take care of yourself (financially and physically)
- Go to places where like minded people are (especially if women go there too)
- Have social hobbies (sports, dancing, acting etc)
- Be incredibly lucky
hi niko, my names niko! ur one of the only ppl i've encountered with the same spelling of my name, so good to know i've got another niko that seems to be doing well with my childhood dream of being a youtuber, thats sick. also good to know theres a niko ahead of me, gives me even more reason to push myself 😼
Socialise at the police station - can speed run getting arrested for being creepy
Based on recent experiences, I'd recommend going to a place or event that caters to your interests that is accepting of everyone. It could be the local Ren Fair, a concert, beer garden, just anything that says "this is a warm and welcoming environment". People tend to be more loose and less tense in these social situations.
Also don't be afraid to wear something goofy. It's a conversation starter.
you're the goat bro ❤❤
Generally, go to events or go out and do hobbies where you're guaranteed to bump into people with similar interests. It's how I met most of the girls I've dated and made most of the long term friends I have.
I look rather young for my age so I often get...funny interactions. One was a single mom and her adult daughter who were ± the same age difference from me, so I really had no choice but to friendzone them both.
Dating apps/social media. It's how most people meet now, you're exposed to more people than you'll ever be in your life time, they're time efficient and they're straight to the point
Maybe for women yes, it's another way to get even more options. For the average joe they are a waste of time, the system of socials/dating apps is literally rigged against you as a man, you're wasting your time being online for that reason. The best you would find is a low tier unattractive girl that everybody discarded irl and just desperate for a male in her life. After wasting months and months of time of course.
In my experience the people you meet on dating apps just aren't as compatible. I never really clicked with anyone I met on any dating app.
0 matches. Fake news
@@TwistedLullabies the apps just want to shove more ads in your feed and on purpose get 0 matches.
@LovePoison23443 Guess what dating is for you irl
Be attractive and wait.
This
@@minksopro ?
@@CheckOutMyPlaylists-t3v True
@@roykalager2360"just get a shower bro"
@@yrxsx I take showers if that's what you'er asking? If so, you have to do way more. To get just a girlfriend. Especially an ideal women.
That awkward moment when you're too dumb for college.
Line dancing is a total cheat code.
It’s rehearsed so you can practice all your moves at home to a couple songs and show them off at the bar without worrying about freestyling (though you can still put pizazz on some songs).
If you’re good enough people will ask for your help, or if you’re not good there’s almost always a girl who will see that you need help and give you some direction.
Even if the bar is evenly split between guys and girls, most guys are too scared to dance so just having the confidence and carefree attitude to give it a shot is super attractive.
Most of the people there to dance will rarely be drunk because the main attraction is the dancing, not the drinking, and they wanna be able to do the dances correctly.
Typically they’ll play some partner dancing songs throughout the night and many girls will be happy to show you how to if you ask them, and you can strike up a conversation from there.
Even the guys that dance a lot are typically just wearing jeans and t-shirts cuz they’re not there to meet anyone, so you can dress up a bit with a nice pearl snap shirt and you’ll stand out in a good way but you definitely don’t have to.
And the most important factor, even if you don’t meet anyone you’ll still have a good time dancing. Never let finding a woman be your only goal, if you’re having a good time on your own then they’ll come to you eventually.
hello, first off, love the vids, keep inspiring millions. Now my rant; I somewhat hate my brother, he insults me or makes a remark insulting me literally EVERY chance he gets. Without fail. And I always feel like I’m just a shadow to him since everything I’ve accomplished, whether it’s in academics, sports, or video games he’s done 2 years before me. (Which is our age gap if ur wondering) and I wouldn’t care about any of this if he didn’t talk about it that much, but again, every opportunity he gets he takes it. And it especially pisses me off when everyone on our soccer team compliments him for his good plays, but when I make a good play, which will always be worse than him because he’s older than me and has played longer, silence. The only people who do say nice things about me in soccer are the coaches, but we all know how coaches are forced to say the pity “good jobs” and “good work, (name)” ‘s because of the standards to be nice to the players. I am just the worse version of him in everything, and when I do get better than him at something, he’ll just change the subject so I’m the but of the joke.
If you respond, Tysm, and love your content, keep up the good work! ❤
Why does "The Yap" go so hard I like it
finally some one who answers the damn question
Needed this
I've been approached by women a couple of times.
One of those times was at the gym. I had seen her a couple of times but we were introduced by a mutual gym friend (super nice older guy. Friends with most of the regulars). The other time was on a run (I run very regularly). I had passed by her a couple of times before, usually with her friend but this time she was alone.
I also volunteer a lot in the neighborhood doing wildlife protection (among other things) it's all retirees so I'm not going to meet anyone through it but it does give me great conversation material.
Okaaaaayyy.... meeting them is easy, actually interacting with them is the hard part 🤣
The supply pack is also nice when splitting up. You (and another diver) essentially have your own resupply strategem. So the other divers can call in the main resupply.
4:13 move to the side when deflecting it. It takes a moment for the hit to register so it usually hits you before it does.
8:52 I'd say raves fall into this category as well. The overwhelming majority of people there are really friendly and nice. It's an all around nice vibe and there will always be many different people around you.
One drawback here is that I feel like most of the girls going there are already in relationships, often going with their partner
I did meet a girl at a rave recently, and we actually dated for a while. I was completely in love with her, but unfortunately she decided to end it. We're still on friendly terms tho
Also a very big one that's missing is just hobbies/activities. I climb a lot and met quite a few women that way
love the title 👍😎
I got sent your tweet by 3 people within half an hour of each other, if it 10x like you said, we might have to have a lil conversation
I've never been super religious, but in my experience with christianity, I'd place churches somewhere between school and gym in terms of awkwardness if you get rejected. yes, your family could be there, but there's often chances for you to break away long enough to rizz a girl, plus, where the church really shines that actually makes it viable in the first place are church events, especially youth groups or those goofy ah lock in things where you spend the night at the church. the only downside I can think of, is that people tend to be on the younger side because their parents drag them along to stuff like that. hard to find people in their 20s willingly going to stuff like that, but I guess for the kids still in highschool it's still pretty viable.
😂 I just stand in front of my house and woman suddenly appears from nowhere to ask questions.
Police station is crazy as a meeting place suggestion.
Bulgarian here, crazy work
Well seeing this really depressed me, I'm 23, I already graduated in physiotherapy and I'm entering the job market, in my years at university I couldn't make friends, at most contacts, I was always working to pay for the semester or helping my parents, then the pandemic came and everything was worse. All my friends left the country or continued with their lives separately, I don't have anyone that I consider a friend, my parents support me but they always worry about that in me, they think that something is wrong with me (maybe they are right) I think it would be better for me to accept loneliness, all these places require friends and I have no one.
Definitely agree with the volunteering. I did a week long volunteering trip in college that involved animals on a farm, and there were 3 guys and 9 girls on the trip. Obviously there was no hooking up on that trip lol but it's a solid way to meet women (or even just people in general).
there was just no hooking up for you ;)
i’m a whole lesbian but i love uuuu dude comfort channel for real
bro im cooked
Those whose parents met in college
Now I have to walk around the library acting confused.😔
Ngl, this sounds like too much work for very little reward.
Pea-cocking and wingmen and all these other arbitrary rules, tactics, and criteria.
If I wanted to play silly games, I'd have just stayed home with my Xbox and I'll have more fun doing it.
Why do you even want a girlfriend when professionals will do a better job and cost less.
Kinda off topic, but coming from somebody with the date to marry point of view, to those who only try and hook up with women, what is your end goal? If you actually succeed and never talk to her again, what did you gain?
I’m not one of those people, but I feel like the reasons are fairly simple. They don’t care to be in a relationship at that given time because relationships can be a lot of work. But they still want to hook up because it’s a natural human instinct and it’s pleasurable
I hate the idea of hooking up so I can’t say for sure but it might just be for pleasure
@@notsocooldude7720 it's called hedonism
I'm someone that didn't like the idea of hookups and one night stands, but I experienced it while trying to go for the long term relationship. I still don't like the idea, but I understand the thrill and confidence boost you can get from it.
@@solitude.5283 would you marry someone who hooked up
This is a great video to find a day after having a really awkward and embarrassing conversation I had with a women I like.
Bro i saw the thumbnail and i couldn't not click on the video
As a Christian, its great if you can meet a girl your age at you church, who is single, and interested. But, rare. new members are often rare. Pro's: Great girls, very sweet. They are more likely to trust you as you should be a member of the community there, and young christians are often very relaxed and open minded. Cons: Rare, almost everyone is taken, Good luck finding a woman under 40.
I disagree with a few things here:
1. Concerts are bad because of pre selection. Women are at the concert for the performer. If it’s a male artist their hypergamy is at an all time high during the concert.
2. Never approach in the gym. Most people are there to workout, not socialize. Especially if you are unattractive, most women will be creeped out if you talk to them in the gym.
I know this is black-pilled but this has been my experience.
I was curious how a minecraft thumbnail fits in with the topic lol
You really hit the nail on the head with #1. I met my girlfriend of 3 years through a friend group/consistent house party setting and the friend that hosted it made it easier for us to meet.
sucks to have no friends then lol