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Breaking Down Patriarchy
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Breaking Down Patriarchy is a nonprofit organization focused on providing educational content and media. Founded by Amy McPhie Allebest, Breaking Down Patriarchy highlights essential historical texts to better understand the origins of patriarchy and to deconstruct its effects on our minds, relationships, and communities. The organization envisions a world in which all human beings are able to flourish and reach their unique potential. We strive to include as many voices as possible, and our work is intersectional and inclusive. We are also firmly committed to the well-being of boys and men, and we enthusiastically and gratefully enlist the help of our non-female allies in creating an egalitarian world where everyone can thrive.
To watch full episodes of our weekly podcast, subscribe to our podcast channel at the BDP Podcast TH-cam link below.
To donate to our work follow the DonorBox link below. As a 501c3 nonprofit organization, all donations are tax deductible.
To watch full episodes of our weekly podcast, subscribe to our podcast channel at the BDP Podcast TH-cam link below.
To donate to our work follow the DonorBox link below. As a 501c3 nonprofit organization, all donations are tax deductible.
Why Women of Color Are Exhausted
This week on Breaking Down Patriarchy, Amy is joined by Leatha Udayabhanu to discuss women building bridges… and burning them.
If you’ve been watching this video series, you’ll remember that painful schisms between Black and white women were already present during the first wave of feminism and then again during the Civil Rights Movement and second wave of feminism. But that was in the 1960s and 70s. Do you know what happened between then and now?
All women have been struggling under patriarchy, so have white women been able to work together with queer women and women of color during the past 50 years?
To hear more about her work, Leatha Udayabhanu can be reached at
leatha@essentiallyawake.com
Sources and Additional Reading:
This Bridge Called My Back: Writings by Radical Women of Color is a feminist anthology edited by Cherríe Moraga and Gloria E. Anzaldúa
Borderlands/La Frontera: The New Mestiza by Gloria Anzaldua
Sister Outsider by Audre Lorde
White Feminism by Koa Beck
Ain't I a Woman? by bell hooks
How did patriarchy begin? We made a video about that. - check it out: th-cam.com/video/LAqVPlS1Q-s/w-d-xo.htmlsi=lvfvxh6OGhokvh59
How and when did women get the right to vote in the U.S.? - check out this video to learn more: th-cam.com/video/xEJG1GClOSU/w-d-xo.htmlsi=XJR2qtLOjYb9SKVf
About:
Amy McPhie Allebest is a scholar, historian, writer, and independent podcast host. Allebest began the Breaking Down Patriarchy project during her master’s degree at Stanford University in 2020. Her studies there served as the catalyst for the project and podcast. In addition to the project, Allebest is best known for her viral 2016 Medium article titled “Dear Mormon Man, Tell Me What You Would Do.”
The Breaking Down Patriarchy project uses essential historical texts to better understand the origins of patriarchy and to deconstruct its unjust effects on our minds, relationships, and communities. The project envisions a world in which all human beings are able to flourish and reach their unique potential. We strive to include as many voices as possible, and our work is intersectional and inclusive. We are also firmly committed to the well-being of boys and men, and we enthusiastically and gratefully enlist the help of our non-female allies in creating an egalitarian world where everyone can thrive.
- Where To Find Us -
Instagram: bdownpatriarchy
Tiktok: www.tiktok.com/@breakingdownpatriarchy
Facebook: BreakingDownPatriarchy
Starring Amy McPhie Allebest & Leatha Udayabhanu
Written by Amy McPhie Allebest & Leatha Udayabhanu
Videographer and Editor: Ralph Blair
If you’ve been watching this video series, you’ll remember that painful schisms between Black and white women were already present during the first wave of feminism and then again during the Civil Rights Movement and second wave of feminism. But that was in the 1960s and 70s. Do you know what happened between then and now?
All women have been struggling under patriarchy, so have white women been able to work together with queer women and women of color during the past 50 years?
To hear more about her work, Leatha Udayabhanu can be reached at
leatha@essentiallyawake.com
Sources and Additional Reading:
This Bridge Called My Back: Writings by Radical Women of Color is a feminist anthology edited by Cherríe Moraga and Gloria E. Anzaldúa
Borderlands/La Frontera: The New Mestiza by Gloria Anzaldua
Sister Outsider by Audre Lorde
White Feminism by Koa Beck
Ain't I a Woman? by bell hooks
How did patriarchy begin? We made a video about that. - check it out: th-cam.com/video/LAqVPlS1Q-s/w-d-xo.htmlsi=lvfvxh6OGhokvh59
How and when did women get the right to vote in the U.S.? - check out this video to learn more: th-cam.com/video/xEJG1GClOSU/w-d-xo.htmlsi=XJR2qtLOjYb9SKVf
About:
Amy McPhie Allebest is a scholar, historian, writer, and independent podcast host. Allebest began the Breaking Down Patriarchy project during her master’s degree at Stanford University in 2020. Her studies there served as the catalyst for the project and podcast. In addition to the project, Allebest is best known for her viral 2016 Medium article titled “Dear Mormon Man, Tell Me What You Would Do.”
The Breaking Down Patriarchy project uses essential historical texts to better understand the origins of patriarchy and to deconstruct its unjust effects on our minds, relationships, and communities. The project envisions a world in which all human beings are able to flourish and reach their unique potential. We strive to include as many voices as possible, and our work is intersectional and inclusive. We are also firmly committed to the well-being of boys and men, and we enthusiastically and gratefully enlist the help of our non-female allies in creating an egalitarian world where everyone can thrive.
- Where To Find Us -
Instagram: bdownpatriarchy
Tiktok: www.tiktok.com/@breakingdownpatriarchy
Facebook: BreakingDownPatriarchy
Starring Amy McPhie Allebest & Leatha Udayabhanu
Written by Amy McPhie Allebest & Leatha Udayabhanu
Videographer and Editor: Ralph Blair
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i've been binge watching your videos, this video in particular being one of the first i watched. & i was wondering if you could make a video of ALL of the books you recommend people reading to become well rounded(-ish?) in feminism & the patriarchy? i would greatly appreciate any video(s) about it 😭& i think they would be a great video series in & of themselves :D + if they were organized by ones to begin with/must read asap, & perhaps intersecting categories, like: origins of patriarchy/ancient patriarchy, history of patriarchy is certain regions of the world, the impacts of patriarchy on us today, etc. would be great too :)
I believe Yahweh was one of El and Aaherah's sons. His siblings were Baal, Anat and Yam. It's been interesting to learn how the cult of Yahweh eventually took over.
YES. As a FBA from the south. The whole title to this video. YES.
This was an amazing essay! 🥰
These women are the intellectual grandmothers of the feminist movement and fore parents of what to come. I am tied of reading about so many men in history, so I appreciate reading about some important women. I have read A Vindication of the Rights of Women. "Women ought to have representatives, instead of being arbitrarily governed without any direct share allowed them in the deliberations of government." Mary Wollstonecraft. Tom,
This is great work and great dialogue but why are there no black women or Latino women in your discussion?
So the point is both are wrong and what's the solution?
tell em!
SO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IHAS BEEN TRANSMITTED FROM ONE GENERATION TO NEXT …..
Cross your legs ladies …..even if you are married ….men do not deserve that privilege. …they lie and cheat all the time ….
Us is the country for men only . I am not optimistic at all .
The Women's movement is racism by another name. The Women's movement affirms the racial privilege of White Women over nonWhite men. The primary oppression in America (and the world) is racial oppression, not gender oppression. Prioritizing gender oppression over racial oppression punishes nonWhite men for the sins of White men. Non-White men have no patriarchal privilege in America. I am offended to hell by the refusal of White feminists to racialize their rhetoric. The reason they don't superimpose race over gender inequality is to prevent non-White women from realizing they are being used as weapons against their non-White fathers, sons, husbands, uncles, and brothers. Besides, absolute equality is impossible and undesirable. Feminism perverted the greater human rights mission. Men and women are different (not better or worse) and need unique types of support. However, feminism promotes an absurd like-for-like idea of equality and then contradicts it. Women want more of the good things White men have enjoyed while maintaining traditional White female privilege. True equality would equalize the negatives, too.
And while were at it, FREE THE NIPPLE!!!!
10:28 - 11:22 she went off - not a single lie
Started my season 1 on my channel. Hoping that this work along with yours Amy will help people to understand what the heck is going on. I feel this info from the angle I am taking it will help us to understand why straight white women are still so caught up in not standing up with the rest of us th-cam.com/video/dTMMQ3X2mzY/w-d-xo.htmlsi=TWBj-xLG0oPTqh7t. AND - tomorrow at 10AM CST I will be mentioning this video in a Live here on YT and sharing my thoughts a bit more on why white women stay gaged and paralyzed.
OooOooo hell yeah to all of this project. Egalitarianism is the future!
Ignorance IS willful! Grasp the roots.
Love the channel, love the conversation (so important) and would love to see a video reflecting on why with all that we know, non-WOC are NOT willing to do the work.
Great video
I loved the thought of doing a pilgrammage, and realized I do that with my creative writing. I've created immortals and connected with Hel from Norse mythology, as she was a scapegoat who shows so many signs of depression. By connecting with my idea of what she is (as there's not a lot of information that I've found), I can feel power in my shadow work. As the shadows of the feminine nature are so brilliantly beautiful, we can turn Helheim into a place of rest after a long hard life. Of course, "evil" people would need a little spirit work before they can rest. I wouldn't want to be stabbed in the afterlife. LOL
You young ladies, give me hope, but the only people who can stop racism are the ones who created it. How many generations of our people, people of color, have to go through this? Their children are born out of hate. They teach others to hate. They teach us to hate ourselves the way they hate themselves. White women are going to have to deal with their white men. If the true project 2025 does come to pass we will no longer have to see white women working in a lot of places, but being more abused at home with their masculine husbands. Maybe then and only then will they learn. I hear so many Republican women talking against feminism while they’re working outside the home it’s crazy. They’ll see what they voted for.
I grew up in a Pentecostal home, where my mom bashed feminists, while at the same time doing things feminists allowed her to do, like go to college and have a career. I've learned over time that I'm a feminist. I care about equality, compassion, healing, thriving, inspiring, and changing the energy of the world through artistic expression. I've watch two of your videos this morning, which have helped me put some of my thoughts in alignment. Thanks so much for this!
I'm so glad I found your channel! Following from Italy, I'm not only learning a lot about patriarchal structures and beliefs, but also deepening my knowledge of American history. I'd like to thank you for your calm, compassionate, well-researched approach - it's incredibly helpful for me to deal with painful issues without getting too intensely triggered. Keep up the great work: you're making a difference.
EXACTLY, WE ARE EXHAUSTED!! Thank you for sharing 🖤
White women love black women so much that they hijacked Tarana Burke's "Me Too" movement. This woman's narrative is more of that.
Yep. Those women almost definitely have endured decades of abuse, neglect, oppression from those men, too.
The answer is simple: Because people in power usually don’t wanna lose it.
No.. BLACK women specifically 🙄 WOC are not allies to us. They have shown us as well.
The Votes were stolen so we really don’t have a true picture of the outcome. Everything and Everyone voted for trump just didn’t happen!
I didn't embrace the term feminist until a few years ago. I wasn't against feminism in any way. It's just that "feminism" wasy mom's thing. And complicated familial relationships aside, her idea of feminism did border on man hating....and yet she still dated men and simped to them when she did. It was all very gross and hypocritical. So I was like "I'm pro-woman, but not a feminist". But now that I'm 50 I'm more able to separate my mom's feminism from the archetype and embrace the word. I've always been a feminist. It just took me a while to make peace with the word.
Loved and lol, how cool it is when you do something ancient, that was not taught to you or erased, and you naturally or organically did it.
White women have done a lot of damage to women of color. This includes white women in power positions and/or those who have a significant other that can help drive positive change for all women but particularly women of color who’ve given their lives to others first often neglecting themselves and their families. It’s time for white women to step up and regain the trust of those who have whole heartily supported them for many many years. It’s way over due.
BLACK WOMEN ARE EXHAUSTED!!! WOC hasn't done SHIT!!!!
Men were never meant to lead, they're meant to be our warriors. Talen it back from the beginning.
I don’t believe that patriarchy is natural or inevitable. Generally, I believe that sexual differences, unless there is strong evidence otherwise, are social instead of biological. It does seem that men are somewhat stronger than women. It also seems that men are more violent than women, look at the much larger percentage of murders committed by men than those committed by women. This may not have been that significant when human communities were small and property and status might then be passed down through the mother because one might not be sure who one’s father was but would know who their mother was. This could have changed when communities became larger about 10000 years ago. This also may have been the reason for strict laws against adultery, which originally forbid only sex between a married woman and a man other than her husband. Adultery laws may have come about so men could be sure their children were theirs and so property, status and power might then be passed down through the father. So, men being somewhat stronger than women, possibly more violent and due to the laws against adultery could have led to the predominance of patriarchy. Tom,
Least protected and least supported! Black men GET OFF OUR BACKS!
New to this channel. ARE YOU 2 BLACK? Just asking
Thank you
Thank you for this video and page. Bless you. Women of Caucasian decent please 🙏🏾 truly hear us.
As a 60+ Black woman I can say with an absolute surety that Black women have no allies - period!!! Also BLACK women/people are NOT people of colour! We are Black!!! To lump us in with POC further takes away our agency, autonomy and TRUstories. Why are we always lumped in with "q#eer"? I'm ambidextrous. Does that make me "q#eer"? As a Black woman, why are we sitting at the table with wh#te and non-Black women to discuss Black women's/Black people's issues?
Black women should be ashamed of themselves for creating an intersectional coalition between them, white feminist women, gays, trans & illegal immigrants. They should have remained united with the Black Man in their fight against white supremacy. As a result of Black women breaking ranks with the Black Man, the legitimacy and moral authority of The Civil Rights Movement has been destroyed. Now, we have nothing because of the Trojan Horse you built. Now, gay is the new Black and the trans voice is the loudest voice of Civil Rights all thanks to you.
Thank you ladies for this information about patriarchy, please don't ever take this down the book references are extremely helpful.
No gonna lie, I’ve been deconstructing like crazy, on the verge of deconversion actually because of just how women are treated as second-class citizens or less of a human in the Bible and church, in almost every Abrahamic religion and others as well. They’d say things like how men and women are equal but have “different roles” but when you realize that women are barred from nearly every leadership role (pastor, preacher, bishop, priest, deacon, cardinal, etc.), and relegated to a position of subservience/submission to men, I genuinely had to take a step back and think “well, what’s the point in even believing if this religion has men and boys more prized than women?” And that’s not even getting into the Old Testament, where a woman could be stoned for “not being a virgin.” Nevermind that not only is the “proof of virginity” not even remotely reliable (since women don’t always bleed women they lose their hymen, or even lose their hymen at an earlier point), but men weren’t held to the same standard since it was the women who were property. And this was just one out of several things.!
You are exactly right. Feminism is about equality. Tom,
Discover and read Dr. Tommy Curry. His insights on feminism in particular white feminism will open eyes. Curry explores the appalling racist beginnings of the feminist movement. Racism is the ultimate deal breaker. It’s ludicrous to side with a group of bigoted people and think they are allied with you.
I thank you, for even trying to understand all races of pain how can we advocate if we have no understanding
White women look out for other White women no matter WHAT!! They also stand up for White Men, because they know in order for them to keep their white privileges / white Status, they MUST stand with white men even if they don't always agree with white men policies, decisions , or if these white men are wrong. And why would they do that?? White women know they are praised world wide and treated mostly in public better than other women and they do not want that to go away because at least they're not treated worst than other women overall. They understood the assignment from birth. White women were raised by these men ( fathers, uncles, brothers , cousins and neighbors) They secretly know what these males are capable of and do not want any part of that fear and wrath to come down on them, so they closed their mouths and look the other way and will continue to comply with wrongful behavior because at least things will be peaceful and easier for them. They only help women of color when they have too, When it makes them look Good, or when other white women or white families do not except them but as soon as they're excepted back they will retrieve back to their old ways again. It's a heart, mind and soul situation. Only God Almighty and His Word can make real change. Agape Love , that love that goes beyond color or creed. Black people will continue to be Blessed, Strong, Inspiring, Rich, Resilient , Creative, Have Morales, and Values because it is INSIDE of us. Yes quite a few of us black people have been traumatized and LED astray but if ever giving a real chance to get back to their Roots, treated fairly, play on an Equally playing field and Resist the temptations to sell their souls they will become a brand new people.
Don’t spend your precious energy on anyone who doesn’t cherish it. We are out here fighting. 💚💯🙏✊
There is a right word for woman hating men or thinking they are superior to men, and the word is "femism". It is the exactly like "machism" but in a woman view. This word is kinda taboo, no one knows this term and mix it with feminism at least a lot of men confuse these two words. And in reality machism has been so ingrained in society and normalised, I really don't understand why femism is not and it is viewed like a horrible thing. The history of humanity was build on a machist ideology, and I guess now it is time for femism to exist too!
Patriarchy is a word used by useless women who have nothing to offer other than looks. Get mad