I got tricked into sleeping with someone
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Obviously the problem here is that you keep dating people who look just like your friends if they wore fake mustaches. There's a lot to unpack in that.
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Casual hookups no good?
I have noticed that a lot of your love interests look like Anna with a backwards baseball hat and mustache.
On the positive side , money not spent on extra cast members can be used for wardrobe.
@@Emppu_T. If you swim with the sharks, make sure you have the appetite of a whale.
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Trying to safely extricate yourself from a situation that has suddenly become very unsafe and having to find a way that doesn't escalate the situation is unfortunately something that far too many of us relate to. Thank you for sharing your story.
So unsafe
Also for men
@@lachainone yeah, cause men usually get physically harassed by the people they are dating *irony off*
technically the situation didn't get any unsafe, it was just dangerous from the start
If someone is a bit unusual it doesn't make the dangerous ffs you bunch of snowflakes
You were literally in the middle of a real life romantic comedy. As we all have known all these years romantic comedies are actually creepy fantasies
Damn I never thought about that hella true.. no wonder our love programming is fked lol
Yeah but....in his case it worked. He saw her in a movie, did all this stuff to get close to her, to get her to notice him, and then he slept with her. I've never like seen an actress in a movie, fly out to a convention she's at, and then somehow get her to even hang out with me. I could never swing that. That's bonkers. This dude MANIFESTED. He also delusional as hell
OMG that is too creepy, this dude needs to be tagged. She deserves better, hell of a lot better.
Out of all the creepiness, this sentence stands out: "I would've told you sooner, but I needed to make sure we fell in love". This guy sees your decisions and feelings as something to be intentionally manipulated rather than respected. You're not a person in his eyes, but a glorified prop to satisfy his emotional needs and desires. Dating someone like that would be hell on earth. I'm sorry you went through this.
I see this all the time. Men usually manipulate to get what they want. That's the one time I agree with women. (Yes, you're terrible)
Love this comment. You're awesome. You're so well spoken. Would love to work with you on a future project I'm looking for well spoken speakers to help me create some content/customer service/type from home opportunities. near future though, not now :) I'll message you in the future. Have a good day.
and i think you'd like representing it because it is in alignment with 1 of your securities/observations from your 2nd sentence. "Manipulated rather than respected." and 2nd, im confident to make it viral once we do it. anyways i wanna stop talking about it and get back to work on other things that will lead up to the day ill message ya again, but then ill be hiring and paying haha so it'll be more beneficial for you to pay money for your time x_X peaceeee.
Moving to CA from somewhere else to find her is a BIG red flag.
@@DreamsMeet Creepy #2...
If he was obsessed with you he should have known the "I only ever date Asian women" wouldn't fly.
True pretty sure she has at least 2 videos on how creepy asian fetishes are aka yellow fever.
he would've had to actually listen to the videos instead of just staring at the paused screen unblinking
@@jclyntoledo The thing is... he probably remembered those videos and realized she might realize sooner or later that all of his exes are Asian and tried to "but I'm not like those other guys" in the worst possible way.
Exactly! He should have said "I'm a racist" at least that way Anna would know that he's honest
Only dating Asian women…ugh. That kind of fetish is racist. Because of pressure from my Jewish mother, I tried to date only Jewish women…who tended to be petite and brunette. My wife is half Japanese…and is now 100% Jewish (after converting…and she is a better Jew than I will ever be). My mother loved her…absolutely adored her.
that is truly terrifying. I hope you're okay and stay safe x wishing you all the best
This is terrifying on so many levels and I'm so sorry this happened to you, because like wow, this is genuinely our of a horror movie and deeply traumatizing. On a lighter note, I've also been watching all your videos but it's because I just found your channel yesterday and love it, keep up the great work and I hope you continue to heal
Yo. Anna, I'm gonna be real with you, that title did NOT prepare me for what went down in this vid.
Oof. I uh, really hope you're doing better after this. Be cool. Stay awesome.
Gotham...!
yeah, i thought she got tricked like they got wasted and had some kind of one night stand that she didnt really want to but she committed to
but naw; he went Borat + keyser soze
That's because the title is inaccurate.
@@madhatten00 Ye same
@@ireallyreallyhategoogle exactly
I had a man try to get me to sleep with him by saying that even though I'm not 100% Japanese, I was still Asian enough that he could cross it off his "list of women of different races/ethnicities" that he wanted to sleep with. "Naturally, I was flattered and now we've been married over 8 years!" said no woman ever.
My face is literally like this right now : =O and the mouth isn't big enough here to stress the "what the..?!?!" feeling I had reading you up there. Jeeeeez.
Hunh? This is not someone you know now, is it?
When you think you already heard the dumbest thing a guy can say to a woman.....
"still Asian enough" Wowwwwww
@@michaelrmurphy2734 Believe it or not, he and I used to be friends. We don't talk anymore, though. He kept making comments like that and playing them off as jokes when I'd respond negatively and eventually I stopped talking to him.
Believing that someone is meant for you because you have been stalking them is INSANE.
Thank you for sharing this. You're inspiring. We love you Ana! Plz stay safeee
That's not your fault. He was a stalker that went to terrifying lengths just to get at you. I knew it would be crazy but I had no idea how crazy. I'm sorry that happen to you and be safe.
This is why hookups and flings are a bad idea. You never know what they could be hiding from you.
Come on. This is hardly stalking.
@@childofk4993
Right. Not stalking. This some CIA level activity.
Pfft… If he had just toned it down a notch this would be the plot to a romantic comedy, lol.
@@childofk4993 Actually, this sounds very much like stalking!
None of this is your fault and you’re not dumb. That’s a level 10 creep, definitely get a restraining order. I hope you feel better soon ❤️
No she is not dumb, but she damn sure was not tricked. She willingly slept with him. She just didn't know he was a fkn weirdo.
@@drp1bb856 technically you're right. She indeed can be a bit more accountable for her own actions. But that dude is a fkn lunatic.
@@drp1bb856 Yes that is a lunatic and if you don't see it then it's likely because you're a creep too
@@drp1bb856 She did decide to sleep with him, but that's it. She even said the guy has moved to LA and is contuning to bother her, he is stalking her and you are trying to say it is her fault? Wow, talk about victim blaming.
@@drp1bb856 Let me get this right: since you wouldn't sleep with a stranger right after a breakup, everyone who does is displaying "degenerate behavior", but somehow sleeping with that person knowing it is a one-night stand is not "doing anything wrong"? And if the guy lies by saying he was fine with a one-night stand when in fact he was actually looking for romance and had manipulated a whole situation in order to get close to her during a time he knew she was vulnerable so he could get into her pants and make her fall in love with him, after she explicitly said she wasn't looking for romance, that's cool and 100% honest?
If that's not what you're saying, you really should work on your communication skills, because it sounds a lot like that's what you're saying.
Thanks for spoiling season 5 of 'You' for me.
Wow, that's so over the top insane. I'm really sorry you went through that. I'm glad you weren't physically hurt
I have had some sort of variations of people stalking me or being creepy with me so I feel you on this. That was... something else and I'm sorry you experience that, Anna, oof. Regardless, thank you so much for sharing, I hope things are going okay with this, well, stalker. 'Sending you a virtual hug!!! I'm going to go and listen to your music now because they *slap*! ❤️
D😉ck pics are alsome
Scary! She does not deserve this. No woman does, actually.
Ur not that beautiful and no one is stalking you
It’s the way that the creepy man is going to see this. I wonder if he’ll take the hint finally
I'm just scared he'll get angry and aggressive... it's not uncommon for creeps who get called out to double/triple down and get more and more desperate to "prove their love". hopefully shes only sharing this WELLLL after the fact and the guy has stopped a long time ago already so that wont happen
Or he'll change his tactics to "try and win her back," when she never fell for him in the first place.
Even if he tried this with an actual ex-GF, he'd need to stop after the first, "No," and not caring to do that will keep him wreathed in red flags.
I hope her friends and friendly neighborhood grocers/servers know the face of her Stalker and can shore up defenses. I know I want to, for her and myself and my friends who have been through similar enough.
did Anna offer hints? I thought her strategy was to "get out alive" by feigning interest as hard as possible.
@@AbbyTayu yeah, when he first confessed that he was a stalker. in that moment she has to pretend she's not upset because she's worried he might kill her. Once she's out of that situation alive she can tell him the truth: that she doesn't want to be with him, get a restraining order, tell the world the story here, and hopefully move on.
We have fight, flight, freeze, or friend.
I have had to use the friend one myself to get away from someone sexually assaulting me. Who then immediately lied about it when I told someone. Who then laughed at us and talked about us being bf/gf. you do what you have to, to survive.
Yes, I agree you should either go full deception or full honesty. I think hinting is a bad idea, which is why I'm skeptical that Anna offered hints. If you are alone with your predator and think he may be aggressive, offering hints of your disinterest may trigger him. If you later decide to reveal the truth from the safety of your home, it's best to be as direct as possible; giving hints may make him think there is still room for you to change your mind.
Sorry to hear about your story. It sounds like a scary experience. I was surprised by the behavior of the "someone" you told. Was this a friend? An adult? I expect most people would treat an earnest report of sexual assault seriously. We do need to think critically about why a person might respond that way though. Perhaps they also felt intimidated by the predator and took his side to maximize their own safety. Or perhaps the "someone" was a child or someone who didn't know how to handle the situation, so they pretended it wasn't real, as an easy way out. Sorry if this wasn't a discussion you were looking for, and sorry if it looks like I'm making excuses for everyone besides you. I offer these discussions because I think it's valuable to consider why people don't react the way we want them to, so that we are less surprised when it happens and so that we can think of other strategies to get what we want.
I'm so sorry that happened to you. Thank you for sharing.
Thanks so much Anna for sharing so sorry to hear
That's horrifying 🙃. Thanks for sharing your story. You will inspire more individuals to come to terms with their own experiences.
What?! She slept with guy on her own. She wasn’t tricked.
What’s horrifying? That she voluntarily slept with someone who put himself in a position to meet her because he found her attractive?
Maybe she needs to make better life choices.
@@drp1bb856 ok victim blamer.
@@drp1bb856 I find it disturbing that people keep downplaying this. He manipulated her into sex and emotional intimacy by withholding information he knew would come off as creepy and by telling her he was okay with a short-term fling when he wasn't. That's not okay. It's creepy and trashy behavior. It doesn't matter if she chose to sleep with him or not. She communicated and made her intentions clear. He lied for his own personal gain. Let's not blame the victim here.
@@supremeoverlorde2109 Anna is not a victim. she was attracted to this guy and decided to enjoy casual sex with him. at first they agreed to only have a casual sex fling; however he did not keep his end of the bargain, and we must fault him for that. obviously the guy was emotionally immature, probably younger than Anna, and does not know how to behave around women. let's hope he learned his lesson to leave a woman alone when she does not his company.
What a story. I mean, I was envisioning a very different direction. I was expecting like "oh he made it seem like he wanted more." But damn, this was a movie plot.
Literally the start of a horror film.. 😬😰😰
@@thehungrycatherpilla6427 Starring Anna Akana!
Yeah I was surprised too! Cause it was actually the other way around!
This was scary af bruh 😳. The fact that you're brave and vulnerable enough to share this story with us knowing that this man watches your videos, girl please be safe 🙏 ❤️
oh my god I'm so sorry this happened to you. Honestly a nightmare situation for us all. This is basically a stalker situation and I hope you get a restraining order on the individual because that's not okay. Stay safe!!!
Dude she slept with him
Anna what the actual f~ck is wrong with people. I've watched your videos for years and years, mostly for the bite-sized therapy advice that I am in deep need of, and also the sketches which I LOVE. Never commented, don't know if you read them or not but girl. GURL. What in the name of sweet baby kittens is the matter with people. I am in awe. And do you know what the WORST thing is? This is what we grew up with, what the rom-coms taught us. Before YOU there hadn't really been a huge open discourse about how damaging it all was, and not only for the women with the ~unrealistic~ (read abusive and dangerous) expectations, but for the men too. Um. A farm sounds pretty idyllic right now.
I'm sure you have thought of all possible ways to deal with this creep and there really isn't much that can be done. I sincerely hope you will be OK.
Maybe it's time for a dog?
A BIG dog. Bernese are intimidatingly large, but super chill.
Great comment. And as far as the romanticism. I’m not singling out Disney, but I will use them as an example of how we grew up with this. Aladdin stalked Jasmine. Ariel stalked Eric. And they had happy endings. We saw it from the stalkers POV and no one was complaining or terrified then.
Did you not see the dog in the bed? Where is Congress The Brave?! A farm?
I'm on three acres up the country. Will that do?!
This is weird. I had the exact same thought as you. Confusion
Yeah, sadly a lot of media has given us a warped view of what is romantic. There are a lot of "romantic" movies that are extremely unrealistic, and would be extremely creepy if they happened in real life.
As a guy, I know that those movies have affected my way of thinking. The whole, pursue a woman and perform antics to get her attention thing is in my head. Thankfully, it isn't really acted upon, but the influence is there. I don't really know how to go about romancing someone that I'm interested in. I wasn't really taught about it, so I just do the best that I can.
I try to be cognizant of a woman's potential concerns. Meeting in public, trying to leave a safe path out, and keeping the lines of communication open. Until I started watching videos like this and learned other things women deal with I was quite ignorant. The thought of harming a woman for rejecting me is one of the last things on my mind. I'm more likely to withdraw and heal than do anything to someone.
That said, I also can see how someone as obsessed as the guy mentioned here could be dangerous. I am aware of how that mindset can come about, and that such people can be extremely dangerous. I hope that Anna, and other ladies in similar situations stay safe.
I am grateful to Anna and other ladies for sharing their experiences. It is really informative. We need more open conversations about these and other relationship adjacent subjects. Many people have largely been left with media being their only teacher when it comes to romance. Which really doesn't work.
This is really creepy, thanks for sharing. We hear so many stories (from men and women) like this. Especially in online dating, pretending to be cool with being casual all the while thinking, "Once we were intimate, they are surely gonna fall for me.” It’s so prevalent and breeds a ton of mistrust between partners.
That order is f**ked up. Normally the intimate part comes after the gonna fall for me part,
or I'm just old...
Happy Birthday Anna!
Thank you for sharing !!
Hope you’re ok Anna. That sounds incredibly scary and traumatic. I admire and appreciate everything you do, I don’t know how I would handle such a situation.
Wishing you all the best, you awesome human!!!
what a simp haha
Really… I came. I saw. I conquered. Is precisely what this dude she let get between her legs did with her multiple times over. I certainly don’t have the chutzpah, obsession and tenacity to go that hard for anyone that I’m infatuated with but he sure did and succeeded too.
So on some level I have to give him his flowers while he’s alive on this one.
@@endershepard7117 as long as you appreciate an obsessed fuckboy.
The creepiest part is the "needed to make sure we fell in love" before he told you he was there to meet you. That's so manipulative and makes me cringe... wtf. I'm glad you're alive Queen 💖🙌🏿
That's horrifying! So glad your quick thinking got you out of there safely
I'm so sorry you had to experience that- and I hope no one has to go through this again but the term "attuned creep" reall had me 😂😂😂
So like… I know this was meant to be a humorous way to deal with this story… But I still feel like this was a really vulnerable thing to share despite the laughs about it. Thanks for that. 🖤
Super vulnerable. And also that stalker can read all these comments and find himself both validated and also as something scary. Hopefully these comments, along with therapy, can help him.
In a better world, the director of the film would have found that guy wanting to work for free in another country suspicious and you know, not hire him. I'm sorry this happened to you. Stay safe everyone!
Yeah, why did the director not clue in that something was up?
@@michaelrmurphy2734 bc they only cares about free labour and not about the risks to people on set
@@summahthevegan3796 They were probably flattered and smooth-talked by a psychopath, is my guess. I doubt all or most directors want free labor. A lot of them are Marxists.
Realistically there are plenty of people willing to work for free to bolster a resume, and plenty of companies willing to take advantage of this labor availability.
Yeah a better world for all you rich females huh? 😂
That is terrifying. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.
Oh my god! This is an incredible story! It's gonna make hell of a movie!
I saw something a while ago that said, "A man knows a women much longer than she's known him", which I get. A lot of us will run across a woman, check out their social media, even ask about them if they have people in common (friends, coworkers, family friends, etc.), and do this for a little while before we decide whether or not to pursue them. Depending on how a man (or woman) goes about this, it's kinda(?) normal and gives you the opportunity to see if it's a good idea - or its obsessive and kinda stalker-ish
But THIS? THIS RIGHT HERE??? This is something else entirely. That man needs HELP
I still can’t tell if he is a creep… or he is but until we get to some details of the story. Not for actively acting to make a relationship happen, that’s is just living and not letting only chance handle all your life.
Creepy or not is in the eye of the beholder, and she was creeped out. It’s a form of obsession and it’s unhealthy and he indeed needs help.
Women often do the same thing with guys, it's not gender specific.
Right. And Anna needs protection.
I get what you're saying but I think that's because it is typically seen as on the man to make the first move. Sure women can but the ratio of will/won't/need is ver disproportionate
I don't understand how so many people on here either don't see the problem or are willfully missing the point. This is creepy af. I'd be terrified too.
It’s creepy af how many people think it’s ok and she’s overreacting, EVEN AMONG HER OWN VIEWERS. Now imagine how many more people think like that, who wouldn’t be in the demographic to watch her videos in the first place.
Downright terrifying.
I kinda get it but also don’t… Some people have to actively act to make things happen or things just won’t.
@@marciamcdevitt964 I agree 100%. What's really weird is I'm seeing a lot of comments where people are being like, "I don't see how she was tricked. She chose to sleep with him."
And I'm like, do you people not know what "tricked" means? It's as if people think it's totally okay to manipulate and deceive others into intimacy as long as they're not actively forcing them.
@@supremeoverlorde2109 I'd agree if maybe 60% of the women I knew were not somehow manipulated and deceived into a relationship. I think that's just how the ball rolls.
And I get it why it's wrong. I just think that's a bad thing that is normal.
@@brunoverasferreira6263 It shouldn't be how it rolls though. We should be fighting back against the normalization of that kind of thing. If we just throw our hands up and accept it without seeking accountability, there's no opportunity for change. That's like saying, "Oh, well I had to suffer, so you should have to suffer too." People should be allowed to demand to be treated better, and for other people to be treated better. And they SHOULD demand it.
Also, the guy Anna is talking about was not just a manipulator. He was a stalker. And that's definitely not normal, nor should it be portrayed as such.
I’m so sorry you had to go through this Anna 😢
I am so sorry that happened to you that is one of the most terrifying things I've ever heard and I'm glad you got out safely
Holy cow!! I've had friends go through similar situations and boy was it terrible. It's insane what some people are willing to do when obsession becomes their normal.
Then don't have sex with that kind of men. Problem solved.
"I had to make sure we fell in love first!" - Line spoken by every creepy stalker...ever! Stay awesome Anna, and maybe update your home security system cause damn that's creepy!
Let’s get one thing straight. Stalking is harassment. Is people watching, stalking? Is simply pursuing what you want out of life, stalking? The way she told this story, she was the one pursuing him for bedroom fun, not the other way around.
@@endershepard7117 Ok Shep...let's really get one thing straight. If a person saw you in public, researched online who you are and where you work, flew to a foreign country and got a job at your workplace just to get close to you, then hid all that from you until they felt it was safe to confess because they needed you to "fall in love with them first"...THEN moved to your home town after you called it quits...that is stalking. All Anna did was meet a guy at a job who was PRETENDING to be a sane, decent guy. See the difference?
This is such a terrifying scenario, literally my worst nightmare. It's just not ok on any level. Please stay safe from this guy.
Wow! I thought I had a weird “tricked into going out” story. You win. Glad you got out of that safely, but scary that he followed you back.
“Glad you got out of that safely” lmao and why would you ever think she wouldn’t have been able to get out of it safely? Why are you treating the guy like he’s some kind of serial killer when he only expressed his crush on her after seeing the movie Ant Man?
How would you feel if you told a guy you had a crush on that you’ve been admiring him from a distance for several months, then the next thing you know BAM the police are knocking at your door and treating you like you’re a criminal and hand you a restraining order over this bizarre notion that you’ve been stalking and threatening this guy you had a crush on? Don’t think you’d take it very well knowing the allegations are completely baseless, now would you?
What is really scary is how casual this stalker is and totally knows what he is doing
Im so sorry someone did that to you
Thanks for sharing Anna
anna this is terrifying im so sorry this happened
This is so relatable and that makes me sad.. it is absolutely terrifying feeling to know that someone has no respect for you or your boundaries, and has deluded themselves into thinking that who they want you to be is who you are, and if they can just manipulate you into being close to them youll see it too.unfortunetly, wayyyy too familiar with that feeling-this needs to be talked about more so thank you
Why one shouldn't hook up with whoever
Wow I'm so sorry this happened to you. It's actually kinda scary how intuitive and tactful he was in all of this.
Stay safe out there y'all.
Okay but hear me out... What did he actually do other than decide he really liked her and that she would like him then turn out to be right?
Yes, it is a horrible tragedy that she slept with a guy that was really into her.
@@funnyfuckerfranco basically tracked her down based off her online persona...
@@funnyfuckerfranco he could have opened with 'hi, im a big fan, and i only took this job because i was hoping to get to know you' like, yeah, thats a problem.
@@funnyfuckerfranco he pushed himself into her professional life and built a relationship with her predicated on a lie, she says it very clearly
Damn. I'm so sorry. Thanks for sharing your story.
Well that's absolutely terrifying.
The fact that you even shared this makes you the bravest person I have seen in a LONG time ❤️ You didn't deserve that but how on earth does one even recover from this? Time? FBI level screening from now on?
Recover from what? He didn’t have involuntary sex with her. This dude went after what he wants like he’s Bruce Wayne/Batman or something and honestly. It’s damn impressive!
I'm so sorry, stalkers are terrifying, and such a drain on your energy. I hope he switches his obsession to a picture in an art gallery so he can spend the rest of his life looking at it and leaving everyone else alone. It sounds like you handled it as well as anyone could. Best wishes.
Except people like me who go to art galleries...!
The "I had to make sure we fell in love first" line that kept coming up is definitely out there.,..
I'm so sorry this happened to you, that's terrifying!
This sounds like "You" irl, terrifying. Hope you're doing okay Anna
Okay, this guy, totally needs a restraining order, cause wow, that’s insane
A literal stalker
No. He put himself in a position to meet her.
He didn’t attack her, she voluntarily slept with him.
She wasn’t tricked. She’s trying to blame him for her desperate attempt to avoid real life.
@@drp1bb856 She WAS tricked though. He made it seem like a chance encounter, but it wasn't. He tracked her down beforehand. Had he opened with "hi, I'm a big fan, I'm actually working for free here in hopes of meeting you" she would not have slept with him. Plus, disregarding that she didn't want anything serious and admitting to only dating asian women are two more red flegs on top.
You do not start relationships by stalking and then forcing yourself into someone's work life.
@@drp1bb856 wat? u serious?
@@omolisa3783 ignore this guy. He clearly sees himself in this situation and has been trolling the comment section. It's almost like he's obsessed with Anna himself.
Be vulnerable, and don’t give up on love!
Wholly crap?! seriously, who does that? Thanks for sharing and I'm glad you're ok. Hope things get better and you never run into him again. Take care
"I'm not looking for something serious". Translation: Do you have ceiling tiles? I want to count them. LOL
And yet this person would be cast as the hero of a typical romcom…..
Sheesh glad you okay stay Awesome Anna.
we love you Anna
The fact that he's self aware is freaky, cause you only hear of the ones who are 100% convinced that you're already in a relationship with them.
Like he knew it was creepy, and wrong, but he did it anyway. 🤢🤮
It blows my mind that people that come to terms with stuff like have to decide to keep the behavior up until bad outcomes happen or get professional help. It's in their hand to act on it, baffling to think that's someone's experience. I've seen troubled people with personality disorders that do interviews for awareness and they aren't prisoners or anything, just formaly diagnosed and sharing information. Being in their shoes sounds scary to me because I'm nervous to admit my fear, or my weaknesses, or my limitations. I can't imagine an arsonist, or pedophile, or cleptomaniac signing up for an appointment and asking someone for help. *Bizarre!*
You’re totally right - he actually even knows it’s creepy and just keeps going
Wow, celebrity stalkers actually exist, creepy! I had something similar happen to me once in a foreign country but not on this level. He called to ask me out, and at the time I made a lot of acquaintances in that country and I was sure he was probably someone who knew one of them but no, he saw me in passing on the street after I said goodbye to a classmate of mine that I was randomly assigned to do a homework assignment with, and that classmate gave him my number without my permission. He called asking me out and I thought he had a cute accent. He told me how he got my number after I asked him in the middle of the date. That’s when I realized my mistake and when he asked to take a picture with me, regrettably I did because I was freaking out and was trying not to show it, and then I just made an excuse to leave and went home, circling around the blocks a few times to make sure I wasn’t being followed. You’ve gotta be careful especially when you go abroad because you just never know. But wow, your thing must’ve been terrifying! Hope you feel better now that you’re home!
Seems the classmate is more in the wrong. At least a heads up with some backstory on the guy would have been nice.
Why do people think that having sex with someone doesn’t have some inherent risk of that person (or themselves) growing real feelings for that person? If you don’t want to end up in a vulnerable situation like this, don’t have sex with people you’re not in a committed relationship with. That should be the real lesson here.
The “this is terrifying experience. Anyways thank you daddy squarespace” really sent a shiver down my spine in the juxtaposition of it all
Okay! How do people have the time and money to stalk a person across different countries? This is just next level creepyyyy 😵
Wow, this is more horrifying than I could have imagined!
I’m crying 😭
It’s almost like having promiscuous “hook ups” with the sole intention of NOT getting attached is not healthy at all and you should get to know someone first before sleeping with them. Crazy idea I know.
And this is why dating is beyond messed up now, because hardly anyone (not all) aren't willing or even know how to show up authentic, and so they rely on tricking people into dating them, relationships, and even sex.
This is why guys don't talk. They end up saying dumb stuff...
This is why the 3-4 date rule USED to be a thing.
By the 3rd or 4th date they'll probably expose themselves as a psycho. If you meet in 2 hours and then end up in bed, yeah that's a horror movie script.
I am also a believer in that rule. Although, always be perceptive. They may not expose themselves that early. I have known people who have dated creeps for well over a year before they finally saw them for what they really werez
Yikes 😦. Having to deal with that back at home too is insane. Hope that gets resolved and you feel safe.
The title is misleading, you chose to sleep with this person. He just happened to also be a stalker.
Well, he gave false pretenses. And in a pretty clear and planned manner. I'd say that was manipulative and should count as tricking someone.
The trick was manipulating events to appear organic and natural. It's like when a closeup magician asks you to "pick a card, any card", in reality, they've already chosen your card for you. It's a matter of making you pick the card without realizing it.
Thank you! I was looking for this comment! I agree the title is misleading. More like she was tricked in getting close to someone and choosing on her own to sleep with him rather than her being tricked just so he could sleep with her. Still, what that guy did was wrong.
@@marcioa1811 I am curious. What _would_ count as tricking someone then? Aside from litereally switching out the person.
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I can't say what Marcio means, but to actually "trick" someone to sleep with you would probably not be easy.
The best I can think is if you're offered sex with Brad Pitt, but it turns out that it was a celebrity lookalike. Or if a man thought he was having sex with a woman, but it turned out to be a transgender.
Feels like the first thing men should learn: don't overfocus on a woman, before you're actually talking to her.
Who approached the man
I’m so sorry. You’re not dumb and I hope this situation ends soon. Take care.
Wasn’t ready
doh that is creepy. Glad you are recovering. Stay safe.
Anna - This is the one of the most highly produced warning shots at your stalker's feet I have ever seen. I know this is your professional life and you maintain a flow of content, and being visible in the online space is the name of the game with navigating the entertainment business, but please -- be careful out there! With hugs, a long term fan
I’m so sorry this happened to you. That was terrifying! 😰
I really don't know who is worst. The person who is obsessed with a internet personality or the girl that tells the internet what she wants, gets exactly what she says she wants and later regrets getting what she said she wants.
Nobody goes on the internet to ask for a creepy stalker, GERALD
Oh wow, it sounds like something damn terrifying. I think you'll be able to recover,I hope the dude goes away, very far away. Stay safe!
As a young female, this message is good to hear from time to time. Thank you for sharing and I’m sorry you went through it.
OMG! Take care and sending you love
Good thing you are pretty, dont let these gentle people lie to you, you made a mistake and you learned from it and now you dont have to go back to that.
Holy crap. I've heard plenty of horror stories from women in my time (and some men too) but this is serious Play Misty for Me level stuff. Really glad you're safe and keep safe out there
I actually do think him coming clean is better , it makes him less creepy .. overall still creepy but he is one of the better ones
This literally seems pulled out of a horror movie. I'm so glad you made it out safe.
What a twist!
I was super proud to see you had made it from =3 to AntMan. So much progress. Sorry you picked up a stalker along the way
Damn Anna. I’m glad you’re safe and was able to get away.
Off topic but I love your shirt sm!!
He's so intuitive
The key to getting into bed with a woman
Step 1: Wear a hat
Step 2: Take off the hat
Step 3: Profit
Now we have the code.
Note: Said hat cannot be a fedora or else your chances of success plummet exponentially
In all seriousness, stalking is no joke, but I am glad you can find humor in it and that you're safe.
Best of luck!
This is like a Netflix documentary. The drama, the realness, the story telling. Great message thanks Anna ❤️
Almost seems too good to be true
No this is reality, the problem is you women watch these dumb brainwashing shows, that imply if anyone likes you they are stalkers and psychotic.