Story 2: I’m also a victim of false SA allegations. I made a post to Reddit asking how I’m supposed to get past the anger from such injustice. The overall thing I heard is that you never truly get past the injustice from allegations like that. And the people who make them will never truly face consequences. From my own personal experience, they often come from well off and privileged backgrounds, which makes it that much more frustrating.
@@RagingWoody74 Nope. Not at all. The people who do this don't care, that doesn't benefit them. To them, guys don't have feelings. They see them as barely human. So they just figure they cam do whatever and guys will just "man up" and deal with it
I’m so sorry someone did that. Besides messing up your life they make it harder for people who truly are SAed to be believed. There should be serious punishment for falsely accusing someone.
I live with my folks as a disabled man here but I pay my own way and pay them rent. The brother in story 1 is a mooch to the highest degree. What an ass.
My at the time landlord’s family had that problem. My landlord was also living with them because he needed to rent out both units of the duplex, but he at least paid his way. His brother on the other hand was a lazy mooch, despite having a do nothing government union job with “tenure/seniority”. The guy made more money than my landlord, yet wouldn’t get his own place, never took care of anything in his life, stole food, left messes, still needed mom-may to do his laundry. The guy was too lazy to even take care of his car, got pulled over for expired tags and had his car break down multiple times (too lazy to even wash it).
Last story, once MIL accused the OP of cheating and that the kid is not her son's, then that should end any idea of grandparent's rights, more so if the MIL is going to be racist as well.
Story #2 I have a different take on this. I would suggest OP leave India entirely. He seems intelligent, he's started a business and done well for himself. Imagine what he could accomplish if the deck wasn't stacked against him. I respect Indian culture, but it has some serious problems. The ethical standards are too lofty, and ironically that leads many to ignore ethics entirely. Often good intentions (culturally) backfire. For example, the way debts have historically been managed. In India, for hundreds of years, debts were inheritable. The reasoning behind this was that if you borrowed money, your family presumably benefitted. If you died before settling the debt, those in your family who benefitted would pay it so as not to steal from the lender. It made sense in that regard, but when it became law, things went awry. First, foreign lenders took advantage of this, working through proxy loan sharks within the country. Massive amounts of wealth flooded out of India. Then you have to consider the caste system, and that the people taking these loans were often illiterate, with no access to education. They knew they needed money, but didn't really understand the terms they were agreeing to, making them easy marks for predatory lenders. The upper class knew better than to take those deals. Not unlike payday loans here in the U.S., they targeted the desperate and uneducated, but did so with much less regulation. Indian families have traditionally been very large for a number of reasons, but when this policy was implemented, the population really exploded massively. If you take out a loan that will take you 30 years to pay off, and you die, leaving behind only one child, they will never be able to support the rest f the family and service that debt and start their own family. But if you have 10 children, then they're on the hook for 3 years of loan payments each, which is manageable. And with these loans you can afford to have 10 kids, and if everything goes to plan, that's far more people to help support you in your old age, leading to a potential net gain at a time when advancement was very difficult. The population ballooned and now there are over a billion people and not enough resources to support everyone, leading to rampant poverty in many areas. It all started with the simple notion of "Pay your debts", which is both reasonable and honorable. But the manner in which it was implemented across the society caused countless problems. This law wasn't reformed until the late 1970s, but by then, the damage was done. While things have gotten much better for people in some regards, many of the problems that started persist to this day, and will for generations to come. Ethics and Justice are not always synonymous, and a nation cannot be ruled by ethics alone. It requires more pragmatic analysis. And this is just one of countless similar examples. There are many things admirable about Indian culture, but it's being eroded at a rapid pace. If the best attributes are to be preserved, I think they should be transplanted to areas where they can actually survive and thrive, even if they're not always shared by the people around you. Retreat is not defeat, if it allows you to survive.
there was one maury povich show(s) that got my attention. it was on a tv in the gym locker room so no choice in the matter.. but was one of those girls all haughty and arrogant that this man is the baby daddy.. at the end it was proven he wasn't per dna.. cue the histrionic breakdown of baby mommy. ---- what was interesting was a few months later I was in the gym, again povich was on and they mentioned an update on that particular paternity seeking girl. She was now up to test #14. (the original show she was piously proclaiming he was the only one, she hadn't cheated... what a hoot.)
I'm not sure a marriage counselor who specializes in interracial relationships would technically work here, since Hispanic is not a race, nor is Puerto Rican. The first is a designation specifying that you were born in a country that Spain created during the Colonial Era, which means the people in it are half-Caucasian/half-Native American (At least for the ones not from the Philippines, who are Hispanics, themselves.) - a.k.a. "Mixed/Other," which is their official "racial" designation - while the latter is a Nationality. Not saying that's a bad thing - or a good thing - just that it is, in fact, a thing.
Story 2: I’m also a victim of false SA allegations. I made a post to Reddit asking how I’m supposed to get past the anger from such injustice. The overall thing I heard is that you never truly get past the injustice from allegations like that. And the people who make them will never truly face consequences. From my own personal experience, they often come from well off and privileged backgrounds, which makes it that much more frustrating.
Smfh...
Do these people know or GAF about how damaging those types of false accusations are to those affected?
@@RagingWoody74 Nope. Not at all. The people who do this don't care, that doesn't benefit them. To them, guys don't have feelings. They see them as barely human. So they just figure they cam do whatever and guys will just "man up" and deal with it
@@raeishimura Disgusting 😡
Are you comfortable sharing your story about the allegations
I’m so sorry someone did that. Besides messing up your life they make it harder for people who truly are SAed to be believed. There should be serious punishment for falsely accusing someone.
Story 2, naw false allegations hurt not only the falsely accused, but real victims too, so naw she and her parents needs to face consequences.
💯
Said the same, but TotalitarianTube keeps removing my posts.
These people who lie about SA are so pathetic. And its disgusting the parents dont want OP to sue
I live with my folks as a disabled man here but I pay my own way and pay them rent. The brother in story 1 is a mooch to the highest degree. What an ass.
My at the time landlord’s family had that problem. My landlord was also living with them because he needed to rent out both units of the duplex, but he at least paid his way. His brother on the other hand was a lazy mooch, despite having a do nothing government union job with “tenure/seniority”. The guy made more money than my landlord, yet wouldn’t get his own place, never took care of anything in his life, stole food, left messes, still needed mom-may to do his laundry. The guy was too lazy to even take care of his car, got pulled over for expired tags and had his car break down multiple times (too lazy to even wash it).
For the last story - the answer always is “my husband will do a paternity test on our child when FIL does them on his kids)
Last story, once MIL accused the OP of cheating and that the kid is not her son's, then that should end any idea of grandparent's rights, more so if the MIL is going to be racist as well.
story 1, It's good that mom is finally taking action to address the situation.
Story #2
I have a different take on this. I would suggest OP leave India entirely. He seems intelligent, he's started a business and done well for himself. Imagine what he could accomplish if the deck wasn't stacked against him.
I respect Indian culture, but it has some serious problems. The ethical standards are too lofty, and ironically that leads many to ignore ethics entirely. Often good intentions (culturally) backfire.
For example, the way debts have historically been managed. In India, for hundreds of years, debts were inheritable. The reasoning behind this was that if you borrowed money, your family presumably benefitted. If you died before settling the debt, those in your family who benefitted would pay it so as not to steal from the lender. It made sense in that regard, but when it became law, things went awry.
First, foreign lenders took advantage of this, working through proxy loan sharks within the country. Massive amounts of wealth flooded out of India.
Then you have to consider the caste system, and that the people taking these loans were often illiterate, with no access to education. They knew they needed money, but didn't really understand the terms they were agreeing to, making them easy marks for predatory lenders. The upper class knew better than to take those deals. Not unlike payday loans here in the U.S., they targeted the desperate and uneducated, but did so with much less regulation.
Indian families have traditionally been very large for a number of reasons, but when this policy was implemented, the population really exploded massively. If you take out a loan that will take you 30 years to pay off, and you die, leaving behind only one child, they will never be able to support the rest f the family and service that debt and start their own family. But if you have 10 children, then they're on the hook for 3 years of loan payments each, which is manageable. And with these loans you can afford to have 10 kids, and if everything goes to plan, that's far more people to help support you in your old age, leading to a potential net gain at a time when advancement was very difficult. The population ballooned and now there are over a billion people and not enough resources to support everyone, leading to rampant poverty in many areas.
It all started with the simple notion of "Pay your debts", which is both reasonable and honorable. But the manner in which it was implemented across the society caused countless problems. This law wasn't reformed until the late 1970s, but by then, the damage was done. While things have gotten much better for people in some regards, many of the problems that started persist to this day, and will for generations to come.
Ethics and Justice are not always synonymous, and a nation cannot be ruled by ethics alone. It requires more pragmatic analysis. And this is just one of countless similar examples.
There are many things admirable about Indian culture, but it's being eroded at a rapid pace. If the best attributes are to be preserved, I think they should be transplanted to areas where they can actually survive and thrive, even if they're not always shared by the people around you. Retreat is not defeat, if it allows you to survive.
well in the story 2: op wasn't a politician that's why he was in trouble otherwise he would have been the trouble itself
im starting to hate this whole "he/she from another time" it's a bullshit excuse to let people get away with shitty and abusive behavior
Sounds like a reality show where Jerry Springer meets Reddit drama! Can’t wait to see what happens next on “My Life’s a Mess: Reddit Edition”!
there was one maury povich show(s) that got my attention. it was on a tv in the gym locker room so no choice in the matter.. but was one of those girls all haughty and arrogant that this man is the baby daddy.. at the end it was proven he wasn't per dna.. cue the histrionic breakdown of baby mommy. ---- what was interesting was a few months later I was in the gym, again povich was on and they mentioned an update on that particular paternity seeking girl. She was now up to test #14. (the original show she was piously proclaiming he was the only one, she hadn't cheated... what a hoot.)
I'm not sure a marriage counselor who specializes in interracial relationships would technically work here, since Hispanic is not a race, nor is Puerto Rican. The first is a designation specifying that you were born in a country that Spain created during the Colonial Era, which means the people in it are half-Caucasian/half-Native American (At least for the ones not from the Philippines, who are Hispanics, themselves.) - a.k.a. "Mixed/Other," which is their official "racial" designation - while the latter is a Nationality.
Not saying that's a bad thing - or a good thing - just that it is, in fact, a thing.
Story 1: is OP John wick?