Cheating: Forgive or Leave |
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 21 ส.ค. 2024
- Hey guys
We're back with a new video ! this time featuring my mom! As you can tell my mom and I have different views. Let me know if you agree or disagree. Let me know what your threshold is
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She's been married for 38 years? Wow! She doesn't even look a day over 38😅. Loved the video👏👌❤️
Also, can we just talk about how deep the statement “KNOW WHAT YOU ARE FORGIVING” is!!! ❤️
i know im asking randomly but does anyone know of a way to get back into an Instagram account..?
I was dumb forgot the password. I would love any assistance you can give me
Who else asks for part2 with mom?!
Part 2 is sure needed
Indeed is
Meeeeee
"I will not bekezela for the sake of the kids. I will bekezela for myself if I WANT to bekezela"
I wish more women could hear this. Young and old 😭😩
What does bekezela mean?
@@nadiaaddotey5860 presevere
Situations are different and people are different so don't apply a blanket approach. Know yourself, know your person and take it from there.
Nje!!!
Mommy must start her own TH-cam channel, some of us unfortunately have not witnessed our parents as husbands and wives and have no template. This is needed and is necessary.
Imagine all the editing I’d have to do 🙆🏾😂... but I guess she’d be helping a lot of people too ! 🤗
I like that she says forgiveness needs to be a conscious decision because ultimately you need to be accountable to yourself even when the decision you make isn’t the right one.
Thank you so much for this video. You have no idea how much this means to me😭😭😭 .I've just came out of a 3 year relationship with my ex as I found out he was cheating on me for over a year! I did everything for him...went over and beyond for him. Without even realizing, I lost myself in the relationship and because of that created an environment for myself where he was the only person I had in my life. In my family we dont talk about feelings and stuff. It's more of a "these are my parents and siblings and we just respect each other"...so I cant talk to them. I also dont have friends as I alienated all friendships since I made my whole life about him .So after finding out and because I don't have someone to cry to or a support group to lean on, I've been battling with going back to him just so that I dont fall into a deep depressive state...especially during this lockdown state.
So from the bottom of my heart, Thank you Thank you THANK YOU 🥰🥰🥰...this video has given me the strength to love and respect myself...not all of us have open hearted and wise women such as your mom in our lives to seek advise from. Thank you again🙏🙏🙏
Ha 🥺❤️...
I know you made a mistake when you left your friends... but true friendship would accept your apology .. so apologize .. do what you can ... just make sure you aren’t alone 🙏🏾❤️
“Those are the signs of the type of marriage you’re going to have”
Mommy started on a high note ‼️ Seeing where you got your good looks, Mrs M 😍
Thank you mama for sharing such wisdom. Husband and I have spoken a lot about this topic and it is harder for one to leave when married. I personally can't tolerate or stomach infidelity. When praying for a husband I begged God to not allow me to get married if he knows I will face that. I've seen how it destroys families, even when parties have been forgiven.
Maybe my view will change with years of marriage, but wow, for now, I don't think I will stay. Not because I wouldn't love my husband but for my sanity and wellbeing.
I understand you , I'm like that also I'll walk away for the sake of my well-being.
" I can't not bekezela for the sake of the Kids, I must bekezela for myself" I felt that phrase. It's profound & powerful to love yourself first ladies & gentlemen.
Do not allow marriage /relationship turn you into a living ghost. Value yourself still
WOOOOOOOW... this is what we need to hear from our elders... Let’s break the cycle of disempowering women with phrases like “bekezela” and “monna ke selepe o a adimisanwa”... I loved everything your mom said this is absolute wisdom... “but before you forgive, you need to know what you forgiving” #bars... mommy def needs to come back...
When mom said you "forgive for yourself.. " and when you want to bekezela its for yourself... Amazing perspective. 👏👏👏
Your mom?? That’s your sister 😂.she’s beautiful ❤️
"that person was doing it before you got married, and you turned a blind eye." wueh! This applies to most such relationships even dating. The signs are always there...
You are very correct 😊. Most times people ignore those signs in a bit to get married
This is what I always say there’s always signs and one chose to throw a blind eye
Beautiful interview with mommy. I wish it was abit longer. She oozes wisdom ❤️. Can we have a part 2 or maybe have her talk on inlaws😉Thanks Buli for an excellent and life changing videos❤️
When it comes to cheating I believe that family background plays a big role. A man who is born in Polygamous home and his siblings follow the family trend.... It will need a very strong focused person not to follow family curse
😂🤣🤣🤣when she said danger yoohh ...
WALK AWAY from Danger guys ...
Impela indlela ibuzwa kuba phambili 🙌🏾 ... wise words from your mom 🙏
This was so enjoyable. A different perspective from what women of your mom's age normally tell us
"you need to know what you're forgiving", your mother👏👏
My heart is full. Kwa know your worth is the pitz I'm glad I've never settled.
“You need to know what you’re forgiving” 🔥 Thank you so much for this video. A very fresh perspective.
Yoh! Mama is so wise. I love her ❤️.. everything makes sense with her 🥺🤞🏼
I must say. Alot of people who are married for more than 20 years. Speak about alot of forgiveness.
#RoadTo10k or kanjani! 💃💃♥️😃 We like before we even watch
Your mum aged so beautifully wow! Your future is bright sis✨😊 looking forward to this one!
Thank you for the video Sis Buli; both yours and moms stand points are valid, thank you to her also for imparting wisdom from her 38 years of marriage 🙏🏽❤️
I came here as soon as I can 😀..... Your mom is so beautiful (just like you) ❤️💕
Lol thank you sis !! ❤️❤️❤️
We know Mommy and she is an amazing woman. Learnt a lot through this video. Thanks my friendie 🌸
"If he wants to be there he must go there"❤️so much wisdom I'm really enjoying this chat
mama mazwi is the most awesome woman I've ever met sweet and a great adviser. And yes Buli Makhubo learns from the best. #bestmom #bestdaughter.
Yeaaaaaaaaaaahy... A very tough one to make💭 Marriage is not the Faint hearted 💯
so true,
Really loved and appreciated mom's honesty ❤️🙏
Wise wise words from mom... i’m 27 and married and i’m truly grateful for this
I love your mother’s perspective. She’s so empowered.
Super dope segment with your mom. Her gems are coming from a place of growth... thank you for this please do more and if you can get your dad involved too. especially on such topics
Your mother’s perspective is a reality. So much sense
Wow 10min of watching already i can say the mother is sooo mature. Is she a psychologist or what? She's deep and she speaks like a mother of power and yooh I can't find words to describe. Thanks for the Video before getting married.
This provided a wholistic perspective and insight which we may easily overlook...thank you👌
Mom has so much wisdom, in this situation I'm on team Buli but mommy explained it so well and her reasons are not toxic to oneself but are about what wants. Mommy is so beautiful
My God
That blouse Jeso Madam 🙆♀️
I cannot believe we had to wait this long to see Mom! So much wisdom 💯
“ You need to know what you’re forgiving” 🔥
“I cannot bekezela for the kids, I need to bekezela for myself”
Very real ! Would love to see Mom more often ♥️
Mom said “dont ignore the signs,dont turn a blind eye” ... what happens while u dating will happen 10x when u married
Your mom is a wise woman indeed
I do agree that it's not as easy to up and leave once you're married because dating is in essence inviting someone into your life/ your world and with marriage both your worlds fusing (I mean that in every way possible). You can't undo that without any loss of self and scars, it's not like velcro unfortunately. HOWEVER, I think cheating planned or unplanned happens as a result of a series of decisions. So for me, before God and man, I find cheating disrespectful and I think I would not be able to handle the betrayal. I don't think my mental health would survive it. But like your mom said in one of the points, it's individual.
I completely agree with your mom in Jacob Zuma percentage & 70. Her views in the entire video are for me, not only right but she has really articulated them SUPERBLY. Also... she's black girl magic, married for 38 years and looking 38 all at the same time.... Girrrrrrrrrrllllllll 🔥
Fresh chat and really amazing
Wow, ur mummy has hit the nail on the head, I found are take very intelligent , it is true that the signs are always there from the onset but most people always have the thought that they can change them.
Aah Buli this was too short 😩 We need part 2 with mommy plz 😃.... Anyways, thank you.... Gems were dropped here, thanks mama for your wisdom 🙏
Please mama should come by more often.. really love and she is very pretty!
Hubby said he enjoyed this session with mama (I did too), we're looking forward to the next one ❤️🙏🏾
You both look stunning by the way - as always😍
Your mom is so beautiful 😍 and wise. I agreed 100% with what she said I just wish my mom is like her yaz. My mom is the Bekezela no matter what type 😩.
A part 2 with Mom is necessary
Thanks Buli for this insightful segments 💕
"You need to know what you are forgiving" 👏👏👏
Such wisdom from your mom 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I love what your Mom says,He was not ready for marriage if he wants to live a single life in marriage
I always see your mom at church :) but I’ve never seen you :( .... Your content is always on point 🌸🙌🏿
What a beautiful interview with your mother 😍🥰
Thank you ❤️
Fountain of wisdom. Mama ❤️
Buli... what an amazing video, your mom is so gorgeous, full of so much wisdom! So many women need to hear this, I have forgiven a cheating boyfriend because the bible says... eventually you just have to choose yourself and your peace.
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Love love Mama Mazwi♥ such wisdom.
I love your mum. She is so truthful. Most of the times we want to hide behind the Bible.
Loving the black and white on the both of you ladies 😍🔥
I love this perspective... Very eye-opening 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Wow this is your mom❤️❤️ I admire ous Makoena, very humble, experienced and my favorite person at work. I really really look up to her❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you mama Mazwi for such sound advice!!
The bekezelaring concept and inappropriate use of Bible verses to push one's agenda is unfair, unloving and not Christ like.
Indeed forgiving is a personal choice, a choice that the one who offers forgiveness would need to live by "you need to know what you are forgiving"
Your point of view is so refreshing. Much love and be blessed!!
Thanks for this Buli, thanks for sharing mom's wisdom with us ❤️ #38Years
I agree completely with mama, everyone has their personal threshold when it comes to dealing with all kinds of things in marriage/relationships, it's your personal conviction that will make you stay or leave.
With regards to "staying for the children" I believe children are highly intelligent and they can tell when things aren't okay, so if staying portrays a negative image of a sad mom or dad then is it really worth staying? So in as much as it is totally about you first, I think it's also important to consider the kids, maybe even have a conversation with them, to make them understand why you're making whatever decision you're making so they don't grow up carrying a burden of you staying for their sakes or wondering why you left.
Wow we need part two please. Such wisdom Mama thank you
Thank you so much for this ❤. Advice coming from a place of wisdom! Loved the conversation.
Wow!! So much wisdom from mom, can we have part2 please. Love you Buli❤
Your mom is so wise. Please bring her back again.
Thank you mom😊😊😊
A very objective view from Mam'Mazwi. Siyabonga for hosting this Mrs Makhubo. #GemsWereDropped
Wisdom from mom is amazing, we learnt a lot, we ready for part 2
WOW Buli thank you for bringing your mum to offload some wisdom to us. why arent pple subscribing to your channel its full of wisdom.
Thank you so much for sharing Mom with us. Very eye opening ♥️♥️ siyamcela again 😫
loved this. its really not that easy to throw your toys in marriage. hence marriage is scary and sometimes not for everyone.
Are "you're smiling"😂😂😂😂. The wisdom being spit here...
Thank you, Buli and Your Mom ... for the informative post, but Please can we have a part 2, please involve the talk about the in laws, how to get through the first year of marriage cause apparently it’s the hardest year for newly weds and after more than 10 years of marriage how do you keep the spark there ?
Lol I’ve been wondering where your young Sesotho references/inserts were coming from, until I heard Mom’s name 🤣 You definitely got her wisdom, you talk like her shame
So much wisdom from Mom
Whatever that was going on in Buli’s mind, is literally what was going on in my mind too 😹
Honestly ! The conversation was bothering me 🤕😅😅😅😅
Buli is me
I am Buli🤞🤣🤣🤣
Mom is so lovey, thank her for us. Yeah that was good for thought hey.
The wisdom . Mom needs to come back for another session . loved this talk 💙
Aaaaaaah! Your mom is beautiful✨
Your mom is WISE!
Wow!! You’re lucky to have a mom like her Mrs 💕
Now let me shush and learn one or 2 from this beautiful Queen
Wow, mom amazing... I've learnt so much, completely shifted my perspective...tough truths
Thanks Mama, wisdom right there....
We need more of your mother 😩
Your cries have been heard ❤️
Your mom is a wise and beautiful woman...
Loved it so much had to download to listen to again
Shuuu ❤️🙏🏾
Aus' Makoena❤️❤️❤️ absolutely love her. She's so graceful, her voice 😍😍
This was so insightful.
Let’s not ignore the red flag ladies 🚩
YEBO!
Love this, talk about pearls of wisdom. Thanks buli and love your mom 😀.
"Hmmmmm hmmmm hmmmm!" indeed 😂😂
Mama Mama Mama yooooooo thank you God bless you an keep you. May you live long for our sake. We nee women like you😘😘😘
This was beautiful. Thank u mama❤️Loving the content Buli❤️u two are amazing😍
Thank you so much for a lovely vlog.Mum looks like she is your friend she hasn't aged at all.Can we have part 2 please.
Momzy is beautiful and is spitting truths!! I'm subscribing.
Side note, mommy needs to drop a skincare routine!
New subbie after bumping into this video 🙋♀️❤️
Thank you! And welcome 🤗❤️