Leatha here. A few things: - This video is about an anthology written by writers of the global majority (nonwhite) i.e. women of color. Amy introduces the video by referring to Black women. We did not clarify that these two group descriptors - WOC and Black women - are NOT equivalent. I regret that. - Non Black POC are, historically and currently, responsible for actively perpetuating so much anti Blackness. We did not address that or even allude to it in the video. I regret that also. - Amy introduces the video with info regarding the recent election in the US and connects it historically to similar schisms. I recognize the patterns, but realize now that my participation implies that I was or am pro a particular candidate or party. I am not and will never be pro any political candidate or party that supports genocide.
That clarification was more than needed. There was a large number of non white who think as long as they are not Black they are entitled white privilege@@CallMeErie. I don't trust them either.
Thank you for clarifying your position and acknowledging the anti Blackness in POC. I am always Black first as well. Growing up in a majority non Black suburb, I have been called the pejorative term for a Black person to my face, too many times to count. Once by a student who was newly arrived and barely spoke English. I have never been called any pejorative term for a woman. We know who Affirmative Action and DEI initiatives have benefited most and it was not us, despite BW being the back bone of almost every struggle for human decency. My back hurts from carrying so many on it though. It has hurt for a while, so I am resting for a bit. Tuning into the Sybil's who were my ancestors for guidance and doing it in peace. Wishing no harm or ill will toward anyone or any group of people.
It’s ok for black women to show up for themselves and just say “no.” How the “other” perceives this is their own trigger and responsibility to alchemize.
We say that but we can't. It's in our nature through centuries of oppression. I said the same thing yet what I do? Get not one but 2 degrees in social work. I justified it by saying "oh well at least I'm getting paid for my work" then surprise, surprise I found out there's a pay gap between men and women in social work 🤯 I was floored. I definitely burned the cape back for black males in highschool when I came across BWE content but considering 🍊 man is back in office I probably should've gotten my JD as well 🥴
I am a Black woman who read "this bridge called my back" at Brandeis in a course called Black women writers and the professor was a Black woman. I understood how lucky I was.
I was a research assistant in a psychological study that looked at the "Strong Black Woman" schema and its correlation with breast cancer recovery. The SBW schema often has negative consequences, like experiencing a felt lack of support as a result of many years of historically driven collective and individual emotional suppression. Despite this, black women were shown show up for themselves through enormous self-advocacy, grit, and tremendous resilience. Sadly though, this constant battle was seen to lead to high rates of exhaustion and fatigue. Feeling Joy (often communally) remained an important outlet for the immense isolation that often followed as a result of this schema -- experiencing Joy was revealed as a protective factor. Thanks for this awesome video.
I married into a white family AND moved to a different continent and it is super elucidating and isolating when they consistently chose ignorance and shaming so you'll get off a topic that impedes their comfort. Eventually, you just become more and more introverted and excuse yourself as often as possible when you know they'll be foolishness because you see how willfully obtuse they are and it's exhausting.
I didn’t know black women strength was a topic of study…how many nonwhites in the class?? Always feel like we (black America). are being watched, evaluated. Tell me Why??
Apologies if I’m in a woman’s only space, but as a Black man I do have thoughts. For starters, 30 years ago, my grandmother told me this. “All that marching and unity during those Civil Rights marches. All the Jews and White women there got what they wanted after the Civil Rights Act and Affirmative Action, and told us we’re on our own and forgot about us.” That is the same feeling Black women are having now. I sure know it’s how I’m feeling. My whole energy now is me, myself and I. Making as much money as I can so I can have the life I want, and be able to help my family and loved ones. I got the memo loud and clear. Especially in my city where the racism and discrimination towards Blacks, from Hispanic immigrants, is something deep. What went on could have been a great xenophobic story on Fox News during the Obama years.
Yes and no. One could attribute hypertension to higher stress, but is there a physiological component? Asian American Women are more likely to get certain cancers. Are racist creating cancers?
It is known to all of us who DON'T live in a majority Yt nation addicted to the drug of 'whiyteness' and proximity to it. We don't understand how you can stand it daily, always at risk of being made to prove your equivalent worth as a human. It is unspeakable the horror of that and the repressed rage from it would raise anyone's blood pressure.
And these other “women of color” aren’t interested in helping solve the unique, most critical black issues. If anything, they’re increasingly becoming adversaries to black people.
I’m a 67 year old married Black man; trust me when I say this, black women are done with ya’ll! My wife and her circle all talk about it! Good luck to you all! Us Black people are gonna be fine!!
Yup. Black woman here, we are tired. There is a marked distance between us global majority and the white women at my job. What last bit of trust this election could have sustained, at least as women, was eroded by over 50% of them. We don't who of them to trust, how long (including years) it will take for that trust to be broken, and we don't see why we should bother
I am a southeast Asian woman. I have been politically active and vocal about it my entire life because of how I have been raised, and frankly, I've been getting burnt out. I'm tired of feeling like I'm talking to a wall. I'm tired of reading the news and feeling fear and seeing hate. I'm tired.
72 yr old here who thanks Goddess that you two exist and are informing an entire new generation. Beyond patriarchy is still racism. So very grateful for you both and for this channel. Muchas gracias y cariños de Chile
I was Soo excited when I found this podcast. I have been desirable to learn more about this oppressive system and I'm glad to finally get some reference books.
“Sitting with” the realization that over half of my “sisters” voted for the monster as opposed to the reasonable woman, I feel sad and horrified. I am surrounded by exactly that demographic, in suburban Texas. I have tried talking to them but recently in a park in my neighborhood, a Middle Eastern immigrant woman screamed at me, “What are you, a DEMOCRAT?” when I expressed a mildly liberal opinion. Another time I said I was a liberal and a white (Fundamentalist Xtian) woman asked, “Why?” I responded, “Why not?” but i don’t speak to those neighbors any more. Now I just whisper with my fellow liberal women friends, of various ethnicities.
The reason why Democrats have lost a lot of the Black vote, including women, is because of their penchant for weaponizing our identity to gain votes from us and forgetting about us once they get it. That's not to say the Republicans don't do it too, but this election really highlighted the tactics the Dems use to program our voting behavior. Harris used identity politics to a fault. She hardly said anything about the real issues. It was just, if you're of color or gay, you should vote this way. It was disgusting, and that's why she lost us. I didn't vote for either of them. But a change needs to happen in the way we vote and who we choose to vote for.
I am in awe. This discussion was so raw and thought-provoking. I graduated from a Christian school and was the only Black person on my grade level, and there were only three others in the levels below me. I can vouch for the fact that racism supersedes the female collective. At the end of the day, the White girls at my school stuck together and did not treat me like a "girlfriend," a member of their group. It was extremely hurtful. Even more so, because my Black mother chose "religion" over my well-being and forced me to attend from 8th through 12th grade. So, when it comes to women, I have found that other "values" are prioritized over the bond, trust, and support that we should have as women.
I have added "The Bridge Called My Back" to my reading library for a future read, however I feel that this video is a vehicle to get BW back on the hamster wheel. We BW know what racism does to our bodies and its effect on our bodies, because it's hurled at us every day. I can not speak for the other women but I do not wish to breath through it anymore. This mess was not created by WOC and BW should not be expected to fix it. I am at rest
I must admit I have not read the book and just added it to my cart. I thought the book might explore ways in which WOC were used and would help me avoid being used as a pawn in the future. I guess we will see. But I am with you, I am tired, but I am choosing to grow within myself and my community only for at least 4 years ❤ 💅🏽
I am currently reading "Pregnant While Black " and it hurts my soul. This will be another good read to keep me focused on the goal. I too am taking rest While showing up loudly for my community. Peace ~ Love ~ Reflections Queens.
As a white woman, I’m not going to stop fighting for reproductive rights just because other white women don’t value those rights. I value those rights.
I agree , POC is a crazy word to use. Specifically BW and queer people have been fighting for civil rights as a baseline for other races and cultures. WW were pacing in the street of suffrage , black servants were minding their kids even in some cases running their homes was a form of privilege of WW . BW are tired and been doing the real work in history to give other cultures make up false history about the contributions of the community. What we know talking to any bw is we know who they are better than they know themselves and the disappointments are many .
Yeah, where’s all the support and energy when black women (or black families) are facing issues of racial prejudice (at school, work, with the police, etc.)? I think most sistas have figured out that black women are only welcome in these circles to help boost the agenda and goals of the “others”, for photo ops, or to raise money. Then go home with their *real* problems still unresolved and uncared for. No more
As someone who navigates the liminal spaces of identity, finding "This Bridge Called My Back" through your channel feels like discovering a missing theoretical framework. I'll be sharing this with everyone in my circles who needs to understand these vital perspectives. Thank you.
It's a choice. The root may be internalized misogyny to where the husband is king or their own self hatred or their own racism. I'm not sure I have the energy to reach for that root anymore. But I also know we can't let them. Yes, CAN'T LET THEM keep stabbing that dagger in our backs as they walk over it.
We can build bridges only to a certain extent, history has forced us into this position. White woman have to do the heavy lifting to get their people right.
It's amazing how they sat here and gave a review of the book, as well informing us on how they were impacted by different convictions within the book, and how what they read actually touch/affected them the most. To only then have the white woman ask the woman of color; "What do we do now?" Looking once again towards a woman of color to be the bridge builder for repairing or providing a solution on how to repair an issue that was initiated within her own community. And, for her to consciously ask this question and acknowledge in the moment what she did with a smirk annoyed the $hit out of me. It was so easy for her to extend her own thoughts on a version of a bridge in a statement for what she felt, could have been done or could be being done to rectify the on going gap of discommunity between white women and women of color. To ceaselessly drop the ball, especially after reading such a powerful book that focuses on the feelings women of color, their experiences, and the affects of these experiences in/on their lives, is such a let down. And just so everybody understands. It is NOT the job of ANY WOMAN OF COLOR to fix an issue that extends from another community consciously, willingly, and continually. If they want to fix it, THEY HAVE THE TOOLS TO DO SO, because they're the ones who broke it!!!! STOP LAP DOGGING!!!!!
Better to return the question to white women: "So, *You* tell *Me* . What do *'we'* do?!" Just because someone gives you a package does not mean you have to reach out your hands toward it and accept it. It's okay to let it drop & step back. You are not necessarily turning your back on the the giver. You are using "operant conditioning" to protect yourself & to train someone else to begin to learn the difference between genuine "giving" & giving a gift in order to use the person so "gifted"; in to manipulate the "gifted" into doing the work (or something else) for the gifter. If I had a dime for everyone whom I have heard say, "What do I do? Tell me what to do, say, think? Teach me! Tell me what *you* think. Share *your* thoughts with *me* ! Share *your* resources (even as I acknowledge how few they are) with *me* !" I wouldn't be sitting here reading & writing this.
😒 I'm tapping out after other U.S. people literally voted for an extremist convict for president. We can't save Americans from themselves. They're going to have to _feel the pain_ for making this horrible decision.
BLACK WOMEN are resting, because we are tired. I'm so tired of other ethnic groups trying to contrast/compare their experiences to ours. There is no comparison! Please stop.
As a "hispanic" black woman....I don't blame you. But as 57 yo woman in yhis country I'm tired too. And I appreciate what black men and women did for me to even be here for 45 years.❤
@@Deyanira67you’re tired too? Is that some different type of black you’re claiming? What does Hispanic have to do with you black like the rest of us? Black doesn’t care what language you speak.As long as you’re a black …you’re an African. In the clinches that is all that is operative, as in the cops see you solely as black. Period.
I started grad school in 1985 at Stanford in an interdisciplinary program called Modern Thought and Literature. Not only did we read This Bridge, but also Borderlands/La Frontera: The New Mestiza* (Anzaldúa’s beautiful experiment that combined poetry and essays in a new bilingual voice); All the Women Are White, All the Blacks Are Men, But Some of Us Are Brave (Akasha Gloria Hull, Patricia Bell Scott, Barbara Smith, eds); Audre Lorde’s Sister Outsider; and much more. I’m so, so sad you were denied that experience, because as you both described, it was utterly life-changing. And as someone else who is grateful you are helping keep those crucial works in our conversations, a thousand thank yous for your important contributions! * A shameless plug: I’m very proud of the work we do in these areas at Aunt Lute Books, the publisher of Borderlands; I have the honour of serving as board chair for this wonderful press that has been publishing works of Intersectional feminism for over 42 years!
I am a married monogamous Christian cis-het African American dad, and a member of the naturist/nudist community. I have found that even in other marginalized communities the same Western bubble and presumptions exist. Many Western naturists consider the philosophy to have originated in Germany, ignoring the pre-colonial traditional lifestyles and daily cultural practices of many indigenous peoples around the world. Many Westerners considered these indigenous peoples as just "living naked" without any philosophy of sustainability (resource efficiency), social harmony, harmony with nature, or embodied spiritually. While this may seem obscure today, these prejudiced perspectives and narratives were used to label many indigenous cultures as "naked savages", to stigmatize, criminalize, destroy, erase, and harmfully alter their cultures, often to the extent of genocide. This Western bubble of perspectives and narratives exists today within much of the naturist community despite ongoing efforts for broader recognition of other cultural participants and contributions. It seems ultimately rooted in xenophobic fears, willful ignorance, and lazy ignorance. Such internal often subconscious fear and ignorance is a great danger to any sociopolitical movement that aspires towards universal equity and freedom.
Thank you for this important commentary, and I will add this book to my list. In the meantime, my resistance and activism is resting and taking radical care of myself.
I’m so glad I came across this. As a woc in this current climate in the US, I definitely feel exhausted and discouraged. I am looking for ways to be a better version of myself, lean into positivity and hopefully influence others by what I do not what I say. This book will be added to the stack for my growth journey for this year. Thank you both❤
I read "This Bridge Called My Back" in 1991 in my first women's studies class at the University of Iowa. The line "I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired" has stuck with me forever. It's exhausting carrying white women over and over again because of their fragility.
Why carry them, I'm confused about the phrasing. Excuse me in advance if I seem ignorant but I really want to know. I don't have all this time to read.
@ I don’t have time to read the book so you explain it to me. The essence of the book right there. Somebody else doing your work for you. This is why you remain ignorant.
I'm sorry but no. Not this time. This time... pain will teach the lesson that our words could not. I wish you all well. We will not join this fight. We do not trust you🤷🏾♂️👎🏿✊🏿
Thank you Leatha for choosing to be a bridge today ♥️ I am still learning to trace the root, to pull the thread of my shame and other emotions, and I'm grateful for your call to accountability. Onward to action!
I got from the 2024 voting stats that Black women in the USA are mostly united, but White women are very divided. Religion, race, and class are part of the mix. I think stating it as a racial issue oversimplifies what is going on here. Women, including white, straight, married women, are dying here in Texas because of the abortion bans. Yet a lot women here voted for Trump.
Pro-choice here. However, ever thought those women disagree with you at an existential level? Not about freedom but when life starts. Pro-choicers hurt their cause by not understanding their political foes views. You’ll never understand/ convince religious women (including black and Hispanic) with that mindset…
It’s not an oversimplification. One thing that white women are all united in is their racism no matter their religion or class. Every single white women who voted for Trump voted for their racism. It’s not oversimplified. ever since white women were able to vote, they have always voted on this side of racism. Their religion is full of racism. Their class is full of racism. Every aspect of a white women’s life is extremely racist. White women will always put their race before their gender when it comes to voting and that’s why black women want nothing more to do with white women. In fact, bw want nothing to do with any non-black group of women. We are done leave us alone.
@@JustAnotherGoddess52 You mEn invented God in THEIR image. I don't think it was one man and the image also change a or the years an the different religions
Leatha is basically asking us to meditate on what the body feels when it experiences privilege. Simple, and beautiful. I can do that. Thank you both. Love these videos!
This is an important conversation. One thing in my life that taught me so much was experiencing desegregation in 1970's Miami. I was bussed to a Black junior high and attended school with Black students for the first time in my life. I experienced what it was like to be in the minority. I learned what it felt like to fear violence because of my color. I learned how to navigate that prejudice because I was perceived to be White (I'm actually mixed race). I have not seen anything about what effect desegregation has had on communities that underwent this groundbreaking program but I am grateful for the lessons I learned. I would love to see an analysis of the impact it produced brought to the public discourse. It changed my life for the better. I cannot have been alone in this.
Black feminist bell hooks writes about her experience with desegregation of schools. I read it in her book Teaching to Transgress. For her it was a difficult experience, having to go to a white school where she was not valued the same way. 😢 I didn't grow up in the US and I am a millennial, so I had no idea how this process of desegregation was here in the US. I hope all women start building bridges towards each other, especially white women towards women of color. ❤
@@monicagim2506, thank you. I will look for that. It just seems strange to me that such an important program hasn't had a public analysis on its success.
@@j.n.sloane Dear white people, plase go to the board and write 100 times Desegregation is not integration. This appeared in a newspaper column in the 1980s, but my memory fails me where. It did strike me as funny at the time, which is why I still remember it.
14:48 I would also like to see what the effects of these programs were. I am white and was not bussed to my schools but grew up in a mixed Black and white neighborhood and attended majority Black schools. It was an experience I will forever be grateful for as I also learned about feeling like a minority and was made aware of my white privilege at a young age. I was a privileged minority. Privilege because of the benefits my whiteness granted me and privileged to have unfettered access to communities that weren’t my own. It gave me a head start that allowed me to fight against racism and sexism in my 20s and to teach my child explicitly about racism and white privilege.
Thank you for this comment. I have been watching documentaries, movies, miniseries and reading about the black experience since I was in elementary school. I am now 36. I realized in my twenties that there was some damage done as a result of integration that never gets discussed. As I was typing I realized I myself never even considered the correlation between the increase in violence in black communities and desegregation of schools. But that could be because the increase of violence has mostly been blamed on the crack epidemic.
I have watched ALL of your videos. I thoroughly enjoyed and found many of the videos have validated my speculations. Now, for this video presented, I'm glad it is brought up. One thing you may overlooked a group of women is deaf women. We do have our struggles, oppression, and other areas of obstacles. I for one, on behalf of deaf women, am so exhausted that we are not "heard" or "seen" because no one is willing to listen to us. We spent our entire lives conforming to the hearing world. So, from what your video indicated, it's pretty much parallel to our struggles, all the exhaustion we experienced, and so many more, in a different perspective. Thank you for the video!
The next matter is that corporations to crack down on the abuse of employees by white women and to stop ignoring this concern that scores of women are around to report.
I’m part of the 92%, but I am rested and see myself as part of the opposition. We (Black women) have to form some alliances, it’s necessary to protect the existence of Black people who can’t leave this country - not about my feelings.
I'm so glad I found your channel! Following from Italy, I'm not only learning a lot about patriarchal structures and beliefs, but also deepening my knowledge of American history. I'd like to thank you for your calm, compassionate, well-researched approach - it's incredibly helpful for me to deal with painful issues without getting too intensely triggered. Keep up the great work: you're making a difference.
Conservative Latina, Asian, and Middle Eastern women voted for Trump though. Even socially conservative black women voted for Kamala. Not all "women of color" showed up the same to fight tyranny in this election and that needs to be acknowledged.
I can't tell you how much I am sick of women not taking care of women and I don't blame them not one minute. they have eery right to be over us. I am over white women, it's a nightmare .
Can you make a video about best books to read on feminism? Something other than obvious choices like Second Sex. Maybe different suggestions for different feminist topics --- like what to read about women's history, scientific research of women, what's hot right now, etc
This is great. All the times since this oligarchy stuff ramped up in the US that I've been gaslit that I'm the angry black women being unreasonable; that since Obama had been President, I must be mistaken and paranoid... they don't even care to understand and they think if they shame you into not commenting or not responding they've done their job. Yeah you have, you reminded me I can never truly trust y'all and now I don't care to put myself in those spaces where you will inevitably test my silence in the face of foolishness. I'M TIRED.
Amen! I learned a long time ago that even in so called progressive spaces. We don’t have allies. But we definitely got us! One of the many reasons I immigrated to 🇲🇽 in March!
I am grateful for this discussion, but the women who need to see this and read that book, will not. I am not willing to be a bridge. White women need to be each other’s bridge. We have done enough. I am offended that Amy asked Leatha to be the bridge right after talking about the epiphany she had. White women have a lot of work to do, and they cannot do it if we are always willing to be by their side…or the bridge. They have to learn how to be each other’s bridge first.
Nope! Black women threw us away and joined forces with white feminist, gays and illegal immigrants. In the 2024 election, those same coalitions that you built spit in your face and voted Trump. You owe Black men an apology.
This is the second time that I had to write this comment because the first time it didn't show up in any of the replys nor at the top of the comments list. I'm going to do the best that I can to remember the previous comment. There are 2 videos that I 'm about to show you that contains 2 different perspectives. They are old but still relevant. The Patriarchy pretty much is controling this world and has been doing this for over 2,000 years. They are excellent at keeping women and other groups separated from one another. They have learned over time many different tactics to accomplish this control over people, especially women. The first video is titled: Mone Eltahawy: Patriarchy is the form of oppression with which the entire world struggles", And don't forget to put the channel creator name which is CCCB. This feminist activist Mone describes a pictorial image that this system. Mone says that the Patriarchy is an octopus with 7 tentacles. Her words: the Patriarchy is the head of the octopus and then the tentacles of the octopus are the various forms of oppressions that Patriarchy uses across the world." The tentacles of the octopus are supremacy and racism, capitalism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism; however, the most important one that she left out is sexism. The second video comes from a TH-cam channel creator whose name is Aedith. She explains why women don't trust one another. That video is titled " 9 things women have to unlearn". Also remember to put her name after the title of the video. This kind of torture she talks about went for 300 years. I hope one day that all women all over the world can come together and end all modern day enslavement for all who are going through this great evil 😢Peace and good health always ❤😊
Easy to say “pull it from the root” without expanding. What are we pulling out? Democracy? Merit Based Systems? Capitalism? Radical is a negative connotation because breaking stuff is easy, creating something stable is not.
So true And our system is both sexist and racist. If we want to build a new system we have to listen to women especially to black women It is possible, but we have to continue to talk about it. Men think talking is nonsense. But we can show how talking and listening can change the world
Your intentions are unclear, and this is my first time encountering your videos, but this video feels like a lazy attempt to acknowledge a group of women who have been brutalized, marginalized, used, and disregarded by EVERYONE, because now the topic is center stage. Again, I don't know you two or your intentions, but this feels all too fsmiliar. Like a lack-luster appology from someone who was determined to break your heart, and didn't realize it was in public. I hope for black women! I hope we realize that none of this matters, and the only thing that will do us any justice is the continued love and care that we have for one another! Yes, it is our safe space, but also our preferred manner of interaction! We are resting, and most of you are afraid of that.
Beautiful job, goddesses! Women are so strong, and I'll never be able to thank Black women enough for how hard you have fought for our nation. I'm spending my life fighting for equality and compassion for all, but I'd have to live thousands of years to thank you enough.
i've been binge watching your videos, this video in particular being one of the first i watched. & i was wondering if you could make a video of ALL of the books you recommend people reading to become well rounded(-ish?) in feminism & the patriarchy? i would greatly appreciate any video(s) about it 😭& i think they would be a great video series in & of themselves :D + if they were organized by ones to begin with/must read asap, & perhaps intersecting categories, like: origins of patriarchy/ancient patriarchy, history of patriarchy is certain regions of the world, the impacts of patriarchy on us today, etc. would be great too :)
Love the channel, love the conversation (so important) and would love to see a video reflecting on why with all that we know, non-WOC are NOT willing to do the work.
We put Leatha’s contact information in the description, and a comment from Leatha herself is also pinned at the top of this comment section. Hope that helps!
4:50 You can't honestly think that was an accident or a mistake. In my 57 years of Black Male living, but I'll just keep waiting to hear how big of a problem I am.
Posted to Bluesky. This needs to be heard by my white sisters. We can do better. For the record, I voted for Kamala. I believe in her. I desperately wanted to see her represent. I will work harder to do better to my sisters of color. I see you. I love you!❤️
Love this vid! I’m not 100% which of us is right on the pronunciation of Audre Lorde’s first name. I know google says aa- druh , but in interviews with her they seem to be saying aw- dree
White woman here and the space of deconstructing pay Cherokee and just starting my own channel with a little different direction than this one. I have to wonder if because white women seemingly benefit the “most” from the patriarchal structure, and therefore have potentially the most work and most to “lose”… and I do not mean that I agree with this. I’m just looking for the potential reason here… But maybe this is why so many white women are slow to wake up? I do not know since that’s not my experience as a white woman who has really never experience, but I am guessing that this might be something to do with it. Either way, thank you so much for your approach to the subject and for bringing this to awareness. Definitely a topic we need so much more attention on so that we don’t have to keep on creating the right wheel as Gerda learner said happens with
What exactly will they be losing? cause equality doesn’t mean they stand to lose anything except privilege cause they’ll then be on a same level playing feel with everyone else and if that’s something that scares them, they need to ask themselves why, if they truly believe their the superior ones and everyone else is inferior, what is their to fear about being at the same level playing field as everyone else
@ of course that’s how you and I would see it, but they probably don’t see it that clearly. And a quality probably won’t come the minute they step out and join us. So They could be losing their family, their friends, their financial support, their social support maybe even their kids as well. Honestly, that’s what I’ve had to face in order to step out of abusive marriage to a man who’s not even white but super rich and got to control that complete narrative with our kids. So yes, they do have a lot to lose, but they have to understand that losing their autonomy and their souls is also a lot to lose. Again, I’m not saying them staying is is right, I’m just pointing out potentially what might be going on in their own heads. I don’t know for sure this is all I can come up with. Actually, as I think about it, that financial support is a huge piece because so many of us white women caught in that dynamic. Have Ben stay at her moms. And I can tell you after 13-14 years of trying to get back into a corporate America, I still have not. That’s why they call it financial abuse and it keeps women strapped to these men because they want to be in their kids lives and they don’t know how to leave financially and make that happen. And the courts are no friends of women like us either.
@@deconstructingpatriarchy Honestly, all this you’ve said is of little consequence. Sounds a lot like excuses for people who willingly participate in the demise of others. Enough, they don’t need you to advocate for them. Literally, no one would have known who they voted for… no one. Yet here we are time and time again. Enough… it’s find out season one.
@ if we don’t seek to understand why they decide to stay in their delusion, then we can never help break that delusion. So no, it’s not excuses. It’s an attempt to try to understand so it can get deconstructed and that is powerful. If those on the outside like us, do not wish to actually have them join our side, then yes go ahead and proceed as you are. But if you are saying you’re tired of white women not joining our cause, then you have no room to comment if you’re not willing to try to understand what could help them move out of their own way and ours.
Let them deal with all the bs they’ve been oilers & cogs ⚙️ in for hundreds of years. They voted 🗳️ for this. They need to leave us alone. This is like a really cruel SNL skit. These people are fundamentally evil 😈. The most passive aggressive, gaslighting, parasites 🦠!
Leatha here. A few things:
- This video is about an anthology written by writers of the global majority (nonwhite) i.e. women of color. Amy introduces the video by referring to Black women. We did not clarify that these two group descriptors - WOC and Black women - are NOT equivalent. I regret that.
- Non Black POC are, historically and currently, responsible for actively perpetuating so much anti Blackness. We did not address that or even allude to it in the video. I regret that also.
- Amy introduces the video with info regarding the recent election in the US and connects it historically to similar schisms. I recognize the patterns, but realize now that my participation implies that I was or am pro a particular candidate or party. I am not and will never be pro any political candidate or party that supports genocide.
@Leatha, thank you for these clarifications. We appreciate you.
They should pin this, but i expect they won’t. Smh
And Lea, this is why I will always be BLACK FIRST. Any differences I have with my men will be handled IN HOUSE!
That clarification was more than needed. There was a large number of non white who think as long as they are not Black they are entitled white privilege@@CallMeErie. I don't trust them either.
Thank you for clarifying your position and acknowledging the anti Blackness in POC. I am always Black first as well. Growing up in a majority non Black suburb, I have been called the pejorative term for a Black person to my face, too many times to count. Once by a student who was newly arrived and barely spoke English. I have never been called any pejorative term for a woman.
We know who Affirmative Action and DEI initiatives have benefited most and it was not us, despite BW being the back bone of almost every struggle for human decency. My back hurts from carrying so many on it though. It has hurt for a while, so I am resting for a bit. Tuning into the Sybil's who were my ancestors for guidance and doing it in peace. Wishing no harm or ill will toward anyone or any group of people.
It’s ok for black women to show up for themselves and just say “no.” How the “other” perceives this is their own trigger and responsibility to alchemize.
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We, Black women, are resting…#92%
Yup, we're the 92%
And nothing is going to change my mind about it 💆♀️
I LOATHE the term, 'Woman of Colour'. Rest up, Royals.
We say that but we can't. It's in our nature through centuries of oppression. I said the same thing yet what I do? Get not one but 2 degrees in social work. I justified it by saying "oh well at least I'm getting paid for my work" then surprise, surprise I found out there's a pay gap between men and women in social work 🤯
I was floored. I definitely burned the cape back for black males in highschool when I came across BWE content but considering 🍊 man is back in office I probably should've gotten my JD as well 🥴
that why your sons and brothers suffering. Smh
"Catering to people who were content to walk across my back." Whew...
@@lizmclemore739 I know Whew!!!
I am a Black woman who read "this bridge called my back" at Brandeis in a course called Black women writers and the professor was a Black woman. I understood how lucky I was.
In 1978?
I also took a course called Black Women Writers but did NOT get to read this one. This will be rectified soon
I was a research assistant in a psychological study that looked at the "Strong Black Woman" schema and its correlation with breast cancer recovery. The SBW schema often has negative consequences, like experiencing a felt lack of support as a result of many years of historically driven collective and individual emotional suppression. Despite this, black women were shown show up for themselves through enormous self-advocacy, grit, and tremendous resilience. Sadly though, this constant battle was seen to lead to high rates of exhaustion and fatigue. Feeling Joy (often communally) remained an important outlet for the immense isolation that often followed as a result of this schema -- experiencing Joy was revealed as a protective factor. Thanks for this awesome video.
I married into a white family AND moved to a different continent and it is super elucidating and isolating when they consistently chose ignorance and shaming so you'll get off a topic that impedes their comfort.
Eventually, you just become more and more introverted and excuse yourself as often as possible when you know they'll be foolishness because you see how willfully obtuse they are and it's exhausting.
I didn’t know black women strength was a topic of study…how many nonwhites in the class??
Always feel like we (black America). are being watched, evaluated. Tell me Why??
Apologies if I’m in a woman’s only space, but as a Black man I do have thoughts. For starters, 30 years ago, my grandmother told me this. “All that marching and unity during those Civil Rights marches. All the Jews and White women there got what they wanted after the Civil Rights Act and Affirmative Action, and told us we’re on our own and forgot about us.” That is the same feeling Black women are having now. I sure know it’s how I’m feeling. My whole energy now is me, myself and I. Making as much money as I can so I can have the life I want, and be able to help my family and loved ones. I got the memo loud and clear. Especially in my city where the racism and discrimination towards Blacks, from Hispanic immigrants, is something deep. What went on could have been a great xenophobic story on Fox News during the Obama years.
We see you too, part of the 70+% that Stood on Business with US. ✌💯💯💯
This breaks my heart for your grandmother. That disappointment must have been something else. Thanks for sharing
@ Grandma doesn’t get disappointed. Grandma goes for the throat… good or bad
"For some unknown reason....." is indeed the worst type of oppression; complete erasure.
Yes and no. One could attribute hypertension to higher stress, but is there a physiological component? Asian American Women are more likely to get certain cancers. Are racist creating cancers?
Clock it
It is known to all of us who DON'T live in a majority Yt nation addicted to the drug of 'whiyteness' and proximity to it. We don't understand how you can stand it daily, always at risk of being made to prove your equivalent worth as a human. It is unspeakable the horror of that and the repressed rage from it would raise anyone's blood pressure.
THIS Black woman here is NOT doing it anymore. I am BLACK FIRST AALL the way! ✊🏾💖
Facts sista!
Agreed 100 percent❤🎉❤
And these other “women of color” aren’t interested in helping solve the unique, most critical black issues. If anything, they’re increasingly becoming adversaries to black people.
Amen 🙏🏾 I Love You saying ❤️ All the Way ❤ I love that, Because None of those Race of women are a Friend to the Black Woman,
Yes 🙌🏿 Black all the way 🤷🏿♀️only supporting my Sistas and I am tired 😴 of trying to explain because only Black Women get it 😊
Black Women are tired 92%. If others don't understand why then that tells me they haven't been paying attention.
I’m a 67 year old married Black man; trust me when I say this, black women are done with ya’ll! My wife and her circle all talk about it! Good luck to you all! Us Black people are gonna be fine!!
Yup. Black woman here, we are tired. There is a marked distance between us global majority and the white women at my job. What last bit of trust this election could have sustained, at least as women, was eroded by over 50% of them.
We don't who of them to trust, how long (including years) it will take for that trust to be broken, and we don't see why we should bother
Yes, we are done.
you are a simp.
I am a southeast Asian woman. I have been politically active and vocal about it my entire life because of how I have been raised, and frankly, I've been getting burnt out. I'm tired of feeling like I'm talking to a wall. I'm tired of reading the news and feeling fear and seeing hate. I'm tired.
72 yr old here who thanks Goddess that you two exist and are informing an entire new generation. Beyond patriarchy is still racism. So very grateful for you both and for this channel. Muchas gracias y cariños de Chile
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I was Soo excited when I found this podcast. I have been desirable to learn more about this oppressive system and I'm glad to finally get some reference books.
“Sitting with” the realization that over half of my “sisters” voted for the monster as opposed to the reasonable woman, I feel sad and horrified. I am surrounded by exactly that demographic, in suburban Texas. I have tried talking to them but recently in a park in my neighborhood, a Middle Eastern immigrant woman screamed at me, “What are you, a DEMOCRAT?” when I expressed a mildly liberal opinion. Another time I said I was a liberal and a white (Fundamentalist Xtian) woman asked, “Why?” I responded, “Why not?” but i don’t speak to those neighbors any more. Now I just whisper with my fellow liberal women friends, of various ethnicities.
This fragmentation of women is so very sad! At this rate the ERA will NEVER pass!
few more steps :)
The fragmentation of women is what stops the world form healing
They'll fight you to hold on to their own oppression.
The reason why Democrats have lost a lot of the Black vote, including women, is because of their penchant for weaponizing our identity to gain votes from us and forgetting about us once they get it. That's not to say the Republicans don't do it too, but this election really highlighted the tactics the Dems use to program our voting behavior. Harris used identity politics to a fault. She hardly said anything about the real issues. It was just, if you're of color or gay, you should vote this way. It was disgusting, and that's why she lost us. I didn't vote for either of them. But a change needs to happen in the way we vote and who we choose to vote for.
I am in awe. This discussion was so raw and thought-provoking. I graduated from a Christian school and was the only Black person on my grade level, and there were only three others in the levels below me. I can vouch for the fact that racism supersedes the female collective. At the end of the day, the White girls at my school stuck together and did not treat me like a "girlfriend," a member of their group. It was extremely hurtful. Even more so, because my Black mother chose "religion" over my well-being and forced me to attend from 8th through 12th grade. So, when it comes to women, I have found that other "values" are prioritized over the bond, trust, and support that we should have as women.
Yes
I have added "The Bridge Called My Back" to my reading library for a future read, however I feel that this video is a vehicle to get BW back on the hamster wheel. We BW know what racism does to our bodies and its effect on our bodies, because it's hurled at us every day. I can not speak for the other women but I do not wish to breath through it anymore. This mess was not created by WOC and BW should not be expected to fix it. I am at rest
I must admit I have not read the book and just added it to my cart. I thought the book might explore ways in which WOC were used and would help me avoid being used as a pawn in the future. I guess we will see. But I am with you, I am tired, but I am choosing to grow within myself and my community only for at least 4 years ❤ 💅🏽
I am currently reading "Pregnant While Black " and it hurts my soul. This will be another good read to keep me focused on the goal.
I too am taking rest While showing up loudly for my community.
Peace ~ Love ~ Reflections Queens.
I really don’t want to hear anything else about abortion since white women voted against it.
47% of white women voted for VP KAMALA HARRIS.
As a white woman, I’m not going to stop fighting for reproductive rights just because other white women don’t value those rights. I value those rights.
Black women are out there on their own! P E R I O D
I agree , POC is a crazy word to use. Specifically BW and queer people have been fighting for civil rights as a baseline for other races and cultures. WW were pacing in the street of suffrage , black servants were minding their kids even in some cases running their homes was a form of privilege of WW . BW are tired and been doing the real work in history to give other cultures make up false history about the contributions of the community. What we know talking to any bw is we know who they are better than they know themselves and the disappointments are many .
Often fighting for everyone but ourselves
True. We have a bad time remembering to fight for ourselves and to keep our unity with eachother.
We need to learn to love ourselves and stop letting white women and all others step on our backs to cross over to white supremacy.
Yeah, where’s all the support and energy when black women (or black families) are facing issues of racial prejudice (at school, work, with the police, etc.)?
I think most sistas have figured out that black women are only welcome in these circles to help boost the agenda and goals of the “others”, for photo ops, or to raise money. Then go home with their *real* problems still unresolved and uncared for.
No more
As someone who navigates the liminal spaces of identity, finding "This Bridge Called My Back" through your channel feels like discovering a missing theoretical framework. I'll be sharing this with everyone in my circles who needs to understand these vital perspectives. Thank you.
"Watching wt women keep making the same mistake over and over again." It's not a mistake. Y'all have got to be honest first.
It's a choice. The root may be internalized misogyny to where the husband is king or their own self hatred or their own racism. I'm not sure I have the energy to reach for that root anymore. But I also know we can't let them. Yes, CAN'T LET THEM keep stabbing that dagger in our backs as they walk over it.
We have been shown time and time again we (Black women) are on our own. No more explaining or trying to build bridges with others! 92%
We can build bridges only to a certain extent, history has forced us into this position. White woman have to do the heavy lifting to get their people right.
It's amazing how they sat here and gave a review of the book, as well informing us on how they were impacted by different convictions within the book, and how what they read actually touch/affected them the most.
To only then have the white woman ask the woman of color; "What do we do now?" Looking once again towards a woman of color to be the bridge builder for repairing or providing a solution on how to repair an issue that was initiated within her own community.
And, for her to consciously ask this question and acknowledge in the moment what she did with a smirk annoyed the $hit out of me.
It was so easy for her to extend her own thoughts on a version of a bridge in a statement for what she felt, could have been done or could be being done to rectify the on going gap of discommunity between white women and women of color.
To ceaselessly drop the ball, especially after reading such a powerful book that focuses on the feelings women of color, their experiences, and the affects of these experiences in/on their lives, is such a let down.
And just so everybody understands. It is NOT the job of ANY WOMAN OF COLOR to fix an issue that extends from another community consciously, willingly, and continually.
If they want to fix it, THEY HAVE THE TOOLS TO DO SO, because they're the ones who broke it!!!!
STOP LAP DOGGING!!!!!
Agreed! I came here to say this, and will reiterate!
When she asked what do we do, I said out loud, WE!!? I'm done.
THANK YOU, WELL SAID #ADOS
Better to return the question to white women: "So, *You* tell *Me* . What do *'we'* do?!" Just because someone gives you a package does not mean you have to reach out your hands toward it and accept it. It's okay to let it drop & step back. You are not necessarily turning your back on the the giver. You are using "operant conditioning" to protect yourself & to train someone else to begin to learn the difference between genuine "giving" & giving a gift in order to use the person so "gifted"; in to manipulate the "gifted" into doing the work (or something else) for the gifter.
If I had a dime for everyone whom I have heard say, "What do I do? Tell me what to do, say, think? Teach me! Tell me what *you* think. Share *your* thoughts with *me* ! Share *your* resources (even as I acknowledge how few they are) with *me* !" I wouldn't be sitting here reading & writing this.
Thank you, @crl1625. Your point of view powerfully delivered 👏. Amen! Divine protection...
What's changed between 1981 and today? Not enough. That's absolutely right.
😒 I'm tapping out after other U.S. people literally voted for an extremist convict for president. We can't save Americans from themselves. They're going to have to _feel the pain_ for making this horrible decision.
BLACK WOMEN are resting, because we are tired. I'm so tired of other ethnic groups trying to contrast/compare their experiences to ours. There is no comparison! Please stop.
As a "hispanic" black woman....I don't blame you. But as 57 yo woman in yhis country I'm tired too. And I appreciate what black men and women did for me to even be here for 45 years.❤
@@Deyanira67you’re tired too? Is that some different type of black you’re claiming? What does Hispanic have to do with you black like the rest of us? Black doesn’t care what language you speak.As long as you’re a black …you’re an African. In the clinches that is all that is operative, as in the cops see you solely as black. Period.
I started grad school in 1985 at Stanford in an interdisciplinary program called Modern Thought and Literature. Not only did we read This Bridge, but also Borderlands/La Frontera: The New Mestiza* (Anzaldúa’s beautiful experiment that combined poetry and essays in a new bilingual voice); All the Women Are White, All the Blacks Are Men, But Some of Us Are Brave (Akasha Gloria Hull, Patricia Bell Scott, Barbara Smith, eds); Audre Lorde’s Sister Outsider; and much more. I’m so, so sad you were denied that experience, because as you both described, it was utterly life-changing.
And as someone else who is grateful you are helping keep those crucial works in our conversations, a thousand thank yous for your important contributions!
* A shameless plug: I’m very proud of the work we do in these areas at Aunt Lute Books, the publisher of Borderlands; I have the honour of serving as board chair for this wonderful press that has been publishing works of Intersectional feminism for over 42 years!
I am a married monogamous Christian cis-het African American dad, and a member of the naturist/nudist community. I have found that even in other marginalized communities the same Western bubble and presumptions exist. Many Western naturists consider the philosophy to have originated in Germany, ignoring the pre-colonial traditional lifestyles and daily cultural practices of many indigenous peoples around the world. Many Westerners considered these indigenous peoples as just "living naked" without any philosophy of sustainability (resource efficiency), social harmony, harmony with nature, or embodied spiritually. While this may seem obscure today, these prejudiced perspectives and narratives were used to label many indigenous cultures as "naked savages", to stigmatize, criminalize, destroy, erase, and harmfully alter their cultures, often to the extent of genocide. This Western bubble of perspectives and narratives exists today within much of the naturist community despite ongoing efforts for broader recognition of other cultural participants and contributions. It seems ultimately rooted in xenophobic fears, willful ignorance, and lazy ignorance. Such internal often subconscious fear and ignorance is a great danger to any sociopolitical movement that aspires towards universal equity and freedom.
I didn't know this, but I'm not surprised AT ALL.
Thank you for this important commentary, and I will add this book to my list. In the meantime, my resistance and activism is resting and taking radical care of myself.
I hope as many people as possible watch this video, sit with their own reactions and feel what their bodies tell them.
I’m so glad I came across this. As a woc in this current climate in the US, I definitely feel exhausted and discouraged. I am looking for ways to be a better version of myself, lean into positivity and hopefully influence others by what I do not what I say. This book will be added to the stack for my growth journey for this year. Thank you both❤
I read "This Bridge Called My Back" in 1991 in my first women's studies class at the University of Iowa. The line "I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired" has stuck with me forever. It's exhausting carrying white women over and over again because of their fragility.
That just shook me to my core. Carrying them. I never looked at it that way yet that's exactly what it is....too fragile OMG.
Shout out to Fannie Lou Hamer.💕
@@nicoles9163 it’s sooooooo true.
Why carry them, I'm confused about the phrasing. Excuse me in advance if I seem ignorant but I really want to know. I don't have all this time to read.
@ I don’t have time to read the book so you explain it to me. The essence of the book right there. Somebody else doing your work for you. This is why you remain ignorant.
We are tapped out... Ya'll figure it out
When people try to start political conversations in public I just shrug I mean what is there to say at this point.
I'm sorry but no. Not this time. This time... pain will teach the lesson that our words could not. I wish you all well. We will not join this fight. We do not trust you🤷🏾♂️👎🏿✊🏿
They need to figure it out for themselves.
A hard head makes a soft behind.
Thank you Leatha for choosing to be a bridge today ♥️ I am still learning to trace the root, to pull the thread of my shame and other emotions, and I'm grateful for your call to accountability. Onward to action!
I got from the 2024 voting stats that Black women in the USA are mostly united, but White women are very divided. Religion, race, and class are part of the mix. I think stating it as a racial issue oversimplifies what is going on here. Women, including white, straight, married women, are dying here in Texas because of the abortion bans. Yet a lot women here voted for Trump.
Man invented God in his image for a reason. Keep learning and growing and loving.
Pro-choice here. However, ever thought those women disagree with you at an existential level? Not about freedom but when life starts. Pro-choicers hurt their cause by not understanding their political foes views. You’ll never understand/ convince religious women (including black and Hispanic) with that mindset…
It’s not an oversimplification. One thing that white women are all united in is their racism no matter their religion or class. Every single white women who voted for Trump voted for their racism. It’s not oversimplified. ever since white women were able to vote, they have always voted on this side of racism. Their religion is full of racism. Their class is full of racism. Every aspect of a white women’s life is extremely racist. White women will always put their race before their gender when it comes to voting and that’s why black women want nothing more to do with white women. In fact, bw want nothing to do with any non-black group of women. We are done leave us alone.
@@JustAnotherGoddess52 You mEn invented God in THEIR image.
I don't think it was one man and the image also change a or the years an the different religions
Thus proving that palmvitas women have work to do and black women need to respectfully allow them to do it.
Leatha is basically asking us to meditate on what the body feels when it experiences privilege. Simple, and beautiful. I can do that. Thank you both. Love these videos!
This is an important conversation. One thing in my life that taught me so much was experiencing desegregation in 1970's Miami. I was bussed to a Black junior high and attended school with Black students for the first time in my life. I experienced what it was like to be in the minority. I learned what it felt like to fear violence because of my color. I learned how to navigate that prejudice because I was perceived to be White (I'm actually mixed race). I have not seen anything about what effect desegregation has had on communities that underwent this groundbreaking program but I am grateful for the lessons I learned. I would love to see an analysis of the impact it produced brought to the public discourse. It changed my life for the better. I cannot have been alone in this.
Black feminist bell hooks writes about her experience with desegregation of schools. I read it in her book Teaching to Transgress. For her it was a difficult experience, having to go to a white school where she was not valued the same way. 😢 I didn't grow up in the US and I am a millennial, so I had no idea how this process of desegregation was here in the US. I hope all women start building bridges towards each other, especially white women towards women of color. ❤
@@monicagim2506, thank you. I will look for that. It just seems strange to me that such an important program hasn't had a public analysis on its success.
@@j.n.sloane Dear white people, plase go to the board and write 100 times Desegregation is not integration. This appeared in a newspaper column in the 1980s, but my memory fails me where. It did strike me as funny at the time, which is why I still remember it.
14:48 I would also like to see what the effects of these programs were. I am white and was not bussed to my schools but grew up in a mixed Black and white neighborhood and attended majority Black schools. It was an experience I will forever be grateful for as I also learned about feeling like a minority and was made aware of my white privilege at a young age. I was a privileged minority. Privilege because of the benefits my whiteness granted me and privileged to have unfettered access to communities that weren’t my own. It gave me a head start that allowed me to fight against racism and sexism in my 20s and to teach my child explicitly about racism and white privilege.
Thank you for this comment. I have been watching documentaries, movies, miniseries and reading about the black experience since I was in elementary school. I am now 36. I realized in my twenties that there was some damage done as a result of integration that never gets discussed. As I was typing I realized I myself never even considered the correlation between the increase in violence in black communities and desegregation of schools. But that could be because the increase of violence has mostly been blamed on the crack epidemic.
I have watched ALL of your videos. I thoroughly enjoyed and found many of the videos have validated my speculations. Now, for this video presented, I'm glad it is brought up. One thing you may overlooked a group of women is deaf women. We do have our struggles, oppression, and other areas of obstacles. I for one, on behalf of deaf women, am so exhausted that we are not "heard" or "seen" because no one is willing to listen to us. We spent our entire lives conforming to the hearing world. So, from what your video indicated, it's pretty much parallel to our struggles, all the exhaustion we experienced, and so many more, in a different perspective. Thank you for the video!
The next matter is that corporations to crack down on the abuse of employees by white women and to stop ignoring this concern that scores of women are around to report.
This election spoke volumes. A lot of work remains to be done…..by WYT women.
Thank you for the conversation. Very useful .
I read, This Bridge Called My Back in collage but my professor was a WOC like me. Thanks for highlighting it.
Thank you for an amazing interview.
I’m part of the 92%, but I am rested and see myself as part of the opposition. We (Black women) have to form some alliances, it’s necessary to protect the existence of Black people who can’t leave this country - not about my feelings.
Thank you both for posting this. It was well said.
Thank you for this video! and the book list! I'm eager to learn and read more. :)
These videos are superb- extremely valuable. Thank you for sharing.
The title of women if color is misleading. Black women are tired.
Thank you to both of you for your work. It is so needed and has changed my life. ❤
I'm so glad I found your channel! Following from Italy, I'm not only learning a lot about patriarchal structures and beliefs, but also deepening my knowledge of American history. I'd like to thank you for your calm, compassionate, well-researched approach - it's incredibly helpful for me to deal with painful issues without getting too intensely triggered. Keep up the great work: you're making a difference.
Thank you BOTH for this
Conservative Latina, Asian, and Middle Eastern women voted for Trump though. Even socially conservative black women voted for Kamala. Not all "women of color" showed up the same to fight tyranny in this election and that needs to be acknowledged.
EXACTLY, WE ARE EXHAUSTED!! Thank you for sharing 🖤
Thank you for sharing and suggesting this book. I bought it right away.
I'm grateful this channel exists.
Black Woman are resting, repairing and preparing to lead and guide or black children going forward and nobody else
Period! 92%
Added the book to my reading list. Thanks for the referral!
I can't tell you how much I am sick of women not taking care of women and I don't blame them not one minute. they have eery right to be over us. I am over white women, it's a nightmare .
Can you make a video about best books to read on feminism? Something other than obvious choices like Second Sex. Maybe different suggestions for different feminist topics --- like what to read about women's history, scientific research of women, what's hot right now, etc
Thank you so much ❤❤❤❤❤❤
YES. As a FBA from the south. The whole title to this video. YES.
This is great. All the times since this oligarchy stuff ramped up in the US that I've been gaslit that I'm the angry black women being unreasonable; that since Obama had been President, I must be mistaken and paranoid... they don't even care to understand and they think if they shame you into not commenting or not responding they've done their job.
Yeah you have, you reminded me I can never truly trust y'all and now I don't care to put myself in those spaces where you will inevitably test my silence in the face of foolishness. I'M TIRED.
Amen! I learned a long time ago that even in so called progressive spaces. We don’t have allies. But we definitely got us! One of the many reasons I immigrated to 🇲🇽 in March!
I plan to read this book. I found this discussion encouraging
I am grateful for this discussion, but the women who need to see this and read that book, will not. I am not willing to be a bridge. White women need to be each other’s bridge. We have done enough. I am offended that Amy asked Leatha to be the bridge right after talking about the epiphany she had. White women have a lot of work to do, and they cannot do it if we are always willing to be by their side…or the bridge. They have to learn how to be each other’s bridge first.
Don’t spend your precious energy on anyone who doesn’t cherish it. We are out here fighting. 💚💯🙏✊
The problem now is can the black women and black men come together as one we have to work so much harder right now
Nope! Black women threw us away and joined forces with white feminist, gays and illegal immigrants. In the 2024 election, those same coalitions that you built spit in your face and voted Trump. You owe Black men an apology.
Thank you both
I have so much to say at 53. I think im just going to say thank you sistren!💚👏🏾👏🏾
This is the second time that I had to write this comment because the first time it didn't show up in any of the replys nor at the top of the comments list. I'm going to do the best that I can to remember the previous comment. There are 2 videos that I 'm about to show you that contains 2 different perspectives. They are old but still relevant. The Patriarchy pretty much is controling this world and has been doing this for over 2,000 years. They are excellent at keeping women and other groups separated from one another. They have learned over time many different tactics to accomplish this control over people, especially women.
The first video is titled: Mone Eltahawy: Patriarchy is the form of oppression with which the entire world struggles", And don't forget to put the channel creator name which is CCCB. This feminist activist Mone describes a pictorial image that this system. Mone says that the Patriarchy is an octopus with 7 tentacles. Her words: the Patriarchy is the head of the octopus and then the tentacles of the octopus are the various forms of oppressions that Patriarchy uses across the world." The tentacles of the octopus are supremacy and racism, capitalism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism; however, the most important one that she left out is sexism.
The second video comes from a TH-cam channel creator whose name is Aedith. She explains why women don't trust one another. That video is titled " 9 things women have to unlearn". Also remember to put her name after the title of the video. This kind of torture she talks about went for 300 years. I hope one day that all women all over the world can come together and end all
modern day enslavement for all who are going through this great evil 😢Peace and good health always ❤😊
Sister I don’t see the second video you mentioned, could you link it please?
Thank you very much.
This is great work and great dialogue but why are there no black women or Latino women in your discussion?
I'm a Black woman who went to SMU in Dallas. My minor was Women's Studies and I've never heard of this book but I am getting a copy. Today. 🤯
I had never heard of that book either. I’m going to order it today.
Easy to say “pull it from the root” without expanding. What are we pulling out? Democracy? Merit Based Systems? Capitalism? Radical is a negative connotation because breaking stuff is easy, creating something stable is not.
So true
And our system is both sexist and racist.
If we want to build a new system we have to listen to women especially to black women
It is possible, but we have to continue to talk about it.
Men think talking is nonsense.
But we can show how talking and listening can change the world
The quote was, "grasping at the root" not "pulling".
@ Those are called synonyms in this scenario. Also, they literally had a video of someone pulling out a root 🤡
Thank you❤
Thank you for this video and page. Bless you. Women of Caucasian decent please 🙏🏾 truly hear us.
Love this break down !
Your intentions are unclear, and this is my first time encountering your videos, but this video feels like a lazy attempt to acknowledge a group of women who have been brutalized, marginalized, used, and disregarded by EVERYONE, because now the topic is center stage. Again, I don't know you two or your intentions, but this feels all too fsmiliar. Like a lack-luster appology from someone who was determined to break your heart, and didn't realize it was in public. I hope for black women! I hope we realize that none of this matters, and the only thing that will do us any justice is the continued love and care that we have for one another! Yes, it is our safe space, but also our preferred manner of interaction! We are resting, and most of you are afraid of that.
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Beautiful job, goddesses! Women are so strong, and I'll never be able to thank Black women enough for how hard you have fought for our nation. I'm spending my life fighting for equality and compassion for all, but I'd have to live thousands of years to thank you enough.
Beautiful!
i've been binge watching your videos, this video in particular being one of the first i watched. & i was wondering if you could make a video of ALL of the books you recommend people reading to become well rounded(-ish?) in feminism & the patriarchy?
i would greatly appreciate any video(s) about it 😭& i think they would be a great video series in & of themselves :D
+ if they were organized by ones to begin with/must read asap, & perhaps intersecting categories, like: origins of patriarchy/ancient patriarchy, history of patriarchy is certain regions of the world, the impacts of patriarchy on us today, etc. would be great too :)
Love the channel, love the conversation (so important) and would love to see a video reflecting on why with all that we know, non-WOC are NOT willing to do the work.
I can’t find the *Link to Leatha’s* works. 👀
Thanks a lot Amy I love your channel.
We put Leatha’s contact information in the description, and a comment from Leatha herself is also pinned at the top of this comment section. Hope that helps!
I thank you, for even trying to understand all races of pain how can we advocate if we have no understanding
I have so many questions.
1. Nice job of listing all disenfranchised groups, but as always everyone manages to miss one, why is that?
As a black feminist male nothing but nothing will stop me from being in solidarity with my sisters, my teachers, my people.
4:50 You can't honestly think that was an accident or a mistake. In my 57 years of Black Male living, but I'll just keep waiting to hear how big of a problem I am.
Posted to Bluesky. This needs to be heard by my white sisters. We can do better. For the record, I voted for Kamala. I believe in her. I desperately wanted to see her represent. I will work harder to do better to my sisters of color. I see you. I love you!❤️
I read this book and other books written by women of color in USA and Asia, Africa, the Islands.
Love this vid! I’m not 100% which of us is right on the pronunciation of Audre Lorde’s first name. I know google says aa- druh , but in interviews with her they seem to be saying aw- dree
google doesn't know anything. Women who knew her call her aw-dree
The question should be why and how it was actually caused!
WT elite women have been using everyday WT women and BK women. Everything is happening exactly as they intended.
White woman here and the space of deconstructing pay Cherokee and just starting my own channel with a little different direction than this one. I have to wonder if because white women seemingly benefit the “most” from the patriarchal structure, and therefore have potentially the most work and most to “lose”… and I do not mean that I agree with this. I’m just looking for the potential reason here… But maybe this is why so many white women are slow to wake up? I do not know since that’s not my experience as a white woman who has really never experience, but I am guessing that this might be something to do with it. Either way, thank you so much for your approach to the subject and for bringing this to awareness. Definitely a topic we need so much more attention on so that we don’t have to keep on creating the right wheel as Gerda learner said happens with
What exactly will they be losing? cause equality doesn’t mean they stand to lose anything except privilege cause they’ll then be on a same level playing feel with everyone else and if that’s something that scares them, they need to ask themselves why, if they truly believe their the superior ones and everyone else is inferior, what is their to fear about being at the same level playing field as everyone else
@ of course that’s how you and I would see it, but they probably don’t see it that clearly. And a quality probably won’t come the minute they step out and join us. So They could be losing their family, their friends, their financial support, their social support maybe even their kids as well. Honestly, that’s what I’ve had to face in order to step out of abusive marriage to a man who’s not even white but super rich and got to control that complete narrative with our kids. So yes, they do have a lot to lose, but they have to understand that losing their autonomy and their souls is also a lot to lose. Again, I’m not saying them staying is is right, I’m just pointing out potentially what might be going on in their own heads. I don’t know for sure this is all I can come up with. Actually, as I think about it, that financial support is a huge piece because so many of us white women caught in that dynamic. Have Ben stay at her moms. And I can tell you after 13-14 years of trying to get back into a corporate America, I still have not. That’s why they call it financial abuse and it keeps women strapped to these men because they want to be in their kids lives and they don’t know how to leave financially and make that happen. And the courts are no friends of women like us either.
@@deconstructingpatriarchy Honestly, all this you’ve said is of little consequence. Sounds a lot like excuses for people who willingly participate in the demise of others. Enough, they don’t need you to advocate for them. Literally, no one would have known who they voted for… no one. Yet here we are time and time again. Enough… it’s find out season one.
@ if we don’t seek to understand why they decide to stay in their delusion, then we can never help break that delusion. So no, it’s not excuses. It’s an attempt to try to understand so it can get deconstructed and that is powerful. If those on the outside like us, do not wish to actually have them join our side, then yes go ahead and proceed as you are. But if you are saying you’re tired of white women not joining our cause, then you have no room to comment if you’re not willing to try to understand what could help them move out of their own way and ours.
Thank you ladies for this information about patriarchy, please don't ever take this down the book references are extremely helpful.
White women always get the side eye from me. My best friend of over 25 years, the love of my life, knows our friendship will not make it
Wow there’s something to advance equality and acceptance. Tit for tat, nothing will ever get done.
A very interesting video today. Thank you.
I am open
this is excellent
Let them deal with all the bs they’ve been oilers & cogs ⚙️ in for hundreds of years. They voted 🗳️ for this. They need to leave us alone. This is like a really cruel SNL skit. These people are fundamentally evil 😈. The most passive aggressive, gaslighting, parasites 🦠!
Why are Black women called POC? We’re Black and actually everyone has color. Clear women? This is madness.
It's VERY DISRESPECTFUL TO FOUNDATIONAL BLACK AMERICAN'S UNIQUE HISTORY. TO BE LUMPED IN WITH IMMIGRANTS FROM GOD KNOWS WHERE!
Rename this “Why Black Women Are Exhausted” -everyone other person of color follows our lead, every time.
More than follow our lead, WOC piggyback off Black women, exploit us to benefit themselves and continue to practice anti Bl*ckness.
Ignorance IS willful! Grasp the roots.