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  • @Got2BOshun
    @Got2BOshun 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    When married men tell their mistresses that their wives no longer have sex with them, they leave out the part where they gave her an sti & that’s when she stopped

    • @smokedbygrabba415
      @smokedbygrabba415 หลายเดือนก่อน

      im pretty sure that might just be you and your likes, most admit they lose the spark out their mouth not sti's lol wtf

  • @FindingNeli
    @FindingNeli 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +68

    “By choosing to date men you are choosing to have a pet lion” is a bar, a word, a sign, a symbol to just keep it cool my sister. A lion gon lie and bite.

  • @Transquility69
    @Transquility69 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    “I dodged the bullet you’ve got wedged in your chest.” IM SCREAMING!!!!!! 🤣❤️

  • @Newtonwilson-yw4kg
    @Newtonwilson-yw4kg 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +243

    The idea of a flawless marriage or relationship is unrealistic. There's no set formula for success; what works for one couple may not work for another. Nevertheless, I've learned that solutions exist for every problem. Five years ago, my wife and I faced the brink of divorce due to challenges in our marriage. Fortunately, we managed to reconcile. It was a tough phase, but we made it through.

    • @oglaskubuot
      @oglaskubuot 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The wisdom in your words strikes a chord within me, and I genuinely desire that my sentiments align with yours. Despite our separation at present, I cannot conceive of my existence without her; my love for her knows no bounds. I yearn for her return, and I'm committed to doing whatever it takes to achieve reconciliation. We've pursued different avenues, including therapy, in our journey to bridge the gap

    • @Newtonwilson-yw4kg
      @Newtonwilson-yw4kg 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Parting ways with someone you deeply care about is never easy, but in my particular circumstance, I was aided by a spiritual mentor who averted the collapse of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

    • @oglaskubuot
      @oglaskubuot 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Your guidance is valued. I'll immediately seek her out online. Appreciate it. I'm hopeful that implementing this method will also bring me success; I miss her dearly.

    • @Newtonwilson-yw4kg
      @Newtonwilson-yw4kg 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You definitely should

  • @FindingNeli
    @FindingNeli 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    As a reforming pick-me, I dodged the “marrying a good guy” bullet after being scathed by birthing a beautiful baby girl to him. In my defence I was under 25 (frontal lobe) but in retrospect, just wow.

  • @preciousstephen-y1i
    @preciousstephen-y1i 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    This babe are you in my life??? The last few episodes always align with exactly what I’m dealing with atm 😂

    • @starj5114
      @starj5114 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      ong shes always hitting the nail right on the head its starting to scare me 😂😂 🎯

  • @renell_cheree
    @renell_cheree 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    Oh my goodness.
    I've worked in the male prisons not only do they get regular visits from the their partner and mother but they also have girlfriends coming in also.

  • @TheSarahy17
    @TheSarahy17 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    I love your point of view, so progressive ❤ From a soon to be divorced woman who fell for the fairytale. I now know much better 😂

    • @kendawg66
      @kendawg66 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Did you go on a marriage preparation course. Or better still watch the telly and see art mimicking life

    • @prettyhollypolly7553
      @prettyhollypolly7553 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Sorry about your divorce! Hopefully you get the best out of it!

  • @prettyhollypolly7553
    @prettyhollypolly7553 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    Sis you haven’t even talked about pre nups. We need an episode on that!

  • @valery5900
    @valery5900 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    The way you drill sense in women is remarkable. I love it!

  • @Kayla-kd8ov
    @Kayla-kd8ov 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    The part about pregnant women and men loosing attraction, is the reason why i dont date pot belly men - cos he has no reason to have a big belly. He doesn't push out kids, have periods, or fibroids.

  • @kaysmellsgood
    @kaysmellsgood 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    True a lot of gifts, materials,properties and grand gestures women have are sorry/apology gifts...I've seen this first hand.

  • @abbiejoyguabna5320
    @abbiejoyguabna5320 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    falling in love is like a disease tho, it stops your self-awareness portion of your brain just for you to handle the difficult task of rearing a child into this world

    • @heidizuri
      @heidizuri 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      It’s a programmed addiction.

    • @FarragoProfessional
      @FarragoProfessional หลายเดือนก่อน

      Pick me science😂

  • @Wi.Ni.
    @Wi.Ni. 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    Personally I wouldn't have that 😄 Chidi gurl thank you for this every week 🎉

  • @thek.i.m.experience8046
    @thek.i.m.experience8046 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This was such a great episode! Very entertaining and mind expanding! Love you girl.

  • @ana11188_
    @ana11188_ 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

    i come back to this episode regularly because it hits harder every time! i love your work and i am grateful for you 💕

  • @FlowerlyF.
    @FlowerlyF. 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Wow!! Awesome that the sexworkers shared their experience’s! I‘d love to hear the same from older Women who married hypergamously and their experiences.. what an informative episode 🙆🏽‍♀️👌🏾 also pre-nups and contracts would be a great topic 😊

  • @nicolletteramirez
    @nicolletteramirez 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    We are like the subjects listening to the Oracle at Delphi 😅

  • @tee6654
    @tee6654 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Been a fan of her since 2019, I’m literally a baby (under 25) but trust them when they say you will only learn to listen and apply this knowledge after your first experience of heartbreak. So glad I can go back to these videos, hold myself accountable and intentionally apply them for the future. Thank you Slumflower ❤ Ladies! Stop being a common bitch!

  • @aintsheadaisy505
    @aintsheadaisy505 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Always on point! Appreciate you & you work, Chiddy!

  • @jeahluna2385
    @jeahluna2385 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    im a transwoman and i already know this because of how us and prostitutes are viewed by society, heres my take most of us dont give it for free compared to these wives, i myself have more respect on sex workers than those goody goody wives whos still hope that their men will change after like 3 kids or a decade...girl a guy will always do what he wants whatever circumstances are and accept it!!! i have a boyfriend and a bestfriend,,cis guys i know how men are really because of my healthy relationship w my men in my life.....some women need to really understand the male psyche and this is it its simple...i dont want to equate values on how my men help me but i got a good life where in i live in a house by myself and pay really low on rent..its the convenience of knowing my worth and not accepting any crap from men i get my help from them and it goes two ways i help them. easy know your worth

  • @esmedelvalle8062
    @esmedelvalle8062 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    After this episode, you gained a follower and fan ❤

  • @GoziTV
    @GoziTV 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    My Naija Sagittarius sister, this your content is a safe space for me LMAO🫶🏽🤸🏽😅 🥹

  • @VIVA_A_VIDAUK
    @VIVA_A_VIDAUK 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    .. 19:21 they do not respect who they marry!! 🙈😩😂😂 SCREAMING !! NEALLY 20 mins in , give us the tea POT !! 😛

  • @MarianneSunshine
    @MarianneSunshine 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Married men LOVE me, I’d really like to know why.

    • @prettyhollypolly7553
      @prettyhollypolly7553 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +48

      They don’t love you. They want to just feel like they still have it despite being married.

    • @kendawg66
      @kendawg66 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@prettyhollypolly7553and some succeed too.

    • @MarianneSunshine
      @MarianneSunshine 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@prettyhollypolly7553 That’s what I said!! 😂

    • @icequeen620
      @icequeen620 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      Married men love every woman

    • @kwameopoku3576
      @kwameopoku3576 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ur bum must bounce alot

  • @azaeternal3593
    @azaeternal3593 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Sis you’re doing a WHOLE COMMUNITY SERVICE with these videos, completely changed my view with men , I see clearly now 🤍 Thank you for your time 😩

  • @PreppyPrincess777
    @PreppyPrincess777 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Girl when you mentioned that you are a Sagittarius, it made sense. Well done sis❤♐️ 12/15

  • @jeahluna2385
    @jeahluna2385 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Idk if it’s only me I remember I drove for lyft w women who are all married and trying to pay me 1 ride for dropping all 4 . This podcast makes sense .

    • @jeahluna2385
      @jeahluna2385 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      They the wives are so stingy and they allow this themselves that’s why I’m gross out w what she describe the men they have won’t even scrub their but because it’s feminine or something. They try to Shame women who are single and from minority but we all know the joke on them .

  • @Claw13171
    @Claw13171 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you for your service!

  • @nicolletteramirez
    @nicolletteramirez 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    That’s a good point Chidera re the single woman advice re the married woman and I now agree with you; the married women had no good advice for me and in fact turned me off of marriage where women still have to schlep to work 😣

  • @nikita6076
    @nikita6076 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This is my favorite show yet!

  • @chichi_717
    @chichi_717 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Nothing but facts with this one 😂💅🏾

  • @Itscicichanel
    @Itscicichanel 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Such a good episode!

  • @nicolletteramirez
    @nicolletteramirez 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    OMG😱Camille Claudel. Women in a mental home because of what men have done to them🙅🏽‍♀️

    • @swiitdoll
      @swiitdoll 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I read her story. It appeared her brother was jealous of her and convinced his mother to destroy her together with him

  • @yasaman5283
    @yasaman5283 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    sister just speaks facts 💯

  • @yazmiynjones4930
    @yazmiynjones4930 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It's the long term male friends in relationships for me, biggest Ick!

  • @mihhzzlanna
    @mihhzzlanna 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This is problematic 45:26 even if you marry for money, what happens then when you’ve contracted an STI cuz money can’t solve anything if you get an STI. Don’t get me wrong I am not team marriage for love, but marriage all together is ghetto. As a fellow Sag, stay single ohh! collect your money for your flower and protect yourself with condoms.

  • @yasaman5283
    @yasaman5283 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    a man is going to man 😂😂😂 Lovedddd that part🎉

  • @rubypanterra.
    @rubypanterra. 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    🖤

  • @henriquetmudjibumufoncol2279
    @henriquetmudjibumufoncol2279 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    iooooooo💅🫣

  • @sarahkercheval8964
    @sarahkercheval8964 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    There are a lottttttt of human beings in the world. And while slumflower is correct about the men she comes in contact with, if you are married or thinking about marriage but getting worried by stories like this, my advice is NOT TO LISTEN to too many of them because they will make you unnecessarily upset and anxious because NOT all men, yes a huge percentage of them are, but not all men act on their thoughts.
    It is getting worse and worse everyday with how men think they’re allowed to act and entitled to act, and they get insane when they’re told by their wives to tone it down because they see other men who are way worse and they don’t want to think that they’re part of the problem. 😢 it’s definitely hard af to be in a relationship these days. If you found a good man who actually listens to you and loves you enough to not make you anxious then you’re lucky. But don’t make your life harder by worrying about something that hasn’t happened yet. It will make you cray

  • @kendawg66
    @kendawg66 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Men,woman...nothing new under the sun

  • @kilamoblack7532
    @kilamoblack7532 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I have come to believe that it is almost impossible for a woman to have empathy for men's struggles. This reminds me of a sex worker who hated men and advised women to leave their partners because many of her clients sought emotional connection more than sex. She did not consider that women, as a whole, are not taught to address men's struggles and emotions. Often, when men attempt to express these in marriages, they are gaslighted and end up in a victimization competition with their wives. Listening in a relationship is a superpower.

    • @lunar3n
      @lunar3n 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      in most women’s experiences, they’re desperately hoping for more emotional intimacy with their men. but their men have mentally categorized their wives as nags, moms, housecleaners, etc., and the emotional intimacy dies no matter how hard the women try to give space for listening and connecting.

    • @kilamoblack7532
      @kilamoblack7532 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@lunar3n Men are also not taught how to deal with an aggressive, disrespectful, or nagging wife. Our instinct is often to shut down to avoid reacting negatively or aggressively, as the consequences could be different than if the situation involved another man.
      Both spouses should create safe spaces for each other where intimacy can thrive. If needed, consider taking a weekend away and leaving the kids with their grandparents to focus on rekindling your relationship as a couple.

    • @lunar3n
      @lunar3n 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@kilamoblack7532sounds like men need to come together in support for one another since they can’t get it from women. stop complaining about side effects of the patriarchy YALL created and go do something about it

    • @Lelough_
      @Lelough_ 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@kilamoblack7532 maybe you should date other men, you'll be listened to with them

  • @chotitha8726
    @chotitha8726 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I like that you try to control your laugh, because every single time i try to watch your videos, i always closed it when you start to laugh on mic because it’s irritating.
    Also i’m single 31 women too. But i don’t think every marriage bound to misery. I analize it, women who grew from rich and loving family, it easier for them to marry good husband and living fulfilled marriage.

    • @NWANYI
      @NWANYI 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      go make your own channel if you dont like the laugh wtf

    • @queen_fuchsia
      @queen_fuchsia 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Sis, you really need to work on the use of punctuation marks as well as your grammar. You shouldn't be embarrassing yourself on the internet by spelling 'analyze' as 'analize'. So irritating 😖

  • @Dmandalonewolf
    @Dmandalonewolf 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    🗑️🗑️🗑️🗑️🗑️🗑️🗑️🗑️🗑️