Shout out to all the Mental Health Advocates out there who are brave enough to tell their story on TH-cam. Together, we can change lives... one video at a time. -Rob
Wow I was born with bipolar disorder as far as I can remember my mom told me it was vitamins all lies anyhow I’m 41 now and this is the first time someone takes their time to explain my brother your video was a blessing to me thank you so much!!!i get so many mix episodes I wish I can meditate but my brain won’t stop 🛑 I tomorrow is my first day to see a counselor I’m excited but scared I’ve always been rejected 🙅♂️ and it’s draining I want to learn how to cope my doctor says I will be okay yea sure he’s just providing meds 😂 but counselor tomorrow will be a game changer pls keep me in your prayers as I keep you on my to my brother stay blessed
Rob, you have definitely helped give me strength to speak my truth. We all need to break down walls and let people love us. 😁❤️ Including loving ourselves enough to learn and grow……
Agreed. Sometimes, (but not always,) I can find clues and unpack things a bit, though. For instance: looking up the lyrics to a song I had been passively listening to in the background recently helped me trace a moody funk felt in response to them. I didn't pick the song, but playing detective by picking the words apart for a few minutes was satisfying. A sort of, "Oh, that's why I'm irritated and sad, it reminded me of, (whatever it was)." Game-ifying the search can make it less overwhelming, but it can also be a discovery of a box inside the box that was just opened, because there is more emotional stuff to examine. (Admittedly, sometimes I just "label" the next box and take a break after writing a little in a journal, so my brain can focus on "distress tolerance skills" excercises.) A counselor once recommended this, and although I stopped doing outside, or near other people for the foreseeable future, it is a delight for just me and the cats I live with.( - Ok, I can only speak for myself :) Sometimes simple acts, like blowing bubbles, can have physiological effects, (deep breaths slow the heart rate, and you can pop and play with the floating iridescent orbs as you wish.)
^Ah, I apologize if that seemed dismissive or condescending in any way. You weren't asking for advice, understood. It was so easy to relate to your statement, and coincidentally there was a rare " eureka/ I've found it." moment. ( Now, imagine that said in an Eyore voice.) I don't want to suggest these are universal "fixes", just a couple things that sort helped me before, (*sometimes*).
I Declare that this Dis Ease Is Defeated; And I Decree Those WHO Are Attacked by this demon ARE EQUAL MINDED IN JESUS CHRIST’S ALMIGHTY AND FULL HOLY NAME! AMEN AND AMEN 🙏🏾
Hi Rob I went to see my support workers last week and I put them on to your channel I told them how in every video that I have seen is so relatable the lady noted the channels name so hey my friend you be educating the professionals aswell as all us polar warriors oh I would like to add how vital the sleep is so totally true. I know I'm in a delicate point of my disorder at this time as for the last month I've really got everything together I never miss meds I train every day and abstain completely from any substance or alcoholic drink and to be honest I've done this on my own which in a way makes me feel stronger the delicate point I'm making is I feel like coming off the meds but I know I won't sleep and I will be in psychosis in a weeks time feeling invincible yet in reality I would be at my most vulnerable so being 50 and having been at this crossroads before I be staying on the meds lol thanks Rob as per usual great work you consistently put out out
Me too! I wish people could understand what this disease is and what it does to us. It's hard ... But i don't truly understand it myself.. I know how I feel
Im so glad i found this. I can now kinda understand what my step daughter is going through. I was raised very strict and all my tactics have failed. but i dont think I truely understood what this kids going through and I feel like I must have been throwing boulders in this kids pond. ty for maken this plan to watch more and share with this poor kid maybe help her understand herself better
I isolate myself when I feel a crash coming. This is such a hard illness to live with. It seems to be getting worse the older I get. You describe exactly what it feels like. Something I have a hard time doing. Thank you for all you do. It's very helpful.
Polar Warriors is very helpful. I've come a long way to where I am today. I've had bipolar disorder since the age of 12. I am now 82. Thank you for your help.
Awe I'm so glad the video was helpful. Yes, you have come a long way =) If you'd like to connect with me outside of TH-cam, I have an amazing private community on Patreon. Would love for you to be part of our group. It's where you can message me directly, call me on the phone, and participate in live video support groups. I also post a lot of private videos that aren't on TH-cam. I'll include a link below so you can check it out: www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors Take extra good care of yourself @annecohen206 and I hope you will continue to stop by the channel. I appreciate you =) -Rob Whittaker, Polar Warriors
Bipolar is like being in the ocean. Sometimes you’re floating peacefully on your back, other times you’re caught in the undertow. Less frequently are you splashing around like when you were young. But you are always in the ocean. You may treat your disorder, but there is no going back to dry land. Sometimes the ocean is as still as being under the light of the moon. But you are always at the mercy of the water. Sometimes the sight of a boat in the distance brings you comfort. Sometimes the tickle of a school of fish at your knees makes you smile. But often all you want is to stay in the stillness underwater devoid of sound. The ocean is your home. Sometimes you get stir crazy, watching everyone else build castles on the sand without you. Make peace with the ocean. Make peace with the fish. It may not feel like it when nothing is ticking at your knees, but you always have company in the ocean.
Watching everyone build castles on the beach without me is the hardest part. Knowing others like you are in the big ocean with me, even if i can't see you, helps alot❤
Welcome, fellow Warrior! You will find lots of support from fellow Warriors within the comment sections of his videos. You also will not find a better or more thorough source of information online than right here on this channel. I'm 39 years old and was diagnosed in my teens. It wasn't until I found this channel a couple years ago that I truly found useful information though. Since you have only recently been diagnosed, I strongly encourage you to browse this channel. There are several videos that are actually designed specifically to share with your loved ones too, to help them better understand you and how they can be helpful, as well as things they should and should not say or do. Bipolar is different for each person but the basics are the same, so most of us can relate to each other on some level. To be honest, I find the people here to be better therapists for me than actual therapists because they're living the same life and therefore better understand. Stay healthy, my friend! 🙂🙂🙂
My one piece of advice is take the meds. They make a sort of ceiling and floor to the condition instead of endless up and endless down. I fought them for too long in fear of losing some part of myself. I'm on lithium and depakote and haven't lost anything I notice, other than the manic episodes. My husband and I are rooting for you from kansas. 💖💖💖
@@bubzilla6137 thank you so much , I really appreciate it ☺️ I’ve been binging the videos and it makes me feel less alone , I have a long way to go but it helps when I feel less alone and knowing there are other people who understand and can relate.
@@_Smarf_ I started medications a little over two months and it’s been tough getting it to what I need, I struggled with bad side effects for a few weeks and it almost made me give it up, and my psychiatrist isn’t very personable which makes it hard as well but I’m really trying to get a grip on my life ☺️ thank you so much for your kind words.
@@emilymcarthur1056 Oh man... It sucks having a psychiatrist who just dispenses the meds but doesn't really talk about much or seem to care about you as a person. I believe talk therapy is a vital supplement to medications. Or maybe vice versa, or both! Lol! Anyway, I hope you get the meds figured out. Just remember it can take time. Patience is not usually a strong quality for some of us, but it's one of the most important. And kudos for sharing! As I said before, you won't find a better source- for info, for support, really for everything bipolar. This is your one stop shopping spot! Now try saying that 5 times really fast! Haha! In all seriousness though, it's so good to see you reaching out. That's so very important. 🙂🙂🙂
I cannot thank you enough for this video. This video comes at the “Y” of our marriage, which way do I go. My husband is bipolar and has been for over 10 years. He has been through 5 Psychiatrists and many ECT’s but have found a good doctor and on regular medications and continues therapy. We have been married for almost 28 years with 3 kids. I have read a few books and still have a hard time understanding bipolar. This video has helped me understand this invisible disability. My husband and I have been through a lot and because of this video I can now REALLY understand how my husband feels, and for that reason I have chosen to stay with him and ask him about his “pond conditions” so that I may better love and support him. Again, thank you!!!
You are one of a kind! A diamond in the rough! A true gem! We need more people like you in the world. Your husband is very blessed to have you! Wishing you both many years of happiness. 💕
Same here. We've been married over 30 years, but he wasn't diagnosed with bipolar until the last 15 or so years. This video helped me a lot (and he asked me to watch it). Having a spouse with bipolar is so hard to deal with. I had to finally learn that I can create boundaries with him. Before that, I thought I can't do that because he can't help it (as he told me 100 times). I am still learning.....
How can a women struggle to understand bipolar? Even if you never had bad PMS, surely you've had friends. Make a point to have deeper relationships with ladies that have severe swings. Problem isn't your husband.
I feel like I have a friend talking to me, telling me I will be fine. 4 years of being diagnosed and today my doctor told me I am Bipolar Disorder Type 1. Thank you, Rob. You makes me feel better knowing that I am not alone in my struggle. God bless you.
Me and my husband watched it together, I have the bipolar. He was a sobbing mess by the end because it just so perfectly touched on what it's like to be my spouse. 20 years together, and they said it wouldn't last. 😋👬💖🌈
Thank you. My daughter had a psychotic break a year ago at 20. It took 5 months to get the right combination of meds to rebalance her brain chemistry. She had begun to make unhealthy choices around her 19 BD (she had been such a sweet natured young lady) and I thought she was in a severe rebellious stage. It was a relief to find out she could be helped, but she is so remorseful of the things she did when in that year long episode. She understands that she was highjacked by her own brain & has learned to cope with breakthrough symptoms. Her greatest challenge is to manage stressors. Even her changing blood sugar can stress her brain. So eating regularly, good sleep hygiene, etc (things young people usually don’t have to concern themselves with) must be factored into her daily health regimen. She has Ultra Ultra Rapid Cycling.
My daughter’s bipolar disorder showed up in her teens and she is now 31. The biggest hurdle I’ve faced personally is having her stay on her treatment. She has abandoned it about every other year or so and spirals. Starts to self medicate with drugs and alcohol, loses everything she has worked for and much more. We have always been there to help pick up the pieces. This has exposed us to a lot of trauma to the point that I am chronically ill now. She behaves recklessly when she is manic and there are always hefty consequences. She doesn’t ever seem to recognize how far gone she is until it’s too late. And although I can see the patterns she will lie and try to cover thing up. I have had to let go recently because my health is suffering. It’s been devastating but I can’t hover over her anymore. It’s like my life stopped when she began having issues. I worry and about her health a s safety constantly. My nervous system is finished. The fact that your daughter is remorseful is huge. I have never seen that from my daughter. She’s used to everyone dropping everything to take care of her and the things she has neglected. I am so happy for you and your daughter that she is improving and sees the value in proper medical treatment. Sending ❤️
Thankyou a million times over Rob! I was diagnosed with having Bipolar 1 last year at the age of 49 and feeling like I'm having to learn to crawl again before I can walk. Your videos are extremely comforting especially when I feel stranded on a one man island in the middle of the pond. Bless your heart good man🙏
@@helenalovelock1030 i dont exactly know but it escalated last year after a decade on the wrong medication...anti anxieties. I was functional for a long time. I also think menopause onset really triggered it. Thankyou for asking
@cazthemamma9251 I was treated for depression for several years, and in my 40s I had severe manic episodes. My diagnosis changed to bipolar. At 49. And yes, it's devastating. It is exactly like learning to crawl again.
You did this perfectly, when you explanined the euphoria, the images gave me that feeling. Depression part the same. Such a good way to explain to others 👍
Bipolar Explained and Bipolar Denial have got to be your top two videos! They help us to understand how one feels and why one won't or doesn't want to get help. These video's should in all schools to educate everyone on the matter so we can have compassion for thise that are suffering. Our world needs to show the love of Jesus to one another. 🌻
This is the first time I've heard bipolar explained this way, and it's absolutely brilliant. Kudos! I can't say how important it is to remember that it takes TIME to gain awareness of episodes on any level. We really do need to cut ourselves some slack. Its taken me 15 years to be able to recognise when an episode is coming, what type of episode it is, and any triggers that may be present. 15 years. And I'm still not perfect at it. That's ok. We are all human. Those of us with bipolar are human. Those who love us and support us are human. No pond is ever perfectly still, as you said. 🙂
Brilliant! Thank you. I have bipolar 1 and was also a mental health nurse, so I tried for years to manage it with "insight". This is so good. I have five adult children and there is so much guilt for donating my genetics to them, although I already had them all years before I got my diagnosis. So by staying as well as possible and putting the work in, I hope they will come to forgive me. Thank you!
Today, right now, my partner’s “pond” seems to have lots of ripples! She’s very quiet, doesn’t want to talk, and seems to have VERY little patience with anyone that crosses her path. She yelled at the mail man for being 6 min’s late delivering our mail, she got upset at the driver in front of us for driving “only” 45mph in a 35mph zone! And, she yelled at the dog for not pooping, when she took her outside this morning (the dog didn’t seem like she had to go) 😆.. When I mentioned how unreasonable she was being, after all these things, she yelled at me for calling her “unreasonable”! We’ve been together for 16years, she was diagnosed with Bipolar2 nine years ago, and has been medicated since. She faithfully takes her meds and sees her psychiatrist, but, some days are still so hard! For both her and I 😔…. I just did what I always do, when she gets like this. I left her alone, and went to the park to sit with a good book. I learned to walk away, go do my own thing (She also gets angry when I do this!) But, it’s much easier than the fights we’ve had in the past! And, 95% of the time, this works! I’ll come back home later to find her in a better mood 😊 (weird how that works)? I’ll never fully understand this illness! So, I finally had to let go, and remind myself.. “it is what it is”!
I'm living with a bipolar husband. We're still pretty young in marriage [6yrs] and he's at the denial stage which is so much harder. He's messed up alot of good relationships with friends and colleagues. Praying we survive this.
@@laracrystal9701, I was told more than once, and by several Psyc professionals, that, the only adult person you can make decisions for, or control, is yourself. Meaning, in your current situation, you can not, unfortunately, make your husband NOT be in denial of his mental illness, this will take understanding and acceptance on HIS part, however that will look for him. But, what you CAN do is educate Yourself on Bipolar disorder, do the research, find out ways you might be able to be supportive to Him, ways to be supportive of Yourself with Self Care, ways you can distance yourself from him emotionally, shall he become unreasonable, blaming You for his problems or circumstances, having emotional outbursts, etc.. stemming from his Bipolar mood swings. Most importantly, yet most difficult of all, is, the self control and patients you’ll need to have through this process with him, IF and UNTIL he comes through the “denial” stage of this, and arrives at the reality and acceptance of the fact that he needs professional help, and probably life long medications, to get a handle on this mental illness. Believe me, I’ve been where you are right now.. I recall how frustrating, scary, confusing, and sad this all was for me, to watch my partner, whom I loved, and who loved me, sometimes just become someone I didn’t recognize, at times, say very hurtful things to me, then later profusely apologize and be sincerely sorry about her behaviors, to watch her self destruct at times, and not understand why, all of this, over long periods of time throughout our relationship, like I said was very scary, and very sad at times, for me. I’m a very caring, very strong person, with lots of patience, which I really believe were the attributes that allowed me to stay by my partner of now over 16 years, who, Thank God, came through the denial stage, onto the realization and finally acceptance stage of her Bipolar disorder! And, together, we were able to (with professional support, of course) get her the help she needed, to become more stable in her life, which in turn affected our relationship in a positive way! No relationship, in reality, is all rainbows & fairy dust, including one’s without mental illness in the equation, it’s just some take more effort on both parties to make it work, than others do. Like I said, “it is what it is”.. I wish you luck, and strength, Lara Crystal.. and I hope you and your husband can find your way through this journey together, and make it work!! 😊
@@laracrystal9701 If anyone told me I was Bipolar while I was going through an episode, which some did, I would only get angry and lash out at them. It wasn't until I was in a moment of calm that I was willing to accept I need to see someone about my issues. Once I spoke to a physiatrist and had the calm to take a full retrospect of my life time. Then I realized, "Duh. This isn't about being moody or angry. I'm Bipolar." I was 42 years old and it had only been in the last 6 years of my life that I believed Depression wasn't just something you shake off and keep moving. That's because my depression rarely lasted long or at least that's what I believed. Denial is a very powerful emotion. I thought that BP was a debilitating disease but I was very successful. How could I be Bipolar? Then I did some soul searching and realized my "Idea" of success was driven by monetary gain, status and other peoples expectations. I realized what I truly value as success was totally different. It helped me realize why I was so angry all the time. Anger and denial walk hand in hand. I also realized I spent a whole lot of energy doing what I didn't want to do and being who I didn't want to be. These were massive revelations to me. Completely obvious looking back now but I'm not the man I was nor choose to be. Now at 51yo I feel completely different. I take medication, exercise, eat better, have steady routines, I manage my Bipolor and I am much happier. However, It's not gone and never will be. Even when I do everything I can to manage my BP I still go through episodes and it can be very difficult. My point in all this is, it takes a major journey to: 1. Realize/Accept you are bipolar. 2. Begin to manage it. 3. Manage it effectively. 4. Deal with episodes. 5. Be OK with all this. Now, Imagine trying to take all that in. You can see why he would be in denial. I'll leave you with this. I enjoyed success, money and status. I see the profits from it even today. However, I did some serious mental damage to myself, family and friends. I count myself very lucky my wife stayed with me through it all. We have been married for 26 years now and we have a good life together. It can be done.
9/16/2021 My Soul is tired. My spirit is restless. My Heart is breaking. My body is tense. My mind is racing. I'm drowning in my own tears. I AM A WARRIOR...
As always, your words are very calming in addition to providing excellent content. I’ve suffered with Bipolar my entire life (55). When I was growing up in a rural area, this wasn’t something that was even known of, much less discussed, and there was certainly no treatment for said illness.
Absolutely brilliant. I can only imagine how much time and effort you put into these! Just reading through the comments...know how appreciated you are and how much you help others!!
This explains everything I go through. Unfortunately, and I didn't realize it until I watched this, I'm going through the disphoric mania. I feel like I've been going thru it for a few years now not realizing I needed help. I'll try to reach out to my psychiatrist tomorrow. Thank you for making this. I've shared it on Facebook and also sent it to my daughter hoping it will help her understand.
I am afraid to even make friends because no one understands. I am medicated and not so erratic in my thought processes. None the less, I've been abandoned by family when I had a psychotic break. None in my family have spoken to me or seen me in 8 yrs and my heart is broken even more.
@@grammyd8361 I am so sorry . I am praying for you right now. Although I don't know you, I am proud of you for staying on your meds. Stay strong, you will certainly find a good friend and perhaps many!
Same! I'm 36 and got diagnosed with bipolar and then last month ADHD. The highs and lows are so intense and the medications for both almost cancel each other out. But hey we're doing the best we can.
I was diagnosed bipolar 1 about 4 yrs ago. Due to my experience with the hospitalization and the effect they had on me I gave up. Only recently I had my 1st appointment with a psychiatrist and started on my meds last night. I'm working over time not to give up this time. Thank you for sharing these videos they have helped me take this enormous step!
I'm watching this video and crying this is so me 😭 you really nailed it. I've been watching your videos for many years . Thank you so much Sir Rob ☺️ God Bless ❤️
Great analogy! Really describes bipolar disorder . I have never thought about my pond connected to my partners pond and how I affect his pond. Feeling blessed that my pond is pretty clean and there is just a slight breeze no splashing or big ripples in water.
My pond is having all sorts of ripples and I'm trying real hard to keep my boat steady. So many different things changing in my life in such a short amount of time. Paired with my mother who is a constant trigger. With my therapist I am relearning how to build boundaries and react healthily in stressful situations. Thanks for always reminding me to keep fighting.
This was a beautiful analogy. I've stopped sleeping lately, 3 hours a night sleep and up again. Went to the doctor and he upped all my meds. Praying this time I don't get lost. Xx my pond is rippling all over but it still might stop and be OK x ❤️
Thank you for creating these windows into the Bipolar World. There are a lot of people living on the edge of someones pond that have to interact and want to be supportive. Many are desperate to learn how. Please help them learn how to do that better.
Hi Evangeline, I'm so glad you found the video to be so informative and in depth. Thanks for taking the time to comment! :) If you'd like to help support Rob in what he does with Polar Warriors I'd encourage you to consider joining him on Patreon. I'll include the link so you can check it out! I hope your weekend is going well so far :) -Rachel (Polar Warriors team member) www.Patreon.com/PolarWarriors
The pond metaphor is probably the best description of the experience of bipolar disorder. To people living with the disorder, the shear amount of variables as well as the nature of these variables that disrupt our mental states are endless (much like a pond). I am truly grateful and thankful that I came across your channel a while ago, and cannot do justice to how much you have helped me live with this illness. To anyone suffering from any form of mental illness, my desire for you is to live a happy, serene and peaceful life. Take care of yourselves.
I'm so glad that Rob's explanations help you to understand your son's situation better. Hearing that means a lot to him. Best wishes to you and your son. -Rachel (Polar Warriors team member)
I was diagnosed about 12 years ago. That was all I got, a diagnoses. No explanation, no information, no this is where you find information and that medical help was available, required to live as normal a life as possible. My mother found you about 3 months ago and now we are catching up on all your videos. Thank you for your insight and guidance. It is much appreciated.
Thank you Marian!! I was hanging out at a local pond and the analogy came to me. I came back home and started writing notes for the video right away - while I was inspired =) =). I'm so glad it worked out this well! Stop by the channel anytime. -Rob
I wish my family understood this or would at least try to. I'm rapid cycling, but I've felt/feel all of this even though I'm treated. Recently my medication is not working and I'm topped out. Thanks for this video.
I'm so glad you love the new style he used for this video! Thanks so much for your comment. Rob and the team appreciates your kind words. -Rachel (Polar Warriors team member)
I had been misdiagnosed with BPD and just got rediagnosed with Bipolar Disorder - this channel has been a huge help to me in understanding my brain better, so thank you!
Your beautiful video summed up my bipolar disorder. Had my illness since being 18years old yet wasn't diagnosed til my early 30's. I'm now 59 years old and still struggling. Thank you for this wonderful video, it has helped me so much. 🍪 pocket
I was just diagnosed with bi polar back in April after having going through mania and going through psychosis. On top of that I was diagnosed with Complex PTSD. My trigger was from remembering all my childhood trauma. My mom is a Covert Narcissist who physically and mentally abused me for years. Your videos are teaching me so much on my diagnosis.
Daughter of a narcissist here. I've been reading a book called Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents. It's really helped validate a lot of the feelings I've been carrying around since with them there's constant gaslighting. I wish you peace on your journey, you deserve better.
Oh. My. Gosh. I needed this so much, today! Not only did you describe this shitty day with uncanny precision, you answered the question I have about being able to see the rocks coming! I'm going to watch this several more times. Thanks!
I just want to thank you so much for this video and all that you do. Your channel has not only helped me understand myself, it has helped me educate my loved ones in countless ways. The fact that you include rapid cycling in your explanations helps me as well. Officially my diagnosis is Ultradian Rapid Cycling Hypomanic Type Two Bipolar Disorder. That combined with Major Depressive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, PTSD and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. I truly appreciate all you do. Your videos have saved relationships with family by helping them understand me.
Rob, this video is amazing. I am an Advocate at 66 yrs old & have told parts of my story of living w Bipolar 1. I feel U R definitely ready to write UR book. Of course only U can decide & I respect that. Please give it some thought......God Bless U & good luck My Dear Friend.....whatever U decide to do :)
I love this description! Unfortunately, my BD diagnosis has come with crippling anxiety. I also have many other injuries which undoubtedly contribute to my anxiety, but it's really getting old. I'm ALWAYS stressed.
I have found that communication is so powerful! I let the people I live with know my diagnosis and have shown them this channel so they can educate themselves on my illness. I am a rapid cycler that experiences mixed states a lot (were still working out meds) so it's important that the people around me know what I'm going through so help keep me accountable and SAFE This pond analogy is wonderful
You have explained this illness so profoundly , kudos ! Second , you are doing a Great job By creating mental health awareness and removing the stigma from society ! Your channel has helped me a lot ! Lots of love and light ,x!
Been feeling very angry just feel like I'm gonna snap.... My therapist is nosey... No help at all I take my medicine and try 2 do right. Not good enough... Me being bipolar is difficult. Its hard 2 cope with it. Nobody truly understands me but u guys do
Amazing, thank you for understanding and giving me the words to explain❣️ The emotional rollercoaster that I felt in a 10min video, just wow. Who knew there was so much going on in the pond😆
I LOVED your pond metaphor! It makes the feelings understandable. And I’m hoping that it helps my husband understand it better. Although I don’t have mania, the depression part of my bipolar disease has ruined my marriage. He tried to understand but just couldn’t. I don’t blame him but I’m always looking for ways to help him understand. We haven’t lived together for eight years but still love each other dearly. We just can’t live together and I am OK with that. He can’t handle my illness in spite of all of his work to try to and I can’t handle his inability to handle my illness. Too much guilt when I don’t measure up. You are so insightful, Rob. Thanks for all the hard work that you do for the videos. They are priceless.
Dysphoric mania! This is exactly my usual state of mind when I am in a dark place. I’ve always been fascinated by euphoric mania in others such as celebrities performers etc. I’ve never really experienced much euphoric mania. That seems like a mixed blessing. Over the years I have learned that changes in my life and environment greatly affect me and my emotional state. Even simple things like taking a trip for a week, missing sleep or making a mistake at work can cause ripples in my emotions. Years ago a support group facilitator/LCSW at my health clinic said that people with bipolar are “exquisitely sensitive people.” As far as therapists, I am not sure that there are many out there who truly understand the bipolar phenomenon and are able to explain it and support those with it. I find that traditional psychotherapy is not helpful in the sense that kindness and caring don’t help me understand my condition. Rob and team-you have no idea how much your videos have helped me. I have gained so much insight from them at age 60. I wish there would’ve been a doctor or therapist over the years who could’ve explained things so well. Oh well I just keep trudging on and am trying to understand myself. thank you.
I really like the new format..this is pretty cool. I relate a lot, but feel like I would relate even more if it were more bipolar 2-based. This is an awesome video either way, thanks brotha!
My family recently moved to Maui and had a bit of a breakdown, i ended up in the hospital with a suspicion of bipolar disorder as I have had 2 other episodes similar to this. I was there for four days( no insurance )and put on medication I think it is helping a little. I recently met with the psychiatrist who then later gave me the diagnosis of bipolar 2. I am in some big waves but learning to ask for help. Currently in a pretty deep depression and that’s hard to even say. I just want to snap out of it. So much to be thankful for. Thank you for your channels it has really helped me know a little better what I have and what I am dealing with. ❤️🩹
Hi Amber, thank you for sharing some of your story with us. It can be hard to open up and actually say it. I'm glad the medication is helping a little bit. It can take some time for meds to work fully so may take a little while to feel the full effects. I hope this current deep depression that your in passes soon. It can be so hard to deal with, I can relate, as I've been there many times myself. Remember you're not alone. Many of us deal with similar symptoms on a daily basis. Keep on fighting to get better. Take good care and I hope things improve for you soon. -Rachel (Polar Warriors team member)
That was by far the best analogy/explanation of bi-polar that I have ever heard! THANK YOU for finding a simplified way to convey such a complex disorder! I truly appreciate all that you do for the bi-polar community
I’m so glad you make this video, I have struggled with my bipolar since I was young, spent so much of my life untreated I’m like a patchwork quilt , but my path foreword is a better one, there is hope in treatment and understanding, so thank you for all who suffer for helping all of us to understand better and ways to cope, the hardest thing is to explain it so your video is a great voice for me
Wow this is absolutely incredible. It's the most vivid picture of bipolar I have ever come across. It is very difficult as a rapid cycler to explain what bipolar is and even more how it feels. Thank you for this!!!
This was a great video. I have bipolar disorder with mixed episodes. Things can get a little scary or even a bit out of sorts at times. Thank you for this video. I love the reference to a pond. It puts things in perspective.
I just sent this video to all my trusted friends and I feel so happy and relieved that they acknowledged how tough it is dealing with these awful symptoms so frequently. Thank you for this beautifully awesome video
Thank you for your videos - including this one! To answer your open question to all readers: I am feeling doing fairly well, but still feeling the ripple effects of my husband (unknowingly) throwing a boulder into my pond about 6 months ago. The boulder: he convinced me to transfer to another branch in my company and move to another house we own in that region (which happens to be a beachside community, but had been renting it out). He worked on me for several years until he finally caught me at just the right time in my bipolar state and I capitulated. The thing is, despite me attempting to teach him about bipolar (we've been married only 3 yrs) he just couldn't understand how important it was for me to keep my life stable (that is, NOT move and NOT even make a lateral move in my employment). He honestly believed it would not be a big deal for me because he thought I would get used to it quickly and easily and, because it was beachside would actually like it more. I try not to blame him because I know that ultimately it was my decision to transfer employment positions and move. (He would have never moved without me.) So, after 3 months there we moved back to our home (which thank goodness I didn't sell, but was just using it as an AirBnB). Unfortunately, my old position had been filled so now I am driving about 3 hrs/day to get to/from the job into which I transferred. Who knows if and when the position in this town will ever become available. I hope so - and sooner rather than later. In the meantime, he is driving me once per week to my job that is so far away! (Thank goodness I work only 4 days/wk.) The lesson I have learned is that even though family/friends may have the best of intentions, they might not understand your bipolar well enough to understand the damage that might be done if you follow their suggestions. So, my advice to others with bipolar: stay strong and do what you honestly believe you should do to best manage your bipolar.
I discovered you a day before going to see a therapist to find out what's going on wirh me. I watched your videos throughout my rehabilitation program and i absolutely love how you put everything into perspective, a way that i cannot express to others. I appreciate your effort and time to help me explain myself to others with your videos. Again, thank you! 😁
Rob" its been a long time! I'm so happy to see you still educating us all You helped me so much with my partner learning and understanding Unfortunately after 7yrs he left his bipolar has a grip,I hope he will continue working on it to manage it! But I walked away know I did all I could, and having you, was a tremendous help!!!
Thank you for a great analogy. I have bipolar disorder type 2, and I have been fortunate that mine is relatively well controlled with a low dose of lamotrigine. I also have ADHD though, which has made treatment of that more challenging as it's generally not advisable to use stimulant medication with someone who has bipolar disorder. I want to start looking into ways to introduce physical activity as well to help improve control of my symptoms.
Thank you for such an incredibly accurate description of my illness, and done with beautiful visuals and word pictures. This is very helpful for those who dont get it just by “words”. It also helped my to ponder how I can strategize to continue to get better.
Thank you so much for your wonderful comment Jessie! :) I'm so glad you enjoyed the video and that you found it to be so helpful. Thanks for joining the conversation! -Rachel (Polar Warriors team member)
Amazing video, just what I needed to hear right now as I help my life partner aka husband navigate his bp bubbles as I call them, from his pond. Excited to share this video with him, as it is such a clear way to mentally process what a loved one with bp is going through daily.
I so enjoy your videos it helps me better understand how I am feeling and that I’m not alone in what I feel. I’m in the middle right now trying to balance my life and this video was well needed to see thank you
i just experienced manic psychosis this week for the first time and it really messed me up. it was one of the scariest and worst episodes i’ve ever experienced and it effected my relationships too. my mom found this video and sent it to me. this is such a perfect explanation. it’s so hard to live with something like this, not knowing how to help yourself as well as having people in your life that also don’t know how to help in that episode either. but knowing your not alone and that it’s temporary and manageable helps tremendously
Thank you so much for your channel. I am 48 and got diagnosed in my 30s. I never knew what was going on until then. I can relate to your stories so much and i feel acceptance and education is so important. Thank you so much.
Shout out to all the Mental Health Advocates out there who are brave enough to tell their story on TH-cam. Together, we can change lives... one video at a time.
-Rob
Wow I was born with bipolar disorder as far as I can remember my mom told me it was vitamins all lies anyhow I’m 41 now and this is the first time someone takes their time to explain my brother your video was a blessing to me thank you so much!!!i get so many mix episodes I wish I can meditate but my brain won’t stop 🛑 I tomorrow is my first day to see a counselor I’m excited but scared I’ve always been rejected 🙅♂️ and it’s draining I want to learn how to cope my doctor says I will be okay yea sure he’s just providing meds 😂 but counselor tomorrow will be a game changer pls keep me in your prayers as I keep you on my to my brother stay blessed
I like what you bring up Rob.i get help
Out of utube polar warriors. You do a
Awesome job.thank you Marion
Rob, you have definitely helped give me strength to speak my truth. We all need to break down walls and let people love us. 😁❤️
Including loving ourselves enough to learn and grow……
I'm trying to make videos as well, thank you for all the content you put out. Really helpful to the community.
@@byebyeforever4 Right on! I just subscribed to your channel to show my support =) =)
-Rob
I must say, the depression that hits for no apparent reason is the most frustrating part of bipolar.
Ugh especially without a trigger. It's like COME ON I just want to be able to function.
Agreed. Sometimes, (but not always,) I can find clues and unpack things a bit, though. For instance: looking up the lyrics to a song I had been passively listening to in the background recently helped me trace a moody funk felt in response to them. I didn't pick the song, but playing detective by picking the words apart for a few minutes was satisfying. A sort of, "Oh, that's why I'm irritated and sad, it reminded me of, (whatever it was)." Game-ifying the search can make it less overwhelming, but it can also be a discovery of a box inside the box that was just opened, because there is more emotional stuff to examine. (Admittedly, sometimes I just "label" the next box and take a break after writing a little in a journal, so my brain can focus on "distress tolerance skills" excercises.) A counselor once recommended this, and although I stopped doing outside, or near other people for the foreseeable future, it is a delight for just me and the cats I live with.( - Ok, I can only speak for myself :) Sometimes simple acts, like blowing bubbles, can have physiological effects, (deep breaths slow the heart rate, and you can pop and play with the floating iridescent orbs as you wish.)
^Ah, I apologize if that seemed dismissive or condescending in any way. You weren't asking for advice, understood. It was so easy to relate to your statement, and coincidentally there was a rare " eureka/ I've found it." moment. ( Now, imagine that said in an Eyore voice.)
I don't want to suggest these are universal "fixes", just a couple things that sort helped me before, (*sometimes*).
I Declare that this Dis Ease Is Defeated; And I Decree Those WHO Are Attacked by this demon ARE EQUAL MINDED IN JESUS CHRIST’S ALMIGHTY AND FULL HOLY NAME! AMEN AND AMEN 🙏🏾
I agree with you. Seems like its always there in the back of the mind waiting to ruin a moment.
i have bipolar and i have never been able to even put into words how i feel and this just summed it all up for me. thank you.
Hi Rob I went to see my support workers last week and I put them on to your channel I told them how in every video that I have seen is so relatable the lady noted the channels name so hey my friend you be educating the professionals aswell as all us polar warriors oh I would like to add how vital the sleep is so totally true. I know I'm in a delicate point of my disorder at this time as for the last month I've really got everything together I never miss meds I train every day and abstain completely from any substance or alcoholic drink and to be honest I've done this on my own which in a way makes me feel stronger the delicate point I'm making is I feel like coming off the meds but I know I won't sleep and I will be in psychosis in a weeks time feeling invincible yet in reality I would be at my most vulnerable so being 50 and having been at this crossroads before I be staying on the meds lol thanks Rob as per usual great work you consistently put out out
Me too! I wish people could understand what this disease is and what it does to us. It's hard ... But i don't truly understand it myself.. I know how I feel
Me too. Me too.
You aren't alone. Remeber that. There's plenty of us that you can reach out to and who understand.
Im so glad i found this. I can now kinda understand what my step daughter is going through. I was raised very strict and all my tactics have failed. but i dont think I truely understood what this kids going through and I feel like I must have been throwing boulders in this kids pond. ty for maken this plan to watch more and share with this poor kid maybe help her understand herself better
I isolate myself when I feel a crash coming. This is such a hard illness to live with. It seems to be getting worse the older I get. You describe exactly what it feels like. Something I have a hard time doing. Thank you for all you do. It's very helpful.
Polar Warriors is very helpful. I've come a long way to where I am today. I've had bipolar disorder since the age of 12. I am now 82. Thank you for your help.
Awe I'm so glad the video was helpful. Yes, you have come a long way =)
If you'd like to connect with me outside of TH-cam, I have an amazing private community on Patreon. Would love for you to be part of our group. It's where you can message me directly, call me on the phone, and participate in live video support groups. I also post a lot of private videos that aren't on TH-cam. I'll include a link below so you can check it out:
www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
Take extra good care of yourself @annecohen206 and I hope you will continue to stop by the channel.
I appreciate you =)
-Rob Whittaker, Polar Warriors
Bipolar is like being in the ocean. Sometimes you’re floating peacefully on your back, other times you’re caught in the undertow. Less frequently are you splashing around like when you were young.
But you are always in the ocean. You may treat your disorder, but there is no going back to dry land. Sometimes the ocean is as still as being under the light of the moon. But you are always at the mercy of the water.
Sometimes the sight of a boat in the distance brings you comfort. Sometimes the tickle of a school of fish at your knees makes you smile. But often all you want is to stay in the stillness underwater devoid of sound.
The ocean is your home. Sometimes you get stir crazy, watching everyone else build castles on the sand without you. Make peace with the ocean. Make peace with the fish. It may not feel like it when nothing is ticking at your knees, but you always have company in the ocean.
Hi Carrie! Thanks for taking the time to join the conversation =) =). Stop by the channel anytime.
-Rob
Thanks for sharing Carrie that was wonderful writing
Watching everyone build castles on the beach without me is the hardest part. Knowing others like you are in the big ocean with me, even if i can't see you, helps alot❤
I just recently got a diagnosis and I’m really really struggling to stay afloat but your videos are helping me truly , so thank you
Welcome, fellow Warrior! You will find lots of support from fellow Warriors within the comment sections of his videos. You also will not find a better or more thorough source of information online than right here on this channel. I'm 39 years old and was diagnosed in my teens. It wasn't until I found this channel a couple years ago that I truly found useful information though. Since you have only recently been diagnosed, I strongly encourage you to browse this channel. There are several videos that are actually designed specifically to share with your loved ones too, to help them better understand you and how they can be helpful, as well as things they should and should not say or do. Bipolar is different for each person but the basics are the same, so most of us can relate to each other on some level. To be honest, I find the people here to be better therapists for me than actual therapists because they're living the same life and therefore better understand. Stay healthy, my friend! 🙂🙂🙂
My one piece of advice is take the meds. They make a sort of ceiling and floor to the condition instead of endless up and endless down. I fought them for too long in fear of losing some part of myself. I'm on lithium and depakote and haven't lost anything I notice, other than the manic episodes. My husband and I are rooting for you from kansas. 💖💖💖
@@bubzilla6137 thank you so much , I really appreciate it ☺️ I’ve been binging the videos and it makes me feel less alone , I have a long way to go but it helps when I feel less alone and knowing there are other people who understand and can relate.
@@_Smarf_ I started medications a little over two months and it’s been tough getting it to what I need, I struggled with bad side effects for a few weeks and it almost made me give it up, and my psychiatrist isn’t very personable which makes it hard as well but I’m really trying to get a grip on my life ☺️ thank you so much for your kind words.
@@emilymcarthur1056 Oh man... It sucks having a psychiatrist who just dispenses the meds but doesn't really talk about much or seem to care about you as a person. I believe talk therapy is a vital supplement to medications. Or maybe vice versa, or both! Lol! Anyway, I hope you get the meds figured out. Just remember it can take time. Patience is not usually a strong quality for some of us, but it's one of the most important. And kudos for sharing! As I said before, you won't find a better source- for info, for support, really for everything bipolar. This is your one stop shopping spot! Now try saying that 5 times really fast! Haha! In all seriousness though, it's so good to see you reaching out. That's so very important. 🙂🙂🙂
I cannot thank you enough for this video. This video comes at the “Y” of our marriage, which way do I go. My husband is bipolar and has been for over 10 years. He has been through 5 Psychiatrists and many ECT’s but have found a good doctor and on regular medications and continues therapy. We have been married for almost 28 years with 3 kids. I have read a few books and still have a hard time understanding bipolar. This video has helped me understand this invisible disability. My husband and I have been through a lot and because of this video I can now REALLY understand how my husband feels, and for that reason I have chosen to stay with him and ask him about his “pond conditions” so that I may better love and support him. Again, thank you!!!
You are one of a kind! A diamond in the rough! A true gem! We need more people like you in the world. Your husband is very blessed to have you! Wishing you both many years of happiness. 💕
Another button paid for a review they ain't worth a damn
Same here. We've been married over 30 years, but he wasn't diagnosed with bipolar until the last 15 or so years. This video helped me a lot (and he asked me to watch it). Having a spouse with bipolar is so hard to deal with. I had to finally learn that I can create boundaries with him. Before that, I thought I can't do that because he can't help it (as he told me 100 times). I am still learning.....
How can a women struggle to understand bipolar? Even if you never had bad PMS, surely you've had friends. Make a point to have deeper relationships with ladies that have severe swings. Problem isn't your husband.
This was such an in-depth, clear and comprehensive explanation of what it feels like to live and manage life with bipolar disorder. Thank you!
I feel like I have a friend talking to me, telling me I will be fine. 4 years of being diagnosed and today my doctor told me I am Bipolar Disorder Type 1. Thank you, Rob. You makes me feel better knowing that I am not alone in my struggle. God bless you.
I live with a bipolar husband. You nailed every aspect of being and living with a bipolar spouse. Your videos help alot!
Me and my husband watched it together, I have the bipolar. He was a sobbing mess by the end because it just so perfectly touched on what it's like to be my spouse. 20 years together, and they said it wouldn't last. 😋👬💖🌈
Thank you. My daughter had a psychotic break a year ago at 20. It took 5 months to get the right combination of meds to rebalance her brain chemistry. She had begun to make unhealthy choices around her 19 BD (she had been such a sweet natured young lady) and I thought she was in a severe rebellious stage. It was a relief to find out she could be helped, but she is so remorseful of the things she did when in that year long episode. She understands that she was highjacked by her own brain & has learned to cope with breakthrough symptoms. Her greatest challenge is to manage stressors. Even her changing blood sugar can stress her brain. So eating regularly, good sleep hygiene, etc (things young people usually don’t have to concern themselves with) must be factored into her daily health regimen. She has Ultra Ultra Rapid Cycling.
You're a great mom.
My daughter’s bipolar disorder showed up in her teens and she is now 31. The biggest hurdle I’ve faced personally is having her stay on her treatment. She has abandoned it about every other year or so and spirals. Starts to self medicate with drugs and alcohol, loses everything she has worked for and much more. We have always been there to help pick up the pieces. This has exposed us to a lot of trauma to the point that I am chronically ill now. She behaves recklessly when she is manic and there are always hefty consequences. She doesn’t ever seem to recognize how far gone she is until it’s too late. And although I can see the patterns she will lie and try to cover thing up. I have had to let go recently because my health is suffering. It’s been devastating but I can’t hover over her anymore. It’s like my life stopped when she began having issues. I worry and about her health a s safety constantly. My nervous system is finished. The fact that your daughter is remorseful is huge. I have never seen that from my daughter. She’s used to everyone dropping everything to take care of her and the things she has neglected. I am so happy for you and your daughter that she is improving and sees the value in proper medical treatment. Sending ❤️
you wrote on facebook, i think, that this is your best work yet.
i agree. this is beautifully described. well done.
I must agree this was beautifully done. 🌻
Thankyou a million times over Rob!
I was diagnosed with having Bipolar 1 last year at the age of 49 and feeling like I'm having to learn to crawl again before I can walk. Your videos are extremely comforting especially when I feel stranded on a one man island in the middle of the pond. Bless your heart good man🙏
How or why did it take until you are 49 to diagnose. That’s so long to struggle with it 😔
@@helenalovelock1030 i dont exactly know but it escalated last year after a decade on the wrong medication...anti anxieties. I was functional for a long time.
I also think menopause onset really triggered it.
Thankyou for asking
@cazthemamma9251 I was treated for depression for several years, and in my 40s I had severe manic episodes. My diagnosis changed to bipolar. At 49. And yes, it's devastating. It is exactly like learning to crawl again.
Send me hugs to get through this ROUGH week of appointments......thank you for the video!
a million hugs to you.
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Hugs from the Polar Warriors team! I hope your appointments went well!
@@PolarWarriors They went slow and mentally painful......but I survived! -howls -
@@Bilove863 I'm sorry to hear they were difficult :( I'm glad you made it through them though. Hope you have a better weekend!
You did this perfectly, when you explanined the euphoria, the images gave me that feeling. Depression part the same. Such a good way to explain to others 👍
Bipolar Explained and Bipolar Denial have got to be your top two videos! They help us to understand how one feels and why one won't or doesn't want to get help. These video's should in all schools to educate everyone on the matter so we can have compassion for thise that are suffering. Our world needs to show the love of Jesus to one another. 🌻
This is the first time I've heard bipolar explained this way, and it's absolutely brilliant. Kudos!
I can't say how important it is to remember that it takes TIME to gain awareness of episodes on any level. We really do need to cut ourselves some slack. Its taken me 15 years to be able to recognise when an episode is coming, what type of episode it is, and any triggers that may be present. 15 years. And I'm still not perfect at it. That's ok.
We are all human. Those of us with bipolar are human. Those who love us and support us are human.
No pond is ever perfectly still, as you said. 🙂
Thanks so much for making BP so much easier to understand.
Together we are strong.
Brilliant! Thank you. I have bipolar 1 and was also a mental health nurse, so I tried for years to manage it with "insight". This is so good. I have five adult children and there is so much guilt for donating my genetics to them, although I already had them all years before I got my diagnosis. So by staying as well as possible and putting the work in, I hope they will come to forgive me. Thank you!
Today, right now, my partner’s “pond” seems to have lots of ripples! She’s very quiet, doesn’t want to talk, and seems to have VERY little patience with anyone that crosses her path. She yelled at the mail man for being 6 min’s late delivering our mail, she got upset at the driver in front of us for driving “only” 45mph in a 35mph zone! And, she yelled at the dog for not pooping, when she took her outside this morning (the dog didn’t seem like she had to go) 😆.. When I mentioned how unreasonable she was being, after all these things, she yelled at me for calling her “unreasonable”! We’ve been together for 16years, she was diagnosed with Bipolar2 nine years ago, and has been medicated since. She faithfully takes her meds and sees her psychiatrist, but, some days are still so hard! For both her and I 😔…. I just did what I always do, when she gets like this. I left her alone, and went to the park to sit with a good book. I learned to walk away, go do my own thing (She also gets angry when I do this!) But, it’s much easier than the fights we’ve had in the past! And, 95% of the time, this works! I’ll come back home later to find her in a better mood 😊 (weird how that works)? I’ll never fully understand this illness! So, I finally had to let go, and remind myself.. “it is what it is”!
I'm living with a bipolar husband. We're still pretty young in marriage [6yrs] and he's at the denial stage which is so much harder. He's messed up alot of good relationships with friends and colleagues.
Praying we survive this.
@@laracrystal9701, I was told more than once, and by several Psyc professionals, that, the only adult person you can make decisions for, or control, is yourself. Meaning, in your current situation, you can not, unfortunately, make your husband NOT be in denial of his mental illness, this will take understanding and acceptance on HIS part, however that will look for him. But, what you CAN do is educate Yourself on Bipolar disorder, do the research, find out ways you might be able to be supportive to Him, ways to be supportive of Yourself with Self Care, ways you can distance yourself from him emotionally, shall he become unreasonable, blaming You for his problems or circumstances, having emotional outbursts, etc.. stemming from his Bipolar mood swings. Most importantly, yet most difficult of all, is, the self control and patients you’ll need to have through this process with him, IF and UNTIL he comes through the “denial” stage of this, and arrives at the reality and acceptance of the fact that he needs professional help, and probably life long medications, to get a handle on this mental illness. Believe me, I’ve been where you are right now.. I recall how frustrating, scary, confusing, and sad this all was for me, to watch my partner, whom I loved, and who loved me, sometimes just become someone I didn’t recognize, at times, say very hurtful things to me, then later profusely apologize and be sincerely sorry about her behaviors, to watch her self destruct at times, and not understand why, all of this, over long periods of time throughout our relationship, like I said was very scary, and very sad at times, for me. I’m a very caring, very strong person, with lots of patience, which I really believe were the attributes that allowed me to stay by my partner of now over 16 years, who, Thank God, came through the denial stage, onto the realization and finally acceptance stage of her Bipolar disorder! And, together, we were able to (with professional support, of course) get her the help she needed, to become more stable in her life, which in turn affected our relationship in a positive way! No relationship, in reality, is all rainbows & fairy dust, including one’s without mental illness in the equation, it’s just some take more effort on both parties to make it work, than others do. Like I said, “it is what it is”.. I wish you luck, and strength, Lara Crystal.. and I hope you and your husband can find your way through this journey together, and make it work!! 😊
@@laracrystal9701 If anyone told me I was Bipolar while I was going through an episode, which some did, I would only get angry and lash out at them. It wasn't until I was in a moment of calm that I was willing to accept I need to see someone about my issues. Once I spoke to a physiatrist and had the calm to take a full retrospect of my life time. Then I realized, "Duh. This isn't about being moody or angry. I'm Bipolar." I was 42 years old and it had only been in the last 6 years of my life that I believed Depression wasn't just something you shake off and keep moving. That's because my depression rarely lasted long or at least that's what I believed. Denial is a very powerful emotion.
I thought that BP was a debilitating disease but I was very successful. How could I be Bipolar? Then I did some soul searching and realized my "Idea" of success was driven by monetary gain, status and other peoples expectations. I realized what I truly value as success was totally different. It helped me realize why I was so angry all the time. Anger and denial walk hand in hand. I also realized I spent a whole lot of energy doing what I didn't want to do and being who I didn't want to be.
These were massive revelations to me. Completely obvious looking back now but I'm not the man I was nor choose to be. Now at 51yo I feel completely different. I take medication, exercise, eat better, have steady routines, I manage my Bipolor and I am much happier. However, It's not gone and never will be. Even when I do everything I can to manage my BP I still go through episodes and it can be very difficult.
My point in all this is, it takes a major journey to: 1. Realize/Accept you are bipolar. 2. Begin to manage it. 3. Manage it effectively. 4. Deal with episodes. 5. Be OK with all this. Now, Imagine trying to take all that in. You can see why he would be in denial.
I'll leave you with this. I enjoyed success, money and status. I see the profits from it even today. However, I did some serious mental damage to myself, family and friends. I count myself very lucky my wife stayed with me through it all. We have been married for 26 years now and we have a good life together. It can be done.
9/16/2021 My Soul is tired. My spirit is restless. My Heart is breaking. My body is tense. My mind is racing. I'm drowning in my own tears. I AM A WARRIOR...
You are not alone friend!
As always, your words are very calming in addition to providing excellent content. I’ve suffered with Bipolar my entire life (55). When I was growing up in a rural area, this wasn’t something that was even known of, much less discussed, and there was certainly no treatment for said illness.
Absolutely brilliant. I can only imagine how much time and effort you put into these! Just reading through the comments...know how appreciated you are and how much you help others!!
This explains everything I go through. Unfortunately, and I didn't realize it until I watched this, I'm going through the disphoric mania. I feel like I've been going thru it for a few years now not realizing I needed help. I'll try to reach out to my psychiatrist tomorrow. Thank you for making this. I've shared it on Facebook and also sent it to my daughter hoping it will help her understand.
I am afraid to even make friends because no one understands. I am medicated and not so erratic in my thought processes. None the less, I've been abandoned by family when I had a psychotic break. None in my family have spoken to me or seen me in 8 yrs and my heart is broken even more.
@@grammyd8361 I am so sorry . I am praying for you right now. Although I don't know you, I am proud of you for staying on your meds. Stay strong, you will certainly find a good friend and perhaps many!
Adhd and bipolar are so similar that it is kind of scary. I was diagnosed with both in my 40s and this video has made sense to me. Thank you 😎💙
Same! I'm 36 and got diagnosed with bipolar and then last month ADHD. The highs and lows are so intense and the medications for both almost cancel each other out. But hey we're doing the best we can.
Yeah, (a year ago there was also a video here on these co-occuring conditions that really helped me too:)
th-cam.com/video/Q_1M5u_DGFU/w-d-xo.html
I was diagnosed bipolar 1 about 4 yrs ago. Due to my experience with the hospitalization and the effect they had on me I gave up. Only recently I had my 1st appointment with a psychiatrist and started on my meds last night. I'm working over time not to give up this time. Thank you for sharing these videos they have helped me take this enormous step!
I fought back tears watching this video because I’ve never been able to put into words what I go through having bipolar 1. Thank you!
You are so very welcome
What an astounding depiction of the disorder. Thank you for making this video. ✨
I'm watching this video and crying this is so me 😭 you really nailed it. I've been watching your videos for many years . Thank you so much Sir Rob ☺️ God Bless ❤️
Thank you so much for watching my videos - and commenting. I hope you have a peaceful week and stop by the channel again =) =)
-Rob
Great analogy! Really describes bipolar disorder . I have never thought about my pond connected to my partners pond and how I affect his pond. Feeling blessed that my pond is pretty clean and there is just a slight breeze no splashing or big ripples in water.
Another great video Rob
Kind regards from Scotland 🏴
My pond is having all sorts of ripples and I'm trying real hard to keep my boat steady. So many different things changing in my life in such a short amount of time. Paired with my mother who is a constant trigger. With my therapist I am relearning how to build boundaries and react healthily in stressful situations. Thanks for always reminding me to keep fighting.
Just keep surfing, Crystal 🏄🏻♀️
This was a beautiful analogy. I've stopped sleeping lately, 3 hours a night sleep and up again. Went to the doctor and he upped all my meds. Praying this time I don't get lost. Xx my pond is rippling all over but it still might stop and be OK x ❤️
Just keep swimming and surfing 🏊🏻♀️🌊
Thank you for creating these windows into the Bipolar World. There are a lot of people living on the edge of someones pond that have to interact and want to be supportive. Many are desperate to learn how.
Please help them learn how to do that better.
The production quality of this video is great, Rob!
Well done with great images and analogies! Spot on! Nailed it!
Thanks Rob for helping so many people :)
The most indepth and informative explanation I've ever encountered. Thank you for all you do.
Hi Evangeline, I'm so glad you found the video to be so informative and in depth. Thanks for taking the time to comment! :) If you'd like to help support Rob in what he does with Polar Warriors I'd encourage you to consider joining him on Patreon. I'll include the link so you can check it out! I hope your weekend is going well so far :) -Rachel (Polar Warriors team member)
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The pond metaphor is probably the best description of the experience of bipolar disorder. To people living with the disorder, the shear amount of variables as well as the nature of these variables that disrupt our mental states are endless (much like a pond). I am truly grateful and thankful that I came across your channel a while ago, and cannot do justice to how much you have helped me live with this illness. To anyone suffering from any form of mental illness, my desire for you is to live a happy, serene and peaceful life. Take care of yourselves.
I use metaphors and analogies all the time to help explain BD
@@reeferseasalt Effective way in my opinion to communicate our individual experiences with BD
I really enjoyed this explanation of Bipolar. Thank you
Thank you so much for this. I have 2 grandchildren 19 & 20. I hope your words help them to understand themselves. Thank you immensely💕
Thank you very much for every second of your time, trying to help everyone with any kind of mental illness or struggles in life!
Depression is a much better place than dysphoric mania.
I went through that one once five years ago... omg 😱 never want to be there again.
I've never experienced it. But it sounds like true hell.
Thank you so much for your videos. My sweet son has been diagnosed and your explanations help me understand what he's going through. I appreciate you!
I'm so glad that Rob's explanations help you to understand your son's situation better. Hearing that means a lot to him. Best wishes to you and your son. -Rachel (Polar Warriors team member)
You keep getting better Rob, cheers!
I was diagnosed about 12 years ago. That was all I got, a diagnoses. No explanation, no information, no this is where you find information and that medical help was available, required to live as normal a life as possible.
My mother found you about 3 months ago and now we are catching up on all your videos. Thank you for your insight and guidance. It is much appreciated.
Thank you, Rob! The analogy of the pond nails it! A perfect picture to explain to "bystanders"/unaware people in general.
Thank you Marian!! I was hanging out at a local pond and the analogy came to me. I came back home and started writing notes for the video right away - while I was inspired =) =). I'm so glad it worked out this well! Stop by the channel anytime.
-Rob
I wish my family understood this or would at least try to. I'm rapid cycling, but I've felt/feel all of this even though I'm treated. Recently my medication is not working and I'm topped out. Thanks for this video.
@Diamond D yeah I just got my Lamictal increased, and had my Trileptal increased once Spring @#$_ed me up
Thank you for making these. I am learning so much from your videos.
I live with Bipolar type 2. This is absolutely the best detailed description of living with Bipolar. Thank you so much
Creativity on another level 💯
Love the new video style! And the analogy to explain bipolar. Thank you so much for all that you do for this community ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I'm so glad you love the new style he used for this video! Thanks so much for your comment. Rob and the team appreciates your kind words. -Rachel (Polar Warriors team member)
Nice to have a community for bipolar. Stay strong guys, we can thrive!!
I had been misdiagnosed with BPD and just got rediagnosed with Bipolar Disorder - this channel has been a huge help to me in understanding my brain better, so thank you!
Nailed it❤️
Genius!
Truly effective clarification of the experience of living with bipolar - for both the individual and the partner of that individual.
BRAVO.
Your beautiful video summed up my bipolar disorder. Had my illness since being 18years old yet wasn't diagnosed til my early 30's. I'm now 59 years old and still struggling. Thank you for this wonderful video, it has helped me so much. 🍪 pocket
Great video! Informative and creative. Stay strong out there fellow warriors!
I was just diagnosed with bi polar back in April after having going through mania and going through psychosis. On top of that I was diagnosed with Complex PTSD. My trigger was from remembering all my childhood trauma. My mom is a Covert Narcissist who physically and mentally abused me for years. Your videos are teaching me so much on my diagnosis.
Daughter of a narcissist here. I've been reading a book called Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents. It's really helped validate a lot of the feelings I've been carrying around since with them there's constant gaslighting. I wish you peace on your journey, you deserve better.
Oh. My. Gosh. I needed this so much, today! Not only did you describe this shitty day with uncanny precision, you answered the question I have about being able to see the rocks coming! I'm going to watch this several more times. Thanks!
I just want to thank you so much for this video and all that you do. Your channel has not only helped me understand myself, it has helped me educate my loved ones in countless ways. The fact that you include rapid cycling in your explanations helps me as well. Officially my diagnosis is Ultradian Rapid Cycling Hypomanic Type Two Bipolar Disorder. That combined with Major Depressive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, PTSD and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. I truly appreciate all you do. Your videos have saved relationships with family by helping them understand me.
Wonderful analogy. Thank you for the time and effort you put in to create this content.
Thank you. This is a great illustration of a condition very baffling for friends and family.
Rob, this video is amazing. I am an Advocate at 66 yrs old & have told parts of my story of living w Bipolar 1. I feel U R definitely ready to write UR book. Of course only U can decide & I respect that. Please give it some thought......God Bless U & good luck My Dear Friend.....whatever U decide to do :)
I love this description! Unfortunately, my BD diagnosis has come with crippling anxiety. I also have many other injuries which undoubtedly contribute to my anxiety, but it's really getting old. I'm ALWAYS stressed.
I have found that communication is so powerful! I let the people I live with know my diagnosis and have shown them this channel so they can educate themselves on my illness.
I am a rapid cycler that experiences mixed states a lot (were still working out meds) so it's important that the people around me know what I'm going through so help keep me accountable and SAFE
This pond analogy is wonderful
THANK GOD FOR MENTAL THERAPISTS WHO ARE DEDICATED AND COMPASSION!!
You have explained this illness so profoundly , kudos ! Second , you are doing a Great job By creating mental health awareness and removing the stigma from society ! Your channel has helped me a lot ! Lots of love and light ,x!
Thank you so much for the kind words! =) =)
-Rob
I love how dramatic the editing of this video is. It is exactly how I feel. I will show this to anyone who says that bipolar isn't that bad.
Been feeling very angry just feel like I'm gonna snap.... My therapist is nosey... No help at all I take my medicine and try 2 do right. Not good enough... Me being bipolar is difficult. Its hard 2 cope with it. Nobody truly understands me but u guys do
Amazing, thank you for understanding and giving me the words to explain❣️ The emotional rollercoaster that I felt in a 10min video, just wow.
Who knew there was so much going on in the pond😆
I LOVED your pond metaphor! It makes the feelings understandable. And I’m hoping that it helps my husband understand it better. Although I don’t have mania, the depression part of my bipolar disease has ruined my marriage. He tried to understand but just couldn’t. I don’t blame him but I’m always looking for ways to help him understand. We haven’t lived together for eight years but still love each other dearly. We just can’t live together and I am OK with that. He can’t handle my illness in spite of all of his work to try to and I can’t handle his inability to handle my illness. Too much guilt when I don’t measure up. You are so insightful, Rob. Thanks for all the hard work that you do for the videos. They are priceless.
Dysphoric mania! This is exactly my usual state of mind when I am in a dark place. I’ve always been fascinated by euphoric mania in others such as celebrities performers etc. I’ve never really experienced much euphoric mania. That seems like a mixed blessing. Over the years I have learned that changes in my life and environment greatly affect me and my emotional state. Even simple things like taking a trip for a week, missing sleep or making a mistake at work can cause ripples in my emotions. Years ago a support group facilitator/LCSW at my health clinic said that people with bipolar are “exquisitely sensitive people.” As far as therapists, I am not sure that there are many out there who truly understand the bipolar phenomenon and are able to explain it and support those with it. I find that traditional psychotherapy is not helpful in the sense that kindness and caring don’t help me understand my condition. Rob and team-you have no idea how much your videos have helped me. I have gained so much insight from them at age 60. I wish there would’ve been a doctor or therapist over the years who could’ve explained things so well. Oh well I just keep trudging on and am trying to understand myself. thank you.
Wow, excellent resource for patients and those who care about them! Worth re-watching to see where I'm at. Thank you so much!!
Thanks for the kind words and feedback Cindy! Stop by the channel anytime =) =)
-Rob
Bipolar mixed rapid cycles 22 years sober on meds thank you
I really like the new format..this is pretty cool. I relate a lot, but feel like I would relate even more if it were more bipolar 2-based. This is an awesome video either way, thanks brotha!
Check out my poem I just posted. I am BD 2.
My family recently moved to Maui and had a bit of a breakdown, i ended up in the hospital with a suspicion of bipolar disorder as I have had 2 other episodes similar to this. I was there for four days( no insurance )and put on medication I think it is helping a little. I recently met with the psychiatrist who then later gave me the diagnosis of bipolar 2. I am in some big waves but learning to ask for help. Currently in a pretty deep depression and that’s hard to even say. I just want to snap out of it. So much to be thankful for.
Thank you for your channels it has really helped me know a little better what I have and what I am dealing with. ❤️🩹
Hi Amber, thank you for sharing some of your story with us. It can be hard to open up and actually say it. I'm glad the medication is helping a little bit. It can take some time for meds to work fully so may take a little while to feel the full effects. I hope this current deep depression that your in passes soon. It can be so hard to deal with, I can relate, as I've been there many times myself. Remember you're not alone. Many of us deal with similar symptoms on a daily basis. Keep on fighting to get better. Take good care and I hope things improve for you soon. -Rachel (Polar Warriors team member)
That was by far the best analogy/explanation of bi-polar that I have ever heard! THANK YOU for finding a simplified way to convey such a complex disorder! I truly appreciate all that you do for the bi-polar community
I’m so glad you make this video, I have struggled with my bipolar since I was young, spent so much of my life untreated I’m like a patchwork quilt , but my path foreword is a better one, there is hope in treatment and understanding, so thank you for all who suffer for helping all of us to understand better and ways to cope, the hardest thing is to explain it so your video is a great voice for me
I have learned a lot from this amazing educational video. Thank you for educating me to know people not only physically but also emotionally.
Great video!! My pond is crystal clear with a gentle breeze for the moment... I hope the wind doesn't start picking up!
Glad to hear you're doing well right now! I hope things stay that way! :) -Rachel (Polar Warriors team member)
Wow this is absolutely incredible. It's the most vivid picture of bipolar I have ever come across. It is very difficult as a rapid cycler to explain what bipolar is and even more how it feels. Thank you for this!!!
Right on! Thank you so much for the kind words and for taking the time to comment. Stop by the channel anytime :-)
- Rob
This was a great video. I have bipolar disorder with mixed episodes. Things can get a little scary or even a bit out of sorts at times. Thank you for this video. I love the reference to a pond. It puts things in perspective.
I just sent this video to all my trusted friends and I feel so happy and relieved that they acknowledged how tough it is dealing with these awful symptoms so frequently. Thank you for this beautifully awesome video
I'm so thankful for your channel. You and my drs are helping me learn and understand more about my mental illness .
Thank you for your videos - including this one! To answer your open question to all readers: I am feeling doing fairly well, but still feeling the ripple effects of my husband (unknowingly) throwing a boulder into my pond about 6 months ago. The boulder: he convinced me to transfer to another branch in my company and move to another house we own in that region (which happens to be a beachside community, but had been renting it out). He worked on me for several years until he finally caught me at just the right time in my bipolar state and I capitulated. The thing is, despite me attempting to teach him about bipolar (we've been married only 3 yrs) he just couldn't understand how important it was for me to keep my life stable (that is, NOT move and NOT even make a lateral move in my employment). He honestly believed it would not be a big deal for me because he thought I would get used to it quickly and easily and, because it was beachside would actually like it more. I try not to blame him because I know that ultimately it was my decision to transfer employment positions and move. (He would have never moved without me.) So, after 3 months there we moved back to our home (which thank goodness I didn't sell, but was just using it as an AirBnB). Unfortunately, my old position had been filled so now I am driving about 3 hrs/day to get to/from the job into which I transferred. Who knows if and when the position in this town will ever become available. I hope so - and sooner rather than later. In the meantime, he is driving me once per week to my job that is so far away! (Thank goodness I work only 4 days/wk.) The lesson I have learned is that even though family/friends may have the best of intentions, they might not understand your bipolar well enough to understand the damage that might be done if you follow their suggestions. So, my advice to others with bipolar: stay strong and do what you honestly believe you should do to best manage your bipolar.
THANK YOU for taking the time to join the conversation! I hope you have a peaceful week =) =) =)
-Rob
Good analogy. I'm thankfully stable outside of triggers now, but it's always going to be a part of me.
Yeah, this is why I'm applying for SSI again; if I'm not too stressed, I am okay and can do basic care for myself and my pets
This was brilliant! 😭😭 Thank you so much for this, Robert! God bless you.
I'm so glad you loved the video so much! Thank you for your kind words towards Rob! -Rachel (Polar Warriors team member)
I discovered you a day before going to see a therapist to find out what's going on wirh me. I watched your videos throughout my rehabilitation program and i absolutely love how you put everything into perspective, a way that i cannot express to others. I appreciate your effort and time to help me explain myself to others with your videos.
Again, thank you! 😁
Rob" its been a long time!
I'm so happy to see you still educating us all
You helped me so much with my partner learning and understanding
Unfortunately after 7yrs he left his bipolar has a grip,I hope he will continue working on it to manage it! But I walked away know I did all I could, and having you, was a tremendous help!!!
Thank you for a great analogy. I have bipolar disorder type 2, and I have been fortunate that mine is relatively well controlled with a low dose of lamotrigine. I also have ADHD though, which has made treatment of that more challenging as it's generally not advisable to use stimulant medication with someone who has bipolar disorder. I want to start looking into ways to introduce physical activity as well to help improve control of my symptoms.
Thank you for such an incredibly accurate description of my illness, and done with beautiful visuals and word pictures. This is very helpful for those who dont get it just by “words”. It also helped my to ponder how I can strategize to continue to get better.
Thank you so much for your wonderful comment Jessie! :) I'm so glad you enjoyed the video and that you found it to be so helpful. Thanks for joining the conversation! -Rachel (Polar Warriors team member)
Beautifully made video Rob, and very clear explanation. You're making a big difference to many lives. Well done to you. 🙏🙏
As a bipolar it’s really hard to describe are lives
Bravo, well documented and presented
This is beautifully done 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Amazing video, just what I needed to hear right now as I help my life partner aka husband navigate his bp bubbles as I call them, from his pond. Excited to share this video with him, as it is such a clear way to mentally process what a loved one with bp is going through daily.
I so enjoy your videos it helps me better understand how I am feeling and that I’m not alone in what I feel. I’m in the middle right now trying to balance my life and this video was well needed to see thank you
i just experienced manic psychosis this week for the first time and it really messed me up. it was one of the scariest and worst episodes i’ve ever experienced and it effected my relationships too. my mom found this video and sent it to me. this is such a perfect explanation. it’s so hard to live with something like this, not knowing how to help yourself as well as having people in your life that also don’t know how to help in that episode either. but knowing your not alone and that it’s temporary and manageable helps tremendously
Thank you so much for your channel. I am 48 and got diagnosed in my 30s. I never knew what was going on until then. I can relate to your stories so much and i feel acceptance and education is so important. Thank you so much.