I know like I know, I don’t want to birth a child and the older I get the more vocal I am about sharing that personal decision with people. Especially the people who assume I’ll bear children in the future.
I’ve known since I was 8 that kids will never be for me. That lifestyle choice was reaffirmed when I was 24 yr old and fell pregnant with a man I was in a relationship with. However, I told this man for the first 2 years of dating him my stance on children, but he still chose to not use a condom one night while I was conveniently wasted to the point of blacked out. Entrapment. I was so enraged when I got the positive pregnancy test. I ordered him to pay for the abortion, and he did. Now I’m 32 and celibate. I can sit back and see men for who/what they are and I see it with the men my friends are in relationships with too. No thank you. Not for me.
Ughhhhh no I’m not okay I’m now 7 months pregnant and he said he’s happy because he can now put me on a shelf and come back whenever he wants this is my first child IM SO ASHAMED lol good thing I’m a Sagittarius and can overcome any obstacle so I blocked him and will now raise my son on my own WHAT WAS I THINKING SLUMFLOWER I’m 25 I was. BAMBOOZELED
@@ChiddyAnn true but boundaries with a narcissist?🤔 I’ll try it out but if I see it’s not working I don’t have time for him to be coming in and out of my sons life I really fucked up smh
@@ebonieelainea999 I mean you're not married to him so I guess it'll be easier to navigate...I don't know what country you're in and how child support works there...but he should provide for his child.
Hey love, I don’t know you that well to make any smart discernment but what I do know is as long as you guys don’t have the ring or marriage is involved you’ll navigate this. You just have to have a mental boundary that is very strong for yourself and then applied towards him and whatever you do just remember doing it for yourself and your kid in for survival cause men are really not good of people, ruin your life so make sure your life doesn’t get ruined even though it already is don’t make it worse You got this you will go through it and if you need chideras phone number, I think you can Schedule 101 calls and get some motivation to begin with from theirs. I hope that helps.
People definitely don't take having children seriously...people really act like it's just something that happens out of the blue with no thoughts. People will fully say they did not decide or choose to have children it just happened? Also why are people surprised when they get pregnant when nothing was done to prevent it
Same! I suppose it’s just been the norm since forever for all women to eventually become mothers, it’s as normal & expected as marriage. So it doesn’t feel like it can be a choice. people (especially men 👀) are too blasé & risky about it. It’s a person you have to raise. I’m self aware enough to know I’m not cut out for that!
I pray that this message lands for everybody who watches it because this is so real and a topic that SHOULD be taken seriously. Im somebody who watched almost all (if not all) the women in my life go through pregnancy and raising children by their selves or at most, having a lazy/unproviding baby father. I really would not wish that on anyone, and it was very sad to watch the people in my life experience that. And I truly believe that no woman should be FORCED to work while pregnant either because their childs father cant provide, because in my eyes the pregnancy IS the job?? Youre literally creating a whole human being from scratch, for a whole 9 months?? And God forbid you have to then raise that child by yourself, no no no. Moral of the story, please listen to what shes saying yall!! Its in your best interest
I’m so grateful to my mother for not marrying/procreating with a broke man. Still a man (sigh) but I always had my needs met as a child. I can’t imagine dealing with both a sour attitude and brokeness lmao
The “pick me” part has me curious. Because if one is no longer putting out the “pick me” energy with the babydad .. how will the daughters continue that?
@@jasminepursley6889 because the dad is not present most times...the daughter may seek validation from men when she's older to feel wanted and loved thereby displaying pickmeism
@@ChiddyAnnso is dating the be all and end all of a straight woman’s life? Why not preach about self love, strong women’s friendships, confidence and body positivity? Just because you date men doesn’t mean your life should revolve around men
@@Anon-zt9ll I believe her channel/podcast is a niche, same as lot of podcasts/Channels...there are also other creators you could listen to or better still start up your own podcast/channel on the other topics you wish women to learn about, okay? Okay
I know like I know, I don’t want to birth a child and the older I get the more vocal I am about sharing that personal decision with people. Especially the people who assume I’ll bear children in the future.
These podcasts are like conversations from the older sister I’ve never had 💜
I’ve known since I was 8 that kids will never be for me. That lifestyle choice was reaffirmed when I was 24 yr old and fell pregnant with a man I was in a relationship with. However, I told this man for the first 2 years of dating him my stance on children, but he still chose to not use a condom one night while I was conveniently wasted to the point of blacked out. Entrapment. I was so enraged when I got the positive pregnancy test. I ordered him to pay for the abortion, and he did. Now I’m 32 and celibate. I can sit back and see men for who/what they are and I see it with the men my friends are in relationships with too. No thank you. Not for me.
The TIMING with ur uploads is always spot on omg
0:16 it's really a threat 😂😂
That was so considerate and refreshing and omg so good to be young childless and fn able to choose❤
Can't wait for snippets of this gem to hit Instagram🙊❣❣
Ughhhhh no I’m not okay I’m now 7 months pregnant and he said he’s happy because he can now put me on a shelf and come back whenever he wants this is my first child IM SO ASHAMED lol good thing I’m a Sagittarius and can overcome any obstacle so I blocked him and will now raise my son on my own WHAT WAS I THINKING SLUMFLOWER I’m 25 I was. BAMBOOZELED
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You can still create boundaries where he doesn't get to have access to you but still does his responsibility to his child.
@@ChiddyAnn true but boundaries with a narcissist?🤔 I’ll try it out but if I see it’s not working I don’t have time for him to be coming in and out of my sons life I really fucked up smh
@@ebonieelainea999 I mean you're not married to him so I guess it'll be easier to navigate...I don't know what country you're in and how child support works there...but he should provide for his child.
Hey love, I don’t know you that well to make any smart discernment but what I do know is as long as you guys don’t have the ring or marriage is involved you’ll navigate this. You just have to have a mental boundary that is very strong for yourself and then applied towards him and whatever you do just remember doing it for yourself and your kid in for survival cause men are really not good of people, ruin your life so make sure your life doesn’t get ruined even though it already is don’t make it worse You got this you will go through it and if you need chideras phone number, I think you can Schedule 101 calls and get some motivation to begin with from theirs. I hope that helps.
People definitely don't take having children seriously...people really act like it's just something that happens out of the blue with no thoughts. People will fully say they did not decide or choose to have children it just happened? Also why are people surprised when they get pregnant when nothing was done to prevent it
I knew I would agree with you 100% just by reading the title. I wish more women saw things the way you do!
Same! I suppose it’s just been the norm since forever for all women to eventually become mothers, it’s as normal & expected as marriage. So it doesn’t feel like it can be a choice. people (especially men 👀) are too blasé & risky about it. It’s a person you have to raise. I’m self aware enough to know I’m not cut out for that!
I pray that this message lands for everybody who watches it because this is so real and a topic that SHOULD be taken seriously. Im somebody who watched almost all (if not all) the women in my life go through pregnancy and raising children by their selves or at most, having a lazy/unproviding baby father. I really would not wish that on anyone, and it was very sad to watch the people in my life experience that. And I truly believe that no woman should be FORCED to work while pregnant either because their childs father cant provide, because in my eyes the pregnancy IS the job?? Youre literally creating a whole human being from scratch, for a whole 9 months?? And God forbid you have to then raise that child by yourself, no no no. Moral of the story, please listen to what shes saying yall!! Its in your best interest
❤❤❤my favorite podcast to listen to/watch! ❤😍😌✨😏
Welcome back . Happy to be here
I’m so grateful to my mother for not marrying/procreating with a broke man. Still a man (sigh) but I always had my needs met as a child. I can’t imagine dealing with both a sour attitude and brokeness lmao
I could hear her voice when i saw the thumbnail 😂 “having his babies😑??🤨 eh i’ll make my ting brief” and here we have a 30 min video🤣
😅😅IT IS A THREAT INDEED!!
I feel sorry for our children! The cycle continues on and on and on
I personally don't want children, I am not putting myself through this ew.
I feel sorry for our children… the cycle continues on and on and on….
Me too....
The “pick me” part has me curious. Because if one is no longer putting out the “pick me” energy with the babydad .. how will the daughters continue that?
@@jasminepursley6889 because the dad is not present most times...the daughter may seek validation from men when she's older to feel wanted and loved thereby displaying pickmeism
Can you talk about something apart from men men men everyday…
@@Anon-zt9ll unfortunately for you, no because her channel is about disobedient women who date men.
@@ChiddyAnnso is dating the be all and end all of a straight woman’s life? Why not preach about self love, strong women’s friendships, confidence and body positivity? Just because you date men doesn’t mean your life should revolve around men
@@Anon-zt9ll I believe her channel/podcast is a niche, same as lot of podcasts/Channels...there are also other creators you could listen to or better still start up your own podcast/channel on the other topics you wish women to learn about, okay? Okay
Im already ashamed without watching because I was heavily considering it 😭🤡🤡🤡