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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 1 ต.ค. 2024
- In this episode, Melissa imagines more for herself than a minimum wage job.
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About Melissa
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Melissa Fonseca has worked at a pharmacy chain for 16 years, but still barely makes enough to cover her bills. Meanwhile, the lifelong Humboldt Park resident sees her neighborhood being transformed by a wave of wealthy new residents who have been afforded the advantages that always seemed out of her reach. Will Melissa ever be able to get ahead? A reunion with her estranged mom might hold the answers she’s been looking for.
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About FIRSTHAND: Living in Poverty
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In Chicago, your birthplace often determines your destiny. Children born in one West Side census tract between 1978 and 1983 grew up to have a median annual household income of $16,000, according to Opportunity Insights. Does the American Dream exist in Chicago? In FIRSTHAND: LIVING IN POVERTY, WTTW explores intergenerational poverty in Chicago in a documentary series, reported stories, expert talks, and community discussions.
FIRSTHAND: Living in Poverty is part of the award-winning FIRSTHAND multiplatform, multi-year initiative focusing on the firsthand perspectives of people facing critical issues in Chicago.
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I don’t understand why some of these wealthy residents living in her area don’t seek to help this young woman who is working in the hospitality industry struggling to stay afloat paying rent to keep a roof over her head; perhaps some of these wealthy neighbors could help her financially by paying her rent for at least one year; and establish a go fund me drive to raise money for a new vehicle with any leftover money for auto insurance!
I don’t understand why some of these wealthy residents living in her area don’t seek to help this young woman who is working in the hospitality industry struggling to stay afloat paying rent to keep a roof over her head; perhaps some of these wealthy neighbors could help her financially by paying her rent for at least one year; and establish a go fund me drive to raise money for a new vehicle with any leftover money for auto insurance!
We all grew up poor but didn’t know it bc our parents made poor look normal❤️
So so true, my mom worked 3 jobs just to make ends meet
Amen!
Fuck that. We started in the middle class, and my family fell apart (like too many families unfortunately) and I knew we were poor.
Naw, my parents always reminded me we were poor. We still are.
Well I knew it because my friends had better stuff and dressed better than me
I hope she is instilling more into her children. Especially the senior. If college isnt for him maybe a trade. Some sort of skilled training.
@Rodent's Revenge [MGTOW] I disagree. I mean trades are good but so is college if u can afford to go
Yeah right. All of her kids will have illegitimate kids just like her. Baby Mamas like to hold on to the hope "my kids will do better", but kids often do what they see not what they're told.
how can she? shes a failure 17 years still making no money
@Rodent's Revenge [MGTOW] college don’t have to be if you have a game plan. Not everything will get you where u need to be in trade
Talk him into going into the Air Force or Navy. My son joined the Navy and stayed in for 24 years, he swears it was the best decision he ever made. He went in as a low morale kid who was headed for trouble and after boot camp came home a gentleman full of pride.
Photo specialist but basically still a cashier. I hate jobs that pretend to promote you because there is nothing more to offer
Yup, they just need people to move around the store. Cross trained on everything.
And yet, she's been there 17 years...never making an effort to go back to school, get a better education or a better job, and still having more children along the way.
She already receives help with housing and childcare, and has been for years. Her current situation is not the fault of her employer.
17 years I was hoping she was gonna say manager
@@jennifertackett2241 unfortunately everything you are saying is the truth we cannot become complacent we have to become educated and break our generational curses that have been instilled in us
Fax
The one thing these stories have in common are having too many kids when you are already in poverty. That just digs a deeper hole for yourself.
I’m wondering if the strain between her mother and her was because she kept having children out of wedlock. Ladies this is a sure fire way to become impoverished and dependent on the government. I really hate seeing this.
That's only part of the story to derive at a conclusion.
I am sure like all other people in relationships, she thought the relationship with these kids' father would last and she would have his support. Unfortunately, this did not happen. This creates its own set of issues and circumstances. However, no matter where you start from picking yourself up from your boot straps, your mental state and what you believe has more importance than temporary conditions.
I agree
When I was in highschool, my grandmother told me to "protect my womb at all costs". She'd say "there is no good excuse to bring a whole other person into the world without a dedicated family structure". "Marriage is no guarantee, but neither is a seatbelt". ❤️❤️ I hope this family is able to get on solid ground. This type of struggling is mentally and physically detrimental.
@@briann8983 If you have a child out of wedlock with no contract from the Father you should certainly expect that relationship to fall apart.
Where is undercover boss when you need them? This is the reality of a lot of people. Sadly even I can relate.
It broke my heart when she stated that she didn’t feel smart enough to go back to school. You can definitely do it sis! It’s not even necessarily about smarts, it’s about determination 😁💪🏼
That’s the kind of thing that gets drilled into your head by parents, relatives and bitter teachers. Sad.
Absolutely this!!! I really hope she goes for it. I thinks she is a wonderful mom and speaks so well and empathically.
I'm in poverty myself and when I say I'm not smart enough for school it's because if I fail it's a waste of money and then I have debt I cant pay off.
yeah, i teach at a community college and i see students like her all the time--so unsure of themselves
that's it right there
Girl, don’t be down. 17 years is a long time for a very loyal and hard working employee. You have done more than lots of people. Do not give up or think you are less than. I admire your work ethic and loyalty.
These days it's kinda past due to be so loyal to a company that would turn around and fire you tomorrow. Also the fact that is was a huge slap in the face about the minimum wage and her pay. Most big companies like Walgreens are more interested in paying whoever will take the job a least as possible, not having people move up and stay with the company a long time and therefore pay them accordingly. Being loyal to a company isn't much of a virtue and I think we all saw that in the pandemic.
Loyalty used to matter at a company back in the day, now they don’t care cuz you are easily replaceable. I had one job for 6 years and on the 6th year cause I didn’t know better cause this was my first job I asked for a raise as I was never late for work and was a high performer . And they said they will put my raise on the next pay which was literally 1 penny raise. I went and spoke to management and flat out told me “if you can find something better you can go”. Ever since than I have never been loyal to any company as I learned the second you die that they won’t mourn you but instead filling your spot.
Yes!! She is a loyal worker & a terrific mom who is setting a good example for her children. I hope she gets through this. She deserves a break & certainly deserves a raise!! ❤
I agree alot too unfortunately in this situation you end up on gov. Benefits.
@@lust4lyfe101 Thats so messed up its so true!!
Mama I was 40 when I went back to school to become an LPN, making $29.00/hr, single parent raising 7 children/ finally got off public assistance. In escrow right now for my first home .. I’m 45 now and second year in BSN, RN PROGRAM MAMA!! You got this
Congratulations that’s so awesome ❤️
Employable skill makes all the diff
Now ur bach will be meaningful too, unlike a bach in biz, psych, Italian, music, etc
blessings and good luck for you Angelica you will make a great nurse I am sure.
Ur an extraordinary woman! More power to u! Congrats and love ❤️
You just convinced me to go back to school for my LPN 🎉❤❤❤
Please don't say that you are not smart to go back to school.?
_you are holding yourself back by saying that..
Periodt!!! 🤦♀️
That’s what not being smart is 😂
Right, you never know until you try.
Yup
For someone who can articulate well enough...you're not smart enough??? No way, Sugar. You're smart, very smart.
I just got my bachelors degree while part of the time homeless during the pandemic with 2 jobs. No time to sleep. My starting point was negative 10 meaning no home and relying on the bus. My vision is bigger than my circumstances. Never give up you can rest a bit but never give up. The degree will open more doors.
Congratulations
Congratulations to you! I wish you the very best.
@@nataliem5054 Thank you
@@carmenmarie5975 Thank you
It's harder with kids you need to support
I flipped burgers, did package sorting jobs, commuted 1 hour 1 way to college (dorm too expensive), took a student loan, English is not my native language but I was able to get my degree in bioscience with a minor in chemistry. I didn't have the best grades (probationary at one point) and took me 5 years but I made it. Now I am earning 45 $ an hour excluding overtime in a biotech company here in the SF area. Just keep on pushing. There will be sweat, tears, and blood but once you crossed that finished line it will be the most rewarding experience you will ever have! Good luck
Thank you for this I’m so close to getting my certificate and associates degree going to be striving for my bachelors and hopefully I can obtain it before 30-32
@@Alie95 Well done!
💙
Thank you Jesus
How much did you have to pay in schooling and loans tho....
Financial education needs to be taught in school
Exactly!!!! I know times are tough I’ve been there before and having financial education can help out a LOT!! You gotta cut out all BS you spend your money on and start paying yourself FIRST while investing. Investing in S&P 500 VOO index fund is a great start. Research and learning about finances is 🔑
That goes against the agenda though. The goal is to keep us poor
And what good is that going to do if you never make a livable wage?
@@MyThoughtzAndOpinionz no more excuses and this woe is me bull shit!! Go out get yours!!!!
Sex education is needed more as no one should have kids unless they're financially stable.
When I was in highschool, my grandmother told me to "protect my womb at all costs". She'd say "There is no good excuse to bring a whole other person into the world without two parents under the same roof with the same last name. Marriage is no guarantee, but neither is a seatbelt". 😂❤️❤️ I hope this family is able to get on solid ground. This type of struggling is mentally and physically detrimental.
Agreed
What is it with older ladies always dropping gems. Growing up my mother also brought us up making sure, espcially the girls know the importance of education. She didn't even graduate high school and she had children when she was very young (it's a cultural thing and she was married too at a younger age) even my dad was married very young and had a child. But my dad finished his higher education my mom didn't see the point, she had us after marrying my dad. But she made sure all of us know how important it is to learn.
Society has changed. People as a whole have changed. Your grandmother is a smart woman. I was a single teen mother of a son and although it’s not easy, it can be done. I don’t think the concept of just married people bringing children into the world is the only way for a good outcome. There’s many people out here that come from single parent homes that seen poverty, etc and strive harder than the next that did come from a good home. My son is now 19 and graduated from high school with honors and student of the year. He knows the struggle and he knows how he has to strive harder in education and for work. Do I want my children to repeat what I did? No. Has my son? No. Will my daughter? No. Does a situation make a person? Only if the person allows it. What people go through doesn’t mean they can’t overcome it. I was a teenage mom that came from the bottom and now I am an older woman that never gives up. I took my past and I am utilizing it for a better future hence I am working towards my MBA with previous tenure as a Senior Representative at a financial institution. We are one of the main things that hold ourselves back and just because things are a certain way one day, doesn’t mean it’ll be that way the next.
Absolutely right. But you said it a little more gently than I did 😏
Some married men abandon their wife and children too. I see your point that it is easier to track down someone the woman was once married(e.g. Social Security) to for child support.
Some of these ladies are having babies by men they have been in short term relationships and/or men with poor work ethics.
I stopped getting my nails done long ago. That crap is way too expensive. I do my own at home just fine.
The glue on nails have improved so much! I buy Kiss brand nails for $8 and they look awesome.
Nails are a waste of money. I do no chip at home
@Kate Ellison That’s to normal nail polish doesn’t last. My can last me about a week but it’s a little bit cheaper than going to the actual salon and I do like the front colors so there’s that.
I stopped painting my nails all together, it’s cheaper and better for the environment.
Nails done, eye lashes done? 🤔
I guess poverty means something different to everyone
I was a high school drop out. Went back and got a GED at 21. Thank God was able to go to a technical school in my 40’s. Became a draftsman and totally turned my life around. Education makes all the difference. Took me two years and lived in poverty raising kids all through school. I am 59 now, and so grateful for my education, but mostly Gods help. Today I do drafting from home. Even in a pandemic, I can work from home. The struggle actually made me stronger. No one wants to go through the hard times, but just never never give up.❤️❤️❤️
You are so right. I went through the poverty thing to go to college. I graduated with honors and a very thin body, no freshmen 15lbs for me, lol. And I know a lot of people with similar stories. I would add as advice to reach out everywhere for help.
I overheard a fellow nursing student talking to a friend she was really upset because she was looking at dropping out our last year because she just couldn’t make it with caring for 3 kids. Medical insurance and cash were a problem. Knowing her job paid minimum as a cna at the hospital I had an idea of her pay. I asked if I could speak to her privately and told her the state offered free medical insurance for her kids and gave her an application for a local scholarship for $1,000. She did both and later thanked me saying, the kids qualified for health insurance and the scholarship was brand new and since no one else applied and she had great need they gave her both scholarships so she got $2,000. Between the two, she graduated and move up a month later as an RN after passing her state licensing exam. So like you, her life turned around with education. And, as a nurse, all sorts of discounts opened up for her. The hospital offered better insurance coverage to nurses. Eventually she left poor quality housing and got a home in a better neighborhood and school.
Finally, someone on here talks about the most important fact Jesus Christ of Nazareth the powerful King of Kings who provides and takes care of his children, let me tell you something I also was from. Humbolt park and in poverty and struggles so much and I got out God saved me and now I walk for him and I am so blessed to be able to talk and live for Jesus Christ so there’s def hope when you give your life to Christ everything is possible ✨🔥🕊
Glory be to Jesus Christ
Does anyone know how to get a hold of Melissa I would love to talk with her
@@ig4091 I don't think she needs you preaching to her.
Glad you made it Praise the Lord💛✝️👏🏽
🙌🙌🙌
Praying for her and her family! She is so strong! People are mentioning her nails and hair 🙄. Lashes cost .99 cents... if she wants to keep her hair and nails done to make her feel good.. so what! We can’t judge her and we shouldn’t! There are layers here and my hope is that she gets a financial, professional and personal breakthrough for her and her children. ❤️
Watch the pennies and the dollars will follow. Clutter is money wasted and extra calories for weight gain is money wasted.
People do not realize that dressing for the life you want to live is VERY important. I’ll give her less than two years before she’s seeing six figures. Whether it’s through a 9to5, or a social media brand. She has the mind & drive to get it done.
@@Denailacole I’m close to 6 figures and still were the $1 tshirts I bought at a thrift store. Most of us would be better off spending hair and nail money on investing for retirement. Compound interest is how the rich get richer but some of us are still focused on image.
They just want her to walk around looking like a bag lady to make themsleves feel better.
Perhaps someone paid for her hair and nails done because she was being filmed and they wanted her to look nice. Perhaps her kids saved and gifted it to her, we don’t know all the details.
Its so important to enforce in your kids that you need to either go to college, trade school, or learn a trade after high school. It’s just what needs to happen now a days
If you’re not getting a degree in STEM, medical, or a specialized degree in business...no point to go to college. Tired of seeing people in 60k of debt for a drama degree
@@thehallswayy I completely agree. I didnt necessarily see myself in the STEM field but I'm glad I have the oppurtunities I do know because I chose a career in healthcare
Or military
Or enlist to get into the Federal Government.
I work construction I make 2,000 a week after taxes (hard heavy duty outside work) but now I’m on break and start my “forklift” warehouse job on Friday at 18$ an hour just for winter then I go back in summer
Children under the poverty line should get free Vouchers for school book fairs!
@Tim W not everywhere has a library
Lessons learned here: 1. Believe in yourself and your intelligence. 2. Use birth control. 3. Pick the right partner. Not someone who is gonna leave you a single parent. 4. Get an education beyond high school. Its never too late. 5. Corporations need to pay higher wages.
What kind of education do they look for beyond highschool diploma?
you dont become rich by working for someone you become rich by your selve
With what money is she going to get a degree can y'all stop criticizing her and be real. The only thing I agree with is having children before being financially stable. The money she makes now isnt enough to support 4 kids
@@vaniset "I agree with is having children before being financially stable" 👍🏻 does that make sense
@@vaniset yeah she could have atleast stopped at 2 especially when you see that your money is not going up
She should do postal work, I've been a stay-at-home mom for 10 years and got hired at FedEx starting at $15. I worked at Amazon for awhile also, great places to start since high school diploma is good enough to get those jobs.
Exactly, there are options, she just chooses not to explore them.
and she can go to the University of Maryland Global Campus since Amazon pays the student’s tuition fees....she would just have to pay the tech fees (max $45 per course)and can enroll in a Monthly payment plan for it
Smaller towns might not have those job opportunities. $13/hour is not that bad if the cost of living is low. My husband supports a family of 4 on $10.50/hour but cost of living in our town is pretty low.
@@revnv590 That's true, because I do live in Memphis, there are a lot of jobs like that here.
@@preztjuswoman maybe she is exhausted. full time work, kids, running the house, she is beat. stop judging her so harshly. someone knocked her confidence down the toilet as well,.
I heard Judge Judy say “the fastest route to poverty is single motherhood.” And here we are. I’m not “judging” this woman, but all the data has proven this to be true. For all the “children are a blessing” crowd, who exactly is it a “blessing” for? 🤷🏾♂️
It was a blessing for me...single mom for the last 14 years. I was 19 when I had my child and it changed me for the better. I now have two bachelors, college fully funded for my child, private education for her, own my own home and have lived in multiple countries with my child. I might not have gotten my act together without my blessing being born. But I was determined to not let the statistics define us.
@@caitlin8160 I’m very happy and proud of you for doing that. Unfortunately, I used to worked in juvenile court just outside DC. 95% of the kids who came through were from single parent homes and most had no idea where their fathers were. I’m glad to hear that it does work out sometimes. Thanks for sharing.
U can’t tell them that. They will use one celebrity that made it out and use her as an excuse
@@CM-oy2kd Right! Or they’ll say Obama was raised by a single mother 🤷🏾♂️
@@stefanossmitty3318 Obama’s mother was highly educated, and her parents took on substantial responsibility to help raise him. He is not the product of American poverty.
2:44 - When she said, “I don’t feel like I’m smart enough to go back to school”, that absolutely broke my heart! I’ve been there. I don’t come from a family of lawyers and doctors or architects and engineers, and the majority of the people in my family have never graduated from college. So when I enrolled in college, I often felt like the dream of graduating, having a successful career that paid generously, and having a house and a car - those dreams often felt too big for me. I can definitely resonate with that. When I was in college, I constantly struggled with feelings of: “I don’t belong here”. I eventually graduated with my undergraduate in Business Data Analytics, and I’m currently in grad school, getting my masters in Computer Science. I work in tech, and I’m doing great. I pray that she realizes that she IS smart enough to graduate college, and that education is a huge stepping stone to getting out of poverty.
What a great comment!! I've been teaching my entire life and seeing how you overcame adversity, really makes me smile. It always makes me happy seeing students who are struggling at first, bloom into successful students and end up with a great careers! Sabrina, congratulations and I wish you the best of life in the future! 🤗👏👏👏
College may not be possible but learning a trade is. I understand her struggle. I had my son when I was 18. I only had a high school diploma and qualified for minimum wage jobs. I knew there was no way I could pay bills and feed him at that wage. I went to Medical Assistant school. School and training took 9 months. I was able to get a good paying job that would support my son and myself.
That’s awesome!
Good for you
😃 that's amazing! Good for you! :) never lose hope!
I'm sorry but this "trade pays well" quote I keep seeing is just like college, a misleading claim. I worked as an electrician and got paid a 3 bucks above minimum wage. I asked my coworker who was there for 2 years, real hard worker, his pay was $19 an hour where that wouldn't even get you a single room in an apartment.
@@dericmederos1514 Does he live in NY or Hawaii? Anywhere else, he should be able to afford at least a studio with $19 an hour.
My parents never let us kids realize how broke/ poor we were. Not until we grew up into adults. But I knew something wasn't right...I remember my mom bought a pound of ground beef for 4 people. My sister and I ate it all because we didn't eat anything all day and that ground beef was for dinner. When my dad got home, I remembered him asking my mom where dinner was and she looked at him and said it's almost ready. She made my sister and I go watch TV and when I walked in the kitchen, I saw them scraping the pan with corn Tortillas and eating that for dinner. I didn't realize that it was for all of us. I was probably 8 or 10...that stuck with me for some reason and not until I was older did I start putting puzzles together as to why I didn't ever visit a mall growing up, have new shoes, have only 1 true meal a day, and shopped at the thrift stores...to me that was all normal
you dont become rich by working for someone you become rich by your selve
That’s so sad.that’s wasn’t your fault.you guys were so young.
@@alfiemarc8852 its not about being rich... what does that truly even mean. Being able to buy most things you and your family want and need is not being rich... its being financially stable. Chasing "being rich" is a fools game.
@@alfiemarc8852 and its self
@@maitesantos9256 dude if that is your mentality i never see you succeding in life
I'm trying to have sympathy for her, but 4 kids?!?! Why does every poverty story seem to be about single mothers with more than 2 kids. *Stop having kids if you can't afford the first one!* It is not fair to the kids to bring them into this world knowing damn well you can't afford a pot for them to pee in or a window to throw it out of! Use common sense and birth control! #smh
Where are the "baby daddy's?"
@@libertarian4323
Might just be one dad for them all, lets not jump to conclusions.
She is working and giving her kids what she can give them. Her house looks clean and organized. The kids look clean and well fed.
Judge not. Because you might be wrong.
@@heidimisfeldt5685 The house is probably clean because she has a taxpayer subsidized nanny who probably cleans the taxpayer subsidized house where this woman and her 4 taxpayer subsidized children live. Maybe there is just one baby daddy, she never mentions him- probably because he was a bad choice she made. My guess is, it's either one baby daddy who is currently in prison, or multiple baby daddies and she's just embarrassed to talk about it. In either case, why did she keep making kids long after she knew she was never going to get more than that min wage job (she had 3 of them after starting her current job)? She's just making one bad decision after another, just as her parents did before her.
Also, why is her electric bill so high in the summer? She lives in NY, it doesn't get that hot, she doesn't need to blast the air conditioning all summer.
@@libertarian4323 RIGHT!! Did you look at the 2nd and 3rd video?? Yea I can’t really give her sympathy like some families who are really out here with no house no job or anything. She throws out excuse after excuse after excuse on why she can’t further her education... Not to mention I worked at Walgreens and kept every little penny I got. No nails no hair no anything and still managed so she could’ve kept that $20 for that fill in and gave it to her kids “for the school book fair.” Smh
@@nicylee My mom would have told me there was no need for me to spend money at a school book fair when there is a whole library full of free books at the school. Free books are the best kind!
Where is the father? Why keep having more children when you are already struggling? You have to make smart decisions, yet self esteem plays a large part in the decisions we all make. I wish her well..
Why keep having more kids ? Birth Control should be a smart decision . She is not Smart.
I wish these Deadbeats were addressed by you lame blamers
@@learninglife8676 right
Let's assume he/they pay child support yet she chooses to keep custody of all kids even tho she can't afford to. It's very common to assume the fathers are absent and not that the mom is just irresponsible.
@@bkborn4256 what you said makes no sense. If he is paying child support than she shouldn’t be struggling
You kid save money....lose the eyelashes and nails...$40/month?
But you have money for weave, lashes and nails?😂😂. Y’all don’t let these people fool you. They’re not in poverty.
Some of y’all are so ruthless in the comments . Words have power and I pray you don’t end up in her position one day.
Y’all are assuming she brought that bag, it could be fake and gifted to her, y’all think she has extensions in her head and that’s her real hair. I swear if she was white y’all wouldn’t be saying shit!
Yes, this is what I was thinking
why do you think race matters here? It does not, at all. She could be green and still make poor financial choices. Race has nothing to do with it.
I agree these ppl are ridiculous in the comment section I stated that on a thread earlier and its sickening that majority of the negativity are coming from women some who are mothers themselves and have been in this position one woman replied to me and actually took accountability for her actions and apologized for her comments bcuz she was in that position ..thats what ppl dont understand dont knock others down bcuz u progressed from that starting point as well as u never know if that could be u next either way life has a way of making ppl humble real quick
I'm white and I stuck up for her on this thread to some of these nasty women. I said the same, the bag could have been bought at a yard sale or Goodwill or been a gift. Nails are done at home or picked up for one dollar at Dollar Tree. she said she does not feel she is smart enough to go back to school so that tells me someone pounded into her head she wasn't smart enough, someone beat her down and that's sad. She is doing everything on her own, full time work, running the house, the kids, everything she might be too exhausted to go back to school, that does not make her lazy. the older you get, the more tired you get. she may not have time for her own homework on top of everything else now. Yes, she should have done things differently but no one is exempt from making mistakes and I get the feeling someone whether it was a parent or grandparent, someone in her life told her she was not smart or good enough. that stuck in her head and you see the results. I hope she changes her mindset on that, she is not stupid at all. lazy and dumb would be sitting at home on the couch with their hand out, she is far from that type of person.
Looks are deceiving. I have been shopping at Thrift stores my whole life and now a church were I live has a pop pop up shop once a month for clothes free clothes. I just got a very expensive real Coach bag and if you saw many of my clothes the furniture in my small studio you would see so pay out money nope thrift, trash picking and Craigslist has saved me. You really can’t assume by appearance and she now people can do their own nails. I order mine off of Amazon.
Her saying "I don't feel like I'm smart enough to go to school" was just so sad! I wish I could tell her, you don't have to be "smart" just go! They will teach you what you need to learn, you don't have to be a genius or know it all to get an education :(
@@brokeduece1691 “Not smart enough to go to school” means not intelligent enough to benefit from it. It doesn’t mean not knowing facts, which are taught in school. A person has to have intelligence in order to learn facts and apply them.
College starts at a certain level, though. When I tried to take assessments at a few colleges, I failed miserably. All the counselors told me they don't offer classes at my "level", and I somehow graduated highschool. They can turn you away for "not being smart enough".
@@moomamoo8511 College was never supposed to be for everyone. Did you get high grades in college preparatory classes in high school, or did you take the standard curriculum?
No dont go to school!! Its a waste and nothing but a pit of Debt!! I can think of 100 different ways people can make money Doing things they enjoy!!. I love turning everything in my life into a way to make money. People think they have to have highschool and collage but its all lies!! Im 26 and do very well for myself and I am able to pass down 7 skills/trades down to my kid and future kids between my husband and I. I could teach a class on how 5 year olds could make 10k a year!
@@F95GHomestead can you teach me how mam..i cud use a little help from you
If she is here for 17 years they at least should train her to be a senior level manager!!! Come on!!!
I think it depends on the person. Some people don't want all the responsibility. More money but more hours in a corporate company. Since it's probably salary, they can make you work whatever hrs corporate wants.
Who says they haven’t tried?
Company’s don’t promote internally like they used to. They’d rather the college graduate who studied basket weaving be the manager rather than the employee who’s been there for 10+ years.
Exactly
I been a CNA for 20 yrs. Yes I went to college. I chose not to be a nurse I did try. It's good money but I just love helping my elderly. Not that nurses don't help, but we are the first to do and know everything. It's a struggle at times. But if it wasn't for subsidies in housing, government help, man I don't know. I worked two or three jobs before so I know if I waz a nurse maybe I wouldn't have to work so hard but God makes a way. And he will continue. Since the pandemic, our rates went up in Healthcare tremendously and you can breathe a but easier. It was so hard before. It's not great, but it's beyond better than before.
Her Mom had 6 kids by age 21 with a father who didn't work. Now she has 4 kids with no baby daddies around.
Who would have thought this could lead to financial struggles?
@BJ22 Her mom and dad had 6 kids before the Mom was 21. I'm not sure if that was before or after his "disability," but that doesn't sound like a good plan unless her dad was a very high earner like a doctor, lawyer, or engineer (highly unlikely as he doesn't seem to have a "disability" that would prevent office work). My point is, she's making bad decisions, as her parents did before her, and her parents parents did before that.
Schools need to spend less time teaching kids Shakespeare, and more time teaching the facts of life: Having multiple kids (often out of wedlock) at a young age, with no marketable job skills is NOT the formula to success.
@@libertarian4323 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@BJ22 So? It's pretty stupid to have 6 kids by 21 years old. I don't care what daddy does for a living.
@@libertarian4323 The schools don't cover Shakespeare any more.
EXACTLY
Poverty???? This family has more stuff and luxuries than people in other countries!
It's less about how much you have and more about the perceived gap between the rich and poor. In countries with huge gaps like in the US, even people who are wealthy by typical standards feel more poor than they are.
Well this is poverty in America, not in other countries
I know rich people in AMERICA who don't have this much stuff. I know "poor people" in AMERICA who have barbecues all the time and smoke weed all day long - at $50 a dose.
@@oyotundookubegwa520lmao what? 50 bucks a dose? What's a dose? You're not making sense, are you doing the marijuana? 😂😂😂
@@NaRuHiNaTa83 Losers need to stop wasting their money on weed and pay down debt. Period.
You are smart enough to go to school! Don't let the fear of failure stop you bc you can do it! Start slow, maybe 1 online class a semester. You've got this.
I don't believe higher education means higher pay. It helps, across the average but I work in tech. My boss and owner of the company I work for never went to college. He finished high school and didn't have the money for college so he didn't go. Now he's making hundreds of thousands a year. You'd never know it though as he's the most relaxed person with no need for anything fancy.
Is he a white male?
You don't need to believe. The fact is on average those with more education earn more money:
www.ssa.gov/policy/docs/research-summaries/education-earnings.html
Your boss is an outlier and anecdote.
What's your job specifically? Can you share your experience?
You're right!!! Work smart not hard, I have people in family, who never went to college are millionaires, and one's that did are still in debt still trying to pay off a student loans.🤦 🤦
That's extremely uncommon. Very few people have the inherent business sense, technical acumen, and entrepreneurial ability that would be necessary for that, not to mention the drive and whatever support system would be necessary. That's only slightly different than saying, I know a professional athlete, why isn't everybody one?
Oh wow, this was a good episode & I really want Melissa to strive. Being at Walgreens for 17 years is not something everyone can say. Longest I've ever stayed at 1 job is probably 3 - 4 years.
It's not something anyone would *want* to say. If you work for someone for multiple years and they're still paying you minimum wage, you're clearly being taken advantage of.
@@blaisetelfer8499 Obviously I wasn't speaking of being stagnant & not receiving raises a few times a year & ultimately getting ahead within the company. I grew up with people that have started out at Walgreens as cashiers and heaved worked their way up and are making a pretty good living. Have bought stock into the company and the whole 9. Geez. Seems like you always have to spell everything out here on TH-cam. But whatever.
I lasted 12 years at a job
@@jenniferwilliams5478 Oh wow, that's impressive!
Volkswagen, nails, lashes. I been at rock bottom, none of that was possible. And you have family close, too. Girl you got this.
And don't forget the Dunkin coffee.
Agree with you but at the same time, I want to play the devil's advocate & say that, these nails, hair, lashes are perhaps her 'hope', her way of surviving the day to day dreariness in a seemingly hopeless job. She may think these exterior 'things' are what makes her 'normal' and blend into the society. But I totally agree with you that she does need a change of mindset in order to have a better life. She needs a career mentor who really cares for her well-being, but that person ain't going to fall from the sky. She needs to proactively seek this 'way out' herself.
If she had this she wouldn’t be in the same job after 17 years😂.
Birth control too....
I lived in a 3 room apt... no w/d, no a/c,
I had one child. I saw it hard it was. I said to myself I won’t have anymore until I’m financially stable. I only have a diploma. I have been homeless. I built a house 6 yes ago. I got professional licenses. That’s what changed my life. I have businesses. My son is 14. I do plan to finish college before he graduate from hs. If her mom can go back to college to change her life she can do the same. Don’t settle🙏
Same here.
Mirror to my story.
Same
@icy rosette podcasts seriously??? Because the foster care system is definitely better 🙄 you sound ridiculous
There's tons of parents struggling to take care of their kids, especially now!!!!
Do you have any idea how much trauma separating kids from parents causes??!!! They're grown ass kids.
Poverty in America is interesting. People have a car, can get their hair and their nails done🤦🏾 It appears that poverty in America is defined by how much spare money you have when all basics have been paid for... Reality Check: There are people who cannot afford the basics...
I'm over here crying about the strength of this mother. She's amazing
It’s not “ brave” or strong to be a mother in her circumstances. She set herself up for that. She made her choices to get herself into those circumstances. Don’t keep having kids or even one if you’re not in the position to afford or take care of them, or even yourself. She kept digging herself deeper and deeper into a hole and now she’s where she’s at. It shouldn’t be commended to follow this path, for anyone.
She’s has no money, but continued to have kids and she finds money to get her nails done. These young woman need to open their eyes to their future and make better decisions
Right!
Not to argue or anything but I would just keep in mind that it’s not ok to make statements like that that oh she’s spending money on something non essential she is not properly taking care of her money. Unless you know the whole situation I woudn’t say stuff like that. Since your focusing on the nails how do you know someone didn’t pay for her to get them done? Or something like that?
@@yulmarodriguez4 I think the point is, even if someone gifted her the nails, perhaps filling up the gas tank would've been a better gift. It's the optics, of it all. Nails take a bit of time to have done, so there you go. Time and money.
Is there a video of her at a salon? Do we know she doesn’t do them herself?
Yup exactly
Your ability to pick the right partner is crucial.
I’m sorry but people think they pick the right parter all the time even after years of being together .... it’s always a gamble
Now, lets look at "peoples ability to pick the right partner" in light of the national divorce rates. One more thing, there is one thing called a smart ass and the other just smart. I doubt you are the later.
My husband died in a horrific car crash 3 years ago when our youngest was only 4 months old. He was the perfect mate and made a great life for us. Now my kids and I struggle because we sold everything to pay for funeral fees except our car. Life happens.
This is why women should secure themselves first before having children.
@@missdesireindependance5194 AMEN
I wish the best for this lady but people need to STOP having children if they are not in a position to comfortably raise them. If she was on her own she would be saving a lot more money and able to be more flexible with her employment options.
I only have a high school diploma and no prospects
so I’ll have 4 children and drag them in the poverty from day one
Great planning
Well she can’t just get rid of them now dude
I see weave nails and tattoos. Ijs no judgement but we need to make better decisions..
I also do not see any husband either for any of the kids either.
Was looking for this comment. Her hair looks real but I noticed the lashes and nails.
and coach bag that probably cost $300. I AGREE
@Alexis Lagrone thank you and you can get nails at the dollar tree 👜 could have came from a yard sale for a 1.00 hair looks real lashes or also a the dollar tree
none of those things are expensive and she works at fucking walgreens. she could have gotten half of that with her employee discount dipshit
She looks good and keeping herself up. Those babies look well taken care of! She doing great!
She is probably not doing great due to her choices but due to the tax payer who pays for free school lunches, discounted housing, free health care. If she relied solely on her abilities, she would be living on the street with her four kids. Her situation is due solely to her poor choices. She didn't know that she was making min wage when she had her first kid, how about the 2nd, 3rd and 4th. This woman is everything that is wrong in this nation and you think she is great? If that is what you think, you may need a little better guidance.
Unlike all the other judgmental comments I would like to leave an encouraging one- I applaud you for being so brave to show what it looks like to live in poverty. Also you are absolutely correct that it is never too late to make a change. I would like to encourage her to take any night classes or weekend classes for a skill or a trade. I know it’s hard but it would be worth it in the end.
Beautiful message. Thank you for posting.
Absolutely agreed! Some colleges are now offering free courses for certificate programs.
Thank you for saying something positive. I would also encourage her to take some classes, but I think she should try to find a business she can get into. One that she would enjoy and take classes to help her learn what it takes to run your own business. that would definitely give her some pride in herself and show her kids something other than selling their time to the lowest bidder. For people of color, I think that's the best way to try and make a future for yourself and your kids.
Beautiful words. It is never to late to get there. Such a determined lady wishing her and her family the best ❤
Absolutely!!!!!! The best comment 🙏🏽 Lords willing her change will come!
When you protect your womb, you protect your future! Heed wisdom or pay a fool's ransom.
love this. MAY JESUS be with you!
Can't afford gas but has her nails done holding a coach bag🤔
Ladies: This is why sexual selection is important, starting from high school. Swag and attitude do not pay bills.
In the past women selected for more stable men, but in the past 50 years that has gone out the window.
@@marcvslicinivscrassvs7536 what are you people talking about?
Working as a cashier at Walgreens or fast food, is not meant for a lifelong career. Millions of people worked their way through college, on multiple minimum wage jobs. They did and so can this lady ...she needs someone to tell her that. Yes of course it is very difficult but if you want a better life, sacrifices have to be made. My Dad taught me that principle. The best advice I’ve ever received.
Welp, she said she doesn't feel smart enough for school 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️😴😴😥😥
The first sentence is a WORD!!
Oh please. She needs to be working forget school. I'm so tired of Baby Mamas/Daddies getting acalades for doing adult things. She should be preparing her kids for high learning of some sort or the work force. She doesn't have the luxury to just go back to school. She should've thought about that before having multiple, illegitimate kids.
@@takishacade7531 exactly. How we value ourselves shows up in every area of our lives. For example, the lash extensions, newer model vehicle and acrylic nails. I'm not being rude just pointing out that shes barely surviving but(probably)paying a car note....$20 a week for a nail fill in equals $80 a month toward a continuing ed class. But this is how she sees herself.
And I personally know people who made great career moves working for Walgreens.
This make me so sad. Wow my heart hurts for her.... mcds is starting at $15.00 now here. I remember when my kids were little I used to work 7pm-7am to be there for them in the afternoon. Take them to school, drop them off, make dinner, parent teacher conferences etc. it’s not easy.
@icy rosette podcasts no mother would, what a stupid suggestion.
"I don't feel like I'm smart enough to go to school."
This is so heartbreaking, but not uncommon. Many of my cousins felt their same way until my dad went back to school, and then most of his sisters followed in his footsteps. They were all single parents (my dad included) who worked and took care of their kids. It's hard work, but it's possible.
If you want better for your kids, you have to be an example for them.
Thank you for this comment
She cant give her kids money for mcdonalds or the bookfair but she has spare change for nails and eyelashes? Rigght
That’s what I was saying
I worked for Walgreens years ago..they are ridiculous they pay their cashiers chicken scratch while the people who work in corporate are getting paid ridiculous salaries..then they want you to act like it's the best place to work..I went back to school got into the medical field and left that sorry job
Companies/corporations are in business to make money. If you stay there and don't do anything to better your life like going back to school in the evenings or learning a new skill, that is on you. Commitment and sacrifice are not easy, but well worth it in the long run.
they ( and jobs like it) pay squat because it requires essentially no skills. Do you think the Walmart greeter is making 100K a year?
Why someone would have kids if they can't take care of them self.
So she's been working the same low wage Job for 17 years and has no other source of income and still had 4 kids!! Wow just wow. You don't have the right to bring kids into your mess. No sympathy for her as it's her own mistake.
So, she's worked there for 17 years, making no money, but having kids while working this job and no money. Sigh.
Exactly
With limited upwards movement smh
She could have become a manager in that time or a shift lead, they make at least 15 an hour. My friend works at Walgreens as a manager and makes 20 an hour
@@FlansyLinny I was going to say I made friends with my favorite cashier and she is now management. It's possibly that she might not want to move up for fear of being in a different $$$ bracket and losing housing ?
@@suedefringe that could be it. Alot of govt programs basically disincentive people from improving themselves. I guess those who design these govt run programs don't want to see those who are on these programs succeed.
I’m sorry a lot of people complaining about her hair and nails... how we know she didn’t do this for the interview? Cause I know personally ima atleast look like something before you film
Me. We don’t always know the full story
it’s like no one realizes she has to look presentable to keep her job too
Exactly!! She works hard for her family and if she wants to have a little happiness ( nails) then good for her ❤️
@@HaleighBennet you can look presentable without fake nails and fake lashes 🤦🏾♀️
@@bigblue4579 u know clear glue ons cost 5$ right? and you can buy lash extension kits for ~10$?
@@HaleighBennet and you can still look presentable without them 🤦🏾♀️
so she made min wage.. and had 4 kids... poor choices in life
So you were struggling 17 years ago when you started working at Walgreens and chose to have 3 additional children, knowing the financial burden caused by 1... No sympathy here. We need to start being honest about stuff like this. Most of people's financial struggles come from their bad decisions. I can agree that the average worker should be making more, but we should also agree that most people put themselves in these financial holes that could have easily been avoided.
Having siblings is nice. I'm an only child and my daughter is an only child as well. I'd love to have more kids so she can have siblings but I can't afford it. It's already so expensive with one paying for tutoring, music lessons, basic needs. Decided it's best just to put everything into her. I found out too late in life that working a job is a waste of time but glad I finally saw the freedom of working for myself. Could not imagine giving decades away for minimum wage
PREACH
You are very judgemental and have no empathy. If she was making a decent wage she wouldn't be struggling. You also don't seem to understand the wage wealth Gap in this country or lack of affordable housing. My guess is you're against most social programs that would help people like her and you're also against things like labor unions. Judgemental? Sure is but so are you
@@timmcardle2233 Judge away. I don’t mind. Also, nothing you said disproves anything I said soooo….
Hair done, nails done, with a house FULL of KIDS......HUMMMM🤔🤔🤔
The definition of poverty is very different between the develop country and the third world country, this woman will be considered a middle class in third world country
Exactly
Just because your country has a different "definition" of poverty does not mean she isn't poor. Girl can barely afford food and rent. That's is poverty here. She gets paid low wages. We have homeless people living under bridges here also (sadly that is rock bottom for us). So please stop comparing...
No father in the picture, but you keep having kids... makes sense
why is it not obvious to people that they cannot afford to have kids? people need to take responsibility for their actions
@@0230630 because they just live off government assistance aka the rest of us and bitch about barely making it while they get benefits out the ass
I was thinking more about the big car. But owning and driving a big car is pretty cheap in the US compared to where i live.
I agree. Another thing is no one understands that these kind of jobs were never meant to be self sustaining. When you start having kids, it's costs. If u keep having them it prevents you from having a better life if you aren't in a financial situation that was enough to support a family. Having kids u can't afford to support is confusing to me. They act like kids were dropped from the sky. I had one. That's all I could support.
@@Bertuzz84 She doesn't need that car. She probably doesn't need a car. She lives in Chicago. Not exactly rural America.
My heart breaks .I would say go to school for CNA and see what doors open with that.
My little sister did this. After a few years got additional education and became a nurse. She also decided to only a step mother to one kids since it was financially difficult. I will destroy anyone who thinks they should pressure her to have kids, because people do this all the time.
Thats what I am for 20 years n support myself well.
Certification is fast but wages are low in that, too. If she can get in at a hospital and then get money for a nursing degree...do the ER 3 X 12 hour shifts and still time for a life and her kids.
I was just about to type the same thing it's not the most glam job but the pays is really good
@@dionnewalker2308 I beleiwc they are a valuable part of a society, soecualy now with the extended life spend and the baby boomer generation just beginning to enter long term care home. I do not believe it pays really well. Maybe for a few lucky one in private sectors or inexpensive location. They are often short staff and dealing with unreasonable demands of time per individual which will keep resulting in criminal act towards the elderly for neglect. It is a respectful career and one should be filled with pride when doing this work. Canada, just like the US is opening large amount of work permit from overseas due to the high demand.
I admire her for not aborting her babies, but I think her priorities are a bit mixed up. She claims there is no money to buy books, but somehow there is money for tattoos ,fake, gaudy nails and such. Also where is the father, it father's, of her children.
And the Pandora bracelet (with more than a few charms). Those things are expensive. Maybe it was a gift.
Also a Coach purse. I have a similar bag to that and I know she didn't get it for less than 100.
and a namebrand hand bag
They're somewhere out there. Cowards who do not have the balls to take responsibility for their kids
That’s a bit judgy. We don’t know if she pays for any of that or someone treats her. We also don’t know if She’s doing this very inexpensively by doing it herself. Finally, she does work in a business where appearance means a lot… So maybe she has to keep up her appearance as part of her contract or some thing. Regardless, there’s nothing wrong with her feeling good about herself. If that’s the type of self-care she needs to practice in order to be the best version of herself for her kids, then so be it. As long as she’s not neglecting her other responsibilities
One problem I see with these type of videos is that most of the families have a lot of kids. If they know they don't make enough then they shouldn't have too many kids, plain and simple.
She makes this look easier than it actually is, I can’t imagine, bless her , sending all the luck in the world for the future to her and her family, Life in the uk is tough but looks tough on the other side too, she is a great person , haters in the comments need to shut it.
I hope her kids have better. Ik what its like growing up in that sort of condition. My mom has 4 kids and lives below the poverty line. I'm the only one of my parents and siblings to get a high school diploma and now the first to get my bachelors. Those kids can rise above
I don't understand why people continue having children when they are already struggling financially.
A lot of them do it for the child benefit, it's the only money coming in for a lot of them.
I don’t get why there’s such ignorant people like this
@@ashleybosvik3031 I can't imagine child benefit is anywhere near enough to be the motivation. Where are the fathers and why aren't they supporting their children.
@@n.delgado3189 everyone I know has had to decide how many children they can afford based on their financial situation, I don't understand why some people have more children when they're clearly already struggling.
@@nikki27ish welfare says You have to be a single parent to receive benefits. You don’t don’t understand what people have to do
This is literally every other woman in America now a days. It all starts with yourself. Be smart not only in school but with your decisions, don't have kids with just any person, be smart with who you choose as a partner..She's living in poverty yet has like 4 kids. Make it make sense?
THANK YOU 🙏🏼 👏 and she works in retail smh 🤦♀️ making $7/hr
They act like they do not know how they got pregnant over and over again. Where are the sperm donors.
@@saragsanders5916 I don’t understand where the father is? What he’s doing for work. Bum life
@@saragsanders5916 probably married....hmmm
You can’t just tell someone to get up and be richer..
I’ll never fault someone who’s at least working for doing things like their nails. Being a mom is hard and if spending $40 on herself keeps her sane and she’s working to pay for it, she deserves it. Some moms don’t even work, only government assistance and you wouldn’t know because they have designer and $100 nails.
Thank you. People don’t seem to understand.
Plus I'm sure she wanted to look nice for the cameras, nothing wrong with that. Anyone else would do the same
Um you ain't getting no 100 dollar nails on welfare
@@cloverbird5785 that’s good that you don’t know people like that. Lol. But I’ve definitely known people who are on welfare and have designer bags and spend $100+ on nails. They have a lot of kids and don’t work because it’s easier for them to get welfare. At least the woman in this video works. 🤷🏾♀️
@@zebramilktea Yep. Fake nails, fake hair, fake lashes, and showing off with status logos is a dead giveaway. 🤣 They’re not fooling anyone except others at the bottom rung.
Stop having all these kids with no man around. Smh. Simple.
Her nails, hair and eye lashes are done though? When your really struggling you don’t spend the little bit of money you have on those trivial non necessities. So maybe money management is something she should look into and learn. There are books that really help so much
Financial struggles is no reason not to comb one's hair, maintain hygiene and look presentable.
So what? She works hard for her kids she deserves a treat …. Theres books about empathy aswell if you want to look into it
Never bring a child into the world without a financially stable two parent household!, Birth control could have prevented your financial struggles if you were more responsible.. I hope this women finds her peace
They don't look like they are missing any meals ..
I have just a High School Diploma, and I'm making $80k a year, able to support a Family of 3 on my own. A degree will help you somewhat, but you shouldn't have to rely on a degree to become successful. I have no degree, but make more than the average person.
BMW SUV
Works at Walgreens
1 kid has a Nintendo Switch
1 kid has a Apple Iphone
4 kids no father
Well, when the government pays for your house, Healthcare, daycare, and food one has plenty of money to spend. Don't forget hair nails were done too.
She drives a better car then I do she gets her nails done, smh
My husband and I made a little over $150k last year and we have 1 car. A 2005 SUV with a little over 100k miles on it. We also don't have children. And neither of us graduated from college. Go figure.
I have a 1999 Toyota solara
$5000 a month before taxes making airplane parts now UI $2000 a month my children are grown now oldest daughter ex police officer, son engineering student and youngest daughter in school for investigations
Her nails are out grown and messed up. How do you know she didn’t do them herself? Seeing as she had practice fingers on her kitchen table. How do you know a friend didn’t do them for her for free?? Just stop!! It was a 11 minute video. that car may be the only thing she has and chances are she’s paying on it witch will help build her credit. Stop being nasty. You literally made a Jealous comment under a video about a women living under the poverty level. SMH you weird.
@@ladydede88 LMAO trust me when I say that NO ONE is jealous of this woman. Literally.
Bottom line is kids are expensive- child care, food etc. She had 2 when she started 10 years ago...and struggeling...so why have 2 more? 4 kids on $13 an hour? Child support? After 10 years, too bad she wasn't assistant manager or manager. 2 more kids make it harder to go back to school etc. They are here now so she's going to have to figure out what school/trades she wants to do to try to get ahead.
Why doesn't the 17 year old son get a part time job to help out ?
I realise it’s difficult but why have so many kids? I have a well paid job, mortgage and I’m financially stable however I still couldn’t afford four children🤷♀️ The system is designed to keep people like this lady down. We are all responsible for our life choices
Amen! I have a good job too but would definitely struggle with 4 kids.
Welfare makes it possible
First you point out that she made a family she couldn’t afford to take care of, then you do a 360 and blame the system.
It's sad to see her spending money on all this fancy trendy stuff but when it comes to a kid asking for an apple to snack on, she says "no." But will gladly buy them candy. I don't get it.
And book fair money is under $5.
I have seen kids like my nephew, pick an apple or banana for snack , take one bite and not want it anymore. Maybe she knows her kid won't really eat it?
...and I still wonder how are starving kids and adults still obese in the US?
She doesn’t have a little money to give her kids to go to the BOOK fair at school but she sure has money for those expensive fake nails with custom art and jewels! As well as a designer purse! Sounds like your priorities are all wrong.
Also fake lashes and tinted hair... no way you can afford the basics spending like that.
And the lashes … and a Volkswagen 😅
No children you get no book fair momma needs her hair nails 500$+ bag and lashes you can’t get a book or Mc ds . Kinda pissed me off
@@iseewhatudontcauseimwoke7558 Why are you piss of it's not your life
Hair and nails done. Over payments towards a trade school? This is not your situation but the situation you created.
Trade school is like 10k for a year, she would need to go back in time and not have any kids and a way better job to afford it. She could take loans out though.
The government would give her money to go to school because she is a single mother. She has to inquire about those resources. In DC single mothers get more than working people who want to better themselves. That mentality has to change. She doesn't seem motivated to change her situation.
She doesn't have money for a book fair, but she has it for her manicure and lash extensions!
Dollar store
And you can get both for $2 at dollar tree. Maybe she did it to look good for an interview, maybe they were a gift, maybe it was from a donation bin. And if you think those are actual extensions I have a bridge to sell you.
She chose to have 4 kids when she can barely even take care of herself. She has no right to complain about not being able to manage.
i think if the mother had of been honest with her daughter of their situation when she was growing up the daughter wouldnt have repeated the moms "mistakes". Hopefully her daughter who is a mom of four now will discuss financial difficulties and life struggles with her children that way they dont have to struggle as much in the future and have more financial freedom.
Wish her and her children the best !
This!!! I thought it was kinda weird that the mom went back to school but didn't seem like she encouraged her daughter and like u put it just seem like she watched her make the same mistakes like??? I think the 17 yr old will b ok cuz she said that her 17 yr old said he wants to work at the store like her and she said she wants more for him
People usually live what they know, sometimes unconsciously. She said her parents had 11 kids; she ended up having four. Sadly, I’m sure her kids will repeat her pattern as well and become single parents stuck in dead end jobs!
Her 17 year old should be working to help out
While my heart goes out to this young lady I believe she is responsible for he own poverty. 4 kids out of wedlock and no mention of the father being present. Lack of ambition. I believe that it's no secret that Walgreens pays crap wages. I noticed that her nails were done and she had a Coach bag. I do believe that her poverty can be turned around but it has to start with a change in mindset and some self control. She can count on being in poverty forever If she is depending on the government to help. I pray that she gets some confidence and job training. Being poor sucks.
@BJ22 you can defend her actions all you want. The fact remains that she is in poverty and it's mostly her fault she is there. I sincerely hope that she can overcome it. BTW I will be a millionaire within the next ten years when we retire. I still shop at Goodwill and my wife does her own hair and nails. It's all about priorities and self control. Bless you.
The Walgreens at my area pays 15 an hour for shift lead which isn’t bad to start out. Managers make 20 an hour and she should have been one by now... there are worse places to work
If I were her I would apply for office jobs those tend to pay 15-20 starting out and aren’t that hard to get. Or try to apply for a retail manager position due to her extensive experience in a retail environment.
@@FlansyLinny If I were her I'd get the hell out of Chicago. She's in the 3rd biggest city in the country and everything costs a king's ransom.
@@KP-hi1om Ah yes, completely her fault. She made those kids completely on her own, with no help from anyone else.And I guess it's her fault that the father's priority wasn't his kids?
I have an issue with the mother of 4. I can slide a mistake with having one child but you produced 4 children without academic and financial plan/stability. Now you're crying about your struggles of being a poor single mother. You made this life for yourself and had opportunities to better yourself but your priorities wasnt in order. Your nails, dyed hair and Audi in nice. I have no children because I never wanted to be in a struggle situation. I was responsible to work my ass off, put myself in college without government assistant and earn my degrees. Purchase my home, travel and be financislly responsible. We have opportunities and options in life to succeed or fail.
Whining about money but nails, eyelashes, and blonde, behind length weave are all in place!! ☝🏽
If she’s so poor, how does she have money for the fancy nails, hair and eyelashes?
The nails itself is at least $40.
Coach bag, nails, hair and lash extensions, the 12 yo kid has a phone. I just see bad financial decisions.
You have zero idea where those things came from? Could be gifts from other people 🙄
I guess people don't know about knock off, I buy knock off because I'm not going pay full price for purse I don't even have kids. dummies always see poor people think everything they buy is real..
i love how she has kids to suffer poverty and the cycle can continue xD
So literally the general public has to support your children for you because you didn't have enough sense to stop after one!!!!!!
A lot of people in these comments seem to think that women make children all on their own, or that if the father leaves it's somehow only the mothers fault. Men need to start growing up and taking responsibility for their actions.
Yes they do! 👍
The government needs to start incarcerating men for nonpayment of child support.
This is exactly what I was thinking you said it perfect.
Many women don't state who the father is when getting benefits, so they don't mess up the father’s life.
The government and corporations wants unstable families
Amazon is hiring, and Lowes.
Actually her Walgreens job would be fine if she gets promoted to manager or a leadership role
Periodt!
The last few seconds says it all... "If I had the proper guidance, would I be somewhere else right now?" Children need guidance to learn how to make the right decisions. I never understood parents who expect their kids to figure it out themselves. At the birthday party, she was learning things about her mom for the first time. Why wasn't her mom communicating with her years ago about the pitfalls of teenage motherhood, etc? What a shame.
Because the parents themselves also need guidance. Look at this family. Single mom with FOUR kids. Hello..?
@@beaverish Before having a child , Parent(s) need to make sure they themselves have proper guidance because children rely on guidance to grow to make proper decisions. This mom hasn't had proper guidance, but at the same time if your'e in a unfortunate situation its best not to have children at a vulnerable stage. Still a shame.
Why does she have no man helping with her children, they helped make them.
Man often find it easy to walk, and we do not know her story.
Her baby daddy is blk
@CONFEDERATE HERO STOP!!
In America men have an option to be with the kids & mom. They do have to pay child support, but taking the man to court is a hassle and long process to apply.
@@sonyaberry9805 Bullshit. I was married. My wife left and took my offspring with her. She left me with an underwater mortgage.
I chose to save my marriage. She chose to divorce me. The judge chose to give my ex wife sole custody, ordered me to sell my house, told me to pay support and for supervised visitation. She chose to leave and not let me see my offspring. So, I told the judge to go fuck himself.
What choices did you really think I had considering I wanted to save my marriage? Oh, that's right. Because she wanted a divorce, nobody gave I shit that this was MY MARRIAGE!!!