A "Minor" Problem

แชร์
ฝัง
  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 ต.ค. 2024
  • 💬 Discord ► / discord
    📺 Twitch ► / pathra
    Thumbnail Credit:
    / @dizaathebard
    DISCLAIMER
    Pathra does not endorse the views/opinions of any commenters and does not assume liability for any misunderstandings between any parties of interest in regards to this content, which is for entertainment purposes only and is not intended to be viewed as factual.
    Thank you for supporting my content by just being here! ^^
    PROMO CODE
    SteelSeries → Use code PATHRA for 12% off their site: steelseries.com/
    #FFXIV #FinalFantasyXIV #Drama

ความคิดเห็น • 188

  • @pathra
    @pathra  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

    Hey guys, try to remember these are all real people behind the stories and they are human and can make mistakes. They are going to come read the comments so please try to have constructive criticism rather than name calling. There are always nicer ways to say something vs saying it meanly to help someone learn and grow. My goal is to have a helpful community even on TH-cam (as hard as that may be), I don't want to breed toxicity with these drama videos. So hoping that I can do my part also to remind people about this. ^^ thank you for reading!

    • @markup6394
      @markup6394 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Not to throw shade but... reading some of the comments here, maybe it would be good to make this a part of every video closing? ... Just a suggestion ^^°

    • @spikytoaster
      @spikytoaster 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@markup6394What are you on about? I have been scrolling the comments and havent seen anyone "bullying" OP or whatever just people pointing out the obvious fact that OP was toxic and a bit manipulative to thier partner and treated them wrong..can we please not defend that behavior :/...

    • @markup6394
      @markup6394 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@spikytoaster It wasnt about this OP but generally speaking.

  • @SteeleKnight27
    @SteeleKnight27 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +219

    My favorite stories are when the OP thinks they’re the hero but they’re really the villain

  • @caly_ffxiv
    @caly_ffxiv 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +192

    The fact that OP calls themselves the victim after p much emotionally cheating on Mickey with like 5 other women is CRAAAZY. And that they submitted it 💀💀💀

    • @Naoto-kun1085
      @Naoto-kun1085 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

      It's insane that they have the nerve to say that they endured emotional damage when they were ignoring Mickey's feelings the whole time is wild

    • @Flaky1990
      @Flaky1990 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And OP isn't even good enough at gaslighting to make us think they're the victim. The lion, the witch, and the audacity of this bitch

    • @lordsaladito
      @lordsaladito 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      tbh i respect the fact that she had the ovaries to write it while playing the victim card

    • @FuyunobanaMitsuki
      @FuyunobanaMitsuki 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      OVARIES TO WRITE 😭😭😭😭​@@lordsaladito

    • @RicardoSantos-oz3uj
      @RicardoSantos-oz3uj 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      One thing Party finder has showed me over and over. Is that a lot of people have no situational awareness. You need to have someone in your life to call out your bullshit. And yes, everyone has their own bullshit.

  • @naru6929
    @naru6929 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +149

    Mickey didn't deserve such shitty treatment. OP didn't even care about her ex' feelings :(

    • @Naoto-kun1085
      @Naoto-kun1085 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

      OP was such a red flag, the way that OP called Mickey immature when the entire time OP was minimizing and disrespecting Mickey's feelings is so awful! Mickey should've broken up with them a long time ago!

    • @kiiturii
      @kiiturii 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      without the hindsight bias there was no reason to believe op was a problem. Like your friend goes through a breakup and you haven't talked to them for days, and your gf gets pissed that you don't prioritize fucking dailies of all things over your friend? Like are you not allowed to even have friends when in a relationship now? Jesus

    • @TwixxieHead
      @TwixxieHead 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@kiiturii ikr... thats such a petty thing to get upset over while a real-world problem is happening

    • @OMGKangelx
      @OMGKangelx 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@kiiturii heres the difference, it was obvious that op had feelings for this "friend" they constantly put this friend before their own gf so ofc she would feel that way when once again after doing it time and time again she is put second. If it was just ONE incident then yes I would agree with you, but it was obvious that op did this regularly and some people just have a breaking point where they can't take it anymore. the problem here was why didnt op invite her to dalies with them? like why is op constantly putting a random friend over their own gf and not even thinking twice to invite her to do things. she already stated that was her problem and op continued to disrespect her feelings. if the friends breakup is so serious she shouldn't be doing dailies anyways and should be focusing on her mental health, she did not require only op to join her dalies, op and his gf could have both joined her with no problem.
      op constantly was not including his gf in anything, that is also a real world problem, their relationship was also being strained and close to breakup, do the gf feelings not matter as much as the "friend"? a very real world problem of the gf's feelings was being hurt and op did nothing about it other than dismiss her over and over and call her immature, that is toxic.
      I can't stand the internet because people like you have these incredibly bad takes jfc, you hyper fixate on one thing and ignore all the context of the situation. if someone does something to you once it is meh, if someone does it 5 times over then yeah of course you would be mad.

    • @OMGKangelx
      @OMGKangelx 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@TwixxieHead being ignored by your partner to the point of breakup is also a real world issue,. they where also close to breakup, did the gfs feelings not matter as much as this "friend?" read my other comment too

  • @ADreamCalledeternity
    @ADreamCalledeternity 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +111

    Mickey was the only reasonable person in this story imo. Aside from the lack of communication about her feelings, everyone here was just....WHAT

  • @mayleelove4332
    @mayleelove4332 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +112

    Hey OP, sorry your harem didn't work out, you'll getem next time.

  • @Reaven13
    @Reaven13 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +52

    The fact that OP talked about how everyone is immature, but acting like a teen not getting all the admiration is just ridiculous 😂

  • @Naoto-kun1085
    @Naoto-kun1085 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +59

    OP's red flags!! 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 I'm glad Mickey blocked everyone because the OP was a terrible girlfriend, didn't care about Mickey's feelings at all! You deserve a partner who treats you like #1, not just another friend!!

    • @Chiller-pc1dv
      @Chiller-pc1dv 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Well, I think people need to treat their friends as just important, but to an extent anyways, but man, OP wasn't even being a good friend to Mickey either. Neglecting her, etc.

    • @spikytoaster
      @spikytoaster 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ​@@Chiller-pc1dvWhat are you on about, why would someone treat thier friends just as important as thier SO? That literally makes no sense. Priorities. Fix em.

    • @Chiller-pc1dv
      @Chiller-pc1dv 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@spikytoaster Why not? Maybe you're the one who needs to fix *YOUR* priorities. Learn the importance of friendship, and don't abandon your friends because you started dating or are married. They have feelings too and they matter. The relationships are different sure, and should be treated differently, but friends are still incredibly important. Also consider the fact that I said "to an extent." And friends can become partners too. Idk just treat your friends like they matter to you, instead of treating them like they aren't important and are just replaceable commodities. Also try reading the rest of my comment?

  • @LimeFaceX
    @LimeFaceX 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

    Justice for Mickey!

  • @CxBrowne
    @CxBrowne 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

    OP sounds exhausting to be around

  • @wingsofshadow
    @wingsofshadow 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +59

    Mickey is the one who dodged a bullet, not OP.

  • @Raianmicch90
    @Raianmicch90 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

    I wonder what op thinks of people being team Mickey 🤔

  • @KhallStream
    @KhallStream 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +49

    Lmao dang, you can rename this whole vid “Mickey dodges cannon ball” 😂

  • @BloodDragoon
    @BloodDragoon 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    OP really tried acting like a victim here, they clearly are a flirt and a gaslighter.

  • @pehpunkt
    @pehpunkt 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

    I think it doesn't matter if Lola meant those flirty comments seriously or not, if it makes OPs girlfriend uncomfortable then that should be OPs priority and they should tell Lola to stop those comments (writing this comment 8 mins into the video so idk how it'll end xd)

    • @Naoto-kun1085
      @Naoto-kun1085 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Exactly!! That's such a red flag that OP doesn't care about Mickey's feelings, if you love your partner then you would take their side and put their feelings first. Just tell Lola that it makes Mickey uncomfortable and that would solve the problem!

    • @Chiller-pc1dv
      @Chiller-pc1dv 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@Naoto-kun1085100%

  • @shunottle
    @shunottle 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

    mickey was so right to block op and friend group-- they are a whole mess!! the way op wrote this thinking they're so right for this fjaslkfdja

  • @FuyuYuki92
    @FuyuYuki92 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    This story felt really spotty at times. Apart from the Lola thing, I can't really sympathize with them. I also found the "everyone except for me is sooo immature" attitude really weird. Maybe OP has an empathy problem, that's how it comes across a bit.

  • @yorunighthawk
    @yorunighthawk 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Been in Mickeys position, OP was awful to them and really inconsiderate of their feelings all around, being so cold and rude when she brought up how she felt about things, vulnerable things like feeling abandoned. Also it was not immature of Mickey to block them all, she was right to do that after what happened after they broke up. I hope mickey is doing well and has been able to move on well from this shitty situation. Don't care about the rest of OPs story after how she treated Mickey.

  • @coloxrme
    @coloxrme 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    What is this genZ in-game love pentagon... Mickey dodged a bullet, and so did Serena's boyfriend. These girls are just walking red flags including OP. My god.

  • @lordsaladito
    @lordsaladito 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    goddamn, i feel bad for mickey, like the only inmature there is OP.
    Mickey dodge not a bullet, but a icbm

  • @Piretfreak87
    @Piretfreak87 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    Honestly? I don't really know what to make of this story. I mean, that last part with Lola was strange and if she really was an adult sending a teenager such messages, pretending to be a teenager herself then that is disgusting. But the rest of the story? Hmmm...

    • @tronaldtv7099
      @tronaldtv7099 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      dude said he's openly gay, not bi, but also has a gf? hm.

    • @Piretfreak87
      @Piretfreak87 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      @@tronaldtv7099 Uhm no. That's not what I meant. Probably because what you just said is wrong. OP is a girl and admitted to be a lesbian to a guy who became a friend of hers who is openly gay. You got that part a bit wrong, I guess.

    • @PrinnyLord
      @PrinnyLord 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@tronaldtv7099 Yeah, the story sounds like like fkboyery but OP is a female. OP is a Fkgirl. 😂
      Something refreshing about seeing that not only men engage in these types of jackassery.

    • @azadalamiq
      @azadalamiq 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Piretfreak87 op themselves said they was gay... then presented more masc... but is really a lesbian.

    • @Chiller-pc1dv
      @Chiller-pc1dv 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@tronaldtv7099Said SHE is openly gay, as in a lesbian

  • @fhavenai
    @fhavenai 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    mickey is the best always and forever, watch out for people like op

    • @Naoto-kun1085
      @Naoto-kun1085 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Team Mickey!!

  • @maxcrp5595
    @maxcrp5595 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I really can't listen to the end of this drama... We get the pov of OP and she's clearly at fault and the one who caused the most sorrow around her, so I can't even imagine what it would be from the others' pov. I can't give the slightest support to OP here. "Mickey", I wish you all the best though, I'm sure many people here would be most happy to hand out with you ! ❤

  • @datbui1014
    @datbui1014 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    seem like OP has a problem too. I understand you are friendly, but your IRL GF is the one close to you, you should care about her than others. Mickey deserves better

  • @DampySenpai
    @DampySenpai 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Mikey was dodging shotgun pellets

  • @XxTPHXKonanxX
    @XxTPHXKonanxX 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    .... I- have a very great feeling who OP is... 😅

    • @Milkjiest
      @Milkjiest 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      please tell, I play on Chaos too, phantom tho, i dont think OP said where she was

    • @BloodDragoon
      @BloodDragoon 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Please tell, im on EU

  • @TouHer-f6i
    @TouHer-f6i 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The OP is giving me "Narcissist Vibe." Lack of respect to their partner and values their friend or their next partner-in-line. At the end of the day, it feels like OP cares about themself. OP literally attract these people who shares the same vibe as OP. Thank God Mickey dodged so many bullets, she may have even dodged a Nuclear Bomb.

  • @ReverseLuard
    @ReverseLuard 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Everyone living up the the stereotype in this story makes me wonder if it's legit lmao.

  • @miserablepudding567
    @miserablepudding567 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Crazy how many people send their story in thinking they are in the right.

  • @gg_spyda
    @gg_spyda 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    To the comment at the end:
    "It will just happen"
    No. It will not.
    A relationship takes a lot of hard work and maturity on both sides ESPECIALLY a lasting one. The OP was hella emotionally insecure and literally gaslighted her ex.
    This was a story that OP literally can analyze herself and say "Yeah I have some mental work needing to be done."
    Leaving EU for NA was your escape from reality. You gotta do better fam.

  • @RicardoSantos-oz3uj
    @RicardoSantos-oz3uj 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Another, ""everyone else, but me, is an asshole". Story.
    Whatever happened introspection and placing yourself in other people's shoes?

  • @Mystraven82
    @Mystraven82 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Normally don’t post ever on TH-cam but after watching this video I had to say something. OP, the story is not written well. The beginning and end don’t tie into the middle at all. First, you mention Lola. Then we go into drama between you, your girl and other girls you’ve met along the way. Then we end with Lola which quite frankly I forgot about after hearing the sad story of Mickey. I think the story should have been about one or other story to be truthful. To OP, Mickey had every right to be upset. Placing others you just met above someone you chose to be romantic with and share a piece of yourself with is wrong. You belittling her about her feelings isn’t called for. Try to be kind to others feelings in the future as you wish others would be to you.

  • @Coolio_Ash
    @Coolio_Ash 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Poor mickey

    • @Coolio_Ash
      @Coolio_Ash 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Deadass she deserves so much better than what she got

  • @jenasys520
    @jenasys520 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I sincerely hope OP learns something from this. If you get too connected to people that
    you don't know IRL and on a game, you can easily be tricked. OP also needs to learn priorities. If you commit to a relationship or partner, you need to always put them first. I was Mickey once, and I learned fast when someone doesn't consider you a priority that they aren't worth the commitment. Its a 2 person job. Please learn boundaries, priorities and how to commit. Its fun drama to read, but its not fun to go through.

  • @mochizuki771
    @mochizuki771 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I listened to the story thrice to get to the last part but every time, I could only get until the end of Mickey’s story because I zone out after feeling very sorry for Mickey and not completely hear the rest of the story.
    OP probably knows what they’re doing is wrong. They’ve admitted that they were suppressing feelings. They also suspected Lola liked them at the beginning. However, they’ve convinced themselves (with the help of Lola and Serena) that it’s Mickey’s fault for Mickey feeling that way because Mickey’s allegedly “immature” and what Mickey is feeling or done is not caused by anything OP has contributed or done.
    OP also kept defending Lola for flirting with her because it doesn’t hurt OP. It will stroke anybody’s ego when they feel they’re “wanted” by other people. However, it clearly hurt their girlfriend who they were in a relationship with. Regardless of whether Lola liked OP that way or not, it’s responsibility of the one in the relationship to put boundaries. They’re the one in a relationship with Mickey, who is clearly not okay with it and communicated so but instead, they defended Lola instead of telling Lola to stop because Mickey’s not okay with it.
    Nobody should have to endure their partner completely disregard their feelings. Even if OP wanted to believe there’s nothing wrong unless they act on it, they were already playing with fire or spark? and Mickey clearly saw that and it was breaking her heart. However, OP just “bla bla” her communicating her feelings just shows Mickey wasn’t as important as Mickey held OP and I think it was best for Mickey indeed to move on and find a partner who will treasure her as much as she treasures her partner.
    If OP wants several non committal relationships, it’s fine as well but they have to find partners who are okay with that kind of setup. I think in the end, they just didn’t match in what they were looking for in a relationship so I do agree that it was best they broke up. However, it wasn’t Mickey’s fault when Mickey probably thought the relationship setup was monogamous and committed (I apologize if wrong), so it isn’t surprising she had expectations.
    If OP wanted to make the relationship work, they could’ve accepted Mickey’s feelings and thought of a compromise with Mickey because that’s what you do in a relationship, not just make Mickey “endure” for “maturity” and call her a child for being hurt by someone’s actions. It wasn’t like Mickey was barring OP from having friends and was super accommodating to OP’s friends so far as to become best friends with Dylan. Mickey just wanted attention from their girlfriend and if OP couldn’t give that to her, or even set minimum boundaries, then I personally think it’s best OP not be in a committed relationship and stick to having friends or be in non committed relationships.
    If OP communicated that their relationship was non committal from the start then I could still understand OP’s actions just a little even if I don’t agree with how they went about things but from the story, I don’t think that was the case. If OP wants to be in committed relationships then I think they have to learn to set boundaries where their partner doesn’t feel comfortable.

  • @seasonal2794
    @seasonal2794 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    The delusion is real with OP

  • @lilisettelufaise2025
    @lilisettelufaise2025 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    OP sounds just like a girl I dated who constantly made my feelings invalid and gaslighted me to the point of feeling like I was the problem when she would constantly flirt and erp with people knowing how uncomfortable it made me feel when I would confront her. I'm glad Mickey dodged the op and blocked everyone who interacted with them. The op sounds like a they have narcissistic traits mixed with a victim complex and a gaslighter

  • @csrjjsmp
    @csrjjsmp 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Hey Mickey you so fine
    You so fine you blow my mind
    Hey Mickey!
    Hey Mickey!

  • @limetreeestate
    @limetreeestate 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Not me in Chaos Moogle

  • @ATXN99
    @ATXN99 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    tbf op did abandon her when they were doing dailies together to talk to another female. op was definitely the issue not mickey.

  • @susanoo8468
    @susanoo8468 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Nah OP knows what they’re doing

  • @notoriousotaran8015
    @notoriousotaran8015 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Damn we got three different stories in one post. This is the kind of content I'm here for.

  • @yurahrekkakuronera7901
    @yurahrekkakuronera7901 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    OP is so full of themself. Mickey. You deserve better! I hope you do find someone who cares for your feelings and puts you ON TOP of the priority list (THIS IS THE BARE MINIMUM).
    This OP is just so... AAAAAA Theyre not even clueless. Theyre just so augh. Brother eugh. Op is one of those people that thinks kissing their best friend is ok while having a significant other.

  • @fuzzwobble
    @fuzzwobble 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    There are a lot of things the OP did or said that I would call foolish, but I'll also say that it is *tiring* to have somebody in your life who acts like Mickey. It can be so frustrating to be doing something completely innocent to just end up in a knock-down drag-out heart-to-heart emotional rollercoaster with an insecure friend or partner.

  • @Noah-gn2gu
    @Noah-gn2gu 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    It's really strange to me seeing everyone here say that partners take priority over friends. In my experiences my partners have always understood that friends in need take priority over partners. If my partner's friend had a break-up, if they're crying and hurt, I would support my partner in taking care of those in need. I *have* . Sprouts, people going through a break up, I would never consider myself more important than those in need. At the end of the day your partner will always be there.
    It's definitely true that things can *appear* different to one's partner, but you should be able to talk about it. It's impossible to see which way the communication blame leads but on the surface level, Mickey also holds some responsibility to give the benefit of the doubt and communicate before things become an issue.
    I can say from experience... if you give your partner everything what will you do when that world comes tumbling down? Good friends need lots of attention too, and as a partner you should be understanding that they need those safety nets. Even if you trust your own actions and want them to trust yours, you can't trust your own mortality.
    Mickey's way of just bitterly insulting her partner because of pent up resentment was horrible to hear. You need to talk about things before you end up subconsciously purposefully hurting your partner like that. Specifically would like to call out the part where OP said that Mickey and Lola flirted all the time. OP thinking she's a victim isn't right either though. That's how relationship are, sometimes you just kinda hurt each other.

    • @ninetailedfox579121
      @ninetailedfox579121 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

      People should help their friends in need, but not to the extent of dropping everything they are currently doing with their SO. Especially since this is the internet, where it is extremely easy to carry on multiple conversations at the same time.

  • @CTN404
    @CTN404 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Ofc it’s Chaos 😂

  • @beeIovely
    @beeIovely 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    i don't think your romantic partner should be prioritized over your friends. if your partner is communicating their feelings absolutely. you owe them care and attention - but not to be put OVER friends on any normal day. especially if a friend has pointedly said they went through something miserable like a breakup. if my friend needs me then i will be there. mickey should have communicated early on that she was feeling pushed aside so that the problem could be addressed. some people need that clarity. /i'm/ the type of person who needs that clarity. and it's never - EVER because i don't care. it's because i don't read tone as well as others and subtext is completely lost on me. i've had WONDERFUL partners and currently have friends who will tell me point blank what it is they need. it's healthy and i'm glad we can understand one anothers needs
    HOWEVER:
    - OP emotionally cheated. she's scum
    - OP should NOT have ripped into her ex like that. completely unacceptable and belittling language
    - once it was unmistakable that mickey was uncomfortable, a conversation should have happened. mickey should have said something from the jump, yes. but at a certain point OP /KNEW/ mickey was uncomfortable. her behavior following that was awful
    - lola is nuts

    • @azadalamiq
      @azadalamiq 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      hate to say but, ya you put your relationship first. No one is perfect and not everyone has perfect communication. Emotions can drive impulses. We all come from differing backgrounds, so some have an easier time then other expressing themselves. Some try not to rock the boat and simply suffer i silence. As a partner you need to pick up o things and be aware of sudden changes in behavior.
      if your partner ness a voice call suddenly w/o a word you check in with them and ask, whats up.
      Sometimes friends can be overly needy and not respect your relationship.

    • @beeIovely
      @beeIovely 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@azadalamiq i said nothing about friends being overly needy. if a friend is overly needy that’s a different issue that also would need to be addressed.
      it’s different strokes for different folks, but to ME it’s incredibly disrespectful to hold a romantic relationship over friendships. my friends are also worth time, effort, care and love. i can give them that while also appreciating the unique companionship that my partner gives me.
      if my partner is upset with me they can tell me. to me it isn’t always obvious and it’s unfair to expect someone - friend or partner - to be a mindreader. like you said; people come from different backgrounds. i am autistic and am predispositioned to miss out on subtext. as are most of my friends, as was my lovely partner of six years. i cannot train myself to learn your body language unless you communicate like an adult.
      i understand having difficulties with that as well (emotion driven impulses,) but i trained myself to dial back on those and tell people what was wrong. regardless of my background it isn’t fair to leave people wondering. the same goes for everyone regardless of their past. it’s alright to struggle - but you can’t expect people to react positively to it every time.
      some might seek a relationship where they’re prioritized. that’s up to them to find and enjoy it to their tastes. i personally dislike it.

  • @Kitkat5335
    @Kitkat5335 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This story just shows how there is habitual lying, emotional detachment, and constant need for something new and exciting for some. Just being blunt here, OP wasn't the heroine in this story, they were just another villain in a group of them casting shade on each other for basically the same thing they were doing in varying degrees. I'd tell OP to take a moment to stand back like they are not the person telling the story and think about how they would judge if it was another person.

  • @thejinks-lx4qf
    @thejinks-lx4qf 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Op let the fact that 2 girls like them get to their head, you can’t be that oblivious to the situation

  • @restlessfae2407
    @restlessfae2407 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Dear OP, I hope you are reading this and understand that emotional cheating IS a thing and it can hurt your partner. They may not show it openly and may say some sly stuff so they don't come off as a jealous "clingy" partner. But understand that love and relationships have conditions for some people. Don't let anyone tell you differently love in a relationship is unconditional, it's not. It would be best if you discussed those conditions with your partner so that the two of you can come to an understanding. Neglecting your partner to prioritize your friends can hurt your partner. Also, if your friends know you are in a committed relationship, they should respect that. Proper communication is the key. Just simply dismissing your ignoring your partner's feelings and ruin the relationship. - Sincerely A Scholar Lalafall Potatoe.

  • @Oceanstalker
    @Oceanstalker 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    That is the story of a narcissist if I ever did see one. Both Lola and ESPECIALLY OP.

  • @squ33shypanda37
    @squ33shypanda37 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    (If you read plz read all of it, it is an in-depth breakdown of the story) In the beginning I feel bad for OP, and I feel like they’re miss judged with the intent to finding partners but it sounds like they just really like to make friends. And I’m not the biggest fan of mickey with her current passive entitlement, yes you put your gf first but it shouldn’t be used against you especially if you’re trying to help others and you communicated that. And even when other people want to to interact with OP its seen as something negative and flirty and it believe they just want to keep up with friends as much as their gf instead of ditching them (the common scenario). However against op it seems like they didn’t care as much about mickys emotions about the game and being left in game hurts as much IRL and I would say it also seemed like a lot very bad communication on both ends. After OPs breakup I don’t know the in-depth of but I can actually see Nicky not being a good GF as it seems she was very entitled and clingy. it’s reasonable that they still liked Serena , but it was good on OP to set boundaries while Serena had a bf. Sometimes you find out that a relation ship doesn’t workout sooner and sometimes it’s for the best, not being friends after that is all too common, sorry op. In the end of the story I don’t have much to say I’m neutral, and that op was right for leaving Lola and confronting her that’s pretty insane what she did. however revisiting the being I’ll have to say the I’m doubling down on my opinion about micky and infact is mostly acting out of jealousy the part of the aether currents was silly bc they’re arnt a necessity either, I understand being jealous of the flirting but instantly leaving a VC is a bit much especially if micky does the same thing but flirts back. Nicky’s comment about Dylan was supper of putting and seemed like it was some way to joke and cope with her jealousy. As for her meeting for Serena I understand a simple friendship bonding over music it happens in faerie all the time, love thoes gays. Also checking up on a friend after the breakup I would say is normal and ide also be excited for some juicy drama. As for their fight about queues , micky can wait but it’s obvious that they want the attention instead and are also jealous of the amount of attention Op gets in the friend group. With that and some entitlement issues I would believe OP when she said she was tired of emotional abuse outside of game, Mickey kinda felt like a hypocrite.

  • @markup6394
    @markup6394 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    11:35 --- I have/had a friend in FF14 like that, too: he would just collect people into his CWL just from running dungeons with them and striking a conversation... Not to do anything with it but he would just put people there, especially Sprouts, so they had a network to start with. Sadly he stopped playing a year ago. He seems a bit clingy but regardless, I still write him eyvery odd week or month, just to check if he's still alive ^^°
    14:20 --- I think, Mickey has been adding to the issue. After all, she flirted with at least Lola that we know of, mayby other girls, too?, so OP doesnt see the issue... neither do I, and yes, I'm female... Also, this is all happening ingame, we dont know how OP treats Mickey when they are alone together, maybe shopping or somesuch, go for dinner or having a date. I actually think its good that OP doesnt automatically focusses her girlfriend, but also appreciates and has contact with other people. We just had the story with the guy who scammed the OP and who was only focussing her and had no interests in other players. Isnt it a good thing that this OP actually has friends outside their love relationship? And again: Mickey is flirting with other girls but gets upset when OP gets attention? Sorry, girl, but... grow up -.-
    19:55 --- Hmmm... my take: Serena is actually Lola on an alt account.
    Okay, wrong guess. Still... must be me but I didnt see any red flags from Lola until she lied about the FC... which was unnecessary, too, imo... But yeah... dont trust people if they talk about health issues. If there is any take-away from these stories, it'll be this: never trust people who just dumb their health history on you :D

  • @goth.bunny.
    @goth.bunny. 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I hope Mickey finds someone who makes her their first priority! :D

  • @ratthew2843
    @ratthew2843 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    OP needs to understand your SO goes above your friends

  • @shoujoblush3234
    @shoujoblush3234 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    love these stories Pathra

  • @ShadowDancer_
    @ShadowDancer_ 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    15:41 especially the "time to go to bed.." part 🤣

  • @andik7436
    @andik7436 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    hi friends!❤

  • @thefacts4440
    @thefacts4440 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    sometimes i sit here just dumbfounded at how these stories unfold lmao mickey was by far the victim and dodged a huge bullet and yet somehow OP think's their the victim in this story after all this bs they pulled...i'm really starting to think people are just making fan fics at this stage XD

  • @bransonchic678
    @bransonchic678 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I love the viera thumnail he's so cute and handsome! What a great way to start off my summer brewk ty for the story.

  • @BlackShogun
    @BlackShogun 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Prolly a-minorrrrrrrrr

    • @sunnyshine8720
      @sunnyshine8720 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      certified raider? certified pedophiles

  • @peachymon4629
    @peachymon4629 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    hecking chaos thats my dc oh god

  • @LinkIsMine
    @LinkIsMine 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Wow this story was... something else. XD This is why parents need to parent, and kids need to stay off the internet unless they have parental supervision (until they become a legal adult), because there's literally no logical reason for kids to be online and there's some dangerous ped0s and manipulative people out there who will try to take advantage of minors. As for the rest of the story, pretty sure everyone already sees the issues with this one and I don't need to say anything else about it. XD

    • @lordsaladito
      @lordsaladito 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      i mean, it depends, if parents teach their kids its ok. Like internet is such an important place to forbid people under 18 to use it (although i think kids under 13 should always use it with their parents supervision)

  • @rasae4597
    @rasae4597 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    LOL I can't hear more, this is ridiculous. Mickey good luck out there, dodge people like this.

  • @wethril
    @wethril 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The fact that she was leaving the FC to start a 'lala - only' FC gave me bad vibes. Then hearing she was sending nudies and stuff to a miner... Isn't comfortable to know really.

  • @OMGKangelx
    @OMGKangelx 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I do understand that you can't read minds but sometimes people just would like you to put the extra effort in to help them without needing to be asked. for example, i live with my bf, sometimes he randomly does some of my chores the same as I do his sometimes, we don't need to ask because we want to help each other. I feel for the gf to be honest but she should of expressed how she was feeling tho, but I know I would be upset if my partner was spending all their time helping someone and ignoring me too. It's not about mind reading, you should already WANT to help you gf out or atleast offer before helping the other.
    also after watching the whole video to the end, the op is a mojor a hole and i feel so bad for the gf. poor girl... imagine your partner just not caring about you at all and flirting with everyone they meet online right in front of you with no shame at all

  • @Cynntek
    @Cynntek 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I feel like Mickey was the one who dodged a bullet. That would have been an emotional rollercoaster with all that. x_x

  • @tronaldtv7099
    @tronaldtv7099 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    my reminder to stay away from the RP community...some of you are weird asf. "girlfriend" "boyfriend"....mhm...pixels, remember that

  • @VanCDS
    @VanCDS 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Op is so dismissive of Mickei’s feelings. OP cared much much more for their friends than their girlfriend’s.

  • @tiffanycosset
    @tiffanycosset 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Micky if you read this I am sorry. You will find the right person for you I am sure, you deserve so much better.

  • @wm_wm4
    @wm_wm4 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This whole story from start to finish was a big yikes.

  • @pocketfluffal2134
    @pocketfluffal2134 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I find it interesting that everyone hard focuses on OP being a neglectful partner, but don't seem to care about the person that was sexting a minor? I don't know if it is because OP had already muddied the water at the point with their story telling by the time it got to that reveal, or if being neglected as a partner is just more widely relatable, but it is a strange response I am seeing here

  • @NoWorriesLa
    @NoWorriesLa 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    (m)IRC memories 😭 My besties and I would do the same -- going to naughty channels together as giggly preteens and coordinating our response as whoever we were pretending to be that day. Good times!
    this story otherwise made me very sad.

  • @Azaelias1.0
    @Azaelias1.0 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Oh man… what a story again lmao 😅 tbh I almost feel that karma played its part to OP I feel that how OP treated Mickey wasn’t fair at all and though I can’t say I haven’t trusted the wrong people in the past the whole under age minor thing between Lola and Wolf…. Yikes… 😬 thank you Pathra for yet another awesome story for us to experience ❤

  • @kouko6727
    @kouko6727 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Rip Mickey. She really didn't deserve that and just glad she dodged this XD

  • @DearestRabbit
    @DearestRabbit 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I.... actually feel really bad for Mickey with this story, tbh. 😅

  • @o.d.d.s
    @o.d.d.s 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Mickey came out of this dodging bullet after bullet. Also, how do you see your GF struggling collecting aether currents and not offer to taxi them? That shit sucks lol.

  • @tallfang4955
    @tallfang4955 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Heyyyyy, I was there for this story!!!

  • @Grimeygrotto
    @Grimeygrotto 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I feel pretty bad for Mickey ngl, she didn't deserve what op put her through

  • @Vulpeony
    @Vulpeony 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    OP sounds sooo much like my ex 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 I hope Mickey is well and finds happiness. She deserves so much better than OP. OP is mega shady, and their delulu is not the solulu.

  • @Bon-Gi
    @Bon-Gi 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    this took a bit of a dark turn lol.

  • @pauldemon1624
    @pauldemon1624 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Mickey: *doesn't speak up. Demands silently butler treatment from OP silently. Gaslighting OP. overdramatic af. Didn't try to become friends with his friends*
    Also Mickey:
    "Why OP doesn't love or care for me after out break up ?"
    Drizzle Drizzle queen. You don't deserve a socialistic vampire that only demand from you being her buttler!

  • @joshnoe8673
    @joshnoe8673 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    TBH it kinda sounds like OP is poly and doesn't know/acknowledge it. I don't think she's malicious, just doesn't really get why her behavior is hurtful towards her girlfriend.

  • @akirashiki90
    @akirashiki90 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm cheering for you Mickey

  • @kellevichy
    @kellevichy 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    MIckey and OP are both in the wrong. I do not feel sorry for Mickey ; she WAS acting immature and refused to actually voice what was going on and instead threw a tantrum.

  • @natdomo
    @natdomo 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Out of context but would be cuter if Pathra using reading book emote ingame while telling these stories imo 😝

  • @monieai
    @monieai 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    op is the kind of person i Dont want around me

  • @obliviouschipmunk6539
    @obliviouschipmunk6539 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    OPs lack of awareness is genuinely impressive. And that's coming from someone with my username.

  • @miguz2
    @miguz2 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I would have left OP ages before they actually broke up. Such terrible partner material. A walking red flag.

  • @AngelusGaston
    @AngelusGaston 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I know I will defiantly get some hate for this but I'm just speaking my mind.
    Why does that end part about Lola sound so sus like it was made up on the spot.
    Lola left the FC and joined another so what it doesn't stop you from running content with them as I have friends in other FC's it sounds petty that you got in to a fight over that.
    Why should it matter if she joined a friends FC she shouldn't have to explain everything to you.
    Know the fun part why would a minor come to you with evidence of her being a PDFILE why not take it to the proper authority, also why does a MINOR have your number to text you as well.
    It literally seem like that part was just made up on the spot with absolutely no thought besides to make Lola look bad, you told another friend about it yet never once thought it was a good idea to go to the proper authority with the evidence.
    I would believe it more if you said after all you had heard you went to the police with the evidence so this wouldn't happen again but honestly it seems weird to me.

  • @AmeliaChio
    @AmeliaChio 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    poor micky :c she was the real victim in here

  • @LadyWiezel
    @LadyWiezel 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Totally team Mickey, OP seems to like the attention abit too much...

  • @harukoiiwajima
    @harukoiiwajima 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    this OP is a clown I've met people like this, who are over friendly and pushy lmao some dude tried to talk to my gf, for months pretending to be friends and sewing chaos Lol she mean awhile she tells me everything.

  • @rjhick1
    @rjhick1 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Mickey is the only person who was sane in this story 😂

  • @Chiller-pc1dv
    @Chiller-pc1dv 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Mickey was the real victim here, OP being mad dense and selfish. I get being dense to when someone is romantically interested in you, I'm also like that, but she just neglected her actual girlfriend, and then acted like she was the victim? So not cool. Also what you did as a kid pretending to be older, is not the same as what Lola did, you were kids who didn't know better, she was a grown adult, knowingly pretending to be younger to manipulate children into dating and being comfortable with her.

  • @twistedshapeshifter
    @twistedshapeshifter 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    OP reminds me of my young self when I was around 16-25, was a womanizer just like her lmao. Hopefully she'll settle down when she's older and realise she was the problem not all those other girls.

  • @txallstarking
    @txallstarking 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yea Mickey sounds great but OP is a player I could not be surprised how this goes

  • @omoraii
    @omoraii 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    OP was actually the villain 😂😂😂 sheeesh

  • @HawkinaBox
    @HawkinaBox 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    24:00 Oh shit.

  • @crodo123
    @crodo123 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Mirc? How old is pathra? That's a classic