The reasons 1)Low self worth 2)instant gratification 3) being surrounded by similar people 4)rejection/failure 5)familiar (yet harmful) patterns 6)all Try to be an assertive person and identify the above reasons as they come up.
IT is weird indeed. Everywhere I comment, people tell me how much they love me and my content. Sometimes IT is annoying. But right now, IT would be okay. So say something nice about my content, dear tra
I've been trying to be more assertive since the start of 2021 and DAMN is it hard, especially when you've spent your whole life neglecting your own needs to keep others happy and avoid conflict
You can't even imagine just how well-timed this insight comes!!! I've been pushing off writing my thesis for two months now. I'm gonna come back to this from time to time to reflect on my behaviour and progress. Thanks, Anna & team!!
Coincidences again... Was talking about this subject AND in desperate need of new glasses last night... BOTH stopping self sabotage and getting new glasses are going to take a while.
Speaking for a friend, self-sabotage is a bit of a vicious cycle because you _don't_ see yourself as deserving good things, but in order to see yourself more positively, you usually need to improve yourself in some way. Like, this "friend" of mine doesn't like the way they look, but instead of working out and eating better, they get this delicious fried chicken every Tuesday for dinner.
It is a vicious cycle. Society is toxic. When we realize our own self worth, it makes things like exercise and eating healthier easier (though NOT easy). Change takes work but people won't be happy unless they are doing it for the right reasons. Self hatred regarding looks/weight (or it being perpetuated by toxic people) is not going to motivate someone to live a healthier life. It usually ends up in an eating disorder that continues messing with the person's mind and well-being. Everyone deserves to be loved and valued regardless of what they have for dinner. Once a person loves themself, taking better care of themself will feel much more achievable.
how about this... your friend tries to eat healthy for 6 days of the week and eats fried chicken on tuesday. small changes overtime can yield big results :)
Maybe we need to think about cycles. The thing is that we self sabotage keeping the same cycles in our life that needs to die to some new things to come up
I love your sense of humor Anna. I feel like my family and friends have a hard time understanding my humor, but yours hit mine really point on about mental health and our struggles. Thanks for making me laugh and bringing a smile to my face. Lol
Thank you Anna. Sadly I feel that I might be sabotaging myself because no matter which choice I make I feel that I will be betraying some aspect of myself. Sometimes it feels like the only winning move is not to play...
2:08 why does this remind me of charmed where Piper and pheobe kept complaining about being the charmed ones and they just want to have normal lives and then when the angel of destiny one day let them choose to have a normal live, they suddenly wanted to stay witches. But right in the next Episode they complained again that they are witches.
How do you figure out what you want? That is a question I've had for years. Depression has made me not want anything other than sleep for over 13 years.
Self-sabotage,This is a very serious issue explained very well..The tough part identifying, accepting. It takes decades for some to identify and accept while for some people a month. Thanks for explaining the truth, reasons..Keep doing all these to increase awareness..
I relate to all 6 of the listed reasons for self-sabotage. My ex who I pushed away has all 8 of the symptoms of an assertive person. So this is what it's like to horribly screw up.
*Restaurant McSaboteur menu* -> Stew of self-pity, with cilantro | recommended for drowning | ->impulsive spending | will lead to financial ruin | ->not standing up for myself | very simple and elegant | ->procrastination | voted most popular meal | ->Self medicating with drugs and alcohol -> Performing below my abilities on purpose ->Not showing up ->Comfort eating ->Interpersonal conflict | the large portion is especially tasteful | *Popular side dish* ->Self-sacrifice for others to avoid working on myself
Before she shot her dream of being a track runner in the foot, Anna's waitressing career really tanked the day she decided to wear that fuzzy grey tank top while working at that extremely classy though decidedly depressing French restaurant.
Just found your channel the other day!! Where the hell have you been! I love this,the topics are all relatable (which is totally worrying) n the execution is super fun n entertaining. Thanks for these Anna..,
I have a driving exam maybe this week or the next one and I still have a class left to review everything. I know I can get better and pass the exam because I know the information I need to know and I really enjoy driving, but I am so afraid of passing it. Passing the exam means I will need to drive alone or with my family in the backseats without any help from an instructor. Passing it means I am a little bit good enough to start driving and then I will need to improve more after. Passing it means I will need to keep driving and getting better. I am so afraid of passing because I don't know if I am good enough to keep being good enough. I have ADHD and I know how hard is for me to keep good performance in something I do, and I am terrified of passing the exam, getting my driver's license, and all of the sudden just becoming a bad driver, I am afraid of getting worse after I pass for some reason because I won't have someone on my side to help me.
anna you live in my heart rent free
Me too, especially her daddy squarespace
Me too! And I’d even throw in a mini bar.
Haha, same!!
daddy squarespace lmao
SAMEEEEE
The reasons
1)Low self worth
2)instant gratification
3) being surrounded by similar people
4)rejection/failure
5)familiar (yet harmful) patterns
6)all
Try to be an assertive person and identify the above reasons as they come up.
"interpersonal conflict..."
"would you like a small or a large?"
"a large"
why must anna call me out like this
boy tell me about it. covid has make interpersonal conflicts as high as a fuji mountain
“Why aren’t YOU married?” Okay that was FUNNY
shut up
@@sunisthakundu6684 no u
I never knew we needed "French Anna" until now
I think there was some Russian in there too :)))
IT is weird indeed. Everywhere I comment, people tell me how much they love me and my content. Sometimes IT is annoying. But right now, IT would be okay. So say something nice about my content, dear tra
All that's left is catgirl Anna.
Lesbians speak for their own communities.
Hybrid Vigour troll
I've been trying to be more assertive since the start of 2021 and DAMN is it hard, especially when you've spent your whole life neglecting your own needs to keep others happy and avoid conflict
I wish you strength 💪 I've been there, it is a tough journey sometimes but it is worth every step!
been a battle for 1o years. its especially hard if you dont have real autonomy. wishing us much luck and percevierance!
Me feeling attacked in every one of Anna's videos.
And we come back for more
@@luckylara6610 Ikr
Cos it's fun!!!
LOL 😂 “this isn’t a YA Novel” , slowly puts books down.
Ikr
"I just want to be normal like everyone else" Alina Starkov is QUAKING
"Our specials today are drowning yourself in self pity with cilantro"
You can't even imagine just how well-timed this insight comes!!! I've been pushing off writing my thesis for two months now. I'm gonna come back to this from time to time to reflect on my behaviour and progress. Thanks, Anna & team!!
Same here, but for longer. Any progress?
Good luck you!
Omg same here... How are you guys doing? Anything in particular that helps pushing through? 😣
Lack of understand one's true self leads to self sabotage🙏
Ouch, this got me.I'm on my way to finding my true self.
That’s so true
"With a side of constant self sacrifice for others, to avoid working on myself" .. ouch! That one hit *deep!*
Coincidences again... Was talking about this subject AND in desperate need of new glasses last night... BOTH stopping self sabotage and getting new glasses are going to take a while.
breh same
There are no “coincidences” - you were _meant_ to be here, now.
Speaking for a friend, self-sabotage is a bit of a vicious cycle because you _don't_ see yourself as deserving good things, but in order to see yourself more positively, you usually need to improve yourself in some way. Like, this "friend" of mine doesn't like the way they look, but instead of working out and eating better, they get this delicious fried chicken every Tuesday for dinner.
It is a vicious cycle. Society is toxic. When we realize our own self worth, it makes things like exercise and eating healthier easier (though NOT easy). Change takes work but people won't be happy unless they are doing it for the right reasons. Self hatred regarding looks/weight (or it being perpetuated by toxic people) is not going to motivate someone to live a healthier life. It usually ends up in an eating disorder that continues messing with the person's mind and well-being. Everyone deserves to be loved and valued regardless of what they have for dinner. Once a person loves themself, taking better care of themself will feel much more achievable.
how about this... your friend tries to eat healthy for 6 days of the week and eats fried chicken on tuesday. small changes overtime can yield big results :)
_"maybe it's you"_ yeah no it's definitely me
"So hopefully there's a personal attack incoming soon!"
This sums up Anna's entire channel. Lmao.
The menu names are so hilarious and on spot xD! One of the best scripts you've made!
Dang girl you look great in those glasses
she really looks cool
Therapy hour with Anna!! Love all your mental health content. It's hella validating and keeps me thinking about my therapy goals between appointments
Your value does not decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth
~ someone great
You slid right into a Russian accent while attempting French, but that's OK, lol.
Self improvement can be exhausting...On the other hand, what choices are there? Universal Law: What doesn't grow, dies.
Everything that grows also dies at some point.
Maybe we need to think about cycles. The thing is that we self sabotage keeping the same cycles in our life that needs to die to some new things to come up
Ironically, I'm absolutely putting instant gratification over my long term goals by watching youtube right now...
i don't think that psychiatrist was really writing stuff down.
Waitress, not psychiatrist.
@@ireallyreallyhategoogle potato, potahto
“… with a side of constant self-sacrifice for others to avoid working on myself.” 😩😂😭 I feel so exposed
maybe it's me but without the maybe
Everything is just perfect in your videos! The message, background, skits, makeup, dress, sponsor messages!! Everything
0:48 that restaraunt is fancyyy. That not standing up for yourself entree sounded good AF.
"sorry girl this aint a YA novel" 😂😂
wow thank you for this needed call out
I love your sense of humor Anna. I feel like my family and friends have a hard time understanding my humor, but yours hit mine really point on about mental health and our struggles.
Thanks for making me laugh and bringing a smile to my face. Lol
Thank you so much, Anna, for giving me free therapy sessions.
Thank you Anna. Sadly I feel that I might be sabotaging myself because no matter which choice I make I feel that I will be betraying some aspect of myself. Sometimes it feels like the only winning move is not to play...
This is so relatable, glad to know I’m not the only one
Girl you have the ability to captivate the audience with such important messages
been on my mind this whole week. thanks for saying what needed to be said !!
2:08 why does this remind me of charmed where Piper and pheobe kept complaining about being the charmed ones and they just want to have normal lives and then when the angel of destiny one day let them choose to have a normal live, they suddenly wanted to stay witches. But right in the next Episode they complained again that they are witches.
That "can we split that" joke....I see you. I see what you did there and I lourve it.
How do you figure out what you want? That is a question I've had for years. Depression has made me not want anything other than sleep for over 13 years.
"Good luck with that! :)"
Thanks Anna... I'm trying
Absolutely perfect timing, thank you!
Your videos transcribed and summaries on notion would be a huge hit!
A friend sent me a link of one of your videos and I'm so glad.
I love that your videos are sharp, intelligent, engaging, and funny. Fabulous work!
After seeing what makes an assertive person, it’s become clear I’m taking L’s on all fronts😭
It's so nice to get actually useful psychological info and have a laugh at the same time :)
i feel so called out. thank you for this.
This is so realll. Anna coming in with the relevant advice.
ugh ze french accent!!!!!! anna is too insanely talented
To the priest, "Why aren't you married?"
DUDE IF U WANA BE MARRIED TO A PROSTITUTE, BE MY GUEST. NOT FOR ME THANKS. NOT TODAY, NOT TOMORROW AND NOT EVER.
Self-sabotage,This is a very serious issue explained very well..The tough part identifying, accepting. It takes decades for some to identify and accept while for some people a month. Thanks for explaining the truth, reasons..Keep doing all these to increase awareness..
*WAS JUST TALKING ABOUT THIS WITH MY SISTER*
I love ur channel so much it’s free therapy man 🥳
I relate to all 6 of the listed reasons for self-sabotage. My ex who I pushed away has all 8 of the symptoms of an assertive person. So this is what it's like to horribly screw up.
Wow the effort that you put into your videos is really impressive...I’ve been watching you for years and you haven’t missed a step hahahaha
these videos are so underrated! they should have millions of thumbs up!
My favourite TH-camr rn
The shooting of the foot was too good🤣
Fortunatly, this list also tells you exactly what to do to NOT change your behavior on Accident, and ensure you stay exactly where you are right now
"We did a line together, it was fabulous." Line made me do a double take.
The upper limit problem!! Once you see it, you can't unsee it.
These trio skits are the gold the dragon in my heart needed!
lol the gun pointing at your foot was a good metaphor
*Restaurant McSaboteur menu*
-> Stew of self-pity, with cilantro
| recommended for drowning |
->impulsive spending
| will lead to financial ruin |
->not standing up for myself
| very simple and elegant |
->procrastination
| voted most popular meal |
->Self medicating with drugs and alcohol
-> Performing below my abilities on purpose
->Not showing up
->Comfort eating
->Interpersonal conflict
| the large portion is especially tasteful |
*Popular side dish*
->Self-sacrifice for others to avoid working on myself
Anna, you’re incredible!!! Thank u so much for this, pretty sure it helps a lot of people. You’re an angel❤️
This really couldn’t have come at a better time
Constant self sacrifice for others to avoid working on myself....why yes.
Anna's videos are always gold
Im so glad the youtube recommend her to my feeds. Thank you anna...
Before she shot her dream of being a track runner in the foot, Anna's waitressing career really tanked the day she decided to wear that fuzzy grey tank top while working at that extremely classy though decidedly depressing French restaurant.
Self-sabotaged in relationships galore. It's my special move
It's also super effective.
@@borofreak well yeah, I've been single almost 9 years now
Got Godfather Prt. II vibes from this topic of discussion all in due to Michael Corleone’s character. .. thx for the therapy/lecture
aw thank you Anna! you should discuss more of these types.
watching your videos literally helps me a lot, make me a pretty person inside and out. Thank you Anna Akana.
I WANT A LONGER VERSION OF THIS
Those frames look amazing on you!!
I love that she draws her props
Loved "Why aren't you married?" and her reaction! 😂😂😂
COS OPEN RELATIONSHIPS ARE FOR PEOPLE WITH NO ETHICS AND MORALS. NOBODY IS PERFECT, BUT THAT LINE SHOULD NEVER BE CROSSED. THAT'S JUST MY OPINION.
i’ve been WAITING for this one! turn it up!
Just found your channel the other day!! Where the hell have you been! I love this,the topics are all relatable (which is totally worrying) n the execution is super fun n entertaining. Thanks for these Anna..,
This is great Anna....Great innovation and advice!!!
Anna managed To give us all virtual therapy and dish out the laughs at the same time lol
Thank you, Anna!
Even assertive people can self sabotage
oh never knew that
THANK YOUU!!!! I was looking for this
The short hair looks so good!
What to do against self sabotaging? Basically the opposite of whatever you have been doing and feeling towards yourself until now.
Therapy goal 😂
2:45 it make sense now , aaahhhhhhhh !!!!!!!
Awesome job Anna
I have a driving exam maybe this week or the next one and I still have a class left to review everything. I know I can get better and pass the exam because I know the information I need to know and I really enjoy driving, but I am so afraid of passing it. Passing the exam means I will need to drive alone or with my family in the backseats without any help from an instructor. Passing it means I am a little bit good enough to start driving and then I will need to improve more after. Passing it means I will need to keep driving and getting better. I am so afraid of passing because I don't know if I am good enough to keep being good enough. I have ADHD and I know how hard is for me to keep good performance in something I do, and I am terrified of passing the exam, getting my driver's license, and all of the sudden just becoming a bad driver, I am afraid of getting worse after I pass for some reason because I won't have someone on my side to help me.
I love this channel so much. Thank you Anna❤
Totally awesome. Your shows are so informative.
Great timing!!!
4 speaks so much to me
I miss her saying "stay awesome gotham" at the ending
Nice Ryoko cover of Juper's Legacy in the background, very Subtle Anna (also you were one of the best things on that show)
Anna never misses
Such a good reminder!
super duper love the script for this one 😩
You make my failure sound so fancy
Thank you :’)