Exactly. Pick mes do get picked, but not for 'love'. It's for half rent and bills, free labor, emotional and physical, childcare, sex-Barbara the Builders
My dating life has improved a lot more since I became like this. I've never been a pick me but I was always just authentic and kind but but now I'm selective with my kindness to men and it works more.
"Being a pick-me affects the quality of your friendships." SO TRUE. I'm a recovering pickme. I went through a long time stretch of ignoring my girl friends because I thought my (first serious) bf was "the one"... 🤡 Now that I'm out of that fog, I'm cursed with having to witness something similar happening to my best friend of 20 years.... And I fear I cannot stop it. I think she just has to learn the lesson on her own skin.
Manifesting a man who’s gonna pay for a years subscription to your patron and to send me and my best friend to London so that we can go to your live show.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Hi, I am actually a guy but I have watched many of your videos on dating and men etc. I actually read your book and your interpretation of mens dating tactics (eg men testing self esteem of women) are absolutely correct. You have men down to a Tee.
Preach!! My ex’s new girlfriend (straight up pick me) wanted to “clear the air” with me. She ran down a list of everything, that he told her, that I refused to do for him and ended it by informing that she will do all those things! To that I replied “Lucky him, I can’t be bothered”. He and I were friends throughout their relationship and all he did was complain about everything she didn’t do. I really did feel sorry for her. I’m better off single and I’m loving it!
wow I wish I could attend your live show in person. But I will be watching all the way from NYC! Love ur content, and yeah I definitely laugh at pickmeishas their THE WROST SMH lol.
I really do always feel like you're kind and that you're coming from a place of love. It never feels like an attack. You feel like the older wiser protective sister.
It is really difficult to maintain a friendship with a pick me woman. Especially a pick me woman who is in a relationship. Her entire identity is around being in a relationship, having a boyfriend/husband and she will openly pity and put down her fellow women friends who are single or voluntary celibate. Meanwhile she gets angry and insecure when her man spends any amount of attention or time on her friends, something as small as just talking. And we can all tell this man of hers is cheating on her with his female coworkers at work. I could never 🫣
This :( It's even worse when her man is openly flirting with you, with her right next to you!!! It makes me feel sick. I hate the way men erode female solidarity with their bullshit...
@@tragimelody this exactly!!! And instead of her holding him accountable, it’ll be you she blames it all on. Instead of him who is supposed to be love-bonded to her.
LOVE your incredible honesty and refreshing content! Keep up the amazing work. I think there’s a difference between the ‘pick me’ who wants to throw women under a bus and the ones who just don’t realise they’re being duped by men. I was a combo of baddie and someone who did everything for men, but was always a staunch feminist and would tell them off and speak my opinion fully to them if I wasn’t happy. I wasn’t a doormat in that sense, but what I didn’t realise (through childhood trauma and conditioning) was that I was being taken for a complete ride by over giving to men who were benefiting from my free labour and se£. Nobody taught me otherwise and my friends and family didn’t say anything. These men basically gave me the bare minimum back. The true ‘pick me’ are the ones who actually back up the patriarchy and defend misogyny, I have no sympathy for them whatsoever as they’d rather try and ‘benefit’ from the patriarchy than try to help their woman kind. Anyway, love the content and I’ve learnt some interesting stuff from this. I’d already decided I was over giving, but didn’t realise how much I should have been GETTING if it wasn’t for you! ❤️❤️❤️
My friend put me onto your channel and I am so thankful. I know ultimately that I am not a Pick-Me, but I have previously had some Pick-Me ways. Thank you for refreshing my mindset and educating women to Pick themselves
Exactly. Pick mes do get picked, but not for 'love'. It's for half rent and bills, free labor, emotional and physical, childcare, sex-Barbara the Builders
My dating life has improved a lot more since I became like this. I've never been a pick me but I was always just authentic and kind but but now I'm selective with my kindness to men and it works more.
"Being a pick-me affects the quality of your friendships." SO TRUE.
I'm a recovering pickme. I went through a long time stretch of ignoring my girl friends because I thought my (first serious) bf was "the one"... 🤡
Now that I'm out of that fog, I'm cursed with having to witness something similar happening to my best friend of 20 years.... And I fear I cannot stop it. I think she just has to learn the lesson on her own skin.
Manifesting a man who’s gonna pay for a years subscription to your patron and to send me and my best friend to London so that we can go to your live show.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Hi, I am actually a guy but I have watched many of your videos on dating and men etc. I actually read your book and your interpretation of mens dating tactics (eg men testing self esteem of women) are absolutely correct. You have men down to a Tee.
Preach!! My ex’s new girlfriend (straight up pick me) wanted to “clear the air” with me. She ran down a list of everything, that he told her, that I refused to do for him and ended it by informing that she will do all those things! To that I replied “Lucky him, I can’t be bothered”. He and I were friends throughout their relationship and all he did was complain about everything she didn’t do. I really did feel sorry for her. I’m better off single and I’m loving it!
wow I wish I could attend your live show in person. But I will be watching all the way from NYC! Love ur content, and yeah I definitely laugh at pickmeishas their THE WROST SMH lol.
I was a pickme for 3 months after being reeled in by my first malignant narcissist. I quickly was like, ohhhh nope. 😂
Smart self insight you got there 🎉
I look forward to you doing a live show in Nigeria one day.
I really do always feel like you're kind and that you're coming from a place of love. It never feels like an attack. You feel like the older wiser protective sister.
I love how your podcasts double ass ASMR - please do more!
It is really difficult to maintain a friendship with a pick me woman. Especially a pick me woman who is in a relationship. Her entire identity is around being in a relationship, having a boyfriend/husband and she will openly pity and put down her fellow women friends who are single or voluntary celibate. Meanwhile she gets angry and insecure when her man spends any amount of attention or time on her friends, something as small as just talking. And we can all tell this man of hers is cheating on her with his female coworkers at work. I could never 🫣
This is so true. But sadly most women are pick me's so it's a bit harder to make friends especially as u get older
This :( It's even worse when her man is openly flirting with you, with her right next to you!!! It makes me feel sick. I hate the way men erode female solidarity with their bullshit...
@@tragimelody this exactly!!! And instead of her holding him accountable, it’ll be you she blames it all on. Instead of him who is supposed to be love-bonded to her.
This episode was so needed also if ur a pick me urself its not ur fault & theres still time to derail the patriarchy's conditioning
I freaking love you, you been educating us one episode after another you definitely are a key role in upping my standards girl.
LOVE your incredible honesty and refreshing content! Keep up the amazing work. I think there’s a difference between the ‘pick me’ who wants to throw women under a bus and the ones who just don’t realise they’re being duped by men. I was a combo of baddie and someone who did everything for men, but was always a staunch feminist and would tell them off and speak my opinion fully to them if I wasn’t happy. I wasn’t a doormat in that sense, but what I didn’t realise (through childhood trauma and conditioning) was that I was being taken for a complete ride by over giving to men who were benefiting from my free labour and se£. Nobody taught me otherwise and my friends and family didn’t say anything. These men basically gave me the bare minimum back. The true ‘pick me’ are the ones who actually back up the patriarchy and defend misogyny, I have no sympathy for them whatsoever as they’d rather try and ‘benefit’ from the patriarchy than try to help their woman kind. Anyway, love the content and I’ve learnt some interesting stuff from this. I’d already decided I was over giving, but didn’t realise how much I should have been GETTING if it wasn’t for you! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for providing me with the absolute best listening material for work ❤
please do a north america tour!
My friend put me onto your channel and I am so thankful. I know ultimately that I am not a Pick-Me, but I have previously had some Pick-Me ways. Thank you for refreshing my mindset and educating women to Pick themselves
Loved this ❤
Hit the nail on the head as always.
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I love you hahahaha
I’m a pick me. She’s right.
I flip Christianity’s patriarchal narrative over to serve me after I read Proverbs 18:22.
You look abit like melanie martinez