@@PazGoldmanOfficial I remember what she was blaming me for, and I compare that to what her flaws were. And we all need to realize nobody is perfect ukwim? The blame game and the on/off communication went on for such a long time. But to realize that someone can turn their back on you like that is so fucken horrendous, and I empathize with those who are experiencing the same thing. People who were dragged along because this person could not be alone with their decision… I came such a long way.
Mine moved in down the street with her monkey branch. That was pretty shocking to say the least. That was 4 and a half months ago. Thank goodness for the rise of the phoenix course. They will crash and burn and its funny. It was awful when I first started seeing her drive by my house. I seen her last week and the way she looked at me was so empty and robotic, like she was on auto pilot. I seriously believe she has BPD and the relationship was horrid. I still have trouble sometimes but am doing MUCH better than at the start of this. Thank you Coach Paz. You truly helped me. I feel happy, calm and peaceful most of the time. Blocking her on social media was the best thing I have ever done for myself.
The #1 sign that really stood out to me is the communication gap. Especially when things were going good and suddenly out of the blue radio silence. There was a pattern of that every couple months that my ex would do and it would piss me off cause I know how to read people. I told her if she did it again I was leaving her and surly enough she did and that was it for me. After the break up she admitted it and now all she does is post her new man constantly to try to make me jealous but I really don’t care. Another sign is monkey branches tend to job hop and can’t seem to stay at a job more than a year.
100% no accountability all the blame is on us as the ex, zero respect for anyone around them as soon as you stand up to them they just play the victim and keep up the bullshit. Best thing ever is that they are a ex for a reason. Karma is a bitch. Thanks coach keep up the hard work for all of us that have been monkey branched and cheated on. My debt is paid up now I’m free and can move along.
@ i have moved on done the work with coaches counsellors and all and have just the last couple of days removed a new partner that was showing red flags and toxic behaviour after a couple of months. I have a son that I put first and keep my personal life and any new partners well away from. I’m enjoying life so much and not having that winging when come home can gym and do what I want. How are you going?
My fearful avoidant ex monkey branched more than a year ago. My inner work of hours each day has paid off. I have healed and know my worth. In hindsight, he did me a favor. No more wishy washy and half-assed behavior. I am happier now without him. Never again.
move on, heal, and look for someone new learn from the past experience. why wait for karma in your ex why you are looking for her she dumped you like trash and want her to come back to your life?
I was in a relationship for 9 years and the person quit on me. within 1 month she was already dating someone, i begged for 2 months and for past two months i am just trying to clean my house now as i realize that love is a choose and I don't want to be picked last. But i do feel hurt and hate that I wish the person does suffer and i know its not a health feeling.
I just feel like if someone new walked into my life that is good for me (4 months later) I'd feel a lot better. Meanwhile my ex is supposedly "falling in love" with someone new but hasn't even posted photos of the new guy, yet she STILL keeps the photos of our happy together days on her FB public. How f'd up is that?
I have an avoidant ex fiance of almost 8 years who left me for someone else with almost no time in between relationships. It’s also known as “back to back” relationships btw… Imma just keep shit simple. They have more growing up to do than you think. I’m not trying to hate, I’m just trying to say to not wait around for these people. Love is simply a choice. Don’t over complicate things. 🤙💯
@@PazGoldmanOfficialI try to focus on me. The truth is, this person left without fully moving out… in a very irresponsible way. And I’ve been dealing with her bringing strangers and her new fk buddy to help her move out… Lol! It’s a bit more “obvious” than they would think. But perhaps, I may also be dealing with a narc… You know it when “intent” is real ukwim?
I empathize with people who go through this. And I empathize for the people who do it to their SO… Welcome to humanity, and try not to point fingers, cuz that’s real easy. 😂
Most women can not be alone. It has little to do with BPD or NPD, it is their natural behaviour. They need security, therefore they wont leave until there is somebody else lined up simple as that.
Hi Paz, you say they dont give a fuck once they have their supply, which i agree. You also say that the relationship most likely wont last with the new supply. However what i want to know. Will they eventually regret what they did to us? With taking no accountability and and blaming us and how harshly they treated us after the break up. Will they realise and regret with time that they lost out on us and had a good person who didnt deserve to be treated they way they did with us?
@chvsrbrt Ive noticed this exactly. They don't know how to love. They don't realize love is a choice, love is patient, kind, supportive and empathedic as well
I have an ex avoidant fiance of almost 8 years who left me for someone else… It’s been 2 years and I still feel the burn like it was fresh.
@@tairimoku9053 Please allow me to ask, What do you do to heal?
@@PazGoldmanOfficial I remember what she was blaming me for, and I compare that to what her flaws were. And we all need to realize nobody is perfect ukwim? The blame game and the on/off communication went on for such a long time. But to realize that someone can turn their back on you like that is so fucken horrendous, and I empathize with those who are experiencing the same thing. People who were dragged along because this person could not be alone with their decision… I came such a long way.
Same here. Been with new partner for 18 months. She happy and I’m not
same here only my relationship was 22 yrs long
Mine moved in down the street with her monkey branch. That was pretty shocking to say the least. That was 4 and a half months ago. Thank goodness for the rise of the phoenix course. They will crash and burn and its funny. It was awful when I first started seeing her drive by my house. I seen her last week and the way she looked at me was so empty and robotic, like she was on auto pilot. I seriously believe she has BPD and the relationship was horrid. I still have trouble sometimes but am doing MUCH better than at the start of this. Thank you Coach Paz. You truly helped me. I feel happy, calm and peaceful most of the time. Blocking her on social media was the best thing I have ever done for myself.
The #1 sign that really stood out to me is the communication gap. Especially when things were going good and suddenly out of the blue radio silence. There was a pattern of that every couple months that my ex would do and it would piss me off cause I know how to read people. I told her if she did it again I was leaving her and surly enough she did and that was it for me. After the break up she admitted it and now all she does is post her new man constantly to try to make me jealous but I really don’t care. Another sign is monkey branches tend to job hop and can’t seem to stay at a job more than a year.
She blamed you ‘wtf’ 😂 That part made me laugh..
You are the best coach ever.You helped me so much !!
All of the above, exactly as you have described😢
100% no accountability all the blame is on us as the ex, zero respect for anyone around them as soon as you stand up to them they just play the victim and keep up the bullshit. Best thing ever is that they are a ex for a reason. Karma is a bitch. Thanks coach keep up the hard work for all of us that have been monkey branched and cheated on. My debt is paid up now I’m free and can move along.
You are still alone, arent you?
@ i have moved on done the work with coaches counsellors and all and have just the last couple of days removed a new partner that was showing red flags and toxic behaviour after a couple of months. I have a son that I put first and keep my personal life and any new partners well away from.
I’m enjoying life so much and not having that winging when come home can gym and do what I want.
How are you going?
17 months after she monkey branched I don't believe in any karma anymore
@@Karloz-zr3hv you will stay alone for a long time.
@@marguskiis7711 I don’t mind being alone as I can work on myself reflect and look out for my son.
My fearful avoidant ex monkey branched more than a year ago. My inner work of hours each day has paid off. I have healed and know my worth. In hindsight, he did me a favor. No more wishy washy and half-assed behavior. I am happier now without him. Never again.
This describes my ex 💯. He was also se*ually abused as a teen.
She monkey branched after 10 years and is with that dude for 17 months already. I guess branching works for women.
move on, heal, and look for someone new learn from the past experience. why wait for karma in your ex why you are looking for her she dumped you like trash and want her to come back to your life?
I was in a relationship for 9 years and the person quit on me. within 1 month she was already dating someone, i begged for 2 months and for past two months i am just trying to clean my house now as i realize that love is a choose and I don't want to be picked last. But i do feel hurt and hate that I wish the person does suffer and i know its not a health feeling.
Yeah, its seeing a criminal leaving court free and laughing.
They’re Cowards
Happy cowards.
I just feel like if someone new walked into my life that is good for me (4 months later) I'd feel a lot better. Meanwhile my ex is supposedly "falling in love" with someone new but hasn't even posted photos of the new guy, yet she STILL keeps the photos of our happy together days on her FB public. How f'd up is that?
I have an avoidant ex fiance of almost 8 years who left me for someone else with almost no time in between relationships. It’s also known as “back to back” relationships btw… Imma just keep shit simple. They have more growing up to do than you think. I’m not trying to hate, I’m just trying to say to not wait around for these people. Love is simply a choice. Don’t over complicate things. 🤙💯
@@tairimoku9053 By your answer I can see a big part of why it’s been 2 years and you’re still hurt… you focus on them too much and not on you!
@@PazGoldmanOfficialI try to focus on me. The truth is, this person left without fully moving out… in a very irresponsible way. And I’ve been dealing with her bringing strangers and her new fk buddy to help her move out… Lol! It’s a bit more “obvious” than they would think. But perhaps, I may also be dealing with a narc… You know it when “intent” is real ukwim?
I empathize with people who go through this. And I empathize for the people who do it to their SO… Welcome to humanity, and try not to point fingers, cuz that’s real easy. 😂
@@PazGoldmanOfficial yeah, let the evil people escape the punishment.
Sounds like a person with Bpd or Npd. I never hear you mentioned these cluster types on this channel. These are people with mental disorders.
I bet some of them do have bpd.
Those are the ordinary women.
Sure. A lot of branchers and ghosted are diagnosed with BPD.
My ex had bipolar, she wasn’t alright in the end, had severe trauma from many past abusive relationships so this is very valid.
Most women can not be alone. It has little to do with BPD or NPD, it is their natural behaviour. They need security, therefore they wont leave until there is somebody else lined up simple as that.
Hi Paz, you say they dont give a fuck once they have their supply, which i agree. You also say that the relationship most likely wont last with the new supply. However what i want to know. Will they eventually regret what they did to us? With taking no accountability and and blaming us and how harshly they treated us after the break up. Will they realise and regret with time that they lost out on us and had a good person who didnt deserve to be treated they way they did with us?
They will never regret it because they have no empathy. Their definition of love is not the same as our.
@chvsrbrt thats unfortunate
Women never regret and they will find the new supply easily.
@@chvsrbrt women define love as some kind of consuming.
@chvsrbrt Ive noticed this exactly. They don't know how to love. They don't realize love is a choice, love is patient, kind, supportive and empathedic as well
M'y ex commit very quickly ans get married in 4 months and untill now hé lives his best life with her 😮😮😮
I love how anyone can just give themselves the title coach
I love how anyone can just give themselves the title coach
@@daytonasayswhat9333 I agree. this is why I’m glad I’ve earned it 💪🏽