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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 ต.ค. 2024
- In this episode, single parenting would be easier if Gary could buy a car.
See the rest of Gary's story and much more at interactive.wt...
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About Gary
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Gary Ladehoff is one stroke of good luck away from making it out of poverty, and one stroke of bad luck away from losing everything. He has been living with his two-year-old daughter in the economically-depressed city of Zion, Illinois. This is a critical moment for Gary: a new job, car, and apartment fall into his lap, while a workplace accident threatens to set him back. Gary’s past struggles with addiction and the criminal justice system have led to previous setbacks. But now he’s getting help from an unlikely source: a police officer who once put Gary behind bars.
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About FIRSTHAND: Living in Poverty
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In Chicago, your birthplace often determines your destiny. Children born in one West Side census tract between 1978 and 1983 grew up to have a median annual household income of $16,000, according to Opportunity Insights. Does the American Dream exist in Chicago? In FIRSTHAND: LIVING IN POVERTY, WTTW explores intergenerational poverty in Chicago in a documentary series, reported stories, expert talks, and community discussions.
FIRSTHAND: Living in Poverty is part of the award-winning FIRSTHAND multiplatform, multi-year initiative focusing on the firsthand perspectives of people facing critical issues in Chicago.
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And watch the entire FIRSTHAND series: www.youtube.com/watch?list=PLs3qXjCE-VeQ6tn6Lc2_fMiaYSc-DKxnG&index=1
Dear Ladies and Gentlemen, I posted a link to a gofundme for Gary in the last hour and it was taken off you site. I don't understand why. Don't you want to help him too? What's the point of just making us watch the documentary and then denying those, who want to support him, the means to do so?
@@charliebarrow7086 i have no idea why they would do that
@@charliebarrow7086 id love to help a little bit out.
@@iammlyss Thank you. There is a go fund.me called supporting Gary Ladehoff. You can donate there. I really want to help too but I don't have a facebook account and the go fund.me needs to be spread so that people donate.
@@charliebarrow7086 hey. Thanks for letting me know. I already sent something privately 😊
You must never be ashamed of honest work, never. Better than people out there doing bad things and not being there for their children.
Yep, always take pride in whatever job you do, no one likes a complainer
Right on, right on!!
Exactly. No shame in honest work.
The success of children raised by men like this compared to children raised by non workers is astronomical.
I agree. I've 100% respect for anyone who works. Most of us started in minimum wage jobs. Some people forget that once they've climbed the career ladder and look down on those at the bottom.
There's no need to be embarrassed you're making an honest living providing for your family. Blessings.
He shouldn't be embarrassed, theres people that I know that dont even work at all!
He is trying his best for his little girl and himself, he is a great dad. I hope he will be okay ❤
Never be ashamed of putting food on the table sir. Thank you for doing what’s necessary to care for your family.
Keeps the roof over your head.
Your daughter would NOT be disappointed if she was older, she would and still will be proud of you, for trying to make things better and growing from your past mistakes!
For real . She would see a man who does what he needs to do .
She will be very proud of your sacrifice when she grows up. She will brag about it -- seriously. It shows love + devotion, not just words.
@Jackie Nganga, if only your past mistakes don't follow you into the future.
Life is not a movie
He has scribble on his face and he leaves his daughter with his MALE friend. Loser.
It's refreshing to see this young man take responsibility for his past and not blame someone else. I pray that someone gives him a second chance. Good luck young man.
Only person To blame is the Reagan Merrill Lynch administration
That's funny. Saying about taking responsibility...what is praying for again? To give your responsibility away to some all powerful being? Like the saying goes, a single pair of hands working does more than a million in prayer.
@@DavidSmith-oy4of Maybe I prayed from those hands to get to work! One less person sucking of the government. Prayer answered 😂
This man is a real one. Look how gentle he is with his baby. He's doing well. I'm a decade older, didn't get much education, still living week to week with my 2, the hustle is real. Keep at it man.
Sir, I hope you see this comment. I would be absolutely proud to have you as a father. You do everything for your family and that is so honorable. May the LORD Jesus Christ bless and protect all of you. I will be praying for you.
I'd be proud for him to be my son....
Thank you so much. I am just now going through these comments and the love and feed back im getting from people is very heartwarming
@@garyladehoff513 you my friend deserve so much praise. Seeing you with your daughter warmed my soul. I truly wish the best for you...and one more thing, don't you ever be ashamed of honest work. Someday I promise your daughter will know everything you did for her. God bless.
@@garyladehoff513 you do what a real man is supposed to do and that is to protect and provide for his family. God bless you always 🙏
@@garyladehoff513 is there any oppertunity to help you out with money for buying a car? I really like to help. You're seem to be such a lovely and sympathic person. You're such a great Dad to your daugher.
This little girl is so precious. All she wants is her mommy and daddy . The security that a child receives from their parents is irreplaceable. Good job man, keep up the good work. Your daughter will see you struggle to keep food on the table and she will respect you for all your hard work and perseverance 👏👏👏
i know he will never see this, but i want him to know that this made me cry. your daughter would never be disappointed or embarrassed, she’d be SO PROUD OF YOU. i promise.
i grew up like this,and i’m thankful honestly
I cried too, working hard for a better life for you and your daughter. She s lucky to have you and God Bless you both and the friends to be supportive for you.
Has anyone started one ?
I did see it and thank you so much i really appreciate it
Hi Paige, I have created a gofundme account but I myself don't have social media. In order for the campaign to pick up it would be necessary to spread the gofundme link on social media. Would you do that in order to help Gary?
Gary never be ashamed of any honest work. You are working hard and that is something to be proud of. Stay strong.
Matt Thornton you are truly doing God's work.
Amen
Never trust dealership for anything especially"$0 down we accept all credit" it just preys upon desperate people in need like him. That's why no one likes car dealerships.
I worked for auto finance company...35% APR for deep subprime...😬😬
@Kate Ellison Yes ma'am.
When ur desperate we do anything.. Society take advantage of us when we are vulnerable
He has some good friends. One day his daughter will be so appreciative of his sacrifice. I really hope he gets some reliable transportation one day
I would totally be willing to donate funds to help him get the car. Believe it or not having a car matters so much for an individuals forward movement in life.
Me too, I just tried to see if there is a gofundme page but could not find one. Maybe we should set up one? I would be very willing to engage myself in such an endeavor.
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I would too
Count me in.
People give money to such stupid things yet people like this struggle so da*n hard.
If we had just 200 people give even $5, he'd have a fighting chance. 😢
@@getmeouttatennessee4473 count me in too. LMK if you start a gfm page..
Best way to buy a car when you're poor, is for cash. I paid $700 cash for my 2002 car in 2013. A lil maintenance here and there and it's still going strong in 2021. Getting a car with payments sets you up for a possible repossession. One bout of flu and a missed paycheck or two that leads to a missed car payment so you can at least pay rent and you can kiss your new car goodbye. Been there, done that. Buy cash. That $500 down could buy you a beater. Hey, it's a chair on wheels. Doesn't need to be new or pretty. Just needs to go vroom, vroom all the way to the babysitters, work, grocery store, and home. Set that cash aside until you have enough to buy outright. 'Rent-a-Center style' living is a losing battle every time. Pay cash. Own your shit and it won't get taken away.
So true ive done that for many years raising 3 kids alone if i didnt or couldnt get it cash I didnt get it bcs couldnt afford notes
Absolutely true!
Facts💯
Agree 100%
A $500 beater is going to have problems frequently, which would cause him to miss work and pay money for repairs. There’s a reason why it’s only $500.
"My Father's business" It's nice to see the work of a real ministry that's helping people who are vulnerable
"Watch your hands". And then the little girl holds up her hands to show that they are not in danger of getting caught in the door. That shows that the little girl is tuned in to her father's guidance and that in turn proves that the father is doing a good job.
Dude you should be so proud of yourself right now. Working your ass off doing stuff no-one else will in order to provide for your family. Don't ever be ashamed of doing good stuff man
What a good dad. You should be proud of yourself for being so hardworking and supportive dad. Your little angel is blessed to have you.
He doesn't understand this yet, but his love for his daughter above himself is going to save his life and hers. He's going to get where he wants to be for sure, God is working in his life. Blessings to him 🙏
Much respect to this young man for taking care of his daughter. He should be given full legal custody.
He should be getting some assistance $ for food, etc.
the worst thing ever is that if the mother decided down the road after she gets married or has a family of her own & she then wants custody & the child is still a juvenile judges almost always side with the mothers and would probably award her custody too even if she never took care of the kid a day in the kid's life
Please don't ever put yourself down, I for one would be proud to have you as a father, so much respect for you. Hold your head up high, you are doing amazingly 🙌🙏✊❤️
Is there anything we can do to help this young man get a car??
Maybe a go fund me ?
I was thinking the same but he probly embarrassed to beg onkine, but that dealership is rip off artist i seen friends go places like that dude dont need a 2015 car get cheap civic for couple grand
Come on guys... somebody has a car they aren't using. He'll need tires, oil, gas, and insurance...he can't afford a payment.
This is a good Daddy he just needs a car, his daughter deserves a chance.
The Angel who is seriously being about the Father's business is truly doing the business.❤️
@Kay Tee I truly hope so.
This man is a man he made mistakes owned up to them got clean and when his kiddos mom dropped his kid off and never came back he stepped up. That is a good person. He's taking care of his kiddo.
The detective, that is community outreach. The detective is a man who is definitely stepping up.
Just👍👍👍👍👍
honest work is always something to be proud of.
my focus on his daughter. hope she is in good care of those people while he is working
me too
Me too...
, I'm afraid too,
I'm worried about her too!
Bless you brother,better things are coming your way.
We are so extremely proud of you Gary keep pushing something good is coming your way soon stay strong
I’ve never felt more convicted to reach out and help anyone like I have you, Gary. You are nowhere to be found and more than anything I wanted to send you, and particularly your daughter, cash through go fund me or even just a care package. I have a son her age. Your story broke me down. You should be so proud. I’m proud of you! There is nothing shameful about working in a kitchen to support your daughter. Put in the situation, it’s amazing what we will do to provide for our families. Your resilience is unsurpassed. Times will be hard as a single parent but as I go to sleep tonight, I’m praying for you both. For financial peace and stability and things that make you both happy. You’re doing a great job being there and loving your daughter. She is precious, and I don’t know how anyone could ever just walk out of her life.
Thank you so much i am overwhelmed reading all the support from the comments
@@garyladehoff513 I reached out to you on FB! You may have to check your spam. :)
You’re still so young in life...you certainly can overcome this. It’s just a stepping stone but keep striving!
You can’t help what your paid and never forget the little eyes are watching your every move! She will be proud of her dad if he’s an honest hard working man! God is good and watching over you and your baby girl ❤️.
Great content. Really great to see we have a cop that cares so much about bettering the community and the lives of the people on in. Mad props Matt Thornton
I'm glad he got the kid. He needs her to stay on track. My kid was sent to me for me to get sober and stay responsible.
God Bless You
I grew up very poor and I wouldn't change it for the world! My mom taught me strength and how to survive the hardest times. You're an amazing Dad..a good person. The Christmas I remember most was not the one where we finally got tons of gifts...it was the one where we got stuff from churches and strangers.
A box of food on our back porch with a ham!!!!! I couldnt believe complete strangers were helping our family and complete strangers made my homemade slippers and hats.
God Bless you and your family. Stay strong. Mia looks up to you and always will.
So so hard when you dont have family to float you $$ for essentials. Respect to papa. That is so hard. I hope he finds a good job.
This guy should learn how to grow his crops & sell it in a side.
Im a single mom myself I know how hard it is trying to survive in the work force(minimum wage) too don't give up good things will come your way. Your a great father to your daughter and keep setting the example for her. You keep focusing on yourself your goals, dreams, and hope you find a good condition vehicle that will get you where you need to go.
It’s not easy at all for one parent families 😢
Imagine the awful comments in this section if he were a single mom.
@@ecclairmayo4153 That exactly what I was going to say. I've watched a few of these videos with single moms and the comments are all, "birth control, close your legs, choose a better partner." But for this guy, "oh wow look at him stepping up, so proud of him, what a good daddy."
@@rileycross7938 - I don't hear anyone saying, he should have chosen a better mother for his child. Didn't he know she was going to abandon him and the child? Vasectemies are cheaper 🤨
Actually if it where a single mom and worked as hard as this guy i dont think people would have pro lem
Gary, I promise that you’re her hero. She loves you so much. She wouldn’t be ashamed. She will be PROUD that you’re doing the right thing, and she’ll admire the effort that you’ve put in to be a father to her. Keep going
Thank you so much
Brother...do not be ashamed...you are working for a living...keep the faith...
Who ever made this should donate him the $500 . I mean... it's the least they could for him for him doing this interview .
But you are continuing to play catch up and continue to move forward. young man...you haven't quit and you're still going...good for you! Hold your head up!
In your daughter's eyes, you are her hero, your honest work is worthy keep your chin up, you are a brilliant Dad, it's those that run away from their responsibilities who should be ashamed in front of their children.
You have no idea the profound example you are setting for your daughter. No shame in putting your best foot forward everyday. Mad respect for u brother.
Ahh bless the little girl, her dad has to keep going for her, brilliant dad
Kudos to Officer Matt Thornton for all he's done and still does for his community.
Yes! I’d like to see a doc on him.
I hope life gets better for this guy. He has a kind soul.
Man, that's an honest work and your hardwork! Never be a shame of it...^^ One day you'll look back at your "small" steps and say "it was small walk, but I made it and grow from it with my daughter." ☺️
Gary, I am rooting for you so much. I'm also in recovery, 4 years clean this May. Watching you with your daughter, I can see what a great Dad you are. You're working, trying your best to make a life for you and her. That is admirable. I wish you nothing but the best!
After watching several of these, this is the first I think NEEDS help. If I had his contact, I would assist him.
Find him.
@@Sowedintears6 How?
Feel free to reach out to me on facebook. Gary Ladehoff
@@turnovertheleaf5505 He has a facebook page and also there is a fundraiser for him gofund.me/ac8c2f5d
I grew up in much the same way, my mom worked her behind off as a housekeeper in a hotel and things were always a struggle financially. I don't think his daughter will be disappointed. Quite the opposite. Keep your head up everyone!
Definitely commendable because a lot of people wouldn’t want to expose themselves (living situation,finances,relationship & livelihood) to the world. I truly hope he becomes the best person he can be.
Find a Head Start program. Many are extended day so she would be in preschool for about 6hrs for free. Next school yr in Cali at least classes should be back to normal. She's at a perfect age to apply. The program focuses on the whole child. Many resources for the family. Good luck to you. Btw your child will be super proud of you for trying so hard for her. Documenting your struggle thru this vid is a beautiful gift for her❣
What a stellar human being. Your daughter is lucky to have you. Integrity.
Matt. What a wonderful human being. We need so much more like this guy.
My sweet mama was a waitress and a housekeeper. I was not ashamed of her then or now. God bless you sir.
I wish this man a joyous life, with no more pain. I will be devistated if anything does happen to this family, as I would anyone else who struggles to make ends meet.
She definitely wouldn’t be embarrassed of you because you have a job and you’re proving for her. I wish you the best
Stand Strong, Stand Proud. There are millions of us trying to better our lives, dig out of poverty.
Growing up,I really didn't have a consistent relationship with my father. I raised my kids on my own. It was hard but I still managed. I know the feeling, having no car, gotta depend on people to help. Giving gas money.I admire your courage and strength. Your daughter loves you keep going.
Its great to have good friends and family around. Support is so important when you are trying to make things happen. You will get there.
You're a good Dad ! Dont think most people really know just how hard working in a kitchen restaurant is. Not only is it very hot in the summer, the hot grill pops up grease on your skin all day long. Then at the end of the night shift, it's all cleaning. All to start it over again the next morning. God bless you !
Aw, he's so sweet. When he said he thought his daughter would be disappointed in him for his job 😥 ah man.. broke my heart. I hope he knows that's not true.
You're daughter will grow up proud knowing you did what you had to do to take care of her, and you were there for her unconditionally, and that's what matters. You're doing the best you can right now, you've come a long way clearly.
I think you're commendable. Don't be so hard on yourself.
Thank you. Ive come to get over that and realize that my daughter will always love me and be proud as long as i provide
Keep it up brother and hang in there,I was in a very very similar situation,I’m waaaaaay out of that situation now it can be done.I’m definitely in your cheering section my man.
Ur being a responssible father trying to raise ur daughter the right way. U should be proud of urself!
Despite having a hard life, his daughter is still such a happy little girl. That’s the mark of a good dad.
Your daughter reminds me of my daughter at that age . Let that be your motivation brother . God bless you and your family.
So impressed by you and that beautiful happy little girl. You have a mountain of strength.
Have so much respect for this guy. Stepping up to take care of his daughter.
Thank you so much i really appreciate it
Bruh. You are working. You are trying. Give yourself credit that you didn't end up back inside behind them gates. You are taking care of yuor baby girl and you are getting your life back on track. You are doing exactly what you are supposed to be so kudos man. Just keep gping.
NEVER feel ashamed for doing hard honest work brother! It takes a real man to do what he has to do to provide for his child. Much respect man and I wish you blessings and pray you see better days, I know you will!
There is nothing to be embarrassed about by doing what you need to do to take care of your daughter. That is the honorable act of being a dad. Too many fathers fail miserably; you are stepping up and doing what you need to do. Much respect to you.
The fact her mom left her there with you, you loving her so much to want to give her what you can it just makes you the most amazing decent father I've seen in a long time a long long time...please trust me your daughter will be mountains proud of you more than u will ever know sweetie take it from an old woman...I will pray and hope for the both of you...I do think the sister should look into cases like yours and try to give you more opportunities of better jobs but that's just me...you're a king❤️
One day your daughter will watch this and say wow dad, thank u so much for stepping up when mom couldn't.
Be proud. You are doing what needs done to give your daughter a good life. You are stronger than you know. You are working back from mistakes. I’ve been there. Keep going. It’s worth it.
You don’t have to be ashamed of this work. You work hard, this is honest work.
Watching this in 2024. Your daughter reminds me so much of my 2 1/2 year old. My dad was a single dad for a little while cause my mom left (twice) but he did remarry and it wasn’t a great marriage ..got bad when I got to high school..but for most of our lives, we had stability and structure. My daughter is literally my world. I went to college and did a lot for myself but I never knew that unconditional love until I had her. I can never understand a parent not wanting to be with their child. I’m glad I didn’t turn out to be like my (bio) mom. So when that little girl cries out “Mommy!” Oh it does something to me cause my daughter is still attached at the hip.
Great job young man, you’re on the right path. It’s all about taking care of that baby girl, she’s beautiful. Good luck my friend
That's right..she'd be so proud...I'm proud of you too for her..for every kid who needs a dedicated loving father like you who will do the tough stuff to make it..going to a not so great job everyday that's part of the tough stuff..
Hats off to you Sir 🎩
The best day’s work is an honest day’s work you can have millions and be a gangster and look over your shoulder all the time , you will get there I admire your energy and how much you love and care for your beautiful daughter go forward and make a great life for your self and daughter good luck in the future 👍👍👍
As a single parent with a donor not interested in being a parent is hard. I wish him and his baby girl the best.
Oh my gosh, bless his heart. My respect to this young father. He is taking care of his little girl and trying so hard. I would take care of his little girl for free. As long as he was trying.
Thank you
You shouldn't feel like you are playing "catch up" as you say. You are still so young. Lots of people much older than you aren't as hard working as you. You're doing a good job.
You are a good father and role model for your daughter u are a hard honest worker now something to be proud of u can see the love and bond with your daughter keep going I hope u get a break xx
It's very important to have both parents in the home raising the child. That's a huge problem with today.
Not when both parents are arguing and abusing each other...!!
@@RicaClaudia stil statistically speaking it it better to have both parents in the home
Every one knows that but sadly it doesn't always end that way no one desires to be a single parent
I desired to be a single parent... the moment my daughter's dad put his hands on me...😉 very sad if you rather stay in an abusive environment than be a single parent... craziness
No one wants to be a single parent but they're not responsible enough to slip on a condom.
The 1st 2 min., I already admire this man. Owns up to his past mistakes, works, loving family man. It all went down hill from the "Trickle Down Economics."
Gary, you are an amazing dad and you will make your way. Everyone has to start somewhere and you are well on your way to a better life. Your daughter is adorable and she is going to love you all of her life.
The mom is strikingly beautiful. Don't give up on baby girl, take care of her.
This young guy is wonderful .he's taking responsibility of his daughter I think he's great. Can I help him in anyway
Hey thank you i really appreciate it
I hope this young man can get it together for his daughter.
Respect brother I hope and pray that you and your daughter come out of this.
Hope this guy is doing better. Nothing to be embarrassed man 🙏
Someone update with a go fund me. Guy deserves a break. Maybe even use it to Uber? Just thinking out loud.
See the description. This wasn’t the end of the story.
Yes let's make a GoFundMe for everyone in America instead of actually giving them livable wages.
@@joesephmadre7151 I don't control his salary. I saw a man who looked like he could use and would appreciate some help.
Hi Taylor, I set up a gofundme but need help in spreading the word. I don't have any social media accounts and in order to get people to donate one is supposed to post it everywhere. Can you help with this?
@@joesephmadre7151 nothing wrong with helping others
Hard working man. Wishing you only success and happiness with your daughter. She is gorgeous- a blessing. Stay strong and you'll get there...
Gary, know that when you’re old and feeble your daughter will take care of you just like you took care of her. She will admire the sacrifices you made for her and be proud of her daddy. There’s nothing like a father- daughter relationship. Good for you- you’re a man’s man and money doesn’t define your blessed heart. ❤
Hats off to this guy, man.
Dear God this breaks my heart
You are the best dad ever..... you're daughter will always know that.
Things could be so much worse . I'm praying for you brother
God bless you Gary, don't worry about what people think. You're showing up everyday for yourself and your daughter, that's how you win. You'll get there!!
It's work- be glad to be doing something productive- work hard, budget save- if you do that, you can succeed - so many people who are successful started out at the bottom- and are now living their dream- one day at a time one step at a time- get some more education- it might seem impossible, but so many others did it under very hard circumstances- I wish him luck
All you have to do is the best you can!! Lots of men with great jobs who don’t help take care of their kids so you should be proud of yourself!! I am proud of you
When you're faithful in the little and grateful you will be trusted and given more...a daughters dad is her everything....no money or wealth can compare to genuine love..
I hope his life gets better, I really do. Illinois is not a good place to live when you’re poor. It’s a miserable place. At least Texas is warm and he may be able to get a better job.