Why I stopped drinking
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“One disappointment at a time” LMAOO
Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour. 1 Peter 5:8
Dating, am I right!
😂😂😂so funny
Programming your mindset like that is so toxic. Every relationship gets doomed before even starting.
But yeah, as a line in a sketch it was funny.
Why is she always personally attacking us like that 😂
In general I don't have a issue with alcohol consumption. What bothers me is how we're sold the idea that drinking is a required part of every social situation. We need to get past the idea that drinking has to be a component of a good time.
I’m with you on this one! Why is it so abnormal and even frowned upon not to drink?
Very true.
For some of us it's too late though, since we made the change to give "societies requirements" (and some of it's champions) a big meaty middle finger, which has more or less put us in the "anti-social zone"; decades ago.
At this point, we would be equal to a Surgical Doctor who has Parkinson's & turrets syndrome that gets triggered by breathing air, while about to make a cerebral tumor removal procedure, when trying to meet "social requirements".
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I drink probably 1 or 2 times a week, but I haven't been drunk in 30 years.
Best thing I every did was decide that I liked a drink, but I don't like drunk.
Drinking less also means I have the benefit of drinking nicer.
I can sit on a good bottle of something for months.
Yes, drinking and talking about sports will have me running for the door to get away
There is also a weird pressure to drink excessively. I only drink socially (drinking-centered social events for me only amount to once or twice a month), and when I do drink, I don't exceed two drinks. People will actually comment on how little I'm drinking. Y'all - alcohol is a potent substance and you can get sick from consuming too much of it! I can't believe how normal it is to pressure people to overconsume alcohol.
Alcohol is so bad for us in so many ways, I hate how there's so much social pressure to drink in so many countries.
It's not even necessarily alcohol though, but self-medication. Anything you could use to help shut the (metaphorical) voices up. Alcohol is simply one of the many escapes. Focusing too much on the means of escape means we don't focus on the real problems and ultimately don't help those who need it most.
@@talideonOmg finally someone said it. Thank you! well put!
Same
@@talideon but alcohol has the added perk of being literal poison
It’s like no country gets alcohol right. It’s either banned and a criminal offense or a social expectation.
I'm 6 months sober and it has honestly been the best antidepressant I've ever tried. I'm actually focusing on addressing the things that are issues in my life rather than ignoring them and burying my head in the sand. 10/10, highly recommend sobriety.
I'm a simp for a GoDaddy in uniform.
i am also at 6 months right now and that was one of the better choices so far, feels pretty good to say that
Everyone asks why don't you drink but no one asks why do you drink.
Congrats! Still working on it. Im down to once every week but I just drink a little too much everytime. I want to stop altogether eventually 🤞
Would you be willing to share how you've addressed your issues in your life? :)
I might be in a similar situation, and trying to wrestle why I should bother stopping alcohol consumption.
I started drinking alcohol years ago as a teenage, spent my whole life fighting alcohol addiction. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with cptsd. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
Thanks for sharing your story. That's rough I sympathize. Save your health save your mind. Life is better without heroin, cocaine, alcohol and cigarettes. And you have more money in your pocket. God bless everyone who has rejected the devils intentions to be addicted to alcohol and cigarettes etc which can cause so much damage to health. I will pray for you all.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped
you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the
same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!
How can i find him? Is he on Instagram
3 and half months sober, I got to the point I was hurting people, slow progress but worth it. Also had no idea Daddy SquareSpace, your legal and biological father, was in the military
😂😂😂😂 I never made that connection, thank you!!
I never started drinking. At 20 people thought I was a weirdo. At 30 I had people's respect.
Never started drinking either. At 43 now, i wouldn't say i have ever had peoples respect for it. Rather acceptance than respect.
And most of them still thought/think of me as a weirdo for not drinking.
Very few people i have met have reacted positively. (I can count them with the fingers on one hand, and don't even need all 5 fingers for it)
Usually the "best case scenario" is indifference...
"Drinking culture" is quite "strong" where i am from. (But it has gotten better in the last 20 years).
->I am from one of the top 3 countries in statistics of beer consumed per capita.
I'm not a drinker either, never have been. I don't understand how anyone can. No offense to anyone. Some people think the reason I don't drink is because I must have had a drinking problem. It's funny how people will offer a drink and assume every single person drinks. It's cool NOT to drink people.
@@nirfz that sounds very foreign to me. Are you perceived positively or negatively by people who are unfamiliar with your stance on alcohol?
@@DeclinedMercy That depends on the circumstances but i am not someone to bother others much.
To me it appears a mixture of positively and neutral more than negatively until that stance gets obvious.
I never started drinking. There is a history of alcohalism on my mom's side so I didn't even want to risk it. Additionally, on of my biddest fears is not being in control of my own body and drinking is a really good way to loose control so I never started drinking and I don't plan to ever start drinking or do any sort of drugs.
Haven’t had a drink for 25 years and I had a lot of consequences that led me to quit drinking but the interesting part was after I sobered up for years I would find little notes scribbled in the margins of books telling myself I had to stop drinking that I had written for a decade before I stopped drinking.
I stopped drinking for a year after the pandemic as well, and ever since I decided to start drinking again “in moderation” or with “more discipline” I have been struggling with my sobriety and it’s a battle I lose too often. The universe is screaming at me at this point. Day by day!
One day at a time, do the next right thing. Proud of you for continuing to try! You're worth it!
I had a similar struggle on my road to sobriety. Someone once explained it as “it’s easier to eat no chips than to eat just one” and honestly that totally reframed drinking for me. Good luck on your journey❤
You need to find another more healthy outlet for stress and pain. That is the key.
@@TaeGuerinso true! Moderation is so hard. I’m much better at being sober than at regulating how many chips I’m eating.
100% bang on the mark. Emotional suppression only leads to inner turmoil and chaos further down the road.
I quit drinking when the pandemic was declared. I thought; this is serious, I will have to deal with this conscientiously. Most importantly, it is during the pandemic that I discovered your channel. I wish you knew how much you have helped me through the pandemic and quitting alcohol. You are rocket fuel for the soul Anna. Love Xav
That takes some serious discipline, especially when so many people started drinking more. Very cool to hear
I just recently decided to be sober. I had been getting "whispers" for the past 6 months or so. It feels good to be here. I'm glad I listened.
That is so great. Proud of you for listening to yourself.
My recent "universe screaming" moment was after my ex broke up w/ me. I thought I was handling it well as I got full into mindful practices the whole time until on one occassion I went out to drink and got drunk. I remember kissing strangers and just being crazy and loose that night. The embarrasment I felt the next morning was heavy. It was not even fun. I guess I too had pent up emotions (maybe even denied the ones that are valid). I yearned for a connection that I lost (even before the actual breakup, I felt that and kept it in) and the alcohol made me bold to find even shallow relief. Anyway, all got better after that. I love the peace that I am in right now.
That's good to hear, don't judge yourself too harshly and learn from it
So you basically chose to get drunk and cheat on your ex bf and now "you're at peace"? gurl lol.. hopefully your ex is "at peace" now too...
@@taliamorrow1812 did you read the part where it said *after* they broke up?
@taliamorrow1812 no there was no cheating. We broke up and the closure was actually pretty good that I thought I can keep positive feelings maintained. I did all the self care stuff and decided to date myself that lead to that moment. I guess what the universe really wanted me to do is to take slow steps and embrace emotions, even anger and frustration, and not just drown it out. Imagine years of self work and sometimes you'd feel you're back to square one lol but at least there is always motivation to improve.
I'd like to give you a "over the internet" hug. I've seen too many friends and family members ruin their lives with alcohol.
This was actually really insiteful for a different reason.
I am fortunate enough to not have this level of repression, so when I drink I really don't change. Because of this, I have always had ZERO empathy for those who do change when they drink. Whether it be getting super horny and try to kiss anything that moves or really angry and aggressive, I always thought "drinking makes you more you, if you are a shitty drunk then you are just a shitty person and are good at hiding it sober." it never occurred to me that there might be things that the person needs to work out.
In the future i will try to have more sympathy for people who "change" when they drink.
Yeah that suppressing is a real thing for a lot of people. Sometimes people hold back their emotions and trauma so much just to survive.They don't know how to work through their issues so they come out when they are intoxicated. People need to find a healthy release whether that be exercise, therapy, Church. Heavy drinking, drugs are a sign something is wrong.
good on you for being humble and open-minded enough to expand your point of view!
Aaww so that means I'm actually a sleeeppyy ball of sunshine deep down? Great!
I didn't pick up on this while I was watching. Thank you for sharing!
Another thing I’ve realized is that some SSRIs or something like adderal can really not mix well with alcohol
Thank you for speaking on this. Alcoholism and alcohol abuse is SO common in our society that it’s easier for it to go unnoticed. Hopefully more people will become aware.
Mine was to quit my job. Everyone in my life was telling me to do so, and I thought if I just worked harder and added more projects it would fix everything, my boss was difficult, but maybe I was just misunderstanding. Therapy helped me realize I was accepting abuse and it wouldn't stop until I set boundaries, and if those boundaries kept getting crossed it wasn't a safe place. It helped to reframe it as if it was a friend going through that stuff and how I wouldn't want my friend to deal with a lack of boundaries, no separation from home and work, to put up with gaslighting and I knew I couldn't do it anymore. And then as an additional sign, like 5 people quit within three months so, it wasn't just me.
lack of boundaries and gaslighting, far too prevalent from managers and bosses.
@@dewdew80 big time, especially when you work in healthcare and the owner is just a buisness owner and has never gone to school for healthcare and has no concepts surrounding idk, ethics and laws.
Gaslighting, such a horrible & powerful word.
lol did we work at the same office?
@@Starfang_Wanderer if it’s not too personal to answer, what do you do to pay your bills now?
I’m always amazed (and a little jealous) of how good actors can so fluently and meticulously control their expressions. I’ve watched Anna drink that glass of wine like 6 times now and everything, from the stare-into-nothingness to the frown of the mouth, fits the voice over perfectly.
And yes, I know that’s the case for pretty much all her videos.
I've seen the brickwall falling down on people and the life long damage it causes when people refuse to even listen to that. Glad you decided to listen Anna.
I am extremely impressed by your ability to discuss this openly and honestly. Thank you.
I stopped drinking just because of general health stuff, and people do not want to hang out with you. Instantly no social life. It's been really weird, but at the same time, I don't want community that's contingent on drinking. It's been interesting exploring what I actually want to center my life around instead of what's expected.
Good for you Anna! When scientific research is not tainted by some part of the alcohol industry it is showing the only way to live well is entirely without alcohol.
Thanks for your honest advice, Anna. I typically have more fun when not drinking, and I'm able to remember everything more clearly.
Thanks for sharing Anna. I can relate this to so much. My therapist and psychiatrist both told me that Alcoholism in and of itself isn't a diagnosis. So we concluded that I exhibited Alcohol Abuse Disorder for many of the same reasons as you. Also, it peaked because of the pandemic and on a lark decided late one night 263 days ago to quit drinking. Had I thought about it for just a second I would have realized that I put myself in a position to have to experience my Birthday, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's all while being sober. What?!
But here I am. And I sometimes wonder if I could re-establish a healthier relationship with alcohol, but I know that even if it is possible... I know that I don't trust myself to do it right now. Cheers and thanks again.
Anyone dealing with this rn, whether you're still drinking and wanna make a change for yourself or you're sober, you can do anything you put your mind to, it won't always be easy but few things in life are, if you think it's a good choice for you it's gonna be worth it, take it slow and stay strong 🙏🏽
During my first marriage, which was abusive, alcohol was how I i coped with the abuse - it was one of very few things my ex was unable to destroy my enjoyment. When we split I started to stock up my apartment and then thought to myself, "this is an ideal time to make the changes you have always wanted to." One was cutting the booze. I still drank occasionally but it was 1 drink per week rather than averaging around 1 per day.
growing up as a kid who's exposed to drinking and it being depicted as this great thing, I've always wanted to get into it. Thankfully, I am allergic to it so I really don't drink at all. The thing is, I still feel happy and connected with people that I socialize with, all without a drop of rum. Looking at it now in my late 20s where my friends complain about lifestyle diseases because of the party lifestyle, I am thankful that I never pushed myself to drink.
Thank you for this. I have been so ashamed to confront my relationship with alcohol. To see how you conquered and overcame your obstacles is really inspiring. Thank you for such a positive message.
This was beyond insightful, I feel so seen in such a scary way
Going on 5 years, and it feels so good :) It's a fallacy that you need to have had a huge issue with it for it to be something worth giving up, but sometimes that makes the difference!!
I admire your ability to speak up and be open about challenges you have struggled with. I don't agree with the "universe speaking in whispers"/"inner voice" kind of thinking, but I always get new ideas watching your videos and enjoy your perspective!
One year sober this month. Although I miss drinking sometimes the whispers made it clear it's something I should leave behind. Applying the whisper analogy to other areas of life is something I am excited to explore thanks so much for sharing!
3 years sober after binge drinking on social events and being a "social drinker". Never felt better.
Thank you for this. I've been getting whispers for years now. The universe has been REALLY patient with me. This was a whisper I ignored 7 days ago when I didn't watch. Today I'm listening and it's like a friend giving me really comforting tough love. I'm close to hearing the screams but I know I sure as heck won't wait for the brick throw or brick wall to fall down. Thank you for sharing your own personal insight. It's been beautiful to watch your growth all these years and it's time I actually use it to help with my own growth. Thank you for being here. ✌💗⚘
I quit drinking 12 years ago and it's been one of the best decisions of my life.
I did 3years ago and it completely changed my life. It's like I'm finally alive again... Sure it was hard to learn how to be sober in company of friend, because we always grabbed a beer or wine.
Not to rely on alcohol in social situations
"The call" is a great point here - I feel like we've been trained to ignore it more than ever, almost as a marketing tactic (especially for alcohol).
Congrats Anna, I, too, drank heavily from April 2020 to 12/30/22. I did not want to feel, unfortunately, I felt everything. I ballooned up to 245, from about 180. I got pass-out drunk the day before New Years and had a bad soul-churning text exchange with a friend (the conversation was not related to alcohol). I had stopped drinking before, I've lost lots of weight several times so I knew what it would take. So I flicked the light switch, I knew if I stopped drinking, I would no longer drink soda and no more ibuprofen for the headaches, I might as well give up candy too, let's throw in coffee too which eliminates sugar and powdered creme. I started to hear more whispers, I stopped swearing which helped me be less dramatic, I bought a kayak to exercise more (and I pick up trash along the shore too) and lately, I have begun to eat less meat and am really bothered by violence of any type..you get the picture, all positive changes because of one decision. Just had a physical and she said, keep doing what you are doing, you don't need those High Blood Pressure meds I had been recommending! Thanks for sharing your experience and helping me contextualize the idea about the whispering of the Universe.
Yay! Love this post! Especially your "might as welll..." approach vs " I should..."
Way less pressure & more relaxed. Thank you for sharing & congratulations on your growth!
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*ps: highly recommend getting a disco ball for your house and a bubble aka magic wand (*trust me lol).
Might as well....😉they make everything better!
"I believe in committing to one disappointment at a time." Love it!
I haven’t had a drop of alcohol since I was in my twenties, I’m 54. My grandfather was an alcoholic, my dad would go through two cases of beer in a week, my sister liked drinking 2 bottles of wine a night by her. Alcoholism runs in my family. I stopped because I started to like it a lot, more than I should have normally. So I just stopped. I don’t need that in my life.
Thank you for posting this. I'm 5 months sober from drinking after my alcoholism nearly destroyed all of my relationships and life. The Human mind is a powerful thing and with enough willpower; you can accomplish any goal you set your mind to. Never be afraid to try and quit. After all; Fear is the Mind Killer. Fear is the little death that brings total obliteration.
Keep up the good work Anna! Your videos are great!
Congrats on your sobriety! At my worst, it was a bottle of vodka a night - now, 8 years with out a single alcoholic drink.
Use to tell myself "I drink to relax and escape reality". In reality, it was my drinking that led to most my chaos and negative outcomes - only inducing anxiety and stress. This led me to drink more and more, resulting in more and more drama, chaos, stress, failed relationships, depression, using bad judgement, shame and guilt, all put on repeat like a self destructive perpetual-motion-machine until I hit the horizonal version of Opra's analogous 'brick wall', more commonly called "rock bottom".
I'm so proud of you Anna. It's an amazing person who expands their mental understanding, then takes action using that knowledge to accomplish the truly amazing feat of fix themselves' as you've done so well so far as I can tell. Even more amazing that you 'heard the whispers' before they became brick walls - or rock bottoms - course correcting yourself and doing so early enough in life to enjoy life 'living in reality'.
True personal character transformations are exceedingly rare in human existence. Hence why a version of the Epic Hero's Journey exists in every culture going back through human history. It's to be admired.
It was the hardest thing I've ever done and I still work on it everyday.
Keep up the good work girl!
And drop this sober friend a line when you next in NYC - I'll show you a fun and fantastic (sober) good time living in reality!
Congratulations on taking care of YOU!!
Hurting someone and not forgiving yourself would only have been a small part of the entire scenario. Possible jail time could also easily come after a drunken brawl with someone.
I used to ignore the whispers and would make repeated mistakes until it hit me; the universe was sending me the SAME messages until I learned the lessons. I love being sober and I'm grateful for the lessons my drunkenness taught me. Oof.
Thank you.Anna for being a whisper!
I've subscribed to you on my main account since 2010... And heck, is the universe thumping me right now. Been 2 months zero proof and it's helped me unpack a lot. No one's magically perfect the second they're sober, even the day or the week or the month after, but it gets easier when you start to fill your life with things you forgot to enjoy. Thanks for sharing your story
While I like to drink sometimes, my policy is generally to only do it if I'm already in a decent mood, and only around people I'm incredibly comfortable with. A nice buzz can be one of the best feelings in the world for me, but responsible alcohol use is so important and I think everyone needs to do what's right for them - whether that means cutting back or quitting altogether. I've had alcoholics in my family, and I'm aware it can be a slippery slope.
hearing your full story felt different than just steps on how to fix my life but to see those changes through your alcohol/sobriety. nice different format!
pretty congratulatory worth. i mean; the vulnerability to admit a weakness and the will to choose a more fulfilling life
our anxiety makes us desperate for distractions, and they’re not all so bad, neither is anxiety, but anxiety coats the reluctance to touch our emotional selves and makes it harder to access
it’s a noble journey. i love the words you’re using; noble, honorable. and you’re right.
virtue gives our lives a type of meaning. and to live in accordance with your personal virtues, is noble.
all the best in this Anna. i’m proud of you, and keep choosing you
This is a personal topic for me so I've enjoyed getting to see you on this journey through the years and how you have expressed your experiences with it through your art. I am so, so happy for you and am so excited to see you enjoy all of the rewards
Good for you. One of the most courageous and most challenging things we must do is to have the strength to see our own truths, particularly the things that scare or shame us. I applaud your strength 🙂
I love how your channel (and you!) have evolved - thank you for sharing stuff like this
Love this for you!!! ❤ Of course I have always loved your content no matter what your personal life choices are but I will always support a healthy one. I have been sober over 3 1/2 years but I am most definitely an alcoholic. I don’t try to convince people and try to label anyone else as one if they say they don’t drink. Everyone should just do their own thing. But I absolutely agree that it started with a whisper and I just tried to smother that voice with a pillow and by drowning myself with more alcohol. But thankfully I’m here now. Glad you are too! Thanks again for all the wonderful stuff!
Congrats Anna ☺️
I'm lifetime sober... never started drinking altogether! You can absolutely learn to let loose without alcohol, have fun in parties without substances.
I've not felt like I was missing out once, and my health is thankful for it.
Also, ADHD brain here - it would probably be bad if I started.
Definitely agree with everything, you’re so right on that last part. My ex had ADHD and was an alcoholic. I feel like it’s related.
@@evelynnnyt thanks 🙏
I'm sorry there must have been some difficult times, I hope you're recovering well from that relationship, ADHD+Alcohol is not a healthy combo.
Yes people with ADHD are typically 5x more prone to substance addictions, it's important to keep in mind after a self or confirmed diagnosis.
Alcohol has never been an issue for me. When a specialist asked me about "How often do you drink alcohol" it wasn't a simple answer. I said "Well.. my spirits are at least 4 years old from when I bought them and a 12 bottle case of beer lasts me about a year and a few months". They chuckled.
BUT my crutch is food. I cook really really really well (just made 14 pounds of BBQ pulled pork over the 4th's holiday), and in return I really like to eat too. I think it's a tougher demon to fight.
Ah I needed this. The whisper in my life that's getting louder is the one telling me to stop burning myself out. I can never say no to a new project that I'm allocated to, and when you're in Uni full time, and have 2 jobs, that's a bad combo ahaha
I would really encourage you to listen to that voice. I was in full-time grad school and also doing two full-time jobs and freelance work while living in a foreign country. I successfully finished grad school with flying colors and still have all my work, but I also had my first and only full-on nervous breakdown a few months after grad school ended when one more thing (a toxic romantic situation/horrible breakup) tipped the scales and I officially could no longer handle it all. Really make sure you're pacing yourself and giving yourself downtime, or it will catch up to you and it will not be pretty.
Very interesting that I am noticing this trend among TH-camrs. It’s a positive one but fascinating to see this discussion from Huberman podcast, Chris Williamson, mike thurston etc…
It constantly whispers. I dread the moment of understanding.
3:45 same story for me kind of. Alcohol fueled rage made me realise I should just stop drinking. Luckily for me it was quite easy but I know it can be very tough for people.
Thanks for sharing Anna, I listened to similar shrieks from the universe about alcohol in 2019 and haven’t looked back 💪🏻
I don’t always watch Anna but when I find myself here, I BINGE. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.
I really admire you Anna! Your effort towards maturity👌🏻
Kudos for kicking it!! 🎉
We talk about illicit drugs, whilst alcohol is actually one of the more dangerous ones, in some ways. The withdrawals are similar to Benzodiazepines, which can be really bad, often for years.
From an everyday drinker to 27 years sans alcohol. Don't miss it at all.
Glad you're getting sober again. I remember when I heard the scream as a young soldier in the Army. I had a tendency to get blackout drunk in my barracks on post. Had been doing it for a while. So it was quite a shock to wake up in a bed 70 miles from my post on a late Monday morning (Technically AWOL), with a blonde woman who was twice my age _and her husband_ . Actually very nice people and I was deeply embarrassed to not even remember their names, let alone how I got off post. That was the last time I got drunk, the summer of 1986.
"Never drink when you're going through hard times" is almost exactly the first alcohol boundary that I came up with when I was young, though I did not phrase it nearly so well. It's still an excellent policy, but it's not nearly enough to deal with something like (waves around at everything vaguely) the year that was 2020, so good on you for taking greater control.
I had the opposite experience! Didn't drink until I was 33, just a few months ago. I avoided it for a long time because I had trauma surrounding an alcoholic father and a very fundamentalist upbringing that told me it was evil. I guess eventually I just wanted to experience what it was like and express that I was not ruled by my past. I only do it socially now, and no more than 1-3 times a month. I've never blacked out and only had the slightest twinge of a hangover the morning after my birthday. It was cool to get the quintessential "going out" experience I didn't fully do in college, but I'm also really glad I didn't drink for the first time until my 30's because my brain was actually fully developed and I had many coping skills well developed that aren't alcohol.
I'm so happy to hear you are sober, Anna! Alcohol isn't bad in moderation, but if you know yourself well enough to know you're better off avoiding it entirely, then that's admirable! I've had a lot of fun in life, both before and after alcohol, so it's certainly not something worth doing if it's harming you. 😊
Same with me in my mid 30s. I started slowly to handle a divorce then over the years it grew to where I would drink every other day and went out eating out to avoid life. I gained 90 pounds and could no longer drink in moderation.
I am on weegovy to fight the pull of alcohol and not just eating. Always keep it in check as it grows more powerful the more you avoid it
Alcohol is nice when you feel the need to take the edge off from stress or something. But so many friends and family have a reliance on it. Pretty sure its just my personality type, but I never liked the pressure to drink at parties either. I mean, I can appreciate it reduces my inhibitions which honestly stops me from over-thinking. It gives me a tiny fraction of the social interaction I need, but its rarely meaningful.
Loved your work on blade of the 47 ronin , can't wait for the next one
Quit weed seven months ago, never felt freer, shame I inevitably replaced it with alcohol, listening to the whisper. Seriously, these videos are invaluable. Thanks ma.
Previously undiagnosed ADHD, COVID I think kinda broke me. Hearing the whispers, very relatable…
Congratulations on being sober...You rule girl! love youuuuu :)
I’m very glad you got drinking under control.My brother didn’t. He died of liver failure at 55.
I’ve had whispers when it came to a toxic person…. And when the brick wall hit I almost lost my career lmao so true about the whispers!! Thanks Anna for the reminders!!!!
After an afternoon drinking then getting on 2 hour plane flight, I nearly turned into one of those idiots who gets filmed flipping out and arguing on the plane. And it was all over a mistakenly taken Qantas pillow!!! This was my whisper to stop drinking, and its one of the best things I've done
I quit drinking in December. It's been 6 months and I've been loving it. I didn't think I would be sober this long but I don't think I'll go back to drinking
I stopped drinking because hangovers are the worst feeling ever! Also, I only ever drank socially, and I hate the taste of alcohol, so I just didn't have the opportunity to drink as much anymore, either.
26 and sober. I was hanging on the other side of the balcony wanting to jump off when I was 19. Alcohol and me do not mix and that is okay.
Not a whisper. I’ll say it clear and loud. You are a warrior. Stop repressing that. Use strategy, of course, but honor yourself.
Almost a month sober. After my friends stop inviting me to clubs and ignoring my invites to clubs, I just don't see the point in drinking, especially when I am trying to lose weight.
Now I am running and going to the gym and I feel so much better.
I literally just had this whisper feeling about maybe not drinking. Or not drinking more then 1 or 2 drinks.. ive tended to be a bit careless and drink and drive(not really drunk or on populated roads, but i dont want to die from stupidity either).. people have said recently they thought i was ok to drive when i was saying i wasnt.. i think i shouldnt even put myself in those situations anymore
As a Muslim, I am so glad Islam FORBIDS people to consume alcoholic drinks. It's haram!
i love these shorter videos that anna puts out to help us think about small or big things in our life. she does it in a way that isn't super deep or overwhelming. thank you anna
Anna is saying the same thing I've been living for 45 years. Thanks for catching up Anna. Glad to have you aboard.
thanks, exactly what i needed to hear right now
I find that i would ignore that inner voice too, but i need to learn to trust myself more. I quit that toxic job and i thought i would feel a wave of anxiety but i was SO RELIEVED AND HAPPY!
Yall listen to the universe/inner voice. Trust that intuition. You know what you need more than you think you do
It’s brave to put yourself out there the way you do Anna. Thanks for all you’ve done for putting positive vibes out into the world. I’m glad to hear that your taking steps towards healing. Take care of yourself. Best wishes.
that whisper concept just makes me believe someone is trying to lure me into more trouble
I never liked drinking and only did it when I was trying to not be a dork. A friend left a beer in my fridge and came back a year later and found out it was still there, stuck in the back. I have since accepted the fact that I am a dork and I have no clue what you people who like drinking too much are going through.
Been there have done some of that. I have been sober for 31 years. it works.
Listening to the whispers is an art
I just broke my both feet during a drunk night out. 6 weeks of lying on a bed. I guess this is a wake up call for me.
If only there were millions of women like you ❤.
Stop drinking is definitely speaking to me. A little louder than a whisper, but at least im hearing it beforw its a scream (again)
Alcohol will NEVER do you any real good, but its potential to harm you and mess up your life is vast.
It is not "the universe" whispering at you. It is your own subconscious. The universe does not care about anyone.
My whispers always tell me to go and meet Anna Akana, but I know that is impossible. 😢
Stay well beautiful soul--you are cherished 💚💚💚💚
1:55 "I'm not an alcoholic but I'm definitely an alcoholic"
5 years sober here. Was something similar for me; I don't think I was ever a real addict, but I was definitely using it as an anti-anxiety drug. So proud of you and happy for you for being brave enough to step away from it. It's not easy.
Yes! 💯 I know you don't read these but I just want to say I feel you and I'm on the same journey... and zhuzh up the algo!💕💕 💕
I feel like this is my whisper, so I'm quitting drinking until Christmas, thanks.