When you miss someone, you miss the part of you, which came alive with them. A way to get over a person is to find something new that could bring that side of you to alive.
@Ann-Marie Paliukenas lol no. Nobody is "irreplaceable", apart from maybe Elon Musk @Toni that's a very good point, I think you're right about that. I miss the plans I had with my ex much more than I miss her.
...or not I really hate fortune tellers who know for 1000 % that EVERYONE will find a significant one. Spoiler: no. That's not how life works. So maybe, just maybe, don't give people false hope?
Well, has been 5 months since I broke up with my ex, and I can't get her out of my mind. The thing is that I know that she is better without me and, in some sense, i'm better without her. One thing about break-ups is that almost everytime you lose a partner, you will emerge like a new, better person. The pain teaches us how to live. Every time I see her on a photo or on a post I think "Wow, there are things that I could do better" and I act. Right now, i'm the most disciplined that I had been in my entire life, and I really think that losing her has been one of the greatest motivations to do so. It's ok to missing someone, just don't let them drown yourself. Use your own pain like gasoline to do something meaningful with your life. That's the best advice that I can think of this topic. Stay strong, folks.
how are you doing now? Going through a tough breakup atm. I know its the best for me but It still hurts a lot and cant stop thinking about how it all couldve worked out better.
Thats right. In both cases a break up and suicide you can blame the person you miss. You love and hate them at the same time. "Normal" Death you can be angry at the universe more easily
I think so too, James. Although, I think I'd change it into: "you're not entitled to anything more that you're getting". Afterwards, I think that'd be more accurate.
That's how I see my life as if luck does show up it will show up in the right place and time for me but not before that as if I chase after it it will run away quickly.
@@tapaswineebehera5061 I'd always assume she isn't. It's easier to move on with life that way. You're a champ 💪. You've got better stuff to do than missing someone who might not even miss you, right? 💪
I am dealing with my son's suicide (Sept 23, 2019). It hurts beyond measure. This video is making me think, especially the last point, about what he wrote to me......
You play the main role in your life, and when you get to know yourself, you can be alone a lot more, because you always have yourself. Learn to think and detach, and feelings of missing someone will never cut deep again.
Melexdy, we met on a windy morning on July 9th, 2004. We had an amazing connection but a few weeks later you stopped returning my text, phone calls and even emails :o. Why the cold shoulder, love?
I witnessed the death of my best friend and I lost my girlfriend of 2 years all within 6 months. She helped me escape addiction and in the process a majority of the people I knew I no longer speak with, she had also become my best friend after his death and basically the only person I spoke to. Now I find it incredibly difficult to connect with anyone despite wanting to, being sober I just don't feel joy in most anything and generally find myself contemplating suicide even though my life is far better than it used to be. Channels like this are helping though, thank you for doing what you do.
there are better times coming for you, better persons, and be thankful for your past cause everything that happened to you was there for a reason: to provide you with the strength you need for the future. And if you now that everything is constantly changing, keep in mind that your pain won't last so keep pushing forward😊
Nobody can guarantee better times but a way to help yourself may be to push the pain outwards. Is there anyway you could use your experience as an ex addict to help others who are in that position now? From your short message it’s clear you are a strong person, to get over from addictions you need to be. You also must have a strong moral centre, you contemplate suicide yet don’t do it. These are really extraordinary qualities you could build on, as long as you keep reminding yourself you have them. With qualities like these maybe it’s not time to give up just yet. Note: I do not mean moral in the religious but in the humanist sense. Moral in the sense that you are capable of loving other people, perhaps you do not commit suicide for fear of hurting others. Again this is another extraordinary quality to have in a world where people seem to be becoming more narcissistic and selfish. You have a lot to give to this world, maybe focusing on that, and not what you have lost may help you, I sincerely hope it does and wish you all the best for your future. ✌🏻🌹🏴
@@pilgrimsgold767 I appreciate it, I like to think better things are coming and I'm working on accepting the things in life that happen just as they are.
@@scarletpimpernelagain9124 Thank you, I don't spend a lot of time thinking about the skills or qualities I have that make me personally happy maybe I'll try to reach out to other people to help them with their own addictions and problems.
@Claire Thanks for encouragement and I'm sorry for your loss. Growing up a few of my friends commited suicide very early in life and as time goes by it seems like the epidemic affects a lot more people out there than I'd imagined.
I always believed that nothings lasted forever. But at my mothers funeral, I realized that’s not true. I will always love my mom. No matter what. At least for the rest of my life. And that’s “forever” to me. The only thing that gets me through is the thought of seeing her again one day(50 years give or take). Until then I will try to make the best of this precious gift of life that she gave to me, which I honestly never thought of as a blessing before. And if not, then at least I won’t have to suffer like this anymore.
Somehow we find out ways to process the pain, each in our own ways. Through music, through rage, through addiction, through great videos like this (for which thank you). We find ways that help us go through the day without snapping or bursting into tears... but somehow, it never truly or completely takes away the pain. It stays there, we just over time find a way to live with it, without being bothered to much by it, if it makes sense.
Not me lol. I go ahead and burst into tears. As often, as long and whenever I need to (except when in public or whatever). I cry and cry and cry until one day it’s a little less then a little less etc. Then one day I don’t cry at all. It’s definitely harder and more painful in the moment to face it head on but the reward is that you don’t have to carry things. You FEEL every single inch of it and then let it go completely. Just how I’ve always done it. I don’t carry. I DO, however, keep the love. Once I’ve processed everything else I’m able to just keep the good and not have it hurt anymore. It allows me to forgive and find peace. Blessings!
@@jenk6895 Very well said, Jen. I know I probably shouldn't, but I miss my 25 yr old son, my firstborn son. And I still cry and cry, out of the blue because I miss him so much. I have two sons in their 20s. When I divorced their abusive, narcissistic father when my boys were young, my ex was able to alienate my oldest son from me as an absolute means to destroy me and take from me what(who) I loved the most.. an extreme case of parental alienation. My younger son broke from his dads controlling grip and was adamant he didn't want to live w his dad and wanted to live w me. Both my sons have largely been separated becasue of their dad's alienation. My older son's mind has been warped by his unstable dad, aka - he's now a product of his environment at age 25. Yes, my older son has spent a couple years w me at a time in his 20s, but went back to live w his controlling dad. Bottom line: as a mom, I still cry at the drop of a hat and my heart perpetually aches.
It's been 2 years, 3 months since the love of my life passed from cancer. She took me to a place that I imagined not possible for me. I can now begin see hope that there is still possible a life with meaning and purpose. I'm not feeling it strongly yet, but I get moments. Grief is devastatingly difficult to navigate at times, but I know Pam would want me to be happy. Yet I miss her physical presence so much, I can barely stand it. It's very difficult to find happiness, but I at least have moments now and then. Progress 🙂
I'm sorry for your loss… I hope you're doing better nowadays. I lost my girlfriend suddenly to a short illness 2.5 months ago and I struggle to see any reason to live. She was just 38 and we were together for more than 14 years. I fell in love with her when I was 15. I don't believe I will be able to feel joy again…
This really helped me especially since my parents died. I know I will see them again someday but I have made so many new friends and the possibility of love in my life. Until that time I love unconditionally.
Why isn’t this type of emotional intelligence taught in school? I guess we are suckers for pain, & pain builds brain cells in literal & figurative ways.
Im 13 yrs old and my 20 yrs old brother moved to america 4 years ago(we live in Deutsche) . Yeah, i was a kid , but i started talking to him on whatsapp. I was getting really close. Until one day, he had a car crash. He was in coma . I didnt think he will survive. I started having panick attacks, anxiety, depression etc. I was just standing in my room all day. I wasnt even eating. 1 year later(this year) I was devastated. I watched a lot of videos of how to get rid of depression , etc. This helped me much. 1 month ago, my mom found out he wasn't in coma anymore, she didnt tell me cause she wanted to be a surprise. When she come to me crying , to finally tell me, the door cracks. I think you know who came in 😭😊😊
Video came just in time I am missing my ex girlfriend. No matter how objective I try to view every situation or how logical I try to be I still miss her. The only person( as an introvert) that I allowed to get close to me. I meditate, study, distract my self by playing shogi, going on silent walks. Thank you for the wisdom. I do not mind being alone I actually enjoy solitude and it's benefits it is the feeling of loneliness that troubles me.
It’s the right way to focus on meditation (or any other way to create inner peace like journaling) and yourself. I also still miss my ex girlfriend, but it’s getting gradually better. Give yourself time. I’m doing much better than I did weeks ago. And eventually, if you’ve tried everything you could in your previous relationship, you’ll realize that this not working out means that there’s someone even better for you.
@ROBERT STOKES Hello, I don't know who you mean by Paul David. I wouldn't call myself a philosopher either, just someone who is guided by philosophy to live a more fulfilled life.
I find it helps me to become a better person/partner when I become more relaxed about relationships, date more frequently and let more people in. Then I don't feel a scarcity mindset or so much loneliness, and if something special comes along it's easier to see it is really special rather than just something that salves my loneliness.
Spent the night reading through old messages between someone I crushed on for the longest time. It sounds trivial that I've got so emotional over it. But we spent basically everyday over the course of a year and a bit talking. He became a part of my everyday. But he must have decided somewhere along the line I wasn't what he wanted and opted out of even saying goodbye and just vanishing with no way to get in touch. Most days I don't think of him at all. But on days like today, it fucking hurts my heart to remember him. And to think that I wasn't even worth a goodbye in the end. I know I should be mad and in a lot of ways I am. But he was truly a unique person who brightened my everyday with stupid memes and genuinely interesting conversations and countless inside jokes. I do wish he would reach out, even just to say a real goodbye, so that I know I even made a slight impact on his life like he made on mine.
Did you try to reach out to him? Was there an argument that occurred before the silence? Just curious why people who use to talk daily quit talking. You mentioned crush, so I'm assuming the two of you were friends.
@@modickens1272 I honestly haven't got a clue why he suddenly stopped talking to me. Unfortunately I can't ask him as he didn't just ghost me. But deleted all of his social media. I didn't have his phone number so once he deleted his social media, I had no way of getting in touch. I wish I knew why he cut off contact, it wasn't just small messages everyday either, but long detailed paragraphs. We even met up a couple of times just to hang out in person. He did know I liked him as I told him after a long time spent talking online. That was when we agreed to meet up. But he never once said he liked me in that way back so maybe he was too afraid to tell me he only saw me as a friend and decided to leave completely. The strange thing is, he was the one who initiated all conversation with me and reached out initially to me. I think that's what I get so confused and upset about. The fact I'll more than likely never get answers from him.
@@chelseyf0wler I understand Chelsey. It does seem odd in that respect, sometimes there are clues in hindsight. Your comment caught my attention because something similar occurred to me without the ghosting aspect. I was friends with a woman for about 3 years, talked daily about everything, sometimes well into the night, 2am type stuff. Use to tell each other goodnight, etc. Sometimes we'd argue and not speak to each other for a few days, maybe a couple of weeks at the most but always ended up talking. However 6 months ago we had an argument and quit speaking to each other. Neither have reached out. Part of the reason I don't reach out is because she ended the friendship. Basically " I wish you the best, take care" so if people don't want my company I won't try to force it on them. Do I miss her? Yes, reread old messages? Yes. And yet I realize some things happen for a reason. Some people no matter how close we were to them are not meant to stay in our lives. Sometimes the closeness was one sided, meaning we valued the bond more than them. Sometimes we wondered if we did something wrong, or if they think of us. I'm sure they do. In your particular case, ( I don't know all the details) but if you never had his number or email and he deleted all his social media after you mentioned your feelings for him, then most likely it wasn't anything you did wrong. As a man, to me it sounds like he may have been married or in a relationship, but kept that hidden. Many people I know in relationships have 0 pics with their partners for this reason. They like to still get attention from the opposite sex. Once he perceived it might cause issues, he couldn't admit to being deceptive so it was easier for him to quit speaking and delete any way to communicate. People are complicated. I will say this, I promise he'll one day regret his actions. Its very rare to meet people who make us feel understood, get our humor, share secrets etc. And when a person loses that either by ghosting someone, or by ingratitude and ending the friendship over a petty squabble, rest assured they'll miss that person. We're missed even if pride or fear never allows them to say it. Time tends to heal things, one way or the other. Either they reach out in time, or we move on emotionally, but either way time will get us through.
@@modickens1272 thanks for the comment really appreciated it, I know what I got to do now, ending a friendship over a dumb squabble isn’t worth it in the end
After more than a year I’m still coping with the loss of my ex. It comes back strong just when I think I’ve started to move past it and idk how to stop it.
Every person that u love is a piece of you, once one of those people die,u lose a piece of yourself,but you have to just remember that they are still here,watching over you and protecting you,so don't feel lonely cause the people that u love,are still here in your heart.
I struggled with this when someone I was dating for a short but intense time suddenly called it quits and wanted to hang out only as friends. It was too soon for me to accept his decision to not see me romantically anymore and just be grateful for the friendship. Therefore every time we hung out after it felt conflicting for me . I think logically this makes sense but emotionally it takes a bit more time to genuinely feel loving kindness for someone who left you.
Nooo.... I think missing someone is also loving them! Can you imagine not missing your friend after a year or two or three or whatever long! of their passing, I'm sure you would wonder whats wrong with you.... For me, missing is loving!
It wasnt an illusion, even if that person didnt truly love you. That what you felt never came from them. It came from yourself, you allowed you to love yourself which gave you that feeling because them 'loving you' means you are worthy of love. So it wasnt an illusion, that it came from him/her was.
@@rgf5432 most beautiful comment I saw today, thank you I truly feel seen! It all starts from within, we must allow ourselves to truly care for our own being, we are all worthy of love
@@rgf5432 a few days ago i thought about something kind of like that, then i thought love is in us and sometimes someone triggers that love to come to the surface and we give them the credit but the love is actually coming from within, and if we trigger the same in that person we fall in love with each other
U miss the reaction u had within urself... U r seeking for an external factors to recreate the feeling... Give it time ... U can make yourself feel loved again. .. as it's coming from u ... Also I feel ya too .. I miss how he had made me feel... But it gets better :)
Kuldeep Ghadiali It’s not the doing it’s the trying and it’s not the achieving it’s the practicing that counts here. It’s all about changing the way you look at the world. Nobody ever said it was easy, but it can be done and surely trying is worth it to make a difference?
Northern Light I’m currently going through a heart break right now and I know that no amount of me trying to let that pain go away is making me happier. This the reason why I said it’s easily said than done. Some things in life you don’t have control over, they just disappear over time.
I broke up with someone recently, and we've been together for 3 years. I got depressed when she said she already loved someone else 2 weeks after she told me she still loved me. I watched this video already knowing everything to move on but knowing something you should do isn't enough. You should be capable and open to the change even if it hurts you every day because who else would love and care about you other than yourself. Learn to love yourselves. It's the best way to move on
Even after a couple years of my best friend a Doxie named Henry, when I see a puppy or another Doxie being walked on the street, I cannot hold back the tears. I feel so alone, and because of my health cannot get another rescue dog.
In my case separation made me feel a dreadful loneliness. 12+ years of a relationship, but you put it very clear here. Impermanence -> movement -> life. I accept all that, Thich Nhat Hanh has helped me a lot too. I just silently wish after all that growth through the years, she'll still be around. Doesn't even matter if she's already married. The dimension we created as life partners will remain untouchable.
This video really helped me deal with my daughter moving overseas, and to pursue her dreams. I miss her terribly, but I know it's for the best for me to let her go. Like you said, we are returning them.
Hello Einzelgänger, thanks for making this video. I love your videos. I saw this video when you posted it but I had to come back again. Yesterday I found my uncle dead in his house, inside his room. He died from a heart attack. And he died probably close to a week ago. He was such a great guy and I can't believe he's gone. Your videos have always helped me in life. Thank you.
It took me about 5 years, but I’m finally letting myself accept this. And it feels so much better. Resisting change and holding on to sadness and bitterness is so tiring and awful.
It's been devastating since my daughter and my 3 granddaughters moved out of state. They have always been such a huge part of me and now they're all gone. I feel such pain emptiness in my heart anymore. I realize I'm being selfish and I try not to, but the pain slaps me hard when I see a toy or clothing they left behind. If only letting go was that simple. I think the part that hurts the most is my daughter not caring about the impact this has had on me. I miss them all so much and wish them the best. Sad Nanna rants on. 😔
So sorry to hear that. You are not rambling at all. You are in fact very loving and courageous for letting them go and putting their interest first. I hope you are in contact with them. And I hope that they know that you miss them. Stay strong 🔥👊💯
Nana hello, coming from a granddaughter who is watching this video bcz she misses her granny i want to tell you do not worry. They probably dont think about it but inside they miss you a lot. They will realise in a moment how much they love you
Dang you uploaded this at the perfect time, thanks brother! I wish you all the best with dealing with your grief, painful memories or even possessiveness issues ♥️
Be careful, there‘s a real danger of using wise concepts like these to bypass the pain and avoid the deep dive into the core. Trying to combat unpleasant thoughts with wiser ones may soften the waves for a while and leave us feeling more mature and in control, but there’s no confrontation with the tension underneath, no dipping into the real experience. But there‘s this spot where we realize how much our feelings scare us and how much we have done to run away (includes obsessive thoughts and blame, but also intellectualizing, rationalizing,...). There is grief and fear and pain to be felt and that’s normal and healthy, it doesn‘t mean you‘re broken or immature. And it doesn‘t even have much to do with the other person at all. It‘s your pain and it‘s your responsibility to face it.
Thank you again. I feel so glad I’ve found your channel. When I’m feeling almost desperate, I come here and see one or two of your videos and that helps me so much.
This is a lot easier for me than many watching this video. The girl that I'm deeply in love with and I aren't allowed to talk to each other because of something that happened. But she is still here, she still loves me, and someday we'll be really together again, and that brings my a lot of comfort. My deepest condolences go to those reading this that do not have that comfort.
This is really helping me cope in the heat of losing my first love. I really messed that one up. A strong and beautiful girl...I pushed her out and even when she waited for me, by the time I came back it was too late. I also lost a really close friend at this moment to a terrible accident which left me traumatized. This video helped me change my outlook on that.
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I miss my cat i loved so much! Been 18 years already since she got lost, but i still remember her every day and cry sometimes. Dreams are hurtfull about her. My Bella
Feeling affirmed in my own hard to swallow conclusions that I've come to through, yes, missing people. "We're all just walking each other home." -Ram Dass
Scott I hope you can enjoy al the wonderful things you do have around you - just go for a walk and enjoy freedom, good health, nature and peace of mind, learn to love what you do and fill your days with people who fill you with joy. Great things happen when you are happy, then you attract loving people into your life, you need to get happy first. Never worry, everything always works out ok you are loved, learn to love yourself first to attract more love into your life 🙏
I couldn't enjoy the moments when I was with my ex bcs I was always thinking of someday I'd be separated from him it made me anxious almost all the time and it became something like 'law of attraction' bcs in the end we really broke up (and yet, it's so painful even though I had prepared myself to face the separation with him before and had lost the moments when we were together bcs of it)
how can you be in a relationship thinking that one day you will be separated...?? in this case separation was bound to happen. It was all you expected.
I watch your videos everyday and I can say that I have grown ever since. You've helped me so much without even realizing. May you continue this path to educate and help us grow as humans! I hope you practice what you preach as well! Much Love brother, thank you again!!
I didn't lose someone as much as I just let her go. It's been over two years and I miss her terribly sometimes. It simply wasn't the right time then and I wouldn't have been a good boyfriend. She has since moved on with someone else. I have embraced my solitude the last couple years and I flourish in that for the most part but there are moments and times when I get incredibly sad that I can't just hang out with her and listen to music and laugh and smile like we used to do. I am grateful for those times we had. The crazy part is that I still don't want a committed relationship and I realize how selfish that sounds but I can't help the way I feel. I just miss her smile and laugh so much.
Idk why life put u some messages when u need to hear them, i havent sleep very well because exactly this idea, and sometimes I cannot talk with people about this, thanks for this beautiful creations.
I watched this video with my father a few days before he passed away. Ironic, in coping with the loss of some ex, all the times I spent with my father helped prepare me to cope with the loss of him. Nothing else has ever compared. I am grateful for this wisdom. I really needed this insight so I can stay true to myself, thus find happiness.
all this time i've been living and practicing these things and felt out of place, isolated, thinking that there was something wrong with me when i needed space apart for myself from my lover. in time feeling there was something off about me, specifically by practicing these things... that is when your significant other shows you if they truly love you. if the person who loves you cannot let you be yourself, have space and time and be happy for you when not there, then the person doesn't love you genuinely, they love the idea of loving someone and being loved eternally. in a state of euphoria forever. if you love some one set them free... doesn't mean you let them go... it means you give them space and give them true love to allow them to be themselves ("a friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself"), even if that means they are different than you and i. it just means you love them and want their true happiness. c:
I just wanted to take a moment to thank you for making your videos. I always come away contemplating how to cope with life issues. I have been dealing with grief from the death of a loved one who is the Center of My Universe and this particular video was exactly what I needed in this moment. Thank you! I truly appreciate your work.
If someone you love left you think about this: You lost a person who doesn’t love you anymore. But they lost a person who loves them very much. Now ask yourself, who really lost something, you or them?
This video helped me a lot. Am missing my best friend, she moved away almost 4 years ago. First it felt like she's been on vacation but after time's past, things were getting real. I unconciously tried filling the void with other people - but we all know this won't work in the long run. No one can replace another person. The only things that helped me, were to be straight up honest to myself that she's living now in another city, that's okay to grief a bit and that i will miss her at certain occasions immensely, that the most important thing is that she's living her life, that we are still close - where she is there will be always a bit of home. I am really greatful for our time in the same town and our friendship right now. Still at moments like these - this video was a good reminder that it's and it'll be okay again.
I had a best friend that I knew most of my life but when covid happened and everyone went into lockdown we lost contact because we didn’t have phones at the time. I didn’t think of it that much but then after a few months I realised that I liked him but I couldn’t find him so now I cry myself to sleep or just do things to keep him off my mind because deep down I know I need him ❤️
The Internet is a pretty wonderful place, TH-cam has helped me with countless things in my life for many years. I'd watch a video, feel a bit better but its always the comments that usually help the most. Listening to others and their experiences that relate to the video despite sometimes being sad, hard, they always remind me that I am not alone. Thank you everyone, I love you all.
This may not be as serious as some other people’s situations, but I just “graduated” 8th grade and throughout middle school, I have built a bond with a handful of my teachers that I have never had with anyone before, they mean everything to me and now I will not see them for a very long time, if ever again. Summer has just started and I miss them so much that it hurts. I never thought my connection with these people would grow so much and that leaving would hurt so bad, but I really hope that one day I can see them again and I pray every day that they will not forget me.
Thanks a lot for this video. These are some great lessons, some of which I’ve already tried to implement in my life, some that I will try to keep in mind. All we can do is wish that person the best and move on with trying to be the best versions of ourselves that we can be. What’s meant to be will always be.
Dude my mind was blown away. You are a genius. But in all seriousness this is another amazing video on your channel. Props to you. You most definitely deserve more likes and views. I recomended you to my friends and family, hopefully that helps a little.
I met 2 cousins who changed my life and i miss them **Things im only including to make it shorter ** -The time with me and my 2 cousins -The place -They’re personality and looks - i am ignoring every interaction with my other relatives such as other cousins, aunties, uncles and grandmas **my story** I used to be a introverted kid who never went out and talked to people. Once i met my 2 cousins, they were very kind and talking to them was fun, it was the first time feeling this feeling. I was visiting them for my aunties birthday party and had no idea about my cousins, we had my aunties birthday party at night and i slept over, the next day we went to a swimming park and spending time with them was fun. Unfortunately on the same day we went to the water park, i had to leave and they lived 3 hours away and keep in mind that they are girls cousins who are very cute and pretty. i am australian/filpino and was visiting the phillipines and was leaving soon in 2 weeks unable to visit them until next year. It was so short, i only spent time with them for around 1 day and a half. **what made me feel this way for them** These girls accompanied me, entertained me and offered many things to me and they were the first to do these things, my cousins in australia are just like “hello calvin” and i say hi back and never talk. My 2 cousins actually approached me and had a long conversation that was fun, which no one has really ever done in my life which was very surprising and didnt know how to react as these sort of things dont happen to me. i keep quiet as i am shy but i like talking to people, since my 2 cousins talked to me, i took a liking to them. But was sad as **what kinda makes me sad** their place is in the Phillipines and i was just having a holiday there, and they live 3 hours away from my place in the Phillipines. My time in the phillipines was very limited and didnt have that much time to talk with them because my parents booked places to go such as the beach, arcade and etc but i still felt empty because i had no one to talk to. **i am from australia btw** **what happened to me** They made me realise talking to people was fun, they noticed i was shy and taught me how to approach people who you dont or barely know They turned me from an introvert -> extrovert Which i am very thankful about
Didnt wanna add to the comment as it is already long, but we played games, talked and they taught me stuff which made me take a liking to them, but my time is almost here, going back to my country
40 years after parting I found that I still love the person. What an absolute gift. My mother died 6 years ago I still find her with me. What a surprise. I love being old finding all these experiences
Thank you Im going though time of no social life . I could only see my self doing fun things only with them not with myself. Focus on present means take part in action that you will forgot past times
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When you miss someone, you miss the part of you, which came alive with them. A way to get over a person is to find something new that could bring that side of you to alive.
Ouch 🥺
Yes exactly
@Ann-Marie Paliukenas lol no. Nobody is "irreplaceable", apart from maybe Elon Musk
@Toni that's a very good point, I think you're right about that. I miss the plans I had with my ex much more than I miss her.
Alistair Stewart Well, I'm glad it's that easy for you!
Amen
People are like beautiful sunsets. Enjoy them while they are here because soon they will disappear, but don’t worry, another one is coming tomorrow.
Damn that's rough
Well unfortunately not tomorrow, but sometime in the future ;-)
...or not
I really hate fortune tellers who know for 1000 % that EVERYONE will find a significant one. Spoiler: no. That's not how life works. So maybe, just maybe, don't give people false hope?
Sooner or later we will run out of tomorrows.
not for me...i got no one else...
"Those who are willing to lose, they are the ones that ultimately gain everything"
Forget this saying or you're always gonna expect out of everything and hurt yourself.
I really hope so
@william
Thoughts are only the results of emotions.
Thoughts are created as a result of physical feelings.
@@SR-pw6pi this is more about sacrifice, about willing to lose in order to gain, about being able to get thought defeat and win in the end
@P T Explain further if you may
"it's just our turn to be with them, some stick around for life and others are just passengers." I felt that
And even when they stick around, they will eventually die or you will eventually die so nothing is permanent
Well, has been 5 months since I broke up with my ex, and I can't get her out of my mind. The thing is that I know that she is better without me and, in some sense, i'm better without her. One thing about break-ups is that almost everytime you lose a partner, you will emerge like a new, better person. The pain teaches us how to live.
Every time I see her on a photo or on a post I think "Wow, there are things that I could do better" and I act. Right now, i'm the most disciplined that I had been in my entire life, and I really think that losing her has been one of the greatest motivations to do so. It's ok to missing someone, just don't let them drown yourself. Use your own pain like gasoline to do something meaningful with your life. That's the best advice that I can think of this topic.
Stay strong, folks.
Love this!
how are you doing now? Going through a tough breakup atm. I know its the best for me but It still hurts a lot and cant stop thinking about how it all couldve worked out better.
@@nest22 how are you now bro?
Feeling better already?
Why did u break up. I'll bet she's in pain to ..
How are you doing pal?
I noticed loosing someone to death is less painful then loosing someone to someone else.
True 😔
Real
@@bigbods5226 and losing someone to suicide is different kind of story
Thats right.
In both cases a break up and suicide you can blame the person you miss. You love and hate them at the same time.
"Normal" Death you can be angry at the universe more easily
Exactly
'You are not entitled to anything'. It would be good to teach this in school. I think it would improve mental health.
I think so too, James. Although, I think I'd change it into: "you're not entitled to anything more that you're getting". Afterwards, I think that'd be more accurate.
Give love without the expectation of a reward
that rly sucks lol. unfortunately true
That's how I see my life as if luck does show up it will show up in the right place and time for me but not before that as if I chase after it it will run away quickly.
Oh... I wish I could...
The sad thing is that Im missing someone who dosen't miss me.
Einzelgänger: Here's a video for you
You're welcome!
Ya I also missing someone but I don't know she is missing me or not 😔😔😔😔
@@tapaswineebehera5061 I'd always assume she isn't. It's easier to move on with life that way. You're a champ 💪. You've got better stuff to do than missing someone who might not even miss you, right? 💪
@@Einzelgänger ya u r right but I don't know why I miss her 😔in past days she was always with me.also I am her best friend 😔
Lol same here.missing someone who doesn't even care that I exist
Sometimes elevation requires separation.
True!
Deep 💯
Philosophy 101.
Well said
Amen. They're not going where you're going.
Me: Missing her
My pal Einzelgänger: I have a special video for you
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You're welcome 👍😉
Indeed it's like he has the ability to read someone's mind. How did you deduce I was missing my ex girlfriend?😂
Same dude. Miss my ex so hard it hurts bros.
I don't miss anyone or anything
I am dealing with my son's suicide (Sept 23, 2019). It hurts beyond measure.
This video is making me think, especially the last point, about what he wrote to me......
He's flying now.
So terribly sorry for your loss.
I can only imagine the pain you're in. Sincere condolences🙏
Sincere condolence
Very sorry to hear that.
You play the main role in your life, and when you get to know yourself, you can be alone a lot more, because you always have yourself. Learn to think and detach, and feelings of missing someone will never cut deep again.
nobody else sticks around with you longer than you do.
I wholeheartedly wish happiness for everyone I ever loved.
eh maybe you, the reader too I guess...
MeLexdy I don’t recall asking for your wishes
@@GoldenMushroom64 just pass the wishes to someone else
that's not so wholeheartedly but ight
Melexdy, we met on a windy morning on July 9th, 2004. We had an amazing connection but a few weeks later you stopped returning my text, phone calls and even emails :o. Why the cold shoulder, love?
^^ you two are a hot mess. 😂
@MeLexdy thanks for the wish, I guess. ;)
Me: missing her
Einzelgänger: it doesnt matter
It doesn't really matter ....be strong
Maybe 😔
@@shreyachugh5503rightly said 😞
He comes in like the Batman slap meme 😂😂
Me 3rd party: Did not miss her.
Same :(
I miss my grandma so much. I can’t stop crying.
😢😢
I witnessed the death of my best friend and I lost my girlfriend of 2 years all within 6 months. She helped me escape addiction and in the process a majority of the people I knew I no longer speak with, she had also become my best friend after his death and basically the only person I spoke to. Now I find it incredibly difficult to connect with anyone despite wanting to, being sober I just don't feel joy in most anything and generally find myself contemplating suicide even though my life is far better than it used to be. Channels like this are helping though, thank you for doing what you do.
there are better times coming for you, better persons, and be thankful for your past cause everything that happened to you was there for a reason: to provide you with the strength you need for the future.
And if you now that everything is constantly changing, keep in mind that your pain won't last so keep pushing forward😊
Nobody can guarantee better times but a way to help yourself may be to push the pain outwards. Is there anyway you could use your experience as an ex addict to help others who are in that position now? From your short message it’s clear you are a strong person, to get over from addictions you need to be. You also must have a strong moral centre, you contemplate suicide yet don’t do it. These are really extraordinary qualities you could build on, as long as you keep reminding yourself you have them. With qualities like these maybe it’s not time to give up just yet. Note: I do not mean moral in the religious but in the humanist sense. Moral in the sense that you are capable of loving other people, perhaps you do not commit suicide for fear of hurting others. Again this is another extraordinary quality to have in a world where people seem to be becoming more narcissistic and selfish. You have a lot to give to this world, maybe focusing on that, and not what you have lost may help you, I sincerely hope it does and wish you all the best for your future. ✌🏻🌹🏴
@@pilgrimsgold767 I appreciate it, I like to think better things are coming and I'm working on accepting the things in life that happen just as they are.
@@scarletpimpernelagain9124 Thank you, I don't spend a lot of time thinking about the skills or qualities I have that make me personally happy maybe I'll try to reach out to other people to help them with their own addictions and problems.
@Claire Thanks for encouragement and I'm sorry for your loss. Growing up a few of my friends commited suicide very early in life and as time goes by it seems like the epidemic affects a lot more people out there than I'd imagined.
I always believed that nothings lasted forever. But at my mothers funeral, I realized that’s not true. I will always love my mom. No matter what. At least for the rest of my life. And that’s “forever” to me.
The only thing that gets me through is the thought of seeing her again one day(50 years give or take). Until then I will try to make the best of this precious gift of life that she gave to me, which I honestly never thought of as a blessing before.
And if not, then at least I won’t have to suffer like this anymore.
Somehow we find out ways to process the pain, each in our own ways. Through music, through rage, through addiction, through great videos like this (for which thank you). We find ways that help us go through the day without snapping or bursting into tears... but somehow, it never truly or completely takes away the pain. It stays there, we just over time find a way to live with it, without being bothered to much by it, if it makes sense.
Sam 1057 it becomes a part of us
Not me lol. I go ahead and burst into tears. As often, as long and whenever I need to (except when in public or whatever). I cry and cry and cry until one day it’s a little less then a little less etc. Then one day I don’t cry at all. It’s definitely harder and more painful in the moment to face it head on but the reward is that you don’t have to carry things. You FEEL every single inch of it and then let it go completely. Just how I’ve always done it. I don’t carry. I DO, however, keep the love. Once I’ve processed everything else I’m able to just keep the good and not have it hurt anymore. It allows me to forgive and find peace. Blessings!
@@jenk6895 Very well said, Jen.
I know I probably shouldn't, but I miss my 25 yr old son, my firstborn son. And I still cry and cry, out of the blue because I miss him so much.
I have two sons in their 20s.
When I divorced their abusive, narcissistic father when my boys were young, my ex was able to alienate my oldest son from me as an absolute means to destroy me and take from me what(who) I loved the most.. an extreme case of parental alienation.
My younger son broke from his dads controlling grip and was adamant he didn't want to live w his dad and wanted to live w me. Both my sons have largely been separated becasue of their dad's alienation.
My older son's mind has been warped by his unstable dad, aka - he's now a product of his environment at age 25.
Yes, my older son has spent a couple years w me at a time in his 20s, but went back to live w his controlling dad.
Bottom line: as a mom, I still cry at the drop of a hat and my heart perpetually aches.
Loving someone is setting them free. Doing the things that are in best interest of theirs and not ours
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Make new good times
People are being used while things are being loved
It's been 2 years, 3 months since the love of my life passed from cancer. She took me to a place that I imagined not possible for me. I can now begin see hope that there is still possible a life with meaning and purpose. I'm not feeling it strongly yet, but I get moments. Grief is devastatingly difficult to navigate at times, but I know Pam would want me to be happy. Yet I miss her physical presence so much, I can barely stand it. It's very difficult to find happiness, but I at least have moments now and then. Progress 🙂
I'm sorry for your loss… I hope you're doing better nowadays. I lost my girlfriend suddenly to a short illness 2.5 months ago and I struggle to see any reason to live. She was just 38 and we were together for more than 14 years. I fell in love with her when I was 15. I don't believe I will be able to feel joy again…
This really helped me especially since my parents died. I know I will see them again someday but I have made so many new friends and the possibility of love in my life. Until that time I love unconditionally.
@Claire That's such a lovely comment ! Thanks ! Your SN is one I'm using for a collaborative script I'm penning currently. Coincidence ? I think not.
Why isn’t this type of emotional intelligence taught in school? I guess we are suckers for pain, & pain builds brain cells in literal & figurative ways.
Im 13 yrs old and my 20 yrs old brother moved to america 4 years ago(we live in Deutsche) . Yeah, i was a kid , but i started talking to him on whatsapp. I was getting really close. Until one day, he had a car crash. He was in coma . I didnt think he will survive. I started having panick attacks, anxiety, depression etc.
I was just standing in my room all day. I wasnt even eating. 1 year later(this year) I was devastated. I watched a lot of videos of how to get rid of depression , etc. This helped me much. 1 month ago, my mom found out he wasn't in coma anymore, she didnt tell me cause she wanted to be a surprise. When she come to me crying , to finally tell me, the door cracks. I think you know who came in 😭😊😊
"We don't own people, it's just our turn to be with them".
Video came just in time I am missing my ex girlfriend. No matter how objective I try to view every situation or how logical I try to be I still miss her. The only person( as an introvert) that I allowed to get close to me. I meditate, study, distract my self by playing shogi, going on silent walks. Thank you for the wisdom. I do not mind being alone I actually enjoy solitude and it's benefits it is the feeling of loneliness that troubles me.
I feel you. So much. Just like you, I'm also an introvert and have lost someone.
I feel your pain
It’s the right way to focus on meditation (or any other way to create inner peace like journaling) and yourself. I also still miss my ex girlfriend, but it’s getting gradually better. Give yourself time. I’m doing much better than I did weeks ago. And eventually, if you’ve tried everything you could in your previous relationship, you’ll realize that this not working out means that there’s someone even better for you.
@ROBERT STOKES Hello, I don't know who you mean by Paul David. I wouldn't call myself a philosopher either, just someone who is guided by philosophy to live a more fulfilled life.
I find it helps me to become a better person/partner when I become more relaxed about relationships, date more frequently and let more people in. Then I don't feel a scarcity mindset or so much loneliness, and if something special comes along it's easier to see it is really special rather than just something that salves my loneliness.
Spent the night reading through old messages between someone I crushed on for the longest time. It sounds trivial that I've got so emotional over it. But we spent basically everyday over the course of a year and a bit talking. He became a part of my everyday. But he must have decided somewhere along the line I wasn't what he wanted and opted out of even saying goodbye and just vanishing with no way to get in touch. Most days I don't think of him at all. But on days like today, it fucking hurts my heart to remember him. And to think that I wasn't even worth a goodbye in the end.
I know I should be mad and in a lot of ways I am. But he was truly a unique person who brightened my everyday with stupid memes and genuinely interesting conversations and countless inside jokes. I do wish he would reach out, even just to say a real goodbye, so that I know I even made a slight impact on his life like he made on mine.
Did you try to reach out to him? Was there an argument that occurred before the silence? Just curious why people who use to talk daily quit talking. You mentioned crush, so I'm assuming the two of you were friends.
@@modickens1272 I honestly haven't got a clue why he suddenly stopped talking to me. Unfortunately I can't ask him as he didn't just ghost me. But deleted all of his social media. I didn't have his phone number so once he deleted his social media, I had no way of getting in touch.
I wish I knew why he cut off contact, it wasn't just small messages everyday either, but long detailed paragraphs. We even met up a couple of times just to hang out in person.
He did know I liked him as I told him after a long time spent talking online. That was when we agreed to meet up. But he never once said he liked me in that way back so maybe he was too afraid to tell me he only saw me as a friend and decided to leave completely.
The strange thing is, he was the one who initiated all conversation with me and reached out initially to me. I think that's what I get so confused and upset about. The fact I'll more than likely never get answers from him.
@@chelseyf0wler I understand Chelsey. It does seem odd in that respect, sometimes there are clues in hindsight. Your comment caught my attention because something similar occurred to me without the ghosting aspect. I was friends with a woman for about 3 years, talked daily about everything, sometimes well into the night, 2am type stuff. Use to tell each other goodnight, etc. Sometimes we'd argue and not speak to each other for a few days, maybe a couple of weeks at the most but always ended up talking. However 6 months ago we had an argument and quit speaking to each other. Neither have reached out. Part of the reason I don't reach out is because she ended the friendship. Basically " I wish you the best, take care" so if people don't want my company I won't try to force it on them. Do I miss her? Yes, reread old messages? Yes. And yet I realize some things happen for a reason. Some people no matter how close we were to them are not meant to stay in our lives. Sometimes the closeness was one sided, meaning we valued the bond more than them. Sometimes we wondered if we did something wrong, or if they think of us. I'm sure they do. In your particular case, ( I don't know all the details) but if you never had his number or email and he deleted all his social media after you mentioned your feelings for him, then most likely it wasn't anything you did wrong. As a man, to me it sounds like he may have been married or in a relationship, but kept that hidden. Many people I know in relationships have 0 pics with their partners for this reason. They like to still get attention from the opposite sex. Once he perceived it might cause issues, he couldn't admit to being deceptive so it was easier for him to quit speaking and delete any way to communicate. People are complicated. I will say this, I promise he'll one day regret his actions. Its very rare to meet people who make us feel understood, get our humor, share secrets etc. And when a person loses that either by ghosting someone, or by ingratitude and ending the friendship over a petty squabble, rest assured they'll miss that person. We're missed even if pride or fear never allows them to say it. Time tends to heal things, one way or the other. Either they reach out in time, or we move on emotionally, but either way time will get us through.
@@modickens1272 thanks for the comment really appreciated it, I know what I got to do now, ending a friendship over a dumb squabble isn’t worth it in the end
After more than a year I’m still coping with the loss of my ex. It comes back strong just when I think I’ve started to move past it and idk how to stop it.
Get New girl man, it works.
@@TheMrSlurrpy not cool man.
@@jacobjaram5755 but it fucking works
@@kashboul No. It doesn't work.
I 'found' a new girlfriend a few months after a break-up. That was four years ago.
We are still together, yet...
@@threethrushes four years ago? How can you stand being that long with one person
Every person that u love is a piece of you, once one of those people die,u lose a piece of yourself,but you have to just remember that they are still here,watching over you and protecting you,so don't feel lonely cause the people that u love,are still here in your heart.
I struggled with this when someone I was dating for a short but intense time suddenly called it quits and wanted to hang out only as friends. It was too soon for me to accept his decision to not see me romantically anymore and just be grateful for the friendship. Therefore every time we hung out after it felt conflicting for me . I think logically this makes sense but emotionally it takes a bit more time to genuinely feel loving kindness for someone who left you.
You should no longer be friends. Go no contact.
Understandable.
when you miss someone (an ex, a friend, a family member
when it’s all of the above 😔
I'm still missing my friend who died 3 years ago. I need to heal from this !!!
Nooo.... I think missing someone is also loving them! Can you imagine not missing your friend after a year or two or three or whatever long! of their passing, I'm sure you would wonder whats wrong with you.... For me, missing is loving!
I miss the illusion of being loved, but I know it's utter nonsense.
It wasnt an illusion, even if that person didnt truly love you. That what you felt never came from them. It came from yourself, you allowed you to love yourself which gave you that feeling because them 'loving you' means you are worthy of love. So it wasnt an illusion, that it came from him/her was.
@@rgf5432 most beautiful comment I saw today, thank you I truly feel seen! It all starts from within, we must allow ourselves to truly care for our own being, we are all worthy of love
@@rgf5432 a few days ago i thought about something kind of like that, then i thought love is in us and sometimes someone triggers that love to come to the surface and we give them the credit but the love is actually coming from within, and if we trigger the same in that person we fall in love with each other
U miss the reaction u had within urself... U r seeking for an external factors to recreate the feeling... Give it time ... U can make yourself feel loved again. .. as it's coming from u ... Also I feel ya too .. I miss how he had made me feel... But it gets better :)
@@towhidaferdousi4057 socrates?
I miss you. No one knows even you. We will meet again someday, my good friend. Thanks for the memories. I have those to look back when I remember you.
Love them separately unselfishly without anything we get from return! If you love them set them free if they return back to you it’s meant to be! K
All of this said in this video is easily said than done. Who else agree?
Kuldeep Ghadiali It’s not the doing it’s the trying and it’s not the achieving it’s the practicing that counts here. It’s all about changing the way you look at the world. Nobody ever said it was easy, but it can be done and surely trying is worth it to make a difference?
Northern Light I’m currently going through a heart break right now and I know that no amount of me trying to let that pain go away is making me happier. This the reason why I said it’s easily said than done. Some things in life you don’t have control over, they just disappear over time.
He's giving us a game plan. It's up to us to use it.
This video has been saving my life every single day, as I go through the darkest chapter of it so far. Thank you
I think I'll miss you till my last breath...
He is the best when it comes to recovery ex back
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I broke up with someone recently, and we've been together for 3 years. I got depressed when she said she already loved someone else 2 weeks after she told me she still loved me. I watched this video already knowing everything to move on but knowing something you should do isn't enough. You should be capable and open to the change even if it hurts you every day because who else would love and care about you other than yourself. Learn to love yourselves. It's the best way to move on
Even after a couple years of my best friend a Doxie named Henry, when I see a puppy or another Doxie being walked on the street, I cannot hold back the tears. I feel so alone, and because of my health cannot get another rescue dog.
In my case separation made me feel a dreadful loneliness. 12+ years of a relationship, but you put it very clear here. Impermanence -> movement -> life. I accept all that, Thich Nhat Hanh has helped me a lot too.
I just silently wish after all that growth through the years, she'll still be around. Doesn't even matter if she's already married. The dimension we created as life partners will remain untouchable.
Can’t imagine how hard that separation from such a long relationship could be and I wish you the best
@@mongrel3980 wanna talk?
This video really helped me deal with my daughter moving overseas, and to pursue her dreams. I miss her terribly, but I know it's for the best for me to let her go. Like you said, we are returning them.
Hello Einzelgänger, thanks for making this video. I love your videos.
I saw this video when you posted it but I had to come back again.
Yesterday I found my uncle dead in his house, inside his room. He died from a heart attack. And he died probably close to a week ago.
He was such a great guy and I can't believe he's gone.
Your videos have always helped me in life. Thank you.
It took me about 5 years, but I’m finally letting myself accept this. And it feels so much better. Resisting change and holding on to sadness and bitterness is so tiring and awful.
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@@obijoi7018 there’s still time for you to do something else with your life.
It's been devastating since my daughter and my 3 granddaughters moved out of state. They have always been such a huge part of me and now they're all gone. I feel such pain emptiness in my heart anymore. I realize I'm being selfish and I try not to, but the pain slaps me hard when I see a toy or clothing they left behind. If only letting go was that simple. I think the part that hurts the most is my daughter not caring about the impact this has had on me. I miss them all so much and wish them the best. Sad Nanna rants on. 😔
So sorry to hear that. You are not rambling at all. You are in fact very loving and courageous for letting them go and putting their interest first. I hope you are in contact with them. And I hope that they know that you miss them. Stay strong 🔥👊💯
Nana hello, coming from a granddaughter who is watching this video bcz she misses her granny i want to tell you do not worry. They probably dont think about it but inside they miss you a lot. They will realise in a moment how much they love you
@@mirelajoga7627 Thank you! 🙏
You are exactly what somebody needs man, keep up the good work
Love it. Thank you for the reminder, unconditional love means we don’t have to be physically with that person we love 🥰
Dang you uploaded this at the perfect time, thanks brother!
I wish you all the best with dealing with your grief, painful memories or even possessiveness issues ♥️
Be careful, there‘s a real danger of using wise concepts like these to bypass the pain and avoid the deep dive into the core. Trying to combat unpleasant thoughts with wiser ones may soften the waves for a while and leave us feeling more mature and in control, but there’s no confrontation with the tension underneath, no dipping into the real experience. But there‘s this spot where we realize how much our feelings scare us and how much we have done to run away (includes obsessive thoughts and blame, but also intellectualizing, rationalizing,...). There is grief and fear and pain to be felt and that’s normal and healthy, it doesn‘t mean you‘re broken or immature. And it doesn‘t even have much to do with the other person at all. It‘s your pain and it‘s your responsibility to face it.
This is wise
Thank you again. I feel so glad I’ve found your channel. When I’m feeling almost desperate, I come here and see one or two of your videos and that helps me so much.
You're not alone ❤️
This is a lot easier for me than many watching this video. The girl that I'm deeply in love with and I aren't allowed to talk to each other because of something that happened. But she is still here, she still loves me, and someday we'll be really together again, and that brings my a lot of comfort. My deepest condolences go to those reading this that do not have that comfort.
This is really helping me cope in the heat of losing my first love. I really messed that one up. A strong and beautiful girl...I pushed her out and even when she waited for me, by the time I came back it was too late. I also lost a really close friend at this moment to a terrible accident which left me traumatized. This video helped me change my outlook on that.
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I miss my cat i loved so much! Been 18 years already since she got lost, but i still remember her every day and cry sometimes. Dreams are hurtfull about her. My Bella
I hope you find comfort somehow. Pets are the hardest thing to lose for me. I still miss my dog so much...
Feeling affirmed in my own hard to swallow conclusions that I've come to through, yes, missing people.
"We're all just walking each other home."
-Ram Dass
HI.. Savannah yes you right girl love you girl cuz Jesus Christ is love have a blessed marry christmas and happy New year 2020 💞👼💞David jl
Thank you for this quote
I love that quote but I’m not sure why
I wish I could have someone to miss, cause that would mean I had someone dear to me...
I feel u
If I had no-one to miss, it would be easier to find a new person to miss
Scott I hope you can enjoy al the wonderful things you do have around you - just go for a walk and enjoy freedom, good health, nature and peace of mind, learn to love what you do and fill your days with people who fill you with joy. Great things happen when you are happy, then you attract loving people into your life, you need to get happy first. Never worry, everything always works out ok you are loved, learn to love yourself first to attract more love into your life 🙏
Develop a relationship with yourself first...
No you don't. It hurts really really bad.
This is a great video for the holidays since it's when you feel the loss of the gone the most
I couldn't enjoy the moments when I was with my ex bcs I was always thinking of someday I'd be separated from him it made me anxious almost all the time and it became something like 'law of attraction' bcs in the end we really broke up (and yet, it's so painful even though I had prepared myself to face the separation with him before and had lost the moments when we were together bcs of it)
And that's the reason why you get dumped!
You're not emotionally available!
God lord please keep me away from a woman like that. 🙏
how can you be in a relationship thinking that one day you will be separated...?? in this case separation was bound to happen. It was all you expected.
I'm so sorry Marianka
I'm so horribly sorry
you had to face these
I watch your videos everyday and I can say that I have grown ever since. You've helped me so much without even realizing. May you continue this path to educate and help us grow as humans! I hope you practice what you preach as well! Much Love brother, thank you again!!
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I didn't lose someone as much as I just let her go. It's been over two years and I miss her terribly sometimes. It simply wasn't the right time then and I wouldn't have been a good boyfriend. She has since moved on with someone else. I have embraced my solitude the last couple years and I flourish in that for the most part but there are moments and times when I get incredibly sad that I can't just hang out with her and listen to music and laugh and smile like we used to do. I am grateful for those times we had. The crazy part is that I still don't want a committed relationship and I realize how selfish that sounds but I can't help the way I feel. I just miss her smile and laugh so much.
I literally just ended my year long relationship a couple hours ago and this immediately comes up in my feed
Idk why life put u some messages when u need to hear them, i havent sleep very well because exactly this idea, and sometimes I cannot talk with people about this, thanks for this beautiful creations.
I watched this video with my father a few days before he passed away. Ironic, in coping with the loss of some ex, all the times I spent with my father helped prepare me to cope with the loss of him. Nothing else has ever compared. I am grateful for this wisdom. I really needed this insight so I can stay true to myself, thus find happiness.
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I was plucked from my root and thrown into the desert to grow, yet i flourished
I love this statement, thank you whoever you are
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Dad i miss you every day.. it’s ok if you have your other family but we are your family too . I hope you’re happy tho ♥️
all this time i've been living and practicing these things and felt out of place, isolated, thinking that there was something wrong with me when i needed space apart for myself from my lover. in time feeling there was something off about me, specifically by practicing these things... that is when your significant other shows you if they truly love you. if the person who loves you cannot let you be yourself, have space and time and be happy for you when not there, then the person doesn't love you genuinely, they love the idea of loving someone and being loved eternally. in a state of euphoria forever. if you love some one set them free... doesn't mean you let them go... it means you give them space and give them true love to allow them to be themselves ("a friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself"), even if that means they are different than you and i. it just means you love them and want their true happiness. c:
I'm letting go with a heart full of love and wishes of happiness.
I just wanted to take a moment to thank you for making your videos. I always come away contemplating how to cope with life issues. I have been dealing with grief from the death of a loved one who is the Center of My Universe and this particular video was exactly what I needed in this moment. Thank you! I truly appreciate your work.
You miss someone because you loved them. I lost 3 family members within 4 yrs!. So attachment is indeed suffering.
If someone you love left you think about this:
You lost a person who doesn’t love you anymore. But they lost a person who loves them very much.
Now ask yourself, who really lost something, you or them?
It still feels like a loss to me. I lost someone whom i loved dearly and deeply.
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@@Ira.1 Life is full of loss, and separation. We should learn to accept it better.
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well said
This video helped me a lot. Am missing my best friend, she moved away almost 4 years ago. First it felt like she's been on vacation but after time's past, things were getting real. I unconciously tried filling the void with other people - but we all know this won't work in the long run. No one can replace another person. The only things that helped me, were to be straight up honest to myself that she's living now in another city, that's okay to grief a bit and that i will miss her at certain occasions immensely, that the most important thing is that she's living her life, that we are still close - where she is there will be always a bit of home. I am really greatful for our time in the same town and our friendship right now. Still at moments like these - this video was a good reminder that it's and it'll be okay again.
I had a best friend that I knew most of my life but when covid happened and everyone went into lockdown we lost contact because we didn’t have phones at the time. I didn’t think of it that much but then after a few months I realised that I liked him but I couldn’t find him so now I cry myself to sleep or just do things to keep him off my mind because deep down I know I need him ❤️
Did you reconnect with him?
I love you... I'm learning English with this kind of videos and I'm grateful for your work on TH-cam
I needed this today. Thank you for the time and effort that you put into these videos.
The pain of missing someone you love is bizarre, I feel a f gap on my chest. This kind of video/material helps a lot. Thank you.
I love this video, and I love taking in these philosophical ideas. I'm half Greek, I think it's about time I started looking into philosophy
The Internet is a pretty wonderful place, TH-cam has helped me with countless things in my life for many years. I'd watch a video, feel a bit better but its always the comments that usually help the most. Listening to others and their experiences that relate to the video despite sometimes being sad, hard, they always remind me that I am not alone. Thank you everyone, I love you all.
This may not be as serious as some other people’s situations, but I just “graduated” 8th grade and throughout middle school, I have built a bond with a handful of my teachers that I have never had with anyone before, they mean everything to me and now I will not see them for a very long time, if ever again. Summer has just started and I miss them so much that it hurts. I never thought my connection with these people would grow so much and that leaving would hurt so bad, but I really hope that one day I can see them again and I pray every day that they will not forget me.
Your videos are very eye opening and calming. It’s things that as an aspiring stoic “ I know” but the way you remind us is great. My day got better
Best timing evaah !! Great methodology and content
Its scary how this came at a perfect time
I should be a expert on grief. I have lost my parents and my oldest brother. But it’s keeps knocking the wind out of me!
Don G may God give you strength
Thanks a lot for this video. These are some great lessons, some of which I’ve already tried to implement in my life, some that I will try to keep in mind. All we can do is wish that person the best and move on with trying to be the best versions of ourselves that we can be. What’s meant to be will always be.
Me: *remembers ex at 1am*
TH-cam algorithm and Einzelgänger: girl, we got the perfect video for you.
Just praying for him... I pray the creator keeps healing him and keeps him comfortable. Long life full of love... miss you so much A...
i've read somewhere that the feeling of missing stems from missing out on those positive hormones that one makes when being around that other person.
Yes! It is all oxytocin, vasopressin, and dopamine. We become addicted and the withdraw is hell.
@@stephaniep1761 So, better not get too attached to someone and know that everything is temporarily.
@@Leto85 I would say put everyone through a test before allowing your hormones to take over you. Small doses are easier to withdraw from.
@@stephaniep1761 That advice came from a source of pain, didn't it?
@@Leto85 pain and self education
Dude my mind was blown away. You are a genius. But in all seriousness this is another amazing video on your channel. Props to you. You most definitely deserve more likes and views. I recomended you to my friends and family, hopefully that helps a little.
Thank you very much for your compliments 😊!!
I met 2 cousins who changed my life and i miss them
**Things im only including to make it shorter **
-The time with me and my 2 cousins
-The place
-They’re personality and looks
- i am ignoring every interaction with my other relatives such as other cousins, aunties, uncles and grandmas
**my story**
I used to be a introverted kid who never went out and talked to people. Once i met my 2 cousins, they were very kind and talking to them was fun, it was the first time feeling this feeling. I was visiting them for my aunties birthday party and had no idea about my cousins, we had my aunties birthday party at night and i slept over, the next day we went to a swimming park and spending time with them was fun. Unfortunately on the same day we went to the water park, i had to leave and they lived 3 hours away and keep in mind that they are girls cousins who are very cute and pretty. i am australian/filpino and was visiting the phillipines and was leaving soon in 2 weeks unable to visit them until next year. It was so short, i only spent time with them for around 1 day and a half.
**what made me feel this way for them**
These girls accompanied me, entertained me and offered many things to me and they were the first to do these things, my cousins in australia are just like “hello calvin” and i say hi back and never talk. My 2 cousins actually approached me and had a long conversation that was fun, which no one has really ever done in my life which was very surprising and didnt know how to react as these sort of things dont happen to me. i keep quiet as i am shy but i like talking to people, since my 2 cousins talked to me, i took a liking to them. But was sad as
**what kinda makes me sad**
their place is in the Phillipines and i was just having a holiday there, and they live 3 hours away from my place in the Phillipines. My time in the phillipines was very limited and didnt have that much time to talk with them because my parents booked places to go such as the beach, arcade and etc but i still felt empty because i had no one to talk to. **i am from australia btw**
**what happened to me**
They made me realise talking to people was fun, they noticed i was shy and taught me how to approach people who you dont or barely know
They turned me from an introvert -> extrovert
Which i am very thankful about
Didnt wanna add to the comment as it is already long, but we played games, talked and they taught me stuff which made me take a liking to them, but my time is almost here, going back to my country
40 years after parting I found that I still love the person. What an absolute gift.
My mother died 6 years ago I still find her with me. What a surprise. I love being old finding all these experiences
It is so hard to forget her😥
this channel helped me a lot ever since my ex broke up with me, thank you for existing sir:)
My dear friend Aengus passed away so sadly and suddenly 365 days ago today and l will always miss him. Words fail me now.
The desire for what is already gone, shouldn't dictate what we do today!
This video comes at the perfect time.
Thank you just had a rough day from missing some that just kind of left me for the most part needed this
Thank you
Im going though time of no social life . I could only see my self doing fun things only with them not with myself. Focus on present means take part in action that you will forgot past times
You can never be empty. You are spirit/thought. If you don't think you don't exist.
I can normally walk away like it’s nothing but this one kills me doe some reason.. honestly been drinking and taking things to cope .. this sucks
🌟 MORNING STAR⭐️ hope you’re better