Brother never delete this. This helped me overcome my insecurity. I know I have to be an army officer but I think I'm not worth it so I was thinking about enlisting. THIS IS THE ANTIDOTE TO SELF DOUBT!
Currently active duty Marine here, signed a 5 year contract to be a Recon Marine and got Med dropped 3 months into training. Was absolutely devastated. Got reclassed as a 0633 network transport, hated my job for 4 years got 1 deployment and worked my ass off and spent all my free time training. Finally went to MARSOC selection, got selected signed a 6 year contract no bonus and spent 1 year and 1/2 in ITC. Got recycled and dropped at the same point by the same instructor. Had a bunch of personal things happen (friends die, family sick & hurt, I couldn’t be there for). Now I’m back to my old job I hate and extremely depressed/exhausted with 4 1/2 years on my contract. But I’m trying my best to fight the good fight and achieve my dreams still by going to SFAS in the NG when my contract is up. Don’t give up brother! You are still young!
Very honest video. BUT it’s not too late buddy you are sooooo young. I got out of the Navy in 92’. Was a drunk, got into drugs, homeless once and needed up in tech in Silicon Valley, moved back to San Diego in my late 40’ and now married to a beautiful 10 year younger wife (just celebrated our 7 year anniversary) and live on a million plus dollar house near the beach with a Porsche Turbo in the garage. I was much more of a screw up at your age. You’re young you have a great future ahead of you so use the pain to make yourself bulletproof and you’ll be fine.
@@jeffbridges8681you need more than emotion to become a seal. That destiny thing he talks about, everybody who fails bud/s has it. Yet that dream gets cut off as soon as they hit that beach on day 1. With all due respect this dude needs work if he wants to be a seal.
@@sc12100 what if ??? You try and fail it is ok! If you fail that is just another opportunity to continue!!! Better to have tried and failed than to ask what if???
@@jeffbridges8681 Dude what?? You slight disagree w/OPs statement & go on about creating our own destiny? This is kinda long BTW...... What I'm saying isn't serious obviously, but let's examine the scenario. He was in for four(4)yrs and stated he couldn't wait TO GET OUT, he was counting the days. He also mentions he did three deployments. This means he did depending; ship/port x3(you rotate ship/land-homebase) which also gave him the opportunity to work around all types of other branches ie: marines...and he would've at least seen SF groups; maybe even been around/interacted/supported in some role(depends).... Prior to getting out he mentions he went to see a movie by himself and it changed his life/mind. I'm assuming the movie was American Sniper based on the year.... And again before leaving his boss asked his plans and he says nothing out of fear of being weak? Failure that's yet to happen, lack of mental fortitude/strength? Who knows... So he gets out. Who knows what happens next but we see this video that he's making. It's been 10 years and maybe he's been sleeping in his van the entire time, he states he made mistake. He's talking about a time, a lesson, possibly mistake??? but it's living in the past if it even was a dream to begin with and not just some cool fantasy based on a movie. He has a blow up mattress and can't even fix the hole dude? Plenty of people could help him with that. I think it's a number of things but in reality It was a " I saw a movie & I wanna do this" Cuz he had plenty of time to experience the military and take action.
Such is life my friend. I did 22 years in the Corps and didn't do anything I had planned on doing when I originally joined. I think most people that join the military walk away disappointed in some way or another so you are certainly not alone.
No doubt. Wanted to be a winger, wound up 0311, for 22 years...imagine that. And in no way, can you live on the retirement, but I'm sure you already know that. Shooting expert and knowing fire team tactics sure as hell didn't do me much good on this side of the wood line. Such is life. S/F
@@davidphilipleasure great talk shipmate,, you are still young. Listen to those dreams, let new ones arise, you have a whole life ahead of you. It's obvious you have a good head on your shoulders. Don't let this mean ass world take you down. Let the adversity make you, not break you. Climb that f**king mountain no matter how many times you find yourself in those Vally's, perseverance conquer's, no matter how often you get knocked down, eventually you'll find that footing. You have that spirit or you would not have joined the Navy, adapt and overcome as the Marines taught me. No matter what, fight! I was an HM for 6 years!
The only thing I had planned was being a corpsman, outside of that, it was where the wind took me. MCBH was my final destination and I felt at home. I tapped out after 6 years so I totally respect your commitment devil dog. Warriors like you are the back bone to our military and as those moving parts come in and out, you guys blended us and kept those moving parts well oiled. From new boot privates to green docs and the constant suck. You adapt and overcome and I take great pride in my service with the USMC 3 years 3 months out of 6 years was either training or serving with you guys. Semper Fi Devil Dog, I could not have asked to be treated better by my marines from the Privates to my Lt Col, nothing but love for you guys!
This randomly showed up for me today, and well I watched it and I'm glad I did. I'm hopeful that this recording and sharing it was a start of a healing journey for you. Great lesson learned and I hope others hear your advice.
Hey man give it another shot. You may be afraid now but bravery isn’t being fearless it’s beating afraid but still moving forward. Your realization shows your growth, give yourself that chance to give it a try that way you can sleep knowing your future instead of guessing what if.
Hey man, if this is something this still bothering you, 1. the national guard is offering 3 year contracts, you'll have to go to boot camp/ mos school, youll get some work and a 7500 bonus. then back to your home state. 2. the max age to attend SFAS (Special forces Assessment and selection) is 36 for prior enlisted. that means is your about 33 you'll have 2 years to get in shape and train for selection. if your serious about regrets, then stop dwelling and take this last shot. You have one last chance to chase the dragon
Dont know how i came across this video as well but I've been living out of my car (fuckin toyota camry) between all over texas and now san diego near the base in coronado. I have buddies that are team guys. I'm a little older wont say exact age but over 29 (age waiver range). The mental side of bud/s is all about anticipation and how you deal with it. Example: I know a bud/s dud who said one of the biggest mental hurdles for him was seeing guys going blue recieving CPR on the pooldeck and being asked to do that same evolution (whether its beehive, drownproofing, 50m underwater swim, pool comp etc) You're sitting there waiting nut to butt for 5+ minutes until its your turn to go. one of my good buddies (active seal), passed out 4 times underwater between 1st and 2nd phase. He couldve not woke up, there are guys who have not woken up from the same evolutions. 2nd phase (after hell week and pool comp) during draeger dives, guys are swallowing caustic solution instead of surfacing and failing then ending up in the ICU for internal bleeding. Long story short you have to have a willingness to die for it. Guys that realize this DURING bud/s have a tough time with internalizing it if theyre not fully committed beforehand. My good buddy (active seal) believes many can do it if they had a gun to their head, but few are willing to do it and push the limits passed redline which is where buds takes you. Which leads me to another point -- its all about how you compartmentalize things whether its living in a fuckin car etc. you can choose to look at that bad or you can look at the positively-- Know that youre above the curve with dealing with being uncomfortable ( this is how I view it personally). Living in a car seems bad (it is sometimes when youre waking up sweating balls or freezing balls, waking up a little cramped) but in reality its really not that bad, things could always be worse. I'm in the process of getting my bud/s contract, stay up.
Some wise words from my buddy as well -- dont think just do. AKA push the "retard" button at times. He'd set an alarm 6 minutes before morning muster so it wouldnt allow his brain to start thinking when he woke up every morning. During hell week he said you dig to that deepest part of your being to push the ultimate switch of that-- dont think just do. Even if you've contracted VGE (common during buds) and are vomiting/spray shitting yourself etc. Thinking is wasted energy during times like bud/s -- specifically 1st phase
Im 23, just turned 23, first time I saw a seal training video I was 18..it caught my eye, I knew I wanted to do it but didnt allow it caause thats a huge push, 23 now..Its knocking at the door..Im going..your video just clarified everything, always speak your truth man.
If you do follow this man's advice, and I hope you do, be willing to go all the way to get what you want. Don't be half assed. I was in following my dreams, and you end up in the same place.
I come from 3 previous generations of pastors, and I’ve been raised to follow my calling. I’ve realized slowly over the last couple years of my teens(I’m 19 now), that I want to be a SEAL. I’m really nervous because I feel like I won’t make it or that I’ll give up when it gets really really hard. But like you said I cannot let my fear control my future. My ambition, my dream, my calling, is to walk this path and I want to live by my dream. Thank you for the encouragement
Fellow believer here - hey man, if God is calling you to that then do your best and he will do the rest. Heard a story about a messianic Jew who had become a Christian during his time as a seal. He really wanted to serve God so he left the seals and went to serve in some capacity (can’t remember exactly what) in the ministry. Nothing … NOTHING went as it should. He said he sought the LORD to inquire why nothing was working out. He said God told him that he had called him to be a warrior in the seals, not a member of the clergy. So he went back to the seals with a renewed dedication as he was now “doing his work as unto the LORD”. God has a purpose for everyone and many times he works through our desires that he gives us. I pray God grants you strength, courage, wisdom, and an everlasting desire to do his perfect will in your life. I’m a 55 year old father and it makes me proud to know there are young people like yourself out there. Check out Shawn Ryan’s podcast … former navy seal and CIA operative. Especially watch his interview with Sgt Penny. Take care young man! If God is calling you then go!
Good honest video. I feel you. I left some things undone when I left the military. Ive been very succesful as a civilain but there's always that little voice in the back of my mind that says what if I had done more.
This reminds me of how I thought I wanted to be a Marine not knowing what comes with being a Marine. I just wanted to do it for my own ego to prove to people and myself I was billy badass. Don’t get me wrong most Marines are tough. My point is that I realized everything in life I’ve wanted was meant to stroke my own ego. Everything I’ve ever did I’ve always excelled because my personality doesn’t allow for failure. But I also realized now at 30 that none of those things are going to fix me. I’m just a broken person and wanting attention and praise that I never got. In a way a narcissist. The military is full of those. But I will say I do appreciate your honesty and self reflection on how you view life in your eyes. I also was homeless after the corps and got a dui and lost my car and my home at the same time. Not sure your age but time does heal and make you more mature in previous thoughts
I counted down my days to my ETS from the Army I hated it too I also had a dream a destiny but due to circumstances some in my control some not didn't allow me to follow it. It's been hard to realize it won't ever happen it's like losing a limb you never forget it and it'll always hurt. But now I'm just trying to build a comfortable life something I don't mind continuing.
My son is going to enlist this summer and wants to be a Navy Seal. As his dad, it scares me to death. However, I know if I try to talk him out of it, he (and me) will regret it for life. This video is just as much of an encouragement for the young man looking to enlist as it is for the family he is leaving behind. Becoming a tier 2 operator has been my sons driving force for probably a decade. He trains every day, watches podcasts, and lives and breathes this stuff. He sent me this video, and I am thankful he did. And I am thankful for you putting out this video because it does cement that he needs to pursue this dream with everything he has, regardless of if he becomes a Seal or not.
To Mr @Djnznz, FYI , I served 79 - 02 as Diver/EOD. I was only child no father. No one is gonna hold your fucking hand. Hard truth, he didn't even give the 1st 4 years a chance. Getting into tier groups is where the rubber hits the road and u don't accomplish that in your 1st 4. Good day DJNZNZ
This randomly popped up in my feed and I’m glad I watched it. God has another plan for you brother keep doing your thing. Keep VLOGing like this, share your honest and genuine self and journey with the world and you will grow an audience. In a world where everything is fake these days, people will like to see some real shit, it’s refreshing. You will be able to monetize from TH-cam and it will open up more doors and opportunities for you.
Hey man, I really appreciate the honesty. A lot of people wouldn’t even admit that they wanted to go for the teams but were too afraid. I totally understand that you might feel like that part of your life is over and might feel like the opportunity has passed, but I 100% believe that you could still achieve your goal. A lot of people don’t know, but civilians can actually attend selection. If it haunts you that much I think you gotta take you own advice and hit that sh*t head on. You’re still young man, you could probably get your fitness level up with a few months of dedication. Embrace that cold this winter in the van and know that you’ll be just a little more prepared for those frigid days on the beach. Do it brother
Man, between you and CivDiv, I have really felt some catharsis in knowing I'm not alone. I know I didn't take advantage of my military time like I should have, and it cost me a huge mental toll for years. I feel like I'm just coming to terms with it. Thanks for sharing your story. It really helped me out. Good luck out there man 👍
Young man you and I have similar backgrounds. One big difference in our stories is I am 55 years old. Not living in my vehicle but the last 30 years have not been easy. I don't know your age but you don't look anywhere near 40 yet. You still have time to have another dream to chase. Go for it. There are many more chapters in your book!!
I appreciate you for doing and sharing this video. I was in a similar situation in the Army over 20 years ago. I had been in a few years then did OCS and became an Infantry LT. I had aspirations to go Special Forces but I was at an age that I had to decide whether I was going to stay in for the long haul or separate, become and civilian and pursue another dream I had had. Long to short, I got out, had a family that had already started etc. I do regret not staying in and pursuing further Army challenges but then again when I think back on it, I would have missed alot of my daughter growing up. At that point I got out it was the end of 2000. A year later the GWOT would start, followed by 20 plus years of a very high operational tempo (to include the 2nd Gulf War) and all the dangers that would come with that. Knowing myself just a little bit, had I been in the Army still going into the GWOT, if there had been a pivotal moment where it was a matter of life and death, I think (or hope rather) that I would have tried all I could to do my duty which could very well have meant that I could have lost my life for that effort and been further absent from my daughter's life. So the aspirations for the super soldier career is a worthy endeavor but to take on that endeavor you have to prepare yourself that you may not have a long life after and if you wind up surviving that chaos, you'll be forever changed and will spend the rest of your life trying to reconcile the man you had to become to live and survive that life... Everything we do has a cost. I watched an interview on Shawn Ryan's channel that featured Tom Satterly, a survivor of the Blackhawk Down incident in Somalia and stayed in for a 20 plus year career, making it to a Sergeant Major in Delta Force. Even though it was about 30 years after the incident, Satterly remarked that this interview would be the last time he talked about it because as he said "every time I talk about it, it brings me back to that day like it was yesterday..." He still broke down into tears recounting those critical days in Somalia in '93 where he came close to losing his life while seeing some of his closest friends lose theirs... Again, this type of life has a cost to it and it goes far beyond the glory of it, the feeling of accomplishment in making it into that life and all the adventures you have later. So yes, I still have a small regret that I didn't stay in the Army but at the same time, I know a little bit at least what the decision would have cost me and my family. It doesn't mean that you don't have something worthy to accomplish in your life. I believe in God and I do believe that we, each of us individually, is here for a reason. All we have to do is find that reason. That journey includes the decisions you've made to go any particular way in your life so don't look at your decision as a failure, again you just have to find your reason why you are here.
@@davidphilipleasure Thank you for your service!! I'm praying for you that you meet with a job opportunity that gets you where you want to be... I've been in the job search for several months, lots of fear about what's to come if a can't connect with a job soon but putting my trust in God. Your situation is way more serious than mind so gonna put in prayers for you!
You have so many options to choose from in your life. The doors are wide open. You are young and intelligent figure out what you want to do and go after it. All the best to you young man 👍👍👊.
David- Look up The Warning and listen to their Pepsi Center version of "Martirio". Not the studio or album version. You need the crowd audio. Close your eyes, get into a meditative state and then CRANK IT. The lyrics are VERY dark and would seem fatalistic, but it's a powerful stoic message of resurrection at the very end. I believe in you brother.
The fear is that if you fail BUDS or whatever the challenge you will never be able to hold your head up again. Consider that your inner wisdom told you to not do it to prevent a worse outcome. Have you considered that you have been destined all along to help others like you are right now? That maybe it wasn't your destiny, but a milepost along the way.
Other than that I agree, folks get enthusiastic about a topic and think it's their whole destiny until something else comes around. Your destiny is what you make of it, not what youre influenced by. Best of luck to David on his endeavors 👍
The first 10 years of post military service was the hardest for me. Some of it had to do with "What ifs?" Did I leave it all on the floor? No. Some of it had to do with "Where do I go from here?" During that time, I started studying mathematics. Mathematics led to some other opportunities. I also adopted two German Shepherds around that time. Best decisions I ever made. For me, I didn't tame myself from my training at one instantaneous moment. It was a gradual process of learning and healing, which my pups helped me with. They taught me a lot about myself. My pups are gone now, but I still persist. Because the persistence, the growing has become my life. That's what I focus on today. And I take it one day at a time. And yes, I know what my dream is and I am heading right for it. Fair winds and following seas, Shipmate
This was awesome man good luck on your journey I fell short in a similar fashion in a different branch and thought that was the end but now I realize I love homestead and my daughter and my wife more than anything else and I wouldn’t have it if I went the other route so I thank God for the unanswered prayers stay up brother
Tbh you probably didn’t miss much man. Nobody has been doing much the last 15 years or so in the Teams unless you’re in a tier 1 unit. Guys get way too wrapped up in the movies and stuff and make it their identity. Reality isn’t what it seems when you see behind the curtain and the day to day BS. Yeah it’s a cool job at times, but at the end of the day it’s just a job and it’ll most likely cost you your mental, emotional, and physical health. Homes and personal lives are a mess. Let it go man and go live a happy fulfilling life doing something else. There’s plenty more to live for in life. So go live it, good luck. 🤘🏼
Very real. Many team guys are realists, many signed up even knowing beforehand that war sucks but willing to go anyways. Just like how (my best buddy) knew the actual day to day life in the teams was and how unglamourized alot of it was beforehand before becoming one -- he knew alot of guys in the teams before so was able to see behind the curtain you're talking about. Personally im at that point though where im older (above 30), and ive exhausted a ton of other options throughout my earlier years and still have the desire to do it and nothing else -- have autoqual PSTs (not that means anything but just secures the age waiver and contract). Buddy still bitches to me about how he has to do like 30 slide powerpoint presentations on bullshit in day to day life (while at the base). And I understand alot of the experience comes down to head shed - hes been in a few different platoons and says his current head shed is awesome/treats them like adults, cuts em loose at 1-2 pm everyday while at home whereas hes experienced others where you'll essentially be babysat and doing a ton of BS admin work until 5-6pm while at base "just to keep the boys out of trouble". end of the day though there definitely is alot to life outside of the teams -- exhaust as much as possible for the OP. Take the cool factor of it and divide by 3 is what my buddy says-- however the dudes and some of things you do are awesome at the same time
You seem pretty young bro, why don't you go back and try? I think you could try the US Army and move up to Special Operations. This is coming from a recently retired Army vet.
"Discovering the truth about ourselves is a lifetime's work, but it's worth the effort." -Mr. Rogers Keep moving forward. It sounds like you are going in the right direction. 💪❤
Thank you for sharing your unique perspective & having the courage to be transparent and authentic in your message. I think the world needs more people who are willing to share their personal tragedies & reflections on this journey we call life. Please keep creating nspired content & putting out messages that will have an impact, this video definitely resonated with me. Cheers!
Thank you for your video. There is a lot of truth in what you said about fears. Most fears are like a jail cell you place yourself in while holding the key in your hand. It’s said 99% of our fears never take place, except we want to live in the 1%.
Like you took thoughts straight out of my head I feel im in the same boat, I let others opinions and feelings dictate what I did after high school and I regret it every single day, I stay awake at night over it , I fell what your saying 💯 im 32 now and about too old to really get started on the career I wanted, im not doing bad I have a small business that I’m successful with but hate everything about it
Main thing is finding out who you truly want to be. Not just something that's been popularized by media. Most folks focus to much on wanting to do something that ppl will glorify them for. Many folks do those things that they think are glorified but then become disenfranchised when they see the day to day reality of what it means to be doing that thing. It's always going to be different that what you imagined. Just being a SEAL, pilot, Marine, whatever isn't going to set you up for a perfect life. They still have all the same human problems everybody else does when they go back into civilian life. But if you're doing it for yourself and not for others, it's worth it. The other thing is the very practical aspect of it. It's much more important to focus on whether or not you want to do the tasks/mission set rather than just being a SEAL. Being in any community is meaningless without its mission set and I think it's easy to focus more on the idea of something vs what they actually do. I spent time as a Marine. It was definitely way different than anything I had expected. Both good and bad.
Trust me. You are beyond wealthy. Please don’t be so depressed. Especially like me. Please. Don’t worry about the world. You haven’t missed anything. You are still living. You are good to go. I struggled with very bad things. For a year I got mixed up with very bad drugs and mindset. I wear long sleeve shirts for a reason. I’d rather live for the Lord and be living in my car than not and be living with worldly security and not knowing who he is. You have had a valuable lesson. Such is similar with me. But different profession. You don’t have a record like I do that prevents you from many opportunities.
Your story is NOT over! While you may have let fear overcome you in the past, think of the great courage it took to make this video. A video that, for all you know, could be the catalyst for inspiring others to not fall prey to the same fear that gripped you. If you had spoken up to the CO, if you had taken the leap, you would not be here... where you are... today, speaking your truth for all to hear. EVERYTHING happens for a reason and you exist for a reason, for a purpose, whether or not that ultimate purpose has been revealed yet. Keep fighting the good fight and keep the faith. Life is a miracle and there is plenty of hope still left in the world for you, and for anyone reading this and/or watching your video.
Hey David! I was in the Navy 2007-2011 and had the same attitude you did in terms of hating it and counting down the days until I could get out. I started out in SWCC and was there for about a year but never got pinned. I went to the fleet the last 3 years as undesignated in deck department, then ended up an AM a few months before getting out. Went to college on the GI bill for 6 years and got a degree in international security and another in Islamic/Arabic studies and learned german and arabic thinking I was going to go to some 3 letter agency when I was done. Then as soon as I was graduating COVID happened and all hiring pipelines froze for about 1.5 years or so and I needed to figure something else out well before that because I was still living at my parents house well beyond the age of 30. Went to trade school for another year full time to do CAD/CAM and CNC machining and now own my own business. Dont be hard on yourself, and always push forward and take on new hobbies and side projects. Positive stimulation is important. Find something you are good at and keep an open mind with how to apply that. You are your harshest critic, and if you live in the past at the expense of the present, you will miss your future. You are not entitled to another moment. Hang in there bud.
Before you sign on the dotted line, please ask a current or former SEAL what some of his missions were. Stand by to be shocked. If you are, and still want to do it, you're cut out for it. Otherwise, there are many peaceful, constructive ways to prove yourself.
@@KutWrite I’ve watched every interview , documentary or just video in general there is about the teams. I know what they do and what it takes to be one. I’m all for it. It’s been the only thing I’ve wanted to do for years now n I’ve been training my ass off day in and out for a while . gave up a lot just to solely focus on this now so my mind is made man. Appreciate the advice tho
It’s good to chase your ‘dream’, but it’s also important to make sure that dream makes sense, is attainable, and contributes to the betterment if yourself and society. Otherwise, it’s (IMO) like a dog licking his balls…may feel good at the moment, but ultimately resulting in no action or positive change.
After high school I joined the air force while all my friends and family joined army / marines. I always regretted not doing grunt shit. But, all my friends who went and did grunt shit said they wished they would have joined the air force... Grass is always greener on the other side man. Navy Seal you very may well wish that he separated in 2015 after 1 enlistment.
Dude listen, if the last ten years have been that hard sleeping in a van, go apply for seal training because that’s what motivates you to stick with it, not going back to sleeping in a van
I'm 46 now, I'm a 15 year recovered heroin addict & a 5 year recovering alcoholic. I don't do a lot of things in life, I wouldn't worry about it.! It's not about what you didn't do, it's about coming to terms with the life you have.! My current dream is to get to the end of the day without having a panic attack then sleep well, anything after that's gravy.!!! At least you've got a van to live in, & hopefully your health, that's a lot more than a lot of people.! Stay safe out there & the very best wishes from Scotland 🏴 🙏 ❤️
I’ve failed, tried again, and succeeded in the navy. The grass isn’t always greener. Believe me, I think I’d rather be in your shoes, got out early and found what I actually like doing. Versus now, knowing what I want to do but can’t do it, feeling trapped to the system to get that 20 year retirement to support my family.
I went on British SAS selection and took myself off it when I didn't need to. They subsequently told me I was doing well! Something I'd worked towards for years, so have never stopped regretting that moment!
@@jeffbridges8681I had a disagreement with my instructor in the jungle. He accused me of lying. I hadn't and i thought they'll never pass me if they think I've lied. I was also feeling disillusioned. After quitting the chief instructor told me I had been doing well! Something I'll carry to the grave!
I had a disagreement with my instructor who questioned my integrity. You fail on bad integrity so I thought I was doomed! I may have failed anyway but I'll never know!
@@jeffbridges8681it was third week into jungle phase in Brunei. I was also disillusioned because I wasn't learning anything, but later realised it's not really about learning, and just about doing!
Listen dude you dodged a bullet, I wanted to be in the military when I was 13, I can guarentee you my aspirations werent as serious as yours, but life has shown me that you need to KNOW that its worth fighting for and right now our government is sending 90% of our troops to lost cause political virtue signaling warfare that is NOT worth losing your life over. Im proud of anyone who will die for the constitution and american law patriotic freedom, but that aint goin on right now in our military. If something changes go right ahead, but for now the front lines are on US soil and we need people to fight the good fight here to defend Americans from our historically overbearing and infringing government.
Im almost 25 years old, but i wanted to go to BUD/S desperately right out of highschool. Long sotry short it never happened. A large part of me still wants to go into special operations, so I think I will. Next year ill probably go Army and go for the Ranger Regiment. Idk. BUT, the point I want to make is that the time I spent between then (when I originally wanted to go to BUD/S) and now hasnt been easy, however I think it's molded me into a wiser and more mature person, by extension a better candidate for special warfare. This is an itch that i know with 100% certainty will never be scratched unless I just go do it, so I think I will. I would implore you not to wallow in your misery and dwell on this mistake you made, but instead to adapt and overcome. Get to a recruiter, explain your situation, and get to it. Yes you're too old for BUD/S probably, but dont overthink it. SEALs arent the only special operations unit out there, just the most glorified in media. Rangers, Green Berets, AFSW, MARSOC, etc etc. Dont think, just act. Drive that van up to the AFRC and dont think twice. YOU CAN DO IT. Godspeed David
You did more then me.i didnt pass the asvab,had bills to pay so I grabbed another job and the military was a after thought. Today I'm the happiest little quitter that ever walked into a recruiting office.
Don’t trip bro you may have dodged a bullet both Litteraly and figuratively. You still look healthy young and full of passion try to find something that challenges you both physically and mentally. Maybe a job/ career that is similar to the spec ops stuff that you thought you would like. brotherhood is everywhere if that’s what your looking for which could be things like a fire department, police, border patrol etc most of what makes the teams great is the trust and bond and never quit mentality that can’t be broken through hard shit together . There’s also cons to being in the teams as-well just like any profession my suggestion is find what you enjoy and do great at it I believe in you bro keep pushing let the past die and grab the future/ present by the reigns.
God Bless. I am 26, and I've wanted to be SEAL my whole life. I won't go into the details as to what has kept me from achieving this up to this point. I beat alcoholism this past June. Well as much as someone can "beat" an addiction. I've found my way into the Eastern Orthodox Church since then as well. Anyways, over the last weeks and months, I've been praying to God, asking him if this is what I am supposed to do. Last night, as I lay in bed, I prayed about this again. Not out loud, just in my head. Today I hopped on TH-cam and this was the first video recommended to me. I pray you can find an Orthodox Church near wherever you are. God Bless.
Last quote reminded Me of this: they say when you die you get to meet the best version of yourself. The version that accomplished everything you set out too. All we can do is be the closest thing possible to that only human.
I truly hope/pray your true purpose becomes evident to you. Even Seals struggle with purpose during and after service. Where is life taking you now? I was in the same boat. Would you consider reenlisting? I was active Army. Did 2 years reserve and reenlisted for SF.. This is a powerful video and message regardless brother. Be encouraged. Be empowered. Reach out to me if you need! (I mean it.)
To do any of that SF stuff, you have to be a {wholesome} thrill seeker, and really like doing allot of exercise, and not afraid of an early death or worse.
BRO, join the Army Rangers. No pool comp. My brother was in the 75th and loved it. I went to Navy Diver. I wish i would have gone with my gut and that was Rangers Battalion.
If you wanna turn your life around and fullfil your goal of being a SEAL then you still have a chance....if that doesn't' work out....have backup alternatives....Army SF....Marine RECON/MARSOC.....Air Force PJ.....#neverquit #beapro
Everybody fucks up, young man. Most many more times than once (I speak from experience.) Even the most successful among us have fucked up, or at the least made many poor choices. We’ve done things we’re embarrassed by, or ashamed of. We’ve been victims of things or suffered from things beyond our control. And there’s nothing on earth we can do about those things. We can’t put the sand back into the hour glass. All we can do is try to start the battle from this point onward. Even if we’ve gotta do it time and time again! From this point onward.
Young people who are lost right now, need to listen to this kind of advice. You are often your own limiter. Figure out what you think you are capable of and then reach out beyond that. You're probably more capable than you know.
If you are lost, unmotivated and not to bright do not - DO NOT enlist in the Marines, Navy, Coast Guard or Army those places will chew you up and spit out the little boys that do not have a little get up and go, some smarts and some people skills..For those still trying to figure it out there is always the NG or Air Force.
Fantastic video. A lot of people needed to hear this including myself. I seriously think this video was suppose to be destiny for me. For yourself, you still seem young, and they pushed back the age for a contract for SEAL
Dont give up on yourself man. I had a hard time figuring out life after the Army. That failure to try out for the SEAL's doesn't define you. Its just one page of the book. You seem smart and you are well spoken, forgive yourself fot not pursuing that dream and look forward to fulfilling another one. Most cities are really needing firefighters. Might be worth looking into. Hit me up if you ever get in a low spot.
if you're below the age of 34 ( can be waived), and have a R-Code of: R1 on your DD-214 see if you can go back into the Navy. You can still make your dream come true.
You are EXACTLY the right material- hardship, setbacks, frustration, living simply. You could be Andy Stumpf's younger brother. Plus an asset is you're not overbuilt physically. Get a lot of tone and buff up the strength but not bulk. Remember, you want to be more along the lines of a Raid Gauloises competitor, not an NFL Linebacker. You'll see DEVGRU, Delta and SF guys cry. It means your a healthy human. But brother- your eyes have the look. Go do it. Make sure you find somewhere to volunteer your time, too while preparing. Don't forget to also finish school if you haven't and put in for the Farm (CIA). You'd be an ideal field officer- you don't look like a typical American- you have NO idea how valuable an asset that can be in Eastern Europe, Turkey, Lebanon, South/Central America. Again- volunteer your time to a local organization- not money- your time and energy- you want an energy source for you soul to help you barrel over any obstacle and that will do it. On a bad day, you'll know you made someone else's better. Go carnivore on diet, immerse yourself in a foreign language a month- not mastery- but familiarization like children learn. Do this and we want hear back from you. You will be amazed and most importantly- be peacefully content.
Those bygone moments where fear ruled and we stayed silent still hurt. Learning to fear God and nothing else... Sounds easy (maybe or maybe not), but in practicality there's a lot of work to get there... The good news is that there is no way to do it alone. By luck or divine grace we've made it this far, not on our lonesome. So how can we think we'll get past this moment, this place, all by ourselves? I think many of us could use more prayer, and fasting. Myself certainly included. Thanks for your service and for the video, and may God continue to act on behalf of you.
Similar thing for me. I went in figured i would do 4 and then try seals. Difference is i injured my back and noticed it was never going to happen after that. However that doesn't mean im out of the fight. Sadly there is plenty of fight to be had here at home.
@@davidphilipleasure oh it's far gone at this point. I have been out for over a decade now. I work in the hotel industry now. I think it's a great industry for veterans. Got to deal with fire codes/systems, Elevators, Computers, Security cyber/physical and having some basic first aid skills comes in handy. I also get to help with natural disasters. I'm in Texas and had to manage a hotel during that freeze a few years back. Those damage control skills became handy since I had to drain the fire extinguishing lines to prevent the building from flooding. Organized a fire watch since the building was then susceptible to a fire. It's a very fulfilling role most veterans don't think about.
Same bro I was 23 in 2020 I was gunna go 82nd airborne Infatry and than Mabey even try 75th rangers rasp later but I failed as an and than just got factory job for 4 years now I’m 27 and don’t know if I can join Infantry airborne anymore and definitely not rangers , bro it suck’s and I’m jobless living with my parents
I thank you for this video man. My goal in life currently is to get to BUD/s in 23 and I feel like my time for this is closing even though I’m aware that you’re allowed to go up till you’re 29
When I came to this realization I was 22. Thought I was old for not having it at eighteen. Looked at Goggins and Kyle joining at 24 thinking they were old. Then I slowly passed that age. Long story short, age fucks with you. You're younger than your brain messes with you. Imagine you're 32. Then come back to 23. In my opinion, 23 and 24 are some of the best ages to be. This is because you're not naive high school eighteen anymore, but you have just enough experience and maturity to make your own decisions in life. Hooyah.
@@davidphilipleasure I know you think this, but in reality there are a good amount of dudes who are 30+ that go (statistically they generally do better). My best buddy was in bud/s at 28 (made it). During his bud/s class, their was a 32 year old who was carrying the fuck out of his boat crew during hell week ( he secured hell week and got rolled during 2nd phase, made it through with the next class - started 2nd phase with that next class). Tons of other team guys who went through buds at 30+. Obviously it is going to be a lower amount of 30+ who GO (life, family etc) but the ones who do generally do crush it; because you are more clear on your vision - if someone has a family/obligations at above 30 they would never truly consider going to buds (a vast majority). Physically, major injuries become less of a problem with age (minor injuries do but everyone suffers minor injuries during buds no one escapes them). This is why alot of athletes reach and stay in there primes between 28-33. Sprinters fall in that category specifically. Your major bones are fully developed etc. There are team guys still operating well into their mid-late 30's. What you endure during a workup is as/more injury causing than bud/s.
@@davidphilipleasure There is no escaping the misery of buds regardless of age. everyone gets it. Injuries/slow recovery happens to everyone during it - immune systems compromised etc. If you're healthy at 32 no point to not send if its desired still. Worst that'll happen is you may wake up a tad bit more sore (everyone is during buds). mind over matter at all times
With that said, who's to say someone whos 33-34 couldnt do it? being a seal is a calling/destiny. Guys get "lost on their way to the seal teams" all the time. Age waivers will scare some dudes off and guess what? they weren't destined to be seals and thats ok - not willing to go through anything to get it. (its very easy to get an age waiver if you autoqual the PST and are cleared medically/background wise). Not everyone is destined to be a seal, not saying you are or are not. But excuses are like assholes you know what I mean. Send it if you believe its your destiny
Good video man, but you need to listen to your own advice. You are still a young guy and more than able to try again. If you're not in the contract age range then getting a waiver is no big deal. You still have plenty of time brother, make good use of it.
In case anyone was wondering, I have a very strong relationship with God.
Thank you.
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Lets get you on fire breathing
Brother never delete this. This helped me overcome my insecurity. I know I have to be an army officer but I think I'm not worth it so I was thinking about enlisting. THIS IS THE ANTIDOTE TO SELF DOUBT!
Currently active duty Marine here, signed a 5 year contract to be a Recon Marine and got Med dropped 3 months into training. Was absolutely devastated. Got reclassed as a 0633 network transport, hated my job for 4 years got 1 deployment and worked my ass off and spent all my free time training. Finally went to MARSOC selection, got selected signed a 6 year contract no bonus and spent 1 year and 1/2 in ITC. Got recycled and dropped at the same point by the same instructor. Had a bunch of personal things happen (friends die, family sick & hurt, I couldn’t be there for). Now I’m back to my old job I hate and extremely depressed/exhausted with 4 1/2 years on my contract. But I’m trying my best to fight the good fight and achieve my dreams still by going to SFAS in the NG when my contract is up. Don’t give up brother! You are still young!
Stay strong brother you got alot to live for. I fkd up my dream while in the marine corp. Life is not perfect and it's okay.
Very honest video. BUT it’s not too late buddy you are sooooo young. I got out of the Navy in 92’. Was a drunk, got into drugs, homeless once and needed up in tech in Silicon Valley, moved back to San Diego in my late 40’ and now married to a beautiful 10 year younger wife (just celebrated our 7 year anniversary) and live on a million plus dollar house near the beach with a Porsche Turbo in the garage. I was much more of a screw up at your age. You’re young you have a great future ahead of you so use the pain to make yourself bulletproof and you’ll be fine.
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how did you do that
U have to be 28 or younger just to go to BUD/S.
If it was your destiny to be a SEAL, you’d be a SEAL.
You’re meant to do something else.
Live for tomorrow, don’t live in the past.
Not necessarily. I think we also create our own destinies to an extent. If young enough he should just go back and try out for it.
@@jeffbridges8681you need more than emotion to become a seal. That destiny thing he talks about, everybody who fails bud/s has it. Yet that dream gets cut off as soon as they hit that beach on day 1. With all due respect this dude needs work if he wants to be a seal.
@@jeffbridges8681 Do or do not, there is no try - Yoda
@@sc12100 what if ??? You try and fail it is ok! If you fail that is just another opportunity to continue!!! Better to have tried and failed than to ask what if???
@@jeffbridges8681 Dude what?? You slight disagree w/OPs statement & go on about creating our own destiny? This is kinda long BTW......
What I'm saying isn't serious obviously, but let's examine the scenario.
He was in for four(4)yrs and stated he couldn't wait TO GET OUT, he was counting the days. He also mentions he did three deployments. This means he did depending; ship/port x3(you rotate ship/land-homebase)
which also gave him the opportunity to work around all types of other branches ie: marines...and he would've at least seen SF groups; maybe even been around/interacted/supported in some role(depends)....
Prior to getting out he mentions he went to see a movie by himself and it changed his life/mind. I'm assuming the movie was American Sniper based on the year.... And again before leaving his boss asked his plans and he says nothing out of fear of being weak? Failure that's yet to happen, lack of mental fortitude/strength? Who knows... So he gets out.
Who knows what happens next but we see this video that he's making. It's been 10 years and maybe he's been sleeping in his van the entire time, he states he made mistake. He's talking about a time, a lesson, possibly mistake??? but it's living in the past if it even was a dream to begin with and not just some cool fantasy based on a movie. He has a blow up mattress and can't even fix the hole dude? Plenty of people could help him with that. I think it's a number of things but in reality It was a " I saw a movie & I wanna do this" Cuz he had plenty of time to experience the military and take action.
I don’t know how I randomly came across this video. But it was actually a real good talk.
Such is life my friend. I did 22 years in the Corps and didn't do anything I had planned on doing when I originally joined. I think most people that join the military walk away disappointed in some way or another so you are certainly not alone.
No doubt. Wanted to be a winger, wound up 0311, for 22 years...imagine that. And in no way, can you live on the retirement, but I'm sure you already know that. Shooting expert and knowing fire team tactics sure as hell didn't do me much good on this side of the wood line. Such is life. S/F
Thank you for your service.
@@davidphilipleasure great talk shipmate,, you are still young. Listen to those dreams, let new ones arise, you have a whole life ahead of you. It's obvious you have a good head on your shoulders. Don't let this mean ass world take you down. Let the adversity make you, not break you. Climb that f**king mountain no matter how many times you find yourself in those Vally's, perseverance conquer's, no matter how often you get knocked down, eventually you'll find that footing. You have that spirit or you would not have joined the Navy, adapt and overcome as the Marines taught me. No matter what, fight! I was an HM for 6 years!
The only thing I had planned was being a corpsman, outside of that, it was where the wind took me. MCBH was my final destination and I felt at home. I tapped out after 6 years so I totally respect your commitment devil dog. Warriors like you are the back bone to our military and as those moving parts come in and out, you guys blended us and kept those moving parts well oiled. From new boot privates to green docs and the constant suck. You adapt and overcome and I take great pride in my service with the USMC 3 years 3 months out of 6 years was either training or serving with you guys. Semper Fi Devil Dog, I could not have asked to be treated better by my marines from the Privates to my Lt Col, nothing but love for you guys!
This randomly showed up for me today, and well I watched it and I'm glad I did. I'm hopeful that this recording and sharing it was a start of a healing journey for you. Great lesson learned and I hope others hear your advice.
Hey man give it another shot. You may be afraid now but bravery isn’t being fearless it’s beating afraid but still moving forward. Your realization shows your growth, give yourself that chance to give it a try that way you can sleep knowing your future instead of guessing what if.
Hey man, if this is something this still bothering you,
1. the national guard is offering 3 year contracts, you'll have to go to boot camp/ mos school, youll get some work and a 7500 bonus. then back to your home state.
2. the max age to attend SFAS (Special forces Assessment and selection) is 36 for prior enlisted.
that means is your about 33 you'll have 2 years to get in shape and train for selection.
if your serious about regrets, then stop dwelling and take this last shot.
You have one last chance to chase the dragon
One of God's greatest gifts is redemption. You can turn around and get back on the narrow way.
Darth Vader
Dont know how i came across this video as well but I've been living out of my car (fuckin toyota camry) between all over texas and now san diego near the base in coronado. I have buddies that are team guys. I'm a little older wont say exact age but over 29 (age waiver range). The mental side of bud/s is all about anticipation and how you deal with it. Example: I know a bud/s dud who said one of the biggest mental hurdles for him was seeing guys going blue recieving CPR on the pooldeck and being asked to do that same evolution (whether its beehive, drownproofing, 50m underwater swim, pool comp etc) You're sitting there waiting nut to butt for 5+ minutes until its your turn to go. one of my good buddies (active seal), passed out 4 times underwater between 1st and 2nd phase. He couldve not woke up, there are guys who have not woken up from the same evolutions. 2nd phase (after hell week and pool comp) during draeger dives, guys are swallowing caustic solution instead of surfacing and failing then ending up in the ICU for internal bleeding. Long story short you have to have a willingness to die for it. Guys that realize this DURING bud/s have a tough time with internalizing it if theyre not fully committed beforehand. My good buddy (active seal) believes many can do it if they had a gun to their head, but few are willing to do it and push the limits passed redline which is where buds takes you.
Which leads me to another point -- its all about how you compartmentalize things whether its living in a fuckin car etc. you can choose to look at that bad or you can look at the positively-- Know that youre above the curve with dealing with being uncomfortable ( this is how I view it personally). Living in a car seems bad (it is sometimes when youre waking up sweating balls or freezing balls, waking up a little cramped) but in reality its really not that bad, things could always be worse.
I'm in the process of getting my bud/s contract, stay up.
Some wise words from my buddy as well -- dont think just do. AKA push the "retard" button at times. He'd set an alarm 6 minutes before morning muster so it wouldnt allow his brain to start thinking when he woke up every morning. During hell week he said you dig to that deepest part of your being to push the ultimate switch of that-- dont think just do. Even if you've contracted VGE (common during buds) and are vomiting/spray shitting yourself etc. Thinking is wasted energy during times like bud/s -- specifically 1st phase
Im 23, just turned 23, first time I saw a seal training video I was 18..it caught my eye, I knew I wanted to do it but didnt allow it caause thats a huge push, 23 now..Its knocking at the door..Im going..your video just clarified everything, always speak your truth man.
If you do follow this man's advice, and I hope you do, be willing to go all the way to get what you want. Don't be half assed. I was in following my dreams, and you end up in the same place.
I come from 3 previous generations of pastors, and I’ve been raised to follow my calling. I’ve realized slowly over the last couple years of my teens(I’m 19 now), that I want to be a SEAL. I’m really nervous because I feel like I won’t make it or that I’ll give up when it gets really really hard. But like you said I cannot let my fear control my future. My ambition, my dream, my calling, is to walk this path and I want to live by my dream. Thank you for the encouragement
Fellow believer here - hey man, if God is calling you to that then do your best and he will do the rest. Heard a story about a messianic Jew who had become a Christian during his time as a seal. He really wanted to serve God so he left the seals and went to serve in some capacity (can’t remember exactly what) in the ministry. Nothing … NOTHING went as it should. He said he sought the LORD to inquire why nothing was working out. He said God told him that he had called him to be a warrior in the seals, not a member of the clergy. So he went back to the seals with a renewed dedication as he was now “doing his work as unto the LORD”. God has a purpose for everyone and many times he works through our desires that he gives us. I pray God grants you strength, courage, wisdom, and an everlasting desire to do his perfect will in your life. I’m a 55 year old father and it makes me proud to know there are young people like yourself out there. Check out Shawn Ryan’s podcast … former navy seal and CIA operative. Especially watch his interview with Sgt Penny. Take care young man! If God is calling you then go!
Had the exact same experience as you, but I’m leaving for my SO contract 2 weeks. Thanks for sharing bro
Oct 29!
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@@jrl95DELAY if not best of luck and god speed. Fight fxcking hard. For your life. See you there.
I wish the best for you
Good honest video. I feel you. I left some things undone when I left the military. Ive been very succesful as a civilain but there's always that little voice in the back of my mind that says what if I had done more.
This reminds me of how I thought I wanted to be a Marine not knowing what comes with being a Marine. I just wanted to do it for my own ego to prove to people and myself I was billy badass. Don’t get me wrong most Marines are tough. My point is that I realized everything in life I’ve wanted was meant to stroke my own ego. Everything I’ve ever did I’ve always excelled because my personality doesn’t allow for failure. But I also realized now at 30 that none of those things are going to fix me. I’m just a broken person and wanting attention and praise that I never got. In a way a narcissist. The military is full of those. But I will say I do appreciate your honesty and self reflection on how you view life in your eyes. I also was homeless after the corps and got a dui and lost my car and my home at the same time. Not sure your age but time does heal and make you more mature in previous thoughts
You’re not a narcissist, because a narcissist isn’t capable of self reflection in that way.
I counted down my days to my ETS from the Army I hated it too I also had a dream a destiny but due to circumstances some in my control some not didn't allow me to follow it. It's been hard to realize it won't ever happen it's like losing a limb you never forget it and it'll always hurt. But now I'm just trying to build a comfortable life something I don't mind continuing.
My son is going to enlist this summer and wants to be a Navy Seal. As his dad, it scares me to death. However, I know if I try to talk him out of it, he (and me) will regret it for life. This video is just as much of an encouragement for the young man looking to enlist as it is for the family he is leaving behind. Becoming a tier 2 operator has been my sons driving force for probably a decade. He trains every day, watches podcasts, and lives and breathes this stuff. He sent me this video, and I am thankful he did. And I am thankful for you putting out this video because it does cement that he needs to pursue this dream with everything he has, regardless of if he becomes a Seal or not.
To Mr
@Djnznz, FYI , I served 79 - 02 as Diver/EOD. I was only child no father. No one is gonna hold your fucking hand. Hard truth, he didn't even give the 1st 4 years a chance. Getting into tier groups is where the rubber hits the road and u don't accomplish that in your 1st 4. Good day DJNZNZ
This randomly popped up in my feed and I’m glad I watched it. God has another plan for you brother keep doing your thing.
Keep VLOGing like this, share your honest and genuine self and journey with the world and you will grow an audience.
In a world where everything is fake these days, people will like to see some real shit, it’s refreshing.
You will be able to monetize from TH-cam and it will open up more doors and opportunities for you.
Your life isnt over. There has to be something more for you that may not be a dream, but you can still call it successfully. Motor on brother.
Wishing the best and hope you find what you’re looking for in life.
Thank you for your persoal testimony and good luck.
Thank you.
Hey man, I really appreciate the honesty. A lot of people wouldn’t even admit that they wanted to go for the teams but were too afraid. I totally understand that you might feel like that part of your life is over and might feel like the opportunity has passed, but I 100% believe that you could still achieve your goal. A lot of people don’t know, but civilians can actually attend selection. If it haunts you that much I think you gotta take you own advice and hit that sh*t head on. You’re still young man, you could probably get your fitness level up with a few months of dedication. Embrace that cold this winter in the van and know that you’ll be just a little more prepared for those frigid days on the beach. Do it brother
Man, between you and CivDiv, I have really felt some catharsis in knowing I'm not alone. I know I didn't take advantage of my military time like I should have, and it cost me a huge mental toll for years. I feel like I'm just coming to terms with it.
Thanks for sharing your story. It really helped me out. Good luck out there man 👍
Young man you and I have similar backgrounds. One big difference in our stories is I am 55 years old. Not living in my vehicle but the last 30 years have not been easy. I don't know your age but you don't look anywhere near 40 yet.
You still have time to have another dream to chase. Go for it. There are many more chapters in your book!!
I appreciate you for doing and sharing this video. I was in a similar situation in the Army over 20 years ago. I had been in a few years then did OCS and became an Infantry LT. I had aspirations to go Special Forces but I was at an age that I had to decide whether I was going to stay in for the long haul or separate, become and civilian and pursue another dream I had had. Long to short, I got out, had a family that had already started etc. I do regret not staying in and pursuing further Army challenges but then again when I think back on it, I would have missed alot of my daughter growing up. At that point I got out it was the end of 2000. A year later the GWOT would start, followed by 20 plus years of a very high operational tempo (to include the 2nd Gulf War) and all the dangers that would come with that. Knowing myself just a little bit, had I been in the Army still going into the GWOT, if there had been a pivotal moment where it was a matter of life and death, I think (or hope rather) that I would have tried all I could to do my duty which could very well have meant that I could have lost my life for that effort and been further absent from my daughter's life. So the aspirations for the super soldier career is a worthy endeavor but to take on that endeavor you have to prepare yourself that you may not have a long life after and if you wind up surviving that chaos, you'll be forever changed and will spend the rest of your life trying to reconcile the man you had to become to live and survive that life... Everything we do has a cost. I watched an interview on Shawn Ryan's channel that featured Tom Satterly, a survivor of the Blackhawk Down incident in Somalia and stayed in for a 20 plus year career, making it to a Sergeant Major in Delta Force. Even though it was about 30 years after the incident, Satterly remarked that this interview would be the last time he talked about it because as he said "every time I talk about it, it brings me back to that day like it was yesterday..." He still broke down into tears recounting those critical days in Somalia in '93 where he came close to losing his life while seeing some of his closest friends lose theirs... Again, this type of life has a cost to it and it goes far beyond the glory of it, the feeling of accomplishment in making it into that life and all the adventures you have later. So yes, I still have a small regret that I didn't stay in the Army but at the same time, I know a little bit at least what the decision would have cost me and my family. It doesn't mean that you don't have something worthy to accomplish in your life. I believe in God and I do believe that we, each of us individually, is here for a reason. All we have to do is find that reason. That journey includes the decisions you've made to go any particular way in your life so don't look at your decision as a failure, again you just have to find your reason why you are here.
Thank you for sharing and your service.
@@davidphilipleasure Thank you for your service!! I'm praying for you that you meet with a job opportunity that gets you where you want to be... I've been in the job search for several months, lots of fear about what's to come if a can't connect with a job soon but putting my trust in God. Your situation is way more serious than mind so gonna put in prayers for you!
You have so many options to choose from in your life. The doors are wide open. You are young and intelligent figure out what you want to do and go after it. All the best to you young man 👍👍👊.
David- Look up The Warning and listen to their Pepsi Center version of "Martirio". Not the studio or album version. You need the crowd audio. Close your eyes, get into a meditative state and then CRANK IT. The lyrics are VERY dark and would seem fatalistic, but it's a powerful stoic message of resurrection at the very end. I believe in you brother.
The fear is that if you fail BUDS or whatever the challenge you will never be able to hold your head up again. Consider that your inner wisdom told you to not do it to prevent a worse outcome. Have you considered that you have been destined all along to help others like you are right now? That maybe it wasn't your destiny, but a milepost along the way.
Other than that I agree, folks get enthusiastic about a topic and think it's their whole destiny until something else comes around. Your destiny is what you make of it, not what youre influenced by. Best of luck to David on his endeavors 👍
The first 10 years of post military service was the hardest for me. Some of it had to do with "What ifs?" Did I leave it all on the floor? No. Some of it had to do with "Where do I go from here?"
During that time, I started studying mathematics. Mathematics led to some other opportunities. I also adopted two German Shepherds around that time. Best decisions I ever made.
For me, I didn't tame myself from my training at one instantaneous moment. It was a gradual process of learning and healing, which my pups helped me with. They taught me a lot about myself.
My pups are gone now, but I still persist. Because the persistence, the growing has become my life.
That's what I focus on today. And I take it one day at a time.
And yes, I know what my dream is and I am heading right for it.
Fair winds and following seas, Shipmate
This was awesome man good luck on your journey I fell short in a similar fashion in a different branch and thought that was the end but now I realize I love homestead and my daughter and my wife more than anything else and I wouldn’t have it if I went the other route so I thank God for the unanswered prayers stay up brother
Homestead? You're not in Pennsylvania, are you?
@@davidphilipleasure no sir
Okay. There is a Homestead, PA. That's around the area I'm originally from. Thought it would be quite the coincidence.
@@davidphilipleasure no sir I’m from Tennessee
Tbh you probably didn’t miss much man. Nobody has been doing much the last 15 years or so in the Teams unless you’re in a tier 1 unit. Guys get way too wrapped up in the movies and stuff and make it their identity. Reality isn’t what it seems when you see behind the curtain and the day to day BS. Yeah it’s a cool job at times, but at the end of the day it’s just a job and it’ll most likely cost you your mental, emotional, and physical health. Homes and personal lives are a mess. Let it go man and go live a happy fulfilling life doing something else. There’s plenty more to live for in life. So go live it, good luck. 🤘🏼
Very real. Many team guys are realists, many signed up even knowing beforehand that war sucks but willing to go anyways. Just like how (my best buddy) knew the actual day to day life in the teams was and how unglamourized alot of it was beforehand before becoming one -- he knew alot of guys in the teams before so was able to see behind the curtain you're talking about. Personally im at that point though where im older (above 30), and ive exhausted a ton of other options throughout my earlier years and still have the desire to do it and nothing else -- have autoqual PSTs (not that means anything but just secures the age waiver and contract). Buddy still bitches to me about how he has to do like 30 slide powerpoint presentations on bullshit in day to day life (while at the base). And I understand alot of the experience comes down to head shed - hes been in a few different platoons and says his current head shed is awesome/treats them like adults, cuts em loose at 1-2 pm everyday while at home whereas hes experienced others where you'll essentially be babysat and doing a ton of BS admin work until 5-6pm while at base "just to keep the boys out of trouble".
end of the day though there definitely is alot to life outside of the teams -- exhaust as much as possible for the OP. Take the cool factor of it and divide by 3 is what my buddy says-- however the dudes and some of things you do are awesome at the same time
Uh…SEALs have been canoeing dudes in Syria/Western Iraq since 2014 when ISIS started taking territory. Where’ve you been?
I wanted to be a Navy SEAL but my parents were married😅
You seem pretty young bro, why don't you go back and try? I think you could try the US Army and move up to Special Operations. This is coming from a recently retired Army vet.
"Discovering the truth about ourselves is a lifetime's work, but it's worth the effort."
-Mr. Rogers
Keep moving forward. It sounds like you are going in the right direction. 💪❤
Thank you for sharing your unique perspective & having the courage to be transparent and authentic in your message.
I think the world needs more people who are willing to share their personal tragedies & reflections on this journey we call life.
Please keep creating nspired content & putting out messages that will have an impact, this video definitely resonated with me.
Cheers!
Thank you for your video. There is a lot of truth in what you said about fears. Most fears are like a jail cell you place yourself in while holding the key in your hand. It’s said 99% of our fears never take place, except we want to live in the 1%.
Being afraid of failure is a hard thing to overcome, but failure can really guide you (and be an advantage) if you accept it and learn from it.
Like you took thoughts straight out of my head I feel im in the same boat, I let others opinions and feelings dictate what I did after high school and I regret it every single day, I stay awake at night over it , I fell what your saying 💯 im 32 now and about too old to really get started on the career I wanted, im not doing bad I have a small business that I’m successful with but hate everything about it
Main thing is finding out who you truly want to be. Not just something that's been popularized by media. Most folks focus to much on wanting to do something that ppl will glorify them for. Many folks do those things that they think are glorified but then become disenfranchised when they see the day to day reality of what it means to be doing that thing. It's always going to be different that what you imagined. Just being a SEAL, pilot, Marine, whatever isn't going to set you up for a perfect life. They still have all the same human problems everybody else does when they go back into civilian life. But if you're doing it for yourself and not for others, it's worth it. The other thing is the very practical aspect of it. It's much more important to focus on whether or not you want to do the tasks/mission set rather than just being a SEAL. Being in any community is meaningless without its mission set and I think it's easy to focus more on the idea of something vs what they actually do. I spent time as a Marine. It was definitely way different than anything I had expected. Both good and bad.
Trust me. You are beyond wealthy. Please don’t be so depressed. Especially like me. Please. Don’t worry about the world. You haven’t missed anything. You are still living. You are good to go. I struggled with very bad things. For a year I got mixed up with very bad drugs and mindset. I wear long sleeve shirts for a reason. I’d rather live for the Lord and be living in my car than not and be living with worldly security and not knowing who he is. You have had a valuable lesson. Such is similar with me. But different profession. You don’t have a record like I do that prevents you from many opportunities.
Stay cool Brother. Find a good job and work hard. Something will show up and something good will happen
Well said brother!!
Never give up never quit life always forward no matter what
Your story is NOT over! While you may have let fear overcome you in the past, think of the great courage it took to make this video. A video that, for all you know, could be the catalyst for inspiring others to not fall prey to the same fear that gripped you. If you had spoken up to the CO, if you had taken the leap, you would not be here... where you are... today, speaking your truth for all to hear. EVERYTHING happens for a reason and you exist for a reason, for a purpose, whether or not that ultimate purpose has been revealed yet. Keep fighting the good fight and keep the faith. Life is a miracle and there is plenty of hope still left in the world for you, and for anyone reading this and/or watching your video.
It’s okay bro, I’m 34 and heading to bootcamp for the first time. 😅
Get it!
Hey David! I was in the Navy 2007-2011 and had the same attitude you did in terms of hating it and counting down the days until I could get out. I started out in SWCC and was there for about a year but never got pinned. I went to the fleet the last 3 years as undesignated in deck department, then ended up an AM a few months before getting out. Went to college on the GI bill for 6 years and got a degree in international security and another in Islamic/Arabic studies and learned german and arabic thinking I was going to go to some 3 letter agency when I was done. Then as soon as I was graduating COVID happened and all hiring pipelines froze for about 1.5 years or so and I needed to figure something else out well before that because I was still living at my parents house well beyond the age of 30. Went to trade school for another year full time to do CAD/CAM and CNC machining and now own my own business. Dont be hard on yourself, and always push forward and take on new hobbies and side projects. Positive stimulation is important. Find something you are good at and keep an open mind with how to apply that. You are your harshest critic, and if you live in the past at the expense of the present, you will miss your future. You are not entitled to another moment. Hang in there bud.
thank you for this video man. currently in the process of being a seal and I needed to hear this. I hope your doing well tho bro god bless you.
Before you sign on the dotted line, please ask a current or former SEAL what some of his missions were. Stand by to be shocked. If you are, and still want to do it, you're cut out for it.
Otherwise, there are many peaceful, constructive ways to prove yourself.
@@KutWrite I’ve watched every interview , documentary or just video in general there is about the teams. I know what they do and what it takes to be one. I’m all for it. It’s been the only thing I’ve wanted to do for years now n I’ve been training my ass off day in and out for a while . gave up a lot just to solely focus on this now so my mind is made man. Appreciate the advice tho
@@Kamiscookedd I wish you the best in your quest.
You might get a kick out of Don Shipley Buds 131 channel. He mostly exposes fake Navy SEALs.
It’s good to chase your ‘dream’, but it’s also important to make sure that dream makes sense, is attainable, and contributes to the betterment if yourself and society. Otherwise, it’s (IMO) like a dog licking his balls…may feel good at the moment, but ultimately resulting in no action or positive change.
After high school I joined the air force while all my friends and family joined army / marines. I always regretted not doing grunt shit. But, all my friends who went and did grunt shit said they wished they would have joined the air force... Grass is always greener on the other side man. Navy Seal you very may well wish that he separated in 2015 after 1 enlistment.
You didn't miss too much man. Trust me.
1stSgt, USMC (Ret)
22 year grunt bubba
Dude listen, if the last ten years have been that hard sleeping in a van, go apply for seal training because that’s what motivates you to stick with it, not going back to sleeping in a van
I'm 46 now, I'm a 15 year recovered heroin addict & a 5 year recovering alcoholic. I don't do a lot of things in life, I wouldn't worry about it.!
It's not about what you didn't do, it's about coming to terms with the life you have.!
My current dream is to get to the end of the day without having a panic attack then sleep well, anything after that's gravy.!!!
At least you've got a van to live in, & hopefully your health, that's a lot more than a lot of people.!
Stay safe out there & the very best wishes from Scotland 🏴 🙏 ❤️
I’ve failed, tried again, and succeeded in the navy. The grass isn’t always greener.
Believe me, I think I’d rather be in your shoes, got out early and found what I actually like doing.
Versus now, knowing what I want to do but can’t do it, feeling trapped to the system to get that 20 year retirement to support my family.
That "retirement" will only be a supplement to your next career's wages. Trust me on this.
1stSgt, USMC (Ret) 22 yrs
I went on British SAS selection and took myself off it when I didn't need to. They subsequently told me I was doing well!
Something I'd worked towards for years, so have never stopped regretting that moment!
Why did you take yourself off?
@@jeffbridges8681I had a disagreement with my instructor in the jungle. He accused me of lying. I hadn't and i thought they'll never pass me if they think I've lied. I was also feeling disillusioned. After quitting the chief instructor told me I had been doing well!
Something I'll carry to the grave!
I had a disagreement with my instructor who questioned my integrity. You fail on bad integrity so I thought I was doomed! I may have failed anyway but I'll never know!
@@LC-gs6qv maybe they just wanted you to display integrity but there's normally zero feedback/encouragement etc. What stage was that at?
@@jeffbridges8681it was third week into jungle phase in Brunei. I was also disillusioned because I wasn't learning anything, but later realised it's not really about learning, and just about doing!
Listen dude you dodged a bullet, I wanted to be in the military when I was 13, I can guarentee you my aspirations werent as serious as yours, but life has shown me that you need to KNOW that its worth fighting for and right now our government is sending 90% of our troops to lost cause political virtue signaling warfare that is NOT worth losing your life over. Im proud of anyone who will die for the constitution and american law patriotic freedom, but that aint goin on right now in our military. If something changes go right ahead, but for now the front lines are on US soil and we need people to fight the good fight here to defend Americans from our historically overbearing and infringing government.
Im almost 25 years old, but i wanted to go to BUD/S desperately right out of highschool. Long sotry short it never happened. A large part of me still wants to go into special operations, so I think I will. Next year ill probably go Army and go for the Ranger Regiment. Idk. BUT, the point I want to make is that the time I spent between then (when I originally wanted to go to BUD/S) and now hasnt been easy, however I think it's molded me into a wiser and more mature person, by extension a better candidate for special warfare. This is an itch that i know with 100% certainty will never be scratched unless I just go do it, so I think I will. I would implore you not to wallow in your misery and dwell on this mistake you made, but instead to adapt and overcome. Get to a recruiter, explain your situation, and get to it. Yes you're too old for BUD/S probably, but dont overthink it. SEALs arent the only special operations unit out there, just the most glorified in media. Rangers, Green Berets, AFSW, MARSOC, etc etc. Dont think, just act. Drive that van up to the AFRC and dont think twice. YOU CAN DO IT. Godspeed David
You did more then me.i didnt pass the asvab,had bills to pay so I grabbed another job and the military was a after thought. Today I'm the happiest little quitter that ever walked into a recruiting office.
Don’t trip bro
you may have dodged a bullet both Litteraly and figuratively.
You still look healthy young and full of passion try to find something that challenges you both physically and mentally. Maybe a job/ career that is similar to the spec ops stuff that you thought you would like. brotherhood is everywhere if that’s what your looking for which could be things like a fire department, police, border patrol etc most of what makes the teams great is the trust and bond and never quit mentality that can’t be broken through hard shit together
. There’s also cons to being in the teams as-well just like any profession my suggestion is find what you enjoy and do great at it I believe in you bro keep pushing let the past die and grab the future/ present by the reigns.
God Bless. I am 26, and I've wanted to be SEAL my whole life. I won't go into the details as to what has kept me from achieving this up to this point. I beat alcoholism this past June. Well as much as someone can "beat" an addiction. I've found my way into the Eastern Orthodox Church since then as well. Anyways, over the last weeks and months, I've been praying to God, asking him if this is what I am supposed to do. Last night, as I lay in bed, I prayed about this again. Not out loud, just in my head. Today I hopped on TH-cam and this was the first video recommended to me.
I pray you can find an Orthodox Church near wherever you are. God Bless.
Glory to God
wow this one really touched me, thank you for this video david. wish nothing but good health to you brother. God bless :)
No hate for this man, pick another rate and find your happiness man.
Very motivating honesty. We all can't be tier one operators. However we can strive and push to be the best we can be, in every part of our life.
Last quote reminded
Me of this: they say when you die you get to meet the best version of yourself. The version that accomplished everything you set out too. All we can do is be the closest thing possible to that only human.
Life is about reloading and resetting. Life can you get you down. You will fail at times but don’t quit
I truly hope/pray your true purpose becomes evident to you. Even Seals struggle with purpose during and after service.
Where is life taking you now?
I was in the same boat. Would you consider reenlisting? I was active Army. Did 2 years reserve and reenlisted for SF..
This is a powerful video and message regardless brother. Be encouraged. Be empowered. Reach out to me if you need! (I mean it.)
To do any of that SF stuff, you have to be a {wholesome} thrill seeker, and really like doing allot of exercise, and not afraid of an early death or worse.
BRO, join the Army Rangers. No pool comp. My brother was in the 75th and loved it. I went to Navy Diver. I wish i would have gone with my gut and that was Rangers Battalion.
Thank you.
If you wanna turn your life around and fullfil your goal of being a SEAL then you still have a chance....if that doesn't' work out....have backup alternatives....Army SF....Marine RECON/MARSOC.....Air Force PJ.....#neverquit #beapro
I needed this
Not sure what you got into after serving in the Navy but have you considered serving the country again as BORTAC ?
Everybody fucks up, young man. Most many more times than once (I speak from experience.) Even the most successful among us have fucked up, or at the least made many poor choices. We’ve done things we’re embarrassed by, or ashamed of. We’ve been victims of things or suffered from things beyond our control. And there’s nothing on earth we can do about those things. We can’t put the sand back into the hour glass. All we can do is try to start the battle from this point onward. Even if we’ve gotta do it time and time again! From this point onward.
Hey You should check out the book on mental toughness, by Andy Priscilla
I will do so. Thank you
@@davidphilipleasure sorry I forgot to put book in there. I didn't proofread my post.
Young people who are lost right now, need to listen to this kind of advice. You are often your own limiter. Figure out what you think you are capable of and then reach out beyond that. You're probably more capable than you know.
If you are lost, unmotivated and not to bright do not - DO NOT enlist in the Marines, Navy, Coast Guard or Army those places will chew you up and spit out the little boys that do not have a little get up and go, some smarts and some people skills..For those still trying to figure it out there is always the NG or Air Force.
Fantastic video. A lot of people needed to hear this including myself. I seriously think this video was suppose to be destiny for me. For yourself, you still seem young, and they pushed back the age for a contract for SEAL
Dont give up on yourself man. I had a hard time figuring out life after the Army. That failure to try out for the SEAL's doesn't define you. Its just one page of the book. You seem smart and you are well spoken, forgive yourself fot not pursuing that dream and look forward to fulfilling another one. Most cities are really needing firefighters. Might be worth looking into. Hit me up if you ever get in a low spot.
Thank you.
@@davidphilipleasure you're welcome brother. Hope things are getting better for you.
you good bro? thanks for the message
You couldn’t have made it as a SEAL. But you could be a lot more. I hope and pray you find the way. You can do it!
Batman, perhaps? *Hmm face*
if you're below the age of 34 ( can be waived), and have a R-Code of: R1 on your DD-214 see if you can go back into the Navy. You can still make your dream come true.
Hang in there bro !
Damn that was a powerful closer, but much needed reminders. If you find yourself in oregon id treat you to coffee for the help.
Appreciate ya.
You are EXACTLY the right material- hardship, setbacks, frustration, living simply. You could be Andy Stumpf's younger brother. Plus an asset is you're not overbuilt physically. Get a lot of tone and buff up the strength but not bulk. Remember, you want to be more along the lines of a Raid Gauloises competitor, not an NFL Linebacker. You'll see DEVGRU, Delta and SF guys cry. It means your a healthy human. But brother- your eyes have the look. Go do it. Make sure you find somewhere to volunteer your time, too while preparing. Don't forget to also finish school if you haven't and put in for the Farm (CIA). You'd be an ideal field officer- you don't look like a typical American- you have NO idea how valuable an asset that can be in Eastern Europe, Turkey, Lebanon, South/Central America. Again- volunteer your time to a local organization- not money- your time and energy- you want an energy source for you soul to help you barrel over any obstacle and that will do it. On a bad day, you'll know you made someone else's better. Go carnivore on diet, immerse yourself in a foreign language a month- not mastery- but familiarization like children learn. Do this and we want hear back from you. You will be amazed and most importantly- be peacefully content.
God bless from Scotland my G, you are YOUNG. REALLY YOUNG.
Those bygone moments where fear ruled and we stayed silent still hurt. Learning to fear God and nothing else... Sounds easy (maybe or maybe not), but in practicality there's a lot of work to get there... The good news is that there is no way to do it alone. By luck or divine grace we've made it this far, not on our lonesome. So how can we think we'll get past this moment, this place, all by ourselves? I think many of us could use more prayer, and fasting. Myself certainly included.
Thanks for your service and for the video, and may God continue to act on behalf of you.
Similar thing for me. I went in figured i would do 4 and then try seals. Difference is i injured my back and noticed it was never going to happen after that.
However that doesn't mean im out of the fight. Sadly there is plenty of fight to be had here at home.
Keep going for it but graciously let it go if it's not meant to be. Back injuries are nothing to shrug at. Take care of yourself. Hooyah
@@davidphilipleasure oh it's far gone at this point. I have been out for over a decade now. I work in the hotel industry now.
I think it's a great industry for veterans. Got to deal with fire codes/systems, Elevators, Computers, Security cyber/physical and having some basic first aid skills comes in handy.
I also get to help with natural disasters. I'm in Texas and had to manage a hotel during that freeze a few years back. Those damage control skills became handy since I had to drain the fire extinguishing lines to prevent the building from flooding. Organized a fire watch since the building was then susceptible to a fire.
It's a very fulfilling role most veterans don't think about.
@@davidphilipleasurewhat movie and book were you talking about?
Same bro I was 23 in 2020 I was gunna go 82nd airborne Infatry and than Mabey even try 75th rangers rasp later but I failed as an and than just got factory job for 4 years now I’m 27 and don’t know if I can join Infantry airborne anymore and definitely not rangers , bro it suck’s and I’m jobless living with my parents
Keep going and be patient. That is the most important thing: Patience. We're all here for you.
I thank you for this video man. My goal in life currently is to get to BUD/s in 23 and I feel like my time for this is closing even though I’m aware that you’re allowed to go up till you’re 29
When I came to this realization I was 22. Thought I was old for not having it at eighteen. Looked at Goggins and Kyle joining at 24 thinking they were old. Then I slowly passed that age. Long story short, age fucks with you. You're younger than your brain messes with you. Imagine you're 32. Then come back to 23. In my opinion, 23 and 24 are some of the best ages to be. This is because you're not naive high school eighteen anymore, but you have just enough experience and maturity to make your own decisions in life. Hooyah.
@@davidphilipleasure I know you think this, but in reality there are a good amount of dudes who are 30+ that go (statistically they generally do better). My best buddy was in bud/s at 28 (made it). During his bud/s class, their was a 32 year old who was carrying the fuck out of his boat crew during hell week ( he secured hell week and got rolled during 2nd phase, made it through with the next class - started 2nd phase with that next class).
Tons of other team guys who went through buds at 30+. Obviously it is going to be a lower amount of 30+ who GO (life, family etc) but the ones who do generally do crush it; because you are more clear on your vision - if someone has a family/obligations at above 30 they would never truly consider going to buds (a vast majority). Physically, major injuries become less of a problem with age (minor injuries do but everyone suffers minor injuries during buds no one escapes them). This is why alot of athletes reach and stay in there primes between 28-33. Sprinters fall in that category specifically. Your major bones are fully developed etc.
There are team guys still operating well into their mid-late 30's. What you endure during a workup is as/more injury causing than bud/s.
@@davidphilipleasure There is no escaping the misery of buds regardless of age. everyone gets it. Injuries/slow recovery happens to everyone during it - immune systems compromised etc. If you're healthy at 32 no point to not send if its desired still. Worst that'll happen is you may wake up a tad bit more sore (everyone is during buds). mind over matter at all times
With that said, who's to say someone whos 33-34 couldnt do it? being a seal is a calling/destiny. Guys get "lost on their way to the seal teams" all the time. Age waivers will scare some dudes off and guess what? they weren't destined to be seals and thats ok - not willing to go through anything to get it. (its very easy to get an age waiver if you autoqual the PST and are cleared medically/background wise). Not everyone is destined to be a seal, not saying you are or are not. But excuses are like assholes you know what I mean. Send it if you believe its your destiny
If not thats alright, destiny will lie elsewhere
Read " Code over Country " SEALs are SEALs . Wouldn't be too disappointed about it.
This was deep
Good luck love and light from Tennessee
You still seem young enough? Go be a Green Beret or Ranger. They will take you if you can pass the requirements.
Good video man, but you need to listen to your own advice. You are still a young guy and more than able to try again. If you're not in the contract age range then getting a waiver is no big deal. You still have plenty of time brother, make good use of it.
I’m in a similar situation. This video may have changed my course.
I recommend you guys also watch Jake Zweig with similar information
I will check this out.
Great Message.....!
Its not to late until the BIG SHOW is over ......🙏
Fat Lady, we're obsessed with the fat lady! -Jeff Goldblum
We just going to ignore the genetic inabilities here?
God bless you. You seem pretty wise for your age.
Thank you.