Coach.. all your points are right on! I am currently devastated and is on a healing journey. I broke up with her 2 months ago, and i just found out that I got monkey-branched 2 weeks ago. I was shooked to my core. and everything you share, is exactly her words to my friends, to me. And when we are together, she was a beautiful hearted person. And now, all her mental illness surfaced, her expectations from me does not make sense. Even crazier, the new guy is still married and is now leaving his wife and 3-yo daughter to be with my ex. such a lack of integrity person. I now feel pity for her, for her decision making, for her illness, and for being manipulated by a low character person who is now using her on her most vulnerable moment.
Thank you so much. You have no idea how you have really helped me. So many answers, answered.i am a month out of this piain. You have truly saved my self worth x
It is such a relief to have someone who truly understands, and is able to explain what just happened to me, because at this moment I am blind with grief and self-blame. Everything you said is precisely how it happened. Thank you Coach!
My ex texted me "I miss you" message 11 months after he monkey branched to his ex gf and we broke up. But certainly I'm not going to start it all over again with him. I've moved forward and healed.
In my case i have this ex bf he monkey branched on me with other girl and they stay together for a year and they broke up and come back to me after we together for a year.he broke up with me again and go back to the ex again and i think he miss me he said he wants to go back with me again but i said he can stay with the girl but its hard for me. Its like hell it hurts a lot. Now im in no contact but the line of communication is open. What shall i do pls help.
I am 3 months to this day from having broken up with my ex. Afterwards from the amount of digging I have done come to learn that my ex monkey branched on me. The pain I have felt was overwhelming at times and seemed worse to me anyways than when I went to war. I know I still have a ways to go before I am healed yet, but your videos alone have been a huge help to me. Thank you.
It has been over a year. I miss him every single day. I loved and cherished him. He was my best friend and we had coffee together every day. We held hands. We played and worked together. We cooked together. I had no clue. To say i am devastated-- barely touches it. I wish I didn't have to even breathe. 30 year marriage....then he monkey branched to an off-brand poacher and destroyed my dream. Im sooo lonely for him, his smile, his voice, our routine, our life. Im beyond sad. I lost everything in an instant. I'd give anything to wake up from my nightmare. You know, my family has been shattered to pieces. Gutted......
@@PazGoldmanOfficialwell, i pray to God. I have journaled. I have studied relationships and betrayal trauma. I assign little chores to myself because i have no energy...no life in me. I was always happy-go-lucky and easy going....now i am existing against my will, i am dead inside, i am numb. I cannot see a future without him in my life. We were always talking and engaging...fun. people would tell you that we were perfect together. We rocked life. Our home was drama free and happy. Peaceful and posh. I guess he hid it well....maybe he was always unfairhful. His parents died unexpectedly and after that...the sparkle in his eyes went out. Depression set in and i worried he would give up on life. A year later he was having multi affairs and miserable. He was a mess...we tried hard to upright the ship. He says he misses me, everything about me and wishes he never did this to us. Ge filed for divorce last october and never finalized the divorce. Then....he married in a big wedding in Mexico. WE ARE NOT DIVORCED. I AM GIS WIFE. His new partner thinks we are divorced, she thinks she is his wife. Its a messssss.
I'm sorry to hear that. The feeling of a dream or nightmare is common, bacause we don't understand how can.they do something like that and we are in denial..
@@PazGoldmanOfficial last 3 days I've spent gutting the garage of shelves and cupboards to build my own for a "canning station"...jars, kettles...etc. Im Purposefully assigning chores to myself...little jobs. Helps me....
I found your channel this week. I have been an emotional mess. It’s been so bad that I had to up my anxiety meds. I always wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. I have never heard of monkey branching and on another video you posted it described him to a T. We dated for 6 years. Started to have a pattern of wanting space or a break to work on himself blah blah about every 6 or 12 months. Twice he came back begging my back and saying he was so sorry and loved me too much to have me out of his life. I would be in no contact during those two times so I have no idea if he was with someone those two times or having an emotional relationship. But now I’m pretty sure he did. The third time I found out he started dating less than a month after we broke up. I could tell he was checked out from the relationship because he had started being very distant from me. And that was a pattern he had. I have a very good intuition in general that has never failed. But I was so blinded by love and I would see the signs, but I did not want to accept it. I knew better but thought I could fix it. I do know we love each other. He was a nice guy always looked after me, was very loving but now I know that this was his flaw. I will admit he had emotional issues he needed to deal with and refused to get therapy before. And because I know him so well I know he is going to want to come back when his rebound relationship fails because from what I know, she’s a very jealous person and he hates that. But now that my eyes are opened more with your videos I truly understand now, that he is not in a healthy state of mind and will never be. And every time there was conflict he never wanted to talk about it or have a resolution. He just wanted to avoid it. Any healthy relationship when there’s normal issues that come up you talk about them, but he was not like that and and would get upset. As a person, he was very nice. Had a big heart And always try to take care of the ones he loved, however, he will never be successful in a relationship. I am completely devastated right now just knowing that he is having an intimate relationship with someone else. I just don’t understand. He was always so protective of me. Our final conversation was on Tuesday and he apologized for hurting me and told me he had fallen out of love and told me he had met her a few months ago and started having feelings. Then said I should have noticed the signs when he had been hinting back then that we just weren’t going to work out and gave me all other kinds of excuses. However, then he would be his normal self with me again and then digress. Just like he did in the past. I can clearly see now that this kind of behavior would have never worked. Our entire relationship was like a roller coaster. He always would tell me I was the only woman that loved him as much as I did. We have a lot of history and a lot of good times. I know for a fact he’s going to come crawling back when his rebound does not work out. I refuse to take him back if that happens because this was a huge betrayal and a huge disrespect to my feelings and to what we had. And just knowing and picturing him having an emotional and intimate relationship with someone else that quick has made me lose all respect for him and I actually feel disgusted. It hurts so much. But I have faith that I will get through this and move on when the time is right. I do not want to be carrying this weight with my next relationship.
Never re work ploughed ground my friends. I love how they make it your fault I got that too he abused me rah rah. Bo accountability no boundaries respect or responsibility in a monkey brancher. Stay strong men do the work and grow better then ever. Thanks coach.
Paz, where we are dating the same person, just a different gender 😂. Everything that happened to you happened to me.Thank you for making this video. You're confirming everything I have figured out one month into the breakup. Now the pain is less and less, I see this as a turning point to heal from the wounds that made me allow him to stay in my life, knowing I wanted something else. Healing and evolving. Thank you again, your the best!
What's up opinion seeker's , my wife of eighteen years pulled a gun on me because I picked up her cell phone.yes I did divorce her and she was also stealing money from the business accounts and during court sessions she said that I SA her and she didn't have evidence that the judge asked for she had no physical evidence, medical records and no police report.once the judge realized that she was telling false stories the judge removed her from my house and come to find out she has breast cancer and the guy that she was having the affair with he told her that he doesn't want to be with a sickly woman the judge granted my divorce and she asked if we could be friends I refused and I never looked back.
It’s been 6 month she engaged now, we was together 12 years , we got kids too 🤦♂️, her family supports it and it’s like WTF the family didn’t like me either? I raised the step kids all those years, not 1 argument in 12 years why didn’t she just talk to me
This is absolutely spot on. I have no idea how long they were talking behind my back, but her plan was definitely to make it look like a rebound until I saw the messages. She cheated and monkey branched with a woman. She became a lesbian and cheater after 3 years together and I think she has BPD. Such a fake and awful human being. Thanks, Coach.
Lol my ex said why are you going through my phone, it's your fault if your mad or sad , you shouldn't have read the messages....... that was a messed up answer to her actions..smh
Barely a month out from my ex dumping me. Come to learn that she was monkey branching on me all along. She’s already been plastering on social media her new fling and they are already exchanging I love yous to each other. It would probably be easier if I didn’t have to be around her, but we share a son together. I feel a lot of anger and hatred at this moment in time as well as sadness and confusion as I am trying to work on myself. Videos I have seen seem to be helpful though.
@@BrendenGardner-x6k I feel you my friend! Take this time for you to DO THE WORK! Heal & grow from this! Feel free to check out my Online Healing Coaching Program ➡️ pazgoldman.com/theriseofthephoenix
I dumped my ex IMMEDIATELY when i saw she was going cold. 3 weeks later i contact her and she tells me she is ( already) with someone else who ( as the disscusion went on) she told me she had met while we were still together. Guys....don't hold on to women going cold. There is always a reason for that, and most probalby it's another guy. Of course that hurt like a bitch but still....I had the upper hand having broken up with her BEFORE she did with me. Take care of yourselves guys.
I have to disagree, everyone is not good at their core. These people know they lie and chest, whatever justification they use doesn't matter they know what they're doing hurts you.
My ex sucks! Grace church has taken full control of her! There's alot of fake Christians out there! She said God was keeping her sway from me. A year ago we thought God brought us together. Lol what a fuckin joke. At times I question my own faith. While she's out there going to missions all around d the world for 6 months. Wonder if she got a sugar daddy.
We have to be honest to ourselves. We ignored the red flags. They were there all the time, and we chose to ignore it. Or at least we were naive.
That's often feels worse than their actions - it's our own inaction when we became aware.
Coach.. all your points are right on! I am currently devastated and is on a healing journey. I broke up with her 2 months ago, and i just found out that I got monkey-branched 2 weeks ago. I was shooked to my core. and everything you share, is exactly her words to my friends, to me. And when we are together, she was a beautiful hearted person. And now, all her mental illness surfaced, her expectations from me does not make sense. Even crazier, the new guy is still married and is now leaving his wife and 3-yo daughter to be with my ex. such a lack of integrity person.
I now feel pity for her, for her decision making, for her illness, and for being manipulated by a low character person who is now using her on her most vulnerable moment.
Thanks!
Thank you so much. You have no idea how you have really helped me. So many answers, answered.i am a month out of this piain. You have truly saved my self worth x
It is such a relief to have someone who truly understands, and is able to explain what just happened to me, because at this moment I am blind with grief and self-blame. Everything you said is precisely how it happened. Thank you Coach!
My ex texted me "I miss you" message 11 months after he monkey branched to his ex gf and we broke up. But certainly I'm not going to start it all over again with him. I've moved forward and healed.
In my case i have this ex bf he monkey branched on me with other girl and they stay together for a year and they broke up and come back to me after we together for a year.he broke up with me again and go back to the ex again and i think he miss me he said he wants to go back with me again but i said he can stay with the girl but its hard for me. Its like hell it hurts a lot. Now im in no contact but the line of communication is open. What shall i do pls help.
@@annemanuel949 I hope you stayed strong and didn't let him back in.
I am 3 months to this day from having broken up with my ex. Afterwards from the amount of digging I have done come to learn that my ex monkey branched on me. The pain I have felt was overwhelming at times and seemed worse to me anyways than when I went to war. I know I still have a ways to go before I am healed yet, but your videos alone have been a huge help to me. Thank you.
This video helped me a lot I appreciate your work
It has been over a year. I miss him every single day. I loved and cherished him. He was my best friend and we had coffee together every day. We held hands. We played and worked together. We cooked together. I had no clue. To say i am devastated-- barely touches it. I wish I didn't have to even breathe. 30 year marriage....then he monkey branched to an off-brand poacher and destroyed my dream. Im sooo lonely for him, his smile, his voice, our routine, our life. Im beyond sad. I lost everything in an instant. I'd give anything to wake up from my nightmare. You know, my family has been shattered to pieces. Gutted......
@@whispersofholiness what do you currently do to heal my dear friend?
@@PazGoldmanOfficialwell, i pray to God. I have journaled. I have studied relationships and betrayal trauma. I assign little chores to myself because i have no energy...no life in me. I was always happy-go-lucky and easy going....now i am existing against my will, i am dead inside, i am numb. I cannot see a future without him in my life. We were always talking and engaging...fun. people would tell you that we were perfect together. We rocked life. Our home was drama free and happy. Peaceful and posh. I guess he hid it well....maybe he was always unfairhful. His parents died unexpectedly and after that...the sparkle in his eyes went out. Depression set in and i worried he would give up on life. A year later he was having multi affairs and miserable. He was a mess...we tried hard to upright the ship. He says he misses me, everything about me and wishes he never did this to us. Ge filed for divorce last october and never finalized the divorce. Then....he married in a big wedding in Mexico. WE ARE NOT DIVORCED. I AM GIS WIFE. His new partner thinks we are divorced, she thinks she is his wife. Its a messssss.
I'm sorry to hear that. The feeling of a dream or nightmare is common, bacause we don't understand how can.they do something like that and we are in denial..
@@PazGoldmanOfficial last 3 days I've spent gutting the garage of shelves and cupboards to build my own for a "canning station"...jars, kettles...etc. Im Purposefully assigning chores to myself...little jobs. Helps me....
I found your channel this week. I have been an emotional mess. It’s been so bad that I had to up my anxiety meds. I always wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. I have never heard of monkey branching and on another video you posted it described him to a T. We dated for 6 years. Started to have a pattern of wanting space or a break to work on himself blah blah about every 6 or 12 months. Twice he came back begging my back and saying he was so sorry and loved me too much to have me out of his life. I would be in no contact during those two times so I have no idea if he was with someone those two times or having an emotional relationship. But now I’m pretty sure he did. The third time I found out he started dating less than a month after we broke up. I could tell he was checked out from the relationship because he had started being very distant from me. And that was a pattern he had. I have a very good intuition in general that has never failed. But I was so blinded by love and I would see the signs, but I did not want to accept it. I knew better but thought I could fix it. I do know we love each other. He was a nice guy always looked after me, was very loving but now I know that this was his flaw. I will admit he had emotional issues he needed to deal with and refused to get therapy before. And because I know him so well I know he is going to want to come back when his rebound relationship fails because from what I know, she’s a very jealous person and he hates that. But now that my eyes are opened more with your videos I truly understand now, that he is not in a healthy state of mind and will never be. And every time there was conflict he never wanted to talk about it or have a resolution. He just wanted to avoid it. Any healthy relationship when there’s normal issues that come up you talk about them, but he was not like that and and would get upset. As a person, he was very nice. Had a big heart And always try to take care of the ones he loved, however, he will never be successful in a relationship. I am completely devastated right now just knowing that he is having an intimate relationship with someone else. I just don’t understand. He was always so protective of me. Our final conversation was on Tuesday and he apologized for hurting me and told me he had fallen out of love and told me he had met her a few months ago and started having feelings. Then said I should have noticed the signs when he had been hinting back then that we just weren’t going to work out and gave me all other kinds of excuses. However, then he would be his normal self with me again and then digress. Just like he did in the past. I can clearly see now that this kind of behavior would have never worked. Our entire relationship was like a roller coaster. He always would tell me I was the only woman that loved him as much as I did. We have a lot of history and a lot of good times. I know for a fact he’s going to come crawling back when his rebound does not work out. I refuse to take him back if that happens because this was a huge betrayal and a huge disrespect to my feelings and to what we had. And just knowing and picturing him having an emotional and intimate relationship with someone else that quick has made me lose all respect for him and I actually feel disgusted. It hurts so much. But I have faith that I will get through this and move on when the time is right. I do not want to be carrying this weight with my next relationship.
@noemialvarado8448 stay strong. You got this! 💯
Never re work ploughed ground my friends.
I love how they make it your fault I got that too he abused me rah rah. Bo accountability no boundaries respect or responsibility in a monkey brancher.
Stay strong men do the work and grow better then ever. Thanks coach.
100% Facts all the way Coach Paz
@@dt8427 💥🥊
Paz, where we are dating the same person, just a different gender 😂. Everything that happened to you happened to me.Thank you for making this video. You're confirming everything I have figured out one month into the breakup. Now the pain is less and less, I see this as a turning point to heal from the wounds that made me allow him to stay in my life, knowing I wanted something else. Healing and evolving. Thank you again, your the best!
Thank you ❤
You’re welcome my friend 🙏🏽🤍
God bless u, Paz
What's up opinion seeker's , my wife of eighteen years pulled a gun on me because I picked up her cell phone.yes I did divorce her and she was also stealing money from the business accounts and during court sessions she said that I SA her and she didn't have evidence that the judge asked for she had no physical evidence, medical records and no police report.once the judge realized that she was telling false stories the judge removed her from my house and come to find out she has breast cancer and the guy that she was having the affair with he told her that he doesn't want to be with a sickly woman the judge granted my divorce and she asked if we could be friends I refused and I never looked back.
It’s been 6 month she engaged now, we was together 12 years , we got kids too 🤦♂️, her family supports it and it’s like WTF the family didn’t like me either? I raised the step kids all those years, not 1 argument in 12 years why didn’t she just talk to me
She's shown her tru colours. Leave em to it forever
Most people don’t like conflict and as a result are afraid to communicate their true feelings.
She is an avoident, that's why!
This is absolutely spot on. I have no idea how long they were talking behind my back, but her plan was definitely to make it look like a rebound until I saw the messages. She cheated and monkey branched with a woman.
She became a lesbian and cheater after 3 years together and I think she has BPD. Such a fake and awful human being.
Thanks, Coach.
Monkey Branching is goto of BPD
Lol my ex said why are you going through my phone, it's your fault if your mad or sad , you shouldn't have read the messages....... that was a messed up answer to her actions..smh
Bro this man is so right ...
Barely a month out from my ex dumping me. Come to learn that she was monkey branching on me all along. She’s already been plastering on social media her new fling and they are already exchanging I love yous to each other. It would probably be easier if I didn’t have to be around her, but we share a son together. I feel a lot of anger and hatred at this moment in time as well as sadness and confusion as I am trying to work on myself. Videos I have seen seem to be helpful though.
@@BrendenGardner-x6k I feel you my friend!
Take this time for you to DO THE WORK! Heal & grow from this!
Feel free to check out my Online Healing Coaching Program ➡️ pazgoldman.com/theriseofthephoenix
I dumped my ex IMMEDIATELY when i saw she was going cold. 3 weeks later i contact her and she tells me she is ( already) with someone else who ( as the disscusion went on) she told me she had met while we were still together. Guys....don't hold on to women going cold. There is always a reason for that, and most probalby it's another guy. Of course that hurt like a bitch but still....I had the upper hand having broken up with her BEFORE she did with me. Take care of yourselves guys.
Can I ask if it's youtube or you who is shadow banning my comments? I'm asking because I don't see my earlier comments.
I have to disagree, everyone is not good at their core. These people know they lie and chest, whatever justification they use doesn't matter they know what they're doing hurts you.
My ex sucks! Grace church has taken full control of her! There's alot of fake Christians out there! She said God was keeping her sway from me. A year ago we thought God brought us together. Lol what a fuckin joke. At times I question my own faith. While she's out there going to missions all around d the world for 6 months. Wonder if she got a sugar daddy.
Narcissistic behaviour comes to mind. cheating hateful monster.
It sounds like narcissistic abuse to me.
Using Jesus to justify cheating, that's some mental gymnastics 😧
@@Champman543 yeah my brother that caught me by surprise too!!! 😳