You make men become real men and strong enough to make decisions especially after being discarded. No more selfblaming or weakness. We get wisdom here! It's great thanks Andrew
When you're with a narcissist, notice how you're always blaming yourself, how you're always anxious, your life seem like you're walking on egg shells and you watch what you say or do when you're around them. Also you strive to impress them and yearn for thier approval. Those people will change who you truly are without you even noticing, until you LEAVE.
I never felt that way. I never yearned to impress him. I grew to hate him and have zero respect for him. I never blamed myself cuz I knew he was nuts. Everyone has different reactions to them I guess but very interesting 🤔 I was non-reactive to him ...maybe that made him get crazier. Probably did cuz he couldn't get my goat. He did cause me anxiety but I kept it inside cuz the stuff they do and say is just head spinning astonishment. I hope and prey most people in narcissistic relationships never lose themselves and I wish we could announce that to the world 🌎 🙏
Was so bored with myself, so disassociated from my own life. After I figured out why, I couldn't put a name to it, I didn't look for any channels, I let him hurt me more.. Even after I left. Almost 4 years later and I can now call it abuse and mean it.
They absolutely do "compartmentalize" their relationships. They have discreet little "pods" of groups that they maintain, but mostly they keep the people in those groups from having a relationship with the people in the other groups because it's for fear of having them all compare notes, etc. If they were to let that happen it would be much more difficult to control the deception. I'v seen it and experienced it first hand.
“ When you find out, it validates everything you’ve been thinking for years” This is so revealing. I knew all along it wasn’t right. I just couldn’t put my finger on it. I’m wide awake now. Thank you Jesus!
Same. I knew he was a narcissist. I just had no idea what the depths of the narcissist was! I’m astonished at how it all falls together now. Light bulbs everywhere! It’s insane the intricacy of their darkness
Only after I'm divorced I found out that I'm been living with a Narcissist for 12 years. I knew I was dealing with a psychopath but was not educated enough but luckily I had counseling for 6 years when this abuse started and I was medicated for calm,sleeping and anxiety and that kept me going....it's now through the guidance of the Holy SPIRIT I came across channels and whatever uplift me and let me grow I will take bcz I lost my almost thank you Jesus....and thank you for your education God bless...AMEN
I recently discovered this channel. I have really learned a lot. I only just realized that I was a victim of gaslighting, and am relieved to know that I was not losing my mind.
I love this channel because I am too a survivor !! I learned AFTER THE FACT that I was married to. narc! I am liberated and free! You are all my friends and I feel grateful !!!❤️
My story: I am 62 and discovery quite by accident about narcissism because someone I knew was officially diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. This happened when I was 58. Being curious I looked into it, and discovered to my HORROR that my husband of 30 years was the Narcissist personality disorder. THEN I realized that I had been ‘primed’ to accept that type of personality disorder by my Mother who neglected all her daughters, and only paid any attention to my much younger brother. Anyway, this discovery about narcissism was so strong that after my last Son graduated University, I myself entered a state University for the first time at the age of 60.😂😂💪🏼. It had been over 40 years since I graduated high school but I was determined to see how I would do. Of course my mother and husband had ‘worked on me’ for decades pointing out how mentally deficient I was, so my confidence was very low. My husband once told me I was putting a trash bag in wrong and proceeded to show me how it ‘should’ be done.🙄🙄. He and my mother found fault with everything. So I entered University. I loved everything about it. The essays, the homework, the tests. I got my first A. Wow! Something must be wrong-I am stupid, remember? But no, I kept getting As. I got a semester of As. Then my first entire. Second entire year. Third entire year.😎😎. Every year my confidence grew. I was smart. Not just smart-but 4.0 smart, entering my Senior year. Then Covid started and I had to put college on hold. My husband treats me differently because now I KNOW I am none of the things he said-and I KNOW it. 😂😂. My three Sons are so proud of me, my husband is still totally a narcissist but he treats me better because I am the best supply he ever had. Once this Covid weirdness is over, I will go back for my final Senior year. Oh, I forgot to say what my Major is.😁😎. Can you guess WHY I did so well in college and was able to connect with the syllabus and class work SO well? Yes, my Major is in Behavioral Psychology. I have learned lovely lessons about Operant Behavior, Classical Conditioning, Stockholm Syndrome, and hundreds other terms I have experienced. Those classes were my therapy. We who have gone through narcissistic abuse have in a way been blessed-we are stronger psychologically and mentally than people who have only interacted with normal people. We have life lessons that can never be taught academically. We know these lessons in our SOUL. Thank you for your broadcasts from lovely Costa Rica. They are the highlights of my day until I can re-enter the classroom. Be blessed everyone. Better days are before us. 😁🥰
Thank you for sharing your story ❤️, I very recently discovered my husband of 15 years is a narcissist. I am so lost, angry especially at my parents as this was a non negotiable arranged marriage ( yeah those things still happened 15 years ago in my part of the world, I wasn’t pretty enough to have any say in the matter as the ugly duckling of the family). Anyway you may not even see this message as it’s an old video. I cannot afford therapy and am still trying to figure out what to do. So I am catching up on these videos. All the comments are from people who escaped or walked out. I still can’t. It’s going to be a long time before I manage to do it if at all. So hearing from someone who managed to be better and still had to stay in the relationship gives me so much hope u can’t even imagine. Thanku again hope u see my comment.
@Julie Anna. 1st CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU!!!👏👏 Super Proud of You!!! 2nd. ALL Perfectly said. . . Agreed!!✔♠💯💯 Wishing You The Very Best of Success, In Your Future Endeavors!!🌻💛🌻 Cheers!! Sending . . .Peace, Love & Light!
They can no longer hover because I now BLOCK THEM. No contact is much safer, even though i deal with feelings of guilt for "abandoning" them. But my mental health was being crushed. I've never KNOWN such pain. Thanks all y'all for BEING here. Praying for recovery for every one!!
@@franceshaggitt3104 I started calling him out on his thoughtless, inconsiderate actions and decision making and now I feel like the bully .I am just not going to take it any more ,the secret bank accounts and investments and purchases and never including me in the decisions and he doesn't see anything wrong with that .He said I knew you wouldn't approve so I didn't bring it up ,and we are talking about a lot of money. He doesn't need anyone's approval but his own. He thinks he is God. I told him I am going to get him a T-shirt that says " I am God - and I make all of the decisions ." That describes him to a tee. In my old age I have reached a point where "I am mad , and I am not going to take it anymore "
I feel this as well …. Sooo thankful I got away life is so peaceful now . Sometimes I get “ bored” then quickly remember where I am now is what a prayed hard for once upon a time & now I have it ❤
I wonder how many of us always knew something was seriously ‘off’ for years but in addition to not knowing its name gave them supply rather than walking away
We are only 'responsible' for what we are aware of. Y💕 I think I would qualify this earlier comment as I think that if we do bad things, hurt people etc, then we still bear a degree of responsibility for the outcome even if the intention doesn't match the end result. With awareness, however, we are wholly responsible and therefore obligated to take action. If we are on the receiving end of bad (particularly if malicious) treatment/abuse/narcissism I think the initial comment is more apt.
Everyone around me is a narc. I’ve stopped making friends and I’ve isolated myself away because I just seem to attract these people and I can’t keep coping putting myself through it - the drama, the gaslighting, the manipulation etc etc. I just can’t trust anyone so I’ve opted for loneliness instead 😖 Thank you for your videos. They’re invaluable 💞🙏💞🙏
Sad but true it's lonely at the top and most people are narcs lve been in a few narc relationships and they all attend the same school my mother is a narc my siblings even some of my children it is a contagious disease plagued with evil and wickedness the chosen must stay close and distance from the others
@@donna3510 .......so so true, ya even have doctors, dentist, mechanics, sales people, waitresses, nurses, you get the picture, almost more than half the world are ugly, evil people we deal with, disgusting! No empathy for anything!
Can totally relate! I've learnt though, its really important to heal becaise you deserve healthy happy relationships even it's with the few... So long as they're healthy. Ive just had the wool pulled from over with my mother for over 25 years and i took a break from her for 2 years she's recently unexpectedly resurfaced and i see her for EXACTLY what she is now that i was COMPLETELY blind to before (though i knew something was wrong) but spending this last year getting clear on myself and taking a step back and just observing without judging yourself because you dodnt know! Im sending love and light... I hope your healing completes x
Sadly I think we were all enablers throughout the relationship. It all goes to that codependent role of trying to rescue protect and fix them. Its definitely a hard thing to admit but by doing everything for them we in a sense gave them permission to do whatever they wanted and we let them get away with it. Those days are definitely done. Once you see these things you cant unsee them. At that point we have a choice to educate, self heal and move forward or get stuck in repeating the old bad patterns of the past and doing nothing. I Chose to move forward and I have been proud of that decision ever since 💯 🙏💪🕊️✨
@@ammj6202 they should. they are the equivalent of Scar & its hyena henchmen from the Lion King. they WILL take you out. vultures hang together for a reason, & their feathers are tar because they reflect the heat of h3ll 🔥
Codependents, empaths, and enablers are who they are attracted to. I see many narcissists in CEO/leadership positions too because they are drawn to control, greed, image, attention, and power.
The trauma bond was the most difficult experience I'd ever had. I was destroyed but realize now it had to come to that so the healing could begin. Thank you for educating us.
"They need to very special each and everyday. Each and every HOUR." Absolutely. My god. I'd be compassionate, caring, empathetic, give compliments, reassure, talk about the future, make plans etc etc. I was being as kind and giving as I could and wasted it on the wrong person. It's so shitty, but thankfully only 7 months of my life. I'm out. Thank you for your videos. They and the comments are so reassuring. So sorry so many have experienced narcissism, too. Wishing everyone peace and happiness.
Growth comes best through suffering. I value all the life lessons that has led me to present. Once I had the lightbulb moment all the brokenness and confusion of 60 years made complete sense. Then the internal work started. 3 years later, my path and purpose are clear. Thank you! 🙏 Focusing on Spirit, Truth and seeing the world as it is shining the light brightly in the darkness.
Silence helps but it’s also important to remember that in those moments of silence when we might start to feel sorry for how unhappy the narcissist is; that it’s not our responsibility to “fix” them. No one can
Thanks Andrew. I should add that for anyone going through legal proceedings; it’s important to keep quiet and observe where possible in order to gather evidence of their unlawful course of misconduct.
When they know you know, you get “dust-busters” not “Hoovers”. You get the 3am phone calls or the super random reach outs just to see if the water is a bit safe. Never respond! You’re sooo much better when they think or know you really get the game.
I absolutely love this visual in the first line of this comment about when they know you know you get a dust buster instead of a Hoover. That totally made me laugh 😊😂. Thank you💛 It's been a long work day and comment definitely made me smile.
I love the cockroach analogy! You're right, I'm relieved to know that I was not imagining things but totally disgusted that someone could be so calculatingly evil.
The cockroach analogy - WOW!!!!! I experienced this recently as I became completely silent towards my ex for about a month and a half now. During the divorce process she is still in the house and we ended up in the kitchen together and when she saw me I stood my ground not leaving and she left immediately! Just like a roach when you hit the light! I have not stopped using my confidence and light since to maintain silence and its working like a charm! Now I read this roach analogy today (a week after my kitchen experience) and it was such a perfect description to what I felt in the kitchen! They know when you unmask them, Andrew was dead on with this and I am so happy that both you and I discovered these videos!!! And yes I have been for a while simply disgusted of my ex and the years she got me trapped with her manipulation. Silence is truly the key in ending a chapter with a Narc. After all, we are the light and the greater human being!
Once they know you know, they will disappear as they will see you are very strong and that they will be rejected. So they rather find a new supply than to battle with your strength. But they will test from time to time just to see if you will let them back in. This has been my experience after over 50 hoovers after the break up within 4 years.
Love!! this I just had a man who was telling me he didn’t love me and nobody ever would and I was worthless I went no contact for a year and he was making fake accounts and stalking and I never went into his accounts at all. It was so confusing that he was so abusive to me but still wanted to know my every move: I’ve never told anyone in their life they weren’t worthy of love. It really hurt me to hear this from someone.
50 times hoovered is something! You should have an award🥇God bless your fortitude. I always wondered if hoovers would make me stronger but even after knowing my ex had a mixture of cluster b traits and I knew what she was doing to me didn’t make it easier. Called me unlovable too (from another comment) which still hurts but I know it was her way of admitting that she is incapable of love and just projected that lie. Solidifying my truth by being hoovered 3 or 4 times thus far. I know I have always fought for myself and stood firm in my truth and protected my boundaries after knowing her narcissistic ways.
My daughter was in a toxic marriage with a narcissist - she finally had that “light bulb” moment and is now free from him. Happy to say she is now thriving, returning to her nursing education goals, and getting back to being her wonderful self!!! I’m so happy for her. I just wish her enlightenment would have come sooner. These are most certainly dangerous people!!!
I am 58 and have recently discovered what a narcissist was as a friend I thought I meet at work and went out of my way to help them and discovered what she was and did very narsty person and have learned a lot of what they do
Your comment is a 💯 As a person of faith in this community did you ever experience such an unexpected sign in your morning where you really have to take major pause and say there truly are no coincidences in life? Do you believe God uses some people as vessels to get his messages across to provide clarity of his unfolding plan? 😇
Too many people get a lightbulb moment of "Ahh,this person I'm dealing with is a narcissist" & then they proceed to tell the narcissist every reason in the book why they no longer want them in their life.It's best to stealthily & clandestinely leave the narcissist & go no contact that way, because even with conclusive proof a narcissist will NEVER EVER admit to being toxic & will actually use the opportunity of being confronted to inflict more injury to insult.
And, they will most likely twist your insight and call you the narcissist. These people have been perfecting manipulation since childhood, and without empathy, they will stoop to any level to tear you down. True evil...better to disappear and give them no more opportunity.
I actually had to fight the extraction with my narc sister because she just would not accept the fact I wanted nothing more to do with her despite my being verbally blunt about it,,,and changing my phone numbers etc...after 2 years of attempted untanglement I finally wrote her a letter, spelling it out extremely mean and nasty, along with our states law on abuse, stalking and fraud...ended it with...please continue with your stupid irrational attempt to get me back into your clutches, it won't work as I am prepared to file a harassment suite against you and take you for every monetary value you have,,, name being, your house, vehicle.....I sent it certified signed letter....years later she's hauled into court as her husband was arrested for child molestation and I got called into court, her son who's daughter was the one that got molested by her husband tells me he was there when my letter arrived and she still didn't understand it, her son, my nephew had to explain it to her.....yes her husband was found quilty, spent 5 yrs in jail, and she is still with him...narcissism just breeds evilness...
Yes needs to be taught in high school. But no one understands it unless you went through it. I am a HS teacher and we actually discussed this one day in class and teens are slowly becoming aware and one young lady following Lee Hammock. It was a Wow cool moment that a 15 year old is recognizing this and talking about it. A huge step for the younger generation.
I agree with what you say that there needs to be more awareness especially at that tender age. On a personal note that might help a young person that has grown up with a narc parent or relative before they enter into their own committed relationship. It's about having tools of prevention, because once you're in it, the fog is overwhelming. I've always believed that there should be a required class in communication in general. The other thing that is slightly off topic is that having a required class about managing basic finances could be helpful. These are life saving tools that should be taught right at the junior high level. I think many people just don't know how to express their feelings in a way that society deems acceptable. If people could understand the basic equation of communication and try to practice it, hopefully that could help them learn to keep boundaries.
Thank you!! I was 15 also when my world turned upside down. Would have saved 36 years of utter confusion and oceans of tears and years of dysfunctional relationships if anyone understood what was happening and could have offered education/support. I am sooooo glad this is a conversation in school - I am trying to find a way to educate my 13 year old without throwing her family under the bus as her father has some strong narc traits. Challenging to present a highly charged topic neutrally...
Yes! Please do a video on the "Secrets the Narcissist Keeps". That has to be one of the most horrible aspects of the narcissist's personality. Especially their lies of omission. They cannot be trusted!
My mother died with the her lies of omission. I believe I have/had a half sibling. She denied but the evidence is very strong. I would have been thrilled to be told I had a half sibling. Instead, everything was a 'secret' and the shame that she carried but would not explain was projected on to me and I was abused and neglected. Even accused me of sleeping with my boyfriend and I never did. I was made a scapegoat to carry her shame.
Mine wanted to stay up until 6 am on Friday and Saturday nights wasting most of the night engrossed in word salad. In hindsight I think he just wanted to deprive me of sleep.
I am a narc survivor!!! Glory to God!!!!! I am proud to be an empathetic person because we are trully social beings and we need each other to live in this (bad) world. Best wishes from Brazil!
It took me until my 50s to understand the narcissism in my family of origin. Now I know it was not about me at all. No need to go back to the source of pain. Free at last!
Cant totally relatw as a kid i lived in axiety and stress pretty sure it caused a disease im fighting through. Couldbt talk to ANYONE and thought i was crazy because no one else could see it, thinking im the problem damn near my whole. But now i feel like a spell is broken as are the psychological chains. Oh and if you need a pick-me-up, I'm here... I've healed and on the other side. Super excited to live MY life of freedom now
@@mindblownwhattheydidntteachyou Thank you for your reply. I am having to be her caretaker now and I am trying not to let memories come back to my mind. It helps so much knowing that I am not crazy and other people have been through the same experience.
My so called Halfling parents were vicious NARCISSIST'S. They are both passed, I understand that they were abusers and from the Dark Side. I am very grateful to be walking with Jesus, for 35 yrs. He is the ultimate NARC.SLAYER. or I definitely would not have survived my childhood.
@@vickipacheco9787 I can identify with you and MindBlown. I forgave my mother and returned to help her several times only to subject myself to her viciousness. I had just exited a thirty year marriage after being assaulted. I arrived in need of emergency surgery (four level cervical fusion with grafts and hardware) and she had me at my most vulnerable. I laid in ICU for three days and she didn’t even call to check on me, nor stop in to see me and the hospital was right down the hill. When I was discharged, I wasn’t sent to a TCU or rehab because I was considered a high risk of contracting MRSA with the size of my incision. I was sent home and she stepped up the abuse with the silent treatment. That alienation extended to my two dogs. Then, just when I started healing she began calling the sheriff’s department multiple times alleging abuse. As a former healthcare provider and mandated abuse reporter it was ludicrous to think she would think that would have ever held up, but it was devastating and I felt totally defenseless and freaked out at the same time. She was cunning, but I believe all parties saw through her act. My faith has gotten me through over and over. At one of my darkest periods a girlfriend sent me a TH-cam link to Casting Crowns, “I Will Praise You In This Storm” and it was the best gift. I’m the youngest and for some reason I was considered her favorite child, but what that meant was that I took most of her abuse because I was like her little pet. She not only took me everywhere, she used me as a mirror growing up. That’s the tip of the iceberg, but in spite of all the hatefulness, she never prevailed. I don’t know why her hatred ran so deep. I remember arriving here in need of medical treatment and she said, “It’s too bad it took you thirty years to wake up!” I was stunned and speechless. I wanted to say, “You trained me well,” but I said nothing. She finally left after destroying vital documents and personal possessions that were needed such as my prescription glasses. If she called me tomorrow for help, I’d let it go to vm. If I was her only option, I’d arrange for needs and services, but I would never grant her access to my heart and mind, nor would I allow myself to be in her physical presence ever again. I believe the Lord has given me the ability to forgive. There are many avenues of faith as well as spiritual paths, but I know the Holy Spirit has moved me through all the storms. 🕊
It is awkward when that happens - standing there with them.. It is strange ... PLEASE don't ever underestimate what they will do. Evil deserves no trust and they are not bound by any limits of their actions. Normal people have limits - they do not !
agreed. Especially hard refusing to believe it when it’s family. Cuz an entire life of being just a tool to use and not care about, formed me to thinking that if i actually DONT want to be his servant and do something (it always starts “i need you to...”, it never was “can you help me and drop by please?”, ) it doesn’t mean i’m a “bad spawn” The more i stopped tolerating or ignoring such flags, the more historical rewriting he did to cover all that narc exhibition of his. He even tried pretending he never said it that way, right after i called him out on it with “well how about you ask for my help for once, instead of state it like i have no choice”. Mere mins earlier... and he tried lying his way out of it like he didn’t just do it. that got me rethinking every conflict over the years, manipulating mind games, the fake narratives, the way i was treated, the perma expectations, and it all crumbled. OH HE KNOWES I KNOW NOW, and still he tries now and then to goad connive or bribe something out of me. I’m fair and polite but by no means have any urgency to pander and race to answer any email or phone call now. He deserves NO response the rest of his life actually, but i’m not cold to his level of evil. I’m fine with no connection really, even with him being the last of family alive. I’ve got lots of practice not having a father already.
So sad to hear that, Coleta 😓. You are part of a community of survivors on here, some whose lives have been impacted to a catastrophic degree. At least you know the kind of 'beast' you are dealing with now. Thoughts and Prayers To You, Coleta. May God Bless You (Us) All! ❤️
Same with me Coleta. As a teen, I immersed myself in books, articles, and videos trying to understand my father's horribly damaging behavior. I think us empaths and very caring giving people are prey to narcissists.
The cockroach analogy 💜 Andrew, you speak fluidly from the heart. I am sorry you knew a narc but it became your calling to educate us - this beautiful community x
So empowering when I look him straight into his empty eyes and say ever so softly but definitively, “I see you. I know who you are. There’s no turning back.” Am I risking a rage? Of course. Do I give a shit after all these years? Not one bit. It’s so epic!! 💪👊
This is exactly 💯 me today ! I feel such relief. Thanks you for this I've been dealing with this all my life and I just this last year has the realizion has some kind of mental problems emotional problem's insecurity issues and just the dynamics of our sibling relationship but I know this person have all my life and I know this person doesn't suffer from any of this what so ever and I have been nothing but good to her.The ironic part of the relationship / as wierd of one as it's been I've never known it to be any other way gets wierder even.in the fact that the narracasistic person was the very first person I ever heard use the term narrcasist , and she said it start to describe her ex and she was all crying with no tears and her face was red like she had been just sobbing her eye's out. Which she wasn't and she hadn't been her eye's ,.. and cheeks were dry as bone she was just doing her manipulative way of doing thing's trying to play with me and my emotions and what she basically what I think. She had just told me that her ex was a........ Narracasistic S.O.B. and I was like he's a what? I had never heard the term narrcasist, if I ever had I had no knowledge of hearing the term being used to describe someone I know or in my circle of friend's and family I have.anyhow I was instantly interested in what narrcasist meant. I didn't know what she was talking about.. So I asked her what the heck does that mean ? What do you mean ............ Is a narrcasist ? All the sudden she sat up straight face seemed to go a little bit white I think 😊 and now that I asked about it... It was just... Oh it's just me and........ haven hard times. Now after just getting ready to tell me all about it. But because I turned around and asked like specially what it meant...she didn't want answer.she didn't want to explain it to me all the sudden. And she knew she had just messed up. I didn't know yet just what she done but I soon would and she knew it.
She knew I knew when I asked her. Way before I knew what that really, really meant. There wasn't any argument about it. No rage. No blame shifting. Stunned perhaps. Free ride is over shock. Just the question "aren't you going to fight for me" ? Hell no. Wouldn't that be delicious supply. Its just more triangulation. My hindsight advice is if you are ready to pop the question "Are you a narcissist" ? Don't bother, you already know. Its over. The end. If you stick it out you will be tortured twice as bad. Guaranteed.
Narcissists are very afraid to be exposed . If you know the narcissist´s tricks, they not longer can play the narcissistic rage wheel with you, so they lose their "emotional punching bag." After you have raised your level of positive energy through self care, the narcissist will in very sneaky fashion try to drain you again with their negativity , word salads and pessimism .
Thanks haha I have just begun the empowerment of silence and a "whatever attitude" towards my wife since a couple of weeks now and I will think about what she says as world salads...great name 🤣. It can still hurt if I care about what she says but knowing now it's a game and that she is most likely a narcissist her bad words just falls off of me like water on a goose. I believe it looks like she is starting to figure out that I know what she is doing and that she can't control me anymore.
@@praeparatus_supervivet , yes narcissists will notice quickly, that you have figured them out and will start seeking new supply immediately - probably following their narcissistic instinct. They are disturbed about your new found independence and increased emotional strength. Still, if you are dealing with a pathological narc the relationship will stay limited (no trust is most problematic for me) and you will have to learn to accept that.
@@mariaawake4502yeah if I refused something (usually money related or buy something) then she acted like a child and gave me the silent/cold treatment. I always succumbed to it in the end being the very agreeable person that I am I just couldn't stand it if people close to me doesn't like me. I was always the one trying to make peace either later the same day or the day after. After I found these videos I realized she is a narcissist and since then I confronted her and she said she has no physical attraction for me but likes what's inside my heart she said she lost the passion already after he first year. Thanks for letting me know 8 years later!?. Sure we stopped having sex early but still kissed and hugged. Then when we wanted a baby and tried to get help they said she is a bit to thin. I played computer games and she found a game also that she got addicted to. I got overweight and then the pandemic came. We just never were compatible. I should have divorced her earlier. One year separate due to pandemic and she came back seemingly no interest in showing intimate emotions and that's when I confronted her and she told me I'm more of a brother to her and that thing about lost passion. She has never been interested in western culture or food like Christmas and since she came back in November she just play that game all days. I sat all alone during Christmas and new year in the sofa watching TV or movies. She never cared much for what I want or my interests during the years and rarely gave me a birthday present worth remembering. Only 2 pictures of us together in her 1000 picture Instagram during all the years. About 100 with friends. I wanted to restart the relationship and I wanted to pick up the sex when she came back. I said maybe we should have a dog and she said then maybe she can get closer to me because everything else is boring like watching movies together. She watches movies and funny videos herself though in her own language. She never really took initiative to do things together during the years and I always felt that it was a struggle too please he. I couldn't make any jokes with her like I do when commenting things online or with my coworkers. Either she didn't listen or didn't understand or just plainly said she doesn't care even if I shared something interesting I wanted two tell her. Still after she came back in November one year separate during pandemic I have to admit that I think we both didn't miss each other. She said she wants to live as friends i think she was referring to a non-sexual "relationship" but still that doesnt atop her from showing intimate emotions like hugs our kisses but I had two telling her that and it's like she tried too give me that then only because I told her. But as friends goes she is usually very short to me when we talk and we have nothing to talk about naturally be she spends all time playing that game. Usually she is just complaining about things or give me sarcastic responses then we have the days where she seems nice and she gives me a kiss or hug like she is building update forward getting me in town a goods mood. Then comes the question when I can buy the dog or that I must send her sister money to pay for the bank loans for her apartment in her home country. So she plays me and think that I will be an ATM machine even now after she has told me she doesn't love me like like a lover. We have nothing in common and we don't have sex so there is no reason at all to stay together. It was always about her the while time.
I agree Andrew. Once you know don't do anything and don't look back. It gives us our power back to move onto the healing path. In this case the best response is no response.
Greetings from London! Andrew thank you so much mate. I can tell how much of a good person you are! These videos are helping me big time, and I appreciate the knowledge you are giving to us! Knowledge is freedom Thank you
Problem is, I only had one Son and he turned out to be a Narcissist. At 37 years old he finally showed his true core. I called him on it and haven't spoken with him for over 3 years. I am 69 years old and only have my brother's and sister left. Lost my only child but I had to draw the line. Total lack of respect is a game changer.
Perhaps it’ll hit him after you’re gone beyond. I always appreciated my parents and thanked them for their sacrifices but wish they were here to express it a million times more. I didn’t grow up in a lovey, touchy all hugs family. I thought my mother was cold and my family lightened up from the John Wayne type to being vocal and giving me an occasional buss when he was quite elderly. It was the men don’t hug family decades ago. I know this varies from culture to culture.
Its the silence that holds high power against a narcissist. Eventually the mask comes off and their true face and character reveals itself. Prayers for those lost, hoping they’ll find there way back
Yes, it was a light bulb 💡 moment for me! I did so much for 3 years! I did the things I wouldn’t have done for anyone! I wasn’t myself.. he turned me into his puppet! I am happy he’s not in my life anymore.. but the trauma is still there.. I am still mad I allowed him to treat me this way!
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thanks to you for making us believe in ourselves again! Letting us know that we were not crazy! It’s only in here I feel like I am being listened and my feelings are valid!
Thanks so much Andrew for enlightening people. I am 8 years out from my discard. It’s been a long road of healing and hope. No contact would be my best advice. They are truly evil in every sense of the word. I now call myself a survivor of Narc abuse. I wouldn’t wish this pain and grief on anyone. Move forward and Never look back! Continue your path to heal 💔
It’s absolutely a lightbulb, eureka type of moment. I just escaped a terrible narcissist a couple months ago with God’s help and because I knew one thing: my life had become radically worse because of them. I saw that starting with my daughter, too, and that’s when I decided I HAD to go. But I saw a little meme that said: “A narcissist cares so much about what a stranger thinks, but treats those they claim to love like monsters.” That hit home and made me start to look up the true meaning of “narcissist.” Lo and behold, it’s a complete personality type that is nothing short of pure evil. As a empath, I was horribly mistreated. I praise Christ for waking me up, getting me out, and providing me with answers through videos like this. Not only will I never fall for it again, but I may just be able to help save someone from the nightmare. Thanks for your help!
My mom is a narcissist which taught me to accept that type of “love”. I fell into a relationship with one and just got out of it after almost 3 years together and being cheated on/emotionally abused. Videos like this help me a lot and give me hope after years of being manipulated.
My wife out of the blue mentioned a few weeks back that I was a Narcissist so I obviously looked it up on many videos and I couldn't believe that it describes her totally. I should have listened to her when she told me in the very beginning that she tends to try and push people away! so the light bulb is like a spotlight now. Thanks for your channel.
Narcissistic people tend to be attracted to each other. At times one of the partners is covertly narcissistic and their neediness and abuse is well hidden. Their need does not take from others as much as the overt narcissistic person does instead they excessively give and often become the doormat in the relationship. It may be that your wife recognizes what she can't see about herself.
It took me 47 years to figure out what narcissism was and, yes, once I figured it out, I realized I was surrounded by them and that being around them exacerbated my own narcissism. Now I know that the shot of adrenaline I feel when I get around certain people is my body's warning signal. I don't ignore that anymore. If people flatter me or refuse to let me pay for things, that's another indication. Anytime the term "soul mate" is banded around, I know the relationship is nonsense. After I figured out what narcissism is, I put the brakes on several life long friendships. It's been almost 2 years, and the hoovers and stalking behavior I've seen from these people prove that I was right. I'm still emerging from the fog, but I'm a lot happier.
Yes!! The warning signal is real over here. I used to trust my gut reaction about people but I became to complacent somehow. I’m going back. My gut never failed me before.
Discarded 8 months ago by a covert. Took 2 months for the lightbulb to go off. Been in abusive narcissistic relationships all my life, starting with my father who is overt. Mind blown. Finally had a label for these people's behaviour and insight into my own. 51 years old and deep onto my healing path now that I understand what the heck has been happening. Watching tons of videos like these and want to say that this one is 100 percent bang on. I strongly resonate with every one of these points. Thank you everyone for sharing - sad to say you are all my peeps - wish we were connected on a happier note but maybe I can look at it that we are all loving ourselves, taking care of ourselves and learning how to stay open yet protected against the abusers. Wishing everyone a speedy recovery and an end to victimhood ❤
Yes I’m your age and discovered the same thing. Almost all prior and current relationship were with a narc. I use to wonder what I did wrong. I’m woke now and so thankful to my Lord and Savior for keeping me and my kid safe and for healing. Many thanks to these channels with info and all of you for sharing your stories!
@@beencouraged4163 God listens and answers our prayers. Continue to pray as you move forward along your healing path and you will find the strength and peace you need to continue to move forward.🙏💪🕊️
My husband walked out and left without a word 3 years ago. The term "ghosting" is what he did, I didn't even know this stuff had names. I knew something was funky about him. This is all I did, seriously, I typed into Google search engine: "Husband walked out without a word". I must've gotten hundreds of thousands of hits immediately and all about one thing: Narcissistic abuse. I started watching videos and they were so accurate about his behaviors, it was scary. It was as if these people on the videos knew my husband personally. It was no doubt a very strange feeling at first, though it was also a relief to finally get answers. These creators and their videos have been life saving for so many people! Thanks for all you do!
I’ve been no contact for over 2 months now! The tidal waves of emotion come and go from anger to sadness to being stunned at all that went on under my nose without me knowing it. I am so thankful for your videos Andrew! Ive learned so much and when I begin to have any self doubt, I watch your videos! You are a genuine blessing to this community and I’m so grateful to you!! Thank you!! 😊
Yes, isn't amazing that we didn't know what was going on in front of us? We could not imagine how such a human being could be so cruel, hurtful & EVIL to our beautiful souls♥️
I can relate to where you are Kimberly. I’m grateful for being able to have these emotions. The trauma bond is breaking… freedom to “be” isn’t far away. ♥️
I am 63, married to a narcissist for 33, as I just became aware of, for the past 9 months I've had this cathartic experience, I started feeling confused about being in this marriage, 50% of me wants to stay and the other 50% wants to leave. I felt that I want to claim myself back even if it is for the last few years of my life. I even fantasize about having my maiden name back as a symbol of my new freedom. My husband was always nice and mellow but he cheated on me a handful of times (that I know of), he always isolated me from his aquaintences or friends, I found this odd, now I know that is something they do, having compartments or group bubbles, I think he did this to keep his supply of women available, he did not want to show them that he was a committed family man. I am an attractive woman, on the slender side, intelligent, hard working, good mother and homemaker but he never seemed to appreciate me a 100%, I even wonder if he ever truly loved me . We separated a few years ago for 5 years and got back together about 4 years ago. I had become distant with him because of his cheating and one day he said he was leaving because we had lost al ok communication and I did not love him anymore...but guess what? Shortly I found out he was going out with this woman that is pretends to be a fine woman but is nothing but a promiscuous slut and a full blown narcissist addicted to plastic surgery. He thought he had hit the jack pot, but later on he found out what kind of woman she was, she cheated on him with more that one guy, and to his embarrassment and humiliation this was made public among his circle. When he was going out with her, they were both posting pictures in FB of their outings and romance, something he never did with me. Now life is passing the bill to him for all the hurt he caused me, that man that was so strong and handsome is having very serious health problems, I don't any woman would now even give him the time of day.
Abouut 8 years ago, I just made the decision that ANYONE who messes with my peace of mind and constantly caused stress in my life, I just let them go and pretended they died! It was the best decision I made in my life!! And it totally changed my life for the positive too!! I can't even express the peace, tranquility, and contentness that is my life now!!! But making that deciision is so hard for most people!
I never imagined these creeps existed, I was confused, knew something really off was happening to me, I became aloof unlike me, I was forgetting I had friends or family, I was in a different world, I had sleepless nights and the list goes on, I just found myself crying constantly and I knew I had to figure out what was going on, so I started searching and thank God I came up on this channel, the education here is priceless and now I'm doing so much better, I just walked away nothing said,ILL BE FIREVER GRATEFULL TO YOU ANDREW, GOD BLESS❤️❤️💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
I didn’t figure out who he was until a year ago. He was acting like he was single when married for 19 years! I always thought there was something off and couldn’t put my finger on it! I literally investigated him and boom figured out who he was! He has been out the house for 4 month my choice. Wow! Now starting to heal!!! The toxic energy is out my house! I am so glad I found this channel. Such a blessing!! Every topic is so on point!!! Have a great day!!!
I don't want to hurt him , I am able to care without caring because all he most likely wants is just a friend and caretaker. Remove the emotional attachment trauma bondage , start with celibacy, it helps develop control over your reaction, and gives you the ability to manage the situation. EXCELLENT example with the water on the witch!!!
Ding ding ! Andrew my ex narcissist had relatives that were no longer speaking to him and his mother and father were not interested . I noticed he had no real close friends, he called me his best friend . That’s what made me feel sorry for him but now I know why . He has and will wrong everyone that’s what he does best . So sad, I thought everyone wanted to be loved but a narcissist wants your mind soul and heart to discard . Yes the more I knew the more he started staying away . I will not confront him about anything ever again it will only end up in lies and deny .. i’m still in no contact mode . Good post Andrew ..
Once they know you’ve figured them out, everything starts to change. Once my narcissistic new I had had a light bulb moment he was gone. It’s like they suddenly become the comic book villain and you’ve become the goodie who holds the keys to the happy ending and they turn and run in the other direction. Which is good news! Even though it takes time to know it. Very powerful stuff! Thank you Andrew 💙🙏
Yes crazy psychos!!!! I remember I called out my narc ex wife and told her she's a narcissist to her face 3x and she kept denying it and then she turned and looked at me and her eyes turned dark and evil and she got up and started blocking the door so that I couldn't walk through and then she disappeared for 4 days and sent me this longgggg text message about leaving and I was soo happyyyy that I got what I asked for!!!!
Your right, I had no clue what was going on!! I thought & felt I was crazy, if I just tried harder this would work. After 40+ years I finally woke up & got out. Praise God!! Looking back, all your saying was my life. So grateful!! Thank you!!
@@Play-jv3oi At least you got out without thinking that things will get better and wasting more years of your life. Having kids with these kind of creatures before finding out what you’re really dealing with is a nightmare, far beyond anything you could imagine. God bless you for choosing your sanity.
Thank you Andrew ❤️ for your content. I now have 15 day's of no contact and moving quite well on my healing path. I did some self-care today went to the mall and did some shopping. Very peaceful day. I'll continue to educate myself through your videos.
It has been almost 5 months since I was discarded, because he realized I had caught on. I have been no contact since. I never heard of narcissism, before. I am 61 yo and learning so much from you and others. What a roller-coaster ride I was on. I am praying that I will never end up in another relationship like that again, very painful and degrading. I agree this behavior needs to be taught to all, especially high school students. Thank you for all you do. You are appreciated!
The narcissistic lack of self-awareness going on here is MIND-BOGGLING. All victims in despair, Strut your butt, And raise your victory in the air, Exactly like a narcissist would.
I did figure that my ex was completely rotton all by myself but, I didn't know what a narsscasist was until the bitter end until someone offered me an explanation and I embraced this revelation as a way forward because I could now begin to make sense of what I had been involved in and no longer felt isolated in a tangled web of events.Thank you for your dedication in helping so many people.
It’s always in the end everything starts clicking! We connect the dots and we can actually see everything throughout them without rose colored glasses! I hate to be at this place but you are not alone! 😊
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Carry on with your fantastic work on narcissism Andrew, you are helping so many. You are a breath of fresh air, of hope and bright futures. I'm very grateful I found your channel, you are bringing so many like minds together. You are a God send and I really thank you for what you are doing!! 💜💜💜
He wore that mask for a long time with me, I mean I always knew something was off with him but I always blamed it on his upbringing, but now that I know everything that I went through I’m in shock but not surprised, kinda relieved that now I know I’m not the crazy one like how he made me out to be.
As ive TRIED TO FOLLOW YOU . Thru a couple video's . Now YOU STEPPED over the line.! SAYING GOD BLESS YOU. MAY YOUR GOD BLESS YOU AN YOUR FAMILY ! THANK YOU ! Contenue on YOUR LOVING PATH ! ,,! With truth ! ! !
I realized my best friend of 30 yrs. was a narcissist about 5 years ago through another YT channel. I ended the friendship and have never been happier. You encapsulated everything I learned over the years in this video. Great job.
Similar here. I distanced myself gradually. Wow. No more drama. Well worth it. 2yr on self be true. Be Yr own best friend. Cause even Yr own shadow leaves u in darkness..
Thank you. I’ve mentioned the same thing to Richard Grannon. If I could have learned all this back in high school, my life and future would look very very VERY different. Please please please keep pushing to get this education into the high schools. It would actually save many lives.
Likewise. I didn’t know at the time, but I asked my mum for career advice... guess what plans she had for me; nothing. So she convinced me out of what I wanted to do, telling me I wasn’t smart enough and there were no jobs in what I wanted to do, that the study would take about 8 years and my dreams were basically hopeless. I was 16 and believed what she was telling me. Later (about 20 years later) realised both my parents have high levels of narcissism. I wish I’d of known what I know now, because I wouldn’t of listened to a word and gotten out of that house ASAP.
You are SPOT ON!!!! I walked away from my first narcassistic husband, my Mother, my two Brothers and Sister along with at least so called friends that were ALL NARC'S. I'm very proud of myself in terms of finding strength and self love along this journey without ANY SUPPORT from anyone which made me as strong and acutely aware whenever being faced with one.
Right now I’m in the healing process .. I have decided to educate myself daily so that I don’t fall back into the trap .. thanks again for helping others
You have a gift Andrew. You know what we all need to hear! Yes! You do need to go into the schools and make everyone aware of this! Narcissistic people are very real! Every word spoken! The TRUTH! Bless you❣️
Agreed. I mostly read about narcissism upon first discovery. Since then I've watched a few videos but none come close to Andrew. He seems to know exactly what to say to activate the healing powers we have within. i could tell he was different from others merely within minutes of the first video I watched of his, which happens to be last night....lol. Yep, Andrew seems legit.
I turned 64 in June. That same week I was finally able to put a name to my sister’s treatment of me. Years ago she had me hating myself and suicidal. So I sought professional help. Found a great therapist. My sister accused my therapist of planting false claims in my head and making her out to be the bad one. If you think you are a victim of a narcissist try this. Tell them you are going to a therapist. See how they respond. They will be afraid of being exposed. Don’t let a narcissist feed off you and steal your life away.
this is exactly what happened to me, she had a keen sense I was beginning to question her! She could tell I wasn't being fooled and I was rather getting a bit worried that things weren't right. like a hawk, they are watching your behavior and keeping up with your awareness of them! They look for any feedback that gives them what they need. very excellent video!
I always said certain things that are confirmed with videos, years before I had a phone. One thing I used to say would be,remember the very scary OZ in the Wizard Of Oz? Just like they pulled back the curtain and seen the little midget behind the microphone and OZ wasn't so big and tuff. Ditto,the person I was married to when I unbeknownst ripped the mask off. I'm just happy as the other characters like Dorothy,tinman,the loin and scarecrow. I did make a better home for me and my son's,I do have courage, a brain and heart to move on and be willing to feel the pain with my faith in God 🤸♀️
I am almost out of this living with the narcissist. We were involved, but now just landlord/tenant. The holdup is housing, and finding it. It is off the charts expensive. Your videos and others have helped me, soo very much. Thank you so very much! Love and Namaste.
Oh it has surrounded me for over 30 years...friends, family, relationship...ive spent the last year watching videos like this and studying this so that maybe I can finally breathe and live...God bless.
No labels eventually the character shows and you immediately know what’s up. I wish them well I wish them guidance from GOD. I’m thinking we all get this from day to day. No Exceptions. The thing is it’s a lesson from God. God Bless. It does not mean we are gullible. It means we have Love. And that’s one thing they can’t deny. Thank you for the message
Found out late that there were such a type of person on the planet. I thought he would change with time. Then I heard all the ways that a narcissist lives. It all adds up. Not to him, he just denied it. Sixty plus years,. I really want to die at times. My family won't interfere.
You make men become real men and strong enough to make decisions especially after being discarded. No more selfblaming or weakness. We get wisdom here! It's great thanks Andrew
Welcome..💯💯💜😌
When you're with a narcissist, notice how you're always blaming yourself, how you're always anxious, your life seem like you're walking on egg shells and you watch what you say or do when you're around them. Also you strive to impress them and yearn for thier approval. Those people will change who you truly are without you even noticing, until you LEAVE.
I never felt that way. I never yearned to impress him. I grew to hate him and have zero respect for him. I never blamed myself cuz I knew he was nuts. Everyone has different reactions to them I guess but very interesting 🤔 I was non-reactive to him ...maybe that made him get crazier. Probably did cuz he couldn't get my goat. He did cause me anxiety but I kept it inside cuz the stuff they do and say is just head spinning astonishment. I hope and prey most people in narcissistic relationships never lose themselves and I wish we could announce that to the world 🌎 🙏
Well said! I experienced all that you have mentioned…
Was so bored with myself, so disassociated from my own life. After I figured out why, I couldn't put a name to it, I didn't look for any channels, I let him hurt me more.. Even after I left. Almost 4 years later and I can now call it abuse and mean it.
I was there from 1984, married in 1987, until 2018.
@@eadler5929 wow! That was a long time! You deserve a metal! Hope you are in a good place now 🙂
They absolutely do "compartmentalize" their relationships. They have discreet little "pods" of groups that they maintain, but mostly they keep the people in those groups from having a relationship with the people in the other groups because it's for fear of having them all compare notes, etc. If they were to let that happen it would be much more difficult to control the deception.
I'v seen it and experienced it first hand.
It's amazing how the sunlight is brighter now, when he's not around.
Same happened to me. I confronted her and a cloud lifted. Everything seemed brighter. It was a big moment.
“ When you find out, it validates everything you’ve been thinking for years” This is so revealing. I knew all along it wasn’t right. I just couldn’t put my finger on it. I’m wide awake now. Thank you Jesus!
Amen
Amen. ❤️🙏
Same. I knew he was a narcissist. I just had no idea what the depths of the narcissist was! I’m astonished at how it all falls together now. Light bulbs everywhere! It’s insane the intricacy of their darkness
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Only after I'm divorced I found out that I'm been living with a Narcissist for 12 years. I knew I was dealing with a psychopath but was not educated enough but luckily I had counseling for 6 years when this abuse started and I was medicated for calm,sleeping and anxiety and that kept me going....it's now through the guidance of the Holy SPIRIT I came across channels and whatever uplift me and let me grow I will take bcz I lost my almost thank you Jesus....and thank you for your education God bless...AMEN
I never knew these people existed. I learned a big lesson very late in life. It really shined a light on me.
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Same here~crazy makers
Ditto. In the end its actually liberating not needing anyone to complete self.
I recently discovered this channel. I have really learned a lot. I only just realized that I was a victim of gaslighting, and am relieved to know that I was not losing my mind.
I love this channel because I am too a survivor !!
I learned AFTER THE FACT that I was married to. narc!
I am liberated and free!
You are all my friends and I feel grateful !!!❤️
My story: I am 62 and discovery quite by accident about narcissism because someone I knew was officially diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. This happened when I was 58. Being curious I looked into it, and discovered to my HORROR that my husband of 30 years was the Narcissist personality disorder. THEN I realized that I had been ‘primed’ to accept that type of personality disorder by my Mother who neglected all her daughters, and only paid any attention to my much younger brother. Anyway, this discovery about narcissism was so strong that after my last Son graduated University, I myself entered a state University for the first time at the age of 60.😂😂💪🏼. It had been over 40 years since I graduated high school but I was determined to see how I would do. Of course my mother and husband had ‘worked on me’ for decades pointing out how mentally deficient I was, so my confidence was very low. My husband once told me I was putting a trash bag in wrong and proceeded to show me how it ‘should’ be done.🙄🙄. He and my mother found fault with everything. So I entered University. I loved everything about it. The essays, the homework, the tests. I got my first A. Wow! Something must be wrong-I am stupid, remember? But no, I kept getting As. I got a semester of As. Then my first entire. Second entire year. Third entire year.😎😎. Every year my confidence grew. I was smart. Not just smart-but 4.0 smart, entering my Senior year. Then Covid started and I had to put college on hold. My husband treats me differently because now I KNOW I am none of the things he said-and I KNOW it. 😂😂. My three Sons are so proud of me, my husband is still totally a narcissist but he treats me better because I am the best supply he ever had. Once this Covid weirdness is over, I will go back for my final Senior year. Oh, I forgot to say what my Major is.😁😎. Can you guess WHY I did so well in college and was able to connect with the syllabus and class work SO well? Yes, my Major is in Behavioral Psychology. I have learned lovely lessons about Operant Behavior, Classical Conditioning, Stockholm Syndrome, and hundreds other terms I have experienced. Those classes were my therapy. We who have gone through narcissistic abuse have in a way been blessed-we are stronger psychologically and mentally than people who have only interacted with normal people. We have life lessons that can never be taught academically. We know these lessons in our SOUL. Thank you for your broadcasts from lovely Costa Rica. They are the highlights of my day until I can re-enter the classroom. Be blessed everyone. Better days are before us. 😁🥰
Thank you for sharing this beautiful message Julie 💯🙌🇨🇷🙏💯🙌
Totally amazing reading your story thankyou for sharing with us all Namaste what a strong and inspiring person you are we never too old to learn 🙏🙏🙏
Be blessed and continued success in college and many blessings to you
Thank you for sharing your story ❤️, I very recently discovered my husband of 15 years is a narcissist. I am so lost, angry especially at my parents as this was a non negotiable arranged marriage ( yeah those things still happened 15 years ago in my part of the world, I wasn’t pretty enough to have any say in the matter as the ugly duckling of the family). Anyway you may not even see this message as it’s an old video. I cannot afford therapy and am still trying to figure out what to do. So I am catching up on these videos. All the comments are from people who escaped or walked out. I still can’t. It’s going to be a long time before I manage to do it if at all. So hearing from someone who managed to be better and still had to stay in the relationship gives me so much hope u can’t even imagine. Thanku again hope u see my comment.
@Julie Anna. 1st CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU!!!👏👏
Super Proud of You!!! 2nd. ALL Perfectly said. . . Agreed!!✔♠💯💯
Wishing You The Very Best of Success, In Your Future Endeavors!!🌻💛🌻 Cheers!!
Sending . . .Peace, Love & Light!
Its insane to hear you speak my words.... once an empath wakes up, it becomes game over with narcs...
They can no longer hover because I now BLOCK THEM. No contact is much safer, even though i deal with feelings of guilt for "abandoning" them. But my mental health was being crushed. I've never KNOWN such pain. Thanks all y'all for BEING here. Praying for recovery for every one!!
Welcome 💪🙌💯
Hear you. I left five weeks ago feel lonely
@@franceshaggitt3104 I started calling him out on his thoughtless, inconsiderate actions and decision making and now I feel like the bully .I am just not going to take it any more ,the secret bank accounts and investments and purchases and never including me in the decisions and he doesn't see anything wrong with that .He said I knew you wouldn't approve so I didn't bring it up ,and we are talking about a lot of money. He doesn't need anyone's approval but his own. He thinks he is God. I told him I am going to get him a T-shirt that says " I am God - and I make all of the decisions ." That describes him to a tee. In my old age I have reached a point where "I am mad , and I am not going to take it anymore "
Same here 5 weeks over
I feel this as well …. Sooo thankful I got away life is so peaceful now . Sometimes I get “ bored” then quickly remember where I am now is what a prayed hard for once upon a time & now I have it ❤
Narcissism education allowed me closure to a horrific chapter in my life. So grateful for your help!
Welcome 🙏
I wonder how many of us always knew something was seriously ‘off’ for years but in addition to not knowing its name gave them supply rather than walking away
My guess is virtually all of us..💯🙏🙌😉
Agreed life lesson learned ✔️
I did
We are only 'responsible' for what we are aware of. Y💕
I think I would qualify this earlier comment as I think that if we do bad things, hurt people etc, then we still bear a degree of responsibility for the outcome even if the intention doesn't match the end result.
With awareness, however, we are wholly responsible and therefore obligated to take action. If we are on the receiving end of bad (particularly if malicious) treatment/abuse/narcissism I think the initial comment is more apt.
@@ThisIsMe155 Exactly that's why it's always so important to be kind to ourselves 💛
Everyone around me is a narc. I’ve stopped making friends and I’ve isolated myself away because I just seem to attract these people and I can’t keep coping putting myself through it - the drama, the gaslighting, the manipulation etc etc. I just can’t trust anyone so I’ve opted for loneliness instead 😖
Thank you for your videos. They’re invaluable 💞🙏💞🙏
Sad but true it's lonely at the top and most people are narcs lve been in a few narc relationships and they all attend the same school my mother is a narc my siblings even some of my children it is a contagious disease plagued with evil and wickedness the chosen must stay close and distance from the others
@@donna3510 .......so so true, ya even have doctors, dentist, mechanics, sales people, waitresses, nurses, you get the picture, almost more than half the world are ugly, evil people we deal with, disgusting! No empathy for anything!
Can totally relate! I've learnt though, its really important to heal becaise you deserve healthy happy relationships even it's with the few... So long as they're healthy. Ive just had the wool pulled from over with my mother for over 25 years and i took a break from her for 2 years she's recently unexpectedly resurfaced and i see her for EXACTLY what she is now that i was COMPLETELY blind to before (though i knew something was wrong) but spending this last year getting clear on myself and taking a step back and just observing without judging yourself because you dodnt know! Im sending love and light... I hope your healing completes x
Your not alone,but you still have your self .I only find like minded people like you on Ytube.
@@angelfirelite real vampires always love love
I would rather rebuild than be in their presence
Amen 🙏 💯🙌
This statement is 💯🎯 Moving forward in present is the path. Lock the door on the past and never look back🙏❤️🕊️
So true, they surround themselves with enablers and people who can offer them a fake facade.
The enablers actually scare me quite a bit.
Completely correct Pink Diamond 😉😉💯💯
Sadly I think we were all enablers throughout the relationship. It all goes to that codependent role of trying to rescue protect and fix them. Its definitely a hard thing to admit but by doing everything for them we in a sense gave them permission to do whatever they wanted and we let them get away with it. Those days are definitely done. Once you see these things you cant unsee them. At that point we have a choice to educate, self heal and move forward or get stuck in repeating the old bad patterns of the past and doing nothing. I Chose to move forward and I have been proud of that decision ever since 💯 🙏💪🕊️✨
@@ammj6202 they should. they are the equivalent of Scar & its hyena henchmen from the Lion King. they WILL take you out. vultures hang together for a reason, & their feathers are tar because they reflect the heat of h3ll 🔥
Codependents, empaths, and enablers are who they are attracted to. I see many narcissists in CEO/leadership positions too because they are drawn to control, greed, image, attention, and power.
The trauma bond was the most difficult experience I'd ever had. I was destroyed but realize now it had to come to that so the healing could begin. Thank you for educating us.
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"They need to very special each and everyday. Each and every HOUR."
Absolutely. My god. I'd be compassionate, caring, empathetic, give compliments, reassure, talk about the future, make plans etc etc. I was being as kind and giving as I could and wasted it on the wrong person. It's so shitty, but thankfully only 7 months of my life. I'm out.
Thank you for your videos. They and the comments are so reassuring. So sorry so many have experienced narcissism, too. Wishing everyone peace and happiness.
That's exactly how it happened. It took me 60 years to have my eyes opened. GAME OVER!!!!
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Growth comes best through suffering. I value all the life lessons that has led me to present. Once I had the lightbulb moment all the brokenness and confusion of 60 years made complete sense. Then the internal work started. 3 years later, my path and purpose are clear.
Thank you! 🙏
Focusing on Spirit, Truth and seeing the world as it is shining the light brightly in the darkness.
Silence helps but it’s also important to remember that in those moments of silence when we might start to feel sorry for how unhappy the narcissist is; that it’s not our responsibility to “fix” them. No one can
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Thanks Andrew. I should add that for anyone going through legal proceedings; it’s important to keep quiet and observe where possible in order to gather evidence of their unlawful course of misconduct.
They will use your empathy and sympathy against you, beware !!
Hundred percent- yup.
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It really is soul destroying ... what sort of support network do you have?
When they know you know, you get “dust-busters” not “Hoovers”. You get the 3am phone calls or the super random reach outs just to see if the water is a bit safe. Never respond! You’re sooo much better when they think or know you really get the game.
Mine text at 3:55 lol
Absolutely correct Sean..💯🙌💪
So true i feel 16 again XD in my 30s :P just to see not much is changed :D
I absolutely love this visual in the first line of this comment about when they know you know you get a dust buster instead of a Hoover. That totally made me laugh 😊😂. Thank you💛 It's been a long work day and comment definitely made me smile.
Sean ..I have a sister who does this. The problem is I responded.
You are sent from heaven, Andrew. Sending you lots of love.
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Thank you for my light bulb moment. I’m cancer free for 5 months now. A 170 lb tumor gone from my heart
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They are must worse than cancer!
I love the cockroach analogy! You're right, I'm relieved to know that I was not imagining things but totally disgusted that someone could be so calculatingly evil.
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Yes, they are Evil 😈
Yes. I used that analogy many times. When you shine your Light, the cockroaches scatter
Yes they are devils, dead souls .
The cockroach analogy - WOW!!!!! I experienced this recently as I became completely silent towards my ex for about a month and a half now. During the divorce process she is still in the house and we ended up in the kitchen together and when she saw me I stood my ground not leaving and she left immediately! Just like a roach when you hit the light! I have not stopped using my confidence and light since to maintain silence and its working like a charm! Now I read this roach analogy today (a week after my kitchen experience) and it was such a perfect description to what I felt in the kitchen! They know when you unmask them, Andrew was dead on with this and I am so happy that both you and I discovered these videos!!! And yes I have been for a while simply disgusted of my ex and the years she got me trapped with her manipulation. Silence is truly the key in ending a chapter with a Narc. After all, we are the light and the greater human being!
Once they know you know, they will disappear as they will see you are very strong and that they will be rejected. So they rather find a new supply than to battle with your strength. But they will test from time to time just to see if you will let them back in. This has been my experience after over 50 hoovers after the break up within 4 years.
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Love!! this I just had a man who was telling me he didn’t love me and nobody ever would and I was worthless I went no contact for a year and he was making fake accounts and stalking and I never went into his accounts at all. It was so confusing that he was so abusive to me but still wanted to know my every move: I’ve never told anyone in their life they weren’t worthy of love. It really hurt me to hear this from someone.
It was the most painful relationship I’ve ever been in
50 times hoovered is something! You should have an award🥇God bless your fortitude. I always wondered if hoovers would make me stronger but even after knowing my ex had a mixture of cluster b traits and I knew what she was doing to me didn’t make it easier. Called me unlovable too (from another comment) which still hurts but I know it was her way of admitting that she is incapable of love and just projected that lie. Solidifying my truth by being hoovered 3 or 4 times thus far. I know I have always fought for myself and stood firm in my truth and protected my boundaries after knowing her narcissistic ways.
@@Jerry-rl5es these demons are not even worth the energy or time to answer a hoover. I consider them toxic trash. Better they stay gone.
My daughter was in a toxic marriage with a narcissist - she finally had that “light bulb” moment and is now free from him. Happy to say she is now thriving, returning to her nursing education goals, and getting back to being her wonderful self!!! I’m so happy for her. I just wish her enlightenment would have come sooner. These are most certainly dangerous people!!!
You are such a sweet mom. She is blessed.
I am 58 and have recently discovered what a narcissist was as a friend I thought I meet at work and went out of my way to help them and discovered what she was and did very narsty person and have learned a lot of what they do
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Your comment is a 💯 As a person of faith in this community did you ever experience such an unexpected sign in your morning where you really have to take major pause and say there truly are no coincidences in life? Do you believe God uses some people as vessels to get his messages across to provide clarity of his unfolding plan? 😇
Yes I have
@@rockboomhower9564 Somehow it always takes me by surprise. It's just truly unbelievable. I had 3 today pretty much within a hour. 😇🙏💯
Too many people get a lightbulb moment of "Ahh,this person I'm dealing with is a narcissist" & then they proceed to tell the narcissist every reason in the book why they no longer want them in their life.It's best to stealthily & clandestinely leave the narcissist & go no contact that way, because even with conclusive proof a narcissist will NEVER EVER admit to being toxic & will actually use the opportunity of being confronted to inflict more injury to insult.
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And, they will most likely twist your insight and call you the narcissist. These people have been perfecting manipulation since childhood, and without empathy, they will stoop to any level to tear you down. True evil...better to disappear and give them no more opportunity.
Alternative,is report,but no direct contacts whatsoever. Give to God.
I actually had to fight the extraction with my narc sister because she just would not accept the fact I wanted nothing more to do with her despite my being verbally blunt about it,,,and changing my phone numbers etc...after 2 years of attempted untanglement I finally wrote her a letter, spelling it out extremely mean and nasty, along with our states law on abuse, stalking and fraud...ended it with...please continue with your stupid irrational attempt to get me back into your clutches, it won't work as I am prepared to file a harassment suite against you and take you for every monetary value you have,,, name being, your house, vehicle.....I sent it certified signed letter....years later she's hauled into court as her husband was arrested for child molestation and I got called into court, her son who's daughter was the one that got molested by her husband tells me he was there when my letter arrived and she still didn't understand it, her son, my nephew had to explain it to her.....yes her husband was found quilty, spent 5 yrs in jail, and she is still with him...narcissism just breeds evilness...
Yes needs to be taught in high school. But no one understands it unless you went through it. I am a HS teacher and we actually discussed this one day in class and teens are slowly becoming aware and one young lady following Lee Hammock. It was a Wow cool moment that a 15 year old is recognizing this and talking about it. A huge step for the younger generation.
This is so enlightening.. thank you sincerely for sharing this insight 🙌🙏💯💯
I agree with what you say that there needs to be more awareness especially at that tender age. On a personal note that might help a young person that has grown up with a narc parent or relative before they enter into their own committed relationship. It's about having tools of prevention, because once you're in it, the fog is overwhelming. I've always believed that there should be a required class in communication in general. The other thing that is slightly off topic is that having a required class about managing basic finances could be helpful. These are life saving tools that should be taught right at the junior high level. I think many people just don't know how to express their feelings in a way that society deems acceptable. If people could understand the basic equation of communication and try to practice it, hopefully that could help them learn to keep boundaries.
Thank you!! I was 15 also when my world turned upside down. Would have saved 36 years of utter confusion and oceans of tears and years of dysfunctional relationships if anyone understood what was happening and could have offered education/support. I am sooooo glad this is a conversation in school - I am trying to find a way to educate my 13 year old without throwing her family under the bus as her father has some strong narc traits. Challenging to present a highly charged topic neutrally...
The fact that you're a teacher who is aware of this is fucking awesome
Watch 2 & 1/2 Men for training 😂
I was in a nightmare, dreaming with hope. I’m waking up to heal. 💤☀️❤️
I'm in the healing process. I'm better now. It's been 8 months since we're apart.
Every topic you raise is so captivating!!!!!!!Narcs are very needy and boring….
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Boring Yes! Thanks for the Chuckle
Yes! Please do a video on the "Secrets the Narcissist Keeps". That has to be one of the most horrible aspects of the narcissist's personality. Especially their lies of omission. They cannot be trusted!
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Yes the lies and deceit is truly shocking.
Yes, he would just say, "I can't give you an answer because I don't know." The day I called him out on his lies was the day he discarded me.
Holy moly....yes, lies of omission. How many times have I called him a liar to his face. He doesn't even blink.
My mother died with the her lies of omission. I believe I have/had a half sibling. She denied but the evidence is very strong. I would have been thrilled to be told I had a half sibling. Instead, everything was a 'secret' and the shame that she carried but would not explain was projected on to me and I was abused and neglected. Even accused me of sleeping with my boyfriend and I never did. I was made a scapegoat to carry her shame.
Mine wanted to stay up until 6 am on Friday and Saturday nights wasting most of the night engrossed in word salad. In hindsight I think he just wanted to deprive me of sleep.
Always manipulative.. always..🙏🙌😉😉
They love to exhaust their victims in arguments that go nowhere.
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Yes, wow….profoundly true.😌
Yep. Sleep heals your brain. Sleep deprivation is their favorite tactic of destruction
I am a narc survivor!!! Glory to God!!!!!
I am proud to be an empathetic person because we are trully social beings and we need each other to live in this (bad) world.
Best wishes from Brazil!
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God bless! We're all brothers and sisters love eachother. 🙏 ☯
It took me until my 50s to understand the narcissism in my family of origin. Now I know it was not about me at all. No need to go back to the source of pain. Free at last!
Beautiful John..🙏🙌💯
My mother was the narcissist I had to deal with. I was always afraid. I would actually pass out from anxiety and fear. Thank you for your channel.♡
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Cant totally relatw as a kid i lived in axiety and stress pretty sure it caused a disease im fighting through. Couldbt talk to ANYONE and thought i was crazy because no one else could see it, thinking im the problem damn near my whole. But now i feel like a spell is broken as are the psychological chains. Oh and if you need a pick-me-up, I'm here... I've healed and on the other side. Super excited to live MY life of freedom now
@@mindblownwhattheydidntteachyou Thank you for your reply. I am having to be her caretaker now and I am trying not to let memories come back to my mind. It helps so much knowing that I am not crazy and other people have been through the same experience.
My so called Halfling parents were vicious NARCISSIST'S. They are both passed, I understand that they were abusers and from the Dark Side. I am very grateful to be walking with Jesus, for 35 yrs. He is the ultimate NARC.SLAYER. or I definitely would not have survived my childhood.
@@vickipacheco9787 I can identify with you and MindBlown. I forgave my mother and returned to help her several times only to subject myself to her viciousness. I had just exited a thirty year marriage after being assaulted. I arrived in need of emergency surgery (four level cervical fusion with grafts and hardware) and she had me at my most vulnerable. I laid in ICU for three days and she didn’t even call to check on me, nor stop in to see me and the hospital was right down the hill.
When I was discharged, I wasn’t sent to a TCU or rehab because I was considered a high risk of contracting MRSA with the size of my incision. I was sent home and she stepped up the abuse with the silent treatment. That alienation extended to my two dogs.
Then, just when I started healing she began calling the sheriff’s department multiple times alleging abuse. As a former healthcare provider and mandated abuse reporter it was ludicrous to think she would think that would have ever held up, but it was devastating and I felt totally defenseless and freaked out at the same time. She was cunning, but I believe all parties saw through her act.
My faith has gotten me through over and over. At one of my darkest periods a girlfriend sent me a TH-cam link to Casting Crowns, “I Will Praise You In This Storm” and it was the best gift. I’m the youngest and for some reason I was considered her favorite child, but what that meant was that I took most of her abuse because I was like her little pet. She not only took me everywhere, she used me as a mirror growing up. That’s the tip of the iceberg, but in spite of all the hatefulness, she never prevailed. I don’t know why her hatred ran so deep.
I remember arriving here in need of medical treatment and she said, “It’s too bad it took you thirty years to wake up!” I was stunned and speechless. I wanted to say, “You trained me well,” but I said nothing. She finally left after destroying vital documents and personal possessions that were needed such as my prescription glasses.
If she called me tomorrow for help, I’d let it go to vm. If I was her only option, I’d arrange for needs and services, but I would never grant her access to my heart and mind, nor would I allow myself to be in her physical presence ever again. I believe the Lord has given me the ability to forgive. There are many avenues of faith as well as spiritual paths, but I know the Holy Spirit has moved me through all the storms. 🕊
It is awkward when that happens - standing there with them.. It is strange ... PLEASE don't ever underestimate what they will do. Evil deserves no trust and they are not bound by any limits of their actions. Normal people have limits - they do not !
Thank you for sharing this insight Eric..🙌🙏💯
agreed. Especially hard refusing to believe it when it’s family. Cuz an entire life of being just a tool to use and not care about, formed me to thinking that if i actually DONT want to be his servant and do something (it always starts “i need you to...”, it never was “can you help me and drop by please?”, ) it doesn’t mean i’m a “bad spawn”
The more i stopped tolerating or ignoring such flags, the more historical rewriting he did to cover all that narc exhibition of his. He even tried pretending he never said it that way, right after i called him out on it with “well how about you ask for my help for once, instead of state it like i have no choice”. Mere mins earlier... and he tried lying his way out of it like he didn’t just do it.
that got me rethinking every conflict over the years, manipulating mind games, the fake narratives, the way i was treated, the perma expectations, and it all crumbled. OH HE KNOWES I KNOW NOW, and still he tries now and then to goad connive or bribe something out of me.
I’m fair and polite but by no means have any urgency to pander and race to answer any email or phone call now. He deserves NO response the rest of his life actually, but i’m not cold to his level of evil.
I’m fine with no connection really, even with him being the last of family alive. I’ve got lots of practice not having a father already.
Narcissists are junior psychopaths…now imagine being raised by one and thinking that shit is normal. It happens more than you think.
One is a narc psychopath and the other one isn’t in my case😊
You, Andrew, are spot on to a TEE. It took me 55 years to figure out what the hell is wrong with my dad... Crushing, crushing, devastatingly sad.
Coleta.. you are amazing and loved.. thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌😉💯💯
Sorry to hear 😔💔 I had to find out my sister & a friend of mine are. You try and get burned in the end. Gotta move on!
@@JNYC212 Keep going...Make sure you are 'moving on' towards greater health and greater happiness though.
So sad to hear that, Coleta 😓. You are part of a community of survivors on here, some whose lives have been impacted to a catastrophic degree. At least you know the kind of 'beast' you are dealing with now. Thoughts and Prayers To You, Coleta. May God Bless You (Us) All! ❤️
Same with me Coleta. As a teen, I immersed myself in books, articles, and videos trying to understand my father's horribly damaging behavior. I think us empaths and very caring giving people are prey to narcissists.
The cockroach analogy 💜 Andrew, you speak fluidly from the heart. I am sorry you knew a narc but it became your calling to educate us - this beautiful community x
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So empowering when I look him straight into his empty eyes and say ever so softly but definitively, “I see you. I know who you are. There’s no turning back.” Am I risking a rage? Of course. Do I give a shit after all these years? Not one bit. It’s so epic!! 💪👊
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Wow. Yes. I did that once and he left the house immediately - it was really crazy
I did the same I said to him you might have one this fight BUT YOU WON'T WIN THE WAR ....
This is exactly 💯 me today ! I feel such relief. Thanks you for this I've been dealing with this all my life and I just this last year has the realizion has some kind of mental problems emotional problem's insecurity issues and just the dynamics of our sibling relationship but I know this person have all my life and I know this person doesn't suffer from any of this what so ever and I have been nothing but good to her.The ironic part of the relationship / as wierd of one as it's been I've never known it to be any other way gets wierder even.in the fact that the narracasistic person was the very first person I ever heard use the term narrcasist , and she said it start to describe her ex and she was all crying with no tears and her face was red like she had been just sobbing her eye's out. Which she wasn't and she hadn't been her eye's ,.. and cheeks were dry as bone she was just doing her manipulative way of doing thing's trying to play with me and my emotions and what she basically what I think. She had just told me that her ex was a........ Narracasistic S.O.B. and I was like he's a what? I had never heard the term narrcasist, if I ever had I had no knowledge of hearing the term being used to describe someone I know or in my circle of friend's and family I have.anyhow I was instantly interested in what narrcasist meant. I didn't know what she was talking about.. So I asked her what the heck does that mean ? What do you mean ............ Is a narrcasist ? All the sudden she sat up straight face seemed to go a little bit white I think 😊 and now that I asked about it... It was just... Oh it's just me and........ haven hard times. Now after just getting ready to tell me all about it. But because I turned around and asked like specially what it meant...she didn't want answer.she didn't want to explain it to me all the sudden. And she knew she had just messed up. I didn't know yet just what she done but I soon would and she knew it.
Just laugh about it.
I have written on the wall in my hall "A Narcissists last smirk" 😁
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When you know, every little action tells them you know!
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It's so crazy how sensitive they are to their charade being found out, probably because they spend so much attention keeping up the act.
She knew I knew when I asked her. Way before I knew what that really, really meant. There wasn't any argument about it. No rage. No blame shifting. Stunned perhaps. Free ride is over shock. Just the question "aren't you going to fight for me" ? Hell no. Wouldn't that be delicious supply. Its just more triangulation. My hindsight advice is if you are ready to pop the question "Are you a narcissist" ? Don't bother, you already know. Its over. The end. If you stick it out you will be tortured twice as bad. Guaranteed.
Thank you for sharing this Brad.. excellent insight 🙌🙏💪🙏💯💯
Game over.... Move on... have a nice life. That's it....you know and they know enough said. Great comment spot on🎯💪💪💪
Agree, celibacy helps
Narcissists are very afraid to be exposed . If you know the narcissist´s tricks, they not longer can play the narcissistic rage wheel with you, so they lose their "emotional punching bag." After you have raised your level of positive energy through self care, the narcissist will in very sneaky fashion try to drain you again with their negativity , word salads and pessimism .
Beautiful insight Maria.. thank you 💯🙏🙌
Thanks haha I have just begun the empowerment of silence and a "whatever attitude" towards my wife since a couple of weeks now and I will think about what she says as world salads...great name 🤣. It can still hurt if I care about what she says but knowing now it's a game and that she is most likely a narcissist her bad words just falls off of me like water on a goose. I believe it looks like she is starting to figure out that I know what she is doing and that she can't control me anymore.
@@praeparatus_supervivet , yes narcissists will notice quickly, that you have figured them out and will start seeking new supply immediately - probably following their narcissistic instinct. They are disturbed about your new found independence and increased emotional strength. Still, if you are dealing with a pathological narc the relationship will stay limited (no trust is most problematic for me) and you will have to learn to accept that.
@@mariaawake4502yeah if I refused something (usually money related or buy something) then she acted like a child and gave me the silent/cold treatment. I always succumbed to it in the end being the very agreeable person that I am I just couldn't stand it if people close to me doesn't like me. I was always the one trying to make peace either later the same day or the day after. After I found these videos I realized she is a narcissist and since then I confronted her and she said she has no physical attraction for me but likes what's inside my heart she said she lost the passion already after he first year. Thanks for letting me know 8 years later!?. Sure we stopped having sex early but still kissed and hugged. Then when we wanted a baby and tried to get help they said she is a bit to thin. I played computer games and she found a game also that she got addicted to. I got overweight and then the pandemic came. We just never were compatible. I should have divorced her earlier. One year separate due to pandemic and she came back seemingly no interest in showing intimate emotions and that's when I confronted her and she told me I'm more of a brother to her and that thing about lost passion. She has never been interested in western culture or food like Christmas and since she came back in November she just play that game all days. I sat all alone during Christmas and new year in the sofa watching TV or movies. She never cared much for what I want or my interests during the years and rarely gave me a birthday present worth remembering. Only 2 pictures of us together in her 1000 picture Instagram during all the years. About 100 with friends. I wanted to restart the relationship and I wanted to pick up the sex when she came back. I said maybe we should have a dog and she said then maybe she can get closer to me because everything else is boring like watching movies together. She watches movies and funny videos herself though in her own language. She never really took initiative to do things together during the years and I always felt that it was a struggle too please he. I couldn't make any jokes with her like I do when commenting things online or with my coworkers. Either she didn't listen or didn't understand or just plainly said she doesn't care even if I shared something interesting I wanted two tell her. Still after she came back in November one year separate during pandemic I have to admit that I think we both didn't miss each other. She said she wants to live as friends i think she was referring to a non-sexual "relationship" but still that doesnt atop her from showing intimate emotions like hugs our kisses but I had two telling her that and it's like she tried too give me that then only because I told her. But as friends goes she is usually very short to me when we talk and we have nothing to talk about naturally be she spends all time playing that game. Usually she is just complaining about things or give me sarcastic responses then we have the days where she seems nice and she gives me a kiss or hug like she is building update forward getting me in town a goods mood. Then comes the question when I can buy the dog or that I must send her sister money to pay for the bank loans for her apartment in her home country. So she plays me and think that I will be an ATM machine even now after she has told me she doesn't love me like like a lover. We have nothing in common and we don't have sex so there is no reason at all to stay together. It was always about her the while time.
Hahaha 🤣 word salads
Always At You, never, With You.
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Amazing video. I educate my 13 year old on narcissism. I feel this should be taught in school.
Agree completely Cookie..🙌💯🙌
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Our public education industry breeds narssisim with shame and demanding conformity.
I agree Andrew. Once you know don't do anything and don't look back. It gives us our power back to move onto the healing path. In this case the best response is no response.
I so agree. At least you will survive
Thank you Heather 🙏🙌💪💯💪
Absolutely, because any response would be a waste of energy, waste of time and a waste of more of your life.
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Greetings from London! Andrew thank you so much mate. I can tell how much of a good person you are! These videos are helping me big time, and I appreciate the knowledge you are giving to us! Knowledge is freedom Thank you
Problem is, I only had one Son and he turned out to be a Narcissist. At 37 years old he finally showed his true core. I called him on it and haven't spoken with him for over 3 years. I am 69 years old and only have my brother's and sister left. Lost my only child but I had to draw the line. Total lack of respect is a game changer.
Thank you for sharing this Richard.. you are amazing and loved.. sending prayers and positive energy 🙏🙌💯🙏
Just love him from afar, and then get on with your life. If he does not appreciate you. It's the only thing that you can do.
Perhaps it’ll hit him after you’re gone beyond. I always appreciated my parents and thanked them for their sacrifices but wish they were here to express it a million times more. I didn’t grow up in a lovey, touchy all hugs family. I thought my mother was cold and my family lightened up from the John Wayne type to being vocal and giving me an occasional buss when he was quite elderly. It was the men don’t hug family decades ago. I know this varies from culture to culture.
@@OSTARAEB4 Be to late then, I'll be in spirit form talking in his ear. I'll scare the crap out of him, I'll tell him I am God! lol
@@Drumbeat52 welp i need a dad
Its the silence that holds high power against a narcissist. Eventually the mask comes off and their true face and character reveals itself. Prayers for those lost, hoping they’ll find there way back
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Yes, it was a light bulb 💡 moment for me! I did so much for 3 years! I did the things I wouldn’t have done for anyone! I wasn’t myself.. he turned me into his puppet! I am happy he’s not in my life anymore.. but the trauma is still there.. I am still mad I allowed him to treat me this way!
You are amazing and loved Gunja.. always 🙏🙌💯😊
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thanks to you for making us believe in ourselves again! Letting us know that we were not crazy! It’s only in here I feel like I am being listened and my feelings are valid!
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Speak to your friends
@ Gunja, thank you for sharing, what you said is the very thing I could not admit to my self.
Thanks so much Andrew for enlightening people. I am 8 years out from my discard. It’s been a long road of healing and hope. No contact would be my best advice. They are truly evil in every sense of the word. I now call myself a survivor of Narc abuse. I wouldn’t wish this pain and grief on anyone. Move forward and Never look back! Continue your path to heal 💔
I feel ya :D stay positive i start to beleave 74 % is good :) :P just for the record!
Beautiful growth Paula 🙏🙌💯🙌🙏
Great advice well said!!!💛💪🙏
@Paula G. 🌻🌻 I'm Right With You!! Move On and Don't Look Back !!✔♠💯💯 Blessings!!💛
It’s absolutely a lightbulb, eureka type of moment. I just escaped a terrible narcissist a couple months ago with God’s help and because I knew one thing: my life had become radically worse because of them. I saw that starting with my daughter, too, and that’s when I decided I HAD to go.
But I saw a little meme that said: “A narcissist cares so much about what a stranger thinks, but treats those they claim to love like monsters.” That hit home and made me start to look up the true meaning of “narcissist.” Lo and behold, it’s a complete personality type that is nothing short of pure evil. As a empath, I was horribly mistreated. I praise Christ for waking me up, getting me out, and providing me with answers through videos like this. Not only will I never fall for it again, but I may just be able to help save someone from the nightmare. Thanks for your help!
*an empath
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My mom is a narcissist which taught me to accept that type of “love”. I fell into a relationship with one and just got out of it after almost 3 years together and being cheated on/emotionally abused. Videos like this help me a lot and give me hope after years of being manipulated.
Snap! Absolutely wild... Vindicating and eyewidening stuff. Sucks when its your parent
My mom too
@@laughteraddict1003 My Mama too! Growing up I always thought what was wrong with her. She actually laughed at me when I cried.
It'd so hard to understand being an empath how someone can treat someone so horribly! Such evil vile and mean people! So grateful im not like that!
@@sajor1847 me too
My wife out of the blue mentioned a few weeks back that I was a Narcissist so I obviously looked it up on many videos
and I couldn't believe that it describes her totally. I should have listened to her when she told me in the very beginning that she tends to try and push people away! so the light bulb is like a spotlight now. Thanks for your channel.
Welcome always 😉😉💯💯
Narcissistic people tend to be attracted to each other. At times one of the partners is covertly narcissistic and their neediness and abuse is well hidden. Their need does not take from others as much as the overt narcissistic person does instead they excessively give and often become the doormat in the relationship. It may be that your wife recognizes what she can't see about herself.
Good grief 🤦♀️
Sounds familiar
It took me 47 years to figure out what narcissism was and, yes, once I figured it out, I realized I was surrounded by them and that being around them exacerbated my own narcissism. Now I know that the shot of adrenaline I feel when I get around certain people is my body's warning signal. I don't ignore that anymore. If people flatter me or refuse to let me pay for things, that's another indication. Anytime the term "soul mate" is banded around, I know the relationship is nonsense. After I figured out what narcissism is, I put the brakes on several life long friendships. It's been almost 2 years, and the hoovers and stalking behavior I've seen from these people prove that I was right. I'm still emerging from the fog, but I'm a lot happier.
Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙌
indeed, ty
I go red in the face or pull odd faces anytime I’m around a narc. My warning sign. Look like I’m having a stroke and just get away from them.
Yes!! The warning signal is real over here. I used to trust my gut reaction about people but I became to complacent somehow. I’m going back. My gut never failed me before.
I discovered
Discarded 8 months ago by a covert. Took 2 months for the lightbulb to go off. Been in abusive narcissistic relationships all my life, starting with my father who is overt. Mind blown. Finally had a label for these people's behaviour and insight into my own. 51 years old and deep onto my healing path now that I understand what the heck has been happening. Watching tons of videos like these and want to say that this one is 100 percent bang on. I strongly resonate with every one of these points. Thank you everyone for sharing - sad to say you are all my peeps - wish we were connected on a happier note but maybe I can look at it that we are all loving ourselves, taking care of ourselves and learning how to stay open yet protected against the abusers. Wishing everyone a speedy recovery and an end to victimhood ❤
Education is the key to protecting yourself from ever getting involved in one of these Narscistic abusive relationships in the future. 💪💪💪
Thank you Heidi.. sending you positive energy and healing.. you are amazing and loved.. 🙏🙌🙏💯💯😊
Yes I’m your age and discovered the same thing. Almost all prior and current relationship were with a narc. I use to wonder what I did wrong. I’m woke now and so thankful to my Lord and Savior for keeping me and my kid safe and for healing. Many thanks to these channels with info and all of you for sharing your stories!
@@beencouraged4163 God listens and answers our prayers. Continue to pray as you move forward along your healing path and you will find the strength and peace you need to continue to move forward.🙏💪🕊️
Discarded? Was the garbage taking the garbage out! I saw that in a comment. A gift! 🎁
The relief is indescribable!!! 🌈🌸💖
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My husband walked out and left without a word 3 years ago. The term "ghosting" is what he did, I didn't even know this stuff had names. I knew something was funky about him. This is all I did, seriously, I typed into Google search engine: "Husband walked out without a word". I must've gotten hundreds of thousands of hits immediately and all about one thing: Narcissistic abuse. I started watching videos and they were so accurate about his behaviors, it was scary. It was as if these people on the videos knew my husband personally. It was no doubt a very strange feeling at first, though it was also a relief to finally get answers. These creators and their videos have been life saving for so many people! Thanks for all you do!
Welcome 🙌🙏💯☀️
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thank you 🙏 😊
I’ve been no contact for over 2 months now! The tidal waves of emotion come and go from anger to sadness to being stunned at all that went on under my nose without me knowing it. I am so thankful for your videos Andrew! Ive learned so much and when I begin to have any self doubt, I watch your videos! You are a genuine blessing to this community and I’m so grateful to you!! Thank you!! 😊
Welcome Kimberly 🙌💯🙏💪
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you!!!
Yes, isn't amazing that we didn't know what was going on in front of us? We could not imagine
how such a human being could be so cruel, hurtful & EVIL to our beautiful souls♥️
I can relate to where you are Kimberly. I’m grateful for being able to have these emotions. The trauma bond is breaking… freedom to “be” isn’t far away. ♥️
I am 63, married to a narcissist for 33, as I just became aware of, for the past 9 months I've had this cathartic experience, I started feeling confused about being in this marriage, 50% of me wants to stay and the other 50% wants to leave. I felt that I want to claim myself back even if it is for the last few years of my life. I even fantasize about having my maiden name back as a symbol of my new freedom. My husband was always nice and mellow but he cheated on me a handful of times (that I know of), he always isolated me from his aquaintences or friends, I found this odd, now I know that is something they do, having compartments or group bubbles, I think he did this to keep his supply of women available, he did not want to show them that he was a committed family man. I am an attractive woman, on the slender side, intelligent, hard working, good mother and homemaker but he never seemed to appreciate me a 100%, I even wonder if he ever truly loved me . We separated a few years ago for 5 years and got back together about 4 years ago. I had become distant with him because of his cheating and one day he said he was leaving because we had lost al ok communication and I did not love him anymore...but guess what? Shortly I found out he was going out with this woman that is pretends to be a fine woman but is nothing but a promiscuous slut and a full blown narcissist addicted to plastic surgery. He thought he had hit the jack pot, but later on he found out what kind of woman she was, she cheated on him with more that one guy, and to his embarrassment and humiliation this was made public among his circle. When he was going out with her, they were both posting pictures in FB of their outings and romance, something he never did with me. Now life is passing the bill to him for all the hurt he caused me, that man that was so strong and handsome is having very serious health problems, I don't any woman would now even give him the time of day.
Abouut 8 years ago, I just made the decision that ANYONE who messes with my peace of mind and constantly caused stress in my life, I just let them go and pretended they died! It was the best decision I made in my life!! And it totally changed my life for the positive too!! I can't even express the peace, tranquility, and contentness that is my life now!!! But making that deciision is so hard for most people!
Doesn’t it work to think about them being dead
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Thank you again! Blessings!
I never imagined these creeps existed, I was confused, knew something really off was happening to me, I became aloof unlike me, I was forgetting I had friends or family, I was in a different world, I had sleepless nights and the list goes on, I just found myself crying constantly and I knew I had to figure out what was going on, so I started searching and thank God I came up on this channel, the education here is priceless and now I'm doing so much better, I just walked away nothing said,ILL BE FIREVER GRATEFULL TO YOU ANDREW, GOD BLESS❤️❤️💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Welcome Always Monica.. ❤️🙌🙏💯🙏🙌
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That is me too exactly.
I didn’t figure out who he was until a year ago. He was acting like he was single when married for 19 years! I always thought there was something off and couldn’t put my finger on it! I literally investigated him and boom figured out who he was! He has been out the house for 4 month my choice. Wow! Now starting to heal!!! The toxic energy is out my house! I am so glad I found this channel. Such a blessing!! Every topic is so on point!!! Have a great day!!!
@@wendyperalta3300 Blessings and love on your healing journey, you are phenomenal, rare and very special 💪❤️❤️
I don't want to hurt him , I am able to care without caring because all he most likely wants is just a friend and caretaker. Remove the emotional attachment trauma bondage , start with celibacy, it helps develop control over your reaction, and gives you the ability to manage the situation. EXCELLENT example with the water on the witch!!!
Thank you for sharing this Katy..💯🙏🙌
@@lj2943 cremation of care is part of the bohemian Grove ceremonies for the elite
Ding ding ! Andrew my ex narcissist had relatives that were no longer speaking to him and his mother and father were not interested . I noticed he had no real close friends, he called me his best friend . That’s what made me feel sorry for him but now I know why . He has and will wrong everyone that’s what he does best . So sad, I thought everyone wanted to be loved but a narcissist wants your mind soul and heart to discard .
Yes the more I knew the more he started staying away . I will not confront him about anything ever again it will only end up in lies and deny .. i’m still in no contact mode . Good post Andrew ..
Thank you Vicky 🙏🙌💯
Righteous.... the souls... and the soulless who attack them...
I haven’t seen my brother in 30 years. Thank God!
Once they know you’ve figured them out, everything starts to change. Once my narcissistic new I had had a light bulb moment he was gone. It’s like they suddenly become the comic book villain and you’ve become the goodie who holds the keys to the happy ending and they turn and run in the other direction. Which is good news! Even though it takes time to know it. Very powerful stuff! Thank you Andrew 💙🙏
Welcome Polly 🙌💯🙏💪
Same, once he figured out I knew, he was gone
Comic book villain - perfect 🥰
Yes that’s exactly it! Once you show them their patterns and confront them. Booom! They are gone LOl 😂
Yes crazy psychos!!!! I remember I called out my narc ex wife and told her she's a narcissist to her face 3x and she kept denying it and then she turned and looked at me and her eyes turned dark and evil and she got up and started blocking the door so that I couldn't walk through and then she disappeared for 4 days and sent me this longgggg text message about leaving and I was soo happyyyy that I got what I asked for!!!!
Your right, I had no clue what was going on!! I thought & felt I was crazy, if I just tried harder this would work. After 40+ years I finally woke up & got out. Praise God!! Looking back, all your saying was my life. So grateful!! Thank you!!
Welcome Carla..🙌💯🙏
36 years and 2 kids…on and off…UNBELIEVABLE BUT GOD IS STRONGER THAN THE DEVIL!! FREE AT LAST!!!
@@reginacambrelen4725 i was 7 years or 8 and she was an absulute crazy
@@reginacambrelen4725 are they putting the kids against you
@@Play-jv3oi At least you got out without thinking that things will get better and wasting more years of your life. Having kids with these kind of creatures before finding out what you’re really dealing with is a nightmare, far beyond anything you could imagine. God bless you for choosing your sanity.
When they know you know they leave cowards lying constantly
Thank you Andrew ❤️ for your content. I now have 15 day's of no contact and moving quite well on my healing path. I did some self-care today went to the mall and did some shopping. Very peaceful day. I'll continue to educate myself through your videos.
Wish you the best :) greetings from a other beleaver XD
Beautiful empowerment Chris.. I am grateful you can reply again 😉😉🙌💪😊💯
It has been almost 5 months since I was discarded, because he realized I had caught on. I have been no contact since. I never heard of narcissism, before. I am 61 yo and learning so much from you and others. What a roller-coaster ride I was on. I am praying that I will never end up in another relationship like that again, very painful and degrading. I agree this behavior needs to be taught to all, especially high school students. Thank you for all you do. You are appreciated!
Thank you for sharing this Debra..💯😊🙏
For all my people who fought there way through narcissism. Raise her hand in the air and wave in the air like you just don’t care. Whoop whoop 🙌 ♥️
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Lol....
@@maryseokley6061 It can eventually 💛
@@maryseokley6061 The thing is..they never change. It is you who changes. 🙂
The narcissistic lack of self-awareness going on here is MIND-BOGGLING.
All victims in despair, Strut your butt, And raise your victory in the air,
Exactly like a narcissist would.
🎉 yes and thankyou . You changed my life 🎉
Welcome 🙌😊🙏
Once I know it, I can’t un-know it ❤thank you Andrew 😊
Welcome 🙏
Spot on as usual Andrew!
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I did figure that my ex was completely rotton all by myself but, I didn't know what a narsscasist was until the bitter end until someone offered me an explanation and I embraced this revelation as a way forward because I could now begin to make sense of what I had been involved in and no longer felt isolated in a tangled web of events.Thank you for your dedication in helping so many people.
Welcome Jean..always 💯🙌💪😉
It’s always in the end everything starts clicking! We connect the dots and we can actually see everything throughout them without rose colored glasses! I hate to be at this place but you are not alone! 😊
Amen on teaching this in high schools!!!
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Yes the relief on discovering narcissism is huge!! 💟💟💟
Exactly 💪🙏💯💪🙌😉
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Carry on with your fantastic work on narcissism Andrew, you are helping so many. You are a breath of fresh air, of hope and bright futures. I'm very grateful I found your channel, you are bringing so many like minds together. You are a God send and I really thank you for what you are doing!! 💜💜💜
He wore that mask for a long time with me, I mean I always knew something was off with him but I always blamed it on his upbringing, but now that I know everything that I went through I’m in shock but not surprised, kinda relieved that now I know I’m not the crazy one like how he made me out to be.
Continue to become educated and awakened.. you are amazing and on the path 💯💯🙏🙌
Its about spiritual growth and letting go of ego
Completely correct 💯💯💯
As ive TRIED TO FOLLOW YOU . Thru a couple video's .
Now YOU STEPPED over the line.!
SAYING GOD BLESS YOU.
MAY YOUR GOD BLESS YOU AN YOUR FAMILY !
THANK YOU !
Contenue on YOUR LOVING PATH ! ,,! With truth ! ! !
I’m actually glad I know now. I can feel it really quickly when I meet people and I throw them away IMMEDIATELY. ❤️
Beautiful empowerment 💪🙏💯🙌
It gets easier
This but I keep doubting myself and reverting to self blame 🙈 then they show their true colours and I'm like ohhh shiii🙃
Narc testing is a part of my everyday life everyone l come on contact with now it saves a lot of time narc testing love love
Any one of us on this channel found the spark of strength to stand up and overcome those horrible behaviours. We can and we could!
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I realized my best friend of 30 yrs. was a narcissist about 5 years ago through another YT channel. I ended the friendship and have never been happier. You encapsulated everything I learned over the years in this video. Great job.
Similar here. I distanced myself gradually. Wow. No more drama. Well worth it. 2yr on self be true. Be Yr own best friend. Cause even Yr own shadow leaves u in darkness..
Going through it now.. Scheduled for next week.. HE WILL BE GONE. NC .. NEVER EVER AGAIN.
Thanks for not pulling any punches & telling it like it is
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Thank you. I’ve mentioned the same thing to Richard Grannon. If I could have learned all this back in high school, my life and future would look very very VERY different. Please please please keep pushing to get this education into the high schools. It would actually save many lives.
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Likewise. I didn’t know at the time, but I asked my mum for career advice... guess what plans she had for me; nothing. So she convinced me out of what I wanted to do, telling me I wasn’t smart enough and there were no jobs in what I wanted to do, that the study would take about 8 years and my dreams were basically hopeless. I was 16 and believed what she was telling me. Later (about 20 years later) realised both my parents have high levels of narcissism. I wish I’d of known what I know now, because I wouldn’t of listened to a word and gotten out of that house ASAP.
Yes~ teach this in school before they get taken~TY so much
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You are SPOT ON!!!! I walked away from my first narcassistic husband, my Mother, my two Brothers and Sister along with at least so called friends that were ALL NARC'S. I'm very proud of myself in terms of finding strength and self love along this journey without ANY SUPPORT from anyone which made me as strong and acutely aware whenever being faced with one.
Education is the path 🙏💪💯🙌
Well done! Live your life..... be free!🥰
Where do you live? I want to be your friend. I am about to dump my mom and my sisters family- they are all narcs
Must feel great
@@dennisrobinson8008 it's more than great!! It's Cathardic!!
Right now I’m in the healing process .. I have decided to educate myself daily so that I don’t fall back into the trap .. thanks again for helping others
Welcome 🙏
You have a gift Andrew. You know what we all need to hear! Yes! You do need to go into the schools and make everyone aware of this! Narcissistic people are very real! Every word spoken! The TRUTH! Bless you❣️
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Agreed. I mostly read about narcissism upon first discovery. Since then I've watched a few videos but none come close to Andrew. He seems to know exactly what to say to activate the healing powers we have within. i could tell he was different from others merely within minutes of the first video I watched of his, which happens to be last night....lol. Yep, Andrew seems legit.
@@Champaign1117 This says so much coming from me 🙂
I turned 64 in June. That same week I was finally able to put a name to my sister’s treatment of me. Years ago she had me hating myself and suicidal. So I sought professional help. Found a great therapist.
My sister accused my therapist of planting false claims in my head and making her out to be the bad one.
If you think you are a victim of a narcissist try this. Tell them you are going to a therapist. See how they respond. They will be afraid of being exposed. Don’t let a narcissist feed off you and steal your life away.
Yes! A video on the narcissist’s secrets would be really appreciated Andrew. 🙏🙏🙏
Agree.. this is on the list.💯💯💯
111 subscribers ❤ Another awesome video
I came to awareness exactly as u described, exactly! It was lightbulb 💡 moment, as you say. 👍
Beautiful Cathy 💪💡💡🙌🙏
this is exactly what happened to me,
she had a keen sense I was beginning to question her!
She could tell I wasn't being fooled and I was rather getting a bit worried that things weren't right.
like a hawk, they are watching your behavior and keeping up with your awareness of them!
They look for any feedback that gives them what they need.
very excellent video!
Thank you 🙌💯🙏
I always said certain things that are confirmed with videos, years before I had a phone.
One thing I used to say would be,remember the very scary OZ in the Wizard Of Oz?
Just like they pulled back the curtain and seen the little midget behind the microphone and OZ wasn't so big and tuff.
Ditto,the person I was married to when I unbeknownst ripped the mask off.
I'm just happy as the other characters like Dorothy,tinman,the loin and scarecrow.
I did make a better home for me and my son's,I do have courage, a brain and heart to move on and be willing to feel the pain with my faith in God 🤸♀️
Amen Shelia 🙌🙏🙏💯
I am almost out of this living with the narcissist. We were involved, but now just landlord/tenant. The holdup is housing, and finding it. It is off the charts expensive. Your videos and others have helped me, soo very much. Thank you so very much! Love and Namaste.
Oh it has surrounded me for over 30 years...friends, family, relationship...ive spent the last year watching videos like this and studying this so that maybe I can finally breathe and live...God bless.
You are amazing and loved Phil..🙌💯🙏
Healing from the narcissistic abuse is a process like : im not good enough and dont deserve your love -> I ROCK!!
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No labels eventually the character shows and you immediately know what’s up. I wish them well I wish them guidance from GOD.
I’m thinking we all get this from day to day. No Exceptions. The thing is it’s a lesson from God. God Bless.
It does not mean we are gullible. It means we have Love. And that’s one thing they can’t deny. Thank you for the message
Welcome Boss Lion..💯🙌🙏
Found out late that there were such a type of person on the planet. I thought he would change with time. Then I heard all the ways that a narcissist lives. It all adds up. Not to him, he just denied it. Sixty plus years,. I really want to die at times. My family won't interfere.
@@rickibrown4543 The only thing to know is grin and bare it. Just know it’s not for me or anyone who is sane!
i like his glare, i like his hair, i like his care. keep it up bro!
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