When friends become enemies
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 13 ม.ค. 2021
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I can't believe i've been a gray rock my entire life with manipulative people without knowing there's actually a name for it aaa i love it
Yes!!!! Was thinking the same thing!
HELP MY!!! My muscles are too big! I am a big tall man and my muscles are even BIGGER! I use them to get views but they HURT so much!!! Because they are heavy. Do you have any advice, dear sofia
Same!
Doing that at work. They started complaining to management about my grey rocking.
OMG exactly what I thought. Had to deal with someone manipulative and I just went gray rock and it worked amazingly well. Never knew it was a 'technique' haha.
I thought I was literally the only one, aaaaaa 🙈✨
Missed opportunity to thank your PaTREEons
*air horn noises* OOooOhhh
Thank you, I was just about to write that :D
Thank you
Maybe she leaft it out just for you to find. Treemendous effort my bud!
@@chrisside4312 SAME XD
I want to have friends who will pretend to be trees with me. Goals.
I want to have friends
Maybe Vin Diesel would be down
I'm sure your friends would be oak ay with it.
@@cjermevpg6372 HA
Why don't you pretend to be a tree WITH YOURSELF!!😆😆😆.. I'm lame 😞
Please Anna, start a podcast channel. Go more deeper and discuss on such topics. Thank you!
facts facts facts
I third and fourth this motion
Agree
YASSSS. Please.
I fifth this motion
tree-anna: abolish the patreearchy
my multilingual brain: arbol-ish the patreearchy
the funniest thing I have seen today, ni yo me habia dado cuenta JAJJAJAJA
Haha :))
jajajajaja bien
Realll🤣🤣
SIII 😂
I used to do the Grey Rock method when I was a kid to get throught all the horrible situations I've been put into. Therefore my whole family thought I was a bore and "too serious for my age". I love that there's a name for that!
Borahae💜💜
Good for you! That’s so smart to realize that as a kid!
I've seen U in other comments sections, wanna be comment pals?
It was honestly very traumatic *smile*
Aaaand my childhood just got summed up in 5 seconds.
Someone make this top comment
Oh... So its not just me...okay
needs to be made into a gif
The worst part, you'll not know who or when it'll happen
Ikr!
@Michael Skinner It means that it WILL happen and there's no way knowing where or who is gonna eventually betray you.
I never realized I did the gray rock method instinctively when dealing with ppl i don’t like. Also indifference is such a better option then hating because it sends the message that u rlly don’t care about them and it’s less energy wasted.
Wow.. Good for you❤
I’m a proud member of the “Grey Rocking” club.
same here, i’ve been doing it without knowing i was lol
I don't know why but I'm only able to do it at work.
Started recently. It works wonders.
Even though it seemed like a total birch move at the time, Anna enticing that deer to eat Michelle was actually a deep-rooted term of endearment with her fellow tree.
En'deer'meant you mean?
Sorry, the tree puns got me in the mood. 🤭
"Silence is a strong reply"
Murray Head
Also, yes to using Gray Rock method because energy vampire feed off our energies and we don't want that.
Only the White Court
Do some people feel like they turn in to gray rocks with people they don’t know yet and don’t feel comfortable with?
Yes i do this on a daily basis
All the time! Makes it so much harder making friends 😅
@@kalikso lol indeed. People often tell me like: "at first you seem closed off and maybe even cold but after becoming friends you're so different!".. I mean i am glad they like me after a while but hahah not a good first impression
@@LOVEAapjes same here
most people probably use or have used the method before in their lives without knowing their was an actual term for it. I mean, aren't most people at least somewhat of a grey rock with new people? it takes time to open up and be comfortable with them.
It's odd that Anna doesn't become a professional therapist herself at this point 😂❣
She basically is
To us 😂
I was literally thinking the same....
Lol she has heaps of experience lol
It's not as profitable or as fun.
Giving these deep advises like this is something completely different than actually analyzing people correctly. She also reaches a way bigger audience like this.
i have just learned that i have been using the grey rock method a LOT lately with my family. maybe even my whole life. i have a lot more communication issues i need to work out in my life
i started to use the grey rock method unknowingly when i got tired of the comments of my family, i just don't care anymore what they say :)))
'Grey rocking' is like a real life "ghosting"
Can't fall out with friends if you have none💕
True 😅😂😭
Yasssss queen✌️
Where was this when I was in high-school?? 😭 so many toxic relationships
Been grey rocking my parents for 2 years now. There's only so much bickering and crying I can take, I'm tired on spending my emotions on people who aren't worth a genuine smile.
needed this today
Burg? 🤣😅
same lol
I did too
hope ur doing okay
I've been Grey rocking my abusive, narcissistic, alcoholic roommate and I didn't even know that's what it was called 😅 it works to a certain extent, but when you are with them constantly it's harder to do 😭
Do you have the option to move somewhere else?
I hope you have the option to move out and find a more peaceful place to live 😢
@@Etianen7 I'm working on finding a place right now. It's difficult since the US government doesn't believe in supporting a living wage. The cost of living is just so crazy it's hard to leave abusive situations 😬
@@dustieyontararak thanks for the support, stranger 😊
I feel you! Living that right now to some extent. I have two cray crays in my home. I do the same, but sometimes , especially during codiv , I do feel the need to talk a bit about something of interest or let them in on my mind. Yesterday was such a day and lo and behold, they turned it into drama today! Like where do that get the energy from. It's badshit crazy around here sometimes.
Grey rocking sounds like what helped me survive bullying in school
I love the tree costume 🥺
this is literally my comfort youtube channel
why does this comment make so much sense?
Same 😫
Trueeee
Me tooooo, shes been my therapist since 2013
You've been posting a lot about the changing and loss of your relationships. Just remember that wildfires pave the way for new growth.
That might be a bad analogy now that wildfires (caused by preventing indigenous people from doing traditional cool burnings) are contributing to climate change and killing people.
GASP
...
wildfires also kill TREES... i see what you did there 😉
"Michelle? MiCHEllE? MicHELLE? MICshell? misshell? mcchell?"
that's all i be hearing
I WANNA LIKE A HUNDRED TIMES FOR PURE QUALITY TREE PUN CONTENT
i love how honest Anna is over her past problems makes it easier to confront mine
Always thought trees could be friends.. never enemies.. a little scared of trees now
I hope you see animals as friends too.
@@mariemaier5630 i do too
love this
What a birch 🌳
Friends becoming enemies is the worst thing in the world. 😔
"All of my enemies started out friends". Taylor Swift
@@annaeverette8960 I'm sorry that happened to you. 😔
THE GREY ROCK
I'm am dieing that I didn't know this anyway ima start using so I can slowly push my toxic friend away
YOUR A FRICKEN GOSESS THANK YOU I NEEDED THIS TIP IN MY LIFE THANK YOU!!!
oh jeez, grey rocking is definitely one of my core interpersonal tools for dealing with difficult people that I have been using since I was in high school... Actually super handy as a bartender/server
That tree BFF thing explains why there are 2 trees of different species completely entwined with each other for the past 15 years in my yard
Oh my! I know now why I havn‘t met manipulative people in my entire life! And why I never experience Drama! It‘s all just because I‘m a boring person :)
WHOA ive never heard of the grey rock method!! Im in a situation where I have to see this toxic "friend" a lot because we are in the same friend group. I cant exactly just separate my life from them because I want to stay friends with everyone else in the group!!
The thing about greyrocking is also not ignoring them/ giving them the silent treatment. Be boring, be deadpan, answer with one word etc. but if you have to interact/ be around someone, ignoring or giving the silent treatment can make the manipulative person even more angry and try to provoke you to make you react. If you can avoid interactions with them, just go no contact.
"Hipster version of Zen" 😂🤣 making no promises not to steal this one!
She should have said “paTREons”
The childhood play in which you played a tree paid off immensely
Girl I NEEDED this
Can't relate enough. Been doing this for years, works every time. The funnies are when they come to you and tell you you have changed. I just rolled my eyes.
It's the Adult version of Ignore the bullies and they will leave you alone.
This is the best content I could’ve woken up to
I came across this channel two days ago and I am hooked! I ain't leaving. The aesthetic, the life lessons and the humor. I am there for it all
I really needed this! Amazing :))
I remember hearing about how grey rock method before. It also is a very thin line cause it can become empty. Idk if that makes sense
Oh, I'm absolutely loving these scetches with your flatmates!!! It looks like you have such a good time!
Thank you for sharing your life experiences and things you’ve learned from therapy all these years!!
ugh yet another quality vid, love it
Started out with trees--- this is gonna be GOOD!
I can't get a pun outta my head - when you said, we've talked our whole lives i just keep thinking leaves instead of lives lol
"I'm leafing"
"Then leaf."
@@briannagravely9349 hahaha treemendous
i'm LIVING for all the tree puns
😂 This was hilarious. Love all the tree puns! You three have such chemistreeeey! Also made me realize I sometimes do the grey rock without knowing
I didn’t know there was a term for that, or that it was a special technique. I’ve been Gray Rocking for years!
I would watch a series of all three of standing around making tree puns dressed as trees
omg this is amazing!
Ugh, I just love your videos!
In-TREE-guing.
I'm a naturally boring person and basically all my college friends lived for the drama and gossip. I was never interested in a thing they said which is why we aren't friends anymore. A grey rock since birth 🙃✌️
returning to school to a group of friends turned strangers, really needed this, thank you
this is something i needed to hear
* *Starts reading about plants* * : you know what this reminds me of? My friends!
~ Mark Watney (45) Botanist
The Grey Rock thing seems fine if there is a relationship that is established as broken. If you do it to a friend without talking to them first is manipulative as well and extremely hurtful.
This.
Which is why thats called the cold shoulder. Grey Rock is a distancing technique for people that are hurting you, of course you cant do it to someone who is a friend.
I love your dynamic and humour
Love this! I’m loving how often you upload with such deep content! 💜
Y’all better stream “RUN” on 1/22
I never knew I was Grey rocking with my manipulative family members since I was a pre-teen.
This was great! ❤️❤️❤️
This was just the advice I needed
Why did I just find out that Michelle and Melissa were two different people
It took me a WHILE too. For some videos I just thought Anna was a master at special effects.
@@RicardoMoralesMassin maybe she is👀
They aren't the same person???
Anna: uploads
Me: CLICKS FASTER THAN THE SPEED OF LIGHT
I make vidz💜
Very slippery vids, in fact.
Absolutely love your content, Id love to hear your perspective on being okay with not getting closure because you have such a wonderful inspiring way of explaining tough life scenarios.
Anna, Michelle, and Melissa are absolute goals
OOF I love reliving my college trauma ^^;
on a real note though when can I evolve into Anna Akana? gold content here~
#BringGoolPicturesBack Pleeeas!
#bringGoolPicturesback
Your skit is always fun
This is soooooo helpful!!
Is there a line that needs to be tread carefully with the grey rock method? I feel like it could come across as avoidant and dismissive if not executed properly. I don’t think it should be used as a crutch to get out of uncomfortable situations simply because it’s awkward. I don’t know. Just my .02.
Agree.
It is avoidant and dismissive by design, which makes it ineffective at actually helping people communicate and achieve conflict resolution.
Thing is, it was designed specifically for what Anna described -- surviving toxic people who are in your social orbit. It is not intended to get you out of uncomfortable situations you just don't feel like dealing with.
@@annaeverette8960 makes sense, thanks!
Most recent interpersonal drama: a girl said to me “why are you acting like we’ve been best friends for years? If you don’t like me, just say it.” ????????
wow that's deep
Man, that sounds like a rough situation. Is there any chance there was any form of miscommunication, however subtle?
I had a friend pull that once. Been friends for 2 years and she would say I was her best friend, all of a sudden she told me it was weird how I called her my best friend and that she didnt want to hang with me anymore. Like.. okay lemme just ignore the last 2 years of non stop texting and endless sleepovers and pretend that didnt happen I guess.
I think some people fear being known because they've internalised the message that they're a 'bad' person. So they push people away and self fulfill the prophecy.
Mixed signals here. Probably she's very insecure. I have a friend i adore but when she's really stressed she thinks everyone low-key hates her so, it might be that
I love this
Nice! This is prefect timing
#bringgoolpicturesback
THIS IS SO PERFECT
THANK YOU
Damn you really want to dress up as a tree, I'm here for it
I absolutely LOVE those puns at the end!!!
thank you so much - i lirally just learned so much
They become frenemies 🙃
#bringGoolPicturesback
Grey Rock method sounds brilliant. Will definitely use this!
My families advice growing up when I encountered manipulative people was to ignore them, and there is an actual name for their technique? I nevr guessed! Thank you Anna!
okay but what do you do when they ask why you're being dull and different and quiet? T__T
Best insult to say to a tree: you're such a burch! LOL
Oh thank goodness you don't know how much I needed this at this moment . Thank you for sharing
OMG, I love the birch tree pun!
Thank you Anna for making self-regulating, mental health techniques so accessible and digestible. As someone who can't afford therapy, you have no idea how much the techniques and knowledge you've shared over the years have helped me cope and grow. Love you!
Loving the backdrop!