How You Make Your Bed Reveals THIS About You | A Monk's Perspective
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- The Way You Make Your Bed & What It Reveals About You | A Monk's Perspective
Making your bed is important. As a Buddhist monk, one of the first things we are trained in is the importance of making our beds. The way one makes their bed will impact their habits. Our time in the bedroom makes ups 30% of our daily lives, so what we do in the bedroom will directly impact our behaviors outside of the bedroom. In this video, I give you 3 scenarios of how one makes their bed and how it translate to the type of habit the will cultivate. I hope this perspective from the buddhist monk lens will give you a different perspective into the importance of making your bed. I hope this helps. Enjoy! #monk #buddhism #mentalhealth #monks
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0:00 Intro
0:38 What I learned in the monastery
1:01 Breakdown of a typical day
1:31 Breakdown of percentage of your day
2:31 Why what is done in the bedroom is important
3:20 Three types of people
3:57 Scenario 1
4:43 Scenario 2
5:13 Scenario 3
6:05 What does it reveal?
6:22 Person 1 - Revealed
7:17 Person 2 - Revealed
8:30 Person 3 - Revealed
10:42 Why am I sharing this?
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So when it comes to making your bed, which type of person are you?
And if I don’t make my bed? Ha
I'm person #2 on weekdays and person #1 on weekends 😂
So that means I have a mix habit?
I get up rush out the door and have no time for making my bed. Shadow journal will help me with this. Thanks again Nick.
I try to make my bed now, but as of right now, I am person 1… thank you for this
I love this video Thank you so much! My mother always use to tell me " if your room is a mess your life will be a mess."
I wake up, immediately open the curtains for light and then make my bed. The night before I make sure my things are in order and all dishes washed so I can start my day in a happy place.
😊😊 wonderful
You are lighting my face with a smile and became my inspirer. Curtains are important, I'll take that
I am already a dish-person
There is only few of you left. :)
OMG i agree. if i wake up and see a dirty dish i am like omg this day is starting messily
Same!
I have found that an unmade bed leads to 'broken window syndrome'. This is where for example, a window gets broken in a neighbourhood and not fixed, the area seems less cared for. Then someone might drop some rubbish, someone else will do some graffiti, and so on.
As far as the bedroom goes, an unmade bedroom is the broken window. This may lead you to just drop things on the bed when you come in from your day, leave clothing on the floor, leave a dirty tea cup on the bedside table etc...This chaos then has a ripple effect on you home, your day and your life.
It is good to apply this idea to your whole home and tidy up after yourself. We've all been there, wondering, how did my home become so messy! For those struggling with health and weight, know that your choices for the first meal of the day also impact the rest of the day. The first unhealthy choice makes you feel bad, so you are less likely to have the energy to make a good food choice after that. Love yourself by having nourishing food for breakfast! I hope these ideas help someone :-)
Thank you Nick for a fantastic teaching!
I absolutely love that analogy. It's brilliant. Thank you so much for sharing that :-)
interesting
So a way to look at it isnt your depreiving yourself of being you. Which is how some people will see it ( you arnt living a genuine self) but rather your shaping it from a lower negative mindset to a higher healthier mindset via the tasks you do.
This is very intuitive idvice...
I have spent a lifetime observing [with deep fascination] how a human's interior life projects itself outward into their home's interior landscape. Your home is You - reflecting a mirror of truth back to yourself. The untrained mind is unconscious of these subtle patterns because much of society has neglected the cultivation of nuanced mind-training & self-knowledge in favor of compulsory mind-conditioning schools that have had misplaced priorities. One may look at this is OCD/ overthinking/ overanalyzing... but I invite you to consider that we all have layers of filters that influence how we perceive what's in front of us & all around us.
Do you *see?* or do you subconsciously overlay & pre-categorize what you are looking at? Well, Who doesn't?
How much are you really *fully present* in each moment of your day? Or do you insulate yourself against what you cannot yet face about yourself & your own reality? No one judges you but your own self, who only wants you to develop in ripeness over your lifetime driving this human vessel. Your unconscious will always talk to you in symbolic language; it will use dirty clothes on the floor, dust everywhere, un-attended-to bed, in the most vulnerable sanctuary that you repose & repair in, to reflect to you your inner turmoil that needs your attention & full awareness. Put your own house in order, both inner + outer; get your priorities right...starting with developing a right relationship with self. House usually sorts itself out as a natural consequence of returning to being in balance.
All you say is profoundly true…. I had good parents and learned early in life to make my bed. I don’t think there’s ever been a single day in my life when I haven’t made my bed as soon as I get up. I agree with you that it is the foundation of a disciplined life. I make my bed, wash my face, brush my hair and get dressed, then meditation whilst the world is still waking up - sublime, and lays the foundation for a peace filled day….thank you again for your insight….blessings.
Wonderful Joan. thank you for sharing!
It makes totally sense now why "home tasks" are the first thing therapists told depressive people to do. I'm a depression survivor that didn't do their bed because of it so yes, I can tell this helps! When your surroundings are "healthy" your brain understands it as you're healthy too. It may take years to recover but it's seriously worth it.
Thank you so much for sharing this Paula. When I work with teens, this is one of the first things I assess as well as it directly relates to their mental health. Cleaning the room can make such a big difference :-)
What is objectively unhealthy about an unmade bed?
@@paulawolanski3237 My roommates and I have a dog and a cat ... I prefer not to sleep with their fur on my sheets. Mentally I thing it instills a good habit. Something to build from in other areas of life.
I'm depressed survivor as well and I can confirm this. Hope we will recover and be a better person day by day. 🙏
@@paulawolanski3237 it retains body odor and home dust. If you live in a hot country like me, it gets worse; if you live in the country side or poorly urbanized areas it can host insects. It works basically as clothes. You don't go outside with your clothes wrinkled and with body odor right? Well, it's the same with beds.
I have always made my bed nice and neat every day since I was old enough to make my bed. Loved seeing a well made bed however that all changed 3 months ago when I got a kitten, I still make my bed in the morning and then kitty bounces all over it. I have now learned to enjoy kitty more than a well made bed.
wonderful :)
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@@love-yh8ki What is your point??
I made my bed a safe space over the past three years. Before I used to suffer from depression, anxiety and a lot of other worries, especially during bedtime. I started getting out of bed each time I had negative thoughts. I’d go to my balcony and think there. Now three years later, I have trained myself to actually feel happy and rested in bed. I am allowed to have negative thoughts, just not in my bed. Part of that practice is making your bed❤️
wonderful. thank you for sharing Sophia. I'm glad things are better :)
@@nickkeomahavong01 thank you for your reply, And I’m doing good! My best friend passed away recently and I decided to make a special place for her on my balcony, so I can spend time with her there whenever I’m alone. The moral of the story is that you can get through a lot, just by being kind and taking good care of yourself❤️
This reminds me that "small" things we do are not "trivial". Thank you.
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"The actions that we do just has consequences, they're not good, they're not bad, but just consequences."
Well said.
Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you so much
“How you do anything is how you do everything”
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as I believe and think so will I act
I agree %100.
Also, it doesn't matter what you do, it matters how much love you put into it.
200! Wrote this down in my notes as a piece of mental tech that seems to have drifted away. But read this comment after... Cool- thank you , enjoy the channel :)
Okay I'm Scenario 1 and what do I struggle with? Procrastination!! Crazyyyy how accurate this was 😶
Haha. I'm glad we found the connection ☺️ but it's ok, in Buddhism we say just 1. Stop doing that habit and the 2. Start doing the new good habit now ☺️
me as well!
Proscrastination is resistance. It’s all it really is. There is a great book called ‘the war of art’. It really simplifies the understandings and makings of procrastination🌞
Same
yes 😶 it's like he knows 🙏🏼 love this buddha teachings ❤️
I always make me bed every morning as soon as I wake up. My former boyfriend always made the comment that I was wasting my time and didn't need to make the bed since I would be sleeping in it again that night. I told him it was something I like to do and that it made me feel I was starting my day off in an organized and positive manner.
Yes it definitely becomes a habit 😊
I heard a funny story or read it somewhere, probably on youtube or from a comedian someone's kid asked "Why do I have to make my bed when I'm just going to get into it again?" and they said "Why do you wipe your butt when you're just gonna poop again?".... not quite the same but just say that to anyone who asks.
You probably shouldn’t have made it with him still in it.
@@jsihavealotofplaylists I don’t poop in my bed....usually.
I'm the exact opposite Words like 'organized' and positive ' make me want to run away. I'm actually organized, but I hide that from myself. It creates more room for a wonderfully spontaneous and blissful day if I don't focus on it.
My spouse is a mix between number one and number 3 and he embodies both of those characteristics/ habits. I keep telling him that there’s some psychology behind it, that promptly making your bed upon waking leads to a more organized life and better mental clarity but he always claims that to be silly. Thank you for the confirmation!
You're welcome Adela. Yes everything we do affects the mind. It can be subtle or very big, but either way, it impacts it :)
CAN CONFIRM!
im an awful mix of #1 AND #3 as well!!! Its so unfortunate 😫😫 and i have mixed emotions about it too 🙄🙄😅😅Ive never been made to do anything & its really cost me some lifeskills. i feel let down by those who DIDNT raise me! & EVEN MORE STRONGLY COMPELLED to create a better routine for my 7yo IMMEDIATELY....
This video offered causes to explain effects, identified probs without assigning blame & omg- dare i say SOLUTIONS?! Nothing silly here, sir.
I pray your husband grows more humble; I learned modesty & self humor are vital to TRULY HONEST self critique... and I send you my compassion, patience & love.
A quick tip to be able to make bed quickly: no need to put a lot of stuff there, you won't need them when you sleep. Simplify it. Perhaps use only 1 or 2 pillows and a blanket, that's it. No more items.
I used to have a lot of 'aesthetic decorations' on my bed. Like different kinds of throws, with many decorative pillows, in all different colours and sizes. It was such a pure hassle. Yes it's pretty to look at, but totally unnecessary because at the end of the day from all those pillows, I only use one 😥 Since then, I threw them all away and simply have two pillows and a blanket on my bed. Tidying it up literally only takes less than minute 😄
Amazing tip Ella. That's very practical. Thank you so much 🙂🙂
Less is more :P Good motto to live by
When you realize you have enough, you are truly wealthy :)
Agree. I dont need to make the bed because if this. I only have fitted sheet, blanket and pillow. In fact I dont because the position of the pillows obviously helped with sleep so I dont wanna move them. When I make the bed, it takes me forever trying to adjust to a comfy position.
I agree. Sometimes I think that when a person's space is cluttered it is a reflection of what's going on inside of their head.
Bravo!
Starting to fix a complex behavior issue of procrastinating with addressing the smallest habit of fixing the bed, this is such great advice! Thank you
Thank you so much terezia. I'm glad it's helpful 😊😊
“Do not be the judge of people; do not make assumptions about others. A person is destroyed by holding judgments about others.”
- Buddha
Your point... make your bed...
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Thank you. Because I found this to be profoundly discouraging.
It is not judgement . It is performing an action with positive intention and receiving positive results . Quoting Buddha is a positive inspiration . Thank you . You , yourself as much as anyone in the entire universe deserve your love and affection ~ Buddha 🙏🏼✨💕
I guess you don’t make your bed.
A co worker once asked me what kind of exercise regime I followed...I replied: I get up in the morning & I make my bed, I dust, sweep, clean my bathroom/kitchen, I take out the garbage, I walk to work & back home. I love to make my bed...I love changing the sheets & airing out my pillows, blanket, duvet ...I like choosing what colors to pick when I change my bedding...more often I choose white. Today I chose different shades of blue for bedding. It is so satisfying....luxurious; & I try not to hang out in my bedroom but keep it for my meditation/prayer time, & sleep. Cheers from Italy.
Beautiful 😊😊 keep up the great work
I thought I was the only one, except the walking to work and back. I had 4 long haired cats so vacuuming every morning was a must. I could never sleep in an unmade bed..it messes with my head.
@@brandonnguyen9555 what you say definitely has some truth to it, because I'm very similar to the original commenter and most certainly have mild OCD. The need to have everything in my home "just so" can be maddening, which is far from being balanced.
I prefer to make sure that my sheets are cooled down before making my bed. I read something years ago about bacteria and warm bed sheets and that got stuck with me. So I get up quickly, do some reading and diary writing and then make my bed. Then breakfast etc. and start of the day.
Beautiful 😊😊
I think I read the same article! I pull back the covers & let the sheets air out. I come back later & make the bed.
@@jengus1951 I pull back the covers too, but my grandmother taught me to do that.
@@jengus1951 me too
I believe in tasks, goal setting and mental tone.. However I was taught, sleep is a ritual. Before starting your day.. anything-a morning prayer is essential. After a gratitude prayer, I was trained by to "air out your bed", open windows, spray your linens with essential oils, sage, or burn incense in the room ( especially, when you have wild dreams). If I have nightmares, I change my sheets..as the bed "airs" out, you take care of your hygiene, and as you are dressing, or finished dressing to make your bed.(later in life I was encouraged not to put or store things under my bed.. Feng Shui) When finished always check your room, pick up and tidy. It really sets a tone for accomplishment. If you can do this..it helps your day routine..and mindsets. Thank you for your encouragement.
Wonderful ☺️☺️
Yes I agree, first thing open the curtains then the window to let all the stale air out and fresh air in, pull the covers off and let the bed and pillows air, then go back after breakfast and make bed up, clear away beside table glasses, cups, tidy around floor area of slippers and nightwear.
For anyone who needs to hear this reminder, this too shall pass.
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@@firstnamelastname8866 what you do to others, you do to yourself.
Love this. My Mom always said you were not an adult until you learned to make your bed every day. I've tried to get it across to my grand daughter that this is important. She thinks I'm nuts. You validate me and my Mom.
Wonderful Jan. Just definitely pass on good habits. It'll be one more way to set her up for success 🙂
I am both person one and two, sometimes I make my bed straight away, sometimes I wait but everytime I make up my bed as soon as I get up, I seem to get more done for some reason and feel much more energetic and when I come back to my room I feel so fulfilled and relaxed entering a clean space, I love your videos and I thank you so much for sharing your process
Beautiful Tia 🙂🙂 yes it does make a difference with our overall feeling. It just feels much better when things are cleaned and organized.
My child's 7th grade teacher taught the kids to make their bed right away when they got up so they would see a clean, nice space when they came back from the shower. My child then taught me to do it. I've been doing it ever since and some days it feels like the most powerful gesture I can make to bring order to my life. Making my bed has become a powerful symbol for me. What a great teacher. She may never know how her efforts to help the kids have helped so many others.
@@apushkal amazing, it really is a game changer
This is lovely. Never thought of how such a small act if making my bed could influence my life. But then our life consists of a series of small acts. Blessings to you Nick.🙏
Thank you so much Linda 😌 glad it was helpful
I am definitely person one, but sometimes I make my bed quicker because my cat only likes to sleep on made beds and she won’t stop meowing (complaining) until I make my bed for her to sleep on haha
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Omg, my dog should meet your cat, they could get together and discuss how they rule their supposed masters. They would have a good laugh.
Up to my 40's did everything expected of me, mowed lawn when needed, opened all mail, and made my bed. What did it buy me, well, life chaos ensued, lost everything I valued.
Now, just do what needs to be done, no timetable, never open mail throwing into a box, bed making is for bedtime, and see no difference other than less stress.
Only thing in life that matters is Love friendship, and helping others who need help.
agree
This was a wonderful way to breakdown how the habits we develop can have control over our mindset. We underestimate the power making our bed can have. Even just seeing my bed nicely made can relax my mind before sleep.
Yes very true. It's important because our outside world effects our mind ☺️
When I get out of bed, I like to pull the covers back and allow the bed to air out, have breakfast, clean up and then make my bed. It just makes my bed feel fresher, almost like putting on freshly washed linens. Thank you for your thoughtful video.
Wonderful. thank you so much Evelyn :)
I read somewhere that you should allow your bed to air out a little before making it.
Sure. That's ok also ☺️
Yes my mum does this, she straightens her bed with the covers back
Yes, when you buy a new mattress there is usually manufacturers care guidelines included in the package. Over the night the mattress absorbs your sweat so you have to remove the blankets to let the mattress breathe and dry properly so you dont get mold and other issues. As such making your bed is counterproductive and in the long run it could be bad for your health and the longetivity of the mattress. Our parents and grandparents didnt know better so they thought us wrong.... the bed needs to air out.
@@ayuumi6262 Yup - not airing the bed helps the dust mite population to flourish which is not good for asthmatics.
Yes, I always pull the covers back and leave to air, but I always come back to make my bed. I like making it look nice.
Thank you very much for your insightful information. When I was much younger, I suffered from severe depression, and the therapist said that even if I could do nothing else that day, if I could get myself up and make my bed then I could say that I accomplished at least one thing. From that one step, I was able to progress and grow and overcome my depression. I have made my bed every day since, for the past 40 years, and it was my first step on the road to learning I can succeed at life. I am very grateful to you for your teaching, Nick. Again, thank you so very much!
Wow that's beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing your story. It's very powerful. Keep up the great work :)
Just randomly click on this video. Not expecting that I'll change my life. Like omg...it's so accurate and it makes sense. 🙏
I felt the same way. It was great wasn't it.
Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you so much. I'm glad it was helpful.
I think this is worth it to take as an advice. I will start doing this everyday and let see how my life transform with in 3 months.
Beautiful Kimberly. Yes definitely give it a try ☺️
Hello Kimberly, couldn't help it, because you look gorgeous. All I really want to say is, for 3 months, you got to wake up and sleep on your own bed, no one else, because you can get used to solitude,(completely different from loneliness) self-esteem, and of course develope initiative. Peace with you and take care
I feel sluggish in the morning. If I don’t leave the bedroom, I will get back into bed. I make the bed next time I am in the room. If I was rushing off to work, my brain would be clearer. I’m old enough to know I can’t snap my fingers and turn into a ‘better’ person
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That small little nugget was the most profound thing I have heard in a long time.The biggest problems have the simplest solutions don't they! Thank you:)
Wonderful I'm glad it's helpful. Yes things that are extremely simple can be so powerful :-)
This is so true. Ever since I can remember I was up with the alarm and fixing my bed. If I skipped it something felt off. Like it was ruining my flow. I always have liked to be organized and I love fixing problems. This was so accurate. Thank you for this video.
Wonderful. I'm glad it resonates with you. Thank you 😊
"Make your bed, make your day". I have always said this out loud every morning as soon as I get up. My husband sees no need to make the bed. Even the dog knows she's not going out until the bed is made. She lies in her bed and waits. You are so on point!
Wow that's wonderful 😊😊
Lol! I love my messy, fuzzy blanket, stuffie, pillow filled, nest of a bed. 😄 There is nothing more comforting to me.
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There's a fourth scenario: I get up, three hours later my husband gets up, and I finally get to go back to the bedroom, make the bed, and use the bathroom. Meanwhile, in my pajamas, I've cleaned the kitchen, had breakfast, and started work (I work from home).
This is almost exactly me! Hubs get up hours later, as he’s a night owl. I’m a morning person, so by the time he gets up I’ve already showered, meditated, done a gentle yoga practice, cleaned the kitchen (we are a house of 9 people) and then begin my studies/work. Somewhere around lunch time I can get back into the bedroom and tidy up. 😆
@@lanenacoqui You need to delegate.
@@tracik1277 you should see the chore chart on my fridge 😂
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Similar to me. Made the bed after my hubby wakes up! Hahaha.. :)
Just listening to him speak brings me peace.
Thank you my friend 😊😊
I was raised from a young age to make my bed first. Mom always said, "It is the biggest thing in the room, make it look neat."
I am now 50, and though I have lived in typical American (USA) houses, my car, a tent from last frost to first frost, a hammock, and traveling the US East Coast staying in strangers' homes - I have very rarely not made my bed shortly after waking. Even during hospital stays, I get up as soon as physically possible and make the bed. I end up on top the covers with a homemade quilt on my lap, but that bed is made.
My bed is the single neatest thing in my life.
My art supplies and my creations (30+ types of art gear), my bookshelves, my plants and the extra stuff life seems to require (clothes, kitchen and bath things) ... mmm, I'm an artist. Everything is in a state of 'loosely organized' chaos 90% of the time - but at any given time something was just organized neatly.
Five times in my life I have reduced my total belongings to less than 200 items. I'm due to do that again. I want to anyway. But after 3 straight years of losing loved ones, I am on a different reducing my possessions journey. I'm still figuring it out.
Sadhu Sadhu 😊 thank you so much for sharing. It's wonderful.
Wow. That is what I want to do when I retired. How you doing that already. Maybe you have a good savings account.
Yes! I even straighten the bed in my hotel, although I know the maids will be in later. I just need to have it neat.
I don't always make my bed right away, but I know that when I do make it, I make it well, and I feel so much better about myself, and life in general, for the rest of the day!
Wonderful 😊☺️
This is fascinating. Thank you.Personally, I open the bed and take the sheets and pillows to a chair, airing the bed and the room for at least an hour (I work at home), and afterwards make my bed. This subject of making the bed immediately was discussed by my friends and me recently. They make their bed immediately. I like the sun to clean the bed for a while before I make it. Now I see perhaps it may be the seed for procrastination, yet how about allowing fresh prana to the room and sheets?
Wonderful. I think either one is okay as long as the intentions are there. Which seems like your intentions are dead on. Keep up the great work my friend :-)
To me making the bed can be very important for it influences how much you will want to do during the day. What I mean is once you make the bed, you'll want to keep up the good habits and will want to do more during the day. I never feel right if I don't make the bed, I feel lazy and not to motivated for any other task. Kinda silly but that's how it is for me.
That's beautifully stated Matt. These little habits and wisdom you cultivated seem small but they are so big. Keep up the great work my friend. Greetings to you from Thailand 😊😊 stay safe.
I grew up hearing my grandmother say, " how you make your bed, you lie in it." My bed is not just a physical space, it is my mind as well. My physical bed is a yoga mat. But in the bed of my mind is where I think the organization needs to occur.
Beautifully stated 😊 I love it. Thank you for sharing.
Sounds a lot like Polish saying ''jak sobie pościelesz, tak się wyśpisz'' - ''how you make your bed, you sleep in it''
I'm a number 2 person....getting the bed made first makes it less likely to be drawn back into it..lol..and it looks that much more welcoming at niight when bedtime comes.
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I work in a bed factory. I make beds all day. Thank you for your insight Mr. Shaved Man.
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I am in awe how you contextualized making a bed to our daily habits. It is really a great message that made me think deeply and reflect how I neglected this small detail. May you continue to be a source of wisdom for us who are in constant restless and anxiety. Thank you very much.
Aww thank you so much my friend for your kind words. I'm glad these videos resonates with you 😊😊 I hope you are doing well.
It's my childhoodb habit. My mother taught me... thank you for nice Video.. lot's of love and respect from India 🙏🙏
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I have been sharing your lessons in my classroom. We are all tired, but what I an experiencing is grace. My students are so graceful and thoughtful. I would like to thank you.
Wow that is very touching to hear. Thank you so much Roseanne and thank you for the great work that you do that is so important. Please send my blessings to your students from Thailand and also to please remind them to be mindful of the little things. It's great to have Big dreams, but with that, it's important to have a strong solid foundation. So diligently take time to do their inner work. Also, they have a wonderful teacher. Keep up the great work my friend :-)
Hi Roxanne. If it's not too much to ask, I would love to get your feedback on yourself, your school, your students, what or how you've been able to integrate the videos, and feedback of your students. That would be wonderful. If you're interested, you can shoot an email to therapywithnick@gmail.com 😊😊 thank you
I usually get up, open the window to air the room while I go to the bathroom. After that I make up my bed. But I always kept it simple, 2 pillows and a blanket. No decoration stuff needed. I opt for nice home textiles instead.
That's perfect Inge. Keep up the great work 😊
As a person who's allergic to dust mites, can't imagine not letting the bed get some air and doing it on the spot
I should start opening my window in the morning
I’m so glad I discovered your channel a few days ago! I’ve actually been struggling with procrastination so hearing that the root cause is similar to the first scenario was truly a wake up call (pun intended) for me and I truly appreciate this gentle reminder. Thank you so much for this, Nick! I hope you have a good day, keep well and safe.
Wonderful. Yes please try these out and keep us updated on your progress. And welcome to the channel my friend :-)
My grandmother was pretty strict about not making the bed until the bed was cold so that the heat wouldn't get trapped and cause like bug issues or something, I never reflected on the fact that it was hardwired in me from her to wait for the bed to cool before I make the bed. Very interesting, I'm glad I was reminded to question my habits. Thank you. :)
Thank you for sharing Ambi. That's very interesting. I have never heard of that before. It's so interesting how our culture and upbringing impacts our habits.
I was told by a physician to wait a bit before making the bed, letting the bed cool and air out. It had something to do with allergies and minimizing symptoms. Your grandmother might have been on to something. Very interesting.
My mother always opened up the bed, and then the window and would go back to make the bed later, to let the bed air out.
Taking care of the bed by spreading the blanket to better air out and opening the window right after waking up still takes discipline, so I believe the positive effect holds here as well
I just wrote that and saw your comment! Also only referring to men - yet it is women with the wisdom here!
The bed analogy is unskilful which is why these new monks are not the ones to entrust your precious life with.
I've always felt that when you hear truth, you cannot deny it, it just is. This, just is. My mind is blown - wow and thank you 🙏🏾
sadhu sadhu. thank you so much Ali. Glad it resonates 🙂🙂🙂
I loved this video because I already new I tend to procastinate in the mornings, staying in bed for half an our with the clock ringing, and then having to hurry up for everything and making the bed in one minute and in any way. But what I loved of the video is that I could observe my day and see the habit of procastination beyond the morning moment, observing small behaviors that seemed meaningless but that were part of the pattern! So it showed me the path. It's been a week now that I'm changing it, waking up when the clock rings, just with the sunrise, appreciating it and meditating after breakfats without having to rush, and not only I feel so much better, but also much more in balance, as I'am changing the entire habit, all small behaviors. So, THANK YOU Nick
Wonderful Laura. Thank you for sharing with us. It's great :)
I'm in my 50's. I remember my mom trying to teach my brother and me to make our beds, but I guess she gave up, because she made it most of the time. Even when I came home after graduating from college, she would go into my room and make my bed, all the way up into my 30's, when I finally could afford to buy a condo. So now I hardly ever make my bed.
And I love my mother and late father, but do struggle with procrastination, perfectionism and a lot of insecurities. I think kids need their parents to patiently help them learn skills rather than doing most practical tasks for them, so that they start adulthood knowing they have skills.
thank you for sharing julia 🙂🙂
My type of person is not of the three: I always make my bed before I leave home in the morning -- I don't like an unmade bed. But when I make my bed depends on the morning. I need "my time" in the morning so I get up 1.5 hours before I have to be at work. I read, I plan, I write, when no one is awake but me. I love the morning hours -- they are meditative and contemplative for me.
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Wow, this explanation is so accurate. I never made my bed in the morning. I applied that habit into ALL aspects of my life. Now I make my bed... My life is a lot better, I learned to be more present in my life by being organized and nixing my bad habits.
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I am person #1 and I'm highly motivated, never procrastinate, very organized, and people count on me to get the job done. So I guess I'm the exception to your video.
Wonderful :)
I feel so much more peace and happiness when I listen to you ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️
Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you so much Devin for your kind words. hope you are doing well.
@@nickkeomahavong01 what is sadhu sadhu?
What is the meaning of sadhu?
I am type 1. Its true. I struggled with procrastination. I am glad I viewed this video. I am determined to move to type 2 . Thks Ven Nick.
Yesssss! You got this koksing 😊
Dang I need to make my bed 🛏 never thought about it like this thanks
You’re welcome ☺️
Thank you for helping me direct the last part of my life! I am 78 yo & am structuring how I want it to go. I love your idea of living my true life, the one that is nature to me.
The style of wake up/ bed making is
*Wake up
*Bath room
*Give me. A pat on back for love Kindness I have done.
*listen to chanting
* make bed
* wash face etc.
* order bed room
* meditate
I have started to become aware of how my bed making habits follow me in everyday life. Good things!
Bless you, Ven. Nick!
You are so welcome! thank you so much for sharing. This put a smile on my face. Keep up the great work my friend :)
I make my bed right after the bathroom, which is my first need. I comb my hair, dress myself, brush my teeth and feed my cat. I feel organized and it helps me think more clearly. When I return to my bed in the evening after a shower and turn down clean sheets and bedspread, I feel I can relax and meditate it a clean, quiet, comfortable nest I have lovingly prepared for myself. I wasn't always like this, especially when I was younger. I derive peace knowing all is well because I have cared for my needs and my families for the day. There's contentment. It's more difficult now as my health has declined and I can't clean as I once did, but I keep doing what I can everyday. Order has brought me ease of mind. Helped me think critically and take care of everyday needs. Wonderful teaching. Thank you 😊.
Thank you so much my friend 😊
I definitely need to focus my attention on completing one task before my day starts. I jump out of bed and think if I stop to do anything I think wastes time is unproductive. This causes me to rush from task to task never completing anything to my satisfaction.
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ooh, good observation. I think subconsciously I do the same!
I have been a slob all my life. I took your advice on making my bed and it makes me want to be cleaner and more organized. Thanks for the video.
Your categories interest me and I would be the procrastinator. I do make my bed each day, but I pull the sheets back and let them air out while I have coffee, pray and get ready for work. Making the bed is my last chore before leaving. It's my habit though and it DOES give me a nice sense of order, in the doing, and when I come home, in the seeing😊
There was a time when I made my bed sporadically and thinking back- I lived that way as well.
Thank you.
Yes that's fine. It sounds like your intentions are there. That's a key component as well :)
According to it, I’m person 2. But my reasons are actually different. I do what I have to do right away so I can have time to do nothing at all. I’m always finishing everything earlier than everyone so I can have the chance of having nothing to do. That’s pretty much my motivation 😂
That's wonderful. You receive the full benefit 😊
That's brilliant. I love this concept. Doing nothing is important too, I've only learnt this in the last couple of years. I waste so much time with procrastinating and also drag my work out, so it takes double or triple the time to finish. This post will inspire me to finish, so I can do something I want like walking in nature, resting, reading, sitting in silence etc etc. Thank you 🙏🏽
you sound like my daughter, lol!
I feel like I've been all 3 of these people in different times of my life. Very interesting
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WOW 🤩 I'm #1. I like my bed to air out before I make it lol. Craziness & it totally resonates.
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That’s so true, I know a lot of the type three. I’m the type that is like Jack In the Box, in the morning. The light comes in the room, I immediately pop up and get my day going after making my bed. Thanks!
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What about the fourth person who wakeup, get out of the bed immediately, do everything in good time but don't do their bed 😂?
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thats me, I didnt read the comments before commenting myself lol glad im not the only one
Yes that would be me. Making my bed is not transcendental in my life but I treat what is important in my life with care and responsibility.
Ditto. I’m a very productive person, and the rest of my house is clean and tidy. I simply don’t make my bed unless there’s a possibility of people seeing it.
@@heatherschramm But you see your bed...why is it important to make a good impression for others, but not for yourself? No judgement, just a question.
Everything is relating to the mind. Thank you for sharing this, going to make my bed since tmr. :)
Beautiful Phoebe 😊😊
Excellent description of the three different scenarios. I wake up and immediately make my bed. I am not one to put anything off. I think in an orderly way and would feel very out of sorts if I were to procrastinate. I’m a compartmental thinker, which keeps my life in order.
sadhu sadhu. thank you so much 🙂🙂🙂
Wow that is really crazy, on the first of July I told myself I'd make new habbits and change anything that I didn't do. And not once did I think of making my bed thank you. And I'm the #1 and you are right I tend to procrastinate a lot.
I'm glad it's helpful :)
I’m all 3 . . .depends on the day.
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@@brandonnguyen9555 I agree... I make my bed after brushing my teeth and I am very responsible and on top of my things. Matter of fact I am a clean freak and my house is always in order. My Son NEVER makes his bed (not proud of that as I have always set the example but then again it's his room) and he is very responsible hard worker and very caring.
Makes sense! Though it can still depend, you start to see the patterns in your everyday life. Little did you know fixing your bed right when you wake up could change those patterns slightly. Especially when you put other practices to use...
Wonderful insight, thank you!!
You're welcome. Thank you so much my friend. I'm glad it resonates with you 😊😊
Amazing video and perspective. I learned recently this idea that you just talked about, a couple of months ago, through this quote: ''the way you do one thing is the way you do everything'', that is something that touched me and is making me a better person.
Beautiful jota 🙂
Making my bed has never been important to me and I've always been a huge procrastinator. THANK YOU THANK YOU for sharing this information in the manner and context that you did
You're welcome. thank you so much :)
The first thing I do everybody morning is make my bed perfectly 😁 Then meditate immediately 💖
Beautiful. That's amazing 🙂🙂
Being a nurse I learnt that it is important to let the bed "air" before making it to allow odours and possible perspiration etc to disperse into the air. Florence Nightingale opened windows and aired the beds before making.
I'm the procrastinator! I hadn't made that connection! I always make my bed but it's after I wash my face, feed all my pets, wake the children and drink my coffee. My spouse has shift work and I often wake much earlier so cannot make my bed while he's still in it.
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Dear Bhante
Thanks for making me understand the importance of making bed. This simple daily core , may appear trivial, yet represents the general and overall attitude of a man towards living. A man making his bed just after getting up tends to be aware, patient and enterprising. A man not doing so tends to be lazy, fearful and procastinating. I myself was unaware of this simple observation for years. And during that period I was not up to the mark. Looking at bed making in this perspective changed my overall attitude towards life itself. I am experiencing a clearcut positive change in my thoughts and actions after I started making my bed immediately after waking up.
Dear Bhante, your teachings are simple clear and direct. They are helpful and healing.
Many thanks. 🙏
Great post.
Reminds me of the words "Accomplish the great by a series of small tasks" and "confront the difficult while it's still easy".
The habits of forethought, mindfulness, and love of self are all exercised here.
sadhu sadhu. thank you so much 🙂🙂🙂
Weird observation. A guy I was with had a messy bed every time I'd come over. He ended up being very careless with my emotions or how to treat me. Makes sense now...
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I’ve made the same experience!
I'm 1 and 3 and this is so true. Sometimes I'm 2 a small period of time and there is a difference to everyday life. I'm going to get back to number two starting from now. Thank you so much this was very helpfull.
Beautiful. I'm glad you can identify the shifting in numbers and how that impacts your life. That is great awareness. Keep up the great work my friend :-)
Update: I have been doing number 2 for 2 days now and there is a huge difference. I have been making strides getting my life back together. I have been cleaning my apartment and selling things that I don't need. I was stuck with that energy for a while but now it's lifting up.
@@Jemilia82 That is amazing, Jenni! ☺️ I’m in the same boat as you, and I will start today being in the number 2 category. Thank you ❤️ and thank you, Nick :)
@@subtlemoons3078 Yes you go! That is great. 3 days number 2 now and I cleaned my house from top to bottom. For the first time in a long time I have invited family over to celebrate my birthday. I'm even going to bake. Fingers crossed it goes well. Crazy how your life can turn around in an instant. Now the key is to keep it up and that can be hard but you can always get back to it anytime. I wish you so much luck. ❤
I know who I am . And know how I want to be.
Thank you for insights. 🌟
Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you so much
Venerable,
Thank you for all your precious teachings. They are very meaningful and a wonderful bridge to Asian culture and Western culture!
I feel really grateful to you.
I was raised as a Christian, but 20 years ago, I chose Buddhism for my heart, body and soul. I try to practice alone, in my every day life. I still have a long way to be "pure", but I do my best and accept it 😊
I am a slow and contemplative person and I have been making my bed everyday fo 35 years now. I am very slow in the morning and need my time for various things in my routine. But I have always opened the window of my bedroom first thing while pulling the sheets, in Summer nor Winter. I need to bring some light, clean the air in the room and let the sheets become cold and refreshed.
And I pay attention to wash the sheets often and keep my bedroom clean, not dusty. And without too many things and distractions. Like in the feng shui principles.
But I still procrastinate a lot...☺
Namaste
Thank you for sharing and keep up your great practice. It takes time but you're doing great 😉
I love your video post that was so inspiring. I like to keep everything nice in my room and orderly. Lovely vibe.
Beautiful Yasmin. Keep up the great work and thank you 😊😊
I have been making my bed daily since 1st grade. I do notice more things get accomplished in a timely manner and to satisfaction. Thanks for the video!
Wonderful ☺️☺️ thank you
Thank you, I needed to hear this ~ perfect timing 👌🏽 it’s time for me to make the effort now to get my morning routine back after a four and a half year burn out in which I lost all of my routines - your beautiful and crystal clear explanation showed me why I need my routine back and it’s more important than I actually realised. Thank you 🙏❤️💞 this was the nudge I needed X
Wonderful. thank you so much Autumn 🙂🙂🙂
Thanks Nick, your a good teacher 🙏
Sadhu Sadhu 😊 thank you so much my friend
Thank you. I was an active US Marine 40 years ago and making our racks (beds) was THE very first thing after waking. It says a lot about you. Thank you so much for the time you take to make these videos. Blessings.
sadhu sadhu. Thank you so much Charles 🙂🙂
I have always made my bed as soon as I get up. However, I do hit the snooze once. And I do procrastinate. Whatever the task, I find if I tell myself “you’ve got to do it now or do it later, but you’ve got to do it” helps motivate me to do it now. This video was very helpful. Thank you for your insight. ❤️
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On a continuum of learning, so phase 1, the habit of first meditating and then getting up to make the bed habitually has been my first step. NOW, with this talk, I see that I can move into phase 2 of learning and deepening my life practice. Thank you for this perspective. Transformation in process…
Beautiful nancy. yes give it a try :)
More important is to clean your bed. Most don't wash bedding as often as they should.
I cant agree more. When I was in college and living in a dorm with roommates, I saw this first hand. Here in the Indian colleges we didn't have washing machines so we washed our clothes by ourselves. I washed my sheets every 10-12 days. I had roommates who wouldn't wash their's for two months sometimes. They would turn over their sheet to sleep on the "cleaner side" after one side got dirty 🤣🤣
wonderful :)
So true!
while i agree with you, i think this is a privileged point of view. $15 at the laundromat for bedding is like 4 days of food for me. so once a month is all i can afford.
@@havvasweb A bucket of water and laundry soap is less expensive. Where I live, there are no laundromats. We wash our linens in the river and carry them back to our houses to dry, or we use a bucket in our kitchens in the dry season. I spend about $0.30 in detergent to wash my sheets.
I am no. 1 person. I laughed when you said that person is a procrastinator. It’s so true. I’m am one of the biggest procrastinators! I’ve decided to take your advice and work on being the one who gets up without hitting snooze & immediately make her bed. Can’t wait to see how my life changes. Thank you.
Haha. Thank you so much for sharing this Annie. That's wonderful that you immediately connected with the procrastinator. That's funny. But yes, give this new habit a try and see how it shifts your daily life :-) keep us updated. You got this!
I am a child of the 50's and I cannot remember a time when I did not make my bed. It would only happen if I were sick and in bed, which is fortunately very seldom!
My mother taught me that there is a right way to do everything ; ) And my father would say, if it's worth doing, it's worth doing right (and I would add, hopefully the first time!)
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Thank you. Guidance is ALWAYS GOOD🙏🙏🙏
sadhu sadhu. thank you so much 🙂🙂🙂
I felt really enlightened until I found out I’m missing 10% of life everyday!
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Oh, you mean literally making your physical sleeping bed. At first I though "making your bed" meant getting yourself in a situation that turns out badly and you have no choice but to suck it up and endure. "You've made you bed, now you gotta sleep in it." Nice video. Thank you, Ven. Nick. Peace and calm from Texas. 😊
HAHA. yes this is about the physical bed and one's habits. Hope you are doing well Rich :) Greetings to you.
Interesting. I guess I am between 1 and 2. When I wake, I check my phone for emails, the weather, etc. Then I use the bathroom, then make my bed. I am retired so I don’t have a schedule, but when I did work, I got right up when the alarm went off, used bathroom and then made bed, dressed and left. Always enjoy your videos..thanks!
sadhu sadhu. thank you so much 🙂🙂🙂
Wow. Thank you. I ALWAYS make my bed immediately upon waking. I just love how a beautiful bed looks.
Wonderful!