I hate to tell you this but the family relationship that you want to save doesn’t exist. Tell them you won’t give her the venue or pay anything for her wedding enough is enough.
You didn’t lose your family you never had them. If anyone thinks you’re wrong for what you did they can pay for the wedding it’s not your responsibility to pay for your sister‘s wedding.
OP should of told her parents when they threatened to cut her off that they cut her off from love ,attention and basically everything else a parent should give a child the day Luna was born . THen go no contact with all of them .
Her sister and parent's shouldn't have taken the p*ss out of OP. OP did the right thing and I wish her and her husband all the best and have a long lasting and loving relationship!
Luna-tic! That’s actually what we named our new purple heeler puppy, lmao! Fitting. Good for you, but you should have seen all of this a long time ago. Stay safe, live life to the fullest.
Omg these people should have never been parents. OP didn't ask to be born. It's a parents responsibility to take care of their children. You don't get to emotionally blackmail your child because you took care of them. THATS YOUR DAMN JOB. Ugh they make me sick. I'll finish this once I finish the story. Ugh Edit:: I'm so happy she is out of that family. I wish she had a way to teach the parents a lesson too. They definitely suck. And I would know cause my parents kind of sucked too as a child.
I grew up learning from my parents that if you want anything that you have to work for it, you can't expect someone else to just hand it to you. Luna's parents ruined her by giving her everything she wanted and so she grew up thinking that everyone else should pay for what she wants. Op is the one that showed her that this is something that is not going to happen in real life. It was a hard lesson, so lets hope she learned something from it.
How on earth could the OP be a selfish spoiled brat if her sister got everything from the parents and she got bupkiss? I guess that comment came from a golden child who wanted it all and felt that every family needs its doormat.
Make your mother and father pay for it since they want her to have the wedding at your vineyard then you take and you make sure that the bill everything is in your mother your sister and your father's name
"Be the better person." "I already am the better person, and I'm not a fool." OP wasted her time, going to all of that trouble for crappy family members. She could have cut THEM off, with a pre-emptive "NO!," from the getgo. Write them a note, laying it all out. Upon their refusal to accept her decision, withdraw their invitations, and block them. Then let the family have a go at the blame game. Let Her Majesty, the spoiled, useless brat deal with it. Case closed. The family are worth less than zero. Net gain. Family drama and unjustified efforts and expenses averted. World saved.
Op cut contact, no if, but or maybes, say they're not invited to your wedding or in your life, their just gonna keep doing g this to you, you are far better then any of them
Bummer for your Mom, Dad and sister! They did this to themselves!! Go live your Best Life!! I too have a narcissistic manipulative twin sister!! She's an adult she can work those bills down!! She shouldn't if thought you were going to pay an outrageous amount for HER wedding! And for the annulment good for him he's running as I would be too!!
No you should have just said no you can't have my venue and I'm not going to pay for it in fact you lied and reneged on your obligation you are in the wrong!
Wow doormat doesn't even cover it... I pity her wholeheartedly. I'd advise her BF to break it up And personally I think she's horrible to lead them on. Grow a backbone... If you can't confront them, go no contact
HAVE YOU STARTED PAYING ? FAMILY 2. START PRETENDING 2. CARE ! FAMILY KNOWS YOU WILL ALWAYS PAY 💰. FAMILY 2. PRETEND ! ANY AMOUNT ! DESPERATE TO BE LOVED ! EVEN ONLY 4. OR AROUND PAy DAY
Comment #2 at the end, either didn't read the whole story or has a good relationship with their siblings & parents so they have no understanding of just how cruel it is to grow up in the shadow of the preferred sibling.
Not going to work Luna signed the bills. Agreeing in writing to pay for them herself. Verbal contract made under duress are void. Generally for a verbal contract to be valid both sides have to receive something of equal value. OP wasn’t receiving anything of value.
OP needs to grow a spine and stand up for herself! Her family don't love her, they don't care about her happiness. They will never love her no matter what she does. The more she gives in to their demands, the more they will demand from her. OP was wrong by the way she took advantage of her sister's drunken state to get her to sign the documents. I have no respect for OP for doing that. OP should have stuck to her guns and refused to either give up her wedding venue or pay for her sister's wedding.
Each should pY for their own. Wedding if you want vac wedding go for it. UT you should not have to do her wedding if she is grown up enough to marry then she is old enough to pay. 🎉
Comment 1 is bang on. As soon as op gave up the wedding venue, it was obvious the demands would NEVER stop! I think her revenge was pretty classy tbh, especially knowing her BIL was intolerant of lies. That was a particularly juicy cherry on top! As far a family relationships is concerned, being in a similar but far less extreme situation, I can confidently say she's better off without that toxicity! We also did the "holiday/elopement" thing and looking back 16yrs, I wouldn't change anything but the weather. (There was a massive storm that day!! 😂)
It is your parents who should be shoulder the debt, they are the ones who spent Luna's wedding fund to buy the girl a car, they couldn't afford. Then expecting you come up with the funds when they weren't going to help you with your wedding. What kind of self-centered entitled parents are they?
The family who never supported you, coerced you into giving up your venue, tried to force you to pay for sister’s wedding, is going to cut you off. From what? An inheritance that would go to your sister anyway, the kind of love the sister got but not you, an abusive and manipulative relationship with them? Tell them Thankyou for the freedom and happiness for the rest of your life.
Comment #1 ofc. I'm glad OP decided to do this instead of initially standing up for yourself. The sister should get the wedding she deserves...especially if she's paying for it 😈 Also I bet the contracts were to make sure OP couldn't get sued. Just because someone promised to pay for something doesn't mean they will 😂 😂 😂
"Ruin your relationship with your family "???!!! What relationship?? Also NO is a complete sentence!! Try it sometime! And also stop telling your business to your sister and parents!
Tbh this isn’t as satisfying because this could have all been avoided If OP said no in the first place. She gave the sister the venue so she wouldn’t get cut off only to waste money and time and get cut off anyways.
I have to go with comment #1. Commenter #2 is an idiot! As for those who say that no is a complete sentence, OP probably has tried that word over and over again since she was little and still got stomped on by her heartless family (as far as we know). As evil as this plan was (I’ll admit, I was rooting for her!) it was probably the best way she knew how to get through to her family that they couldn’t walk all over her any more! Way to go OP!! I hope you have a happy life, I hope you never have to deal with your hateful family again, and that your sneaky plan never ever bites you in the butt!
If this was a aita i would say you’re all an ah , your family for treating you badly and asking you to sacrifice your wedding date for their golden child, but youre also the ah for making your sister go to debts for having to pay for everything when you tricked them that you were gonna pay. Plus all the trouble the wedding venue staffs wasted all their effords and time to make the weddding go as best as they can with preparing the venue, foods, guests seats only for them to not getting paid for that. You could have just say no to their demands and go no contacts
No OP your family is not insane to ask you to pay for Luna’s wedding, you have shown them that you are there to cave to all their demands and they see you as they meal ticket. They see how gullible you are. When you enable the enabler it never ends, they keep coming back for more.
The villains in your life? You are the villain. You had the balls to do all of this but not to tell her no in the beginning? You are evil. Not only did you put her in crippling debt but you caused her annulment. Smh
Hun, your relationship with your family is already ruined. Your parents have already made sure of that. You just need to see it, before you accept it. You deserve better than this.
I really hate to say this, but these parents are really crazy. Having a favorite child is wrong. Take some classes, read some books , learn how to treat your kids.
So instead of just putting your foot down in the beginning, cutting your family off, and moving on; you gave up your wedding venue and got her drunk to sign a contract that could be disputed. You're still a clown
Op was in the right in the beginning but once she agreed to pay and then deceive her family, she was just as wrong as her sister. All op had to do was never agree to pay, but op decided to lie instead
OP took the worst tack on this. Saying you will do a thing in front of witnesses opens you up to getting sued for breaching a verbal contract. It may feel like good revenge but it opens you up for some huge liabilities when all you needed to say was no and walk away.
Its awful that parents would openly choose favourites. However big sister has stooped to a low😢 depth by being so deceptive with the finances. I also thought venues want money up front? Yeah, nah, yeah, big sister is TAH!
@@francinetitherington4060 Deposit yes! But if you pay the deposit, that means you have the spot set. And you can set it up so the other person can pay for it.
OP acted badly, here, too. She could have simply told her family no from the beginning, had a wedding with people who actually do care about her, and left the dysfunction behind. Instead, she did a couple of things here that smell a lot like fraud, and got her own hands dirty for nothing. She still lost her family. She still got married. The extra drama was for nothing. We gain more self respect when we simply stand up for ourselves, and just say no to abuse. I hope OP learned that.
Op you should have been the example and said no period. Innocent people were hurt including the employees counting on the money they were promised. Sorry but you're no better than your sister at this point, what she and the rest of your family did was wrong but you drugged your sister and hurt her husband and others just saying. Happy wedding though
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Loosing family who never cared for you is not a loss. It’s a benefit.
Amen.
*_"AND NOTHING OF VALUE WAS LOST !!!"_* 😂😂😂
I hate to tell you this but the family relationship that you want to save doesn’t exist. Tell them you won’t give her the venue or pay anything for her wedding enough is enough.
This
Once OP gave in, EVERYBODY could have predicted what would happen!
Preach!! 🙌
You didn’t lose your family you never had them. If anyone thinks you’re wrong for what you did they can pay for the wedding it’s not your responsibility to pay for your sister‘s wedding.
OP, you did help them. You helped them to understand that you will no longer be their bag. You did right to have her pay for her own life.
OP should of told her parents when they threatened to cut her off that they cut her off from love ,attention and basically everything else a parent should give a child the day Luna was born . THen go no contact with all of them .
WHAT RELATIONSHIP!?!?!?!?!?!? The relationship you are trying to save doesn't exist.
The only thing that surprises me is that sister isn’t demanding your fiancée.
Do not give in, OP! You don’t have a healthy relationship with your family….they don’t view you as part of the family. Walk away.
Comment #1 is so right. Comment #2 is so wrong. Parents should never have a favorite child.
I agree but it seems a lot of them have one (or two) anyway
Commenter number two is absolutely cracked!
Her sister and parent's shouldn't have taken the p*ss out of OP. OP did the right thing and I wish her and her husband all the best and have a long lasting and loving relationship!
I love these stories where the OP gets such excellent revenge.
You have a toxic family. Nothing worth saving. Make the family YOU always wanted and see your parents family once a year.
Luna-tic! That’s actually what we named our new purple heeler puppy, lmao! Fitting. Good for you, but you should have seen all of this a long time ago. Stay safe, live life to the fullest.
You wanna save a family that cares nothing for you!! Your sister will always be their favorite and you will always be a stepping stone!!
I would be packed and ready to move the day of the wedding. Be no contact.
I’m coming one. I think it was brilliant plan which sisters name down on all the contracts but I hope you have a nice wedding and a beautiful future.
Omg these people should have never been parents. OP didn't ask to be born. It's a parents responsibility to take care of their children. You don't get to emotionally blackmail your child because you took care of them. THATS YOUR DAMN JOB. Ugh they make me sick. I'll finish this once I finish the story. Ugh
Edit:: I'm so happy she is out of that family. I wish she had a way to teach the parents a lesson too. They definitely suck. And I would know cause my parents kind of sucked too as a child.
S1: Makes me glad I have had zero contact with my parents or golden children since my father shipped me off to basic training at 16.
And she'll hug you again when you pay for all her children!!
The only relationship you have with your family is DOORMAT or FOOTSTOOL FOR the Golden Child.
I grew up learning from my parents that if you want anything that you have to work for it, you can't expect someone else to just hand it to you. Luna's parents ruined her by giving her everything she wanted and so she grew up thinking that everyone else should pay for what she wants. Op is the one that showed her that this is something that is not going to happen in real life. It was a hard lesson, so lets hope she learned something from it.
How on earth could the OP be a selfish spoiled brat if her sister got everything from the parents and she got bupkiss? I guess that comment came from a golden child who wanted it all and felt that every family needs its doormat.
Just say "no". All she had to do to avoid it all. Although I must say, no loss dumping that family.
Make your mother and father pay for it since they want her to have the wedding at your vineyard then you take and you make sure that the bill everything is in your mother your sister and your father's name
No is a complete sentence. NTA
Make sure that every bills is in your sister names.
"Be the better person." "I already am the better person, and I'm not a fool." OP wasted her time, going to all of that trouble for crappy family members. She could have cut THEM off, with a pre-emptive "NO!," from the getgo. Write them a note, laying it all out. Upon their refusal to accept her decision, withdraw their invitations, and block them. Then let the family have a go at the blame game. Let Her Majesty, the spoiled, useless brat deal with it. Case closed. The family are worth less than zero. Net gain. Family drama and unjustified efforts and expenses averted. World saved.
Op cut contact, no if, but or maybes, say they're not invited to your wedding or in your life, their just gonna keep doing g this to you, you are far better then any of them
Bummer for your Mom, Dad and sister! They did this to themselves!! Go live your Best Life!! I too have a narcissistic manipulative twin sister!! She's an adult she can work those bills down!! She shouldn't if thought you were going to pay an outrageous amount for HER wedding! And for the annulment good for him he's running as I would be too!!
Her family would never have let her have a dream wedding. Sister would be drunk and f it up.
No you should have just said no you can't have my venue and I'm not going to pay for it in fact you lied and reneged on your obligation you are in the wrong!
Wow doormat doesn't even cover it... I pity her wholeheartedly. I'd advise her BF to break it up
And personally I think she's horrible to lead them on. Grow a backbone... If you can't confront them, go no contact
Where are the fiancés in this story, surely they would be involved?
HAVE YOU STARTED PAYING ? FAMILY 2. START PRETENDING 2. CARE ! FAMILY KNOWS YOU WILL ALWAYS PAY 💰. FAMILY 2. PRETEND ! ANY AMOUNT ! DESPERATE TO BE LOVED ! EVEN ONLY 4. OR AROUND PAy DAY
You would still be losing deposits, because it was originally in your name
Comment #2 at the end, either didn't read the whole story or has a good relationship with their siblings & parents so they have no understanding of just how cruel it is to grow up in the shadow of the preferred sibling.
I wish the writer for comment number 2 would cut it out. I think they go around trolling reddit.
Even though it is difficult to prove. But, OPs sister could sue her because they agreed via a verbal contract.
Not going to work Luna signed the bills. Agreeing in writing to pay for them herself. Verbal contract made under duress are void. Generally for a verbal contract to be valid both sides have to receive something of equal value. OP wasn’t receiving anything of value.
OP needs to grow a spine and stand up for herself! Her family don't love her, they don't care about her happiness. They will never love her no matter what she does. The more she gives in to their demands, the more they will demand from her.
OP was wrong by the way she took advantage of her sister's drunken state to get her to sign the documents. I have no respect for OP for doing that. OP should have stuck to her guns and refused to either give up her wedding venue or pay for her sister's wedding.
Each should pY for their own. Wedding if you want vac wedding go for it. UT you should not have to do her wedding if she is grown up enough to marry then she is old enough to pay. 🎉
Which establishment allows you to use their amenities without paying in full first.
Comment 1 is bang on. As soon as op gave up the wedding venue, it was obvious the demands would NEVER stop! I think her revenge was pretty classy tbh, especially knowing her BIL was intolerant of lies. That was a particularly juicy cherry on top!
As far a family relationships is concerned, being in a similar but far less extreme situation, I can confidently say she's better off without that toxicity! We also did the "holiday/elopement" thing and looking back 16yrs, I wouldn't change anything but the weather. (There was a massive storm that day!! 😂)
Thank you Mr Reddito
Comment number one fully and OP she is the woman
Glad you’re no contact with your family
It is your parents who should be shoulder the debt, they are the ones who spent Luna's wedding fund to buy the girl a car, they couldn't afford. Then expecting you come up with the funds when they weren't going to help you with your wedding. What kind of self-centered entitled parents are they?
#1 definitely!
No.1 !!! :)
Sorry just say no and walk away..
Comment one was correct
Hi all 👋👋
What family you've been on the back burner all your life from them standup girl if they leave you it will be fine that's all you need is your husband
The family who never supported you, coerced you into giving up your venue, tried to force you to pay for sister’s wedding, is going to cut you off. From what? An inheritance that would go to your sister anyway, the kind of love the sister got but not you, an abusive and manipulative relationship with them? Tell them Thankyou for the freedom and happiness for the rest of your life.
Comment #1 ofc. I'm glad OP decided to do this instead of initially standing up for yourself. The sister should get the wedding she deserves...especially if she's paying for it 😈
Also I bet the contracts were to make sure OP couldn't get sued. Just because someone promised to pay for something doesn't mean they will 😂 😂 😂
Hello, and in this case I'm just going to say poetic Justice and leave it at that
Op family though they where smart, but to bad for them op was playing chess and their the pices.
Looks like everyone in the family has wicked level manipulation skills. I hope your family doesn't see your post.
"Ruin your relationship with your family "???!!! What relationship?? Also NO is a complete sentence!! Try it sometime! And also stop telling your business to your sister and parents!
Tbh this isn’t as satisfying because this could have all been avoided If OP said no in the first place. She gave the sister the venue so she wouldn’t get cut off only to waste money and time and get cut off anyways.
first time i say first comment.
I have to go with comment #1. Commenter #2 is an idiot! As for those who say that no is a complete sentence, OP probably has tried that word over and over again since she was little and still got stomped on by her heartless family (as far as we know). As evil as this plan was (I’ll admit, I was rooting for her!) it was probably the best way she knew how to get through to her family that they couldn’t walk all over her any more! Way to go OP!! I hope you have a happy life, I hope you never have to deal with your hateful family again, and that your sneaky plan never ever bites you in the butt!
OP = NTA
Moral of Story:
*Play Stupid Games; Win STUPID PRIZES 🏆🥇 !!!*
It would have been more mature if you had not lied to your zoo-keepers
I AGREE WITH COMMENT # 1!
All of it was stupid. Instead of doing all this extra crap she should have just said no to the venue and no to paying and let the chips fall.
If this was a aita i would say you’re all an ah , your family for treating you badly and asking you to sacrifice your wedding date for their golden child, but youre also the ah for making your sister go to debts for having to pay for everything when you tricked them that you were gonna pay. Plus all the trouble the wedding venue staffs wasted all their effords and time to make the weddding go as best as they can with preparing the venue, foods, guests seats only for them to not getting paid for that. You could have just say no to their demands and go no contacts
No OP your family is not insane to ask you to pay for Luna’s wedding, you have shown them that you are there to cave to all their demands and they see you as they meal ticket. They see how gullible you are. When you enable the enabler it never ends, they keep coming back for more.
The villains in your life? You are the villain. You had the balls to do all of this but not to tell her no in the beginning? You are evil. Not only did you put her in crippling debt but you caused her annulment. Smh
Hun, your relationship with your family is already ruined. Your parents have already made sure of that. You just need to see it, before you accept it. You deserve better than this.
OP’s parents: Lie flatter, doormat, so that we don’t have to be so uncomfortable, while walking all over you.
OP: No more!
Comment 1😊😊😊
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I really hate to say this, but these parents are really crazy. Having a favorite child is wrong. Take some classes, read some books , learn how to treat your kids.
So instead of just putting your foot down in the beginning, cutting your family off, and moving on; you gave up your wedding venue and got her drunk to sign a contract that could be disputed. You're still a clown
Comment one
ESH...... The OP should have just said "No!" Sister and parents are awful but the OP in this story is a liar.
NTA. The sister did right by being petty & I LOVE IT.
Op was in the right in the beginning but once she agreed to pay and then deceive her family, she was just as wrong as her sister. All op had to do was never agree to pay, but op decided to lie instead
OP took the worst tack on this. Saying you will do a thing in front of witnesses opens you up to getting sued for breaching a verbal contract. It may feel like good revenge but it opens you up for some huge liabilities when all you needed to say was no and walk away.
Its awful that parents would openly choose favourites. However big sister has stooped to a low😢 depth by being so deceptive with the finances.
I also thought venues want money up front?
Yeah, nah, yeah, big sister is TAH!
@@francinetitherington4060 Deposit yes! But if you pay the deposit, that means you have the spot set. And you can set it up so the other person can pay for it.
BS story.
@placitas52 yeah probs
OP acted badly, here, too. She could have simply told her family no from the beginning, had a wedding with people who actually do care about her, and left the dysfunction behind. Instead, she did a couple of things here that smell a lot like fraud, and got her own hands dirty for nothing. She still lost her family. She still got married. The extra drama was for nothing.
We gain more self respect when we simply stand up for ourselves, and just say no to abuse. I hope OP learned that.
Op you should have been the example and said no period. Innocent people were hurt including the employees counting on the money they were promised. Sorry but you're no better than your sister at this point, what she and the rest of your family did was wrong but you drugged your sister and hurt her husband and others just saying. Happy wedding though
She didden't drugged her she got drunk by her self!!
So why didn't Sean back her up about keeping the wedding slot.
Change your phone number