I can't think of a worse way to meet a woman than by lying about your name and posting fake photos of yourself. But hey, that's Sumit through and through. Jenny didn't create the situation between Sumit and his parents but maybe she ought to put some tough requirements of her own on him.
@@katelaloba8243 .... and his mother will be dictating and criticizing Jenny every step of the way. That whole family will only be free when his mother dies.
@@BackSeatHump She knew she was catfished, yet she jumped right into his arms. Talk about being desperate to get laid by a younger man. She bears total responsibility for any unhappiness she might feel now.
This sentence alone says so much about these two people. No wonder Sumit is a puddle of passive mush (Actually so is his dad. His mom is so much of the entire problem and the drama in this show)
He needs a younger bride, who is willing to have a child, mixed cultures don't normally work, unless both parents are open minded and supportive or you are doomed before it even starts ,apart from that he seems to have put shame on the family by getting involved with someone out of their culture.
How reckless and disconnected it is to consider adopting a child as if your purchasing a peace offering with no regard for the child being an entire human being with emotions and has been through enough to let alone be adopted by creeps like them(them only if Jenny agrees, I like Jenny)
This is so true. I had a child to make someone happy. And now six years later, while I’m SO glad I did and she’s the light of my entire fucking life, it’s because I love her so much that I realize what a fucking risk to her future well being that choice was. Like what iIf I hadn’t wanted her after she came along? ugh that thought tears my heart to pieces because of how much I love her and want to protect and nurture her. And because of how much she deserves love. All children deserve to be desperately wanted by a parent. Don’t have them if you risk not being able to love them with your entire heart and beyond.
Only people (not all) that have never had children can talk like that because they dont know what comes along with it. Your whole life will come secondary you have to step back with feelings, purchases for yourself and always look out to make sure all bills are paid. There is no day off: i dont feel well, i have headache or i am ill. No, you have to function all day every day. I hope Jenny knows she already raised a child, but even then she may have forgotten how stressfull and draining it actually is to be a parent
I mean, you can be a great parent despite making the decision based on the manipulation of family. My husband, as a Russian, comes from a family quite similar to this and was pressured into having a kid which then pressured me into having a baby despite not wanting one. I was under the assumption that he'd leave me if we didn't have a baby to make his parents happy. Well, got pregnant and around the 3-month mark, he told me he wished he hadn't been pressured by his psychotic family and would never leave me. A bit too late to turn back at that point. Well, 7 months after conception, we had a baby girl and once the shock of everything wore off and she got home from NICU, I finally bonded with her and he and I love her to absolute pieces. Would I do it over? Nope. But, time moves forward, we have a baby, and we love her to death. When you're raised in such a demanding, controlling family, it is very hard to just ignore them and say no. It took my husband 8 YEARS to break away from all the brainwashing and deeply ingrained manipulation. Now he's the happiest he's ever been and has openly told them "you f@#k with my family or say anything negative about my wife/marriage, you'll never see me or your granddaughter again".
Narcissistic? That old woman is a predator. Clearly Sumit is mentally challenged. If your parents hate you so much to have you marry a grandmother and waste your life, then I understand this statement
@@tasnimsamiha8225 there can be toxic sides to every culture y’a know? I think our well being as individuals should overcome religion, culture, or societal standards. But for some of the older generations and even the newer generations it’s not seen that way. :(
I had a Indian mama's boy too once except that he had reason to be because he was a rich boy who got his way and I wqs a mama's boy so I dumped him I don't like rich stuck up mama boy type of guys who go to their moms to ask for permission for everything they wants to do so I broke off the engagement ahahahahaha and never been happier 😄😁😀😊
These people marry total strangers. Love isn't Important to them. What's important is status and what the community thinks. These people worship cow and love cow more than their own children
Sumit does not seem to understand that everybody is responsible for their own happiness - and that one shouldn't make their own happiness depend on making somebody else happy.
That's most Indians. They think it's call culture - husband abusing wife is ok, patents abusing children is ok. Because it's culture for these unevolve people
I thought Kim bribing..I mean buying a whole ass cow was bonkers, then in comes Sumit offering a child to his parents like an hors d’oeuvres platter! IMAGINE how that conversation with his aunt and brother would’ve gone if Jenny DID go with him!
"I never wanted kids.. But if I had one that *might* make them happy" ~ and if it doesn't? Then you're left in the same situation, just with a responsibility for a child you didn't want in the first place.
The fact that Sumit is willing to do something as crazy as adopt a child to fix things but his parents aren’t even willing to hear him out just shows what horrible f*cking people. Sumit is not right for thinking of doing something as irresponsible as adopting a child just to pacify them, but you can see where it comes from- abuse.
@@historylover2 If that's true then thats even more of a reason why Sumit shouldn't be thinking about it! If his culture doesn't do adoption and his parents are avid traditionalists, then why even persue that on top of the other reasons!? XD
I don't want a child but I WILL 'do it'. What the actual 😶 I genuinely felt ill hearing that. Jenny doesn't want one he doesn't, who's going to love this child unconditionally. Truly my heart ached at the thought.
Old song:"trying to love 2 women is like a ball and chain!" Summit's loyalty to his dysfunctional family is hard to watch. Life is to short to be living on egg shells.
As an Indian i feel so effing ashamed and appalled by this whole situation. Sumit’s parents seem to have emotionally manipulated him all his life, and now even by ceasing all contact they’re gonna continue to do so till the day they die.
Being born as that kid i know how it feels .my life is literally miserable because having me didn’t magically solve their problem so now they blame me for everything. And it hurts to grow up in such household.
That's common knowledge (at least I thought ) that a child will not help a failing relationship. Why you ask because it's alot of work (very rewarding tho) to raise a child. Don't let them shift the blame on you for their lack of ability to build and retain a strong foundation for their relationship.
What sumit meant by "In American culture", is that it's okay and considered healthy to cut off toxic family members and never speak to them again in Western society. It's considered best for "oneself". In South Asian culture, despite family members being toxic you're expected to work on making it better (which can utterly suck when the toxic side isn't willing to change it's ways). I'm from the South Asian culture and i've learned the best approach is maintaining ties from a distance. Which means if I can't deal with a toxic family member in person, calling them on special occasions or once in a while is sufficient. I still wouldn't cut them off completely, especially if it's my parents. I can understand what Sumit is feeling but he can learn to still love from a distance. Him wanting them to be "all happy and accepting" of his relationship is never going to happen and he's fighting a battle he's already bound to lose.
In India right from childhood people are taught to respect n obey ,love elders .In the west this is a old fashioned idea at best n toxic approach at worst .
Does anyone remember the end of the first season or beginning of the second, the parents busted him with Jenny and they were upset because he had a wife and two KIDS. Also, it was shown on a channel that jenny had been friends with Summit's mother and wife. They were told that Jenny was a friend from America, and they loved her. There were pictures to prove it, with the mom and ex wife. The mother is behaving like this because she feels betrayed by Jenny and there was something going on behind their back.
I don't remember the part about Sumit having kids. Or that Jenny was friends with his ex wife. I'll have to go back and rewatch those old seasons. But, I agree that his mom feels betrayed by Jenny. That's very true that she came and lived in India in their house while secretly having a relationship with Sumit at the time.
Exactly. Everyone’s acting like the mom is acting like this for no reason, I honestly don’t know if I’d be able to forgive that either. Plus HIS parents had to pay for his divorce.
@@paulettelamontagne6992 And they’re entitled to their feelings too. The way they feel isn’t completely unwarranted, and most people aren’t too forgiving- they just lie and say they are. He wants their approval, but he is partially responsible for this as well. They’re obviously not going to be okay with Jenny, no matter what after everything that happened- so he can either cut his losses and move on, or divorce Jenny and get in their good graces again. But he can’t have his cake and eat it too. He is going to have to accept the consequences of whatever decision he makes regardless. Or end up completely alone and miserable.
I do not like the way he’s always whining about needing Jenny to comfort him while refusing to care how she feels and refuses to agree to comfort her. Masculinity is not toxic. It’s the absence of masculinity in weak spiteful men which is harming families and communities
OMG you hit that "American culture" crap right on the head!!! A LOT of people who do disown their parents is bc of verbal, mental, emotional abuse just like this!!! Them just raising you does NOT automatically mean you have to respect them & do whatever they want!! Respect is EARNED & their treatment of Sumit is very disrespectful!!!
Just imagine how many people in these "arranged" feel the same way about having children..especiallywith someone you don't know or love....the numbers must be STAGGERING!! So tired of summit and Jenny
Sumit needs to decide, is he married to jenny or married to his parents. Mind you, I think marrying Jenny was a shortsighted decision and a mistake. But what's done is done. He needs to put his big boy pants on and realize you cant please everybody
Sumit is so selfish. Considering adopting a harmless child, who you dont want to raise, just to satisfy your parents. Horrible man. Jenny please leave this man lacking a backbone
Sumit is getting desperate now to keep both sides, the trouble is he can't keep both happy. This makes the family dynamics unbalanced and it really is on Sumit's parents. They need to let Sumit live his life at free will. This is the point Jenny is referring to but Sumit has fear of loosing his parents forever. For the aunt to say it is up to Sumit to fix it, what she is really saying is to divorce Jenny because that is the only way Sumit's parents will have Sumit back in their lives. The parents are causing more harm for everyone, including for themselves. I believe Sumit's parents are very selfish in many ways.
Sumit is not anyone that Jenny thought she married. Also, what Sumit sees in marrying a grandmother is beyond illogical. Jenny is equally delusional. Why would a younger man in his early 30s ever be happy just being home with you 24/7 for the rest of his life??
Kinda funny how they think Americans care less about their parents because they can just let them go,and that's a bad thing,but his parents are willing to just drop their own child like nothing because they married someone who they actually love make it make sense
Can you imagine being the kid he gets and one day hearing him say he never wanted kids!! Sumitt the reason you might get a kid is a horrible reason, just don’t!! Sumitt go try to mend some fence with your parents but leave all kids and Jenny out of it. Jenny lied at the beginning to your parents they are not going to forgive her, you lied to Jenny she forgave you, along with the culture difference (age of you two) and the lies your parents will never accept her. I can understand him still wanting a relationship with them but it’s going to be only him and them, Jenny will not be included.
This last episode showed a lot about Sumit and his real feelings towards Jenny, the bloom is off the roses and the honeymoon is over, just like it will be in every marriage! The culture in India is completely different then here in America and Sumit will NEVER leave India for good, not happening! The age difference between Sumit and Jenny is to great, it will never work or last mark my words, because he is still a young man and Jenny is an old women that has lived her live while he wants to live his life to the fullest at his age and should!!!
As an Asian, I feel that Jenny , like most westerners, do not understand the deep bond Asian kids generally have with their parents. We are brought up with a belief system that parents' love and approval trumps your own personal desires and romantic love. Filial piety comes before allegiance to your significant other. Most Asian children will not choose to marry somebody that their parents do not approve because the drama is just too much of a hassle. Sumit marrying Jenny is already one big challenge for the couple.For us, a family consist of not only your spouse but also your parents and in laws. It is extremely important that everybody gets along and that we can all live harmoniously or at least pretend to do so. Asians are not brought up to put the self before the family. This is something Jenny , despite her age has not been able to understand and underestimates the importance of to Sumit. Wether Jenny likes it or not, his parents' happiness will always be vital to Sumit's own happiness. If she is not prepared to accept this then it is not a good idea to continue a relationship with somebody whose core values are so against what she believes.
They should absolutely move to the United States, although perhaps not Palm Springs. They should move somewhere that has a large Indian population where Sumit could find a community and be comfortable. There is nothing like that in India for Jenny.
Indians in every corner of this world will never accept and involve in this grandmaa and grandson relationship. You see no Indian married couples will friend with Jenny. Because of her age. In Indian peopels eys she is very old. Grannys in India never married grandsons or married at all.
@@habeashumor9814 a guy from India lived in my building in San Francisco. He had an American girlfriend. Wasn't too concerned in the least about making sure he had friends from India.
I've never witnessed a more selfish Mother. Sumit, please do not bow down to this cruel heartless manipulation. If you think all will be well going forward because you have a child then you are more delusional than I thought. Jenny left her loving family behind to be with you. Now its your turn to give the USA a chance. Only fair imo.
What his parents are doing is withdrawing their love as punishment for a son who has embarassed them with his choice of life partner. This withdrawl of affection from his parents side is pure manipulation and has nothing to do with love. Considering the fact that he had previously given up Jenny to please them and suffered so badly from it should have made his parents realise how much he respects and loves them. So to bring up a child just to please them will not change their mind either. Plus it is of course a rediculous reason to have a child in the first place. Although, knowing Summit, he will love that child more than he realises and an Indian orphan might get a better chance in life.
OMG!!!!! Jenny, Jenny, Jenny if you stay, then you have shouldn’t complain about your treatment. You’ve seen too many times how they feel about you. Don’t give Sumit a choice, you make plans to leave and hopefully he’ll come too; even for a visit. Then he may like it more then he thought he would. He could always go home to visit as often as you’ll can afford it; but enough of his wife being abused every time the family comes around. He should support Jenny’s decision. ✈️✈️
Love is patient, love is kind. Love is free will to choose and his parents won't do that. Using a child as a bargaining chip is wrong...they won't accept an adopted child not in his bloodline...that's what I sense...the whole situation is horrible. He should pray for them and walk away,cling to his wife.
Summit’s mother, aunt and father, but mainly his mother are borderline evil. It truly is so narcissistic to do what they are doing. It’s really, really sick. They are basically emotionally blackmailing and abusing Summit. He is their child and they don’t care at all about his happiness! Summit really needs to grow up and cut the cord! He’s a grown ass man who needs to live his life, same for his brother, they both cower in the corner from their parents, even his sister in law, all of them are petrified of them! - I know it’s in their culture to respect their elders, but I’m Middle Eastern and we also have the highest respect for our elders and parents, but not to this extent, I have many Indian friends who have watched Summit and Jenny, and even they say this is not normal and the way Summit’s parents treat him is very toxic and manipulative, rather than it being a “cultural issue”!
hopefully his comments on national television about using an unwanted child as a bribe will be enough to keep adoption agencies from working with them.
@@rahla53 it's not much. It's not even comparable to the money they get from the show. Jenny is actually poor and her money can't help them build a secure future
If Summit and Jenny go through with this adopting a child they don't want. That poor child will feel their lack of love and not being wanted. Even if they do provide for the child financially. Smh
There's more than a culture clash and neither knows about the other culture but Sumit should have thought about the age difference cos Jenny has lived her life retired and wants to be laid back now when he's now beginning to live and she doesn't even want him to leave to go to work that's selfish
his parents do not care if he is happy , they just care that he obeys them and let tgem control his life to make his horrible mother happy in her crazy ass way
Wooooow, what a bad case of manipulation. Poor Sumit is too old for this and he shouldn’t have to choose 😮😢 He seems like a good guy and truly loves Jenny and his family. God bless them all.🙏🙏
He has a bad impression of Americans. It is totally one sided. He doesn't want kids. Omg. That is totally crazy. He might even be able to have kids with anyone
I usually agree with most of what he says but I will say the point he made where Americans care less about their parents I 100% agree with sumit For Better or For Worse whether you agree with it or not you cannot sit here and say that American culture promotes loving your parents to the same extent the rest of the world does... Whether you like it or not whether you agree with it or not other cultures value parents far more than the US and the US values freedom for the children more than the love of a parent
Look, this has been the culture for thousands of years and this show ain't going to change a damn thing about it. No matter how much we bitch and moan. However, Sumit is totally wrong for adopting a child for that horrible reason. Just go to America w/ Jenny. He won't be the first Indian Man or Woman to go against his culture.
If you don't know anything about our culture then maybe it's best for y'all to shut up. I don't see you people supporting Kimbaly this way when it comes to usman's culture or other people on this show. And btw Americans definitely don't share the same values we Indians do towards our parents. It's something taught to us. It's our culture. Our parents are equal to our god.
There was actually a throwaway statement his aunt made to that effect. I left it out of the video, but she said something like "Sumit js still a child. Jenny should know better than to marry him". They treat him as such so it's no surprise he acts as such
Crazy how far the gap in age is and both of them are still more immature than i thought possible. Not to mention, Jenny is 62 years old and has ZERO life skills. I'd be embarrassed to call her my significant other, Whether we are the same age or have a lot in common or not, she
He must choose. There’s no way around it. The best way is for him to communicate to them very clearly that because they refuse to respect his choice of a partner (and apparently don’t give a damn about their own child’s happiness), he has to make a difficult decision and that the door is always open should they wish to start respecting his wife. If it were me, and because I’m petty, but love children, I’d have twins (a boy and a girl) via surrogate, then refuse to take grandma and grandpa’s calls until they apologize. I might even name the kids after them. Watch how fast those grandparents start acting right. “We love Jenny. Can we come see the babies now?”
I can't think of a worse reason to have a child than Sumit's reason. Especially if you don't want them in the first place.
Especially since you know who will be saddled with raising another child, which you don't want.
I can't think of a worse way to meet a woman than by lying about your name and posting fake photos of yourself. But hey, that's Sumit through and through. Jenny didn't create the situation between Sumit and his parents but maybe she ought to put some tough requirements of her own on him.
@@katelaloba8243 .... and his mother will be dictating and criticizing Jenny every step of the way. That whole family will only be free when his mother dies.
@@BackSeatHump She knew she was catfished, yet she jumped right into his arms. Talk about being desperate to get laid by a younger man. She bears total responsibility for any unhappiness she might feel now.
@@extemporaneous4545 I agree that she "deserves" it but she is not responsible for it.
What makes him think an adopted child is going to be good enough they want his biological child
Tell me about it.
Exactly
This sentence alone says so much about these two people. No wonder Sumit is a puddle of passive mush
(Actually so is his dad. His mom is so much of the entire problem and the drama in this show)
Sumit is dangerously obsessed with getting his parents approval.. 90 days never disappoints
His world will revolve around his parent till his heart stop beating PERIOD..
Not a bad sign on the other side🤣
He needs a younger bride, who is willing to have a child, mixed cultures don't normally work, unless both parents are open minded and supportive or you are doomed before it even starts ,apart from that he seems to have put shame on the family by getting involved with someone out of their culture.
How reckless and disconnected it is to consider adopting a child as if your purchasing a peace offering with no regard for the child being an entire human being with emotions and has been through enough to let alone be adopted by creeps like them(them only if Jenny agrees, I like Jenny)
This is so true. I had a child to make someone happy. And now six years later, while I’m SO glad I did and she’s the light of my entire fucking life, it’s because I love her so much that I realize what a fucking risk to her future well being that choice was. Like what iIf I hadn’t wanted her after she came along? ugh that thought tears my heart to pieces because of how much I love her and want to protect and nurture her. And because of how much she deserves love.
All children deserve to be desperately wanted by a parent. Don’t have them if you risk not being able to love them with your entire heart and beyond.
@@BeckBeckGo good for you ma
No different to the babies born because their parents didnt use protection.
Only people (not all) that have never had children can talk like that because they dont know what comes along with it. Your whole life will come secondary you have to step back with feelings, purchases for yourself and always look out to make sure all bills are paid. There is no day off: i dont feel well, i have headache or i am ill. No, you have to function all day every day. I hope Jenny knows she already raised a child, but even then she may have forgotten how stressfull and draining it actually is to be a parent
@@BeckBeckGo Adopting us okay though as that kid would probably be worse off without the new parent s
There's nothing worse than having a kid for any reason other than wanting to be a parent.
Funny because most children are born for every reason except that.
I mean, you can be a great parent despite making the decision based on the manipulation of family. My husband, as a Russian, comes from a family quite similar to this and was pressured into having a kid which then pressured me into having a baby despite not wanting one. I was under the assumption that he'd leave me if we didn't have a baby to make his parents happy. Well, got pregnant and around the 3-month mark, he told me he wished he hadn't been pressured by his psychotic family and would never leave me. A bit too late to turn back at that point. Well, 7 months after conception, we had a baby girl and once the shock of everything wore off and she got home from NICU, I finally bonded with her and he and I love her to absolute pieces. Would I do it over? Nope. But, time moves forward, we have a baby, and we love her to death. When you're raised in such a demanding, controlling family, it is very hard to just ignore them and say no. It took my husband 8 YEARS to break away from all the brainwashing and deeply ingrained manipulation. Now he's the happiest he's ever been and has openly told them "you f@#k with my family or say anything negative about my wife/marriage, you'll never see me or your granddaughter again".
Having Narcissist parents is really a curse 😪
I had parents like that.
Narcissistic? That old woman is a predator. Clearly Sumit is mentally challenged. If your parents hate you so much to have you marry a grandmother and waste your life, then I understand this statement
You said it in a nut shell!
It's just how asian society and Asian parents are. That's just how we are brought up. It's different than usa
@@tasnimsamiha8225 there can be toxic sides to every culture y’a know? I think our well being as individuals should overcome religion, culture, or societal standards. But for some of the older generations and even the newer generations it’s not seen that way. :(
Sumit is the biggest Mama's Boy I have ever seen! And his Mom is so full of Drama!
Typical Indian family
Amen.
I had a Indian mama's boy too once except that he had reason to be because he was a rich boy who got his way and I wqs a mama's boy so I dumped him I don't like rich stuck up mama boy type of guys who go to their moms to ask for permission for everything they wants to do so I broke off the engagement ahahahahaha and never been happier 😄😁😀😊
@@elizabethpierre5103
I am so glad that you broke off the engagement! I applaud you for your decision and I am so glad how happy you are 😊
Take care!
@@elizabethpierre5103 80% indian men are like that...!!. btw did u marry another indian? 😁(ur surname sharma..!!?)
Sumits family are horrible.
They want all this loyalty, support and love from Sumit. Yet they deny them theirs, when they can’t control him.
These people marry total strangers. Love isn't Important to them. What's important is status and what the community thinks. These people worship cow and love cow more than their own children
Sadly, For a lot of people here, it can be as toxic as it looks here. Irrespective of culture, Sumit’s parents behaviour is toxic AF.
@Catherine Branson no it's not like everybody is like them here in India sumits mom is just horrible lady
@Catherine Branson no its not, its narcisism. They put it on culture because it suits them
@@ariamason9324 you're sliding dangerously into racism.
The dark arts of emotional manipulation. 😂😂😂😂
Sumit does not seem to understand that everybody is responsible for their own happiness - and that one shouldn't make their own happiness depend on making somebody else happy.
That's most Indians. They think it's call culture - husband abusing wife is ok, patents abusing children is ok. Because it's culture for these unevolve people
I thought Kim bribing..I mean buying a whole ass cow was bonkers, then in comes Sumit offering a child to his parents like an hors d’oeuvres platter!
IMAGINE how that conversation with his aunt and brother would’ve gone if Jenny DID go with him!
Hey Summit, that's a helluva great idea. Have a kid that neither you nor Jenny want.
People who don't want kids should NEVER have kids for any reason....this is how we get messed up adults
"I never wanted kids.. But if I had one that *might* make them happy" ~ and if it doesn't? Then you're left in the same situation, just with a responsibility for a child you didn't want in the first place.
JENNY IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR A SIGN TO LEAVE SUMIT AND GO BACK TO AMERICA, THEN CONSIDER THIS COMMENT AS THAT SIGN , PLEASEEEEEEEEEEE
☮️🆔 🔚 🆗 🚧 🖖 I found some more signs if needed, it reads Peace, I’d end it okay. Roadblock Spock.
If push comes to shove I believe Sumit would leave Jenny for his parents. He loves Jenny but he loves his parents more.
Amen.
Jenny's getting old she may die of old age soon then his parents wishes will come true
@@alongfellow4147 Jenny is only 63 years old. That's not old. Depending on family gene's she could live until her 80's or 90,'s.
He dosen't love his parents. He's afraid of them.
The fact that Sumit is willing to do something as crazy as adopt a child to fix things but his parents aren’t even willing to hear him out just shows what horrible f*cking people. Sumit is not right for thinking of doing something as irresponsible as adopting a child just to pacify them, but you can see where it comes from- abuse.
I read that adoption was not a "thing" in India/China/ Korea etc..
@@historylover2 If that's true then thats even more of a reason why Sumit shouldn't be thinking about it! If his culture doesn't do adoption and his parents are avid traditionalists, then why even persue that on top of the other reasons!? XD
@@Anon12077 It would seem to continue their storyline on "90 DF". They are pandering to a USA audience, where adoption is an issue.
Very true. Having a child to appease parents is so very wrong.
I agree with Jenny! I dont know how much more disrespect and hate she can take. As her husband he should want her to be happy.
She can always leave. I don't see any locked doors. She's a doormat because she wants a young man pleasuring her in bed.
She needs to cut her losses and head home smh
In the end the parents do not care if he is happy. I feel very sorry for him.
It's hard to unlearn culture his parents parents no doubt where the same way it's the norm to them
yeah happy with a bloody granny
Your comments are very insightful and psychologically savvy. So impressive
Never have kids to make other ppl happy 🤦
I don't want a child but I WILL 'do it'. What the actual 😶 I genuinely felt ill hearing that. Jenny doesn't want one he doesn't, who's going to love this child unconditionally. Truly my heart ached at the thought.
Old song:"trying to love 2 women is like a ball and chain!" Summit's loyalty to his dysfunctional family is hard to watch. Life is to short to be living on egg shells.
As an Indian i feel so effing ashamed and appalled by this whole situation. Sumit’s parents seem to have emotionally manipulated him all his life, and now even by ceasing all contact they’re gonna continue to do so till the day they die.
So this is not forbidden in India?
Being born as that kid i know how it feels .my life is literally miserable because having me didn’t magically solve their problem so now they blame me for everything. And it hurts to grow up in such household.
That's common knowledge (at least I thought ) that a child will not help a failing relationship. Why you ask because it's alot of work (very rewarding tho) to raise a child. Don't let them shift the blame on you for their lack of ability to build and retain a strong foundation for their relationship.
I already busted out laughing bc of the title.
What sumit meant by "In American culture", is that it's okay and considered healthy to cut off toxic family members and never speak to them again in Western society. It's considered best for "oneself".
In South Asian culture, despite family members being toxic you're expected to work on making it better (which can utterly suck when the toxic side isn't willing to change it's ways).
I'm from the South Asian culture and i've learned the best approach is maintaining ties from a distance. Which means if I can't deal with a toxic family member in person, calling them on special occasions or once in a while is sufficient. I still wouldn't cut them off completely, especially if it's my parents. I can understand what Sumit is feeling but he can learn to still love from a distance. Him wanting them to be "all happy and accepting" of his relationship is never going to happen and he's fighting a battle he's already bound to lose.
In India right from childhood people are taught to respect n obey ,love elders .In the west this is a old fashioned idea at best n toxic approach at worst .
This is crazy!! Submit is a grown ass man. He now has a wife, she comes first, not the parents.
No. I'm India. Parents always remain first. That's the problem
Its a cultural difference It's the way you're brought up from birth onwards East says respect n obey parents West says go your own individual way .
What os wrong with Jenny? Why is she not getting it? Jenny go home already, you are not wanted there. Vacation is over
Why would you bring children into a dynamic with grandparents like that? Do they need another puppet to smother with guilt and darkness?
Sumit, your parents will not accept an adopted child as your own. They want you to have a child with a wife.
Does anyone remember the end of the first season or beginning of the second, the parents busted him with Jenny and they were upset because he had a wife and two KIDS. Also, it was shown on a channel that jenny had been friends with Summit's mother and wife. They were told that Jenny was a friend from America, and they loved her. There were pictures to prove it, with the mom and ex wife. The mother is behaving like this because she feels betrayed by Jenny and there was something going on behind their back.
I don't remember the wife being a part of that relationship with the mother when Jenny wants to stay there nor do I remember any kids
I don't remember the part about Sumit having kids. Or that Jenny was friends with his ex wife. I'll have to go back and rewatch those old seasons.
But, I agree that his mom feels betrayed by Jenny. That's very true that she came and lived in India in their house while secretly having a relationship with Sumit at the time.
Exactly. Everyone’s acting like the mom is acting like this for no reason, I honestly don’t know if I’d be able to forgive that either. Plus HIS parents had to pay for his divorce.
@@naiadolling no reasons don't matter it's his freaking life
@@paulettelamontagne6992 And they’re entitled to their feelings too. The way they feel isn’t completely unwarranted, and most people aren’t too forgiving- they just lie and say they are. He wants their approval, but he is partially responsible for this as well. They’re obviously not going to be okay with Jenny, no matter what after everything that happened- so he can either cut his losses and move on, or divorce Jenny and get in their good graces again. But he can’t have his cake and eat it too. He is going to have to accept the consequences of whatever decision he makes regardless. Or end up completely alone and miserable.
That's all I want for my child is her to be happy and to be with someone who treats her like the queen she is.
I do not like the way he’s always whining about needing Jenny to comfort him while refusing to care how she feels and refuses to agree to comfort her.
Masculinity is not toxic. It’s the absence of masculinity in weak spiteful men which is harming families and communities
You analyzed this very nicely !
This Aunt is absolutely crazy. This entire family is crazy.
OMG you hit that "American culture" crap right on the head!!! A LOT of people who do disown their parents is bc of verbal, mental, emotional abuse just like this!!! Them just raising you does NOT automatically mean you have to respect them & do whatever they want!! Respect is EARNED & their treatment of Sumit is very disrespectful!!!
Agree 100% Im really glad he explained that. Im in Australia and we do the same thing. No tolerance for toxic family members.
The word of God says leave your parents and cleave to your wife.
Just imagine how many people in these "arranged" feel the same way about having children..especiallywith someone you don't know or love....the numbers must be STAGGERING!! So tired of summit and Jenny
Just go home jenny
Just go home Jenny!
Yes! Yaaaasssssss! Hands clapping! Thank you! Go tf home Jenny, what are you doing???
I found your commentary Spot On🎯
Sumit needs to decide, is he married to jenny or married to his parents. Mind you, I think marrying Jenny was a shortsighted decision and a mistake. But what's done is done. He needs to put his big boy pants on and realize you cant please everybody
Smit grow a pair. You're parents will never accept Jenny. And don't have kids to please your folks. You need to seek help
Sumit is so selfish. Considering adopting a harmless child, who you dont want to raise, just to satisfy your parents. Horrible man. Jenny please leave this man lacking a backbone
He will never leave
Sumit is getting desperate now to keep both sides, the trouble is he can't keep both happy. This makes the family dynamics unbalanced and it really is on Sumit's parents. They need to let Sumit live his life at free will. This is the point Jenny is referring to but Sumit has fear of loosing his parents forever. For the aunt to say it is up to Sumit to fix it, what she is really saying is to divorce Jenny because that is the only way Sumit's parents will have Sumit back in their lives. The parents are causing more harm for everyone, including for themselves. I believe Sumit's parents are very selfish in many ways.
agree Hollu, Sumit's parents are beyond awful, so selfish
Your commentary is spot on bro! I as well got violently ill at the kamasutra yoga
Sumit is not anyone that Jenny thought she married.
Also, what Sumit sees in marrying a grandmother is beyond illogical.
Jenny is equally delusional. Why would a younger man in his early 30s ever be happy just being home with you 24/7 for the rest of his life??
Kinda funny how they think Americans care less about their parents because they can just let them go,and that's a bad thing,but his parents are willing to just drop their own child like nothing because they married someone who they actually love make it make sense
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Can you imagine being the kid he gets and one day hearing him say he never wanted kids!! Sumitt the reason you might get a kid is a horrible reason, just don’t!!
Sumitt go try to mend some fence with your parents but leave all kids and Jenny out of it.
Jenny lied at the beginning to your parents they are not going to forgive her, you lied to Jenny she forgave you, along with the culture difference (age of you two) and the lies your parents will never accept her. I can understand him still wanting a relationship with them but it’s going to be only him and them, Jenny will not be included.
This last episode showed a lot about Sumit and his real feelings towards Jenny, the bloom is off the roses and the honeymoon is over, just like it will be in every marriage! The culture in India is completely different then here in America and Sumit will NEVER leave India for good, not happening! The age difference between Sumit and Jenny is to great, it will never work or last mark my words, because he is still a young man and Jenny is an old women that has lived her live while he wants to live his life to the fullest at his age and should!!!
If his parents meant that much to him he never should have even looked at an American woman, white woman, older woman!
Don't use a child for this. It is not a toy? You are doing the same as what your parents are doing to you. This is unfair for the child.
An adopted or surrogate child will never be pure enough for parents. So sad Sumit stuck between a rock and a hard place
As an Asian, I feel that Jenny , like most westerners, do not understand the deep bond Asian kids generally have with their parents. We are brought up with a belief system that parents' love and approval trumps your own personal desires and romantic love. Filial piety comes before allegiance to your significant other.
Most Asian children will not choose to marry somebody that their parents do not approve because the drama is just too much of a hassle. Sumit marrying Jenny is already one big challenge for the couple.For us, a family consist of not only your spouse but also your parents and in laws. It is extremely important that everybody gets along and that we can all live harmoniously or at least pretend to do so.
Asians are not brought up to put the self before the family.
This is something Jenny , despite her age has not been able to understand and underestimates the importance of to Sumit.
Wether Jenny likes it or not, his parents' happiness will always be vital to Sumit's own happiness. If she is not prepared to accept this then it is not a good idea to continue a relationship with somebody whose core values are so against what she believes.
Run Jenny Run is all I can say!!!
They should absolutely move to the United States, although perhaps not Palm Springs. They should move somewhere that has a large Indian population where Sumit could find a community and be comfortable. There is nothing like that in India for Jenny.
He doesn't need a large Indian community to fit in. He would be fine anywhere
@@eyespy0070 That’s not usually how it works. Think about how alone Jenny feels in India.
Indians in every corner of this world will never accept and involve in this grandmaa and grandson relationship. You see no Indian married couples will friend with Jenny. Because of her age. In Indian peopels eys she is very old. Grannys in India never married grandsons or married at all.
@@habeashumor9814 well then that would be Silicone Valley but I doubt those computer nurds are very sociable.
@@habeashumor9814 a guy from India lived in my building in San Francisco.
He had an American girlfriend. Wasn't too concerned in the least about making sure he had friends from India.
I've never witnessed a more selfish Mother. Sumit, please do not bow down to this cruel heartless manipulation. If you think all will be well going forward because you have a child then you are more delusional than I thought. Jenny left her loving family behind to be with you. Now its your turn to give the USA a chance. Only fair imo.
I SO agree with you WTMI, now I feel sick Yuk!! Love your comments in this video as usual💯👍
Okay in all seriousness. Jenny "can't" cook, clean or go grocery shopping. How in God's name will she raise a CHILD
Worst idea EVER: bringing children into the world just to please your parents!! 😳🤯🥴😮💨
What his parents are doing is withdrawing their love as punishment for a son who has embarassed them with his choice of life partner. This withdrawl of affection from his parents side is pure manipulation and has nothing to do with love. Considering the fact that he had previously given up Jenny to please them and suffered so badly from it should have made his parents realise how much he respects and loves them. So to bring up a child just to please them will not change their mind either. Plus it is of course a rediculous reason to have a child in the first place. Although, knowing Summit, he will love that child more than he realises and an Indian orphan might get a better chance in life.
He needs to just marry his parents since he can't figure out that he needs to leave his mother and father and stick to his wife!
The worse reason to have a Kid 🤦🏽♂️especially since he doesn’t want to have Kids
OMG!!!!! Jenny, Jenny, Jenny if you stay, then you have shouldn’t complain about your treatment. You’ve seen too many times how they feel about you. Don’t give Sumit a choice, you make plans to leave and hopefully he’ll come too; even for a visit. Then he may like it more then he thought he would. He could always go home to visit as often as you’ll can afford it; but enough of his wife being abused every time the family comes around. He should support Jenny’s decision. ✈️✈️
Love is patient, love is kind. Love is free will to choose and his parents won't do that. Using a child as a bargaining chip is wrong...they won't accept an adopted child not in his bloodline...that's what I sense...the whole situation is horrible. He should pray for them and walk away,cling to his wife.
Summit’s mother, aunt and father, but mainly his mother are borderline evil. It truly is so narcissistic to do what they are doing. It’s really, really sick. They are basically emotionally blackmailing and abusing Summit. He is their child and they don’t care at all about his happiness! Summit really needs to grow up and cut the cord! He’s a grown ass man who needs to live his life, same for his brother, they both cower in the corner from their parents, even his sister in law, all of them are petrified of them! - I know it’s in their culture to respect their elders, but I’m Middle Eastern and we also have the highest respect for our elders and parents, but not to this extent, I have many Indian friends who have watched Summit and Jenny, and even they say this is not normal and the way Summit’s parents treat him is very toxic and manipulative, rather than it being a “cultural issue”!
This is the 3rd video where u build up to this kid’s conversation, and it still NEVER GETS TO IT
I love your commentary with the video!
hopefully his comments on national television about using an unwanted child as a bribe will be enough to keep adoption agencies from working with them.
So, Summit is not working, but he is wearing such fancy outfits, and who is paying the rent? Wow, sugar daddy is sugar mammy in this case, :>(
No lol jenny is poor. They earn money from the show
@@mahiii913 well, she does have her pension from USA, no?
@@rahla53 it's not much. It's not even comparable to the money they get from the show. Jenny is actually poor and her money can't help them build a secure future
If Summit and Jenny go through with this adopting a child they don't want. That poor child will feel their lack of love and not being wanted. Even if they do provide for the child financially. Smh
Honestly, I hope they don’t bring an innocent child into their problems 🙄
He is stuck between 2 parents Jenni and his mom. This is a boy not a man
Please make more videos ASAP I love your narrative style !!!
he blames her for breaking up his family when he chose to marry her despite what his parents said...blaming is irresponsibility? he is irresponsible.
It happens here too there is unconditional love and is conditional, he's the scapegoat of the family, causes the supposed distress that is untrue
Jenny needs to come back and be with a man her age 😂
"The Dark Art of emotional damage" 😂 Wtf
There's more than a culture clash and neither knows about the other culture but Sumit should have thought about the age difference cos Jenny has lived her life retired and wants to be laid back now when he's now beginning to live and she doesn't even want him to leave to go to work that's selfish
He is buying a child for his parents love, as if it’s not a living and breathing human being!
Neither one of them want kids... he needs to tell his parents..take responsibility.. not lie.
For loving parents they don’t care about their sons happiness, they need to change their attitude ASAP and realise their son is happy.
his parents do not care if he is happy , they just care that he obeys them and let tgem control his life to make his horrible mother happy in her crazy ass way
If he Respects his parents so much then why doesn't he do what they say.
It’s his life not there’s, his parents are awful!
To respectfully finish your sentence....And leave Jenny out of it 💯, to keep on blaming her is ridiculous & immature 🙄!!
To respectfully finish your sentence....And leave Jenny out of it 💯, to keep on blaming her is ridiculous & immature 🙄!!
@@maryvera6510 I agree completely
That's ridiculous! To have kids for his parents!!
Sumit is an excuse of a man.look at the contrast between him and his brother.if i was the mum,i'd forget about him he is not worth it
Wooooow, what a bad case of manipulation. Poor Sumit is too old for this and he shouldn’t have to choose 😮😢 He seems like a good guy and truly loves Jenny and his family. God bless them all.🙏🙏
He has a bad impression of Americans. It is totally one sided. He doesn't want kids. Omg. That is totally crazy. He might even be able to have kids with anyone
Jenny will never give up. I would have cut my losses a long time ago.
They won't be happy because the child won't be your biological child so when they deny the child do you expect to send the child back!
I usually agree with most of what he says but I will say the point he made where Americans care less about their parents I 100% agree with sumit For Better or For Worse whether you agree with it or not you cannot sit here and say that American culture promotes loving your parents to the same extent the rest of the world does...
Whether you like it or not whether you agree with it or not other cultures value parents far more than the US and the US values freedom for the children more than the love of a parent
Look, this has been the culture for thousands of years and this show ain't going to change a damn thing about it.
No matter how much we bitch and moan.
However, Sumit is totally wrong for adopting a child for that horrible reason. Just go to America w/ Jenny. He won't be the first
Indian Man or Woman to go against his culture.
If you don't know anything about our culture then maybe it's best for y'all to shut up. I don't see you people supporting Kimbaly this way when it comes to usman's culture or other people on this show. And btw Americans definitely don't share the same values we Indians do towards our parents. It's something taught to us. It's our culture. Our parents are equal to our god.
Summit mother looking younger than jenny
Sumit is quite literally a child. He needs to grow up.
There was actually a throwaway statement his aunt made to that effect. I left it out of the video, but she said something like "Sumit js still a child. Jenny should know better than to marry him". They treat him as such so it's no surprise he acts as such
Crazy how far the gap in age is and both of them are still more immature than i thought possible. Not to mention, Jenny is 62 years old and has ZERO life skills. I'd be embarrassed to call her my significant other, Whether we are the same age or have a lot in common or not, she
He must choose.
There’s no way around it.
The best way is for him to communicate to them very clearly that because they refuse to respect his choice of a partner (and apparently don’t give a damn about their own child’s happiness), he has to make a difficult decision and that the door is always open should they wish to start respecting his wife.
If it were me, and because I’m petty, but love children, I’d have twins (a boy and a girl) via surrogate, then refuse to take grandma and grandpa’s calls until they apologize. I might even name the kids after them. Watch how fast those grandparents start acting right. “We love Jenny. Can we come see the babies now?”
why would they want an adopted kid?They obviously want his blood
Summit stand in your two feets for once !!